TEMPLE TIDINGS MEMBER Volume 30, Issue 1 July 2016 Sivan—Tammuz UNION for REFORM Monthly Newsletter of Congregation Beth Yam, Hilton Head Island, South Carolina JUDAISM WeWe WentWent AroundAround thethe worldworld with Twyla!

Thank you for a job well done!

July 2016

Sivan—Tammuz 5776 Sun Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat

1 2 6 PM Kabbalat Shabbat Service

Candle Lighting 8:34 PM Parashat Shelach

3 4 5 6 7 8 9 OFFICE CLOSED 4 PM Executive 4 PM Endowment 6 PM Kabbalat Shabbat Committee Trustees Service 4 PM Music Meeting

Candle Lighting 8:33 PM Parashat Korach

10 11 12 13 14 15 Tidings Deadline 16 10 AM Ritual Committee 4 PM Music Meeting 1:30 PM Outreach 6 PM Kabbalat Shabbat 1 PM Communications Committee Service Committee 3 PM Fundraising 2 PM Task Force Committee 4 PM Board Meeting Candle Lighting 8:31 PM Parashat Chukat

17 18 19 20 21 22 23 9:15 AM Religious School 4 PM Music Meeting 6 PM Kabbalat Shabbat Committee Service

Candle Lighting 8:27 PM Parashat Balak

24 25 26 27 28 29 30 4 PM Music Meeting 6 PM Kabbalat Shabbat

Service

Candle Lighting 8:22 PM Parashat Pinchas

31

SAVE THE DATE Date Time August Events Date Time August Events 1 10:00 AM Ritual Committee 12 6:00 PM Kabbalat Shabbat Service 4:00 PM Executive Committee 14 9:15 AM Religious School Committee 3 4:00 PM Endowment Trustees 18 1:00 PM Membership Committee 11:00 AM Sisterhood Executive Board 19 6:00 PM Kabbalat Shabbat Service 5 6:00 PM Kabbalat Shabbat Service 21 9:00 AM Opening Day Religious School 8 1:00 PM Communications Committee 25 5:00 PM Sisterhood Fashion Show at Pink Pineapple 2:00 PM Task Force 26 6:00 PM Kabbalat Shabbat Service 4:00 PM Board Meeting 29 7:00 PM HHD Choir Rehearsal 9 12:15 PM CBY Men’s Club Luncheon 31 7:00 PM HHD Choir Rehearsal 11 10:00 AM Sisterhood Board 1:30 PM Outreach Committee 3:00 PM Fundraising Committee

2 Temple Tidings

by preaching, teaching and counseling you

Rabbi’s Message throughout the last seven years. The words of the sages ring true at this hour when one I would like to acknowledge a historic sage said, MiKol melamdai hiskalti which moment in the life of the Congregation. It means “from all of my students I have is humbling and gratifying and fills me learned.” Yes, as I have tried to teach, I with such joy and pride. This is the first have also been blessed by all the presidents time CBY has elected its rabbi to a long and volunteer leaders who have taken me term commitment and ultimately under their wing and taught me many good to become, with God’s grace, this lessons about how best to serve you, the congregation’s first emeritus rabbi. I do congregants. I look forward to being a good not take this moment lightly and recognize student as I work hard to be the teacher and the seriousness of the occasion and for that spiritual leader you need and want me to be reason I would like to tie our decision to for the congregation. I promise that I will the forthcoming holiday of Shavuot. Israel continue to give you the best of my effort stood at Sinai to enter into a much more and look forward to sharing in your lives important covenant where our ancestors and caring for you in your time of need, and learning with accepted the Torah and committed themselves to the you and from you as well. While there is a business Torah and all its values and teachings for themselves component of our relationship, I maintain that the essence and their progeny. Your decision means we, too, are and the core of what makes a congregation effective and joining together to enter into a covenant between a rabbi successful as well as what makes the partnership between and congregation. rabbi and congregation long lasting is that we are all I would like to first express my thanks to our outgoing engaged in a brit, a covenant to see to it that we live out President Twyla Sable for her leadership on this recent the mitzvah to be a Jew. journey. Twyla, one could say that this should be recorded In conclusion, I would like to end with a prayer. “O God in the history book of the congregation and that it belongs of Israel, teach us to be worthy of the name of Jew. May to your list of accomplishments and your legacy to this we do nothing to disgrace it. May our every act bring congregation during your years of leadership. Secondly, I honor to our faith and glory to Your name. May we would like to thank the Contract Committee for its work understand our responsibility as Jews, to continue the task on this project, especially for all the hours and discussions begun by earlier generations of our people who achieved and deliberations that you invested in order to bring the greatness by their faith in the mission to which You had results of this process to fruition. Thirdly, I would like to called them; to serve in Your name, to bring light and express my gratitude to the Board of Directors without blessing to all the families of this congregation, to the whose support I would not be here. Your decision to community and to all the families of the earth.” support this process, approve it and then to extend to me Thank you very much, on behalf of Linda and myself, this opportunity to serve Congregation Beth Yam is a for this moment in our lives and in the life of this great honor for me personally. congregation. Finally, it is with the deepest appreciation that I offer my thanks to the entire congregation who supported this Shalom, lifecycle event to perpetuate the continued work and leadership that I strive every day to provide to this Rabbi Brad L. Bloom MSW DD congregation. I have made many meaningful relationships

families are provided emergency Social Action Committee—Judie Aronson housing. SAC provides family friendly breakfasts and & Janet Weingarten, Co-chairs dinners. Our Men’s Club sets up This month, Family Promise, an interdenominational beds at the church. Volunteers are effort, is in the spotlight. always needed to provide a meal Our Congregation, through the leadership of the Social and spend an evening with client Action Committee, volunteers for Family Promise. Local families, sharing the meal, talking, congregations help homeless and low income families and reading a story or playing achieve sustainable independence. Homeless families are games with the children. The latest families in June helped to regain their housing, independence, and dignity. included two single moms (one pregnant) and their They are provided temporary housing in churches, meals young children. and services such as teaching financial literacy, preparing If you would like to help, contact Tena, Judie, or Janet. for job searches and obtaining affordable housing. Tena Graber, a member of SAC, coordinates the Family Promise effort. We partner with All Saints Church where

3 Temple Tidings

membership, greeting and welcoming people to our Message From The President – beautiful “House by the Sea”. As we enjoy the heat of summer (or not) and Pennie Meiselman preparations for the High Holy Days begin, I hope everyone will become involved in both When Alan and I moved to Hilton our spiritual and cultural life at CBY. Twyla Head Island exactly eight years ago, I Sable has left a legacy to truly live up to. She knew we were going to become put her heart and soul into being President members of Congregation Beth Yam. and I intend to make her proud of me. Little did I imagine I would be writing To conclude, I want everyone to know I this column as President of CBY. will work enthusiastically for CBY and hope We moved into our house in Hilton Head that I can continue to count on the support of Plantation on a Tuesday, Thursday we all of our members. became members of the temple and Friday Each month I will end my column with a few night we attended services. We were warmly Fun Facts. “greeted” by Karen Blickstein. At the oneg following Did you know that July is: National Blueberry Month, services we were invited to join a group going out for National Ice Cream Month, National Hot Dog Month and dinner (Chinese food of course). birthdays of my two granddaughters in Israel, Bracha and I joined the Membership Committee which was co- Maayan? chaired by Joel Lerner and Barbara Schuman and I was “hooked”. I felt and still do feel very passionately about Shalom, Pennie

welcome your suggestions Men’s Club—Alan Krumholz, President for short programs for future meetings, and larger Our next meeting will be on Tuesday August 9, at 12:15 scale events. at CBY. There will be an annual meeting and brunch on The Golf Committee is in September 18 from 10-12 AM. There will also be a board full swing working on our meeting that day from 9-10 AM. 2016 tourney to be held at Moss May and June were busy times for the Men’s Club: Creek on September 29. Please contact Steve Burstein with Kids and Klutzes, sponsoring and cooking at the annual suggestions or if you wish to be involved in helping make religious school picnic, ushering for a number of events this event as successful as it has been. and helping Family Promise. Our June board meeting laid If you are a dues paying member and not receiving our out plans for the following six months including our annual regular emails it is because your system is blocking the golf tournament at Moss Creek, this year on September 29. communication using Constant Contact. Please let me Please contact Stuart Blickstein, Nelson Adelman or know and we will send you a direct Email to help you fix Mike Werner of our events committee, with any ideas for the problem going forward. new events, or revivals of old meeting programs. We

these programs will be spearheaded by other committees in Adult Education Committee— addition to Adult Education. Although these programs are still in the earliest planning Barbara Slagowitz, Chair stages, you will be receiving more information over the summer. The Immigration Project: Exploring Our Roots In the meantime, mark your calendar now for Saturday evening, September 10, when we kick off this amazing What do we know of our own Jewish immigrant project with an introductory program for all congregants. past? CBY’s Adult Education Committee is pleased to Details will announce an exciting new year-long project that will begin follow in the unfolding this fall. The project will include a wide variety weeks ahead. of programs designed to raise congregants’ awareness and understanding of the history of Jewish immigration to the United States. In addition to formal classes on our history, we plan to offer hands-on workshops on how to research your own family history; music programs; cooking classes; lectures; films; and much more. We anticipate that many of

4 Temple Tidings

Sisterhood President’s–Message Sisterhood Committee Volunteering

Sue Gostanian, President Contact Kathy Burnce if you are interested in volunteering in any of the following committees. Twyla’s “Around the World celebration was a tribute to her leadership. She stressed a sense of Bereavement family. Sisterhood past presidents Help coordinate and serve those in mourning advocated the need for community involvement and support, the need Book Club to access resources to feed and help Help plan and moderate book reviews provide financial assistance to the less fortunate, programs to encourage the culture of the Lowcountry and a deep sense of Community Seder Open to the entire Jewish community commitment to CBY. We live in an area that provides the best that native residents and “newcomers” have to offer....a blending of Judaica Shop cultures, religions and ages. Sisterhood is committed to Work in the shop continue the sources of education to foster Women’s health, both physical and emotional, as well as accessing resources Women’s Study Group to benefit the community....CBY and the Hilton Head Discussions of various issues area. We hope to continue the programs initiated by Sisterhood, as well as considering new events that promote Membership our goals. I, personally am honored to work alongside the Help with Membership luncheon, mailings, and CBY and community organizations to promote events that plan events support our ideals.

Oneg Shabbat Yours in Sisterhood, Coordinate Friday evening refreshments and special events

Sue Special Projects Community outreach and fundraising Women’s Health Initiatives Onegs Holiday Gift Wrapping Thank you to all the following who contributed to the Onegs for May: The Membership Committee, The CBY Women’s Seder Board, The CBY Sisterhood, Karen Blickstein and Alan Coordinate food, music, and service Krumholz. Food Pantry Help distribute food for the needy

Funds When you are thinking of how to honor or memorialize a The Lilith Salons have beloved member of your family or a very dear friend, please been restructured and the consider contributions to the sisterhood funds: Oneg/ program is now known Kitchen Fund, Building Expansion Fund, Youth and as The Women’s Study Community Enrichment Fund, Youth Camp Scholarship October Group. In this regard, Fund, Fund of Greatest Need, Book Club and Women’s 31 on October 31, Sue Study Group, Food Pantry Fund and Bereavement Fund. Gostanian has graciously Just put a check in the sisterhood treasurer’s folder in the offered her home and Myra office along with a donation form that is available outside Goldschmidt will be facilitating the office on the wall opposite the gift shop. Thank you for “Women's Speech: Discriminating Differences.” your usual generosity to our programs and goals. The talk will discuss: 1) ways in which speakers demonstrate different cultural attitudes towards men and women, 2) differences in the actual speech of men and women, and 3) speech differences between the two presidential candidates.

5 Temple Tidings

 Fund Raising: There Board Abstract—Sharon Bass, will be a Texas Hold’em tournament Recording Secretary held on December 10,  Pennie welcomed all returning and new board members 2016. Alan Meiselman is developing a  May minutes were approved fundraising plan which  Rabbi presented his report and noted that he will be will include founding members of CBY. A gala is attending Camp Coleman June 19-26. He is working being planned for March 4, 2017 to be held at the Omni with our new student cantor, Daniel Geigerman, in Resort/Hotel in Palmetto Dunes. Dine Around preparation for the high holidays. program has been successful and will continue. 92Y  Treasurer’s Report: Ted thanked Bob Sable for a job will also start up again in the fall. well done managing the Temple finances. The  Life Cycle Policy: When Rabbi is requested by a endowment fund will make a one time $10,000.00 congregant to officiate at a life cycle event that is to contribution to Congregation Beth Yam for the 2016/17 held away from the Low Country, the congregant will fiscal year. The 2015/16 year is closing with a deficit. be required to pay for the Rabbi’s expenses, such as: The Friends Campaign closed out with a successful year. airfare, accommodations, and meals. Any questions  Religious School: New chairs thanked Melanie Wynne regarding this policy may be directed to the for her conscientious leadership. The committee has congregation president. four new members. Changes are going to be made to  There has been a problem with caterers working at the curriculum with the end goal to make the children CBY for private events and not knowing or following more proficient in their Hebrew skills. our Kashrut policy. This is going to be more  Pennie read a letter from a congregant thanking Rabbi thoroughly covered with caterers and parties involved and Robin Krumholz for making his family feel so when an event is planned. It is hoped this will correct welcome at CBY. the problem.  Pennie is exploring possible rental opportunities with  Membership: The board approved Richard and Judy another church to help make up revenue shortfall Movshin for membership. created by the relocation of the Church Without Walls.

them and drive them out of the region. This prophet-for- Ritual Committee—David Kurjan, Chair hire has an amazing adventure which includes listening to The Torah portions this July contain some his talking donkey and encountering angels. In the end fascinating stories. First up is Parashat Bil’am blesses the Israelites with the familiar words Sh’lach L’cha. Moses sends spies to the “Mah Tovu” and prophesies that Israel’s enemies will Land of Israel to report on its inhabitants be defeated.

and the country. Joshua and Caleb return New Meron Torah unveiled with a mixed message – it is a land of milk and honey but too well-fortified to be conquered. The people are frightened. So, to punish them, God announces that all those who left Egypt would wander another 40 years and not enter the Land of Israel except for Joshua and Caleb. Then comes Parashat Korach. This Torah portion tells the story of Korach and his followers, Dathan and Abiram, who lead a rebellion against Moses and Aaron. God punishes the rebels by burying them and their families alive. This is followed by Parashat Chukat. Chukat begins by describing one of the most mysterious rituals in the Torah– the rite of the Red Heifer and special waters of purification in case of contact with a corpse. Chukat recounts the Please note: deaths of both Aaron and Miriam. After Miriam dies, the the High Holy Days will be people are thirsty and complain to Moses. Instead of upon us before we know it. If you have not purchased your set of speaking to a rock to draw water per God’s instructions, he prayer books this would be a good time to hits it. As a result, God tells Moses and Aaron they will not enter the Land of Israel. do so. You can dedicate them in memory The next week we read Parashat Balak. This Torah or in honor of someone special and a book portion tells of a prophet named Bil’am hired by Balak, plate will be inserted into your copy. King of Moab, to curse the Israelites so that he can defeat Please contact David Kurjan for further information.

6 Temple Tidings

The 92Y Live program will continue

Fundraising Committee— this fall. The schedule will be available in late August. Due to the Alan Meiselman, Chair presidential election we expect Our new fiscal year starts with a terrific range of programs. some very interesting discussions. The Dine Around program will offer over a dozen There will be no increase in cost, or possibilities, including a brunch at Buffaloes, dinners at limitation in seating. The Sage Room, Cranes Steak House, Santa Fe Café, Our Texas Holdem Tournament Hilton Head Prime, The Cottage, Catch 22, Pazzo, Sea this past spring was quite successful Grass Grill, Pour Richard, Hudsons, Wise Guys, Marleys and very enjoyable. We will have as well as a couple of additional selections. These great another similar evening on Saturday, December 10th. Get dining and social events will be limited to the first 40 your chips ready to have a great, fun filled night. reservations. Dates for each of these dining experiences The highlight of the year will be our bi-annual Gala- will be published in the August Tidings so that you can Auction evening. This will be held at the Omni Resort make your plans & secure your reservations. Diane Miller Hotel on Saturday, March 4th. This evening will celebrate is once again chairing this committee and has already done the 35th anniversary of our founding. We promise every a great job in securing these locations. Bon appetit. attendee a very special & memorable evening.

Committee. She will be passing Religious School— her gavel on to our new co-chairs, Marida Bruggeman, and Jeremy Robin Krumholz, Principal Press. Our Religious School year has come to a close, and your The faculty is excited that this principal has survived her first year at the helm. The Fall we will modify the Hebrew faculty and I are grateful to the CBY Board of Directors, curriculum and the way we teach Sisterhood, Men’s Club, Social Action Committee, Care Hebrew, to support student’s Committee, Ritual Committee, and all other congregants success among others with similar capability, rather than that helped this year be so successful. With all this support the same age. Religious Studies will remain grouped by we were able to introduce several new programs and secular grade level, but students will re-group for their welcomed five new families bringing enrollment to over 50 Hebrew lesson based on their individual ability level. students for the 1st time in CBY history. Our best success First day of class for next year is August 21, was our Mitzvah Point Program, motivating our students to 2016. Online Registration for the 2016-17 school year is do good deeds in class, attend more services, and interact now open. Find the link on the CBY Website Youth more with Rabbi Bloom. We are proud to announce that Education pages. Enrollment for the 2016-17 academic our highest Mitzvah Point earner was Susana Mogil with year and full tuition payment is due by August 4, unless 465 points! Our greatest Service attendee was Jessica prior arrangements have been made with the CBY Walsh, with 11 Shabbat Services in addition to 2 choir Treasurer, Ted David. performances. We are also proud that 10 of our students The faculty and I are wishing everyone an awesome are attending URJ Summer Camps this year. summer! We are looking forward to another year of fun We are grateful to Melanie Wynne for two wonderful and learning, beginning on Aug 21 with our opening day years of service as the Chair of the Religious School festivities.

Cemetery Committee— Ed Brager, Chair

Current out-of-town CBY members would like to sell their two cemetery plots in Beth Yam Gardens, including prepaid opening and closing expenses, at a reduced rate from current cemetery pricing. They can be reached at (678) 461-1393. Please remember that plots can only be purchased by CBY members in good standing. Please let the Cemetery Committee know of any transactions so our records can be updated.

7 Temple Tidings

Membership Committee—Candy Solomon & Michael Weingarten, Co-Chairs Important message to all CBY members…..Our annual Pub Fest for prospective members will be held on September 13. If you meet new people over the summer, let us know. We will invite them to the Pub Fest and you will be invited to join them! Such a deal!!

Alexandra Joseph and David Martin live in Hilton Head—both Current count of membership: joined as resident singles (engaged), Leslie and Neil Green live 148 resident families in Wexford and joined as a resident family, and Lisa George joined as a resident single and lives in HH Plantation. Judy and Richard 89 resident singles Movshin live in Hilton Head Plantation and are resident family members. 60 affiliates 2 associates Please welcome them to our Beth Yam Family. 6 honoraries. We are looking forward to another great year! Grand total 305

CONGREGATION BETH YAM’S 10TH ANNUAL MEN’S CLUB CHARITY GOLF TOURNAMENT Monday, September 26, 2016 at Moss Creek South Course - 9:00 AM shotgun start Cost: $125.00 per person including a barbeque lunch, Proceeds to benefit Deep Well, Volunteers in Medicine, and other local charities Men’s and Ladies flights–join us for fun and prizes, prizes, prizes!!! Please fill out the form below and send it with a check (payable to Congregation Beth Yam) for $125.00 per golfer to: Steve Burstein 40 Savannah Trail, Hilton Head, SC 29926 ------10th Annual Golf Tournament Reservation Form Name:______Handicap or average score:______Name:______Handicap or average score:______Name:______Handicap or average score:______Name:______Handicap or average score:______

Take a chance and give it a try. We will do this together. Adult B’nai Mitzvot Program “The first step of this program began with a beginning Hebrew reading class sponsored by the Adult Education Rabbi Bloom was excited to launch an adult B’nai Committee. It is expected that participants of the class Mitzvot program at an orientation on Wednesday, June 29. planning to prepare for B’nai Mitzvot will continue to There were approximately a dozen congregants that have expand their Hebrew reading skills with a tutor. If there is shown an interest in the program. According to Rabbi enough interest, we may be able to repeat the class. The Bloom: “Don’t get nervous. You can do this! We will components and goals of the Adult B’nai Mitzvot Program make sure that the program we design will be doable for are to acquire Hebrew reading skills, explore the everyone who participates. It is not about connection between life and liturgy and to increase activity how much Hebrew one has to memorize, and commitment to enhance the spiritual life of the rather, our mission is to provide a congregation. There will be 10 two hour group classes led learning experience where an adult can by Rabbi Bloom. They will take place over a 10-month achieve becoming a B’nai Mitzvah at period. There will also be private sessions with Rabbi their level of learning. This will be a Bloom for seven weeks prior to the B’nai Mitzvot date. group class where learning and sharing This will be a flexible program designed to be meaningful and caring about each other and our to each of the participants. They may have an individual spiritualism will be critical goals. I will date or do it as a group. The only cost to the participants be teaching the class on Jewish values will be for materials and tutoring as needed. If you are today. Everyone will receive a Hebrew interested in participating in this program or just want more tutor and we will style a group or information, but were not able to attend the orientation, individual experience depending on the please call or email Randy Kurjan at 843-342-5568 with desire and intention of each student. your questions.

8 Sharing Our Lives ~ July Dates

Library Committee — Felicia Pascal & Linda Stern, Co-chairs This past month we have undertaken an audit of our collection. As you know we provide a list of our holdings on the CBY website. Thanks go to Michael Shapiro whose efforts have allowed us to maintain and update the website information. http://www.bethyam.org/ Book Report images/stories/pdfs/LibraryInventory080814.pdf Honeydew by Edith Pearlman— If you borrow a book or compact disc, please remember to submitted by Felicia Pascal enter the information in the 3 ring binder located at the front Honeydew is a dazzling collection desk space in the JRC. We don’t limit the length of time to of short stories. The author is a borrow our material but like to be sure we know what is out consummate storyteller who pleases on loan. us again and again by delving into Central to our celebration of Shavuot, we enjoyed a lecture her character’s lives. Ms. Pearlman by Maury Fradkin and our Rabbi on the Kabbalah. Some of is a 78 year old New Englander, a our holdings on the subject are featured on the electronic master of the short story format. She is both subtle and display in the central hallway. witty. She draws on life on the small scale, and gives us Our thanks to Sisterhood for the donation of Debbie much to think about. Graber’s book, “Kevin Kramer Starts on Monday.”

Fundraising for CBY is easy as 1,2,3!

1. Go to www.bethyam.org

2. Click on the Amazon logo 3. Shop!

…& when you checkout, 4% of every purchase will be directed to Congregation Beth Yam!

I WOULD LIKE TO MAKE THE FOLLOWING DONATION: Please do NOT publish in the Tidings From: Please publish in the Tidings Address: General - Unrestricted Care Committee Rabbi’s Discretionary In Honor of: Adult Education Flower Rabbi’s Enrichment In memory of: Backpack Buddies Friends of CBY Rabbi’s Library Send Card To: Bellet Youth Israel Events Religious School Address: Building Expansion Landscape Ritual Cantor Music Tzedakah/Social Action SEND TO: Congregation Beth Yam, 4501 Meeting Street, Hilton Head Island, SC 29926 Caplan Dedicated Prayer Book Youth Group

10 Temple Tidings

11 Advertisements

12 Congregation Beth Yam 4501 Meeting Street Hilton Head Island South Carolina 29926

Temple Tidings Vol. 30 Issue No. 1 Published monthly by Congregation Beth Yam 4501 Meeting Street Hilton Head Island, SC 29926 ADDRESS SERVICE REQUESTED (843) 689-2178 fax (843) 681-5531 Email: [email protected] www.bethyam.org

Editorial Staff Elaine Lust Michele Johnson

Deadline for submitting materials is the 15th of the month preceding publication date. The Editor reserves the right to select and edit materials which are submitted.

Please submit articles to Elaine Lust by email at [email protected] or computer disk by the 15th of each month.

2016/2017 Board of Directors

OFFICERS

Pennie Meiselman President Elaine Lust 1st Vice-President Jack Miller 2nd Vice-President Irwin “Ted” David Treasurer Sharon Bass Recording Secretary Marcia Frezza Corresponding Secretary Twyla Sable Immediate Past President

DIRECTORS Ed Brager Jeremy Press Nadyne Ulicny David Kurjan Michael Shapiro Janet Weingarten Alan Meiselman Candy Solomon Melanie Wynne

Rabbi Brad L. Bloom Sisterhood President, Sue Gostanian Men’s Club President, Alan Krumholz

13