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Volume I, number 48 Brought to you by Naaleh.com Chassidut: Parshat Teruma – The Mishkan Based on a Naaleh.com shiur by Rabbi Hershel Reichman The Shem MiShmuel discusses a disagree- love stem from? According to the Ramban soul. The Mishkan had three points of ment about when the commandment to and the Zohar, it was a direct natural holiness. The Chatzer was open for all Jews build the Tabernacle was given. Ramban outcome of Matan Torah. They felt except those who were impure. The Kodesh and the Zohar maintain that the mitzva Hashem’s closeness so intensely that they was open only to the kohanim. And the came right after the giving of the Torah poured out their ahavat Hashem through Kodesh Kadashim was closed all year before the sin of the golden calf. Rashi and their donations to the Mishkan. Rashi and except on Yom Kippur when only the kohein the midrashim say that it was given after the midrashim maintain that the Jewish gadol was allowed entrance. cheit haegel, as a sign of the Jewish people’s love was aroused as a result of Time also has multiple levels of kedusha. nation’s reconciliation with Hashem. cheit haegel. After Moshe showed the Rosh Chodesh is more holy than weekdays, Almost everything about the Mishkan was Jewish people how they had distanced yet work is permitted. On Yom Tov we can miraculous. The Aron fit into the Kodesh themselves from Hashem, they did teshuva perform work for ochel nefesh (food prepara- Kadashim despite the fact that its physical at the deepest level of their souls. This tion) but all other work is prohibited. On dimensions were bigger than the space of engendered a tremendous yearning to do Shabbat even work for ochel nefesh is the Kodesh Kodashim. The Leviim did not the will of Hashem, which in turn led to their prohibited. Holiness is found within every really carry the Aron, it floated on its own. outstanding donations to the Mishkan. Jew. All Jews must maintain the holiness of The wooden beams of the Mishkan, which The Shem MiShmuel posits that perhaps Kedoshim tihiyu, avoiding all prohibited were coated with solid gold, were so both explanations are correct. They aveirot. The second level is restraining immense and heavy, they could not received the mitzva to build the Mishkan oneself from permitted pleasures in order to possibly be transported in a few wagons right after Matan Torah, when they were on achieve more holiness. The third level is harnessed to oxen. Yet they were. Even the level of Adam before the sin. They were knowing Hashem in all of one’s ways. This though the Mishkan was a physical more spiritual than physical, and that is what is the level of a tzaddik. structure, it went beyond the laws of nature. the Mishkan originally was supposed to be. One can come closer to Hashem by On what basis where the Jewish people After the sin, when they lost the two crowns responding with love to the tremendous able to create such a miraculous phenom- of naaseh v’nishma and with it their immortal- wonders, blessings, and love that Hashem enon? The Shem MiShmuel answers that it ity, they became physical, flawed humans showers upon us. This represents the first was in the merit of their incredible love for again struggling with good and evil. Mishkan after Matan Torah. Sometimes our Hashem. They demonstrated this love with Therefore, the Mishkan after cheit haegel sins separate us from Hashem. We are lost, their magnanimous donations to the had much more physicality than the original and we need our Creator to bring us back to Mishkan. Hashem repaid their extraordi- Mishkan, which was supposed to be built the light. If we seek Him we will find him. nary national expression of love with His after Matan Torah. This represents the Mishkan after cheit own love, expressed through the miracles Every person is given unique challenges haegel. May we merit to find fulfill our roles of the Mishkan. and a chance to reach their own specific in this world using both levels of relating to Where did the Jewish people’s profound level of kedusha. Kedusha manifests itself G-d. on different levels in time, place, and the Bringing Torah To Life #7- Building Parent-Child Relationships Part 3 Based on a Naaleh.com shiur by Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller We continue our discussion on effectively clear and limited. Anything you can do to children what you don’t want them to do. parenting to our teenaged children. make your teens feel big by being obedient This shows that you’re admitting that they’re Putting them down when they do something is much better than making them feel small capable of doing it. It’s much better if you outrageous just adds fuel to the fire. for disobeying authority. Don’t be reactive to bring them up in a way that you can trust Instead, your weapon should be kavod. If your teen’s sullen or aggressive behavior. It them. If you haven’t and you want them to your daughter wants to buy an immodest will just draw you into a cycle that will be feel trusted anyway, don’t ask too many skirt, tell her, “This is cheap looking. I want very hard to get out of. Talk to him as though questions but be on top of them in a subtle you to look like a refined, quality, girl.” he is the child you want him to be, not the way. Realize that the bargain basement look is child he really is. Treat him as though he is A huge problem with boys is their insatiable usually the cool look, so be prepared to mature and acting appropriately and he’ll desire to sleep. The first thing to do is to try spend more money for reasonably contem- become that way. to get out of the picture. When your son is in porary and refined clothing. Talk to your Some parents vacillate with rules. Should a good mood, take him to the store and tell daughters about the inner beauty and kids have a curfew, should they be given him, “I don’t like the morning hassle. Pick royalty of modesty. The more you can get spending money, etc? This is all individual, yourself an alarm clock. You’re old enough them to take pride in having a certain but the basic rule is if you’ve given your to take care of yourself.” If he takes account- quality image, the more tzniut will become a children a foundation where they’ve ability, then it’s off you. If he won’t take diminished battle. integrated the meaning of your demands, responsibility, then it’s on you, because Boundaries are crucial, but try to keep them you can request a lot less. Don’t tell your you’re liable for his future. Unfortunately, this Continued on next page... visit us online at: www.naaleh.com | for questions, suggestions, or dedication opportunities, email [email protected] 1 Bringing Torah To Life #7- Building Parent-Child Relationships Part 3 Based on a Naaleh.com shiur by Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller Continued from Page 1 s one of those unsolvable problems. You a group of rebels. Think five times before positive, before making the switch. have to try to do your best. There may be you place your son in an alternative Choose your battles. A significant number a physical component, or it may be an environment. If you’ve gone there and seen of students in Neve are girls who went off emotional escape. If a boy isn’t succeeding that the Rosh Yeshiva, by playing personal- the derech and are now coming back. An in yeshiva or he finds davening too long or ity magic, has succeeded in creating a unbelievable proportion of these girls have boring, he may not have a reason to get positive environment in a non exclusive mentioned that the most significant source up. Try to make learning and tefilla more setting, then it can work out fine. of their conflict with their mothers was over appealing. It is important for kids to feel For girls, academics should not play a keeping their rooms clean. This is definitely successful in the framework they’re in. critical factor in choosing a school. If your not worth pushing your daughter off the If your son is not succeeding, you may daughter would be happier in a school derech for. A good rule to keep in mind is want to consider a different option. Be where her friends are or where the that anything that won’t matter in thirty careful though. Grouping problems doesn’t teachers are nicer, let her go. If she’s failing years shouldn’t matter today. Your daughter work. If the critical mass of a group are in the school she chose and you really think will learn cleanliness and neatness kids who are failing, the energy will be of a she could succeed elsewhere, look very eventually. Don’t expend your energies group of failures which can easily turn into carefully and see if the critical mass is over it now. The Unique Joy of Adar Based on a Naaleh.comshiur by Rabbi Eliezer Miller Our Jewish calendar is full of special days Yom Kippur and the Jews accepted the repents out of love, one’s sins are that have a unique influence on us and help Torah again out of love on Purim. Rav transformed into merits. This is why we are us come closer to Hashem. The Torah calls Tzadok Hacohen writes that just as Yom enjoined to increase our happiness in Adar. the holidays, moadim, times of meeting with Kippur is a day of atonement, so Purim has Even if a person doesn’t feel naturally Hashem. The month of Adar contains the the power to weaken the strength of Amalek. happy, the avoda of Adar is to arouse our hidden power of repentance. Teshuva The Zohar in Ki Teitzei says that the root of feelings for happiness. When we rejoice, our comes from the root word “shuv,” meaning Amalek is the yetzer hara. Each one of us hearts are open to Hashem, which in turn return. Sin distances us from Hashem, and has a bit of Amalek – the yetzer hara – leads us to return to Him in love. teshuva brings us back close to Him again. inside of us. The more a person taps into the The Shem MiShmuel writes that an extra The Sar Shalom MiBelz explains the verse holiness of Purim, the more he weakens the measure of Divine Presence is found in the in Breishit, “Ki lulei hismahmanu ata shavnu Amalek inside of him. world during the month of Adar. He cites the zeh pamayim. If we had not delayed we The book Segulot Yisrael writes that just as Arizal, who says that any awakening from would have returned twice already.” Lulei Yom Kippur is an auspicious time for below always stems from an awakening has the same letters as Elul. “Zeh” is the teshuva and tefilla, so is Purim. Many have from above. During Adar, Hashem opens up numerical value twelve. If one delayed a custom to arise early to pray for their own his wellsprings of generosity and love for the repenting in Elul then one can return in the personal yeshuot and for all of Klal Yisrael. Jewish people. This, in turn, inspires us to twelfth month, Adar. The Zohar says that with happiness on express our love towards him. When a Purim is also a special day for teshuva. Purim one can attain the same lofty level of person feels more connected to Hashem, he The Tikunei Zohar says that Yom Kippur is closeness to Hashem that one achieves realizes his own importance and how the Yom KiPurim, it is compared to Purim. The through fasting and affliction on Yom Kippur. world will not run properly without him. This Midrash says that when Mashiach will The Sefat Emet notes that whereas Elul is a gives him the motivation to want to do come all the holidays will be annulled time of teshuva out of fear, Purim is a time of Hashem’s will and repent. except Yom Kippur and Purim. The Gra teshuva out of love. Adar connotes an May we merit todo teshuva out of love, and explains that both are days of kabalat expression of strength. Doing teshuva may Hashem help us awaken our feelings of haTorah. The second luchot were given on requires tremendous inner power, and if one happiness, generosity, and love for Him.

Rebbetzin’s Perspective II Part 8 Excerpted from Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller’s Question and Answer series on Naaleh.com Question: Answer: child quality time, he will get the message In one of your classes, you mentioned that Children need focused time in order to feel that you are uninterested in him because he children don’t need a lot of time with their beloved. There are women who are home all is not all that important to you. I know parents, they just need to feel love and day who give their children very little time. parents who have relatively little time, but attention when they do spend time together. I’ve seen some rather sad situations. I know when they’re with their children, they’re fully Do you mean that quantity is inconsequen- a family where the mother is so busy there and their children feel cherished. tial as long as there is some quality time cooking and cleaning that she virtually pays Of course, if a mother can give her children every day? no attention to her children. The children are both quality and quantity time, that is ideal. on their own most of the time. However, quality time is still the most critical Quantity time is not inconsequential but that factor. alone is not enough. If you fail to give your

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