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People in need find help By Beth Hubbert, JFEC Case Manager

driver or non-driver ID so that Recently a client came to the Federation office they can obtain employment and for the first time as a referral from another agency.- get back into the work force. The The client is on a fixed income with two children cost of a driver or non-driver ID and struggling to pay all of her bills in a timely man can do so much good for these ner. Her main concern was her utility bill. She had individuals. It helps to give them received a shut off notice and was concerned about the confidence that they need to having her power turned off. JFEC was able to assist be successful in our society. the client with a partial payment along with the help Hebrew of another local agency to ensure that the bill would be paid in full, and her power would not be affected. High begins We were also able to assist this client with food and- personal products from our Food Pantry and offer fall term information on multiple food sources that are avail able to the public. While working with this client we also utilized the 2-1-1 United Way website to locate- The Jewish Federation’s other available resources for her. This client was Jewish Community High School able to leave JFEC knowing that her power would re (JCHS), aka Hebrew High, main on and her children would have plenty of food. on Monday, Sept. 16 at 6 PM begins its 2019-20 school year . Once again, Temple Emanu-El, 29 Dayton Rd. in Waterford, will host Hebrew High. Rebecca Reinhard starts her- AGES 18+ second year as JCHS director. “I’m- - thrilled to greet new and return ing students this Monday and in 860.444.7373 ext.1 • www.gardearts.org Clients come to us for all kinds of assistance. An troduce them to our new Young other one of the things we are able to assist with 325 STATE STREET • NEW LONDON, CT Emissaries for the year, Tal Amar is to help with ID’s and licenses. Clients who have the Leader. and Roi Refaeli,” Reinhard told been incarcerated, in rehabilitation for narcotics or alcohol abuse, or otherwise unemployed need new HEBREWThe Emissaries CONT. are ON integral PG 13 d838827 ID’s usually because theirs have expired. Often, they have been lost or stolen, and the clients need a new 2 THE JEWISH LEADER, SEPTEMBER 13, 2019

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everyUgh. retail ‘Holiday Creep’ has already no-brainer given human nature. B’nai Shalom, slithered its way into just about But why the proliferation of Putnam, CT establishment around. Halloween? Aren’t we scared and Frieda It seemed like right after the 4th of fat enough already? It’s like there Author Hanna July, Halloween merchandise started popping was some kind of clandestine Katz up out of nowhere like apparitions at a middle- meeting of the candy, toy, clothing Perlstein Marcus will school seance—was that really a display of and tchotchke trade associations. be speaking at B’nai chocolate skulls I just knocked over? Sheesh. I Somebody must have said ‘Hey, Shalom , 125 Church can’t be responsible for everything that what other holidays can we Street, Putnam, CT on suddenly jumps in front of my cart. hype up with useless stuff?’, then Sunday, Sept. 15 at Which reminds me, one of the many things I’d like to toss on the somebody else suggested ‘Hey, I Landfill-Of-Bad-Ideas are those cardboard displays deliberately placed don’t think Americans eat enough 2PM. to disrupt the nice wide, straight aisle the store started out with. Why sugar and fat’, then someone else Her first book, else would there be a box of pumpkin-spiced disinfectant wipes under added ‘Hey, let’s flood the stores Sidonia’s Thread was the winner of the 2018 Reader’s my sink for three years? I guess it proves stopping me every fifty feet with merchandising to imply it’s Favorite Gold Medal for memoir & the 2014 Best Kindle to sell me something works—which is exactly the problem. Retailers socially mandatory!’ Book Award for nonfiction. have figured out that turning grocery aisles into obstacle courses are It’s almost Labor Day and I’ve good for sales. For instance, last week getting through the pasta aisle already spotted Thanksgiving at Her newest book, Surviving Remnant is a Reader’s was like waiting in alternating construction traffic. By the time I got Target and CVS, so any minute Choice Award nominee & describes her upbringing in a to the end, a box of the new M&M brand extension was in my cart, now you-know-what will start of community of Holocaust survivors in Springfield, MA’s damn it. I’ve told my doctor about these involuntary hand movements floodingthat other the stores. This year North End. concerning food for years, but he just stares at me. Sorry, I diverge. Hanukkah falls in the middle >> FREE & OPEN TO THE COMMUNITY << Marketers long ago figured out the earlier we consumers are told holiday, so in a spirit to start shopping for a holiday means the more money we spend—a of equanimity I’ll keep my eyes Candle Lighting for Eastern CT area out for the first menorahs of the Young Emissaries talk about Friday, Sept. 13 • 6:42 pm season. I bet Zeyda they’ll be on sale before Sukkot. Israeli elections Friday, Sept. 20 • 6:30 pm As for all the tempting Friday, Sept. 27 • 6:18 pm Halloween candy blocking my way to the register, I can only Are you puzzled by recent political events in Israel? A second Friday, Oct. 4 • 6:06 pm wonder, if I am what I eat how election just a few months after the first failed to produce a workable comeFrieda I’m notKatz fun-sized is the too?Nome-de- coalition? The underpinnings of the current impasse are complex and plume of Patricia Sher; she lives one would need a crystal ball to discern what results the by-election and writes in Niantic. will yield. Crossroads, 70 Cross Road in WaterfordBut for those on Sunday, seeking Sept. new insights15 at 6:30 into p.m. what is driving Israeli voters SEND YOUR SUBSCRIPTION as they head to the polls, join us at WITHOUT IT, THERE CAN BE for a presentation by our National Award Winner of the Council of Jewish of Jewish Federations as the Outstanding NO JEWISH LEADER new Israeli Young Emissaries Roi Refaeli and Tal Amar as they explain Small Cities Jewish newspaper. Published every other Friday for the dissemination of Jewish news and views by the Jewish Federation of Eastern Connecticut, 28 Channing the appeal of specific candidates and parties to various factions of the Street, New London, CT 06320, 860-442-8062. Israeli electorate. Managing Editor...... Mimi Perl Layout Editor...... 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a genetic link to women of development, launch Eastern Connecticut Ashkenazi Jewish ancestry. and management of Hadassah’s signature Funds raised through this event new genetic testing event,unday “WearOctober Pink,” are earmarked for the Hadassah platforms in the 20will at take Langley’s place on in Medical Organization. laboratory. Waterford,S Our guest speaker will be During her at 9:30 am. Courtney Studwell, a licensed graduate training in beginning Genetic Counselor. She works at Genetic Counseling “Wear Brigham and Women’s Hospital in at Boston University Pink” will include a dairy brunch and the opportunity to bid on a Boston, MA where she splits her School of Medicine, wealth of pink-themed gift baskets. time between counseling patients where she earned October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and Hadassah remains in the Center for Fetal Medicine a master’s degree, at the forefront of research and treatment of this cancer, which has and helping to facilitate the Courtney completed October is Domestic Violence clinical rotations in prenatal, cancer and Awareness Month pediatric genetics at a variety of institutions in the city of Boston Sunday, Oct. 6 at Crystal Mall, and at the University Walk with Safe Futures at its annual 4K Safe Walk on assault, stalking, and trafficking in Southeastern of Washington 850 Hartford Turnpike, Connecticut. Medical Center in Waterford, CT. Join us in taking a stand against domestic Walk alone or register a team! Enjoy music, Seattle, WA. Courtney violence and raise funds for and awareness of our amazingRegistration raffle baskets, coffeeWalk and starts donuts during previously worked mission. Your participation in and sponsorship of this theRegister event! Now: Connecticut with a degree in as a research assistant at the event honors victims of domestic violence, sexual 8:00am - at 9:15am Diagnostic Genetic Sciences. Online or stop by either our Undiagnosed Diseases Network All are welcome to attend: at Harvard Medical School NewAttention London or Student Norwich Teams: offices for a registration Hadassah members, Associates, brochure. Individuals: $25 / Students: $15 where she developed a passion guests, and the general public. Registration fee for understanding how patients Hadassah members: watch the waived, sponsorships are appreciated and their families communicate mail for your invitation. For more complex genomic results to SpecialAn award thanks will be givento our to thesponsors largest team in information, call Faye Ringel at an effort to challenge our partners across CT. other extended family members. 860-608-3494. …Crystal She graduated Summa Cum Mark your calendar now for Mall, A Simon Mall, The Day, Cumulus Media Laude from the University of an occasion not to be missed. Radio, Filomena’s Restaurant, The Bulletin, Muenzner Payroll Solutions, Mallove’s Jewelers, Cumulus Radio, Horgan Law Offices, Wireless Zone of Groton & New London, Cactus Jack For more information on the walk and The sponsorships contact Melissa Zaitchik: (860) Temple Emanu-El 447-0366, ext. 220 - email mzaitchik@ safefuturesct.org or Jane Cable at ext. 242 - Sisterhood [email protected]. Wishes Everyone Checks can be mailed to: Safe Futures, Attn:4K A Happy & Healthy Safe Walk, 16 Jay Street, New London, CT 06320. Please note 4k Safe Walk in memo. Sign up...step New Year out...saveEastern lives!! Connecticut Chapter of

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262 Boston Post Road • Utopia Centre Waterford, CT • (860) 442-4391 Monday - Thursday 10:00-6:00 ❖ Friday 10:00-7:00 ❖ Saturday 10:00-4:00 4 THE JEWISH LEADER, SEPTEMBER 13, 2019 High Holiday Schedules Ahavath Achim Announces Schedule of Services Beth Jacob Synagogue Congregation Ahavath Achim Synagogue invites all 400 New London Tpke., Norwich members of the Jewish faith and their families to join us in High Holiday Service Schedule for 2020/5780 with Rabbi Julius Rabinowitz & celebrating the High Holiday Services for Rosh Hashanah Hazzan Rabbi Mark Novak officiating and Yom Kippur. The congregation is pleased to open its All are welcome – No ticket required doors during this very sacred time of observance so that all who want to participate in services and Yizkor during SELICHOT the holidays may have an opportunity to do so. “Welcome to the Days of Awe” -- Saturday September 21 Rabbi Ken Alter who has served the Jewish Community Beth Jacob Synagogue will host Congregation Beth El as we usher at Ahavath Achim Synagogue for 25 years will conduct in the New Year 5780. The evening will begin at 6:30 with a light services. This year we welcome back Cantor Lori Weber supper followed by our Selichot service and program. from New Rochelle, NY to assist Rabbi Alter with services. The year 5780 will be ushered in on Sunday evening, ROSH HASHANAH September 29, 2019 with a Rosh Hashanah evening EREV ROSH HASHANAH -- Sunday, September 29 service beginning at 7:00 pm. Ma’ariv at 6:30 pm On Monday and Tuesday, September 30 and October FIRST DAY ROSH HASHANAH --Monday, September 30 1, the Rosh Hashanah morning services will commence at Services begin at 9:00 am 8:30 a.m. Short Tashlich to follow conclusion of service around 1 pm On Tuesday evening, October 8 at 6:00 p.m., the Kol (rain date, Tuesday) Nidre service will start the observance of Yom Kippur, the SECOND DAY ROSH HASHANAH -- Tuesday, October 1 Day of Atonement. Services begin at 9:00 am At 8:30 a.m. Wednesday October 9, the Yom Kippur Torah Service at 11:30 am / (Services conclude about 12:30 pm) service will commence, followed by a Yizkor Memorial Service. The concluding Mincha service will start at 5:00 CEMETERY VISITATION p.m. the same day. There will be a break-the-fast meal Sunday, October 6 immediately following the service. Cemeteries #1, #2, First Hebrew at 9:30 am; Congregation Ahavath Achim, is a traditional Conser- Cemeteries #3 and #4, at 10:30 am vative synagogue over 100 years old located at 84 Leba- non Avenue in Colchester. YOM KIPPUR Please call our office for tickets and additional EREV YOM KIPPUR -- Tuesday, October 8 -- Kol Nidrei at 6:00 pm information at 860- 537-2809. YOM KIPPUR -- Wednesday, October 9 -- Services begin at 9:00 am (Services to conclude about 1:30 pm) / Afternoon Break Study Session at 4:00 pm / Mincha at 5:00 p.m. / Break-Fast 7:06 pm

Synagogue office: 860-886-2459 or [email protected]

B’nai Shalom High Holiday Services Schedule 125 Church Street, Putnam CT Congregation Beth El A Conservative Synagogue 70 Cross Road, Waterford, CT Rosh Hashanah Office 860-442-0418 Sun. Sept 29 Erev Rosh Hashanah 6:30 PM Mon. Sept. 30 Morning Service 9:30 AM Selichot – Sat., Sept. 21 at Beth Jacob in Norwich, 6:30 PM Tashlich 6 PM Refreshments, 7 PM Program Evening Service 6:30 PM Cemetery Visits – Sun., Sept 22 – 10 AM Ohave Shalom, Rt Tues. Oct. 1 Morning Service 9:30 AM 1 Waterford; 11 AM Beth El Cemetery, Groton Yom Kippur Erev Rosh Hashana – Sun., Sept. 29, 6 PM Holiday Inn, Oct. 8 Cello Selections by Kort Kaufman 6 PM followed by New London Kol Nidre 6:30 PM st 1 Day, Mon. Sept. 30, 8:45 AM, Holiday Inn, New Oct. 9 Morning service 9:30 AM London; 4:30 PM Tashlich Service, home of Harry Leiser & Yizkor 11:30 AM Lily Evening Service 5:30 PM nd 2 Day, Tues., Oct. 1, 8:45 AM, Holiday Inn, New London Break the Fast 7:15 PM Erev Yom Kippur – Kol Nidre, Tues., Oct. 8, 5:45 PM, The services & Break the Fast are free & open to the public, Holiday Inn, New London with no tickets needed. Yom Kippur, Wed., Oct. 9, 8:45 AM, Holiday Inn, New For additional information contact President Sue Stern at London; 3:30 PM Mincha/Neila; 860-315-5181. 7:10 PM Break-the-Fast THE JEWISH LEADER, SEPTEMBER 13, 2019 5

Temple Bnai Israel Congregation Ahavath Chesed 383 Jackson Ave., Willimantic 590 Montauk Ave., New London (860) 423-3743 Office: 860-442-3234

Sept. 21, Selichos – 10:30 PM Pre-Program; 12:00 AM Main Services are free and do not require tickets. Program Erev Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29, Erev Rosh Hashana – 6:16 PM Light Candles; Sunday, September 29 6:20 Mincha; 7:30 Selichos Vegetarian potluck dinner, 6:15 p.m. Sept. 30, Rosh Hashana, 1st Day – 8 AM Shacharis; Rosh Hashanah Evening Service, 7:30 p.m. 11 AM Shofar; 5:50 PM Mincha; Tashlich Monday, September 30 Oct. 1, Rosh Hashana, 2nd Day -- 8 AM Shacharis; First Day Rosh Hashanah 11 AM Shofar; 6:10 PM Mincha; Yom Tov end 7:11 Morning Service begins 9:30 a.m. Oct. 2, Fast of Gedalya – 5:19 AM – Fast begins; Services conclude ~12:40 p.m. 5:50 PM Mincha; 6:57 PM Fast Ends Tuesday, October 1 Oct. 8, Kol Nedrei – 6:05 PM Oct. 9, Yom Kippur – 9 AM Yom Kippur; 12 PM Yizkor; Second Day Rosh Hashanah Morning Service begins 9:30 a.m. 4:45 Mincha; 5:50 Neilah; 6:58 Yom Kippur Ends Services conclude ~12:40 p.m. Erev Yom Kippur Tuesday, October 8 Kol Nidrei Begins promptly at 5:55 p.m. Temple Emanu-El The service will begin with Bruch’s Kol Nidrei: 29 Dayton Rd., Waterford 860-443-3005 Annette Shapiro, piano; Tom Calabro, cello. Please remember to bring your Tallit if you wear one. Selichot Wednesday, October 9 Yom Kippur Temple Emanu-El’s Selichot Program is on September 21, 7:30 P.M: Morning Service begins 9:30 a.m. A movie and discussion; Communal prayers for divine forgiveness, said during the High Holiday Services conclude ~1:00 p.m. season. Drawing from biblical verses and rabbinic teachings, they are a soul-stirring introduction Yom Kippur Conclusion to the Days of Awe. Miriam’s Well Healing Service 5:30 p.m. - Changing of the Torah Mantles to High Holiday Mantles. Jonah ~5:55 p.m. Ne’ilah ~6:10 p.m. Cemetery Visit Rabbi Marc Ekstrand and Cantorial Soloist Sherry Barnes will be at the Hebrew Benevolent Society Final Shofar and Havdalah ~7:00 p.m. Cemetery #3 & #4 on Middle Rd. in Preston on Sunday, September 22, from 12:30 P.M to 1:30 P.M. Break-the-Fast, October 9 Please join us for our annual Vegetarian Potluck Break-the-Fast at Rosh Hashana the conclusion of services. If you can, please bring a dish to Sunday, September 29 Erev Rosh Hashanah Service 8:00 P.M. share (refer to our kashrut policy online for guidelines). Monday, September 30 Rosh Hashanah Morning Service 10:00 A.M. Gluten free items welcome. Rosh Hashanah Children’s service 2:00 P.M. Tashlich, where we symbolically cast our sins upon the water, 4:00 P.M. Bring your own breadcrumbs, shofar, and snacks to share. Meet at the Hole in the Wall, 4 Baptist Lane in Niantic.

Yom Kippur Tuesday, October 8 Erev Yom Kippur/Kol Nidre Service 8:00 P.M. Wednesday, October 9 Yom Kippur Morning Service 10:00 A.M. Children’s Service 2:00 P.M. / Afternoon Service 4:00 P.M. / Yizkor 5:00 P.M. / Neilah 6:00 P.M. Dairy Potluck Break-the-Fast about 6:30 PM Temple Emanu-El coordinates the Break-the-Fast following the concluding services. The Break-the- Fast will be prepared by Gregg Morea and other volunteers. We are taking this opportunity to ask you for a suggested donation of $18 per person toward the Break-the-Fast. Temple Emanu-El, PO Box 288, Waterford, CT 06385. Please designate “Break-the-Fast” in the memo section of the check.

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By I admit it can be done, although with every day that passes it perhaps a grandchild or two becomes more unlikely. How should Yankee fans react to the possibility if I chose to cash in my 401K. I’ll of a playoff season without a Red Sox showdown? How do you spell reminisce with my kids about Artie RELIEF? Boston has won their share and disposed of the Yankees how we used to go down to the enough that it would be kind to give New York a shot at the ultimate stadium in the glory years of the World Series prize. late ‘90s when the Yanks were- Dean Now, if we could only convince the Houston Astros, the Cleveland winning all the time. My children Indians, and the Oakland Athletics, that this is our year, I’d feel a little were young. I had plenty of en- Here we go again more confident going into October. ergy. Driving to the stadium on a Perhaps you’re worn out from watching the US Open. Perhaps you work night didn’t seem as formi are busy making your preparations for the High Holy Days. Perhaps dable as it does now. And I’ll tell The summer heat has broken!!! you’re tired of worrying about the Democratic Party Debates. If so, the grandkids how I used to hold As frolickers forgo the area’s- think of concentrating on that their fathers up on my shoulders beaches for other pastimes and other fall classic, for the baseball so they’d get a better view. And the murderous traffic on I-95 be- playoffs will soon be upon us and the grandkids will nod and make gins to wane, our thoughts turn you’ve got to be ready— in case believe they care. And maybe towards October. Whether pur Boston does get to play New York we’ll see a great game, and have posely designed to coincide with- when it really matters. So, let something to cheer about. And the Jewish High Holidays or not, the sparks fly and the chips fall maybe I’ll buy them a ball, or a the end of baseball’s regular sea where they may. I’m ready for the Yankee hat, and the grandkids son is upon us. If you’ve followed- playoffs. And if all the stars are will sit on their parent’s lap, or my column from time to time, you aligned correctly and the Yankees maybe on their shoulders. And I’ll may remember my great affec do get to play in the World Series, smile, and wonder how it all went tion for the New York Yankees and I’ll consider putting a second by so fast. And the torch will be their long-standing rivalry with mortgage on my house to get a passed to another generation. the Boston Red Sox. I admit I’ve been watching them closely this year, nosebleed seat in the Bronx. hoping, as in most years, for a momentous showdown between these In my fantasy I’ll be sitting with my wife and one or all of my 4 two storied clubs—perhaps the greatest rivalry in all of sports. - grown children— Hurrican Dorian Relief I admit these past fifteen years have belonged to the Red Sox, having won a historic four World Series, while the Yankees have lan Editor’s Note: Rav Jeremy Schwartz of Temple Emergency Relief Fund guished. Oh, we Yankee fans have had plenty of excuses since George Bnai Israel in Willimantic submitted the following established an to assist Steinbrenner went to baseball Valhalla. We last won in 2009, when request for your consideration. those affected by Hurricane Dorian. One hundred Alex Rodriguez, Mariano Rivera, and Derek Jeter were still in their percent of funds donated to Hurricane Dorian relief prime. Knocked out in the playoffs time and time again by teams that will be used to provide critically needed aid to those got hot at just the right moment, we Yankee fans have suffered the in the Bahamas and other affected areas. While slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, to be swept away like so Dear Friends, for those who would appreciate no one knows the ultimate path of the storm, the much infield clay under the cleats of Red Sox heroes. Their names flow a Jewish channel of donation to Hurricane relief, extent of the need is already clear. Our community trippingly off your tongue: Big Papi, Mitch Moreland, Xander Bogaerts, we forward this information from Rabbi Maurice Harris, Associate Director of Thriving Communities has decades of experience with hurricanes. We Mookie Betts. - understand the devastation and suffering that I figured this year’s pennant race might once again belong to the and Israel Affairs Specialist, Reconstructing Judaism follows a catastrophic storm like Hurricane Dorian. Sox. After all, the Red Sox won the World Series last year, and the Yan : “As we absorb the heartbreaking images from the Let us join together to help those affected — kees had a roster of relative unknowns. And early on this season the Bahamas in the immediate aftermath of Hurricane wherever they may live — to rebuild their lives. Yankees sustained a seemingly never ending revolving door of player Dorian’s impact there, many of us are moved to a direct hit in We cannot help but be grateful to have been spared injuries. All was in place for Boston’s return to the fall classic. do what we can to help with relief efforts. As we Miami-Dade County. Please give as What a difference a year makes!! have done with past hurricanes in the Caribbean generously as you can to assist with the immediate Despite what the odds makers in Vegas may have thought, it is the region, we offer information about one reliable way people can make donations to help. The Greater needs in the aftermath and long-term recovery for Red Sox who faltered. They find themselves fighting to attain a wild- those who were not as fortunate. We will continue card playoff berth with a spotty record, while the Yankees…well, the Miami Jewish Federation is one of the leading North to monitor the storm and assess its impact on other Yankees with new manager, Aaron Boone, seem to have done every American Jewish community service organizations To donate, visit https://jewishmiami. communities so we can provide assistance to those thing right and lead the Major Leagues in winning percentage. Who involved in the multi-faith effort currently underway org/gift/hurricanedorian/. affected.” would have thought that, despite serious injuries to stars Aaron Judge, to direct aid dollars where they can be put to good use in emergency relief efforts.” Giancarlo Stanton, and Gary Sanchez, they’d have remained at the top- of the standings almost from the get go. 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JFEC seniors from around southeastern Connecticut had fun being entertained by “The Howling Hound Dogs” three-piece band on Monday, September 9, during The JFEC Fall Fling Kickoff luncheon held at Temple Emanu-El. The singing players (Peter Magrane, Lou Manzi, & Tom McVerry) led the seniors on their guitars accompanied occasionally by a ukulele, a washboard, a harmonica, a “jug”, a mandolin, and “even the spoons”! Tirelessly, “The Dogs” led “sing-alongs” throughout the entire luncheon on the temple stage featuring upbeat songs like “Sweet Caroline”, “Tip Toe Thru The Tulips”, “When The Saints Go Marching In,” and “California Dreamin’”. A delicious dairy buffet with everyone’s favorite foods catered by Ken Casey was enjoyed by 55 seniors. For the twenty-first consecutive year, JFEC’s Martin & Millie Shapiro Endowment Fund was the sponsor for this annual fall kickoff event for seniors in the community. For more information on this and future JFEC events for seniors, please contact Beth Hubbert, JFEC Senior Coodinator at 860.444.6333. 8 THE JEWISH LEADER, SEPTEMBER 13, 2019 Women gather to talk shoes & philanthropy THE JEWISH LEADER, SEPTEMBER 13, 2019 9

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Committee Members l-r: Carin Savel, Bonnie Baran, guest of honor Jane Weitzman, Debbie Daren, Carol Curland, Lynne Grand, and Robyn Wolman 10 THE JEWISH LEADER, SEPTEMBER 13, 2019 Please remember you can search for homes at www. Realtor Corner CallTheHouseMan.com. Customer? How about getting an He was a Muslim and I was energy audit on me? a Jew. He followed one career Agency Advice/responses will be path, going to school to become Do you have a question about made by Geoff Hausmann, RE/ a doctor, and I had followed By Geoff Hausmann real estate? ON THE MAXBA onY the Bay, 860-443-4400, another. I went to school, became Are you an Eversource [email protected] a social worker, left to become When you talk to a real estate agent, the first a beanie baby broker and went Possibility back to be a social worker. He question you should have is who they are working FOR AByLL Tammy YOUR Stoner Pinkerton for. Do you realize that there is a difference between thought that was odd. Two weeks REAL ESTATE NEEDS later, he was bringing his beanie a customer and a client? 9/11 Revisited Let’s start from the beginning. When an agent meets with a seller babies into the office and asking and signs a listing agreement, this agent is now a listing agent once the me to tell him which the valuable listing agreement is signed. This means that any informationDirect: that 860the -443-4400 Cell: 860-625-5255 ones and which ones were not. seller shares, the listing agent is required to keep confidential.Email: Some [email protected] Eighteen years in Hebrew is the number for life and 18 years have I couldn’t pretend that I didn’t examples include how much they owe on the property, or even how passed since the attack on the world trade center. It was a defining see what was right in front of much they are willing to accept on the property. Website: www.CallTheHausmann.compoint in time when we changed. There were moments immediately me. I couldn’t not say anything after, when we came together as one people, and remembered that we any longer. What was happening When a listing agent takes a listing, real estate commission isBlog: discussed. An amount is determined on how much will be paid to the wereCTHouseMan.com all the same. We had heart, and spirit, and that heart and spirit, was wrong. His humanity was listing agent and their company and how much is to be paid to the would bind us, through our shared pain. It was short-lived. under attack for no reason. I let buyer’s agent and their company. Please note: the buyer’s agent is paid I might have been the only person in the country who didn’t Dr. A know that I recognized it. via the listing transaction, but by no means are they working for the watch any of it on tv, that day. I didn’t see a single replay of the planes I think too many stayed quiet Seller. crashing, or the buildings imploding. Instead I was working as a social pretending that this attack wasn’t You can talk to an agent, ask them to send you listings or even show worker in a mental health center, in Georgia, listening to traumatized really happening while knowing you properties, but this does not mean that this person is working people and was receiving the news from radio. that it was, in hopes that saying for you. You are technically a customer and not a client. You become The mental health center had an onslaught of patients. There were nothing would somehow make a client once you sign the buyer broker form. Why is this important? those regularly scheduled, and those glued to their television sets, the problem go away. A real estate agent cannot be paid unless they represent you. As your traumatized by the events, and rushing into the mental health center Eighteen years have passed agent, you are also protected as any information about you must be in crisis, seeking help. since that horrible day on 9/11. kept confidential, such as, how much you qualify for or how much you The staff wasn’t doing much better. One doctor had a son in New Every week or so, another attack are willing to pay for a property. York City, who she couldn’t reach, one therapist had a brother in Boston at a school, church, and/or As a buyer, you can sign a buyer broker form for a day, a month, or trapped at the airport, and I had a father, in New London panicked, synagogue happens. An arsenal even for just that property. What does this mean? You are promising about my sister trapped in New York City, that he couldn’t contact. of weapons entered a Las Vegas to compensate the real estate agent for assisting you in purchasing It was chaos at the mental health center, and both patient and staff Hotel, and the cameras weren’t the property. You as the buyer also allow this agent to collect the were in panic mode. The onslaught of people rushing in the doors, working to catch it, and hundreds compensation that is offered via the listing transaction so that you are and the telephone calls from people in crisis, that were nonstop, was ended up injured or dead. In not paying for it directly. overwhelming. Pittsburgh, Jews praying in a This agent is officially working for you. The problem arises when Then through some freak event, when I went home that day, I had synagogue end up killed just for some buyers want information about a property, or they want to see no television broadcasting to watch the replays. I could watch DVD’s, praying on a Saturday. As we all a property and their agent is not available. Unless this is the listing just fine, but the broadcasting was snow. know, the list goes on and on. agent, this agent will be asking you to sign a buyer broker form The day after the attacks, the staff organized together, held hands We are growing complacent, because they want to get paid. You as a buyer cannot work with more and said a prayer. It was something we spontaneously did, and sitting silently by, as if all of this then one agent at a time unless they are property specific. The listing together we stood; Christian, Muslim and Jew. Our prayer helped us is the new normal. Too many transaction will only compensate one agent so you would be required retrieve some sanity, during an insane time, and bonded us together, people are silent, and watching to pay the second agent. in our shared pain. our humanity slip away. What When you sign a listing contract or a buyer broker form, you are The psychiatrist, who worked at the mental health center, had a policies have been made that are basically stating that you are willing to work with that company that long name, that nobody could pronounce, so we just called him Dr. A. leading to this chaos today? We this agent works for. Things change slightly when you the buyer wants He was born and raised in New York, and wore a turban, every need to know. Our humanity is at to work with the listing agent as well or someone from the same real day, but that was about to change. He was well liked, very thorough, stake. estate company. A designated agent is when both the listing agent although a bit detached. He drove an hour to work each day, as the Just because you don’t see and the buyer’s agent work for the same company. In this case, the mental health center was in a rural community. the attacks on TV, doesn’t mean broker of the company must protect the fiducial confidentiality of As he drove to work in the weeks following the events of 9/11, they aren’t happening. Every day, both the buyer and seller by making sure the two agents do not share he was attacked. When he drove down the street, people threw there are people, ordinary folks, information on the deal with each other. The broker will sign off on the baseballs, and fruits and vegetables at his car. His headwear was the under attack for nothing; their two agents involved to be designated agents. trigger. People saw that he was wearing a turban, and assumed he was name, the color of their skin, The real estate agent is considered a dual agent when they work a member of Al Qaida. Suddenly because he wore a turban, he was their religion their gender. There with both the buyer and seller. The agent has to be really careful as viewed as a terrorist. are people who see the attacks, this person now has fiducially confidential duty to both the buyer Clients no longer wanted to see him as their doctor. In spite of his and say nothing, pretending and seller. competence they asked for a new doctor. They explained that they the problem will just go away. It What actually is fiducially confidential duty? Basically, an agent were afraid of him. He could no longer walk into the waiting room doesn’t. cannot share any information that helps the other side have the upper to get a patient, the staff had to do that and escort them to him. And It takes more than just our hand in negotiations. Some examples of information that cannot be this went on day after day. He would remove the turban and wear a brains to solve a humanitarian shared unless the agent has permission in writing: reason for moving, baseball cap, but he still had the problem with his name, and skin tone. problem. It takes our hearts and or how much the seller is willing to accept or how much the buyer is He also had the problem that for years he had worn a turban, and so spirits. It takes a willingness willing to pay. many knew him in this way. to stand up and say this has to I could see him becoming more and more isolated. Nobody knew change. This article literally touches on the beginning of agency. A real Remember to send estate agent will have to study the different aspects when they are what to say, and so people said nothing. L’ Chaim going for their license and must continue to have continuing education One day I walked to his door and asked to speak with him, unsure in your subscription... of what I wanted to say. And I just blurted out, “Dr. A, I hate what is on this subject matter. It helps support You as the buyer, you have to remember that once you sign a buyer happening to you, and I just want you to know that” ‘This is wrong.’” I broker form that you need to work through that person when you could feel the tears welling up, so I left the room. What was happening The Leader want any information on a property and not call a different agent as to him could have been me. It was a single sentence said from the you could be paying some other real estate agent a commission. heart, and from that day forward, our relationship changed. THE JEWISH LEADER, SEPTEMBER 13, 2019 11

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historian Deborah Lipstadt wrote “Antisemitism flourishes used to it. It is precisely because of our history that we One of the themes that has emerged as in a society that is intolerant of others, be they immigrants offer our comfort and assistance as well as our outrage a pressing issue for the Jewish Federation or racial and religious minorities. When expressions of and determination to change the course of the future. of Eastern Connecticut, our community as contempt for one group become normative, it is virtually Our answer is not only to stand and speak, but to a whole and society more broadly is the inevitable that similar hatred will be directed at other continue to advance community, because that’s the resurgence of antisemitic speech and horrific groups.” essential role of a Jewish Federation. When I am able, I acts of violence. Historic tropes and slurs, We again are living in an era when political leaders want to lift the voices of our community, Jews and non- knowingly or unknowingly, are repeated by question long-standing, simple facts in favor of ideas and Jews alike, helping to clarify and motivate each other politicians -- from the left and from the right. rhetoric that are politically expedient and opportunistic. to take responsibility for our collective future. Helping The rhetoric around U.S.-Israel relations According to the ADL, antisemitism rose 57% in 2017 others is the path to healing and comfort. And it is an end and Jewish voters has deepened. Many of us across the United States and Europe. Close to 2,000 cases unto itself. feel distressed and angry as we watch the of harassment, vandalism and physical assault were Next weekend we begin the Jewish month of Elul, the politicization and weaponization of Israel and recorded, the highest number of antisemitic incidents last month of the Jewish calendar that leads into the High the American Jewish community by politicians since 1994. In 2018, the most severe acts of Jewish hate Holidays. It marks the beginning of a 40-day period of in both countries. Students of Jewish history recorded were in the United States. “Blood and Soil”, a reflection and introspection in preparation for the holiest fear that this kind of conversation does not nationalist slogan expressing Nazi Germany’s ideal of a day of the year in Judaism, Yom Kippur. usually end well for us and that this is a lose- “racially” defined national body (“blood”) united with a Just this past weekend, the outside walls of Adath lose scenario for the Jewish community. settlement area (“soil”), was chanted in Charlottesville, Israel Synagogue in Newtown, CT were spray painted Knowledge of antisemitism and the Virginia as neo-Nazis took to the streets. Since with swastikas. This hateful desecration of yet another atrocities of genocide have been a part of my Charlottesville, 12 Jews were murdered in their houses of Jewish house of worship reminds us that another part of consciousness for as long as I can remember. worship and locally there were two attempted arsons at our normal High Holiday preparation includes providing I was raised by a community of Holocaust synagogues. armed security to ensure we can pray in peace and survivors. My father, uncles and brothers The “dox”-ing (public outing on social media) of Jewish without fear. were all given middle names that could serve communal professionals, schoolteachers, and journalists, Both as a Jew and an American, I feel this is the perfect as innocuous last names if necessary. I was and repeated antisemitic tweets by political leaders time for much-needed soul searching, because only when told repeatedly as a child that I should never from both major political parties have created a climate we are a part of a productive and inclusive community can make the mistake of feeling too comfortable where antisemitism and its public expression has become people fully realize the sacred potential in each individual. Editorials • Opinions Letters as a Jew. As an idealistic youth I rejected this normative. While we may not agree on every issue, we are resolute in notion;Antisemitism: these words nowHere sit and like Nowa weight on The Jewish people are no strangers to hatred and the our task of repairing the broken fragments of our world my heart. horror of violence directed at us because of who we are. and restoring the peace of our community. The Inreal story behind, famed But history tells‘The us that nothing is horrible once you get Spy,’ Sacha Baron Cohen’s new Netflix series By Josefin Dolsten, JTA

He married Nadia Majald, For “Borat,” his 2006 film, Sacha Baron Cohen went an immigrant from Iraq, and undercover as a made-up Kazakh journalist who travels settled in the coast city of Bat America and gets unwitting targets to share his boorish Yam. and sometimes bigoted opinions. In “Who Is America,” the In 1960, he was recruited Jewish actor creates a variety of characters who manage to join the Mossad for a to get prominent Americans to say shockingly offensive special mission in which he things. was to pretend to be a Syrian Sacha Baron Cohen as Eli Cohen in “The Spy.” (Screenshot from Netflix) In “The Spy,” he once again goes undercover, but in businessman returning to a very different way. The Jewish actor and filmmaker the country after having lived portrays the real-life Eli Cohen, a daring Israeli agent in Argentina. The goal was to was sober but would pretend to be intoxicated. He made who embedded himself in the upper echelons of Syrian gather intelligence from high-ranking Syrian politicians friends with many of the guests and ended up receiving society in the 1960s and provided crucial intelligence to and military officials. classified military briefings and coming along visit Syrian the Jewish state. Cohen wasn’t allowed tell anyone of the plans and told military sites. Released Friday, September 6, the espionage thriller is his wife that he was working abroad for Israel’s Defense Cohen would then send intelligence back to Israel already getting plenty of buzz. Here’s a look at the wild Ministry. using a hidden radio transmitter. and true story that it is based on. Ahead of the mission, Cohen had learn to speak Arabic He returned home to his family only a few times during According to My Jewish Learning, Eli Cohen was born in a Syrian accent rather than his native Egyptian. He took his mission. On his last visit, in 1964, he told intelligence in 1924 in a Jewish family in Alexandria, Egypt. Like on the name Kamel Amin Thaabet and went to live in officers he wanted to come in from the cold because he many Jews in Arab countries, his family left Egypt after Argentina for a period of time to build a name for himself was concerned a new Syrian intelligence commander did the establishment of the state of Israel, as they faced in the Syrian expat community. There he gained the not like him. But the intelligence officers convinced him to increased anti-Semitism. But Cohen stayed behind to trust of Amin al-Hafez, who would later become Syria’s go back one last time. finish his degree in electronics. He also participated in president. The following year, Syria was able to find out about Zionist activities in Egypt, for which he was at one point In February 1962, Cohen moved to Damascus. He was Cohen by tracing his intelligence transmissions to Israel. arrested, and took part in Israeli spy missions there. quickly able to infiltrate the highest levels of Syrian society. He was convicted in a trial without a defense and In 1956, was expelled from his native country along He would entertain high-ranking politicians and military sentenced to death. Israel desperately tried to commute with many other Jews. He then immigrated to Israel, officials at extravagant parties where there would be CONT. ON PG 15 his sentence, and despite requestsTHE SPY from world leaders and where he joined military intelligence the following year. many women and lots of booze. The drunk guests would He attempted to join the Mossad but was initially rejected. often end up blabbering about their work to Cohen, who THE JEWISH LEADER, SEPTEMBER 13, 2019 13

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These being the days leading up to Rosh Hashanah, you might think serious problem with Robert’s plea is that even if it a synagogue community, that the title of this column refers to the tendency toward repentance could be determined that an overwhelming majority and engaging with the and introspection that Jewish tradition urges at this time. However, of American Jews oppose Trump’s reelection, it is State of Israel. When I drew this title from a different sort of spirit that I found prevalent not the case that Israeli Jewish political interests discussing the latter, during my recent three-week trip to the States. Many of the American always correspond with American Jewish interests. Shrago said that soldiers Jews with whom I spoke take exception to President Trump and his Does it make sense for Israel to lead the world in in the Israel Defense policies, and an acquaintance whom I’ll call Robert said to me: “This condemning President Trump? As long as America Forces “are protecting is our time of need.” is a functioning democracy, I don’t believe that it is in the Jewish people.” While More than expressing frustration, Robert is looking toward Israeli Israel’s interests to antagonize the President of the Shrago was not wrong in Jews for help. He said to me: “All these years we’ve helped you in United States over issues that do not directly affect saying this (indeed, the IDF has gone on missions Israel and now it’s your turn to help us.” Robert went so far as to ask it, such as gun control. This is not to say that once to protect diaspora Jews, as happened at Entebbe me: “What would Israelis do if a gunman walked into a school or a there is a Democratic presidential candidate that in 1976), the primary task of the IDF is to protect community center and murdered dozens of people?” Using gun control Israel will not hedge its bets by cultivating warm the State of Israel--and it would be inconceivable as an example, what Robert was trying to get at was that America relations with this politician and by apprising them for a senior Israeli Jewish communal professional needs help. After all, despite the recent mass shootings, America has of our interests, but this is very different from trying to omit this in a public lecture. a President who still believes that no serious changes are necessary to influence internal American policy. I view Shrago’s omission as being on a kind of to existing gun laws (as Trump reiterated recently after meeting This was all concisely brought home to me on continuum with Robert’s position. The interests with the head of the NRA). Robert was implying that America clearly Saturday August 24 at Congregation Shaaray Tefilah of Jews the world over, whether in America or needs some deus ex machina, some outside force, to help itself--and in Newton, MA, where we were visiting Sarah’s elsewhere, are not identical with the interests of that Israeli Jews in particular owe help to America. Robert and other sister Charlotte and her family. The rabbi was on Israeli Jews. The kind of interventionist politics American Jews like him want Israeli Jews to call out Donald Trump vacation and the sermon that morning was given that some American Jews would like Israel to play for his misguided policies and help the Democrats win back the White by Barry Shrago, former head of the Boston Jewish are not warranted. The Jewish State remains a House in 2020. Federation. Shrago’s topic was a tried-and-true one: haven for all Jews and it will intervene in extreme There are several problems with the train of thought displayed by Jews need to be both active on universal matters that cases to rescue Jews who live abroad. Thank God, Robert. One is that Donald Trump was elected through the American affect all human beings and especially their fellow American Jews are not in need of this kind of help democratic process, and it’s not at all clear to tens of millions of citizens, but they also need to live a meaningful from Israel. AmericansFamily-Friendly that America needs to be saved from Donald Honey Trump. Another Festival particularistic Jewish to life involvingKick Shabbat, Off kashrut, a Sweet New Year!

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for i24News and the author of “Spies Against Armageddon,” a history of Israeli intelligence. “The Israelis were softer about this than the Soviets were because the Israelis generally allowed their long duration agents to come home on family visits,” Raviv told the Jewish Telegraphic Agency. Though these types of missions were a part of Soviet intelligence A JGU meetup learns about honeybees with Laber [second from right] work — as dramatized in the FX series “The Americans” — it different from strategies used by the Central Intelligence Agency, according to Raviv. By Tzipporah Prottas Sunday, September 22/Elul 22 “American spies go to foreign countries using false identities for 1:00Please to 5:00 join PM us on very short missions, but it’s just not in America’s nature to expect Have you heard all the buzz about the Pre-Rosh Hashanah Honey 5 Mannix, from employees to give up their normal life to that extent,” he said. “In Israel Festival to take place at the new Jewish Leadership Campus and Rd, East Greenbush,at NY the Jewish from the very beginning that’s what Israeli intelligence looked for.” One thing that helped Israel with such missions was that its citizens Retreat Center? If not, join the swarm! Leadership Campus: You won’t want to miss this fun and educational event for men, . came from many countries and spoke those languages fluently. women and children of all ages, surrounded by the natural beauty ForAdmission more information is $5.00 or to per “In the case of Eli Cohen, the mission was even more ambitious,” in Upstate New York. A project of Jewish Girls Unite and Chabad of person, and $36.00 per family. Raviv said. “To set him up as really rich man who flamboyantly and visibly would climb up the ladder of influence in Syria, it was a very toSouthern Rensselaer County, co-directed by Rabbi Avraham (who is a [email protected], | beekeeper) and Mrs. Nechama Laber, the exciting program is planned 518-727-9581.contact Mrs. Nechama Laber: bold mission, but the Israeli intelligence chiefs thought Eli Cohen was include: up to it.” --Hiking & boating Though it is impossible to say how many missions like Cohen’s --Meeting the honeybees May you and your loved ones took place, Raviv said that they were at their height in the 1960s. As --Honey crafts & cake be written and sealed for a happy, immigration and border technology became more sophisticated with --Demonstration: Learn how to extract honey healthy and SWEET new year each coming decade, it got harder and harder for spies to adopt new --Rabbi Laber’s honey for sale both materially and spiritually, identities without being detected. --Delicious BBQ food for sale and may we only have happy “Israel in the 1960s was just a master at taking advantage of these occasions to share! loose systems in so many countries,” he said. 16 THE JEWISH LEADER, SEPTEMBER 13, 2019

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