Fostering Vital Friends Meetings Part Two: Resources for Working with Quaker Meetings Compiled by Jan Greene and Marty Walton resources for working with quaker meetings section name—r1—i Published by Friends General Conference © 1999 by Friends General Conference Text may be freely reproduced with credit. Design and composition by David Budmen ISBN: 1-888305-10-X The cost of this publication is being subsidized by the generous donation of a Friend from Northern Yearly Meeting. For further information about this publication and other Quaker resources, please contact: Friends General Conference 1216 Arch Street, 2B Philadelphia, PA 19107 E-mail: [email protected] http://www.quaker.org/fgc r1—ii—title of section foster- ing vital friends meetings Table of Contents Introduction to Resources ix Section R1: Field Work as Ministry R1–1 Preparation for Traveling in the Ministry Bill Taber R1–2 The Use of Queries in One’s Work Meryl Reis Louis R1–3 When You Find Yourself in Charge Without a Plan Paul Schobernd R1–5 Not Only Do We Struggle with a Dependence upon Things, We Struggle with a Dependence upon Activity Bruce Bishop R1–7 Time and Ministry Nadine Hoover R1–10 Queries on Our Work in Ministry NEYM/NYYM Pastors’ Retreat Section R2: Concerns of Ministry and Counsel R2–1 Strengthening Our Meetings as Caring Communities Arlene Kelly R2–5 Inner Work Marty Grundy R2–7 Spiritual Friendships Liz Yeats R2–8 Covenant Groups Carole Treadway and Liz Yeats R2–9 Processing Leading Through Friends’ Community Structures Rosa Packard R2–10 What Monthly Meetings Can Do and Teach Friends to Do in Support of Leadings and Peacemaking Efforts Rosa Packard R2–11 Clearness Committees, Committees of Care, and Committees of Oversight Canadian YM R2–15 Clearness Committees and Their Use in Personal Discernment Jan Hoffman R2–17 Responding to Calls to Ministry Central Philadelphia MM R2–21 Support Groups Mary Lou Leavitt R2–24 What is Ministry? Virginia Schurman R2–25 The Ministry of Pastoral Care Arlene Kelly R2–28 Tips on Eldering Leanna Goerlich and Carol Holmes R2–28 Queries on Eldering Bill Warters R2–29 Setting Limits Gospel Order Sub-Committee, NYYM R2–30 Signals and Actions Gospel Order Sub-Committee, NYYM R2–33 Friends and Conflict Jan Greene R2–35 Sense of the Meeting, Sense of the Parking Lot Jan Greene R2–36 Compassionate Use of Information Portland (ME) Meeting, NEYM R2–37 Addressing Conflict Ad Hoc Committee to Address Conflict, NYYM R2–40 The Steps Involved in Following Gospel Order Steven Davidson R2–41 Strife in the Meeting Outreach Committee, NPYM R2–42 Confrontation Bruce Bishop R2–43 Workshop: Meeting Problem-Solving Process Jan Greene R2–44 Workshop: Identifying Your Meeting’s Conflict Norms and Sanctions Jan Greene R2–45 Meeting for Reconciliation Steven Davidson table of contents iii R2–47 A Guide for Conducting the Meeting for Reconciliation Steven Davidson R2–51 Suggestions for Leading a Worship Sharing Group Shirley Dodson R2–53 Spiritual Assessment Guidelines Marcia A. Schnorr R2–55 Towards a Gathered Friends Community Leanna Goerlich Section R3: Quakers and the Shadow Side R3–1 Quakers and the Inner Dark Jo Farrow R3–8 The Shadow: A Definition Rita Varley R3–9 Merciful Jesus Anne Thomas R3–11 Policy on Sexual Harassment Canadian YM Personnel Committee R3–13 Dealing with a Child Abuser in the Meeting Community Rochester (NY) MM R3–19 The Agony and the Ecstasy Richard Foster R3–21 Workshop: Beginning to Explore Violence Anne Thomas Section R4: Friends and Leadership R4–1 Our Long Night of Preparation: Leadership Among Unprogrammed Friends in North America Anne Thomas R4–4 The Dilemmas of Organizational Leadership in the Religious Society of Friends Bruce Birchard Section R5: The Ministry of Visitation R5–1 Report of a Visitation Preparation Weekend NYYM Ministry and Counsel R5–5 Travel Procedure for Members of the Religious Education Committee FGC Religious Education Committee Section R6: Advancement and Outreach R6–1 Twentieth Century Organizations Founded by Friends Sally Rickerman R6–5 Friends for 300 Years: It’s a Good Life! Max L. Carter R6–9 There is Still a Great People to Be Gathered: A Collection of Thoughts about Outreach Jan Greene R6–11 Evangelism: A Four-Letter Word? Jan Greene R6–12 Annual Monthly Meeting A and O Checklist 1977 Outreach Conference R6–13 Notes for the Guidance of Speakers at Quaker Home Service Enquirers Weekend Harvey Gillman R6–17 Workshop on Outreach Anne Thomas R6–19 When a Worship Group Wishes to Become a New Monthly Meeting Marshall Massey R6–21 Questions and Guidelines for Becoming a Monthly Meeting Mountain View (CO) MM Section R7: Membership R7–1 One Meeting’s Process for Setting Membership Procedures Tallahassee (FL) MM R7–2 Membership Minute R7–3 Guidance to Clearness Committees for Membership R7–4 Cleaness Queries for Membership R7–5 Membership Procedures Chapel Hill (NC) MM R7–7 Membership Questions and Queries iv— fostering vital friends meetings part two—A Publication of Friends General Conference Section R8: Religious Diversity R8–1 Renewing the Covenant: Can Our Branches Be Olive Branches? Douglas Gwyn R8–4 Silence and Preaching Janey O’Shea R8–5 A Quaker Theology? Kenneth Lawton R8–7 Workshop: The Boundaries of Quakerism Janey O’Shea R8–8 The Unity of Paradoxical Quaker Extremes Bill Taber R8–9 Paradoxical Understandings to Hold in Creative Tension Frances Irene Taber R8–11 Workshop: Community in Diversity Jan Greene R8–12 Discussion Questions on Unity and Diversity “Who We Are” R8–12 Discussion Starter on Quaker Tradition Anne Thomas R8–13 The Divided Inheritance Leonard S. Kenworthy R8–14 Where Is the Hope for the Future of Quakerism? Elizabeth Claggett-Borne Section R9: Overcoming Racism and Bias R9–1 A Call for Racial Justice among Friends Paul Ricketts R9–3 The View from Here: Friends and Racism Joan Broadfield R9–5 Our Role as Individuals in America’s Racial History: Atlanta Meeting Looks at Racism Bert Skellie and Adelaide Solomon-Jordan R9–7 How to Facilitate Frank Discussions of Hard Issues by Diverse Participants Future Leaders, Future Changes Program R9–9 Resources for Working on Racism and Bias (various) R9–11 Anti Bias and Anti Racism Programs Joan Broadfield R9–13 Inclusivity Race and Class: What Are the Quaker Barriers? Joan Broadfield and Bill Frysinger R9–14 Queries from Young Friends at FGC Gathering 1997 Section R10: Friends Look at the Bible R10-1 Workshops on Children and the Bible Anne Thomas R10-3 Getting Adults Excited about the Hebrew Scriptures R10-5 Selected Stories from the Hebrew Scriptures R10-7 Bible Study: Luke 5:17–26 (Handout) R10-9 Adults Teaching the New Testament to Children R10-13 When a Child Asks for a Bible R10-15 Biblical Readiness Joanne Spears R10-17 Friendly Bible Study Method Joanne Spears R10-21 Swords into Plowshares: A Bible Study Ruth Kinsey R10-23 The Good, the Bad, the Uncomfortable Book Adam Corson-Finnerty R10-24 A Bible Study Method FGC Religious Education Committee Section R11: Quaker Process R11-1 The Purpose of Meetings for Worship and for Business Paul Lacey R11-1 On Meeting for Business Bill Taber R11-2 Patient Waiting Douglas Bishop and Bonnie Deutsch R11-3 Absent Friends and the Quaker Process Phil Oliver R11-5 Some Thoughts on Quaker Process Paul Lacey table of contents v R11-6 Queries on the Meeting for Business San Francisco (CA) MM R11-7 A Nominating Committee Process Eleanor Warnock R11-8 Guidelines for Preparing a Committee Report Margallen Fichter R11-9 Workshop on Clerking Anne Thomas R11-11 Handout: Notes on Clerking R11-13 Handout: Minutes: Getting Then into Friends Hands R11-17 Workshop: A Consideration of Our Quaker Business Process Jan Greene Section R12: Stewardship R12-1 About Yearly Meeting Finances and Related Matters Ad Hoc Committee on the Financial Health of New England YM R12-7 Some Thoughts on Money and Stewardship RE Committee, Phila. YM R12-8 Discussion Starter: Helping a Meeting Consider Finances Jan Greene Section R13: Working with Groups R13-1 Guidelines for Small Group Facilitators Steve Smith R13-2 Needs Present in Groups Patsy Hayes Myers and Edward Myers Hayes R13-3 Group Dynamics and Games Leadership Patsy Hayes Myers and Edward Myers Hayes R13-5 The Nitty-Gritty Conference Planning Checklist Philadelphia YM Section R14: Young Friends R14-1 Some Thoughts on Teaching Teenagers Luther Conant R14-5 Queries on Relating with Youth Betsey Kenworthy R14-7 Organizing Programs for Quaker Teenagers Marsha Holliday R14-17 Some Observations and Suggestions Regarding the Status of Young Friends Doris Blossom R14-19 Betrayed by the Quaker Community Bruce Yarnall R14-21 How Quakers Can Regain Their Youth Anthony Manousos R14-23 A Beginning Proposal for Seventh Day Schools Anne Thomas R14-26 Notes about Working with Young Friends Jan Greene R14-27 Preventing Burnout Lissa Field R14-29 Healing the Teenager Within Judith Randall R14-32 Needs of Young Friends Cynthia Taylor R14-32 Being a “Significant Other Adult” in the Life of a Young Friend Jan Greene R14-33 A Young Friends’ Guide to Worship Sharing Phila. YM Young Friends R14-35 Setting Priorities for Meeting Support of Quaker Youth Sandy Parker Section R15: Workshops, Programs and Activities R15-1 Nurturing the Spiritual Life of Friends Jan Greene R15-5 Meeting Renewal Jan Greene R15-7 Some Characteristics of Vital Friends Meetings Leonard S. Kenworthy R15-9 “Envisioning Our Future” Workshop Buffalo (NY) MM R15-10 Observing Our Meeting (source unknown) R15-10 On Membership Nancy Middleton R15-10 How Do We Express Our Faith to Others? Adam