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.., . .-r..;.. .- ,; ... ... • for individual growth. They nurture; they share joys and sorrows, victories and defeats. L. Lange OKAPPAthe~y M KAPPA GAMMA 2 We Are Family 3 With a Lot of Support from My Friends When a mother's worst nightmare becomes reality, Kappa sisters are th ere. Volume 110, No.2 Summer 1993 4 Reunions Reunions recharge batteries and we "keep on going." 7 Marrying into Kappa The Kappa family extends beyond initiated members. 8 That Family Feeling Away from Home Whether providing elegant or casual lodging, Kappa innkeepers Lisa Lunney Thomson, ZK Managing Editor welcome their guests. Lois Catherman Heenehan, BL 10 Food from the Heart via UPS Associate Editor Cross-country meals become a booming business and a sandwich Jennie Miller Helderman, rn generation solution. Alumnae News/Aris 12 The Key for Ken Carol Lash Armstrong, 1'>./\ Chapter News The subscription continues for a husband. Linda Atkins Lange, BP6 Layout and Design A Legacy of Love Susan Frech Schmitt, EH Adoption is a legacy without bounds. Advertisi ng Manager 13 Life's Little Instructions from the Refrigerator Refrigerator lists keep the world spinning on course. The first college woman's 14 Breaking the Silence - A Portrait of Family Triumphs fraternity magazine, published continuously Helping a deaf child strengthens a family. since 1882. 16 Back from Nowhere A Kappa begins the journey to a sober new life. 28 Kappas Have Fun Falling Apart Together Editorial Board When Kappas gather as a family laughter is guaranteed. Cynthia McMillan Lanford, rn C hairman of The Key Publicati on DEPARTMENTS Gay Chuba Barry, !!.A hairman of Publicatio ns 18 Profiles 45 Accent on Alumnae Janice Harenbcrg Stockhoff, rB Fraternity Vice President 37 In Memoriam 48 Celebrating the Arts J. Dale Brubeck, rK 38 Foundation 54 Fraternity News Executive Director Lois Catherman Heenehan, Br 40 Kappas on Campus Jennie Miller Helderman, rn Lisa Lunney Thomson, ZK SPECIAL SECTION Please send inform ation and photographs 21 Membership Directory for The Key to the address listed below: KKG Headquarters and Foundation Office Lisa Lunney Thomson, Managing Editor P.O. Box 2079 ON THE COVER Columbus, OH 43216 Cynthia Hamil, Texas Christian, submitted this watercolor (614) 228-6515; FAX (614) 228-7809 and explained, " I painted a painting which symbolized for me the type of sisterhood and nurturing Kappa meant to me as an undergraduate and what it means to me now as an alumna." The painting is most a propos as this iss ue of Th e Key features the community of fa milie .. in the broad and T/1<• Key (IS 1063-4665) is published quarterly for na rrow sense, triumphs a ns sorrows, withing the circle 3.00 by Kappa Kappa Gamma Fraternity. 30 E. of Kappa. To'"' Sl.. Columbus. OH 43215. Printed in the nitcd tales of America. copyright Kappa Kappa Gamma Fratcrnil) 1993. ccond-clas postage paid at Columbus. OH. PO T lASTER: end address changes 10 The Key. P.O. BO\ 177. olumbus. OH For~ 1U1a t:011ttM:I Suaut Sd11nitt, A.dwrtlsing MIIIUiger; 43216. 4(J()J WdJtaobruw Way, Norcrot16, GA. 30092; (404) 441-0946, FAX (404) 840-8565. The Key, Summer / 993 1 We Are Family Varying the parameters of a general form anguage, like everything else in household under one roof; a group of are adopted into " global" families. our fast-changing world, changes individuals derived from common stock Newspaper stories tell of teenagers who L with the times. While learning ("the family of man"). struggle to keep their younger siblings new words and meanings, we are happy Family today may be what has been together as a family when both parents to retain some old faithfuls such as love, referred to as "the ever-evolving cast of are gone. Two-career marriages may cre loyalty and friendship. Even among characters who make up the American ate another sort of "global" family with familiar words, however, there are household." There has been a half-cen the parents working at opposite ends of changes - meanings acquire different tury of rapid change in family structure the country or the world. shadings, connotations, innuendos, and attitudes. However, "valuing the Strong families are built on two pow nuances. Twenty years ago we did not family should not be confused with valu erful commitments, say the experts: to know the term "CD" as either a financial ing a particular family form ," according nurture and protect the young while investment or a recording. A " bite" to a report by the Population Reference preparing them to join society; and to came from an angry animal or meant Bureau, which analyzes census and other protect and support the well-being of your child needed orthodontia. Change government data. the elderly. the spelling to "byte" and we now have a Although about 36 percent of all Varying the structure of a family does unit of computer capacity. Ten years ago American families are married couples not make it any less a family. Indeed, in we would have struggled to understand with children, a growing number of them mathematics, a family is defined as a set terms such as "infomercial," "advertori are "blended" stepfamilies. One in three of functions that can be generated by al," "spousal abuse" or "codependency." Americans is a member of a stepfamily varying the parameters of a general The word "family" has been undergo and that is expected to rise to one in two form. Think of that in terms of people ing societal changes as well. According by the turn of the century. Nearly one in a Kappa chapter or alumnae association to the dictionary, family refers to a fun eight families was headed by a single emerges! The parameters vary as new damental social group consisting of par parent last year and that parent was five members pledge and graduate, move ents and their offspring; a group of times more likely to be a woman. About into and out of an area. During their persons sharing a common a quarter of all the children, more than time within the parameters of a Kappa ancestry; all members of a 16 million of them, lived with only one "family," they create a set of functions parent in 1991. - opportunities for growth and social The makeup of extended fami development, leadership training and lies varies greatly .. older experience, means and opportunities for members being taken care helping others, and development of of at home or children personal standards and patterns as returning " home" with future guidelines. their children are the We ARE family .. .nurturing , support most frequent examples. ing, guiding our members while provid Children from various ing an atmosphere that encourages ethnic backgrounds growth and strength. - Lois Catherman Heenehan, Adelphi 2 Th e Key, Summer 1993 was born during my term as Kappa Province Director of Chapters. She was four years old before she knew that a "meeting" didn't have to last as long as three days ... my PDC visits to chapters. My mother was a Kappa. My dream for Stephanie was to enjoy college and sorority life as much as I had enjoyed it. The Tucson Alumnae Association sent me a beautiful plant at the beginning of rush week, and I believe in my heart that the members of Gamma Zeta Chapter might have pledged Stephanie. Kappa sisters came to the house to see me before they left the Phoenix area. Kappa sisters called before leaving the hotel. Kappa sisters sent flowers and cards and mementos. And it was my Kappa sisters ... from all three alumnae associations in our area - Phoenix, Scottsdale, and the East Valley .. .! found in my kitchen following the Memorial Service in Mesa. This was just the beginning of my Kappa family support. Cards and phone calls never stopped all last summer. The letters written and books received were welcomed and appreciated. I heard from dear Kappa friends who weren't at Con vention, from chapter Presidents whom I had never met, from alumnae associa tions in all parts of the United States and Canada. Kappa sisters took the time to visit me at our ranch in Colorado. Donations made to the Kappa Kappa Gamma Foundation in memory of Stephanie mean the world to me. Gener ous memorial gifts coupled with the number of Kappas and alumnae associa tions who were so thoughtful and kind were greatly appreciated. As you hon ored Stephanie, you honored me . Some of my Kappa friends had a gathering in Atl_anta just for the purpose of getting together five months after my loss. I joined them and like to believe othing in this world can just been killed in a one-car accident. As that they were checking up on me as well prepare any individual for the my friend said, "With 1,000 Kappas as enjoying each other's company. N loss of a child. It is certainly pulling for you, you are going to make My dear Kappa sisters, I have saved one of life's supreme tests. Faith, time, it." My Kappa sisters- my family at all your cards and letters. I reread them and the support of friends and family that moment- helped me to survive. often. I read and reread the books. I are the keys to recovery. I was most for We ARE family. The true signifi have made a beautiful iris collage from tunate, if one can be considered fortu cance of friendships is ever so penetrat the fronts of the cards you sent. Your nate, in the circumstances in which I ing in such time of crisis. Never in my life communications are my treasures for learned of the untimely death of my had my twenty years of Kappa volunteer my lifetime.