Parshas Vayera 20 Cheshvan | November 7, 2020 Candle Lighting Havdalah Torah Reading Haftorah Candle Lighting 11/13 4:41p 5:41p Bereishis 18:1 - 22:24 Melachim ll 4:1 - 4:37 4:35p

NAMELESS AND FAMOUS RABBI SHMUEL SILBER SHABBOS SCHEDULE Shabbos Night Avraham sat outside his tent recovering from his circumcision. The Bris Milah was performed at an 4:41p Candle Lighting advanced age as the ultimate display of allegiance and commitment to God. On the third day of his 4:45p Mincha followed by Kabbolas recovery, the Ribbono Shel Olam, God comes to visit Avraham and performs the mitzvah of Bikur Shabbos (outdoors) Cholim (visiting the sick). Shabbos Day All minyanim outdoors (except Hashkama) Now the Lord appeared to him in the plains of Mamre, and he was sitting at the entrance of the tent 7:00a Hashkama (Upstairs Beis Midrash) when the day was hot (Genesis 18:1) 9:00a Shacharis (9:16a Krias Shema) 4:30p Mincha The great Chassidic master, Levi Yitzchak of Berditchev (1740-1810), asks why the verse 4:55p Daf Yomi states, “Now the Lord appeared to him.” Shouldn’t it read, “Now the Lord appeared to Avraham”? 5:40p Maariv 5:41p Havdalah After the incredible sacrifice of the first patriarch, why not refer to him by name?

WEEKLY SCHEDULE The provides a mystical insight and explains that the letters of a person’s name are the Sunday 11/8– 21st of Cheshvan utensils into which his or her personalistic holiness is gathered and contained. Each letter of one’s 7:15a Shacharis (indoor/outdoor) name is a kli (utensil) into which one’s conferred and acquired holiness is stored. But sometimes a 9:00a Shacharis (indoors) person can do something of such great importance or accomplish something of such great 4:45p Mincha/Maariv (outdoors) magnitude that the letters of his name simply cannot contain all their acquired holiness. After Mon-Fri a.m. Avraham had undergone circumcision, following his departure from his homeland and way of life and 6:45a Shacharis (indoor/outdoor) then sitting in the heat of day looking for opportunities for Hachnosas Orchim, hospitality, he had 9:00a Shacharis (indoor) become so great that the letters of his name could not contain his personalistic holiness. Therefore, 4:45p Mincha/Maariv (outdoors) the Torah omits Avraham’s name, symbolizing his self-transcendent experience. Our first patriarch WEEKLY SHIURIM had simply grown beyond his name. Sun 8:00a Daf Yomi Mon - Fri The power of a name is that it often captures our essence. In fact, the Arizal explains that parents 5:45a Tzikdas HaTzadik are blessed with a spirit of prophecy when they name their child as the name has to fit the character 5:55a Daf Yomi and potential of the little baby. Yet, not even the parents know who this little person is or who he or Mon-Wed she will become. Online Emunah Minute Mon But names can also be limiting. At times we used to being known by a certain name and identity, 8:30p Semichas Chaver Program and we stop trying to grow and evolve. We must maximize our name and fill its letters with holiness suburbanorthodox.org/event/scp and accomplishment, but at times, we must transcend our names and work to become someone Online Perek Shira new. Our first patriarch changed from Avram to Avraham and then from Avraham to “him.” He had Wed accomplished so much until no name could describe or contain his holiness. Online Tehillim, Perek Shira, The 7 Habits of Highly Spiritual People We go through life with many names. When we are born, our parents partner with God to find a 8:30p SCP Chazara with Rabbi Richter suitable name which captures our yet unknown essence. As we get older, we acquire different Thurs names. I become a son, daughter, husband, wife, father, mother, friend, brother, and sister. And as Online Virtual Shabbos Drasha the journey progresses, I acquire different names, perhaps, reflecting my career or accomplishments. Each of these names is important and meaningful. But I must be self-aware enough to know when REMINDER the name I currently carry and am known by is holding me back and limiting my self-actualization. At Masks are required at all times, the identity of my youth is not befitting my more mature years. Too many times in life, we live minyanim, both indoor and with the same identity long after we have truly outgrown it. I would never wear shoes which are two outdoor. Please ensure that your mask is sizes too small, yet I live with an identity, with dreams and aspirations which are dated and need to worn properly covering the nose and be updated, reevaluated, and resized. My name is beautiful, but sometimes I outgrow it. It is in those mouth. moments that I must find the courage to find a new name and potentially live with no name as I SHUL HAPPENINGS create and cultivate my new identity. Motzai Shabbos Learning Begins this Week 11/07. 1 hour after Havdalah. Learning, Dvar Torah, Raffles, Pizza. Registration required. https://www.suburbanorthodox.org/event/ motzai-shabbos-learning.html

1 MEMBER NEWS DAVENING B’YICHIDUS GUIDELINES BIRTHDAYS COMPILED BY SOTC GABBAIM Evyatar Barnoy, Robert Benn, Eli Ben-Zev, Barry Dubin, Chaim Fogel, Janet Stacy General Kaplan, Talia Lawrence, Doniel Yitzchak Those davening without a minyan do not recite the tefilos of , Margalit, Yoseph Orshan, Simcha Pollack, Borchu or Kedusha and include the verse of Kel Melech Ne’eman before Mitch Posner, Tal Price, Talia Raskas, reciting Shema. Aaron Schor, Shoshana A. Zysman YAHRZEITS Friday Mincha Charles F. Appelbaum, Janice Arlene Recite the same Mincha as recited in Shul. Gavant, Morris Goldberg, Nathan Kabbalas Shabbos Holzman, Shirley Rosenbaum, Hyman Korn, Lisa Hamermesh, Norton Schwartz, Recite the same davening as recited in Shul. Annie Silverman, Aaron Simkin After the completion of Lecha Dodi, no more melacha (prohibited work) may be MAZAL TOVS: performed. Ari & Elisha Ross on the birth of a baby Friday night Maariv girl. Recite the same Maariv as recited in shul. Mel & Judy Pachino on the engagement of their daughter, Yael to Rob Goldberg If possible, recite the prayer of Vayechulu following the Amidah along with one other Yossi & Yona Openden on the bar person. If not, the tefila may be said alone. mitzvah of their son, BZ (Baruch Zev) Those davening without a minyan omit the prayer of Magen Avos following CONDOLENCES the Amidah. Robyn Schaffer on the loss of her mother, Repeat the three paragraphs of Shema after nightfall (5:40pm). Sharon Kundin. Robyn will sit in her home, 7121 Park Heights Avenue, Apt Shabbos Morning 109 . A sign-up system has been set up Recite the same Birchos Hashachar, Psukei D’Zimra and Shachris as recited in shul for visiting. https://signup.com/go/BTXGxsV Those davening without a minyan do not recite any tefilos for taking out the Torah Read the Torah portion of Veyera and the Haftorah from Melachim ll (Kings) 4:1 – 4:37. Recite Yekum Purkan. Those davening without a minyan only recite the first SPONSORSHIPS paragraph of Yekum Purkan. TORAH SPONSOR: All Recite Av Harachamim, Ashrei and the Mussaf Amidah. learning in the month of Cheshvan has Complete the davening as usual. Those who are not davening with a minyan been sponsored by Yoel & Sarah Kelman omit Anim Zemiros. in appreciation of all the learning and Shabbos Mincha Rabbi Silber’s dedication to the kehilla Recite Ashrei and Uva Le’tzion, the Amidah, Tzidkascha and Aleinu. and greater community DAY OF LEARNING: Seudas Shlishis Mel and Judy Pachino in Seudas Shlishis should begin before Shkia (4:58pm). commemoration of the 4th Yahrtzeit of Maariv – Motzai Shabbos Mel's father Baruch Simcha ben Yaakov Maariv begins at 5:40pm. z’l. May his neshama continue to reach The same davening as recited in shul, which includes the supplemental tefila of Atah the highest levels of shamayim. Chanantanu within the bracha of Atah Chonen. After completing the Amidah, recite SHABBOS DRASHA: Vihi Noam, Ve’atah kadosh and Vayiten Lecha, followed by Aleinu. In honor of Ellen Miller's birthday by her husband, children, and grandchildren. Akiva & Caryn Andrews in commemoration of the Shloshim of KIDDUSH PACKAGE Caryn’s father, Mr. Stanley Scheinberg, Yossi and Yona Openden, in honor of the Bar Mitzvah of their son, BZ. Sinai ben Shmuel V’Freidel z’l. DONATIONS: Josh and Becca Friedman in honor of a daughter born to Ari & Elisha Ross Aaron, Janice & Rivka Schwarzbaum Wishing Mr. Kiewe a very Happy Birthday Noach & Aleeza Oshry in memory of Sharon Kundin z'l, mother of Robyn Schaffer Sara Rubinstein & Family in memory of Chaim Ben Shmuel Moshe z’l, beloved husband, father, & grandfather.

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