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Shemar MOORE On Life, Love and Lies
LATONIA’S WEDDED BLISS
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NEWSBREAK 8
LOVE THROUGH THE FIREWORKS 10
HAIR APPARENT 14
DROP DEAD GORGEOUS MAN/SHEMAR MOORE 16
LENNY WILLIAMS 18
THE KISSING GAME 22
POWER PRO/MARVIN FRINK 24
LOVING DIFFERENT 25
THE MONTAGE MAN/ILKAN ALI 26
SINGLE WOMAN 28
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6 OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 7 newsbreaknewsbreaknewsbreaknew
POLICEBRUTALITY Text by Carolyn Moore
ho would ever think the most de¬sired been successful by winning court cases against police when citizens city to live in, would encounter injustice in have been falsely charged, harassed and brutally beaten.” the protection of our public safety. According A case that went to federal appellant court, is an estate case called, to a recent statisti¬cal report, Colorful Colorado The Estate of Gregory Herring vs. The Colorado Springs Police Springs is the best place to raise a family and re- Depart¬ment. This case had to be appealed due to the Trujillo law. Wtire. Should Colorado Springs, Colorado be the This law inhibited Gregory Herring’s children from suing the po- most desired place to live for minorities? Several citizens of Colo- lice. The city settled Herrings estate last August, of 2006 for as little rado Springs would disagree as $19,000. Herring’s 3 children did not receive any compensation. An organization called, “People For Justice” has been formed due Under testimony, an officer admit¬ted to using deadly force in a to the unjust treatment of their public safety. The organization was tactic that killed Herring. Police attempted to apprehend a totally created because of people that have encountered police brutality, naked man. This was a clear case of police brutality. One family police harassment, poor treatment, and poor medical care while in- member stated, “My brother was beaten to death while and he was carcerated. Helen Depp, President of the organization , People for outnumbered by 3 officers. He would be alive today, had they not Justice says, “Our organization is here to advocate for those that are rushed to judgment. They thought Greg was just a big black man afraid to stand up for their rights. We are here to help our communi- on drugs.” Coroner’s report stated Herring had no drugs or alcohol ty get fair treat¬ment when they encounter tough situations with the in his body. Medical reports revealed that Herring was having an justice system and public safety. We have a total of 9 members and emotional breakdown. have collabo¬rated with organization, The New Black Panthers, of People for Justice would like the justice system and the citizens Denver. This organization is in the process of training our members of Colorado Springs to know, “We are here to insure people will for a program called, Cop Watch. Cop Watch surveillances all police be treated properly and we will stand by them. PFJ is prepared to calls. When the cop watch team appears on the scene of calls, they picket and rally to assist that like Obama says, it’s time for a change video tape the encounters of physical confrontations. Cop Watch has to take place.” 8 OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 newsbreaknewnewsbreaknewsbreaknewsbreaknew
Rich Man Poor Man Norman Slade is an African American Artist of Fayetteville, North US Air Force. While in the Air Force, Norman became a pilot and Carolina. Originally Norman grew up in the projects of Cleveland flew jets. After 24 years of service in the Air Force, Norman retired. Ohio. As a young boy, he grew up always collecting things that the Today, as a single man who has never been married, he can lavish average person would not view as beautiful. Today,he is a collector his lady with the finer things in life. Norman hopes to one day find of fine arts such as, Thomas Blackshear and he is an expert in framing an educated woman that he can travel with. In speaking with Nor- and matting. There is an art to framing and matting, and the word on man, he desires to travel less today, but later with lady of his life. the street is, “Norm is the man. “ Norman can take the imagination Eccentric Art of the mind and create a beautiful image in print. The gallery of his 1088 Pleasant Oak Dr. home will take you on a creative artistic journey. Fayetteville, North Carolina 28314 As a child, Norman has always been fascinated in the art industry. (910) 867-1843 He was awarded an art scholarship but instead chose to go into the Email: [email protected]
Fantasia’s Overdose—Aspirin and Sleep Aid Fantasia Barrino’s overdose last night was caused by a combination Maxine Waters accused of 3 ethics violations of aspirin and a sleep aid ... this according to the “American Idol” champ’s manager. The rep just released a statement saying Fantasia ingested the medication after feeling “overwhelmed by the lawsuit and the media attention” surrounding her rela- tionship with her on-again, off- The rep also explains again boyfriend Antwaun Cook that Fantasia ‘believed’ ... who happens to be married. The statement continues, “Last Antwaun Cook when A House report gives more details of its allegations against night, Fantasia was hospitalized. he told her ‘he was not the Los Angeles Democrat. Her chief of staff and grandson is She took an overdose of aspirin happy in his marriage accused of being ‘actively involved’ in helping a bank with and a sleep aid. Her injuries are ties to her husband. not life threatening. She was de- [to Paula Cook] and his As Rep. Maxine Waters was warned against interceding on hydrated and exhausted at the heart was not in it.’ behalf of a bank with ties to her husband, her chief of staff, time. Fantasia is stable now. She who is also her grandson, was “actively involved” in work- will be released from the hospital soon.” ing to help the institution, according to a House Ethics Com- The rep also explains that Fantasia “believed” Antwaun Cook mittee report released Monday that accuses the longtime Los when he told her “he was not happy in his marriage [to Paula Cook] Angeles political figure of three ethics violations. and his heart was not in it.” Waters was accused of violating three rules — one that re- Here’s the statement in its entirety: quires its members to “behave at all times in a manner that Fantasia has always been an open book. Honesty, self-respect, and shall reflect creditably on the House,” a second that prohibits personal responsibility are values she wears proudly. lawmakers from using their influence for personal benefit Fantasia believed Mr. Cook when he told her he was not happy in and a third forbidding the dispensing of favors. his marriage and his heart was not in it. She believed him when he — By Richard Simon, Los Angeles Times told her he and Mrs. Cook.
REST IN PEACE The Atlanta Hawks and Memphis Grizzlies NBA Basketball player, Lorenzen Wright was killed in July, 2010. His family and friends truly miss and loved him. Lorenzen was my sister, Anita Wright’s nephew. In remembrance, Lorenzen’s giving and caring heart will be cherished and missed. The holiday times full of love we shared with he and his family at his home in Atlanta, will never be forgotten.
My family sends the Wright Family warm wishes of comfort and prayer. May Lorenzen Rest-In-Peace.
Love,
Carolyn Herring-Moore
OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 9 love through the fireworks Words by Carolyn Herring-Moore Photos courtesy of Dubose Bridal Images
10 OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 he colors red, white and blue not only represent the day of Independence, but it also represents the day that God gave me a love confirmation. On that day, in Chester SC, I was introduced to the man of my dreams, a man that had a glow of love through the fireworks. That was the day my family introduced me to, UJ. He was tall, handsome and brought joy to my life with his smile. T After the 4th of July meeting, UJ and I spent countless and endless days and n i g h t s together. UJ traveled from Chester, SC to Atlanta and I traveled from Atlanta to Chester, SC. We spent time together at resteraunts, clubs, and long walks and talks about our lives. UJ and I share a love like none other. My love for UJ was a cohesive love that was devoted to a relationship with God. There were many nights I prayed and thanked God for UJ. UJ was like no other man I’d ever met. He shared the same dreams and aspirations of Marriage, a house with a white picket fence and children. UJ and I planned to have a lifetime of love. Our lifetime plans of unity was shattered when I found out I was pregnant. I thought, “How could this happen to me? Why me? I asked God, why would you allow your child, Latonia to fall and fail a lifetime plan? Here was, young, and an educated social worker. My caseload was of preg- nancy cases, and I have now become the same case. Did I fail God? Was the love truly in the fireworks, or was this go- ing to be another bad relationship of self doubt?” Latonia came to the realization that God is a forgiving God and He won’t put more on His children than they can bare. UJ & Lato- nia prayed together for a solution to the pregnancy. Latonia spent many nights praying and crying. Here she is pregnant, 28 years old and soon to be a mother. Latonia understood the pain a child suffers when there is not two parents in the home.
OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 11 When Latonia shared her personal story of parenting with UJ, they made their future plans of marriage, a reality. They made the decision to get married quick fast and in a hurry. On February 27, 2009, UJ and La- tonia went to the Justice of Peace and got married. Latonia and UJ had a beautiful baby boy, Elijah. The two of them shared the ups and downs of living a life together as newlyweds and being new parents. Through the trials and tribulations of the newness, the two shared and everlasting and inseperable love. They continued to plan for a their traditional church wedding. The glorious wedding day of August 21, 2010 will be witnessed by a lifetime of friends and family. Although this is a ceremony of vowel renewal, they have chosen to let the whole world know that their love worked through the fire. The 4th of July was not only a celebration of Independence, it was a day of Love through the fire that has eternal life of His good works.
12 OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 13 hairapparent Photos by Shannon Bayliss
14 OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 15 16 OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 OASIS/MONTAGE TAKES A CLOSER LOOK AT DROP DEAD GORGEOUS MAN Shemar Moore
Text by By Carolyn Herring-Moore - Photo by Michael Angelo Chester
omen love a man that is loving, kindhearted, countries including Bahrain, England, and Greece & Africa. On a giving, caring, and that looks as good as he baseball scholarship, Shemar later attended Santa Clara University. and smells. Oh did I mention looks good and Shemar began modeling as a survival and when a shoulder injury gorgeous too. Most women call him drop dead ended his baseball career, Shemar decided to move to New York gorgeous, and some just say he is so fine. I in- City, where he enjoyed the success of print and runway fashion Wterviewed a couple of women and this is what modeling. Shemar was spotted by an agent who recommended him they had to say about Shemar, Carla, a customer at a beauty shop for role of ‘Malcolm Winters’ on the soap opera, The Young and the in Colorado Springs said, “Ooh honey, I love the calendar photos Restless. Shemar played the character, Malcom for several seasons. of Shemar. That man has got a body I would love to just ….. In- As a result of his role as Malcom, Shemar won 6 NAACP Image ger Guinn of Louisville Kentucky says, “That brother is so fine, he Awards. One of his featured films, an all time woman favorite, was blows my mind. Shemar in my opinion is captivating, attractive, the movie, The Brothers. If Shemar was in it, most women wanted to humble, kind¬hearted and very honorable. see it. Currently, Shemar portrays Special Agent Derek Morgan in Shemar went from modeling in GQ Magazine to the center-fold of the CBS drama, Criminal Minds. calendars. Shemar is not only the most desired actor in Hollywood Is Shemar single? In the past he has dated several celebrities. but he is also the heart throb of most women. In my interview with After being featured in Toni Braxton’s video, “How Many Ways,” Shemar, he was found to be very honest, sincere and grateful for He was romantically involved with Toni Braxton. He later dated the fans love.. Shemar has a very interesting background, he was Academy Award winner Halle Berry. Shemar didn’t find the wife born in Oakland, California on April 20, 1970. He spent the first two of his dreams then, and today he is still single. Shemar Moore is a years of his life in Denmark where he became fluent in Danish. After fine hunk of a man to many, but to others, Shemar is a drop dead his parents divorced, Shemar traveled with his mother, to various gorgeous man.
OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 17 ct Memorab he perfe le Me T lody for you r we dding Lenny Williams
rom the gown to the glitz, everything must be nothing less than perfect for the day you’ve always dreamed of…your Wedding Day. Journey with us as we explore the ori- gin of the greatest love song of all “Cause I love you” and catch up with the artist that Fcaptured the hearts of millions with his striking smile and soulful lyrics, Lenny Williams. Oasis: Lenny, of all the timeless music you’ve produced in your career, what would you consider to be the most renowned song of all? Lenny: I would say the biggest song would be “Cause I Love You”. It’s been around for years, and many people like it. Many artist like it including Kanye West, Scar- face, and Twista.
18 OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 19 Oasis: When listening to the lyrics of “Cause I love You” one can’t Oasis: You’ve always produced exceptional music Lenny. Do you help but wonder if there was something going on in your romance have any upcoming tours for those who can’t enough of your Oh life that inspired such a heartfelt song. Was there? oh oh’s? Lenny: Yes, I had a friend, a young guy I wrote songs with. He Lenny: This week I’ll be in TN., Al., GA., MS., and then I’ll be go- said that he had to be inspired to write so I tried to convince him to ing to New York. I’m just keeping myself busy. write everyday whether or not he had an inspiration. It’s like go- Oasis: Speaking of busy, I know you starred in the stage produc- tion “The Gift of Giving”, written and produced by Carolyn Moore. What can we expect from you on the I WOULD SAY THE BIGGEST SONG stage in the future? Lenny: Well I just finished a play with Billy D. Williams and Shirley WOULD BE “CAUSE I LOVE YOU.” Murdock titled “Three Ways to Get a Husband”. It will be playing on BET. Hopefully Carolyn will have IT’S BEEN AROUND FOR YEARS, AND a production I can get into pretty soon. (Laughter) Oasis: With all that you have go- ing on, how can fans keep up with MANY PEOPLE LIKE IT. MANY ARTIST your tour dates and everything else you’re doing? Lenny: My website is www.lenny- LIKE IT INCLUDING KANYE WEST, williams.com. I have a new CD out called “Unfinished Business” and people can go to the website to listen SCARFACE, AND TWISTA. to it. The album can be purchased on the Lenny Williams website or my —LENNY WILLIAMS face book page. They can even pur- chase the iTunes. ing to work you know. One day he came by my house and wanted to write and I really didn’t feel like it, and he asked why? I told him that my girl and I just had a fight. He couldn’t believe what I Well ladies there you have it. Just as handsome as he was when he said, and reminded me of what I always told him. So, we got on first made us loose our breath singing the heart stirring melody the piano and started writing about it, and that’s how that song “Cause I Love You”, Lenny Williams is still making amazing music came to be. that will awaken your emotions and flutter your heart.
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ow can I have the kissing disease when I have totally avoid any contact sports for at least two months. It is ex- never been kissed romantically – EVER? This tremely easy to rupture the spleen during this period. The spleen is had to be a mistake, misdiagnosis or a mere “sort of” like a large gland that helps filter the blood. As with many misunderstanding- OR there are variant ways other health issues, there are symptoms: pain under the left part of of contracting this virus. Being that I have nev- your chest, feeling lightheaded, having trouble breathing, bleeding er been kissed, I needed to dispel the “kissing easier than usual and heart beating faster/harder for no apparent disease” myth. reason. This virus can camouflage itself as insect bites, stings, and HThe official name for the “kissing disease” is mononucleosis. It other viruses including the common cold or flu. has been dubbed many different names – “mono”, Pfeiffer’s dis- Once a person is infected with Epstein-Barr virus or cytomegala ease, and glandular fever. Mono, virus, in which approximately 85% as we will refer to it, is an infection of the U.S. population has been in- that can be caused by two different fected, the virus will remain dor- viruses: Epstein-Burr virus (EBV) I HAVE BEEN mant in the body for life. The per- and cytomegalovirus (CMV). Both son may never become ill, but the are the members of the herpes fam- virus is still there. ily. Does this mean I have Herpes? GET THIS! Even though the in- Not exactly! Not the herpes you’re DIAGNOSED WITH THE fected person has never been ill, thinking of. One of the most com- he can cough or sneeze and infect mon viruses in humans is the Hu- someone else. How Bizarre? man herpes virus 4 (HHV-4). This One of the main transporters of virus is responsible for cold sores “KISSING DISEASE”… these viruses are saliva between in- and chickenpox. dividuals. Drinking from the same Let’s start from the beginning. In glass or straw, eating from the same 1961, M. A. Epstein, Y.M. Barr and utensils and of course… KISSING! G.G. Achong was researching an AND I HAVE NEVER This is how mononucleosis (mono) unknown virus that was possibly earned the myth of the “kissing dis- causing cancer in African children. ease”. The discovered the virus infects Are there any cures or vaccines only two major cell types: the outer BEEN KISSED! available for “mono”? Cure – NO! cells (epithelial) of the salivary gland Vaccines–There are no vaccines to and white blood cells (B-cells). The this date, but one is currently being infection initially develops in the developed in an Australian labora- salivary gland. Once the infection moves to the B-cells it prolifer- tory. This vaccine hopes to “limit the danger posed by this some- ates (spreads at a rapid rate). In 1964, they made a miraculous dis- times deadly virus”. (www.science.org.au/nova) covery naming the unknown virus. Epstein and Barr were given The best treatments prescribed by physicians are: REST, drink the privilege of this pathogen being named after them. plenty of fluids, REST, gargle with salt water or suck throat loz- Cytomegalo virus is a mirror of Epstein-Barr virus. The major enges (if sore throat persists), REST, and Tylenol™ or Motrin™ for difference in the two is a sore throat. With CMV, a person is less the fever and pain… Oh, did I mention – REST. likely to develop a sore throat. Otherwise the symptoms are sim- Mono is a viral infection. Antibiotics don’t work on viral infec- ilar: fever, fatigue, loss of appetite, soreness and swollen lymph tions, it’s just an infection that must run it’s course. glands in the neck (mainly), armpits and groin. Other rare symp- So to dispel the “kissing disease” myth, you don’t have to “kiss” toms include: swollen liver or spleen. When a person is diagnosed to contract the virus. Being too close for comfort can easily do the with “mono”, it is recommended, he do light to no exercising and trick.
OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 23 businessbusinessbusinessbusinessbu PowerPro Text by Angela Weis
A native of South Florida, Marvin Frink is a thriving business owner, and a man of vi- sion. Marvin, a great asset to the business community, has been the owner and opera- tor of Power Pros Mobile Works L.L.C., (910)476-5566, for four years. Power Pros is a professional pressure washing business servicing large industrial buildings, residential, concrete, tractor and trailers and anything fleet. Marvin uses all biodegradable chemicals and earth friendly products. Marvin’s vision for Power Pros is Kingdom building. He freely gives to charities, ex- pecting no gratitude or glamour in return. He firmly believes God should be first in all things in his life. One of his favorite mottos is found in Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Marvin has a vision, he says he can see it perfectly in his head, he is just standing still, waiting and it’s on Gods time not his. The vision is to own a cattle ranch. The ranch would be started with all black and red Angus on 15 acres of land. He has been studying the ins and outs of this for four years. This vision came from a promise he made to his grand- mother just before her passing. Marvin’s grandmother made him promise to teach his kids the value and respect of his hard labor. He promised to explain his vision to his kids and instill the importance of keeping family visions alive. Marvin stated, “My generation is so quick to sell the items they inherit to receive the money. They do not understand or appreciate the tears; sweat and heart that went into making the vision come true.” People are so quick to forget that faith is what fuels our dreams; Marvin says, “he is living his dream, and he is thankful, so thankful.”
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Text by Angela Mbodj
aving a romantic relationship with someone Also, when the child is old enough, they should perhaps be given who is from a different country and has a dif- an option to choose. ferent culture generates some very unique chal- D. Consider the Future – As we grow older, aging parents, the lenges and situations. Barriers can be as basic as desire to return to the comfort and familiarity of what we know the two of you not speaking the same language, best, and retirement tend to cause people to want to “go home”. to variances in religious beliefs, styles of com- That may mean your mate will too. Perhaps they will want to take munication and gender roles and expectations. you with them. What will that mean for your relationship? Whose HWhen contemplating the decision to move from dating a foreigner, homeland will take precedence over the other? Why? How will to marrying one, the stakes get even higher. This is particularly true you prepare should a huge domestic relocation have to occur? because marriage, by its very meaning, implicates the union of two or more. In your case, however, it would likely mean two or more I have been married almost four years to a Senegalese man, who families, religions, and childhood socialization processes. All the I dated almost 10 years prior to our wedding. There have been the love in the world will not protect your relationship if you have not ups and downs that transpire in any relationship; as well as differ- mentally prepared for the potential hazards and roadblocks that ent ones – even to this day. I would have to admit that the bulk of could lie ahead: conversely, if you are realistic, open and honest them involve language and its many nuances. Sometimes we simply with each other about your beliefs and differences, all you will need conceptually, as opposed to phonetically misunderstand each other. is patience and love! He eats lamb; and I eat seafood. He says “Bismillah”, I say “Our Father”, He fast for Ramadan; and I give up things for lent. We have Here’s a blueprint that can help you maintain romantic harmony: so many uncommon grounds; but so much more in sync and com- A. Be Transparent – Discuss cultural, religious and language dis- mon – most of all our love and commitment to giving equal respect parities from the beginning, and throughout the relationship. This and tolerance to each other’s feelings and beliefs when navigating will help to avoid misunderstandings and hurt feelings. No mat- through our very “different” love. ter how compatible you are, foreign cultures have foreign rules and social standards. Understanding them is key. B. Do your homework - Vacation or virtually visit (via the web) your mate’s home country. This includes learning family structures and ba- sic language, such as greetings. Learn holidays, and the associated customs, social rituals, etc. This will make you both more at ease with each other, and help to alle- viate the inevitable cultural gaps. It will also validate that you are interested in learning those things which your partner holds dear. C. Do what’s best for the child – If there are children involved in the union, determining which reli- gion they follow will likely be one of the toughest decisions that you will have to make together. Believe it or not, most times religion even trumps race, as it relates to person- al allegiance. Here is a case where you’ll definitely have to discus and come to an agreement before hand.
OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 25 The MontageMan Ilkan Ali
Listen up ladies as this issue’s Montage’ man takes us on a journey through his thoughts on Life, loyalty, and love.
PROFILE Ilkan Ali Newton is the new defining face of hip hop. His electrifying blend of music genres and nifty lyrics destines him to be one of the most influential artists of the decade. Ilkan believes that as an artist he has a responsi- bility to produce music that will inspire and enlighten his listeners. He aspires to promote love and unity throughout the world by way of his candid approach to the most con- troversial issues in life. His love for his craft is projected though every bar with intense emotion and truth.
ILKAN ON HIS IDEAL WOMAN My ideal woman is a woman who possesses an open mind. I’m interested in women who are innovative, cre- ative, reserved, yet spontaneous. I’m attracted to women who are willing to explore uncharted lands when it comes to taking the time to get to know their partner. I want a passionate woman who is kind, caring and non-judgmen- tal. I value trustworthiness and loyalty in anyone I associ- ate with. When I consider my ideal woman I admit there are physical attributes that I look for, however the physical features are a bonus. If a woman does not have the ability to love and is not pure of heart I am quickly turned away. The truth is everyone has character defects, but what de- fines a persons’ character is how diligently they strive to overcome them.
If you’re a man of distinction and think you have what it takes to be featured as the Montage’ Man in our next issue submit a brief profile in addition to four photos to [email protected]. All featured Montage’ Men will be entered into the Montage’ Man of the Year competition. The winner will receive a professional photo session and will be featured on the cover of the anniversary issue of Oasis Montage’ Magazine.
26OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 SingleWoman
Text by Angela Mbodj
“Why are you single?” is a question that I receive fair- Words by Nneka N. Odinga ly often from a variety of people in all walks of my life. Being a single mother for the last eight years, has been a journey full of joyous moments as well as moments that moved me to tears. At times, I have loathed be- ing single because it can often be a lonely experience, however I have never been ashamed of being single. The status “single” has never defined me, for I refuse to wear it as a badge of shame or one of honor. With time I have realized that words such as mother, pro- fessional, mentor, sister and friend describe me far more than the label single. I have a multitude of other blessings such as the love given to me by my awesome son, parents, family and friends. Over time I have fo- cused on this love and adoration instead of the love that I’m not receiving from my future soul mate. 28 OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 Remember, some men are placed in your life for a season, so don’t try to extend their stay with excuses.
I don’t know it all when it comes to dating but I have learned 4. It’s not what it might be…it is what it is! to not do the following along the way: Don’t try to turn a man into your ideal mate. We have all met men, who upon first glance, appear to be our perfect match but 1. Don’t make your kids date!!!! it is vital to give his idealness further examination. Never get I don’t subject my son to the men I date. I’m not interested in him too caught up in what he might be down the road, especially taking us to the zoo, movies or the circus. Children have feel- since you already know who you are. If what he currently is, ings too, therefore we should not risk them becoming attached doesn’t coincide with your future happiness then don’t force to the various men we date. There is no point in introducing the issue. The only person in life who we control is ourselves. your child to a man if you are not in serious committed relation- You can’t force someone to be anything other than what they ship. This type of behavior will have damaging results along the currently are. Remember, some men are placed in your life for a way. If a woman exposes a child to multiple men along her path season, so don’t try to extend their stay with excuses. to finding Mr. Right then she can’t expect the child to take Mr. Right seriously when he comes along. 5. Never stop believing in love! We all know that the divorce rate is ridiculously 2. If you don’t like being alone with you high. We have experienced our own horrible re- then why would any man want to???? lationships and witnessed the heartbreak of Don’t miss out on things you like to do friends. Tumultuous relationships are a fact of because you don’t have a man along life but that should not force us to conclude for the ride. I often go to the movies, that real love does not exist. Many people dinner, happy hour and on trips by are not willing to admit it but their failed myself. Until recently, I assumed that relationships are built upon faulty founda- most single women were also com- tions. These foundations didn’t suddenly fortable with doing these things solo. sag; they were always laced with cracks When you are single, use this time as that were simply ignored. If you stop believ- an opportunity to get know you bet- ing in love then stop seeking relationships. ter. If you know who you are, it’s not as Never fall into the trap of being in a relation- easy to lose yourself in a relationship and ship based upon money, appearance or status subsequently regret your mate for the loss. because relationships rooted in such shallow A man appreciates and more importantly waters will drown. respects a woman who is completely comfort- able in her own skin. Yes, I have been single for quite awhile but despite this I am happy and whole. I have a bright, loving and in- 3. Don’t take no wooden nickels! quisitive son who depends upon me to be a strong woman. I My mother has been whispering this mantra in my ear for years have a college degree and a successful career that takes care of now. Even at times when I couldn’t immediately see the rel- my material needs. I have a wonderful circle of honest sister evance she would end a phone call saying, “remember don’t friends who help me stay true to who I am throughout my jour- take no wooden nickels.” The saying may be laced with poor ney. I have a wonder biological and church family who fully grammar but it is loaded with proper form. You can’t allow support my professional and personal endeavors. Ultimately, I someone to fill your head with false notions about who they are will have a loving husband to add to the list of blessings but un- and what they can contribute to your life. A wooden nickel may til then I am proud to be single. I thank God for being single and look like a real nickel but you can’t spend it the same way, so the opportunity to love and know myself enough that when Mr. don’t even try. Right comes along, I will recognize and embrace his true love. OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 29 PHENOMENAL Jessy Earl Jones Jr. Text by Carolyn Moore
hen I think football. His determination to heal, has moor for creating an outstanding sports of the word brought him back to the NIFL, “one more camp. “Jessy is a great trainer if it weren’t phenomenal, time.” In 2007, coaches called Jessy and for Jessy, I wouldn’t look or feel as good I think of Jessy asked him to come back to NIFL and play as I do. Not only is my family noticing Earl Jones Jr. for local season games. Jessy accepted the my physique, but the girls are hollering I watched this offer to play for the Pueblo Pistols. at me. My highschool coaches don‘t no- man’s face glow To be a part of this team, Jessy had to tice me, and they don‘t play me in Foot- Wwith excitement as he talked about his bench press 225lbs, and weigh under ball or track. Until my mom found Jessy, I aspirations and goals. His historical foot- 230lbs. Jessy met the lifting requirements, wanted to give up, says Marquis Moore of ball career is more than phenomenal, it is but put himself on a regimen to lose 20lbs. Fountain Fort Carson Highschool.” wonderful to have so many achievements. As part of his training to lose the weight, To the women of the world, Jessy has Jessy is not a beginner in the football in- Jessy started a vigorous running program always looked good, but to the men in dustry, for many, he’s a historical icon. and increased his weight lifting. I person- sports, they know competition is on it’s When you think of synonymous, you ally experienced a workout with Jessy for way. The pistols had their first game this think of the man that was born in Los 3 weeks. He makes you truly work that month, and Jessy was the only touch- Angeles, California, on May 16, 1973. You body. “I’m going to give you what you down for the team. I visited Jessy during a think of Jessy Earl Jones Jr. Jessy’s parents, want and give you what you need, a true practice with the team. He was one of the Florida and Phil Holbert are very proud workout that will make you look and feel hardest working team members I saw. An of their son and his family devotion fam- good about yourself. You may hate me over achiever is what I would call him. He ily. Jessy has been married for 13 years to at first, but in the end, you will love the was very appreciated and respected by his highschool sweetheart, Nicole. They results,” says Jessy. That was a true state- his teammates. have 3 children: Sachia and Jayana, and a ment. I went to Jessy wearing a size 13, Jessy looks forward to giving his men- son, Jamel. and I dropped to an 11. He has give me tal, physical, and spiritual walk of disci- Jessy has a lifetime of accomplishments. the drive and ambition to stay healthy pline and dedication to those that have For many in sports, very few have done and conscious of what I eat. Jessy has a vision of unlocking the barrier of fear. what Jessy has done. Jessy has played: many people he personally trained. “My next leap of faith is to not only take 1998 PIFL, 1999 IPFL, 2000 SFL, 2001 AF2, For the locals of Colorado Springs, Jessy my health and fitness for training tech- and 2002 AFL. Jessy retired after a 2002 has a proven track record of being a busi- nique to television, but to also be an NFL leg injury. “Jessy Jones retire, no way. He ness and family man with a heart of gold. coach as well,” says Jessy. might be down for a minute, but we know He loves to train kids that need self-es- If you’ve ever wanted to be as healthy and he’ll be back,” says his coach. Jessy’s leg teem drive and ambition. He is loved by as phenomenal as Jessy, join his personal injury hindered his dream to play NFL the Colorado Springs School in the Broad- training program, Phenom 1. 719-332-4771.
30 OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 PHENOMENAL Jessy Earl Jones Jr. Text by Carolyn Moore
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OASISDONNA Is a happily married, focused, goal-driven mother of an Engineer and LaLa to two beautiful and intelligent grand children. An advanced certified Interior Designer passionate about the craft, she and her husband Nate, a published visual artist owns and operates Younique Interior Designs and are in pursuit of their dream to become Innkeepers of their Bed & Breakfast. She is a natural motivator and be- lieves that God has blessed each of us, uniquely, and in order to excel to the highest heights, it is absolutely imperative that one embraces their uniqueness. She further believes that God has strategically placed each Oasis Montage staff member in this place at this time to fulfill those missions that he has call us to minister. She is an event planner, wedding consultant, mystery shopper, Census worker and an Oasis Montage Diva!
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Crazy, Sexy and Cool! Besides being happily married for 3 years and raising three beautiful and wonderful girls, Wendy and her husband own an Automotive and Performance shop in Fayetteville, NC. Wendy also performs on the dragstrip in her 1998 Ford Mustang. Writing for Oasis Montage’ Magazine is truly a blessing for Wendy and she looks forward to nothing but success for herself and the staff.!
OASISSABRINA
An Oasis Montage’ woman is a majestic masterpiece beautifully hand crafted by the ultimate creator. No longer damaged by the heartache and pain life has inflicted upon her, she is pieced together with restoration, victory, and new aspirations. She is a creative soul who uses her story to heal those who have endured similar situa- tions. No longer broken by past abuse, she strides with great confidence. There are no boundaries for her dreams. Her faith is steady and her spirit is vibrant. Indeed, she is an inspiration to all. 32OASIS/Montage Sept-Dec 2010 montagewomenmontagewomenmontagewomenmontagewomenmontage
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Oasis Gwendolyn is a tenacious, energetic mother of seven wonderful children; five gloriously- virtuous daughters, and two handsome- industrious sons. Oasis Gwen- dolyn returned to the University after 22 years to complete the pursuit of a double undergraduate degree. A B.A. in History/Political Science with a concentration in Public Administration, and a B.S. in Social Sciences with a Political Science concen- tration and a Teachers Certificate in Secondary Education. Oasis Gwendolyn is a private caterer and is the Founder/Director of (CREARSC), Citizenship Restoration Expungement & Record Sealing Council. This organization is committed to citizenship and voters rights restoration, records sealing and expunge- ment activities for prior felonious convicts. Oasis Gwendolyn states that, “Until the ex-offender can be properly habilitated, by having their criminal history expunged, neither will they be able to participate fully in the democratic process, nor can they make a positive contribution to society. But, with proper support services from pro- grams like (CREARSC) and personal initiative, ex-felons can start the process of be- coming a positive, productive, and contributing member of society again.”
OASISANGELA My name is Angela Weis and I have been blessed with a loving supportive hus- band. I have a blended family which includes; three sons and a beautiful daughter. I completed my Associates Degree on the deans list from Sandhills Community Col- lege and I am working toward a Bachelors Degree in Psychology. I am a survivor. I have been delivered from drug addiction, and it is only by God’s grace and his mercy that I am still alive. My motto is found in Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
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