GGTAS Episode 58

GOOD GIRLS TALK ABOUT SEX Transcript – Do you have hair down there, Episode 58 [MUSIC] LEAH: Welcome to Good Girls Talk About Sex. I’m sex educator and sexual communication coach Leah Carey and this is a place to share conversations with all sorts of women about their experience of sexuality. These are unfiltered conversations between adult women talking about sex. If anything about the previous sentence offends you, turn back now! And if you’re looking for a trigger warning, you’re not going to get it from me. I believe that you are stronger than the trauma you have experienced. I have faith in your ability to deal with things that upset you. Sound good? Let’s start the show! [MUSIC] LEAH: Hey friends. Welcome back to another episode where we hear a collage of voices answering your most burning questions. Well, perhaps burning is not the right word to use in this context. If you’ve got a burning sensation, please go see your doctor. But today’s hot topic, do you have hair down there or are you bare? So I want to be brutally honest with you, until just a few years ago, I was obsessed with wondering whether other women shaved down there or not. It wasn’t a sexual curiosity. It was purely an “Am I Normal” curiosity. So let’s dive in. Actually that’s another expression that feels ill chosen in this particular subject but I’ll be back in a few minutes to share my own down-there-hair journey with you. [MUSIC] SPEAKER 1: I have hair. I’m too lazy. SPEAKER 2: I do enjoy trimming it with beard clippers or something but I can’t take a razor to it. My skin is so sensitive, I get angry kitty. I just can’t go completely bare. I like it bare for about twelve hours and then my life is hell for about a week. SPEAKER 3: I have hair. SPEAKER 4: I try to trim it up. SPEAKER 5: Hair down there, au naturel. I have very soft not curly, so he actually prefers that I don’t trim it. SPEAKER 6: I have hair everywhere. It’s actually one of the things that I told him before we ever saw each other. I don’t shave and I’m never going to shave again. At this point, he’s gotten to the point where he thinks it’s super sexy. SPEAKER 8: I’m mostly bare. I went through a period of time where I was waxing and then I just kind of got lazy because I have two kids and it’s hard to have the time to go to the waxing studio. So right now, I’m shaving it, but I’m not shaving it every day so at this current moment, it’s probably not completely bare. SPEAKER 9: It’s either all or nothing. [LAUGHTER] SPEAKER 9: Because I need it waxed every four months. Depending on when you get me in that cycle, either or. [LAUGHTER] SPEAKER 10: Hair, though I like to be very, very trimmed. I don’t like a lot. I regularly get bikini waxes. So I definitely like there to be hair but not a lot. SPEAKER 11: Oh, bare for both of us. At the moment, I’m still shaving but I swear to God the next time I have a significant amount of money, I’m just going to get it all taken care of. SPEAKER 12: I do have hair. It’s funny being back on the apps relatively recently. That’s like the second thing that a lot of men ask. “Hey, how’s your Friday? Are you fully shaved?” Those are like the first two questions. SPEAKER 13: In a couple of hours, I’m going to be bare. I have a waxing appointment. [LAUGHTER] SPEAKER 13: So at the moment, it’s a little hairy. SPEAKER 14: I have hair down there. I don’t have a 70s afro porn bush. I don’t have that. SPEAKER 15: I am hairy. Too much work. My husband doesn’t mind either way. Thank God. SPEAKER 16: I’m mostly bare. SPEAKER 17: Hair down there. SPEAKER 18: Now I have hair. I’ve gone through periods where I’ve been not completely but partially bare. SPEAKER 19: I have less hair than I used to, post-chemo. Not all my hair grew back. I preferred bare because of how it felt for me. But after chemo, I didn’t bother starting to shave again and my partner said he didn’t care and I didn’t have as much hair so it doesn’t bother me as much as it used to. SPEAKER 20: I trim especially around the clit area because that’s where most of my hair grows. And it’s just for health, for hygiene reasons. I don’t want too much hair and fluid and things gathering in one place. SPEAKER 21: 99% of the time I have hair down there. I get bare occasionally and I kind of like to do it, but I have really sensitive skin and it is a major undertaking for me to go to bare and not end up with horrifying rashes. [LAUGHTER] SPEAKER 21: But I also kind of like hair. I like at least a landing strip. I don’t like it to look like a child’s. SPEAKER 22: Yeah, I have hair. Sometimes I’ll be inspired and then I’ll be bare. But for the most part, hair. SPEAKER 23: I have a short hair landing strip. It’s just like about an inch wide and the rest is gone. The inch is very short and I don’t know why I chose that but I did. I have had it lasered, the edges, and so I just trim the middle strip with hair clippers. SPEAKER 24: Right now, I am bare. I let it grow and then I shave. SPEAKER 25: So currently at this moment, it’s bare. Sometimes it goes away. Usually try to plan it out with a period or maybe bikini time or lingerie shoots. SPEAKER 26: I like having hair mostly because I hate shaving because I’m Middle Eastern and it sucks. Because I’d spend an hour just on my bush. I discovered shortcuts in terms of clippers. [LAUGHTER] SPEAKER 26: And I have gotten waxed down there which I really love but it’s expensive and then I get ingrown hairs. So I like to have maybe doing do that two times a year because I really, really like it when it’s super smooth. It’s such a nice change. But trimmed. SPEAKER 27: I got lasered at about 45. SPEAKER 28: It depends on if I can be bothered shaving. So here’s a funny thing I wear glasses, I don’t know if you experience this. I attempt to shave all the way and then I get out of the shower and I put my glasses on and it’s a freaking disaster. [LAUGHTER] SPEAKER 29: I am a very pro hair person. I landscape if I feel like it and sometimes I don’t. SPEAKER 30: I shave but I don’t wax. So I shave everything twice a week. I’ve been doing it probably since I was 16 I guess at this point. LEAH: And is that because you like it or because you’ve heard a message about how that is how it’s supposed to be? SPEAKER 30: I definitely started doing it because that’s how it’s supposed to be. I prefer now for my partner to shave so I usually l do the same thing. But I know that’s her preference too. SPEAKER 31: I’m lasered which is actually an interesting thing because in the body acceptance world, sometimes I wish I could grow a big bush and rock it and I can’t. [LAUGHTER] SPEAKER 32: I’m pretty natural right now because I’m just too lazy to get taken care of it. I also don’t like feeling like a little girl like completely bare just weirds me out now. SPEAKER 33: When it grows in, it’s painful, you get that stubby bit and you could sand paper. [LAUGHTER] SPEAKER 33: And maintaining is a lot of work. So I go back and forth. I’d probably make it bare about three or four times a year. Just to keep the forest under control. SPEAKER 34: I have hair. I get sugared and I sugar my bikini line. SPEAKER 35: I like Sassy’s because they don’t try to dictate to you what you should do with your own pubic hair. But yeah, I prefer fairly shaved somewhere between three-quarters to 100% all the time. That’s it. LEAH: How much maintenance does that require? SPEAKER 35: It’s a pain in the ass. I wouldn’t say I shave every other day, I shave based on when I’m working like I worked last night so I shave yesterday then I work tomorrow, oh god, I have to shave on Thursday too. But if I didn’t have to work until Friday, I’d let that shit ride. [LAUGHTER] SPEAKER 36: No, actually I only ever trim it for swimsuits. SPEAKER 37: I have hair right now but it’s not very thick or anything. I’ve been a fan of waxing and shaving in the past but now, I’m kind of like let it grow a little, exploring different things.

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