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o Montrose Activity Center :;;; :c- he h(f NEW S L· E T T E R h, •r- P' ~ ~ L~ ad IJaeI ~o e~~ he ~th 5- February ·1990 Issue ·18 ve / The Montrose Activity Center is a non profit 501c3 organization whose purposes are to increase understanding of social, racial and sexual minorities, and to en- he courage acceptance and tolerance of alternative lifestyles so that together the citizens of the City of Houston and the State of Texas may work in the spirit of peaceful lis cooperation to build a better society. The organization acts as an umbrella to other organizations. MAC, PO Box 66684, Houston, TX 77266-6684. g CG mlY IIL e ~ lIDfimllID !HIfi~ !P)mllIDfie ~ 1IJlIDficd!

from Newsweek ing old perceptions much faster than the In July the New York State Court of Montrose Activity Center 2 & 10 by Jean Seligmann courts are. But in many parts of the country Appeals ruled that a gay man whose long- Lesbian/Gay Pride 3 ~ What's in a family? A mommy, a daddy, lawmakers are now finally catching up and term lover had died qualified as family. The June 15-241990 a couple of kids and maybe a grandma, validating the legitimacy of the non-tradi- survivor was therefore entitled to assume Calendar of Events 5-6-7 right? Well, yes, but that's not the whole tional family. the lease of his partner:s ~ent-controll~ The Dating Game 9 " pictui:eanymore. The family tree of Ameri- Several landmark legal developments . M~attan ap~ent. S~mIlar state legis- It is important to establish a sense of can society is sending forth a variety of new this year greatly expanded the definition of lation and municipal ordmances are under being able to share and enjoy things to- and fast-growing branches. Gay and lesbian what constitutes a family. In May, San consideration nationwide. Legislators, gether. Work on developing a sense of couples (with or without children) and Francisco's Board of Supervisors passed judges and elected officials in Michigan, trust in .the first few meetings t?gether unmarried heterosexual couples are now "domestic partnership" legislation recog- Wisconsin, Washington, Maryland and the and notice whether you both enjoy and . . ... ft" respect each other. commonplace. What's surprising is not so nizing homosexual and unmarried hetero- District of Columbia are forgmg e torts to much that these offshoots of the main trunk sexual couples as families. The ordinance, reach an all-inclusive understanding of GLAAD Report 10 f il As Houston GLAAD searched the are flourishing but that the public seems which was put on the ballot for a November am y. .. , station'spublicfileforsympatheticpro- more and more willing to recognize them as referendum, defines domestic partners as Some experts thmk it s no longer pos- tests by others, evidence that KLOL ig- families. Earlier this year the Massachu- "two people who have chosen to share one sible to define the family. "Family has nored the surrounding community carne setts Mutual Life Insurance Co. asked 1,200 another's lives in an intimate and commit- become a fluid concept," says Arthur Le- tolight. Not onetime was anythingdone randomly selected adults to define the word ted relationship of mutual caring." The onard, professor of law at New York Law to ~ire~tly benefit a gay or lesbian or- Oth .. d . garuzation. "family." Only 22 percent picked the legal- law's intent was to extend to qualifying Scoo.h 1 ers fear recogmzmg omesuc '. istic definition: "A group of people related - domestic partners some of the benefits partnerships will undermine the sanctity of . Gay dancm~ at Dls~eyland 11 by blood, marriage or adoption." Almost accorded married heterosexuals. Health theheterosexualnuclearfamily reducingit I am very disturbed WIthst~te~ents I . . ' hear from gay men who feel fighting for three quarters instead chose a much broader benefits, property and life insurance, be- to a ,:"ere abstraction. But m, fact ,:"ost the right to dance is silly or that gay men and more emotional description: "A group reavement leave, and annuity and pension Amencanhouseholdstodaydon tconsistof should not attend male strip shows at of people who love and care for each other." rights are all under consideration. [The the "traditional" family (a mother and father mainstream nightclubs; that we should As usual, the American people are chang- referendum lost by a narrow margin.] see Gay/Lesbian Couples page 9 only be "gay" at gay businesses. Montrose Activity Center NEW S LET T E R Page: 2 February 1990 Fel Montrose Activity Cen ter annual board retreat Dec. 16-17 seve] Sunday - 12/17/89 - meeting called to sheltered group and such request be for- Team Houston will be getting a desk and danq] phone in the GLPC office. There was brief order at 9:39 AM with the full board in warded to the Sheltering Committee to Dis attendance. It began with a review of the consider the request. Annise seconded and diSCUSSIonof MAC doing the same sort of . ter~ last retreat., which looked at the relation- the motion was passed. It was suggested thing but no decision was made. Plac( ship MAC has with the sub-groups, the that there be an orientation (training) for Owens moved that MAC shelter the ~ rights and responsibilities. A one year and each group as a requirement The Shelter- Gay/Lesbian AUiance Against Defama- Disn a five year plan had been developed. The ing Committee will be Parker, Williams tion (GLAAD) as an on-going committee. dand I one year plan included having a store front/ and J. Hill. This was seconded by Parker and passed. gay phone operation and in five years having a R. Hill moved that the number of seats The MAC newsletter was the nexttopic sec~ • building with paid staff. The structure of on the board be increased to 15,.J.Hill then of discussion. Someone is needed to help dancl the board and their duties was to be deter- offered a substitute motion and Keever coordinate the calendar and with writing. coup) mined. We were to research community seconded - that the Articles of incorpora- Discussing distribution was put on the men centers around the country. tion/Bylaws be amended to say that the January agenda. Advertising guidelines Los We then discussed amembership struc- number of Trustees of the corporation shall were discussed. Diaz moved and Williams "0 j ture, having an annual meeting and adding not be less than 3, providing there shall seconded that a commission of 20% go to pocli to the board where skills are needed and to always be an odd number of trustees, and the seller of ads. That we accept discreet • have a more affmnative action approach. the number of trustees shall be set at either verbiage advertising which can include ::.j There was an examination of selection of a regular or a special meeting of the Board logos. The effort to solicit will be increased. A of Trustees, duly and validly held upon the This motion passed. board members. The current system is a Time~ self-perpetuating board. advice and recommendation of the nomi- It was agreed that advertising would be that S A motion was made by Parker that a nating committee, by the affirmative vote separate from donations from donors who probl: membership category (dues to be set later) of two thirds of the Trustees then would be recognized in the newsletter as In be created that will allow them to vote and serving.TheR. Hill motion was withdrawn. well. The ads will support the newsletter males I elect the board. They would receive the This was placed on the agenda of the next and "donor" contributions would go to the byac newsletter and other MAC materials. This meeting. building fund and operating expenses. nia) j was seconded by Williams. The member- The creation of a brochure was dis- A meeting will be set up with GHLU "Dis ship would elect board and the board would cussed so that we could let people know regarding the Baile Committee. Parker, J. II," VI! elect the officers (executive committee). about MAC and solicit support Diaz, Bell, Hill and Garcia will do this, . The motion carried. John Hill pointed out Keever, Valinski, Crary agreed to be on the Valinski talked about fundraising and Am I that the articles of incorporation may need committee. It was suggested that the bro- gave an overview of a workshop he at- years to be amended to allow this and that he chure contain a membership form and a tended at the NGL 1F "Creating Change" rights would take care of doing it. return envelope. Crary said he would check conference. This included writing letters to acCO A committee to look at a dues structure out cost. It was also suggested that people prospective donors, then setting up a meet- sex-di- hP rptYIinn••n tn in{'lnk M in thp.ir will .:"",....•..•r~,.h +.horn 0+_ .h.o.':r h", •.•...•.o. _. l,.no':'ru:aoc _UI.!lC fnrrnAA (""'n.rn'l"Y\~ttQ.A rnArn}u:..~ u,;n 'hA Ar ------•• ------J .•._ •._- ••. -_ •• - ----00 - .•..•------~ ••J.•.--- -... ••..•••_.--_ •••..•- .••••.•.- I:)C;j.1C1lc:tLC1.1UUI UUllc:aUUII:S l1UII. uouors woo membersbip category (dues to be set later) of two thirds of the Trustees then would be recognized in the newsletter as Probi be created that will allow them to vote and serving.TheR.Hillmotionwaswithdrawn. well. The ads will support the newsletter In elect the board. They would receive the This was placed on the agenda of the next and "donor" contributions would go to the males newsletter and other MAC materials. This meeting. building fund and operating expenses. byae was seconded by Williams. The member- . The creation of a brochure was dis- A meeting will be set up with GHLU nia) jl ship wouldelect board and the board would cussed so that we could let people know regarding the Baile Committee. Parker, J, "Disn elect the officers (executive committee). about MAC and solicit support. Diaz, Bell, . Hill and Garcia will do this. _ II," w The motion carried. John Hill pointed out Keever, Valinski, Crary agreed to be on the Valinski talked about fundraising and , - that the articles of incorporation may need committee. It was suggested that the bro- gave an overview of a workshop he at- AnI to be amended to allow this and that he chure contain a membership form and a tended at the NGL 1F"Creating Change" years would take care of doing it. return envelope. Crary said he would check conference. This included writing letters to rights A committee to look at a dues structure out cost. It was also suggested that people prospective donors, then setting up a meet - , I::::: ::::::/::::::::::::::::::::}:::::::::::::;::::::::)):::::/::::: accon was formed. Committee members will be be reminded to include MAC in their will. ing with them at their home or business, sex-di Parker,J.HillandR. Hill. The By-laws and R. Hill moved and Keever seconded that then ask for their help or donation. Doing If you would like to get a free copy or being! articles of incorporation will also be looked MAC hold its annual meeting on October this on a personal, one-to-one basis pro- contribute to help pay for this newsletter, includ at. To assure consistency it was moved and II, 1990 - National Coming Out Day and duces results. you may, do so in a tax deductible gift to the club u above address: seconded that John Hill would be the reg- that we obtain a national speaker to attend. We need to work on getting Grants and gal an istered agent for MAC. This motion passed. Garcia and Williams City, State, and Federal funds. Massey, J. Parker moved that we create a nominat- agreed to secure speakers. Hill, Valinski, Williams and Keever want - ing committee to bring prospective board The bringing of events to Houston such to do this. Massey is working on a fund Name members forward, Neal Massey seconded as the Southeastern Lesbian/Gay Confer- .raiser to be called "The Pansy Path." p( Representatives from sheltered groups ence was discussed. It was decided that this The Event fund raiser on Jan. 6 at the should be incorporated to serve on nomi- is a low priority for MAC to be involved in Alley Theatre was discussed. All board Address nating committee. Ray Hill purposed there right now. Individuals agreed to investi- members need to be aggressive about from I be a affirmative action clause. The mem- gate possibilities and report back. contacting people and selling tickets. month City bership committee was asked to research Team Houston, which has a goal of The Pride Awards Dinner was dis- to the I this issue as well. increasing the visibility of the Houston cussed. Attendance is expected to be 700 - the vie Sheltered Groups were discussed con- delegation at "Celebration 90", the Gay 1000 at the Astrovillage Hotel and will explos State ZIP cerning the matter of clarifying the rights Games in Vancouver, BC, Canada was include use of the Celestial Suite. The Colt .ended, and responsibilities of such groups. We discussed. There was some talk about the 45s, THRF, MCCR and MAC will partici- 'by nea need minutes of their meetings and finan- group continuing after the games - that pate. Each organization will select nomi- For Home Phone cial reports from them, this should be re- they were not just advocating sportactivi- nees and then there will be community ,'Cates, quired. That there will be requirements to ties but community spirit, pride and visibil- wide voting. June 2 will be the last day to Houstl become and stay members. Neal Massey ity. It was decided to table discussion on vote. The winners will be announced at the vancer Work Phone medic. moved that a representative of each shel- this until the group was more organized. See Board Retreat page 10 tered group be required to attend 2/3 num- ber of MAC board meetings to maintain Committees of the Montrose Activity Center Board Members No their sheltered status and that they present drugs I on a regular basis a summary of activities Jim Crary, Brochure, Newsletter,Buliding, Feaslbility,_ Switch- state, 1 Jim Owens, (President) Annual Meeting to the MAC board. The minutes of thai board avenur Jack Valinski, (Vice-President) Brochure, Newsletter, group's meetings should be submitted to Ronnie Diaz, Brochure, Building Location, StarNlght This is Grants, Inclusion, Bulk Mailers, Switchboard, Felix Garcia, Annual Meeting, Building Location, StarNight there I the MAC P.O. Box within two weeks of Database taking place. This motion was seconded by John Hill, (MAC registered Agent) Membership and Nominat- search Annise Parker, (Treasurer) Membership and Nominat- ing, Sheltering, Newsletter,-Bylaws DOl, c Jim Crary and passed. Neal then moved ing, Sheltering, Newsletter, Inclusion, Bulk Mail- Ray Hill, Membership and Nominating, mcluslcn, Bylaws AZT,( that organizations seeking 501(c)(3) shel- ers, Bylaws Brian Keever, NeWSletter, Grants federal ter status be required to submit a written Deborah Bell, (Secretary) Brochure, Newsletter, Grants, Joe Watts AIDS proposal to the MAC board to become a Building Location, Bulk Mailers, Switchboard C. Williams, Sheltering, Annual Meeting, Building Feasibility Mt( Montrose Activity Center NEW S L ET T E R February 1990 Page: 3 Houston Lesbian/Gay Pride Parade '90 P.o. Box 541993 Houston, Texas 77254-1993 541-5502

Look to the Future! Dear Friends and Supporters, We certainly hope you are gearing up The executive committee of Hous- for the frnest Lesbian/Gay pride celebra- ton Lesbian/Gay Pride Week met in tion in Houston's history! Galveston for a two day retreat to es- Beginning June 14,1990 with ten days tablish goals for the 1990 celebration. of pride events and celebrations and Purpose: As a team, we came up ending with the Parade and "StarNite '90" . with the following Purpose/Mission June 24, 1990, we hope you and your Statement for HL/GPW'90 (Final re- family and friends will join us in HL/ vision to be completed at Executive GPW'90! "StarNite'90," the grand Committee Meeting on 1/24;90): finale, will top off June 24th, following DEADLINE APRIL 5,1990 HL/GPWis a non-profit 501(c)3 or- the Parade. This is anew addition to what SUBMITIEDBY ganization whose purpose is to pro- we feel will be the best 10 days June in mote and coordinate events which Houston could have. TELEPHONE DAY TELEPHONE EVENING celebrate the diversity, unity and his- We can't do it without YOU. Your tory of the Lesbian and Gay commu- buddies, business, club, caucus, group, SPONSORING ORGANIZATION nity in order to create a path towards a family, friends and members need to positive future for all humanity, in- make plans now to host an event between FIRST DATE REQUESTED TIME cluding people of color, women, the June 14,1990 and June 23,1990.(JUNE physically challenged, and our chil- 24TH IS THE PARADE AND STAR SECOND DATE REQUESTED TIME dren. NITE'90!). ADDRESS Goals, Goals and More Goals: Some cultural events, a fun run, a trail Listed below is the overall goal that ride from some far comer of the city/ county/state, a bar with free drinks and a CITY ST ZIP CODE was developed for each committee/ donation to the parade, music, readings, team: a picnic with your kids, dinners, recep- Note:lf more than one organization will be a sponsor, fill out one additional sheet 1. Public Relations/Graphics- To tions for the gay and famous, and maybe for each organization, and staple together. act as a resource providing gra- something to take us to the future(how TITLE OF EVENT phical/advertising assistance to will we celebrate in the year DESCRIPTION the various committees/events of 2190?!?) ....These are ideas and only a HL/GPW'90 in order to provide few to get you star~ed. Send in your ap- I 1 _ rol.::nulnt ';n.f'nrt"no,-t~nn to. f'ho .•,....n.....: _ .'. CIUUIIIg-JJeOple'"lJT"""COIO~Ornen;-me ""U".l".lQ'W'"r""T'.1."""77Q~a-.n~.ra-.n.~-,-:t/-:n:J-;\-.J-OT~? ~~ - physically challenged, and our chil- 24TH IS THE PARADE AND STAR SECOND DATE REQUESTED TIME dren. NITE'90!). Goals, Goals and More Goals: Some cultural events, a fun run, a trail ADDRESS Listed below is the overall goal that ride from some far corner of the city/ CITY was developed for each committee/ county/state, a bar with free drinks and a ST ZIP CODE team: donation to the parade, music •.readings, a picnic with your kids, dinners, recep- Note:lf more than one organization will be a sponsor, fill out one additional sheet 1. Public RelationsiGraphics- To tions for the gay and famous, and maybe for each organization, and staple together. act as a resource providing gra- something to take us to the future(how TITLE OF EVENT phical/advertising assistance to will we celebrate in the year the various committees/events of DESCRIPTION 2190?!?) ....These are ideas and only a HL/GPW'90 in order to provide few to get you started. Send in your ap- relevant information to the vari- plication for HL/GPW'90 by April ous targeted publics in Montrose, 5,1990 so that the publicity can work for Houston and beyond. you. We hope that by bringing your con- 2. Publications - To create and tribution to the events that celebrate the NUMBER OF PEOPLE EXPECTED deliver a high quality, compre- Lesbian/Gay community we can allenjoy hensive, highly distributed and and share what our PRIDE is all about. SUGGESTED ADIRE self supporting guide to Pride Pleas,understand that our April 5,1990 Week '90, that will live beyond deadline has your event in mind. By LOCATION COST/DONATION: the event. To control costs and setting our calendar early, we can maxi- quality while including the breath mize the use of different media to display ALLOCATION OF FUNDS COLLECTED: and depth of the community. all that our Pride Week (June 14 thru 3. Planning - To successfully co- 24th) will have to offer. By doing this, CONTACT PERSON ordinate ample hotel and conven- more of the community can learn about FOR OFFICE USE ONLY: tion space for out of town guests your group/business early and take ad- DATE RECEIVED INITIALS and to coordinate for sponsors/ .vantage of resources in the Lesbian/Gay co-sponsors of 40 events that will community. Please, write to us if we can APPROVAL: YES NO involve the Greater Houston Area. assist you with any special needs you may have(space, lodging, travel, ideas). DATE CONFIRMED INITIALS Special attention to inviting mi- norities, women, the physically Thank you and let's share with our COMMENTS community with PRIDE! challenged and groups with spe- PLEASE, RETURN TO: JUDY BROCK-PERIGIN cial needs. fJe«4 ~'P~ P.O. BOX 541993 4. Fund Raising - To coordinate ~~ HOUSTON, TX 77254 and execute six major fund rais- Planning Co-ordinators IF YOU NEED ADDITIONAL ASSISTANCE TO FIND MEET- ing events raising a total of I ING SPACE, OR LODGING,PLEASE, INCLUDE THAT IN- $19,000 in orderto support IlL! I June 15-24 1990 I ,FORMATION WITH YOUR APPLICATION. THANK YOU. GPW'90s operatmg budget. ' PLEASE, RETURN NO LATER THAN APRIL 5,1990 5. Marketing - To produce, dis- ~ tribute and manage high quality tended (20,000 people), large (50 .Next meeting merchandise that promotes unit) & colorful (variety offloats) Houston's Lesbian and Gay Pride display of walking and riding in- Wednesday February 28, 7:00 PM Week and to gain one major cor- dividuals, groups, organizations porate sponsor. and businesses which promote a Dignity Center, 3217 Fannin 6. Parade - To organize a well at- feeling of pride in who they are. Montrose Act ivity Center NEW S LET T E R Page: 4 February 1990 P, .---!l Women Taking Charge in the 90's 1 A free seminar to expose new options for your financial, legal, and emotional well-being.

Thursday, February 8, 1990 Montrose Public Library 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM 4100 Montrose Blvd

A financial plan is a lifetime process

The new organization called Team Hous- volleyball, water polo and wrestling. Jane Perry, CFP, Ph.D. ton has been formed under the Montrose Also, a Cultural Festival is planned. • 3% of all Americans retire financially Activity Center umbrella to organize Events include a film festival, Dance Across independent Houston participants in Celebration '90: America, Night of 1,000 Voices, literary • 27% need to continue to work to main- Gay Games III & Cultural Festival. The festival, theatre festival, band concerts plus tain a basic lifestyle se1 Games will be held later this year on August many more exciting events. • 70% will have to depend on family, welfare, or charity w~1 4-11 in Vancouver, B.C. Canada. Gay Games III should will be the largest wo The first Gay Games held in San Fran- amateur sporting event in the world and the Financial planning is no longer just for act! cisco began in 1982 with only a handful of biggest gay and lesbian cultural festival the wealthy. It is time for you to take had• ~ participants from the Houston area. Gay ever. Up to 20,000 participants and specta- control of your financial future. Begin a kn~ personal commitment to wealth building Games II in 1986 held again in San Fran- tors are expected to be in Vancover for the bu~ cisco had almost 40 participants from Games. by attending this seminar and learn what Houston. Now as plans are underway for Team Houston began meeting in De- Jane can do to assist you in becoming part Gay Games Ill, well over a hundred par- cember 1989 with a handful of volunteers. of that three percent. ~el ticipants and spectators are expected from At the frrst meeting Connie Moore and the Houston area. Felix Garcia were elected as co-chairs to How to choose Late in 1989, Felix Garcia co-chair of give the committee direction. Also elected .a psychotherapist Houston and a MAC board member, saw a were a secretary, Jim Wunrow; treasurer, need for a group to coordinate information David Johnson; logistics chair, Jamie Bal- Susan C. Turell, M.Ed. about the Games and pull the individual lesteros; fundraising co-chairs, Rodney There are many considerations when groups together for a Houston team. Seiler & Becky Burt; and publicity co- choosing atherapist, such as philosophy, "Up until this time, several area groups chairs, Steven Bradley & Bobby Miller. style of therapy, and personality. If you are considering therapy, this seminar will help had been fundraising and making plans to The goal of Team Houston is to increase you discover different options you may not attend the Games on their own." said Gar- visibility of Houston in Vancouver during know are available. cia. "But, we didn't have anyone coordi- the Games, assist in fundraising for indi- cris: nating the efforts. Since I had attended the viduals and groups wanting to participate of g Gav Games in 1986. I knew what :l orear 1n thp lJ~rnp<.:'~nit I!'nrnl1r~::HY'~ Qthl~t1"" ~nA ._.__._.~-~._.._u... . ------ticipants and spectators are expected from At the first meeting Connie Moore and the Houston area. Felix Garcia were elected as co-chairs to How to choose Late in 1989, Felix Garcia co-chair of give the committee direction. Also elected a psychotherapist Houston and a MAC board member, saw a were a secretary, Jim Wunrow; treasurer, need for a group to coordinate information David Johnson; logistics chair, Jamie Bal- Susan C. Turell, M.Ed. about the Games and pull the individual lesteros; fundraising co-chairs, Rodney . There are many considerations when groups together for a Houston team. Seiler & Becky Burt; and publicity ce- choosing a therapist, such as philosophy, "Up until this time, several area groups chairs, Steven Bradley & Bobby Miller. style of therapy, and personality. If you are had been fundraising and making plans to The goal of Team Houston is to increase considering therapy, this seminar will help attend the Games on their own." said Gar- visibility of Houston in Vancouver during you discover different options you may not cia. "But, we didn't have anyone coordi- the Games, assist in fundraising for indi- know are available. nating the efforts. Since Ihad attended the viduals and groups wanting to participate Gay Games in 1986, I knew what a great in the games and encourage athletic and experience they were and saw how the spectator participation in Celebration '90. other cities groups were organized and Another goal was to provide uniforms Legal Issues For pulled together to form one team. I want for all the participants in the Games. "It Houston to form a united team and show will really show the other participants in Lovers and Friends the world what Houston is about." he con- Vancouver that Houston is united when we Connie Moore & Debra Hunt tinued. all march into stadium at the Opening If you are "legally single" but definitely There are 27 sporting events represented Ceremonies in matching uniforms," said involved, there are documents you can in the games. The are badminton, basket- co-chair Connie Moore. create which will protect you and your ball, bowling, billiards, croquet, cycling, Last month on January 21, Team Hous- mate in the event of a life or medical darts, diving, equestrian, golf, ice hockey, ton held its kick off party at Rich's. There emergency. Two local feminist attorneys marathon, martial arts, physique, power- were a lot of people that showed interest in explore the advantages of documenting WOI lifting, squash, racquetball, soccer, soft- attending the Games. Brochures and litera- your relationship. abil ball (fast and slow pitch), swimming, ten- ture were available and it got the group off I nis, touch football, track & field, triathlon, to a good start in achieving their goals. am om BOX 542257, HOUSTON, TX 77254-2257 fe J 713-520-TEAM For reservations or information, call 522-4282 easl I ~ to a n supporters of the MAC NEWSLETTER rio beg • ~u~ Houston Area ~~ ~fJ·~~ wal ACSW, CSW-ACP RAY HILL hav; I 0IX1 'NOW fon Pesky, Contemptuous Troublemaker ac~ Individuals, Couples 713-364-3843 WOI Families, Grops Box 66554 j 713-523-6969 Box 66351, Houston, TX 77266-6351 Women's Issues Houston, Texas 77266 Psy An~ Montrose Activity' Center NEWSLETTER February 1990 Page: 5

II II A special thank you EVERY WEEK EVERY WEEK EVERY to the following people. who helped make SUNDAYS WEDNESDAY "THE EVENT," a performance of Edward Albee's LISA, Lesbian Incest Survivors Anonymous Women's Therapy Group with inner child meets at Inklings, 1846 Richmond, at 4:00 PM focus. Meets every Wednesday from 7:30-8:45 Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf, and partners of LISA meet at 3:00 PM, call . PM, 1807 Lexington. Facilitated by Joyce Sherry for more details 527-8712. Gayles, PHD. For information call 528-4863. a successful benefit for the Self Healing and Stress Reduction Class, Montrose Activity Center's building fund. MONDAYS 8:00 PM to 9:30 PM, Center for a Positive Adult Children of Alcoholics, meets at 7:30 Lifestyle, 1505 Nevada at Commonwealth, call 523-4241 for more information. Mr. Edward Albee Mr. George Greanias PM at the Church of Religious Science, North Houston, call 350-9378 for more information. JIIV/AiDS Support Group, 7:00 PM, U!1ity Playwright and Director Houston City Controller Lesbian Therapy Group, Therapy group Church, 2929 Unity Drive, call 782-1090 for addressing relationships andissues surround- more information. Mr. Gregory Boyd Mr. Michael Wilson ing being a lesbian and a woman, Sharon Stone Gay Men's Network meets at 8:00 PM at Artistic Director Alley Theatre Assistant Director Alley Theatre and Associates, 3935 Westheimer, Suite 306, Bering Memorial Church, 1440 Harold St.. Bldg. 7:00 PM to 8:30 PM, call 623-6081 for more A, upstairs. information. Ms. June Jackson Mr. David Schell "Bear" THURSDAYS Group Sales Alley Theatre Inergy TUESDAYS 6121 Hillcroft GaylLesbian Parents Support Group meets The Support Group for Gay and Lesbian various locations, to share what it is like to be a Codependents Anonymous, this is a discus- parent, children are welcome. Also for those Mr. Oscar Morales Moncia, Herb & Gregory sion group for the gay and lesbian community who are interested in becoming parents,call Andy's Mexican Restaurant Missouri St. Station with issues related to codependency. No mem- 666-1616 for more information. The group meets 4230 Ella Blvd. & 1115 East 11th St. 1117 Missouri bership required, 6:30 PM at the Montrose on the 1st and 3rd Thursdays. Counseling Center, 900 Loven, round room, Recovery Experience Group is a new pro- call Sharon J. at 893-0514 for further informa- gram for those who want to stay on the wagon, Dave Mr. Larry Lingle and Mr. Bill White tion. . giving up booze and drugs. This is for anyone Venture-N Lobo The Women's Support Group; women af- currently on a 12-stepprogram. For more infor- 2923 S Main 1424-C Westheimer fected with AIDS, HIV+, or in a relationship mation. call the Montrose Counseling Center. with an HIV + partner meet at Bering Memorial Call 529-0037 for more information. United Church, 1440 Harold, call 526-1017 for Ms. Pokey Anderson and Ms. Annise Parker .Mr, Patrick Simms more information. FRIDAYS Inklings Bookshop Say Cheese Gay Fathers meet at Dignity Center, 3217 1846 Richmond 3926 Westheimer Breakthrough, Womyn's Music, 8:00 AM to Fannin, 8:00 PM. on the second and fourth 11:00 AM, KPFT 90.1 FM with Pokey Ander- Tuesday of each month, For more information son and Cherry Wolf. call 522-6766, Ms. Stephanie Lusher Ms. Gloria Pruitt Dateline Earth, 4:00 PM, news program on for framing the proclamation ,Guitarist Empowerment For Living, a program for KPFT 90.1 FM includes a series on AIDS. people whose lives are affected by HIV, ARC or Friday Feature, Coffee House Socials, An Al- AIDS, Metropolitan Community Church of the Mr. Dennis McCammon temativeGathering PW Arty for PWAs, PWArcs Mr. Richard Vela Resurrection, 1919 Decatur, call 861-9149 for "n£LE,.iencl~.aLReT.in.ll.C:"re.C:enleT~l4LlO_Hat:old ' .1".1..1 • .a...... oQ.l.l~ .I.-Ill.l,o."'" a.t.lU .LY..l..l., A.I'.l.L.I. 1'1' .au" ••••• non. , giving up booze and drugs. This is for anyone Venture-N Lobo The Women's Support Group; women af- currently on a 12-step program. For more infor- 2923 S Main 1424-C Westheimer fected with AIDS, HIV+, or in a relationship mation call the Montrose Counseling Center. with an HIV + partner meet at Bering Memorial Call 529-0037 for more information. United Church. 1440 Harold, call 526-1017 for Ms. Pokey Anderson and Ms. Annise Parker Mr. Patrick Simms more information. Inklings Bookshop Say Cheese FRIDAYS Gay.Fathers meet at Dignity Center, 3217 Breakthrough, Womyn's Music, 8:00 AM to 1846 Richmond 3926 Westheimer Fannin, 8:00 PM. on the-second and fourth ~.- 11:00 AM, KPFT 90.1 FM with Pokey Ander- Tuesday of each month, For more information son and Cherry Wolf. call 522-6766. Ms. Stephanie Lusher Ms. Gloria Pruitt Dateline Earth, 4:00 PM, news program on for framing the proclamation ,Guitarist Empowerment For Living, a program for KPFT 90.1 FM includes a series on AIDS. people whose lives are affected by HN, ARC or Friday Feature, Coffee House Socials, An Al- AIDS, Metropolitan Commuriity Church of the ternative Gathering PW Arty for PW As, PWArcs Mr. Richard Vela Mr. Dennis McCammon Resurrection, 1919 Decatur, call 861-9149 for and Friends at Bering Care Center 1440 Harold, City of Houston Drago Flowers & Gift Shop more information. 7:00 PM, call 520-7070 for more information. Mayor Kathy Whitmire's office 1825 Bingle Wilde 'n' Stein Radio, discussion about Gay and Lesbian community, 9:00 PM to 11:00 PM, SATURD AYS KPFT 90.1 FM. with Jack Valinski and Deborah Homeowners Bell. Shop Elsewhere a campaign asking people to Ms. Phyllis Randolph Frye, Attorney shop other then Randall's because of the WEDNESDAYS company's blatant discriminatory policy in Ms. Trish Frye matters concerning AIDS and Gay/Lesbian. (In Womyn's Music weekly hour of music of J June of 1985, Mr. Steven Little, a meat cutter at Mr. 000 Roberson women starting at 6:00 PM on KTR U 91. 7 FM. Randall's Store #30, was forced to resign his Bering Spiritual Support Group for mv + position because they believed Steve's room- persons, their family and friends, Potluck din- mate had AIDS. He did not.) ActUP Houston from ner at 6:45 PM in the Fellowship Hall at Bering and the Houston Gay and Lesbian Political C. Williams and Joe Watts Memorial UMC, (covered dish dinner), 1440 Caucus are sponsoring a picket every Saturday Harold, Discussion group follows at 7:30 PM, until further notice at 12 Noon, park elsewhere co-chairs of "THE EVENT" and the call Deborah Bell at 526-1017~ and join your brothers and sisters in this Board of Directors of Women's Therapy Group with special em- fight.SouthShepherd and Westheimer. Call521- phasis on Spirituality, 6:30 PM lead by Karen 1000 for more information. The Montrose Activity Center Hanson, CSW, ACP 364-3843. MORE ON PAGE 6-7

Thefollowing underwriters have helped support the cost of the Montrose Activity Center NEWSLETTER Printex Plus Keystroke this space available 713-524-4365 call 529-1223 "Your Full Service Printer and Copy Center" FAX (713) 524-7587 Hotline for more information 785-9258 1617 West Alabama Geo "Jim" Crary, Jr. Houston, TX 77006 Owner Mo n tr o se Activity Center NEW S LET T E R Page: 6 February 1990 F(J SUNDAY MONDAY TUESDAY WEDNESDAY 4 The Women's Group 10:00 AM at First Unitarian 5 6 Church Universalist, 5210 Fannin, Karen Baird will • Empowerment for Living Group, pot luck followed 7 speak on Socialist Feminism: what it is, where it has by group discussion, "Cheap Eating" with recipes, been and where it is going. How 'does it compare-to Metropolitan Community Church of Resurrection, 1919 Gay & Lesbian Political Caucus at other strands of feminist thought. ' Decatur, call for more information 861-9149 Metropolitan Multi-Service Center, Mothers' Support Web, A social gathering of moth- 1475 West Gray, 7:30 PM, Call 521- Wilde 'n' Stein Radio, discussion about Gay and ers/partners and their children together with womyn 1000 for more information. 12 Lesbian community, 9:00 PM to 11:00 PM, KPFT 90.1 interested in supporting their needs (childcare, ect) to Exercise and mv: Improving Health, FM. Bart Loeser, Education Coordinator of AIDS veri find others with common interests, childrearing phi- a , Ms. Mary Lou Galantino of Rice Village Foundation Houston, will give a safer sex workshop on p losophies, and locations, so that womyn can spin mu- Physical Therapy will discuss the ad- radio. wh~ wally supportive webs, 1:00 PM to 3:00 PM, 2nd floor, 66 First Unitarian Universalist Church, 5210 Fannin, call vantages of exercise in the overall good health. Participants will learn how to Ac .Nancy at 529-3362 for more information. 13 combine limbering techniques, aerobic the mY/AIDS Treatment Update, a panel of medical and anaerobic exercise to promote, in- experts will discuss current medical issues in mv crease strength, endurance and positive illness to overview the direction and trends of treat- 11 selfimage,7:00PM,MetropolitanMulti- ments for HIV infection and related illness. The presen- The Women's Group 10:00 AM at First Unitarian Service Center, 1474 West Gray, for tation is designed to be informal, with' much time Universalist Church, 5210 Fannin. "La Ultima Madre- more information call 623-6796. devoted to questions and answers with the audience. Dr. The Total Mother", presented by Rebecca Brown, a 37 14 8 American Gay Atheists meet at 7:30 Joseph Gathe, Jr will present current medical treat- year old radical feminist, witch, mother of three daugh- GaylLesbian Political Caucus Board PM at 4 Chelsea. ments, followed by Dr. Arturo Rios, who will discuss Woi ters, archaeologist, geologist and environmentalist. meeting at 900 Lovett, Suite 7:30 PM, sem Gay/Lesblan Hispanics Unidos psychological issues associated with mv, 7:00 PM, This workshop was developed through study and per- call 521-1000 for more information. cialJ (GLHU) meet at Dignity Center, 3217 Bering Memorial Church, 1440 Harold, Fellowship , sonal meditation. 9:0 Fannin at 7:30 PM. Call 880-GLHU. Hall, for more information call 623-6796. Women;s Network," Nurturing Our The Women's Spirituality Movement Today, a talk Coupleships." A panel of lesbian MOIi (This meeting is normally held on the Empowerment for Living Group, pot luck followed by Merlin Stone, author of "When God was a Woman couples will share their experiences of tion! second Wednesday of the month.) by group discussion, "A Spiritual Answer to AIDS" i "and "Ancient Mirrors of Womanhood", First Unitar- creating and nourishing their partner- with Bill Tartar, Metropolitan Community Church of AI ian Universalist Church, 5210 Fannin, 11: 15AM in the ships. There will be an opportunity for use Resurrection, 1919 Decatur, call for more information Sanctuary, Sunday service, open to the public. all women to ask questions and share by 861-9149 ideas about living and loving as lesbian spe~ Gay Fathers meet at Dignity Center, 3217 Fannin, 8:00 couples. Montrose Counseling Center, at~ PM. For more information call 522-6766. 18 19 900 Lovett, 2nd floor, 7:00 PM. Gal~ The Women's Group, 10:00 AM at First Unitarian Massage Therapy, Therapist, Alan Wilde 'n' Stein Radio, discussion about Gay and lab ( Universalist Church, 5210 Fannin Dr. Diane Strass- Davidson will introduce some of .the Lesbian community, 9:00 PM to 11:00 PM, KPFT 90.1 man, Assistant Professor of Economics at Rice Univer- basic concepts of massage therapy and " FM. , :~i Pub~ sity will discuss how women's experience is rendered show how various methods can help to for n invisible by the androcentric bias in the current models reduce stress and tension. Mr. Davidson of economic theory. will teach some "hands-on" techniques 20 Womynspace meets at Inklings, 1846 Richmond for that participants can utilize on others., 21 potluck lunch at 12 NOON with business meeting 7:00 PM, AIDS Foundation Houston, Pride Awards Dinner Committee, 6:30 PM, Astro Village Hotel, Kirby and South Loop West. Gay & Lesbian Political Caucus following at 1:30 PM, Further discussion and decision 3927 Essex Lane (off Weslayan), for _ _..•..:_c _ ..••~:.n._ ""~11 &""''1 t:.!:IO&' eetina.m.endorse.candidar e"'r -.;.n_tbe,--_---~------, IdJl.OTUVCrSau:s("CnD.ICn;Jzru-r-annm~.r:T:)~ANrDl.L1le _-~ __-_.,._.._.._.., J"""'-"'-.AO_-"'~- .•-..-.u.-.•-•ac••••.-•J.:.I;"I:".l •.••.~:u;u;a-~ .•-u.r. a-- Sanctuary. Sunday service, open to the public. Resurrection, 1919 Decatur, call for more information ships. There will be an opportunity for 861-9149 all women to ask questions and share Gay Fathers meet at Dignity Center 3217 Fannin 8'00 ideas about living and loving as lesbian PM. For more information call522~6766. ,. couples. Montrose Counseling Center, 18 19 , 900 Lovett, 2nd floor, 7:00 PM. The Women's Group, 10:00 AM at First Unitarian Massage Therapy, Therapist, Alan Wilde 'n' Stein Radio, discussion about Gay and Universalist Church, 5210 Fannin Dr. Diane Strass- Davidson will introduce some of the Lesbian community, 9:00 PM to 11:00 PM, KPFT90.1 man, Assistant Professor of Economics at Rice Univer- basic concepts of massage therapy and -r, FM. \ sity will discuss how women's experience is rendered show how various methods can help to invisible by the androcentric bias in the current models reduce stress and tension. Mr. Davidson of economic theory. will teach some "hands-on" techniques 20 Womynspace meets at Inklings, 1846 Richmond for that participants can utilize on others., 21 potluck lunch at 12 NOON with business meeting 7:00 PM, AIDS Foundation Houston, Pride Awards Dinner Committee, 6:30 PM, Astro Gay & Lesbian Political Caucus following at 1:30 PM, Further discussion and decision 3927 Essex Lane (off Weslayan), for Village Hotel, Kirby and South Loop West. meeting to endorse candidates in the making on joining as a committee of the Montrose ' more information call 623-6796. Kundalini Yoga, Ms. Satya Khalsa, an instructor with primary election, at MetropolitanM ulti- Activity Center. All interested women are invited to PW A Coalition meeting, Metropolitan Yoga For Life, teaches a regular yoga class at AFH, this Service Center, 1475 West Gray, 7:30 attend, to receive newsletter or for more information Multi-Service Center, 1475 West Gray, class helps to bring people in touch with their bodies and PM, Call 521-1000 for more informa- about Womynspace please call Deborah at 521-0780. 7:30 PM, call 522-5428 for more infor- minds to encourage stress reduction through deep breath- 1 tion. Religion and Homosexuality, Ministering to the mation. ing, meditation and exercise, 7:00 PM, AIDS Founda- , Gay Community, panel discussion sponsored by tion Houston, 3927 Essex Lane (off Weslayan), for Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, 2:00 PM, more information call 623-6796. Grace Lutheran Church, 2515 Waugh. Empowerment for Living Group, pot luck followed Kenny and Tzipora in Concert, Singing songs of our by group discussion, Small Group Discussion "Depres- Mother the Earth, nature and the lives of women and the sion & CNS Involvement," Metropolitan Community peasantry. Music in the styles of Britain, Eastern Eu- Church of Resurrection, 1919 Decatur, callfor more in- rope and America on fiddle, flute, piccolo, guitar, formation 861-9149 mandolin and tin whistle. Admission is $7; children 12 26 Wilde 'n' Stein Radio, discussion about Gay and and under free. First Unitarian Universalist Church, Lesbian community, 9:00 PM to 11:00 PM, KPFT 90.1 5210 Fannin@ Southmore. 2:30 - 4:30 PM. Call Anita FM. "Black Lesbian and Gay Perspectives: Then and at 526-1571 for more information. Now," Lesbians Over Age Fifty (LOAF) meets the third SATURDAYS Sunday of each month at Autry House, 6265 S. Main at 2:00 PM with speakers, refreshments and fellowship. CONT AMIGA de Houston holds its business meeting at The Support Group for Gay and Actl 5:00 PM with potluck dinner. Call 520-5667 for infor- Lesbian Codependents Anony- the mation. mous, this is a discussion group for the gay and lesbian community 28 with issues related to' codepen- 22 dency. No membership required, Lesbian/Gay Pride 1990 Meeting, 5:00 PM at the Montrose Counsel- 27 planning for the 1990 events 7:00 PM, ing Center, 900 Lovett, round Dignity Center, 3217 Fannin, upstairs, 25 NEW MOON . Empowerment for Living Group, poi luck followed Room, call Sharon 1. at 893-0514 call 541-5502 for more information, American Gay AtheistsBrunch,l1:30AM, Houlihan's by group discussion, Small Group Discussion "Dealing for further information. 1800 S Post Oak. with Depressions" Metropolitan Community Church of Women's Network, "Loving Our- Youth Concerned with Lesbian Resurrection, 1919 Decatur, call for more information selves-The Cornerstone." This eve- The Women's Group 10:00 AM at First Unitarian and Gay Issues, 7:30 PM at First 861-9149 ning' will focus participants on the Universalist Church, 5210 Fannin, Tax retum time is Unitarian Universalist Church, meaning and importance of living one- almost upon us again. Margaret Harrison, who works Gay Fathers meet at Dignity Center, 3217 Fannin, 8:00 5210 Fannin self. The group will explore stumbling for a local Public Accounting firm, will bring some PM. For more information call 522-6766. After Hours, discussion about Gay blocks and creative solutions to en- helpful hints on how to legally minimize that tax bite Wilde 'n' Stein Radio, discussion about Gay and and Lesbian community, Midnight hancing the self-nurturance in our daily into your dollar. She will also try to answer any ques- Lesbian community, 9:00 PM to 11:00 PM, KPFT 90.1 to 4:00 AM, KPFT 90.1 FM. lives. Montrose Counseling Center, 900 tions you have about those dreaded 1040's. FM. Lovett, 2nd floor, 7:00 PM. Montrose Activity Center NEWSLETTER o February 1990 Page: 7 r- THURSDAY FRIDAY SATURDAY I AHEAD 1 2 3 IMARCH 12 "At Home With Themselves: Gay and Les- GaylLesbian Switchboard Houston, Heart. Strings an upbeat two act musical review pro- Montrose Activity Center, board meet- ' bian Couples," a compelling photographic training session for new volunteers, this duced by the Design Industries Foundation for AIDS ing, 7:00 PM, at the Metropolitan Multi- .. exhibition of lesbian and gay couples in their 30 hour session will continue this week- (DIFFA). The local production is co-sponsored by Service Center, 1475 West Gray, call 529- at homes. The work by Sage Sohier will be at the end and next weekend, call 529-3211 DIFFNHoustonandBering Community Service Foun- 1223 for more information. r, Houston Center for Photography main gallery, for more-information. dation. The "Evening of Hope for the Healing of AIDS," l- 1441 West Alabama through February 4, 1990. is designed to educate audiences and inspire investment MARCH 22-25 GaylLesbian Parents Support Group meets in our nation's response to AIDS. Tickets are $25 to various locations, to share what it is like to be be $250 and are available at Ticketron, 526-1709. Southeastern Conference for Lesbians a parent, children are welcome. Also for those Royai, Soverign and Imperial Court of the Single and Gay Men, the oldest regional confer- who are interested in becoming parents,call Star's Coronation '90, Theme: Star Date 3 February- ence in the nation is now in its 15th year. 666-1616 for more information. 9 FULL MOON 2090, a Futurist Fantasy, 7:00 PM at Ramada Hotel .Workshops already scheduled are on sod- ActUP Houston, general meeting at 7:30 PM at Northwest, (exit Pinemont off 290) Abiline 4 Room, omy laws and the effect of AIDS on soci- the Multi-service Center, 1475 W Gray. Celebration of Sisterhood, presented $20, call 523-8681 for more information. ety. Also covered will be topics concerning by Southwest Unitarian Universalist Hazelwitch presents, an evening of music and humor the conference theme "Working to Women. A conference exploring The with Jamie Anderson and Nancy Scott in Concert, Strengthen our Southeastern Communi- Ritual Path to Empowerment for Mak- 8:00 PM, Autrey House, 6265 Main Street, tickets ties." For more information: SECLGM, Box ing Changes in Our Lives, in the World. $6.50 advance and available at Lucia's Garden, 2213 28863, Raleigh, NC 27611-8863 or 919- Merlin Stone, author of WHEN GOD .Portsmouth and Inklings, 1846 Richmond and $8.00 at 833-1209 8 WAS A WOMAN, is the theme speaker the door and will also join ina ritual on Saturday d Women taking Charge in The 90s: A free After Hours, discussion about Gay and Lesbian com- night. Conference brochures describing APRIL 12-15 I, seminar to explore new options for your finan- munity, Midnight to 4:00 AM, KPFf 90.1 FM. An the workshops are available at First cial, legal, and emotional well-being. 7:00 to interview with Rosa Parks, her "no" help lead to the Second Annual Gulf Coast Women's Fes- Unitarian Universalist Church Women's [ 9:00 PM, Montrose Public Library, 4100 birth of the civil rights movement in this country. Also tival, in Gulfport, Mississippi, call 601- Group room, at Lucia's Garden, at ink- Montrose Blvd. For reservations and informa- features speech of Dr. Martin Luther King as he speaks n lings Bookshop, or by calling Anita at 896-6453 or 601-896-3196 for informa- tion, call 522-4282. Seating is limited. on the importance of civil disobedience. If 526-1571. tion. A lecture on Why Animals Should Not be New York City B~ Association's Jarnig. "I didn't feel it was right for gay Some insemination program~ req~ire ticularly broad definitions of Committee on Sex and Law. "The law must people to be robbed of a sense of family." donors to ~~ ou~a 25-page questIO~n.arre, what constitutes a family: follow society and reflect reality ," he main- The couple, whom the kids call Dad and mostly anucrpanng requests by recipients . tains. Poppa, are among fewer than a dozen gay: . on topics like religious and academic back- • New York Figures from the annual census reports couples in the United States who have been ground, hobbies and even receding hair- In July 1989 the Court of underscore Leonard's argument. Fewer than granted 'joint adoption," which means both lines. The would-be mom can specify the Appeals held that a long 27 percent of the nation 's91 million house- fathers have the same secure legal relation- race and physical characteristics ofher baby' s· .. holds in 1988 fit the traditional model of a ship to the children. father; everyone, of course, wants good term, hV~-1ngay cou~le may family. At the same time, the bureau has "Our values really are the same as those health and high intelligence. Atmostfacili- be considered a family counted 1.6 million same-sex couples liv- of our parents," says Jarnig. "We just ties, recipients can choose the baby's sex under the state's rent-con- ing together, up from 1.3 million in 1970, happen to be two men." "We're really quite (since it is the sperm that determines gen- trol regulations. and 2.6 million opposite-sex couples shar- boring," adds Pesce. "Just homebodies. der~, but most women don't exercise the • San Franclscc ing a household, up from just half a million We 'reOzzieand Harry." Their home is one opnon. I in 1970. Reasons cited for-these demo- with rules and structure: no playing in the In some states, insemination must be In June 1989 the Board of graphic changes include divorce, delayed living room, cleaning up the family room performed by a physician, but the Fenway Supervisors passed legisla- marriage and the growth of the gay -libera- after play, and no candy. But it's also one and other centers encourage women to bring tion recognizing homosex- tion movement. For now the Census Bu- with love and understanding for the chil- th~semen~omean~inseminate.themselves ual and unmarried hetero- reau still excludes most nontraditional ar- dren, who are Hispanic siblings. "It's usmg a synnge or pipette. As Withstandard .. rangements from its "family" category. But important to tell them every night that conception, some women get pregnant on sexual couples as families Paul Glick, until 1981 the department's they're valued and loved," says Pesce. . the first try; for others, it may take a dozen and allowed for registration senior demographer, thinks the federal legal Cindy and Margie share a house on a or more attempts. At Fenway, the monthly of "domestic partners." definition of family could broaden consid- quiet side street near Boston with their son, cost ~or two vials o~ semen is $250. . • Madison WI erably in the next 20 years. Jonah, who recently turned 3. (Like several Cindy and Margie, who had a pnvate '. Some experts think it's others in this story, they chose not to have physician perform theif insemination, meet I~ August 1988 the city their last names published.) Both profes- with a group of 50 Boston-area lesbian council OK'd sick and be- no longer possible to define sionals in their mid-30s, they have been families at least four times ayear-includ- reavement leave to domes- '(. the family; "Family has together for 12 years. Their decision to ingM?ther'sDay.~ongtheirfriends.are tic partners of city employ- become "Mommy" and "mama," as Jonah Lorraine, 43, and Linda, 33-,who gave birth . become a fluid concept," calls them, reflects societal changes that to the couple's son, Andrew, nearly four ees and e~tended the n~ht says Arthur Leonard, pro- also affect single straight women seeking years ago. She tires to describe the boy's of domestic partners to live fessor of law at New York to become mothers. Medical advances have relationship with Lorraine, whom he calls in single-family zones. made donor insemination much saferfrom "B_opme.." "Th ere aren 'A"tworY..S.l'...~r.!·.t"l.lLI,h~ ~__ \Al.•..•_+_U ..•..•I.I..u.uU'~"'.•.••d. I 1 II- __ ~-~_'e--"·'_~'~~~_"""'7~""'5"'~'---nnporu:ur~--';C;I·C-IlU;rn-c;~ry-lllgnt-ma concep on, so e w men e pregnan on v,,"C,Il:l1Tvou·pre::s--as-ramTiTeS Paul Glick, until 1981 the department's they're valued and loved," saysPesce. the first try; for others, it may take a dozen and allowed for registration senio~~emograp~er,thinksthefederalle?al ,Cin~yand Margie share a.hous~ on a or more attem~ts.At Fenwa~, the monthly of "do mestic partne rs.' defImtI~noffarmly could broaden consid- quiet side street near Boston with their son, cost for two vials of semen IS $250. Md' WI erably 10the next 20 years. Jonah, whorecently tumed 3.(Like several Cindy and Margie, who had a private • a Ison, . Some experts think it's others in this story, they chose notto have physicianperform theirinsemination,meet I~ August 1988 the city . . their last names published) Both profes- with a group of 50 Boston-area lesbian council OK'd sick and be- no longer possible to defme sionals in their mid-30s, they have been familiesatleastfourtimesayear-includ- reavement leave to domes- the family; "Family has together}or 12 y~ars. ~eir d~ision to ingM?ther'sDay.~ongtheirfriends,are tic partners of city employ- be fl .d t " become Mommy and mama, as Jonah Lorraine,43, andL1Oda,33-,whogavebirth come a Ul concep, calls them, reflects societal changes that to the couple's son, Andrew, nearly four ees and extended the right says Arthur Leonard, pro- also affect single straight women seeking years ago. She tires to describe the boy's of domestic partners to live fessor of law at New York tobecome mothers.Medicaladvanceshave relationship with Lorraine, whom he calls- in single-family zones. made donor insemination much safer from "Boppie.' "There aren't words for it," she • West Hollywood Law School. infectionby AIDSandothersexuallytrans- says. "Lorraine's not the same as a father, . Whilegaysarenot theonlybeneficiaries mitted diseases, and activism by the femi- but she's also not a mother." Lorraine In December 1988 the Call- of the new legislation, they, above all nistand gaywomen's movementshasmade would like to legalize her relationship to fornia city became "self-in- others,havebeenmostprofoundlychanged it more widely available. Andrewthrough"second-parent" adoption sured" and offered medical byincreasedsocialac.ceptanceofal~rnative Despit~thegrow~gde~and,manyU:.S. but d~sn't c~e. about labels. "I can be benefits to domestic part- lifestyles. Galen Elhs, 28, and Elarne As- doctors still won't msemmate unmarned 'Boppie' all his life," she says. In fact, the . kari,38,havebeenacouplesince 1986and women. But there are some exceptions. arrangementhasworkedoutsowellthatshe ner~, extendmg .a.1985 this yeardonned white tuxedosto celebrate "We opened our facility to accommodate and Lindahope to haveanotherchild by the ordinance perrnittmq do- their "commitment ceremony" before 100 women being turned away by spermbanks same donor. mestic partners official reg- frie?ds and familymembersinan Oakland, across ,the country:". says M~y Lynn Mo~tcouples.whoareopenly gay, with istration and hospital and Calif., park. They exchanged vows and Hemphill of theFeministWomen sHealth and without children, acknowledge that prison visitation rights ringsand cutaweddingcake.Ellis's mother CenterinAtlanta.AlmostallFWHCclients they are still not universally accepted as . attended thefestivities, and Askari's father aresingle;onethirdarelesbians.AtBoston's families,andmany haveexperiencedsome sentaweddingcard. Sincedecidingtheyare Fenway Community HealthCenter, which form of rejection or discrimination. Pesce a family, they've bought a house together expended in 1983to servelesbians seeking andJamig saytheirbiggestdisappointment anddraftedavarietyoflegalformsdesigned to become mothers, the clientele is still is that their own parents have kept their tocementtheirrelationship,includingwills, mostlygay, with a growing straight minor-distance. "My mother lumps gay people powers of attorney and other contracts. ity. together withchild molesters," saysJarnig. Soon they'd like to become parents, as so Sperm donors at many facilities are "She's ashamed that I'm gay and have manyothergay couples have donealready. drawn from college and graduate students, children-her only grandchildren-and According to Roberta Achtenberg, ex- who earn about $35 each time they "give." doesn't want to get involved as a grand- ecutive director of the National Center for For the mostpart, that's thelastconnection mother." Lesbian Rights, there are more then 2 mil- they have with the children they sire this LindaandLorraineworryabouttheeffect lion gay mothers and fathers, Most of their way, but a couple of programs now offer a oftheirnontraditionalarrangementon their childrenarefromearlier,heterosexualrela- "yes" option, in which the donor agrees to son.Fornow,"we don't havepeoplearound tionships, but she estimates that some let his offspring get in touch with him once us that don't accept us as family," says 5,000 to 10,000 lesbians have borne chil- they reach the age of 18. Linda, but she realizes that will inevitably drenafter"comingout,"andhundredsofgay Donors are thoroughly screened for a change as Andrew grows up."When he's a and lesbian couples have adopted. familyhistoryofinheriteddiseasesandalso teenager,"shesays,"ifhedoesn 't wantboth • fpr current infections, especially for the of us to go to some event, we won't go." Among these nontraditional parents are HIV virus that causes AIDS. Indeed, the AddsLorraine:"We wanttoprotecthimbut Michael Pesce, 35, and Jonathan Jarnig, AIDS epidemic has made the use of fresh not get outrageous about it. We want him 36. Pesce, a social worker, and Jamig, a . semen donations obsolete. In September, toknowwemadechoicesthataffectedhim maitre d' at a restaurant, live in a three- New York became the first state to adopt and that we tried to do it the right way.""- i:;~;;;~;~;:::::::;;~;~~;~;r~~f:~~~~.:.::.:..:.~:;·:::::::::::~::::::::::::~r~;~;~~~~~i~~~~~~~:~:~:::.~;:::;;: ~~~;~;~l~?r~~?rj~~r~~~~~~! •.....

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By Ronald Hawkins, Ph.D. why you want to-date aridlet those you date c: from Frontiers know what you are looking for relatively Charles knew he was attracted to Jim the soon in the dating process. moment he saw him; They met while they In general, the first few meetings' are were volunteering for an AIDS organiza- better kept upbeat. It may be appropriate to tion. Jim was working at a desk, occasion- mention particular stresses in your life, ally.pausing to laugh with two othervolun- though not in any great depth. teers. Charles found an excuse to goover It is important to establish a sense of and talk to him. Jim was friendly and soon being able to share and enjoy things to- they we in an amiable conversation with gether. Work on developing a sense of trust each other. It was easiest to talk about the in the first few meetingstogether and notice volunteer work they were doing and how whether you both enjoy and respect each ly they had become interested in helping the other. Although these guidelines may seem organization, obvious, they are often forgotten when n- Both had acknowledge that they would sexual attractions, shyness and fears arise. see each other around, but when Charles But remember: Keep trust-building and :y, wenrhome that night he wondered what he shared enjoyment as your primary goals in would do next. He wanted to ask Jim out on the early stages. This can help you to or a date. Jim also was in a quandary, since he address issues of when to have sex and deal k:e had worked at the agency for a while. He with other questions about getting to know a know that he wanted to see Charles again, someone. 19 but the other volunteers were watching and Of course you can initiate sex anytime if at he knew he was in for some kidding from you both just want to have fun. However, 1ft them. if you want to invest in the possibility of Having recently ended a relationship of a relationship, fears of intimacy and rejec- several years, Jim was also a.1ittle afraid to tion often rear their ugly heads. To mini- think about getting involved again so soon. mize the interference of these fears, the Charles, on the other hand, had lost his Pest trust-building and sharing of non-sexual friend to AIDS about a month before. In fact interaction usually needs to come before he had joined the organization to help him sex gets started. Sex combined with inti- recover from his grief and go on with his macy (which is necessary for atelationship life. .. ..,\- _ to build) must oe'curwhen botli of you are Many gay men find themselves simi- relatively relaxed-when you both know larly confused about how to go about you have other things you like to share dating. The pressures and fears of the health together and when some mutual trust has crisis compound the damaging experience been built up. of growing up gay in a homophobic soci- So when is it good idea to initiate sex? Having recently ended a relationship of a relationship, fears of intimacy and rejec- several years.Jim was also alittle afraid to tion often rear their ugly heads. To mini- think about getting involved again so soon. mize the interference of these fears, the Charles, on the other hand, had lost his best trust-building and sharing of non-sexual friend to AIDS about a month before. In fact interaction usually needs to come before he had joined' the organization to help him sex gets started. Sex combined with inti- recover from his grief and go on with his macy (which is necessary for atelationship life. " " to build) must OCcurwhen botti of you are Many gay men find themselves simi- relatively relaxed-when you both know larly confused about how to go about you have other things you like t6 share dating. The pressures and fears of the health together and when some mutual trust has crisis compound the damaging experience been built up. of growing up gay in a homophobic soci- So when is it good idea to initiate sex? ,ety. Most gay man did not get the chance to When you are comfortable with the other talk to friends and family during their person and comfortable with yourself when adolescence about sexual feelings and dat- you are around him. ing as theirnon-gaypeers did. Gay men and Some of the skills which can help in this lesbians usually had to hide their feelings of process include: attraction and, therefore, did not learn many' learning tq assert yourself with- y of the social skills of dating. Moreover, out being aggressive n they usually did not get to deal with fears of balancing what you share about If rejection, awkwardness and confusion. Add yourself with what you learn about. the u to that the internalized messages of shame other person s about being attracted to the same sex ... No injecting your sense of humor g wonder many gay men find it uncomfort- without trying to put on a performance able to date. If you are uncertain about how you come It seems sad that, besides missing out on across, ask a trusted friend to give you some a first adolescence, many gay men miss out feedback and be prepared to be honest with on a second one because of these fears. A yourself. few guidelines might lead the way to a Questions always seem to arise as to easier time in dating. whether and when it is okay to call or First, you need to decide why you want suggest getting together. Most people fmd to date. Is itjust to have fun or do you want it helpful to allow some time between each a relationship? If it is just for fun, there is of the first few meetings. A few days or a nothing wrong with that. The problem week between dates allows the sometimes begins when you think you want to datefor strong rush of feelings to subside and makes fun and your actions get you more seriously it easier to know what you want and what involved-or vice versa. Frustration and you are doing. Trust-building involves hurt feelings are likely to result. You may taking a step and then allowing for the other want to start out with the intention of person to respond. This lets you know how to prevent approaching dating from the one skills and probably will have to make some having fun and, at the same time, remain the other person feels and conducts himself down position of always fearing rejection. mistakes in the process. open to the potential of a relationship in relationship to you. If he does not pick Fear of rejection is one of the difficulties Undoubtable, there will be special cir- forming. This balance is sometimes hard to up the ball, do you really want to be in dating.It causes many to come on too cumstances in your dating for which there achieve, but worth attempting. It seems to involved? Of course, there is the other aggressively ortoo passively. Dating actu- will be no guidelines. It might even seem work best if you try to clarify with yourself danger of getting stuck in just looking for ally takes some practice, just like most of worth it to break the rules. This is the time Ron Hawkins, PhD, is associated with feedback about whether you are liked ornot. the things in life that we enjoy. It may make to check with some good friends, especially Psychology and Education Services in Los Remembering to focus on enjoying your- .dating more fun and less painful if you those whom you trust as having some good Angeles. For more info 213-651-4165. self-and not just looking for.love=helps . ' remember that you, are gaining important experience with dating.A Montrose Activity Center NEW S LET T E R Page: 10 February 1990 from Board Retreat page 2 dinner on June 16. MAC Board Meeting of January 8, 1990 The cash on hand for the building fund is $4,000. Diaz, Garcia and Bell will serve Board Members present Jim Owens, as pass out flyers, speak, etc.) that it would Mark Franceschini, representing Ameri- on the building committee. Parker moved Jim Crary, Annise Parker, C. Williams, Joe not do so. Activities of MAC or sub-groups can Gay Atheists, brought up concerns that designated funds go into a separate Watts, Brian Keever, John Hill, Jack Val- need to be granted permission to promote about a benediction at a PW A Coalition account for the building fund, this was inski, Deborah Bell, Felix Garcia and events. Garcia seconded and the motion event and the planned meeting to discuss seconded by Williams. These funds would Ronnie Diaz. Absent Ray Hill passed. It was decided that "thank you's" "inclusion" which had not taken place. A not be for operating expenses on leased Guests: Pete Martinez, Mark Frances- . to people who helped with the event be meeting time would be set at the end of this property. The dedicated funds would be chini, James McKinley, Ed Inderwish, Ken printed in the newsletter and letters would meeting. Owens reminded everyone of the frozen for use for building fund for a build- Anctil, Marc Alexander & Leslie Perez. be sent. autonomy of sub-groups. John Hill made a ing MAC will own or have under long -term Ken Anctil of the Gay/Lesbian Switch- GHLU - Baile '90 went well. MAC will very eloquent statement emphasizing this, lease. board presented an overview of the switch- receive 2%. J. Hill, Garcia and Parker met that AGA objections were to be addressed It was decided that our top priority was board which included: The switchboard with GLHU before the event and got some to the other group, not to MAC. The fact the building fund and that a feasibility offers telephone counseling/referral from record keeping matters cleared up. that the NAMES Project national manual study would be conducted. Crary is consid- 4:00 PM to midnight, staffed by 40 to 50 New Business: The Tower Theater on contains a clause prohibiting the display of ering the position of Vice President. This volunteers, managed by a 15member board January 29will be the site of a fund raiser The Quilt at religious/political events was would be a new VP position having the of directors. They currently have a physi- of which MAC will receive 25% of the brought up. duty of working on the Building Project. callocation which includes a private room proceeds (see Calendar page 6-7). There were announcements concerning Crary and Williams will work on the feasi- g for the phones and a small meeting room. There was discussion on the newsletter the next meeting time for Lesbian/Gay bility and report back to the board. moj They have a computer database. They are a and a plan of action if Valinski is unable to Pride Week and the Pride Award Dinner. The meeting adjourned. 501-(c)(3) organization. Confidentiality is fulfill his duties as editor. Parker and Bell The after parade event ("Star Night '90) cel~ crucial. There was discussion on GLS leas- would work to produce a calendar. will benefit the MAC building fund. A . in Arizona. t~~ ing space from MAC if we were to obtain President Owens announced the resig- treasurer and secretary are needed and Valinski reminds us that we need to ru~ a space. Finances are tough, but they are nation of Board member Neal Massey, director positions are needed to be filled. raise funds for other than building. pas ~ currently seeking a grant from the Chicago who cited work commitments that con- GLAAD has filed with the FCC. The Next meeting of the MAC board will be clu~ Resource Center. flicted with his MAC duties. Pending a NAMES Project is moving next month to on Monday, March 12 at 7:00 PM at the ph~ . Valin ski and Crary will meet with the report by the "nominating committee," his workshop space at 1410 Fairview. The Metropolitan Multi-Service Center. The dre~ GLS on Jan 22 at 8:00 PM at Autry House. position will remain unftlled. AGA Cause Project is starting next month meeting adjourned. (i . 1 What is being considered is that MAC LIS1 would cover the cost of rent and possibly w~! the phone, they would provide staffers to tealj keep the facility open. These are prelimi- Houston GLAAD Protests KLOL Sale ,. 1 nary discussions only and subject to ac- The Houston chapter of the Gay & lar gay and lesbian bars, within walking written to KLOL and whose letters are in tions of both boards. Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation ftled distance of eleven other popular night- the public file, and possibly companies that Other groups that are seeking space are papers with the Federal Communications spots, down the street from the offices of advertise on Rusk-owned stations, as well Names Project (workshop space), TEAM Commission in Washington, DC, protest- the Houston Gay/Lesbian Political Cau- as others of influence, including potential Houston, Womynspace,Lesbian/Gay Pride ing the transfer oflicense of KLOL-FM on cus, and near the traditional end-point of buyers. Week, GLPC (needs large meeting room). the last day for public comment involving the annual Gay & Lesbian Pride Week Houston GLAAD does commend the We could.rent.snsce tCLother ITTnnn~nn~n ';h;,_¢:~rLC'VjflJ~ ~,..1-" , Valinski and Crary will meet with the r~port by the "nominating commit;;,;;'h'is workshop space at 1410 Fairview. The Metropoli;;-Mcl:ti~S~~k;~ C;~~~'Th; GLS on Jan 22 at 8:00 PM at Autry House. position will remain unfilled. . AGA Cause Project is starting next month meeting adjourned. What is being considered is that MAC would cover the cost of rent and possibly the phone, they would provide staffers to keep the facility open. These are prelimi- Houston GLAAD Protests KLOL Sale nary discussions only and subject to ac- The Houston chapter of the Gay 8t lar gay and" lesbian bars, within walking written to KLOL and whose letters are in tions of both boards. Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation filed distance of eleven other popular night- the public file, and possibly companies that Other groups that are seeking space are papers with the Federal Communications spots, down the street from the offices of advertise on Rusk-owned stations, as well Names Project (workshop space), TEAM Commission in Washington, DC, protest- the Houston Gay/Lesbian Political Cau- as others of influence, including potential Houston, Womynspace,Lesbian/Gay Pride ing the transfer of license of KLOL-FM on cus, and near the traditional end-point of buyers. Week, GLPC (needs large meeting room). the last day for public comment involving the annual Gay & Lesbian Pride Week Houston GLAAD does commend the We could rent space to other groups on an its $70,000,060 sale. Parade. station for broadcast services and commu- as needed basis. Houston GLAAD cited three main areas As Houston GLAAD searched the nity actions in support of AIDS prevention The treasurer's report was then pre- for the protest: station's public file for sympathetic pro- and education, but we regard AIDS much 21 sented. About $6,000 of money shown was 1. The station's fomenting of racial tests by others, evidence that KLOL ig- more seriously as a public health issue and Alley Fundraiser income. There was a hatred, ethnic bigotry, and promot- nored the surrounding community came to not one solely dependent or solely bearing clarification of what "designated fund" for ing discrimination against minorities, light. Not one time was anything done to upon the gay and lesbian community. the building meant. There was a correction women, and people of alternate sex- directly benefit a gay or lesbian organiza- Ultimately, the goal of Houston GLAAD in the minutes from the retreat concerning ual orientations. tion. The search also uncovered public is to reform KLOL broadcast standards to designated funds could be used on leased 2. Complete unresponsiveness to the documents that showed no employment of eliminate hate, bigotry, and discrimination property. All Alley income will go into the surrounding community standards any Black, Hispanic, or Asian males in the promoted over the public airwaves. The Building Fund account The Christmas Card and community concerns in the top employment catagory since before station, its management, and its ownership fund raiser done by Jim Crary raised about .station's inner-city and inner-Mon- 1983, and no more than five women in have ignored individual requests in the $600 which will also go into the designated trose neighborhood; and, these positions at anyone time. past Speaking with some united front to Building Fund. 3. Severe underemployment of women Houston GLAAD views these as seri- the Federal-Communication Commission The motion made by J. Hill at the retreat and minorities in the station's officer ous violations of the public trust of holding may bring desired results. concerning the number of seats on the and manager level. a broadcast license, and grounds to revoke Houston GLAAD is a project of the board was brought from the table and was Houston GLAAD organizer Michael C. it from the Rusk Corporation, the parent Montrose Activity Center, Inc. passed. There shall be no less then three Jozwiak states, "We've submitted docu- company ofKLOL-FM. On this basis there International Youth board members. mentation listing on-air slurs at Jews, should be no sale or transfer because the ''The Event" was reported on. Parker Mexicans, Mormons, Blacks, Catholics, license should be forfeit due to these con- open North American Bureau reported that she had received $3,500 this gay men and lesbians, Asians, and ex- tinuing policies of the Rusk Corporation. The International Lesbian & Gay Youth evening with a small amount outstanding. amples of sexual degradation of women. Houston GLAAD disputes claims that Organization (IGLYO), headquartered in There were 8comp tickets given out. There These are not just from callers to KLOL, this is a first amendment issue, that radio Amsterdam, has opened their first bureau are minor outstanding expenses. MAC but from their own on-air DJs, people to personalities should have free reign over covering the USA, Canada & Mexico. made about $6,000 in proceeds. Co-chairs whom the ownership pays hundreds of the airwaves. Broadcasting is not the Bruce Douglas, the Director of the Williams and Watts each made comments. thousands of dollars to do this." These equivalent of newspapers, magazines or IGLYO North American Bureau, asks that on their feelings about the experience. records come from nonitoring the station, books; those are not regulated. However, all youth groups and interested individuals Marc Alexander then addressed the from letters written in protest culled from the broadcast airwaves are licensed by the contact him at ILGYO, Suite 109, 4410 group voicing objection to the distribution KLOL's public file, and stretch back evenly federal government. Their use is granted Massachusetts Ave, NW, Washington, DC of promotional materials for ''The Event" over the last full year. and protected as a public trust to be used in 20016. ILGYO would appreciate help in at the River Oaks Theatre. He left after Houston GLAAD notes that not once in the public interest KLOL-FM violated that updating their mailing list of youth groups, speaking, not waiting to hear a response. the past four years, and probably longer, trust. university groups, etc. Comment were made by various board has KLOL done anything positive to di- Copies Of the Houston GLAAD list of From Paz Y Liberacion which is a gay members expressing their feelings about rectly benefit Houston's gay and lesbian discriminatory on-air remarks from KLOL and lesbian organization that reaches out the matter. Jim Owens moved that If MAC community, yet KLOL sits in the heart of will be made available to other minority to third world areas and can be contacted is denied permission to do something (such Montrose, just two blocks from two popu- organizations, those who had previously at Box 66450. Houston TX. 77266-6450. •••• Montrose Activity Center NEW S L E ·T T E R February 1990 Page: 11 Gay dancing at Disneyland by Andrew Exler more recent suit. together, then we'll shut down dancing danced just as long as the rest of us! At the from Gay Community News In September of this year, eight gay altogether here." end of the evening, many of us shook hands It appears that after nearly ten years of male couples successfully challenged same- On April 1, 1988, Christopher Drake, with security officers and thanked them for several activists fighting for the right to sex "touch" dancing on two different dance Eric Hubert and Jeffrey Stabile, as part Of respecting our right to have a good time. dance with members of the same sex at 1100rs in the Magic Kingdom. Security an outing by a number of California lesbian Los Angeles civil rights activist Morris Disneyland, I can now write the final chap- allowed us to dance romantically and told and gay college groups, had been dancing Kight described the event by stating it was ter to this civil rights victory at the "Gayest complaining guest that we hadjustas much to rock videos with male partners for nearly " ... a giant step for gaykind." Place on Earth." right as everyone else to dance. an hour. A slow song was played and the Now that it has taken nine years and two A lawsuit that was pending against The dance policy at Disneyland was three men began to "slow" dance with male exhausting lawsuits for Disneyland to rec- Disneyland regarding same-sex "touch" implemented in 1957, just two years after partners. It was then that security officers ognize our civil rights, I think it is ex- dancing was dismissed in August by three the park opened. The policy stated: informed the men they could not "touch" tremely important that we exercise those gay men who were told by Disneyland "Couples only are allowed on the dance dance. With the generous help of Lambda rights at the amusement park, whether it be security officers, in 1988, that "touch" floor (male/female)." Legal Defense and Education Fund in New same-sex dancing or holding hands while dancing was reserved for heterosexual. Prior to 1980, same-sex couples had York and the Los Angeles law office of walking down Main Street, USA. Being couples only. The attorneys for the gay been told on several occasions to stop LeRoy Walker and Associates, the three out and visible is probably one of the most men issued the following statement to the 'dancing together, but it was not until Sep- men ftled "Disneyland II." significant and healthy statements we can Los Angeles Times: tember 13, 1980, when Shawn Elliot and I I have been told that gays make as gay men and lesbians. We have to "Disneyland reaffirms that its written took to the dance floor that the policy was stop this nonsense of just being out at gay policy prohibits discrimination based upon challenged for the first time. That evening, dancing at Disneyland is not bars or gay pride festivals. Being out is a sexual orientation. The lawsuit has been Shawn and I refused to stop dancing to- "appropriate," especially 365-day-a-year commitment and we need to show the world we are healthy, happy dismissed by the plaintiffs." gether and refused to find female partners, because of the "family at- A Disneyland spokesperson told the as requested by security. Instead, we con- and productive individuals. Times that the case had been dismissed and tinued "disco" dancing until five security mosphere." These com- I am very disturbed with statements I that same-sex dancing was "no longer a officers physically grabbed us and removed ments only give me more hear from gay men who feel fighting for the problem" at the amusement park. us from the Tomorrowland Terrace dance right to dance is silly or that gay men In 1984, my right to dance with other arcade. After a 30 minute interrogation, we energy and vigor to con- should not attend male strip shows at main- males at the amusement park was upheld were escorted out of the park and threat- tinue fighting all types of stream nightclubs; that we should only be "gay" at gay businesses ..I have been told by a conservative Orange County (Califor- ened with arrest if we returned that eve- discrimination. Ibelieve this nia) jury. My case has been referred to as ning. We immediately filed suit and won that gays dancing at Disneyland is not "Disneyland I." The sequel, "Disneyland the right to dance in May, 1984. However, quote from the Wizard of Oz "appropriate," especially because of the "family atmosphere." These comments, II;" would be an appropriate title for the Disneyland insisted our legal victory only say itbest: "Come out, come applied to Shawn and me. Immediately which come from non-gay and gay people, Andrew Exler has spent the last ten after the ruling, an attorney for Disneyland out, wherever you are." only give me more energy and vigor to years in and out of court fighting for civil told the national wire services: "If same sex My recent test of the dance policy with continue fighting all types of discrimina- rights in employment, housing, and public couples try to dance together, we' IIremove 15 other gay men and two lesbians was a tion. them again. Each individual person who memorable experience. Everyone was I believe this quote from the Wizard of - accommodations. He currently has two C'.O'.1 ;'_t~MC!t~Q"r'noa._.o..lI.lI .•~.o.o~.o. b.o._.,~ ______•. _ ._ ..J __ ~_ •.•• .: •..L ~ •..L .•~• & •..L_~ ~_'~1~~' _. __ 1.•.•• _ a~ _._,,-t~••.•. r",v_Air,.. ••;...".;",,,';,," II"YUI~lI;"tfI •.••A ••• A;_~ .f',.. •• _------~------~-----~....-----.,....CI"1 ------1.-.I."'IV.-Il.~---Orn.7 .• ~--- ..o --- -- i problem" at the amusement park. us from the Tomorrowland Terrace dance . right to dance is silly or that gay men In 1984, my right to dance with other arcade. After a 30 minute interrogation, we energy and VIgor to con- should not attend male strip shows at main- males at the amusement park was upheld were escorted out of the park and threat- tinue fighting all types of stream nightclubs; that we should only be b~a~onservativeOrangeCounty(Califor- e~ed with. arrest .if we r~turne1 that eve- discrimination. Ibelieve this "gay" at gay businesses. I have been told nia) Jury. My case has been referred to as nmg. We Immediately filed suit and won that gays dancing at Disneyland is not "Disneyland I." The sequel, "Disneyland the rightto dance in May, 1984. However, quote from the WizardoJOz "appropriate," especially because of the II," would be an appropriate title for the Disneyland insisted our legal victory only say itbest: "Come out come "family atmosphere." These comments, applied to Shawn and me. Immediately , " which come from non-gay and gay people, Andrew Exler has spent the last ten afiertheruling, an attorney for Disneyland out, wherever you are. only give me more energy and vigor to years in and out of court fighting for civil told the national wire services: "If same sex My recent test of the dance policy with continue fighting all types of discrimina- rights in employment, housing, and public couples try to dance together, we'll remove 15 other gay men and two lesbians was a tion. accommodations. He currently has two them again. Each individual person who memorable experience. Everyone was I believe this quote from the Wizard of sex-discrimination lawsuits pending for wants to dance with another person of the extremely enthusiastic and proud that we Oz say it best: "Come out, come out, wher- being denied entrance into male strip shows, same sex would have to file an individual were finally allowed to enjoy the same ever you are." including the famed Chippendales night- lawsuit If it reaches the point where it rights as everyone else at the park. We Please feel free to write me at 35-250 club in Los Angeles. He works at a parale- affects the image of Disneyland because ranged in age from 18 to 62, and some of Date Palm Drive, Suite 260, Cathedral gal and resides in Palm Springs. people of the same sex want to dance those dancing were HIV positive, yet they City, California 92234.1.. People with AIDS in Texas Struggling For Life

from page 1 seven indigent patients who were waiting For others as well, the quality and the in Houston, is trying to expand from three month for saying he gave a lighter sentence for AZT at Parkland Hospital in Dallas in availability of AIDS care very widely. As beds to eight. The director, Karen St. Lau- to the convicted killer of two men because 1988, the drug was made more readily elsewhere, those with insurance and pri- rent, said the need was far greater. "We are the victims were gay. In Forth Worth, the available. Today about 1,700 Texans get vate doctors in large cities can get good it for indigents in Houston, which is pretty explosion of a tear gas canister abruptly free AZT under a program fmanced jointly treatment, AIDS experts say. But less for- sad for a city this size," she said. "We could endedarecentAIDS benefit concert attended by the state and federal governments. tunate patients often languish, and this situ- take care of hundreds." 'by nearly 2,000 people. But the program does not yet provide ation is aggravated in Texas by the rela- As tenuous as AIDS care is in Texas, For many AIDS patients and their advo- pentamidine, a medication that often pre- tively low level of social spending. health officials say patients are coming 'cates, the paucity of medical research in vents the form of pneumonia that causes The nation's first AIDS-only hospital, from neighboring states like Louisiana, Houston, -a city with a reputation for ad- most AIDS deaths. In remote areas, pa- the Institute for Immunological Disorders, Arkansas and Oklahoma, where there are vanced cardiac care and other sophisticated tients may have to travel 100 miles or more opened in Houston in 1986. But because even fewer services. medical treatment, is particularly galling. to clinics for such life-prolonging thera- the private hospital tended to draw poor pa- Historically, Texas politics and religion No Clinical Trials in Texas pie..:.,s. _ tients who did not have their own doctors, have had a strong conservative stripe. No clinical trials of experimental AIDS A study by the AIDS it ran out of funds and closed after a year. Adherents are often unsympathetic to AIDS drugs have existed for adult patients in the "It was not a viable business venture, needs. One legislator caused a stir when he state, thereby eliminating one of the few Policy Center in Washing- particularly in Texas, where we are about was quoted as saying that AIDS programs avenues to potentially helpful treatment ton calculated that Califor- the 48th-lowest state in Medicaid benefits," were pouring money "down a rat hole" and This is the case even though laboratories said R. King Hillier, the government rela- that infected prostitutes and drug abusers there have received grants for AIDS re- nia and New York budgeted tions director of the Harris County Hospi- should be killed. search. Only now have trials begun with nearly $3 per resident for tal District in Houston. He said public hos- The quest for AIDS funds has also been DOl, or dideoxyinosine a drug similar to AIDS in 1989. Texas spent pitals, financed by property taxes subject crimped by the state's oil bust, real estate AZT, or azidothymidine. AZT is the only to voter referendums, are also hard-pressed crash and banking collapse. In last year's federally approved medication to slow the at a rate of just 14 cents on to meet rising AIDS costs. session, however, the Legislature increased AIDS virus. state programs. A sense of being overwhelmed pervades AIDS allocations to a total of$18.4 million After a lawsuit prompted by the death of AIDS agencies. Omega House, a hospice see People with AIDS page 12 Montrose Activity Cen ter N E w s LET T E R Page: 12 February 1990

from People with AIDS in TX page 11 tempted murder for spitting in a guard's public hospital where appointments are share space with scout troops, choir prac- for 1989 and 1990, as against $7 million for face. And the state attorney in September delayed up to six hours. tice and Sunday school classes. the previous two-year period. set aside a new state law requiring real ' Loren Allen, an energy consultant, got Carrying on a tradition begun in the Yet this fell far short of the $48 million estate brokers to reveal if an apartment or involved when a nephew died of AIDS yellow fever epidemic a century ago, the for a two-year period requested by the house has been occupied by someone with contracted from a blood transfusion. church provides a center with free lunch, Legislature's own task force led by Ms. AIDS. Now on the board of the Houston AIDS rest, socializing, entertainment and coun- Steele. She described a top legislative chair- The strongest response to fight AIDS in Foundation, Mr. Allen is a master at stretch- seling. The church con vented its library man as so taken aback by the proposal that Texas has come from the grass roots. In ing scarce resources. He spotted a dis- into an AIDS dental clinic for patients who he exclaimed, "Forty-eight million-why, Dallas, the AIDS Arms Network embraces carded washer and dryer for a hospice, had waited months for treatments at the . that's unthinkable!" 43 private agencies and is considered a asked produce truckers to save leftovers, county hospital. A bridge for six teeth A Texas prisoner infected model of cooperation. got unsold doughnuts from a bakery, res- restored one man's smile and self-confi- Many efforts are undertaken by volun- cued a used mimeograph machine and dence, enabling him to get a new job. with the AIDS virus, about teers who lost friends or relatives. arranged for a diaper factory to supply "To minister, a church must be sensitive to be paroled, was recently When a bartender at a gay bar in San AIDS babies under the care of nuns. to what is hurting its community," said the Antonio came down with AIDS, the owner, At Bering Memorial United Methodist pastor, the Rev. Donald Sinclair. "In this resentenced to a life term Robert Edwards, closed the bar and turned Church in Houston, AIDS support groups community, right now, what's hurting after he was convicted of at- it into an AIDS foundation, with himself as people is AIDS."", president. Mr. Edwards, who has a long tempted murder for spitting white beard and is know as Papa Bear, said in a guard's face he acted because "there was just nothing •• QUOTABLES ~ Suits Over AIDS Abound being done." Now the former bar is a center for AIDS issues are also playing out in the Considering the rocky relations between Houston police officers and their last counseling, testing and covert distribution courts. , chief, Elizabeth M. Watson may have taken the comments of the head of a A gay rights group sued a Houston of clean needles to addicts. Next door is Casa of Care, an AIDS residence and hos- patrolmen's group as a compliment. "1can't think of anything bad to say about her," music company in November after it sud- he said. If, as expected, she is confirmed, Ms. Watson, a Houston cop for 17 years, denly cut its health coverage for AIDS to pice. ] will become the first woman to head a large police force, replacing Lee P. Brown, $5,000 from $1 million when an employee In Houston, one son of Tess Thomas now of New York City, who drew frequent criticism from the Houston police. Even submitted claims. In another Houston case, died of AIDS and another has the disease. skeptics like Mark R. Clark, the head-of the patrolmen's group, thought she would neigfibors are suing to stop a proposed She works for the Greater Houston AIDS win acceptance. "Police have their surges of machoism," he said. "But they will residence for people with AIDS. Alliance, in the former Southern Pacific fall in line. This is 1990." But if the local police seemed grudging, other experts were A Texas prisoner infected with the AIDS Railroad Hospital. An ambulatory clinic virus, about to be paroled after serving time for 800 AIDS patients opened there in sanguine. 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