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Girl Gab Date #1: True Friendship in God’s Eyes elcome to SKG! That stands for Secret Keeper Girl, and WI’m hoping you’ll want to be one if you aren’t already. If you did the 8 Great Dates on true beauty, cool fashion, and mod- esty, you know that a Secret Keeper Girl is a masterpiece cre- ated by God. That’s the core of what and who you are! But… just how does a masterpiece created by God live and interact with all of God’s other great masterpieces like your mom, dad, BFFs, and boyz? That’s what we’re going to discover during these eight great dates! Earlier I introduced an important qual- ity that’s in every SKG. Do you recall what that is? A Secret Keeper Girl pursues _______________. “Pursue love.” 1 Corinthians 14:1 NASB 155 Talking with Your Daughter About Best Friends and Mean Girls.indd 155 5/10/13 1:31 PM Talking with Your Daughter About 156 Best Friends and Mean Girls Love Meter Okay, let’s take girl talk to a new level. It’s called Girl Gab. So, are your friendships more like that game of sixes or more like that sweet SKG-Style Memory Pillow experience? Let’s fi nd out by taking this Love Meter test. Read the following scenarios and decide where they’d rank on the Love Meter. Your friend meets someone new at camp, you decide it’s not fair that she doesn’t spend all her time with you, and you give her the silent treatment the rest of the week. You see your friend out riding her bike with the new girl in the neighborhood. The next day on the bus, you ask her how you can encourage that girl too. It’s summer break and things in the neighborhood aren’t going so well. It seems that with three of you liv- ing on the same street, there’s always one too many. You decide you’re only going to hang with one friend at a time because you’re tired of the drama. Someone in class just said something terrible about your BFF. You quickly jump in to set the record straight. No one is going to say something bad about your friend! Talking with Your Daughter About Best Friends and Mean Girls.indd 156 5/10/13 1:31 PM Special Pullout: True Friendship in God’s Eyes 157 It’s Friday and you told one friend she could ride the bus home with you after school, but a better offer has come up. You decide to go with friend number two to the movies instead. Your friend just got a really bad haircut and she’s cry- ing her eyes out. You tell her truthfully that you really loved it longer but she’s always adorable in your book. You remind her that it’ll grow back. The girl two doors down just told you her scariest secret last night: She thinks her mom and dad are getting divorced. You can’t help yourself. You tell the girls at school during lunch break. You didn’t mean to do it, but you hurt the feelings of one of your classmates. You write her a note to apologize. Okay, now that you’ve taken a good look at some fi ctional sce- narios, let’s take it up a notch. Write one real-life scenario where you showed the kind of love that makes a friendship run on a full tank: . Talking with Your Daughter About Best Friends and Mean Girls.indd 157 5/10/13 1:31 PM Talking with Your Daughter About 158 Best Friends and Mean Girls Now, write one scenario where you have to confess that you drained the Love Meter big-time: . If you were to put a great big star on the place where the needle on your Love Meter generally points, where would it be? Mark that spot with a star. Now, write one idea that can help you be more consistent in operating on full: . Talking with Your Daughter About Best Friends and Mean Girls.indd 158 5/10/13 1:31 PM Girl Gab Date #2 Friendship with My Neighbor n our fi rst SKG date, that awesome SKG-Style Slumber OParty, you discovered that at the root of all relationships must be true love. So, this week we begin a quest to discover just what true love looks like. It’s not that feeling like butterfl ies in your tummy. No, it’s not that at all! God’s Word defi nes love, and it’s going to take us seven dates to really explore his full def- inition. Along the way, we’ll learn how to fi nd new friends, han- dle the emotions of getting left out, stop jealousy, control your tongue, and honor your parents—and even learn how to be friends with boyz. Best of all, we fi nd all that advice in just one chapter of the Bible: 1 Corinthians 13! 159 Talking with Your Daughter About Best Friends and Mean Girls.indd 159 5/10/13 1:31 PM Talking with Your Daughter About 160 Best Friends and Mean Girls Today, let’s just focus on the fi rst three verses. “If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profi ts me nothing.” 1 Corinthians 13:1-3 NASB According to 1 Corinthians 13:1-3 and our SKG audio teaching today, fi ll in this blank. Real love overfl ows with ____________________. It’s easy to be consumed with how love shows up in your family and in friendships. But if you have real love in your heart, you’ll also love your neighbors. According to our SKG audio teaching, who is your neighbor? ______________________________. If you are pursuing true love, you’ll fi nd yourself willing to go out and do extraordinary acts of kindness for people you don’t even know. You’ll be willing to get out from behind your Wii. You’ll get off of Facebook. You’ll forget the reruns of Hannah Montana that you’ve seen ten times, and you’ll go out and act on the love God’s put in your heart! Talking with Your Daughter About Best Friends and Mean Girls.indd 160 5/10/13 1:31 PM Special Pullout: Friendship with My Neighbor 161 How did you and your mom commit an act of kindness today? Pretend you’re preparing a newspaper article to report on it. Write your story below and begin with this sentence: “An act of kindness was committed today at…” . Where? . When? . Who? . What? . Talking with Your Daughter About Best Friends and Mean Girls.indd 161 5/10/13 1:31 PM Talking with Your Daughter About 162 Best Friends and Mean Girls Who did you meet along the way? Draw a picture of one to three people you met and then next to the pictures, write how you might pray for them with your mom. What special needs did you notice or did they tell you about? . Talking with Your Daughter About Best Friends and Mean Girls.indd 162 5/10/13 1:31 PM Special Pullout: Friendship with My Neighbor 163 Now, back to our key Bible verse. Not only does it mention that we need to do acts of kindness, but it says more. Look at it to fi ll in two more blanks. If we do anything without __________ we are _____________. Hmm? I don’t know about you, but I often do acts of kindness to get attention and to be applauded. It’s really hard to do them just out of love. That’s why today when you were out and about, I asked you to say, “I just want to show God’s love in a practi- cal way.” Shining the glory on God goes a long way in stretch- ing my heart to love. There’s another thing that helps—praying! You’ll end your date tonight by praying. What will you pray about? Go back to your drawings of three people that you met. Write one idea of how you can pray for that person next to each one. Now, remember to pray over the next few days for the people you met. One more thing! You can join me in the huge but ultimately completely rewarding goal of memorizing the entire chapter of 1 Corinthians 13. You can start now by learning verses 1-3! I’ll be doing it along with you. Doodle Box! Talking with Your Daughter About Best Friends and Mean Girls.indd 163 5/10/13 1:31 PM Talking with Your Daughter About 164 Best Friends and Mean Girls Talking with Your Daughter About Best Friends and Mean Girls.indd 164 5/10/13 1:31 PM Girl Gab Date #3 Friendship with Mean Girlz ello, my Secret Keeper Girlfriend! How are you doing with Hyour memorization? Me? I’m doing great. Hold on! Wait just one minute… There! I just recited 1 Corinthians 13:1-3 out loud.