Feminist Philosophy Quarterly Volume 6 | Issue 2 Article 4 2020 Stoicism (as Emotional Compression) Is Emotional Labor Olúfẹ́mi O. Táíwò Georgetown University
[email protected] Recommended Citation Táíwò, Olúfẹ́mi O. “Stoicism (as Emotional Compression) Is Emotional Labor.” Feminist Philosophy Quarterly 6 (2). Article 4. Táíwò – Stoicism (as Emotional Compression) Is Emotional Labor Stoicism (as Emotional Compression) Is Emotional Labor1 Olúfẹmí O. Táíwò Abstract The criticism of “traditional,” “toxic,” or “patriarchal” masculinity in both academic and popular venues recognizes that there is some sense in which the character traits and tendencies that are associated with masculinity are structurally connected to oppressive, gendered social practices and patriarchal social structures. One important theme of criticism centers on the gender distribution of emotional labor, generally speaking, but this criticism is also particularly meaningful in the context of heterosexual romantic relationships. I begin with the premise that there is a gendered and asymmetrical distribution in how much emotional labor is performed, but I also consider that there might be meaningful and informative distinctions in what kind of emotional labor is characteristically performed by different genders. Specifically, I argue that the social norms around stoicism and restricted emotional expression are masculine-coded forms of emotional labor, and that they are potentially prosocial. Responding to structural and interpersonal asymmetries of emotional labor could well involve supplementing or better cultivating this aspect of male socialization rather than discarding it. Keywords: Stoicism, emotional labor, work, masculinity, feminism Socrates: We would be right, then, to remove the lamentations of famous men. We would leave them to women (provided they are not excellent women) and cowardly men.