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CONTINUED FROM P. 1 toms Enforcement), the border police for the impeachment of our president three years. We have been asking for founded in 2003. Such notables as our and for physical confrontation of polit- an adjustment to the no parking hours Crowley was the boss, the kingpin own good mayor, Bill de Blasio, and Il- ical opponents. Imagine had a Repub- across from our Young Israel, which of the local Democratic machine. Basi- linois Senator Dick Durbin have now lican mouthed anything close to what affects our daily minyan. Our shul cally, what he said went. It was Crow- echoed her words. she has mouthed. The glorious result is and others were served a crippling tax ley, for example, who decided that the Of particular concern is that this Crowley out and Cortez in. The fringe burden by the mayor’s administration. local candidate for Congressperson newcomer to Democratic politics, a fol- has spoken. Huge tractor-trailer trucks park illegal- should be Grace Meng. To date, we lower of Bernie Sanders, has referred People like Elizabeth Warren, ly day and night on Main Street – an need to be thankful for that. Grace to the IDF defending Jews from the on- Kirsten Gillibrand, and Corey Booker eyesore and vision blocker for drivers has been wonderful on the issues that slaught perpetrated by Hamas on the have embraced radical left positions to – yet no tickets are ever issued. serve the Jewish community. We will Gaza border as a massacre by the Israe- forward their national aspirations. Yes, the representatives in each case never forget her courage in defying the tried sincerely by writing letters, etc. Obama administration’s Iran Nuclear And we do appreciate their friendship. Deal. Crowley had sights on replacing The Democratic Party has cannibalized itself. It has allowed the But we need tachlis, action, results. Nancy Pelosi as Minority Leader of lunatics to take over the asylum Otherwise, why do we need represent- the Democratic Party in the House of atives when we can write the same let- Representatives. He was coasting along ters? and had no reason to believe his plans lis. “I hope others as well will have the But the earthquake happened right We need to keep a sharp eye on our would be thwarted. In fact, he was so courage to call it what it was, a mas- in our neighborhood. We must keep representatives, local and national, to confi dent, that he did not even bother sacre of innocent protesters,” to quote a watchful eye on our politicians. We see that they too do not get swept into to attend a debate with his unknown her. It is a legitimate concern that she must make sure that, unlike Crowley, the vortex of the left pulling on the opponent in the primary, Alexandria may be a trendsetter in her party. they cannot forget their electorate. strings of the mainstream Democratic Ocasio-Cortez. But while he was snub- The Democratic Party has cannibal- They must remember to fi x our pot- Party. We need to remind them that if bing his nose, she was out knocking on ized itself. It has allowed the lunatics holes and take care of our very local the powerhouse of Queens could fall doors. to take over the asylum. If you want to needs. to a waitress, nobody in politics can Then the unthinkable happens. Ms. get ahead nationally in the Democratic So far, I am sad to report that the survive without caring about us little Ocasio-Cortez wins by an impressive Party, you must embrace the “resist- record is not stellar. While all our city, folk. Yet we need to be assured that our margin! The Democratic establish- ance” and embrace the most outland- state, and federal representatives do representatives will not be supportive ment is turned on its head from coast ish extreme leftist positions, from so- care for our neighborhood, many of of this leftist Israel basher and terrorist to coast. Pelosi, as well as others, dis- cial engineering to the destruction of the little things are not given full atten- cheerleader. If you see otherwise, let miss the win as a local quirk with no security norms. Maxine Waters is a bit tion. I know I have been pleading for a them know very clearly. The crack in signifi cance for the rest of the party. of an embarrassment to Democrats, particular stop sign near my block for the bedrock can come from anywhere. Yet, many of the big fi gures are joining but she has not been censured by her her radical left position by calling for colleagues, and chugs along with im- Rabbi Yoel Schonfeld is the Rabbi of the Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills, former President an end to ICE (Immigration and Cus- punity as she calls in a most vile way of the Vaad Harabonim of Queens, and the Rabbinic Consultant for the Queens Jewish Link. Great CD and Savings Rates!

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R' Dani Staum Beyond The Comfort Zone

hortly before the Pesach vacation be- goals that require gradual changes. When gan in Heichal HaTorah this year, a one makes incremental changes, he is able Sconscientious student who takes his to bypass that initial knee-jerk innate rebel- spiritual growth seriously asked to speak liousness. He doesn’t arouse the automatic with me in my offi ce. The student said that resistance that emerges from innately feel- with only a few days left before vacation, ing threatened by suddenly being thrust he was fi nding that it was becoming in- out of his comfort zone. Generally, drastic creasingly more diffi cult to concentrate on changes last a few days at best, before one learning. As is wont to happen in the wan- slips back into his previous routines and ing days of the z’man (yeshivah semester), comfort zone. especially at the end of a long winter, some So, what’s the best way to push yourself fellow students were becoming somewhat to accomplish even (or especially) when lax in their learning. After admiring his de- you’re not in the mood or when you’re sur- sire to not waste the last few days, I told rounded by sluggishness? By setting attain- the student that I felt that the best way to able goals for yourself. Doing so helps you motivate himself to keep learning was to focus your energy and commit yourself to set himself goals of what he could accom- complete your self-imposed goals. plish in that short period of time. Someone once noted that a goal with- Rav Shlomo Wolbe zt”l (Alei Shur) writes out a time frame is usually a mere fl eeting that we have an innate resistance to major dream. Even the best of intentions and aspi- and sudden changes. When a person tries rations are nebulous unless there is a man- to make sudden changes in his lifestyle, his ageable goal within a specifi c time frame.

Even the best of intentions and aspirations are nebulous unless himself attainable goals during these sum- lofty spiritual aspirations he has for him- there is a manageable goal within a specific time frame mer months, one can arrive at the onset of self. Elul with a feeling of conﬁ dence that this May we all have the wisdom to use the year he can actually live up to some of the summer well, to grow in all areas. body’s automatic response is to resist and The summer is a great opportunity to thereby force the person back into the com- enjoy the beauty of Hashem’s world. But fort zone of his habits. it also means Elul and Rosh HaShanah are Rabbi Dani Staum, LMSW, is a rebbe and guidance counselor at Heichal HaTorah in Te- So how can one foster change and im- not too far away. I once saw a great quote: aneck, Principal at Mesivta Ohr Naftoli of New Windsor, and a division head at Camp Dora provement in his personality and nature? “Do t’shuvah now; avoid the Yom Kippur Golding. He can be reached at [email protected]. Looking for “instant inspiration” on The answer is: by setting for himself small rush!” By being proactive and setting for the parshah in under minutes? Follow him on Torahanytime.com.

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commissioner, the dignifi ed-looking chief Finally, just be- The Long-Awaited Visas rabbi sat down at the desk and, for the next fore the holiday of hour, proceeded to peck at the typewriter Pesach, several of ne of the leading chasidic rebbes in type up the certifi cates. First thing Monday keys until all 10 certifi cates were completed. the visas arrived, in- pre-war Europe was R’ Avraham Mor- morning, he said with a patronizing smile, It was no easy feat to get the certifi cates cluding that of the Odechai Alter, zt”l, also known as the he would be glad to do whatever he could to Italy under the precarious conditions of Imrei Emes. It was decided that any further Imrei Emes, the third rebbe of the dynasty of to help. the time. During the next two weeks, many delay was dangerous, and those who had re- Ger. The Imrei Emes held this position from ceived their immigration certifi cates should 1905 until his death in 1948. He was one of board the next ship and leave immediately. the founders of the Agudas Yisroel in Poland R’ Herzog smiled back and said, “That’s not a problem. Even the fact that the next ship, the Marco and was infl uential in establishing a network If you don’t have anyone to type up the certificates, I’ll type them Polo, was scheduled to sail on Chol Hamoed of Jewish schools there. It is claimed that at Pesach, and that it was small and uncomfort- one time he led over 200,000 chasidim. Dur- up myself!” able, did not matter. ing World War II, R’ Avraham Mordechai was Thus, the Gerrer Rebbe and all those a prime target of the Nazi authorities in Po- who already had immigration certifi cates land. Through a miraculous chain of events R’ Herzog smiled back and said, “That’s not telegrams were sent back and forth between boarded the Marco Polo during Chol Ham- he managed to escape Warsaw at the outset a problem. If you don’t have anyone to type Trieste and Jerusalem as information was ex- oed. Twenty-four days after leaving Warsaw of the war and reached Italy. From there, he up the certifi cates, I’ll type them up myself!” changed about the whereabouts of the entry the Imrei Emes reached the shores of Eretz boarded a ship bound for Palestine in 1940 And, to the utter astonishment of the high certifi cates. Yisrael. with several of his sons and began to slowly rebuild his chasidic dynasty. The months he spent hiding in the War- saw Ghetto were fraught with great peril, but once the Gerrer Rebbe was ingeniously A Taste of whisked out of the city of Warsaw, from right with under the nose of the Gestapo, he managed to cross over the border from Poland into Italy, where his escaping group was able to rest in the port city of Trieste. But they were not totally “out of the woods,” so to speak, yet. In Trieste, the Rebbe and his family had to wait for British immigration certifi cates Ultimate Israeli Sandwich that would allow them entry into Palestine – documents that should already have arrived. However, a month after the outbreak of the war, the British had halted the granting of certifi cates to Jewish immigrants coming from Nazi-held territory. Their absurd pre- text was that such immigrants might be Nazi spies. Two days after their arrival in Italy, on Erev Shabbos, R’ Yitzchok Meir Levin, zt”l, the renowned Agudist and son-in-law of the Rebbe, sent a telegram to a group of rescue activists in Yerushalayim informing them that the certifi cates for passage had not been received. The telegram arrived on Shab- bos, and the Gerrer chasidim who received it walked to the home of the chief rabbi of Palestine, R’ Yitzchok Isaac Herzog, zt”l, and asked him if he could possibly intervene on 6HUYLQJVXJJHᚔLRQ behalf of the Imrei Emes and his family. Of course, R’ Herzog agreed, and early the following morning he went directly to the home of the British high commissioner for Palestine. With great emotion he explained PREP TIME: YIELD: that his teacher, the Gerrer Rebbe, a leader 10 min 6 sandwiches of hundreds of thousands, had escaped from Nazi-occupied Poland and was at present in Italy. R’ Herzog requested that the high commissioner make an exception and issue the 10 entry certifi cates needed for the Rebbe The Nine Days are fast approaching. A vegetarian diet doesn’t have to be bland and tasteless. and his entire family. There are many simple, delicious recipes that don’t involve any meat. Try this colorful Israeli The high commissioner listened sympa- sandwich that highlights mild, nutty Edam cheese and fresh crunchy vegetables. It takes only a thetically to R’ Herzog and said that if it was few minutes to make, and your family will love it! up to him he would issue the certifi cates immediately. 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Orthodox #NeverTrumpers Not At All ‘Crazy’ CONTINUED FROM P. 1 arch-nemesis, Iran, is not Arab. Arab and leader or party is common (every group movement or fi gure falsely sanctifi es it and Muslim Saudi Arabia has long cooperated wants G-d on its side), it is a religiously secular politics as a whole, while profaning I am thrilled by Nikki Haley’s record at with Israel, and that relationship continues dangerous strategy. As politically liberal G-d and belittling His infi nite Torah in the the United Nations and delighted that to warm. Even when Morsi’s Muslim Broth- Orthodox Jews have told me and other rab- process. For these reasons and others, “To- the United States Embassy to Israel is erhood government was in power, the larg- bis during the present administration, and rah Loves Trump” is just as bad as “Torah fi nally located in Israel’s capital, Jerusa- est Arab country, Muslim Egypt, has main- as politically conservative Orthodox Jews Trumps Hate.” lem. I joined AIPAC to lobby Congress to tained its decades-old peace with Israel and told me and other rabbis during the previ- Reducing our people to, as Rabbi Schon- defeat JCPOA (“the Iran deal”), negotiated coordinates with it against terrorism; the ous administration, this strategy alienates feld describes the Jewish people, “any other by President Obama and refl ecting his ad- same is true regarding Arab and Muslim them from leaders, institutions, and com- ethnic group” that ought to look out for ministration’s deeply misguided perspec- Jordan. Rabbi Schonfeld also omits Israel’s munities with whom they differ politically. its own narrow self-interests debases the tives on the foreign-policy interests of other Muslim allies in the region, such as In some cases, it has been the fi nal blow exalted calling of the Torah’s “kingdom the United States. Azerbaijan and the Kurds. Fortunately, lead- that has driven Jews away from Torah and of priests and holy nation” to refl ect G-d’s Yet, building on the rhetorical sarcasm presence on Earth for all of humanity. of his recent column’s title, “How Crazy President Trump has repeatedly deni- Are We?” Rabbi Schonfeld asserts that Jews Many American Orthodox Jews and rabbis join the majority of grated entire countries and groups in vul- – including large numbers of Torah Jews Americans and American Jews in considering Trump to be an active gar terms, even managing to equivocate and Orthodox rabbis who love Israel yet when condemning those who associated oppose Trump as I do – are “crazy,” “very danger to our nation and its longstanding norms, as well as to the themselves with white nationalists and crazy,” and “plain crazy.” Such divisive, world as a whole Nazis in Charlottesville. Surely our people’s essentially ad-hominem public discourse history, bloodied with the brutal effects of is a core problem, on both the right and such slurs and double-talk, suggests that the left, facing our beloved United States, ers of these Arab and Muslim nations and the observance of mitzvos. our people’s broad interest is to forcefully as well as its Jewish and Orthodox Jewish groups are too busy working with Israel More importantly, such confl ation is reject such words along with leaders who communities. Instead of exacerbating that publicly and privately to notice how Rab- theologically false. The Torah of the Crea- think and utter them. problem by pathologizing our opponents, bi Schonfeld slights them by omission or tor of the Universe Who is beyond time It is true that Jews and other Americans we must draw upon the wellsprings of To- with inaccurate generalities and simplistic, and place aligns with no political move- of good faith must and do reject candi- rah to embody respectful modes of debate outdated rhetoric. ment or government offi cial ever; to the dates who actively seek to harm Jews and/ that bring disputants together despite dif- To halt the further creation of (presum- contrary, He is their Judge as well as their or other minority groups, or Israel and/or ferences. ably “crazy”) Orthodox Jews who oppose Master Whose will directs them from other longstanding American allies. But ul- Rabbi Schonfeld refers to Israel’s “count- Trump, Rabbi Schonfeld calls for an over- above (Proverbs 19:1). Torah is and must re- timately, viewing national affairs through less brutal Arab enemies.” While many of haul of Torah educational institutions so main neither Democratic nor Republican, one’s group interests refl ects an impover- Israel’s enemies are indeed Arab or Muslim they become “normal” and produce stu- neither pro- nor anti-Trump, neither capi- ished approach to citizenship and the ad- (another group Rabbi Schonfeld singles out dents who are “emotionally attach[ed] to talist nor socialist, neither libertarian nor vancement of the national interest of the when praising Trump’s immigration poli- Torah, the Jewish people, and the Land of progressive, neither pro- nor anti-Netanya- great medinah shel chesed (as Rav Moshe cies), such nations and groups are, thank Israel.” While confl ating love for G-dly val- hu, neither liberal nor conservative, and G-d, not “countless.” Moreover, Israel’s ues with advocacy for a particular political so on. 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10 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 26 (#268) • July 5, 2018 OOpp-Ed

Lessons From A Debacle

By Manny Behar rael become a partisan political issue. Israel’s security depends on having friends on both ast week, a shock wave rolled through sides of the political aisle. Donald Trump will Queens politics. Congressman Joe not be President forever. There will be future LCrowley, the heir apparent to the Democratic Presidents and Congresses. The Democratic leadership of the House of Rep- only way to make sure that they will be sup- resentatives, the Chairman of the Queens porters of Israel and sensitive to the needs OOcasio-Cortez,casio-Cortez, a ssupporterupporter ooff BBDS,DS, aaccusedccused IIsraelsrael ooff pperpetratingerpetrating a ““massacre”massacre” iinn GGazaaza iinn Democratic Party, and a usually reliable sup- of our community is to engage in and win tthishis TweetTweet porter of Israel and sensitive to the needs of the battle going on right now for the soul of the Jewish community, was defeated in the the Democratic Party. Failure to engage that Jim Genarro – and current ones like Melinda the General Election. You can be an enrolled Democratic Primary. The winner, Alexandria battle would mean surrendering the future Katz, David Weprin, Daniel Rosenthal, Karen Democrat and vote Republican in the Gener- Ocasio-Cortez, is a member of the Democrat- of the Democratic Party to forces that are Koslowitz, Rory Lancman, and Barry Gro- al Election as I have done many times. Being ic Socialists of America and a supporter of hostile to Israel and to Torah values. denchik – stood by us when the chips were enrolled as a Democrat does mean that you BDS who has accused Israel of perpetrating The need for us to remain engaged in the down. can vote in the Democratic Primary where a “massacre” in Gaza. Democratic Party may be even more vital at I have pointed out in previous columns the real decisions about who will represent How should we react to this disastrous the local level here in Queens. that while Donald Trump took 70 percent of us in public offi ce are made and where we result? can really make the difference. Respected political pundits have pointed As a small minority, we cannot expect our to the Ocasio-Cortez victory as part of a wave The need for us to remain engaged in the Democratic Party may public offi cials, who represent much larger of victories for “progressive” Democrats who constituencies, to agree with us on every sin- are hostile to Israel and to Torah values, and be even more vital at the local level here in Queens. gle issue. Future primaries are likely to see it is time for Jews to abandon the Demo- staunch supporters of our community chal- cratic Party and enroll as Republicans. While lenged by “progressives.” We need to engage this argument has emotional appeal, seichel I have spent more than 40 years in the the Orthodox Jewish vote, he did not even in and win those battles. – intelligence – points in another direction. forefront of obtaining permits to build eiru- carry Kew Gardens Hills. Here in Queens, our If last week’s primary has taught us any- The Democratic Party’s move to the left vim, shuls, and mikvaos, protecting the right elected offi cials are chosen in the Democrat- thing, it is that when less than perfect but and the erosion of its support for Israel are to be buried in accordance with halachah, ic Primary, not in the General Election in No- pretty good incumbents like Joe Crowley real but far from one-sided. There are Demo- winning a city-wide ambulance permit for vember. Since turnout in primaries is often are defeated, the alternative is not likely to crats, notably including Queens’ own Grace Hatzolah, and securing funding for our low, a relatively small group of people can espouse the platform of Likud, the Jewish Meng, who remain steadfast in their sup- community institutions. Every one of those have a huge impact. The only way in which Home, Shas, or United Torah Judaism. port for Israel. It is important for us to back battles could have gone the other way. We one can vote in the Democratic Primary is For a secure Israel and a strong Jewish the pro-Israel forces within the Democratic prevailed because Democratic public offi - to be enrolled in the Democratic Party. Be- community in Queens, enroll as a Democrat, Party. cials like Claire Shulman, Nettie Mayersohn, ing an enrolled Democrat does not require vote in the Democratic Primary, and vote We cannot afford to have support for Is- Mike Simanowitz a”h, Morton Povman, and you to vote for the Democratic candidate in your conscience in the General Election.

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Vol. VII No. 26 (#268) • July 5, 2018 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 11 TThehe SShmuzhmuz On The Parshah R’ Ben Tzion Shafier The Responsibilities Of A Jew

“Pinchas, the son of Elazar, the son cle, Zimri, the head of Sheivet Shimon, took to wipe out an entire nation. Pinchas’ act squarely in the face. The guards jump forth of Aharon HaKohen, appeased my anger a Moabite woman into the very camp of Is- of killing one man evened out the score and grab him. Every person in the throne against B’nei Yisrael by taking My revenge rael and publicly committed a sin with her. so that now the death penalty against the room is in utter shock and disbelief. The af- amongst them, and now I do not have to When Pinchas saw this, he stood up, generation didn’t have to be carried out. front to the king is appalling. Such an act destroy B’nei Yisrael in My vengeance.” and at risk to his life, miraculously killed How does killing one man equal the death in the royal chambers to the king himself is — BaMidbar 25:11 them both. of millions? an affront beyond description. ***** There is little question that this person has lost his lease on life. Likely, he would The Death Knell of Amon and Moav When we recognize our royal lineage, we can understand our be killed on the spot. The nation of Moav heard about B’nei great potential to accomplish, as well as the grave responsibilities Let’s take this same scenario but instead Yisrael coming, and they were seized with of a commoner, it is the king’s son who hits fear. For many years, they had known “all we have in life him. Now the affront is increased dramati- that Hashem had done for the Jewish peo- cally. Not only was such an act committed, ple while taking them out of Mitzrayim,” After the events, the pasuk describes The answer to this question can be best but it was done by nobility, by someone re- and they were well aware that the land of Hashem as saying, “Pinchas took my re- understood with a mashal: spected in the kingdom, by someone who Israel was consecrated for the Jews. Now venge amongst the people, and now I do is expected to love and honor the king. The the inevitable was coming to fruition. not have to destroy the Jewish nation.” The In the Royal Throne Room affront would now be outrageous. Recognizing that there was little hope in S’forno explains that because the entire na- Imagine that you are in the royal throne To fully appreciate the gravity of what waging war against the Jews, Balak, the king tion saw what had transpired and didn’t room when a commoner enters and re- was happening in Zimri’s time, we need to of Moav, hired Bilaam to curse the Jews. act, they all deserved to die. By acting in quests an audience with the king himself. add one more dimension. Imagine that at However, not only didn’t Bilaam curse the public for all to see, Pinchas atoned for The monarch, in a very generous act, grants the time of the act, the entire royal family Jews, he gave them a brachah, saying the their sin, and now Hashem didn’t have to the request. The peasant then asks for even was gathered for an affair of state. All of prophetic words: “Mah tovu ohalecha Yaak- kill out the nation. more. He requests permission to step for- the sons and daughters of the king together ov.” When Balak confronted Bilaam about ward and whisper something highly con- with their spouses, the king’s brothers, and this, Bilaam’s truthful response was, “It is Two Difficulties with the S’forno fi dential into the king’s ear. The monarch their children are there. Included are the not in my power to curse them. But if you This S’forno is diffi cult to understand on charitably grants even this appeal. The want advice in fi ghting this nation, you two levels. First, what was the sin of the commoner steps forward, leans over, and CONTINUED ON P. 50 must get Hashem to be angry with them. Jewish people? They weren’t accused of do- with a resounding smack, slaps the king Their G-d hates promiscuity. If you can get ing acts of immorality. Their “crime” was in them to sin, you can conquer them.” not protesting an act done in their midst. Born and bred in Kew Gardens Hills, R’ Ben Tzion Shafier joined the Choftez Chaim Ye- With that was launched a fatal attack Where do we see that the punishment for shiva after high school. Shortly thereafter he got married and moved with his new family to against the Jews. Balak sent out the b’nos not giving rebuke is death? Rochester, where he remained in for 12 years. R’ Shafi er then moved to Monsey, NY, where he Moav to entice the Jewish men. The plot Even more troubling is what seems was a Rebbe in the new Chofetz Chaim branch there for three years. Upon the Rosh Yeshiva’s was successful and thousands of Jewish to be a grave inequity. If Pinchas had not request, he stopped teaching to devote his time to running Tiferes Bnei Torah. R” Shafi er, a men succumbed. At the height of the deba- killed Zimri, then Hashem would have had happily married father of six children, currently resides in Monsey.

12 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 26 (#268) • July 5, 2018 DDelvingelving Deeper Tovia Paris Rabbi Moshe Isserles 1530-1572 tanding in a dusty, cramped shop ric and then return home by noon. in Krakow, Poland, every weekday MMK: Then the deal is off! I’m sorry I Sthroughout his life was Rabbi Yis- ever came here! [Exits] rael Lazars, a rabbi descended from King Rabbi Lazars was willing to obtain a David whose position as one of fi ve par- signifi cant fi nancial loss for fear of per- nasim (community leaders) in Krakow haps desecrating Shabbos Kodesh. Such ensured that his business of selling fabric was the gadlus of Rabbi Lazars, the illus- fl ourished. One Friday morning in 1529, a trious father of the Rema, Rabbi Moshe courier hurriedly entered the house of the Isserles. The holy Rema was born exactly esteemed Rabbi Lazars. “My Lord, Master one year after the above took place. He CCemeteryemetery ooff tthehe RRema,ema, zzt”lt”l Martin Krautfl eisch (a wealthy Austrian was most probably born in the merit of trader of the era) is riding towards your the above incident. had previously commented about the many religious merchants were argu- shop. He would take pleasure in doing The Rema showed signs of ingenuity Rema: “He is a gem that I will sharpen.” ing over halachah with their customers. business with you,” said the courier. Sec- early on, even earning s’michah from Rab- His dream had come true. The Tur had become available 300 years onds after the courier fi nished speaking, bi Shalom Shachna (1510-1558) when he In late 1543, the Rema attended a fair Master Martin Krautfl eisch arrived at the turned bar mitzvah in 1543. Rabbi Shachna with fellow yeshivah students where CONTINUED ON P. 36 shop and promptly began negotiating a business deal involving tens of thousands of zlotys (the Polish currency) with Rabbi Lazars. Their conversation probably went somewhat like this:

Master Martin Krautfl eisch (MMK): I would like to order 50 bolts (a bolt is a measurement that typically measures either 40 or 100 yards long) of linen, 100 bolts of cotton, 150 bolts of silk, 200 bolts of canvas, etc. Rabbi Yisrael Lazars (RYL): The cost of your order is 100,000 zlotys [$40,000 based on the present-day exchange rate of zlotys and the market cost of linen]. Are you sure you would still like to purchase your order? MMK: Of course! Only the fi nest, dare I say, royal suits and dresses befi t my family. RYL: Luckily, I have your entire order in stock right now. When should it be delivered to your home? MMK: I need you to deliver the fabric today. I have a hectic schedule, you know. RYL: I am sorry, but I cannot deliver the fabric until Sunday. Today is Erev Shabbos Kodesh, and I have the custom to cease all my work at noon. It is impossible to ride to your home with all of the bolts of fab-

Tovia - not Tuvia - Paris is currently enrolled as a sixth grade student in Yeshiva Tiferes Moshe. Between writing articles for the Queens Jewish Link and doing his homework, he is busy preparing for his upcoming Bar Mitzvah. He can be reached at tovia.paris@ gmail.com.

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Godwin said she didn't realize there was Police Receive Anonymous Arizona Puppy Takes a snake in her path until Todd had already been bitten on the nose and cheek area by Payment For 1974 Parking Rattlesnake Bite the venomous reptile. "I think the snake was sleeping because I Ticket To Save Owner didn't even hear a rattle. It was super quiet," she said. "Right when he struck he started to rattle." Godwin rushed the dog to an animal hospital. "I broke a lot of traffi c laws for sure to get him there," she said. "I did not pay any attention to traffi c laws for 10 minutes." Todd was given antivenom and was released from the animal hospital about 12 hours and $1,500 later. Pennsylvania police chief said his Godwin said Todd appeared back to nor- department received a mysterious mal two days after the bite. Rahn said. Aletter containing payment for a "He wants to play. He's so rambunctious Rahn said her issues got so out of con- parking ticket issued 44 years ago. and he's just acting like nothing happened," trol that people often asked if she was preg- Chief Michael Combs said a letter ar- she said. "It's so crazy." nant. rived last week from California with the She posted photos of Todd's post-bite "I legit looked like I was a solid nine return address listed as "Feeling Guilty." swollen face on Facebook. months pregnant. We went to dinner and The envelope contained a parking ticket "This is what a hero looks like," she someone asked me if I was having twins. It issued in 1974, $5 and a short note. wrote. was frustrating and rough," she said. The letter reads: "Dear PD, I've been car- At one point in May, her mother took rying this ticket around for 40 plus years. her to an emergency room, where a series Always intending to pay. Forgive me if I Doctors Remove 50-Pound of tests discovered the massive cyst. don't give you my info. With respect, Dave." n Arizona woman branded her gold- "I do remember telling my mom and Combs said the ticket was only $2, so $3 en retriever puppy "a hero" after the Cyst From Woman busting out crying they were going to fi x it. of the payment was apparently for interest. Adog jumped between her and a rat- n Alabama woman who suffered I knew something was wrong," Rahn said. "He paid us $5," Combs said. "So, that's 44 tlesnake that bit the canine in the face. months of unexplained medical A doctor who was in the operating room years later. So, that only means I made $3. I Paula Godwin said she and her two dogs Aproblems fi nally has relief after doc- said the tumor was benign. can't retire on that." were hiking on a trail when her 6-month- tors removed a 50-pound ovarian cyst. He said he was shocked by the size of The chief said he would like to track old golden retriever, Todd, bolted out in Kayla Rahn, 30, said she suffered months the growth. down "Dave" to thank him for his honesty. front of her foot. of problems including pain and weight "This is one of the largest I have ever "We do appreciate that this individual "I didn't see the snake and I am so care- gain, and medical professionals told her seen or certainly removed," he said. "We are paid their ticket, and again, we encourage ful when it comes to these things," Godwin she'd feel better if she lost weight. very excited things went well for her." other individuals, if you have an outstand- said. "That dang rattlesnake was so camou- "I had been trying to lose weight for ing ticket, please pay them," Combs said. fl aged I did not see that thing." about a year, but I was gaining weight," CONTINUED ON P. 16

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CONTINUED FROM P. 14 One jeweler designed the ring, which Indian Jewelers Break World has 48 individual petals, while the other father and son in Rhode Island who Record For Most Diamonds funded the project. The lotus fl ower style disagree about President Donald was created in order to raise awareness ATrump are running for the same of- about the importance of water conserva- fi ce, one as a Republican, the other as an In One Ring tion. independent. "As fame is so much attached to a Guin- David Quiroa Sr. and David Quiroa Jr. ness World Records title, we can put it to both fi led last Tuesday to run for a state good use by bringing together like-minded House seat currently held by a Democrat. people to work towards a beautiful world," Both live at the same address. they said. "It'll be interesting for sure. What better A video chronicles the making of the way to argue with my father than on the ring, including the cutting and placing of political level?" Quiroa Jr. said. "He defi nite- the diamonds. ly is a very good motivator. Even if it's to motivate to stop him." The father and son said they frequently Florida Man Rides On Hood you're not really done with her #onlyinfl or- talk about politics and have since the son ida," he tweeted along with his video. was little. Quiroa Sr. ran for the same seat Of Car Going 70 MPH Neither the man on the hood nor the 14 years ago as a Republican and brought Florida man rode on the state's busi- woman in the car has been identifi ed. his son, the oldest of fi ve children, along to est highway while clinging onto the gather signatures and knock on doors, they Ahood of a car. said. He didn't win, but the experience left In video of the incident, the man is ly- Father, Son Who Disagree an impression on both of them. ing on the hood of the car, which was go- When 2016 rolled around, Quiroa Jr. was ing around 70 mph. He holds on with one On Trump Running Against fi nally old enough to vote for president. hand and talks on his cell phone with his His candidate was Hillary Clinton. His fa- other hand. Each Other ther became an early and avid supporter of The man who recorded the video said Trump. wo jewelers have broken the Guin- that he believed the man was talking on Quiroa Sr. said he and his wife are "all the ness World Record for most dia- the phone with the woman driving the car. way for Trump," but the rest of the family Tmonds set in one ring. "He didn't even look like he was freaked are "not happy." Quiroa Jr., who's running as The ring the jewelers crafted contains out by what was going on, but I was freak- an independent because of Trump's affi lia- 6,690 diamonds placed onto an 18 karat ing out," the videoing man said, adding: "All tion with the Republican Party, points out rose gold structure that is shaped like a I was thinking is, this guy is going to slide the discussions in their family are not all lotus fl ower. The ring weighs more than a off and hit me, slide off the other side or, if that unusual. golf ball at just over 58 grams and is worth anything, he is going to slide down and she "Unfortunately, most of our country is $4,116,787. is going to hit him, and then she is going to divided right now," he said. The previous record was set in 2015, a crash into somebody else." ring that contained 3,827 cut diamonds. "When she says she's done with you but CONTINUED ON P. 17

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When the son heard his father was con- Like many other storks who nest in Po- sidering running for the seat, he says he be- land in the summer, Kajtek, an adult stork, gan thinking how important it is for young began his southward migration to Africa in people to get involved in politics. Other- August 2017. Thanks to a SIM-chip transmit- wise, things are not going to change. ter, the Ecological Group was able to track His father didn't take him seriously at his GPS movements and post details about fi rst, he said. the journey online. "He thought I was kidding initially. He The bird's last signal came from Sudan thought it was an empty threat. When he on April 26. But later, the group heard that said he was going to go, I said I was going some 20 hours of calls had been made us- to go," said Quiroa Jr. ing the SIM card in Sudan. When the time came to drive to city hall The association's head said that Kajtek to fi le papers, they went together. "probably isn't alive." "We defi nitely had a lot of surprised faces," Quiroa Jr. said. "Everyone was smil- ing and laughing and saying 'Oh, that's so Biker Wins Lottery funny.' They were all fl abbergasted." Quiroa Sr. says it would be great if his Jackpot While In Jail son defeats him. Asked who he thinks his n Australian biker allegedly associ- mother is going to vote for, Quiroa Jr. called ated with a notorious gang won a her a wild card. A$973,320 lottery jackpot - despite be- "I would say maybe my father, but at this ing in jail. point since I'm in the mix, I don't know," The 64-year-old biker, who has been he said. in jail since a February arrest, received a $973,320 deposit into his bank account from a lottery jackpot in April. Polish Stork Vanishes Police said the money was fl agged as suspicious and was transferred out of the From GPS But Delivers account shortly after it was deposited. In- vestigators said they do not believe the Huge Phone Bill lottery jackpot to be linked to suspicious activities, but it is unknown how he managed to obtain a lottery ticket while im- prisoned. The biker declared bankruptcy in May 2015 and had one month left in his bankruptcy period when he won the lottery cash. World's Longest Hand-Woven Scarf Certified In Cambodia scarf measuring 35 inches wide and 3,772.3 feet long in Cambodia has Abeen declared the world's largest hand-woven scarf by Guinness World Re- Polish environmental group that cords. was using a mobile-phone transmit- The record-keeping organization said Ater to track migratory movements of the scarf, woven from cotton in the style a stork has received a phone bill of 10,000 of a traditional krama scarf, was created by zlotys ($2,650) after the bird went missing weavers from 20 Cambodian communities in Sudan and someone started using the and visitors to the National Museum in chip to make calls. Phnom Penh.

Vol. VII No. 26 (#268) • July 5, 2018 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 17 FFinanciallyinancially Forward Gerald Harris

What The World Needs Now or millennia, it was inexpensive and These days demand is beyond ordinary. are dominated by “sand mafi as” – criminals plentiful and no one gave it a second “We are building cities at a pace and on a who steal this material fromm river banbanksks and Fthought. But these days, sand is used scale that has never remotely before hap- related sources and who haveave kkilledilled those in many applications, demand is growing pened, mainly all over the developing who try to stop them. In MMoroccoorocco anandd tthehe dramatically, and as a result it is no longer world,” says NPR. Caribbean, thieves are strippingpping beaches inexpensive or plentiful. In fact, there is a And it reaches beyond building new cit- bare. There also have been vviolentiolent sansand-d- global shortage of sand. ies. China has announced that by 2030 it related crimes in Kenya, Indo-ndo- According to a UN study, sand and grav- will have built 165,000 miles of road – three nesia, China, and Vietnam. el account for nearly 85 percent of eve- and a half times as long as America’s inter- “In the past year theree rything mined each year. Most often it is state system. have been hundreds off used to make concrete and asphalt – the “India, Indonesia, Vietnam, and China people murdered becausese building blocks of homes and roads. But have used more cement in the last few years of confl icts between sandand it’s also used in many other applications: than the United States used in the entire mafi as,” says Dr. Aurora Torres,rres, an windows, concrete blocks, bricks, and 20th century.” NPR concludes that the world ecologist researching the problem.roblem some pipes, to make roof shingles, to im- is quickly running out of sand, so much so Unfortunately, at this time there are no “Globally, the price of sand has not ris- prove traction on icy roads, in golf cours- that some countries have banned its export. clear-cut solutions about fi nding new sup- en much so far, but it is foreseen that the es, and sandboxes. Surprisingly, most of us price will increase soon,” said Dr. Torres. carry sand around with us every day in the So much sand is used in construction that form of silicon chips in our cell phones There is so much sand all around – how could there be a even a small increase can add signifi cantly and computers. shortage? to the dollar cost of a project. In the US, But most often it’s used in construc- sand is a $9 billion industry. tion – and those require a surprisingly According to The Independent, “it is be- high amount of this resource. A report pub- coming clear to scientists that sand scarcity lished in 2004 by the American Geological Shifting Sands plies. One option is crushing rocks, but that is an issue with signifi cant sociopolitical, Institute said that a typical American house There’s also a booming black market for sand doesn’t have the same quality as natu- economic, and environmental implica- requires more than 100 tons of sand, grav- this resource, and criminal elements are ral sand; it’s also more expensive. Another tions.” el, and crushed stone, and more than 200 raiding the sand on beaches, in forests, and is recycling, an idea that is gaining traction Sand extraction in Kenya has been tons when including the street that runs in farmland. Governments are trying to pre- and producing results. According to Brit- linked with damage to coral reefs, while in in front of it. A mile-long section of a sin- serve those resources. However, organized ain’s Mineral Products Association, nearly a India it is threatening endangered wildlife. gle lane of an interstate highway requires crime has gotten involved in this business third of all housing material used in Britain In Indonesia, islands have literally van- 38,000 tons. Considering these numbers, and is resorting to bribery, extortion, and in 2014 were recycled. Other countries are ished due to excessive mining of sand. it’s easy to understand the enormous quan- violent crime to get supply. also studying this idea or already utilizing “One of the more clear impacts on hu- tities of this material that are used even in According to The New Yorker, commercial it. There also are efforts to fi nd sand sub- man systems is the increased vulnerability ordinary situations. sand is now so scarce in India that markets stitutes. to natural hazards such as storms and tsu- namis,” says Torres. In Sri Lanka, research Sand, Sand, Everywhere has revealed that intensive sand-mining There is so much sand all around – how prior to the 2004 tsunami made the waves could there be a shortage? The answer is more devastating than they otherwise that there are different grades of sand. For would have been. example, desert sand is too smooth to use It’s unlikely that the world will com- for most commercial purposes. The Burj pletely run out of sand any time soon, Khalifa in Dubai, the tallest tower in the but this is not a completely comforting world, is sitting on an ocean of sand but thought because meanwhile the shortage none of it is suitable for use in construc- is creating an increasing number of envi- tion; the tower is being built using sand ronmental, economic, and safety problems. imported from Australia. Hopefully a solution will be found soon. Most of the focus of the growing shortage of sand has been on what impact this Sources: independent.co.uk; will make on infrastructure. But there are re- \newyorker.com; newvision.co.ug; lated problems, too, and one of them is cost. npr.org; scmp.com; shellyco.com

Gerald Harris is a ﬁ nancial and feature writer. Gerald can be reached at geraldhrs@ yahoo.com

18 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 26 (#268) • July 5, 2018 AAss I See It Cynthia Zalisky Preserving The Jewish Presence In Queens

One of the most important aspects of them in dire times. We have done this for the Queens Jewish Community Council’s 50 years, since our inception in 1968. Every mission is to preserve the Jewish presence so often I meet someone who says to me, in Queens. We work tirelessly with syna- “I know the Queens Jewish Community gogues and Jewish organizations of every Council does good work, but I don’t know denomination to help them continue serv- what you do.” I’m never upset by that re- ing their congregants and the community mark, because I realize how fortunate that as many of them desperately struggle to person must be that he or she does not need stay afl oat. For each synagogue, the issues our help. It seems that those who need us are different; and we do our best to help know us. They are the blessed ones, who do them cope with their specifi c problems and not require our social services, who are not the needs of their constituents. For several necessarily aware of what QJCC does each of the older populated congregations, QJCC and every day for the members of the Jew- coordinates and advertises senior events in ish community. their shuls to publicize their existence and Since QJCC was established, advocacy to utilize the facilities. QJCC provides these has been a major thrust of our work. It seniors with social service assistance, Medi- has taken on many forms throughout the care D facilitation, and meals-on-wheels. years. Our organization began when sev- EveryEvery year,year, llocalocal ppoliticiansoliticians tteameam uupp wwithith QQJCCJCC ttoo ddelivereliver RRoshosh HHaShanahaShanah ffoodood ddonationsonations Sadly, many of these places have beautiful eral concerned individuals joined forces to edifi ces but have dwindling populations. ensure the vitality of Forest Hills when a white and Jewish. Albert Shanker, president legislative breakfasts, and rallies. Support- We have worked to revitalize certain ar- low-income housing project was planned. of the United Federation of Teachers, and ing the State of Israel has been a signifi cant eas of Queens by working with the elected What was proposed was the concept of some Jewish groups attributed the original focus as we commemorate Yom HaAtz- offi cials and especially with the Queens “scatter-site housing” – the policy of defi rings to anti-Semitism. The strike dragged maut, and one of the only ones that cel- Borough President’s offi ce to erect eiruvim liberately placing low-income housing in on from May to November 1968, increasing ebrate Yom Yerushalayim each year. in Glendale and Sunnyside to encourage middle-income neighborhoods. The ra- tensions between Blacks and Jews. At the The Queens Jewish Community Council new, young, shomer Shabbos populations tionale of scatter-site housing was the be- core of that confl ict was racial tension, bat- evolved as a social service agency in the to choose Queens as their home. lief that sprinkling low-income families in tles over who should control the schools 1970s with the arrival of Jewish refugees QJCC is constantly sponsoring and co- relatively expensive neighborhoods will and fi ghts over teachers’ rights. Eventually from the former Soviet Union. We have sponsoring programs and events of reli- welcomed Jewish immigrant populations gious and communal interest in many of who have been settled in our borough the Orthodox shuls throughout the bor- QJCC prides itself in its mandate to keep Jewish Queens alive and have done everything possible to help ough to promulgate the importance and ef- and prosperous through events such as concerts, lectures, them acculturate. First it was the Russians, fectiveness of the frum community. then the Israelis, and now the Bukharians. QJCC’s Jewish Music under the Stars legislative breakfasts, and rallies Every group has added to the Jewish com- summer concerts at Cunningham Park plexion and fl avor of Jewish Queens. highlight the unique diversity of the Jewish make a signifi cant contribution to the ad- the teachers were reinstated. Our efforts have shown fruit. Baruch heritage of the residents living in Queens. vancement of the poor and particularly That’s how the Queens Jewish Commu- Hashem, we are blessed with having a signif- We have a Yiddish program, a modern the ethnic poor. Forest Hills residents were nity Council got started. icant population of young people residing contemporary Jewish musical event, and a outraged and worried that a vibrant Jewish Unlike some other neighborhoods in in Jewish Queens. Children are our future. Bukharian festival. Our purpose is to show- neighborhood would be compromised by New York City, where the Jewish popula- If you have ever shopped in the Wasser- case the vitality and exuberance of Jewish this effort. tion has dwindled and the demographics man Supermarket and witnessed how many Queens. We also aligned ourselves with the Jew- have made them almost indistinguishable, mothers with their baby carriages are man- We want to scream it from the rafters ish public school teachers who were faced we work to make sure that the Jewish pop- aging the aisles, one would appreciate this so that the rest of the fi ve boroughs know with discrimination and bias. On May 9, ulation stays in Queens. It is heartwarming phenomenon. While some complain that it that Yiddishkeit thrives in Queens. Baruch 1968, the newly-formed community board to see people coming from other areas to is diffi cult maneuvering with them, I kvell. Hashem, Queens is alive and well. My tag of Ocean Hill-Brownsville sent termination shop in our borough. Jewish families mean prosperous stores, line is that “One does not have to go to letters to 19 educators, setting in motion a QJCC prides itself in its mandate to full attendance in yeshivos, pre-schools, and Brooklyn (or any place else for that matter) chain of events that would lead to a bitter keep Jewish Queens alive and prosperous synagogues. This is how preserving the Jew- for anything; Queens has it all and does it teacher strike and eventually a total reor- through events such as concerts, lectures, ish presence is achieved. better.” ganization of the nation’s largest school We “kvell” with our member organiza- system. The community control board dis- Cynthia Zalisky is the Executive Director of the Queens Jewish Community. She can be contacted tions when they prosper, and we stand by missed teachers almost all of whom were at [email protected]

The Imagination Of Suffering

CONTINUED FROM P. 1 ening anxiety about future events may ated with the present exam, but rather for exam, such as the SAT, cannot predict a lessen our experience of suffering. Start how their performance infl uences college student’s future career success and it defi - lives. This is an unavoidable part of living, by asking yourself how likely it is that the admissions and long-term career options. nitely cannot predict someone’s life suc- just like moments of joy and achievement negative event will actually occur. If it is In this instance, a student can pause their cess, which encompasses much more than are also inevitable. Yet, in my conversa- likely, then consider if there are long-term worry by asking themselves both how academic achievement. tions with friends, colleagues, and clients It is also important to consider that I have noticed that we spend most of our just as a negative outcome is possible, so time discussing neither our current obsta- If the negative event is likely, then consider if there are long- is a positive outcome. Instead of imagin- cles nor successes, but rather the possibil- term consequences associated with the event. Will it matter in a ing suffering, we can imagine joy. Use im- ity of problems. Our worries for the future agination to believe that the future holds leave us with feelings of suffering for a re- month? A year? Five years? wondrous possibilities. Daydreaming and ality that may never come to be. Once our fantasy facilitate hope and optimism. imagination begins to run wild with the consequences associated with the event. likely it is that they will fail a given exam Constant fantasizing may be an indicator potential for failure, disappointment, and Will it matter in a month? A year? Five and also how likely it is that their exam that you crave to avoid reality; but in mod- negative events, we experience a very real years? score will drastically impact their life out- eration, imagining success can help us anxiety. So how can we stop this cycle? Let’s consider this strategy in relation come. Will this singular exam’s results welcome joyous moments into our lives. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) of- to test-anxiety. Many high school students impact the student in a month? A year? Imagine your best life. fers many helpful techniques to stop the worry about their academic performance Five years? Even a signifi cant high school progression of worry. CBT suggests that and anticipate that their success or failure by adapting our thought process we can on certain exams will dictate their life tra- Miriam Rollhaus, LCSW is a psychotherapist located in Queens. She can be reached at change our feelings and actions. Less- jectory. Their worry is not merely associ- 347-688-2165 to schedule an appointment.

Vol. VII No. 26 (#268) • July 5, 2018 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 19 HHookedooked On Healing Caroline Schumsky, LCSW, MS Take That Criticism Seriously But Not Personally

f it were legal to marry food, I’d still choose you over pizza.” Awww. “IHow sweet of you. “If you were a chicken, you’d be impeccable.” Um… thank you? Your wife told you that you don’t take her to expensive places anymore; so you took her to the gas station? Sheesh. So what’s the nicest thing anyone has ever said to you? Would you rather get admiration, adula- tion, or criticism? Actually, if you compliment others often, you receive many advantages, even if you are not looking for them. One benefi t is that you increase the chance of being liked by them. Makes sense, does it not? And, after all, who amongst us does not like to be liked? “On a scale of 1 to 10, you’re a 9, and I’m the one 1 you need.” Awww. How’s that? Many of us are all too familiar with the feeling. A dirty look or derogatory remark from a perfect stranger can carry more weight than lavish praise from our dearest loved one. Biologically, our brains know that negative stimuli can signal danger or even death; so we are keenly aware of it. But what do positives signal? Perhaps not much of consequence. So we fi ne-tune ourselves of chips. Speaking of which, a friend who guess what. You do not have to be bluntly words of praise, then get to the meat of to focus on negatives to a much larger de- steals your tortilla chips is nacho friend. Lol. critical in order to be straightforward with the issue, and end with a few more words gree. A now a word to all you well-meaning people. Just remember: Those who boast of appreciation and approval. You’d be sur- And why is it so dang hard for some peo- parents. Please stop heaping uncalled for, about being brutally honest are usually prised how much easier it is to digest that. ple to offer some kudos or even a whole meaningless praise on your children all day more brutal than honest. Need some help? Try this. Say the follow- bouquet? Truth be told, sweet friends, we long. They do not have to hear “good job” When you do get negative feedback, ing: “What I like about this is…” Then give humans tend to be quite self-focused and every time they exhale. Believe it or not, too please try not to shut your eyes and cover some concrete examples (which kind of self-minded. In order for me to compliment much complimenting may hurt us, too. Af- your ears. Instead, try to focus on how to forces you to actually fi nd some positives, your new shoes, I would fi rst have to notice ter a while, we may lose our true motivation use the assessment positively rather than on too). Then follow up by saying: “What would you. We literally have to look for praisewor- to achieve something, and just spend time the emotional negativity or hurt that your make me like it even more is…” Now, that can thy things in others, and then – be generous seeking that ego-satisfying praise. Pats on ego feels. be swallowed with so much less indiges- enough to take the time to offer them. the back certainly do not ask you to evalu- If you got a dose of fault-fi nding from tion, don’t you agree? A fi st-fi ght-free happy someone whom you trust and who is try- ending for all. ing to improve your life, then please resist If someone’s feedback has no merit ac- the temptation to defend yourself or to lash cording to you, no need to digest it and get back in some way. Some people do not have all hurt about it. Honestly, the only taste of the maturity to handle any negative com- success some folks get is taking a bite out ments whatsoever. Granted, it takes some of you. mental and emotional strength to stay neu- So please ponder this, sweet friends: If tral, but I have faith in you. You can do this. the words you spoke appeared on your skin, If you are the one offering the critique, would you still be beautiful or handsome? I Then again, why is it so diffi cult for some ate your actions or correct any bad prac- serve up a sandwich. Speaking of which, I don’t know about y’all, but I can live for two of us to receive those commendations? If tices you may have. But gentle, constructive once attempted to be a deli worker, but any months on a good compliment. But, they we feel negatively about ourselves, receiv- criticism surely can. Think about it. Most of way that I sliced it, I couldn’t cut the mus- are not always quite so forthcoming. So my ing praise from others seems inauthentic to us would rather be spoiled by praise than tard. Lol. best advice: When you feel in need of a com- us. And, of course, we now have to live up to saved by criticism. What I really mean is: Offer a few kind pliment, give one to someone else. the expectations that their endorsement im- You can even elicit honest feedback by plies. However, if you generally think well asking someone you trust: “How can I have of yourself, then words of adoration simply done that better?” Ask specifi c questions and Caroline is a licensed psychotherapist, crisis counselor, and writer with an offi ce in Queens. She reiterate what you already know. So in or- do not settle for warm, fuzzy, vague respons- works with individuals, couples, and families. Appointments are available throughout the week der to receive acclaim, we must build up our es. I know. I know. You’re from the “But I’m and weekends. She can be reached at 917-717-1775 or at [email protected] or at face- self-worth. Yes, you are all that – and a bag always honest” School of Thought. Well, book.com/pages/Safe-Haven-Healing.

20 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 26 (#268) • July 5, 2018 FFeatureeature Story Political Shocker: Rep. Crowley Defeated By Leftist Activist In Western Queens

By Sergey Kadinsky I had a lot of Jewish Americans who thanked me.” he near-unanimity of In progressive politics, the support for Israel from phrase “Some of my best friends Tamong the city’s Con- are black” does not absolve a gressional delegation is likely white individual from having over. Last Tuesday, Bronx ac- unintentional bias against mi- tivist Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez norities. Yet, for Ocasio-Cortez, defeated nine-term incumbent the apparent partiality against Joseph Crowley for District 14, Israel is justifi ed because some which covers Jackson Heights, of her Jewish supporters share Corona, Elmhurst, and Col- this view. lege Point, as well as Pelham In its statement on Ocasio- Parkway in the Bronx. “The Cortez’s victory, the Jewish left is on the move, and main- Democratic Council of Amer- stream Democrats, in order to ica congratulated her for the be successful, must stop the “clear message advocating for denial,” said longtime politi- economic, social, and racial cal strategist Hank Sheinkopf. justice.” At the same time, the “This trend expedites the long- Jewish Democratic Council running divorce proceedings disagreed with “her past state- between the Democratic Party ment regarding Israel, as well and Israel.” AAlexandrialexandria Ocasio-CortezOcasio-Cortez ((L)L) ddefeatedefeated nnine-termine-term iincumbentncumbent JJoeoe CCrowleyrowley ((R)R) llastast wweekeek iinn a sstunningtunning uupsetpset as her affi liation with the Dem- The defeat of the fourth ocratic Socialists of America, most powerful Democrat in and plaintiffs representing the Tea Party pushed the Republi- on Israel are troubling. In May, which supports the boycott, di- Congress and chair of the county party organization. can Party further to the right, when Israel faced armed riot- vestment, and sanctions (BDS) Queens party organization Ocasio-Cortez learned about Democratic Socialists seek to ers storming its Gaza border, movement targeting Israel.” sent shockwaves locally and insurgent campaigning as an or- do the opposite within their Ocasio-Cortez tweeted a harsh Although her Queens-Bronx nationally, demonstrating that ganizer in Sen. Bernie Sanders’ party by winning Democratic rebuke. “This is a massacre. I district had many more Jew- a 28-year-old grassroots organ- 2016 presidential run. A political primaries. hope my peers have the moral ish residents when Crowley as- izer running on a hard-left independent from Vermont, he In a district where regis- courage to call it such. No state sumed his Congressional seat platform can successfully run tapped a groundswell of disil- tered Democrats outnumber or entity is absolved of mass in 1999, demographic changes against a party boss, while lack- lusionment at traditional poli- Republicans by a 6 to 1 margin, shootings of protesters. There have made the Jewish vote ing in elected experience and ticians by pitching an activist she is expected to easily beat is no justifi cation. Palestinian nearly irrelevant. Today there forsaking corporate donations. people deserve basic human are small Jewish communities “This is not an end, this is the dignity, as anyone else. Demo- in Jackson Heights, Corona, beginning. This is the begin- For Jewish voters, the positions taken crats can’t be silent about this and LeFrak City, while the ning because the message that by Ocasio-Cortez on Israel are troubling anymore.” Bronx portion of the district we sent the world tonight is In a subsequent interview has its Jewish centers along that it’s not okay to put donors with The Intercept, she defend- Pelham Parkway and the Albert before your community,” the ed her tweet, comparing the Einstein College of Medicine. Democratic Socialist said at her stance on economic and social Republican contender Antho- killing of 60 Gazan rioters to Without a doubt, AIPAC, victory party. issues. “She took on the entire ny Pappas. Much more of an the police shooting of a black NORPAC, the Jewish Commu- Ocasio-Cortez’s 15-point pri- local Democratic establishment underdog on account of his youth in Ferguson, Missouri. nity Relations Council, and mary victory cast aside con- in her district and won a very party affi liation, the St. John’s “The idea that we are not sup- the Queens Jewish Commu- ventional wisdom in Queens, strong victory,” Sanders tweet- economics professor does not posed to talk about people dy- nity Council, will devote time where aspiring young politicos ed. “She demonstrated once have an online campaign or so- ing when they are engaging in to lobby this likely Congress- usually spent many years work- again what progressive grass- cial media presence. A vote for political expression just really woman on Israel. She should ing as staffers for incumbents, roots politics can do.” the Republican in this district moved me.” be invited to Jewish functions, paying dues to the party by sup- Many political commenta- is a principled vote, but Jews She also noted that her view if only to personally experi- porting candidates endorsed tors have compared Ocasio- should not disengage entirely contrasts with established ence our vibrant and political- by its leaders. Those who Cortez’s victory to that of Vir- from the Democratic Party. Democratic lawmakers. “Es- ly active community. To give sought to challenge Crowley’s ginia Tea Party insurgent Dave History has shown the peril of pecially in New York, people her a better understanding, favored candidates often found Brat, who unseated Eric Cantor putting all of one’s eggs into a say this is political suicide,” the most effective voices must themselves in court struggling in 2014. Like Crowley, Cantor single basket. Ocasio-Cortez said. “But I had come from within the district. to defend the validity of their was also a high-ranking mem- For Jewish voters, the posi- a lot of my constituents thank- The Jewish community must petitions against attorneys ber of his party’s caucus. As the tions taken by Ocasio-Cortez ing me for taking that position. speak up. NewYork-Presbyterian/Queens Receives Mission: Lifeline® Gold Achievement Award from American Heart Association ewYork-Presbyterian/Queens has re- blood fl ow to blocked arteries in heart at- cardiac care, paired with our recognition quickly as possible, by mechanically open- ceived the Mission: Lifeline® Gold tack patients coming into the hospital di- as both a Level 1 Trauma Center and State ing the blocked vessel. NAchievement Award for implement- rectly or by transfer from another facility. Designated Primary Stroke Center, demon- The American Heart Association’s Mis- ing specifi c quality improvement measures “All of our doctors, nurses, and staff are strate that our hospital is truly prepared in sion: Lifeline program’s goal is to reduce outlined by the American Heart Associa- dedicated to providing optimal care for the event of a serious medical emergency.” system barriers to prompt treatment for tion for the treatment of patients who suf- heart attack patients. The cardiac program According to the AHA, every year, more heart attacks. This process begins with the fer severe heart attacks. is extremely profi cient in a variety of ap- than 250,000 people experience an ST el- 911 call, to EMS transport, and continuing The hospital earned the award by proaches, levels of intervention, and sur- evation myocardial infarction (STEMI), through hospital treatment and discharge. meeting specifi c criteria and standards of gical procedures to provide patients with the deadliest type of heart attack, caused The initiative provides tools, training, and performance for quick and appropriate the care they need for recovery,” said Jac- by a blockage of blood fl ow to the heart other resources to support heart attack treatment. The treatment process begins lyn Mucaria, President of NewYork-Presby- that requires timely treatment. To prevent care, following protocols from the most re- with emergency procedures to re-establish terian/Queens. “This latest achievement in death, it’s critical to restore blood fl ow as cent evidence-based treatment guidelines.

Vol. VII No. 26 (#268) • July 5, 2018 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 21 RRecentecent Happenings Jewish Heritage Center Celebrates 30 Years Of Outreach At Annual Dinner In Kew Gardens By Susie Garber

n Sunday evening, June 24, the Con- gregation Shaare Tova ballroom Oﬁ lled with alumni, local rabbanim, and a large group of community supporters of the Jewish Heritage Center to celebrate 30 years of incredible accomplishments and ongoing work. The mission of the Jewish Heritage Center is to spread the beauty and lasting joy of Torah to all Jews, regardless of background, afﬁ liation, or observance level. This organization has touched so many lives, and through the JHC 2,000 Jews have become fully Torah observant over the last three decades. This was clearly not an event where the MManyany ooff tthehe JJHCHC aalumnilumni aatt tthehe ddinnerinner

RRabbisabbis TurkTurk & PortnoyPortnoy withwith AlumniAlumni HHonoreesonorees ((L-R)L-R) YYosefosef & MMichelleichelle MMendelson,endelson, KKarenaren & RRabbisabbis TurkTurk & PPortnoyortnoy wwithith VVolunteerolunteer IInstructornstructor HHonoreesonorees RRabbiabbi DDr.r. RRobertobert BBergida,ergida, RRabbiabbi NNatat Solomon,Solomon, ChanaChana & SherwinSherwin LoviLovi CChaimhaim Chait,Chait, RabbiRabbi YYehudaehuda WWinder,inder, aandnd RR’’ EEliezerliezer SSzrolovitszrolovits attendees came out of a sense of obliga- spreading of Torah: Rabbi Dr. Robert Bergi- dreds of Jewish students on campus, com- tion, but one of appreciation, respect, and, da, Rabbi Chaim Chait, Rabbi Eliezer Szrolo- bining learning with rich Jewish experienc- for many, a feeling of coming home. One vits, and Rabbi Yehuda Winder. es. There are study groups with the Rabbi, alumnus noted, “The Jewish Heritage Cen- An amazing video offered glimpses into learning groups run by peers, and exciting ter changed our lives. A Jewish soul is nev- the seven different divisions of the Jewish retreats and other activities that strengthen er dark; we had sparks of light, but when Heritage Center. One of the pillar programs Jewish identity. we encounter the Jewish Heritage Center it of the JHC is the Jewish Family Initiative (JFI), The Stuart & Eileen Stone Hebrew lights up like Yankee Stadium.” an exciting hub of engaging programs and School, in connection with the Jewish Fam- Another alumnus shared, “The Center activities serving hundreds of families in the ily Initiative, provides public school chil- is a good atmosphere with friendly people greater Nassau County area. There are holiday dren with an exciting spiritual education. and inspirational speakers and rabbanim. I programs, a challah club, Torah study, Shab- It is located in Merrick, Long Island. There always leave the Jewish Heritage Center on bos and holiday experiences, trips to Israel, is a concurrent parent program with adult a high when Shabbos exits.” and mega-Jewish-themed events. classes to help the whole family grow to- Mr. Daniel Ritz, Dinner Chairman, wel- The Brooklyn Inreach Division, “1225,” gether in Judaism. comed the crowd. He shared his own per- is a drop-in center in Boro Park, Brooklyn, The Queens Outreach Center in Kew RRabbiabbi MosheMoshe TTurkurk aandnd hhonoreeonoree RR’’ EEliezerliezer sonal experience and said that the Jewish that provides ongoing support and encour- Gardens Hills is the original hub of all of SSzrolovitszrolovits Heritage Center gave him a place in the agement to a large underserved demograph- the Center’s work. It continues to serve the Orthodox world. The staff has an amazing ic of disenfranchised chasidic youth. It’s needs of hundreds of students, alumni, and Rabbi Wolowitz spoke about their roles in connection to each student. “We’re here to- a safe place where young adults come for community members. Rabbi Naftali Port- starting the Jewish Heritage Center. “Thirty night to say thank you and to celebrate the mentoring, spiritual guidance, and a boost noy and Rabbi Moshe Turk, senior direc- years ago, I had a dream. I took Mr. Chernoff Jewish Heritage Center today and to look to in camaraderie and self-worth. Hot food is tors, provide ongoing guidance and rabbin- and two others along with me. We saw then the future.” offered daily, and typically 30-80 young men ic counseling through all stages of students’ that 50 percent of klal Yisrael were intermar- Reﬂ ecting on 30 years of achievements, or women show up every night. Educational lives. There is year-round programming rying. So many of our brothers and sisters Rabbi Naftali Portnoy, Co-Director of the resources (GED diploma classes), job prepa- for Shabbos and High Holidays services at were being lost.” He shared what a z’chus it Jewish Heritage Center, commented on ration, entertainment programs, social sup- beginner and advanced levels, as well as a is to be part of the Jewish Heritage Center’s “what a blessing it’s been to see the young port and life-skill groups, counseling, and re- unique and welcoming teen minyan and an work. “So much is being done. The next 30 generation of our staff take the Center to habilitative referrals are available for them. array of intermediate and advanced learn- years, let’s continue. Let’s bring many more even greater levels.” Rabbi Moshe Turk, The JHC Collegiate Division is a strong ing programs for men and women. thousands of n’shamos back to Torah.” He Co-Director, pointed out, “The center is presence at Long Island universities. Work- Two of the founding couples were in at- offered a blessing to the crowd: “Continue busier now than ever. The JHC reﬂ ects how ing with and through student boards and tendance at the dinner, Rabbi Dov & Marilyn to have only Yiddishe nachas and bring our Jews at all levels, from all backgrounds, clubs on campus, the JHC staff reaches hun- Wolowitz and Edward & Phyllis Chernoff. brothers and sisters closer to the fold.” are so receptive to the message of Torah.” The program concluded with an alumni He shared, “The JHC is making its mark reunion gathering after dessert, and a slide through its alumni in Jewish communities show presentation of pictures representing throughout the world.” 30 years of JHC students, staff, and activi- The Jewish Heritage Center honored ties. There was much excitement, laughter, three alumni couples who are models of a cheering, and even tears throughout the Torah way of life in their respective commu- presentation. Words do not do justice to nities: Chana & Sherwin Lovi of Great Neck, the excitement that is sensed seeing pic- Michelle & Yosef Mendelson of Passaic, and tures and video clips of this multifaceted Karen & Nat Solomon of West Hempstead. Outreach and Inreach organization in ac- There was also a tribute award presentation tion. I encourage you to go to JHCdinner. to JHC honoree instructors who volun- com to view the brief but engaging video teered their time and energy, contributing clip, “30 Years of the JHC: Past Present, and so much over the years to the growth and OOverflowverflow ccrowdrowd ooff JJHCHC aalumnilumni aandnd ffriendsriends Future.”

22 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 26 (#268) • July 5, 2018 FFeatureeature Story Queens Leaders, Residents Rally To Decry New York Times’ Slanted Reporting On Israel

By Emily Cohen

ueens residents gathered in front of The New York Times building in Col- Qlege Point last Wednesday, June 27, to protest the publication’s biased coverage of Israel. The rally was sponsored by the Queens Jew- ish Link and the Queens Tribune as a reaction against ongoing reporting by the Times that paints the violent, Hamas-sponsored Palestin- ian insurgency at the Gaza border as a slaughter of innocent protestors by Israeli forces. Miscasting aggressors as victims, say the rally’s organizers, is not just a diplomatic blow to the Israeli military; it also puts Israeli lives in jeopardy and emboldens terrorist groups PPhotohoto CCredits:redits: EEmilymily CCohenohen across the globe. The crowd was small but vocal. Protestors couraging the likes of Hamas, you get bombs radical candidates beating out moderate party carried signs that read, “New York Times: Stop here, bombs in Paris. That’s why this message stalwarts in primaries. Just last week, Alexan- Your Anti-Israel Bias!” and “New York Times: Be is so important.” dria Ocasio-Cortez unseated ten-term veteran Pro-America… Be Pro-Israel!” Rabbi Schonfeld likened the Times’ Gaza incumbent Joe Crowley, a vocal supporter “Enough is enough. You have to stop en- coverage today to its reporting on Israel’s of Israel. Mr. Nussbaum called Ocasio-Cortez couraging terror,” said Michael Nussbaum, withdrawal from the Gaza Strip in 2005. In “extremely anti-Israel” and “as close to Linda publisher of the Queens Tribune, who spear- both cases, he said, readers only saw half the Sarsour as anyone else.” headed the event along with Rabbi Yoel story, and in both cases, the Palestinians’ hate- “The New York Times sets the agenda for Schonfeld, rav of the Young Israel of Kew ful anti-Israel rhetoric was swept under the the political discourse in the US and beyond; Gardens Hills. “You have to stop telling people rug, and a false narrative of Israeli barbarism whether we like it or not, what they say be- that a terrorist is a protestor. Protestors don’t emerged in its stead. comes the point of discussion,” said Rabbi put bombs on kites; protestors don’t set fi re to “Gaza was given back by the Palestinians Schonfeld. “The public discourse, in turn, kites that then set the farming fi elds in Israel under the most painful of conditions. [The shapes the political platforms of both parties on fi re. Almost every person killed during the Israelis] left them hothouses, and they left and elected offi cials.” problems in Gaza was a member of Hamas.” of Israel, and said they hoped for the deaths them an infrastructure, and they left them “The United States government, whatever “The New York Times has ‘fake news’ down of Palestinian protestors to win sympathy for synagogues, which the Palestinians, of they may do,” urged Mr. Nussbaum, “we need to an art,” quipped Rabbi Schonfeld. the Palestinian cause. course, burned. The Israelis had to remove them to understand to support Israel.” The kites are just one example of the misre- Israeli soldiers defend the border against the dead in the ground because they knew In that vein, candidates spoke out against porting at issue. In its coverage of the protests, violent attacks with minimal casualties, kill- the graves would be desecrated, but that you the Times and its treatment of Israel. Times articles mentioned that protestors were ing only around 60 Palestinians of the over didn’t see that written about in the Times. David Bressler, running for a seat in the fl ying kites, but largely declined to explain 50,000 protestors over the course of six weeks. You didn’t read about the desecration of the New York State Assembly District 26, said it that the kites were on fi re, having been set At least 58 of those killed were positively iden- synagogues. And you don’t read now about was “extremely disturbing” to see “a great afl ame and deployed by Palestinians as a sort tifi ed as members of Hamas or other terrorist these people saying, ‘We want to kill Israelis publication…spreading fake news against our of improvised fi rebomb, with the intent to organizations, but the Times and other major and tear their hearts out.’ It’s buried some- strongest ally.” breach the border and infl ict extensive prop- publications failed to identify the dead as ter- where in the story.” Vickie Paladino, running for the New York erty damage on the Israeli side of the border. rorists or reveal their affi liations. Rabbi Schonfeld went on to recall an State Senate, said, “The progressive liberal Left More broadly, the facts of the case have Despite all the evidence of the protestors’ event his father witnessed during the bomb- is trying desperately to change our way of been severely manipulated or indeed hidden violent aims and the IDF’s restrained response, ing of Lebanon more than a decade ago. New thinking. We must stand fi rm with Israel and in an apparent reversal of narrative. The New York Times presented the confl ict as a York Times reporters bribed a group of local we will stand fi rm with Israel. This is a politi- On May 14, the United States honored near- slaughter of innocents. Articles descried dead Lebanese children with chocolates to cry on cal matter, this is against The New York Times, ly three decades of legislative and diplomatic children, wailing mothers, and general savage- demand to drum up a sympathetic image this is pro-Israel, and that’s what I’m all about.” promises by opening its new Israeli embassy ry against a peaceful protest. of the supposed devastation that air strikes But Mr. Nussbaum argued that it’s not only in Jerusalem. Moving the embassy from Tel The periodical also uses deceptive and mis- were wreaking on the area. “People from the up to the politicians to stand up to the Times. Aviv to Jerusalem was an explicit recognition leading photos to elicit an emotional response media came out with chocolates, explaining Even citizens should get involved, he said, by President Donald Trump and the US gov- against Israel. One article featured photos of a to them in Arabic, ‘Can you cry for us?’ They by speaking out to neighbors and family ernment of Jerusalem as Israel’s capital. But dead eight-month-old baby girl who, Hamas started shedding tears. ‘Click, click, click, click,’ members. Rabbi David Keehn, former presi- it was a fact that the Palestinian Authority claimed, had died of tear gas inhalation at the the cameras went, and that’s the picture that dent of the Queens Jewish Community Coun- would not accept. Gaza riots in May. It was later revealed that appeared in The New York Times, these ‘poor cil and currently chaplain at NYU Langone In the months leading up to the grand the child actually died of a congenital blood kids’ crying.” Health, advised protestors to be vocal in their opening, which they called an “act of incite- disease that had also killed her brother some “Their pictures are real pictures,” he said, criticisms of the Times and to consider fi nan- ment,” Hamas and the PLO openly threatened years earlier. “but they’re lies.” cially boycotting the paper to get their point violence, and by May 14, they kept good on This infl ammatory reporting led to global Looking forward, Mr. Nussbaum called across. “Maybe not every obituary has to [ap- their promise. More than 50,000 “protestors” outcry, including censure of Israel by the Unit- upon elected offi cials to stand vigilant against pear in the Times], maybe not every wedding were recruited to rush the Israeli border at ed Nations Human Rights Council. misreporting by the Times and to make sup- announcement. If you cancel your subscrip- Gaza. They wielded fl aming kites and tires, But according to Rabbi Schonfeld, biased port of Israel a central tenet of their platforms. tions, tell them why; it’s a small thing but they stones, Molotov cocktails, and other explosive reporting does not just create a bad image for “To the leadership of the community – the take note of it. Let’s try to hit them in their devices at 12 different positions along the bor- Israel. “It’s not just that they’re not nice to Isra- rabbinical leadership, the lay leadership, and pocket.” der, attempting to breach security so that they el; it’s much more serious than that. It causes anyone who’s running for offi ce: You have to Mr. Nussbaum and Rabbi Schonfeld prom- could pass into Israel and murder Israeli citi- actual material physical damage, kids [in the take a stand and you have to speak up. If you ised that this rally would be the fi rst of many. zens. Protestors were quoted boasting of their IDF] have lost their lives because they’re so refuse to stand up and say something, you’re “It’s a great fi rst attempt,” said Mr. Nussbaum intent to kill. concerned about what the media is going to complicit.” of the rally, “and it will grow from here.” In the “These are people who have said, ‘We say if they kill a terrorist on the spot.” The issue takes on particular urgency with meantime, he once more urged the paper to are here to break this fence, and to capture “You have to realize that this is not just an midterm elections on the horizon. On both change its ways and start reporting the facts as many Israelis as possible and tear their Israeli Jewish issue,” he continued. “When the the federal level and the local level, the Demo- about Israel. “You have to tell the truth once hearts out.’ This was their mission,” said Rabbi Times and our media in general give a tailwind cratic Party continues its shift to the left, with in a while.” Schonfeld. to Hamas, the message goes out to terrorists At the same time, Hamas leaders admit- everywhere throughout the globe, ‘Hey, terror- Emily Cohen is a staff writer and copy editor for the Queens Jewish Link, reporting on commu- ted openly in televised interviews that these ism works!’ They’re supporting the terrorists. nity affairs, Israel, and editorial perspectives. She also works as a freelance content writer and “rallies” were calculated to incite not only vio- It affects us here, in Paris, in Britain, in Germa- editor. Emily is an alumna of Brown University and lives in Manhattan with her teeny-weeny lence against Israelis but also global censure ny, and throughout the world. If you start en- four-pound poodle. Emily can be reached at [email protected].

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A Beautiful N’shamah Inspires An Enduring Legacy Sefer Torah Campaign in Memory of Adeena Paknoush a”h Underway ney with enthusiasm, strength of character, and a gift for brightening any room she entered. For her eighth grade yearbook, she used a quote that read, “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.” This quote epitomized the kind of young woman that Adeena chose to exemplify. Her gentle nature and willingness to be open-minded and always look for the good in everyone is what drew others to her. After her passing, an urgent need was felt among her wide circle of friends to do something that would go beyond the moment: something that would have a profound impact on the yeshivah, her family, her friends, and the community as a cision to do something, she would do it The Torah is our direct connection to whole. The decision to write a sefer Torah, despite any obstacles that might have Hashem. It is our most precious treasure which would be used for years to come, entered her path. And for these very and our guide to life. Indeed, it is the was the perfect answer. qualities – her love of others and her lifeline of klal Yisrael. Adeena, too, was a Pirkei Avos 1:15, Ethics of Our Fathers, love of a Torah life – she was a role mod- precious treasure to her family and to all tells us, “Make your Torah regular; say el for us all. those who knew her. Ensuring the eternal little and do much; and greet every per- This sefer Torah project offers the op- presence of her memory through this sefer arlier this year, the world lost a pre- son with a smile.” These words exempli- portunity for each of us to build upon Torah will create a living testament to the cious n’shamah, Adeena Paknoush, a fy the importance of limud HaTorah, the Adeena’s legacy and to help to keep her life she sought to lead and to the indeli- Eyoung lady who gave so much to so establishment of schools to teach Torah, memory alive in a tangible way. Partici- ble impression she made on all she left many in her brief 16 years in this world. As and the practice of kindness of one per- pating in the sefer Torah project offers not behind. a student at the Yeshiva of Central Queens, son to another. Adeena personiﬁ ed that only intrinsic value, but serves, as well, as To participate in the Adeena Paknoush – and, after graduation, at the North Shore kindness towards her family, her friends, a means of providing solace to Adeena’s YCQ sefer Torah project, please visit www. Hebrew Academy in her hometown of her community, her teachers, and her family and to all who were touched by her adeenaemunah.com or call 718-793-8500 Great Neck, she pursued her academic jour- fellow classmates. When she made a de- presence. (ext. 304).

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Navigating The Medical System Lecture On What’s New In Cancer Treatment And Research By Susie Garber you feel something different, that should therapy. Today, if the number is low risk, sponse rate for melanoma and Hodgkin’s to be evaluated, and usually it will need which is 18 or less, then there is no benefi t lymphoma. n Tuesday evening, June 12, the com- a needle biopsy. She stressed, “It’s what is to chemo over hormones. If the patient is He detailed a problem that the T cell munity gathered at Congregation different for you. Anything that’s different high risk – over number 23 – then there gets a signal from the tumor cell: “You OEtz Chaim to hear a fascinating lec- needs to be evaluated.” She explained that is a benefi t to chemo. With intermediate should kill us.” We don’t belong here. The ture from the Navigating the Medical Sys- pre-cancer is stage zero. This will indicate risk, which is numbers like 19-29, you have problem is the T cell turns itself off. He tem Lecture Series on new breakthroughs need for a lumpectomy and radiation or a to look at the whole patient and her age. said that there is now something that will in cancer research and treatment. mastectomy if there are a lot of cells. The She shared, “Medicine is not an exact sci- block this, so the T cells stay turned on. Dr. Beth Siegel, Director of Breast Ser- survival rate for this is 98-99 percent. She ence.” He shared, “We never had anything for vices at NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital in explained, “Not all cancers are alike.” Next, Dr. Barry Kaplan shared lots of sur- malignant melanoma. Twenty percent of Queens, began the lecture with facts and She then detailed different types of prising and encouraging new information patients now do not relapse. “We never cutting-edge information about breast breast cancer. There is invasive cancer es- about cancer. “In the last fi ve years,” he stat- had numbers like this. It’s spectacular!” cancer. She stated, “Women need screen- trogen receptor or progesterone receptor ed, “the progress is astounding!” He went Hodgkin’s lymphoma has a 90-percent re- ing mammography starting at age 40 year- positive or negative. She explained that tu- on to explain about the use of antibodies sponse rate. “It’s a whole different world.” ly.” She explained that sometimes the mor cells need estrogen, so medical oncol- to attack cancer with anti-body-specifi c ma- He noted that immune system therapy results will say the breast tissue is dense ogists will administer an anti-hormone by terial. Cancer cells often contain a protein works in a lot of cancers, and now even and this usually indicates the need for blocking estrogen receptors or stopping on the surface different from other cells, so in lung cancer when it is combined with ultrasound testing. It is possible to fi nd production of estrogen. Some patients we can create antibodies with that mate- chemotherapy. He has two patients both small cancers that do not show up in the will also need chemotherapy. Some will rial. This has changed the survival rate for with lung cancer, and one is two years in mammogram in dense breast tissue. The need Herceptin. She explained that we patients with some types of lymphoma. He remission and the other is three years in downside of the ultrasound is that it picks should think of breast cancer as a local dis- touched on the use of Herceptin, which has remission with this new therapy. He also up a lot, so people end up with a lot of ease and a systemic disease. The medical decreased relapses to 20 percent in breast touched on gene therapy and how abnor- six-month follow-ups and biopsies. She oncologist is focused on how to prevent cancer. They are coming out with an even mal chromosomes can be rearranged. We noted that, in the United States, 80 per- this from recurring. Herceptin, she noted, better form of Herceptin. He said that there know now that there are 12-15 types of lung cent of biopsies are benign. She stressed works best with chemotherapy. If the can- is a new drug for Hodgkin’s lymphoma that cancer, so we routinely analyze genes. “We that a biopsy should be performed with a cer is estrogen and progesterone negative, uses antibodies that kill cancer cells. have specifi c agents for these mutations needle if a mammogram or ultrasound in- then the patient will need chemo. So, it He explained that when you use anti- that we can target.” He has a patient, who dicate an abnormality. Abnormalities are is better to be estrogen or progesterone bodies, it sets up something from the pa- is, thank G-d, still well. He received molec- removed with an excisional biopsy. Atyp- positive. She then explained about low tient’s own T cells. “It’s like handing each ular treatment 18 years ago. ia cells need to be removed, she said. She risk versus high risk versus intermediate T cell a gun to kill cancer cells.” He shared Everyone left hopeful and fascinated by pointed out that ultrasound and mammo- risk. She said that until about ten years that they use viruses to transmit to T cells the great strides in cancer treatment. May grams are not 100 percent accurate, so if ago, most patients were receiving chemo- and it kills cancer. There is a 93-percent re- Hashem totally obliterate this disease!

Emet’s Popular Seminary Featuring Rebbetzin Jaeger Completes A Successful Year By Joshua Margulies

his past year, Emet Outreach launched the Ateret Emet Seminary, an exciting Tinitiative that caters to its higher-level students’ desire for continued learning and growth. Every Sunday morning, students come to the Emet Learning Center in Ja- maica Estates to enjoy breakfast, learning, inspiration, and a warm social atmosphere. The seminary, led by Emet’s popular Wom- en’s Director, Shira Fendel, had an extremely successful fi rst year. Shira says students were the driving force behind the seminary. “Many of our and pleasant atmosphere.” She adds, “Un- their appreciation for everything she does. In addition to weekly classes, Ateret higher-level students spend time in semi- like weeknights when people come in That same week, the Rebbetzin decided to Emet periodically holds Shabbatons. They nary in Eretz Yisrael, and when they come stressed out from work, on Sunday ev- buy the girls gifts, and came in with a Sefer recently had one in the Five Towns. On back they want to continue advanced sem- eryone comes in relaxed. In addition, the T’hilim for each student. Friday night, after the meal, they had a inary-style learning. In addition to inspira- Emet Learning Center has a really warm beautiful oneg. During the day, students tion, they want classes that are text-based and pleasant feel.” Personal Growth attended a lecture by Rabbi YY Rubinstein. and address halachah and other practical In addition to learning, girls develop a For students, having a chance to wit- Shalosh Seudos was held at the home of topics. Ateret Emet is a direct response to close relationship with Rebbetzin Jaeger. ness the greatness and special persona of Rebbetzin Jaeger; her husband, Rav Naftali their personal needs.” They can schedule one-on-one appoint- Rebbetzin Jaeger week after week has had Jaeger, the Rosh Yeshiva of Sh’or Yoshuv, Classes are taught by the renowned ments to discuss their questions, personal an amazing impact. Their growth and de- joined for Havdalah and gave each stu- Rebbetzin Tehila Jaeger and Rabbi Bin- matters, or anything else on their minds. velopment is often tangible. One married dent a brachah. yamin Yuhanan, one of Emet’s senior staff One student says that she gained a lot student, who views the Rebbetzin as her Shira says that students really look for- members. This past semester, Rebbetzin from her connection with the Rebbetzin. role model, recently began covering her ward to seminary each week, and some- Jaeger taught t’fi lah, based on Rav Shim- “I had a one-on-one meeting with the Reb- hair. Many others now have a greater ap- times go to great lengths to attend. “We shon Dovid Pincus’ sefer Shaarim BiT’fi lah. betzin in which I discussed various issues preciation of t’fi lah, and daven on a com- recently held a Shabbaton in the Catskills Rabbi Yuhanan focuses on halachah. This in my life. She was really supportive and pletely different level than before. for Step-It-Up, Emet’s advanced learning past year, he covered kashrus, Shabbos, helpful, and she told me that I could feel One student says the Seminary has program,” she says. “Two of the girls on and brachos. free to call her anytime. I’ve taken her up helped her grow and develop. “Classes the Shabbaton attend seminary. We had on it more than once, and she’s always make me feel empowered to get closer a Sunday activity, and I expected the girls Warm and Pleasant Atmosphere very supportive and helps me deal with is- to Hashem, and give me the chizuk to get to skip Seminary and remain with the Shira says that having classes on Sun- sues that arise.” She adds, “Rabbi Yuhanan through the week. Rebbetzin Jaeger is a group. They wouldn’t hear of it. We left day morning creates the right atmosphere. also makes himself readily available for great role model, and it’s great to see her the Catskills at 6 a.m. so we could make it “It’s a very special way to start the week. any questions we have regarding halachot. embrace Torah in such a special way.” back to Queens in time.” When girls come in, they’re treated to a He’s just a text or phone call away.” catered breakfast with hot coffee, and mu- On Mother’s Day, the students decid- Ateret Emet is currently accepting enrollments for its upcoming September semester. To join or to sic playing in the background. It’s a warm ed to buy the Rebbetzin fl owers to show learn more information, contact Shira Fendel at 917-628-3170.

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Teach NYS Applauds City Council’s Creation Of Kosher And Halal School Lunch Program he newly-adopted New include those who had religious York City budget for FY19 dietary requirements such as ha- Twill include, for the fi rst lal and kosher foods. time, a program to provide kosher In response to this exclusion, and halal meals for students. This Teach NYS launched an advocacy program follows a comprehensive campaign focused on correcting advocacy campaign by Teach NYS this inequity. This issue became and its coalition partners. the core focus of Teach NYS’ New This new kosher and ha- York City legislative agenda this lal lunch program refl ects the year. leadership of the New York City In October, Teach NYS held Council Speaker Corey Johnson a rally on the steps of City Hall and Council Member Chaim with community members and Deutsch who took active roles elected offi cials to highlight the in guaranteeing that all students, lack of kosher or halal options no matter who they are, were a for thousands of students. Teach priority in the FY 2019 budget. NYS organized a broad coalition For the fi rst time, the City will of schools and advocates from allocate $1 million in funding across the Jewish and Muslim for a pilot program to begin ex- communities to push for inclu- panding the City’s school lunch sion. program to nonpublic schools Teach NYS advocates and ac- and public schools with students tivists worked with the new with dietary requirements. leadership of the City Council, In September, Mayor de Blasio including Speaker Corey John- announced the start of a univer- son and Jewish Caucus Chairman sal lunch program for all stu- Chaim Deutsch, to create this pi- dents in all schools across New lot program. AAllenllen Fagin,Fagin, PublicPublic AAdvocatedvocate LLetitiaetitia JJames,ames, RReligiouseligious GGroupsroups RRallyally CCityity HHallall FForor SSchoolchool LLunchunch PProgramrogram York City. The program aimed “We applaud the leadership to provide free and nutritious of Speaker Corey Johnson and meals to all students regardless Council Member Chaim Deutsch ately understood the importance said Maury Litwack, Executive towards helping all students real- of income or school placement. who led the charge on this im- of this program and worked tire- Director of Teach NYS. “This ini- ize the promise of universal free However, this program did not portant initiative. They immedi- lessly to fi ght for our students,” tial program will go a long way lunch.” Chazaq Hosts Yet Another Successful Seniors Event n Tuesday, June 12, Chazaq held yet another successful seniors event. OThe event, held at the Young Israel of Queens Valley, featured speakers discussing Aging in Place, the concept that seniors should spend their golden years in the same homes they lived in and worked for their entire lives, instead of moving to a retirement community or an old age home. Also on the agenda were presentations on resources available for seniors from the City of New York, and an “open mic” for talented seniors. A delicious barbecue meal was served, and af- terwards a celebratory cake was cut to thank Councilman Rory Lancman for his generous support of the Chazaq Senior Program. DDailyaily ZZmanimmanim Week of Wednesday July 4- Tuesday July 10, 2018 WED THURS FRI SAT SUN MON TUES Dawn 3:41am 3:42 am 3:43 am 3:44 am 3:45 am 3:46 am 3:47 am Earliest talis & tefillin 4:27 am 4:28am 4:28 am 4:29 am 4:30 am 4:31 am 4:31 am Sunrise 5:29 am 5:30 am 5:30 am 5:31 am 5:31 am 5:32 am 5:33 am Latest shema 8:20 am 8:21 am 8:21 am 8:22 am 8:22 am 8:23 am 8:23 am Magen Avraham Midday 12:59pm 12:59pm 12:59pm 1:00pm 1:00pm 1:00pm 1:00pm Earliest mincha 1:37pm 1:37pm 1:37pm 1:37pm 1:37pm 1:37pm 1:37pm Plag hamincha Gra 6:55 pm 6:55 pm 6:55 pm 6:55 pm 6:55 pm 6:54 pm 6:54 pm & Baal HaTanya Sunset 8:29 pm 8:29 pm 8:29 pm 8:28 pm 8:28 pm 8:28 pm 8:27 pm Nightfall - 3 stars 9:19 pm 9:19pm 9:19 pm 9:18pm 9:18 pm 9:17 pm 9:17 pm emerge Nightfall - 72 minutes 9:41 pm 9:41 pm 9:41 pm 9:40 pm 9:40 pm 9:40 pm 9:39 pm Friday July 6, 2018: Candle lighting 8:11 pm Shabbos July 7, 2018 ends 9:19 pm; ends 9:41 pm R’Tam

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Rabbis Commend Israeli Government Minister For Placing Principle Before Politics he Coalition for Jewish Values, rep- “Minister Regev articulated a simple resenting over 1000 rabbis in public truth,” said Rabbi Yaakov Menken, Man- Tpolicy, last week commended Miri aging Director of the CJV. “Since ancient Regev, Minister of Culture and Sport of times and during Israel’s 70-year history, Israel, for listening to the dictates of her Jews in the Holy Land, men and wom- conscience and refusing political pressure en, traditional and secular, have ob- from American Jewish groups to create a served Jewish tradition at the Western special section at Israel’s Western Wall for Wall. The demand for changes comes their use. only from American liberal movements, In a post to Facebook last Wednesday, which are trying to divert attention Minister Regev wrote that for several from the utter collapse of their author- months “my conscience would not let ity and continuity here in America by me rest” as she considered the proposed attempting to intervene in Israel’s reli- changes. She said that “the desire of the gious affairs.” Reformers to upend the Western Wall to a “The Jewish people have survived RRavav AharonAharon KahnKahn speakingspeaking atat tthehe AAgragra DD'Pirka'Pirka MMishleiishlei ssiyumiyum place where men and women pray mixed for millennia because of, and only beis not acceptable to me and not to Jewish cause of, our adherence to our unique tradition... We have not returned to our traditions,” added Rabbi Pesach Lerner, holiest of sites in order to disgrace it.” President of the CJV. “To continue those Gala Siyum Celebrates Nine Years Of The CJV pointed out that by targeting traditions, especially at our holiest sites, American Reform agitators, Ms. Regev ensures our survival. We call upon the contradicted the claims of those Re- Prime Minister to join Minister Regev Learning Mishlei form leaders to be fi ghting for “women’s and continue to respect our hallowed By M. Lowinger dous gratitude to HaKadosh Baruch Hu for rights.” traditions at the Western Wall.” the z’chus of being involved.” He pointed or many people, Sefer Mishlei is out that the very fi rst Mishlei shiur was known as the sefer in Tanach writ- held back in November of 2009. “Little Ften by Shlomo HaMelech that ex- did I know then that it would grow from plores human nature, chochmah, and a seedling to the major Torah movement yir’as Shamayim. But to the 75 dedicated that it is today.” members of Rabbi Aharon Kahn’s Mishlei R’ Ezra credits Rav Kahn for much of shiur, it’s so much more. And this week, the shiur’s success. “He explains the most after learning 780 shiurim on Mishlei in a esoteric concepts in a way that we can all shiur that lasted close to nine years, they understand. Just listen to the hundreds of celebrated a very special and well-deserved shiurim on Kol HaLashon to get a sense of siyum on the sefer. his masterful presentation. The amount of The Mishlei shiur is part of Agra D’Pir- work he puts into this shiur boggles the ka, an organized morning learning pro- imagination.” Aside from the 780 shiurim gram geared towards local professionals, available on the Kol HaLashon archives, business owners, college students, retir- Rav Kahn also compiled fi ve s’farim that ees, and anyone else who wishes to in- include 2,730 pages of text to help clarify crease his limud haTorah. The program the words of the Mishlei. It is a monumen- was founded by R’ Ezra Klein of Brooklyn tal achievement indeed. and runs from 9:30 to 11:30 a.m. with an A plaque was presented to Rav Kahn impressive roster of magidei shiur at each at the siyum, after which he expressed location. There are today Agra D’Pirka his personal gratitude to the members programs thriving in the communities of of the chaburah. “You have to be at my Flatbush, Boro Park, Queens (Kew Gardens end to understand what it is to look out Hills), Lakewood, Miami, and Monsey. at such a choshuve olam,” he said. “You The Mishlei shiur was held on Monday made the difference that led to my in- PProminentrominent BBDSDS aactivistctivist AArielriel GGoldold wwasas ddeniedenied eentryntry iintonto IIsraelsrael SSundayunday and Wednesday mornings, and some mem- tense preparation for this shiur, some- bers of the chaburah claim that it was “the times till three or four a.m. It sounds highlight of my week.” Rabbi Kahn quotes corny, but these eight and a half years the Vilna Gaon in calling Mishlei, “the best were one long love affair between rebbe Rabbis Welcome Israel Policy musar sefer there is.” and talmidim – talmidim who are chavei- Studying Mishlei takes time, and the rim and y’didim.” chaburah was in no hurry. “I would pre- Rav Kahn also thanked the wives, call- Refusing Entry to ‘Anti-Semitic’ pare sheets, copying out the relevant ing them “n’shei chayil who are making m’farshim. It took hours and hours be- your husbands into kollel yungeleit. We cause these are not easy p’sukim to read.” are very grateful.” BDS Activists The result, he says, is “an unbelievable But this is hardly the end of the story. n response to news that a prominent East itself - because their concern is not shiur. The people are very involved. There’s The chaburah may have fi nished learning American Jewish BDS activist has human rights, but hatred of their own a lot of enjoyment in learning Mishlei and Mishlei, but they look forward to begin Ibeen refused entry to Israel, the Coa- Jewish heritage. a tremendous feeling of accomplishment. learning Koheles as soon as the summer lition for Jewish Values issued the follow- The CJV further called attention to its It’s real and relevant to our lives. It covers is over. And chances are that they will be ing statement: statement made last year, when another the whole gamut: lives, relationships, our joined by countless others eager to glean BDS is transparently anti-Semitic, ee- American group was refused entry: "Isra- children, our shalom bayis. If it’s learned the deep wisdom of sifrei Tanach. rily reminiscent of boycotts historically el’s decision is prudent, reasonable, and properly, it covers every aspect of under- “I have one request to ask all of you,” perpetrated against Jews by our worst entirely justifi ed. No government is ex- standing a person’s personality. We left said Reb Ezra during the siyum. “Bring enemies. Yet history is also replete with pected to welcome those who advocate almost no stone unturned.” your friends, your family members, and examples of Jewish renegades who de- for that nation’s destruction. In the case A sense of accomplishment was evident your acquaintances. Tell everyone about famed their own people in order to gain of Israel, an individual who... displays ig- at the siyum itself. Clearly, everyone was Agra D’Pirka.” personal acceptance and favor. Today's norance of the classic signs of anti-Sem- feeling like he was part of something big. For more information about Agra D’Pir- Jewish leftists promote BDS while ignor- itism and aligns herself with those anx- “We are celebrating an extraordinary mile- ka, call Chaim Fuhrer at 347-943-6240 or ing human rights crises in Asia, Africa, ious to shed Jewish blood is yet more stone,” said R’ Ezra. “And I have tremen- email him at [email protected]. South America and of course the Middle dangerous and thus even less welcome."

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HANC Middle School’s Eighth Grade Graduation

he Hebrew Academy of Nassau Coun- L’Hodos LaShem – it is good to give thanks of the evening. This was followed by a dents, Caity Davis and Naftaly Over, were ty (HANC) Middle School’s Eighth to Hashem. Following the invocation, Mrs. montage of the students’ years in middle chosen to read their refl ections. Next, TGrade Graduation took place on Morey, the assistant principal, offered school. Adin Moskowitz, Torah Umada the audience was mesmerized by gradu- Wednesday, June 20, in the school’s audi- words of greeting. She told a fantastic story award recipient, spoke about the impor- ate Tori Aviram, who played “A Million torium. The room looked very festive with and reminded the students that each one tance of being thankful and having grati- Dreams” from The Greatest Showman on balloons and a “2018” arch through which of them had specifi c strengths with which tude for everything one has in his/her life. her fl ute. the students walked down the aisle. The to serve those around them. Principal Rabbi Elliot Hecht spoke The evening concluded with a bene- graduates looked extremely proud as they Abigail Mottahedeh, one of the Torah about the importance of being thankful diction delivered by Yaira Goldress and walked down the aisle, and their parents, Umada Award recipients, spoke next. Ab- for and building on what the previous Eli Radinsky who were Pras Hitztaynut grandparents, and great-grandparents were igail spoke about how each journey in life generations have done for us. He point- award winners. They spoke about the im- certainly shepping a lot of nachas. has rough patches but they mold you into ed out that everyone should take note of portance of thanking their family, friends, After the processional and the nation- “a stronger more confi dent individual.” things and not just let them pass you by. and HANC for providing such a warm at- al anthems, Gabi Ben-Hamo and Aderet She mentioned that she was thankful for Making the extra effort will take you far. mosphere that allowed so much learning Weiss, Pras Hitztaynut award recipients, everything that she learned in HANC. This year, the eighth grade students and growth to occur. We wish all of the delivered the invocation. They spoke about The program continued with a per- wrote their refl ections on what HANC graduates and their families much bra- the theme of the graduation, which was Tov formance by the graduates on the theme Middle School means to them. Two stu- chah and hatzlachah!

Ezra Academy End Of Year Activities YHT Teams Up With Cohen Children’s

zra Academy, like most high schools, fi nished their fi nals and Regents Medical Center Eexaminations last week. But that his past school year, Dr. Roya compliance with recommendations. wasn’t the end of the year for all of their Samuels, a Yeshiva Har Torah par- Both the school and hospital are ex- students. One of their unique programs, At- Tent and Assistant Professor of cited to continue this model with fu- eret Michal, where girls come once a week Pediatrics at Zucker School of Medicine, ture projects to educate YHT students, to spend a half hour learning extra Torah, and Dr. Allison Driansky, director of including anti-bullying and healthful continued their school year. the Community Pediatrics rotation for eating campaigns. The girls were invited on a special Shabba- pediatric residents at Cohen Children’s ton to West Hempstead. The girls were housed Medical Center, partnered the school by residents and ate all the meals by Rabbi Di- with a quality improvement project at amond, the rebbe of the program. They had the hospital. the special privilege of having a private ses- The collaboration eventually devel- sion with Rabbi Yehuda Kelemer, the Rabbi of A partialpartial ppictureicture ooff tthehe AAteretteret ggirlsirls wwithith RRabbiabbi oped into a multi-stage project dubbed the Young Israel of West Hempstead. He spoke DDiamondiamond the “YHT Scrub Club.” to the girls about the beauty of Shabbos and Pediatric residents visited the school then held a question-and-answer session. years. Following Havdalah, the girls were initially to observe common hygiene Over the course of Shabbos, each of the all given a special gift, an offi cial Ateret practice among students and faculty, girls shared a d’var Torah, some on the par- t-shirt. An amazing Shabbos was had by returned to do a full day educational in- shah and others tying their message back all, and defi nitely helped charge their bat- tervention, and then returned again to to things they learned throughout the teries for the upcoming summer vacation. reinforce healthful habits and monitor

SHA Celebrates Class Of 2018 ilverstein Hebrew Academy (SHA) is and beyond. proud to announce it recently held “Our students are advancing to the top Smoving-up ceremonies for its pre- high schools in the tri-state area, which school and elementary school students, speaks to our dedication to ensure each as well as a graduation ceremony for the child achieves excellence in both their aca- class of 2018 middle school students. Mid- demic and Judaic studies,” said Shireen But- dle school students will advance to the man, head of school at SHA. “We focus on top Yeshiva high schools throughout the creating a family community within SHA tri-state area next fall. The Class of 2018 is and instilling responsibility and devotion SHA’s third middle school graduating class. for one’s community in our students. We The balance between exceptional academ- believe this is the foundation that helps Shore Hebrew Academy High School, RA- SHA offers outstanding secular and ic and Judaic programs of study, coupled ensure their successful future.” MAZ High School, Yeshiva University High Jewish studies for students in grades pre-k with individual attention for each child, To date, SHA eighth grade students have School for Girls (Queens), DRS Hebrew through eighth grade. For more information has successfully prepared SHA’s middle been accepted into the Hebrew Academy Academy of Long Beach, and Bet Rivkah about the Silverstein Hebrew Academy, vis- school students for success in high school of Nassau County High School, North High School for Girls (Crown Heights). it shagn.org, or call 516-466-8522.

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here’s a well-known term that I would on your “thinking cap.” What was it? perfect? Be honest. The important point the land by Jewish farmers who keep all ag- like to look at from a different per- The answer is simple: the founding of the to stress is that despite the imperfections, ricultural halachos. Let me summarize and Tspective, and it’s called “game-chang- modern State of Israel in 1948. Until we build the shortcomings, and the high price of rephrase all this into one simple sentence: er.” Political analysts have written many the Beis HaMikdash and restore the Davidic gasoline, this is the greatest gift our nation What our grandparents dreamed about, we articles trying to fi gure out exactly what dynasty with Mashiach ben David, nothing has received in the last 2,000 years! The live! the game-changer was for Donald Trump, will ever come close to that nation-changing Jewish NationJULY has returned 2018 home! Places People living in Israel – with all the when he ran against Hillary Clinton. Sports event. I believe that of all the game-changers mentioned in the Bible and studied in his- problems and imperfections – are living columnists are always writing about the the dream: the dream of 2,000 years of game-changer in a championship season, coming back to our homeland. You cannot and business people are constantly talking Let’s face reality: The founding of Medinat Yisrael was the game- ignore that reality. You cannot sit during about the game-changer in the economy or changing-game-changer of the last 2,000 years these Three Weeks and cry about Jerusalem stock market. Now it’s my turn, and I want when, instead, you should be dealing with to know about a completely different game- the construction and not just the destruc- changer. In the last 2,000 years, what was tion. the game-changer for the Jewish nation? listed above, this was the greatest of all, for tory classes have come to life with thou- This week, during the fast of the 17th of I would imagine that over these last 2,000 one reason: the State of Israel – and only sands of Jewish children running through Tamuz, Rabbi Yisrael Ariel, founder of the years there have been many game-changers the State of Israel – will ensure that Jewish the streets of Bet El, Shilo, and Kiryat Arba. Temple Institute, said that there’s no mitz- for our nation. The Mishnah/Talmud was life continues and will preserve all previous Mitzvos that were ignored for thousands of vah in the Torah to cry, but there is a mitz- defi nitely a game-changer and so was the game-changers. In 100 years from now, who years such as Sh’mitah, Orlah, and Maaser vah to build. How right he is! We need to printing press. Rashi was a game-changer in Europe will know how to read Rashi? Sheini are being studied and practiced build the Land, we need to build our Nation, and so was the Rambam and, many years lat- How many Jews in South Africa, Mexico, throughout the Land and, most important and we need to build the third and fi nal er, the holy Baal Shem Tov added his name and Argentina will be connected to the Baal of all, there’s more Torah studied today in Beis HaMikdash. No longer are we a weak to that unique list, as well. Sarah Schenirer Shem Tov and, sadly, even in the United Eretz Yisrael than ever before! and broken people. Our King has given us was unquestionably a game-changer with States, outside of a few pockets of Torah Baruch Hashem, what a privilege it is strength, motivation, direction, and all the her founding of the Bais Yaakov network communities, who will send their daughters to see a strong Jewish army, houses being tools necessary to repair 2,000 years of dam- and – as unfortunate and tragic as it was – to Bais Yaakov? Let’s face reality: the found- built across the country in the tens of thou- age. Let’sAUGUST make it happen 2018now because… the the Holocaust was a game-changer, as well. ing of Medinat Yisrael (the State of Israel) sands, and delicious, sweet fruit grown in game has changed! But what else? What event – in the last 100 was the game-changing-game-changer of the years – changed the face of the Jewish world last 2,000 years. Shmuel Sackett is a 100% product of Queens. He was born in Middle Village and moved forever? Think about something so grand, so As I have written many times in the past, to KGH shortly before his bar-mitzvah. He graduated from YCQ (1975) and YHSQ (1979). He awesome, and so incredible that was done my love for the State of Israel does not was Havurat Yisrael’s fi rst Youth Director (4 years) and started the fi rst 2 NCSY chapters to our nation that, simply put, changed blind me to the truth. Things here are not in Queens. Shmuel made aliyah in 1990 and co-founded Manhigut Yehudit, together with life for every Jew on the planet – including perfect, but what is perfect in life? Is your Moshe Feiglin. His website is www.JewishIsrael.org Sackett is married with 6 children and 4 those who hadn’t even been born yet! Put job perfect? Are your kids perfect? Are you grandchildren. He lives in Herziliya Pituach. Community Calendar Compiled by Rebecca Wittert THE CALENDAR FOR ALL EVENTS IN QUEENS

Woodside). With Charlie Harary, Rabbi YY JULY 2018 Jacobson, Rabbi Eli Mansour, and Rav Da- At 8:15 p.m., Rabbi vid Yosef. Tickets $18, $36, and VIP. For tick- Zvi Lew, popular ets and information, please call 718-285- limudei kodesh edu- 9132 or email [email protected]. cator, will deliver Tuesday Tuesday 10 the second of his At 6:30 p.m., Queens weekly summer shiurim for women on Hatzolah will hold Your business can sponsor TO ADD YOUR EVENT “Interesting Personalities in Tanach” at its Premier Men’s the QJL Community Calendar. TO OUR COMMUNITY CALENDAR, PLEASE EMAIL THE EVENT, DATE/TIME, PLACE, Congregation Etz Chaim of Kew Gardens Event at the Queens Please contact Yaakov at 718-880-2622 or e-mail AND A BRIEF DESCRIPTION TO: Monday 23 [email protected] [email protected] Hills (147-19 73rd Avenue). For more infor- Museum. Lavish mation, please call 718-575-0594. barbecue, wine tasting, rafÔ es. Perfor- mance by Ohad. $180 per person. To RSVP, At 6:15 p.m., the please call 917-717-2131 or visit queenshatzo- Young Israel of Kew lah.org/bbq. Gardens Hills will hold the sixth lec- Shabbos 14 AUGUST 2018 ture in its Summer Shabbos Afternoon Lecture Series for men Bonei Olam Queens and women. Doron Hershkovitz will will hold a barbecue speak on the topic, “Israel as seen through with entertainment the job market.” by Eli Levin at the 1 Wednesday Wednesday home of Hudi and At 7:30 p.m., Chazaq Orit Newman (135-10 78th Road, Kew Gar- will hold its sixth dens Hills). For more information, please annual Big Event at call 212-252-1212 (ext. 229) or email ycs@bo- the Elite Palace (89- Sunday 15 neiolam.org. 02 GarÓ eld Avenue,

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Ahavah Rabah 19 Loving All of His Children…All of the Time

efore we proceed to the conclusion and your descendants for eternity, and He av Yaakov Y. Hamburger), Rav Hamburger and all of Jewish history was predicated of our brachah, we would like to is involved in every aspect of your life. He writes the following: on this one theme, the great love Hashem Bshare one powerful thought from gives you a special phone number, which “Rabbi Miller approached the pursuit of has for His beloved children, the progeny the Vilna Gaon. He quoted the Gemara in only you have, and he tells you that you loving Hashem from every angle. He taught of the Avos. When internalizing this, a well- Chulin 91b, which states that klal Yisrael is can call him 24/7. that a tremendous resource for acquiring spring of love of Hashem would open up more beloved to Hashem than the mal’achei within him. ha’shareis, the heavenly angels. The Gaon “His relationship with Hashem was in- states that when we say “v’keiravtanu Not only is Hashem choosing us despite our unworthiness, but He deed his greatest pleasure. It elicited from l’Shimcha ha’gadol,” this is what we are say- him unbridled enthusiasm and excite- ing: Hashem has brought us closer to Him chooses us with love even while we are unworthy ment.” than the mal’achim are. May we, too, merit to take pleasure in The conclusion of this brachah is in the – and to feel – Hashem’s great love for us present tense. Hashem is choosing us con- The Anshei K’neses HaG’dolah, who a love for Hashem was contemplating the as a nation and as individuals, and may we stantly, even though we may not deserve formulated the Birchos HaTorah and great love Hashem has for us. The more one feel and display love for all of His children to be His nation right now. Not only is He our brachah with prophecy, wanted us feels the great love of Hashem toward him, as well. choosing us despite our unworthiness, but to remember each and every day of our the more one will reciprocate with feelings As part of our new Mitzvah Series, daily He chooses us with love even while we are lives that today Hashem is choosing us of love. Hashem has limitless love for us, recordings of less than two minutes each day unworthy. with love. He loves us eternally (“Ahavas both as a nation and as individuals. This are available. Sign up by sending an email Each morning, we recite the Birchos Olam”) and abundantly (“Ahavah Ra- was among the most passionate and all-en- to [email protected] and put the word HaTorah, which contain the phrase, “that bah”). Our brachah begins and ends with compassing themes Rabbi Miller discussed. “Subscribe” in the Subject line. In addition, He selected us from all the nations.” Imag- a proclamation of Hashem’s great love “He often pointed out that Tanach uses we now have a daily one-minute recording ine if the wisest, most powerful, kindest, for us. the phrase “Elokei Yisrael, the G-d of the on Tefi lah. most compassionate, most generous, and Jews” no less than 165 times, and many To access Audio, Video, and Archives of wealthiest person in the world chose you Integrating Mitzvos Into Our Daily Lives times it states openly that Hashem loves previous Tefi lah segments, please visit www. as his adopted son or daughter. He treats In one of the most inspiring s’farim that us. In fact, his entire approach to Tanach WeeklyTefi lahFocus.com. you and considers you like an only child. this writer has ever picked up (Rav Avigdor He tells you that he will take care of you Miller: His Life and His Revolution, by HaR- You can direct any questions or comments to Eliezer Szrolovits at 917-551-0150.

Zimun #8 HHalachicalachic Highlights (For p’sak halachah, please ask your own rav.) Community Calendar Rabbi Ephraim Glatt, Esq. Late to the Party

Question: Ten men are making a zi- Explanation: someone drank separately but now hears should there be a difference between mun. There is an eleventh man who sepa- a zimun, he should answer the regular eating and drinking? Just like the case JULY 2018 rately ate or drank, but is now together I. Not Eating Anything zimun – “Baruch she’achalnu...” because where a man drinks separately from with the other ten for the zimun. What The Gemara in B’rachos (45a) states drinking is just like eating. Since he has the other ten men, the Pri M’gadim and should this eleventh man say during the that if someone did not eat or drink any- eaten/drunk, he can answer the regular the Mishnah B’rurah suggest that he an- zimun? thing but hears a zimun taking place, he zimun, even though he is technically not swers only “Baruch Elokeinu u’m’vorach should answer “Baruch u’m’vorach Sh’mo part of the zimun. Sh’mo...,” so, too, where a man eats sepa- Short Answer: If he ate food separate- tamid l’olam va’ed” to a zimun of three, The Aruch HaShulchan, as well as the rately from the other ten men, the Pri ly, many poskim allow him to answer and “Baruch Elokeinu u’m’vorach Sh’mo Shulchan Aruch HaRav (according to the M’gadim and the Mishnah B’rurah should the regular zimun (“Baruch Elokeinu...”). tamid l’olam va’ed” to a zimun of ten. interpretation of the Beis Baruch [48:49]), likewise suggest that he answers only If he only drank liquid separately, some This Gemara is brought down in the understand the rule of the Magen Avra- “Baruch Elokeinu u’m’vorach Sh’mo...” suggest that he should only answer the Shulchan Aruch (Orach Chayim 198:1). ham as applying to both a zimun of three Because of this problem, the sefer zimun that is normally said for an in- (“Baruch she’achalnu...”) and a zimun of Derech Yisrael suggests that the law of dividual who has not eaten or drunk ten (“Baruch Elokeinu she’achalnu...”) the Pri M’gadim and the Mishnah B’rurah anything (“Baruch Elokeinu u’m’vorach II. Drinking = Eating However, the Mishnah B’rurah (1) un- applies equally whether the eleventh Sh’mo...”). The Magen Avraham (1) rules that if derstands the Magen Avraham as being man drank or ate separately – in both limited to a zimun of three. He further cases he answers only “Baruch Elokeinu cites the Pri M’gadim (1) who queries, u’m’vorach Sh’mo....” Solution to this issue’s puzzles without answering, whether someone Yet, many Acharonim (see sefer Keitzad who drank separately but now hears a M’zamnin) understand the Pri M’gadim zimun of ten, should answer the regular and the Mishnah B’rurah based on its zimun (“Baruch Elokeinu she’achalnu...”) simple meaning: that there is a differ- or not. ence between eating separately and AUGUST 2018 The sefer Zimun K’Hilchaso (p. 18) drinking separately. When you eat sepa- notes that even according to the Pri rately and subsequently hear a zimun, M’gadim, someone who drank separately you answer the regular zimun – “Baruch but now hears a zimun of ten, should Elokeinu she’achalnu...” answer “Baruch Elokeinu u’m’vorach Next week’s topic: One man combines Sh’mo...” with nine other men for a zimun, but the one man will continue eating alone af- terwards. Does he have to remain silent III. What About Eating Separately? (and not eat) while the zimun leader is However, there appears to be a funda- reciting the fi rst brachah of bentching, or mental fl aw in the reasoning of the Pri may he continue eating immediately af- M’gadim and the Mishnah B’rurah. Why ter the zimun is fi nished?

Rabbi Ephraim Glatt, Esq. is Assistant to the Rabbi at the Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills and a practicing litigation attorney. Questions? Comments? Email [email protected].

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Have Family, Will Travel

am frequently approached by those to give to slaves to rebel against their who talk to me about my articles. owners in the South. Brown thought I Recently, people have been coming that once word of his act spread, the over to discuss articles written by other slaves would rebel and join with him. writers in the paper. They fi gure that if The raid was suppressed by US marines they tell me their criticisms I will write a led by then Colonel Robert E. Lee (later response consistent with their positions. commander of the Confederate Army). I’m sorry to disappoint those people and Looking back, the plan seemed crazy. others who like to read about Trump or There are historians who claim that Rubashkin; this column has none of the Brown suffered from mental illness. above. Others believe that Brown was a vision- People go on vacations for many rea- ary who felt that a bold move was nec- sons. Some do it just to get away from essary to shake up the country to deal work. Others do it because they want to with the issue of slavery. visit exotic, exciting places. There are Brown’s raid was successful in shak- cipation Proclamation, which ordered the sacrifi ce of those who fought to save those who go away just to relax. They ing up the country. His armed attempt to that all slaves should be released. At the Union. Imagine if the Confederates will stay at a hotel and just hang out. Go- free slaves played into the South’s fears that time, the pronouncement was more had been successful with British support. ing away to the country for the summer of abolitionists coming into their states symbolic than practical since the slaves The best-case scenario would have been is an example of a place where people and helping slaves rebel. The abolition- who were in the South were fi ghting the the United States split into two coun- go to relax. Then there are those who go ists came from the North, and thus the Union and thus would not abide by the tries, one of which having slavery. Who from place to place with a certain goal. southern states looked at the Union as a directive. knows whether either World War I or An example is taking a trip to Europe to threat. The battle and the issuing of the World War II would have turned out the see old Jewish communities. It may have been the catalyst for Emancipation Proclamation infl uenced same way if the United States had been In many families there are diverse the southern states seceding from the countries such as Great Britain, who be- split apart. opinions as to what type of vacation they I believe that by visiting places where should take. Like anything else, the more battles occurred we are giving respect people involved the more likely there Although none of my ancestors fought in the Civil War or were even in to those who fought and died there. It will be disagreements as to where to go shows that we have not forgotten what and what to do. It takes compromise to America at that time, it is important to appreciate the sacrifice of those they have done for our country. make family vacations work. who fought to save the Union My wife and daughter’s favorite part I am one of those who tries to do as of the trip was the Turkey Hill Experi- much as possible when I am on vacation, ence in Columbia, Pennsylvania. We with a specifi c goal of what I want to ac- learned all about the ice-cream-making complish. United States starting in December 1860. fore the battle were exploring the idea process and were able to create our own I just came back from a short vacation There are many other important histori- of helping the South. Great Britain had original ice cream fl avor. There were also with my wife and youngest daughter. cal events and other important individu- economic and political reasons why they free samples of various kosher ice cream My goal was to visit important Civil War als who resided in Harpers Ferry. I was would support the South. They needed and iced tea fl avors. sites. My wife and daughter had different fortunate to have a tour guide who was the cotton and were looking for revenge Another interesting place we went to goals. I am not going to go into detail of a walking encyclopedia on the history of at losing the American Revolution and was the National Watch and Clock Muse- every place we visited, but I will name Harpers Ferry. having a stalemate in the War of 1812 um near the Turkey Hill Experience. Jews a few. We fi rst started in Harpers Ferry, Not far from Harpers Ferry is the An- where they, and not the Canadians, understand the importance of time. Our West Virginia. Harpers Ferry is named tietam National Battlefi eld, located near burned the capital. day depends on time. For example, time after its founder, Robert Harper. My Sharpsburg, Maryland. The Battle at An- The issuance of the proclamation put regulates when we can pray and when wife asked why there is no apostrophe tietam has the distinction of having the the British in the untenable position that the Shabbat and holidays begin and end. in Harpers Ferry. The answer, according most soldiers killed, wounded, or miss- if they supported the South they would The improvement of technology the last to the US Board on Geographic Names, ing on any one day of the war. The date be supporting the continuation of slav- 1,000 years has made it possible for every is “apostrophes suggesting possession or was September 17, 1862, in which 22,717 ery. Also, the British knew that the north person to know the time to the second. association are discouraged within the were killed, wounded, or missing. The had access to greater numbers of soldiers The museum went though development body of a proper geographic name (Hen- battle ended up being a stalemate. How- than the South and thus, even if each of man’s ability to pinpoint the correct rys Fork: not Henry’s Fork).” Thus, the ever, for the Union it was a victory since battle ended up a stalemate, the Union time and showed a vast array of time- United States government took the apos- it dispelled the idea of invincibility of would ultimately be successful. pieces throughout the ages. trophe out of Harpers Ferry. the Confederate Army, which had been Although none of my ancestors fought Vacations can be fun and educational Harpers Ferry is known as the place winning every battle. in the Civil War or were even in America at the same time if you are willing to ex- where John Brown and 21 others on Oc- What is better known is what hap- at that time, it is important to appreciate pend the effort. tober 16, 1859, took control of the US pened after the battle. On September 22, Amory with the intent of obtaining arms 1862, President Lincoln issued the Eman- Warren S. Hecht is a local attorney. He can be reached at [email protected]

Rabbi Moshe Isserles

CONTINUED FROM P. 13 er, in 1550, the Rema was appointed Chief forced to end the debate and accepted the and swallowed the couple whole. Such Rabbi of Krakow, Poland. The following Rema as his equal. From then on, the two was the gadlus of the Rema: He (with before, and the Rema saw the need for a two stories demonstrate the immeasur- maintained a friendly relationship. Hashem’s help) in the 1500s performed a new Code of Law. However, Rabbi Yosef able greatness of the Rema: One of the tax collectors of Poland’s miracle that happened in Midbar Sinai Karo of Tz’fas, Israel, also saw this need Approximately a week after the King Sigismund II, in the times of the in 1313 BCE (the Hebrew year 2448) when and had begun compiling a Code of Law 20-year-old Rema was named Chief Rabbi, Rema, was a non-religious Jew who had Korach sinned. The story continues: called the Shulchan Aruch, the Set Table. the bishop of the city challenged him to changed his name to Stefan. Stefan, a ko- When the bishop, who persuaded King Upon its publication in 1565, the Rema re- a debate, saying, “The Jews have chosen a hen, wanted to marry a divorcee. Follow- Sigismund II to listen to Stefan and not vised his work and called it HaMapah, the young leader to mock me; now my priests ing halachah, the Rema forbade the mar- the Rema, heard the news, he went crazy Tablecloth, an Ashkenazic commentary to and I will mock them.” The discussion riage and refused to marry off the couple. and had to be contained in a room so he the Shulchan Aruch. In doing so, he unit- included a conversation of philosophy. When the matter was brought before King wouldn’t hurt anyone. ed both Ashkenazic and Sephardic Jewry Here, the bishop thought, he would score Sigismund II, he commanded the Rema to The Rema continued writing s’farim under one Code of Law for centuries to a telling point (i.e., win the debate) over marry the couple. The wedding was to and passed away on Lag BaOmer (the 18th come. the Rema. However, the Rema matched take place in the marketplace. Just as the of the Hebrew month of Iyar) 1572. His The Rema married Golda, Rabbi every question asked by the bishop with Rema was about to begin ofﬁ ciating the four children and his tens of s’farim sur- Shachna’s daughter, in 1549. One year lat- a deﬁ nite answer. Finally, the bishop was cursed wedding, the ground opened up vived him.

36 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 26 (#268) • July 5, 2018 DDatingating Today Goldy Krantz Awkward Situation Part I

CONTINUED FROM P. 1 he didn’t want to feel like he was intrud- rifi c time and she has come to rely on This isn’t healthy for anyone involved. He ing on a private family moment. At that and trust him. Yet, my son would like to doesn’t want the girl or her family to come seemed that her son was in a situation from point, they didn’t know that the mother move on. He feels horrible about what to rely on him more than they already do. which it was diffi cult to extricate himself had been niftar. has happened and has tried to remove We know that the situation will get messy. without feelings being hurt (by more than As you can imagine, it was a compete himself from the situation and the fam- We know that it can’t be helped. But we one person) and possibly giving himself a tragedy. ily as best as he could without saying the want this done in the nicest possible way, bad reputation. The situation was hard for My son had not had the chance to tell actual words of, “I don’t want to see you if that is even an option. all involved, and this was far from your the girl that he didn’t think the relation- anymore.” He has said to her that work is We know that this must be done. Each typical shidduch problem. ship was going to work out and to end keeping him very busy and that he doesn’t day that passes without a breakup is an- things before he drove her to the hospi- want to intrude. But the girl keeps calling other day that my son becomes more and Dear Goldy: more deeply involved and entangled with My son has an issue, and my husband this girl and her family, and the more hurt and I, even his rebbe, are unsure of how He doesn’t want to be known as the guy who broke up with a girl they will be; but yet, my son wants his life to advise him about it. There is no right right after her mother died, but he needs to move on back and wants to date other girls. or wrong answer here, but there is a lot of What do we do? Any ideas? uneasiness. Miriam My son is in his mid-20s and was dat- tal. He was going to talk with her as he and telling him that he is wanted and it ing a girl for about a month. He had been dropped her off at home. But things didn’t isn’t an intrusion. Someone suggested that Miriam and I corresponded a few times confi ding in my husband and me that he work out as planned. In the days that fol- we get the original shadchan involved to over the course of a week. I provided ad- wasn’t “feeling it” and that this girl may lowed the mother’s passing, the girl kept break the news to her, but after dating vice but told her that her son had to do not be right for him. My husband and I calling my son. She asked him to come by for several weeks and going through this what he felt was the right thing and to do supported our son’s decision, but we told during shiv’ah and she would spend time heartbreaking time, my son feels it would it in the right way. him to take the girl out one more time, talking to him apart from her family dur- be cruel to have a third party break up I will publish my answer, but I want to “just to be sure.” ing shiv’ah. My son felt very awkward and with the girl. hear from readers as to what they would At the end of what was supposed to be strange during this. Apparently, the girl My son and I know that feelings will be advise Miriam’s son to do in this situation. the last date, according to my son, the girl thought their relationship was fi ne and hurt, and he may end with a bad reputa- I am looking forward to reading your received a call from her father saying that had no idea that my son was going to break tion, depending on how this is handled. responses. I may publish a few of them in her mother had been taken to the hospital up with her on that awful night. The family He doesn’t want to be known as the guy a future column – if permission is granted. and she had to come right away. It turns has come to rely on my son coming over who broke up with a girl right after her Stay tuned. out that the girl’s mother had a heart at- and helping the girl deal with her mother’s mother died, but he needs to move on. Hatzlachah to you all. tack and passed away. My son drove her death as well as running small errands. to the hospital, but did not go in with I have spoken with my son about this. Goldy Krantz is an LMSW and a lifelong Queens resident, guest lecturer, and author of the girl, telling her that it was best to be He doesn’t want to break up with the girl the shidduch dating book, The Best of My Worst and children’s book Where Has Zaidy with close family at a time like this, and now, because she is going through a hor- Gone? She can be contacted at [email protected].

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Dressing For Court Myth: If you’re a civilian appearing in court, you have to fi t and fl atter you. If they don’t fi t or fl atter, them with colored or printed shoes. Same you’ll look sloppy and that’s disrespectful. thing with a bag; if you do carry a bag, keep get dressed up fancy. Classic neutrals or secondary neutrals are all it clean and refi ned and neutral. It’s best to good. It’s best to go with solid colors here; carry only what you absolutely need so as to Truth: You don’t have to go that far. prints might come off overdone. It’s a good avoid any fuss. idea to have one small pop of a brighter For makeup, a basic face is all you need. very now and then I wonder what I’m The good news is it’s not hard to dress color near your face. Consider using iris Even out your skin, conceal as needed, going to write for my next column, correctly. colors for your pop; those colors come off defi ne your eyes, and add subtle color to Eand then something comes up on my Gentlemen, all you need are plain trou- softer and less aggressive, but they still di- cheeks and lips. Do not go beyond that. If social media feed that deserves an answer. sers and a shirt with buttons and a collar. rect people to look you in the eye, thus you’re wearing hair (your own or a sheitel), Recently, a couple of people have asked Both must be solid. Classic neutrals are best, commanding respect. But the rule of “don’t make sure the style and color are simple about what to wear if they’re appearing in and fl attering. If possible, pull your hair up court for whatever reason. And of course I or back so the focus is your face. Yes, you answer there, and now I’m answering here. My usual buzzwords for dressy casual are clean, neat, and flattering, can get away with non-sheitel coverings, but From me, you get the truth. and those apply here they too have to be subtle. A simple hat (no If you work in the court, whether as a wide brims), beret, or mitpachat are all fi ne. lawyer or something else, then you have to As with your base outfi t, classic neutrals or dress a bit formally. Law is considered a for- but it’s okay to go with a secondary neutral overdo it” applies here. Normally I recom- secondary neutrals are best. But make sure mal corporate culture and court is one area for the shirt if that fl atters you. It is okay to mend one showstopper accessory, but here the neutral or secondary neutral fl atters where you defi nitely have to dress formally. wear your jacket with matching trousers. it’s best keep your pop of color small. you; you need to appear healthy. If you wear If you’re a civilian, however, then you can And it’s okay to wear a tie (either solid or It’s best to wear real shoes for this (un- a mitpachat, keep the style very simple. dress “dressy casual” for this. Maybe you’re with a very subtle print), but if you’re going less you have health issues, in which case When dressing for any kind of court ap- a litigant. Maybe you’re there to support to do that, leave off the jacket. Unless you’re you need to wear what your doctor recom- pearance, keep in mind that you do respect someone. Maybe you’re on jury duty. No a defendant or an employee in the court, mends). Flats or low heels in classic neutrals the court and the people involved. Looking matter why you’re there, you need to come you don’t need to wear a full suit. For shoes, are best; you want to direct people to look the part will make things a lot easier. Hat- off as respectful. dark neutral loafers are best. If your hair is you in the eye and you don’t want to distract zlachah. My usual buzzwords for dressy casual are long, pull it back so that the focus is your clean, neat, and fl attering, and those apply face. If your hair is short, make sure it’s neat. Meira E. Schneider-Atik is a wardrobe organizer, personal shopper, jewelry designer, here. But for court you also need to keep If you have facial hair, keep it trimmed. If and fashion writer/blogger and speaker. She helps women look great while saving time, things refi ned and conservative. Your ap- you’re shaven, make sure you’re clean-shav- effort, and money, all within tznius guidelines, and she’ll add to that with custom-de- pearance always makes a statement about en with no stubble. signed jewelry. Read more about her ideas on her blog- www.truetzniutistruebeauty.word- you, and for court appearances you need to Ladies, we have a few more options, but press.com. She also has a YouTube channel, “Look Your Best in Mitpachot,” where she does make the statement of “I respect this court the basic rules apply. A simple dress or skirt- head-wrapping tutorials, and she is also available for private demonstrations. She can be and the people involved here.” and-top outfi t are both fi ne as long as they reached at (718) 644-6135 or at [email protected].

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38 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 26 (#268) • July 5, 2018 NNutritionutrition Notes Alice Harrosh Overcoming Emotional Eating

CONTINUED FROM P. 1 feel or thoughts we don’t want to have. Tell yourself that it’s okay to feel sad, mad, Can you relate? scared, tired – you name it. Welcome your It’s called emotional eating, and it hap- negative emotions and approach your feel- pens more often than you might think. You ings with kindness, and your body will be- don’t always have to clean out your fridge gin to understand that it no longer has to in one night to fall victim to emotional eat- overeat to protect you from your feelings. ing, either. This can actually happen at any Plus, through listening to your emotions time, when you ﬁ nd yourself eating for rea- you’ll discover what it is you truly want sons other than satisfying actual physical and can create new strategies on how to hunger. combat those feelings. Here are four powerful tools for how 2. Maintain the pleasure principle. to try to put an end to emotional eating Make pleasure a priority in your life! for good. Following these steps takes Flavor your water with fruit, wear soft,

Discover your triggers and think of a plan. body that it’s safe to lose weight and your – it can be baby carrots or a few almonds If you know you eat when you’re lonely, plan to call a friend or write body doesn’t go into starvation mode. in your bag. Emotional eating can be your 4. Prepare for your next binge by knowing body’s reaction to feeling deprived, so cre- in your journal instead your triggers. ate new ways to not feel that way. Stock Discover your triggers and think of a your fridge with delicious, healthy foods, plan. If you know you eat when you’re pack your calendar with exciting things practice and a little bravery, but if you comfortable clothes, take bubble baths. lonely, plan to call a friend or write in to do, and always give yourself relaxation follow them not only will you stop eating Give your body and yourself other ways to your journal instead. Also, always carry time. emotionally, but you’ll also learn to start experience feeling good that don’t involve food with you so you never feel deprived Good luck! enjoying your food – and your life – in a from eating. whole new way. 3. Eat only when you’re actually hungry. Alice Harrosh, is a nutrition counselor and manager at Nutrition by Tanya, with 10 locations 1. Don’t abandon yourself. When someone is an emotional eater plus a brand-new one in Queens. Alice knows that making healthy choices is not always easy, as Emotional eating provides a release they tend to not eat when they’re actually she has been through the struggle herself. As an optimistic person, Alice’s favorite quote is: “It’s from discomfort, providing satisfaction hungry, which only makes them want to never too late to start eating better. If you have a bad morning, make it a better afternoon.” For when you’re feeling something you don’t eat a lot more later. Eating when you’re more information on Nutrition by Tanya or the TAP (Tanya-approved products) food line, please want to feel. Overeating takes our atten- hungry will not only make you less in- visit www.nutritionbytanya.com or call 844-Tanya-Diet (844-826-9234). For daily tips and inspiration away from feelings we don’t want to clined to binge, but it will also tell your tion, you may follow @nutritionbytanya on Instagram.

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40 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 26 (#268) • July 5, 2018 On TThehe RRoadoad Terri B. Kalker, Esq. Do Not Pass That Yellow School Bus

efore the advent of points for cell required to stop for phone-related offenses, passing a such buses even when Bschool bus in New York was second the bus is stopped on to only a speeding ticket of 21 or more over a multi-lane highway the limit – with respect to the points ac- in either direction. crued if convicted. A fi rst-time fi ne for il- The law states that legally passing a school bus is $250 to $400 the school bus needs and fi ve points on your licence. The law in to be clearly delineated as such and must because it is unreasonable for a driver to ers, law-enforcement offi cers, prosecutors, New York State even allows in some courts be painted national school bus chrome (yel- stop six lanes away. Moreover, one can and local judicial offi cials – to make sure the for a judge to impose a 30-day jail sentence. low). In addition, the bus must be stopped argue it can be dangerous to do so as driv- law is obeyed, violators are reported, and Governor Cuomo is even pursuing stricter to receive or discharge passengers. There are ers behind you may not be prepared to the law is enforced. To this end, police of- penalties for New York drivers who pass no time restrictions, and such a ticket can be stop as quickly and may not be able to fi cers recently began issuing summonses to stopped school buses. written anytime, anywhere. see the school bus. school bus drivers for not properly employ- Among others, on April 26, 2018, law- ing the safety lights and arm-mounted stop enforcement offi cers around New York sign they are meant to use when picking State participated in Operation Safe Stop If you were on the most western southbound lane of Main Street you up or discharging students. The driver of a Day. During “Safe Stop,” police offi cers are would be required to stop for a school bus six lanes and a median school bus is also charged with instructing on board school buses and in both marked said passengers to cross in front of the bus. and unmarked patrol cars primarily on bus away in the most eastern northbound lane The red lights must be used until the pas- routes that have a history of illegal-passing sengers are at least 15 feet from the bus and complaints. Sadly, this is often in heavily either off the street or on a private road or a Jewish-populated areas such as Borough To put this law into perspective: If you Reducing the incidences of illegal passing sidewalk. In some states, cameras have been Park and Williamsburg. On these types of were on the most western southbound of stopped school buses is easier said than placed on school buses to catch violations. days, the volume of tickets written for the lane of Main Street you would be re- done. The solution to this complex problem We must all do our part to reduce acci- specifi c violation they are enforcing is dras- quired to stop for a school bus six lanes requires the involvement and cooperation dents. No child should ever be struck trying tically increased. and a median away in the most eastern of many groups – motorists, school-bus driv- to get on or off a school bus. It is illegal in New York to pass a school northbound lane, provided that all the bus when it is stopped while its upper red provisions of the bus delineated above fl ashing lights are activated. The law ap- were in effect. As always, a police offi cer Terri B. Kalker, Esq., is the principal lawyer of the Law Offi ce of Terri B. Kalker, a law fi rm that, for plies to vehicles approaching from the rear can use his discretion and choose not to the past 25 years, concentrated on criminal and traffi c law. The fi rm is reachable via email at tbkesq@ as well as the front of the bus. Drivers are issue a ticket under those circumstances nyticketlaw.com or phone: 718-793-1900.

MMusicalusical NNotesotes (Fiction Serial) By Susie Garber Chapter 13: Ruty’s Story

Recap: Devori spots her father at the Ko- time in your club. She doesn’t sit in any sel. She’s surprised he didn’t contact her and class for that long.” come to visit. She thinks that maybe he is “Really? Are you sure?” It didn’t make planning to surprise her. She waits for him sense. I was feeling like a failure with her, and fi nds out he was not planning to visit and now Vera is saying I was a success. I her at all. didn’t think she was right. Soon we were munching on popcorn ack at the dorm, Vera was surprised and I wasn’t feeling so bad anymore. It was to see me. “I thought you would go hard that my father had come without tell- Bout with your father.” ing me and wasn’t even planning to see I turned away, so she couldn’t see my me. That idea of Bryna’s kept surfacing in tears. “Oh, maybe later.” my mind. Was he a spy? It just didn’t make Vera didn’t ask anymore, but she kept sense. No way. That was an absurd idea. trying to distract me. She seemed to know That night, Vera and I were walking I needed cheering, though nothing she sug- around when we saw a shiur advertised on then the challenge disappeared in their … gested was working too well. “Do you want a poster. Rabbi Arush would be speaking on lives. I bought the book. I thought about Three weeks after hearing that shiur, I to do an exercise routine? It’s fun.” emunah. “Let’s go,” I suggested. I needed to this idea. I had so many challenges. I really was continuously trying to say thank you “Not tonight. I think I’ll go buy some hear something uplifting. could use this. for challenging things. I had just fi nished brownies,” I said, thinking of my old re- “Well, we may need permission if it ends I stayed up late that night reading the with my writing club at Girls Town. I stayed source for comfort. past curfew.” Vera called the dorm counse- book. The idea was so fascinating. It was behind to fi nish writing my own piece “Let’s make popcorn,” she said. “I have a lor and she gave us permission to go. totally counter-intuitive. Yet, it made about gratitude when something unusual new popcorn maker.” The only problem with the shiur was it sense. If I could just say, “Thank you, happened. Ruty, who had been sitting in I resigned myself to popcorn, though was all in Hebrew. That didn’t really help Hashem, for all the painful events in my every week without talking or writing, sud- I felt sure a fudge brownie would have me at all. The good thing was that he was life, and I recognize that it hurts, but denly inched over to me and whispered in helped me right now. selling his new book, Say Thank You…See You have a plan and there must be a rea- my ear. “Can I show you something?” “I think it’s brave of you to take on Ruty,” Miracles, and it had an English translation. son this happened.” I fell asleep thinking she said suddenly. Vera explained that Rabbi Arush was say- about those ideas. CONTINUED ON P. 44 “I didn’t take her on. She was just stuck ing that when you truly can get to the point in my group and I’m not helping her in any of verbally thanking Hashem for whatever Susie Garber is the author of Denver Dreams (a novel, Jerusalem Publications, 2009), Memora- way at all.” diffi culty you are facing, then Hashem will ble Characters…Magnifi cent Stories (Scholastic, 2002), Befriend (Menucha Publishers, 2013), The Vera poured kernels into her popcorn take away the challenge. The book was full Road Less Traveled (Feldheim, 2015), fi ction serials and features in various magazines including maker and continued her positive chatter of stories like this of people who reached A Bridge in Time – historical fi ction serial (Binyan Magazine, 2017). She writes for the community despite my negativity. “You don’t realize inside of themselves and found a way to column for the Queens Jewish Link and she writes the Queens page for Hamodia. She works as your own strength. That girl sat the whole achieve this level of thanking Hashem and a writing consultant in many yeshivos and she teaches creative writing to students of all ages.

Vol. VII No. 26 (#268) • July 5, 2018 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 41 EEstatestate & Wills Monet Binder, Esq. Do You Really Need A Trust?

lthough many people equate “es- quirement to inform your heirs about tate planning” with having a will, the distribution of your assets. Athere are many advantages to hav- A common reason to create a trust is ing a trust rather than a will as the cen- to provide ongoing fi nancial support for terpiece of your estate plan. While there a child or another loved one who may are other estate-planning tools (such as not currently, or in the future, be able joint tenancy, transfer on death, benefi - to manage these assets on their own. ciary designations, to name a few), only Through a trust you can designate some- a trust provides comprehensive manage- one to manage the assets and distribute ment of your property in the event you them to your heirs under the terms you can’t make fi nancial decisions for your- provide. Giving an inheritance to an heir self (commonly called legal incapacity) directly and all at once may have unan- or after your death. ticipated effects, such as disqualifying One of the primary advantages of them from receiving some form of gov- having a trust is that it allows you to by- ernment benefi ts, enabling and funding pass the publicity, time and expense of an addiction, or encouraging irrespon- probate. Probate is the legal process by sible behavior that you don’t fi nd desir- which a court decides the rightful heirs able. A trust can also come with condi- and distribution of assets of a person tions that must be met for the person to who passed away, through the adminis- payable upon death or transfer on death qualify for a simplifi ed probate process. receive the benefi t of the gift. tration of their estate. This process can accounts. But joint tenancy and desig- This is highly dependent on the property Furthermore, if you ever become in- easily cost thousands of dollars and take nating benefi ciaries don’t provide the that is owned. capacitated, your successor trustee – the several months to more than a year to ability for someone you trust to manage In general, if your assets are worth person you name in the document to resolve. your property if you’re unable to do so. $100,000 or more, you will likely not take over after you pass away – can step Of course, not all assets are subject to For this reason, they are an incomplete qualify for simplifi ed probate and in and manage the trust’s assets, helping probate. Some exceptions include joint- solution. And, contrary to belief, having should strongly consider creating a trust. you avoid a guardianship or conservator- ly owned assets with rights of survivor- a will does not avoid probate. Considering the cost of probate should ship (sometimes called “living” probate). ship, as well as assets with designated You may be interested to know that if also be a factor in your estate planning. This protection can be essential in an benefi ciaries (such as life insurance, you or a relative has a modest estate, or Creating a trust can save you both time emergency or in the event you succumb annuities and retirement accounts) and it is going to a surviving spouse, you may and money in the long run. Moreover, to a serious, chronic illness. Unlike a if you own property in another state will, a trust can protect against court in- or country , the probate process will be terference or control while you are alive even more complicated because your and after your death. family may face multiple probate cases Trusts are not simply just about avoid- after your death, one in each state where ing probate. Creating a trust can give you owned property – even if you have you privacy, provide ongoing fi nancial a will. support for loved ones, and protect you Beyond the cost and time of probate, and your property if you are unable to this court proceeding that includes your manage your own assets. Simply put, the fi nancial life and last wishes is public creation of a trust puts you in the driv- record. A trust, on the other hand, cre- er’s seat when it comes to your assets ates privacy for your personal matters, and your wishes as opposed to leaving and confl icts and legal challenges can this critical life decision to others, like be avoided because there is no legal re- a judge.

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42 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 26 (#268) • July 5, 2018 RReal-Lifeeal-Life Reflections Sarah Shalek (Newcomb) Communication 101

he word “communication” was this picture. In my humble opinion, we been told I am so ready to begin Chapter said to me today numerous times must love the one we’re with. During the 2 by my rabbis, advisors, and profession- Tby more than one person. I pon- time I was at this wedding I also received, als. What is needed in order to marry and dered the defi nition of it and how it dif- via phone, messages of fl attery, praise, as make it work I do possess. I know how fered among those mentioned. All were well as provocative questions from oth- to give and receive love. I know how to lamenting a lapse from my end. I found ers. Thankfully, this wedding was entirely be mevater and fl exible. I have limited it interesting in what was not being said gender separated, in different buildings expectations – none of which are exter- by each of them. Many times, when we altogether, and I thoroughly enjoyed the nal, yet an abundance to share. I am ready fi nd fault with others it is a mirror refl ec- undistracted simchah. to be loyal and treat my man like a king. tion of something we need to correct in Communication is over-rated. I I know who I am, what I have to offer, ourselves. When I become disappointed watched as the chasan took the kallah’s and where I am headed. I am confi dent I in someone else I try to think about this hand for the fi rst time. I watched them can provide meaningful partnership and I read an article about an Amazon mil- and look for what it is I need to address. walk to the yichud room. I watched as affection encompassing physical, emo- lionaire regarding what we will regret I have found that disappointments and they re-entered the crowd later to cel- tional, and spiritual health. While I have when we are 80. It was not the things resentments come from expectations. ebrate. I noticed how confi dent they ap- learned how to be alone, I do not want we’ve done wrong. It was the things we I have worked hard on redirecting my peared both before and after. I watched to be alone. I do not want to come home have not done or said. I agree wholeheart- thoughts, trying not to react, and to rath- their parents, siblings, and families. They alone from shul or simchos. I do not want edly with this and preach it often, as you er accept and judge favorably. Ultimately, have no idea whether they will be able to come home to an empty house nor all know. It is time for us to forgive our- it comes down to say little and do much. to effectively communicate, at least by wake up alone. I do not want to go places selves and others and get on with the Actions always speak louder than words. the high standards society has set and or attend events alone. I do not. 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Vol. VII No. 26 (#268) • July 5, 2018 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 49 The Responsibilities Of A Jew CONTINUED FROM P. 12 Hashem. Now that Pinchas stood up to defend the honor of Hashem in front of them, they be- dukes and earls, the ministers and advisers – came inactive participants in that act as well, the entire assemblage representing all of those and so they were redeemed. who love and support the king. One of the sons stands up, walks to the A Member of the Royal Family throne, and sharply smacks his father, the This concept is very relevant to us in real- king. Then he sits back down in his seat – izing what it means to be a Jew. By dint of be- and no one says anything. Not a single royal ing born Jewish, a child now enters the ranks responds. No one protests. No one comes to of Hashem’s people. We represent Hashem; we defend the honor of the king. Now this situa- are His Chosen Nation and His children. That tion has intensifi ed exponentially. Not only is comes with tremendous rights and responsi- the affront itself dramatic, the marked silence bilities. When a Jew acts in a manner that is of the king’s family and friends is even worse. proper, it brings great honor to the King, and How can you not speak up? How can you not that person is rewarded accordingly. However, defend the honor of the king? when a Jew acts in a manner not befi tting his This seems to be the answer to the ques- station in life, it isn’t considered the act of one tion. When Zimri publicly committed this individual, it is the act of a representative of sin, it was a colossal affront to the honor of Hashem himself, and that single action be- Hashem. He was a nasi, one of the leaders of comes magnifi ed many times over. When that the generation. For such a man to commit act is done in public, there are two issues to this crime was horrifi c, but the silence of B’nei deal with: the act itself and the reaction of Yisrael was even worse. How is it that no one those witnessing, especially if those around protested? Wasn’t there even one person loyal are themselves of royal lineage. to Hashem? Isn’t there even one individual One of the most fundamental obligations of who will defend the king’s honor? The chilul a Jew is kiddush Hashem. By acting as the Torah Hashem was beyond description, and every directs us, we bring more honor to Hashem. person standing there was a part of it and By acting in a manner that is inappropriate, made it even worse. we bring dishonor to Hashem. Because we are By Pinchas standing up and acting, not children of Hashem, what we do refl ects onto only was he defending the honor of Hashem, Hashem. This greatly magnifi es the signifi - he was taking off a powerful claim against cance of our every move. When we recognize the entire nation. Before Pinchas acted, every our royal lineage, we can understand our great person there was a part of the silent majority, potential to accomplish, as well as the grave and by tacit agreement were part of the chilul responsibilities we have in life. Chaverim Day Camp Hosts Uncle Moishy

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