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Their efforts keep the community run- ning, save lives, and enhance the observance of . But with their funds dwindling, two local organizations, Hatzalah of the Rockaways and the Five Towns, and the Five Towns Eruv Committee, have turned to the Internet to boost their profi le in the communities they serve. “Donations are down, but emergency calls are up,” said Rabbi Elozer Kanner, a coordi- nator for Hatzalah. “We don’t charge a fee for anything we do.” Hatzalah will offi cially launch its new website on April 25 to coincide with the com- munity-wide Hatzalah barbecue, the organi- zation’s most important annual fundraiser. Photo courtesy of Paul Kaye (left) and by Claudio Papapietro (right) Founded 29 years ago by 20 local resi- Left: Paul Kaye on board a ship to Palestine in 1947. Right: Paul Kaye by his apartment in Bayside, on dents, Hatzalah of the Rockaways and the April 20. Five Towns has grown to 100 volunteers and three bases of operation. “Based on the vol- ume of calls, we have one in Belle Harbor, three in Far Rockaway and two in Woodmere,” said Rabbi Kanner. “It has gotten very complicated,” he con- The HaTikva sailed on tinued. “Our members often go the extra mile, taking specialized calls.” For example, he said, a cancer patient, if otherwise stable, A hero of Aliyah Bet tells his story might be taken directly to Memorial Sloan- Kettering Cancer Center in Manhattan in- By Michael Orbach your people, be on the corner of 39th and stead of to a local hospital. Recruited by the Lexington Avenue on the southeast side.” The new Hatzalah website contains hal- The phone rang in the small apart- The voice named a time the next day. “A achic guidelines for various situations on Haganah and ment Paul Kaye shared with his sister in man with a black leather jacket will walk Shabbat, such as pregnancy, illness, and even the Bronx. It was 1947 and Kaye, 20, had by. If he puts a newspaper under his arm, death. “Our website has been many months imprisoned by the returned a few months earlier from fi ght- follow him; if he puts it in the wastebas- in the making,” said Rabbi Kanner. ing the Nazis in Europe. ket, then you’re being followed.” In all, the cost of running Hatzalah to- British, Paul Kaye “Hello, Paul Kaminetzky? We’d like to There line went dead. tals above $900,000, with $200,000 used to know if you want to help your people,” “I asked my sister — they all thought I pay for medical supplies, according to Rabbi continued to fi ght a voice said. Kaye looked around and was nuts,” Kaye recalled over half a cen- the voice continued. “If you want to help Continued on page 3 Continued on page 3

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Photo by Penny Frondelli Penny by Photo A little over a year later, Kaye left Kaye . later, a year A little over de- nished his fi NYU and to went Kaye Queens, with in Bayside, lives Kaye Today, said Rab- hero,” Jewish is a genuine “Paul speaks about his experi-Kaye publicly a man in 84, after 63 years he met At age afford to can only Ben Gurion said, we “As school at the nursery Israel ag for an Egyptian warship. an Egyptian York engineering study to He planned at New sat ight home, a man on his fl but University, with familiar him. The man was next to down that and he recommended go Kaye’s life Kaye that told was education. Kaye physical into begin his degreeonce he received he would In with team. theworking Israeli Olympic the course of his duties, the man said, Kaye some Nazi-hunting. do would it backgree the make but didn’t for Olym- from girl a nice Jewish pics. He met much Israel and about too who didn’t know Israel’s In the following years down. settled there frequently. independence, he traveled in the in Israeli Consulate He volunteered When City during the War. Six Day York New Kippur in 1973 attachedIsrael was on Yom in the defense Israel and worked to ew he fl ministry. and serveshis wife, on the of Temple board Hillel in North Woodmere. Hil- the rabbi of Temple M. Graber, bi Steven and if lel. “The had no fear man apparently do what he did, he compartmentalized it to do.” he had to in theences. His story told documentary was and in the book, of Freedom The ’ Waves Murray Greenfi by Fleet, Secret a black is still cautious leather Kaye jacket, about Israel and its future. he said. lose one war,” Photo courtesy of Hebrew Academy of Five Towns and Rockaway Towns Five of Academy Hebrew of courtesy Photo creative way to show their love for Israel during the school’s during the school’s Israel for their love show to way creative of a full collection For celebration. Day Independence Israel visit www.thejewishstar.com. photos community of the JCC of the Greater Five Towns in Lawrence during the in Lawrence Towns Five the Greater of the JCC of stu- Below: on Tuesday. celebration Day Independence Israel fi and Rockaway Towns Five of Academy at Hebrew dents Yom Ha’atzma’ut Celebrations in 5 Towns Celebrations Ha’atzma’ut Yom a fl waves (above) Dina Fogel edgling navy and became one of the and became edgling navy Kaye declined to discuss his activities as declined to Kaye “I said, ‘Put the fuse down!’” Kaye re- Kaye “I said, ‘Put the fuse down!’” they it off made time. Kaye in Fortunately, the read “We morning next that a Jew- from the escaped Atlit eventually Kaye Afterwards Is- join recruited was to Kaye “I can’t be a frogman, I can’t swim!” Kaye cer was awarded a medal for blowing up blowing a medal for awarded cer was as a kid from the Bronx.” rst members of the elite naval unit, Shayetet rst unit, Shayetet members of thenaval elite an Israeli Navy SEAL, but his commanding an Israeli Navy offi ish eventually decided to transfer the transfer prison- to decided ish eventually the and ers to in Palestine, Atlit prison camp to members crew plotted and his fellow Kaye up the prisonblow that ship them. brought But they hit a snag when the disembarking after al- the timer was delayed explosive was ready set. called. “He [the expert] explosive said, ‘They it.’” unset to how it, not set to me how told and as the one of the disembark was last to carrying the to passengers bus pulled away, the prison, the ship exploded. raise the to a contract ship,” got ish company so happy.” were “We laughed Kaye. withprison the working and began Palmach, one of the the precursers to modern Israel America He returned to with Force. Defense passporta fake and manned another ship called the that S. S. Director departed from On the he brought Director the East River. Kaye Palestine. from Marseilles to passengers on 5 Iyar when Israel declared on board was its independence and the sailors the changed name of the the boat to S.S. Galila. rael’s fl fi on an underwater demolition He worked 13. surprising a team, Kaye. role for his friend,told the of the commander “I unit. w rst rst eld, vetownseruv.org. For more infor- For vetownseruv.org. oated to the to on large boat oated The symbolic border is inspected every is inspected Thursday The symbolic border said Moskow- “They drive around theentire eruv,” “In the had 45 strings and six big storm, last we t of living in an said that theMoskowitz benefi Eruv Com- more information on the 5 Towns For makes it diffi cult to maintain,” said Moskowitz. “Tree “Tree said Moskowitz. maintain,” cult to it diffi makes trimming and storms do a tremendous amount of the to eruv.” damage from afternoon of 25 volunteers a team by serves where Moskowitz Towns, Gedolah of the Five director. as executive itz. “It’s task because the a daunting eruv is so vast.” After their trip, draft the students and volunteers re- c eruv sections. ports on the conditions of specifi said Moskowitz. It cost us $5,000,” down. fences “Therealso the are regular costs of strings, tree trim- ming, and inspection work.” eruv the community makes donations worth giv- be in a home to ing. “It’s for much more favorable the “It makes community said Moskowitz. an eruv,” val- imagine it raises housing more desirable, and I’d ues, too.” , visit www.fi mittee mation on Chevra Hatzalah of The Rockaways and mation on Chevra Hatzalah of The Rockaways visit www.hatzalahrl.org County, Nassau Kaye and theKaye rest of the ship’s passengers The trip successful, though. not was Miles Once in Lisbon, Tradewinds docked next Once in Lisbon, Tradewinds picked up its pas- the Tradewinds In Italy, “The that whole trip, fi the whole war, In the Azores, the British re- refused to rmative and the man, a complete stranger, stranger, rmative and the man, a complete and crew were interned in Cyprus. were The Brit-and crew out at sea, the ship was spotted by an air- by out at sea, the spotted ship was plane. By the next morning sur- theywere three As soon rounded by British destroyers. theas they saw warships approach, the sail- ors the changed name of the longer ship. No The ship it be called the Tradewinds. would as the captured was HaTikva. time I saw my people was the was people most impres- my time I saw recalled. “They Kaye part life.” sive of my they on haggard; had all they owned were their backs. came up, they They each hugged are going Eretz and kissed us and said, ‘We were They our home.’ going to Yisroel. We’re the hell out of Europe.” get very to happy to its more famous sister, a ferry from boat its more famous sister, to Baltimore called the Warfi President survivors of the 1,400 sengers, Holocaust. of dark- theHalf made it to ship under cover ness; the rest fl donated fuel — “shemen” in his words. fuel — “shemen” donated as the be known eventually which would Exodus. he and the says other Kaye rafts the next day. on thatsailors didn’t let they English, knew afraid thesince they survivors were would thinktrap. a it was fuel the ship. One day, after sev- spending fuel the ship. One day, “Oy loudly in port,eral weeks muttered Kaye him and asked heard captain A nearby vey!” in the replied . Kaye af- if he spoke fi said. ying nd your home.” nd your ance of Brit- ghting Hitler and ghting Hitler rst stop in Portu- rst stop ag. The journey to Palestine Palestine ag. The journey to

“Somebody carried the Kaye ship across,” The Tradewinds was a clunker with a clunker was a max- The Tradewinds “The British if they will hang you catch Kaye in Baltimore,” “The I was next day part was Kaye of the otherwise Aliyah Bet, The man knew about Kaye, who had been about Kaye, The man knew “Our eruv of backyards, and that is made of a lot Using Google Maps, the website delineates the delineates Using Google Maps, the website “When people can carry, families get together, together, “When families get people can carry, Designated by Jewish law in the law Gemarah as a “pri- Jewish by Designated “Over the last two years, there have been expan- there years, the have “Over last two With its new website, the Five Towns Eruv Com- Towns the Five With website, its new Not one to pass up an opportunity to get a mes- pass up an opportunity get one to to Not as prepared as community support only “We’re al- loud, colorful , theIn contrast to eruv Rabbi Kanner cautioned that Hatzalah’s success is

Continued from page 1 page from Continued on average, the ship’s maximum speed. on average, revealed that it had managed to sail 12 knots knots sail 12 that to revealed it had managed dropped anchor in the Azores, the captain of a hurricane As the but persevered. ship gal, the ship hit rough water at thegal, the tail end ship hit rough water hour. On the way to the to On the fi way hour. than most. miles an 15 roughly knots, imum speed of 12 may be a bit more dramatic and miraculous be a bit more dramatic may struggle independence. But Kaye’s story for 3,500 American veterans who joined Israel’s 3,500 American veterans a Panamanian fl a Panamanian ish restrictions. one of an estimated He was a battered former Coast Guard cutter fl former cutter Coast Guard a battered in defi Palestine to brought Jews ships from Cyprus Palestine. to the man warnedyou,” Kaye. thesaid. There he met ship the Tradewinds, weeks. several took as the that Ha’apala, theknown movement nah, told him they wanted him to run him to small him they wanted nah, told The man, who was a member of the a The man, who was Haga- plexed, Kaye asked the man what he wanted. the asked man what he wanted. Kaye plexed, a marine engineer in the U.S. Navy. Per- a marine Navy. engineer in the U.S. then Lounge. the Students Palestinian per under his arm and walked into what was what was into per under his arm and walked wearing a blackwearing leather a newspa- put jacket Lexington and 39thLexington and watched as a man the phone call Kaye stood on thethe stood corner phone call Kaye of I wanted to get a piece of it.” The day after The day of it.” a piece get to I wanted words, because “We were fi were because “We words, tury later. He enlisted in the army at 17, in his in the He enlisted army at 17, tury later. A hero of Aliyah Bet tells his story his tells Bet Aliyah of A hero Continued from page 1 page Continued from North Woodmere and Hewlett Bay Park. Bay and Hewlett North Woodmere map also indicates recent expansions of themap also indicates eruv into the of a particular last inspection eruv section. The take their shul.” take kids to indicates When clicked on, a pop-up window eruv. Moskowitz. “Strollers can be used, and parents can “Strollers Moskowitz. from one private domain to another. another. from one private to domain said a sense of community,” share meals, and feel observant carry may Jews certain on Shabbat, items ders.” enclosure, an eruvvate” an area in which comprises kowitz. “People were unfamiliar with bor- its new were “People kowitz. sions to the eruv,” said eruv coordinator Baruch said eruv coordinator Mos- thesions to eruv,” in the morning, our responders can fi the Shabbat fence. symbolic people clearly mark their mark home addresses, so that at 3 people clearly activities that granted. for often are taken of of its maintenance raise awareness hopes to mittee make theirmake address numbers visible. “It is critical that the Shabbat eruv many structure. impacts However view Nursing Home. Nursing view out, Rabbi local residents to Kannersage also urged said Rabbi Kanner. lows,” is a much less visible part of the infra- local Jewish co-coordinator Louis Wolcowitz directs the Ocean- Louis Wolcowitz co-coordinator nization. coordinator Mark Gross runs Mark a catering service,coordinator and the help thetied to willingness to community’s orga- fessional backgrounds. co- fessional Alongside Rabbi Kanner, Kanner. The volunteers come from a variety come of pro- The volunteers Kanner. Web 2.0 for Hatzalah, Eruv Hatzalah, for 2.0 Web 4 Against silence An evening with Elie Wiesel By Tamar Kairy As a Jew, the ongoing state of affairs in Elie Wiesel felt anger at G-d after the Ho- the Middle East affects Wiesel deeply, and he locaust but, contrary to a common misper- questioned why an individual such as Iranian ception of his memoir Night, he did not lose President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad, is invited his faith. “The next day I went on praying. I to the UN. “I plead for his arrest,” Wiesel de- didn’t stop,” The Nobel Laureate said in re- clared, calling him the “number one Holo- sponse to a question after his speech at Adel- caust denier in the world.” phi University last week. He said he imagines “Fanaticism,” Wiesel continued, “does not G-d looking down and asking, “What are you want dialogues.” Today’s “suicide killers,” doing with my creation?” as he referred to face of modern terrorism, Wiesel, an author and activist of Holo- include “young girls who don’t want to hear caust remembrance and human rights, spoke any other voice except their own.” THE JEWISH STAR THE JEWISH 5770 9 IYAR 2010 April 23, last Wednesday, April 14, in remarks timed Highly educated individuals whose educa- to the anniversary of his personal liberation tion was superior in every way, except that from Buchenwald. it was “lacking the moral dimension,” perpe- “I am not sure I found the words, but I trated the Holocaust, Wiesel suggested. With- tried,” he said, refl ecting on the contempo- out this sensitivity, unspeakable crimes could rary social and political panorama in light of be promoted throughout the most cultured his experiences 65 years ago. In eloquent, ac- society. Conversely, Wiesel commended the cented English, Wiesel engaged an audience US soldiers buried in military cemeteries in of all ages and backgrounds, including half- Europe — “17-18 year old kids [who] came a-dozen busloads of children. His Talmudic to liberate villages and small cities whose background and sense of humor were as evi- names they had never heard of.” Photos by Claudio Papapietro dent as the gravity of his message. Wiesel has asked six presidents why the Al- Elie Wiesel spoke to Quoting a statistic that the year 2009 has lies did not bomb the railways to Auschwitz, a crowd of about a seen the most anti-Semitic incidents since he said. Had they done so, he believes, his thousand at Adelphi World War Two; Wiesel asserted that the op- family and community in Hungary could University on timism of “never again” has not yet been real- have been spared. Hungary was not invaded ized. The world appears not to have learned until 1944, near the end of the war. 600,000 Wednesday, April 14, the lessons of the Holocaust, evidenced by Jews were deported to the camps within two 2010. The Holocaust the horrors of Darfur, Cambodia, and Rwan- months; almost none survived. survivor and Nobel da. “When things happen anywhere, we must Wiesel’s concluding message to the sold- Laureate is best known respond everywhere,” he said. Like an infec- out audience: “Whatever you do in life...al- for his memoir ‘Night.’ tious disease, the targeting of one group af- ways think higher and feel deeper. Elevate Also pictured is the fects all of society and, “Silence never helps every action that you undertake...and hope the victim, it only helps the victimizer.” will become a possibility.” university’s president, Dr. Robert A. Scott, left.

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Congregation Ohav Shalom in Merrick non-profi t organizations from Baruch College April 23, 2010 9 IYAR 5770 will welcome a new rabbi in July. Rabbi Ira in New York. During his time in Ebbin will succeed Rabbi Jeremiah Wohl- he was president of the Vaad HaKashrus of berg, who has led the shul since 1963, a year Fairfi eld County. He is also a member of the after its founding. executive board of the Rabbinical Council of Rabbi Ebbin arrives in Merrick via Mon- America. treal, Quebec, where, for the past three When asked what excited him most about years, he has been the senior rabbi at Beth this new position, Rabbi Ebbin exclaimed, “I Zion Congregation. He was the rav of the love shul! I am thrilled that I can continue Young Israel of Stamford, CT, for fi ve years what I love to do in the comforts of Long Is- before that. land. The greatest thing about being a rabbi “It’s exciting to go back to the comforts is that I get to be a part of people’s lives on a of what we know,” said Rabbi Ebbin, who regular basis.” grew up in Brooklyn. He and his wife, Chevi, Rabbi Ebbin is also eager to become a part a physical therapist, have a number of close of Congregation Ohav Shalom’s weekly He- relatives in the Five Towns, Bayswater and brew School. Brooklyn. They are the parents of three girls, “I am looking forward to connecting with Shlomit, 10, Shira, 7 and Anat, 4. these kids. Unfortunately, due to the poor “At Stamford we were one congregation economy families are taking their kids out of with about 100 members. Both the younger day school, but fortunately they are sending members and the senior members felt a sense them to our , which gives me of family. I noticed that at Ohav right away. Photo courtesy of Rabbi Ira Ebbin a chance to connect with them.” It’s a larger synagogue, about 250 members, Rabbi Ira and Chevi Ebbin, are moving to Merrick from Quebec with children Congregation Ohav Shalom was founded but they still keep the core sense of com- Shlomit, now 10, Shira, now 7 and Anat, now 4. in 1962. It has been at its current location on munity ... where everyone watches out and We just celebrated the holiday of Passover, erate New York winters, and the Ebbin family Merrick Avenue since 1968. takes care of each other.” he said, “where we learn about the stranger is clearly excited about the upcoming move. Ohav Shalom already features a full sched- The shul in Quebec where Rabbi Ebbin and those who don’t fi t in, and we remember “Chevi went out [to Long Island] a few ule of classes and activities and Rabbi Ebbin currently serves is considerably larger — over the Exodus from Egypt and that the Jewish weeks ago, for the day, and she found a hopes to bring with him the sense of energy 600 members, with the numbers of congre- people were in a foreign land. Although we house that she liked, and we bought it,” Rab- he experienced in Montreal, by bringing in gants swelling to in excess of 1300 Quebecers weren’t slaves [of course] we felt as though bi Ebbin said. “I haven’t seen it yet.” classes to reach people of all levels. for the Yomim Nora’im (High Holy Days). we were strangers in the land and I can defi - He’s not concerned however, noting, “she “It is my plan to continue to cultivate the Although Rabbi Ebbin and his family have nitely appreciate that more now,” Rabbi Ebb- did this in Montreal too, by the way, and she open and warm feeling at Ohav Shalom, that been happily living in Montreal for three in explained. did a very good job.” enables everyone who walks into our build- years, he admits they still feel like foreign- Add in the relief of no longer having to Rabbi Ebbin received semicha from Yeshi- ing to feel welcome regardless of their back- ers. learn French, and anticipation of more mod- va University’s Rabbi Isaac Elchanan Theo- ground or level of observance,” he said.

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Continued from page 6 were 13, they told the Rebbe about sexual abuse and the fam- munity will be safe for their children.” ily got kicked out of Skver,” Holczler said. Marci Hamilton, the author of “Justice Denied: What The Vaad was a cautious step in the right direction, but

America must to to Protect its Children,” compared the Vaad’s he has questions. “What’s going on with the cases they know April 23, 2010 9 IYAR 5770 action to the Catholic Church. with offenders walking free?” asked Holczler. “There are peo- “That’s just a conscious choice not to learn from the Cath- ple who are walking free that have offended and abused both olic Church’s problem,” explained Hamilton. “What we know sexes and they’re still free.” now is that in the Catholic Church and other religous orga- Holczler said that at a meeting he had with the Vaad last nizations, when they choose to handle these issues internally week, its members were receptive to the idea of working and do not bring in prosecutors and the state agencies that with the authorities. “I would like them to assist me and any are trained to deal with these issues, these predators get the victims from Skver prosecute their offenders,” said Holczler. better of them. No one should think they can handle this on “For them to know that sexual abuse is not only a sickness but their own. It’s both hubris and dangerous.” a crime. A crime that has affected hundreds of kids. For them The Vaad has already dealt with one high-profi le case that to remove someone from offi ce, for them to fi re a melamed (a reached the upper echelons of New Square society: Heshy teacher), is not suffi cient.” Brier. Brier, in his 50’s, served in an unoffi cial capacity direct- Another sexual abuse victim from New Square spoke to ly under the Skverer Rebbe. He is believed to have sexually The Jewish Star but asked not to be identifi ed. abused hundreds of children over the years. Isaac Brewer of “There’s a joke and it’s a very sad joke,” said the victim. the Vaad would not comment on any specifi c cases for fear of “There was a guy trying to get a hitch on 45 going into Williams- undermining the Vaad, but reportedly Brier has been stripped burg [from New Square] and he stood there with his hand out. of his power and is in treatment. When someone drove by, he said ‘I want to go to America.’” Kal Holczler, the president of Voices of Dignity, a sexual The therapist who treated Brier praised the Vaad’s action. abuse survivors organization, claims that he was sexually He also asked to not be named in print. abused several times by Brier, even at times in the home of “It’s a great example of the community in New Square the Skverer Rebbe. Holczler’s entanglement with Brier is even shifting in a very positive direction,” the therapist said, “This more complicated given that, late last year, his sister married guy was very very connected from all facets of the commu- Brier’s son. At the time, Holczler sat down with his abuser. nity. He helped build the medical center; he was involved in “He didn’t want to go anywhere in public,” said Holczler. getting government benefi ts. This guy was very connected “We went to the Skverer Rebbe’s house in Nyack. We went politically. Unfortunately, he used his power and position to next to the water and I told him how he had affected me and harm kids, which is the most devastating part. To me, the how there are other kids and I wanted to hear what that was community responded to the allegations by not saying ‘How like for him.” are we ever going to bring this guy down?’ — but, ‘How can Brier declined to speak about the allegations. we protect the community in a way, and get the victims help, “I’m not going to comment on this,” he told The Jewish and how can we get this man help?’” Star on Wednesday afternoon. “If you want to, go talk to the “It’s an extraordinarily painful case, but at the end it has Vaad.” gone well,” the therapist continued. “Not in terms of the pain, Holczler also contends that sexual abuse is far more wide- it doesn’t keep it away, but it shifted the dynamics from de- spread in New Square than the Vaad maintains. nial and blaming victims to getting everybody help.” “I’ve sat with kids who are now in their 30’s. When they The Hardest Book of the Torah is Now Easier 367959 Ask for it at your local Jewish bookstore, or go to www.OUPress.org

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Aside from the popularity and fame of Je- From a historical point of view ancient ers in Shomron, as well as in Yehudah, have presence among us of those political federal rusalem, no other biblical geographic name Shiloh was the location of the holy Mishkan, upheld for many years at great personal and representatives who, by their silence and April 23, 2010 9 IYAR 5770 resonates more in the United States in terms the Tabernacle, for over 369 years before it physical sacrifi ce. exceptionally low profi le of geographic use than the name Shiloh. Ac- was destroyed and ultimately replaced by the Much of this of advocacy, give aid and cording to David Rubin, author of the book Temple in Jerusalem. It was the spiritual and sacrifi ce is de- great comfort to our ad- under review this week, “G-d, Israel, & Shi- political center of the Jewish people during tailed in graph- versaries. loh: Returning to the Land” [Mazo Publishers, the rule of the judges ending with Shmuel ic terms in this If those who claim to 2008], there are at least 65 cities, towns or HaNavi, the prophet Samuel, who served in book. I will represent us in Wash- villages in the United States called Shiloh. In the Shiloh Mishkan, and received the word leave it to the ington would study the addition, Rubin states that there are numer- of G-d there. reader to glean events the book details, ous places of worship, prayer books, schools, Given its location, Shiloh had the unfortu- from its elo- and further research the an old Neil Diamond song, two movies, and nate mazal of being at the center of numerous quent and heart- issues that relate to both a Civil War battle site confl icts, both military and political. That put felt contents the Shiloh, and the safety of that carry the name it at a disadvantage in terms of longevity as a events and tra- the yishuv in Israel, they Shiloh. viable settlement for Jews through the ages, vail faced by the would more actively While one should at least until recently. This book by David Ru- author and by oppose those in the ad- not be surprised at the bin serves as a corrective by highlighting the members of both ministration who seek use of biblical names historical importance, the geographic need his immediate and to diminish the State of for geographic loca- and the political correctness of maintaining extended family Israel, both physically tions in the United Shiloh, and the entire Shomron and Jordan in their struggle to and politically. States, the preponder- Valley, within the borders of the State of Isra- keep Shomron and The sovereignty ant use of Shiloh seems el. Detailed herein is the modern day saga of Shiloh Jewish. of Shiloh as part of to have most histori- brave and valiant people who have brought Hopefully, these the State of Israel ans baffl ed. Americans Shiloh back into our people’s history. sacrifi ces will not is something that Alan Jay Gerber from the very begin- With Yom Ha’atzmaut commemorations have been in vain, should not and must ning of the republic just passed, it behooves us to give both rec- and by your reading not be questioned took to heart the name ognition and determined support to those these pages your or compromised by Shiloh, thus making areas of our holy land deemed expendable personal dedica- those in Washing- Shiloh as American as apple pie. Why, we do by lesser minds among us — who have yet tion to Israel will be ton. The battle for not know — but this is the reality that fur- to fi nd even an acre of land beyond the so- aroused once more the continued sover- ther endears the town of Shiloh to me and to called green line upon which they would and activated to help eignty of the so-called West Bank begins in many others. confer Jewish political sovereignty. preserve our sacred presence in the land long Shiloh, in the north, and in Chevron, in the This anomaly conveniently leads in to the The current atmosphere in Washington ago promised to us by the Almighty. south. We must not allow ourselves to forget subject of the integrity of Israel’s sovereign- seeks to question and further limit Jewish I cannot emphasis enough the dire nature this for even one moment, and we must insist ty. Shiloh, the original one, is located in the sovereignty anywhere in Eretz Yisrael. There- of the political situation that confronts Israel that this be clearly understood by all those heart of Israel, at the center of the Shomron, fore, I bring to your attention both this book from the current regime in Washington. This political personalities who seek our favor and or Samaria in English parlance. and the sacred cause that its author and oth- circumstance is further complicated by the esteem. 369191 12 Opinion Independence Day in exile There is no era since the destruction of It’s knowing that we are still very much full inch away they have to exercise “re- than what we have today, and I can’t ad- the Beis Hamikdash in which I would rather in exile. straint” and call for help. Or run. It’s okay equately express how grateful I am not to live than this one. While I defi nitely miss We cannot pray in our holiest place, and to run. have experienced anything worse. In a gen- the true leadership and gadlus (greatness) are prevented from doing so by fellow Jews, I can go on, but you get the point. Tisha eration less than a century removed from of former times that is absent — yes, absent lest riot and the world condemn us for B’av still resonates with me very well but I’m the Holocaust I can’t blame anyone for cele- — in this generation, I don’t pine for the causing the trouble. having a hard time getting the hang of cel- brating Yom Ha’atzma’ut with joy. We really shtetl, and I don’t think I would have been We cannot build homes without negoti- ebrating independence. It requires shutting do have a lot to be grateful for. able to adapt to liv- ating with other countries. Those who reno- out far too much. But if one is truly sensitive to what re- ing through pogroms, vate their porch without the approval of the When the second Bais Hamikdash was demption is supposed to look like, what in- IN MY VIEW

THE JEWISH STAR THE JEWISH 5770 9 IYAR 2010 April 23, famines, plagues, and anti-Semitic president of a foreign country dedicated there was quite a celebration. But dependence is supposed to look like, and extreme persecution, are liable to have it bulldozed by special not everyone celebrated. And the reason what true Jewish life is supposed to look which characterized forces. Jewish ones. why they didn’t celebrate wasn’t because like, it feels almost as guilty to celebrate this most of the last 2000- We drag Jews out of their homes and de- they were ungrateful, anti-Zionist, or other- day too much as it would to not care for it plus years of our his- stroy thousands of lives just so we can prove wise askew. They simply couldn’t celebrate, at all. tory. Nope, I defi nitely to the anti-Semites that we are willing to do because they knew. I look forward to the true Yom wouldn’t trade places. anything to be liked by them. Conversely, we The people who didn’t celebrate were Ha’atzmau’ut: when we can thank Hashem That said, I have are not willing to fl ex much at all so that we the old Jews who remembered the fi rst Bais wherever we want, where we can build a very diffi cult time can get along better with our fellow Jews. Hamikdash. That exile, after all, was only wherever we want, where we can travel getting emotionally Churches and mosques receive greater 70 years, so there were plenty of people who without fear anywhere in our land, and wrapped up in Yom protection here than shuls. If those other lived to see both Batei Mikdash. As glamor- where our enemies know that if they raise Ha’atzma’ut. I abhor religions are offended it’s bad news for us. ous as the second structure was, it paled in a hand to throw a rock at us they will never the Israeli government, If our religion is offended, well, we can take comparison to what remained lost — only get a chance to throw it. but I am extremely it. most people didn’t feel it even if they knew Now that calls for a barbecue. Chananya Weissman grateful to live in Is- Our soldiers are neutered and sent on it. What was to others a cause for great cel- rael, and equally abhor needlessly perilous missions to minimize ca- ebration - after all, it was far better than be- the fact that suppos- sualties to the enemy. After all, the world ing slaves in Bavel — was to the elders a Rabbi Chananya Weissman lives in edly religious Jews can view living here as doesn’t like when our enemies suffer casual- cheap substitute, and cause for tears. This Jerusalem and is the founder of www. anything other than an incredible miracle ties, so better for our people to take the hit wasn’t redemption...not real redemption. endthemadness.org, a volunteer effort to and blessing. I see no dichotomy between and spare ourselves the condemnation. And as grateful as they surely were to have rehabilitate the culture of the shidduch world celebrating the existence and achievements Soldiers and citizens who defend them- lived to see a major upgrade over the recent and www.hotkiddush.com, a free networking of this country while yearning for more au- selves from attacks are liable to be harshly past, they couldn’t shake the knowledge that site geared for the Orthodox community. He thentic Jewish leadership. So it isn’t anti-Zi- prosecuted. The knife has to be just half an the exile was still very real. blogs at daasyachid.blogspot.com and can be onism or ingratitude that makes it hard for inch from their throat before they use force, That is why I cannot really get into Yom contacted at [email protected]. me to ‘get into’ Yom Ha’atzma’ut. and even then only minimal force. If it’s a Ha’atzma’ut. I never saw anything better 369449 13 Opinion THE JEWISH STAR

applies equally to , whom the Torah nowhere exempts from this rule. As such, The next step in preventing sexual abuse because of their inherent confl icts of interest

in this issue, I respectfully suggest that rab- April 23, 2010 9 IYAR 5770 By Ben Hirsch our rabbis been publicizing this? expense of our community’s children. bis be precluded from being involved in this Last week, the Flatbush Shomrim issued As reported in a New York Times article, Relying on members of the Moetzes Ged- issue except in very limited ways — namely, an alert to sex offenders that they would “Orthodox Jews Rely More on Sex Abuse olei Hatorah and Torah Umesorah’s Vaad encouraging people publicly and in private to be arrested and prosecuted. The alert also Prosecution” on October 13, 2009, Rabbi Roshei Yeshiva, Chasidic rebbes, and com- go directly to the authorities and support- instructed people to report sex crimes di- David Zwiebel, executive vice president of munity leaders such as Rabbi Joshua (Shia) ing them practically, emotionally and socially rectly to police. Judging from positive blog Agudath Israel of America said, “The district Fishman of Torah Umesorah (who, among in that process. I continue to hope for a day posts and a fl ood of appreciative calls to the attorney should be careful not to be seen as other things, assisted Lipa Margulies of Ye- when our rabbinic leadership will publicly Shomrim hotline (to which I was in some making a power grab from rabbinic author- shiva Torah Temimah as he intimidated vic- praise those who have the courage to report cases privy) this message is welcome in our ity.” His statement followed the joint state- tims of Yehuda Kolko from 1984 until 2006) abusers to the police and join in our efforts to community. Indeed, recent arrests and con- ment of the Moetzes Gedolai HaTorah of and Rabbi David Niederman of United Jewish make our community safer for children. victions of those who preyed sexually on Agudah and the Vaad Roshei Yeshiva of To- Organizations of Williamsburg (UJO) (who In the meantime it’s up to us to lead by ex- young people seem to be a clear indication rah Umesorah (the National Society for He- continues to actively protect pedophiles such ample. In the past few years more and more that, despite long-held communal norms and brew Day Schools) in which they expressed as Avrohom Reichman, still teaching in a Sat- of us have been doing just that. We’ve creat- pressures, people are gaining courage to do their “vigorous” opposition to the Markey mar boys’ school despite years of complaints) ed organizations whose mission is to support the right thing and report abusers to the au- Bill, legislation that would extend the stat- has netted our community the likes of Av- victims and their families who are dealing thorities. The endorsement of this behavior ute of limitations for fi ling criminal charges rohom Mondrowitz (Chicago, Brooklyn and with cases of sexual abuse. These grassroots by a trusted communal organization whose and civil claims in cases of childhood sexual Jerusalem), Yehuda Kolko (Brooklyn, Sul- organizations provide referrals to mental mission often puts it on the front lines of this abuse and open a limited one-year window livan County, NY and Lakewood), Stephen health professionals, referrals to law enforce- issue will, I believe, only reinforce this posi- for currently time barred civil claims. In the Colmer (Brooklyn, Passaic and Kiryat Sefer, ment as well as support and assistance as the tive trend. However, I am still left to won- statement, they explained their decision as Israel) Michael Sabo (Brooklyn), Yona Wein- case proceeds, support groups for survivors der: where are the voices of our rabbinic based on fear of “crippling fi nancial liability” berg (Brooklyn), and Israel Weingarten (New and their families, offer clinicians and ad- leadership? While the Flatbush Shomrim that could result from lawsuits that would York, , and Israel) vocates training to better deal with this is- alert seems to be endorsed by unnamed local jeopardize “the very existence” of to name just a few. sue and promote legislation that protect our rabbi(s), to date, not a single charedi rabbi and communal institutions. Clearly they be- More importantly, the cover-ups have re- children. These efforts are changing the way has publicly supported this position. Why? lieve we have a serious problem. sulted in hundreds of victims whose abuse we as a community view and deal with this Established Jewish Law places a pedo- From statements like these, one does not could have been prevented. Dealing with re- sensitive issue and in the words of Rabbi Sha- phile in the category of rodef (a pursuer), in have to be a cynic to conclude that the rab- ports of sexual abuse internally covers-up the lom Yosef Elyashiv, in this there is a benefi t part due to a recidivism rate well in excess binic establishment has a vested interest in crime, usually with catastrophic results when to society. of 50%, and clearly dictates an obligation to keeping reports of abuse within the commu- the pedophile strikes again — something we protect our community by reporting pedo- nity. For leaders who could be facing crimi- are hearing about daily in reports about the Ben Hirsch is the president of Survivors philes to police. In his 2004 ruling on this is- nal and civil liability, invoking concepts like Catholic Church and, frighteningly in our for Justice ( www.sfjny.org ), an organization sue, Rabbi Shalom Yosef Elyashiv states that mesira and chilul Hashem to stop people own community as well. that advocates on behalf of survivors of sexual one should report those who sexually abuse from reporting is little more than a form of The Torah teaches us to avoid offering abuse and their families in the Orthodox com- children to the police. He went on to say that self-protection. Self-protection that, as the counsel in situations where we may be a munity. doing so is of benefi t to society. Why haven’t past 40 years have shown, has come at the Nogea B’Dovor (an interested party). This 369448 14 Ask Aviva Introducing a weekly advice column by Aviva Rizel All questions are real. Identifying details have been

THE JEWISH STAR THE JEWISH 5770 9 IYAR 2010 April 23, changed to preserve anonymity. Dear Aviva, ceed their rights, in which case, the heads of My daughter is a very good girl. She is a the family (namely, you and your husband) sophomore in high school and gets very good must investigate and agree on a fair conse- grades without working too hard. She has quence. great friends and is happy, overall. She gets When the family is out of alignment, a along well with my two sons, but is jealous of child will often nominate him or herself to my slimmer daughter. snap the hierarchy back into place, even at if My problem is her shopping. I think she it means damaging him or herself. In extreme is addicted. She and her friends spend most cases, this is easily done through drug use or of their time in the mall, and she often shells an eating disorder. The parents are forced to out $200-$400 dollars a trip. I have told her work together as a team, as they should. that she has to learn to budget herself bet- Your case does not seem as extreme, but it ter, and that if she doesn’t change, I will be is something that defi nitely needs attention. forced to tell my husband what is going on. Why are you scared to tell your husband? That helped for a few weeks. Now she’s start- Are you trying to do him a favor by not up- ed to frequent Central setting him, or are you trying to protect your Avenue more and more. daughter from him? Or worse, are you afraid Often, she will come of him? home with “gifts” for If your intentions are to save him from me that are overpriced distress, I think you can simply approach him and not even my taste. and tell him what is currently going on with Yesterday, I caught her the shopping. Then, the two of you should with stuffed bags from agree on a fair punishment. Tommie and Co and Be conscious to avoid this situation in the Banana Republic. It’s future. If something comes up and your knee- starting again in full jerk reaction is to hide it from your husband, swing. the fi rst thing that you should do is have a Should I tell her that talk with him and divulge. It will be diffi cult Aviva Rizel she can’t hang out with at fi rst, but will soon become more natural. her shopping friends? This may resolve your daughter’s shop- Or do you think that ping problem. If you and your husband are this issue stems from her inferiority com- acting as equal co-parents and your daughter plex since her sister is two sizes smaller than is still spending, examine the messages that her? you are giving her. It is confusing if a parent tells her daugh- -Mother Against Shopping Addiction ter to stop shopping, but then forks over a wad of cash Sunday morning, or covers the Dear Mother Against Shopping Addiction, credit card bill. Instead, you should establish Whoa. I have some big questions for you a realistic budget that you stick to. You can before we even think about shopping. let her have extra money for her birthday, or Why are you trying to be a single parent for special events. If possible, she should also when you are not? look for ways to earn her own money. You, so innocently, stated that, “if she Now, if you have been colluding with your doesn’t change her behavior, I will be forced daughter in order to protect her from your to tell my husband what is going on.” Let me husband, you should still try the above sug- ask you this: if you were a young teen who gestions. If you feel that your husband over- had two parents who kept secrets from each reacts and is very harsh, speak to him about other, and you were in a powerful position it as a co-parent. If he is not improving, a par- to actually force them to communicate hon- enting book such as, “The Kazdin Method to estly, even at your own expense, what would Parenting the Defi ant Child” by Alan Kazdin you do? might be helpful to both of you. If that doesn’t Unless you improve your relationship work, family therapy may be in order. with your husband, your daughter’s shop- If you are fearful of his harsh reaction for ping will likely get worse. And if her problem your own sake, that is a different story al- resolves itself, you’ll likely see some other together and I do not advise you to follow issue emerge among one of your kids that the above methods. I don’t know your exact forces you and your spouse to rally around situation, but I advise you to start seeing a that child. competent therapist whom you “click” with Why are you hiding this problem from to examine if this is healthy or bordering on your husband? Forget your daughter’s shop- pathological. ping issue for now. She and your other kids Good luck! will benefi t much more from a realignment of your family’s structure. Aviva You and your husband are supposed to be equals at the top of your family’s hierarchy. Your kids are on a lower level than you. They Aviva Rizel has received her Master’s in have rights, of course, but everything must marriage and family therapy from Hofstra go through the king and queen for approval. University and sees couples, families and 368788 What is expected of them should be clear and individuals. She can be reached at avivarizel. consistent. Sometimes, your children will ex- [email protected].

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oreign affairs between allies is not only Obama administration to admit it, France is an Israeli/Palestinian peace is in the national about friendship based on shared inter- a more effective lead on many issues than interest of the United States, they believe F ests and concerns, it is also about mutu- is the United States especially on the ques- that it is an issue of the highest order for US al gain. Often, one side will provide the other tion of Iran’s nuclear technology. It is France national security. incentives so that, in the end, both sides ben- that can corral Europe, parts of Asia, Russia After the French leak, the point was made efi t. The term for this diplomatic dynamic is and even Africa to join the anti Iranian nuke publicly by Secretary of State Hillary Clinton. “to incentivise foreign relations.” bandwagon — not the United States. In a speech before the Abraham Foundation, France is one of the Under Sarkozy diplomatic relations be- Clinton made it clear that she expects more greatest players in the tween France and Israel have gone from cold of Israel than of the Palestinians. She ex- THE JEWISH STAR THE JEWISH 5770 9 IYAR 2010 April 23, I’M THINKING game of foreign affairs. and impenetrable to warm and workable. plained that Israel has an obligation to make Two of France’s best Unlike his predecessors, Sarkozy has been a things work and to prop up the PLO which diplomatic friends are major supporter of Israel and it was Sarkozy she called “a credible partner for peace.” That the United States and who was the fi rst and strongest critic of Iran was certainly an interesting choice of terms Israel. Each relation- when Ahmadinejad threatened to wipe the on the part of the secretary of state and, per- ship stands on its own. Jewish state off the map. haps, a window into her state of mind. Sar- There is France and the Sarkozy has been a strong and vocal pro- kozy, in the meanwhile, has not commented United States and there ponent of a two-state solution and has said on this Obama plan — but sometimes, as we is France and Israel, publicly that Europe has an obligation to fos- all know, actions speak louder than words there is no triumvirate. ter the security of Israel, an obligation that and getting the story out is an example of The relationships work. was born after World War II. It was a mem- Sarkozy’s diplomatic prowess. France has access. ber of the Sarkozy administration who un- US administration offi cials and pundits More importantly, veiled the strategy about to be implemented are saying that American soldiers are being Nikolas Sarkozy France has access and by the Obama administration that will pres- put in harm’s way in Afghanistan and in Iraq Micah D. Halpern infl uence on worlds sure Israel to come to peace terms with the because of the confl ict between Israel and the comes-from-the-heart-and-soul bias. The ar- that have been closed Palestinians. Palestinians. They are even saying and writ- gument is simply rhetoric. It is not that they to both Israel and the According to the French source, the ob- ing that Iran would be easier to handle “if play the game of foreign affairs poorly, it is United States. jective of the White House is to break the the Israelis would just come to peace.” This that for them, this is not about foreign af- The Obama administration is aggressively Israelis and bring them back to the bargain- is simply absurd. fairs. pursing the French. Nikolas Sarkozy, Presi- ing, i.e., negotiating table. Yes, Obama will Iran, Afghanistan and those who spew dent of France, is in regular contact with pressure the Palestinians as well, but his stat- rhetoric about Israel and the Palestinians will Micah D. Halpern is a columnist and a so- US President Barack Obama and a welcome ed objective is to have the sides come to an not change their minds even if a peace deal cial and political commentator. Read his latest guest in Washington. The two men agree on agreement and it is Israel who will make this should miraculously appear tomorrow. Theirs book THUGS. He maintains The Micah Report many global issues and, although it pains the happen. Obama and his advisors believe that is not a diplomatic bias, it is an ingrained, at www.micahhalpern.com. Grocery Coupon Madness Now On

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Her mother He sought counsel and advice from Rabbi had worked for my fa- Stavsky, who informed him that that which 2005 Porsche Cayenne 4-Dr Turbo Tiptronic Black/Black, Auto, 63k miles. $42,900 SPECIAL $41,900 ther and I and my sib- you build with your own hands and your own lings worked for her sweat and tears, would mean infi nitely more ALL PORSCHE APPROVED PRE-OWNED CAYENNES father during the sum- to you later on in life. And so my brother mers when we were off chose to begin his own congregation, now in from school. its second building expansion project in the 185 W. Sunrise Hwy David Seidemann We hadn’t seen each last few years. Freeport, NY other in years and the The late revered rosh yeshiva of Ner Israel conversation immedi- in Baltimore, Harav Yitzchok Halevi Ruder- 877-443-3829 ately took us back 35-45 years, to life in Co- man zt”l, once told Rabbi Stavsky that he, lumbus, Ohio. We were a very small group of Rabbi Stavsky was in the export and import southshoreporsche.com Tax & MV fees add’l. DMV Fac #7082126. kids unifi ed by the fact that our parents had business. Rav Ruderman was so impressed 361246 somehow managed to raise Orthodox Jewish with the number of Columbus Torah Academy children in a spiritual desert. Between the 10 eighth-grade graduates that Rabbi Stavsky or 15 families that were completely Shomer somehow convinced to leave Columbus and Shabbos there might have been 50 kids in go off to yeshiva in Chicago, Baltimore, Cleve- total that would be considered Orthodox by land and Miami. He exported them out of Co- today’s standards. lumbus and imported them back for the holi- We reminisced about our Hebrew day days and summers to share their Torah with a school, our shul, and the beautiful Shab- community that needed it so badly. bosim and holidays that we spent together, My brother reminded me the other night and we played catch up, naming all of the of a gathering many years ago during the children from those 10 or 15 families. We re- intermediate days of Succos. Rabbi Stavsky counted experiences that we shared together invited all of the yeshiva boys that had re- over the years. And it seemed that no mat- turned home to Columbus for the holiday. ter what we spoke about or whom we spoke This was not a spectacle in front of the en- about, one name that found its way into every tire congregation, but just the 10 or 15 boys story was one of the local Orthodox rabbis in with Rabbi Stavsky in his living room. Each Columbus back then, Rabbi David Stavsky of yeshiva boy delivered a thought on the holi- blessed memory. day or on a piece of Talmud he had learned. Yes, our parents toiled to sustain an Or- One boy told over a Sha’agas Aryeh; another thodox Jewish presence in Columbus Ohio a piece from the S’fas Emes; this boy quoted but they were all following the lead of Rabbi from Rav Zeven; and this boy from the teach- Stavsky. We spoke about the school - Rabbi ings of Rav Gifter. Stavsky. We spoke about the Jewish home for When the last young man fi nished speak- the aged, and the struggle to maintain Ortho- ing, Rabbi Stavsky stood up and without any dox standards for those that were a captive notes tied together the remarks of each boy audience there, and we mentioned Rabbi Da- in attendance, somehow connecting them all vid Stavsky. We spoke about the Jewish Com- and making them fi t into the message that he munity Center and how it wanted to open on wanted to deliver that evening. It was Torah Saturdays, and once again we spoke about brilliance without any fanfare, without any Rabbi Stavsky, and how he led the charge to adults to impress. It was simple learning for keep the pool closed on Shabbos. the sake of learning and the smile and the We spoke about the kosher certifi cation sense of accomplishment that could be seen agency in Columbus, and we once again on Rabbi Stavsky’s face was priceless. invoked the memory of Rabbi Stavsky. The It was great seeing my childhood friend same was true for the mikveh and the kol- the other night, great reminiscing about our 369444 lel that eventually graced the city and the youth and great connecting all of what we fact that whenever the newspapers needed experienced as kids to our parents and to the the Jewish spin on a matter of public con- rabbi who led them through the desert in cern; they spoke to Rabbi David Stavsky. pursuit of an oasis. It was great recalling that He brought Shlomo Carlebach to Columbus that which one builds with one’s own hands, and Rabbi Meir Kahane. Rabbi Stavsky revo- sweat and tears, will remain forever. lutionized Jewish outreach, orchestrating weekends that Jewish kids would spend to- David Seidemann is a partner with the gether observing the Sabbath. He called it a law fi rm of Seidemann & Mermelstein. He Shabbaton, and his model was the prototype can be reached at (718) 692-1013 and at for Shabbatons throughout the country. ds@lawoffi cesm.com 18 April 23, 2010 9 IYAR 5770 THE JEWISH STAR MiriamL.Wallach Micah D. Halpern AlanJay Gerber Chananyah David Adam Rabbi Jesse Osher Jay Tova Weissman Seidemann Neustadter Yakov Morrow Ross Horowitz

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Sabbath only onthe exceptions, temple the willbeused few minor with that pressly agrees, board requires, andownership ex- zoning the tant to rememberthat Aviva introducedmeto avery My daughter-in-law hadjustgiven I mustsay, justcap- your article AvivaMy meeting with was won- about readingyourAfter article To Editor, the So, ourmessage owners to is the moreimpor-Indeed, itismuch Igetair —that many com- Attorney forMs.Christine Attorney Charles Kovit Caryn Baraff Caryn Moushoutas c jams c ce, ce, 19 Parashat Acharei Mot-Kedoshim THE JEWISH STAR The Torah and animal rights — in context Media pundits and missionaries are fa- any animal that is killed outside of the sacri- form of serving G-d. mous for taking quotations out of context fi cial realm is a murder victim. According to Torah sources, humans and April 23, 2010 9 IYAR 5770 in order to promote their messages. Before Maybe the animal rights activists are not animals were never to be viewed as equals. judging any statement you read or hear, it is converting so quickly, but it still seems to As such, animal advocacy that calls the kill- important to know in what context it was ex- suggest that animals cannot be killed in any ing of chickens for human consumption “a pressed. Was the writer being sarcastic, rhe- other space, or for any other reason. holocaust,” is an insult to all of humanity, torical or straightforward? Was the speaker This is why a quote must be understood particularly those who experienced a Holo- quoting someone else, or was he being dra- in its context, and the context of the Torah caust themselves. matic or provocative to make a point? is one in which humans and animals are not Humans are in the right when they de- Vayikra 17:3-4 has equal, and the killing of an animal is not mand that animals be treated ethically and a statement that would equal to that of killing a human being. fed properly and placed in quarters appropri- make animal rights To be sure, as we know, the Torah ab- ate for their needs as living creatures, even if activists become born- solutely advocates the ethical treatment of they are being raised to be sold as meat. But again Bible-thumping animals when they are alive — tzaar baalei they are not in the right when they physically religious folks. “If any chayim (causing pain to animals) is prohib- attack human beings or destroy property in member of the fam- ited. But we believe animals were put on this order to advance their cause. ily of Israel slaughters earth for, among other things, our use. The Torah leaves no room for useless kill- an ox, sheep or goat, The Sefer HaChinukh puts it this way: ing of animals. This is why the hunters in the whether in the camp or “G-d only allowed humans to use animal Torah, Esav and Nimrod, are frowned upon, outside the camp, and fl esh/meat for atonement or for human while shepherds who lovingly cared for their does not bring it to the needs such as food, health, or other uses that sheep and cattle (though they surely used Communion Tent to be advance the human condition. But to mur- some of them for their needs, or sold them Rabbi Avi Billet offered as a sacrifi ce der them for no reason is wanton destruction to be consumed by humans) are the fathers to G-d before His sanc- and is considered murder.” of our people. Think Avraham, Yitzchak, Yaa- tuary, that person is He continues, “And even though it is not kov and his sons, Moshe, David, etc. considered a murderer. comparable to the murder of a human [a One who reads this verse out of context That person has committed an act of mur- human is a more advanced creation], it is might advocate that humans are murderers der, and he shall be cut off [spiritually] from nonetheless considered senseless spilling of for killing animals in any context. But a To- among his people.” blood, a.k.a. murder, because the Torah does rah and a halakhic system that requires the There is no question that the Torah ad- not permit taking the lives of animals for no use of animal skins for Torahs, tefi llin and vocates animals being brought as korbanot purpose.” mezuzot, which also declares that a celebra- (sacrifi cial offerings) and that such behavior In the context of sacrifi cial offerings, an tory meal is one which includes meat, is cer- is warranted in the context of a religious cul- animal slaughtered outside of the Temple is a tainly not saying that killing animals, even way. When they are killed to be used, the ac- ture centered on the Temple as described in wasted sacrifi ce because it cannot be brought not for sacrifi ces, is prohibited. tion is meant to be swift to avoid any suffer- the Torah. as a korban. If offered to G-d in the wrong We should not be wasteful and we are not ing. But animals are here for our purposes, But the implication of this verse is that place, it is viewed as idolatry or an improper allowed to be cruel to living animals in any and they are not our equals.

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That’s life Edited by Miriam L. Wallach

April 23, 2010 9 IYAR 5770

Dear That’s Life, Community message boards are funny. joke) attempt at getting her license. Could They may not actually intend to be funny, someone help her so she could pass this time? and I’d have to imagine they were not cre- The benefi t of the doubt would be to say she ated simply for my enjoyment, but they are needed to get her license so she could get to often a riot. school or drive her grandmother to doctor’s On some boards, the poster is required appointments. But all I could think was: No! to list his or her name along with the mes- She should not be on the road. The seventh sage while on others only an email address time was not a charm and maybe someone, is necessary. I would venture to guess that i.e. the DMV, was trying to send her a mes- the benefi t of requiring a name to be associ- sage. We have enough crazy drivers on the ated with a posting is that one must therefore road and we don’t need anymore. Use mass 361719 take ownership of whatever is being offered, transit. asked for, requested, etc. If you post some- There was a summertime posting by a thing potentially humorous or otherwise person who had had guests and had way too embarrassing, everyone will know it is you. much egg salad left over. Did anyone want TH Without a name, however, and with only an some? It was being left outside on the back NOW BROADCASTING IN OUR 28 YEAR! email address, people can post whatever they porch - feel free to pick it up. Yikes, I thought. want, more or less anonymously. And while Egg salad that had been sitting out and had TALKLINE WITH ZEV BRENNER some may feel that this shield allows for a not been refrigerated for hours. Yummy. 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