Let the Purging Begin

Consumer Newsletter – May 2015 www.sres.org By Elyse Umlauf-Garneau

The New Yorker cartoonist uses her formidable skills to deliver an unflinching look at what that decline really looks like, Let the purging begin along with the effect that it all has on the caretaker-child. Turns out your millennial children don’t want your formal dining room set, your fine bone Cartoons, drawings, and text convey the china, or the antiques you’ve been guilt, exhaustion, chronic dread, heartbreak, collecting. and the hemorrhaging of money associated with caretaking and when adult kids become They’re also not too attached to mementos their parents’ parent. -- yours or their own childhood trophies, scrapbooks, and artwork. Interspersed with the depictions of the indignities of extreme old age is a biting, See: dark humor. http://www.chicagotribune.com/business/chi -millennials-nix-parents-treasures- Much of that stems from the chaos Chast 20150328-story.html#page=1 faces in her parents’ overstuffed Brooklyn apartment. Many millennials are living compact urban lives, they have their own aesthetic There’s the “crazy closet.” It’s jammed with sensibility, and they’re cataloging their everything from tattered clothing and memories digitally. unusable record players, to ancient luggage and 40-year-old blankets. Do your kids a favor. Let the purge begin. Chast discovers a drawer full of old metal Portrait of Decline jar lids. She photographs what she names her dad’s Museum of old Schick shavers. A combination of heartbreak, the And, like so many kids, Chast had neither unvarnished truth, and humor make Roz the energy nor the desire to sift through the Chast’s graphic novel, Can’t We Talk About stuff. Eventually, she turns to the building’s Something More Pleasant, a compelling super and asks him to take care of – dump read for anyone facing the health decline of -- virtually everything. an aging loved one. The book imparts numerous lessons. One critical takeaway: Don’t do this to your children. Listen to an interview with Chast at He says, “Life has conflicts, pleasures, http://www.npr.org/2014/05/08/310725572/a harmony, and dissonance. The same thing -cartoonists-funny-heartbreaking-take-on- occurs in music.” caring-for-aging-parents. Bernstein, it seems, has found the perfect Seymour: An way to age – engaged, busy, and steeped in his art. And he’s loved and respected. Introduction Current and former musicians will relate to Actor Ethan Hawke turns his attention to the bliss that making music brings. Seymour Bernstein in a documentary, Bernstein notes that most people don’t tap “Seymour: An Introduction” that introduces the god within and talks about how music viewers to an 88-year-old New York pianist can allow us to become one with the stars. who gave up the spotlight as a concert Even if music isn’t your thing, you can find pianist to devote his life to teaching. your own way to become one with the stars. The movie (http://www.seymouranintroduction.com/) is Digital life planning sublime. Good planners get their home, will, and For one, there’s finally a depiction of a health care power-of-attorney in place. But senior who has contributions to make, what about your digital life, particularly enduring insights to share, and someone Facebook? with abundant talent who’s leading a rich, fulfilling life as he ages. Often when people pass away, friends and family “gather” on Facebook to memorialize He’s not playing tennis, he’s not living in oh- a loved one. so-perfect designer digs, and he’s not dining on precious spa salads. It’s helpful to have someone who can take charge of the Facebook page and share Instead he lives in a messy one-room New information and updates. York apartment where he works magic. But if no one knows your password, no one He teaches tomorrow’s musical superstars can control your Facebook page. Facebook and passes on his genius and wisdom. now allows users to designate a “legacy contact” to manage a user’s Facebook You see Bernstein giving master classes. account after death. You witness his pure joy when he finds the perfect Steinway piano for an upcoming Here’s how to designate someone: performance. http://lifehacker.com/how-to-set-up-a- facebook-legacy-contact-for-when-you- But it’s not just the music that’s magic in the 1685544248 and movie. His philosophy about life, https://www.facebook.com/help/156801399 competition, fear, mentoring, and the search 0080948. for meaning are inspiring. Real Estate Matters: News & Issues for the Mature Market (Company) (Address) (City, State, Zip) (Agent Name and Designations)