Rebuilding Lives Workshop, Inc

CHRISTINA SIMMONS, ICADC REBUILDING LIVES WORKSHOP, INC. www.rebuildinglivesworkshop.com [email protected] (678)833-1673 1. Have you ever been to counseling as a result of problems with this relationship prior to today? (Circle Yes or No). If so, what was the outcome of that counseling?

2. Have either you or your partner been in individual counseling before? (Circle Yes or No). If so, give a brief summary.

3. Have either you or your partner struck, physically restrained, used violence against or injured the other person within the last three years? (Circle Yes or No). If yes for either, who, how often and what happened?

4. Have either of you threatened to separate or divorce as a result of the current marital problems? (Circle Yes or No). If yes who?

5. Have either you or your partner consulted a lawyer about divorce? (Circle Yes or No). If yes, who?

6. Do you perceive that either you or your partner has withdrawn from the marriage? (Circle Yes or No). If yes, which of you has withdrawn?

7. How frequently have you had sexual relations during the last month? ______times

8. How enjoyable is your sexual relationship? (Circle one) Terrible More unpleasant Not pleasant, More pleasant Great than pleasant not unpleasant than unpleasant

9. What is your current level of stress? (Circle One) Extremely high Very high High Moderate Low Very low Extremely low

1 CHRISTINA SIMMONS, ICADC REBUILDING LIVES WORKSHOP, INC. www.rebuildinglivesworkshop.com [email protected] (678)833-1673 10. To what degree do you have family or friends that support you as a couple? (Circle One) Extremely high Very high High Moderate Low Very low Extremely low

11. To what degree do the two of you share a similar basic worldview? (Circle One) Extremely high Very high High Moderate Low Very low Extremely low

2 CHRISTINA SIMMONS, ICADC REBUILDING LIVES WORKSHOP, INC. www.rebuildinglivesworkshop.com [email protected] (678)833-1673 12. Please give a brief history of how you meet, how long you have known each other, when you became pregnant if you have children, how long after you meet you decided to marry if you did, what activities you do and currently share in, and anything else that will help me understand your history before the problem began.

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DYADIC ADJUSTMENT SCALE

Most persons have disagreements in their relationships. Please indicate below the approximate extent of agreement or disagreement between you and your partner for each item on the following list.

Always Almost Occasiona Frequentl Almost Always Agree Always lly y Always Disagree Agree Disagree Disagree Disagree 1. Handling family finances

2. Matters of recreation

3. Religious matters

4. Demonstrations of affection

5. Friends

6. Sex relations

7.Conventionality (correct or proper behavior)

8. Philosophy of life

9. Ways of dealing with parents or in-laws

10. Aims, goals, and things believed important

11. Amount of time spent together

12.Making major decisions

13.Household tasks

14.Leisure time interests and activities

15.Career decisions

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All the Most of More often Occasional Rarely Never time the time than not ly

16. How often do you discuss or have considered divorce, separation, or terminating your marriage? 17. How often do you or your mate leave the house after a fight?

18. In general, how often do you think that things between you and your partner are going well? 19. Do you confide in your mate?

20. Do you ever regret that you married? (or lived together)

21. How often do you and your partner quarrel?

22. How often do you and your mate get on each other’s nerves?

Every day Almost Occasionally Rarely Never every day 23. Do you kiss your mate?

All of them Most of Some of Very few of None of them them them them 24. Do you and your mate engage in outside interests together?

How often would you say the following events occur between you and your mate? Never Less than Once or Once or Once a More once a twice a twice a day often month month week 25. Have a stimulating exchange of ideas 26. Laugh together 27. Calmly discuss something 28. Work together on a project

5 CHRISTINA SIMMONS, ICADC REBUILDING LIVES WORKSHOP, INC. www.rebuildinglivesworkshop.com [email protected] (678)833-1673 These are some things about which couples sometimes agree and sometime disagree. Indicate if either item below caused differences of opinions or were problems in your relationship during the past few week. (Check yes or no)

Yes No 29. Being too tired for sex. 30. Not showing love.

31. The circles on the following line represent different degrees of happiness in your relationship. The middle point, “happy,” represents the degree of happiness of most relationships. Please fill in the circle which best describes the degree of happiness, all things considered, of your relationship.

0 0 0 0 0 0 0 Extremely Fairly A little Happy Very happy Extremely Perfect unhappy unhappy unhappy happy

32. Which of the following statements best describes how you feel about the future of your relationship? o I want desperately for my relationship to succeed, and would go to almost any length to see that it does. o I want very much for my relationship to succeed, and will do all I can to see that it does. o I want very much for my relationship to succeed, and will do my fair share to see that it does. o It would be nice if my relationship succeeded, but I can’t do much more than I am doing now to help it succeed. o It would be nice if it succeeded, but I refuse to do any more than I am doing now to keep the relationship going. o My relationship can never succeed, and there is no more that I can do to keep the relationship going.