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12:45 – 1:45 PM E S 12:45 – 1:45 PM E S 20/20 V - P P C 20/20 V - P P C Love and Respect Love and Respect F V - P M M F V - P M M Family Devo ons Family Devo ons H S - P K M H S - P K M Influencing the Genera ons Behind You Influencing the Genera ons Behind You I V - P N C I V - P N C When Sickness Hits Home When Sickness Hits Home
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Evangelist Jim Van Gelderen Evangelist Jim Van Gelderen Jim Van Gelderen was born into a pastor’s home Jim Van Gelderen was born into a pastor’s home and lived both in Durango, CO and the Chicago and lived both in Durango, CO and the Chicago area before going to college to study for the area before going to college to study for the ministry. He and his wife Rhonda were married in ministry. He and his wife Rhonda were married in 1984 a er graduate school and have been 1984 a er graduate school and have been traveling in Evangelism ever since. Bro. Van traveling in Evangelism ever since. Bro. Van Gelderen and his wife, have three daughters. He Gelderen and his wife, have three daughters. He began his ministry in South Carolina and moved to began his ministry in South Carolina and moved to Menomonee Falls, Wisconsin in 2000, where he Menomonee Falls, Wisconsin in 2000, where he presently lives and bases his ministry. During Jim’s presently lives and bases his ministry. During Jim’s college years The War concept was pioneered at college years The War concept was pioneered at Jim’s home church, the Marque e Manor Bap st Jim’s home church, the Marque e Manor Bap st Church in Downers Grove, IL, now one of the ministry’s suppor ng churches. In Church in Downers Grove, IL, now one of the ministry’s suppor ng churches. In 1996 their emphasis shi ed to the War of Special Forces which primarily is 1996 their emphasis shi ed to the War of Special Forces which primarily is conducted in Chris an schools and the affiliated local church. He loves ministry to conducted in Chris an schools and the affiliated local church. He loves ministry to teenagers and college students. Jim has been with the Minutemen Evangelis c teenagers and college students. Jim has been with the Minutemen Evangelis c Team since it began. In addi on to his ministry with Minutemen Ministries, he Team since it began. In addi on to his ministry with Minutemen Ministries, he also serves as VP of Bap st College of Ministry, a posi on which he has held since also serves as VP of Bap st College of Ministry, a posi on which he has held since 1999. BCM is a local church Bible college just outside of Milwaukee, WI. Since he 1999. BCM is a local church Bible college just outside of Milwaukee, WI. Since he grew up in Chicago, he pulls for both Chicago baseball teams as well as the grew up in Chicago, he pulls for both Chicago baseball teams as well as the Blackhawks in the NHL. Dunkin Donuts is his favorite stop for coffee when Blackhawks in the NHL. Dunkin Donuts is his favorite stop for coffee when traveling (except in Canada - then it’s Tim Horton’s). His favorite pas me is traveling (except in Canada - then it’s Tim Horton’s). His favorite pas me is spending family me with his wife and three daughters. spending family me with his wife and three daughters.
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Pastor Steve Brudnak Pastor Steve Brudnak
Pastor Brudnak is the Pastor of United Bap st Church in Springfield, Pastor Brudnak is the Pastor of United Bap st Church in Springfield, Missouri. At the age of 7 he asked the Lord to save him, and at 15 he Missouri. At the age of 7 he asked the Lord to save him, and at 15 he surrendered to preach the Gospel of Christ. He began serving the surrendered to preach the Gospel of Christ. He began serving the Lord as a youth pastor in Michigan. In 1998, he pastored Calvary Lord as a youth pastor in Michigan. In 1998, he pastored Calvary Bap st Church in Charles City, Iowa, for 5 years. God then called him Bap st Church in Charles City, Iowa, for 5 years. God then called him to become the pastor of United Bap st Church in Springfield, MO. to become the pastor of United Bap st Church in Springfield, MO. He has a great burden to see marriages and homes strengthened He has a great burden to see marriages and homes strengthened through the only answer, Jesus! In the last 13 years he has led through the only answer, Jesus! In the last 13 years he has led United Bap st Church in the oversight of the Living United Couples United Bap st Church in the oversight of the Living United Couples Retreat. Pastor Brudnak has been blessed with his wife of 24 years, Retreat. Pastor Brudnak has been blessed with his wife of 24 years, Melissa. They have 3 sons, Josiah, Jeremiah, and Zachariah. Melissa. They have 3 sons, Josiah, Jeremiah, and Zachariah.
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Pastor Donnie Ball Pastor Donnie Ball
Don Ball is the pastor of the Tabernacle Bap st Church in Lebanon, Don Ball is the pastor of the Tabernacle Bap st Church in Lebanon, MO. He was raised in a pastor’s home in upstate New York for much MO. He was raised in a pastor’s home in upstate New York for much of his life. He was saved at the age of six and surrendered to full me of his life. He was saved at the age of six and surrendered to full me service while in the third grade. At the end of his tenth grade year he service while in the third grade. At the end of his tenth grade year he answered a call to preach. A er high school he a ended Bap st Bible answered a call to preach. A er high school he a ended Bap st Bible College in Springfield, MO. In January 1993, he was married to Kelly College in Springfield, MO. In January 1993, he was married to Kelly (Roberts) Ball. That same year he also accepted a posi on on staff at (Roberts) Ball. That same year he also accepted a posi on on staff at the Tabernacle Bap st Church. During the first eleven years of his the Tabernacle Bap st Church. During the first eleven years of his ministry there he was the principal of Tabernacle Chris an Academy, ministry there he was the principal of Tabernacle Chris an Academy, Sunday school superintendent, and the director of the church’s Sunday school superintendent, and the director of the church’s military ministry, the Free Day Away. On October 12, 2003, the church military ministry, the Free Day Away. On October 12, 2003, the church called him as pastor. Don and Kelly have one beau ful daughter, Maggie, and three wonderful called him as pastor. Don and Kelly have one beau ful daughter, Maggie, and three wonderful boys, Caleb, Stephen, and Ben. This year, the Ball’s were blessed with their first grandson, Clark. boys, Caleb, Stephen, and Ben. This year, the Ball’s were blessed with their first grandson, Clark.
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Pastor Mark Bradshaw Pastor Mark Bradshaw
Pastor Mark Bradshaw was born in Colorado and raised in the Denver Pastor Mark Bradshaw was born in Colorado and raised in the Denver area. He trusted in the Lord Jesus Christ as his Savior in 1985. He and area. He trusted in the Lord Jesus Christ as his Savior in 1985. He and his wife Mindy were married that same year. In 1990, he moved his his wife Mindy were married that same year. In 1990, he moved his family to Springfield, MO to a end Bap st Bible Graduate School of family to Springfield, MO to a end Bap st Bible Graduate School of Theology. For the next three years, he served as a Sunday school Theology. For the next three years, he served as a Sunday school teacher and worked in the nursing home ministry at Berean Bap st teacher and worked in the nursing home ministry at Berean Bap st Church in Springfield, MO. Pastor Bradshaw was called to be pastor of Church in Springfield, MO. Pastor Bradshaw was called to be pastor of Liberty Bap st Church in March 1993. The Bradshaw’s have 5 children Liberty Bap st Church in March 1993. The Bradshaw’s have 5 children and 4 beau ful grandchildren. and 4 beau ful grandchildren.
Pastor Paul Caldwell Pastor Paul Caldwell
Pastor Caldwell and his wife Chris na have been married for 22 years. Pastor Caldwell and his wife Chris na have been married for 22 years. They have 8 children and 2 grand children. Pastor Caldwell has They have 8 children and 2 grand children. Pastor Caldwell has pastored Lighthouse Bap st Church in Northwest Arkansas, for the pastored Lighthouse Bap st Church in Northwest Arkansas, for the past twelve years. past twelve years.
Pastor Noel Cwenar Pastor Noel Cwenar
Noel Cwenar has been pastoring Gospel Light Bap st Church in Noel Cwenar has been pastoring Gospel Light Bap st Church in Rogers, Arkansas, for thirteen years. He has served in the ministry Rogers, Arkansas, for thirteen years. He has served in the ministry for twenty-three years in Arkansas and Iowa as an assistant pastor, for twenty-three years in Arkansas and Iowa as an assistant pastor, youth director, and in Chris an schools as a principal, teacher, and youth director, and in Chris an schools as a principal, teacher, and coach. Pastor Cwenar and his wife Lucinda have been married coach. Pastor Cwenar and his wife Lucinda have been married twenty-three years and have two adult sons, Kyle and Cole. twenty-three years and have two adult sons, Kyle and Cole.
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Pastor Ma Mar nez Pastor Ma Mar nez
Pastor Ma Mar nez was blessed to be brought up in a Chris an Pastor Ma Mar nez was blessed to be brought up in a Chris an home, and at the age of four, called upon Jesus Christ to be his home, and at the age of four, called upon Jesus Christ to be his Savior. He surrendered to preach at the age of 16, at Silver State Savior. He surrendered to preach at the age of 16, at Silver State Bap st Youth Camp. In 2003, he graduated from Heartland Bap st Bap st Youth Camp. In 2003, he graduated from Heartland Bap st Bible College and in 2007 received a Master’s Degree in Biblical Bible College and in 2007 received a Master’s Degree in Biblical Counseling from Beth Haven Bap st Seminary. He and his wife Ka e Counseling from Beth Haven Bap st Seminary. He and his wife Ka e married on September 28, 2007. They have four children; Silas, married on September 28, 2007. They have four children; Silas, Caleb, Sarah and Levi, ranging in age from ten to three. Pastor Caleb, Sarah and Levi, ranging in age from ten to three. Pastor Mar nez enjoys the unique privilege of pastoring the church he Mar nez enjoys the unique privilege of pastoring the church he began a ending as a twelve year old boy. began a ending as a twelve year old boy.
Pastor Kevin Metsinger Pastor Kevin Metsinger
Pastor Kevin and Lucinda Metsinger have been married for 40 years Pastor Kevin and Lucinda Metsinger have been married for 40 years this June. Kevin has pastored the Shawnee Mission Bap st Temple this June. Kevin has pastored the Shawnee Mission Bap st Temple for 30 years this June. God blessed them with three boys, three for 30 years this June. God blessed them with three boys, three wonderful wives for those boys and 9 awesome grandchildren and 1 wonderful wives for those boys and 9 awesome grandchildren and 1 more coming in March. Pastor Metsinger has served on the Board of more coming in March. Pastor Metsinger has served on the Board of Directors for Heartland Bap st Bible College for 12 years and is Directors for Heartland Bap st Bible College for 12 years and is co-host of the Men’s Recharge. co-host of the Men’s Recharge.
Pastor Jeremiah Metsinger Pastor Jeremiah Metsinger
Pastor Metsinger studied at Heartland Bap st Bible College. Upon Pastor Metsinger studied at Heartland Bap st Bible College. Upon gradua on he and his wife Melissa, moved to Sioux Falls, SD to gradua on he and his wife Melissa, moved to Sioux Falls, SD to work with the youth, where they saw great change and growth in work with the youth, where they saw great change and growth in the teens. A er a couple years of being there he was burdened to the teens. A er a couple years of being there he was burdened to pastor, and began seeking direc on and further study. In August of pastor, and began seeking direc on and further study. In August of 2006 God led Pastor Metsinger and his family to South Knollwood 2006 God led Pastor Metsinger and his family to South Knollwood Bap st Church. Bro. Metsinger completed his Doctorate in Ministry Bap st Church. Bro. Metsinger completed his Doctorate in Ministry shortly following their move to Topeka. Bro. & Mrs. Metsinger shortly following their move to Topeka. Bro. & Mrs. Metsinger enjoy spending me with their three sons and daughter, and enjoy spending me with their three sons and daughter, and involving them in the work of South Knollwood. They are expec ng involving them in the work of South Knollwood. They are expec ng their fi h child. their fi h child. 9 9 Map of Hilton Map of Hilton
Exhibit Exhibit Hall Hall
Short Creek Short Creek Short Creek Short Creek Cooper Creek Cooper Creek 1-2 3-4 1-2 3-4
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D V (Pastor Mark Bradshaw) - Taneycomo Ballroom D V (Pastor Mark Bradshaw) - Taneycomo Ballroom
B ’ E V (Pastor Donnie Ball) - Cooper Creek B ’ E V (Pastor Donnie Ball) - Cooper Creek
B V (Evangelist Jim Van Gelderen) - Short Creek 1-2 B V (Evangelist Jim Van Gelderen) - Short Creek 1-2
B E (Pastor Jeremiah Metsinger) - Short Creek 3-4 B E (Pastor Jeremiah Metsinger) - Short Creek 3-4
N - Bee Creek & Roark Creek N - Bee Creek & Roark Creek 10 10 Map of Hilton Map of Hilton
Taneycomo Taneycomo Ballroom Ballroom
Bee Bee Creek Creek
Roark Creek Roark Creek
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20/20 V (Pastor Paul Caldwell) - Taneycomo Ballroom 20/20 V (Pastor Paul Caldwell) - Taneycomo Ballroom
F V (Pastor Ma Mar nez) - Cooper Creek F V (Pastor Ma Mar nez) - Cooper Creek
H S (Pastor Kevin Metsinger) - Short Creek 1-2 H S (Pastor Kevin Metsinger) - Short Creek 1-2
I V (Pastor Noel Cwenar) - Short Creek 3-4 I V (Pastor Noel Cwenar) - Short Creek 3-4
N - Bee Creek & Roark Creek N - Bee Creek & Roark Creek 11 11 Love is Blind Love is Blind PASTOR STEVE BRUDNAK PASTOR STEVE BRUDNAK
Love Is Blind Love Is Blind Uncovering Your True Love Uncovering Your True Love Luke 14:25-35 Luke 14:25-35
Introduc on Introduc on
Choosing to be a disciple of Jesus is the best decision you can make for your Choosing to be a disciple of Jesus is the best decision you can make for your marriage! marriage!
I. Focus On ______(v. 26) I. Focus On ______(v. 26)
A. A Decision – “mul tude” vs. “disciple” A. A Decision – “mul tude” vs. “disciple”
This is not a half-hearted commitment, but as intense as “hate”, This is not a half-hearted commitment, but as intense as “hate”, “bear his cross”, and “forsaking all”. “bear his cross”, and “forsaking all”.
B. A Dis-Choice – “hate” B. A Dis-Choice – “hate”
“Hate” in this context is to prefer or choose above those things you “Hate” in this context is to prefer or choose above those things you “hate” “hate”
Takes away the blame game (Gen. 3:12-13) Takes away the blame game (Gen. 3:12-13)
C. A Downgrade – “come to me” C. A Downgrade – “come to me”
Everything on earth becomes less important—has less value. Everything on earth becomes less important—has less value.
The best focus we could have for life & marriage is on Jesus, not our The best focus we could have for life & marriage is on Jesus, not our spouse. spouse.
D. A Declara on: My spouse is not the problem or solu on to my marriage. D. A Declara on: My spouse is not the problem or solu on to my marriage.
12 12 Love is Blind Love is Blind PASTOR STEVE BRUDNAK PASTOR STEVE BRUDNAK
II. Forge ng Yourself (v. 27) II. Forge ng Yourself (v. 27)
A. Taking ______A. Taking ______
B. Taking Him B. Taking Him
The world hates Jesus! (Jn. 15:18-25) The world hates Jesus! (Jn. 15:18-25)
The world and Jesus are not compa ble The world and Jesus are not compa ble Psa 97:10 Ye that love the LORD, hate evil: he preserveth the souls Psa 97:10 Ye that love the LORD, hate evil: he preserveth the souls of his saints; he delivereth them out of the hand of the wicked. of his saints; he delivereth them out of the hand of the wicked. Psa 119:104 Through thy precepts I get understanding: therefore I Psa 119:104 Through thy precepts I get understanding: therefore I hate every false way. hate every false way. Psa 119:113 I hate vain thoughts: but thy law do I love. Psa 119:113 I hate vain thoughts: but thy law do I love. Psa 139:21 Do not I hate them, O LORD, that hate thee? and am Psa 139:21 Do not I hate them, O LORD, that hate thee? and am not I grieved with those that rise up against thee? not I grieved with those that rise up against thee? Pro 8:36 But he that sinneth against me wrongeth his own soul: all Pro 8:36 But he that sinneth against me wrongeth his own soul: all they that hate me love death. they that hate me love death.
C. Taking Responsibility - Rejec on of the World C. Taking Responsibility - Rejec on of the World
A failure to follow Jesus with your married life affects the world’s A failure to follow Jesus with your married life affects the world’s view of God. view of God. I Tim. 6:1. Let as many servants as are under the yoke count their I Tim. 6:1. Let as many servants as are under the yoke count their own masters worthy of all honour, that the name of God and his own masters worthy of all honour, that the name of God and his doctrine be not blasphemed. doctrine be not blasphemed. Exo 20:12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be Exo 20:12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. 2Sa 12:14a Howbeit, because by this deed thou hast given great 2Sa 12:14a Howbeit, because by this deed thou hast given great occasion to the enemies of the LORD to blaspheme… occasion to the enemies of the LORD to blaspheme… Titus 2: 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient Titus 2: 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. 1Pe 3:4-7 1Pe 3:4-7 Eph 5:28-32 - v. 29 “nourisheth and cherisheth it” Eph 5:28-32 - v. 29 “nourisheth and cherisheth it” 13 13 Love is Blind Love is Blind PASTOR STEVE BRUDNAK PASTOR STEVE BRUDNAK
D. Take the Exit of the Crazy Hate ______! D. Take the Exit of the Crazy Hate ______! 1. Love – Respect 1. Love – Respect Eph 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in par cular so love his Eph 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in par cular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. husband. The biggest “If” / “Then” in human history The biggest “If” / “Then” in human history 2. Leading – Submi ng 2. Leading – Submi ng 1Co 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every 1Co 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. head of Christ is God. 3. Dwelling – Not Dwelling 3. Dwelling – Not Dwelling 1Pe 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to 1Pe 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, knowledge, Pro 21:9 It is be er to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with Pro 21:9 It is be er to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house. a brawling woman in a wide house. Pro 21:19 It is be er to dwell in the wilderness, than with a Pro 21:19 It is be er to dwell in the wilderness, than with a conten ous and an angry woman. conten ous and an angry woman. Pro 25:24 It is be er to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than Pro 25:24 It is be er to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house. with a brawling woman and in a wide house. 4. Physical In macy – Purity 4. Physical In macy – Purity 1Co 7:3-5 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: 1Co 7:3-5 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a me, that ye ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a me, that ye may give yourselves to fas ng and prayer; and come together may give yourselves to fas ng and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incon nency. again, that Satan tempt you not for your incon nency. 4. Providing – Plucking Down 4. Providing – Plucking Down 1Ti 5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of 1Ti 5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. infidel.
14 14 Love is Blind Love is Blind PASTOR STEVE BRUDNAK PASTOR STEVE BRUDNAK
Gen 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man Gen 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Pro 14:1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish Pro 14:1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. plucketh it down with her hands. Pro 31 Pro 31
III. Forsaking the ______(vs. 28-33) III. Forsaking the ______(vs. 28-33)
A. Inten ons A. Inten ons You will never change something because you intended to. You will never change something because you intended to. You no doubt want a good marriage, but you have to put in the You no doubt want a good marriage, but you have to put in the work. work. Danger of covetousness – Wan ng something you don’t have Danger of covetousness – Wan ng something you don’t have
B. Inventory B. Inventory You can’t fix a problem if you don’t know you have it. You can’t fix a problem if you don’t know you have it. Illustra on: Stores keeping inventory Illustra on: Stores keeping inventory Things you should have Things you should have Maybe find something you lost Maybe find something you lost Prove you have what you need Prove you have what you need Find loss Find loss For the stockholders (children) For the stockholders (children)
See Couples Inventory at the end of the book See Couples Inventory at the end of the book C. Ini a on C. Ini a on Make measurable changes to your ac ons. Make measurable changes to your ac ons. Change your process. Change your process. Conclusion Conclusion
Your true love must be Jesus, if not, you’re selling the person you love short. Your true love must be Jesus, if not, you’re selling the person you love short.
15 15 Bird’s Eye View Bird’s Eye View PASTOR DONNIE BALL PASTOR DONNIE BALL
Bird’s Eye View Bird’s Eye View Faith Filled Finances Faith Filled Finances Ma hew 25:14-29 Ma hew 25:14-29
I. The ______of Stewardship (vs. 14-15) I. The ______of Stewardship (vs. 14-15)
Note: We all have different financial management abili es and are trusted Note: We all have different financial management abili es and are trusted accordingly. accordingly.
A. ______of the ______A. ______of the ______
B. ______of the ______B. ______of the ______
II. The ______of Stewardship (vs. 16-18) II. The ______of Stewardship (vs. 16-18)
Note: We all manage finances in different ways Note: We all manage finances in different ways
A. The ______Stewards A. The ______Stewards
1. Their ______1. Their ______
2. Their ______2. Their ______
16 16 Bird’s Eye View Bird’s Eye View PASTOR DONNIE BALL PASTOR DONNIE BALL
B. The ______Steward B. The ______Steward
1. His ______1. His ______
2. His ______2. His ______
III. The ______of Stewardship (vs. 16-18) III. The ______of Stewardship (vs. 16-18)
A. Report of ______A. Report of ______
B. Report of ______B. Report of ______
IV. The ______of Stewardship (vs. 28-29) IV. The ______of Stewardship (vs. 28-29)
A. ______Stewards A. ______Stewards
1. Both were ______- Both were told, 1. Both were ______- Both were told, “Well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou hast been faithful “Well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.” into the joy of thy lord.”
2. Both were ______(one financially) 2. Both were ______(one financially)
B. ______Steward B. ______Steward
1. Master’s ______1. Master’s ______
2. Servant’s ______2. Servant’s ______17 17 Bird’s Eye View Bird’s Eye View PASTOR DONNIE BALL PASTOR DONNIE BALL
5 Prac cal Principles of Stewardship 5 Prac cal Principles of Stewardship
1. ______1. ______
2. ______2. ______
3. ______3. ______
4. ______4. ______
5. ______5. ______
18 18 Blurred Vision Blurred Vision EVANGELIST JIM VAN GELDEREN EVANGELIST JIM VAN GELDEREN
Blurred Vision Blurred Vision Outside Problems Coming In Outside Problems Coming In
I. Uncleansed Impurity I. Uncleansed Impurity
A. Impurity A. Impurity
I Thessalonians 4:3, 6 For this is the will of God, even your I Thessalonians 4:3, 6 For this is the will of God, even your sanc fica on . . . That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in sanc fica on . . . That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any ma er: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we any ma er: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and tes fied. also have forewarned you and tes fied.
1. Impurity is Out of Bounds – “go beyond” 1. Impurity is Out of Bounds – “go beyond”
2. Impurity is The – “defraud” 2. Impurity is The – “defraud”
B. Purity B. Purity
James 4:8 ...purify your hearts, ye doubleminded James 4:8 ...purify your hearts, ye doubleminded
1. Impurity allows there to be two or more in the in macy God 1. Impurity allows there to be two or more in the in macy God intended for marriage. intended for marriage.
2. Purity keeps all aspects of in macy for one in the boundaries of 2. Purity keeps all aspects of in macy for one in the boundaries of marriage. marriage. a. Physical Purity a. Physical Purity b. Mental Purity b. Mental Purity c. Emo onal Purity c. Emo onal Purity
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II. Covered Sin II. Covered Sin
Proverbs 28:13 He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso Proverbs 28:13 He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy. confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy.
A. The Covering – “He that covereth his sins” A. The Covering – “He that covereth his sins”
B. The Consequences – “shall not prosper” B. The Consequences – “shall not prosper”
C. The Cure – “whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy” C. The Cure – “whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy”
1. Confess 1. Confess
2. Forsake 2. Forsake
III. Lingering Bi erness III. Lingering Bi erness
Hebrews 12:15-16 Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; Hebrews 12:15-16 Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bi erness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be lest any root of bi erness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled; Lest there be any fornicator, or profane person, as Esau... defiled; Lest there be any fornicator, or profane person, as Esau...
A. Fail the Grace of God – “lest any man fail of the grace of God” A. Fail the Grace of God – “lest any man fail of the grace of God”
1. Accessing Grace – Faith 1. Accessing Grace – Faith Eph. 2:8 “For by grace are ye saved through faith” Eph. 2:8 “For by grace are ye saved through faith”
2. Failing Grace - Doubt 2. Failing Grace - Doubt
B. Root of Bi erness Springs Up – “lest any root of bi erness springing up” B. Root of Bi erness Springs Up – “lest any root of bi erness springing up”
1. You are Troubled – “trouble you” 1. You are Troubled – “trouble you”
2. Others are Defiled – “many be defiled” 2. Others are Defiled – “many be defiled”
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C. Become a Fornicator or Profane Person – “Lest there be any fornicator, or C. Become a Fornicator or Profane Person – “Lest there be any fornicator, or profane person” profane person”
1. Moral Impurity – “fornicator” 1. Moral Impurity – “fornicator”
2. Spiritual Apathy – “profane person” 2. Spiritual Apathy – “profane person”
IV. Wrong Theology IV. Wrong Theology
A. Works Assurance A. Works Assurance
Heb. 3:14 For we are made partakers of Christ, if we hold the Heb. 3:14 For we are made partakers of Christ, if we hold the beginning of our confidence stedfast unto the end;” beginning of our confidence stedfast unto the end;”
B. Works Sanc fica on B. Works Sanc fica on
John 15:5 ...without me ye can do nothing John 15:5 ...without me ye can do nothing
Phil. 4:13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheth me. Phil. 4:13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheth me.
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Double Vision Double Vision Work-Life Balance Work-Life Balance Luke 10:38-42 Luke 10:38-42
Introduc on Introduc on One of the most dangerous words in the Chris an life is that of Balance. To One of the most dangerous words in the Chris an life is that of Balance. To many this word smacks of compromise. To others it seems to be this always many this word smacks of compromise. To others it seems to be this always unobtainable goal. But balance is important, obtainable, and a worthy goal for unobtainable goal. But balance is important, obtainable, and a worthy goal for every believer and family! Balance requires that we: every believer and family! Balance requires that we:
I. ______A Rela onship (v. 38). I. ______A Rela onship (v. 38).
A. Jesus entered the city and Martha received Him into her house. A. Jesus entered the city and Martha received Him into her house. 1. This is the defini on of rela onship. 1. This is the defini on of rela onship. The Savior / Believer Rela onship The Savior / Believer Rela onship The Husband / Wife Rela onship (Gen. 24:67) The Husband / Wife Rela onship (Gen. 24:67) 2. An “individual” does not need balance because they only do as they 2. An “individual” does not need balance because they only do as they please! please!
B. Jesus warns us that choices must be made when entering a rela onship B. Jesus warns us that choices must be made when entering a rela onship with Him (Luke 14:25-33). Decisions that affect: with Him (Luke 14:25-33). Decisions that affect: 1. Your Priori es (v. 26) 1. Your Priori es (v. 26) 2. Your Perseverance (vs. 27-30) 2. Your Perseverance (vs. 27-30) 3. Your Plan of A ack (vs. 31-33) 3. Your Plan of A ack (vs. 31-33)
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C. We make a similar covenant when we get married! C. We make a similar covenant when we get married!
1. Pastor to Groom -- ______, will you have ______to be 1. Pastor to Groom -- ______, will you have ______to be your wedded wife, to live together a er God's ordinance in the holy your wedded wife, to live together a er God's ordinance in the holy estate of matrimony; will you love her, comfort her, honor, and keep estate of matrimony; will you love her, comfort her, honor, and keep her, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, keep yourself her, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto her, so long as you both shall live? only unto her, so long as you both shall live?
2. Pastor to Bride -- ______, will you have ______to be 2. Pastor to Bride -- ______, will you have ______to be your wedded husband to live together a er God's ordinance in the your wedded husband to live together a er God's ordinance in the holy estate of matrimony; will you submit to him, serve him, love, holy estate of matrimony; will you submit to him, serve him, love, honor, and keep him, in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all honor, and keep him, in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto him, so long as you both shall live? others, keep yourself only unto him, so long as you both shall live?
II. ______Your Priori es (v. 39; Eph. 4:13-16). II. ______Your Priori es (v. 39; Eph. 4:13-16).
A. Priori es are the things or ideals that you value most. A. Priori es are the things or ideals that you value most.
1. Martha valued a nice home, happy guests and service. 1. Martha valued a nice home, happy guests and service.
2. Mary valued in macy with the Lord (Mt. 6:32-33). 2. Mary valued in macy with the Lord (Mt. 6:32-33).
3. ILL: Rocks, gravel, sand and clay. 3. ILL: Rocks, gravel, sand and clay.
B. Without priori es you will be unstable and direc onless (Eph. 4:14). B. Without priori es you will be unstable and direc onless (Eph. 4:14).
1. Charlatans take advantage of this in people and churches (2 Tim. 3:1 1. Charlatans take advantage of this in people and churches (2 Tim. 3:1 -7). -7).
2. Mature Chris ans know you must stand for what is important (Eph. 2. Mature Chris ans know you must stand for what is important (Eph. 6:10-13). 6:10-13).
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C. God helps to guide our priori es! C. God helps to guide our priori es!
1. Love God (Dt. 6:5-7) 1. Love God (Dt. 6:5-7)
2. Love Others (Mk 12:29-31) 2. Love Others (Mk 12:29-31) Love Your Spouse (Eph. 5:25; Tit. 2:4) Love Your Spouse (Eph. 5:25; Tit. 2:4) Love Your Children (Ex 21:5) Love Your Children (Ex 21:5) Love the Brethren (1 Jn 4:7-11) Love the Brethren (1 Jn 4:7-11) Love the Lost (Jn 3:16; Jude 21-23). Love the Lost (Jn 3:16; Jude 21-23).
III. ______That Which Hinders Your Priori es (v. 40). III. ______That Which Hinders Your Priori es (v. 40).
A. Both Martha and Mary made a choice (v. 42). A. Both Martha and Mary made a choice (v. 42).
1. Martha’s choice lead to frustra on and an inability to enjoy her 1. Martha’s choice lead to frustra on and an inability to enjoy her blessings! blessings!
2. Mary’s choice: 2. Mary’s choice: Was commended by the Lord himself! Was commended by the Lord himself! Ended up leading to greater blessings and frui ulness (Mark Ended up leading to greater blessings and frui ulness (Mark 14:3-9). 14:3-9).
B. How should you Eliminate Hinderances? B. How should you Eliminate Hinderances?
1. Don’t Compromise! Compromising means both sides lose! 1. Don’t Compromise! Compromising means both sides lose!
2. Make Choices! 2. Make Choices! We chose Church Camp and VBS over Baseball. We chose Church Camp and VBS over Baseball. We chose Home Schooling over Football and played Soccer We chose Home Schooling over Football and played Soccer instead. instead. We choose to make Sunday dinner instead of ea ng out. We choose to make Sunday dinner instead of ea ng out. I had to choose what hobbies to pursue. I had to choose what hobbies to pursue. 28 28 Double Vision Double Vision PASTOR MARK BRADSHAW PASTOR MARK BRADSHAW
IV. ______Balance (vs. 41-42). IV. ______Balance (vs. 41-42).
A. Hopefully, you will enjoy the praise of a pleased Savior! A. Hopefully, you will enjoy the praise of a pleased Savior!
B. Hopefully you will also enjoy! B. Hopefully you will also enjoy!
1. Sweet Marriage 1. Sweet Marriage
2. Closeness with your children and grandchildren 2. Closeness with your children and grandchildren
3. Frui ulness in your Chris an service 3. Frui ulness in your Chris an service
Conclusion Conclusion
John Paul Ge y was one of the richest men in the world when he died. Shortly John Paul Ge y was one of the richest men in the world when he died. Shortly before that he said that he would trade half of his fortune for one true friend. before that he said that he would trade half of his fortune for one true friend. Work is important. Making a living is vital. But remember that God has Work is important. Making a living is vital. But remember that God has promised to meet your needs (Mt 6:25-34). At the end of the day a balanced life promised to meet your needs (Mt 6:25-34). At the end of the day a balanced life means you need to do without some things. Make sure you value what is truly means you need to do without some things. Make sure you value what is truly important and experience the blessings too few enjoy! important and experience the blessings too few enjoy!
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Seeing God’s Way (Part I) Seeing God’s Way (Part I) The Symptoms of Giving Ground to Satan The Symptoms of Giving Ground to Satan
Introduc on Introduc on Eph. 4:17 This I say therefore, and tes fy in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not Eph. 4:17 This I say therefore, and tes fy in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gen les walk, in the vanity of their mind. as other Gen les walk, in the vanity of their mind. The book of Ephesians exhorts the readers to walk a certain way several mes. The book of Ephesians exhorts the readers to walk a certain way several mes. In this text God tells them (and us) to “walk not” specifically “as other Gen les In this text God tells them (and us) to “walk not” specifically “as other Gen les walk.” They were saved, but they had (as we do) the awful possibility of walking walk.” They were saved, but they had (as we do) the awful possibility of walking like Gen les (unsaved) walk. If they did, there were some stunning like Gen les (unsaved) walk. If they did, there were some stunning consequences and there was something desperately wrong. Many mes this consequences and there was something desperately wrong. Many mes this comes from giving Satan ground. comes from giving Satan ground. Symptom: Worthlessness – Do you struggle at mes with feeling like you are Symptom: Worthlessness – Do you struggle at mes with feeling like you are worthless? worthless?
I. Access to Life is Separated I. Access to Life is Separated
Eph. 4:18 “. . . being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance Eph. 4:18 “. . . being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart:” that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart:”
A. Through Ignorance A. Through Ignorance
B. Through Blindness B. Through Blindness How? Occurs through Rejec on of Truth How? Occurs through Rejec on of Truth Illustra on: The same sun that melts the wax, hardens the clay! What is Illustra on: The same sun that melts the wax, hardens the clay! What is your heart made of?! your heart made of?!
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Symptoms: Symptoms:
Insecurity – Do you struggle thinking about what other people think Insecurity – Do you struggle thinking about what other people think about you? Do you wonder about how you fit in to your world? Do about you? Do you wonder about how you fit in to your world? Do you deal with fears in your life? you deal with fears in your life?
Struggle with Trus ng – Do you struggle with trus ng other people? Struggle with Trus ng – Do you struggle with trus ng other people? God? God?
Addic ve Video Games – Do you spend mes playing video games Addic ve Video Games – Do you spend mes playing video games that should be used in more profitable way? Are you up past that should be used in more profitable way? Are you up past midnight playing video games? midnight playing video games?
Excessive Social Media – Do you spend too much me on social Excessive Social Media – Do you spend too much me on social media? Do you think about it at mes you are not on it? media? Do you think about it at mes you are not on it?
Overea ng – Do you eat more than you should to make you feel Overea ng – Do you eat more than you should to make you feel be er? be er?
Excessive and/or Inappropriate Media – Do you see things via media Excessive and/or Inappropriate Media – Do you see things via media that are inappropriate? Do you watch media when there are more that are inappropriate? Do you watch media when there are more pressing things to do? pressing things to do?
Drug/Alcohol Addic ons – Do you turn to prescrip on drugs, Drug/Alcohol Addic ons – Do you turn to prescrip on drugs, alcohol, or illegal drugs to cope with life? alcohol, or illegal drugs to cope with life?
II. Ability to Reason is Darkened II. Ability to Reason is Darkened
Eph. 4:18 “Having the understanding darkened,” Eph. 4:18 “Having the understanding darkened,”
A. What? Understanding is our Ability to Reason A. What? Understanding is our Ability to Reason
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B. How? Understanding is Darkened by An Outside Agent B. How? Understanding is Darkened by An Outside Agent
1. Occurs through Rejec on of Light 1. Occurs through Rejec on of Light Illustra on: A step toward the opening of a cave brings more light, Illustra on: A step toward the opening of a cave brings more light, less darkness. A step away from the opening brings more darkness less darkness. A step away from the opening brings more darkness and less light. and less light.
2. Occurs through Decep on of Satan 2. Occurs through Decep on of Satan
Symptoms: Symptoms:
Performance Acceptance – Do you feel like you must “perform” Performance Acceptance – Do you feel like you must “perform” before people will accept you? before people will accept you?
Unwise in Decisions – Do you purchase thing you really don’t need Unwise in Decisions – Do you purchase thing you really don’t need and the purchase puts financial pressure on you? and the purchase puts financial pressure on you?
Tendency to Tangents – Do you go on theological or poli cal Tendency to Tangents – Do you go on theological or poli cal tangents? Are you known for conspiracy theories? Do you lean tangents? Are you known for conspiracy theories? Do you lean toward being dogma c over theological minu ae? toward being dogma c over theological minu ae?
Unfulfilled in Life – Do you have an underlying lack of fulfillment out Unfulfilled in Life – Do you have an underlying lack of fulfillment out of life? of life?
Disobedient in the Home – Are you consistently disobedient to clear Disobedient in the Home – Are you consistently disobedient to clear commands in regard to responsibili es in the home (Husbands, love; commands in regard to responsibili es in the home (Husbands, love; wives, reverence)? wives, reverence)?
Lack of submission – Do you struggle with a lack of submission Lack of submission – Do you struggle with a lack of submission toward God-given authori es in your life? Do you reject leadership toward God-given authori es in your life? Do you reject leadership a er a perceived or real failure in their lives or leadership? a er a perceived or real failure in their lives or leadership?
Run from Problems – Do you run away from tension, problems, Run from Problems – Do you run away from tension, problems, rela onship deteriora on? Do you have a track record of leaving rela onship deteriora on? Do you have a track record of leaving instead of resolving? instead of resolving?
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III. Addic on to Filth is Realized III. Addic on to Filth is Realized
Eph. 4:19 “Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto Eph. 4:19 “Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.” lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.”
How? Occurs through Rejec on of Convic on How? Occurs through Rejec on of Convic on
Symptoms: Symptoms:
Sexual Sin: Pornography, Fornica on, Adultery – Have you engaged Sexual Sin: Pornography, Fornica on, Adultery – Have you engaged in sexual sin? Do you look at pornography, sensual images or videos? in sexual sin? Do you look at pornography, sensual images or videos? Have you lost “control”? Have you lost “control”?
Ero zed Wound – Does your wound find expression in an area of Ero zed Wound – Does your wound find expression in an area of moral failure? moral failure?
Live with Shame – Do you feel like something is wrong with you? Is Live with Shame – Do you feel like something is wrong with you? Is there something you have done or was done to you that causes you there something you have done or was done to you that causes you to feel like you are “defec ve”? to feel like you are “defec ve”?
Destroy Your Soul – Do others no ce that you are detached? You Destroy Your Soul – Do others no ce that you are detached? You have a hard me connec ng with others? have a hard me connec ng with others?
Conclusion Conclusion
This is the way the lost live, but the saved can end up like them. That is why This is the way the lost live, but the saved can end up like them. That is why there is this exhorta on not to walk this way. there is this exhorta on not to walk this way.
God clearly does not want to live this way which means there is a way out! God clearly does not want to live this way which means there is a way out!
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Seeing God’s Way (Part II) Seeing God’s Way (Part II) The Way of Giving Satan Ground The Way of Giving Satan Ground
Introduc on Introduc on
Why do many Chris ans find themselves walking in the vanity of their mind. The Why do many Chris ans find themselves walking in the vanity of their mind. The answers are found in Ephesians 4:25-31. The one that screams at us today is answers are found in Ephesians 4:25-31. The one that screams at us today is found in Ephesians 4:26-27. We give ground to Satan. It is from that ground that found in Ephesians 4:26-27. We give ground to Satan. It is from that ground that he constantly a acks and defeats us. This is o en first manifested in the home he constantly a acks and defeats us. This is o en first manifested in the home and primarily in marriage. We cannot take the ground back un l we know how and primarily in marriage. We cannot take the ground back un l we know how he got the ground. he got the ground.
Eph. 4:26-27 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Eph. 4:26-27 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil. Neither give place to the devil.
I. We are Provoked – “Be ye angry” I. We are Provoked – “Be ye angry”
Eph. 4:26 “Be ye angry” Eph. 4:26 “Be ye angry”
A. Father Wounds A. Father Wounds
Quote: “The vast majority of men I have counseled who struggle with sexual Quote: “The vast majority of men I have counseled who struggle with sexual issues have father wounds in their souls.” Ted Roberts issues have father wounds in their souls.” Ted Roberts
Proverbs 7:25-27 Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in Proverbs 7:25-27 Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths. For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men her paths. For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her. Her house is the way to hell, going down to the have been slain by her. Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death. chambers of death.
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1. Angry Father 1. Angry Father Eph. 6:4 And ye father, provoke not your children to wrath: Eph. 6:4 And ye father, provoke not your children to wrath: Problem: He says things that o en define a child’s view of himself. Problem: He says things that o en define a child’s view of himself. The unpredictability of his anger may cause the child to have The unpredictability of his anger may cause the child to have trauma and develop anxiety. O en the child becomes angry as trauma and develop anxiety. O en the child becomes angry as well. well. 2. Absent Father 2. Absent Father Exodus 22:22 Ye shall not afflict any widow, or fatherless child. Exodus 22:22 Ye shall not afflict any widow, or fatherless child. Psalm 68:5 A father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows, is Psalm 68:5 A father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows, is God in his holy habita on. God in his holy habita on. Problem: He has le and o en reinforces the rejec on by his Problem: He has le and o en reinforces the rejec on by his words and ac ons. words and ac ons. 3. Passive Father 3. Passive Father I Thessalonians 2:11 As ye know how we exhorted and comforted I Thessalonians 2:11 As ye know how we exhorted and comforted and charged every one of you, as a father doth his children, and charged every one of you, as a father doth his children, Problem: He is there and he provides, but he is not involved in a Problem: He is there and he provides, but he is not involved in a parent/child rela onship parent/child rela onship 4. Permissive Father 4. Permissive Father I Samuel 3:13 For I have told him that I will judge his house for ever I Samuel 3:13 For I have told him that I will judge his house for ever for the iniquity which he knoweth; because his sons made for the iniquity which he knoweth; because his sons made themselves vile, and he restrained them not. themselves vile, and he restrained them not. Problem: May be a good father, but he does not love enough to Problem: May be a good father, but he does not love enough to say, “No.” say, “No.” 5. Demanding Father 5. Demanding Father Ephesians 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: Ephesians 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admoni on of the Lord. but bring them up in the nurture and admoni on of the Lord. Problem: He gives no affirma on, but has perfec onis c Problem: He gives no affirma on, but has perfec onis c expecta ons which result in cri cism of any failure. expecta ons which result in cri cism of any failure. 35 35 Seeing God’s Way (Part 2) Seeing God’s Way (Part 2) EVANGELIST JIM VAN GELDEREN EVANGELIST JIM VAN GELDEREN
B. Mother Wounds B. Mother Wounds
1. Absence of Nurture 1. Absence of Nurture I Thessalonians 2:7-8 But we were gentle among you, even as a I Thessalonians 2:7-8 But we were gentle among you, even as a nurse cherisheth her children: So being affec onately desirous of nurse cherisheth her children: So being affec onately desirous of you, we were willing to have imparted unto you, not the gospel of you, we were willing to have imparted unto you, not the gospel of God only, but also our own souls, because ye were dear unto us. God only, but also our own souls, because ye were dear unto us. Problem: She does not have a nurturing spirit toward her children. Problem: She does not have a nurturing spirit toward her children. They do not feel cherished and nurtured. They do not feel cherished and nurtured.
2. Absence of Time 2. Absence of Time Proverbs 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child le to Proverbs 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child le to himself bringeth his mother to shame. himself bringeth his mother to shame. Problem: She does not spend me with her children. This could be Problem: She does not spend me with her children. This could be for a variety of reasons. It could be selfish, but it could be because for a variety of reasons. It could be selfish, but it could be because she is a emp ng to survive a er a divorce. she is a emp ng to survive a er a divorce.
3. Absence of Safety 3. Absence of Safety Ma hew 23:37 O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, thou that killest the Ma hew 23:37 O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, thou that killest the prophets, and stonest them which are sent unto thee, how o en prophets, and stonest them which are sent unto thee, how o en would I have gathered thy children together, even as a hen would I have gathered thy children together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings, and ye would not! gathereth her chickens under her wings, and ye would not! Problem: Because of her selfishness she puts her children in Problem: Because of her selfishness she puts her children in precarious situa ons. precarious situa ons.
4. Absence of Submission 4. Absence of Submission Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Problem: She lacks a submissive a tude toward her husband and Problem: She lacks a submissive a tude toward her husband and the father of her children. the father of her children.
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B. Spouse Wounds B. Spouse Wounds
1. Embi ered Husband 1. Embi ered Husband Col. 3:19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bi er against Col. 3:19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bi er against them. them. Problem: He has chosen to harbor bi erness against his wife for Problem: He has chosen to harbor bi erness against his wife for her wrongs, failings or weaknesses and does not uncondi onally her wrongs, failings or weaknesses and does not uncondi onally love her. love her.
2. Disrespec ul Wife 2. Disrespec ul Wife Eph. 5:33 . . . and the wife see that she reverence her husband. Eph. 5:33 . . . and the wife see that she reverence her husband. Problem: She has chosen to be disrespec ul toward her husband Problem: She has chosen to be disrespec ul toward her husband instead of reverencing him despite his lack of love. instead of reverencing him despite his lack of love.
C. Other Wounds C. Other Wounds
1. Others 1. Others Ma hew 18:7 Woe unto the world because of offences! For it must Ma hew 18:7 Woe unto the world because of offences! For it must needs be that offences come; but woe to that man by whom the needs be that offences come; but woe to that man by whom the offence cometh! offence cometh!
2. Myself 2. Myself Psalm 38:4-5 For mine iniqui es are gone over mine head: as an Psalm 38:4-5 For mine iniqui es are gone over mine head: as an heavy burden they are too heavy for me. My wounds s nk and are heavy burden they are too heavy for me. My wounds s nk and are corrupt because of my foolishness. corrupt because of my foolishness.
II. We are Angry – “Be ye angry, and sin not” II. We are Angry – “Be ye angry, and sin not”
III. We are Passive – “...let not the sun go down upon your III. We are Passive – “...let not the sun go down upon your wrath” wrath”
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IV. We are Defeated – “Neither give place to the devil” IV. We are Defeated – “Neither give place to the devil”
A. Unhealed Hurts – Are there hur ul events of the past that s ll hurt? A. Unhealed Hurts – Are there hur ul events of the past that s ll hurt?
B. Selfishness – Do you take or give? B. Selfishness – Do you take or give?
Ephesians 4:28 Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him Ephesians 4:28 Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth. have to give to him that needeth.
C. Hur ul Words – Do you say things that tear people down? C. Hur ul Words – Do you say things that tear people down?
Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt communica on proceed out of your Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt communica on proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. minister grace unto the hearers.
D. Grieved Holy Spirit – Do you find yourself ge ng angry on a regular basis? D. Grieved Holy Spirit – Do you find yourself ge ng angry on a regular basis? Do you resent someone? Do you resent someone?
Ephesians 4:30 And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are Ephesians 4:30 And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemp on. sealed unto the day of redemp on.
E. Anger/Bi erness – Do you experience the ministry of the Holy Spirit in your E. Anger/Bi erness – Do you experience the ministry of the Holy Spirit in your life? life?
Ephesians 4:31 Let all bi erness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, Ephesians 4:31 Let all bi erness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
F. Unforgiveness – Is there anyone you struggle with forgiving? F. Unforgiveness – Is there anyone you struggle with forgiving?
Ephesians 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, Ephesians 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you. you.
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G. Feeling Unloved/Not Loving – Do you o en feel like you are unlovable? Do G. Feeling Unloved/Not Loving – Do you o en feel like you are unlovable? Do you have a hard me expressing love? you have a hard me expressing love?
Ephesians 5:2 And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath Ephesians 5:2 And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour. sweetsmelling savour.
H. Moral Failure – Do you struggle with moral areas of your life? H. Moral Failure – Do you struggle with moral areas of your life?
Ephesians 5:3 But fornica on, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, Ephesians 5:3 But fornica on, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;
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20/20 Vision 20/20 Vision Love & Respect Love & Respect Ephesians 5:32-33 Ephesians 5:32-33
Marriage Naviga on Marriage Naviga on
Eph 5:32-33 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the Eph 5:32-33 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in par cular so love his wife even church. 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in par cular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
I. Introduc on I. Introduc on
A. Myths about marriage A. Myths about marriage
1. My Spouse Is ______for My Happiness 1. My Spouse Is ______for My Happiness a. The truth is, only abiding in Christ can give you true, con nual joy. a. The truth is, only abiding in Christ can give you true, con nual joy. b. In John 15:11 Jesus told us, “These things have I spoken unto you, b. In John 15:11 Jesus told us, “These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full.” that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full.”
2. My Spouse Can/Will ______All of My Needs 2. My Spouse Can/Will ______All of My Needs a. If you believe this, you create a controlled dependency. a. If you believe this, you create a controlled dependency. b. In Psalm 62:5 David looked to the Lord to fill his soul needs: “My b. In Psalm 62:5 David looked to the Lord to fill his soul needs: “My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expecta on is from him.” soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expecta on is from him.”
3. My Spouse Will Give Me ______(Who You Are) 3. My Spouse Will Give Me ______(Who You Are) and ______(Why You Ma er) and ______(Why You Ma er) a. Only God can provide a sure founda on for these needs. a. Only God can provide a sure founda on for these needs.
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b. It is only as you understand that you are “accepted in the b. It is only as you understand that you are “accepted in the beloved” (Ephesians 1:6) and “complete in Him” (Colossians 2:10) beloved” (Ephesians 1:6) and “complete in Him” (Colossians 2:10) that you will have true security and understand the significance that you will have true security and understand the significance Christ gives. Christ gives.
B. Marriage is a precious gi from God. B. Marriage is a precious gi from God.
1. And God did intend for it to be a mutually giving rela onship in 1. And God did intend for it to be a mutually giving rela onship in which both husband and wife encourage, help, and edify one which both husband and wife encourage, help, and edify one another. another.
2. A joyful, full Chris an marriage is one in which both husband and 2. A joyful, full Chris an marriage is one in which both husband and wife seek their fulfillment in Christ and, from that fullness, give to wife seek their fulfillment in Christ and, from that fullness, give to one another. one another.
II. Discussion II. Discussion
A. Understanding the other A. Understanding the other
1. Introductory thought: 1. Introductory thought: a. One of the greatest modern myths is that there are no essen al a. One of the greatest modern myths is that there are no essen al differences between men and women. differences between men and women. b. This is unbiblical, unreasonable, and dangerous to your marriage. b. This is unbiblical, unreasonable, and dangerous to your marriage. 1) God made men and women different, both physically and 1) God made men and women different, both physically and emo onally, and He commanded husbands to take note: emo onally, and He commanded husbands to take note: 2) “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, 2) “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered” (1 Peter 3:7). hindered” (1 Peter 3:7).
2. Think Different 2. Think Different a. Men think in terms of ______a. Men think in terms of ______• Men need to be loved, but it is through the lens of respect that they • Men need to be loved, but it is through the lens of respect that they understand it understand it
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b. Women think in terms of ______b. Women think in terms of ______• Women also need respect, but it is through the lens of love that • Women also need respect, but it is through the lens of love that they understand it they understand it c. The brains of men and women develop differently. c. The brains of men and women develop differently. d. There are obvious advantages and disadvantages to both. d. There are obvious advantages and disadvantages to both. 1) A man can usually tell you exactly why he believes something. 1) A man can usually tell you exactly why he believes something. 2) Women don’t “show their work” but o en come to the right 2) Women don’t “show their work” but o en come to the right conclusion by intui on—their brain is working faster than they can conclusion by intui on—their brain is working faster than they can explain. explain. e. To see the difference in focus, watch one spouse have a phone e. To see the difference in focus, watch one spouse have a phone conversa on while the other is listening. conversa on while the other is listening.
3. Feel Different 3. Feel Different Because of the way God made them, men base their significance Because of the way God made them, men base their significance upon their achievements, while women are more centered on upon their achievements, while women are more centered on rela onships. rela onships.
4. Affirma on & Solu ons 4. Affirma on & Solu ons a. A er reading the differences between how men and women think a. A er reading the differences between how men and women think and feel, you can see conflict coming like an oncoming train — and feel, you can see conflict coming like an oncoming train — predictable and unrelen ng. predictable and unrelen ng. b. Primarily, men want to fix problems, and women want to affirm b. Primarily, men want to fix problems, and women want to affirm people. people. c. Women have their own expecta ons to “improve” their husbands. c. Women have their own expecta ons to “improve” their husbands. d. Maybe it’s me to quit trying to change each other and decide to d. Maybe it’s me to quit trying to change each other and decide to love and respect love and respect
5. Sayings & Meanings 5. Sayings & Meanings a. Figuring out what to say is a challenge for men and women. a. Figuring out what to say is a challenge for men and women. b. Knowing how to say it is the next obstacle. b. Knowing how to say it is the next obstacle. c. Women speak more from their emo ons, while men speak in c. Women speak more from their emo ons, while men speak in literal facts literal facts d. The gap between men and women is wide, but not in-passible. d. The gap between men and women is wide, but not in-passible. 42 42 20/20 Vision 20/20 Vision PASTOR PAUL CALDWELL PASTOR PAUL CALDWELL
B. Marriage Advice B. Marriage Advice
1. For Men 1. For Men a. ______a. ______b. No ce the details b. No ce the details c. Ask her counsel c. Ask her counsel d. Appreciate her mo ves d. Appreciate her mo ves e. Offer support e. Offer support f. Accept her as she is f. Accept her as she is
2. For Ladies 2. For Ladies a. Don’t give unsolicited advice: a. Don’t give unsolicited advice: b. Don’t make him talk: b. Don’t make him talk: c. Be clear: c. Be clear: d. ______it: d. ______it: e. Put things in perspec ve for your spouse. e. Put things in perspec ve for your spouse. f. Accept him as he is. f. Accept him as he is.
C. Staying in love C. Staying in love
1. Don’t Sweat the ______Stuff 1. Don’t Sweat the ______Stuff
2. End Each Day With a Clean Slate 2. End Each Day With a Clean Slate
3. ______3. ______
4. Express Your Love 4. Express Your Love
“Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it.” “Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it.” Song of Solomon 8:7a Song of Solomon 8:7a
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D. The key to an irresis ble marriage D. The key to an irresis ble marriage
“Be kindly affec oned one to another with brotherly love; in honour “Be kindly affec oned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;” Romans 12:10 preferring one another;” Romans 12:10
“For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty “For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.” for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.” Gala ans 5:13 Gala ans 5:13
____________Eph 5:21 Submi ng yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Eph 5:21 Submi ng yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
III. Conclusion III. Conclusion
A. Just plane hard work! A. Just plane hard work!
B. But a good work B. But a good work
C. Be not weary in well doing C. Be not weary in well doing
Gal 6:9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we Gal 6:9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. shall reap, if we faint not.
D. How hard we work to love and respect our spouse is a live tes mony to D. How hard we work to love and respect our spouse is a live tes mony to God's love for the world God's love for the world
What does the world see?! What does the world see?!
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Family Vision Family Vision Family Devotions Family Devotions Genesis 18:19 Genesis 18:19
Genesis 18:19 For I know him, that he will command his children and his Genesis 18:19 For I know him, that he will command his children and his household a er him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do jus ce and household a er him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do jus ce and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him. him.
I. A Biblical ______of Family Devo ons I. A Biblical ______of Family Devo ons
A. The Biblical meaning of devo on A. The Biblical meaning of devo on
1. While we are under no Biblical obliga on to call our me with God 1. While we are under no Biblical obliga on to call our me with God “devo ons,” it is interes ng to consider the Biblical defini on of devo on “devo ons,” it is interes ng to consider the Biblical defini on of devo on and its link to what we ought to be in our rela onship to God. and its link to what we ought to be in our rela onship to God.
2. The word means, “…the exclusion of an object from the use or abuse of a 2. The word means, “…the exclusion of an object from the use or abuse of a man and its irrevocable surrender to God…surrendering something to God man and its irrevocable surrender to God…surrendering something to God meant devo ng it to service of God or pu ng it under a ban for u er meant devo ng it to service of God or pu ng it under a ban for u er destruc on.” destruc on.”
3. Both our personal and family devo ons should be a me when we 3. Both our personal and family devo ons should be a me when we ______ourselves from the “use or abuse of man” and give ______ourselves from the “use or abuse of man” and give ourselves completely to God, while confessing our sins to Him for “u er ourselves completely to God, while confessing our sins to Him for “u er destruc on.” destruc on.”
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B. The Biblical mandate to teach and train children B. The Biblical mandate to teach and train children
1. The Bible makes it very clear that the responsibility to teach and train 1. The Bible makes it very clear that the responsibility to teach and train children is primarily the responsibility of the parents. children is primarily the responsibility of the parents. a. Deuteronomy 6:4-7 a. Deuteronomy 6:4-7 b. Deuteronomy 11:18-21 b. Deuteronomy 11:18-21 c. Malachi 2:15 c. Malachi 2:15 d. Ephesians 6:4 d. Ephesians 6:4
2. While the church also plays a role in teaching the Word of God, it is limited 2. While the church also plays a role in teaching the Word of God, it is limited in a few ways. in a few ways. a. Time – In a best case scenario, 5 hours of church a week is not enough a. Time – In a best case scenario, 5 hours of church a week is not enough to accomplish all that work that needs to happen in the life of a child. to accomplish all that work that needs to happen in the life of a child. b. Influence – By its very nature, the home will typically have more b. Influence – By its very nature, the home will typically have more influence on a child than the church. A child will rarely take what they influence on a child than the church. A child will rarely take what they are hearing at church to heart, if they are not also hearing it at home. are hearing at church to heart, if they are not also hearing it at home.
C. The goal of family devo ons is to have a consistent, in mate me before God C. The goal of family devo ons is to have a consistent, in mate me before God as a family, where God’s Word is ______and the family as a family, where God’s Word is ______and the family further devotes itself to God’s purposes. further devotes itself to God’s purposes.
II. A Basic ______for Family Devo ons II. A Basic ______for Family Devo ons
A. Every family devo on should consist of some basic elements A. Every family devo on should consist of some basic elements 1. Bible reading 1. Bible reading 2. Story or applica on 2. Story or applica on 3. Prayer 3. Prayer
B. Plan to ______and to get going again B. Plan to ______and to get going again
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C. Some prac cal principles C. Some prac cal principles 1. Understand your family 1. Understand your family 2. Start at infancy 2. Start at infancy 3. Grow as you go 3. Grow as you go 4. Be consistent 4. Be consistent 5. Ask ques ons to teach 5. Ask ques ons to teach 6. Brevity is not your enemy 6. Brevity is not your enemy 7. Encourage whole family par cipa on 7. Encourage whole family par cipa on 8. Remove distrac ons 8. Remove distrac ons 9. Change it up 9. Change it up
III. Some Blessed ______of Family Devo ons III. Some Blessed ______of Family Devo ons A. Promotes family salva ons A. Promotes family salva ons B. Promotes family health B. Promotes family health 1. Family devo ons provide a consistent family check-up 1. Family devo ons provide a consistent family check-up 2. Use the me to address the small issues that can cause big problems 2. Use the me to address the small issues that can cause big problems down the road down the road 3. Recognize and praise the good things that are happening within the 3. Recognize and praise the good things that are happening within the family family C. Promotes family love. To children love is spelled ______. C. Promotes family love. To children love is spelled ______. Inves ng daily me with your family before God shows your children you Inves ng daily me with your family before God shows your children you love them and will create strong, spiritual, las ng bonds. love them and will create strong, spiritual, las ng bonds.
Conclusion: Conclusion: ______47 47 Hind Sight Hind Sight PASTOR KEVIN METSINGER PASTOR KEVIN METSINGER
Hind Sight Hind Sight Influencing the Generations Behind You Influencing the Generations Behind You Titus 2:1-6 Titus 2:1-6
Introduc on Introduc on Titus 2:1-6 But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: 2That the Titus 2:1-6 But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: 2That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in pa ence. aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in pa ence. 3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not 3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. 6 Young men likewise husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. 6 Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded. exhort to be sober minded. Mentoring ought to be done with the Pastor approval. I personally think that he Mentoring ought to be done with the Pastor approval. I personally think that he ought to ask you to mentor someone else. ought to ask you to mentor someone else. The idea of mentoring is found throughout the Bible. We could say that it is a The idea of mentoring is found throughout the Bible. We could say that it is a Bible Principle. Bible Principle. There is an old proverb that says: There is an old proverb that says: If you are plan ng for a year, plant grain. If you are plan ng for a year, plant grain. If you are plan ng for a decade, plant trees. If you are plan ng for a decade, plant trees. If you are plan ng for a century, plant people. If you are plan ng for a century, plant people. As Believers we are plan ng for Eternity. As Believers we are plan ng for Eternity. Families des nies can be changed forever with the Word of God. Families des nies can be changed forever with the Word of God. We define a ______as a We define a ______as a rela vely happy, more experienced couple purposefully inves ng in another rela vely happy, more experienced couple purposefully inves ng in another couple to effec vely navigate a journey that they have already taken. couple to effec vely navigate a journey that they have already taken. What is a mentor? What is a mentor? 48 48 Hind Sight Hind Sight PASTOR KEVIN METSINGER PASTOR KEVIN METSINGER
Here’s a pop quiz ques on: Here’s a pop quiz ques on:
A mentor is… A mentor is… 1. And Modeler 1. And Modeler 2. An Encourager 2. An Encourager 3. And Imparter of knowledge 3. And Imparter of knowledge 4. All the above 4. All the above The answer is 4 a mentor may wear many different hats but the one thing that The answer is 4 a mentor may wear many different hats but the one thing that all mentors share his ability to listen and encourage. all mentors share his ability to listen and encourage. A marriage mentoring rela onship can be short term or long term. It can be A marriage mentoring rela onship can be short term or long term. It can be consistent and predictable or spontaneous and sporadic. consistent and predictable or spontaneous and sporadic. While every marriage mentoring rela onship has its own style that unfolds as While every marriage mentoring rela onship has its own style that unfolds as the rela onship develops, some poten al confusion can be spared if the the rela onship develops, some poten al confusion can be spared if the mentors and mentorees discuss their ini al expecta ons of the rela onship. mentors and mentorees discuss their ini al expecta ons of the rela onship. For example you may want to discuss whether you see yourselves more as For example you may want to discuss whether you see yourselves more as models or as coaches or as teachers or his guides, and so on. models or as coaches or as teachers or his guides, and so on. The Bible tells us about mentoring in Titus 2:1-6. The Bible tells us about mentoring in Titus 2:1-6.
I. Aged ______and Aged ______(vs. 2-3) I. Aged ______and Aged ______(vs. 2-3) A. Aged - Older A. Aged - Older 1. To be a mentor means that you have to have something to share 1. To be a mentor means that you have to have something to share 2. Becoming old gives us knowledge in the Word if we have studied it 2. Becoming old gives us knowledge in the Word if we have studied it all our years, and it provides us with examples of both good and bad. all our years, and it provides us with examples of both good and bad. B. These verses go on to tell us that there are some requirements for Aged B. These verses go on to tell us that there are some requirements for Aged Men Men 1. Be Sober 1. Be Sober a. Vigilant a. Vigilant b. Watchful over themselves, their conduct, and conversa on b. Watchful over themselves, their conduct, and conversa on 49 49 Hind Sight Hind Sight PASTOR KEVIN METSINGER PASTOR KEVIN METSINGER
2. ______2. ______a. "Gravity" or "dignified seriousness" ought indeed to characterize a. "Gravity" or "dignified seriousness" ought indeed to characterize Chris an demeanor in general, as in I Ti. 2:2 above. ISBE Chris an demeanor in general, as in I Ti. 2:2 above. ISBE b. Grave; in their behaviour, speech, and dress; levity of b. Grave; in their behaviour, speech, and dress; levity of conversa on, frothy language, and airy dress, are very conversa on, frothy language, and airy dress, are very unbecoming aged persons unbecoming aged persons
3. Temperate 3. Temperate a. Self-Control a. Self-Control b. Discreet b. Discreet
4. Sound in the faith, in charity, in pa ence 4. Sound in the faith, in charity, in pa ence a. Though they may be unhealthful in their bodies, and become a. Though they may be unhealthful in their bodies, and become decrepit through age, they should be sound in their minds decrepit through age, they should be sound in their minds b. In the doctrine of faith, lest they should lead others into error b. In the doctrine of faith, lest they should lead others into error c. Their love to God, to Christ, and to his people, should be real and c. Their love to God, to Christ, and to his people, should be real and sincere sincere
5. Young Men (v. 6) 5. Young Men (v. 6)
Aged men are to exhort them to be sober minded Aged men are to exhort them to be sober minded
C. Aged Women C. Aged Women
1. Behaviour as becometh ______1. Behaviour as becometh ______a. "holy women” a. "holy women” b. Sanc fied by the Spirit of God b. Sanc fied by the Spirit of God c. Such ought to be in their clothing, and in their speech, and in c. Such ought to be in their clothing, and in their speech, and in the whole of their conduct and conversa on, as become the the whole of their conduct and conversa on, as become the character which they bear, and the profession they make: character which they bear, and the profession they make:
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2. Not False Accusers 2. Not False Accusers a. Of the brethren a. Of the brethren b. And sisters b. And sisters c. Not raising false reports c. Not raising false reports d. Bringing false charges against members of churches d. Bringing false charges against members of churches e. And so making differences and divisions among them e. And so making differences and divisions among them
3. Not given to much wine 3. Not given to much wine a. Serving it a. Serving it b. Or being enslaved by it b. Or being enslaved by it
4. Teachers of good things 4. Teachers of good things a. By example and by instruc on a. By example and by instruc on b. Not of old wives' fables, of supers ous customs, rites, and b. Not of old wives' fables, of supers ous customs, rites, and ceremonies, of the intrigues of love, and of things filthy and ceremonies, of the intrigues of love, and of things filthy and obscene obscene c. But of things that are solid and substan al, useful and improving, c. But of things that are solid and substan al, useful and improving, honest and honourable, chaste and pure. honest and honourable, chaste and pure.
5. That they may teach the young ______: 5. That they may teach the young ______: a. Be Sober a. Be Sober 1) Be chaste, modest, and temperate 1) Be chaste, modest, and temperate 2) To be wise and prudent in their conduct to their husbands 2) To be wise and prudent in their conduct to their husbands b. Love their Husbands b. Love their Husbands 1) To help and assist them all they can 1) To help and assist them all they can 2) To honour 2) To honour 3) To endeavor to please them in all things 3) To endeavor to please them in all things 4) To secure peace, harmony, and union 4) To secure peace, harmony, and union c. To love their children c. To love their children 1) To seek their physical, spiritual and eternal welfare 1) To seek their physical, spiritual and eternal welfare 2) To bring them up in the nurture and admoni on of the Lord 2) To bring them up in the nurture and admoni on of the Lord 3) And to use and keep proper discipline 3) And to use and keep proper discipline 51 51 Hind Sight Hind Sight PASTOR KEVIN METSINGER PASTOR KEVIN METSINGER
II. What is a marriage mentor? II. What is a marriage mentor?
Note: This point was taken from: The Complete Guide to Marriage Note: This point was taken from: The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring by Drs. Les & Leslie Parre Mentoring by Drs. Les & Leslie Parre
Willing to share what you know (in a non-compe ve way) Willing to share what you know (in a non-compe ve way)
Represents skill, knowledge, virtue, and accomplishment Represents skill, knowledge, virtue, and accomplishment
Takes a personal and hear elt interest in the other couples development Takes a personal and hear elt interest in the other couples development and well-being and well-being
Offers support, challenge, pa ence, and enthusiasm while helping other Offers support, challenge, pa ence, and enthusiasm while helping other couples couples
Points the way and represents tangible evidence of what another couple Points the way and represents tangible evidence of what another couple can be can be
Exposes the recipients of their mentoring to Godly ideas, perspec ves, and Exposes the recipients of their mentoring to Godly ideas, perspec ves, and standards standards
Has more exper se in terms of knowledge yet the views themselves as Has more exper se in terms of knowledge yet the views themselves as equal to those they mentor equal to those they mentor
The point is that each marriage mentor couple needs to consider what it is The point is that each marriage mentor couple needs to consider what it is that they want to bring to the mentoring rela onship. This means that they want to bring to the mentoring rela onship. This means considering you're two personali es and traits. Importantly, it also means considering you're two personali es and traits. Importantly, it also means being clear about what your role as a mentor couple does not include. being clear about what your role as a mentor couple does not include.
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II. A Mentor is Not: II. A Mentor is Not:
Note: This point was taken from: The Complete Guide to Marriage Note: This point was taken from: The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring by Drs. Les & Leslie Parre Mentoring by Drs. Les & Leslie Parre
In-Law. Your job is not to parent the couple you are mentoring. In-Law. Your job is not to parent the couple you are mentoring.
A New buddy. Your job is not necessarily to be friends for the purpose of A New buddy. Your job is not necessarily to be friends for the purpose of socializing. socializing.
“On call” for every li le crisis. “On call” for every li le crisis.
Not commi ed long-term. Not commi ed long-term.
A professor. Your life experience is your teaching tool. A professor. Your life experience is your teaching tool.
I know it all. Your job is not to have all the answers. I know it all. Your job is not to have all the answers.
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References: References: • The Bible King James Version • The Bible King James Version • ISBE • ISBE • Dr. John Gill notes on Titus • Dr. John Gill notes on Titus • The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring by Drs. Les & Leslie Parre • The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring by Drs. Les & Leslie Parre
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Impaired Vision Impaired Vision When Sickness Hits Home When Sickness Hits Home
Introduc on Introduc on
“…to have and to hold, from this day forward, for be er, for worse, for richer, for “…to have and to hold, from this day forward, for be er, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish…” poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish…”
When we said our wedding vows most of us assumed there would be more days When we said our wedding vows most of us assumed there would be more days of health than days of sickness. If there were days of sickness they would be of health than days of sickness. If there were days of sickness they would be toward the end of life and not a main component of our lives together. toward the end of life and not a main component of our lives together. However, for some of us God has given us a season of illness and for others it’s a However, for some of us God has given us a season of illness and for others it’s a calling. Our aim today is to equip and encourage both the spouse who is ill and calling. Our aim today is to equip and encourage both the spouse who is ill and the spouse who helps carry that burden. the spouse who helps carry that burden.
I. Develop a Healthy ______. I. Develop a Healthy ______.
There are many ques ons that plague the minds of those who suffer illness. There are many ques ons that plague the minds of those who suffer illness. Why is this happening to me? When will it go away? Am I damaging my Why is this happening to me? When will it go away? Am I damaging my marriage and my children? Am I being punished? marriage and my children? Am I being punished?
It isn’t wrong to ask “why.” Even Jesus himself u ered that ques on on the It isn’t wrong to ask “why.” Even Jesus himself u ered that ques on on the cross, from which he received the answer of silence from heaven. So why is cross, from which he received the answer of silence from heaven. So why is there illness? there illness?
A. Because of the ______-- Genesis 2 A. Because of the ______-- Genesis 2
B. Because of ______in their life –I Peter 4:1-2 B. Because of ______in their life –I Peter 4:1-2
C. Because there is a Satanic A ack --Job C. Because there is a Satanic A ack --Job
D. Because it is the way God moves people from earth to heaven—II Cor 5:8 D. Because it is the way God moves people from earth to heaven—II Cor 5:8 54 54 Impaired Vision Impaired Vision PASTOR NOEL CWENAR PASTOR NOEL CWENAR
E. Because it is a way for the glory of God to be manifested in your life - John E. Because it is a way for the glory of God to be manifested in your life - John 11:4 11:4
F. Because it is your ______- Luke 9:23 F. Because it is your ______- Luke 9:23
“Jesus answered, Neither hath this man sinned, not his parents: but that the “Jesus answered, Neither hath this man sinned, not his parents: but that the works of God should be made manifest in him.” John 9:2 works of God should be made manifest in him.” John 9:2
“The LORD hath made all things for himself: yea, even the wicked for the “The LORD hath made all things for himself: yea, even the wicked for the day of evil.” Proverbs 16:4 day of evil.” Proverbs 16:4
There are two ways in which the Lord can get glory in our health struggles. There are two ways in which the Lord can get glory in our health struggles. One is to heal you and the other is to supply you with ______One is to heal you and the other is to supply you with ______your struggles. ______your struggles.
“And lest I should be exalted above measure through the abundance of the “And lest I should be exalted above measure through the abundance of the revela ons, there was given to me a thorn in the flesh, the messenger of revela ons, there was given to me a thorn in the flesh, the messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I should be exalted above measure. 8 For this thing I Satan to buffet me, lest I should be exalted above measure. 8 For this thing I besought the Lord thrice, that it might depart from me. 9 And he said unto besought the Lord thrice, that it might depart from me. 9 And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmi es, that the weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmi es, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” II Corinthians 12:7-9 power of Christ may rest upon me.” II Corinthians 12:7-9
II. Develop Healthy ______. II. Develop Healthy ______.
Family Family
Don’t let your health be the main topic of daily conversa on Don’t let your health be the main topic of daily conversa on
Be careful of the nega ve impact on children Be careful of the nega ve impact on children
Take advantage of good days Take advantage of good days
Keep romance alive Keep romance alive
Help your family see the blessings Help your family see the blessings
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Friends Friends
Don’t burn them out Don’t burn them out
They should be encouraged by their me with you They should be encouraged by their me with you
Allow some help when appropriate Allow some help when appropriate
Have a friend you can be transparent with Have a friend you can be transparent with
Finances Finances
Learn to live frugally Learn to live frugally
Let doctors know that your money is ght Let doctors know that your money is ght
Don’t be afraid to shop around with medical expenses. Don’t be afraid to shop around with medical expenses.
Tax write-off’s Tax write-off’s
Offer to nego ate prices Offer to nego ate prices
Faith Faith
Be thankful for it Be thankful for it
Pray for others who suffer Pray for others who suffer
Let the Lord sanc fy you Let the Lord sanc fy you
Study the life of others who have suffered well. Study the life of others who have suffered well.
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III. Develop Healthy ______. III. Develop Healthy ______.
“Who comforteth us in all our tribula on, that we may be able to comfort “Who comforteth us in all our tribula on, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.” II Corinthians 1:4 comforted of God.” II Corinthians 1:4
Not one speck of adversity touches your life that God doesn’t know about. Not one speck of adversity touches your life that God doesn’t know about. God has allowed it, God has permi ed it, God had limited it, and God has God has allowed it, God has permi ed it, God had limited it, and God has designed it to bring himself glory. designed it to bring himself glory.
We may not like Gods plan, but He is more interested in receiving glory than We may not like Gods plan, but He is more interested in receiving glory than He is our comfort. He is our comfort.
God has not called you and I to walk around the trial but through the trial. God has not called you and I to walk around the trial but through the trial. God’s goal has and always will be to make you more like Jesus. God’s goal has and always will be to make you more like Jesus.
God is using this to sanc fy you. God is using this to sanc fy you.
You have the opportunity to iden fy with Christ-- Philippians 3:10 You have the opportunity to iden fy with Christ-- Philippians 3:10
Opportuni es to witness Opportuni es to witness
Your children can watch God work in your lives Your children can watch God work in your lives
We learn to endure hardness--2 Tim 2:3 We learn to endure hardness--2 Tim 2:3
Learn contentment- laugh and cry Learn contentment- laugh and cry
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Seeing God’s Way (Part III) Seeing God’s Way (Part III) The Deliverance from Giving Satan Ground The Deliverance from Giving Satan Ground
Introduc on Introduc on If you have given Satan ground, you have a right to take it back. You can take it If you have given Satan ground, you have a right to take it back. You can take it back by understanding Bible truth and ac ng on it! back by understanding Bible truth and ac ng on it! I. Christ is in Us I. Christ is in Us
Eph. 4:20-21 “But ye have not so learned Christ; If so be that ye have heard Eph. 4:20-21 “But ye have not so learned Christ; If so be that ye have heard him,” him,”
KEY TRUTH #1 KEY TRUTH #1
You Must Nurture a Rela onship with Christ You Must Nurture a Rela onship with Christ
A. Desire It A. Desire It John 7:37 In the last day, that great day of the feast, Jesus stood and John 7:37 In the last day, that great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried, saying, If any man thirst, let him come unto me, and drink. cried, saying, If any man thirst, let him come unto me, and drink.
B. Expect It B. Expect It John 7:38 He that believeth on me, as the scripture hath said, out of John 7:38 He that believeth on me, as the scripture hath said, out of his belly shall flow rivers of living water. his belly shall flow rivers of living water. II. We are in Him II. We are in Him
Ephesians 4:21 “. . . and have been taught by him, as the truth is in Jesus:” Ephesians 4:21 “. . . and have been taught by him, as the truth is in Jesus:”
A. The Certainty of His Teaching A. The Certainty of His Teaching
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C. The Content of His Teaching C. The Content of His Teaching 1. Put Off the Old Man 1. Put Off the Old Man Ephesians 4:22 That ye put off concerning the former conversa on Ephesians 4:22 That ye put off concerning the former conversa on the old man, which is corrupt according to the decei ul lusts; the old man, which is corrupt according to the decei ul lusts; 2. Put On the New Man 2. Put On the New Man Ephesians 4:24 And that ye put on the new man, which a er God is Ephesians 4:24 And that ye put on the new man, which a er God is created in righteousness and true holiness. created in righteousness and true holiness.
KEY TRUTH #2 KEY TRUTH #2
You Must Understand/Reckon/Act on Who You Are in Christ You Must Understand/Reckon/Act on Who You Are in Christ a. Understand Who You Are in Christ a. Understand Who You Are in Christ Romans 6:3, 6, 9 “Know ye not . . . Knowing this . . . Knowing that” Romans 6:3, 6, 9 “Know ye not . . . Knowing this . . . Knowing that” Dead to sin in Christ Dead to sin in Christ Alive unto God in Christ Alive unto God in Christ Raised up in the Heavenlies in Christ Raised up in the Heavenlies in Christ Accepted in the Beloved in Christ Accepted in the Beloved in Christ Complete in Christ Complete in Christ Chosen in Christ Chosen in Christ Loved in Christ Loved in Christ b. Reckon It to Be So b. Reckon It to Be So Romans 6:11 Likewise reckon ye also yourselves to be dead indeed Romans 6:11 Likewise reckon ye also yourselves to be dead indeed unto sin, but alive unto God through Jesus Christ our Lord. unto sin, but alive unto God through Jesus Christ our Lord. c. Act on That Reality c. Act on That Reality Romans 6:12-13 Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that Romans 6:12-13 Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof. Neither yield ye your members ye should obey it in the lusts thereof. Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: 3. Be Renewed 3. Be Renewed Eph. 4:23 “And be renewed in the spirit of your mind;” Eph. 4:23 “And be renewed in the spirit of your mind;” a. Present Tense - Con nuous Process a. Present Tense - Con nuous Process b. Passive Voice – Holy Spirit Renews b. Passive Voice – Holy Spirit Renews
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KEY TRUTH #3 KEY TRUTH #3
You Must Trust the Spirit to Renew You Must Trust the Spirit to Renew 1) Holy Spirit Uses His Word 1) Holy Spirit Uses His Word Ephesians 6:17 ...and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of Ephesians 6:17 ...and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God: God: Applica on: You must put God’s Word in your heart. By doing Applica on: You must put God’s Word in your heart. By doing that you are pu ng the Spirit’s sword in His hand! that you are pu ng the Spirit’s sword in His hand! 2) Holy Spirit uses Our Dependent Obedience 2) Holy Spirit uses Our Dependent Obedience Proverbs 16:3 Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy Proverbs 16:3 Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established. thoughts shall be established. Applica on: You must depend upon the Spirit to enable you as Applica on: You must depend upon the Spirit to enable you as you obey the Lord. you obey the Lord.
D. The Applica on of His Teaching D. The Applica on of His Teaching
1. Truth over Deceit 1. Truth over Deceit Ephesians 4:25 Wherefore pu ng away lying, speak every man Ephesians 4:25 Wherefore pu ng away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another. truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another.
KEY TRUTH #4 KEY TRUTH #4
You Must Biblically Confess Your Sin. You Must Biblically Confess Your Sin. a. Addic on is Idolatry a. Addic on is Idolatry b. Addic on involves Sin b. Addic on involves Sin c. Sin Must Be Biblically Confessed c. Sin Must Be Biblically Confessed I John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us I John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
2. Grace over Anger 2. Grace over Anger Ephesians 4:26-27 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go Ephesians 4:26-27 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil. down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil.
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KEY TRUTH #5 KEY TRUTH #5
Grace Is Needed to Forgive. Grace Is Needed to Forgive. a. Grace Comes When We Trust a. Grace Comes When We Trust Romans 5:2 By whom also we have access by faith into this grace Romans 5:2 By whom also we have access by faith into this grace wherein we stand . . . wherein we stand . . . b. Trust God to Work All Things Together for Good b. Trust God to Work All Things Together for Good Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. purpose.
3. Give over Take 3. Give over Take Ephesians 4:28 Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him Ephesians 4:28 Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth. may have to give to him that needeth.
KEY TRUTH #6 KEY TRUTH #6
Overcoming is Important in Forgiveness Overcoming is Important in Forgiveness Romans 12:19-21 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but ra- Romans 12:19-21 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but ra- ther give place unto wrath: for it is wri en, Vengeance is mine; I ther give place unto wrath: for it is wri en, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed will repay, saith the Lord. Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil coals of fire on his head. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good. with good.
4. Edify over Tear Down 4. Edify over Tear Down Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt communica on proceed out of your Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt communica on proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. minister grace unto the hearers.
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5. Forgiveness over Bi erness 5. Forgiveness over Bi erness Ephesians 4:30-32 And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby Ephesians 4:30-32 And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemp on. Let all bi erness, and ye are sealed unto the day of redemp on. Let all bi erness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you. hath forgiven you.
KEY TRUTH #7 KEY TRUTH #7
You Must Forgive! You Must Forgive! Ma hew 18:32-35 Then his lord, a er that he had called him, said Ma hew 18:32-35 Then his lord, a er that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me: Shouldest not thou also have had because thou desiredst me: Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee? And compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee? And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, ll he his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, ll he should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses. one his brother their trespasses.
6. Love over Lust 6. Love over Lust Ephesians 5:2-3 And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and Ephesians 5:2-3 And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour. But fornica on, and all uncleanness, or sweetsmelling savour. But fornica on, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; saints;
E. The Context of His Teaching E. The Context of His Teaching
“walk . . . walk not . . . walk . . . walk . . . walk . . . stand” “walk . . . walk not . . . walk . . . walk . . . walk . . . stand”
1. Walk Worthy 1. Walk Worthy Ephesians 4:1 I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you Ephesians 4:1 I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the voca on wherewith ye are called. that ye walk worthy of the voca on wherewith ye are called.
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2. Walk in Love 2. Walk in Love Ephesians 5:2 “And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us . . .” Ephesians 5:2 “And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us . . .”
3. Walk in Light 3. Walk in Light Ephesians 5:8 “walk as children of light” Ephesians 5:8 “walk as children of light”
4. Walk Circumspectly 4. Walk Circumspectly Ephesians 5:15 “See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, Ephesians 5:15 “See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise,” but as wise,”
5. Stand Against 5. Stand Against Ephesians 6:11 “. . . stand against the wiles of the devil.” Ephesians 6:11 “. . . stand against the wiles of the devil.”
E. The Ba le over His Teaching E. The Ba le over His Teaching
Eph. 6:11 Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to Eph. 6:11 Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. stand against the wiles of the devil.
1. You Must Ba le in His Strength 1. You Must Ba le in His Strength Ephesians 6:10 “Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in Ephesians 6:10 “Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.” the power of his might.”
2. You Must Ba le with His Armor 2. You Must Ba le with His Armor Ephesians 6:13 “Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of Ephesians 6:13 “Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.” done all, to stand.”
3. You Must Ba le in Prayer 3. You Must Ba le in Prayer Ephesians 6:18 “Praying always with all prayer and supplica on in Ephesians 6:18 “Praying always with all prayer and supplica on in the Spirit . . . the Spirit . . .
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Know (Rom. 6:1-10) Know (Rom. 6:1-10) What is true from God’s Word? What is true from God’s Word? Reckon (Rom. 6:11-12) Reckon (Rom. 6:11-12) What is my plan to memorize & meditate on God’s Word? What is my plan to memorize & meditate on God’s Word? Yield (Rom. 6:13-20) Yield (Rom. 6:13-20) What is my plan to change my ac ons & a tudes? What is my plan to change my ac ons & a tudes?
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F ’ - 2690 Green Mountain Dr. (417)337-9882 F ’ - 2690 Green Mountain Dr. (417)337-9882 F - 1615 Missouri 76 (417) 334-6666 F - 1615 Missouri 76 (417) 334-6666 G - 1221 Branson Landing Blvd (417) 335-3701 G - 1221 Branson Landing Blvd (417) 335-3701 G P - 1026 W. Main (417) 332-1001 G P - 1026 W. Main (417) 332-1001 G C - 3551 Shepherd of the Hills Expy (417) 336-6297 G C - 3551 Shepherd of the Hills Expy (417) 336-6297 G ’ C - 9 Treasure Lake Rd. (417) 335-2300 G ’ C - 9 Treasure Lake Rd. (417) 335-2300 G A S C H - 2421 Missouri 76 (417) 335-6699 G A S C H - 2421 Missouri 76 (417) 335-6699 IHOP - 1055 W. Hwy 376 (417) 339-4467 IHOP - 1055 W. Hwy 376 (417) 339-4467 J J ’ - 482 Branson Landing (417) 334-6111 J J ’ - 482 Branson Landing (417) 334-6111 K C - 1 Opportunity Ave, Point Lookout (417) 239-1900 K C - 1 Opportunity Ave, Point Lookout (417) 239-1900 K - 813 Branson Landing (417) 334-9240 K - 813 Branson Landing (417) 334-9240 K K - 150 Tanger Blvd. (417) 339-2664 K K - 150 Tanger Blvd. (417) 339-2664 L - 1800 W State Highway J, Ozark, MO (417) 581-7655 L - 1800 W State Highway J, Ozark, MO (417) 581-7655 L S - 915 Branson Landing (417) 385-5014 L S - 915 Branson Landing (417) 385-5014 M F ’ - 3562 Shepherd of the Hills Expy (417) 336-4680 M F ’ - 3562 Shepherd of the Hills Expy (417) 336-4680 M M - 333 Branson Landing (417) 320-5082 M M - 333 Branson Landing (417) 320-5082 M M - 3225 Missouri 76 (417) 334-2766 M M - 3225 Missouri 76 (417) 334-2766 O G - 3790 Missouri 76 (417) 337-5811 O G - 3790 Missouri 76 (417) 337-5811 P J ’ - 2715 Missouri 76 (417) 337-7272 P J ’ - 2715 Missouri 76 (417) 337-7272 P - 3129 W. 76 Country Blvd. (417) 335-0690 P - 3129 W. 76 Country Blvd. (417) 335-0690 P D ’ - 545 Branson Landing (417) 320-5127 P D ’ - 545 Branson Landing (417) 320-5127 R C - 1855 Missouri 76 (417) 337-7427 R C - 1855 Missouri 76 (417) 337-7427 R M . C F - 403 Branson Landing (417) 337-7623 R M . C F - 403 Branson Landing (417) 337-7623 S S - 2212 W. State Hwy 76 (417) 334-7827 S S - 2212 W. State Hwy 76 (417) 334-7827 S - 125 Mall Rd, Hollister, MO (417) 332-0101 S - 125 Mall Rd, Hollister, MO (417) 332-0101 S - 2600 Missouri 76 (417) 337-9716 S - 2600 Missouri 76 (417) 337-9716 S B C C - 203 Branson Landing (417) 335-6786 S B C C - 203 Branson Landing (417) 335-6786 Q - 482 Branson Landing (417) 598-8059 Q - 482 Branson Landing (417) 598-8059
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What state do you live in? What state do you live in?
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Is this your first year a ending the Retreat? Yes No Is this your first year a ending the Retreat? Yes No
Lord willing, will you return next year? Yes No Lord willing, will you return next year? Yes No
What hotel did you stay in? What hotel did you stay in? Hilton Conven on Center Hilton Landing 1000 Hills Hilton Conven on Center Hilton Landing 1000 Hills Radisson Own Lodging Radisson Own Lodging
How were your accommoda ons? Poor Average Good How were your accommoda ons? Poor Average Good
How important are these: Not Important……….Very Important How important are these: Not Important……….Very Important Classroom Set-Up (Tables & Chairs) 1 2 3 4 5 Classroom Set-Up (Tables & Chairs) 1 2 3 4 5 Snacks 1 2 3 4 5 Snacks 1 2 3 4 5 Giveaways 1 2 3 4 5 Giveaways 1 2 3 4 5 Staying on site 1 2 3 4 5 Staying on site 1 2 3 4 5
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90 90 Answers Page Answers Page
Love is Blind - Pastor Steve Brudnak Double Vision - Pastor Mark Bradshaw Love is Blind - Pastor Steve Brudnak Double Vision - Pastor Mark Bradshaw I. Jesus I. Enter Into I. Jesus I. Enter Into II. A. Shame II. Evaluate II. A. Shame II. Evaluate II. D. Cycle III. Eliminate II. D. Cycle III. Eliminate III. Excuses IV. Enjoy III. Excuses IV. Enjoy
Bird’s Eye View - Pastor Donnie Ball 20/20 Vision - Pastor Paul Caldwell Bird’s Eye View - Pastor Donnie Ball 20/20 Vision - Pastor Paul Caldwell I. Assignment I. A. 1. Responsibility I. Assignment I. A. 1. Responsibility I. A. Control, Assignment I. A. 2. Provide I. A. Control, Assignment I. A. 2. Provide I. B. Capacity, Assignment I. A. 3. Security, Significance I. B. Capacity, Assignment I. A. 3. Security, Significance II. Applica on II. A. 2. a. Respect II. Applica on II. A. 2. a. Respect II. A. Good II. A. 2. b. Love II. A. Good II. A. 2. b. Love II. A. 1. Perspira on II. B. 1. a. Listen II. A. 1. Perspira on II. B. 1. a. Listen II. A. 2. Profit II. B. 2. d. Condense II. A. 2. Profit II. B. 2. d. Condense II. B. Bad II. C. 1. Small II. B. Bad II. C. 1. Small II. B. 1. Delinquency II. C. 3. Communicate II. B. 1. Delinquency II. C. 3. Communicate II. B. 2. Defeat Give in II. B. 2. Defeat Give in III. Accoun ng III. Accoun ng III. A. Faithfulness III. A. Faithfulness III. B. Failure III. B. Failure IV. A ermath IV. A ermath IV. A. Faithful Family Vision - Pastor Ma Mar nez IV. A. Faithful Family Vision - Pastor Ma Mar nez IV. A. 1. praised I. Philosophy IV. A. 1. praised I. Philosophy IV. A. 2. promoted I. A. 3. remove IV. A. 2. promoted I. A. 3. remove IV. B. Failed I. C. taught IV. B. Failed I. C. taught IV. B. 1. Pronouncement II. Plan IV. B. 1. Pronouncement II. Plan IV. B. 2. Possessions II. B. fail IV. B. 2. Possessions II. B. fail III. Posi ves III. Posi ves III. C. TIME III. C. TIME
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Hind Sight- Pastor Kevin Metsinger Hind Sight- Pastor Kevin Metsinger Marriage mentor Marriage mentor I. Men, Women I. Men, Women I. B. Grave I. B. Grave I. C. 1. Holiness I. C. 1. Holiness I. C. 5. women I. C. 5. women
Impaired Vision - Pastor Noel Cwenar Impaired Vision - Pastor Noel Cwenar I. Perspec ve I. Perspec ve I. A. Curse I. A. Curse I. B. sin I. B. sin I. F. cross I. F. cross grace to endure grace to endure II. Prac ces II. Prac ces III. Purposes III. Purposes
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Couples Inventory Couples Inventory
Couples Inventory Couples Inventory
Instruc ons Instruc ons • This inventory is for the following purposes: • This inventory is for the following purposes: Evalua ng where you are in your Spiritual Life Evalua ng where you are in your Spiritual Life Evalua ng where you are within your marriage Evalua ng where you are within your marriage Crea ng a helpful dialogue with your spouse Crea ng a helpful dialogue with your spouse Exposing areas of excuse Exposing areas of excuse Opening your eyes to steps of faith you must take Opening your eyes to steps of faith you must take Help develop a plan to make tangible changes of faith ac ons Help develop a plan to make tangible changes of faith ac ons • This is not for any of these purposes: • This is not for any of these purposes: Finding problems with my spouse Finding problems with my spouse Create a pile of guilt, but rather start you on a path to take care of one thing at a Create a pile of guilt, but rather start you on a path to take care of one thing at a me me Being a complete “fix-all” to marriage problem, but a tool to help you get Being a complete “fix-all” to marriage problem, but a tool to help you get started started To be used to cause a fight, but to create helpful conversa on about where your To be used to cause a fight, but to create helpful conversa on about where your marriage is marriage is • The framework of this inventory follows the core principles of Living United • The framework of this inventory follows the core principles of Living United -Commitment, Love, & Purpose -Commitment, Love, & Purpose • Each inventory should be filled out by each individual separately. Once it is completely • Each inventory should be filled out by each individual separately. Once it is completely filled out go over the results together. filled out go over the results together.
Living – Evalua ng my personal Spiritual Life (circle one or fill in the blank) Living – Evalua ng my personal Spiritual Life (circle one or fill in the blank) • I know I am born again believer – yes – no – I’m not sure • I know I am born again believer – yes – no – I’m not sure • Where am I at Spiritually • Where am I at Spiritually Personal me of Bible Reading - ______x’s per month Personal me of Bible Reading - ______x’s per month Personal prayer - ______x’s per month Personal prayer - ______x’s per month Family Devo ons – Together talking about spiritual things - ______x’s per Family Devo ons – Together talking about spiritual things - ______x’s per month month
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Church Services - ______x’s per month Church Services - ______x’s per month Taking steps of faith - ______x’s per month Taking steps of faith - ______x’s per month Spiritual Inventory Number: Add the above numbers ______(This does not Spiritual Inventory Number: Add the above numbers ______(This does not determine one’s spirituality but serves as a gauge of measurement.) determine one’s spirituality but serves as a gauge of measurement.) • What wrong/unbiblical thinking/beliefs about marriage have you brought into your • What wrong/unbiblical thinking/beliefs about marriage have you brought into your marriage? marriage? What model of being a husband/wife did you watch growing up? What model of being a husband/wife did you watch growing up? ______What Biblical command about marriage is easiest for you to follow? What Biblical command about marriage is easiest for you to follow? ______What Biblical command about marriage is hardest for you to follow? What Biblical command about marriage is hardest for you to follow? ______Are there any areas of Biblical teaching about marriage (i.e. something you’ve Are there any areas of Biblical teaching about marriage (i.e. something you’ve heard your pastor teach, or heard taught at a Living United Couples Retreat) that heard your pastor teach, or heard taught at a Living United Couples Retreat) that you disagree with? you disagree with? ______
United – Commitment United – Commitment • What is your commitment level to your marriage – ll death do us part – I’d leave if there • What is your commitment level to your marriage – ll death do us part – I’d leave if there was infidelity – If things get bad, I’m done – I’m considering leaving now – My marriage is was infidelity – If things get bad, I’m done – I’m considering leaving now – My marriage is almost over almost over • Does your spouse know your level of commitment? – yes – no • Does your spouse know your level of commitment? – yes – no • If you are totally commi ed to your marriage you must be willing to get help if you are • If you are totally commi ed to your marriage you must be willing to get help if you are having consistent deep troubles. Are you willing to seek help with your marriage? – yes having consistent deep troubles. Are you willing to seek help with your marriage? – yes – no – no
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• Do you believe you need outside help/counseling/coaching with your marriage? – yes – • Do you believe you need outside help/counseling/coaching with your marriage? – yes – no – maybe no – maybe
United – Love United – Love • Where is your marriage? – great – good – fair – poor – bad • Where is your marriage? – great – good – fair – poor – bad • Where am I at rela onally • Where am I at rela onally How o en do we fight? – o en – some mes – seldom – never How o en do we fight? – o en – some mes – seldom – never How o en do I “lose it” with family? – o en – some mes – seldom – never How o en do I “lose it” with family? – o en – some mes – seldom – never How o en do we have a great day? – o en – some mes – seldom – never How o en do we have a great day? – o en – some mes – seldom – never How o en do we have great conversa ons? – o en – some mes – seldom – How o en do we have great conversa ons? – o en – some mes – seldom – never never How o en do we have sex? – o en – some mes – seldom – never How o en do we have sex? – o en – some mes – seldom – never • What emo ons do I feel when my marriage is strong, fun, and right? • What emo ons do I feel when my marriage is strong, fun, and right? ______• What Emo ons do I have when my marriage is weak, figh ng, and wrong? • What Emo ons do I have when my marriage is weak, figh ng, and wrong? ______• What is the best and worst part about my sex life? • What is the best and worst part about my sex life? ______• What is my communica on sin? (circle all that apply) – yelling – clamming up – passive/ • What is my communica on sin? (circle all that apply) – yelling – clamming up – passive/ aggressive – aggressive – manipula on – accusing – jumping to conclusions – not aggressive – aggressive – manipula on – accusing – jumping to conclusions – not listening listening • Household sins • Household sins My manly/womanly du es around the house are taken care of – always – some- My manly/womanly du es around the house are taken care of – always – some- mes – seldom – never mes – seldom – never If I get on my spouse’s nerves in this area it would be because – I’m overly a neat If I get on my spouse’s nerves in this area it would be because – I’m overly a neat freak – I’m a total slob – I don’t get on their nerves because I have the right freak – I’m a total slob – I don’t get on their nerves because I have the right balance balance • What financial sins do we have? • What financial sins do we have? As a couples we – spend too much money – are too ght with our money – are As a couples we – spend too much money – are too ght with our money – are just right with our money just right with our money
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My spouse – spends too much money – is too ght with money – is just right My spouse – spends too much money – is too ght with money – is just right with our money with our money Our overall financial picture is – crippling debt – manageable debt – no debt, but Our overall financial picture is – crippling debt – manageable debt – no debt, but living paycheck to paycheck with no savings – no debt and also have savings (no living paycheck to paycheck with no savings – no debt and also have savings (no debt does not include your house) debt does not include your house) Do we have a wri en budget? – yes – no Do we have a wri en budget? – yes – no What is the biggest way we waste money? What is the biggest way we waste money? ______• What is the single biggest problem in your marriage? • What is the single biggest problem in your marriage? ______• What would your spouse say is the single biggest problem in your marriage? • What would your spouse say is the single biggest problem in your marriage? ______• Does your love look like God’s descrip on? I Cor. 13:4-8 inventory 1-10 scale • Does your love look like God’s descrip on? I Cor. 13:4-8 inventory 1-10 scale (Insert Your Name) suffereth [allows] long, (pa ent – doesn’t blow stack) (Insert Your Name) suffereth [allows] long, (pa ent – doesn’t blow stack) 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 (Insert Your Name) is kind (Insert Your Name) is kind 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 (Insert Your Name) envieth not (Insert Your Name) envieth not 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 (Insert Your Name) vaunteth not itself (brags about self) (Insert Your Name) vaunteth not itself (brags about self) 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 (Insert Your Name) is not puffed up (arrogant) (Insert Your Name) is not puffed up (arrogant) 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 (Insert Your Name) Doth not behave itself unseemly (rudely) (Insert Your Name) Doth not behave itself unseemly (rudely) 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 (Insert Your Name) seeketh not [their] own (looking out for self) (Insert Your Name) seeketh not [their] own (looking out for self) 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 (Insert Your Name) is not easily provoked (Insert Your Name) is not easily provoked 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10
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(Insert Your Name) thinketh no evil (keeps no accounts of evil) (Insert Your Name) thinketh no evil (keeps no accounts of evil) 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 (Insert Your Name) Rejoiceth not in iniquity (Insert Your Name) Rejoiceth not in iniquity 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 (Insert Your Name) rejoiceth in the truth (Insert Your Name) rejoiceth in the truth 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 (Insert Your Name) Beareth all things (Insert Your Name) Beareth all things 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 (Insert Your Name) believeth all things (Insert Your Name) believeth all things 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 (Insert Your Name) hopeth all things (Insert Your Name) hopeth all things 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 (Insert Your Name) endureth all things (Insert Your Name) endureth all things 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 (Insert Your Name) never faileth: (Insert Your Name) never faileth: 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 – 10
United – Purpose United – Purpose • If you have children, what are your goals for your children? • If you have children, what are your goals for your children? ______• Do you agree on how you discipline your children? – totally – mostly – some mes – • Do you agree on how you discipline your children? – totally – mostly – some mes – never never • What is your family Bible verse? ______• What is your family Bible verse? ______• What are your ministry goals for you as a couple and for your family? • What are your ministry goals for you as a couple and for your family? ______
Work & Changes – What could you do to work on your marriage? (tangible and measurable Work & Changes – What could you do to work on your marriage? (tangible and measurable changes) changes) • Go over each other’s inventory and discuss your answers. • Go over each other’s inventory and discuss your answers. • If you have got to this point and you have consistently fought, it is a sign you have communi- • If you have got to this point and you have consistently fought, it is a sign you have communi- ca on problems. Try to listen more than talk. When you talk make sure not to accuse your ca on problems. Try to listen more than talk. When you talk make sure not to accuse your 17 17 Couples Inventory Couples Inventory
spouse. Don’t use superla ves like, never, always, every, etc. Remember, keep your focus spouse. Don’t use superla ves like, never, always, every, etc. Remember, keep your focus on yourself and what you need to fix. on yourself and what you need to fix. • What does your “Spiritual Inventory Number” (see above) say about your spiritual life? • What does your “Spiritual Inventory Number” (see above) say about your spiritual life? How do you plan to change your schedule and rou ne to spend more me with How do you plan to change your schedule and rou ne to spend more me with God? God? ______• What’s the number one way you have hurt your spouse? Get that right, right now! • What’s the number one way you have hurt your spouse? Get that right, right now! • List the top two things you need to work on as an individual. (only two, no more and no less) • List the top two things you need to work on as an individual. (only two, no more and no less) 1. ______1. ______2. ______2. ______• What could you do to help your spouse make the changes they see they need to make? • What could you do to help your spouse make the changes they see they need to make? • Write out what your spouse thinks you need to work on. Remember this is not what you • Write out what your spouse thinks you need to work on. Remember this is not what you think you need to work on, but what you think they think you need to work on. Do they think you need to work on, but what you think they think you need to work on. Do they agree? agree? ______• List the top two specific things you need to work on as a couple. (only two, no more and no • List the top two specific things you need to work on as a couple. (only two, no more and no less) less) 1. ______1. ______2. ______2. ______• End with a long (15 seconds or more) kiss! • End with a long (15 seconds or more) kiss!
18 18 FRIDAY 2:00 - 3:30 PM LOVE IS BLIND 3:45 - 4:45 PM ELECTIVE SESSIONS 5:00 - 6:30 PM SEEING GOD’S WAY (PART 1) 6:30 PM DINNER BREAK / DISMISS FOR EVENING
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