Woman Protect Your Man

PRACTICAL LIVING - WOMAN PROTECT YOUR MAN

PRAYER (Psalm 6:19-20)

“But certainly God has heard me; He has attended to the voice of my prayer. Blessed be God who has not turned away my prayer nor His mercy from me.”

Prayer is an expression of our relationship with God. God is our father and we are his children so we are dependent on him. When we have a relationship with God, he directs our ways; we hear from him and listen to him. And God in return listens to us. We feel comfortable coming to him with our concerns, needs and issues affecting our lives and our loved ones. Sadly, Christian women, particularly those whose spouses are Christians do not make a point of praying for their husbands because they assume he is praying for himself (which he may be) but praying for your husband changes your attitude to him, and this in turn changes the husband in response to the wife.

©Practical Christian Living Initiative – www.pclng.org 1 Through prayer, we learn that nothing is impossible with God. Prayer is invading the impossible. By praying, a wife will build up her faith in God that HE can do all things. She will also develop a love and respect for her husband as she speak to God on his behalf trusting that HE is able to do all things. A wife knows her husband’s heart’s desire, needs, wants, shortcomings etc. It is her duty to support him in the place of prayer.

 Ask God to lift him up in everything that he lays his hands to do. God has made him the head of the family and a man who cannot fend for his family is said to be worse than an infidel. A man is frustrated when he is unable to attain his goals and when he is frustrated, he will take it out on you because you are the nearest person he can lash out to. This is exhibited by angry outburst, moodiness, or physical assault, which occurs more than we want to believe in Christian homes.

©Practical Christian Living Initiative – www.pclng.org 2  Wake up in the middle of the night and place your hand near his head and pray! Speak the words of God to him as God has ordained it to be.

 Pray against the lust of the flesh (strange women) - Always remember that men are moved by sight and that it is the holy spirit that dwells within a man that separates one from another otherwise, all men are all capable of the same things (Christians and non Christians alike). Do not be fooled into thinking that because he is a Christian, it is impossible for him to fall into the sin of lust. That is the lie of the devil. Remember that thinking it in his heart is all that it needs. Ask for an infilling of the Holy Spirit and for his to be continually led by the spirit of God. The devil (demonic woman) is going about like a lion looking for whom to devour so pray.

 Tell the Lord to fill your spouse’s heart with love for you only (second to God). The secret is that when this begins to manifest, there will be peace in your home. You will be capable of doing “no wrong” in his eyes. Friends/family will not interfere in your home because there’s

©Practical Christian Living Initiative – www.pclng.org 3 no one to listen to their complaints about you. Gossip is only good for as long as one entertains it. As Christians, we need to understand the power of prayers.

HAPPY HOME (Ephesians 4:26)

“Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath”

God’s plan for a family (home) is to be a happy one where there is no lack or want and that was why he created man and woman and placed them in the garden of Eden which was fully equipped for them and certainly there were no fights. But the devil is not happy about that and so tries in various ways to sow discord in the home. It is normal to disagree but we need to watch out that it does not degenerate into a fight. Many divorces today began with a mild argument, which was left to become a fight and eventually degenerate into a divorce.

 Never fight in the presence of your children- they will think it’s a normal occurrence in a home and in future exhibit the same traits when they start their own family.

©Practical Christian Living Initiative – www.pclng.org 4  Do not tell your family/friends about details of your fights or his shortcomings because when you forgive him (which you will), they won’t and will always react to him negatively.

 Do not put your spouse down in the presence of your family/friends. Your housekeeping allowance is nobody’s business (even if you are not getting any). Remember that you are one flesh and exposing his weakness is exposing yourself too.

 Do not sleep on a fight- allowing a fight to fester actually changes the direction of the fight and makes it harder to make up. Chances are that when you are now ready to make up, he is not and vice versa. Most times, the facts of the argument/fight are distorted if it goes on for too long.

 Do not “punish” your spouse by refusing him food and sex because of a fight. You may just push him to find other avenues to satisfy himself in both ways. Once a fight is on, the devil knows and he provides temptation in everyway to worsen the situation so that condemnation can set in.

©Practical Christian Living Initiative – www.pclng.org 5 ATTENTION (Song of Solomon 7:10-12) “I am my beloveds and his desire is towards me. Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field; let us lodge in the villages. Let us get up early to the vineyards; let us see if the vine flourish, whether the tender grapes appear, and the pomegranates bud forth: there will I give thee my loves.”

Many Christian couples do not pay attention to each other as they occupy themselves with looking after the children, casual work as well as being workers in the Lord’s vineyard. What then happens is that in such a home, they begin to drift apart and eventually blame the devil for a breakdown of marriage. A wife should set apart time for her husband. Once the devil sees that a Christian is faithful in their walk with God, he attacks the marriage by making them forget each other’s needs (the setting becomes right for adultery). Christian marriages today, do not exhibit what God ordained marriage to be. When God first created man, he created a woman and they both walked the Garden of Eden together. Most Christian couples just cohabit. They no longer share their innermost thoughts. They talk about other people e.g. children, family, in-laws. This is dangerous as it encourages distractions in the home. In Christian marriages, we hear of physical

©Practical Christian Living Initiative – www.pclng.org 6 assault, adultery, divorce etc. These should be unheard of in a Christian home. Find below guides that will help you as a woman not to neglect your spouse and help him into the arms of another. Always remember, “A wise woman builds her home”.

 Go on a date - as a woman, we always seem to be busy and I know it’s very difficult juggling the home, work, children but somehow God has equipped us (I bet you a man can’t do half of what we do simultaneously) so please in the midst of all these, let us not forget our man. Set out a day in the week/month and go out together. It could be to the movies or an eatery. Take the children to Grandma’s or ask the nanny to wait a few hours longer or better still take turns with another family and have a few hours together without the children.

 Express your love-Send a text thanking God for him in your life and tell him what you love about him (believe me even if he is broke at that moment, the minute he gets money, he will buy you a gift or give you money). Love is reciprocal. Once you do this, with time, he will do it.

©Practical Christian Living Initiative – www.pclng.org 7  Food- a woman should pay attention to what the spouse eats. Prepare his meals yourself (exception is if you have a cook) and on not account should you allow your maid to cook or serve your spouse his meals. Serve his food personally (service is a type of worship) and it is advisable to eat together and wait for him even if he comes in late in the evening (as a Christian man, I assume he is out for a genuine reason).

 Sex- this is an area that remains “unspoken about” in the Christian marriage and it is the area that the devil exploits in breaking Christian homes. Women are always tired (and that the truth) but we need to make time for this part of the marriage. Understanding a man’s psyche will help. If you offer most men sex or food, they will likely choose the former. A man is never too spiritual, angry, or tired for sex! Women, do not deceive yourself that your man does not like sex and so does not ask you (pray he is not relieving himself in another form). It’s a form of release for a man and I will advise that you have a talk with your spouse on how you can make yourself available by not being too tired or have a

©Practical Christian Living Initiative – www.pclng.org 8 “headache”. You may agree on days (so you can both look forward to it). It sounds like a lot of work but” love is like a plant if you don’t water it, it will die”