Al6 - Cherished Moments THE RHODE ISLAND HERALD. T r~~~~~p~~~~ I ~:~e:::: ~::.::.~:::)S The Bride ' l~i 540 Pawtucket Ave. Wampanoag Mall ~ Pawtucket, A.I. East Providence, R.I. Che ris• hed 726-4422 438-8000 ~ (See Ad page A21) Gov Francis Shopping Center !\\\- Rainbow Bakery . Warwick, R.I. ~I 7 7 4 1~ 800 Reservoir Ave. 3 - 601 Financial I Cranston, A.I. (See Ad page A2B) Halperin & ~ 944-8180 or 944-7171 La Bottega 1310 Atwood Ave. 335 Centerv (See Ad page A11) ~'i Catering Johnston, R.I. 943-3227 Culling House Inc. (See Ad page A2B) ,~,-~· Rooms 28 Water Street East Providence, R.I. details " ~ The Astor's Beechwood 431-0300 277 Thayer St. ~ 580 Bellevue Ave. (See Ad page A 15) Providence, R.I. '~'i Newport, A.I. 751 -1870 Izzy's Kosher Catering 8 2 (See Ad page AS) (I (See ::~::: A14) 1800 Post Road Airport Plaza Eddy's The Bay Voyage Warwick, R.I. Garden City Center ~~~\~~~ 150 Conanicus Ave. 738-5454 Cranston, R.I. Jamestown, A.I. j~ (See Ad page A31) 943-0028 423-2100 I Salt Pond Center (See Ad page A20) Narragansett, R.I. The Biltmore Plaza Children's 783-6210 Kennedy Plaza (See Ad page A11) Providence, A.I. Granny's Folly Evelyn's Mix & Match I 421-0700 Garden City Center Food & Cranston, R.I. 877 Central Ave. (See Ad page A 10) 942-7850 Pawtucket, R.I. Chalet Re Culling House Inc. Davol Square 724-9240 1021 Mineral· 28 Water Street Providence, R.I. (See Ad page A11} No. Provid East Providence, R.I. I 331-4160 Foreign Intrigue 725-5 431-0300 (See Ad 3 Davol Square (See Ad page A15) Providence, A.I. I Consultants 421-3032 Marriott Hotel (See Ad page A14) Health Charles and Orms Street details by Providence, A.I. Louise Michelle Jackies of Seekonk 272-2400 Rumford, A.I. Central Ave. (See Ad page A9) I 431 -1912 Seekonk, Mass. (See Ad page AB) 761-7567 Quidnessett Country Club (See Ad page A30) I North Quidnessett Road First Step North Kingstown, R.I. Bridal Consultants Nancy Alan 884-1100 Warwick, R.I. Apparel (See Ad page A13) (See Ad page A25) 359 South Main St. Providence. R.I. I 751-4010 (See Ad ~ Bridal Shops Dom estics (See Ad page A6) Weintraub's Brides of Boston One and One Invit 10 Convenient Locations 642 East Avenue 101 West Natick Rd. (See Ad page A24) Belle Warwick, R.I. Warwick, A.I. lnvit 821-5656 738-0277 (See Ad page A31) Crans! I Fashion (See Ad page A22) 943- The Bridal Boutique (See Ad 572 Tiogue Ave. The Bag Lady Perlow's Coventry, A.I. 922 Park Ave. Discount Shoes Card 822-2842 Cranston, R.I. 23 Dexter Street Pawtu 725 (See Ad page A20) 781 -1 120 Pawtucket, R.I. I (See Ad page AB) (See Ad page A 14) (See Ad ~ Filomena's Miss Baker Riviera Crossto I1 ~I::'\\\\~ 176 Taunton Ave. 334 Westminster Mall 1200 Bald Hill Road 829 P ~~~ East Providence, A.I. Providence, A.I. Warwick, R.I. Crans ~~\ti 438-6868 421 -1033 822-2114 941 ~ (See Ad page A 19) (See Ad page A6) (See Ad page A 12) (See Ad m~~~~~~~~~~~~~ • Al8 - Cherished Moments THE RHODE ISLA D HERALD, T HURSDAY, FEBRUARY 18, 1988

A Planning Calendar For The Bride

by Sandra Silva SIX MONTHS BEFORE: ONE YEAR BEFORE: • : Decide upon the dresses you want for yourself and your atten­ • Visit the Rabbi: Set a date for the temple. Inquire about any religious dants. Order them at a bridal salon or commission someone to duties you may be required to perform and the time span he make them. Ordering or making dresses and fittings can be a suggests you perform them in. Ask about a Cantor. If it is your lengthy procedure so don't delay. Your will set the mood responsibility to find a cantor then begin searching immedi­ for the entire so be sure it is a look you are comfortable ately. with. • Budget: Discuss the budget with whoever is handling responsibility fo r • Shoes: Once the dresses have been ordered t hen choose your shoes and payment of the wedding. Determine how much of the budget to arrange to have them dyed. You may want to bring a fabric allocate to which expenses. swatch to ensure the colors will match. • Guest List: Determine an approximate guest list. This is information • Finalize Floral Arrangements: The florist you have chosen will help that you will need for determining the reception details. you find flower arrangements and bouquets that will compli­ • Reception: If you are planning to have the wedding catered then this ment your dresses and enhance the mood you have chosen. an appropriate time to begin searching for a caterer. You will not • Wedding Cake: Choose a baker and order your cake. The baker will have to finalize the menu yet but you should book the caterer as work with you in designing a cake that fits in with the atmo­ early as possible. If you are not planning to hold the reception in sphere of the wedding. the temple then you should also begin looking for a reception • Invitations: Choose and order your invitations. You should also order area. This should be booked as soon as possible. the personalized thank you notes you will want to send after the wedding. • Honeymoon: Discuss destinations with your fiancee and visit a travel EIGHT MONTHS BEFORE: agent. • Photographer: Visit photographers and view samples of their work. If • Arrange for limousine service. you are interested in having the wedding videotaped then ask to • Order your wedding rings. see a sample video. Get a packet detailing all costs and services. Once you have decided upon a photographer, book him immedi­ THREE MONTHS BEFORE: ately. However, make sure that the person you book is someone • Finalize your wedding trip plans. Begin shopping fo r your trousseau and you like and are comfortable with, otherwise your dislike and the packing fo r the trip. stress of the situation may adversely affect t he outcome of your • Make an appointment with t he doctor fo r a complete physical and all pictures. premarital bloodwork. • Florist: Visit florists and ask to look at samples of their work. Most • Check on all plans that have been finalized. Keep in touch with everyone florists keep a photo album for t his purpose. You should book involved in the wedding. t he florist as soon as possible to ensure t he will be available ONE MONTH BEFORE: to you. You will not have to determine your arrangements yet. • Mail your invitations, this may be done up to six weeks prior. A good florist will work with you in fi nding types of flowers and • Arrange fi nal fittings for everyone. arrangements that will compliment your personality and the • Have your wedding portrait done. style of your wedding. • Obtain and return necessary fo rms for newspaper announcements. • Music: Listen to tapes of and ask your family and friends to • Write thank you notes fo r shower gifts, if you haven't done so yet. recommend bands they have heard at other . Book the • Pick up the wedding rings. band as early as possible. • Buy t he groom's and attendant's gifts. • Attendants: Decide who you want your attendants to be and ask t hem. Discuss your plans for the wedding with them, they will be your TWO WEEKS BEFORE: biggest helpers. In all fairness, they should be actively involved • Apply fo r marriage license at city hall. in choosing the bridesmaids dresses as they are the ones who • Mail newspaper releases. have to wear and pay for them. It is a good idea to have occa­ • Make hairdresser appointments fo r yourself and attendants. sional luncheons to discuss the dresses and flowers they are to carry. ONE WEEK BEFORE: • Living Accommodations: Discuss living accommodations for after • Arrange to move belongings into your new ·home. the wedding with your fiancee. Begin searching for or preparing • Pack fo r the wedding trip and purchase travellers checks. your new home. • Attend or host bridesmaids luncheon. • Sign onto a bridai registry. • Present attendants gifts at the rehearsal dinner.

CHECK ALL DETAILS!!! If you find all this to be too much for you, there are many reference aids at your disposal. Any bookstore should have a J;,===== complete wedding planner book. The wedding planner serves as a log w here you may keep track of things you have done and as a reminder of things you must do. There are also many books w ritten regarding wedding etiquette, in these books you should find many helpful ideas for planning your special wedding. DAYTON CLASSIC LIMOUSINES

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Overview Of Bridal Fashions • The Deb or lngenue • A focus on decolletage, look fresher than ruffles for spring. Feminine, with a naive but evidenced by off-the-shoulder For Spring/Summer '88 naughty sexiness, this looks, straplessness, sweetheart A Sense Of Whimsy '50s-inspired style features a wasp and face-framing portrait Among the continuing trends romantic, new soft silhouettes t hat waist, exposed shoulders and a full necklines, and fl yaway collars. are: The landscape fo r • Bows, still cropping up at the spring/summer '88 bridal fashion go hand in hand with the new , complete with flirty • Gentle skirting, in the fo rm of softened colors and lighter fabrics. crinolines. full with sweep trains, shoulder, on a bustle. They're even is shaping up to be purely feminine newer in profusion - almost and romantic with a "less is more" Among the key t rends are: Key shapes and details include: swingy A· lines, tulips, uneven woven into a neckline or hem. approach that will substitute the • T he Goddess - Inspired by • An appealing new softness, hemlines and updated sheaths with fl oaty, petal-shaped • Silk flowers as adornment on ornamentation of past seasons, mythology, this classic, draped characterized by the cinched waist, look couples simplicity with t he trapeze back, the fit and flare overskirts that reveal the body line dress, blooming in pale pastels according to Bride's magazine. against white. This new clean-lined, sculpted romance. Flowing lines and of the princess silhouette, underneath perfect for t he informal bride. attitude will feature details like diaphanous fabrics reveal the elongated peplums and • Fabric rosettes - saucy new Style note: Cascades of soft tiers open necklines, pleating, wasp figure in a tasteful way. body-wrapping styles. touches for dresses, hair, shoes. waists and ballgown skirts. Picture a well -tended garden, carefully thought-out cont rolled always neatly groomed. Softer Colors The pastel story that emerged last spring continues for brides and wedding attendants - only, this , the garden palette is in full bloom. Look for whispery pales, along with classic whites. • Pa/€ Floral Pastels - Delicate, barely-there pales such as Pink Carnation, Morning Glory Blue, Buttercup, Palest Peach and Silver Mint Green are cool-looking and soft. • Budding Brights - Irresistibly delicious - hues such as Yellow Freesia, Magnolia Peach, Seafoam Green, Peony Pink, Lilac. Cornflower Blue are vibrant, yet cont rolled. • Sun-Kissed Brights High-intensity hues such as Daffodil, Marigold, Tiger Lily, Poppy, Pansy, Plum, Violet, Shamrock, Delphinium, Hydrangea make a very rich, strong statement. • Striking Bi-Cowrs High contrast color combos such as navy paired with white or beige provide a fresh, clean look. Emphasis On Textural Interest Texture is key, this coming spring. It's so important that the fabric itself becomes the story, its look and hand clearly influencing the resulting design. fo r last spring's move in the textural direction to really blossom. Among t he standouts: Fabric with puckers or crinkles, flocked fabric, ottoman, damask, cloque, metelasse, brocade, jacquard, dupione, shantung, gazar, and crunchy paper silk. Also watch for high-contrast fabrics played together especially textures against sheers. T he ultimate contrast is a textured sheer, employing texture to add newness to a traditional bridal fabric like organza. Of sheer importance this season are organza, organdy, voile, georgette, chiffon, ribbon sheer, shadow-striped and coin-dotted sheer, placed sheer, point d'esprit, embroidered and flocked tulle, sheer with re-embroidered lace and textured cotton batiste. Additional fabric trends to note: • Laces with added texture - such as soutache or ribbon lace used as accents - on a bodice, a skirt panel, a train; • Toned-down metallics always with texture; • Three-dimensional textures; • Texture combined with stretch - the absolute newest combo around. More Refined Silhouettes Sprouting up this season are THE RHODE ISLAND HERALD, THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 18, 1988 Cherished Moments A2 l Fashion flair for the wedding day

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• Consult your ha irdresse r al least o ne week before the event, and bring your . BRIDES-TO-BE ... • Keep your cut a nd style simple: Are You Stressed Out? a n elabo rate ha irsty le detracts from t he beauty of your dress a nd t he day. Exercise is a great way to relieve stress • Keep t he style soft. All brides, no ma tter the ir age, should look and have fun at "soft. shiny a nd sweet." the same time! • Try a nd keep the length of your Body Architects offers: hai r a bove shoulder length. It's • Nationally Certified Instructors simple r fo r both t he wedding and the honeymoon. • Hi- Energy Classes • Registered Dietitian • Avoid heavy hair sprays and • Aerobafloor mousses. This is a day you want your hair to be soft to the touch ------7 Sabrina scaUop nec~line, veed bac~. Beaded Alencon lace a nd to smell clean a nd fresh. 1 month FREE I 431-2115 pointed bodice, puff top caught with bias folds tapering in w/any regular membership I 10 James St. lace. Soft gathers release the sil~ d'soie s~irt, scroUs of beaded • Uon 't forget your bridesmaids. for BRIDES-TO-BE! East Providence lace outline the hemline and Cathedral train. It's important fo r the who le bridal 1 Headpiece - Lace traditional MantiUa. pa rty to feel beautifu l. a nd Oller exp ires Feb. 28, 1988 I (5 minutes from Hope St.)

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Matching up the rainbow of rose A Universal Language and t he growth of love and Each rose color has a translation colors and "definitions" that wi ll devotion between you and yo ur in " rose language" dat ing back to express your thoughts is one of the Of Love groom. You can make your Victorian times. Many courtships most delightful aspects of wedding wedding day extra special by began wi t h the gift of a sin gle rose planning. T o get your thoughts on During t he early 19th century, single thornless rose.) " Will you choosing blossoms that convey which later led to t he rose the right t rack, the fresh -cut rose the language of love was often marry me?" or the announcement your love to everyo ne in volved. becoming a central theme in a growers of the United States and spoken through fl owers. of a pending marriage was American grown roses a re the couple's wedding plans. Canada provide these suggestions: Prior to the marriage vows, represented by the combination of perennial fa vori te fo r wedding T oday, you can personalize your • For your groom - Everyone sm itten suitors courted their one red and one white long stem fl owers. They envelope you in wedding by selecting roses that knows a single rose means " I love sweethearts with carefully selected rose tied together with ribbon or fragrance, can add the purity of communicate special feelings to you," nothing could make a more bouquets that conveyed thoughts lace. white or a brilliant spl ash of colo r, your groom, family members, perfect statement. like " Love at first sight" (one Prenuptial and wedding flowers and help to express t he beautiful attendants and close fri ends. 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This year's bride wi ll find a when opening gifts arriving at the return to more traditional, last minute. In the excitement, try femi nine styles: Not only wi ll to remember to use a pair of he adorned with lots of lace scissors or letter opener, or let the and tiny seed pearls, hair will be groom help. longer and fuller. Nails, however, • Don't fo rget to pack a small wi ll be shorter, oval and polished repair kit to take along on your in go-with-everyt hing pastels and honeymoon. It should contain an neutrals. emery board, polish remover and "Brides will be particularly cotton balls, nail glue, polish, base pleased with the subtle shades and top . being shown fo r spring of 1987," • Every two to three days, put ..,, !. says Linda Harris, direct.o r of aside 15-30 minutes to take care of ·.; product development fo r L'Oreal your hands: Soak t hem in warm '·· Cosmetic Division, manufacturers water fo r about 10 minutes, dry i. of Colour Riche Nail Enamel. well and, to keep your manicure "L'Oreal's spring '87 color story looking great, touch-up polish will be classic, crisp, soft and fresh where needed, and apply an extra colors . . neutral and pastel pinks, of a clear top coat. lilacs and mauves, that wi ll take a • If you break a nail, simply I bride from her wedding day remove the polish, repair the nail through the end of her with just a drop of glue, let dry, honeymoon." then file till smooth. Reapply base Expe rt Adv ice coat and na il polish, ending with a L'Oreal experts offer the top coat. Remember: Never put fo llowing tips to help brides gel glue on top of polish or use more through their wedding day and than a drop or two. honeymoon looking great: • T o avoid hands and cuticles • Treat yourself to a manicure drying out from sun and exposure and pedicure the day before the to water, massage in moisturizer wedding. It's an inexpe nsive way several times a day. to have hands, feet and legs massaged and it helps reduce Nail Down Beautiful Hands tension. Wit h a little attention, you'll be • Nails polished in neutral colors able to get through your won't detract from you, your honeymoon with hands and nails \vedding gown or honeymoon looking as great as they did the trousseau. day you were marri ed. • Don't use your nail s as a tool

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St. Regis California substitute St. Regis Bla nc a nd a should a lso take into considerat ion Bla nc, Red and Rose have the squeeze of li me fo r the Rose a nd your nondrinking frie nds a nd full -bodied fl avor of table wines lemon twist. KNOWN 0 relatives. T here are many of them. co ntaining alcohol - wi thout the Sparkling Wedding THROUGHOU T A recent Department of Health side effects of a lcohol and with TH E EAST Brunch Mimosas FOR and Human Services (HHS ) study only about half the calories. Ma ke by the pitcher or the glass. PRE STIGIOUS n shows t hat one out of every t hree And, fo r that spec ial toast, Mix one pa rt orange juice with two WED DINGS cJp American adults share a common t here's even St . Regis Califo rnia parts St. Regis Champagne, add dietary preference: T hey do not Cha mpagne. cracked ice a nd shake. drink any alcoholi c beverages. Guests can enjoy these For t hat special festive touch, Some don't drink fo r health sophisticated nonalcoholic se rve in a cha mpagne glass reasons. Perhaps t hey cannot beverages during t he cockta il hour ga rnished with an orange sli ce. combine a lcohol with medication either by the glass, in a festive or t hey're pregnant. Others don't wedding punch, or mixed in drinks Sparkling Champagne \ drink fo r personal reasons. the same way as beverages Wedding Punch • Of the remaining adults who do conta ining alcohol. 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And, some simply will choose not to suffer the after effects of ~ ~ N-· l . . 1· d D l imbibing too much wedding cheer. ear y everyone zs a specza zst to ay. acto rs ... awyers ... mechanics .. . and, yes, even caterers. Romantie Folklore That For more than a decade families in Southern New England Continues have entrusted to Sena and Izzy the planning and preparation To Delight for their special affairs. Superstition and fo lklore have long been associated with love and They specialize in giving you just the right food in the right romance. In ancient times, charms, magic potions and other setting for all occasions. Whether it's an intimate dinner in your supernatural or magical fo rces frequently were employed as a way home or a gala party for hundreds of people. of trying to control one's destiny - especially in matters of the heart. 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Hate Group Resurgence Touro Synagogue In The 20th Century

PALM BEACH, Fla. - At least According to Abra ham H. by Robert Holtzman 71 racist and anti-Semit ic hate Foxman, AOL's national director, This is the second · organizations - many of wh ich " the survey is t he most installment of a two-part engal:{e in viole nce - a re active in comprehensive on the series on Touro Synagogue. the United States today and there contemporary hate movement The first installment, which are more t han !)0 publicatio ns available in the U.S. today." He appeared last week, dealt w ith which regularly spread bigot ry, called it "an invaluable resource'' the history of the congregation according to a study made public fo r law en fo rcement officials, through 19 0 3. recently by the Anti-Defamation educators, schola rs and After the fracas of the period League of B'nai B'rith. community leaders in combatling 1899 through 1903, during which Based on the League's bigotry and violence. the congregation of Touro broke monitoring of hate groups, the T he AOL report, which contains with that of Shearith Israel in New study, "Hate Croups in America: A a n "'action ag-enda'' to combat York, Jewish li fe in Newport Record of Bigotry and Violence," bigotry through law enfo rcement, settled into a period of calm. T here was made public at AOL's education, and community act ion, were still a few Jews in Newport National Executive Committee said the past six years have heen who disagreed wit h the court's meeting which began here one oft he more violent periods in fi nding that S hearit h Israel was recently, February 11, at the the history of American hate the synagogue's rightful owner. Breakers Hotel. The groups, even as membership But. congenial relations between policy-making sessions which run generally has declined sharply. the two congregations were This violence, ADI.. noted, resulted The Levi Gale House on Touro Street. It houses Newport's through February 1:1 bring affirmed in 1905 with the renewal Jewish Community Center, the American Jewish Heritage in sweeping crackdowns by federal of the 1903 agreement. This together some 2fi0 ,Jewish Center, a Hebrew school, and more. It is scheduled for and local law enforcement included the stipulation that community leaders from all renovations in the near future. sections of the country. authorities against far-right services at Touro would be held The J :!9-page publication extremists that sent many of them according to Sephardic tradition. describes t.he activities, structure, to prison. Also stipulated was an annual Fully Accepted By Society interview that 50-60 of those stores history and personalities of the 71 The pattern of violence has rental fee of $ I to be paid to There are old dinner invitations were owned by Jews. "They didn't hate groups, including the Ku included bombings, armed Shearith Israel. These terms exist existing, showing that Jews were make money," he said, "but they Klux Klan and neo-Nazi robberies and murders such as the to this day, and Touro still sends accepted as friends by members of made a living." organizations - such as Skinhead fatal shooting of Denver radio talk the dollar to New York every year. the non-Jewish society in None of the Jews living in gangs which have recently show host Alan Berg, the bombing The number of Jews in Newport Newport. And a large number of Newport at this time were direct appeared in several U.S. cities - of synagogues in Indiana and continued to increase through the Jews were members oft he Masonic descendents of the original as well as groups such as the Aryan Idaho, the arson of a Missouri early years of the Twentieth Lodge. During the First World colonial founders. But, according Nations based in Hayden Lake, church and the attempted Century. While they did not War, Newport Jews were among to Mr. Kusinitz, the connection ID; t he Christian Patriots Defense bombing of a natural gas pipeline achieve the kind of elevated status the "boys" sent to fight in Europe. with the past was recognized and League of Flora, IL, and Posse in Missouri. held by the likes oftbe Riveras and In the 1920s, before the era of maintained. "To my mind, this is Comitatus, whose loose According to the report, the Lopezes during the colonial department stores and the importance of Touro paramilitary bands are scattered extremists have conspired to era, Jews did become an integral supermarkets, there were about Synagogue," said Mr. Kusinitz. throughout the Midwest and West. commit sabotage on a large scale part of the larger society. The 150-160 neighborhood stores in Maintaining the Jewish The latter three vrganizations are by destroying dams which provide congregation established about 20 Newport. Mr. Bernard Kusinitz, community while being an integral part of the so-called "Identity water and electric power to major organizations for religious and president of Touro Synagogue and Church" movement. (Continued on page 11) secular purposes. its official historian, said in an (Continued on page 13) Model Reform Community In Israel======road, according to Haim Sharett. Today, the I 7 pioneering Jewish and flexibility of the American tradition with the pioneering "Only mules and donkeys are families who have settled in Har capable of travelling the narrow Halutz live in compact and features of kibbutz life. The answer was Har Halutz. hilly paths, so most of the visits are while they build permanent by Druze coming to Har Halutz," housing. They come from a variety A major goal of the pioneering community is to demonstrate that he says. In addition, a Druze from of ethnic backgrounds, some from Kisra works as a settlement guard Israel, others from the Diaspora. Jewish and Arab communities can exist side by side peacefully, at the settlement. Hal Appelbaum, an American Each Har Halutz family is from Tuscaloosa, Alabama is the regardless of political differences. The settlers believe t hat t heir allowed to construct a house on· a secretary of Har Halutz. He spent quarter-acre lot, with the help of a a year on a Reform kibbutz, relations with the nearby Arab village of Dir El Asad prove their low-interest government returned home to complete his mortgage. Financial incentives are university studies, then came back point.. Not even t he current violence appears to have affected also provided to encourage to Israel to settle permanently. He residents to open small businesses. wanted to live in a Reform Jewish the stability of that relat ionship. "Relations with our Arab Half of the settlers currently work community, but was looking for outside the village at the nearby something different from the neighbors are good - proper is probably the correct word," says Tefen Industrial Park, which is kibbutz lifestyle of Yahel and part of an overall government Lotan, the first two Reform Sharett. "I won't say they are warm or intimate, at least not yet. program for development of the settlements in Israel. Galilee. Alternative Community But we have managed to live HAR HALUTZ, Israel - Clearing the ground in preparation Tranquility And Inspiration Living together and do business together, for building their permanent homes at this Reform-sponsored Although industrial jobs are " When the Reform movement and not even the troubles in the pioneer settlement in Galilee are Hal Applebaum (left), formerly plentiful, many residents whose decided to create Har Halutz as a territories have interfered." of Tuscaloosa, Alabama, and Daniel Oren, formerly of Arab And Oruze Neighbors background is in creative activity free-enterprise experiment in choose to do their work within the Argentina. alternative community living, it Har Halutz settlers patronize by David Forman garages and shops in the near-by settlement. "I draw inspiration neighbors. seemed like a perfect solution," he from the environment," says Ehud A-three-year-old Reform Jewish Arab village and invite their Arab The community, Har Halutz, is says. " Not only could I find a home Ryden, an artist who is a native of settlement in the hills of Galilee is located in the rugged Tefen Range in Israel, but I would be in on the neighbors over for visits, which out to prove that the pioneering sometimes develop into Seattle. north of Carmiel. It was founded in ground floor, building the type of Haya Burstein, a writer and spirit is not dead in Israel and that discussions of political issues. In 1985 under the sponsorship of the community I had envisioned." illustrator from Hicksville, Long Arabs and J ews are able to live Reform movement as a model Another driving force behind addition, the Jewish settlers employ a teacher from Dir El Asad Island, echoes the sentiment. "The side-by-side in peace. community based on the tenets of Har Halutz is Haim Sharett, son of tranquility of this place is a At a t ime when turmoil in the to teach them Arabic. liberal Judaism. the late Prime Minister Moshe genuine attraction," she points administered territories has given Har Halutz has also developed a Planned for an eventual Sharell. The younger Sharell out. Living in Har Halutz, t hey rise to bitterness and conflict, the close relationship with the nearby population of 200 families, the became involved when the kibbutz say, encourages creativity and t iny new settlement has become a community includes among its federation in Israel, TAKAM, sent Oruze village of Kisra. Social visits symbol of hope, opportunity and with Kisra residents are common, individual experimentation. purposes the improvement of him to the U.S. as an emissary to T he pioneering venture in rationali ty. Not even the current relations between Israeli Arabs the Reform movement. He quickly particularly at times and special occasions, such as periods settlement living extends t.o violence has disrupted the and -Jews, strengthening ties recognized that t here were many religious activity. All holiday and live-and-let-live philosophy that of mourning and weddings. But between Israel and the Diaspora Reform Jews who were interested prayer services are celebrated characterizes relatioris between and encouraging ecological awa re­ in Aliyah but wanted something commercial relations are limited (Continued on page 11) the .Jewish settlers and their Arab ness. t hat combined the individualism because of the lack of a usable 2 - THE RHODE ISLAND HERALD, THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 18, 1988 Temple Emanu-EI Richard Koplow To Speak About Technion At Emanu-EI Richard Koplow, vice president Local News of the New England Region of the American Technion Society, will be the featured speaker on February 21 at Temple Emanu-El. Mr. Koplow's presentation will be part of the Men's Club Minyanaire Beth Sholom Temple Shalom Lecture series. Koplow's topic. is: Congregation Beth Sholom wi ll Lecture Series "An Update on the Importance -The Rabbi's Adult Education and Accomplishments of be holding a wine and cheese Congregation Beth Sholom will Committee is sponsoring an Adult evening on Saturday evening, Technion as a Worl d-Class Tech· be presenting the second of its fou r Purim Party on Saturday evening, nical Uni ve rsity," He will be February 20. The program will part lecture series on Medicine and February 28 at 8 p.m. in the social speaking on t he past, present, and begin at 8 p.m. In addition to the Hal.acha on Monday evening, hall of T emple Shalom, Valley future of what is sometimes called refreshments, Rabbi Abraham February 22. The topic of the Road, Middletown. T om and the "MIT of Israel. " In addition to Halbfinger of Boston will be evening will be Risk in Medical Richard Koplow, vice Sarah Atkins will present a dance producing better t han 80% of present as guest speaker. Rabbi Procedures: Ha zardous Surgery president of the New England exhibition, teach a few numbers Israel's enginee rs, Technion is Halbfinger is the Rabbinic and Optional Surgery. " Rabbi Region of the American and lead those prese nt in an de velopng new all ia nces with Administrator of the Vaad Shmuel Singer, Ph.D. is the Technion Society. eve ning of dancing and fun . Hors Rambam Medical School in Israel Harabonim of Massachusetts. He speaker for the entire lecture d'ouvres and dessert will be served. and Brown University here in the by further unvei ling his has extensive experience in the series. The program begins at 8 Reservations must be made with States to enhance the contribution fasc ination repertoire of anecdotes fie ld of kashruth supervision. p.m. There is a charge of $15 for David and Chris Freedman at of Technion to t he medical and insights into Shabbat Rabbi Halbfinger's topic wi ll be t he whole series. 846-8480 by February 23 . sc iences. observances. Refreshments will " Kashruth and Modern The first session of the winter follow. Technology." There is a charge of Adult Education session will take On Sunday, March 13, at 10 a.m. $5.00 per couple for the evening. place on Thursday evening, The New England Federation of Ron will be the key note speaker at February 25 at 7: 15 p.m. Rabbi Jewish Men's Clubs and the Men's a breakfast program in the Alperin Marc S. Jagolinze r will begin his Club of Temple Emanu-El will Meeting House at which time Ron I series on "The Many Faces of feature Dr. Ron Wolfson on March will int roduce his new program, Judaism" and Mr. Jeffrey Sochrin 11 , 12 , 13. Dr. Wolfson is Profe ssor "The Passover Seder." will teach Hebrew II. Following the of Education at t he University of .. Bagels • Bread ( coffee break at 8 p.m. the Rabbi Judaism and the author of the Photographic prints of the ~ • Pastries • Soups will int roduce the second hour internationally successfu l Art of people and places of Nicaragua will program, "Getting to Know Our J ewish Living series. Hundreds of be exh ibited at the Hope High , ~Sandwich~• Salads Neighbors." The opening wee k wi ll congregations throughout North School ga llery from March 1 to feature the Reverend David C. Ame rica have offered his first March 21 , 1988. The collection WEEKEND SPECIAL Fri.-Sat.-Sun. Hac kmann of St. Peter's Lutheran course Phase One: S habbat Seder. represents the work of eight Church. A question and answer He is coming to Rhode Island to members of the JUMBO 6 OZ. 3 for $}.89 period wi ll fo ll ow, talk about this program as well as Providence-Niquinohomo Sister­ On Thursday evening, February Phase Two: The Passover Seder. City Project. The gallery is open MUFFINS (minimum purchase 3) 18 at 7:30 p.m. there will be a Ron has written and created during school hours from 8 a.m . to 9 VARIETIES TO CHOOSE FROM: Blueberry. Cra nberry. Apple. Chocolate Chunk. meeting of all those wanting to books, cassettes and materials to 2:30 p.m., Monday through Friday. Com. Orange Pineapple. Lemmon. Poppyseed. Bran & Cherry Chocolate Chunk. work on a T emple play to be accompany these two programs all The public is invited to a reception 727-1010 presented in late Spring. Actors, of which are being used ac ross the at the gallery on Friday, March 4, musicians, costume designers, count ry. 1988 from 3 to 6 p.m. Blackstone Place, 727 East Ave., Pawtucket, R.l. The 3-day program featuring Dr. The prints, both color and black (At the end of Blacksto11e Bou ler,ard, llt'XI to Douglas Dmg) scenery designers and writers are Daniel and Lois Kaplan, Proprietors cordiall y invited to attend. Wolfson is being prepared by a and white, we re taken during the committee chaired by Professor past two summers. Members of the HOURS: MON.- FRI. 7-7. SAT. 7-5, SUN. 7-1 Burt Fischman, in hi s capacity as Project were in Niquinohomo, vice-president of the New England Nicaragua constructing a health Region of the Federat ion of Jewish clinic. Most of the prints are on Men's Clubs. sale fo r $50 to $25 (sliding scale). On Friday evening, March 11 , All proceeds go to the Sister-City there wi ll be a Shabbat Dinner at Project which is developing plans Temple Emanu-El at which Dr. to build a school on the outskirts of Wolfson will demonstrate a Niquinohomo this summer. creative and inspiring approach to Hope High School is located at Friday night at home. 324 Hope St. in Providence, RI. On Shabbat morning, March 12, For more information call Ron wi ll address t he congregation 941 -5697 . Congregation Ohawe Shalam Don't fo rget to make your own games. Refreshments will be reservations early for the Purim served. dinner at the congregation on Services this Friday evening wi ll Purim Day, March 3, at 5 p.m. If be at 5: 10 p.m. Shabbat morning you're a little late because of work services will be at 9 a.m. followed it won't be a problem. We'll still by kiddush. The kiddush will have a delicious full -course include white fi sh and is sponsored chicken clin ner waiting for yo u. by Jack Faust. 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Montecello's Lady M charge Visa/MasterCard Hon, Tu, Fri 10-6, Thun 10-8 1375 Mineral Spring Avenue • No. Providence, Al (401) 353-9400 Sat 10-5, Sun 12-5 Closed Wednesday "/PAE-SELECTED STOCKS, OUANTITES, SIZES MAY BE UM/TEDI MasterCard & VISA • Plenty of Free Parking ,,r,,~· •·,',' I', 1,1·l' -:·',' ! ,~~ · ·~·, ,',••,1,~1 1 -, ·,·;:... ,, .. ·,r1 ' THE RHODE ISLAND HERALD, THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 18, 1988 - ;J ------Temple Beth-El------Pawtucket-Central Sons Of Jacob Israel At Beth-El Sabbath Committee present the secon_d of " Intermarriage: When Love Meets Falls Hadassah Friday, February I 9 \ Following Sabbath Services at three films in a series entitled Tradition." Marriage between The Pawtucket-Central Falls Light candles by 5:01 p. m. Temple Beth-El, February 19, at "Jewish Marriage in Films" on members of different religious Chapter of Hadassah's Annual Minchoh 5: !0p.m 8: 15 p.m., Seymour and Ceil Sunday, February 21 at 7:30 p.m. groups has long been a part of t he Shabbaton wi ll be held February Maariv 5:20 p.m. Krieger will speak on the tooic, in the Temple's board room. The " melting pot." of American 20, 1988 at Temple Emanu-El at Saturday, February 20 - Pasha " Israel Behind the Headlines." Mr. featured film is "The Heartbreak experience. Yet bringing two the 10 a.m. Service. Many of the Terumsh Krieger, Director of Education Kid" starring Charles Grodin, religious fai t hs to a marriage and women of this Hadassah Chapter Morning services 8:30 a.m. Emeritus at Temple Beth-El and J eannie Berlin and Sybill Shepard raising children has created will participate in the Service as Kiddush after services in a comic but stinging look at his wife, Ceil, a teacher in the tension and unhappiness as often readers. Minchoh 5 a.m. Temple Beth-El Religious School conflicting values. Following the as it has prompted sharing and Following the Service, there will 3rd Meal for many years, just returned from fi lm presentation, Ivy Marwil, understanding. The Rabbi will be a special luncheon for which Maariv 6p.m. a year's stay with t heir children MSW in private practice will lead lead a discussion fo llowing the t here will be a charge of $5 per Saturday ends 6:10 p. m. who reside at Kibbutz Gush Etzion a discussion period on questions showing of a remarkable new film person. Family and friends of Sunday, February 21 on the West Bank. The Kriegers raised by the film. There is no cost produced by the Union of Pawtucket Hadassah are welcome Morning services 7:45 a.m. will share their own perspectives fo r admission and free popcorn American Hebrew Congregations to join. Minchoh all week at 5: 15 p.m. on the situation in Israel which has and beverages will be provided. which depicts the thoughtful and The guest speaker will be Mrs. Maariv all week at 5:45 p.m. created painful headlines troubling The program is open to the honest attempt of five couples to Rina Sky Wolfgang, Director of Rabbi Morris Drazin lectures ,Jews throughout Israel a nd the community. For more information, examine and interpret the URI Hillel. Her topic wi ll be each day between Minchoh and Diaspora. The community is call 33 1-6070. complexity of contemporary "Jewish College Students and Maariv. This week's main topic is welcome to share in the fellowship Rabbi Gutterman To Speak intermarriage. their Perspective on the Future." the problems and alternatives with of Sabbath Worship. For more On Intermarriage The community is welcome to Come and enjoy Shabbat and get Israel. information, call 331-6070. On Friday, February 26 attend this program and join in the new insights into a very current Beth-El Brotherhood (originally scheduled fo r February fellow ship of Shabbat worship. For issue. Film Series I 2) fo ll owing Sabbath Eve more information ca ll 331-6070. For more information, call Ruth Provocative editorial op,mons, Services at Temple Beth-El, Rabbi Shein, 272-4845 or J enny Klein each week in From the Editor in T he Temple Beth-El the Herald. Brotherhood and Adult Education Lesli e Y. Gutterman wi ll speak on 751-6771. Bureau Of Jewish Workshops For NICOU S4Ul HGUJ Artists ' Representative Education News Parents Of ~ ~-"' ····.:.;..; , Art Consultant EAST SIDE The Bureau of Jewish Education Exceptional Children is pleased to announce the The Special Education Training r ~ -11-lfllf;i~s,?'it?~i~?: upcoming workshop "Teaching Program at the Rhode Island De­ About the Holocaust" to be given partment of Education will offer a in two parts on Thursdays, series of workshops entitled, "Ex­ Original Art Work By Local Artists February 25 and March 3, 1988, ceptional Parent T raining." The facilitated by Rabbi Lawrence progra m is offered at no cost to Commercia l or Residential Silverman of Temple Beth-El, this parents of special needs children. wo rkshop is designed for teachers The classes will run for six weeks By Appoinlnwnl 728- 196 1 of high school and junior high from 7:00 to 9:30, beginning on school students. It is also appro­ March 10 at the Portsmouth Mid­ priate fort hose wishing to gain new dle School. perspectives on their own The program is designed for par­ knowledge and thinking about ~he ents throughout the state whose el­ Blackstone Blvd. area 5 Bed, Holocaust. ementary school children have Come to Browns Catskills Interested lay persons, as well as 3½ Bath, 2 fireplaces, new eat-in been identified as having mild or Kitchen , Move-in, Mid 200's. teachers, are welcome to attend at moderate handicapped condit ions. the Bureau, 130 Sessions Street, for Passover Providence. Please call the BJE at The dates and titles of each of 331 -0956 fo r further information. the workshops follow: March I 0, "Take It All in Stride"; March I 7, APRIL 1 TO 10 "Accentuate the Positive"; March Providence Hadassah 24 , "Listen with Two Ears and a We have transportation from Providence T he Providence Chapter of Heart"; March 31, "Tell It Like It H@dassah wi ll hold a board is"; April 7, " Beware the Conse­ meeting, Monday, February 22, in quences"; and April 13, "Get It To­ Call Dorothy Wiener Travel 272-6200 the Activity Room at Highland gether." Parents may register fo r Court , IOI Highland Avenue. the classes by phoning 277 -3505. Refreshments wi ll be served at 12:30 p.m. and the meeting is Upper Elmgrove Area - Brick scheduled fo r I p.m. Colonial , 5 Beds, 2½ Baths, mint , Prior to the board meeting, Eva Low 400's . · Sapolsky will review the book, Temple Torat Yisrael Operation Babylon: a story of the rescue of the Jews of Iraq written proudly presents by Shlomo Hillel, who is the speaker of the Knesset. • Orders for the delicious Jaffa New England's Finest Cantors ,n a oranges, sold under the auspices of Hadassah Israel Education Services, are still being accepted. l To order a case of oranges, please call Rita Millen at 245-8'440 or G~L~ CONCERrn,1tion,1/ Potpourri, English ,ind Ladino, Yiddish and international Modem l_i; r,i eli wmgs. music. - Cr,rnd Crntori,1J.,., Yiddish, Op<•r.itic: Sisters Rosamonde and Rosalie sdPc tion.1,, /n i; trum<1ntal Classics. have won international acclaim as - INSTRUMl N T/\L CLA SS ICS PfRIORMW " the fo remost singing concert /lY ST/.VEN MARTORELLA. artists among religious in the wo rld today." Cantor Aryeh Finklestein Special Friends of Music ...... $ 100 Custom Georgian, Upper Elm­ Their hrilliant soprano voices Benefactors ...... $50 grove, FABU LOUS! 400's . have been heard in concert as Patrons ... $25 guests with symphony orchestras, Saturday, General Admission $8 on recordings, and on television and radio throughout the United Limited Sea ting States, Canada, Europe, J apan and March l9, Tickets ava ilable at Israe l. A kosher Itali an dinner wi ll Tempie T orat Yisrael Office begin the evening at 6:30 p.m., 330 Park Ave., Cranston fo ll owed by the Singing Sisters' 8:30 p.m. program at 8:30 p.m. Reservations at $10.00 a person must be made by March 20. Call Real Estate Sales 83 1-7967 or 86 l -0888. call for reservatioqs at ,g5,., 1800 Are you ge tting married? Send (401) 751 -0818 us your picture a nd information. L 4 - THE RHODE ISLAND HERALD, THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 18, 1988

of thousands of dollars on its but we do not aim for perfection. In our implementation. Gowns, limousines, jobs, we do the best we can. But catering, flowers, photographers, Newton, Einstein, Golda Meir: all IF\r(G)m illhl~ ·. accomplished their work at a level honeymoon suites. Then there's the somewhat below perfection. by Robert Holtzman value of the gifts the couple will receive: Editor toasters, Israel Bonds, sterling silver The fairy-tale wedding is just that. pickle forks, fondue pots, cars. All of it Your wedding will not be perfei:,t, no non-essential - all of it there simply matter how hard you t ry. Wishing for it because we like it to be there. can only bring disappointment. The Imperfect Wedding A sense of proport ion should be Nothing in this world, and I mean maintained when planning a wedding. absolutely nothing, is perfect. (Even The forms and purposes ascribed to largest Hera/a of the year. This reflects Gifts are great. Pageantry is great. mathematics contains inconsistencies.) marriage vary greatly by culture. The the importance of marriage to Going further into debt is not great. You can't be the show's producer, wedding ceremony, the permissable Judaism, and especially to Getting upset over non-essential director, perhaps its major financier, mates, the legal and social status that it contemporary American Jews. details is not great. and appear in a starring role, and still confers differ in every society. Marriage is the most important (Perhaps all these arrangements expect to be an appreciative audience. Romantic love is by no means a mitzvah - so important that it takes serve an alternate purpose. Rather In planning your wedding, aim for necessary component. The only precedence over mourning. According than being ends in t hemselves, the something else. Aini for having fun. If anthropological constant regarding to Jewish law, a wedding may not be crush of arrangements and the volumes your idea of fun involves spending a lot marriage is that it confers legitimacy on postponed because of a death in the of details may serve a real purpose: to of money and indulging in pomp and society's offspring. In every culture, the family (although certain elements of prevent t hose involved from thinking splendor, that's fine. I hope you'll marriage of one's parents is a requisite the ritual are to be altered). T he dead about t he real question: Am I doing t he patronize our advert isers fo r whatever for being fully accepted into society. are to be given due respect, but the right thing?) help you'll need arranging it. When Judaism is like all other societies in living are more important. You want your wedding to be special hitches occur, maintain a sense of this respect: it ascribes great The bridal supplement this week - after all, it's a major step, a great joy, compassion and humor. No business importance to marriage because of its contains more pages than the regular the only one (hopefully) you'll have. you've ever dealt with has served you primary function: the perpetuation of news section - more pages and more You want the wedding to be perfect. perfectly - none ever will, though the "race," or in this case, the culture. advertisements. Jewish weddings are You must get the perfect floral many will do their very best. No friend And while this has always been the case big business, as are food, shelter, centerpieces. The bridesmaid's dresses has ever been flawless - don't expect for Jews, it is especially important now clothing, and anything else that a must match their shoes perfectly. The them to become so for the day of your to American Jews because of their society finds essential. But with timing must be perfect. wedding. numbers and the need to supplement discretionary funds, any essential can Do we similarly delude ourselves for The Jewish wedding is supposed to . them. While the average American be transformed into a luxury. You can any other event? We hold a dinner be a great joy. Joy is nothing other than family is having fewer than two buy a can of tuna for 99¢ or a bit of lox party, and we want it to be as nice as an attitude. One can't arrange an children, rabbis are urging Jews to have for $12.99. possible - but who ever heard of a attitude with money and lists and a minimum of two. • . Many of the people reading this issue "perfect" dinner party? We have schedules. Have fun. Maze! tov! Our bridal issue is traditionallr the and planning a wedding will spend tens children and we try to raise them well, Amidst Crisis, New Opportunities For Peace \• 3by Theodore R. Mann members of the UN 8ecurity Council be able to live in t he territories in I and my American Jewish Congress who would compromise the security, just as Arabs live within Correspondents colleagues concluded from our international conference. But he places pre-1967 Israel. Middle-East meetings in late January, great trust in George Shultz. (My • resumption of diplomat ic relations Wanted that the time is ripe for urgent new antennae tell me that most American between Israel and the Soviet Union initiatives to revive the stalled peace Jews trust the Secretary, too. Indeed, and a dramatic increase in the number process, and that it is only the United he is the only Republican I know who, What's happening in your part of Soviet Jews allowed to emigrate. States that can provide the jump start. were he to aspire to the Presidency, of the state? We want to expand Peace in the Middle East is, to say our coverage outside the Thus the report that Secretary Shultz could radically alter Jewish voting will. , initiate a "fresh approach to habits.) President Mubarak and King the least, elusive. But what we Providence area. Are you ou.r "foreign correspondent?" If you mideast peace" (New York Times, Hussein, even while expressing to us concluded from our conversations with live in Kent, Washington (South), February 2, 1988) was good news displeasure at what they regarded as the region's leaders is that it is not or Newport counties, the western indeed. insufficient American involvement, beyond their capacities, provided that In our meetings with President both look to George Shultz to restart America's involvement at this crucial half of Providence County; or any Mubarak, King Hussein, Prime the process. Clearly American•' help is time is constant, sensitive and creative. of the surrounding areas (Fall Minister Shamir, King Hassan and both needed and wanted. ' Granted, the Middle East is a River, Attleboro, etc.), and woul.d with prominent Palestinians, each in Elections in the territories are a minefield. Granted, an American like to write for the Hera/a on a his own way expressed an urgency start. They are consistent with Prime initiative during an Israeli election year volunteer basis, please contact Robert Holtzman, Editor. about the need for peace in the region. Minister Shamir's long stated creates a special set of problems for any Of course there is always a need for willingness to achieve Palestinian diplomat. Granted, George Shultz's peace in the region. But there are autonomy. We would encourage both plate of critical issues requiring his elements in the situation now that Shamir and King Hussein, who attention is full. But he has spent six must be energetically exploited: previously refused to participate in years garnering Israeli trust and has only less t han a year to serve. If not • The willingness of so many Arab autonomy negotiations, to give a green IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIUUUIIUlllllllltllllllNllllllltQllllllllltlllllllllMIIUIIIIIIIIIIIHIIII states to resume diplomatic relations light to· this approach. But if they do now, when'? with Cairo, where an Israeli flag flies, is not, there are other initiatives that , T heodore R. Mann is President of the American J ewish Congress. one new, and very important, factor. America, together with Egypt, can take Egypt's new position of eminence and now, initiatives that are utterly influence in the region could provide a essential to creating the minimal sense powerful thrust toward peace and new of trust between conflicting parties economic arrangements that would without which agreements are never benefit t he entire region. possible. • Profound concern over the possible Among t hose that would surely consequences of Islamic extremism is impact favorably on Israeli attitudes (I shared by Egypt, Israel, Jordan and readily acknowledge my bias and (USPS 484-760) other states in the region. All should therefore leave to others a description Published Every Week By The realize, as the leaders we spoke to do, of steps that would instill the requisite Jewish ~" PubHahfng Company that none will benefit from any further trust in Palestinians) would be • EDITOR: delay in the peace process. • to induce other Arab states, t hose ROBERT HOLTZMAN • The Palestinian problem, which who recently renewed relations with Arab states allowed to fester fo r Egypt, to let it be known that their • ASSOCIATE EDITOR: decades so that it could provide a vision of the future includes peace and SANDRA .SILVA unifying rallying cry in their continuing economic relationships not only • ADVERTISING DIRECTOR: war against the Jewish state, is now between Jordan, Israel and the BRUCE WEISMAN seen by them instead as a potential Palestinians, but between t hemselves threat to the stability of their own and Israel as well. • ACCOUNT REP.: regimes. • shifting the immediate ,ittention of MARY FITZPATRICK • Israelis, too, even more now than the parties away from t he issue of before the riots began in December, see ultimate borders to t he issue of the Mailing Address: ~2:· ProvkMnc., R.I. Te*ephone: (401) 724-0200 a mortal t hreat to Israel.in a continuing , nature of the security arrangements PLANT: Herald Way, off Webster St., Pawt., occupation of the West Bank and Gaza. that will be required by ·'Israel in t he 9 T hey see, as the American Jewish event of a withdrawa l. T rading omce: 305 w.,.!~:\;~~. e.. t Proridenc:8, A.I. 02914 Congress concluded in a September, territory for peace is a grand concept Second dass postage paid at Providence, Rhode Island. Postmaster send address 1987 policy statement, that t he status but does little to inspire confidence in changes to The A.I. .Herald, P.O. Bo1t 6063, quo will lead inexorably to a cycle of most Israelis that after they have Providence, A.I. 02940-6063. violence and necessary repression, and withdrawn from territory, they will in sv5~~f~f~a;::~~~ ~v~= ~.. ~k · that in another twelve years 45% of t he fact have peace. Trading. territory for sootheastem Mass. $14.00 per annum. Bulk rates on request. The Herald assumes sub­ population in Israel and the territories alternative security arrangements, and scriptions are continuous unless notified to the will be Arab. The old dream of a trading Palestinian self-determination contrary in writing. democratic J ewish homeland wi ll once for peace are more realistic The Herald assumes no financial responsi- = ts. '~t ~ r':~~1thaf~rt ~~ ;:v:;; again become just t hat - a dream. . fo rmulations. tisement in whidl the typograptucal error Bridging the gap between Kmg • bringing an end once and for all to Candlelighting occurs. Advertisers will please notify t~ man­ agement immediately of any em:,, which may Hussein - the King insists upon an the anti-Semitism in the Egyptian OCCUL international conference leadmg to media. T he quality of the peace Un SOiicited manuscripts Unsolicited direct negotiations; the P rime Minister achieved between Egypt and Israel is Feb1:'uary 19, 1988 manuscripts are welcome . We do not pay !or insists upon direct negotiations critical to future progress, and we ~~:~.Al~~:~scnif'sst:~~~ J,;2 5:06 p .m. dressed erwe!Ope ii you want the manuscnpt without any international conference congratulated President Mubarak for returned. Letters to the editor ~senl the _ should not be beyond the capacities having done so much in the last several =~s ~: ;:t~ ! tlerno1~i:,.~1!~ of national leaders who recognize the years to improve that quality. But this number tor verification. The Herald is a member ol the New England urgency of the situation. Yet the gap issue of media anti-Semitism has the Press Association and the American Jewish Press Association, and a subscfibef to the remains. Prime Minister Shamir, for potential of undoing much that has Jewish Telegraphic Agency and !he Jewish good and sufficient cause, has little already been achieved. Student Press Service. 1 rust in the long term intentions of • making clear that whatever the . , . , . . • . - .e.iilier tn e' Piilestiriian·A,abs ·orcerfain · · · · .. u11.1mate sohltion;,JeWs wi1t top hat. I can District is IO East Street, a thoroughly renovated 19th recall a photograph of Nixon visit­ ing Yad Vashem wearing a Shab­ B-B-O TURKEYS $1 .19 1-. century gothic church. bos hat, most likely borrowed for a ~3 Among the amenities included in these spacious 2 rabbi or Yeshivah student. The dif­ ference is that Waldheim could not bedroom units are 2½ baths, superb city, bay and river allow his surviving Nazi compatri­ €i:,,llf ·• WIDE views, central air, garage parking and elevator access. ots to view him on news broadcasts .:::.. I- SALAMI OR BOLOGNA 1-. wearing the of those t hat $3.29 Single level and townho use units available were supposed to have been des­ tined with extermination in the priced fro m $ 144,000 1940s. At the time, Waldheim's ex­ THURS. & FRI. ONLY cuse was that he didn't wish to turn For sales brochure and appointment call his Middle East tour into a hat CHICKEN CUTLETS $3.99 1-- Marjorie L. Rotkin 272-5400 show (as if every Arab nation ~3 wanted him to pose with their tra­ ditional kaffiya headgear). G. L. & H. J. (3IN C. 38 Transit Street, Providence The time of reckoning was to GROUND VEAL $2.39 1-. happen in this decade. The now fa- , •,"/ii 0 L'O·' . . ~ - THE RHODE ISLAND HERALD, THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 18, 1988 JCC Activities Orchard Ave. Study Group Large Area Dance/ The Orchard Avenue Study Sports Nigh_t Group, a remarkable joint venture On Saturday, Februa ry 27 from I Social Events in adult education shared by 7 to 11 p.m., there will be a J ewish T emple Beth-El and neighboring Youth Da nce a nd Sports Night for i St. Martin's Episcopal Church, teens in grades 9 to 12 at the wi ll continue its series on Visions ,Jewish Community Center of of the Future when it meets to Rhode Island, 40 1 Elmgrove Ave. discuss the future of Family Life on in P rovidence. Mr. And Mrs. Barry Mr. and Mrs. Paul T hursday, February 25 , 1988. The T he event , sponsored by the program will be held at 8 p.m. in Youth Depa rtment of the J CCRI Kritz Announce Birth Carlin Announce the T emple's Meeting Hall. T he and B'na i B'ri t h Youth community is welcome to attend. Ori:a nization is open to all temple J oan a nd Barry Kritz of Birth Barba ra Kritz of New J ersey. Ca ll 33 I -6070 for more youth groups, Young ,Judea and ·'lewtown, Penn. are pleased to Great -grandparents a re Helen Mr. and Mrs. Paul Carlin of info rmation. ,Jewish youth organizations in a nnounce the birth of their first Cranston a re pleased to announce Borodach of the J ewi sh Home fo r Rhode Island and Southeastern child, Samuel Isaih. Samuel was the Aged in Providence a nd Min­ the birth of t heir fi rst son, E ric Jon Land To Speak Massachusetts. The fee is $4 per born on J a nuary 18, 1988. nie Kritz of Wa rwick. Samuel's David. born on January 23, 1988. At Singles Brunch person. Maternal grandparents are great-great -g ra ndmother is T ill ie Eric is the Carl in's second child. Call David Enos at 86 I -8800 fo r Gloria Rubin of Pennsylvania and Neroslazsky of the J ewish Home Maternal grandparents are Mr. Best selling loca l author, J on D. Land, will be t he guest speaker at a further information. che late Samuel Rubin. Paternal fo r I he Aged in Providence. a nd Mrs. Bernard La bush of grnnrlparents a re Arnnlrl and Wa rwick. Paternal grandparents brunch fo r ,J ewish sini:le adults on a re Mr. and Mrs. Gera ld Carlin of Sunday, February 21 at 11 a. m. at Film For Preschoolers the ,Jewish Community Center of C ranston. Great-gra ndpa rents are On Sunday, February 28 from 2 Rhode· Isla nd, 40 1 Elmgrove Ave., M r. and Mrs. J oseph Gold, Mr. to 4 p.m. , preschoolers and their ~~c'-ET Lie~ P rovidence. M r. Land's works George Labush, the late Mr. a nd parents wi ll enj oy a film a nd include t he just published T he Mrs. David Freeman and the late popcorn at the .Jewish Com munity ~ BASKET rs,i$,: Alpha Deception. His topic will be M r. a nd Mrs. David Carl in. Center of Rhode Isla nd, 40 I The Makin11 of a Best-sellin11 N ovel. Elmgrove Ave. in P rovidence. ~ ~ ~ T he fee is $:J.50 fo r .JCCRI T he fee fo r the a fternoon members; $6 fo r nom-members. Strain To Speak At ent ertainment is $.50 per person. T he brunch is open to J ewish Rhode Island Hospital For informal ion call Eva S il ve r at f'• · ~ • ~ singles, ages 2 I -60. For furt her 86 1-8800. Repair~ ~ 1, -t4,-_ BY S~ J ames J . Strain, M.D., Director information call Judith J affe at 433-2343' "'. . 140 Dorr Ave. of Behavioral Medici ne and 86 1-8800. ~~IVCE BR~~ · Consultation at the Mount Sinai By Appointment Riverside, RI 02915-2548' School of Medici ne in New York West Bay Jewish Community Center City, wi ll be the guest speaker at h r·. ""'°' ', 'I Rhode Island Hospital's David J . T he West Bay J ewish program fo r 7- 10 year olds will be Fish Memoria l Lecture to be held Communi ty Center is pleased to happening. Each week the at noon on Wednesday, Februa ry present three exciting youngsters will prepa re and enjoy 17, in t he Hospital's George After-School P rograms. For their ow n "delectable edibles." Auditorium. children 3-4 years of age, " Fun and This series will be held on Dr. Stra in ·s topic will be "T he Song wit h Friends" will be held on Tuesdays beginning February 23 Impact of Psychiat ric T uesdays, from 3:30-4:30 p.m. from 4: 15-5:30 p.m. The fee fo r t he Consultation on Medical Length beginning Februa ry 23. The fee fo r series is $30 for members a nd $50 of Stay." T he National Institute of members is $24 fo r the series, and fo r nonmembers. Mental Health recently awa rded $36 fo r nonmembers. All proi:rams will ta ke place on Dr. St rain the first grant to study A specia l hour of fu n is in st.o re Tuesdays at the Westminster :' RAINBow·· the benefits of psychiatric fo r 5-6 year olds from 4:30-5:30 Unitarian Church on Kenyon intervent ion in the p.m. on T uesdays beginning Avenue in East Greenwich, and medical/ surgical setting. Februa ry 23. T he series will will begin on February 23. BAKERY Dr. Strain is Professor of include va ried activit ies from arts Register by February 19 by Clinica l Psychiatry at the Mount a nd cra fts and music making, to sending check to: West Bay J CC, 800 RESERVOIR AVE., CRANSTON, RI., 944-8180/944 -71 71 Sinai School of Medicine, Director cooking. The fee for members is 40 1 Elmgrove Avenue, Providence, of Liaison Service at Mount Sina i $24 fo r the series, and $36 fo r RI. 02906. For additiona l Medical Center,·and a n attending nonmembers. info rmation, please call 83 1-1390. WEEKEND SPECIAL psychiatrist at Mount Sinai " In The Ki tchen" is where this Fri. -Sat.-Sun. Hospital. He attended the U nive,sity of Michigan, Case Public Lecture At Brown CHOCOLATE ECLAIRS Western Reserve University Supernova of 1987 observed Feb. 24 , 1987, in Chile, School of Medicine and the New P rof. David Helfand, chairman the supernova became the subject York Psychoanalytic Institute. He each of the astronomy depart ment at of woi:!5fwide observation within 24 65(: is a member of the American Colu mbia University, will visit hours and continues to fascinate Regularly 75' each Psychiatric Association, Brown University to delive r a both I heorists and observe rs even Association of Academic public lecture and a special though it s li ght has now decreased Psychiatry, and the National Physics Department coll oquium in intensity. AS ALWAYS, INGREDIENTS ARE STRICTLY KOSHER Board of Medical Examiners. on the Supernova of 1987. 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Elegance and dash, whimsy and smash! when I got the caterer, planned the menu That punctuates Lillian Zarum's and told her what it's going to be, she said, signature. 'Oh, that sounds lovely Lillian, but I do I've recognized her magic touch at many think we need a mold and we need . . .' simchas without ever knowing this warm " I'll tell you what, I told her. I'll give you and vibrant artiste. • the caterer's number and you go over it She welcomes me into her home flashing with her. The caterer called back and said a friendly smile. Her surroundings are 'I don' t believe she's 90.' ' cheerful, cozy and comfortable, a tasteful "And beautiful," Lillian adds. " Isn't reflection of herself. this wonderful' Lillian has spent the morning in "Though there's a lot of running around consultation for a wedding. The bride's and a lot of work in putting all my parties mother is flipping through swatches of together, it's fun," she says joyfully. tablecloth samples. "No one can She never tells anybody immediately coordinate anything like Lil," she says, what she's going to do. "I think about it for delighted that Lil is partner to the process a few hours, let the ideas pop, and then I of making everything beautiful. tell them." Beginnings provoke curiosity. Lillian tries not to force her taste upon What launched her into party planning clients, yet many who are away for the was "I've always been very active in winter have so much confidence in her charity work, on the boards of every they leave it to her to make all party organization, but I would never take on arrangements that will take place when executive positions because I'm timid. I they return. would chair the decorations committee. "They have confidence in me . They "In those days, " she continues, "I know everything will be rented and taken worked very hard because we made every care of ... appointments with the florist, centerpiece with paper and flowers. We'd the caterer, invitations written, stamped go out in the woods and cut branches. That and mailed. was my life. One day a friend asked if I had "The affairs hardest to plan are ever thought of going into this weddings. Bar and Bat Mitzvahs are professionally. I hadn't. usually theme parties. I'll work with "She said her aunt was giving a bridal whomever my customer wishes, but I do luncheon at the Biltmore and didn't know prefer one florist. I'll never urge them how to pick out an invitation. I said I'd be away from their fl ori st. I do ask them to glad to help plan the luncheon and went give mine a chance. They go to theirs first, with my friend to pick out the invitation. and then to mine to see the difference. "I thought my work for the luncheon "I work with the florist crew who is very was quite terrible," she laughs, " but as important in setting up the flowers. I know terrible as I thought it was, everyone my florist will come with his crew of 10 thought it was beautiful. I'm always afraid people. If a table has to be moved, it'll be to spend someone else's money. done even though that's not their job. "Really, I thought it was awful, but do They'll move chairs. Besides talent, I need you know from that luncheon I got two the crew. calls, one from Fall River, the other from "The biggest headache is planning the Cranston. table seating. When the list is given to me, "The party I thought was terrible, they I look it over. If I see a guest would be thought was lovely. This was 35 years ago. unhappy sitting at a specific table, I'll call Party coordinator Lillian Zarum studies fabric for an upcoming event. I got $35 for the luncheon and thought my clients and let them know. It's only Photo by Dorothea Snyder that was wonderful. It took me two years to the guest. to go up to $50. At first, I made all the "My clients never know what goes on tablecloths, but soon rented the cloths. behind the scenes that day. If they truly " Nobody knew about tablecloths hitting knew what goes on between the caterer the floor at that time. I'll never forget a and the florist, they'd never make it they we re clear. It was beautiful'" The week before, she saw an Jewish kosher caterer coming to me and through the day. We fix all the snags Ideas often spring out of the blue for the arrangement with long-stem French saying 'you ought to stop this business of between ourselves. I'm there to make sure party planner. tulips. "They're gorgeous. I'd like to use tablecloths dropping to the floor ... and things are taken care of, and usually stay "One Sunday last year, I stopped at them for a wedding, but I don't know if we tablecloths with prints and colors. Do you through cocktails and hors d'oeuvres." Garden City on the way home from work. can get them by the time the wedding know what it's costing me?' Lillian pulls pictures of a wedding she There was a fair going on and people comes. "That's how it all started. Then I went planned in Newport from a fo lder. She playing music on bandstands. A few "The wholesale house said yes, but in seriously into it." points to the outside canopy and to were hanging by a booth where a woman case it's nb, we'll go into something else. She is surprised when I ask how many bleeding heart plants plunked in urns on was making dried flower arrangements. We used to have panic attacks if we weddings she has done over the years. the side of steps leading to a little fish "I asked the woman if I needed 12 hats couldn't get what we wanted. Now, we're "I really don't know, but I just did my pond. She elaborates upon the lovely in my colors, could she make them. She accustomed to it. We know there's taxes, so I know last year I did 64 parties. details of that wedding day. put together a sample with dried fl owers something else equally lovely." And that's a lot of parties. Another picture is exquisite. Magenta all around the crown with velvet ribbons. I had asked Lillian about humorous "One of my favorite parties," Lil brings taffeta over tall ladderback-type chairs It was precious and very Laura Ashley. incidents in the course of time. The to mind, "is an executive Christmas party with gold bustle bows. A hint of gold peeks "This is what happens. I see_something, French tulips sparked a recollection. I do for 60 executives at a big corporation out of the inside fold of the fabric below. and it clicks. If I see something anywhere "I planned a December wedding years yearly. The president's wife calls and says, Magenta taffeta table cloths are adorned I am, I can do anything with it. I get ideas ago. We ordered hundreds of yellow tulips 'Lil, here's the date. Tell me wherever you with pink and red roses. from theatre sets a'nd restaurant menus. from Europe. There's a ship from Holland want to have it, and plan whatever you "I love balloons," she says with a I'm always cutting things out." that comes into New York once a week. want.' childlike inflection. "The last Bar Mitzvah She excitedly pulls out a catalogue Two nights before the wedding, I'm "That's how it's done. I'll send the party I planned had silver chairs, si lver of entertaining, admiring the food watching Johnny Carson. Tiny Tim is invitations, plan the music and everything tablecloths, arid 2000 balloons with silver presentation on its cover. "Look at these getting married on the show. The whole else. streamers. poached pears with the stems on them. studio is banked with yellow tulips. "I'm now planning a luncheon for a " When you walked in, all you could see The bow around the top is made from "The next morning, I get a call from my 90-year-old woman. I'm so excited to do was shimmering silver. You didn't even orange peels. It looks like a raspberry is florist. 'Lil, I went to the plane to pick up this for her. She's in such sound mind that realize the balloons were there because the knot of the bow. I think that's carmel our tulips, and they're red.' sauce poured over it." " What are we going to do? Tiny Tim has Lillian's whole environment triggers her our tulips. I know he has our tulips. It's a creativity. " No matter where I go, what I mistake. I told my florist to call the studio. do, everything I look at has a different look Frank found out that the studio had than it may appear to you." picked up the wrong tulips at the plane. The topic of drawing and painting The red tulips were theirs. The studio evolved. She recalled when she and two shipP,ed the yellow tulips to us the next friends took a night course at the Center day. 15 years ago. The bride's mother didn't learn about ''I'm not very good with my hands. I the incident until many years later, Lillian couldn't do a thing. My friends were doing said, and her reaction was 'It's good I beautifully. I gave it a third try, and a didn't know then.' fourth try. The fourth evening, I packed up "And they were fresh," Lillian adds. my art supplies and left. Their work was "Since it was winter, the tulips were in beautiful; mine was the worst. Now, why? good condition." Isn't that funny? The worst." Lingering over the event of that story, I Lillian may not be able to put it on then wonder what she finds is a common paper, but how she can orchestrate her concern among her clients. ideas! That acute eye knows "when to add " It should be beautiful," she says, a branch or delete one to make an smiling with eyes that dance and have the arrangement perfect." answer."lt should be very beautiful'" ------·------~ -

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Business & Financial by Charles D. Jenkin, Co rp. In January, t he stock is Susan Makalinaw trading at $50 per share. With your There is no foolproof system for $ 1,000 allotment, you buy 20 outmaneuvering the volatile twists sha res. In February it drops to $30, a nd turns of the stock market. But you can buy 33 shares. In March it there is an investment system rises back to $.50, you buy 20 R.I. Invests In Israel SBA News Moes Chitim known as "dollar-cost averaging" shares. In April it rises to $70 a that may be the next best thing. share, you can buy 14 sha res. The North Centra l Business and Moes Chitim, Simply put, dollar-cost Ave rage cost of the stock over the Professional Women's group a nd "Money For Wheat" averaging is an investment four mont hs is $50 a share - or the U.S. Small Business One of the first things one says technique by which you buy more the equivalent of 80 sha res fo r the Administ ration a re cosponsoring a at the Passover seder is "Let all sha res of a given stock when the $4,000 you invested during the four Trade Exposition fo r women in who a re hungry come a nd eat: all price is low and fewe r shares when months. But through dollar-cost business on Sunday, April 10, who a re needy come and celebrate it 's high. averaging, you were able to buy 87 1988, at the United Commercial t he Passover with us." And unlike many other touted shares. Travelers Building, ,Johnston, The United Moes Chitim Fund, investment formulas, dollar-cost While dolla r-cost averaging is Rhode Island. This ma rketing administered by Jewish Family averaging is a snap to execute. no guarantee against loss, it has event will help business women to Service, helps the old, infirm, Select a stock or mutual fund that proven to he very successful as a discover new leads, secure new lonely, poor; sponsors seders fo r you want to accumulate over a long long-term accumulation system. accounts and' personally introduce t he residents at the Institute of period of time, and buy a It s success is based on several products and services to potential Mental Health and the Ladd pre-determined dollar amount of assumptions: customers. Be one of over 100 Center; helps support the shares on selected dates, regardless • The long-term trend of stock exhibitors to market your product community seders and many of t he price of the shares or general prices is up. or service. resettled families. market conditions on t hose dates. • The market movement of most Charles W. 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Community reflected at the kinderga rten level, conference facility center in where 14 children ranging in age Galilee. Haim Sharett, who (continued from page l) from six months to six years learn currently is in the U.S. to make communally, as well as religious and play in an open classroom arrangements for the Seminar workshops and Friday night setting. The kindergarten was set Center, reports he is receiving help dinners. up by Keren Aharoni, who came from t he Association of Reform While the settlers represent a from Scotland a nd met her sabra Zionists of America (ARZA) with wide ra nge of religious husba nd, David, while she was on a pa rticipation by t he North backgrounds, all are committed to volunteer program in Israel. American Federation of Temple the principle of open inquiry into Coming: A Young People's Youth (NFTY). Both ARZA and t heir J ewish roots. "Consensus Center NFTY are affiliated with the determines our decisions," says Ha r Halutz is now looking ahead Union of American Hebrew Ha l Appelbaum. " Everyone brings to the development of a Seminar Congregations, central body of his or her fa mily tradit ions to Ha r Center at the settlement, one t hat Reform Judaism in the U.S. and Ha lutz, thus creating an exciting can accommodate the 1,500 high Canada. integrative experience." school a nd college yout h who come Additional info rmation about A communal approach is also to Is rael each year in youth Har Halutz may be obta ined from programs sponsored by the Reform the Aliyah Desk, Union of HAR HALUTZ, Israel In their comfortable and Group movement. American Hebrew Congregations, surprisingly roomy tra iler at this Reform-sponsored pioneer The Center would also serve the 838 Fifth Avenue, New York, NY settlement on a hilltop in Galilee, Morty and Haya Burstein, (continued from page l) needs of the region for a 10021; (2 12) 249-0 100. forme rly of Hicksv ille, Long Island, enjoy each other's company. American metropolita n cente rs. The ultimate a im, according to these extremists, was to overthrow the Ame rican governme nt a nd estahlish a white supremacist. regime - pla ns that were ahorted hy vigorous law enforcement ALPINE AUTO WASH action. These viole nt elements in t he hate movement, the report pointed out , "achieved a spectacula r pre-eminence" ove r older a nd larger fact ions. The AOL study, which was prepa red hy the Research a nd Fact Finding departments of the HKency's C ivil Rights Divisio n. is a revised edition of a 19M survey , . h.a.., · , with the same title. Among the major findings of the survey: - T he Ku Klux Klan: FULL Although Kla n membership has· declined approximately !iO percent SERVICE -~ sinl'e 1982 with it s leadership weakened and splintered, a OUCHLESS CAR WASH relat ively sma ll numhe r of viole nt raei:-.ts ca n have had an inord inate impa<'I . Although the Kla n attempts to project a respectable, pat riotic image, this is only a mask fo r white supre macist ideology dire<'ted aga inst Blacks. ,Jews, Hispa nics. Orientals a nd other mi norities. " Identity Church" NOW OPEN nwvement: The violence-prone, ps;.1do-t heolo~ical hate groups, wh i<' h have heen weakened hy t he a rrest a nd imprisonment of many FOR BUSINESS ~lf' it s members in recent yea rs, generally suhscrihe to the helief 1h al Anglo-Saxons a re the Biblical "chosen people." not ,Jews. One fo rmer memher of T he Order, a 985 NORTH MAIN STREET, PROVIDENCE, R.I. g-roup which suhscrihes to ident ity Directions: Approximately ½ mile down from Sears on North Main St. (on opposite side) towards Downtown Providence doct rines, testilied in federa l court 1ha1 the ultimate goal of" the organization was the "annihilation of t he .Jewish raee." Formed in 198:l, The Order emharked on a series of violent crimes ma inly on the Wes.t Coast a nd Mountain states as pa rt of a revolut ion to overthrow the U.S. government that culminated in more tha n two dozen a rrests in 1:i stales. The rrimes included ha nk The R.I. Herald presents robbe ries, counterfeiting ope rat ions, a rson, holdups of a rmored vehicle:-., shootouts with age nts <)ft he FHI , a n assassinat ion crnd n synagogue homhing. The Annual Passover Edition Neo-Nazi organizations: Con:,; ist ing of s mall numbers, est inrnted at several hundred 1hro u~hout the United States, they Thursday, March 31, 1988 are involverl in nat ionwide distrihution of a nti-Semitic hate 1>rc1paganda I hrough pe riodica ls, hooks, posters a nd even materia l which can he ohta ined through computer networks. A la rg-e Advertising Deadline neo-Nazi propaganda mHI is opeartecl hy Liberty Hell puhlil'ations of Heedy, West Monday, March 28 - Noon Virginia. " If America is to !'Ontinue to meet the cha ll an~e of hate and viole nce hy organized hi~ots," Mr. Foxma n said, " g-ove rnment a nd law enforcement officials, To Reserve Your Space communitv and reli1:dous leaders and eclur~to rs must ta ke even more \·ig:o rous measures to monitor I heir ad ivil ies a nd Phone eomhat t hem." P raising the recent <·rnckdown hv federal a nd lo<'al authorities a~ainst the ext remists, he snid, " J-:ven a re Int ive handful of raeists who still engage in vtt ndnlis m or 1errorist nr ts cnn have n ripple effec·t n-nd poison the atmosphere of a clemocrut ic societ y." \ ... ' ·, '.... , .. .. '' ... ' .. ' ' .. ' ... , ...... ' ,. ' ...... '' •

understand the miniatures in all usefulness of the work is greatly their details Sed-Rajna quotes enhanced by the glossary, index, copiously from the relevant list of manuscripts, and selected biblical passages and from bibliography at the end of the rabbinical sources. The latter volume. include Midrashic works and the It is a pleasure to behold the Aramaic t ranslations of the Bible, book. The reader, both the the Targumim. Through this layperson and the scholar, will be method the pictorial depictions richly rewarded with much new and the literary texts mutually insight into the role Jewish art arguments that there must have illuminate each other. played in general art history and in Art And Jewish Tradition existed in ancient times a cycle of This is the first time t hat such a Jewish tradition. To quote the last biblical pictures that was created systematic effort has been carried sentence of the book: "The The Hebrew Bible in Medieval by those who want to know how by Jews and that incorporated out to explain the meaning of conclusion t.o be drawn, then, is Illuminated Manuscripts. biblical heroes and scenes were elements of rabbinic biblical miniatures in medieval t hat Judaism, contrary to the idea Gabrielle Sed-Rajna. Rizzoli depicted in Hebrew manuscripts in interpretation and legend. This Hebrew manuscripts. that it did not create visual arts, International Publications, 597 the Middle Ages, but also by cycle, in turn, influenced medieval The Hebrew manuscripts contributed significantly to t he Fifth Avenue, New York, N.Y. readers who are interested in the biblical pictures by Christian and utilized for the study are mainly sources of European art through 10017. 173 pages. $85.00 relationship between Christian Jewish artists. Passover Haggadoth that in the the medium of Bible illustration" Reviewed by Menahem and Jewish art. The Bible story had been Middle Ages used to contain a (p. 156). So is Sed-Rajna's book a Schmelzer The common conception has embellished by the ancient rabbis cycle of biblical scenes from the significant contribution to our This is a very beautiful, been that .Jewish art has always in many ways and Christian books of Genesis and · Exodus, understanding of a fascinating interesting and' learned book. It been dependent on and influenced miniatures of biblical scenes often leading up to the delivery of the aspect of the Jewish past, where can be enjoyed not only by by outside models. In this book the reflect such traditions. They must Jews from Egypt. art and literary tradition together connoisseurs of medieval art and author presents plausible have been derived from Jewish The book is lavishly produced, created such beauty to be enjoyed sources. On the other hand, beautifully printed, and the by later generations. medieval Hebrew manuscripts reproductions are excellent. The display techniques, conceptions, and artistic styles that without any A Vivid History Of Iraqi Jews doubt follow earlier or contemporary Christian examples. The Jews of Iraq: 3000 Years of presents a comprehensive· and Sed-Rajna guides us past a H L< tory and Culture. Nissim vivid description of the cradle of panorama of biblical miniatures of Rejwan. Westview Press, 5500 civilization and the seat of Jewish as well as of Christian Central Avenue, Boulder, CO Judea-Christian development and origins with great knowledge and 80301. 1986. ix, 274 pages. $33.00. growth. admirable lucidity. Reviewed by Heakel M. On contemporary history of the The theoretical discussions of Haddad Jews of Iraq, and especially as the the author are presented in the The Jews of Iraq is presented anti-Jewish sentiments and edicts introduction and conclusion. The more as a reporter's impressions and activities engulfed Iraq, main body of the book is arranged than an historical account, culminating in the Jews being in sections concentrating on especially when Mr. Rejwan writes forced to leave Iraq by the Iraqi various biblical figures: Adam and about the contemporary history of government, Mr. Rejwan's Eve, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, the Jews of Iraq. There are very political background at the time is Joseph, Moses, Aaron, David and few books on the subject to very much reflected in his Solomon. Two sections, on the compare with this one, which reportage. Mr. Rejwan, not being a 214 Wickenden Street, Providence, RI 401-273-1198 "man of God" and on the "woman presents a vivid history of the Zionist at that time, bends Over 40 varieties of whole bean coffees • espresso • pastry of worth" conclude the book. In whole area where the Jews of Iraq backward and gives much less each of these sections Sed-Rajna have lived from our patriarch emphasis on Arab persecution and provides an introduction which Abraham's era to the present. It atrocities perpetrated against the deals with the iconographic and thus reviews the history of all the Jews of Iraq in the forties and stylistic features of the miniatures countries and nations that fifties. of the particular biblical hero or dominated the area in ancient One- of the most important heroine. The interrelationships times in what was once called the events that happened to Iraqi MONDAY & TUESDAY EVENINGS ARE SPECIAL AT between the various manuscripts Fertile Crescent. Jewry, the Farhood (pogrom) of are traced, too. The miniatures The book is not only of interest June 1941, is mentioned en themselves are presented in very to historians and those interested passant. 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525N MA l NSTRl:l'T Open Daily A I. l' H I: M \' \ '•I ~ J. ~ - ..,; \ ~ 1085 North Main-Street I' RO I/ I I) F. N l' F. TRA NS FORMING R I O l 9 O .i 7 A.M. 'ti/ JO PM., TIi i! COMMON _, Providence, R.I. 02904 ! -4()1 ) I NT O T II I: 2 7 II AG I· L Friday & S.,turday S I' E ( ' I A L EAT IN OR 'ti/ Midnight TAKE OUT (401) 272-9600 ... The Shoctest Route Home _ _ J - T HE RHODE ISLAND HERALD, THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 18, 1988 - 13 Society provides tour guides and official name of the T ouro Touro operates the gift concession at the congregation. (continued from page 1) synagogue. The U.S. Department "The present fa milies are not of t he Interior and Congregation . steeped in tradition, and the 'old Shearith Israel also cooperate in guard' is passing away," he said in the operation of the synagogue as a an interview on February 8 in his tourst attraction. offices in the Jewish Community In the 1950s, Touro Synagogue Cent.er. There are several Jews underwent re novation aimed at coming into t he area - many of restoring t.he building to a t hem white collar workers, doctors, condition as close to its original lawyers, and engineers - but few design as possible. Also of them are Orthodox, and accomplished at this time was virtually none are familiar with the some much needed st ructural work Sephardic t raditions maintained in the basement. at T ouro. Consequently, many are During t his period, no doubt, shy about. attending. "T hey don't workmen saw evidence that know and they feel supported the long-standing uncomfortable," he said. rumor of a secret tunnel reaching To remedy this, Rabbi Shapiro from t he synagogue to the has begun a program of adult Newport waterfront. It is not education. T here are classes in known if this tunnel was Elementary Hebrew three times completed, but stairs are known to each week. T his month, there are Patriot's Park, in front of Touro Synagogue. The plaque on the exist under t he bimah (podium). lessons on the basics of Sephardic pedestal (foreground) holds a bronze copy of the famous letter Mr. Kusinitz ventured that the worship. Other series have from George Washington. The flagpole's base will display Rabbi Chaim Shapiro is tunnel may have been begun by the involved guest speakers, videos on plaques honoring the contributions of outstanding Jewish working to stir up interest in colonial-era congregation as an holidays and rituals, literary citizens from the I 3 colonies. the Orthodox traditions and escape route. Alt hough its use was critiques, and discussions about revitalize the congregation at never required in Newport, t he controversial topics affecting Touro Synagogue . city's J ewish population - all of T his includes a social hall, meeting to 20 years down the road," Rabbi Jews. T here are once-a-month rooms fo r B'nai B'rit h, Haddassah them European immigrants - breakfasts wit h guest speakers Shapiro continued. Ort hodoxy, he and others, and the Hebrew school. said, is the fastest-growing Jewish part of t he larger community, he must have had memories of t hat have included representatives T here are about 35 children denomination. But its growth is said, " is what American pluralism persecutions elsewhere and of the Rhode Island Historical attending three times a week. Also is all about." retained fears of their recurrence Society, the CIA, and t he Council largely confined , to the major The Levi Gale house is a Greek in t he New World. housed in t he building is the metropolitan areas, such as New of Israel fo r New England. Newport Jewish Heritage Society. Revival building containing the Through the 1960s and up to t he Attendance at these programs is York and Chif~~J , There is a good· chance that a But Mr. Kus,111,t; t .ffered a more J ewish Community Center and present time, most of t he Jews still small, said Rabbi Shapiro, but national Jewish Heritage Museum offices of several affiliated entering t he Newport area have t hey are beginning to have the optimistic perspective. "Very few will be established ther in the Jewish communities disappear and organizations. It was built on the been either Conservative, Reform, desired effect. Some of the younger ., near fu ture. ~om'e back as the community in site of the old courthouse in or non-aligned. This has been community have begun attending What is the future of t he Newport has," he said. "Unlike in Washington Square. But t he state hurting Touro's membership, and services regularly. Ort hodox congregation? "That's of Rhode Island acquired t he land attendance at Sabbath services is But it's not easy to maintain an Europe, they were~'.t_ forced to the $64,000 question," answered leave. For t he first faiiie,_ in J ewish by eminant domain. T he building low. About 140 fa milies are Orthodox observance in Newport. Rabbi Shapiro. T he building and history, they left voluntarily." was cut in two and hauled the few members of Touro Synagogue. But According to Rabbi Shapiro, there the services, he emphasized, are Reflecting upon the historical hundred feet up the hill to its according to Rabbi Chaim is no Kosher bakery on Aquidneck Orthodox, but the community is volitility of Newport's Jewish present site, right across Touro Shapiro, the congregation's Island, and no Kosher butcher in not. " In terms of maintaining the communhy, he noted t hat it has Street from the synagogue. During spiritual leader, a large proportion Rhode Island at all. There's no synagogue as such, I have my t.he Second World War, the of the members are old - there are disappeared twice -'- possibly Hebrew dav school closer than qualms - unless we get an influx building served as a U.S.O. only 5 to 10 families with Providence .. There's no mikuah - t hree times - and re-established of new fa milies. It's not too location. It is now on the National school-age or younger children in itself as a st rong, vital community. the ritual bath. encouraging." Record of Historic Sites. t he congregation. It could do so again. Still A Vital Community " I'm frankly pessimist ic fo r 10 The Second Half Of The Rabbi Shapiro's Challenge In spite of its problems, Touro Century Rabbi Shapiro has been with Synagogue is still a vital After the Second World War, in Touro since August, 1987, filling community and the site of much which Newport. J ews again served the gap left by his predecessor, activity. In the 1970s, Patriot's B'nai B'rith Education award, says it "recognizes an overseas in the armed forces, the Rabbi Lewis, who retired after Park was established right in front Award: Call For important cont ribution that a "old"-community - the one t.hat servi ng fo r about 35 years. Rabbi of t he synagogue. " It should really book, film or video tape published hail beguri to establish · itself Shapiro served as an active rabbi be called 'Jewish Patriots' Park," Nominations in 1987 has made to the greater around 1870 - began to fade away. fo r four years in Pittsburgh and in explained the rabbi, fo r t hat is the Historians, journalists, understanding of Jewish At its low point, there remained Queens. Later, he was the purpose of t he memorial. publishers, teachers, and civilization primarily outside a about. 15-20 fa milies from the Executive Director of Yeshiva Just last week, about 125 New librarians around t he world are fo rmal classroom setting." earlier era . University in Long Beach, N.Y. He York teenagers visited Newpor t invited to nominate candidates fo r Nominations are due at B'nai Touro was named a National and his wife, Sheila, have four for t he annual wi nter Shabbatone B'nai B'rith's Lily Edelman Award B'rit h International headquarters Historic Shrine in 1946. J ust two children, three of them married. of the New York area's National fo r Excellence in Continuing in Washington by April I. years later, the Society of Friends As a new rabbi filling shoes Council of Synagogue Youth. Next J ewish Education. For further information of T ouro Synagogue was founded. occupied fo r so long by one man, month, the Religious Zionist T he award in the second annual regarding the award procedure, T he Society is a dues-paying, Rabbi Shapiro is working hard to Organization of America's Amit competition consists of $1,000 and contact BBi Continuing Jewish non-denominational group t hat gain t he loyalties of t he Women will be holding a special a special certificate. . Dr. Michael Education Commission, 1640 helps with t he building's operation congregation. He is also working program there. Neiditch, director of 8'nai B'rith's Rhode Island Ave., N.W., and maintenance and its hard to spark new interest in The Levi Gale house is the home Commission on Continuing Jewish Washington, D.C. 20036 or phone functioning as a tourist site. T he Congregation ,Jeshuat Israel, t he of t he Jewish Community Center. Education, which sponsors the (202) 857-6580.

Bernie Kusinitz Maintains Ties With The Past

by Robert Holtzman Bernard Kusinitz is a critical link in Rhode Island Jewry's history. Much of the material in the accompanying article on Touro Synagogue, Be rnie Kusinitz, P resident as well as much of the existing historical material on Rhode Island's a nd official historia n of Touro ,J ews, was discovered, compiled, and analyzed by t he 69-year-old Synagogue , working in his Newport native. a r chives of historical Mr. Kusinitz served as President of Touro Synagogue fo r two terms, mate ria ls. from 1966-67 and from 1987 to present. He is also the synagogue's official historian, and he holds active positions in several historical societies. ' He maintains records of every description relating to Touro and Rhode Island's J ews. He has in his archives innumerable primary materials, from which he does most of his work. And he clearly enjoys work ing wi th the old sources, fo llowing up leads, ferreting out documents Crom old storeplaces, and deciphering the antiquated handwriting. The contacts he maintains throughout t he community provide incomparable payoffs. "This is gold," he said, speaking figuratively of an original of a petition submitted to Newport's city council by the Touro Congregation during t he dispute of 1899-1903. T he document was given to him by a worker at a local government office who, while not knowing quite what it was, knew that Kusinitz would be interested. Mr. Kusinitz is now preparing a history of T ouro Synagogue and Newport's ,Jews during the 20th Century. He will present this talk at a meeting of the Newport Historical Society on March 10 at Touro. Since 1987, he has been active in the creation of the Touro National An original petition from the Historic T rust. In contrast to t he ex isting group, t he Society of Friends of Touro Synagogue, which concerns itself wit h the maintenance and the Touro Congregation to popular appreciation of t he building and its history, the Touro National Newport's city council, circa Historic Trust will have a more academic focus. Mr. Kusinitz described the turn of the century. This is the group's goals: "To t ry to translate t he history and tradition of Touro one of many rare documents discovered by Bernie Kusinitz. Synagogue as an international symbol of religious freedom into a program of research, education, and culture. To this end we have become affi liated wit h Brown Uni ve rsity and Brandeis University, which will lend their resources fo r research pu rposes." Speaki ng of Newport's .Jews, Mr. Kusinitz affi rmed, "T his community has not forgotten it s past." It is Mr. Kusinitz's own dedicated efforts that assure the cont in uation of that memory.

'> • .... ~ • .... • .... -., 0. - • 0 0 • o ' I • ._ • 0 ' 0 0 a • ' L ~ f < ,, 825 Hope St., Providence. Burial Jerusalem Talmud was in Lincoln Park Cemetery, Warwick. Published "The recent publication of the first volume of the Jerusalem Tal­ , BEA TRICE ROSE mud is a hallmark in the annals of CRA NSTON - Beatrice Rose, the Jewish tradition. Rabbi Arlin 62, of 103 Auburn St., died Steinsaltz's monumental work will Thursday, Fehrua ry 11 , 1988, at open the doors of Jewish knowl­ Rhode Isla nd Hospital. She was edge to new generations of Jews. the wife of Max Rose. Island, N.Y.; six grandchildren and ROSALEE D. REICHER The American Jewish Joint Distri­ ROBERT E. FEIN Born in Providence, a daughter four great-grandchildren. bution ·Committee is proud to be EAST PROVIDENCE PROVIDENCE - Rosalee D. of the late Maurice and Gladys A funeral service was held at one of the sponsors of this historic Robert E. Fein, 83, of 36 Arthur Reicher of 38 Twelfth St., office (Askins) Kushner, she had lived in Mount Sinai Memorial Chapel, manager of the Keystone Office project," said Heinz Eppler, Pres­ Ave., owner of the former Robert's Cranston 3fi ye ars. 825 Hope St. Burial was in Lincoln dent of the American Jewish Joint Studio in the Providence Arcade, Supply for more than 40 years She was a me mber of Temple photographers of school yearbooks Park Cemetery, Warwick. before retiring in 1985 because of Distribution Committee (JDC) Torat Y'lsrael and its sisterhood. upon receiving the autographed and a prominent citizen for more ill health, died Tuesday, February She was also a member of the than 40 )'ears died Wednesday, 9, 1988, at the Summit Medical first volume of the Jerusalem Tal­ · Cranston Chapter Hadassah. mud. February IO, 1988, at Miriam WINIFRED GUTTERMAN Center. She was the wife of Emil Besides her husband she leaves The Jerusalem Talmud, com­ Hospital. He was the husband of PROVIDENCE Winifred Reicher. two sons, Ma rc D. Rose of piled more than 1500 years ago, is Sadie (Garber) Ross-Fein. His first Gutterman, 71, of 42 Stephen Born in Providence, she was a Westford, Mass., and Gary M. one of the most significant collec­ ;,,;re was the late Dora (Golderg) Hopkins Court died Monday, daughter of the late Isaac and Rose of Cra nston; a daughter, tions of Jewish legal and religious Fein. February 15, 1988, at the Jane Sarah (Pantelas) Waldman. Wendy B. Spec k of Cranston; two thought. * .. * Born in Brooklyn, N.Y., a son of Brown unit of Rhode Island Mrs. Reicher was a member of sisters, Frances Agronick of the late Noah and Alice Hospital. She was the wife of Dr. Temple Beth Sholom and was Warwick and Doris Donn of treasurer of its Sisterhood. She CARD OF THANKS (Mendelson) Fein, he lived in David D. Gutterman. Oregon; and seven gra ndchildren. Adele Snyder, daughter of Florida for 16 years before moving Born in Detroit, Mich., a was a member of the Women's A funeral service was held at the Association of the Jewish Home the late Louis and Rose to East Providence last year. He daughter of the late Louis and Max Sugarman Memorial Chapel, Covinsky, extends her deepest formerly lived in Providence for Fa nny (Burnett) Werbe, she for the Aged. 458 Hope St., Prov idence. Burial Besides her husband she leaves appreciation and thanks to many years. moved from Flint to Providence in was in Lincoln Park Cemetery, family and friends for all Besides his wife he leaves a 1977. two daughters, Marjorie L. Degnan Warwick. of Providence and Ilene Berger of kindness and generosity step-daughter, Harie Raisman of Mrs. Gutterman was a member shown during her difficult Plymouth, Mass.; a sister, Mrs. Warwick; a stepson, Allen Ross of of the Temple Beth-El Sisterhood. period. Pawtucket; two sisters, Frances She was a 1934 graduate of the Esther Resnick; a brothei:, H. MARY F. TICOTSKY Leonard Waldman, both of Wright and Blanche Bendett, both University of Michigan. CRA NSTON Mary F. Providence, and five of Waterford, Conn.; eight Besides her husband she leaves Ticotsky, 70, of 30 Oaklawn Ave., CARD OF THANKS grandchildren. grandchildren and a two sons, Dr. Robert B. Gutterman owner of the former Guilfo rd We wish to sincerely thank A graveside service was held at great-grandchild. of San Francisco and Rabbi Leslie Cotton Shop, Guil fo rd, Conn., for the many relatives, friends Lincoln Pa rk Ce metery, Warwick. A graveside service was held at Gutterman of Providence; a 35 years before retiring last year, and neighbors for the kindness Arra ngements were by Mount Lincoln Park Cemetery, Warwick. brother, Edward Werbe of Detroit; died Monday, February 8, 1988, at and sympathy shown to us Sina i Memorial Chapel, 825 Hope Arrangements by the Max a sister, Lillian Benson of San Miriam Hospital. She was the during our recent St. - Sugarman Memorial Chapel, 458 J ose, Calif., and two widow of Israel T icotsky. bereavement. The many cards, Hope St. granddaughters. Born in New Haven, Conn., a donations and fruit baskets A funeral service was held at daughter of the late Barney and RUDY L. SNYDER were most thoughtful and Temple Beth-El, Orchard Avenue. Dora (Wetzel) Nouman, she li ved were greatly appreciated. ANNA GILSTEIN Burial was in Sons of Israel and CRANSTON Rudy L. in Guilfo rd for more than 65 years Thank you all. PROVIDENCE Anna David Cemetery. Arrangements by S nyder, 63, of 42 Furlong St., hefo re mov ing to Cranston eight The Family of the late Gilstein, 90, of the Jewish Home the Max Sugarman Memorial founder and proprietor of the months ago. Benjamin Mendelovitz for the Aged, 99 Hillside Ave., died Chapel, 458 Hope St., Providence. former Rudy's Army & Navy Store Mrs. Ticotsky was a member of Mrs. Bella Mendelovitz in Providence, died Tuesday, at the home Tuesday, February 9, T emple Beth T ik va h, Madison, Mr. and Mrs. Samuel 1988. She was the widow of Alfred February 9, 1988, at Rhode Island Conn., and the Guilfo rd Chamber Mendelowitz Harry Gilstein. NOAH MILLER Hospital. He was the husband of of Commerce. Mr. and Mrs. William Frank Born in lnstanbul, Turkey, a PROVIDENCE - Noah Miller, Urse! (Rager) Snyder. She leaves two sons, Da niel daughter of the late Charles and 60, of 321 Cole Ave., treasurer of Born in Germany, he was a son Ticotsky of Cincinnati, Ohio, Alan Ida (Silver) Bornstein, she came to Crawford Garden Supply Co. for of Martha Schneider of J ohnston, Ticotsky of Lexington, Mass., a nd CARD OF THANKS i Providence as a child. She lived in 28 years, died Friday, February 12, a nd the late Bruno' Schneider. A two grandchildren. The family of the late Cranston for 17 years and in Japan 1988, at home after an illness. He former Providence resident, he A funeral service was held at Gertrude Swartz wishes to for two years before returning to was the husband of Harriet had lived in Cranston since 1958. T emple Beth Tikva h, Route 79. thank their relatives and r Providence. (Grossman) Miller. Mr. Snyder operated the Army Burial was in Beaver Brook friends for their thoughtful Mr. and Mrs. Gilstein owned A lifelong Providence resident, & Navy Store for 15 years, until Cemetery, Clinton, Conn. contributions and kindness Harry's Quality Market, Central he was a son of the late Joseph and 1964, and later managed a Arra ngements by the Ma x shown to us in our recent Falls, for more than 30 years. They Rose (Spindel) Miller. Providence clothing store. Sugarman Memori al Chapel, 4fi8 bereavement. later owned meat, delicatessen and A Navy veteran of World War II, He was a member of the Hope St ., Providence. Philip Paige and family fruit and vegetable departments at he was a member of Temple Palestine Shrine and Rhodes the former Big Bear Market, Hoyle Emanu-EI, Redwood Lodge, Lodge No. 44 , F&AM. Square. She and her husband were AF&AM, Knights of Pythias and Besides his wife and mother, he charter members of Temple the Palestine Shrine. leaves a daughter, Linda Fine of Emanu-EI, and she was a member Besides his wife he leaves a son, Cranston; a son, Mitchell J . If yo u would like to have a listing placed in the Obituary section that of its Sisterhood. She was a Jeffrey Miller of Stratford, Conn.; Snyder of Conway, N.H.; a sister, we have not printed, please send us a copy. We will print it the following member of Hadassah, B'nai B'rith, a daughter, Gail Miller of Boston, Eve Mittler of Cranston; and three week. and the Women's Associations of Mass.; a brother, Al Miller of gra ndchildren. the Jewish Home.for the Aged and Whitman, Mass.; four sisters, The funeral service was held at Miriam Hospital. - Sylvia Taubman of Warwick, Lee Mount Sinai Memori"al Chapel, Mrs. Gilstein was a Grey Lady in Miller of Cranston, Ruth Miller the American Red Cross for more and Jean Baker, both of than 10 years and did volunteer Providence. work at Miriam Hospital. A funeral service was held at the U.S. Federal law now requires all funeral homes to She leaves two daughters, Celia Max Sugarman Memorial Chapel, Bazelon of Cranston and Lee 458 Hope St. Burial was in provide itemized pricing. Mount Sinai Memorial Chapel Horowitz of Huntington, Long Lincoln Park Cemetery, Warwick. * has proyided this courtesy for over twelve years. Max Sugarman MOUNT SINAI Memorial Chapel MEMORIAL CHAPEL The Rhode Island Jewish funeral Family records for three generations are In our files, home that can be trusted ... . making our staff better prepared to maintain our for Its honesty ... Integrity .. . high standards of service with Reverence and Dignity and compliance with the highest standards of Jewish ethics In the Jewish Tradition. and conduct. Over 100 years service to R.I. 331-8094 Jewish families by our director,. Mitchell, his father and grandfather.

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The American J ewish e lderly. Against t he backdrop of Jewish Family community should concern itself calls for inc reased social spending ORT Essay Contest with domestic problems as well as in these a reas was a hard hitting Service Health Aids legislation affecting Israel, Sen. message on the financial situation The Providence Chapter of E nt ries must be legibly printed Howard Metzenbaum (D -Ohio) in whic h the U nited States finds Homemaker Health Aides Wome n 's American O.R.T. or typed wit h the author's name, recently told leade rs of nine major it self today. Available (Organization For Rehabilitation address, phone number, age, ,Jewish women's organizations. " We must educate our own T he homemaker healt h a ides at. Through Training) is sponsoring school a nd grade not appearing on " The J ewish community is members on t hese issues and reach Jewish Family Service keep a n essay contest t his month in the entry but on a n accompa nying perceived in t he ha lls of Congress out beyond the Jewish families running smoothly during conjunction with The R.I. State 3" x5" card. Send e ntries to: as a single-issue community/' Sen. community," said B'nai B' rith an illness a nd a re essential to the Depart ment of Education's ESSAY CONTEST M etzenbaum told the women, "but Women President Irma Gertler. independence of many seniors current campaign to increase Providence C hapter of ORT our concerns are much greater " We have no policy or even t he while recuperating from surgery. awareness of t he vocational / c/o 175 Birkshire Dr. technical opportunities in t he Wa rwick, R.I. 02886 than that." fuzziest blueprint on the tough The Homemaker Service at. state. The essay topic is "How does Call 463-7684 for further T he Senator spoke at a one-day problem of long-term health care," J ewish Family Service is designed a vocational / technical education information. Legislative Briefing hosted by Sen. He inz told the group. to provide short term intervention give someone the competitive edge B'nai B' rith W omen and "Seventy-fi ve percent of senior in a crisis situation such as illness in today's world?" Entries must be sponsored by himself and Sen. citize ns think t hat Medicare will and recuperation. bet.ween 250-300 words a nd be ,John He inz (R-PA). The purpose p rovide for t heir needs. Homemaker service is provided of the briefing was to lay out the " Today the re are l.3 million postmarked no later than M onday through Friday in t.wo February 29, I 988. All R.I. hard c hoices t hat confront J ewish people between 85 and 105," the shifts: 9 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. and I to women today on social issues, Senator pointed out. " If you have a vocational / technical area center 4 p.m. All cases are handled with students a re e li gible to e nter. T he c hoices that indeed face the entire child or grandchild under six, by the strictest confidentiality; fees nat ion. the time that. child ret ires there prizes a re First: $100 U. S. Savings a re on a slidi~g scale based on Bond, Second: $25 gift certificate Speakers addressed t he group on wi ll be 15 million senior citizens in income. If you can use the services the unmet needs in health care, tha t category, and most of them to Block Artists, Third: $20 gift .. of a Homema ker Health Aide, call certificates to Salk's True Value Ji child care a nd problems of the wi ll need long-term care. Ms. Prinz at 33 1- 1244. For reservation and ci Hardware St.ore. prepayment through ti This essay con test. is t he C ELDAN RESERVATION CENTER I Providence Chapter's community service effort fo r t his year. Today >:::;<: U.S.A. 212-6296090 s ORT is the largest 1-800-533-8778 ., nongovernmental technical l!lrJ (,Uf, 1-.., ', 1' ,Tl fHU,1 ,QrUI.L /,111rnri t TEtt.. 1\ 1tL1,l/(L l rf, J1blfilt,', educational system in t he world Jdl u ..,,.~u, t: l r:,n, 11l 111 < Hl 01. 11•.111. I ,10,U( '• l l !• T

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The huppoh is the most recog­ remains for the seven blessings to neath, in addition to the bride and ni zable element of a Jewish wed­ be re cited there fo r the bond to be groom. T here is so me disagree­ ding and perhaps t he most ro man­ co mplete. ment as to whether this is desir­ tic. It has its ori gins in the tents of But the sides of the huppah we re able. (After all , if it represents the our nomadic ancestors but it re ­ removed fo r good reason. It became bridal chamber, the couple might tains a modern relevance. unacceptable to all ow couples to not want company.) The huppah presents opportu­ ac hieve marital status by mere co­ T he huppah may be set up al­ nites fo r artful expression and ind i­ ha bitation. It became necessary to most anywhere. One preference is vid uality. The couple migh t prefer have a rabbi officiate, to determine to have it outside on the syna­ the simple traditional austerity of the qualifications of the bride and gogue's grounds, at night. T he stars an upheld tallis. On the other groom. And witnesses were re­ thereby remind the couple to be hand, they might prefer to make quired so that the couple would be fruitfu l and to multiply like the their own covering or to ha ve it recogn ized and accepted by the stars in the sky. T here was once made fo r them. A quilted huppah co mmunity. Removing the sides of so me squeamishness about hav ing cou ld later be used as a bed cover­ the huppah permi tted this, while the huppah in the sanctuary right in g. A huppah decorated in needle ­ retaining the cove ring permitted in front of the ark-aga in , because point or batik could become a wall the cont inuation of t he other tradi­ of its association with the bridal ,.. hanging. The cloth can be painted, tions. Having the huppah open has chamber. But since that aspect has r---... em broidered or deco rated in al­ another significance: it is remind­ largely been taken over by t he yi­ ~ or yo most any way imaginable. Flowers ful of the tent of Ab raham which hud - t he ten minutes of privacy \..__)Iweddin may be used to decorate thi, poles, was open at a ll sides to welcome immediately after the ceremony­ but a huppah cove ring made en­ visitors. the huppah is now commonly tirely of 0owers is not proper. The huppah can be simple or placed t here even in most Ortho­ We invite you to see The wo rd huppah means cove r­ elaborate, as temporary as a tallis dox synagogues. collection of pure sil in g or protection. As such, it is held above the couple or a semi­ lingerie, peigno ir sets symbo lic of the groom's home and permanent structure owned by a specificall y of the bridal chamber. sy nagogue or caterer and used and sleepwear. For In ancient times, cohabitation was again and again. If a tallis is used it elegant shower and the only legal requirement fo r mar­ wi ll have to be of the larger type. It wedding gifts we offer riage. The mere entering of a room wi ll be held up by fou r friends onl y fine bed and table together, without escorts, could fo r a short time during t he actual linens. constitute the co nsummation of nuptials. If a larger covering is de­ Are yo u marriage between a couple. The sired, it may be attached to poles getting engaged? huppah therefore has t he fun ction which may be co mfortably held of nissuin, or nuptials. The act of aloft for a longer period. Such a entering under t he huppah is rep­ huppah ca n even take part in the We'd love to print resentative of the final port ion of procession. To ask a frie nd to hold the wedding requirements- it only the huppah is to co nfer an honor. your picture A huppah fixed in place all ows and the enti re ce remony to be con­ information. ducted there- the kiddushin (be­ • trothal) as we ll as the nissuin . t" . (nuptials). A fixed huppah can be large enough fo r several members of the wedding party to stand be- V • '• •

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THE RHODE IS LAND H ERALD, THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 18, 1988 Cherished Moments - A9 One Marriage - Two Religion§ Tbe Wedding Announeen,ent b y Robe rta Segal If you are getting married it is a send it when you return the form. good idea to submit the informa­ All photographs must be black A couple meets, fa lls in love, is easier for a partner to express to Another major issue is a feeling tion fo r your newspaper wedding a nd white. We will gladly accept contemplates marriage. When one a group the frustrations, worries of alienatio n fro m t he J ewish announcements as early as possi­ photographs that include t he bride partner is Jewish and the other is and fears he or s he is feeling. There communit y. Mr. Segal feels t hat ble. We at the Herald a re always alone or with the groom. If you not, t he pair often face issues that is no right a nd wrong; each couple the position of the Jewish pleased to include this joyous news wa nt us to return your photograph a re difficult to deal with and must make decisions t hat are right community is often misunderstood in our pages. t hen please print you r name and emotionally charged. for them." and offe rs options and outreach T o obtain a Wedding Announce­ address on the back with a request For the past severa l years, What a re the issues most p rograms. The practice of ment Form call the Herald at 724- fo r the return of the photo. J ewis h Family Service has been frequently discussed ? How does .Judaism, however, is a difficult 0200 a nd we will mail one out to We will include the fo llowing in­ holding a biennial workshop to one please a mate and t he in -laws concept fo r a non-J ewish partner. you. This fo rm has a coupon in the fo rmatio n in your announcement: explore these difficult issues with a nd maintain one's own identity? The .J ewish partner may "feel" bottom corner which. when filled names of the bride, groom, parents couples who are either Does t he couple fee l isolated from ,Jewish without attending a out a nd returned, will entitle you to a nd grandparents, education and contemplating marriage or a re t he J ewish community? What synagogue o r practicing traditions. a free one year subscription. with occupation of t he bride and groom, already married. happens at holiday times? "One Marriage/ Two Religions" our best wis hes. the wedding date, the location of Led by Paul Segal, Executive According t.o Mr. Segal, o ne of the will be offered for three Monday The fo rm should be typewritten t he ceremony and reception, infor­ Director of J ewish Family Service, major issues is a feeling of loss of evenings beginning April 25 from o r legibly p rin ted. We as k that you mation regard ing the attire and and Rabbi Leslie Y. Gutterman of identity. Partners may feel t hat 7:30 to 9 p.m. at the Jewish Family carefully proofread the fo rm before nowers of the wedding pa rty, hon­ T emple Beth-El, in " One they a re giving up a pa rt of Service o ffi ces, 229 Waterman returning it to us. Be certain t hat eymoon destination and future Marriage/ Two Religions," couples themselves. If a child is to be Street in Providence. The fee fo r a ll the info rmation you want hometown of t he bride and groom. explore t he issues with others brought up J ewis h, the Christia n the series is $30 per couple. printed has been included on the s ha ring similar experiences. part ner often feels isolated and not Preregistration is required. Fo r fo rm and is in proper order. If you Mr. Segal says, " A two-religion a pa rt o f the process. 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b y Robert Holtzman Mikuah: t he ceremonial pre-wedding party. Traditionally, We'll do everything The rabbinical legal immersion just before the wedding this is followed by the "bride's requirements of a J ewish wedding day, o ften fo llowed by a s mall throne." This is a special mitzvah for your wedding but a re few and simple. The wedding party for the women. IL marks t he in which the bride is assured of the actually consists of two parts: the beginning of the seclusion of the wisdom and righteousness of her kiddushin (betrothal) and nuptials bride. The main purpose is ritual decis ion a nd during which she may throw the bouquet. (nissuin). But a hosl of other purification, but t he bath and later be more or less shamelessly customs have ach ieved the stat us seclusion are a lso a good fl attered. of ritual t hrough long usage. The oppo rt unity fo r the bride to relax. Veiling the bride: comes fro m the .Jewish wedding usually includes It gives her some time to calmly t he following preliminaries: Bible story in which Rebeccah first refl ect on the new phase of life saw Isaac, her intended. In a Aufruf: t he groom 's opportun ity she's about to enter. to demo nst rate his piety and traditional show of modesty, she The Ketubah: essentially a form scho larship. It is also a fo rmal used her scarf to cover her hair. of contract to p rotect the rights of announcement of the upcom ing The groom , with his father and the bride. Specially-inscribed and marriage to the community. On father-in-law, go to claim the decorated ketubot can be the Sabbath before the wedding, bride. The groom places the veil commissioned from qualified t he groom is called to read from the over his beloved's face. This can be a rt ists. These can beco me treaured Lorah in the synagogue. It is solemn and joyfu l at the same time works o f a rt. The ketubah is signed customary fo r the groom's family and is t he occasion for singing. by witnesses - not by the bride to host a small kiddush reception Following the veiling, the a nd groom - to attest Lo t he after the services. The reception is procession moves on to the huppah b ride's willingness and to the a n opportunity fo r some informal and the real ceremony begins' But ises made by the groom. socializing between the two t hese preparatory rituals are just families. Nuts and raisins may be Groom ·s Table and Bride's as important in making a Jewish thrown like pre-nuptial rice as a Throne: The ketubah is often ceremony special, memorable, and kinO of fertilitv char m . s igned at t he "groom's table" at a unique. Marriage Aud Pearls: A Love Affair

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Diamond cuts as well as ring exceptional white to yellowish, are The Signifieanee Of The styles have changed t hroughout barely percept ible to the untrained the years since Maximillian made eye. Diamond Engagement Ring his presentation to Princess Mary. Occasionally, diamonds wit h Before the invention of the strong colors such as green, red, diamond saw in 1910, diamonds blue and amber are recovered. were polished to give t hem t heir T hese "fa ncy color" diamonds are shine. When the saw was used to rare, fetching commensurate break up t he crystal, experts prices. created optically efficient • Cwrity - refers to t he degree diamonds that held more to which a diamond is free of brilliancy and dispersion than ever interior blemishes or inclusions. befo re possible. The size and posit ion of inclusions OUR Today, lasers enable diamonds affect t he value of a stone to be cut not only as rounds, according to · whether t hey HONEYMOON marquises, pears, ovals a nd interfe re with t he passage of light It has to be rectangular shapes, but also to be through t he diamond. fashioned into such unique designs • Cut - T he art of cutting a special. as horse heads, stars and initials. diamond is so refined that a precise Very intimate on Styling changes have been mathematical fo rmula was subtle and gradual. In colonial developed. It called fo r most stones a romantic island. days the engagement ring was a to be cut wit h 58 facets, each Something we· II diamond hoop called the " keeper placed at a precise angle to one ring," because it was wo rn over the another. never forget. wedding band, acting as its How much should you spend for I know w e'll " keeper." The next style was t he this gift of love that lasts fo rever? goto cluster ring, designed li ke an Consider the fact t hat most of your old-fashioned bouquet with a rose purchases depreciate in value and Since the turn of the century, Princess Mary of Burgundy, that (of rose-cut diamonds) in t he may not even last over the years. the soli taire diamond ring has been the t radition of the diamond center. A diamond, on t he other hand, RI V I ER. A the American engagement symbol. engagement ring began. T he Victorian rings we re more has lasting value, will always be ornate, sometimes using black t he enduring symbol of your love, They know how Even today, as many t raditions are The reason a woman wears it on toppling, the diamond ring t he third finger of her left hand is enamel with gold in t he diamond and will surely become a family to plan tradition is stronger than ever. traced back to the ea rly Egyptians settings. Then came the princess heirloom fo r generations to come. everything. Where did it begin and how did who believed t hat the vena amoris ring, with t hree to fi ve diamonds in It can be remounted in another it evolve? (vein of love) ran directly from the a row across t he fi nge r. T his was ring, pendant or pin in the future J ewelers of America, Inc. (JA), heart to the top of the third finger, popular fo r many years, until the and enjoyed over and over again. t he national orga nization left hand. turn of the century and the J ewelers of America (JA)) dedicated to consumer T he Greeks believed the fire in a introduction of the solitaire recommends a two- month salary info rmation and education about diamond refl ected the constant setting. guideline, to allow you to purchase fi ne jewelry, offers t he fo llowing fl ame of love. T he name Whether you select a round or the biggest and best diamond t hat historical notes about t he "diamond" comes from the Greek one of the " fa ncy" cuts, such as you can afford wit hout straining engagement ring: word "adamas" meaning marquise or pear shapes, you your budget. T he ancient Romans were the unconquerable. Is it any wonder should have your jeweler explain For more info rmation about first civilization to use finger rings that the diamond has come to the importance of the " Four C's" diamonds, colored gemstones, as a sign of betrot hal and marriage. symbolize the eternity of love? which determine t he quality of the pearls, gold, sterling sil ver, Solitaire rings we re popular, as T his year, brides and grooms gem - carat, color, clarity and cut. appraisals, care and cleaning, and were bands of "opus interrasile," will spend over $1 billion on • Carat - refers to t he weight, fine . JA will send you - the Roman's technique of engagement and wedding rings. and t herefore the size, of t he ge m. free of charge - its series of open-work chiselled from sheet And, because t he diamond One carat is divided into 100 brochures fo r consumers entitled, gold (much like contemporary engagement ring is usually t he first points, so that a diamond of 150 " What You Should Know ... " "fil igree" designs), a nd rings piece of diamond jewelry a woman points weighs 1.5 carats. Write to J ewelers of America, similar to today's popular owns, it is important to solicit the • Color T otally colorless Dept. MD, 1271 Sixth Ave., New "eternity" ring with stones set all assistance of an expert - your diamonds are very rare and York, NY 10020. round a simple band. local jeweler - to counsel you represent the highest color grade. When your feelings are fo r real, However, it was not unt il 1477, about t he qualities t hat should be T he various gradations, from choose fine jewlery. 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... THE RHODE IS LAND HERALD, THURSDAY , FEBRUARY 18, 1988 Cherished Moments Al3 Expert Suggests IO Steps Creative Gift Suggestions For Today's Bride Aud Groom To Perfect Makeup What are the perfect gifts fo r pen, theatre or opera tickets, chairs, a compass, an all -weather For Brides today's brides and grooms? Many restaurant gift certificates. radio, a picnic basket fo r snacks. people immediately t hink of china, • Sports fans: A stadium blanket • The couple setting up a home crystal and sil ve r and, while these Glenn Roberts, creative beauty and thermos, season football office: Bookends, paperweights, to show t hrough the lenses and are always welcome gifts, says director fo r Elizabeth Arden has maintain t he balance of color on t ickets. desk sets, a remote telephone, a Brides 's magazine, the possibilities • ,<;nilnr.s · Floating barware, deck traveled to all parts of the world the rest of the face. tape recorder. have expanded to "anything the giving makeup advice to thousands Also, softly line the eyes on both couple might enjoy." of women - including many upper and lower lids with a pencil brides-to-be. "Couples marrying now have one shade deeper than the more defined ideas of what they He's learned firsthand what the eyeshadow. need fo r setting up a home," problems are and has become May ALL Your 6. Treat yourself to a manicure explains Barbara Tober, something of an expert on bridal and pedicure a day or two before editor-in-chief of Bride's. In makeup. Here are some t ips from the wedding so t hat hands that cut contrast to the average bride and Dreams Come True Glenn on planning the perfect the cake look lovely and feet that groom of the past, t hey're older, or wedding makeup. stand t hroughout t he reception have been married before. l. Don't wait until just before feel smooth and comfortable. "They want the traditional the wedding to experiment with 7. To make lipstick last items, of course, but they also makeup and hairstyles. Start far through the ceremony and beyond, appreciate gi fts that are individual enough ahead so that you will be apply Visible Difference Lip-Fix and creative, a bit out of t he comfortable with both the look and before applying lipstick. It will also ordinary." the way to achieve it on the day of prevent lipstick from " feathering" Bride's has this advice fo r t he wedding. - bleeding out beyond t he mout h. anyone shopping fo r a wedding 2. Try out hair and makeup T hen line t he lips neatly with a present this season: Find out if the with all the pieces of your wedding pencil and fill in with lip color couple has listed t heir preferences ensemble - ve il or hat, dress, using a brush. with a Wedding Gift Regist ry (65 jewelry - and if possible do it in 8. On t he day of the wedding percent of brides and grooms do). the actual light of the church or In addition to traditional gift synagogue. allow two hours of quiet preparation before leaving fo r t he items, couples can register for 3. Since both dim church fu rniture, housewares, electronic lighting and wearing all white tend ceremony. Sit, don't stand, relaxed in front of a good mirror with equipment, luggage, sporting goods to "wash out" the features, don't and specialty foods. be afraid to wear plenty of color plenty of light to do your hair and makeup. If they have a distinct (lively pastels in light to medium "personality," one of t hese ideas 507 Angell Street shades) and apply it on all parts of 9. Keep a compact, lipstick and might fit: (Wayland Square) the face equally, with no one tissues at hand with a bridesmaid or mother fo r quick touch-ups • Gourmets: Wine glasses, a wine Providence, R. I. feature dominating. rack, a wine label scrapbook, 4. Have a professional facial a between ceremony and receiving membership in a 331~3640 week before t he wedding to deep line and after the reception wears on. wine-of-the-month club. clean skin and pores and give any • Travelers: Luggage, , 10. Relax - if you've fo llowed possible eruptions a chance to beach towels, passport wallets, a heal. directions this far, you should be travel alarm or iron. 5. If you wear glasses, be sure to refreshed and ready to enjoy the • Social butterflies: An choose eyeshadows bright enough day looking your radiant best. appointment book, an engraved

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I guess we many details, a nd if work or school see why right away. The they just change or add li ttle thought that we would decide what is invo lved there is even more pres­ barefoot-in-the-park ceremonies things. For example, they have we wanted, and our parents would sure. of the 1960s and '70s have their own special music played, take care of everything else. Now In the struggle to arrange the disappeared as completely as personali ze their vows, or pass out that we are older and are slowly 'perfect' wedding, it is important fl ower children a nd love beads. printed ceremony " programs." beginning to marry off, we have that we never become so in vo lved Elegant clothes, age-old ritual Modern weddings also break come to realize just how much fan ­ with the details that we fo rget to and a spirit of nostalgia are t he with the past over t he ideal of tasy was in volved in our earlier dis· treat fam il y a nd frie nds with sensi­ rule. equality. Today's bride may be cussions. There is no easy way to tivity and respect. T reating people But does thi s swi ng-back mean dressed in a demure, plan even the simplest wedding, in a-ca ll ous and insensitive manner that a ll innovation is out of style ? turn -of-the-century style, but that and the biggest problems that arise could cause irreparable damage to Does t he bride of today reall y have isn't where her head is. The are those we never co nsidered in our relationships with them. If this a wedding t hat is indistinguishable wo rking bride may have helped our youthful planning. s hould happen, it is unlikely t hat a from the one her mother or pay for t hat Victorian gown Far worse than having problems satisfactory replacement will be grandmother had? herself, and t he ritual phrase of with the technicalities of the wed- found. " You need to look more closely " love, honor and obey" has largely Remember, caring implies a com­ to see what's happened," says di sappeared from the ceremony. mitment on t he parts of both par­ Barbara T ober, editor-in-chief of The "giving away," a part of ties to nurture the relationship. Bride 's magazine. "T oday's some ceremonies in which the There is never a good excuse fo r weddings do seek out the best a nd celebrant asks, "who gives t his being careless or uncompromising most beautiful traditions of the woman in marriage?" has also in ou r treatment of another person. past - in cont rast to a few years changed with the times. Today, a Rega rdless of the situation, this ago when anything old was couple might rewrite the question sort of behavior always requires automaticall y suspect. But, at the to read, " Who blesses this immediate apologies. same time, they're ve ry, ve ry marriage?" with both the bride's We all want every detail of ou r modern in that they express new a nd groom's parents answering weddings to be perfect because we ideals. " " We do." marry with the intention of it be­ Fewer " rules" of etiq uette, plus a The same kind of t hinking has ing a once in a li fetime affai,. But climate that favo rs personal likewise revised the idea of who we would do we ll to remember that exp ression, have led couples to add pays for a wedding. Traditionally, Going Away after the wedding day, there is still their own creative touch. the bride's parents shouldered the an entire lifetime ahead of us. Lov­ " But today's individuality is whole bill. "But, for the first t ime," ing relationships are what makes very different from the 'do your says Mrs. Tober, "there's a Dresses that lifetime wo rt hwhile. ow n thing' brand of the last definite trend toward the sharing of expenses by the groom's fami ly." Honeymoon This is partly economic - Experienced Travelers Say: inflation for some families means "Satisfaction Begins with a everyone has to chip in for there to Wear be a wedding at all. Call Th Hope:' But it's also a sign of the times. Sheryl Bernstei n Joel Bern ste in A bride's parents are no longer considered to be " marrying off' = Bob Bernstein ------their daughter. Rather, the = OAVOL SQUARE•PROVIDENCE , RI 421•3032 = wedding is seen as a joining of two people and two families. Finally, equality means a new role in the wedding for today's groom. In the past, a groom often fe lt like a spectator at his bride's "big day." 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