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July 2004 volume 22, numbe

30th Annual National · The festival has been grow- ing steadily the past few /'/'/_..... Women's Music Festival years with more and more people discovering the quality of the music in Okemah, the July 22-25, 2004, Columbus, OH fun of the Brickstreet Cafe in downtown Okemah, the beauty of the old Crystal What a celebration festival Theater, and the relaxation of sitting out l:j!tl~~rf this is going to be! Music and under the stars in the field at night on a f; comedy by old favorites and blanket or chair while musicians such as new discoveries: Cris William­ , Kevin Welch, , Margie Adam, Tret Fure, Alix Ol- son, Ember Swift, Pamela Means, Carrie Newcomer, Audrey Auld, Ario Guth­ Ubaka Hill, Suzanne Westenhoefer, Vickie rie, , and many Shaw, Lisa Koch, Zoe and many, many more. more play great music and help us forget how hot it is. Workshops. Drama. Merchants. Open Mic. I've written a couple of articles in the Drag Kings. Friends. Song & Drum Jams. past about a woman named Kris Delm­ Women. Step out of your everyday world for horst out of Northampton, Massachusetts 4 days and be your truest self in the company who is an incredible songwriter and singer. of fabulous women. As always, it will fill you, Imagine my surprise when I saw her name heart and soul. Visit www.wiaonline.org/ on the list of performers for this year's fes­ nwmf. tival! She will be on the pasture stage on Thursday, July 15th at 7:20. It's hot at that time of evening so bring a hat, but Festival Not to Be she'll be worth the drive. Please, treat Missed yourself and go hear her. All the perform­ Jill Garner ers sell and sign CDs too so bring some extra money to take home some great new It's that time of year when the sun is music and meet the performers. beating down on the scorched Oklahoma Just a few other notable performers you earth, and the music is getting hot in might want to hear at the festival are Okemah at the annual Woody Guthrie Emily Kaitz, Mary Reynolds, Susan Gibson Festival July 14th through the 17th. If (formerly of the Groobees), Audrey Auld (I you've never been, now's the time to saw her last year and she's fabulous), take a road trip and head out I-40 to Tracie Merchant (from Dallas), and The hear some of the best musicians in the Burns Sisters. Go to country right here in small-town Okla­ www.woodyguthrie.com for a complete homa. It's about an hour and a half schedule. You can take food and drinks to drive east of Oklahoma City and the only the festival, but you can't have glass and cost is $5 for parking. (Continued on page 2 www.herlandsisters.org herland sister resources, 2312 nw 39th, oklahoma city, ok 73112 (405) 521-96 email: [email protected] bookstore hours: saturdays 1-5 pm Gay Marriage Debate July 8 (Continued from page 1) you can't haul the whole ice chest into the "State of the Union: A Deba pasture for the night concerts. I find mak­ on Gay Marriage" will be held ing a few trips to the car works just fine. at noon Thursday, July 8, in It's a great time, the music is wonderful, Constitution Hall, second floor and it's a unique experience and a festival of the Nigh University Center, University of that Oklahomans should be proud of. Central Oklahoma. in Edmond. The debate will feature Robert Knight, Di­ rector of the Culture and Family Institute an author of the 1996 Defense of Marriage Act Oklahoma Women's Football Team and Elizabeth Birch, who served as executiv Undefeated director of the Human Rights Campaign, America's largest GLBT (Gay, Lesbian, Bisex The OKC Lightning women's football team is ual, Transexual) civil rights organization. the undefeated A question and answer period and a recep 2004 Southwest Division tion will follow. The debate and reception ar Champions! They will also free and open to the public. be seeded # 1 for the play­ offs in the Southern Confer­ ence! After a first round Sixteen Women Met for Dinner bye on June 26th, the Light­ ning will play at home on istoric Guthrie was the site of the July 10th against the winner of the Kansas June Herland Supper Club. Sixteen City/Nashville game. Upon victory in that Hwomen met for dinner at Granny game, they will host another home game on Had One and about a dozen attended God­ July 17th against a team to be an- spell at the Pollard Theatre. Granny's fa­ nounced (probably either Pensacola, Chatta­ mous homemade buffet was wonderful and nooga or Asheville). Upon victory in that the talented cast of Godspell gave an excel­ game, it's off to Papa John Stadium in Louis­ lent performance of the 1971 off-Broadway ville, Kentucky for the 2004 NWFA Champion­ musical of the gospel according to Matthew. ship Game on July 31st against the Northern An added bonus was that the band for God­ Conference Champion. Home games are at spell included Miss Brown to You members Taft Stadium, NW 27th and May, and start at Louise Goldberg and Mary Reynolds and The 7:00 pm. Tickets are $8 for adults Sisters of Swing member Elyse Angelo. A and children under 11 are free. Contact Kim few of us even found time to browse throug Mitchell at (405) 524-1509 or visit the antique shops and Guthrie's first annual www.okclightning.com for more information. art and wine festival. Overall it was a very enjoyable evening.

OUT OK is proud to present The Summer Film Series. Thursdays July 8th and 29th at Chapman Hall, Uni­ Check Out Our Website of the versity of Tulsa (South Delaware Avenue and East Month 5th Street). $7:00 or free with valid OUT OK VIP Pass . GayMarriageWorld .com, COMING SOON! OUT OK III Pre-film festival the new gay & lesbian online marriage & wed screening Thursday, August 19, 2004. OUT OK III, ding community! featuring gay & lesbian wed The Oklahoma International Film Festival opens Oc­ ding stories and up-to-date news and informa tober 14-23, 2004. For more information, please tion about the topic of gay marriage. contact Philip Au at 918-682-4654, ext 2 or pau @out-ok.com • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • Herland Supper Club • • • HERLAND EVENTS CALENDAR • Meet at Herland at 5 pm if you want to carpool to • • Jaramillo's in Sherpherd Mall for dinner at 5:15 -~ . pm. The post dinner event is the OKC Lightning : Friday. July2: Michael Fracasso & Robert Williams : football game at Taft Stadium at 7 pm. • with Mary C. Reynolds and Terry Ware at The Blue • : Door 2805 N. McKinley, 9pm, $15 : Womyn of Color • Saturday, July10: Herland Hike at Martin Nature • Womyn of Color group meets the 2nd Sunday of • Park, 5000 W. Memorial, 10 am. Meet at Panera • each month. Please email [email protected] • Bread on Memorial at 9 am prior to the hike • or call (405) 842-3464 or (405) 947-7691 for more • Saturday, July10: Herland Supper Club • information. : Saturday. Ju ly10: Miss Brown to You at UCO Lab : Scrabble Night at Herland • 100 E 5th (Edmond) 8pm $7 • If you like to play games and would like some fun : Sunday. July11: Womyn of Color Meeting, call 842- : • 3464 for details • and fellowship, just show up at Herland at 6 pm • • Saturday .July 24. Each month, about 10 women • Monday, July12: OGLPC Monthly Meeting at the • gather in 2 or 3 groups for a couple of hours of : Center, 2135 NW 39th, 7 pm : mental challenge and snacks ($2.00 contribution). • Wednesday. July 14: Woody Guthrie Tribute, Crystal • • Theatre Okemah, $25 tix available at Startickets • Iris Schedule • Friday. July16: Mary Reynolds Brick Street Cafe • July 4 at Sister's (*women's bar) @ 6:00 indoor or • • outside depending on the weather. July 9 at • Okemah (Woody Guthrie Festival) • Scooters and Hooters (*straight bar) @9:00 lo­ : Saturday. July 17: Herland Video Night-feturing : cated NW 63 just west of I-235. July 23 at • "When the Sky Falls" (see details page 4) • TNT's (*anything goes) in Tulsa @9:00. August 13 : Sunday, July18: Herland Board Meeting, 4 pm, every- : at Charlie's Last Stand (*straight bar) @9:00 lo­ • one welcome • cated just East of Meridian just south of Reno. : Saturday. July24: Herland Scrabble Night-6 pm : • Saturday, July 24: Miss Brown to You at UCO Jazz Lab • Peggy Johnson Singing at Deli on the Labyrinth • • NW 32nd and Classen in Oklahoma City (there's a • 100 E 5th (Edmond) 8pm $7 • jeep on a pole out front, parking in back) Satur­ • Saturday, July24: Peggy Johnson at Deli on the Laby- • • • day, July 24th 9 pm until llpm. They have food • rinth, 9 pm till 11 pm • and coffee and tea and soft drinks and it's a nice : Wednesday, July31: Diversity House Fundraiser at : place to play and listen to music. • Herland. Miss Brown to You to benefit homeless • Herland is Seeking Yard Help! Ifyoudon'tmind : gay youth : mowing and have an hour one or two days a month, Herland • • •August • needs you. Mower provided. Call 521-9696 to volunteer. • : Saturday, August 7: Mary Reynolds & Friends. The • • Chouse (Boyd Street west of Campus Corner in • • Don't Forget to Support the Voice! : Norman) 7 pm $10 • • Tbutsday. August26· 2nd Annual Women's Equality • Your contribution is important! Just $12 a year will : Day Block Party, OU Women's Outreach Center­ • help us pay for the $300+ it costs every month to print • • 405-325-4929 • and mail the newsletter. • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • D Enclosed is a contribution of $ ____ The Voice is published monthly by Herland Sister Resources, Inc. D Please add me to the mailing list for The Voice. 2312 NW 39th, Oklahoma City, OK 73112. The Voice is offered as an open forum for community discourse. Articles reflect the o Please change my address (new address below). opinions of the author and not necessarily those of Herland Sister Resources. Unsolicited articles and letters to the editor are wel­ Name comed and must be signed by the writer with full name and ad­ dress. Upon request, letters or articles may be printed under a pseudonym or anonymously. Subscriptions to The Voice are free City ______State __ Zip ___ upon request although a donation is requested to meet publica­ tion and distribution costs. Saint Sybil Also be sure to avoid all of the unanswer­ able questions twelve-year-olds love so Sybil has recently - ok, December of 1995, much: If there is a God, who made God? maybe a long time to you, but a blink of an Heh heh heh. And the corollary, If the world eye to Sybil - received a series of questions began with the Big Bang, where did the stuff from the smartest woman she knows, and for the Big Bang come from? These are will answer some of them in this and future hopeless questions guaranteed to keep you issues. awake all night, possibly for the rest of your life. You may never sleep again. Don't ask Dear St. Sybil, them. Tend to the simple questions, the big Whenever I find time and energy to ones will take care of themselves. emerge from my self-involved world (not to A question I would like more Americans to demean it - it is hard to make a living and ask themselves: Why didn't I and 51 % of the deal with everything) and look around, I re­ country riot in the streets when the 2000 alize I have two questions for you: election was stolen as cleanly and sweetly as 1) What are the questions to ask? any third-world dictator could hope for? And 2) What are the answers? are we going to let it happen again in 2004? Yours, Now, as to finding the answers - my dear, Easier Under a Rock there are no answers; you know that. Only questions. Dear Easy, Love, Thanks for writing. Here are some ques­ Sybil tions for you: • Am I even half as loving, fun loving, self­ less and faithful as your everyday Golden Good Guys Win Sometimes Retriever, Poodle, or common mutt on the street? Criminal charges have been dismissed • Am I anywhere near as dignified, self­ against a small-town New York mayor for aware and karmicly centered as your run­ marrying gay couples, saying the state failed of-the-mill tabby cat? to show it has a legitimate interest in banning • Should I possibly be working more on my same-sex weddings. novel and less on my computer games New Paltz Town Court Justice Jonathan Katz skills? also ruled that prosecutors failed to prove the • Am I letting someone live rent-free in my law New Paltz Mayor Jason West was charged head and dictate my every mood and with violating was constitutional. West, 27, move - in other words, am I holding a big faced 19 misdemeanor counts of solemnizing old grudge against someone? Why don't marriages for couples without a license. I just sip some cyanide and hope that the West had faced the possibility of fines or up grudgee will writhe in agony? Or... why to a year in jail for presiding at the weddings don't I just get over it and let go? of more than two dozen same-sex couples on • Do I compost? Recycle? Bi-cycle? Do I Feb. 27. The weddings drew the Hudson Valle support the Southern Poverty Law Cen­ village of New Paltz into the growing national ter? Am I, in other words, even begin­ debate over gay marriage, and delighted and ning to live up to my Girl Scout oath to inspired millions. leave the world a better place than I West remains barred from marrying same­ found it? If not, how can I use my tal­ sex couples under an order issued earlier this ents to improve life for my neighbors in week by another judge. But he and his lawyer Oklahoma, in New York, in the world? E. Joshua Rosenkranz called Katz's ruling a A question not to ask: "Am I doing major victory for gay rights. enough?" It is impossible to do enough, so "If history is any guide, this is the beginning don't even try, or you will end up depressed of an unstoppable trend," Rosenkranz said. out of your gourd and stay in bed the rest of Ulster County District Attorney Donald Wil­ a miserable life, watching TV, eating moon liams said he disagreed with Katz's ruling and pies, and trying to do The Nation puzzle. would appeal. We'll see what happens.

WHEN THE SKY FALLS Hey all you poets out therel It falls on July 17th at 7:00 P.M. at Herland! Herland is seeking poetry for a special po­ ... in a film starring Joan Allen, a fictionalized etry issue of the Voice. We don't know true story about Journalist Veronica Guerin. when that will be-depends Set in present-day Dublin this is, oddly, not a on how fast the entries come story about the IRA. It is about one woman's in. Poetry may be submitted ground-breaking style of journalism focused on via snail mail or electronic drug lords and gang criminals and the changes mail (preferred but not re­ she both did and did not bring about. There is quired). Acceptable elec­ also a story about the making of this film tronic formats include, email plain text, MS which will be told at the conclusion of the WORD, and MS Publisher. If you want a by screening. line published with your poetry, specify this Join us to keep the sky from falling! As al­ with your submission and indicate how you ways there will be free popcorn; also sodas want your name printed. We will not as­ and bottled water available for a donation to sume you want your name printed and will Herland. not do it without your written permission.

Diversity House Fundraiser at Don't Gamble with Women's Rights ... Herland Come to Las Vegas for the National NOW Diversity House will be presenting Miss Conference! Brown To You in an outdoor concert on July 31st at Herland Sister Resources, 2313 NW The 2004 National NOW Conference will be held 39th Street. The concert and day's activities in Las Vegas, the weekend of July 16-18, 2004. Join NOW members across the country for three days of fun will benefit Diversity House, a non-profit or­ and friends, fast-paced workshops, great speakers and ganization that will house homeless gay, les­ entertainers, skill-building sessions, special interest cau bian, bisexual and transgendered young people cuses, and, of course, sharing stories about this spring March for Women's Lives. between the ages of 18 and 25. These peo­ Speakers and guests include former Democratic ple have been put out of their homes because presidential candidate Carol Moseley Braun; ground­ of their sexual orientation. It can be a difficult breaking scientist and diversity expert Dr. Donna J. Nelson; feisty author and radio host Laura Flanders thing to come out as a GLBT young person (her new book, The "W" Factor, is just out); and writer even with the support of your family. Diversity comedian Wendy Shanker, whose new book is The Fa House wants to be a safe haven for these kids. Girls Guide to Life. Cris Williamson will be performin in concert with SONiA (of disappear fear). The money raised will be used to help give A Young Feminist Caucus is being planned by NOW' these kids a chance to get back on their feet new Young Feminist Task Force, and there will be vote and become productive citizens. Funds will be outreach training. If you are ready to translate fem nist issues into action by participating in workshops used to purchase a house, provide transporta­ dealing with war and women, marriage equality, emer­ tion, food and clothes as needed. The after­ gency contraception, affordable housing, the global noon will begin at 4 pm with a water bucket economy, AIDS, drugs, poverty, workers, reproductive health, a new Violence Against Women Act and race, watermelon seed spitting contest, water more ... make plans now to spend July 16-18 with your balloon tossing, and water balloon run. The NOW sisters in the glittery city. Register online today charge for entering each event is 3.00 or all for the conference or call 202-628-8669, ext. 117. Then book a flight and call the legendary Riviera Hotel events for 10.00. At 6:30 enjoy hotdogs, tofu and casino at 1-800-634-6753 to reserve a room at a dogs, hamburgers and veggieburgers cooked fantastic conference rate of $79. Note, if the conferenc on a grill. The meal is provided for a sliding rate is no longer available, please mention that you are with NOW so NOW will get credit for your room toward scale of 5 to 15 dollars. Bring your pennies to the cost of our meeting space. And check www.now.org vote on your choice for Queen of the Sea, King conference regularly to see new speakers and the grea of the Sea, and Beach Bunny (costumes wel­ array of workshops that are still in formation. See you Las Vegas! come). The winners will be announced during the concert at the end of the evening. Herland Sister Resources NonProfit Org. 2312 NW 39th Street U.S. Postage Oklahoma City, OK 73112 PAID Oklahoma City, OK Permit No. 861 Return Service Requested

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