BM 410-1 Day One Notes and Objectives

BM 418-24 Day 24 Summary Sudweeks Spring 2012

1 Understand the key principles of money and marriage 2 We handed out copies of Proclamation on the Family 3 We read through it trying to find guidelines to help us with this problem 4 We asked the difference between doctrine, principles, and application, and then explained those differences using the Packer, Poelman, and Lee quotes 5 Doctrine: the truth about ourselves and our relationships 6 Principles: These are part of the gospel and are unchangeable 7 Application: the living of the doctrine and principles. You must live it before you get a testimony of it. 8 As a class, we came up with the 10 principles of Money and Relationships. They are: 9 The family is ordained of God 10 Your spouse has priority 11 Marriage partners are equal 12 Marriage partners should seek the best interests of the family 13 Financial problems are usually behavioral problems 14 Change is necessary 15 Money spent on thins you value leads to satisfactions and accomplishment 16 Financial freedom is more the result of decreased spending than increased income 17 Spouses are to leave their parents and become one 18 The best things in life are free 19 Understand why money may be an issue in relationships 20 We talked about the Problems with Money and Marriage 21 We wrote our answers on blackboard 22 Lack of financial knowledge 23 Lack of communication 24 Differences in financial personality types and family baggage 25 Lack of shared goals 26 Lack of gospel maturity 27 Understand a few recommendations for money and marriage 28 We discussed Case Study #1 and asked how would you answer this email? 29 We discuss Case Study #2 which continued the discussion with the same question: “How would you answer this email?” 30 We discussed our “Recommendations” on the blackboard. They were: 31 Delegate action but share responsibility 32 Develop family goals as a couple 33 Separate “real” from “imagined” problems 34 Keep the romance alive 35 We finally shared what research shown? 36 I shared the definition of materialism and the results of the Dean, Carroll, and Yan research 37 Materialism has a definite impact on happiness 38 Final Thoughts Elder Marion D. Hanks said:

“Material objectives consume too much of our attention. The struggle for what we need or for more than we need exhausts our time and energy. We pursue pleasure or entertainment, or become over-involved in associations or civic matters. Of course, people need recreation, need to be achieving, need to contribute; but if these come at the cost of friendship with Christ, the price is much too high.

“ ‘For my people have committed two evils,’ said the Lord to Israel; ‘they have forsaken me the fountain of living waters, and hewed them out cisterns, broken cisterns, that can hold no water.’ (Jer. 2:13.)

“The substitutions we fashion to take the place of God in our lives truly hold no water. To the measure we thus refuse the ‘living water,’ we miss the joy we could have” (in Conference Report, Apr. 1972, 127; or Ensign, July 1972, 105).