ANO INDEPENDENTU VOICE FOR THE TLESBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, AND TRANSGENDER COMMUNITIES March 7, 2014 | Volume XI, Issue 21 Transgender Rights Bill Clears Senate

By Steve Charing As in the past, the biggest hurdle for vote on February 20. The long struggle to achieve the bill’s success had been the Senate’s “Today marks a historic milestone in protections in employment, Judicial Proceedings Committee (JPR). the continued fight to advance equal rights housing, credit, and accom- Last year, for example, the measure failed for all Marylanders,” said Madaleno in a modations based on gen- to advance to the Senate body for consid- statement. “The Senate’s passage of the der identity has moved one eration because Fairness for All Marylanders Act step forward. On March 4, it was killed in sends a reaffirming message the Maryland State Senate the committee by throughout our state that re- overwhelmingly passed the a 6-5 vote. gardless of whom you are, prej- Fairness for All Maryland- However, this udice and discrimination will no ers Act (SB 212) by a vote year was differ- longer be tolerated or exempted of 32-15. The bill, introduced ent. Senate President Thomas V. “Mike from law. With these new anti-discrimina- by openly gay Senator Rich Miller” (Calvert and Prince George’s) ex- tion protections for transgender persons Madaleno (Montgomery), pressed his support for the bill and reiter- one step closer to full passage, Maryland had 25 co-sponsors, which ated that he would vote for it during its first is poised to become the 18th state in the almost assured its passage. reading. A hearing had been held by the nation – plus Washington, D.C. – to ensure Sen. Rich Madaleno Twenty-four affirmative committee on February 4, and the JPR fa- equal civil rights protections for transgen- votes were needed. vorably reported it to the Senate by an 8-3 —continued on page 3

Crisean Crisean: Using Music to Inspire credit: Steve Charing By Steve Charing Community College. He has been inspired proud. “I was just able to Baltimore artist Crisean is looking to make by such contemporary artists as Beyonce, vent so effortlessly and it big in a crowded field. This challenge is Britney Spears, and Usher. “That’s when get some things off of something he acknowledges, but Crisean I fell in love with soul music and legend- my chest.” Crisean touts is not letting that deter him. “Being from ary icons such as Aretha Franklin, Marvin “The Festival” as his sec- Baltimore, it’s not easy getting music out Gaye, and Elvis Presley,” he explains. ond favorite. “It allowed there and finding a place to start,” he ad- Crisean has taken an important large me to release feelings mits. Crisean (pronounced Cris-SHAWN) step in his career with the release by CMS and emotions that I need- has been attempting to increase his ex- Records of his album Sound Approved ed to release.” Sound Ap- posure by performing at various open mic – EP. Having written and produced every proved – EP can be found events across the city. track, the songs convey the journey through on iTunes, Amazon, An independent artist with an infusion Crisean’s life, touching upon the topics of Google Play, and Spotify. of pop, dance, and soul /R&B, Crisean, love, self-empowerment, and acceptance. In addition to achiev- 26, had been singing Disney songs around Crisean related his personal experiences ing success in the in- the house and putting on shows for family from past romantic break-ups and over- dustry, Crisean is hoping members since the age of eight. He also coming adversity to formulate this album. that his accomplishments dabbled in writing lyrics and creating topics “Everyone goes through break-ups, try- would move other young for songs. ing to love ourselves more, finding love, people. “At 26 my goals In 2006, Crisean (whose off-stage and wanting to find love,” he points out. are to inspire young LGBT name is Christopher Snowden), started “This body of work embodies all of that: kids and people who have been oppressed source of comfort and inspiration when they penning songs for a potential debut studio from me to my fans and future fans.” and ostracized and let them see that they see me as I had with shows, such as Noah’s album. Having no previous formal training, “Crowns & Chains” is the song on can reach their goals and not get in their Arc, Queer as Folk, and The L Word.” Crisean studied music at Baltimore City Sound Approved – EP of which he is most own way,” he explains. “I want them to see a —continued on page 3

—continued on page 10 news State Taxes and Married Same-Sex Couples b ly Caro V. Calhoun spousal coverage for income) for purposes of cal- The Internal Revenue Service has now an- same-sex partners under culating state income taxes. nounced that same-sex couples married in a employee benefit plans Legally married same-sex jurisdiction that permits such marriages will be will need to know the couples will now file federal treated as married for federal tax purposes, characterization of such returns (and calculate federal even if they live in a jurisdiction that does not coverage for purposes of adjusted gross income and recognize such marriages. But what about state taxes. For example, federal taxable income) us- an employer that provides ing either joint filing status or The IRS will treat spousal health coverage married filing separately sta- to a same-sex employee tus. Thus, the question arises same-sex married may be required to in- whether married same-sex clude the cost of such couples may (or are required couples as married for coverage in the employ- to) use such status at the federal tax purposes, ee’s state Form W-2 or state level, even in states that equivalent, even though do not otherwise recognize even if they live in a it would be excluded from their marriages. state not recognizing the employee’s income In the following states, the for federal tax purposes. issue of treating same-sex such marriages Many would no doubt couples as married for state assume that whether a Atty. Carol V. Calhoun income tax purposes does not state will treat couples as arise, either because the state such couples’ recognition as married for pur- married for tax purposes depends on whether has no income tax or because the state taxes poses of state income taxes? The question is it would recognize their marriages generally. only interest and dividends and does not pro- of concern not only to individuals, but to their However, that may not necessarily be the vide a separate rate structure for single and employers which must determine proper state case. The issue arises because most states married taxpayers: income tax withholding. In addition, employ- use a federal definition of income (either fed- Alaska • Florida • Nevada • New Hamp- ers which are in many instances expanding eral adjusted gross income or federal taxable shire • South Dakota • Tennessee • Texas • Wyoming. In each of the following states, same-sex married couples will now file state income tax- es as married, because the state allows same- sex marriage: California • Connecticut • Delaware • District of Columbia • Hawaii • Illinois • Iowa • Maine • Maryland • Massachusetts • Minne- sota • New Jersey • New Mexico • New York • Oregon • Rhode Island • Vermont. In Oregon, same-sex married couples will now file state income taxes as married, be- cause although same-sex marriages cannot be performed in Oregon, Oregon recognizes same-sex marriages from other states. In the following states, same-sex marriage is not recognized and there is no conformity between federal and state taxes, so same-sex married couples will have to file state taxes as if they were single: Alabama • Arkansas • Michigan • Missis- sippi • Pennsylvania. The following states do not recognize same-sex marriage, but conform to federal tax law: Arizona • Colorado • Georgia • Idaho • Indi- ana • Kansas • Kentucky • Louisiana • Missouri • Montana • Nebraska • North Carolina • North Dakota • Ohio • Oklahoma • South Carolina • Utah • Virginia • West Virginia • Wisconsin. The law in each of them is discussed in more detail on the extended version of this ar- ticle, available at Baltimoreoutloud.com. t The author is president of the Calhoun Law Group. 2 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD March 7, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com news // LOCAL Cri sean is Using Music Transgender Rights Bill B’more QFest Revs Up with Special Film Showings to Inspire Others Clears Senate – continued from page 1 – continued from page 1 B’more QFest held the second in a series for their little girl. The film is a comedy with of queer film events last Sunday at the some very poignant moments as both men Crisean admits he is currently not very der persons.” Holiday Inn Inner Harbor. The organiza- confront unresolved issues between them active in Baltimore’s LGBT community but Added Carrie Evans, executive direc- tion presented the acclaimed film Birthday and their mothers. The dramatic highpoint would like to be. Nonetheless, he consid- tor of Equality Maryland, “Today is a huge Cake by Chad Darnell. The film series is occurs in an intense cathartic confrontation ers himself an advocate. day for transgender rights in Maryland. intended to build enthusiasm and excite- between Darnell and his Pentecostal moth- “I have written speeches and essays With their vote, 32 senators stood up to ment for the Baltimore Queer Film Festi- er, played by Helen Shaver. for class on the subjects of equality and say no one should be denied the opportu- val slated for three days in June at various B’More QFest organizers hosted Dar- same-sex marriage when I attended nity to work for a living, secure housing or venues nell at a cocktail reception before the film- school,” he says. “I love gay pride, and eat lunch at a restaurant just because of Birthday Cake, a sequel to the ac- ing and held a Q&A with the director after- I feel like I just don’t attend Pride for the their gender identity. We thank bill sponsor claimed Groom’s Cake, chronicles the (mis) wards. The enthusiastic Baltimore audience festivities; I attend because I want to sup- Senator Rich Madaleno for his leadership adventures of a gay couple, Daniel Fergu- was the first to see the final cut of the film port my community, and it’s the one day in moving the Fairness for All Maryland- son (Darnell) and Steve James (Rib Hills), that is scheduled for release in April. that we can be however we want to be. I ers Act out of the Senate by such an over- planning and hosting the first birthday party Next up for the B’more QFest is a dou- marched with the GLCCB in the Pride pa- whelming majority.” ble feature screening of Del rade in 2006. I identify with gay marriage, Transgender activist Dana Beyer saw Shores’s Sordid Lives and I want to get married one day and I think this victory in the Senate as the culmina- Southern Baptist Sissies at every person should have the right to. I tion of many years of effort. “After eight Chase Brexton on April 6 with don’t like what’s happening in Florida with years of struggle, and with the active sup- Del Shores and Emerson Col- the stand-your-ground law. I think that it’s port of Senate President Thomas V. “Mike” lins as guests. Baltimore Out- racially unjust.” Miller, Jr. and the legislative magic of loud is pleased to be a spon- It sounds like he is inspirational al- Senator Jamie Raskin, a comprehensive sor of these exciting events ready. t gender identity anti-discrimination bill has and the June festival. For Check out Crisean at Youtube.com/ overwhelmingly passed the Senate,” she, tickets and information for up- user/unobtainablecrisean, Facebook. told Baltimore OUTloud. coming events and the June com/criseanmusic, Reverbnation.com/ Beyer praised Equality Maryland’s for- B’more QFest director Chris Lines with Birthday Cake festival go to Bmorequeer. t Crisean, and Twitter.com/criseanofficial. mer executive director Dan Furmansky, writer, director and star Chad Darnell after the screening org. lobbyists, allies, as well as her Senate op- of the film last Sunday ponent, Senator Rich Madaleno, and JPR Committee Chair Brian Frosh for this ac- complishment. She also applauded “the trans community who came every year to Annapolis to tell their stories.” Amendments to the language of the bill had been offered and passed that tight- ened the definition of gender identity to alleviate concerns by some that a person would change his or her identity as a prank and enter public restrooms. Baltimore City and Baltimore, Howard and Montgomery counties already have gender identity protections on the books as does the city of Hyattsville. A total of 17 states plus D.C. and Puerto Rico have similar ordinances. The bill moves onto the House of Del- egates (HB 1265) where it had been intro- duced by Del. Luke Clippinger (Baltimore City). A similar measure was passed in that chamber in 2011. A hearing on HB 1265 was scheduled for March 5 by the House Health and Government Operations Committee. “I fully expect the House of Delegates to finish the job and pass this important legislation as quickly as possible,” said Madaleno. “Without this new law, trans- gender Marylanders remain vulnerable to discrimination, harassment, and even vio- lence. We’ve come too far in the fight for 201 N. 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Keshet PFC, prior to the event. children to be raised by same- Jewish Groups “The idea developed as a way sex couples. One of the pan- PFLAG to Present to encourage open, inclusive elists, who is a grandmother Discuss Same-Sex discussion within the Jewish to her son’s two adopted chil- Bridegroom community about this increas- dren, said that “they are being ingly important topic.” raised the same as children By Steve Charing Marriage Mandy Dickler, co-founder would in any other family.” The Howard County chapter of PFLAG will of JQ Baltimore and mentor for She explained that “because be presenting the documentary film Bride- By Steve Charing Keshet PFC pointed out that the fathers had to go through groom on March 11. The film, produced by Over 50 people attended a panel discus- Question 6 was just something so much to be able to adopt Linda Bloodworth-Thomason, known best sion on March 2 that explored the process people voted on at the polls. them, they are cherished even for her creating the TV series Designing and experience of same-sex weddings and “This program will put names more.” The children refer to Women and her close association with the marriages in the Jewish tradition. Titled “A and faces to Jewish members R abbi Gila Ruskin their parents as “Dada” and Clintons, tells the real story of two young Conversation About Same-Sex Marriage,” of our community for whom this credit: Beth Tenserde “Daddy.” small-town men, Shane Bitney Crone and the discussion was presented by JQ Balti- historic vote has made a world Panel member Rabbi Gila Tom Bridegroom, who fall deeply in love and more, a group that seeks to create an inclu- of difference.” of Ruskin of Temple Adas Shalom in Havre remained together for six years until Tom’s sive Jewish Baltimore where Jewish LGBTQ The panel consisted of three rabbis who de Grace said she had been ready to per- fatal accident at the age of 29 in 2011. individuals and their families are accepted, perform same-sex weddings, one set of par- form same-sex weddings for quite some Using in- and by Keshet Parent and Family Connec- ents of a married son who is gay, two same- time but only did so for the first time last year terviews and tion (PFC), a national grassroots organiza- sex married Jewish couples and one mem- on Valentine’s Day. She had been asked footage from tion that works for the full equality and inclu- ber of a male married couple with the other by a couple from her congregation to marry Shane’s video di- sion of LGBT Jews in Jewish life. spouse seated in the audience. them. The lesbian couple, who had convert- ary, Bridegroom The event took place at Beth El Congrega- Each of the panelists spoke about their ed to Judaism, had been together for over describes the tion, 8101 Park Heights Avenue, in Baltimore experiences either in performing a same-sex ten years. They had a civil union in Vermont intense love be- and was co-sponsored by the Jewish Commu- wedding or in being part of a same-sex wed- years earlier but wanted to have a Jewish tween the two nity Center of Greater Baltimore, Jewish Com- ding. They also answered questions from the wedding as well. men and the munity Services, and Beth El Congregation. audience regarding relationships between Rabbi Ruskin performed their wedding in reactions from family members as their re- “Now that marriage equality has passed LGBT children and their parents or between the presence of their family members. Not lationship blooms. Unfortunately, Tom’s par- in Maryland and in other parts of the country, LGBT parents and their straight children. long after the wedding, however, one of the ents were not accepting. we thought this would be a good topic for Other members of the audience were spouses became extremely ill. As a result Following the accident, the hospital staff discussion,” said Debbie Heller, founder of interested in knowing what it was like for of the rights that they were entitled to as a initially would not permit Shane to visit him married couple, the well spouse was able as he was not “family” under hospital rules. to make important medical decisions for her After he died, Tom’s parents cut Shane off partner. Rabbi Ruskin saw first-hand how from making funeral arrangements and be- the marriage equality laws benefitted this ing a part of the services. His life and rela- couple. tionship with Tom was completely eradicated Unfortunately, the ill woman passed as if it never occurred. Of course, if marriage away. The couple had been married for less equality was legal (they were living in Prop than a year, yet, the surviving spouse, who 8 California at the time), the couple would was present at the program, said she was have been married according to their stated so thankful that the law allowed them to get plans, and Shane would have had the right married in their own state in a Jewish cer- to make the funeral arrangements. emony. t The meeting, which is free, confiden- For more information about JQ Balti- tial and open to the public, begins at 7:30 more, visit Jqbaltimore.org. Information re- p.m. at the Owen Brown Interfaith Center, garding the Keshet Parent and Family Con- 7246 Cradlerock Way, Columbia, Maryland. nection can be found at Keshetonline.org. For more information, visit Pflagmd.org. t

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Fallout Over Uganda’s New Anti-gay Law Continues per tabloid newspaper published the names – and some pictures – of alleged homosexuals Kampala, Uganda Those convicted press office issued a statement condemn- in a front-page story under the headline: “Ex- – Uganda president of “promoting ing the law. “As President Obama has said, posed!” The list included prominent Ugandan Yoweri Museveni homosexuality” this law is more than an affront and a danger gay activists such as Pepe Julian Onziema, a signed a virulent anti- face similar pun- to the gay community in Uganda, it reflects popular Ugandan hip-hop star, and a Catholic gay law on February ishment. poorly on the country’s commitment to pro- priest. Prominent Ugandan gay activist David 24 and has remained U.S. Sec- tecting the human rights of its people and will Kato was killed after a similar newspaper out- defiant despite a retary of State undermine public health, including efforts to ing by a now defunct tabloid in 2011. t (Seat- growing chorus of John Kerry said fight HIV/AIDS,” the White House said. “We tle Gay News – Mike Andrew at Sgn.org, Bay outrage from western the law marked will continue to urge the Ugandan govern- Windows, & the Associated Press – Rodney countries and lead- “a tragic day ment to repeal this abhorrent law and to ad- Muhumuza at Baywindows.com ) ers. In a CNN inter- for Uganda and vocate for the protection of the universal hu- view after the signing T abloid-driven terror in Uganda for all who care man rights of LGBT persons in Uganda and he said, “‘[Gay peo- about the cause around the world.” ple are] disgusting.... of human rights” European countries have begun to with- What sort of people are they? I never knew and warned that Washington could cut aid draw foreign aid money from Uganda. Al what they were doing. I’ve been told recently to the government of the East African nation. Jazeera news service reported on February that what they do is terrible. Disgusting. But “The United States is deeply disappointed in 24 that the Netherlands, Norway, and Den- I was ready to ignore that if there was proof the enactment of the Anti-Homosexuality Bill mark would redirect money formerly given that that’s how he is born, abnormal. But now in Uganda,” Kerry said in a statement. “For to Museveni’s government. The Netherlands the proof is not there.” the four years since the bill was introduced, froze a $9.6 million subsidy to Uganda’s le- Museveni said the measure is needed we have been crystal clear that it blatantly vi- gal system, saying that ‘if the judiciary is to because the West is promoting homosexu- olates human rights obligations that Uganda’s enforce such laws, we do not wish to assist ality in Africa. He rejected international criti- Human Rights Commission itself has recog- that process.’ Denmark and Norway, each of cism of the law as interference in Uganda’s nized are enshrined in Uganda’s Constitu- which gives Uganda $8.5 million in aid, said internal affairs and accused “arrogant and tion..... Now that this law has been enacted, they would redirect money towards private careless Western groups” of trying to re- we are beginning an sector initiatives, aid cruit Ugandan children into homosexuality. internal review of our agencies, and human Ugandan government spokesperson Ofwono relationship with the rights organizations. Opondo told Reuters news agency that by government of Ugan- According to Associ- signing the anti-gay bill, Museveni wanted “to da to ensure that all ated Press, Uganda demonstrate Uganda’s independence in the dimensions of our en- depends on foreign face of Western pressure and provocation.” gagement, including aid money for about The law punishes gay sex with up to life assistance programs, 20% of its budget. in jail. The bill originally proposed the death uphold our anti-dis- In a related devel- penalty for “aggravated homosexuality,” crimination policies opment, the day after defined as repeated gay sex between con- and principles and Museveni signed the senting adults and acts involving a minor, a reflect our values.” law, a Ugandan news- disabled person, or where one partner is in- U.S. Senator Patrick paper published a list fected with HIV. First-time offenders also face Leahy (D-VT), chair of of what it called the life in jail, contrary to an earlier version of the the Senate Judiciary country’s “200 top” bill that mentioned a 14-year jail term. The Committee, proposed homosexuals, outing law also creates the offenses of “conspiracy suspending all $485 some Ugandans who to commit homosexuality” as well as “aiding million of U.S. aid to previously had not and abetting homosexuality,” both of which Uganda. identified themselves are punishable with a seven-year jail term. The White House Uganda’s national seal: Keep God out of it as gay. The Red Pep-

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BALTIMORE OUTLOUD march 7, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 5 bye ond the beltway compiled by Jim Becker only one to have approved such a measure, earns. While LGBT workers can be found ruary 20 in Abuja, the capital of Africa’s Human Rights Watch said. in every industry, there are concentrations most populous nation. Major sports leagues opposed the mea- of LGBT employees in typically low-wage Four of the victims were marched to a Arizona’s sure, including the National Football League jobs in retail, hospitality and food service, police station, where they allegedly were and Major League Baseball. Former Re- and other kinds of service occupations. kicked and punched by police officers who rightwing gov publican presidential candidates Mitt Rom- “LGBT communities and those in yelled pejoratives at them, said Ifeanyi ney and Sen. John McCain (Arizona) also same-sex couples, particularly those rais- Orazulike of the International Center on vetoes anti-gay opposed the measure. Apple, American ing children, experience disproportionate Advocacy for the Right to Health. Police Express, Starwood Hotel and Resorts, In- levels of food insecurity and higher par- threatened that the men would be incarcer- bill tel, PetSmart, Delta Airlines and American ticipation rates in SNAP,” the study con- ated for 14 years, he said, the maximum Airlines were among the corporations fight- cluded, even when possible differences prison sentence under the Act dubbed the Phoenix, Arizona – Arizona Governor Jan ing the measure. Arizona business groups in demographic characteristics between “Jail the Gays” law. Orazulike said he got Brewer, under pressure from those in both opposing the bill include Arizona Hispanic LGBT and non-LGBT individuals like gen- a panicked email from a colleague who the Democratic and Republican parties, Chamber of Commerce, Arizona Technology der, age, race/ethnicity, and educational said he was hiding from a mob of 40 peo- even from those who voted for the measure, Council, Greater Phoenix Economic Council, attainment are taken into account.” The In- ple who struck around 1 a.m. Thursday, has vetoed a controversial bill that would Tucson Hispanic Chamber of Commerce, stitute also found that there are significant going from house to house saying their have allowed discrimination against LGBTs Arizona Chamber of Commerce, Greater divisions within the different categories mission was “to cleanse” the area of gays. in the name of religious freedom. She said Phoenix Chamber of Commerce and Greater of the LGBT community as a whole. For He said they used pieces of wood and iron she spoke to lawyers, politicians and citizens Phoenix Leadership. While all of this opposi- example, about 25% of Bisexuals receive to beat up 14 young men. Those attacked in coming to the conclusion. She said it does tion provided the Governor cover when she SNAP benefits, compared to 14% of Gay are in hiding and too scared to speak to not address a specific concern that was hap- picked up her veto pen, the reported threat and Lesbian people. Seventeen percent reporters, he said, recounting their story. pening, and that because it is broadly word- of the NFL to yank next year’s Super Bowl of Lesbian couples rely on SNAP, com- “They were told ‘If you come back, we will ed it could result in unintended and negative from Arizona may have been a determining pared to 10% of Gay couples, and 9% of kill you.”’ The walls of houses where the consequences. Hundreds of businesses and factor! (Bay Windows courtesy of the Windy opposite-sex couples. Race and ethnicity organizations spoke out against Senate Bill City Times at Baywindows.com) were also significant. Thirty-seven percent 1062, which would have amended Arizona’s of LGBT African-American adults, 55% of Religious Freedom Restoration Act. LGBT Native Americans, and 78% of LGBT Human Rights Watch stated: “Arizona Native Hawaiians rely on SNAP assistance state anti-discrimination law does not protect LGBT face for their food needs. (Seattle Gay News – people against discrimination based on their Mike Andrew at Sgn.org) sexual orientation or gender identity. How- more economic ever, the cities of Phoenix, Flagstaff, and Tucson have passed local ordinances pro- hardship than hibiting discrimination on the basis of sexual 14 seen as gay orientation. If signed, the law would not only straights allow businesses and individuals to refuse dragged out of services to LGBT people, as well as those Los Angeles, California – A new study who are perceived to be LGBT, it would also from the Williams Institute reveals that bed, beaten in permit them to use religious beliefs as a de- more than one in four LGBT Americans Beating victim fense against claims of discrimination based have experienced a time in the past year Nigeria on sexual orientation, even in cities that when they did not have enough money to have prohibited such discrimination.” The feed themselves. According to the study, Abuja, Nigeria – As reported by the As- men lived have been painted with graffiti bill is similar to measures seeking to permit 29% of LGBT respondents said that at sociated Press, a mob armed with wooden declaring “Homosexuals, pack and leave,” discrimination against LGBT people on reli- least once they lacked the money to buy clubs and iron bars, screaming that they he said. gious grounds that have recently been intro- food, compared to only 15% of straight were going to “cleanse” their neighborhood The New York-based International duced in several other states, including Kan- respondents. About 21% of the LGBT re- of gay people, dragged 14 young men from Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commis- sas, Idaho, South Dakota, Tennessee, and spondents said they received benefits their beds and assaulted them, human sion condemned the attack and warned, Oklahoma. Arizona’s state legislature is the from SNAP -the Supplementary Nutrition rights activists said on February 22. Mob “It is important that people understand Assistance Program, formerly known as justice is common in Nigeria and civil rights that this kind of violence can happen to Food Stamps. Thirteen percent of same- organizations have been warning for years anyone and that the government seems to sex couples and 26% of same-sex couples of an increase in community violence and have abdicated its responsibility to protect These news notes have been compiled, with children under 18 said they received the government’s failure to curb acts in people from violence and impunity.” Doz- with permission, from the online version SNAP benefits last year. A whopping 43% which people have been beaten to death ens of allegedly gay people have been ar- of various newspapers and other web of LGB single parents said they relied on for perceived crimes such as theft. “Since rested since President Goodluck Jonathan sites. We thank these publications for SNAP for their food requirements. the Same Sex Marriage (Prohibition) Act signed the bill into law in January. It not allowing us to bring you their news sto- Previous Williams Institute studies was signed, we have expressed concern only forbids gay marriage, which carries a ries. Usually the reports have been sig- have shown that LGBT workers earn less as a friend of Nigeria that it might be used 14-year jail sentence, it makes it a crime nificantly edited and you can read the and are unemployed more than straight by some to justify violence against Nigeri- for anyone, straight or homosexual, to hold full story by going to the web site men- workers in the same occupations, which ans based on their sexual orientation,” the a meeting of gays or to advocate human tioned following the item. Comments may account for their greater reliance on U.S. Embassy said in a statement Friday. rights for gays. Convicted offenders can be are strictly the opinions of Jim Becker SNAP and other forms of government as- “Recent attacks in Abuja deepen our con- jailed for up to 10 years. Many Africans be- and not of Baltimore OUTloud or Pride sistance. Gay and Bisexual men, for ex- cern on this front.” Activists have warned lieve homosexuality is an evil import from Media. ample, might earn as little as 68 cents for the law could trigger attacks such as the the West. t (Bay Windows and AP at Bay- every dollar that a straight male worker one perpetrated in the early hours of Feb- windows.com)

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since Baltimore doesn’t Uganda. And gays in Sure, Michael Sam drew substantial media have a NBA team. several Middle East- attention recently at the NFL Combine. But These are bogus ern countries face a frenzy? Not so much. And as more en- arguments. The Nets death sentences if ter the scene, less attention will follow; the OUT stated unequivocally caught. novelty will have worn off. they needed a defensive I point these out Players throughout the Big Four Spoken back-up center and Col- to counter the errone- leagues have publicly expressed support Steve Charing lins was available. The ous thinking that gays for a gay teammate – not all, but enough sports report on WBAL- are doing so well that – to quell any feared backlash. The locker TV included the Olympics playing a profession- room issue is a red herring; gay players (of course), a NASCAR al sport as an openly are not going to do something stupid espe- Why the Jason race, a golf tournament, gay man is no big cially when their actions will be under a mi- and Calvert Hall-Loyola deal. Barriers still re- croscope. Such unfounded fears surfaced Collins Signing high-school basketball main, and for a player during the process in repealing “Don’t ask, game footage. All well to overcome them, it don’t tell.” Again, no barracks- or showers- is Big News and good, but to sidestep Jason Collins in his first game as an would require cour- related incidents have surfaced, to my this historic event is dubi- openly gay pro basketball player age, an even-keeled knowledge. NBA player Jason Collins had completed ous at best. It should be temperament, thick While the circumstances were far dif- his ten-day contract he signed with the noted that WJZ also failed to mention it. skin, and likability. Both Michael Sam, the ferent nearly 70 years ago, Jackie Robin- Brooklyn Nets late last month. And now I hope the reason for not reporting the heralded Mizzou pass rusher who came son had to endure vitriol and death threats he has been offered a second 10-day con- story was based on “it’s no big deal” even out prior to the upcoming NFL draft, and to succeed, which opened the door to tract. Accordingly, his impact on organized if that decision means blindness towards Jason Collins clearly possess these attri- other African-American kids to realize their sports, society as a whole and perhaps history rather than a conscious effort to ex- butes. And it doesn’t hurt that these two dreams. Collins and Sam will be role mod- most importantly, on gay kids in the U.S. clude it because of any discomfort about men are blessed with camera-loving good els for gay kids. They won’t feel alienated will now be his legacy. the subject in the station’s sports depart- looks. and will have the knowledge that the hard When Collins stepped onto the Staples ment. We’ll never know and I will give them There will be more opportunities in part had been accomplished by these two Center court in Los Angeles that evening, the benefit of the doubt. the other sports for gay athletes to come trailblazing athletes. he became the first ever openly gay pro Yet, I won’t forget how one of the Bal- out. The suspected “media frenzy” follow- That may be reason enough that this is t male athlete in North America’s big four timore Sun’s beat writers for the Ravens ing Collins’s first game did not materialize. indeed a big story. sports leagues – which include the NFL, tweeted (and quickly deleted) a response MLB, NHL, and the NBA – to play in a to a story on LGBT advocate Brendon game. Ayanbadejo’s work: “Hopefully, we have “Today Jason Collins tore open the last seen the end of the Brendon Ayanbedejo remaining closet in America,” said Brian [sic] stories and his crusade. Enough al- Ellner, a founding member of Athlete Ally, ready. Actually, way too much.” a nonprofit organization that raises aware- With gains for LGBT Americans hap- ness about homophobia in sports. “This pening almost routinely, one can see how is a piece of history, folks could be suf- an important point “Collins and Michael fering “gay fatigue” on the continuum or shrug off an toward justice, and Sam will be role models openly gay player a moment to cel- for gay kids.” entering the macho- ebrate.” centric culture of or- Others disagree. ganized sports. But For some reason, they don’t recognize the that would be misguided. significance of this landmark that frequent- Yes, there have been some victories on ly draws analogies to Jackie Robinson’s the marriage front, but we’re on a treadmill breaking the color barrier in 1947 with an- on other matters. Pressure had to be ap- other Brooklyn team. plied to Arizona Governor Jan Brewer (the When I posted a complaint on Face- one who once disrespectfully poked her book that the local TV sports reports failed finger at President Obama) to veto an atro- to mention this breakthrough that night, I cious bill that would have codified discrimi- received this perplexing response: “Why nation against gays and lesbians based on is someone’s sexuality an issue any- nebulous religious reasons. As obnoxious more?” That individual, who is a straight, as that is a D.C. lobbyist is seeking Con- supportive friend of mine, was probably gressional legislation to ban gay players thinking of what should be rather that from the NFL. what reality is. The Republican-controlled House of Another opined that the signing was Representatives continues to hold up a merely a “publicity stunt” in an effort for the Senate-approved bill to end discrimination NBA to beat the NFL for bragging rights of against LGBT folks in employment. Bully- being the first league to have an openly ing against gay youth in schools and in cy- gay player. In addition, TV time was too berspace persists. Globally, we’re witness- “precious” to include the story especially ing the horrific laws enacted in Russia and BALTIMORE OUTLOUD march 7, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 7 Thinking OUTloud

enforcement professionals, and yes, even REAL TRANS TALK: Deliberate Progress hairdressers. Are there some sex workers out there? Yes there are but my take is that trans By Vann Michael der community leaders of faith. Ms. Jaci persons represent so much more than that. I am sure that some people are elated to Adams, a trans woman of color who served Rational We are real people (remember that Leto’s see increased coverage in mainstream as the Philadelphia Police Liaison, volun- T-hought Rayon is a fictional character), doing real media of trans issues and trans people. teered with the AIDS Law Project, and was Sharon Brackett jobs, with real families and friends. Progression on social and political fronts the first person to receive the OutProud I am going to cite two examples of how are welcomed, however communities of Transgender Award. Mr. Marcelle Cook- trans women have likely directly touched color must be intentionally focused and Daniels was a father, dedicated partner, as your life. For a moment I am going to pre- clear about their needs being met. In order well as a trans masculine person who was sume that you have some kind of electronics for a community to own and exercise their dedicated to creating awareness. His work Representation in your possession. A computer, laptop, pad, voice, a specific process is required to re- with Colage and the Transgender Aging phone, or any other modern device, like your discover, recover, re-shape, and develop Network remains invaluable. I am writing this post the morning after TV, will count in the exercise. You owe a debt new voices in the context of their own ex- At a time when “social media” did not the Academy Awards where Jared Leto of thanks to a trans woman for all of those periences. won for best supporting male actor… for things. You see, she developed and invented There’s a long playing a trans woman. I have to say I am the underlying technology in those devices history of movers dismayed at this development. Right now – very large scale integration (VLSI), which and shakers that there are probably a hundred blogs or so- allowed complex integrated circuits to be de- emerged from these cial media threads running on “how great veloped. She literally wrote the book on this communities and that is” to “how could this happen?” I’m not technology. Lynn Conway, who transitioned should be highlighted going to rehash their arguments other than in the late 1960s, is a pioneer on par with so that people may to say this portrait of a drug-addicted hook- Edison or Tesla and is largely responsible for discover the plight of er seems to be the only popular role for the technology we enjoy today as part of our the community then any trans character in film or television. It everyday world. Share that knowledge with and compare notes really is down to others somebody you know to the current condi- writing and presenting “Lynn Conway, who today. tions. A recovery pro- the trans community My second exam- cess is also needed as they see us and is transitioned in the late ple is Martine Rothblatt. to heal, guide, and done so in a manner 1960s, is a pioneer on If you use satellite ra- focus the task of that objectifies and dio in any capacity you shaping and reshap- thus allows us to be par with Edison or can thank Martine for ing concerns and Jaci Adams Bobbie Jean Baker dehumanized. We are that. She started Sirius talking points. This “those” people. And I Tesla and is largely Satellite Radio in 1990 method will bridge am thinking it is time responsible for the along with a number of generational gaps, creating a bond and exist, these men and women were able we start to own that other satellite broad- unity for trans women and men. Specifi- to make a difference in their community, discussion. technology we enjoy casting companies cally, new leaders will formulate their own borne from a natural desire to make a Are there trans around that same time. thoughts around their trans identity within change and live their lives fully. Minister drug addicts? Yes today as part of our For many of us that a culturally affirming framework. This will Baker, Ms. Adams, and Mr. Cook-Daniels there are. Are all trans everyday world. Share would be enough of a prepare members to work with mainstream also understood the importance of owning persons addicts? Not success but not in her organizations and coalitions with the ability their voice, and not allowing local politics by a long shot. Don’t that knowledge with case. In the late 1990s to confidently exercise their personal voice or mainstream sentiments to redirect their most trans people en- one of her children was and speak to first-hand histories of trans actions. This is evident by the legacy they gage in sex work? No. somebody you know diagnosed with life- people of color. left behind. There are some who today.” threatening pulmonary In celebration of Black History Month Trans people of color must be vigilant do, but most do not. hypertension disease. and trans people of color forerunners, Real concerning media and its power to empow- If I had asked those She was told there Trans Talk would like to highlight Minister er and/or disenfranchise. Using the foun- questions of any other minority you might was no cure. In response she pivoted and Bobbie Jean Baker, Ms. Jaci Adams, and dation laid by ancestors who were trans in be offended. The problem we have is of im- reeducated herself in the life-sciences and Marcelle Cook-Daniels. Minister Baker, conjunction with media outlets this margin- age. And that, in part, is of our own doing by started another company to find a cure for her from Oakland, Cali- alized group can create a distinct not being out. The notion that our value in the daughter. Today that company, United Thera- fornia, impacted the voice, organize, and mobilize its world is actually as a burden or parasite for peutics, occupies several blocks of downtown faith-based commu- members. Remaining aware of the rest of you to bear seems to be the norm. Silver Spring, Maryland. And yes, she found nity with her dynamic media pitfalls is critical. One that The reality is otherwise. Trans persons do the cure. service. She worked is easy to overlook is a feeling participate in all levels and aspects of society. If we are going to seek icons or examples diligently with the of complacency. Television may And we have many such persons who have for trans persons why can we not use ex- community around is- give the feeling that things are contributed greatly to the lives of all of us on amples like these women? Either story would sues of domestic vio- okay because the mainstream the planet. You just are unaware that they do. make for compelling entertainment for the lence and HIV. Plus appears to be interested and I personally know trans doctors, lawyers, public. Yes, they are not tawdry or titillating one of her greatest “listening.” If these communities pilots, engineers, software developers, IT and stories that fit a preconceived notion of trans feats was singing in recognize their role and impact database administrators, filmmakers, musi- women put forward by Hollywood. But unlike the first transgender choir, Transcendence on society, then they will know to become cians, business executives, social workers, Leto’s rendition they are real people, leading Gospel Choir. Minister Baker was also intentionally strategic and skilled at using government workers, authors, professors, real lives and representing our community very involved with Trans Saints, an online the media and will not allowing the media graphic artists, teachers, firefighters, law- with excellence. t community designed to network transgen- to use them for ratings. t 8 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD March 7, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com Thinking OUTloud

“Who the provider or protector is?” This requires a little more explanation. In most lesbian relationships (and hetero relation- ships of the 21st century), both partners Lesbian are equal, neither one has to answer to Taboo the other, nor does one control the other Nicole Bettis and responsibilities are usually shared. Furthermore, I think that when we (society) get into specifics about, who’s considered the man or who’s considered the woman in But, Who a relationship based on personality traits and dress, I feel like we’re moving away Wears the from lesbianism and more towards trans- genderism. Pants? For so many years women have longed for and fought for equality. We wanted to Being an “out” lesbian, I get more than my be regarded as more than just homemak- share of amusing questions about my sex- ers. We wanted to erase the line that kept uality and private life. People find all types us in the kitchen and out of the workplace. of creative ways to inquire about my rela- We wanted rid of the woman’s role of tionship dynamics, sex-life, and anything simple mother and wife. So why then is it else that they can poke their noses into. still necessary to have a man’s role? Col- During most of these unintended conver- lectively we seem to want desperately to sations (on my behalf anyway), one ques- move forward and do away with unfair, un- tion that always seems to arise is: “Who just notions that deny some people; while wears the pants in your relationship?” subconsciously, holding tightly onto out- In my opinion, “Who wears the pants dated, irrational, immoral notions that deny in the relationship” is just a fancy way of others. asking, “Who is considered the man in the Even though, there is no man in lesbian relationship?” At first, I figured that the an- relationships, I would be silly not to agree swer to this question was pretty simple. that there are some women who are clear- Bobbie Jean Baker There is no man. Then I realized that not ly a bit more dominant looking than other only was that painfully obvious, but it also women. In this instance her attributes and never seemed to quite satisfy the person preferences usually don’t extend much asking. further than the bedroom and sometimes, After taking some time to really ana- even there, they go unnoticed. lyze the question, I think I figured out why However, every so often (because of my simple, clear-cut answer was never preconceived “gender roles” in my opin- good enough. It only answered the ques- ion) a more dominate-looking woman has tion on a very basic and literal level. I to remind her lady that it is not her job to guess part of the reason for that was my shovel the snow or take out the trash; just ever-shrinking tolerance for people’s igno- as some more feminine-looking woman rance and my eagerness to for those types have to do the same regarding cooking the of conversations to be over. meals and doing all of the housework. It seems like on a deeper level the Ellen DeGeneres said it best, “Asking question asks, “Who’s the boss or the con- which one of us is the man is like asking troller of the relationship?” or maybe even, which chopstick is the fork.” t

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which is to listen and gather information. Save your ideas for another conversation, ple truth – you really ought to prepare a will. The but don’t repeatedly try to convince them A will allows you to say who will inherit Labor to take your advice if they are resistant. If from you. Dying without one would be like of you do so, you will become frustrated, and The Law hiking without a map. You might get where your loved one may perceive you as nag- & You you want to be, but you might wind up hope- Love ging, annoying, and unhelpful. Lee Carpenter lessly lost instead. This is especially true for Douglas Chay Resistance: Although in many caring members of the LGBT community. interpersonal relationships, the primary An unmarried partner, or anyone who symptoms characterizing depression are Where there’s a is not a spouse or blood relation, would be Helping a readily apparent, in others, the depressed effectively disinherited. Even couples who individual may be so good at hiding their are legally married often want to include emotions that the signs can be difficult to Will there’s people other than each other in their estate Depressed read. Your loved one may not feel safe plans – the family friend who has seen them sharing certain feelings with anyone, not a Way through thick and thin, the favorite niece or Loved One just you. nephew, the charity that supports LGBT Reasons for resistance: Sometimes Here’s a suggestion: Why not have the causes. The second of a two-part series. your loved one won’t reach out to you state of Maryland plan your funeral? Your Through your will, you can also make Clinical depression is often influenced by, (or allow you in) because they’re afraid loved ones could gather in a state-run fu- provisions beyond saying who gets what. but not limited to, genetics (brain chemis- they’ll scare you off, believing you may not neral chapel under the hum of fluorescent For example, who should settle your es- try), the type and quantity of life stressors, be able to handle their pain or that it will lights. Amid plastic chrysanthemums and tate? You might prefer to have your clos- personality type, and quality of one’s social cause you pain, resulting in more feelings piped-in organ music, you would be eulo- est friend, rather than your closest relative, support system. It affects women, men, of guilt and depression for themselves, gized by a state employee who had nev- take on the job. If you have minor children, and children, although its expression can and perceived unnecessary worry for you. er met you. With little to go on, he could who should their guardians be? Should they have some unique characteristics amongst They may have the sense that they need to speak favorably of your diligence in pay- receive their inheritance through a trust? If those three groups. protect you from them. ing your taxes and avoiding incarceration. so, who should serve as trustee? People often feel helpless in wanting to Then, there is the ever-present stigma Then your remains would be conveyed to Some of these questions may be diffi- help their loved one because they either associated with mental health problems, a public cemetery and interred beneath a cult to consider. They include the what ifs don’t know what to do, or they find what which comes in many different forms. marker bearing the identifier by which the and the worst-case scenarios we would they are doing is ineffective. The following One is the belief that the individual – who state knows you best – your Social Security rather not think about. But these questions is a list of some approaches and general views themselves as a strong, indepen- number. will be much easier to factors to be aware of in various stages dent, competent person, and has proof in How does that “The task of preparing contemplate in the light of offering help. Keep in mind everyone is most areas of their life – should be able sound? The scenario a will may be easy to of day, when heads unique and not all of these will apply in ev- to solve all of their problems on their own. may have a certain are clear and emotions ery case. Admitting that one has perceived weak- kitsch appeal, but most put off, but it’s also calm, rather than after Learn: Ask “What can I do?” and re- ness, along with distorted beliefs about of us would prefer a crisis erupts, when it quest clarification if there is something you their meaning, can become tantamount to something a bit more easy to take on.” may simply be too late. don’t understand. It can be difficult for peo- a depressed individual experiencing a full personal. Fortunately, Preparing a will is ple to ask for help in their best moments, frontal assault on their self-esteem, a hu- the state won’t plan your funeral, even if also an opportunity to consider other es- much less when depressed, so make sure miliating acknowledgement that they are you fail to do so. But if you die without a sential matters. You should probably have you respond with positivity and encourage- inherently defective, further reinforced by will, it will plan your estate, and the results a financial Power of Attorney and Advance ment. Don’t take it personally if they reject the lifelong messages they have received can be just as regrettable. Medical Directive prepared to enable some- your help, appear irritated, or answer, “I from the culture of their families, religion, For many of us in the LGBT community, one you trust to manage your finances or don’t know.” They aren’t necessarily un- geographic norms, and media influences. the people closest to us aren’t necessar- medical care if you become unable to. As- willing to answer, but they may be unable. Resolve resistance: If your loved one ily related by blood or marriage, although sets like life insurance and retirement ac- During periods of deep depression, is at first unwilling to receive treatment, they may be. But rather than considering counts, which generally name a beneficiary, people sometimes disconnect from their (traditionally from a psychotherapist for how long you and your partner have been can be coordinated to work in tandem with emotions. If they are unaware of their feel- talk therapy and/or a psychiatrist for medi- together, or the fact that your ex is really your will. And the estate plans of couples ings, they can’t tell you what would make cation), make sure they know that you are your closest friend, the state will distribute with more significant assets can be set up them feel better. If this happens, offer available for them whenever they want your assets by looking to your family tree. to help minimize estate taxes. some options; they may be better able to to talk. If you yourself or a friend or fam- For example, if you are single and have The task of preparing a will may be easy answer a multiple-choice question than an ily member has suffered from depression, no children, your assets would go to your to put off, but it’s also easy to take on. A open ended one. normalize their experience by sharing your parents. If you are legally married and do quick phone call to an estate-planning at- Depressed persons can go into over- story. If they know you won’t judge them, have children, the first $15,000 of your es- torney is all it takes to get started. In the load, becoming unable to process what they may see you as the ally that you are. tate would go to your spouse, and the rest course of two appointments – one to plan feels like too much information coming at Often your support along with their own would be split between your spouse and the your estate and one to execute the docu- them, and this can have a snowball effect. desire to feel better will be enough to get kids. Or if you are married without children, ments – you can trump Maryland’s “default” If they shut down, stop, come back another them to seek help. $15,000 would go to your spouse and the estate plan with one tailored to your prefer- time and try again. This process takes pa- Listen: A significant part of your role is remainder would be divided between your ences. t tience and self-monitoring. to simply be there and listen. If they share spouse and your parents. Lee Carpenter (410-576-4729 or lcar- Put aside your ego: If they tell you feelings or thoughts that make you uncom- How does that sound? Maryland’s “de- [email protected]) is an associate at ways you can help that you think aren’t fortable, don’t change the subject. It’s not fault” estate plan may be exactly what you the law firm Semmes, Bowen, & Semmes. very good, you may have the urge to blurt uncommon among severely depressed want. But if it isn’t, even its potential kitsch This article provides general info, not spe- out some of your “better” ideas. Don’t. Not individuals to have fleeting thoughts of appeal won’t be enough to overcome a sim- cific legal advice. yet. Remind yourself of the task at hand, suicide. Research has consistently shown 10 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD March 7, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com THINKING OUTLOUD $34 billion in wages. Imagine the impact that Millennials Leaving Religion Give America extra purchasing power would have on busi- nesses and communities across Maryland Because of Anti-gay Policies a Raise: and America. The federal minimum wage of $7.25 is simply too low. There isn’t a state in by Jeffrey L. Clouser vealed my true self. This is why, as many of my Boost America’s our nation where someone making minimum The Huffington Post recently featured a survey friends did, I wandered away from the church. wage could afford decent housing without by the Public Religion Research Institute that Why subject yourself to a group that doesn’t Economy for All federal or other subsidies or support. found that nearly one-third of millennials who truly have a place for you? There is certainly Some have parsed recent reports to ar- left the faith they grew up with reported that enough anti-gay sentiment in everyday life, gue that raising the minimum wage would it was “negative teachings” or “negative treat- why willingly accept it on Sundays as well? By Sen. Ben Cardin harm our economy. The truth is that increas- ment related to gays and lesbians that played Thankfully, I didn’t give up and times they America shouldn’t need a minimum wage. ing the federal minimum wage will help an significant role in them leaving organized are a changing. Just as my gay friends have Employers should recognize the value of stimulate local economies as more families religion. Specifically, 17 percent of millennials, left anti-gay churches, it’s encouraging to see their workers and pay a true living wage close to the poverty line will be able to spend or adults between 18 and 33, said negativity that our straight counterparts are doing the that allows the men and women who work more on food, housing, and basic necessi- around LGBT issues in religion was “some- same. Only when people stand up and refuse for them to afford decent housing, put ties. By raising the minimum wage we are what important” to their departure, while 14 to be a part of a discriminatory congregation food on the table, and afford other neces- giving more Marylanders the chance to raise percent said it was a “very important” factor. will real change take place. Of course, it will sities for their families. There will always themselves out of poverty, contribute to their A majority of Americans, 58 percent, also said take time for those in power to reverse their be some jobs that pay more than others, local communities’ economies, and provide that religious groups are “alienating” young anti-gay policies, but my hope is that as more based on job function, skills required, ex- more economic security for their later lives. adults by being too judgmental on gay and les- and more people demand a loving church perience, education, and training required, There is a strong contingent of business- bian issues. Among millennials, that percent- and congregation, rather than one that spouts among other factors, but no one who works es, including major national chains like Cost- age jumped to 70. hatred for any minority, things will begin to a 40-hour week should be living in poverty co and Old Navy that understand that rais- While the survey doesn’t surprise me, it change. and struggling to sup- ing the minimum wage certainly is encouraging. Growing up gay in I’m proud to work for and be a part of Met- port their family. “There is a strong paid to their workers the church was always a bit of a challenge. ropolitan Memorial United Methodist Church Unfortunately, there supports their bottom While I attended church with my family, as a in Washington, D.C. (Nationalchurch.org). are enough bad actors contingent of line and their employ- closeted teen I knew I wasn’t truly a part of the While the United Methodist Church as a de- out there who churn ees. Small businesses community. Just as I would begin to feel com- nomination has a ways to go, it’s encourag- through workers in businesses that see the benefits too. I fortable and accepted as part of the group, ing to see my congregation on the front lines such a way that require understand that recently visited British someone would pass around an anti-gay peti- fighting for what’s right and helping those who state and federal mini- American Auto Care in tion that would yet again remind me that I was have been alienated by the “church” to find a mum wage levels to raising the minimum Columbia, where Pres- an outsider. I wouldn’t be truly welcomed if I re- new home. t keep them in check. ident Brian England I’m proud of our wage paid to their explained his support leaders in Annapolis for workers supports their for raising the mini- that there is less danger of suicide attempts your help but are capable of doing more moving forward to raise mum wage: from individuals who talk about them than for themselves. If they have become reli- the state minimum bottom line and their “As a business from those that keep them inside. ant on you managing their daily lives they wage to $10.10 by owner, I’ve always be- If you’re very concerned, you might ask may have less motivation to take over the 2016, even as gridlock employees.” lieved that taking care your loved one to join you for a treatment tasks that they are capable of. Therefore, stalls federal action of my employees is session, at which time you could relay your it is important for you to identify the signs on a similar measure. essential for delivering concerns to the provider. Unless there is of depression resolving, not withdraw, More than 450,000 Marylanders and their good quality service, and one of the ways imminent threat of death, the treatment and encourage them to slowly do more families are depending on its passage. to do that is to pay a fair wage. When em- provider cannot share any information with for themselves. But unless you see them Let’s be clear about who this impacts. Pre- ployees feel like they are being treated fairly, you, but they can listen. If your loved one through the window doing jumping jacks dominantly, we aren’t talking about high they perform better. It’s just makes good shares a specific plan of suicide that they while singing the “Star Spangled Banner,” schoolers. The minimum wage dispropor- business sense. Plus, it’s good for the lo- intend to carry out, they need to be taken this isn’t the time for “tough love,” e.g. tionately affects women and minority work- cal economy. At the current minimum wage to the emergency room immediately. withdrawing completely. ers. These are adults, predominantly in their level of $7.25 an hour, people are making Make it easy: If your loved one is se- If doing this sounds difficult on a num- 30s; many have children to support. less than $300 for a 40-hour work week. verely depressed, they are going to need ber of levels, you’re right. Helping your Maryland has one of the country’s high- Their spending power is extremely limited. help with daily tasks. If they are forgetful, loved one in this way means you need to est cost of living standards and raising the They aren’t making enough to support local keep track of their therapy and doctors ap- be mindful of your own needs, limitations, minimum wage allows more of our residents businesses. We have to raise the minimum pointments. If their appetite is poor and and emotions. Most of all make sure you to get a little closer to making ends meet. If wage. We should have done it a long time you don’t see pre-made, ready-to-eat food do not absorb their pain. Empathizing the legislature passes Governor O’Malley’s ago.” in the refrigerator, cook or buy it for them. while maintaining the separateness of your legislation, Maryland would join the District Brian came to this country decades ago Easily accessible foods are more likely to own emotional being is a difficult but nec- of Columbia, and 21 other states that would seeking the American Dream for himself be eaten than food that requires effort to essary task. Remember to reach out for have a higher minimum wage than the fed- and his family. Today, the American Dream assemble. Take the trash out and do the help yourself and utilize your loved one’s eral minimum wage. is on life-support for too many hard-working laundry. It won’t necessarily occur to them social support system to work as a team in Nationwide, according to the Economic Americans who play by the rules but are that emails, voicemails, and physical mail helping your loved one and each other. t Policy Institute, nearly 16.4 million Ameri- still living on the edge of poverty. It’s just is piling up and bills are due. Help them in Douglas Chay (dchay@pridecounsel- cans would be directly affected by an in- not right. An increase in the minimum wage sorting through this maze. ing.net) specializes in LGBT-focused coun- crease in the federal minimum wage and is long overdue. Maryland isn’t waiting on Enabling vs. helping: When your seling and practices in the Pride Counseling another 8.5 million would be indirectly af- the federal government to get this done, but loved one’s depression starts to resolve Center in Ellicott City, Maryland (410-744- fected. 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Grief is a normal response to any form we run from these feelings of loss the more divine sense of fortification and guidance. of loss and everyone’s coping mechanism is we isolate ourselves, making the pain more The Bible tells us in Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust different; people respond and react to grief monumental than it really is. Grief is inevita- in the Lord with all of our heart and do not A based upon their faith or lack of, life experi- bly something that we have to go through. rely on your own insight. In all of your ways ences, and our personality plays a great part We cannot go around, above, or under it, we (even in loss) acknowledge God, and God Spiritual of how we counter grief. must face loss and embrace healing. will make straight your paths.” View Although many Psychologists and other I remember going through my own sense As you embrace your healing, allow Rev. Victoria Burson medical professionals do not associate grief of grief when I my parents, only sister, two God to enter into your heart; for God’s love and depression together, they do realize that brothers, died within years of each other. Be- is unfailing and promises that those who prolonged grief can lead to or mimic clinical fore I can fully recover from one loss, here mourn will be comforted. Facing Loss – depression for many of their symptoms are came yet another. I recall one of my friends No matter what may come your way, similar: ‘sadness, anger, fear, and for some saying to me, “You should be over this by just know that you can stand if you truly put Embracing physical symptoms of fatigue, nausea, low- now.” Really! Although those words were your life in God’s hand. t ered immunity, weight loss or gain, aches and hurtful and misplaced, I did realize in that Healing pain, and insomnia (Center for grief).’ very moment, that the only way I was going Psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross sug- to get through it was with the help of God. We mourn the loss of Arian L. Cowan a.k.a. gests that there are five stages of grief: ‘De- God had become my refuge and for- Ada Buffet (Drag Queen stage name), a civ- nial – this cannot be happening to me, Anger tress. I was able to face loss and embrace Westminster- ic trailblazer, and a loving spirit. Although – Why is this happening, who can I blame?, my own sense of healing. I begin to focus many of us did not know Ada personally, Bargaining – Please make this stop… and I even more on God’s Word; for God’s Word Carroll County her spirit permeates through our neighbor- will…, Depression – I am too sad and upset to never returns back to us empty but accom- Chapter ing communities. It is never easy to get do anything, Acceptance – I am at peace with plishes the very thing that God promised. through seasons of loss; for with bereave- what happened.’ She further suggests if we Let me suggest The Divisions of Psalms ment comes deep rooted grief for many of are feeling these kinds of emotions following as it is a source of recovery i.e. Psalm 91: us. Losing a loved one or something dear a loss, our actions are natural. 1-2 “You who live in the shelter of the Most Parents, Families, and Friends to us is always agonizing. There are vari- Grief of any kind takes time. Can I fur- High, who abide in the shadow of the al- of Lesbians and Gays ant levels of loss: for some it is the loss of ther suggest that the healing process – don’t mighty. Will say to the Lord, My refuge and a relationship or divorce, financial stability, rush it, it is not an overnight success. Many my fortress: my God in whom I trust...” www.pflagwcc.org child, home, job/business, physical health of us try to push our emotions aside rather This is a Psalm of comfort and trust in a MovinG EquaLity Forward and the list goes on. The weightier the loss than dealing with them. Running from them time of despair or danger – a new kind of Call us at 410-861-0488 the more intensifying the grief becomes. will not allow the pain to disappear. The more confidence in God. The psalmist offers a A NEW YEAR, A NEW ERA Metropolitan Community Church of Baltimore 401 West Monument Street Baltimore, Maryland 21201 www.mccbaltimore.org Phone: 410-669-6222 (410-NOW-MCCB) MCC Reverend Victoria Burson METROPOLITAN COMMUNITY CHURCHES Service: Sunday 10:00 a.m.

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Virtuoso Acting on Display in The Dresser of a 1942 theater in the English provinces. Most of the scenes take place in Sir’s dress- By Steve Charing upstaged, the one-time great actor is often through. Veteran director Derek Goldman is ing room, which is brought out on stage via It’s not surprising that stellar actors Bruce R. tyrannical and hardly ever satisfied with the blessed with a highly skilled cast and crew a turntable to the audience’s left side. Nelson and Carl Schurr would click so well other actors’ performances. to maximize this story of loyalty, dedication, Unfortunately, that positioning put the in The Dresser, a well-balanced dramatic The weary Sir is preparing to don his love, and the human spirit and guides the Everyman audience seated on the right side and humorous play, which is currently on triple crown in King Lear for the 227th time, production with a steady hand. of the theater at a slight disadvantage. The stage at the Everyman Theatre. They have yet he is challenged to remember which play Bruce R. Nelson, as he so often does, center of the stage is used for the actors to a long string of theatrical successes under he is performing in, much less his opening pulls out all the stops, employing varied walk to and from the dressing room’s door their belts with Mr. Nelson, a local favor- lines. Norman, his rock for 16 years – doting voice inflections, mannerisms, body lan- and later during the King Lear play-within- ite, capturing a Helen Hayes Award among after Sir, boosting his confidence, adjusting guage, and gestures in the role of Norman. a-play. other honors. These Everyman resident his costumes and make-up, massaging him His comic timing is also spot-on as he deliv- Nonetheless, the dressing room set was company members formed an extraordinary and otherwise caring for him as if he were ers one witty retort after another. Norman’s so detailed and complete one would think duo and gave what some could rightly call his lover – convinces Sir to perform one devotion to his master Sir is the foundation that it was Sir’s flat. In a way it is surpris- for his performance that included a display ing that the room contained such accou- of jealousy during a fiery confrontation with trements as bookshelves, a stove, photo- Irene (Emily Vere Nicoll), the youngest ac- graphs, and an assortment of knick-knacks tor in the troupe, who allowed Sir to have a along with the standard desk and sofa given physical encounter with her. that this is a touring company – not one that Carl Schurr, as the once great but ailing took up a more long-term residence. One Sir, is riveting. Moving ploddingly, speaking indication that this room is a temporary set- softly until his authoritative persona needs ting: the open trunk at the side of the sofa. to come through, Mr. Schurr convincingly Regardless, the set is splendidly designed takes on Sir’s complex character. He also and serves as a great backdrop to where delivers a number of amusing lines – even most of the dialogue takes place. some with gallows humor about the war and Sound designer Chad Marsh also ex- sickness – bringing the audience to laugh- cels. The booming sounds from bombs and ter. air raid sirens made the theater vibrate, Together, Mr. Nelson and Mr. Schurr lending stark reality to what is transpiring form an impressive acting duo whereby outside. When cast members were using each action, gesture, and spoken word is thunder sheets, drums, and other devices blended in perfect harmony. Deborah Ha- to depict a storm scene in King Lear, they zlett’s performance as Her Ladyship is also had to beat these instruments even harder proficient in allowing the audience to believe to drown out the sounds of bombs – a chill- that Norman is more able to reach Sir than ing effect. she could at this stage of their relationship. The creative team as a whole backs up The other actors Megan Anderson as a solid cast. With The Dresser, one is sure Madge, Emily Vere Nicoll as Irene, Will Love to enjoy a potent story with sufficient op- From left: Bruce R. Nelson, Carl Schurr and Deborah Hazlett portunities to chuckle and to witness a pair credit: ClintonBPhotography as Geoffrey Thornton, James Whalen as Mr. Oxenby, and the remainder of the ensem- of sterling actors working brilliantly at their an acting clinic as the two leads in Ronald more time. He not only had to struggle to ble, James Bunzli, Will Cooke, Benjamin craft. t Harwood’s play. persuade Sir who is sensing his own mor- Lovell, and Frank Tesoro Vince provided the The Dresser (140 minutes, with an inter- The Dresser opened on London’s West tality, but did so over the objections of Her leads with strong support. mission) runs through March 23 at the Ev- End in 1980 and then in 1981 on Broadway, Ladyship and Madge, the stage manager James Fouchard was meticulous in de- eryman Theatre, 315 East Fayette Street, where it ran for 200 performances. It was (Megan Anderson). They want him to forego signing the set, with its stage lighting fixtures Baltimore. For tickets call 410-752-2208 or made into a movie in 1983. Harwood’s work this performance and retire altogether. and high brick walls to depict the backstage visit Everymantheatre.org. was inspired by his own personal experi- But Norman, whose own existence is ence as a dresser to Shakespearean actor- tied to Sir’s career and becomes a powerful manager Sir Donald Wolfit. ButThe Dresser force when this relationship is challenged, is neither autobiographical nor biographical. prevails. You see, Sir needs Norman but not It’s the story of an ageing British Shake- quite as much as Norman needs Sir in this TYRE’S REPAIR spearian actor-manager, Sir, (Schurr) symbiotic relationship. Sir is Norman’s life – Quality Workmanship whose faculties have been steadily dete- dutifully serving the dominating Sir between AUTO riorating. Sir’s lifeline besides his wife, Her nips of brandy. 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AN INTERVIEW WITH FACING FEAR DIRECTOR JASON COHEN vant today as they were 34 years ago when family member or something trivial com- the attack happened so I knew there was pared to Matthew and Tim’s situation, it has Gregg Shapiro: I want to begin by an audience who could connect to that and caused me to reexamine my relationships. Fear Factor congratulating you on your Oscar nomi- that there was an opportunity to use the In the end, forgiveness is a part of human nation for Facing Fear. What does the film as an educational tool, particularly for nature and affects us all whether we realize By Gregg Shapiro nomination mean to you? the younger generation. We have taken the it or not. We aren’t preaching forgiveness as Facing Fear is a gay-themed Oscar-nom- Jason Cohen: For us, the nomination film to schools and plan to do more of that the answer for everyone, because it’s not, inated documentary short about fear and is extremely gratifying and it means we will with a big educational distribution paired but we hope people will at least look at how forgiveness. Director Jason Cohen, who be able to achieve our original goal with this with a study guide about bullying, hate, and it plays into their own lives. is straight, presents the true story of Mat- film which is getting it out to the widest au- forgiveness. GS: Short features often lead to lon- thew Boger and Tim Zaal, and the fateful dience as possible. GS: Did you expect the unlikely ger features. Is there a feature-length night they met in the 1980s. Matthew, who GS: Tim Zaal and Matthew Boger’s friendship that develops between Mat- version of Facing Fear in the works? had been thrown out of his house for be- story has been told on 20/20, NPR, and thew and Tim, for example the way that JC: There is not at this time. While it ing gay, was living on the street with other other places. What was it about their Tim was there for Matthew when his part- could have been longer and delved into story that made you want ner was dying of brain cancer, to occur? other elements of their lives, we feel like to tell it in your way? JC: I honestly don’t know if I could ever we told a story that conveys the main JC: There had been do what Matthew has done in forgiving Tim. themes we hope to get out. some other media done on It’s extraordinary that they are confidants GS: Have you started working on or them but most of it never today. That being said, I do know that Tim thinking about your next film project? really got beyond the attack is a completely different person than he JC: Facing Fear was actually part of a in the alley and explored was and their story is a testament to the much bigger project that I was working on what the forgiveness pro- power of transformation. with the Fetzer Institute, a non-profit that cess was really like for GS: Facing Fear is ultimately a jour- promotes awareness of love and forgive- them. It tended to sensa- ney of finding forgiveness and peace. ness around the world. We shot five short tionalize what happened Did what happens in the movie help you films and the other four make up a feature in the alley. We wanted find peace and forgiveness in your life film calledFour Women, One World that we to dig deeper and show as well? will soon be releasing. The film highlights what they had been going JC: I don’t think I would say it helped four women infusing love, compassion through since coming back me find peace and forgiveness, but it cer- and forgiveness into their worlds. We shot tainly forced me to consider it more in my in India, Uganda, Haiti, Afghanistan, Italy, into each other’s lives and t what led them to how they life. Whether it’s a dispute with a friend or Spain, and the U.S. handled the situation. GS: Do you identify as a member of the LGBT community? NOW JC: No. I am straight. Although I don’t feel like PLAYING! that hindered me in the production of this film. In fact, I think I probably was more objective in my ap- proach as a result. GS: Has Facing Fear been shown at LGBT film fests, and if so, what was the response? JC: We premiered at Outfest in Los Angeles and Tony-award winning it was special and emotion- al for everyone involved. musical and The premiere was actu- regional premiere! homeless teens, hustling to survive. Tim ally blocks from where the attack actually ran with a skinhead crowd, espousing their took place and we got such a positive re- You’d be foolish to miss it! neo-Nazi doctrine. Tim and his gang nearly sponse from the audience and the commu- beat Matthew to death (Tim thought they nity. There were just so many people who had) one night in an L.A. alley. Years later, unfortunately could relate to some of what after Matthew survived his life-threatening Matthew had been through. TOBY’S DINNER THEATRE OF COLUMBIA injuries, and Tim had left his homophobic GS: Violence against the LGBT com- 5900 Symphony Woods Road • CALL 410-730-8311 and racist ways behind to become a family munity continues with gay bashings on man, the two met again in an unlikely set- the rises in major metropolitan areas. Based on availability. Due to the nature of theatre bookings, all shows, ting and formed one of the most unusual What role do you see Facing Fear play- dates and times are subject to change. friendships to ever occur. I spoke with Co- ing in that capacity? hen in February 2014, shortly before the JC: When I decided to make the film I TobysDinnerTheatre.com Din w Academy Awards. knew that bullying and hate were as rele- ner & Sho RESERVE YOUR SEATS TODAY!

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mother discovers Andrew’s personal gay had a crush on Jesus and “allowing” the Southern Baptist Sissies stash, things go rapidly downhill and the Baptists to fuck him up, Mark is a survivor, By Gregg Shapiro tunate events, act as an unofficial Greek first tragedy occurs. Benny who embraced taking the God-is-love message to heart “A film of the theatrical experience,” chorus, either commenting on the action his identity early at bible camp, keeps in and waking up daily with hope. Strongly Southern Baptist Sissies (Beard Collins or relating their own sordid tales. Peanut the loop with Mark through Mark’s column recommended, Southern Baptist Sissies Shores Productions) might feel like a bit of and Annette Odette’s scenes are a potent in a gay publication. Meanwhile, TJ, who will make you cry (Annette Odette’s con- a letdown after the Sordid Lives movie and blend of laugh-out-loud comedy and tear- desperately tried to wash away his attrac- fession is one example) and laugh so hard subsequent TV series. But the strength of jerking tragedy, like those involving the tion to men, and Mark do get to have a fi- that you’ll cry (practically anything Peanut t Del Shores’s writing and the performances sissies, which is something that speaks to nal confrontation. And, in spite of having says). of the talented cast go a long way in con- Shores’s flair for dialogue. vincing the viewer to overlook the limita- Southern Baptist Sissies provides the tions of the stagey presentation. details of the young sissies’ formative Honoring the piece’s theatrical roots, years as well as glimpses of them as adults Non-Stop: a Fun, but Silly, Whodunit Southern Baptist Sissies is presented in (at least those who survived). Benny, who By Chuck Duncan question her loyalties instead of focusing two acts. In the first, amidst the fire and was the most at ease with his sexuality, I hate flying. Well, not so much the flying on who the real culprit may be. brimstone pews of the Calvary Baptist is now a drag performer known as Iona but the taking off and landing. So I have Of course there are other possible (non) Church in Dallas, we meet Mark (Emer- Traylor. TJ, however, the most devout of something in common with Liam Neeson’s suspects like the Muslim doctor who is pub- son Collins), who functions as the narra- the bunch, became a fanatical preacher in character in the new thriller Non-Stop. In lic enemy number one in the eyes of the tor. Fellow sissies at the church include adulthood. That doesn’t erase his intimate the film, Neeson plays Bill Marks, an al- hot-headed New York cop (who also uses his best friend Andrew (Matthew Scott relationship with Mark, nor Mark’s feel- coholic, depressed air marshal who may a gay slur, “fairy,” to describe his brother), Montgomery), his crush TJ (Luke Strat- ings for him. But in the dramatic conclu- or may not be having a beef with his em- and there are clearly passengers who are te-McClure), and Benny (Willam Belli, of sion to the first act, it becomes clear that ployer. The similarities between the char- never made out to be suspects but may RuPaul’s Drag Race renown), described while Mark is ready to embrace who he is, acter and myself ended at “afraid to fly.” Of have something to do with the extortion as “the biggest sissie of all.” According to TJ (who obviously has strong feelings for course, that fear of flying makes air mar- and murder plot. Unlike a train or a boat, Mark, it is in this church that they “learned Mark) can’t discard his faith. shal not such a good career choice and it’s hard for people to disappear for long to hate themselves.” The second act also incorporates both Marks seems to be at the end of his rope stretches to make the viewer truly ques- Across the stage, in a gay-bar set- comedic and dramatic situations. Gay re- when he’s about to board another flight. tion what those characters are up to, so the ting, Peanut, a.k.a. Preston (the inimitable alization comes to Andrew who admits to Marks sits next to Jen Summers (Juli- writers have to rely on the sudden out-of- Leslie Jordan), and Annette Odette (Dale masturbating to pictures of N*Sync, but anne Moore), a seasoned flyer who helps character behavior to throw you off. Except Dickey), who has had a series of unfor- he struggles with being gay. When his put him at ease during takeoff, and when that ploy just doesn’t work. they’re safely in the air, Marks starts getting The method of murder is clever if a bit texts on his secure line with threats to start far-fetched, and a briefcase bomb late in killing passengers every 20 minutes unless the plot is really unnecessary and makes Season Opener $150 million is wired to a specific account. for a rather silly disaster movie moment Mainstage Turns out the account is in Marks’s name, that anyone who knows anything about June 13, 14, 20, 21, 26, 27, 28 at 8pm and he suddenly becomes the prime sus- planes will find utterly ridiculous. I still June 15, 22, 29 at 3pm pect in the eyes of the Feds. Could Marks gripped the arms of my seat though (I know really be the culprit? Could it be Jen, or nothing about planes) and needed a nerve the flight attendant Marks is friendly with, pill afterwards. Cabaret or perhaps one of the other red herrings I know the mainstream critics are go- June 14, 20, 21, 27, 28 at 8pm we’re introduced ing to have a field June 15, 22, 29 at 3pm to at the begin- day eviscerating ning of the film? Non-Stop, but I Non-Stop think it should Mainstage is basically an be an audience July 18, 19, 25, 26, 31 August 1, 2 at 8pm Agatha Chris- pleaser. (My July 20, 27, August 3 at 3pm tie mystery that screening audi- takes place on ence clapped Cabaret an airplane in- when the plane stead of a train landed.) Direc- July 19, 25, 26 August 1, 2 at 8pm or a steamer heading up the Nile. And tor Jaume Collet-Serra handled some big July 20, 27, August 3 at 3pm without the all-star cast. But it’s still a nifty action scenes in another Neeson-starring little whodunit if you can get past some of thriller that I enjoyed, Unknown, and even Court Jesters Young People’s Theatre the clichéd behavior exhibited by some of with the confined space of an airplane cab- July 11 & 18 at 7pm the passengers, which is just a lazy way in, he can still deliver the goods (includ- to make you suspect those who are not ing a bit of hand-to-hand combat between July 12, 13, 19, 20 at 1pm suspects, like Jen. Marks puts his trust Neeson and another passenger inside a July 15, 16, 17 at 11am in her because she was asleep when the lavatory). The murder mystery part of the texts started, and she helped him identify film is fun as you try to guess who is tex- people who were texting at the same time ting Marks, and disaster movie fans get a he was trying to find the texter. Then all of little action at the end as well. Non-Stop is a sudden, she starts acting weird and dis- not great, but it’s good enough for a couple tant for no reason, and rather unconvinc- of hours of mindless entertainment if you Cockpit in Court Summer Theatre ingly, just so Marks and the audience will have nothing better to do. t 16 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD March 7, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com l ively arts

“This year’s performance will be dedicated to family knows. $3 cover charge; $5 after 10 p.m. Doors open Ada,” Rik Newton-Treadway told the paper. A memorial / celebration-of-life will be 9 p.m. and the party runs till 2 a.m. Ada also provided many other performers held on March 23rd at The Quest Bar, Bal- Friday, March 28, Battle of the Queens. with the opportunities to raise money for their timore from 4 to 8 p.m. Please join us to re- It’s Faceoff – The Final Round: The Hun- Drag local charities by hosting shows. member Ada. ger Games, with DJ Dan Toomey. $3 cover Stage She will be missed, she was loved are Ada neither you nor your work will ever charge; $5 after 10 p.m. Doors open 9 p.m. some of the statements I keep hearing from be forgotten and will be continued by your and things go strong till 2 a.m. Ada Buffet so many who knew her. This statement holds friends and family. RIP my friend. The Hippo, Sunday, March 9, Miss Hippo true by the turn-out At The Lodge this 2014. Doors open at 6 p.m. and the pageant last Friday, March 1 at “Ada could be found Friday Night DJ Mi- starts at 6:30 p.m. For tables call 443-926- Remembering Leon’s where a bene- chael Brandon and 2678. fit was held to help the anywhere from in Alondra Sancheez At PW’s Sport Bar, this month’s Drag Char- Ada Buffet family pay for medi- front of the curtain Host Latin Fever! Top ity Bingo is to benefit the Lupus foundation of cal expenses. They 40, House, Latin pop, America. Get there early for a good seat! $20 by Mary Taylor raised $1,200. hosting and performing Latin House, Salsa, to play all night! Special guest performance It is with sad regret this will be the last Drag The family of Adri- and Reggaeton, plus from Rocky,Like and it’s allUs hosted On by the beautiful Stage column in Baltimore OUTloud. On Fri- an wants to from the to behind the stage a show by the Latin Regina Jozet Adams. See you then! day February 28 we lost a friend, co-worker, bottom of their hearts, keeping the show queen and her girls! March Facebook!15 – Benefit show to send Anas- and wonderful supporter of the community. thank the communi- Doors open at 9 p.m. tasia Amor to MGMDA Pageant. Show time Adrian L. Cowan (but most knew him as Ada ties here and far for going.” Tomorrow night is 10 p.m. For more information call 301- t Buffet) passed away surrounded by family the love and outpour- Saturday, March 8, 498-4840. and the thoughts and prayers of all who knew ing of support. The Mardi Gras 2014, The him. He was 37. family of Adrian wants to thank you from the After Party with DJ Keith Hoffman. Biggest A beloved member of Baltimore’s LGBT bottom of their hearts, thank the communities “balls” contest hosted by Jr. at 11:45 p.m.; community, Ada could be found anywhere here and far for the love and outpouring of check out the bar prizes. Specials: $3 house from in front of the curtain hosting and per- support. Thanks to your generosity we have Long Islands, or taste the rainbow $3 vodka forming to behind the stage keeping the show been able to finalize all outstanding costs. If fruit-flavored refreshers: Fruit Punch, Orange, going. In the past four years you could find you feel the need to donate please do so to Island Punch, Kiwi, or Blue Berry. Free hur- Ada running the Lady Lisa stage at Pride. A your favorite charity in Ada’s name. No more ricane refresher to all wearing boas feathers, big job for anyone to do and she did it well. benefits have been scheduled as far as the masks, and beads with cover; before 11 p.m.

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on a glass of La Petite Perriere Sauvignon Colonial Blanc (France). The wine menu contains a fine but limited selection of domestic and in- Delight ternational white and red wines, and there’s a beer menu as well, filled with many domestic John Steven, Ltd offerings, including from local Maryland brew- 1800 Thames Street, Baltimore eries. Over a glass of wine, my boyfriend and 410-327-5561 I caught up on the day’s events. However, Johnstevenstavern.com most of our entertainment came from listening to the business dinner table. Their conversa- By Richard Finger tion did overpower the small room, but did not Walking through the streets of historic Fell’s interfere with our evening. Point on a brisk weeknight, my boyfriend and Joseph returned to tell us about the eve- I decided to grab dinner at John Steven, Ltd. ning’s specials and to take our dinner order. It is located at the intersection of Five Points We decided to sample the Old Bay chicken (Thames, South Ann, and Fell Streets) along wings ($8.95) as an appetizer. The wings the waterfront. can also be or- Once inside, we dered hot, Caro- felt as if we had lina BBQ, sweet stepped back in Thai chili, or Ca- time a few cen- jun, served with turies, as the tav- either ranch or ern looked and bleu cheese on felt Colonial. the side. The We were es- portion was cer- corted through tainly enough for the bar to a cozy two people. They dining room, were a little on with only seven the dry side, but tables, two of full of Old Bay which have views Big portions and attention to detail flavor, which for of the cobble- me, was most im- stone street. The lighting was dim, creating portant. Other options on the starter menu in- Create Your Perfect Day a quiet and lovely ambience. Adding to the clude seafood delicacies such as, crab cakes vibe of yesteryear, the bottom half of the walls ($12.95), calamari ($8.95), P.E.I. mussels are covered in wainscoting and the upper half ($10.95), scallops ($13.95), crab dip ($11.95), filled with paintings of sailboats and other and crab nachos ($10.95). nautical vessels. On this particular evening, For an entrée, I selected the sesame-en- besides my boyfriend and I, there were two crusted tuna ($17.95), an eight-oun e portion occupied tables, one of which was a table of of ahi tuna lightly dusted with sesame seeds business associates speaking passionately and composed with a zesty Asian reduction, about the economy and politics. For a mo- served with rice pilaf and a vegetable du jour. ment, I imagined the same scene, but instead The tuna was certainly fresh and tasty and I lhirondelle.com of 21st century suits, I saw men in white wigs cleaned my plate. The rice and vegetables and soldier attire, beer mugs in hand. were the perfect complement to balance the Back to 2014, Joseph, our server, brought fish’s piquancy. Additional entrees on the L’ Hirondelle Club of Ruxton us menus and took our drink order. I decided —continued on page 23 7611 L’Hirondelle Club Road Ruxton, MD 21204 410.825.2400

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By Woody Derricks coverage for an employee’s same-sex The More you to grow and develop professionally. This So you’re a same-sex couple who can now spouse and included the value of that Know About can sometimes be a costly investment, marry in your state (or marry in a state other coverage in the employee’s gross in- sometimes not, but the outcome is that than your home state – where allowed). come, can the employee file an amend- Business employees will feel the organization cares That’s great! What they don’t tell you ed Form 1040 reflecting the employee’s Richard Finger for them, thus yielding the desired result when you get your marriage license and status as a married individual to recover of engagement. If a clear vision has been walk down the aisle is that your financial federal income tax paid on the value of laid out, good leaders will then identify the picture will change. In many ways, you’ll the health coverage of the employee’s skills and abilities required to attain this vi- see things become simplified and more spouse? Yes, for all years for which the Does your sion. The question of “Do we develop ex- beneficial. In other ways, some of your period of limitations for filing a claim for re- isting employees or buy new talent?” will finances may become more complex and fund is open. Generally, a taxpayer may file Business need need to be answered. This process is con- you may wind up paying more for things – a claim for refund for three years from the sidered strategic workforce planning, and such as your taxes. date the return was filed or two years from a Check-up? desirable organizations are proactively In its Revenue Ruling 2013-17, the the date the tax was paid, whichever doing it. Developing employees’ skills and IRS declared that all gender-spe- is later. If an employer provided abilities in a thoughtful, strategic manner cific wording in the tax code be health coverage for an employ- Recently, I’ve been thinking a lot about creates a mutually beneficial relationship changed to gender neutral so ee’s same-sex spouse, the employee engagement and commitment. between the employer and employee. Cre- that it would include all mar- employee may claim a refund Both are important and should be checked ate a good and achievable development ried couples. What the ruling of income taxes paid on the regularly. Secondly, both are key drivers to plan for each employee, and be sure to fol- also clarified is that if you are value of coverage that would productivity and retention. Business own- low up on progress regularly. married in a jurisdiction that have been excluded from ers and leaders should be thinking about allows for same-sex marriage income had the employee’s the work environment they are creating to Praise be to good works! (in this country or in a foreign spouse been recognized as the foster these in a positive way. Lastly, recognition for a job well done country), you may file your employee’s legal spouse for It’s likely true that most employees are is, for most people, a great motivator. federal income taxes as tax purposes. This claim for only modestly committed to their organiza- Good leaders should be demonstrating a a married couple. This is a refund generally would be tions. This m¡eans that even fewer have passion to succeed and to inspire others regardless of whether or made through the filing of an strong commitment, while others may be to do the same. Celebrating successes not your home state recognizes amended Form 1040. (See the site actively opposed to the organization. I de- and milestone achievements is often over- your marriage. Which is awesome! for examples) fine commitment as “the emotional attach- looked and forgotten because of the grind Some questions that may come up as 5) If a sole proprietor employs his ment an employee feels towards the orga- of daily work. Keep in mind that a one-size- a result of your change in tax status per or her same-sex spouse in his or her nization.” Does the employee feel a strong fits-all approach to recognition may not be the IRS site: business, can the sole proprietor get a connection to the success of the organiza- suitable. Every employee is different. A 1) Can a tax payer’s same-sex spouse refund of Social Security, Medicare and tion? Does the employee feel a sense of good manager will take steps to learn what be a dependent of the taxpayer?No. A FUTA taxes on the wages that the sole loyalty to the organization? motivates each individual. Pay raises are taxpayer’s spouse cannot be a dependent proprietor paid to the same-sex spouse Employer actions can influence en- not guaranteed to yield greater job sat- of the taxpayer. as an employee in the business? Ser- gagement and commitment in many ways. isfaction. As it relates to engagement, it 2) Can a same-sex spouse file using vices performed by an employee in the em- Some key levers include communication, is widely known in the human-resources head of household filing status? A tax- ploy of his or her spouse are excluded from career development, and recognition. community that employees do not leave payer who is married cannot file using head the definition of employment for purposes There are many other influencers, but I jobs, they leave poor managers. of household filing status. However, a mar- of the Federal Unemployment Tax Act will focus on these components for the A great way to begin assessment of the ried taxpayer may be considered unmar- (FUTA). Therefore, for all years for which purpose of this article. Employee com- health of your organization’s engagement ried and may use the head-of-household the period of limitations is open, the sole munication is a very general subject. If and commitment is to simply ask simple filing status if the taxpayer lives apart from proprietor can claim a refund of the FUTA employers are not communicating a clear questions, such as: “Are you proud to work his or her spouse for the last six months tax paid on the compensation that the sole vision for the organization, employees are for X?”, “How do you feel about what is go- of the taxable year and provides more than proprietor paid his or her same-sex spouse left with a feeling of accomplishing tasks ing on right now in the company (or depart- half the cost of maintaining a household as an employee in the business. Services without purpose. Breaking this concept ment)? What are your biggest concerns? that is the principal place of abode of the of a spouse are excluded from Social Se- down to a further level, once a clear vi- What questions do your family and friends taxpayer’s dependent child for more than curity and Medicare taxes only if the servic- sion is identified, understood, and bought ask you about our company?” There are half of the year. See Publication 501 for es are not in the course of the employer’s into, employees need clarity about what is many other possibilities, but the point is to more details. trade or business, or if it is domestic ser- t expected of them. One of my colleagues get the conversation started. The war for 3) If a taxpayer adopts the child of vice in a private home of the employer. used to say, “You have to inspect what talent is fierce and competitive. If the re- his or her same-sex spouse as a second The information used in this article was you expect.” Taking the theme of commu- sults are concerning and “needs improve- parent or co-parent, may the taxpayer taken from Irs.gov/uac/Answers-to-Fre- nications from another perspective, em- ment,” take appropriate steps to improve (“adopting parent”) claim the adop- quently-Asked-Questions-for-Same-Sex- ployers need to be careful they are com- upon the identified problematic areas, tion credit for the qualifying adoption Married-Couples. See that site and your municating with authenticity, honesty, and within reason, and this should help ward expenses he or she pays or incurs to CPA for answers to additional questions. openly. It is perfectly okay to tell employ- off external recruiters seeking your talent. adopt the child? No. The adopting parent Offered for informational purposes, not ees everything you know and be honest The war for talent is fierce and competitive. may not claim an adoption credit. A tax- meant as specific advice. with explaining what you don’t. This takes If you do not look after your talent properly, payer may not claim an adoption credit for Woody Derricks is a certified financial plenty of courage, but will pay dividends someone else will. t expenses incurred in adopting the child of planner and an accredited domestic part- with employees. Building an atmosphere Richard Finger is president of Fresh the taxpayer’s spouse (section 23). nership advisor. Reach him at 410-732- of trust is essential to gain commitment. HR Consulting (410-599-3173)... and 4) If an employer provided health 2633. For the most part, employees want moonlights as our restaurant reviewer! 22 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD March 7, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com REAL ESTATE In-House Listing

Colonial Delight was a store that sold nautical parts, gear, and – continued from page 21 other commodities to sea-bound vessels. Af- ter learning this, the paintings on the walls and menu include options for seafood and non- the seafood-infused menu now make a lot of seafood lovers, crab cakes ($26.95), local sense to me. For local Baltimore residents and rockfish ($21.95), scallops ($25.95), New York visitors to Fell’s Point who are interested in strip ($19.95), filet mignon ($14.95), chicken history and fine food, I positively recommend Chesapeake ($23.95), and a fresh catch of the a visit to John Steven, Ltd. I am certain when day. the winter doldrums will be just a memory, and Upon researching the history of John Ste- the summer is sizzling, Fell’s Point will be very “FABULOUS CONTEMPORARY HOME WITH CENTER COURTYARD ven, Ltd. on their website I have discovered busy. Step out of the hustle and bustle and vis- that the restaurant was established in 1911, it this calm and inviting restaurant. It will be just DESIGN AND AMAZING DECKING” however, prior to it being a restaurant, it was the right place to chill out with good company, 188 McKINLEY DRIVE, YORK, PA 17403 t a chandler, butcher, and grocery. A “chandler” a fine drink, and first-rate food. 5 ACRE SECLUDED WOODED ESTATE 4-5 BEDROOMS / 3 FULL BATHS Life and Small Business Coach DALLASTOWN SCHOOL DISTRICT / YORK TOWNSHIP LESS THAN 5 MINUTES FROM I-83 Ava Barron-Shasho, MSW LISTED AT $639,900 The Power of Change is in Your Hands JGR REALTORS • Fluent in ASL Coal Infantino and RonR Rhodes • Sessions provided Face to Face, [email protected] or [email protected] Skype, FaceTime or Relay 717-676-5545 717-578-7821 1499 South Queen St. York, PA 17403 Phone: 410-356-0796 www.jgr.com www.avabarronshasho.com Proud to serve the LGBT Community

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BALTIMORE OUTLOUD march 7, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 23 vania, where every second Saturday of the month is Bear & Leather Night. Doors open at 8 p.m. You can enjoy a whole weekend of leather brotherhood at some big events Leather coming soon. I’ve already told you about Line the great time that I had at Mid-Atlantic Rodney Burger Leather Weekend in D.C. in January and I know I mentioned how much I was really looking forward to the SECC (Southeast Conference of Clubs) Leather Weekend Looking for in Orlando, Florida, starting on February 14. The leather weekend events are al- Leather? ways a great time with all the cocktail par- ties, dances, contests, etc. In fact, I had hoped to write this whole column about The Baltimore Eagle opened in April, 1991 SECC and the Mr. and Ms. SECC Leather and closed in December, 2012. It was a 2014 Contest. I made my plans to be there real gathering placed for the area’s leather months ago. Well, I didn’t plan on the snow folks and hosted countless bar nights and storm and flight cancellations. Sorry to contests. The walls of the bar were cov- say my President’s Day Weekend was not ered with photographs and posters docu- spent with hot men in warm weather. It was menting the leather community. Leather spent shoveling snow in the cold at home. clubs’ colors past and present hung from I hear that the SECC Weekend at the Par- the ceiling. It introduced many local people liament Resort was lots of fun. Congratu- to the leather community and was a great lations to Mr. SECC Leather 2014 Sir Dre place to meet other folks who were in- Onyx and Ms. SECC Leather 2014 Roscoe volved in the leather community. The Balti- McCoy. I look forward to meeting them Four Mr. Maryland Leather Titleholders at Quest more Eagle, however, was not the leather soon. I was so disappointed to miss out on community. It was a bar. The bar may have SECC Weekend this year. To cheer myself closed and it may or may not reopen this up I made my reservations for Bears, Bik- year – but the leather community lives on. ers, and Mayhem coming up at the end of everything is included! It is really a value. urday evening. Leather folks will be coming People are still asking me, “What is the March! If you can’t wait until the end of March from all over to help the ShipMates toast leather community doing without the Balti- On the weekend of March 14-16 the for a leather weekend, try the Mid-Atlantic their big anniversary. Forty years is a signifi- more Eagle?” We are doing plenty! Long Island Ravens, M.C., will host their Leather Family Weekend on March 21-23 cant milestone and the ShipMates invite you For starters, the Baltimore Eagle is not 22nd Anniversary Weekend up on Long at the Empress Hotel in Asbury Park, New to help them celebrate! the only bar in the area. On Friday, March Island, New York. There will be a Master- Jersey. This is the former Chesapeake Also on the weekend of April 11-13 is the 7, starting at 9 p.m. it is Levi, Leather, and Slave-Puppy Auction at Nuts & Bolts, a Leather Awareness Pride (CLAP) that Leather Leadership Conference in Philadel- Bear Night at the Club Hippo in Baltimore. Leather Gala Ball at the beautiful West was held in Baltimore in the past. Hooker phia. A whole weekend of educational semi- On Saturday, March 15 Mid-Atlantic Leath- Lake Inn, and more. Go to Liravensmc. & boys have moved their popular leather nars is planned as well as a large display of erboy boy Quinton will be hosting a Bar org for all the details. It is not too late for event to the beautiful Jersey Shore. The the Carter / Johnson Leather Library at the Night / Cigar Social at The Loft (upstairs you to join me at for the 4th annual Bears, weekend will include the Mid-Atlantic Leath- William Way Center. Details can be found at at Grand Central) starting at 9 p.m. There Bikers, & Mayhem Weekend. This year’s erSIR / Leatherboy / Leather Woman, and Leatherleadership.org. will be Jell-O shots and a 50/50 raffle with event is going to be even bigger with the Mid-Atlantic Community Bootblack Contest Coming up on April 24-27 is Cleveland proceeds to ben- addition of the Mr. emceed by Baltimore’s own Queen of Com- Leather Awareness Weekend (CLAW). efit Brother Help Mayhem Leather edy Shawnna Alexander and Mr. New Jer- Cleveland is a little bit of a distance from Thyself (BHT) 2014 Contest. sey Leather 2012 Danny Tamez. Plus there Baltimore but CLAW is well worth the drive. and the soon to The host hotel is will also be a victory party, a bar crawl, and In fact the last time I went I bought so many be selected Mid- the Eisenhower much more. Go to HookerandBoys.org for items at the large leather mart that I was Atlantic Leath- Inn in nearby Get- all the details or check them out on Face- glad I drove and didn’t fly. The Sheraton erboy 2014. The tysburg, Pennsyl- book. Cleveland Airport Hotel is the host hotel and ShipMates Club, vania – so I don’t Coming up right here in Baltimore on is already full, but there are overflow hotels Maryland’s first leather/Levi social club, have to worry about my flight being can- April 11-13 is the ShipMates’ 40th Anni- available. This is a really big weekend with will be hosting a bar night at Leon’s / Tri- celled! There is a full weekend of events versary Weekend. The Wyndham Peabody a huge schedule of events, including many, ple L on Saturday, March 22 starting at 9 planned. The ShipMates Club of Baltimore Court Hotel in Mt. Vernon is the host hotel. many cocktail parties, dances, and educa- p.m. (The ShipMates held a bar night at will be hosting a poolside cocktail party There will be a Leather Ball at Grand Cen- tional classes. CLAW also includes a bar The Quest on Saturday, February 22, and on Saturday afternoon – and yes, it is an tral on Friday evening and a Leather & Fe- crawl, the International Leather Family Din- it was lots of fun. There were even four indoor pool. There will also be a leather tish Dance at the Club Hippo on Saturday ner, and so much more. The last time I was Mr. Maryland Leather titleholders in atten- vender mart and the Friday night Leather night. Also on Saturday evening a formal at CLAW I even worked in a tour of the Rock dance!) Just up I-83 in York, Pennsylvania & Fetish Dance at the hotel. On Saturday leather dinner will be held at McCormick & and Roll Hall of Fame. If you’re looking for there is a beautiful new club – Lux – lo- evening the fun moves to Altland’s Ranch Schmick’s at the Inner Harbor. Plus there leather you will find lots of it at CLAW! cated at 1327 North Duke Street. Every for a dinner, the contest, and the popular will be lots of cocktail parties at the host These are just a few of the leather events first Saturday of the month is Fun, Fur, & Boots & Briefs Dance Party. On Sunday hotel. Those not attending the full weekend going on in March and April. There are many Fetish Night. There is a $5 cover with drink there is a brunch back at the hotel. The may still buy tickets for just the dinner or my more bar nights and functions coming soon specials and free food. Also near York is great thing about these leather weekends join the fun by stopping in at Grand Central to our area. 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