april 2018WORLD PLUS APPROACH FOUNDATION www.plusapproach.co.in Content “The key to happiness is accepting an unpleasant HappiNESS reality every day” -Bertrand 1 2 russell Happiness is found in helping others 4 3 poSiTiVE SToriES you can change the world – maybe not all at once, but one person, iNSpiraTioNal pErSoNaliTy one animal, and one good india’s first woman fighter pilot deed at a time 8 to fly solo: avani Chaturvedi 9 The pErMa Model: Scientific Theory of Happiness 2 HAPPINESS Dr. ASHutosh KArnatak n a recent survey conducted on Happiness, It was found that one of the most important aspects of getting and giving happiness is by Helping oth- Iers and giving back to society. The other areas were Family, Nature, Spiri- tuality, Travel etc. This editions of PEAK world is dedicated to Happiness and Positivity readers are requested to understand the concept of happiness: Overall happiness index is a measure of happiness of an individual which one extracts from the above mentioned sources. The weight age of param- eters is different for each individual, i.e. Can have 20% weight age for profes- sion, whereas others can put 50% into it, thus in case of any setback in this parameter the loss of happiness relatively will be more for the person putting more weightage. Thus, one can have weight differently for different parameters and it is variable of time and mental state. In this competitive life the weightage given by the individual on the profession is much more than others, thus any set- back on this account causes dejection, frustration, depressions etc. It has got a direct impact on other areas, particularly on family and a vicious circle is formed. It is pertinent for a human being to derive happiness from other sources, in such conditions and endeavor should be to have a balance be- tween all areas of operations. One should strive for happiness as happy as he can, understanding that no one can be perfectly happy. Generally, people deprive themselves of hap- piness either by remembering their past or thinking about the future.What disturbs people’s mind are not events but their judgment on an event. So a caution is required for framing the attitude and condition of mind and a con- stant vigil is required, which can be achieved by doing deliberate practice and one can be happy in all the moments of life. Let us try to be happy and disseminate happiness among masses. TIME Magazine, Feb. 2005: The New Sciences of Happiness “ The difference between a successful person and others is not lack of strength not a lack of knowledge but rather a lack of will.”– Vince Lombardi 3 “The key to happiness is accepting an unpleasant reality every day” -Bertrand Russell ArTICLE by Dr. ASHutosh KArnatak hat is the real meaning of life – everybody will have its own meaning, but in the meantime, everybody will agree to the fact is that bottom- Wline is “Happy”.It is neither riches, nor bungalows nor vehicles nor power. It is something else – which cannot be purchased, but only realized. This happiness may be on account of the admission in a good professional, college, getting high profile job or a job, getting money in case of crisis, capturing a sce- nic photograph like Alps or Everest, of two birds joining their beak etc. In today’s context, when man is striving to meet the ends and being ground continuously between the situations, some moment of happiness also has their genuine right in the life of the individual. As such no law of the earth denies the right of happiness, but the man himself does not allow it to enter into the life. What a paradox… In my opinion “Happiness is our birthright no-one can snatch it from you, until unless you allows others to invade on your happiness”. before going further, it is essential to establish some facts about happiness: • It is said that the happiness is the state of mind and it is a variable of individual mental setup. • A particular event may bring happiness to one, but it may be different to another. Thus happiness is not a circumstance based phenomenon rather, it’s a variety of individual. • Happiness leads a tension free life with less resistance. A happy man takes all the problems, obstacles, and hindrances as a milestone to achieve and tries hard to get over it and derives happiness in all the steps while overcoming it. • Happiness cannot be purchased; it is a matter of realization. • Man himself is responsible for its state – nobody else “Many of life’s failures are experienced by people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” - Thomas Edison 4 Happiness is found in helping others ave a giving attitude – the recipients of your kindness aren’t the only ones reaping the benefits. Generosity is one of six variables found to Hconsistently influence happiness in the world Happiness report. In fact, just thinking about being generous and kind triggers happiness reaction in the mind. Putting a smile on someone’s face can make you cheerful. Studies show that when people donated to charity or helped others, the portion of the brain responsible for feelings of reward was triggered. The brain also releases fee- good chemicals and spurs you perform more kind acts – something psycholo- gists call ‘helper’s high’. It was also noted that helping someone out can leave you feeling rewarded and fulfilled. People who participate in volunteer work feel more empowered than those who do not. According to a survey by the united Health Group, 96 per cent of people who volunteered over the past 12 months said volunteering has been enriching their sense of purpose. Consider donating some of your time to a cause you’re passionate about. People who volunteer have been found to have higher self-esteem and overall well-being. The feelings of social connectedness increase, so does your self- esteem. The benefits of showing gratitude and helping others also depend on your consistency. So, the more regularly you help, the more confidence you’ll be able to cul- tivate. Having a positive impact on someone else can help you change your own outlook and attitude. Performing acts of kindness boosts your mood and ultimately makes you more optimistic and positive. It gives you a perspective on your own situation and teaches you to be appreciative of what you have. MessagE: Trust your skills & Potential & strive to your goal with determination “ Don’t wait around for other people being happy for you. Any happiness you get, you have got to make yourself.” – Alice Walker, Author 5 poSiTiVE SToriES You can change the world – maybe not all at once, but one person, one animal, and one good deed at a time very Sunday morning one gentleman used to take She went on: “I spend a couple of hours each Sun- a light jog around a park near his home. There day morning, relaxing by this lake and helping these Ewas a lake located in one corner of the park. Each little guys out. It’s my own strange way of making a time the gentleman jog by this lake and see the same difference.” elderly woman sitting at the water’s edge with a small “but don’t most freshwater turtles live their whole metal cage sitting beside her. lives with algae and scum hanging from their shells?” One day out of curiosity he stopped jogging and gentleman asked. walked over to her. As he got closer, he realized that “yep, sadly, they do,” she replied. the metal cage was in fact a small trap. There were He scratched his head. “Well then, don’t you think three turtles, unharmed, slowly walking around the your time could be better spent? I mean, I think your base of the trap. She had a fourth turtle in her lap that efforts are kind and all, but there are fresh water tur- she was carefully scrubbing with a spongy brush. tles living in lakes all around the world. And 99% of “Hello,” he said. “I see you here every Sunday these turtles don’t have kind people like you to help morning. If you don’t mind my nosiness, I’d love to them clean off their shells. So, no offense… but how know what you’re doing with these turtles.” exactly are your localized efforts here truly making a She smiled. “I’m cleaning off their shells,” she re- difference?” plied. “Anything on a turtle’s shell, like algae or scum, The woman giggled aloud. She then looked down reduces the turtle’s ability to absorb heat and impedes at the turtle in her lap, scrubbed off the last piece of its ability to swim. It can also corrode and weaken the algae from its shell, and said, “Sweetie, if this little guy shell over time.” could talk, he’d tell you I just made all the difference in “Wow! That’s really nice of you!” he exclaimed. the world.” Moral You can change the world – maybe not all at once, but one person, one animal, and one good deed at a time. Wake up every morning and pretend like what you do makes a difference. Forgive Bad and engrave Good deeds story tells that two friends were walking through from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone: “TODAy the desert. During some point of the journey My bEST FrIEND SAVED My LIFE.” Athey had an argument, and one friend slapped The friend who had slapped and saved his best the other one in the face.