Topic : I Am Where? and I Should Do What?: Matching Your Behavior to Your Environment

Navigating Life: Social Academic Intervention Group (SAIG) High School Level PBIS TIER 2 Topic : I am Where?....and I Should do What?: Matching Your Behavior to Your Environment

Learning Intention:  We are learning to behave appropriately in varying social situations  We are learning to develop an understanding of societal custom and norms  We are learning to understand the meaning of social graces

Success Criteria:  We know we are successful when students will be aware of varying expectations in varying social situations  We know we are successful when students will be able to adapt to varying social situations and behave according to societal norms  We know we are successful when students will be able to demonstrate appropriate behaviors in a variety of social situations

Materials for Activity:  Large post it paper/easel/chalkboard/whiteboard  Markers/Chalk  Prewritten definition of Social Graces  Check-In Check-Out Rubric

Standard Circle Set-Up:  Chairs in a circle (preferable without desk attached)  Center Piece in center of circle  3-4 talking pieces laying around the center piece  2-4 Copies of the Group’s Shared Agreements

Group Procedure

Welcome Greet students, get in circle. If needed, seat students strategically. Notice how the group is doing today (e.g. high or low energy, high or low motivation). Once everyone is seated, remind students of the shared agreements. Feel free to ask a student to volunteer to read them or read them yourself.

Icebreaker If you were welcoming a new student to the school, what is one thing that you could do to make that person feel a part of the school community today? *Try to choose the first person that volunteered. *If he/she begins speaking without a talking piece, remind him/her to choose one. *If he/she does not pass it to the left when done, remind him/her to do so. *Remember who started so you know who will be the last person to speak.

Prior Week Reflection Pass out the prior week CICO rubric. Have students reflect on their performance by stating: Let’s take some time to review our goal from last week. Take some time to determine if you achieved your goal, what worked, and what didn’t work so well. Then we will send the talking piece around for everyone to share. After a minute has passed, assess group to determine if everyone is ready to start. Then ask: who would like to start? *Try to choose the first person that volunteered. *If he/she begins speaking without a talking piece, remind him/her to choose one. *If he/she does not pass it to the left when done, remind him/her to do so. *Remember who started so you know who will be the last person to speak. Topic of the week Today we are going to discuss what it means to match your behavior to your environment

Inspiring Word “Even if someone doesn’t treat you with the respect you deserve, you can give them the respect they don’t.” Sharon Martin

Lesson Today we are going to talk about social graces, in other words, expected behaviors can vary from place to place. Social Graces means the general behavior of being polite and welcoming to people. Depending on the situation it may mean:  Putting other’s needs before your own (e.g. offering a chair to an elderly person)  Noticing your own behavior to make sure you are not offending others  Good manners  Appropriate fashion or dress for the occasion

People use social graces for a variety of reasons. Often we use social graces to “fit into” a situation. For example, we wear a suit or nice dress to a funeral or wedding, we say “hi” to our friends in the morning. We might also use social graces in situations in which we are uncomfortable or don’t know what the appropriate or expected behavior might be. An example of this might be interviewing for a job for the first time: We would dress up, we would use appropriate language, we would use a polite greeting/handshake, we would use appropriate body language/eye contact, etc. We would not use slang, chew gum, wear casual clothing, have ear buds in or send or receive calls or text messages.

Activity to Practice  Today, we are going to brainstorm situations that can be new or uncomfortable for students in regards to social graces. Ask students: What social situations are new and/or uncomfortable for high school students? Write these answers down on post it note paper

 Pass out three post-it notes or three small pieces of paper to each group member.

 Please take 5 minutes to think of three challenging situations that are socially uncomfortable for you as a high school student and put one on each piece of paper. Star the one that is most uncomfortable for you personally. Once you have completed this, please post your individual papers on the large group paper.

 If the students are having difficulty coming up with examples, you may share some ideas. o Examples of this in school might be: taking a challenging class, retaking a class he/she failed once already, starting at a new school, not liking a teacher, figuring out who to sit with in the lunch room, welcoming a guest speaker, trying to be supportive to a substitute teacher, wanting to learn in a chaotic classroom, how to handle yourself when receiving a disciplinary referral, prom/homecoming, etc… o Examples of this in the community might be: a funeral, wedding, meeting their boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s family, starting a new job, a job interview, eating in a nice restaurant, receiving a gift, visiting someone else’s place of worship, etc…  The facilitator picks a good situation off of the ones listed by students and asks the group: If you have ever been in this situation, what have you been uncomfortable about?

 What have you learned from being in this situation that could be helpful/useful for you or your peers? Discuss in circle format

 If you are feeling uncomfortable in a situation, how can remembering the PBIS three Bs (Be Safe, Be Respectful, Be Responsible) assist you in these situations?

Check-In Check-Out Rubric Pass out new weekly CICO rubric. Have students make a new SAIG driven goal for the upcoming week. (SAIG driven goal idea: think of a situation that is challenging to you, what social graces could you practice in that situation?)

Closing Circle Question Share a way that you could greet someone you don’t know well. Student Agenda Topic: Matching Your Behavior to the Environment

Welcome

Icebreaker If you were welcoming a new student to the school, what is one thing that you could do to make that person feel a part of the school community today?

Prior Week Reflection Pass out prior week CICO rubric. Have students reflect on their performance.

Inspiring Word “Even if someone doesn’t treat you with the respect you deserve, you can give them the respect they don’t.” Sharon Martin

Lesson Today we are going to talk about social graces, in other words, expected behavior can vary from place to place.

Activity to Practice  Today, we are going to brainstorm situations that can be new or uncomfortable for students in regards to social graces.  Note three challenging situations that are socially uncomfortable for you as a high school student.  Post an example of an uncomfortable situation for discussion.  Discuss the uncomfortable situation.  What have you learned from being in this situation?  How can remembering the PBIS three Bs (Be Safe, Be Respectful, Be Responsible) assist you in new or uncomfortable situations?

Check-In Check-Out Rubric Make a new goal for the upcoming week. (Idea: Think of a situation that is challenging to you, what social graces could you practice in that situation?)

Closing Circle Question Share a way that you could greet someone you don’t know well.