From the americangirl.com editors of: FeeliThe ngs Book The The Care & Keeping of Your Emotions Your feelings used to be pretty simple. But these days it may seem like you’re on an emotional roller coaster! The This companion to Feelings Feelings The Care & Keeping of YOU 1: The Body Book for Younger Girls Book takes an inside look at dealing with your feelings. Whether you’re happy, sad, angry, Book The Care & Keeping of mad, stressed, excited, afraid, or delighted, you’ll get tips, how-tos, and straightforward Your Emotions advice you can really use. 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It might seem like you’re on an emo- tional roller coaster—up one minute and down the next. But if you learn more about your feelings, you can keep them from racing out of control. You can be in charge—and that makes the ride a whole lot easier. LB_F4640_Pages_QP.indd 3 8/22/17 4:18 PM Table of Contents How Do You Feel? 7 What Are Feelings? 8 Your Mood-O-Meters 10 The Brain, the Body & Butterflies 15 Brain Power 16 Sweaty Palms and Knocking Knees 17 Fight or Flight? 20 Why Do You Cry? 22 Feeling Out of Control 24 What Can You Do? 26 Holding It All In 30 How Do You Really Feel? 33 What’s Your Reaction? 34 Put It in Your Backpack 38 Sorting It Out 40 Talking It Out 42 The Real World 44 Strategy Session 46 LB_F4640_Pages_QP.indd 4 8/22/17 4:18 PM The Voice Inside 49 Listening In 50 Understanding the Circle 52 Changing the Circle 54 Clear Away Clouds 56 Think Smart! 58 Who Can You Trust? 60 Help! 63 I’m Scared 64 I Feel Anxious 68 I’m So Jealous 72 I’ve Been Disrespected 74 I’m Angry 78 I’m Lonely 82 I’m Really Sad 86 I’m Grieving 90 I Don’t Feel Safe 94 Feeling Positive 99 The Good Stuff 100 Look Around! 102 Keep It Up! 104 LB_F4640_Pages_QP.indd 5 8/22/17 4:18 PM LB_F4640_Pages_QP.indd 6 8/22/17 4:18 PM How Do You Feel? How do you feel at this very moment? Happy? Sad? Angry? Scared? Lots of things in your life can set off your emotions. Sometimes you will feel good . sometimes not so good. But all those feelings—the good, the sad, and the all-around bad—are normal. And chances are, even the happiest girl you know is sorting out her own confusing knot of emotions. So hold on and hang in there, and we’ll help you figure this feelings thing out. 7 LB_F4640_Pages_QP.indd 7 8/22/17 4:18 PM What Are Feelings? “I feel great!” “I feel mad.” “I feel scared!” Just what are these oceans of emotions washing over you these days? Emotions are reactions you have to things that happen around you, and you use “feeling” words to describe them. Because the events you react to are constantly changing, it’s natural that your emotions would change, too! (That’s why the word “emotion” has the word “motion” built right into it.) You can be soaring to the top of the world one minute and feel stuck in the mud the next. Some times you may not even be sure how you feel at all. Some days I feel happy one minute and like crying the next. I continually get mad when people ask me about my day, and I often blow up at my mom. What is happening? Why do I do this? Confused The better you become at identifying your feelings, the more you’ll learn about yourself. People often use the words on the facing page to describe their feelings. Circle any feelings you remember having in the last week. 8 LB_F4640_Pages_QP.indd 8 8/22/17 4:18 PM I felt . thrilled proud shy fearful honored happy wonderful ashamed guilty joyful scared anxious confused frustrated envious sad ambitious annoyed excited moody embarrassed pleased serious compassionate worried silly brave hopeless sorry loving hopeful giddy respectful careless 9 LB_F4640_Pages_QP.indd 9 8/22/17 4:18 PM Your Mood-O-Meters Each feeling you have can be strong, mild, or somewhere in between. For each situation, fill in the mood-o-meter to show where your feelings would register. If you have feelings that aren’t listed here, create a new mood-o- meter. 1. You’re doing homework on the computer and you accidentally delete your whole file. You feel Angry Sad Afraid “Do we have “I’m boiling another box over!” “I’m totally of tissues?” terrified!” “I feel “A single tear trouble “My stomach trickles down is in knots.” bubbling up.” my cheek . .” “How “I’m a little “This makes me annoying!” disappointed.” uncomfortable.” LB_F4640_Pages_QP.indd 10 8/22/17 4:18 PM 2. Mom announces that your family will be spending the entire summer at the beach. You feel Happy Angry Sad “N-O. I won’t “I’d call this “Look out, ocean, go! N-O. I won’t ‘super-sob here I come!” go!” sad.’ ” “Argh! I told my “I’m getting friends I’d sign “I’m getting excited . .” up for summer teary!” soccer!” “I’m oh-so- “But I’ll miss my satisfied.” “But I won’t know anyone there.” room at home.” LB_F4640_Pages_QP.indd 11 8/22/17 4:18 PM 3. Someone says a friend is spreading a nasty rumor about you. You feel Angry Sad Embarrassed ROAR! “Waaaaah! What “Can I just stay will I do?” home today?” “Sniffle. I really “I wish I were Grrrr! trusted her.” invisible.” “Call me “Ow. That hurts Blushing Argh! my heart.” Beauty.” LB_F4640_Pages_QP.indd 12 8/22/17 4:18 PM 4. You walk onto the stage to sing your solo, and you trip over the top step. You feel Angry Sad Embarrassed “That’s it! “I wish this was I quit!” “I can’t sing when a disappearing I’m crying!!” act!” “Someone should “The reviews have told me will call this “If I trip on the about that step! an emotional way back out, Who’s in charge performance.” maybe it will around here?” look like part “I wish I hadn’t of the act.” “I knew I should blown my big have practiced chance.” “Sheesh. I hope my entrance.” no one saw that!” If you marked several mood-o-meters flustered by your feelings. If you for any situation, congratulations! knew for sure, you might react It’s normal to feel more than one strongly to some things that hap- emotion at a time.