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February 2018/Shevat-Adar 5778 a publication of United jewish federation of Volume 20, Number 1 Greater Stamford, New Canaan and Darien “Celebrating Purim Under Celebrating the Beauty of Persian Rule” Shabbat as One Community Dr. Shai Secunda to Speak at CAS Special Guest: Professor Jonathan Sarna By Michael Feldstein the Babylonian Talmud in Shabbat Across Stamford, choice of services. A dinner Dr. Shai Secunda, who its Sasanian context, Zo- New Canaan and Darien, an will follow. is currently engaged as the roastrianism and critical annual community Shabbat The guest speaker this Jacob Neusner Professor of approaches to the study dinner and celebration year will be Dr. Jonathan Judaism at Bard College, will of religion. sponsored by the United Sarna, the Joseph H. and be the scholar-in-residence The February 10 talks Jewish Federation of Great- Belle R. Braun Professor at Congregation Agudath at the synagogue will be er Stamford, New Canaan of American Jewish History Sholom on Friday-Saturday, open to the entire com- and Darien, will be held and chair of the Horn- February 9-10. Dr. Shai Secunda munity. Immediately after on Friday, March 9, at the Professor Jonathan stein Jewish Professional Trained in rabbinic and Shabbat morning services, Stamford Athletic Club, 75 Sarna Leadership Program at Iranian philology, Secunda is a scholar at approximately 11 am, Secunda Third St., Stamford. Chairs Brandeis University, as of religion whose academic interests will deliver the sermon “Still Slaves for the event are UJF VP of Education well as chief historian of the National range from rabbinic and Persian to Achashverosh: Celebrating Purim Nan Gordon and Linda Spilka, who Museum of American Jewish History literature to classical Jewish history, See “Persian” on page 16 are working with a volunteer com- in Philadelphia. The title of his pre- mittee representing the diverse local sentation will be “Wondering Jews in Jewish. Registration will begin at 4:30 a Changing America.” Jewish Summer Camp pm, followed by candle lighting and a See “Shabbat” on page 2 Scholarships Available By Lynn Saltz strengthen youngsters’ Jewish identities Sharing Parenting Secrets Some families are still struggling and involvement in Jewish communities, The JCC Sara Walker Nursery and how to talk to their child about food and financial priorities might have now and into the future. School will present a workshop and so they develop a healthy, stress-free shifted to cover the essentials. Schoke The Joan and Ben Zinbarg-Schoke social evening for parents, educators relationship with food. Attendees will Jewish Family Service understands that Camp Scholarship Fund, established by and caregivers of children from birth also be given quick, easy recipes and many households will be looking for the Zinbargs for this purpose, continues to age 8 on Thursday, February 8, at snack ideas for their families. assistance to send their children to a to provide the funding for this program. 7 pm. The JCC Sara Walker Nursery Jeffrey A. DeTeso, Ph.D., psychol- Jewish summer camp program this year. United Jewish Federation of Greater School is located at Temple Sinai, 458 ogist at the Waverly Group, will share Through the generosity of the Joan Stamford, New Canaan and Darien and Lakeside Dr., Stamford. his strategies on and Ben Zinbarg-Schoke JFS Camp the Federation for Jewish Philanthropy Attendees will choose two work- “Developing Independent and Prob- Scholarship Program, financial assis- of Upper Fairfield County also support shops to attend. Speakers and topics lem-Solving Children.” Questions he tance is again available for eligible this program, increasing the number will include: will address include what are executive families from the Greater Stamford and of scholarships JFS is able to award. As Mara LoConte, RD, CDN, from Ap- functions, and more importantly, why is Upper Fairfield County areas who are a result of their generosity, almost 50 pleman Nutrition, will discuss “10 Steps it essential to foster their development looking for a Jewish summer experience children were able to attend a Jewish to Lifelong Healthy Eating Habits” for in children? The ability to initiate and for their children. It is well-documented sleepaway or day camp this past summer. your child and the whole family. Attend- persevere in the face of challenges, that attendance at Jewish camps helps to See “Camp” on page 4 ees will learn what to feed their child See “Workshop on page 4

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UJF Donors Meet Natan Sharansky Natan Sharansky, the Israeli politician, human rights activist, author and refusenik in the Soviet Union during the 1970s and ‘80s who currently chairs the Jewish Agency for Israel, was in Stamford for the Jewish Agency’s annual shlichim (emissary) conference in November. Sharansky made time in his schedule to meet with United Jewish Federation donors from the Stamford, New Canaan and Darien communities. (See article on page 7.) L-r: Philip Klapper, Mort Lowenthal, Elissa Klapper, Herbie Rimerman, Meryl Gordon, David Gordon, Susan Mark, Fred Springer, Claude Bernstein, UJF President Ricky Arbron, Jewish Agency Chair Natan Sharansky, Stephne Behrend, Len Mark, Rhoda Freedberg, Kerrin Behrend, UJF Interim Director Diane Sloyer and Nancy Mimoun. 2 THE NEW JEWISH VOICE ■ FEBRUARY 2018 UJF President’s Message The Responsibility of Leadership We recently held the fi- sembly. However, we all have for conversation about important, cur- Israeli partner city, Afula. nal session of the Behrend opportunities to learn right rent issues that unite us and that keep We met with Natan Sharansky and Institute for Leadership, a here at home, by reading a our community strong. reinvigorated the Kuriansky Teen Tze- program of UJF. There are PJ Library book with your Principle 6: Leadership involves a dakah Corps. now more than 150 alumni, kids, participating in Tapestry, sense of timing and pace. Our JCRC has made tremendous including myself, our Harvey coming to a program on Israel We work hard to find the right bal- strides in building relationships, A. Peltz Award recipient Risa or volunteering to learn how ance of moving and doing, but also strengthening the community and Raich and many of you. The food is distributed to children sustaining and nurturing. responding to current events. Our group studied Rabbi Lord in need through 3SQUARE. Principle 7: Leadership is stressful renewed PJ Library programming is Jonathan Sacks’ seven princi- Principle 5: Leadership and emotionally demanding. inspiring more and more families. We ples of leadership. As my first Ricky Arbron, means believing in the people But it is worth it. It deepens rela- have come out stronger with a renewed year as President comes to a UJF president you lead. tionships, impacts the community and sense of purpose, mission and vision. close, and planning for 2018 Our community is special. furthers conversations. I am honored to have been able to is well underway, these seven principles I know it is full of people who believe in The year 2017 has been one of lead this exciting work and grateful to continue to guide and inspire me. community and in the power of Federa- difficult decisions. Fortunately, we are you all for making it happen. Because Principle 1: Leadership begins with tion. We’ve worked hard to strengthen blessed to have had Diane join the the core of Rabbi Sacks’ principles of taking responsibility. that unity through community programs staff and, in five months alone, to be leadership is that they are principles When I began my leadership role like Shabbat Across Stamford, New Ca- finishing the year strong. of togetherness. And we are stronger last January, I understood that I was naan and Darien, and Yom HaShoah We renewed collaboration with our together. responsible for an organization that commemorations. Our Jewish Commu- community institutions. Ricky Arbron, represents and works on behalf of our nity Relations Council provides a chance We hosted dear guests from our UJF president community. Like UJF’s staff and its many volunteers, I work for you, and I need to remember that not only in UConn Judaic Studies’ Founding Director the boardroom, but also in my everyday conversations. Principle 2: No one can lead alone. Retires I am thankful to the UJF board and its Dr. Nehama Aschkenasy, of Economics, who recently revolts in ancient Palestine to life in past presidents, as well our volunteers, professor (em.) of comparative published a study of ISIS) and the East European shtetl, to episodes donors, community leaders and Jewish literary and cultural studies at Ron Chernow, a best-selling of resistance and heroism during the professionals who make Federation’s UConn and founding director biographer (currently of Holocaust. The credit courses offered vital work possible. Thanks to Diane (em.) of the Center for Judaic “Hamilton” fame). Others by the Center introduced Judaic texts Sloyer and her staff who work incredi- and Middle Eastern Studies at include historian Dr. Howard and history to students from diverse bly hard to turn our goals into reality. UConn Stamford, has official- Sachar, Israeli writer Amos ethnic and religious backgrounds, fo- Each of you provides crucial resources ly retired from her position Oz, theologian Dr. Susannah cusing on the contribution of Judaism that enable Federation to support our as professor and director. Heschel and, recently, Dr. to Western civilization and the meaning community at home, in Israel and in Aschkenasy remarked, “This Bruce Hoffman, considered of studying a religion, a culture and a more than 70 countries worldwide. is a bittersweet moment; it’s Dr. Nehama one of the foremost experts people’s history in the context of sec- Principle 3: Leadership is about the tough to build from the ground Aschkenasy on contemporary terrorism. ular academia. College-age students future. It is vision-driven. up, but it is tougher to let go.” The Center also twice hosted learned of the ethics of social justice To lead, you must have a vision of The Center began more than 37 the Most Rev. Dr. David Jaeger, mem- advocated in the Judaic masterworks, the future and be able to communicate years ago when a group of community ber of the Vatican’s Roman Rota, who of the tolerance and respect for other it to others. We want to ensure there leaders embarked on a collaborative shared his knowledge as a theologian views and creeds enfolded in Judaic are more resources for our commu- effort with the local campus of the and his experience as peacemaker, as teachings, and of the highs and lows of nal institutions. We want to leave our University of Connecticut, and found- well as Ambassador Dr. Daniel Kurtzer, the Jewish historical experience. community inspired. We want to build ed the Center for Judaic and Middle former U.S. ambassador to both Israel Aschkenasy noted, “In one of Amos a stronger community – to be better Eastern Studies. Since its inception, and Egypt. In the 2017 Annual Kuri- Oz’s stories, the protagonist reflects together. the Center has had a dual mission: to ansky Conference, guests enjoyed the back on his life’s ambitions, and Principle 4: Leaders learn. develop and expand credit courses knowledge and oratory of legal scholar concludes that all he would leave are I have had the opportunity to learn in all areas of Judaic studies within Dr. Jeffrey Rosen. ‘footprints on the water.’ I hope and from others in the Federation system the undergraduate curriculum and The Center has covered topics from pray that my life’s work, and the tire- on missions and at the General As- establish a forum for public discourse, interfaith dialogues on women in Juda- less efforts of our friends through the in courses, seminars and conferences, ism, Christianity and Islam, or on the years, will amount to real footprints on where both matriculating students and meaning of “A Just War” in the three solid ground, and that our Center will community members would learn and Abrahamic religions, to issues related continue to flourish in future years.” CANDLE discuss topics of current issues or of to the Middle East and contemporary The Center for Judaic and Middle Eastern Jewish scholarship with today’s scholars, Israel, to discussions of “Jews and Studies at UConn is a recipient agency LIGHTING TIMES writers and policy analysts. Capitalism,” Jewish mysticism and a of United Jewish Federation of Greater Stamford, New Canaan and Darien. January 26...... 4:46 pm Some of the Center’s past speakers variety of themes in history, from Jewish were already well known at the time February 2...... 4:54 pm they spoke at UConn-Stamford, such February 9...... 5:03 pm as the late Chaim Potok and Dr. Irving Shabbat Continued from page 1 February 16...... 5:12 pm Howe, but Aschkenasy also brought “We are extremely privileged and in its Department of Near Eastern and February 23...... 5:20 pm junior scholars to the campus, such as grateful to have Dr. Sarna visit our Judaic Studies. He served two terms as political scientist Dr. Shibley Telhami community. We are honored to spend chair of that department and one term March 2...... 5:28 pm (now the Anwar Sadat chair at the Shabbat learning with him,” said Spilka. as director of Brandeis’ Hornstein Jew- March 9...... 5:36 pm University of Maryland), Dr. Fawaz Children attending the dinner will ish Professional Leadership Program. Gerges (currently at the London School have the opportunity to participate He now chairs the Academic Advisory in youth programming led by Yael and Editorial Board of the Jacob Rader Stolarsky, the JCC shlicha, during Marcus Center of the American Jewish Sarna’s presentation. Archives in Cincinnati. Dubbed by The Forward newspaper “I am proud that UJF can bring in 2004 as one of America’s 50 most our diverse community together to influential American Jews, he was chief celebrate the beauty of Shabbat,” historian for the 350th commemora- said Gordon. tion of the American Jewish commu- “And getting together as one large nity and is recognized as a leading community – what can be better?” commentator on American Jewish said Ellen Weber, immediate past history, religion and life. In 2009, he president of UJF. “In fact, we are one was elected to the American Academy of very few communities throughout of Arts and Sciences. this country where Jews, affiliated and Sarna has written, edited or co-edit- unaffiliated, come together under ed more than 30 books, including his one roof to welcome the Sabbath, latest, “When General Grant Expelled enjoy a Shabbat meal, hear from an the Jews.” He is best known for “Ameri- inspirational speaker and have an can Judaism: A History.” Winner of the opportunity to chat with new and old Jewish Book Council’s Jewish Book of friends alike.” the Year Award in 2004, it has been The cost of the event is $40 per praised as being “the single best de- adult and $15 for children under 13. scription of American Judaism during For more information, contact Lauren its 350 years on American soil.” Steinberg at 203-321-1373, ext. 104, or Sarna joined the Brandeis faculty in e-mail [email protected]. To register, visit 1990 to teach American Jewish history www.ujf.org/Shabbat. FEBRUARY 2018 ■ THE NEW JEWISH VOICE 3 COMMUNITY NEWS Rabbi Meir Soloveichik Speaks at Chevra Kadisha Dinner Event Honors Wendy Miles and Jim Benjamin Rabbi Dr. Meir Soloveichik, the senior rabbi at the body in white shrouds before burial. After graduating from Yeshiva College, Congregation Shearith Israel in New York City and the In Stamford, there are approximately 40 Rabbi Dr. Soloveichik obtained his rabbinic director of the Straus Center for Torah and Western individuals who are actively working for the ordination from the Rabbi Isaac Elchanan Thought at Yeshiva University, will be this year’s fea- Chevra Kadisha in various capacities. Theological Seminary of Yeshiva Univer- tured speaker at the annual Stamford Chevra Kadisha “The annual Chevra Kadisha dinner is sity. He holds a Ph.D. from Princeton Dinner. The event will be held at Temple Beth El on one of the most eagerly awaited commu- University in religion. A native of Chicago, Thursday, February 22, at 5:30 pm. His topic will be nity events on the calendar,” said Michael Rabbi Soloveichik was the assistant rabbi “Abraham Lincoln’s Death on Pesach: The American Feldstein, who is on the Dinner Committee. at Congregation Kehilath Jeshurun in New Jewish Community’s Reaction to a Slain Leader.” “It’s especially gratifying this year to honor York City, and also worked at The Jewish This year’s dinner will honor Jim Benjamin and Wendy Miles and Jim Benjamin, who typify Center in New York City, before assuming Wendy Miles, two dedicated and longstanding mem- the quiet commitment and tremendous the pulpit as senior rabbi at Congregation bers of the Stamford Chevra Kadisha. dedication of our Chevra members. It is also Rabbi Dr. Meir Shearith Israel. A chevra kadisha, translated literally as a “holy so- an honor to welcome Rabbi Soloveichik to Soloveichik “Rabbi Hammerman and Temple Beth ciety,” is an organization of Jewish men and women speak in our community. Rabbi Soloveichik El have always been supportive of our local who perform the sacred duty of preparing bodies for delivered the benediction at the 2012 Republican Chevra Kadisha, as have been our other community burial according to Jewish tradition. One of the main National Convention, and his sermons, lectures and rabbis,” said Feldstein. “We are grateful that Temple requirements is the ritual cleansing and dressing of classes always draw enthusiastic crowds.” See “Chevra” on page 6 Chabad of Stamford Hosts Annual Gala Chabad of Stamford will host its Annual Gala Dinner Celebration on Sunday, January 28, at the Stamford Crowne Plaza Hotel at 5:30 pm. The evening will start off with cocktails, dinner and the Gan Yeladim Auction, followed by a short program, entertainment by comedian Modi Rosenfeld and dessert. This year’s theme is “Celebrating our Future – Our Children and their Education,” highlighting the growth of the Stamford Jewish community over the past few years, and how the Gan and Chabad are at the foundation of educating and supporting that growth. Community Leader- “One of the very interesting phenomena is that Lamplighter Award honorees ship Award honoree L-r: Gan Yeladim Award recipients Margarita Kunin, many native Stamfordians, who grew up and left Barry and Carrie Kaplan Rabbi Elisha Paul Sonia Avny, Rochel Attar and Alice Janush. for college and greener pastures, have returned to Stamford with their young families, recognizing the Every year, Chabad of Stamford attempts to pick are Rabbi Elisha Paul, principal of the new Jewish unique setting that Stamford offers and have chosen honorees who exemplify giving and nurturing atti- High School of Connecticut; Gan veteran toddler to settle here,” says Leah Shemtov, co-director of tudes, as well as the leadership qualities that make morahs Rochel Attar, Sonia Avny, Alice Janush and Chabad of Stamford. a difference in the community. This year’s honorees Margarita Kunin; and Carrie and Barry Kaplan. The Lamplighter Award celebrates the “New Wave Next Generation,” young Stamford natives who have An Afternoon of Theater and Memoir chosen to come back to raise their families in Stam- By Elissa Kaplan Tie,’ you might just start telling your own ford. This year, they are represented by Barry and The community is invited to join the father’s story.” Carrie Kaplan. Carrie (nee Levitt) is one of 14 families Jewish Historical Society of Fairfield County Takiff is known as a storyteller in his at the Gan this year who grew up in Stamford and for “An Afternoon of Theater and Memoir” performances and in his writing. He is a have moved back here to raise their families (eight featuring the one-man show “Black Tie: A trained actor and singer who spent 10 years of whom are Gan alumni themselves). Son’s Journey Through the Death and Life touring the country as a stand-up comic. The Community Leadership Award will be given of His Father,” written and performed by He is also the author of several books, in- See “Gala” on page 13 Michael Takiff and directed by Brian Lane cluding “A Complicated Man: The Life of Green. The event will be held on Sunday, Bill Clinton as Told by Those Who Know February 11, at the Jewish Community Him” (Yale University Press) and “Brave Michael Takiff Deadlines for Center, 1035 Newfield Ave., Stamford. Men, Gentle Heroes: American Fathers and The program will start at 1:30 pm, and is Sons in World War II and Vietnam” (Harp- free and open to the public. Refreshments will be erColllins/Wm. Morrow). In addition, he has written articles The deadline for the next two issues of The New served at 1 pm. articles for The New York Times, The Washington Post, Jewish Voice is: In “Black Tie,” Takiff tells the story of his dad, an Los Angeles Times, New York Post, Salon, The Nation, Monday, January 29 ...... March-April ordinary man, and uncovers a hero – a man who CNN.com and HuffingtonPost. On television, he has Monday, April 2...... May served his family every day and a soldier who served appeared on both Fox News and MSNBC. Send New Jewish Voice article submissions to his country during World War II. Even though Takiff Green, the director of the show, is a veteran of Sandy Golove at [email protected] marked “Stamford talks about his own father, the story he tells has been film, stage and TV. As an actor, he appeared as Huck Voice” in the subject line. Expect an acknowledge- called universal. Audiences have said, “‘Black Tie’ Finn in “Big River” and starred in “Joseph and the ment; please re-send if you do not receive one. reminds us we are not alone” and “After seeing ‘Black See “Memoir” on page 13

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Stamford’s congregational rabbis discussed “Making God Real in Your Life.” L-r: Rabbi Eli Kohl (Young Israel of Stamford), Rabbi Daniel Cohen (Congregation Agudath Sholom), L-r: Caryn Halbrecht, Stephne Behrend, Kerrin Behrend, UJF Interim Executive Director Rabbi Jay TelRav (Temple Sinai), Rabbi Joshua Hammerman (Temple Beth El) and Diane Sloyer, Paul Gordon and Nan Gordon. moderator Lauren Steinberg (UJF Jewish Community Relations Council director).

Workshop Continued from page 1 to adapt to changes and make alternative plans, to Elissa Stein, M.A., LMFT, psychotherapist at the self-regulate one’s emotions and to self-monitor will Riverwalk Group, will discuss “Healthy Marriage, also be discussed. Healthy Family: Staying Connected to Your Spouse Sasha Carr, Ph.D., family sleep specialist at Off to Amidst the Chaos of Raising Kids.” She will discuss Dreamland Sleep Services and author of “Putting how to keep the passion alive in your marriage and Bungee to Bed,” will teach about “Raising Successful strengthen the meaningful connection with your Sleepers.” Does bedtime feel like a battle at your spouse. Attendees will learn how to avoid a stressful house? Parents will leave with tools to set clear limits and chaotic environment that can damage their and expectations; foster an atmosphere of connection health and marriages, examine what narratives and and teamwork; create the right sleep environment; expectations we all bring to our marriages, and dis- establish a meaningful bedtime routine; and deflect cuss tools for creating boundaries around marriage, arguments at bedtime. children and extended family. Rabbi Daniel Cohen, rabbi of Congregation Agu- dath Sholom, will share his wisdom on “Creating Memories for a Lifetime: Learn the Secret for being On Thursday, February 8, at 7 pm, the #raisingtodayskids Camp Continued from page 1 the Best Parent.” He will address questions such as: Parenting Workshop, an informative and social evening for For those interested in applying, your child or chil- Are you fully present when you are at home? Do you parents, educators and caregivers of children from birth-8, dren must be entering first grade or above in Septem- ever wish you could turn the clock back? How will will be held. Speakers will be (top, l-r) Rabbi Daniel Cohen, ber 2018 and plan to attend a Jewish day or sleepaway your children remember you? Rabbi Cohen is the rabbi of Congregation Agudath Sholom; Mara LoConte, camp, and the family must demonstrate financial need. father of six daughters and the author of “What Will RD CDN; and Jeffrey A. DeTeso, Ph.D. Bottom (l-r): Aimee Applications for the 2018 Joan and Ben Zin- They Say About You When You’re Gone?” Elsner OTR/L RYT; Sasha Carr, Ph.D.; and Elissa Stein, barg-Schoke JFS Camp Scholarship program are Aimee Elsner, OTR/L RYT, is a mindfulness and M.A., LMFT. now available. To obtain an application, interested yoga instructor at Connecticut Power Yoga. Elsner will families should call Maria McNulty in the JFS office share her knowledge of “Mindfulness: One Breath at program is underwritten by the Charles M. Karp at 203-921-4161 to request one. The deadline for a Time. Breathe, Focus, Connect.” Attendees will learn Memorial Fund, through the generosity of Douglas completed applications is Thursday, March 15. All simple tools to tune into themselves and their children and Sharon Karp and Lisa and Arnold Karp. information is kept strictly confidential. through breath work, visual focus and meditation. For additional information, contact Sandi Wald- Anyone wishing to help support the Camp Schol- Wine, cheese and light refreshments will be served streicher, JCC Sara Walker Nursery School education- arship Program should contact Executive Director (dietary laws will be observed). al coordinator, at 203-322-6541 or swaldstreicher@ Matt Greenberg at 203-921-4161 or e-mail mgreen- The cost to attend is $12 for JCC members and stamfordjcc.org. [email protected]. $15 for other community members. Register online The Jewish Community Center is a recipient agency of Schoke JFS is a recipient agency of United Jewish at stamfordjcc.org or at the welcome desk at the JCC. United Jewish Federation of Greater Stamford, New Canaan Federation of Greater Stamford, New Canaan and Darien. The JCC’s Early Childhood Scholar-in-Residence and Darien. FEBRUARY 2018 ■ THE NEW JEWISH VOICE 5 Chanukah Lights Burn Bright at UJF Annual Meeting The United Jewish Federation of Institute held its graduation for future Stamford, New Canaan and Darien’s communal leaders. Annual Meeting coincided with the “As my first year of serving the com- second night of Chanukah on Decem- munity as UJF president, I was honored ber 13 and more than 100 members to share our accomplishments of this of the Jewish community gathered to past year. With all of your involvement celebrate together. and support, I am confident 2018 will The evening was chaired by Elissa bring us to new heights,” shared Ricky and Philip Klapper, and featured key- Arbron, UJF president. note speaker Alon Ben Gurion, grandson of David Ben Gurion. Cantor Mag- da Fishman from Temple Beth-El and Cantor Micah Morgovsky from Temple Sinai led the community in lighting the Chanukah candles and festive holiday L-r: Fred Springer (United Jewish Federation past president), Ricky Arbron (current UJF songs. Meryl Gordon and David Stein president), Alon Ben-Gurion, Nancy Mimoun (UJF Board member and past president), received Volunteer of the Year Awards Ellen Weber (UJF Board member and immediate past president) and David Kweskin (UJF and Risa Raich, president of Stamford past president). (Photo by Steve Labkoff) JCC, was honored with the Harvey A. Peltz Award. The Behrend Leadership

L-r: Cantors Micah Morgovsky and Magda Fishman (Photo by Steve Labkoff)

L-r: United Jewish Federation Board member David Stein (2017 Volunteer of the Year award winner), UJF Interim Executive Director Diane Sloyer, Meryl Gordon (2017 Volunteer L-r: United Jewish Federation Women’s of the Year award winner) and UJF President Ricky Arbron. (Photo by Norman Ostroff) David Gordon lit the Chanukah menorah Philanthropy President Tara Shapiro and at the United Jewish Federation Annual 2017 Harvey A. Peltz winner Risa Raich Meeting. (Photo by Norman Ostroff) (Photo by Norman Ostroff)

Mindfulness, Meditation At right: The Behrend Leadership Institute held and Movement their 2017 graduation at The Center Women of the Stamford Jewish Com- the United Jewish Federation munity Center are holding a free women’s community 2017 Annual Meeting. health event focusing on mindfulness, meditation L-r: Kerrin Behrend, Dana and movement on Wednesday, February 7. The Horowitz, Debra Emery, event will take place from 8:30 am-12:30 pm at the Stephanie Goldpin, Howland Stamford JCC. Participants should dress comfortably Gordon, Meredith Cohen, for movement and meditation. Sherry Steiner, Stacy Bennett, Mindfulness is defined as a state of being where Fred Wexler, Blake Bueckman, one is living in the moment and finding calmness. Stephanie Zelazny and There are many ways that people of all ages are Behrend Program Facilitator practicing mindfulness to improve their health and Jonathan Fass. (Photo by well-being, and this event will provide opportunities Norman Ostroff) to learn how to take advantage of this current trend. The morning will begin at 8:30 am with an hour- long yoga class led by Raema Salmon. A program of speakers from 9:45-11:15 am will include presentations by Sherry Minniti D’Elia, clinical social work/therapist, LCSW, CFEP; Cindee Rifkin, certified yoga and meditation teacher; and Kathleen Connor, director of the Transcendental Meditation Center of Fairfield County. Topics will include mindfulness and management of various life situations, tips for relieving stress, breathing meditation exercises, and the transcendental meditation technique for mind and brain functioning. The event will conclude with demonstrations of mindful meditation and breathing practices by Rifkin. Through- out the morning, vendors offering related products and services will be on-site and snacks will be available. “Join us and you’ll enjoy your morning learning how to reduce stress, anxiety and negative emotions,” says Co-chair Michelle Rawicz. Adds Co-chair Sarah Brie, “This is a great opportunity to learn ways to cool yourself down when your temper flares and how to sharpen your concentration skills.” Admission to the event is free, but registration is required. To register, visit www.stamfordjcc.org/ TheCenterWomen, visit the JCC Welcome Desk, or call 203-322-7900. Israeli Film Series The community is invited to join Israeli shlicha Yael Stolarsky at the JCC as she screens award-winning films direct from Israel. “Broken Wings” will be shown on Thursday, February 8, at 7 pm. The film explores the lives of Daphne and her four children as they try to cope with the abrupt death of her husband and their father. As the family seems to fall apart, a sudden inci- dent gives them a chance to heal their “broken wings.” For more information, contact Stolarsky at 203- 487-0961 or [email protected]. ÊVisit www.ujf.org, facebook.com/stamfordFederation, or tweet UJF at ujfstamford 6 THE NEW JEWISH VOICE ■ FEBRUARY 2018 bits and pieces By Sandy Golove Caryl and Peter Poser on the engage- Herbert Bergman, Owen Bregman Lorraine Kweskin on the loss of her To submit infor- ment of their daughter, Ariel Poser, to and Joan Katz on the loss of his wife aunt, Shirley Levy. mation to Bits and Stephen Bedik, son of Robin and Scott and their mother, Elaine Bregman. Andy Lehrfeld on the loss of his Pieces, call 203-912- Bedik, of Mountaindale, NY. Madeline Bigel on the loss of her sister, Lauren Lehrfeld. 9945, or e-mail me at Tamara Schwartzman and Jason mother, Lenore Kolsky. Chris Maroc on the loss of his moth- [email protected]. Schlesinger on their marriage. Ellen Bromley and Julie Epstein on er, Barbara Stout. MAZEL TOV TO Nancy and Brad Spaulding on the the loss of their mother, Paula Epstein. Alan Moskowitz on the loss of his GROWING FAMILIES engagement of their son, Andrew Rosalind Carlin on the loss of her farther, Gerald Moskowitz. Alison and Russ Spaulding, to Delaney Jorgensen. husband, Gabriel Carlin. Tina Notik on the loss of her grand- Dudley on the birth of a daughter, Doris and Ron Warmflash on the Barbara Cohen Aronica-Buck and father, Shimon Inovlotzky. Roberta Austin Dudley; grandparents marriage of their son, Binyomin Warm- Robert Cohen on the loss of their Alan Pearce on the loss of his mother, are Mary C. and Alan Silberman. flash, to Fraida Glassner, daughter of mother and Arthur Martin on the loss Ann Pearce. Avital and Brad Greenbaum on the Sarah and Yerachmiel, of Montreal, of his sister, Gladys Martin Cohen. Veronica Reich on the loss of her birth of a daughter. Canada; great-grandmother is Camille Dolly Draizin and Jenny Fuchs and mother, Margaret Eckmann. Jessie and Ilan Katz on the birth of Warmflash. Richard Draizin on the loss of her Elizabeth Rubin on the loss of her a daughter. MAZEL TOV TO HONOREES husband and their father, Stephen mother, Leah Rubin. Abigail and Josh Kurtz on the birth Jim Benjamin and Wendy Miles for Draizin. Michael Schlessinger on the loss of of a son, James Kurtz. being honored at the Annual Chevra Joan Fields on the loss of her hus- his father, Dr. Nathan Schlessinger. Hannah and Michael Lefkovich on Kadisha Dinner. band, Robert Fields. Larry Sherman on the loss of his the birth of a son; grandparents are Michael Feldstein and Lauren Stein- Leon Fliegelman on the loss of his mother, Nancy Green Schneck. Phyllis and David Schacht and Aghi and berg were honored as 2017 Movers and brother, Fred Fliegelman. Lana Socaransky and Jordan Soca- Yossi Lefkovich; great-grandparents Shakers by the Connecticut Jewish Ledger. Tommy Haendler on the loss of his ransky on the loss of her husband and are Mickey Schacht and Larry Seligson. Meryl Gordon and David Stein were father, Kurt Hermann Haendler. his father, Isidore Socaransky. Shoshana and Seth Lubin on the honored as Volunteers of the Year at Sarah Hochman on the loss of her Alisa Weisser on the loss of her birth of a son; grandparents are Sima the UJF Annual Meeting. grandfather, Robert Tatham Sr. grandfather, Jack Burman. Broza, Stephen Broza and Marsha and Judy Heft was honored for her Steven Katz on the loss of his father, Mark Weissler on the loss of his Paul Lubin. woman-owned business at the Woman’s Herby Katz. mother, Doris Weissler. Lauren and Daniel Medalie on Business Development Council’s 20th Scott Koblick on the loss of his Gloria Zweibel on the loss of her the birth of a daughter, Taylor Mila Anniversary Gala Luncheon. grandfather, Sol Nathan Koblick. mother, Shirley Melnick. Medalie; grandparents are Evelyn and Aaron Patashnik, son of Dayna and Bruce Kahn. David Patashnik, was honored as an Alana and Elliot Meiteles on the birth emerging leader at the Jewish Historical Professionals Learn about of a daughter; grandparents are Meryl Society Pioneers of Education. and Larry Meiteles; great-grandmother Risa Raich received the 2017 Harvey is May Tannenbaum. A. Peltz Award at UJF’s Annual Meeting. LGBTQ Inclusion at Schoke JFS Mielcah and Joshua Munk on the Emma Shavrick, daughter of Sha- By Lynn Saltz birth of a daughter; grandparents are ron Franklin and David Shavrick, was More than 42 profes- Leah and Peter Munk. honored as an emerging leader at the sionals recently attended Elyse and Alex Panlilio on the Jewish Historical Society Pioneers of the “(Not So) Straight Talk birth of a daughter, Ella Rose Panlilio; Education. about LGBTQ Inclusion,” grandparents are Sharon and Jeffrey Marissa Young, daughter of Sheryl a training program pre- Turshen. and Daniel Young, was honored as an sented as a partnership Caryn and Benjamin Schiller on the emerging leader at the Jewish Historical between Schoke Jewish birth of a daughter, Eyla Jane Schiller; Society Pioneers of Education. Family Service, Stamford grandparents are Rhonda and Judd MAZEL TOV TO B’NAI MITZVAH Jewish Community Cent Love and Carol and Myles Schiller. Coby Chavkin, son of Anat and Marc and KESHET at the office Silvia and Andy Silver on the Chavkin; grandparents are Joyce and of Schoke JFS. birth of a son, Luke Sebastian Silver; Barry Chavkin. Daniel Bahner, nation- Schoke JFS professional staff worked together at LGBTQ grandparents are Beth and Peter Emily Goodman, daughter of Kim al director of education workshop. Silver. Gallagher and Steven Goodman. and training of KESHET, Mandie and Efram Slen on the birth Ari Kligman, son of Laura and Marc served as the facilitator for the program. arms, they are living up to their mission of a daughter, Charlotte Mae Slen; Kligman; grandparents are Nancy and KESHET, led and supported by LGBTQ as the Jewish people. grandparents are Irene and David Biron Harris Kligman. Jews and straight allies, is a national Challenges that LGBTQ individ- and Lisa and Abraham Slen. Aaron Liebeskind, son of Indra and organization that works for full LGBTQ uals face are faith communities that Laura and Seth Tobin on the birth David Liebeskind. equality and inclusion in Jewish life. limit non-judgmental full inclusivity of a son; grandparents are Susan and David Goldberg, son of Kenneth Professionals in attendance were in religious life and community, and Harvey Blumenthal and Faye and Stu- Goldberg. introduced to the concept of a shared continued marginalization due to art Tobin. CONDOLENCES language around LGBTQ identity. non-inclusive terminology and imagery Sarah and Mark Turshen on the birth Debra Adler-Klein and Josh Klein, The terminology identified as LGBTQ on agency forms, websites, etc. of a daughter, Amelia Jane Turshen; Rachel Klein and Samantha Klein on labels was defined and explained. Agencies and not-for-profits working grandparents are Sharon and Jeffrey the loss of her husband and their father; Attendees spent the most time at with LGBTQ individuals can strive to Turshen. Marion Klein on the loss of her son; and the program trying to understand implement best practices for LGBTQ MAZEL TOV ON ANNIVERSARIES/ Amanda Klein and Josh Klein on the the meaning of words (male, female, inclusion. Organizations can create ENGAGEMENTS/ WEDDINGS loss of their brother, Matthew Klein. intersex, bi-sexual, transgender, etc.), “safe spaces” by utilizing widely ac- Jill and Arthur Green on the forth- Pauline Amsellen, David Amsellem, the etymology of LGBTQ labels, words cepted symbols of acceptance of, and coming marriage of their daughter, Melissa Amsellen and Elizabeth Am- which the Queer community has “re- sensitivity toward, the LGBTQ com- Dina Green, to Greg Celniker. sellem on the loss of her husband and claimed,” such as queer; or pronouns munity. Symbols of acceptance include Ronnie and Gary Lilien on their their father, Jacques Amsellem. such as “they, them, theirs” for individ- the presence of all-sex bathrooms; rec- marriage. Avrohom Beeber, Brocha Beeber uals who prefer not to be “she/her/ ognition and use of the three unique Gail and Bob Loonin on their 50th and Sarah Beeber on the loss of their hers” or “he/him/his”; and lastly the terms sex/gender/sexual orientation wedding anniversary. father, Robert Beeber. differences between sex, gender and in agency literature, mission statement sexual orientation. There was a focus and website; and the use of visual on understanding how sex and gender symbols, such as a rainbow flag, at the New Around Town differ – sex is a biological factor and institution’s main entrance and on the Yael Slonim, Carmel Academy’s Chief Operating Officer gender is a personal identity. Gender homepage of its website. Carmel Academy has named veteran administrator and is what someone feels themselves to be. For more information, contact operations specialist Yael Slonim as its chief operating On the topic of LGBTQ inclusion as Rebekah Kanefsky, Jewish Family Life officer, a new leadership position created to support the a Jewish value, the participants came Education, at Schoke JFS at 203-921- school’s growth. to understand why this is considered 4161 or e-mail at [email protected]. Slonim comes to Carmel after a 17-year career in hos- of critical importance as Jews. They Schoke JFS is a recipient agency of United pital administration with expertise in operations, finance, focused on the idea that “to save one Jewish Federation of Greater Stamford, New human resources, regulatory compliance and program life is as if to save the world” – by wel- Canaan and Darien. development. She was appointed after a nationwide search coming this growing community of Lynn Saltz is the Schoke JFS marketing supported by a committee of Carmel Academy trustees, openly LGBTQ individuals with open and communications coordinator. volunteer and staff leadership. She holds a master’s in public health from Yale Univer- Yael Slonim Continued from page 3 sity and an undergraduate degree in political science from Chevra Barnard College. Her career in hospital administration spans from Memorial Beth El has allowed us to hold our an- in attending the dinner should contact Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center to the Johns Hopkins University School of nual dinner at its synagogue this year.” Janet Welkovich at janetann711@gmail. Medicine, where she held administrator, manager, supervisory and project ad- The cost of attending the dinner is com or visit www.stamfordchevrakadi- ministrator positions in an array of operations. She comes to Carmel Academy $54 a person. Sponsorships are avail- sha.org to make a reservation online. from Westmed Medical Group, where she was the site director in White Plains able at $180, which entitle an individual Anyone who needs a ride to attend the and Scarsdale, overseeing the operations of both practices. to two dinner reservations and can be dinner should contact Welkovich and “I am very excited to be joining Carmel Academy and to use my skills in dedicated in honor of an individual or arrangements can be made. Reserva- operations management to support the mission of the school,” Slonim said. in memory of a loved one. tions must be received by Thursday, “Working in a mission-driven environment as passionate as Carmel’s and with Invitations to the dinner will be February 15, in order to guarantee a a team as dedicated as its leadership is something I am thrilled to be doing.” mailed in January. Anyone interested seat at the dinner. FEBRUARY 2018 ■ THE NEW JEWISH VOICE 7 Jewish Agency for Israel Conference Held in Stamford Local UJF Donors Meet Natan Sharansky More than 300 Israeli shlichim (emissaries) From 1996-2005, Sha- gathered in Stamford in November at the annual ransky served as minister, Shlichim Conference of the Jewish Agency for Israel, as well as deputy prime to learn, explore and find new ways to impact the minister in all of the North American communities they serve. Israeli successive governments. politician, human rights activist, author and former In November 2006, Sha- Soviet refusenik Natan Sharansky, who is chairman ransky resigned from of the Jewish Agency, was at the conference as well. the Israeli Knesset and Sharansky took time to meet privately with United assumed the position of Jewish Federation donors from the Stamford, New chairman of the newly Canaan and Darien communities during the event. established Adelson Insti- The Jewish Agency is a recipient agency of UJF, which tute for Strategic Studies provided a grant to the Stamford Jewish Community of the Shalem Center in Center to hire a shaliach. Jerusalem. “I was overwhelmed to be in the room with a true His memoir, “Fear No hero of my generation,” said Stamford resident Len Evil,” was published in the Mark. “I had read in Rabbi Joseph Telushkin’s book United States in 1988 and The United Jewish Federation delegation listened to Natan Sharansky and other members ‘Biblical Literacy’ that the only book Sharansky has been translated into of Jewish Agency staff. had during his imprisonment was a book of tehillim nine languages. His book, [psalms]. It had been a present from his wife. I bought “The Case for Democracy: The Power of Freedom Identity, Its Indispensable Role in Protecting De- a copy for him to sign for me and he wrote, ‘This to Overcome Freedom and Terror,” has attracted mocracy,” published by Public Affairs, was released is the most important book ever written. Am Yisrael widespread attention. His latest book, “Defending in June 2008. Chai! N. Sharansky.’ This is a treasured possession I will keep forever.” Sharansky was born in 1948 in Ukraine and, in Closing Session of 2017 Behrend 1977, applied for an exit visa to Israel, which he was denied for “security reasons.” A Soviet newspaper alleged that Sharansky was collaborating with the CIA. Leadership Institute Despite denials from every level of the U.S. government, he was found guilty and sentenced to 13 years in prison, including solitary confinement and hard labor. In the courtroom prior to the announcement of his verdict, Sharansky said in a public statement, “To the court I have nothing to say – to my wife and the Jewish people I say ‘Next Year in Jerusalem.’” Due to intense international pressure, after nine years of imprisonment, Sharansky was released on February 11, 1986, and emigrated to Israel. Upon his arrival in Israel, he became active in the integration of Soviet Jews and formed the Zionist Forum, an umbrella organization of former Soviet activist groups dedicated to helping new Israelis and educating the public about absorption issues. The final chapter of the struggle for the release of Sovi- et Jews was the rally of more than 250,000 in 1987 during Gorbachev’s first visit to Washington, of which The Behrend Institute for Leadership held its last session in December and featured Maya Bernstein, co-director and Sharansky was called the initiator and driving force. facilitator of the certificate in facilitation at Georgetown University’s Center for Transformational Leadership. The In early 1994, he co-founded Peace Watch – an Behrend Institute for Leadership is a multi-faceted program designed to prepare graduates for leadership roles within the independent non-partisan group committed to organizations which nominate them, as well as the community at large. It was developed by the United Jewish Federation monitoring the compliance to agreements signed by in partnership with local synagogue and Jewish agency leadership. The program is offered at no cost to participants as a Israel and the PLO. From 1990-96, Sharansky served result of a generous grant provided by Stephne and Kerrin Behrend. Behrend Fellows, bottom row (l-r): Julie Rosenberg, as associate editor of “The Jerusalem Report.” Meredith Cohen, Stephanie Zelazny, Dana Horowitz and Rachel Kaimowitz. Top row (l-r): Howland Gordon, Behrend In 1996, 10 years after arriving in Israel, Sharansky Facilitator Jonathan Fass, Fred Wexler, Blake Bueckman, Mark Frank, Scott Herckis, Radislav Tadiashvili, Polina founded the political party, Yisrael B’Aliyah, which Lifshin, Stacy Bennett, Debra Emery, Gloria Skigen, Stephanie Goldpin and Rachel Leah Finkel. means both “Israel on the Rise” and “Israel for Im- migration.” The party was established to accelerate the absorption of the massive numbers of Russian immigrants into Israeli society.

Natan Sharansky signed a book of tehillim for Len Mark.

Two shlichim planned for the future. (Names withheld upon request.) ÊVisit www.ujf.org, facebook.com/stamfordFederation, or tweet UJF at ujfstamford 8 THE NEW JEWISH VOICE ■ FEBRUARY 2018 Adam Ferziger: Scholar-in-Residence at Agudath Sholom By Michael Feldstein Study Literature at Harvard? Orthodoxy in Israeli Judaism.” Ramat-Gan, Israel. He is a senior asso- Adam Ferziger, professor of Jewish Rabbi Dr. Aharon Lichten- Ferziger is an intellectual ciate at the Oxford Centre for Hebrew history and contemporary Jewry at stein’s Singular Approach to and social historian whose and Jewish Studies, and is co-convener Bar-Ilan University in Israel, will be Non-Orthodox Jews.” research focuses on Jewish of the annual Oxford Summer Institute the featured scholar at Congregation On Shabbat morning, Jan- religious movements and for Modern and Contemporary Judaism. Agudath Sholom on Shabbat weekend, uary 27, Ferziger will deliver religious responses to secu- Ferziger is the author or editor of six Friday-Saturday, January 26-27. the sermon after morning larization and assimilation in books, and most recently won a National The weekend is being sponsored by services at Agudath Sholom modern and contemporary Jewish Book Award in 2015. the Scheinberg family in memory of Dr. on “Beyond Sectarianism: the North America, Europe and “We are pleased to be bringing Pro- Louis and Edith Scheinberg, who were Realignment of American Or- Professor Adam Israel. Ferziger holds the fessor Ferziger to our community for residents in Stamford for many years. thodoxy.” Ferziger will speak Ferziger Samson Raphael Hirsch Chair an entire weekend, especially to honor Ferziger will speak on Friday night a final time at approximately for Research of the Torah the memory of Dr. Louis and Edith at the home of Rabbi Daniel and Diane 4:45 pm, between Mincha and Maariv, with Derekh Eretz Movement in the Scheinberg,” said Rabbi Daniel Cohen. Cohen, 15 Revonah Circle, at 8 pm. His at the synagogue on “Yankees in Rav Department of Jewish History and Con- The entire community is invited to topic will be “Why Would a Torah Giant Kook’s Court: The Role of American temporary Jewry at Bar-Ilan University, all of the presentations. JHSC Chess Club Starts Year Off Strong In early December, the Jewish “We are thrilled to have placed At right: JHSC Chess Team at High School of Connecticut Chess fourth out of 18 nationally ranked U.S. Chess Federation Scholastic Team competed at the United States competitors. I am proud of the team Championships in Florida. The Chess Federation 2017 National and couldn’t have expected a better team is Leo Koganov of Stamford, Scholastic K-12 Championships in outcome from our first major tourna- Bryan Weisz of Westport, and Lake Buena Vista, FL. The team ment,” said JHSC Chess Team Coach Gavriel Genger of New Canaan, – made up of freshmen Gavriel Koganov. Also speaking of the results all freshman at the school. Genger, Leo Koganov and Bryan of the tournament, Rabbi Elisha Paul, Weisz – brought home the trophy for JHSC head of school, noted, “Our team fourth place in the ninth grade team reflects the high caliber and analytic championships. This was the first skills of our students. A goal of JHSC IDF Lone Soldier Speaks at JHSC national competition for the team, is to provide an in-depth academic which was formed in 2010 by JHSC environment where our deep thinking At right: The Jewish High School Academic Principal Dr. Paul Castle. students have the resources to pursue of Connecticut recently hosted Zach The team is currently mentored by their dreams and make a positive im- Okun (at left), recent graduate of the JHSC history teacher, Zachary Smith pact in the world.” IDF’s Paratrooper School. Zach is and coached by National Master Earlier in the school year, three JHSC the older brother of JHSC sophomore Mikhail Koganov. See “Chess” on page 16 Jakob Okun (at right). While home in Stamford on leave from the IDF, Zach came to the school to speak to the Creative Geniuses at Work students about his love of Israel, the need to not take for granted how easy At left: Fourth-graders at life is right now, and the experiences Bi-Cultural Day School in he has had as a lone soldier. Stamford turned trash into treasure when they teamed up to create innovative Temple Sinai to Host NFTY Teens Chanukah “menorahs” in The North American Federation around Shabbat celebrations on Friday a pop-up makerspace set of Temple Youth, the Reform Jewish evening and Saturday mornings, and up outside their classroom. youth movement that seeks to foster offer these teens additional opportuni- The activity was part of the leadership at the North American, ties to showcase their leadership skills, Stamford school’s J-STEAM regional and congregational level, reconnect with old friends and share the program – a homegrown serves more than 6,000 high school-age experience with their host community. program that uses STEAM- young people nationwide with its North Temple Sinai families are providing based concepts and activities Atlantic Region representing students housing, meals and transportation to teach Judaic topics. (Photo in the greater New York/Connecticut for the young guests throughout the by BCDS) Area. This year, NFTY has chosen weekend. Teens will arrive on Friday Temple Sinai to host its Winter Kallah afternoon and attend a Shabbat dinner the weekend of January 26. “Temple with their host families, followed by a Save the Date – An Evening with Schoke JFS Sinai is thrilled to serve as home away Shabbat service led by Rabbi TelRav, The community is invited to join Schoke JFS on Sunday, April 29, as it hon- from home to 100 teenagers from New Cantor Micah Morgovsky and the ors Jeri Appel and Gail G. and Stephen Trell as the 39th Annual Mitzvah Award York, Long Island, Westchester and NFTY/NAR cultural vice president. On recipients, and F. Robb Caster as the 12th Annual Young Leadership Award Connecticut,” said Rabbi Jay TelRav. Saturday, the teens will lead services and recipient. The festivities will be held at the Hilton Stamford Hotel, beginning “One and all are looking forward to dive into their social action projects to with cocktails at 5:30 pm, and will include the return of Alan Kalter as the spending the weekend with this group benefit the Stamford community. Tem- master of ceremonies. of amazing, Jewishly engaged teens.” ple Sinai said it welcomes the infusion Along with the recognition of Schoke Jewish Family Service’s dedicated volun- NFTY’s Kallot have been called ex- of energy these 100 youths will bring teers, the evening will feature the performance of Jon Stetson. A mentalist and citing gatherings, which are centered to the congregation for the weekend. entertainer, Stetson will demonstrate his ability to read attendees’ minds with audience participation. Stetson was the inspiration for the CBS series “The Mentalist.” Dinner and a live auction will precede the performance, and a dessert re- UJF’s JCRC Provides Training ception will follow. Attendees can just purchase tickets for the show at 8 pm. Those who have any questions or would like to support the evening are asked to contact Lisa Rich by e-mail at [email protected] or call 203-921-4161. for Police

On December 6, the United Jewish Federation of Greater Stamford, New Canaan and Darien’s Jewish Community Relations Council organized a training on hate crimes for all 50 sergeants in the Stamford Police Department. The training was led by Melissa Garlick, the Anti-Defamation League’s Northeast Regional counsel (standing, back of room). The sergeants learned what makes hate crimes unique, how to identify them and why they are considered particularly pernicious for minority groups, including the Jewish community. In addition to equipping the Stamford police department to better combat such crimes, the training served to further the relationship between UJF, the Jewish community and the police department. FEBRUARY 2018 ■ THE NEW JEWISH VOICE 9 Former Knesset Member Orit Zuaretz to Speak On Saturday, February 17, the the champion of the Jewish representative of the Jew- the environment, urban social develop- United Jewish Federation of Greater story. Once the Jewish Agency ish Agency for Israel in St. ment, Israeli-Palestinian relations and Stamford, New Canaan and Darien, in achieved its original goal of es- Petersburg and Northwest regional development, and equal rights partnership with Congregation Agu- tablishing a secure homeland Russia since 2016. for women, the disabled and minori- dath Sholom, will host Orit Zuaretz, in Israel, it turned to helping Prior to joining the Jew- ties. She has won several international former member of the Israeli Knesset Jews in peril come to Israel. As ish Agency, she served as a awards for her work. who currently serves as the Jewish Agen- the needs of the Jewish people member of the Knesset (the Zuaretz holds a B.A. in social science cy for Israel’s head representative in St. continued to change, so did Israeli parliament) from and humanities with a major in com- Petersburg and Northwest Russia. Her the agency’s response. The 2009-13, where she served as munity development management, and presentation, “From the Knesset to St. Jewish Agency’s mission today chair of several committees an M.A. in Middle Eastern and African Petersburg,” will take place at Agudath is to ensure that every Jewish Orit Zuaretz and represented the Kadima studies from Tel Aviv University. She is Sholom after services and is open to person, no matter where they party. After her time in the currently working on her dissertation the entire community. are in the world, feels an unbreakable Knesset, Zuaretz became the CEO of for her Ph.D. in Middle Eastern studies The Jewish Agency for Israel is a bond to one another and to Israel. a company that was active in social and and political Islam at Haifa University. partner agency of the United Jewish Born in the former Soviet Union, economic development in the FSU. For more information about this Federation of Greater Stamford, New Zuaretz made aliyah with her family Over the years, Zuaretz has led a variety event and the work of UJF, call Diane Canaan and Darien. For nearly 90 years, and converted to Judaism with her of policy initiatives at the local, national Sloyer at 203-321-1373, ext. 105, or the Jewish Agency has been considered mother in 1971. She has been head and international levels in areas such as e-mail [email protected]. We are About the Collective Jewish Federations of North America’s General Assembly The Jewish Federations of North Amer- encounters in hallways, glances at badges and co-workers, and, of course, for net- leaders and professionals spent a what ica General Assembly is made up of many to help identify people who look familiar. working. UJF’s delegation – consisting of they called a hectic yet meaningful few things: sessions and plenaries, chance It can be a happy reunion of camp friends Ricky Arbron, Nancy Mimoun, Shoshana days together. Dweck and Diane Sloyer – had numerous At one of the sessions, Rabbi David opportunities to attend sessions and meet Wolpe of Sinai Temple in Westwood, CA, with UJF’s partner agencies. spoke on the importance of Jewish literacy: Held in Los Angeles from November “If you believe that the Jewish tradition 12-14, more than 3,000 Federation lay See “Collective” on page 12

L-r: Diane Sloyer, Harold Grinspoon (founder of the Harold Grinspoon Foundation), Ricky Arbron, Nancy Mimoun, Cynthia Mann (Stamford’s PJ Library representative) and Winnie Grinspoon (president of the Harold Grinspoon Foundation) met to discuss UJF’s partnership with PJ library. PJ Library is a program of the Harold Grinspoon Foundation. The Stamford delegation met with members of the Jewish Agency for Israel.

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On December 3, 2017 the community joined together for a variety of family friendly activities and to help raise funds for United Jewish Federation of Greater Stamford, New Canaan and Darien’s Super Sunday. The event was chaired by Taly Farber, Stacey Palker Teen volunteer Amelia Chapman helps children with craft projects. and Shira Nerenberg . “The success of Super Sunday was a result of the hard work and planning of our dedicated chairs and the community members who came out to support Federation on this day,” said UJF’s Interim Executive Director Diane Sloyer. Money raised on Super Sunday UJF President Ricky Arbron, Stamford Mayor David Martin and will be allocated to help Jews in need in our own community, in Israel and in over 70 counties world-wide. UJF thanks its many volunteers Interim Executive Director Diane Sloyer. who made phone calls, counted coins, painted faces, helped with crafts, read stories in the PJ Library room, helped set up for the day and those who generously donated food. UJF also thanks our many donors who continue to support our mission based on the Jewish ideal of tzedakah: charity, righteousness and social justice. With your help we are able to support the programs of our local agencies and the humanitarian work of our international partners with a goal of enriching local, national and international Jewish life. For more information about UJF or to donate to the annual campaign, please contact Diane Sloyer at 203-321-1373 ext. 105/[email protected] or Sharon Franklin at 203-321-1373 ext. 109/[email protected]. UJF Board Member Arlene Rosen Super Sunday Phone Sponsors GOLD LEVEL:

Shoshana Dweck & Gabriel Dweck JCC President Risa Raich, Stella Cohen and Shana Yakubovich. SILVER LEVEL: Karp’s Ace Hardware Anne Liebergall & Family Super Sunday chair Shira Nerenberg works with Miri Young at the Caroline SImmons & Eileen Simmons Tzedakah coin station Sun Hill M.T. Union Street Carpet and Flooring UJF Board Member Edith Samers with Super Sunday hero Carmel’s Seth Young and Pamela Feldstein, Ed Smith and Brenda Smith Dr. Todd Palker and his children Executive Vice President Carmel Board of Trustees Ellen & Richard Weber Robert M. Yudell, DDS, MD UJF board member JHSC’s Rabbi Naftali Wolfe and his son work on BRONZE LEVEL: Belinda Lasky Super Sunday crafts. Russell L. Abrahms, CPA Jeri & Mark Appel Arbron Media Associates Benjamin, Gold & Troyb, P.C. UJF board member Shari Lichter Raymond Shoshana Dweck & Gabriel Dweck and Sam Raymond Toby Lazarus and her daughters Wendy and Taly & Trevor Farber & Family Anna Lichtenberg Harvey Weber and Linda Gornitsky pose with their grandson Sharon G. Kaplove - Ameriprise Financial UJF’s Jewish Community Relations Karp’s Ace Hardware Council Chair Peter Lilienthal Children pick out a prize after Krista’s Hair Salon dropping off tzedakah coins Carol & Peter Lilienthal * Shira Nerenberg, *Stacey Palker, UJF Director Long Ridge Camp of Community Campaign, Sharon Franklin and Caroline & Eileen Simmons *Taly Farber (*UJF Super Sunday chairs) Stamford Ford Lincoln

Clown Gail Trell with the Shemtov family Hillary & Bob Zitter (In honor of Jackie Herman) Teen volunteers Naomi and Maya Fogel Reading Partners Director help a child at the face painting station Lenore Fogel and her daughter Food and General Sponsors: Maya help at registration Acme Grocery Store Ashley and Tara Shapiro (UJF Women’s Philanthropy Acme Sign Co. President) Beldotti Bakery Super Sunday chair Grade A Stacey Palker, Alix Field- Eben and Sam’s Center Café Nancy Schulman SOOSH Teen volunteers help make calls at Super Sunday. Stamford Jewish Community Center From left to right: Sarah Hanna, Aaron Eben, Carmel Associate Head of School for Institutional Advancement Seth Young, Schoke JFS CEO Matt Greenberg, Kids enjoyed the talents of face painter Naomi Fogel Brandon Shapiro, Anna Lichtenberg, Wendy UJF Interim Executive Director Diane Sloyer and Bi-Cultural Day School Headmaster Jackie Herman Stop and Shop Lichtenberg, Ashley Shapiro and Sidney Eben 12 THE NEW JEWISH VOICE ■ FEBRUARY 2018 UJF’s 3SQUARE Program Feeds Hungry Children By Sharon Franklin The program relies on donations United Jewish Federation of from the community to purchase and Greater Stamford, New Canaan package food each week. and Darien’s 3SQUARE program, Recently, two Stamford com- which was started in 2014, provides munity members donated to the supplemental nutritious food for 3SQUARE program. Karp’s Ace children at risk of going hungry over Hardware owner and UJF board weekends during the school year. In member David Fogel contributed Connecticut, nearly one child in five reusable shopping bags, which create is hungry or food insecure, and does a sturdy carrier in which the food is Gil Vidal donated not get enough food outside of the packed and delivered. Karp’s, which food and shopping Karp’s Ace Hardware Store donated shopping bags to the UJF free meal programs provided by the opened in Stamford in 1926, is a bags to the 3SQUARE 3SQUARE program. L-r: Jill Kaplan (co-chair), Nancy Mimoun public schools. Through the program, full service hardware store and is program as part of his (volunteer), Karp’s owner David Fogel and Robin Madan (co- chaired by Jill Kaplan and Robin located on Hope Street. The second bar mitzvah project. chair). Madan, elementary school-aged chil- donor was seventh grade Bi-Cultural dren identified as “in need” are given Day School student Gil Vidal, who also donated reusable bags for pack- need. For more information about the a bag of food each Friday to sustain became a bar mitzvah in the fall of ing and carrying food. 3SQUARE program, or to volunteer to them through the weekend. Most of 2017. For his mitzvah project, Vidal UJF thanks Fogel and Vidal for their shop and pack food packages, contact these children are chronically hungry purchased food and fund-raised for philanthropy and dedication to feed- Lauren Steinberg at 203-321-1373, ext. and don’t have regular access to food. the 3SQUARE program. His family ing children in Stamford who are in 104, or [email protected]. Bi-Cultural Brings Together Community for Fall Festival By Judie Jacobson showcase the best of the Stamford sushi restaurant Soosh. There were also The mitzvah of hachnassat orchim Jewish community to our prospective children’s activities led by Chabad of – welcoming guests – is discussed in families in a special way,” said De- Stamford’s Gan Yeladim, the JCC’s Sara the book of Genesis (Bereshit) in nise Rafailov, Bi-Cultural’s director Walker Nursery School, PJ Library/ the portion of Vayera, which, along of admissions, who organized the UJF, The Friendship Circle and Jewish with its recounting of how Abraham event. “It was incredible to be able Family Service. and Sarah welcomed guests to their to bring together more than 20 dif- Also on hand to show their support open-sided tent with warmth and ferent Stamford Jewish institutions and “introduce” themselves to visitors hospitality, was read on the Shabbat and organizations, each representing to the community were representatives of November 4. different parts of our community, and of Stamford synagogues, including That same weekend, Bi-Cultural Day having everyone come together on Congregation Agudath Sholom, Young School welcomed a slew of prospective the Bi-Cultural Day School campus Israel of Stamford, Chabad, Temple new families to the community and, at for the first time.” Beth El and Temple Sinai. Other the same time, showcased all that Jewish The festival featured “something participating organizations included Stamford has to offer. The highlight Omer Barkay took a close look at the activities for everyone” – from a hay-bale obsta- Stamford JCC, Jewish High School of of the weekend was a communitywide all around him at the Fall Festival hosted by cle course to bird feeder making to Connecticut, Stamford Board of Real- Fall Festival held on the Bi-Cultural Bi-Cultural Day School in Stamford. face-painting to kosher food samplings tors and Gym with Jerry after-school campus and attended by close to 200 provided by the restaurants 613, Na- sports program. people – both from within and beyond Jewish organizations and enterprises varatna and the JCC Cafe, as well as Bi-Cultural Day School is a recipient the community. While Bi-Cultural took part. Beldotti Bakery and Trader Joe’s, with agency of United Jewish Federation of Greater coordinated the event, many local “The Fall Festival was designed to discount cards provided by the kosher Stamford, New Canaan and Darien. Bi-Cultural at Forefront of Jewish Education Paradigm Shift By Judie Jacobson Jewish education. (“Faced with fusty by educator Aryeh Ben David, whose told the Times of Israel. “Judaism isn’t The Bi-Cultural community – stu- texts, teachers learn to breathe new mission it is to reframe Jewish education just about more information. Torah is dents, teachers, administrators, parents, life into Jewish studies,” by Cathryn J. by concentrating on quality instead of a teaching of life and if you don’t ask friends and and supporters – visited the Prince, Times of Israel, December 26, quantity, connection over content. those questions then you just a read a Times of Israel website in late December 2017). The story focuses on Ayeka: The “We’re offering a paradigm shift story. You have to put yourself in the – only to find their school front and Center for Soulful Education, an Israe- in the way we teach. Students won’t story and put the story inside you.” center in a story about infusing life into li-based organization founded in 2016 remember what they are not personally As a result of Ayeka’s continued connected to,” Ben David told Times success in making Jewish learning more Boker Tov, Israel! Lecture Series of Israel. “Learning can’t be just about meaningful for Bi-Cultural students, On Thursday, February 15, from 11 am-noon, at the Jewish Community Center, content and memorization. They [stu- the Center for Soulful Education re- the community is invited to join Israeli shlicha Yael Stolarsky for a talk on “Silicon dents] have to own it in their own lives.” cently received a four-year grant from Wadi.” Those attending will discover how Israel has proven to be a start-up nation. To illustrate the Ayeka program’s the Jim Joseph Foundation to expand The program will be repeated on Sunday, February 25, from 10-11:30 am. success in the classroom, Times of Israel Ayeka’s Soulful Professional Develop- focused on Bi-Cultural, one of the first ment program in Jewish day schools in Schoke JFS Race to College day schools to implement the program. North America. The Schoke JFS Race to College program will be held on Mondays, February 12 “It’s building community in the Bi-Cultural Day School is a recipient and March 5, from 5:30-7 pm, at the Harry Bennett Branch of the Ferguson Library classroom,” Michal Smart, Bi-Cultural agency of United Jewish Federation of Greater in Stamford. Sessions will cover recent changes in the application process, standard- associate principal for Judaic studies, Stamford, New Canaan and Darien. ized test scores, choosing the best essay question to answer, planning college visits and the importance of community service. All are welcome to attend at no cost. For Holocaust Survivor Speaks to Students at JHSC more information, contact Claire Friedlander at [email protected] or 203-921-4161. Early in December, the Jewish High School of Connecticut welcomed author, speaker and Holocaust survivor Judith Kallman. Prior to her visit, each student Arts/Culture Journalist Visits JHSC at the school had been gifted a copy of her memoir, “A Candle in the Heart,” The Atlantic’s Jacoba Urist stopped by the Jewish High School of Connecti- which spoke about her experiences as a child and as a survivor of the Holocaust. cut recently to speak to the students about art and culture, and how these two Teachers said the knowledge of her story allowed the students to experience elements impact lives in seen and unseen ways. Urist spoke to the students the advice given by Kallman in a “very personal way.” about contemporary Jewish art and Jewish artists. She shared her work with the Kallman began the talk by giving the audience a brief history of what it took students, showing them the questions that she tries to answer, and the culture to survive the Holocaust as a child. She challenged the students to live lives of and art that she finds during those searches for answers. compassion, awareness and tolerance. As one of the few remaining Jewish eyewit- As she moved through her talk, she spoke of a myriad of contemporary works nesses to the Holocaust, she told the students that by living up to her challenge, that explored Jewish themes, both by Jewish and non-Jewish artists. She also they would be helping to create a better world. She also spoke about how her spoke of the work of contemporary Jewish artists on non-Jewish themes. heart breaks for those around the globe, especially children, who are victims Are Bi-Cultural Day School Students “Rock Stars”? of senseless hatred, just like she and others had been during the Holocaust. Stephanie Sugarman thinks so. Sugarman, assistant program director of Yachad Junior, a program of the National Jewish Council for Disabilities for children Collective Continued from page 9 and teens with developmental disabilities, lauded Bi-Cultural eighth-graders for has something to give to the world, then sensitive process, led by our govern- their behavior at a recent Shabbaton in New York with the group’s members. you have to know what that thing is... We ment in order to try and bridge the “There are no words to describe how proud you should be of your students, need to keep learning [about Judaism] gap…. I hope that in the future we can they were truly rock stars!” she wrote in a letter to the school’s associate prin- not because of the way our ancestors died, return to the table together, and reach cipal for Judaic studies, Rabbi Yehuda Jeiger. “Your students went above and but because of the way they lived.” an understanding on this important beyond the notion of inclusion and really made meaningful relationships with President of Israel Reuven Rivlin issue. It is our mutual responsibility and our members. … It was truly amazing to watch.” addressed the audience in his first a common interest. At the same time, The BCSD eighth-graders said they were equally moved by their experience. major speech to the Jewish communi- we must all respect Israel’s democratic Yehudit Hochman recalled a girl named Yael who sat in a corner with her hat ty outside Israel. Rivlin conveyed his process, the decision making process. pulled over her head. “I didn’t really want to go over to her because honestly I understanding of the distress many Whether we like it or not, in the only was scared,” recalls Hochman. “When I finally got the courage to talk to her, I American Jews feel toward the Israeli Jewish democratic state, ‘religion and realized how much we had in common and that she was just like me. We spent government. “The development of the state’ is a political issue – maybe the the rest of Shabbos together. This was a Shabbaton I will never forget.” Kotel [Western Wall] agreement was a most explosive one,” Rivlin said. FEBRUARY 2018 ■ THE NEW JEWISH VOICE 13 Carmel Students Begin New Tradition By Julie Lapin Giving, Goldman Wallach As Carmel Academy’s students and Carmel Rabbi-in-Res- prepared for the customary traditions ident Rabbi Jordan Soffer surrounding Thanksgiving, they did so visited each classroom, by adding a new practice to the mix – introducing the students CarmelsGiving. to three different causes: “On the day before Thanksgiving, Dorot, an organization as our students readied themselves to that alleviates social iso- gather and celebrate the many bless- lation among the elderly; ings in their lives, they also paused Mazon, an organization to think about what the needs are in that is inspired by Jewish our world and where they could make values and ideals to end a difference,” said Sharon Goldman hunger in the U.S. and Wallach, Carmel’s director of experi- Israel; and Jewish Initia- Carmel Academy sixth-grader Atara Carmel Academy second-graders Amital Farstrup, Dani ential education. tives for Animals, a group Loewenberg created a placemat that was Felsman and Isabela Knijnik prepared animal biscuits that The school’s first CarmelsGiving that supports programs delivered with a meal to a homebound senior. were donated to an animal shelter. Party For Good gave students the that turn Jewish values of opportunity to work on a project to compassion for animals into action. which area they were most interested a Stamford homeless shelter; others give back to the world, whether it was Through videos and presentations, the in helping.” Goldman Wallach said. “ I made animal biscuits, which were given helping the elderly, feeding the hungry students learned about the three orga- wanted them to take stock in what they to the Yonkers Animal Shelter; and oth- or caring for animals. The theme of nizations and the topics surrounding were most passionate about.” er students chose to create placemats the CarmelsGiving party, “Where Our the causes. On CarmelsGiving day, which took with drawings and messages that were Passions Meet the Needs of the World,” “I asked each of the kids to notice the place the day before Thanksgiving, be given as part of meal deliveries to enabled each student to contribute to thoughts that were going through their each grade worked in shifts to contrib- homebound seniors. a cause that was personally meaningful minds when they were watching the ute to the three organizations. Some “For both our students and faculty, to them. videos and to notice how their bodies students made sandwiches to feed the this schoolwide act of chesed was such In the days leading up to Carmels- felt – clues that would help them decide hungry, which were then donated to a meaningful way to welcome Thanks- giving and it truly brought the values of giving and thanks to life for each of our students,” said Carmel Academy’s Carmel Students Explore Materials Engineering Principal Rebecca Hammerman. “Not At left: Carmel Academy’s eighth only did the children learn enduring grade engineering students put lessons, but they also had a lot of fun their materials engineering in the process.” knowledge to the test in an As they entered the CarmelsGiving “EGGcellent” experiment. The Party For Good, students were greeted students researched and designed with music and balloons. The children packaging to protect a raw egg from paused from their work to write words of withstanding a 20-foot and then a thanks on a Thanksgiving wall, and each 30-foot drop from an electric lift. student left with Thanksgiving-themed Collaborating in small teams, the cookies and a keepsake bracelet with students were given a materials two printed messages: “Mitzvah Gararet list and $25 budget to create the Mitzvah” (one good deed leads to an- packaging to protect their egg. The other) and “Where Our Passions Meet students gathered in the school’s the Needs of the World.” lower school courtyard around an “Just like turkey, sweet potatoes and electric lift to test their packaging apple pie, we hope that this new Carmel designs, and cheered each other on Carmel Academy eighth-grader Talia Orbach Thanksgiving tradition is here to stay!” as they waited to see if their designs and Carmel engineering teacher Darren Goldman Wallach said. withstood the force of the fall. All Bahar (partially visible) checked to see if Carmel Academy is a recipient agency of the students’ raw eggs survived Orbach’s packaging design protected a raw of United Jewish Federation of Greater the 20-foot drop. egg from cracking after a 20-foot fall. Stamford, New Canaan and Darien. Jewish Historical Society and National History Day Contest By Joan Kranz War, Mordechai Anielewicz, Barbara at Sacred Heart University and its state Society of Fairfield County (203-321- The Jewish Historical Society of Fair- Walters, a grandfather who survived contest in April at Central Connecticut 1373, ext. 150) for assistance to find field Country is again offering prizes World War II, and FDR and the Jews. State University. The national contest appropriate materials and to prepare in conjunction with National History In 2017, JHSFC gave monetary will take place in early June. their entries. Last year’s winning entries Day. National History Day is a learn- awards to two students, James Gikas of Students interested in developing and more information about JHSFC ing opportunity that teaches critical Staples High School in Westport and their perspective and understanding of can be found at www.jhsfc-ct.org. thinking, writing and research skills, Claire Faulkner of the Journalism and history through research, are welcome The Jewish Historical Society of Fairfield and can boost academic performance Media Academy Magnet High School to contact the Harry Rosenbaum JHS County is a recipient agency of United across all subjects. in Hartford. Gikas received the JHSFC Judaica Library at the Stamford JCC Jewish Federation of Greater Stamford, New Any Connecticut student in grades Fairfield County Special Connecticut (203-487-0957) or the Jewish Historical Canaan and Darien. six-12 whose entry in any category National History Day Prize. Faulkner or division incorporates an aspect of went on to win two national awards at Jewish history, Jewish heritage or a the University of Maryland. One prize Jewish Agency Shlichim Visit JHSC Jewish individual into the 2018 Na- was for the Senior Outstanding Entry A contingent of senior shlichim (emissaries) from the Jewish Agency for Is- tional History Day theme, “Conflict in World War II History; the other was rael, a partner of United Jewish Federation, visited the Jewish High School of and Compromise,” will be considered for the Senior Outstanding Connecti- Connecticut to speak to students about Israel and Israeli programming in their for a monetary award. In addition, cut Entry. school and community. The group of more than 20 shlichim met with students JHSFC will recognize the winners, The Connecticut State Contest, from JHSC in a roundtable discussion. The shlichim wanted to learn about how their teachers and their schools at a which is managed by the Connecticut best to create programming in their various communities in the U.S. and Can- program. Some past winning entries Public Affairs Network, will hold its Fair- ada, including how to best speak about the realities of life in Israel with teens. have dealt with Golda Meir, the Six-Day field County regional contest in March The participating students were seniors Gabriella Lieberman, Natalie Shclover and Samuel Terr, and sophomore Sarah Hanna, all of whom are members of JHSC’s Israel Advocacy Club. Gala Continued from page 3 Toward the end of the discussion, the shlichim asked the students what a person to Rabbi Paul. As principal of JHSC, toddler morahs –Attar, Avny, Janush and in their position could do for them in providing Israel-specific programming Rabbi Paul says he takes the education Kunin – collectively have spent more in their communities. The issue that came up the most was access to speakers of children and Jewish continuity and than 80 years at the Gan educating that could present Israel-related topics to teens. The students spoke about the pride as his own personal mission. Rab- Stamford’s youngest children. difficulty they had as teens to bring high-quality speakers to their own events bi Paul has been in Jewish education The dinner will be chaired by Debra and how shlichim could facilitate those connections. for more than 25 years and is said to and Daniel Faizakoff, and Tina and Yos- have an ability to understand teens and si Notik. The Journal will be chaired by Continued from page 3 connect with them. Taly and Trevor Farber, and Rica and Ari Memoir This year, the Gan Yeladim Award Lieberman. The evening is intended Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat.” As Historical Society of Fairfield County goes to a group of teachers who are to be a celebration of joy and Judaism a director, his work includes “Canaan” at 203-321-1373, ext.150; e-mail info@ at the foundation of Jewish education in Stamford, and Chabad of Stamford at the California African American jhsfc-ct.org; or visit http://jhsfc-ct.org. here in Stamford. It is said that Jewish extends an invitation for all to attend. Museum and many one-man shows. The Jewish Historical Society of Fairfield education does not begin when a For more details, visit www.Stam- Those planning to attend are asked County is a recipient agency of United child can read or write, but from the fordchabad.org or e-mail programs@ to RSVP to guarantee seating. For fur- Jewish Federation of Greater Stamford, New very youngest age. The Gan’s veteran stamfordchabad.org. ther information, contact the Jewish Canaan and Darien. ÊVisit www.ujf.org, facebook.com/stamfordFederation, or tweet UJF at ujfstamford 14 THE NEW JEWISH VOICE ■ FEBRUARY 2018 Area Students Visit David’s Treasure Chest Toy Closet By Sharon Franklin parents, Robin and Joseph Kanarek, tell United Jewish Federation of Greater his story and how receiving a toy while Stamford, New Canaan and Darien’s in the hospital brought him joy during Women’s Philanthropy held its annual his illness. Students collected hundreds David’s Treasure Chest toy closet pro- of toys at their schools, which they de- gram at Stamford Hospital in Decem- livered to the closet during their visit. ber. David’s Treasure Chest first opened Women’s Philanthropy extended in November 2003 and honors David thanks to the Kanareks for sharing Bennett Kanarek, who lost his battle David’s story, to Co-chairs Alix Field- with leukemia in 2000 at the age of 15. Eben and Marlene Gatz, and to Malerie Women’s Philanthropy, led by Pres- Yolen-Cohen, who sponsors the lunch In December, Carmel Academy held a schoolwide toy drive to benefit David’s Treasure Chest ident Tara Shapiro, invited middle each year. toy closet at Stamford Hospital. The school’s students collected several overflowing bins of school students and staff from the For more information about David’s unwrapped, new toys for pediatric patients. Members of Carmel Academy’s Student Council Chesed Club of Bi-Cultural Day School Treasure Chest toy closet or UJF’s delivered the toys to the pediatric unit at Stamford Hospital and helped stock the toy closet with and Student Council of Carmel Acad- Women’s Philanthropy, contact Diane new toys that are given to every child admitted to the hospital. L-r: Carmel Academy Student emy to an annual lunch where they Sloyer at 203-321-1373, ext.105, or by Council members Dani Loren, Yadid Orlow, Aaron Eben, Matan Coll, Yishama Orlow, Isaac had the opportunity to hear Kanarek’s e-mail at [email protected]. Malkin, Nili Sprecher, Sophie Citron and Francesca Margolius, and CA’s Director of Experiential Education Sharon Goldman Wallach got ready to bring donated toys to Stamford Hospital. UJF Reading Partners Update The Reading Partners program is in building of literacy. Reading Partners full swing, with partners reading with also participated in the Federations’ students in 12 Stamford elementary Super Sunday, with Team Leader schools and at the Fish Church Creative Anita Katz volunteering at a table to Learning after-school program. discuss the program and reach out At the end of November, the Stam- to interested volunteers. ford public schools, in conjunction A Winter Workshop was held in with the Cradle to Career Initiative, January and was open to all Reading conducted a one-day training session Partners. Stamford public schools’ for organizations involved in increas- curriculum associates for ELL (En- ing early grade reading literacy. Sev- glish Language Learners) instruc- eral Reading Partners participated in tion Monica Lahiri Hoherchak and the interactive day and learned about Cynthia Manifold presented on the Eighth-graders from Bi-Cultural Day School and Carmel Academy assembled outside the power of a large vocabulary in the topic of “EL (English Language) Stamford Hospital’s Children’s Unit with Joseph and Robin Kanarek (standing, top left). Strategies” and how oral language is tied into reading and writing. Read- At left: “Chesed” means loving kindness ing Partners continues to collaborate in Hebrew – and loving kindness is Judaica Artist just what the eighth grade students in with the public schools in its mission the Chesed Club of Bi-Cultural Day Visits JHSC to help children become proficient School engaged in when they collected in reading. 115 gifts, which they then hauled over Reading Partners is a program of the to Stamford Hospital’s pediatric unit United Jewish Federation of Greater to fill up David’s Treasure Chest toy Stamford, New Canaan and Darien. closet. Other mitzvah-minded students For more information, contact Lenore also thought of others this Chanukah Fogel at [email protected]. by purchasing gifts on the wish lists of children living at Ohel, a Jewish foster home. Above (l-r): Bi-Cultural eighth-graders Shira Haron and Mira Rosovsky carried one of the boxes filled with gifts for kidsinto Stamford Hospital’s pediatric unit. College Ahead!

World-renowned Judaica artist Jeanette Kuvin Oren stopped by the Jewish High School of Connecticut to speak to the students about following their passions and just how far that can take them. Oren brought examples of her Torah cover and ark covering A group of more than 30 people listened to the panel of deans of admissions for the annual work, as well as a fabric art piece that was Anita Katz volunteered at the Reading College Ahead! program presented by Schoke Jewish Family Service in early December at the the template for a stained glass installation Partners table during Federation’s Super Stamford JCC. L-r, facing camera: John Buckley of Fordham University, Ryan Hargraves as ark doors. Sunday. of University of Vermont, Nathan Fuerst of University of Connecticut and Lorna Hunter of Washington College spoke about their schools and the admission and application process. Claire Friedlander (far right), Schoke JFS college consultant and moderator for the program, also fielded questions from the attendees for more than an hour. For more information about individual college counseling at competitive rates, contact Friedlander at 203-921-4161 or e-mail [email protected]. Giving Toys a Second Chance

Through Second Chance Toys, the children at the JCC Sara Walker Nursery School donated their gently used toys to the Child Guidance Center of Mid-Fairfield County. FEBRUARY 2018 ■ THE NEW JEWISH VOICE 15 16 THE NEW JEWISH VOICE ■ FEBRUARY 2018 Celebrate Purim at Agudath Sholom! Purim: More Than Just The community is invited to celebrate Purim at Congregation Agudath Sho- lom. On Wednesday, February 28, there will be three megillah readings. On Thursday, March 1, there will be two megillah readings. That afternoon, there Hamantashen will be a Senior Purim Celebration at Atria Senior Living, as well as a Family Purim Seudah. Banana Streusel Bread Recipe For more detailed information, including times of the events, visit the CAS By Ronnie Fein nut oil website, www.cas-stamford.org, or call 203-358-2200. I remember Bread: celebrating Pu- 2 cups all-purpose flour “Glow in the Dark” Purim at Stamford Chabad rim back in the 1 tsp. baking soda On Wednesday, February 28, Chabad of Stamford, at 770 High Ridge Rd., will day, when I was ½ tsp. baking powder be transformed into a “Glow in the Dark” space in celebration of the holiday of a kid. The holi- ½ tsp. cinnamon Purim. Megillah readings will start at 6:15 pm, followed by kids’ entertainment, day is mostly the ½ tsp. salt live music, an open bar and dancing at the Glow in Dark Purim Party. Every same as it was 1 cup sugar child and adult in costume will receive a prize. The fee is $10 per person, with then: noisy, fun ½ cup vegetable oil $45 maximum per family. and with good 2 large eggs The following day, Thursday March 1, Chabad will host a Purim seudah (festive food like ha- 3 medium very ripe bananas meal) starting at 5 pm. Community members are invited to drop in to enjoy a mantashen (not ¼ cup fruit juice such as mango, l’chaim and the seudah. so many flavors The cover of Ronnie orange or apple Both events are open to all community members. then, though!). Fein’s newest cookbook, ¾ tsp. vanilla extract One of the four mitzvot celebrated on Purim is to send gifts of food to friends We wore cos- “The Modern Kosher 2/3 cup finely chopped nuts (op- in emphasis of a spirit of Jewish unity and joy. Mishloach manot, or shalach manot, tumes, of course Kitchen” tional) are gifts that contain two different ready-to-eat foods and are sent, usually by (although there Preheat the oven to 350°F. Grease a a third party, to a friend on the day of Purim. Every year, Chabad of Stamford were more Queen Esthers and Morde- 9”x5”x3” loaf pan. sends more than 750 shalach manot, to Jewish families all over Stamford and chais back then, not soldiers, aliens or Make the streusel by mixing the Fairfield County. Star Wars characters). brown sugar, flour and cinnamon in a For more information about the shalach manot, project and the Purim party But there is one big difference small bowl. Add the butter and work it at Chabad of Stamford, contact [email protected]. between then and now. In those days, in with fingers or a knife until mixture Purim – not Chanukah – was when we is crumbly. Set it aside. Tropical Theme for JCC Purim Carnival kids got gifts. On Chanukah there was Sift the flour, baking soda, baking Kids and grown-ups of all ages are invited to join the fun at the Jewish Com- gelt, real or chocolate, not eight days of powder, cinnamon and salt into a bowl munity Center’s 26th Annual Purim Carnival on Sunday, February 25, from 1-4 gift-wrapped surprises. and set it aside. pm. The JCC will be transformed into a tropical-themed carnival with arcade Ok, I get it. Times change, styles Beat the sugar and vegetable oil with games, attractions and prizes. For younger children, there will be inflatables, change, we move on. And while Chanu- a handheld or electric mixer set at me- crafts and more. kah is now the major gift-giving holiday, dium speed for 2-3 minutes or until the The Purim carnival will also feature hamantashen and other treats. Lunch one Purim tradition that endures is the mixture is light and fluffy. Add the eggs and other refreshments will be available for purchase. giving of mishloach manot – gifts of food one at a time, beating after each addi- The event will be held indoors at the JCC, 1035 Newfield Ave. Admission is – to friends, family and those in need. tion. Mash the bananas and add them free. Attendees can purchase tickets and bracelets for games and attractions. And while it’s true that this tradition has to the sugar mixture. Beat thoroughly Volunteers are needed. Those interested are asked to contact Galit Roloff at also become bound up in the trend of until the ingredients are well blended. 203-487-0974 or [email protected]. consumerism and over-consumption, it Add the flour mixture and beat for need not be. Simple, homey, edible gifts 1-2 minutes to blend the ingredients Purim at TBE from your kitchen are surely welcome thoroughly. Stir in the milk and vanilla Temple Beth El will hold a family Purim service on Wednesday, February 28, and cost much less than store-bought extract. with the megillah reading starting at 5:30 pm. The evening will also include baskets and cases of wine. Pour the batter into the prepared the Purim Carnival from 6:30-8:30 pm, with a costume parade and karaoke. At For me, the Purim tradition is an pan. Scatter the streusel on top. Bake 8 pm, there will be a full megillah reading for adults. excuse to cook something extra, some- for 1 hour or until a cake tester inserted The carnival will feature a bounce house, giant slide, games, prizes, popcorn, thing special, not-particularly needed, into the center comes out clean. Cool cookie decorating, a photo booth, cotton candy, free hamantashen and more. even frivolous, and of course, delicious, the bread in the pan 15 minutes. Re- The cost to attend is $20 per child age 5-12, $10 per child age 3 and 4, and no as gifts. I don’t do fancy or elaborate move the bread from the pan and let charge for children under 3; the cost includes three tickets. or expensive. Just tasty. it cool on a cake rack. Teens are invited to help run the event. Those attending are encouraged Like this banana bread. Wrap it Makes one bread serving 10-12. to come in costume and bring their friends. Attendees are also asked to bring up, give it a ribbon and voila! A lovely Ronnie Fein is a cookbook author, food mac and cheese boxes for groggers, which will be donated to the Food Bank. Purim gift. writer and cooking teacher in Stamford. Banana Streusel Bread She is the author of “The Modern Kosher Temple Sinai: Twice the Megillah, Twice the Fun Streusel: Kitchen” and “Hip Kosher.” Visit her food On Wednesday, February 28, at 7:30 pm, at Temple Sinai will hold a megillah 1/3 cup brown sugar blog, Kitchen Vignettes, at www.ronniefein. reading geared toward adults. The drinks will flow freely (both “leaded” and 3 Tbsp. all-purpose flour com, friend on Facebook at RonnieVailFein, “virgin”) as participants participate in the tradition of telling the Purim story. 1/8 tsp. cinnamon or follow her on Twitter and Instagram at Attendees are encouraged to come in costume. 1 Tbsp. butter, margarine or coco- @RonnieVFein. On Sunday morning, March 4, at 9:30 am, Temple Sinai will hold a Purim celebration for families, with music, appetizers, Bloody and Virgin Marys, and Clowning Around on Purim at Bi-Cultural a parade of costumes. Those attending will experience a creative re-telling of The circus is coming to town – or so it will seem at the the Bi-Cultural Day the Purim story and hear the chanting of the scroll of Esther. There will be School circus-themed Purim celebration, to be held in the school’s gymnasium prizes for all the kids after the readings. Members are encouraged to bring on Sunday, February 11, from 3-5 pm. The party will feature an array of enter- their friends and family of all ages. tainment and activities, with lots of prizes to win. Kids are encouraged to come dressed in their favorite costumes. Persian Continued from page 1 The event is free of charge and open to all families with children ages birth Under Persian Rule.” On Shabbat Reading the Bavli in Its Sasanian Con- to 6 (older siblings welcome). afternoon, at 5:30 pm, he will give a text,” and his articles have appeared in Bi-Cultural is located at 2186 High Ridge Rd., Stamford. For more informa- second talk, “Brave New Bavli: Torah the Association of Jewish Studies Review tion, call the school at 203-329-2186. Learning in the Digital Age.” and Jewish Quarterly Review, among Rabbi Daniel Cohen, the spiritual other publications. JCC Matzah Ball will “Sparkle and Shine” leader of Congregation Agudath Sho- The Jewish Community Center’s Matzah Ball father-daughter dance returns lom, said, “We are pleased to be able to this year with the theme “Sparkle and Shine.” Girls ages 5-10 and the special bring a noted academic scholar to our Chess Continued from page 8 men in their lives are invited to attend the event, which will be held on Saturday, community, who can enrich our appre- students took February 10, from 6:45-8 pm, at the JCC of Stamford. ciation of Jewish history and culture by part in the “This is a special night, celebrating the bond between fathers and daughters,” giving two fascinating presentations.” Stamford said Galit Roloff, director of KidsPlace at the JCC. “Guests enjoy music, dancing, Secunda received a bachelor of rab- Open Chess treats, fun and games. It’s a wonderful chance for the girls to get dressed up binic Law from Ner Israel Rabbinical Tournament. and dance the night away.” College; a master of liberal arts from Freshman The cost is $45 per “couple” and $5 per additional child ($36 per “couple” Johns Hopkins University; and an M.A. Leo Koganov and $5 per additional child for JCC members). Festive dress is suggested. Com- and a Ph.D. from Bernard Revel Gradu- took second memorative photos will be taken. Light refreshments and dessert will be served. ate School of Yeshiva University. He has place in the For more information, contact Roloff at 203-487-0974 or groloff@stamford- pursued additional studies at Hebrew U1710 division jcc.org. University and Harvard University in Ira- of the chess nian and talmudic studies. He has taught competition. Bi-Cultural goes on Passover Scavenger Hunt at universities in Israel and the United The Jewish Everyone is invited to get in the spirit of Passover at the Bi-Cultural Day States, including the Hebrew University High School of School Ancient Egypt Scavenger Hunt on Wednesday, March 7, from 1:30-2:15 of Jerusalem and Yale University, where Connecticut is a pm, in the school’s library. Kids and parents, too, will learn about the upcoming he was a postdoctoral associate. He pre- recipient agency holiday while on the searching for hidden Pesach treasure. Afterward, there viously served as a member of the Martin of United Jewish will be a holiday story, music and singing. Light refreshments will be served. Buber Society of Fellows at the Hebrew Federation Admission is free. University of Jerusalem and lecturer in of Greater Leo Koganov, JHSC Bi-Cultural Day School is a 2017 National Blue Ribbon School located at the university’s comparative religion Stamford, New freshman from Stamford, 2186 High Ridge Rd. For further information, contact Denise Rafailov at 203- and Hebrew literature departments. He Canaan and with the fourth-place team 329-2186 or [email protected]. is the author of “The Iranian Talmud: Darien. trophy. FEBRUARY 2018 ■ THE NEW JEWISH VOICE 17 Chapter Two Focuses on Education and Giving Back By Sharon Franklin living memorial to the Holocaust and to educate uses recently declassified material and artifacts to United Jewish Federation of Greater Stamford, visitors about Jewish life before, during and after the tell the story of how Adolf Eichmann, the architect New Canaan and Darien’s Chapter Two group held Holocaust. The group started the day with a private of “The Final Solution,” was found hiding in South two winter programs to finish out the 2017 year. Sue docent-led tour of the core exhibit, which features America, captured and brought to Israel to stand Frieden and Sari Jaffe, co-chairs of the group, plan more than 800 artifacts and 2,000 photographs trial for crimes against the Jewish people. a variety of educational, social and philanthropic showing that period in history and highlighting UJF’s final Chapter Two program of 2017 was held programs for women in the “empty nest” stage of life. personal experiences. Following lunch from the on December 11 at the Stamford Jewish Community On November 29, Chapter Two members visited museum’s restaurant, The Lox Café, the women Center and featured local educator Rabbi Naftali Wolfe, the New York Jewish Heritage Museum in lower visited the temporary show “Operation Finale: the a teacher at the Jewish High School of Connecticut. Manhattan. The mission of the museum is to be a Capture and Trial of Adolf Eichmann.” The exhibit See “Two” on page 19

Chapter Two members visited the New York Museum of Jewish Heritage. L-r: Sari Jaffe During the December program, the Chapter Two group packed holiday packages that (chair), Marion Drexler, Sue Frieden (chair), Lynn Pearce, Debby Goldberg, Phyllis were then delivered to local children in need. Front row (l-r): Barbara Ostroff, Barbara Heller, Carol Brewer, Harriet Dulaney, Marsha Matthews, Barbara Rosenberg, Audrey Rosenberg and Doris Weiss. Back row (l-r): Sheila Teig, Frieda Knopf, Sari Jaffe, Sandra Waldstreicher, Barbara Brafman, Sandy Burn and Nancy Mimoun. Mehl, Ellie Mirne, Carol Krim and Roz Mangot. Celebrating Chanukah with PJ Library United Jewish Federation’s PJ Library programs member volunteers Ricky Arbron (UJF president) and helped kicked off Chanukah with Jewish literacy. In Shari Raymond. Shoppers who stopped by the table also November, on the first day of the Hebrew month of learned about the opportunity to receive free Jewish chil- Kislev – the month Chanukah is in – UJF’s PJ Library dren’s books each month via the PJ Library program. PJ welcomed the season with a storytime at the New Library extended thanks to Fairway Market for donating Canaan Library celebrated by about a dozen children the latkes and other food items for the event. and caretakers. New Canaan resident and UJF board On the last day of Chanukah, PJ Library cele- member Anne Liebergall read the PJ Library book brated at the Barnes and Noble in Stamford Town “Hooray for Hanukkah” and helped the children Center. Steinberg read several books on the theme make pictures of menorahs decorated with noodles of Chanukah, including “Chanukah is Coming” and and Cheerios and painted in gold that the children “Chanukah Cookies with Sprinkles” to about 20 chil- could hang in their homes to get ready for the holi- dren in the children’s section of the store, and then day. Liebergall also purchased wooden dreidels and led the group in games of dreidel and conversations chocolate gelt for each child. The event was considered about favorite holiday traditions. so successful that plans are underway to do another PJ Library, which is sponsored by community do- PJ Library program in the New Canaan Library soon. nors, provides free Jewish books to families once a On the first day of Chanukah, UJF made its way to month throughout the region, as well as programming Fairway Market in Stamford, where a table was set up to that allows families to engage Jewishly regardless of Lauren Steinberg, Jen Rosenberg with her daughter Elisheva, welcome shoppers. With a display of Chanukah books, their level of affiliation. For more information or to and Meryl Japha behind the UJF table at Fairway Market and treats of gelt and latkes, shoppers were greeted at sign up, contact Steinberg at [email protected]. in Stamford. the UJF table by Lauren Steinberg, director of the Jewish Community Relations Council and PJ Library; Diane Sloyer, UJF’s interim executive director; and board

Ann Altman signed up her child for PJ Library. (Child’s name withheld on request.)

Standing, l-r: UJF board member Anne Liebergall and UJF’s PJ Library Director Lauren Steinberg helped families celebrate Chanukah at Barnes and Noble in Stamford. ÊVisit www.ujf.org, facebook.com/stamfordFederation, or tweet UJF at ujfstamford 18 THE NEW JEWISH VOICE ■ FEBRUARY 2018 VOICES AND VIEWS Why I Care… What Makes a School of “The nature of the community is but the sum-total of what there is in the individuals.” – Yitzchak Levi Satanov Excellence? By Jacqueline Herman Focus on Alan Freeman On November 6, Associate Princi- and Eliezer Silverman, UJF pal Rachel Haron and I traveled to “Super” Super Sunday Washington, DC, where we had the extraordinary privilege of accepting Volunteers on behalf of Bi-Cultural Day School By Jane Levene the 2017 National Blue Ribbon School Alan Freeman has lived in Stamford award at a reception hosted by the for 34 years and been an active member Department of Education. of UJF and numerous other Jewish com- To be sure, earning the designation munity organizations for many years. of 2017 National Blue Ribbon School is In 2004, Alan and his wife, Constance an extraordinary honor – one shared (Connie), were honored as role models by only 342 schools nationwide, only by the Jewish Community Center. The L-r: Eliezer Silverman and Alan Freeman one of them a Jewish day school. two also received the Mitzvah Award (Photo by Sharon Franklin) But when colleagues and community Bi-Cultural Head of School Jacqueline from Jewish Family Service in 2000. Alan leaders ask us, as many have, what makes Herman (left) and Bi-Cultural Associate is an active member of Chavurat Aytz How did you first become involved for an award-winning school, our answer Principal for General Studies Rachel Haron Chayim. His deeds are an inspiration to with UJF’s Super Sunday? is: We really don’t know. The reason is, (right) accepted the 2017 Blue Ribbon Award his children Meryl, Ian and Rachel, and Alan: A friend asked me and I said we never set out to become an award-win- commendation from Blue Ribbon School to our community as a whole. sure. ning school. We set out to become a true Director Aba Kuni at the 2017 Blue Ribbon Eliezer Silverman and his wife, Eliezer: We had moved into the school of excellence. The award is simply Award ceremony held in Washington, DC, Miriam, have lived in the Stamford community on a Thursday evening in a consequence of having achieved – and this past November. community since September 1987. September close to Rosh Hashanah. continuing to achieve – that goal. They have been married for 31-plus Rabbi Balk, who was rabbi of our shul So the question remains: what makes perfect – we just have to be brave. years and have three grandchildren. at the time, urged members to attend a for a school of excellence? “Globalize” the school community. The Activism runs in Eliezer’s family dating UJF event that Sunday evening and we Of course, elements of excellence school’s borders should extend beyond back to his great-grandfather, Rabbi went. Knowing that this was an umbrella may vary somewhat from school to your campus. Create opportunities for Yitzchak Yaakov Reines, who was one organization for the entire community, school. But there are several character- students to become involved in commu- of the main founders of the Zionist we decided to participate. istics common to all successful Jewish nity projects. Teach students that they movement. This heritage not only How many years have you been day schools. Here are a few: play an important role in the growth and prompted Eliezer’s extensive involve- involved with Super Sunday? What is Create and nurture a school culture well-being of the community they live in. ment in our Jewish community but also your role in Super Sunday? rooted in Jewish values, such as chesed. Involve parents in the school. Create inspired him to write his recent book, Alan: I have been involved with this Recruit, retain and reward the best volunteer opportunities that give family “#TORAHFORTWEENS.” program for 30 years. I have called a and brightest faculty and administra- members a stake in the success of the Both Alan and Eliezer are actively select list of donors on Super Sunday tors. Make a commitment to profession- school. Parental participation also sends involved with UJF’s Super Sunday, and have even called some who have al development that ensures teachers the message to students that their parents which raises critical funds for local, had no record of giving. hone their skills and stay abreast of the believe in the importance of education Israeli and international Jewish causes. Eliezer: I’ve been involved for 30 latest techniques for classroom success. and are willing to make time to support Here’s why they care… years, making calls and also serving as As educators, continually seek their children’s educational experiences. co-chair of Super Sunday for two terms meaningful ways to evolve and Track student outcomes over time with Alan Freeman. change. Take chances and don’t be to learn where your school’s strengths The New Jewish Voice See “Care” on page 19 afraid to fail. We don’t have to be See “Excellence” on page 19 “The New Jewish Voice” (USPS #184) is published monthly by the United Jewish Federation of Greater Stamford, New Canaan and Darien Inc., 1035 Newfield Ave., Stamford, CT 06905-2521. “I Am Not A New Home for the New Year www.ujf.org for updates and donations Ricky Arbron...... President By Marshall Kurland part of the JCC family. Diane Sloyer...... Interim Executive Director Alone” On January 5, I will officially That’s what the Stamford The Friendship Circle hosted a mom’s event become a Stamford, CT, resi- JCC is. We are an organiza- Advisory Committee Meryl Gordon...... Chair on November 19. About 35 moms joined dent. Growing up and living tion, a campus and programs Meryl Japha, Nancy Schulman, Ellen Weber, for a day of pampering, inspiration, food, in Long Island my entire life, that create an environment Sue Yellen laughs, crafts and connections. This is an I could not be more excited to build memories and grow e-mail received by the Friendship Circle from to move to this community. In relationships. The gymnasium, Reporter Group Staff one of the moms on the evening of the event. my five months as the CEO of the locker rooms, nursery class- The Reporter Group edits and publishes The New Jewish Voice. the Jewish Community Center rooms and a café; they all serve Rabbi Rachel Esserman...... Executive Editor November 19 is a day I will never Diana Sochor...... Layout Editor forget. It was the longest day of my of Stamford, I’ve had the op- a greater purpose here that Ilene Pinsker...... Assistant Editor life and a day that forever changed the portunity to get a taste of what transcends what their names Jenn DePersis...... Production Coordinator lives of my husband and me. We were makes this community so spe- Marshall Kurland, suggest. These places serve as Bonnie Rozen...... Advertising Representative told on this day, 14 years ago, that our cial. I’ve spent my time meeting JCC CEO an incubator for the creation Kathy Brown...... Bookkeeper first born child, our daughter Presley with community members, of new memories and act as a Opinions Allison, was going to die. We lost her stakeholders, community organization place where past memories help us con- The views expressed in editorials and opinion pieces on December 4; she was 3 months old. leaders and families. They all shared nect and reconnect to loved ones. The are those of each author and not necessarily the views Today (November 19), and for the a common goal; to create a warm and J is generational, our overarching goal of the United Jewish Federation. next two weeks that lead up to the welcoming environment, and to improve everlasting: to create community and Letters anniversary of her passing, have always the lives of the people they care about connection that enables life to flourish. The New Jewish Voice welcomes letters on subjects of been emotionally taxing. I spend every and the community they live in. We recently put the finishing touches interest to the Jewish community. All letters must be signed and include a phone number. The editor may year from November 19-December 4 On November 21, a daycare center in on our organization’s Strategic Plan. withhold the name upon request. feeling a little off and sad, and, usually the area announced its immediate and We had JCC 2020 on our mind. Our once a day, I shed some tears and then permanent closure as of November 30. community is growing. Our proposi- Kashruth A JCC member immediately brought tion is reinforced: We will deliver high We are not responsible for the Kashruth of any adver- go about the rest of my day. tiser’s product or establishment. But something was different today – this this to our team’s attention and we knew quality innovative programming that November 19. I went to a retreat and was that it was our mission to help them in improves lives and fosters social en- HOW TO REACH THE EDITOR: surrounded by Judaism, beauty, compas- any way possible. Over the next three gagement; we are committed to giving Mail: Sandy Golove sion, tears, laughter, wisdom, respect, weeks, the Stamford JCC, working with back to both the Jewish and broader 1035 Newfield Ave. - Suite 200 gratitude and strength. Today, I know that some of these families, and the state community; and we will continue to Stamford, CT 06905-2521 God wanted me to be with The Friendship and city licensing agencies, completed be the hub for the Jewish community. E-mail: [email protected] Circle. It was an overwhelmingly amazing what normally takes six months and The KinderPlace expansion is the first Phone: (203) 912-9945 feeling of knowing – without a doubt – that licensed an additional classroom at example of our reaffirmed proposition. Send article submissions via e-mail to I was exactly where God wanted me to be. our Center to serve the needs of the We are at an exciting inflection point Sandy Golove at [email protected] Today’s retreat with The Friendship families affected by the sudden closure. in the history of our JCC and Stamford marked “Stamford Voice” in the subject Circle made clear to me that my rela- As of January 2, KinderPlace, our onsite community. As I get ready to move line. Expect an acknowledgement; tionship with God is so beautiful, so daycare program, has added a class to during the coldest days of the year, I please re-send if you do not receive one. strong and so personal. Losing Presley its community. The Board of Directors find myself warmed by the feeling of HOW TO REACH showed me how connected to God I and staff of the JCC jumped into action, gratitude to have found a community THE ADVERTISING really am – and it is that connection not because of a business opportunity, so close and welcoming. What’s next? REPRESENTATIVE: that will help me to survive and thrive but because community members were What can I bring to Stamford to add to Phone: 1-800-779-7896, ext. 244 no matter what I must deal with. in need and our mission, first and an already rich identity? I look forward SUBSCRIPTION INFORMATION: Tonight also reminded me that I am foremost, is to serve them. We know to taking this journey with you. Phone: (203) 321-1373 not alone on my journey through this that the eight families joining us will Marshall Kurland joined the Stamford E-mail: [email protected] life with a special needs child. It’s OK for become part of something more than Jewish Community Center as the agency’s See “Not” on page 19 a childcare center; they will become chief executive officer in July. FEBRUARY 2018 ■ THE NEW JEWISH VOICE 19 Chabad of Stamford Celebrates JHSC’s Israel Advocacy Club Chanukah Hosts Florida Congressman By David Giver thoughts on how to strengthen sanctions JHSC’s Israel Advocacy club recently on Iran, how to deal with Iran’s growing hosted Congressman Ted Deutch, Dem- role in Lebanon and Syria, and about his ocrat of Florida’s 22nd Congressional thoughts on the recent uptick in incidents District. Deutch, who describes himself of gun violence. The congressman shared as a strong advocate for Israel and has his personal views on the questions asked a position as a member of the House’s and his hopes for a continuation of Committee on Foreign Affairs, spoke to bipartisanship like he has seen with the students and community members about legislation on sanctions on Iran. his own advocacy for Israel and about the Also noted at the talk was that 13 experiences that brought him into politics. members of the JHSC Israel Advocacy Deutch shared the story of how he first Club would be heading to Washington, ran for state senate in Florida and how, DC, to participate in the upcoming 2018 On December 13, the Betsy’s Buddies program of Chabad of Stamford hosted a Chanukah because of an unexpected vacancy, he AIPAC Policy Conference. This is the lunch for all Betsy’s Buddies volunteers, participants and retirees in the community. The had the opportunity to run for the open largest contingent from the school to pre-kindergarten kids of the Gan performed a Chanukah story for the audience. From congressional seat in his district. The attend the AIPAC Policy Conference left: Marcia Braunstein, Keeva Crelan, Debbie Soifer, Elexis Silverman, Jerry Bocian, congressman also spoke about the ways thus far. “Increased interest in Israel and Jill Lewis, Marcia Mellett, Rita Yellen, Inessa Slootskin, Elizabeth Libner and Stuart in which he has used his connections to in best practices for Israel advocacy has Feldstein. Standing: Diana Portna and Mona Kubli. his faith to influence the work that he has allowed for the group to become one done both in his home state of Florida of the largest clubs at the school,” said Continued from page 18 and in the U.S. House of Representatives. Samuel Terr, co-president of the JHSC Excellence Of the many pieces of legislation that the Israel Advocacy Club. The students and especially weaknesses lie. How well performance improves when the school congressman has worked on, he spoke said they look forward to speaking to is your school preparing students for community works together toward about the work that he has done on the more members of Congress this coming the next leg of their life journey? common goals. legislation both in Florida and in the March about Israel and the important Provide strong leadership. Ef- Keep a keen eye on both today and House dealing with the sanctions on Iran. relationship it has with the United States. fective leaders are visible, able to tomorrow. Build your endowment and After speaking of his own experiences The Jewish High School of Connecticut is a successfully convey the school’s goals ensure that the school has a financially and work on Capitol Hill, Deutch opened recipient agency of United Jewish Federation and visions, collaborate with teach- sustainable future. the floor to questions. Community of Greater Stamford, New Canaan and ers to enhance their skills, and are Don’t be shy! Celebrate your school’s members asked the congressman his Darien. involved in uncovering and helping achievements with your school com- to solve problems. munity – it will increase pride among Create goals and direction. Admin- students, faculty and families. And take istrators should actively construct goals every opportunity to share your best and then effectively communicate them practices with other schools – what to students and/or teachers. Student strengthens one strengthens us all.

Care Continued from page 18 Have you been involved with other of Young Israel for 25 years, as regional Congressman Ted Deutch (ninth from left) with Rabbi Elisha Paul, JHSC head of school; areas and programs at UJF? vice president of National Council of Ari Lieberman, JHSC Judaic studies teacher; Dr. Geoffrey Erickson, JHSC president of Alan: I have been involved in many Young Israel for 20 years, as a board Board of Trustees; and local teens, all of whom attended the congressman’s talk. areas of UJF, including being a UJF member of Young Israel of Stamford board member, a member of the Cam- for eight years, as president of Young paign Committee and a member of the Israel of Stamford, as chair of Stamford Two Continued from page 17 Allocations Committee. Birthright Israel for two terms and as The Chanukah-themed program, titled as food insecure and do not get enough Eliezer: I have served on the UJF chair of the Torah Committee of Young “The Heroines of Chanukah,” included food outside of the free meal programs board for several terms. Israel of Stamford. a lecture and discussion about Hannah in their schools. The 3SQUARE program Have you been involved with other Why is it important for you to give and her seven sons, as well as the story of provides them with food for their family Jewish organizations in the community back in this way? And how do you think Judith. Following the educational portion that can last throughout the weekend. or elsewhere? the community benefits from your of the afternoon, guests had the oppor- For the second year, the Chapter Two Alan: I have been involved with many efforts? tunity to take part in a mitzvah project, group provided holiday packages to of our community’s Jewish organiza- Alan: Connie deserves the credit for which included packing and decorating be sent home with the kids before the tions, including the Jewish Community this. After our marriage, she began to holiday packages with toys and sweets December holiday break. Center, Schoke Jewish Family Services, make me aware of the culture of my donated by guests. The packages were For more information about UJF’s Hadassah and Chavurat Aytz Chayim. Jewish heritage, which was not part delivered to local public school children Chapter Two group or to learn about For the JCC, I served as a member of of my background. I began to recog- who are part of UJF’s 3SQUARE program. future programming, contact Sharon the Board of Directors; a member of nize the fact that I had the ability and Each Thursday, a group of volunteers Franklin at 203-321-1373, ext. 109, or the Safety Committee; a member of responsibility to contribute to those led by Co-chairs Jill Kaplan and Robin [email protected]. the Café Committee; as co-chair of the within that culture who needed help. Madan shop and package bags of food For more information about Music Committee; as a member of and For the first time, I began to recognize for the children to take home for the 3SQUARE, contact Lauren Steinberg at fund-raiser for the Swim Committee; as someone else’s needs besides my own. weekend. These children are identified 203-321-1373, ext. 104, or [email protected]. fund-raising chair for Tzahal Shalom I don’t know how the community ben- for many years; as a host family for Tza- efits from my involvement. I just feel hal; as Maccabi volunteer, fund-raiser that I must continue to reach out. Not Continued from page 18 and host family; and as co-chair of the Eliezer: I feel that Jewish unity, me to cry, feel anxious, feel desperate at a love I felt from Jewish moms young Facilities and Building Committee. I whatever our religious preferences, times, because there are moms out there and old, who are so smart, strong and was co-chair of Kids Day, a huge initia- may be the key to our survival, whether who feel all of that, too, and we can com- beautiful inside and out. Tonight, I felt tive reaching out to underprivileged it is communal, regional, national or miserate, laugh, support and connect on like one of those moms and I realized children, for some years. My wife, global. The only palindrome in the a level that not all moms can or ever will. that I am one! Connie, and I were honored as role entire Chumash (Exodus 30; 13) is The Friendship Circle not only made Thank you Friendship Circle for models by the JCC in 2004. I have been the Hebrew word “netanu.” It teaches me love myself more, but it also made pampering me, building my strength, involved with JFS for almost 18 years us that when you give, you also receive. me love my son with autism more, love helping me to grow as a woman, mom, and I am still active. I have served as This does not mean that you give in my daughter I lost more and love my friend, wife and everything else God a JFS board member, a member of order to receive, but that the mitzvah daughter that I was blessed with nine has hopes for me to be. Thank you for the Executive Board for 10-plus years, of giving back brings with it a certain years ago (who has no delays except helping me to be a better version of the Strategic Planning Committee, sense of fulfillment and thankfulness. for being a diva, lol) more. For the myself so that I can help my children the Development Committee, the In your opinion, why should others first time in 14 years, I didn’t feel like a be better versions of themselves. HR Committee, the PR Committee, get involved in this program? In UJF? piece of me died today; I felt like a hole All my love, the Saul Cohen Steering Committee, Alan: There is a need for people to see in my heart had been filled. Filled with Lisa Klein chair of the Patron’s Committee and that not everyone has the wherewithal to as JFS ambassador for Chavurat Aytz help themselves the way I and others on Chayim. Connie and I were honored my level do. The concept of the Jewish with the Mitzvah Award in 2000. I have tenet – repair the world – should be tak- also served as national vice president en as a daily and personal responsibility of Hadassah Associates, associates chair for each of us. UJF is the agency that is for Stamford and Connecticut Region the perfect and non-political conduit of Hadassah, and am an active member to help accomplish that purpose. of Chavurat Aytz Chayim. Eliezer: By giving to the community, Eliezer: I have been involved with you are saying that you are a share- many Jewish organizations throughout holder in the community and you want the years, including serving as president to play an active role in shaping the of Young Israel of Kensington, as a community that you and your children board member of the National Council live in. The Friendship Circle moms posed with their wooden board creations. 20 THE NEW JEWISH VOICE ■ FEBRUARY 2018