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A Faith That Works does shine through the "ugliness of this finish by a technicality of foot Thank you for the Faith That Works world." placement. A St. Louis Cardinal player trilogy in the April 18 Cutting Edge doesn't show up in a Cincinnati Reds edition. With "A Faith —Christine McQuilliams uniform and expect to play on the team. of My Own" I FREMONT, CALIFORNIA Uniforms used in sports, the military, pondered; with "A and workplace are required. Therefore, Faith That Reflects" I as Christians, are we exempt from being identified; with "A Jewelry in "uniform"? Faith That Grows" I Bravo to Sandra Doran ("Judged cried. Valuable," Apr. 18) for a new reason to —Natalie Dodd I'll be looking forward each month uphold our standard on jewelry. Not CENTERVILLE, OHIO to the Cutting Edge. wearing jewelry, not eating unclean foods, not drinking alcohol, coffee, etc., —Heide Ford keeping the Sabbath—all these cause Adventist Reps HAGERSTOWN, MARYLAND people to ask questions and give us In the April 18 issue of the Adventist opportunities to tell them about the Review, under the "Did You Know . . . ?" Jesus who loves us and wants the best for section, Bert Haloviak stated that there Allen Hrenyk's "A Faith That Grows" us and His church on earth today. are three Adventists serving in the mixed my tears with his and Dalton's. United States House of Representatives. Being the mother of a 13-year-old —John Erhard Who are these three? daughter with cerebral palsy, I pray for APOPKA, FLORIDA my daughter to be loved and —John A. Lockley accepted, as Allen did Dalton. My TUPELO, MISSISSIPPI daughter's twisted body, inability to A hearty amen to "Judged Valuable." They are Robert Stump (R-Ariz.), speak, and sometimes inappropriate The same freedom could be exercised in Roscoe Bartlett (R-Md.), and Sheila noises are not an open invitation for other areas of lifestyle—immodesty, Jackson Lee (D-Tex.). Lee is the first friendliness. discomfort, and sometimes misery. We Adventist Democrat and the first Adventist Kids in Sabbath school don't want are free to say no to alcoholic drinks, African-American elected to the House. — to sit next to her "because she might tobacco, and other unhealthful habits. Editors. drool" on them. She's not being picked for teams or invited to birthday parties. —Adriel ChlIson These are all OK with her, because COLLEGE PLACE, WASHINGTON A Time to Laugh more than anything in the world, my I have never quite been able to daughter loves Jesus; she goes to understand Adventists who are so dour Sabbath school to learn of Him and to Finally someone has expressed in writing that they can neither enjoy nor approve church to praise Him with everything my opinion regarding standards in dress of what's humorous about our lives. I she can muster! and deportment. Any organization has think Adventist life is plenty funny, She's going to be baptized soon. standards. For some reason a church both for those growing up and for She's so excited, I wouldn't be and/or Christian school is viewed as grown-ups. There are all kinds of funny surprised if she jumps out of her narrow-minded and fanatical if it expects things: funny-sad, funny-ridiculous, wheelchair right into the baptistry! higher standards in dress and personal funny-silly, and so forth. So I heartily Thank you, Allen, for letting me life than the world does. approve of your publication of the have comfort in knowing Christ's love I saw a runner disqualified near the Growing Up Adventist column.

2 (698) ADVENTIST REVIEW, JUNE 20, 1996 ADVENTIST This afternoon, as I was coming near The pressures, circumstances, and trials the end of my worst week in 18 years (I of end-time events will only reveal what won't bore you with the whys), I was is in our hearts now. greatly amused, to the point that I Our strength as a people is not in our R laughed almost out of control, with numbers but in our foundation, Jesus Andy Nash's "Control" (Apr. 18), a Christ our Lord. COVER STORY humdinger of a humorous column. Thank you, Andy, for bringing cheer — Mel Phillips 8 Values Can Personalize TILLER, OREGON Your Wedding into our lives. It's your wedding. Why should it be anything other than what you —Hector Hammerly, Ph.D. want it to be? VANCOUVER, BRITISH COLUMBIA I fear that my esteemed friend Samuele BY JANE ALLEN Bacchiocchi might have missed the main point about the Worldwide Church of ARTICLES Worldwide Church of God God. Many observers in the Adventist Church The real news is that the top 12 How I Learned to Live will be encouraged by "Lessons From a leadership of a denomination actually Above Anxiety Fur many, anxiety is a way of life. Church Meltdown" (Apr. 18). Not that had the faith and courage to discard For Christians, it's something else. we find any gratification in the breakup of many distinctive doctrines in the interest BY SALLY STREIB another denomination—we have deep of better following Christ and Scripture. concern for the trauma experienced by I daresay that Bacchiocchi approved of 16 Transcending a Dad's members of the Worldwide Church of most, if not all, of the WCG changes, Difficult Legacy Fathers don't only model what we God. But widespread acquaintance with except for the Sabbath. Far better to should do; they also model what Samuele Bacchiocchi's diagnosis will applaud the motives prompting such a we shouldn't do. increase the likelihood for both a brave and rare move by WCG than to BY RICK LA BATE treatment and a vaccination that will disagree with a particular conclusion. (I preserve the Adventist Church from the am not a Sabbatarian but respect your 24 Person to Person consequences of higher-critical theology. point of view.) Computers and modems are As many readers of the Review may changing how Adventists keep in — Edward Fudge touch. recall, 25 years ago a few influential BY RAI. PH BLODGETT Adventist scientists and theologians HOUSTON, TEXAS confidently expected that in 10 years a DEPARTMENTS nonliteral interpretation of the first chapters of Genesis would become a New Review (cont.) 2 Letters recognized option among Seventh-day The past few weeks have been 7 Give & Take Adventists. The expectation of these phenomenal! The magazine feels more 15 Growing Up Adventist individuals was not realized, but as personal. God is working through you Bacchiocchi has clearly indicated, there folks. I love it! Keep it up. 19 Sandra Doran Dialogues are continuing influences toward revision 20 World News & Perspectives — Jeff Hoiweger of the historic position of the Adventist 28 Book Mark Church regarding the validity and 74617,3204 authority of the Bible. 29 Children's Corner 30 Reflections —R. H. Brown As a former employee of the Review and YUCAIPA, CALIFORNIA Herald Publishing Association's Art EDITORIALS Department I am sensitive to visuals and 5 Jessica and Joy am truly impressed by the graphics in the We sympathize with the hurting new Review—clean, sharp, and contem- 6 Of Position and Power members and ex-members of the porary, but also appropriately dignified. Worldwide Church of God. But was the The Review has been a part of my life since NEXT WEEK tragedy in the split, or was it there before before I could read, and has never been the split? better, either in appearance or content. Call Me Christian We know that a terrible split is Don't let the world (or anyone else) press coming in our church. The majority will — Charlene Higgins Baez you into its mold. forsake us, the Spirit of Prophecy tells us. BRYSON CITY, NORTH CAROLINA

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WILLIAM G. JOHNSSON Jessica and Joy

he death of Jessica Dubroff, killed at the controls wrongheaded. What happens when we get old? What about when her Cessna crashed trying to take off from the masses of people who will never have the opportunity Cheyenne, Wyoming, airport, caused heart for exciting new experiences? searching around the Seems to me that joy is the most nation and the world. elusive, most sought after goal of our TThis pug-nosed 7-year-old in a times. Millions hooked on the "just baseball cap, attempting to fly "I would want a do it" philosophy change sexual across the United States and back, partners, run to the ends of the had grabbed our affections. But my children to die earth, and blow their bodies and fascination turned to sober their minds; many millions more questioning: What sort of seek joy vicariously through images regulations could permit such a in a state of joy." on the flickering screen. reckless act? What sort of morality In radical contrast, the Bible sets could drive the media hype? And out a different way to joy. We find what sort of parenting could dream up and encourage few references to "happiness" in the Scriptures, but many to Jessica's failed odyssey? Jessica became a symbol of our "joy." Happiness derives from the old English hap—"that beautiful but troubled times—so many hopes, so many flaws. which comes about by chance." People win the lottery and As pundits pondered the meaning of Jessica's death Clime are happy. But joy has a different source—God. featured her on the cover, asking: "Who killed Jessica?"), "I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the one aspect of the tragedy seemed to escape their notice. But people," the angel told the shepherds. "Today in the town of listen again to words from the key players: David a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ the Lord" Jessica herself: "I fly for joy" (although she looked (Luke 2:10, 11).* And this Saviour told His disciples, and anything but joyful). And that haunting line: "I'm going to tells us now: "I have told you this so that my joy may be in fly till I die." you and that your joy may be complete." "No one will take Her father: "I think I finally got my job description in away your joy" (John 15:11; 16:22). order as a parent. I used to think being a parent meant This is joy by experience—not by doing some new thing, teaching things. Now I feel my job is to help them learn by but by experiencing the living presence of Christ in my life. exposing them to new experiences." This is joy by relationship, when Jesus is my best friend. Her mother after the tragedy: "I would want all my Do you have a really close friend? It's fun to do things children to die in a state of joy. I would prefer it was not at together, but you don't feel compelled to be always doing. the age of 7." Just to be together is enough—to talk or to be silent; it The idea common to all these statements, and apparently doesn't matter. The joy is there. accepted without question by the media, is that joy comes That's the way it is with Jesus. from experiencing new things. If you want joy, let yourself He gives us joy that no one and go—climb a mountain, find a new love life, travel to some nothing can take away. Not exotic place. Or fly a little plane across the country. sickness. Not grief. Not old age. Is this the way we find joy? Nothing. Yes—and no. We know Jesus, and He is our It's fun to travel, to see new places, and meet new people. joy. It's exhilarating to stretch your body to the limit, to cross I wish Jessica had the finish line of a marathon. It's enormously satisfying to known that. stand on the top of Mount Kilimanjaro. I have done all these and agree: joy comes from new experiences. * All Bible references in this article come from the New But to think that this is the only way to experience joy is International Version.

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ROY ADAMS Of Position and Power '

"You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and I'm not arguing here for a false coyness that feigns a total their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. lack of interest in position and power. Someone has to lead, Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your and it may well be you. If we're called upon to do a task for the servant" (Matt. 20:25, 26, NW) . church, we should be ready and willing to give it our best shot. But we should not compromise ourselves in uring the last General Conference ses- seeking it. sion, one minister told me how shocked I have seen men and women of apparent integrity he was when, upon arriving at the settle down calmly and purr like kittens because the meeting, he was greeted with uncharac- one they think controls their destiny is in the chair. teristic warmth by a certain gentleman They might be opposed to every sentiment he's up for reelection. "Until the man was reelected," the expressing, but you'd never hear so much as a squeak worker added. "Then he was back to his old self again." from them. We play dumb and pretend we did not see, because How much do position and power mean to you? The question we want nothing to interfere with our relentless drive to the is equally relevant for members on all levels of the church, from "top"! But if we're prepared to compromise integrity now, what the local congregation to the General Conference. Like the makes us think we'd suddenly stand strong in the crisis ahead? disciples on the eve of the Crucifixion,' too many of us nurse an insatiable desire to reach the "top," even if it means trampling ashington, D.C., in whose shadows I write this like ants, over the backs of one another. editorial, is a continuing object lesson of the Certainly I'm not referring here to the healthy ambition to Wephemeral nature of position and power. To speak succeed or advance in one's profession or calling. I'm referring about Ron Ziegler in this town today is to evoke the response: rather to the sinister manipulation of people and programs in "Ron who?" The tables have turned, you see. That's how life is, pursuit of personal promotion. said Shakespeare—"a poor player that struts and frets his hour This preoccupation with position and power virtually upon the stage and then is heard no more."' permeates the church. Watch what happens when the And that's why the radical Christianity of the New nominating committee is ready to report at a constituency Testament offers a totally different approach to things. Read meeting. Everything else stops. No one goes to the restroom— again the passage that begins this editorial. And listen now to not then! All attention turns to the reporting secretary, ears one who heard those startling words of Jesus and who, through cocked to pick up the names of the new candidates for office. years of suffering, had come to internalize them: "The elders which are among you I exhort, who am also an nd what really are we striving after so desperately? elder, and a witness of the sufferings of Christ, and also a Where does it all get us? partaker of the glory that shall be revealed: feed the flock of A When I lived in Canada in the 1970s, the names of God which is among you, taking the oversight media personalities Pierre Burton and Charles Templeton were thereof, not by constraint, but willingly; not household words throughout the country. Riding a wave of for filthy lucre, but of a ready mind; neither public esteem, they went to Washington, D.C., to lead, as I as being lords over God's heritage, but recall it, a protest in behalf of Canada over some U.S.-Canada being ensamples to the flock. And when dispute. In the midst of their stay a Canadian reporter asked the chief Shepherd shall appear, ye shall then White House press secretary Ron Ziegler if President receive a crown of glory that fadeth not Nixon had any plans to meet with Pierre Burton. Bewildered, away" (1 Peter 5:1-4). Ziegler responded, "Pierre who?" The incident has, I think, a message for all who strive for ' This editorial may be seen as a companion to "When the Letterhead Is Gone," power in small places—like our church. In my own little pond I Adventist Review, Apr. 25, 1996, p. 6. may be regarded as a very big fish. But a rude awakening awaits 'See Matt. 20:17-28. me as I head out into the mighty ocean. Macbeth, Act V, scene v, lines 24-26.

6 (702) ADVENTIST REVIEW, JUNE 20, 1996 ADVENTIST LIFE Our 6-year-old daughter, Jillian, still gets the giggles when we remind her of what she said for her memory verse when she was 3. The verse was Matthew 12:12: "Therefore it is lawful to do good on the Sabbath" (NIV). Her variation: "It is therefore good to have waffles on Sabbath." With Sabbath morning being a rushed, grab-a-bowl-of-cold-cereal kind of morning, she might have a point. —Linda Oster, Santa Cruz, California

Other "Bible Bloopers" From Students: • "In the first book of the Bible, Guinessis, God got tired of creating the world, so he took the Sabbath off. Adam and Eve were created from an apple tree. Noah's wife was called Joan of Ark." • "Moses died before he ever reached Canada. Then Joshua led the Hebrews in the battle of Geritol. The greatest miracle in the Bible was when Joshua told his son to stand still and he obeyed him!" • "The people who followed the Lord were called the 12 decibels. The Epistles were the wives of the apostles." —excerpted from a list compiled by Richard Lederer for National Review, Dec. 3, 1995

HERALD'S TRUMPET LOVE ONE ANOTHER

Hey, kids! BEST BUDS: Though Herald, the he'll have to share Review angel, is back, some of his toys later and Herald's trumpet is once on, Adrian Sarli, 19 again hidden in this magazine. months, of the Niles The winners from our last contest (May 9) Westside church in were: Aixsha Bishop, El Dorado, Panama; and Michigan, has nothing Ardee Bolante, Legaspi, Philippines. Aixsha and but affection for his Ardee received Guide Frisbees. 1-week-old brother, Where was Herald's trumpet? On page 30, Nathan. Their mother, halfway down the first column. Dorothea, says the two For those of you who aren't sure what you're hit it off from the very looking for, here's what the beginning. "The day we updated trumpet looks like: came home from the Now find the matching trumpet hidden in this hospital," she says, magazine. Then do some "trumpeting" of your "Nathan was sleeping, own. This time we're asking you to sing your and so I said I was favorite Sabbath school song to a grown-up. going to put a blanket If you can do both these things, send a postcard over him because he telling where you spotted Herald's trumpet and what was cold. Then Adrian song you sang to: Herald, Adventist Review, 12501 started to cry and said, Old Columbia Pike, Silver Spring, MD 20904. 'Baby cold! Baby cold!' The prize is Guide's Greatest Stories, a Review and It was so cute." Herald book compiled by Randy Fishell. Look for the three winners' names and Herald's WE NEED YOU Give & Take is your page. Send your "Adventist Quotes," top-quality photos, return in the July 25 AnchorPoints Edition. Have "Adventist Life" vignettes, "Readers' Exchange" items, and prayer requests to: Give & fun! Take, Adventist Review, 12501 Old Columbia Pike, Silver Spring, MD 20904; fax: 301- 680-6638; CompuServe: 74532,2564.

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° One Adventist Vt (64/fCrY couple explains BY JANEALLEN can quicklybecomecomplex, expectations. identified the From important to AS FARBACKICOULDREMEMBER,WANTED Christmas pageantdrewsuchacrowd.WhenIsawthe ceremony inasmallchurchnearourhomeMichigan.I'd But mostwhohaveplannedawedding had walkedrightoffthepagesofmystorybook.Avision in bride, Iunderstoodtheexcitement.ItwasasifCinderella never seensomanypeopleinchurch;noteventheannual to beabride.ThefirstweddingIattendedwascandlelight days thatfollowed,mybestfriendandIplayedbride. pure white,thebrideseemedtofloatasifcarriedonacloud. fiancé threaded friend, whoaskedmetobeoneofherbridesmaids.We Dishtowel veilsandbouquetsofwildcarrotsprovidedend- I wascertainanangelcouldnotbemorebeautiful.Inthe graduated instantlyfrom classmates beganplanningtheirweddings,includingmybest 18-year-olds lookinglikeblue taffetamorninggloriesinhigh less hoursofimagination. and manyyardsofaqua-blue taffeta.Thememoryofthree the designerstyles,wefinally purchasedSimplicitypatterns heels stilloccasionallyswishes throughmymind. During mysenioryearofhighschoolengaged time immemorial, COVER W them.—Editors. personal and The authorofthisarticleexplainshowsheandher their way weddings have 7 through Cffr edC474ff religious valuesthatwere that for Seventeen costly, and these concernsandhowthey to today knowthatthe been ADVENTIST REVIEW, JUNE 20, 1 96 S T0RY laden Bride's. them tosimplifywassatisfy. important with external IZtl/C After studying most occasions. event ) 4 7 / Ct 47./ .

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PHOTOB YJO EL SPRI NGE R; DOLLSBY JA NIC ETREPPER One of my college roommates recently A Nonspectator Wedding reminded me that a highlight of summer school at Andrews BY PENNY GALAMBOS University was attending numerous weddings on When Lowell and I discussed our plans to be married, he told me about a campus. We went to every Quaker wedding he had attended. Their simple ceremony had made a long- wedding announced in the lasting impression on him. church bulletin one summer. That was our cue. On January 24, 1993, we looked into expectant faces that From our favorite seats in the turned to view our entrance into the church. With a bell choir playing, we back of Pioneer Memorial proceeded toward two chairs. After we were seated facing the audience, Lowell church we had a clear view welcomed our guests. He also announced what our wedding program stated— as multiple attendants we wanted them to be participants in the joy and celebration of our special day. preceded each bride down Lowell invited people to be comfortable with silence. But he also encouraged that long aisle and organ them—as they felt moved—to speak a few words of advice and blessing to us, music filled the air. It was or to share a memory, song, or prayer, as is the Quaker custom. Another almost like the wedding musical selection performed by the bell choir gave people a chance to think scene from The Sound of about the idea. Music. Lowell's adult son, Christopher, the "microphone bearer," was the first to Afterward we'd go back to congratulate us and give us his blessing. Within the next 20 minutes or so, 32 the dormitory and discuss individuals spoke. every detail. It was kind of a We treasure the tape that contains the messages recorded for us that day. grown-up version of playing There were sober moments and moments of bride—without dishtowel laughter. veils and wild carrot One woman recalled the words "for whom the nosegays. In college we called bell tolls" and the answer, "It tolls for thee." it "taking notes." While we usually associate those words with In the 1960s weddings funerals, she said, "Why can't we also think of often became opportunities weddings? May the bells toll for you with joy for creative expression. By today! They are echoing in our hearts as you the time I was in my late 20s, stand hand in hand with God." my dream was to be married A man advised us, "Never go to bed mad at in a field of waving grain. My each other. My wife and I have tried to follow bridesmaids would wear that." He also admitted that "sometimes we peasant blouses and gingham don't go to bed too early! (The guests enjoyed a skirts and carry baskets of good laugh.) But it's good advice, and we pass it daisies. I'd wear multicolored on to you." ribbons in my hair like the girl pictured on one of my record jackets. Imagine how Penny and Lowell Galambos live in Newberg, Oregon. thankful my girlfriends are that I did not get married then! Therefore, "everything never goes My heart applauds when I lived in eastern Asia during the right." (A fact well documented candlelighters succeed in lighting all 1970s, and while my dreams of being a today by millions of home video the wedding candles on their first try, bride were pushed aside for a career, cameras.) I remember an ambulance or when a flower girl walks all the way still I did not miss an opportunity to siren blowing and lights flashing, to the front of the church without attend a wedding. In fact, I taking away a groomsman who had tripping on her long skirt. participated in the first Christian fainted and incurred a concussion. I am impressed by a bride and wedding among a group of people Or the self-appointed photographer- groom who plan a ceremony that is called "tree dwellers" in the Celebes. guest who positioned himself directly uniquely meaningful to them. My behind the minister midway through sentimental nature especially Keep It Simple the ceremony. (It's all on video!) appreciates a favorite song, quotation, Minister/author Robert Fulghum There was also the wedding the or Bible verse. And while I still look calls weddings "high state occasions minister forgot. (That's not on forward to seeing the wedding party's involving amateurs under pressure." video.) attire, I came to realize long ago that

10 (706) ADVENTIST REVIEW, JUNE 20, 1996 weddings are not about fashion and the voices of a man and a woman fretting over wedding details. pomp. exchanging vows of love and The week culminated in a short, Finally, many years after attending commitment in the presence of God. carefully timed ceremony. We my first wedding at that small church Although we liked the idea, we also greeted guests for about 20 minutes in Michigan, I became a bride. A knew something was missing. We and invited them to sit where they number of factors played in the really wanted our families and friends were comfortable. Promptly at 2:20 planning of our wedding. to share in our joy. So we mailed the p.m., with about 70 people seated First, our friendship had extended announcements earlier than we had in the sanctuary, the minister and over several years, and we had originally planned, but did not change the wedding party walked down the attended a number of weddings our plans for a simple ceremony. aisle to the front of the church together. Those occasions led to together. discussion about our wedding in the Once we were in place, I stepped future. Without the pressure of forward and thanked the guests for actually planning a wedding, we coming. I introduced our families were able to discover what was The more things and explained why we had selected important to us long before the the officiating minister. I did this event. we decided not to because I have often attended My husband-to-be had been weddings and wished someone would married before, and was not tell me who was who. It also helped interested in another church do, the more establish the tone for the wedding. wedding. I had never been married, Without taking away any of the and had always dreamed of a church comfortable we sanctity of the ceremony, we avoided wedding. The church setting was stiff formality. important to me because of its became. The minister's remarks were symbolic significance. At the same especially meaningful because of his time, my job had involved planning long friendship with the groom. He a number of special events, and I invited our guests to stand for prayer, was well aware of the behind-the- The more things we decided not to an act that allowed them to participate scenes work and worry associated with do, the more comfortable we became in the ceremony with us. After the them. So over time, our wedding plans with our plans. Our decisions would minister pronounced us husband and were shaped by his lack of enthusiasm not be right for every couple, but I wife, our attendants stepped aside and for another traditional church believe there is value in questioning signed our marriage license. The wedding, and my desire to avoid undue every part of the wedding. Why do minister then introduced us as Mr. and work and worry. something just because everybody Mrs., and at 2:35 the ceremony was else does? For one thing, instead of a over. hat guided us as we made reception following the ceremony, we If there are any lessons from our choices was that our occa- greeted our guests in the church wedding that I hope we carry on Wsion should be uniquely lobby before the wedding. We also through the years ahead, it is the meaningful to us and express our val- chose not to have music or flowers. concept of simplicity. For us, keeping it ues. Once we decided to keep our simple helped us focus on what was I wanted a custom announcement. wedding simple and worry-free, we really important. He wanted professional photographs. I preferred not to have them. We wanted the signing of the license as wanted the focus of our wedding to part of the ceremony, a variation on be the commitment we were making. Jane Allen and Carlos something I'd seen at Singapore This was a personal choice that Quevedo were married weddings. He wanted a longtime friend worked for us. last fall. They live in to officiate. We both wanted the short Orlando, Florida. version of the wedding vows. I wanted Family and Friends a new hat. He wanted a new tie. Our families began arriving a week Above all, it became clear that we before the wedding. A girlfriend came both wanted to keep it simple and from out of town for a day of shopping. memorable without involving undue Friends gave me a surprise shower. My expense and work. For a while we future sister-in-law and brother-in-law considered a private evening ceremony hosted a huge Sabbath dinner. Instead in the church. I liked the idea of a of a one-day event, we had a whole quiet church setting, silent except for week of activities to enjoy—without

ADVENTIST REVIEW, JUNE 2 0 , 19 9 6 (707)11 DEVOTION AL How I Learned to Live Above A simple Anxiety method that anyone can BY SALLY STREIB follow

T 6:00 ONE LANGUID JULY MORN- you will of your own spiritual choice be free and joyous in God; if with gladsome consent of heart to His gracious call, ing I crept out of bed, slipped you come wearing the yoke of Christ—the yoke of obedience and service—all your murmurings will be stilled, into my robe, and curled up in all your difficulties will be removed, all the perplexing problems that now confront you will be solved." my favorite chair in front of a I wanted to squeeze every bit of meaning I could from this surprising message. First, I noticed the word that begins each large window. I gazed into the phrase in this glorious sentence: "if." It told me that conditions had been set and that I am the person who must gray dawn and watched a pumpkin sun top the trees and meet them! I must seek, I must choose, I must consent, I must come, I must wear the yoke of Christ. burst into the sky. Then I opened the book Thoughts From I asked myself some questions. What do I seek? What do I choose? To what do I give consent? To whom do I come? the Mount of Blessing. What must I wear? Listing the information (as appears below) helped me concentrate on the details of the formula For several weeks I had prayed and studied, seeking the before me, filling every word with importance for me. purpose God had for catapulting me into the position of I seek the Lord. interim Shepherdess coordinator at the General Conference. I choose to be free and joyous. To be honest, I worried a lot too. What did He want me to I consent to His call. accomplish? What should I focus on? How would I have the I come to Jesus. wisdom and strength needed for committee meetings, seminars, I wear the yoke of obedience and service. organizing programs, in connection with Annual Council I then decided to evaluate the modifiers to see what meetings, solving problems and giving needed counsel? information they might supply. I saw that I must seek God I scanned several pages of the book before my eyes rested every day. This points to a daily conversion. It is my own on the last sentence on page 101. I could hardly believe spiritual choice to be free and joyous in God. It is with my what I read. Here are the words: heart's gladsome consent that I come wearing Christ's yoke "If you will seek the Lord and be converted every day; if of obedience and service.

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Another important fact jumped spiritual strength rekindled in one off the page. God wants my heart person's life. New hope came to a and its affections, as well as my I considered the discouraged child of God. mind, to be involved in this On the same page of Thoughts adventure. I choose with my mind. difficulties in my From the Mount of Blessing that holds I'm joyous with my heart. the three conditions and promises I could see that God does not we've been discussing, the Lord says want me to carry the burden of life and the "when we really believe that [He] anxiety and fear, nor be crushed by loves us, and means to do us good, the load of solving and removing perplexing we shall cease to worry about the problems. His yoke is indeed easy future. We shall trust God as a child and His burden light. My heart problems that trusts a loving parent. Then our leaped with joy at His reasonable troubles and torments will disappear; commands. for our will is swallowed up in the I looked at the second half of the faced me. Some will of God." compound sentence. It was too good The promises I discovered belong to be true! If I meet the conditions of them felt to every reader—to all who, with —in God's strength, of course—what God's help, fulfill the conditions. In will be the results? impossible other words, you too can embrace 1.Murmurings will cease. this powerful strategy for worry-free 2. Difficulties will vanish. living. 3. Problems will be solved. to solve. I thought about murmuring, and Sally Streib wrote this piece while she a picture of those Israelites out in was the acting Shepherdess Inter- the desert came into view. Did they I found a small notebook and listed national coordinator at the General grumble? Did they complain about all the things I murmured about, all the Conference. God's dealing with them instead of difficulties that seemed like roadblocks trusting Him? The first promise here is in my way, and I described all the that such murmurings will cease. perplexing problems I felt I had. I dated I considered the difficulties in my these. I prayed, concentrating on my life and the perplexing problems that half of the formula. And I waited. faced me. Some of them felt impossible That very weekend I spent a few days to solve. at the beach with three friends and felt However, when I circled the action impressed to share my new adventure verbs, I noticed something important, with them. After our study we shared our tree one year; of the Adventist Review for US$38.97. a wonderful truth: "will be stilled"; trouble lists and waited with antici- CI Please renew my subscription. "will be removed"; "will be solved." pation, to see if God would keep His ❑ Please update my address. Enter new address at top of form. Copy previous address at bottom This told me that what happens does word as we concentrated on our part. of form or enclose old mailing label. not come from me. Rather it comes Soon things began to happen! And Li Please send a gift subscription to the address from another source. It is not I who when we met again to share our at the bottom of this form. stills, not I who removes, not I who experience, we all reported that our My Name solves. No! It is God who does it all. devotional time had increased and that Current Address This was good news! I was thrilled! its quality had greatly improved. Our City I studied other modifiers, noticing fears and worries had lessened, and a State, Zip that just as the three conditions had new joy filled our hearts. Our Phone been preceded by "if," so each result or excitement grew until we began promise was preceded by the sharing with anyone who would listen. Please enter previous address or gift address here. descriptive word "all." All means Just before writing this article, I everything. It points to the total, to reviewed my prayer journal and smiled: Name the fact that nothing's been left out. $1,500 had come just in time to allow Address All murmurings, all difficulties, and all a pastor's son to join his class in City perplexing problems vanish. 016"..... graduation. A woman got the job she State, Zip What a wonderful thought! God needed at just the right salary. Please enclose payment for orders. Mail to: Subscriber wanted me to seek, to choose, to wear, Someone's attitude changed. A bill Services, P.O. Box 1119, Hagerstown, MD 21741. Credit card orders: 1-800-765-6955. to consent, to come. And He has had been paid anonymously by a 663-01-0 promised to still, to remove, to solve. sharing person. Confusion cleared and

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ANDY NASH Juniors

of unlike the many stages of life are the many "Persons helped," she says. "Let's start with Larry Burgeson." stages of Sabbath school. Each stage holds its Good. I have time. I think hard: Who did I help? I did the own charm. Yet one stage noses ahead of the dishes—that helped Mom. I stacked firewood—that helped Dad. pack, declaring itself the essence Actually, that helped all of us. Helped keep us warm. of Sabbath school. Juniors. And there must be others I haven't thought of. NWhy juniors? Because in cradle roll through "Andy? How many?" kindergarten you're cute, but you're clueless. You "Nine," I say humbly, knowing that my deeds instinctively swing your little left arm during pale next to Raul's. Yeah, but they're just as good as "Father Abraham," but you have no idea what it Larry's. I don't have much time to rationalize. means. In teens and youth you know what things We're on to the next category: literature mean, but you don't participate—you're too cool. distributed. And in adults your discussion is mature but After a couple exciting rounds of Bible Password,' abstract, a perpetual debate over faith and works. we begin the lesson study. Samson's an intriguing Only juniors offers the perfect blend of fun and guy, but I'm distracted by the Guide, which I picked growth, of innocence and cognizance. At least it up earlier. I scour the list of pen pals, looking for did where I grew up. people with hobbies that match mine: sports, Juniors begins with song service. We use the Advent Youth reading, making friends. I keep forgetting to send mine in.' Sing. Whenever my mom plays the piano, we call out Number "Andy, what do you think about the Philistines?" 178, "The Captain Calls," because we love her reaction— I don't know what to say. I've been reading the Guide. disgust. "Not this song again," she says, laughing, and then she Luckily, I'm rescued by Don Strom, who pops his head in the hammers out the chords while we sing of the mighty task to do door and holds up two fingers—two minutes left. . . . "Volunteers! Volunteers! Vol-un-teers!" "OK," says the teacher, "we need to wrap up. Don't forget That out of the way, we go through our usual repertoire—"A about the canoeing trip next Sunday." She closes with prayer, Quiet Place" (2), "Pass It On" (152), "Love Was When" (128), and we scramble down the hall past the adult room, where and "In My Heart There Rings a Melody" (95). Inevitably someone is insisting that "faith without works is dead." I someone calls out "Number 215," and several people flip to the recognize the voice. It's the same guy that declined an back of the songbook because they've forgotten: there isn't any invitation to help with juniors this quarter. 215. Everyone chuckles. It's too bad, really. He doesn't know what he's missing. Then someone calls out "166," and we don't even turn to it. Everyone knows 166 is "Side by Side." The piano leads in with ' The reward for reading the mission story up front is that you get to pass it on to whomever you choose. It's a dramatic moment. No one's mak- "pray that we all will be there," and we sing loudly, enjoying ing eye contact; all heads are bowed. Then you say it. "Danny?" the familiarity, hoping that no one will confuse "join hands 'Bible Password is pretty much the same as regu- together" with "sing songs together," reveling the idea that lar Password, except that we use Bible words such as "flood," "vine," and "tax collector." "we'll fight in faith and we will overcome." My sister got hers published. It read: "OK," says the teacher. "It's time for the mission story." We "Angel Nash; animals, piano, gymnastics; look around to see which junior has it this week. It's quiet for P.O. Box 479, Detroit Lakes, Minnesota." A couple months later she got a letter several seconds, until finally Ruth Umber says, "Oh, all right," from a boy in Kenya. The address on the and drags up front. "I haven't even read it," she says, which builds envelope read: "Angel Nash; animals, our anticipation even more. Big foreign names, here she comes. piano, gymnastics; P.O. Box 479, Detroit Lakes, Minnesota." Ruth's a good reader, though, and doesn't goof as much as we had hoped. The story's about a man named Raul who does Andy Nash, assistant to the great things in Costa Rica.' editor of the Adventist The teacher then pulls out a checklist to see what great Review, grew up in Detroit things we did this past week, a mini-investigative judgment. Lakes, Minnesota.

ADVENTIST REVIEW, JUNE 20, 1.996 (711) 15 LIFESTYLE Transcending a Dad's Difficult

Why was he a Legacy perfectionist and a workaholic? Could I be different? BY RICK LABATE

T AGE 36 I HAVE COME TO driven by the desire to produce, to provide, to ensure a better life for their children. They were honest, rule-keeping, God- a new realization about my father. fearing, patriotic folks who knew what was expected and did their job very well! But they often did so at the price of Over a period of several months a emotional intimacy."' Perhaps the absence of this critical intimacy was not couple years ago, I found myself intentional. And if it was not deliberate, should my father really be blamed? Much of this fault, then, belongs in the vehemently denouncing my father category of an honest mistake. For Dad, providing for the material needs of his children was what counted. It defined Afor some emotionally charged stress problems that I had experi- what a successful and caring father was all about. If he had spent less time producing income for the family and more time enced. I discovered that I was not alone. At least two of my sib- simply being with us at home, he would have been at odds with his own ethic; in some respects he was being true to his own lings had also struggled with deep and painful issues in their calling as he understood it. To spend less effort providing means and more effort providing emotional care and intimacy was not lives because of direct or indirect actions by our father. what he perceived to be the responsibility of a loving father. The five of us children did receive from him anything At the same time, I was puzzled. After all, he was never material we ever needed, and much of what we wanted. We physically or sexually abusive to any of us. He had simply lived knew that all we had to do was ask, and it eventually would be by the dictates of his own era about what constituted a good given. Yes, the asking was sometimes unpleasant. We would get father. In many ways he was a product of his times. that look and a brief lecture, "Boy, you kids are going to drain One book on the midlife crises of men described my dad me dry. Don't you ever get enough?" Yet in the end he would quite well: always provide, because in the end it was the only way he knew "It's not as if our fathers were bad or abusive men. Most were to show that he cared. the product of their times. Their understanding of manhood I also believed that in Dad's mind the issue of our emotional was forged on the anvil of the Great Depression. They were needs being met never surfaced. He felt there was a wife and

16 (712) ADVENTIST REVIEW, JUNE 2 0 , 1996 he wasaproductofhistimes.The mother athometodothatjob.Again, somehow hewouldhaveseen toitthat philosophy ofparentingthathe understood taughtthatthefatherearned children. Hadanythingeverhappened the moneyandmotherraised our emotionalandintimacyneeds were met. to ourmother,Iamconfident that wrong indoubting hislove.Itwasvery I amconvincedthathavebeen strong. Itwasassolidhiscommitment was thathischildrenbecompetentand good livesandtosucceedinwhatever we chosetodo.Thoughhispersonality to beingintheoffice.Hisgreatdesire support forhischildrenintheir earthly somewhat flawed,hewasfirm inhis independent. Hewantedustohave was domineeringandhischaracter companionship. Thereisanacheinmy pursuits. Just thesame,Igreatlymissed his ADVENTIST REVIEW, JUNE 20,1996

spent togetherbutdidnotbecausehe heart forallthetimeswecouldhave father's presenceforonlyoneortwo hours eachweekwhenthefamilywent out toeattogether,usuallyon aSaturday lived byadifferentagenda.Iwasinmy night. Therewaslittlecompanionship minutes. that tookplaceduringthosefew to-day affairs.Butathome,our knowledge ofDad's exacting My motherwasinchargeofthe day-

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ILLUSTRATIONBY JAC KPARDU E expectations for those affairs loomed one who does not ever have to keep sometimes authoritarian personalities. I over all of us like an approaching striving for the next achievement or try have reached the point that a handful of summer storm. to control the world so that everything men from my father's generation are He worked seven days a week, will be perfect and in order. among my closest friends. including most holidays, and frequently Still, there was much that was good did not come home until after 10:00 in what Dad instilled in me, such as the have also come to think that one p.m. He would call mother just before he importance of honest labor. He was, at reason there are philosophical dif- left work. This was the warning signal. the heart of it, kind to his children. He Iferences in church strategy Dad expected the house to be in simply spoke it in a language I am only between the older generation of perfect order—the pillows properly now understanding. Adventist leaders and members and arranged on the living room furniture, Coming to this awareness has helped the younger generation has to do with all lint picked up from the carpet. The me become a calmer person in at least the issues that separated my father and household did not wait for him in joy, three ways. me: production versus nurturing. A but in tenseness. We children were heavy emphasis on soul winning, often awakened from our sleep by the missions, and tithe increase may verbal abuse being hurled at Mom. spring not just from a theological Dad loved his kids, but never It helped for me to understanding but also from a mind- changed their diapers. He was held set that gives priority to measurable hostage by the American work ethic. achievements. I can see now that Dad was a realize that my I see my generation of fellow pastors compulsive workaholic whose gearing a larger ratio of its ministry identity and self-worth were dad was a product toward nurturing and meeting personal inescapably bound to the company he needs. That is not to say that the older worked for, the Columbia Insurance of his times. generation of pastors and leaders was Company.' slack in this area, nor does it minimize the importance of calculable Can I Be Different Than Dad? accomplishments. I now realize how much I am my First, I no longer insist that my However, I see my colleagues and father's son. I don't work for his firm, but physical surroundings must be myself as ministers who consciously many of my compulsions have been the impeccable. For example, we recently decide that concentration on the care- same. To my surprise I found that I had had my 8-year-old nephew, David, and giving in God's family is as important as some of his perfectionist expectations 4-year-old niece, Esti, visiting our home a concern for numerical success. and idiosyncrasies—they were just for a week. With two young children in Finally, coming to terms with my dad's dressed in different attire. the house, we had their toys constantly legacy has helped me spiritually. I choose For example, being a perfectionist underfoot. In the past, I would have to believe that my acceptance with himself, Dad anticipated that his own been picking up the toys every time I others—and with God—is not offspring would accomplish great things. walked into the room in which they dependent upon how successful I may or We never knew what it was to were playing. The room had to be tidy! may not be. It is not based upon how accomplish a job that was up to his Now I can relax and enjoy their immaculate the house, yard, and car standard. At the time, we were childlike innocence instead of always appear. Instead, I have learned that disappointed that he never affirmed us. focusing on their "messes." being accepted by others in spite of my Now I also know that he never affirmed I am no longer relentless about flaws, and in turn, my accepting people himself. He just kept driving forward, having the house dusted, vacuumed, and for who they are with their flaws, is what striving to reach new heights. "aseptic." Please understand, my wife is a truly matters. Was it good? No. Was it healthy? No, great housekeeper, but even Mr. Clean it ended up killing him. Was it realistic? would have had trouble living up to my ' James A. Hamish, Men at Mid-Life: Steering Through the Detours (Nashville: Dimensions for Most definitely not. Yet it was how he expectations. I no longer feel I must Living, 1993), p. 42. understood the world to operate. So clean my car every Sunday and cut the 'Our experience was amazingly similar to even his constant demands and grass every Thursday. I have learned to what Hamish describes (ibid. , p. 48). perfectionist expectations for us were a be less rigid in my expectations about form of paternal love. everything, from my wife, to the house, Much of what my father was, said, to the weather. Rick Labate is pastor of the and did has had a profound effect on me. Second, I now relate better to men Danville First Seventh-day But I do not want to live the kind of life my father's age, especially those in my Adventist Church in that he lived. As an adult I have worked congregation. I can better understand Danville, Virginia. to be a more peaceful person within— their hardworking, caring, and

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SANDRA DORAN When the Going Gets Tough

hat do you do when you're married to What motivates me to go on like this, day after day? What someone who is "terribly insecure and higher meaning lends significance to what I am doing? When jealous"? How do you manage when you things become difficult, mentally rehearse your answers to these feel that your questions. Understand that you are every move is choosing to remain in it for the Wbeing second-guessed? How do you reasons you have outlined. live when your life is not your own? A support system 2. Build your social resources. The Such are the questions raised in quickest route toward domestic a recent letter. The details tell the is crucial. violence is isolation. When an story. A committed Seventh-day individual becomes isolated, he or Adventist wife. An accusing she is at the mercy, emotionally and husband from an abusive background refusing to seek help. physically, of the other person. Find friends, family, and Marriage in a pressure cooker. professionals who understand. A support system is crucial to Let me say from the outset that I feel abuse is wrong. your survival. You can't go this alone. Mental abuse. Physical abuse. Emotional abuse. In the case 3. Find things that you're good at and do them. You need of physical abuse, the issue is cut-and-dried. If your safety is joy in your life. If that comes from growing the perfect rose, at stake, get out. Don't look back. God does not expect tailoring a suit, or adding a column of figures, go for it. It's anyone to wait around and be physically hurt. But what critical to your self-esteem and will provide an avenue for about when one's emotional safety is at stake? mental energy when things get tough. Adventist psychologist Dr. Kiti Freier-Luke offers this Along with these three things, there are some direct advice: "If a husband refuses to get help, a woman must actions you can take. determine if she can remain in the marriage and grow in 1. Build on the good things in your marriage. Be on the Christ alone, or if her husband's control issues will ultimately lookout for activities that you and your spouse can do destroy her, and thus, her relationship with Christ." together. No matter how small. For individuals who decide to remain in difficult 2. Learn to state your mind in a calm, nonthreatening relationships, the matter becomes one of building an manner. Don't be afraid to say "I am sorry you have emotional survival kit. How, exactly, does one do that? The perceived it that way, but I certainly had no ill intentions." research on coping provides some interesting insights. Above all, believe in yourself. Believe in what you are There are two basic ways in which people can deal with doing. Believe in the power of Jesus Christ to sustain you. demands that tax their resources) You are a Christian, choosing to remain with a difficult First, they can take some kind of direct action. They can partner. You are neither a martyr nor a saint. Learn to live confront an issue. Fight. Seek to reestablish their own outside the clutching power that threatens to frame the ways rights. Solicit help from others. Second, they can manage by in which you perceive yourself. Hold on to who you are. "controlling the meaning of the problem." 2 In this case, individuals deal with stress by handling their own internal ' R. S. Lazarus and R. Launier, "Stress-related Transactions Between Person and Environment," Perspectives in Interactional Psychology (New response to the situation. York: Plenum Pub., 1978). In general, human relationships grow when individuals 2 L. I. Pearlin and C. Schooler, "The Structure of Coping," Journal of take direct action to handle stress points. However, when Health and Social Behavior, 1978. one individual in a relationship refuses to negotiate, the rules change. Direct action becomes futile. Coping must Sandra Doran will soon complete her doctoral occur on a personal, internal level. What are some of the degree in special education at Boston University. ways people handle things they cannot change? Her new business, Powerlines, specializes in writ- 1. Take back your sense of control. Sit down and ask yourself ing, speaking, and educational services. some hard questions. Why am I staying in the relationship?

ADVENTIST REVIEW, JUNE 20, 1996 (715) 19 WOR LD NEWS & PERSPECTIVES Ye Have Done It Unto Me Adventist teens feed God's homeless children in San Francisco

BY TIM LALE, ASSISTANT EDITOR, INSIGHT

aul Fournier, an 18-year-old week. To accomplish its task, Glide an up-close glimpse of the plight of the Adventist, will never forget depends on thousands of volunteers homeless. "The St. Anthony staff his first encounter with each year. wanted us to mingle with these people someone in the advanced Extreme Workout team members in line," said John Gayan, an Extreme stages of AIDS. Workout staff member from pHe was handing out bags of British Columbia. The line food at the Project Open stretched about half a city Hand food bank in down- block. town San Francisco. Though "There were a couple times Paul knew the clients of I got kind of choked up. I Open Hand were HIV-posi- thought to myself, God has tive, it wasn't until he took given us everything. What have an order from a man with I done to deserve it?" remarked lesions all over his face that Curtis Chu, 15, from the reality set in. Milpitas, California. "Some Paul, a student at of the people were staring at Southern College in us as though we didn't belong Collegedale, Tennessee, there." participated in Insight The volunteers also magazine's first Extreme cleaned rooms in St. Workout mission trip, which Anthony's residential shelter included more than 70 and cleared smashed beer students and staff from all DINNER'S READY: Adventist teens served meals at San Francisco bottles and hypodermic over the United States and homeless shelters and dining rooms. needles from the roof. On Canada. From their home the second and third days the base at Mountain View Academy in helped in the two dining rooms, filling Extreme Workout crew served meals California, the group spent three days food trays, removing dirty ones, and from 10:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. Joan, the on social service projects, one day at a washing tables and dishes. "We got to dining room supervisor, encouraged building site, and one day on the help people and interact with them. them to stop and talk to clients at any beach. Most of those we served were very time: "Every day volunteers help us Why a mission trip to a wealthy appreciative," said Amy Pallo, 18, from run the dining room. You guys are city in North America? The Insight Startup, Washington. "The staff running the place today, so you create staff wanted to expose Adventist teens members who work there were really the atmosphere." to urban problems they see on TV and great." Paul Fournier and other team show them how to make a difference. Friday's crew assembled about 4,000 members at Project Open Hand's The Extreme Workout was publicized sack lunches to be handed out over the Food Bank gathered fresh vegetables in Insight last year and was open to all weekend. One volunteer said, "The and fruit, pasta, bread, and canned Adventist teens. stuff they do here is kind of neat. I goods and met the recipients in A large team of teens served meals wish our church could do something person. Anyone with a confirmed at Glide Methodist Church's dining like this." HIV diagnosis received an order of rooms for the homeless in San Another dining room and shelter free groceries each week. Krista Francisco's Tenderloin district. The organized by St. Anthony Foundation, Willinger, 15, from Armstrong, church feeds up to 800 needy people also in the rough Tenderloin British Columbia, felt rewarded by per meal, three times a day, five days a neighborhood, provided students with the comments of the clients. "They

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that we were to Mexico, and others were graduates there, and they of earlier mission trips. Serena Wong, all wanted to 17, from Hanford, California, said, "I know our names," went on the Guatemala mission trip said Cortney too. It's getting to be a habit—a good Needham, 19, one!" from Sequim, None of the teens regretted a Washington. holiday away from home. "It was Extreme Workout great," said Todd Holbrook, 14, from workers helped Tacoma, Washington. "I met a lot of the six camp staff nice people, made a lot of good members take the friends." Jessica Parker, 17, from group of 40 Spokane, Washington, said, "There children on field are people on the streets who don't trips to the zoo and to San BAG IT UP: While cleaning a San Francisco beach site, teen volun- Francisco's teers collected 350 pounds of debris in three hours. parks. The entire are so nice. I was surprised," she said. Extreme Workout crew headed to At the Open Hand kitchen on south Oakland on New Year's Eve Seventeenth Street, participants to work on a Habitat for Humanity prepared hot meals to be delivered to site. Some teens wondered what bedridden AIDS patients. The kitchen difference they might make in one delivers 1,500 meals every day. Denise, day. Two groups of four painted the Open Hand's assistant cook, said to interior of two homes while three me, "When groups like yours come in, crews put up insulation and siding it makes us very happy. We can get on another. Others built porches, things done that we don't normally and a team with hammers built a do." slat fence around one property. By A half-dozen volunteers worked at the end of the day, we could see a the San Francisco Jewish Community transformation in all five houses Center's winter camp for children aged under construction. 5-10 whose parents work through the The Extreme Workout teens saw holidays. "The kids were very happy a day at the beach in a new way IF I HAD A HAMMER: Teens found many ways after they to serve. This student helped build houses at a helped with south Oakland Habitat for Humanity project. beach cleanup. On a warm, have enough food. So I just decided sunny day the this year that I wanted to go and help entire team people instead of getting things that combed five miles were of no use." of beach area, Would they do it again? "This beats collecting 350 everything I've ever done," said pounds of trash in Marena Good, 16, from Centerville, three hours. Ohio. "No trip can beat this."

Nothing Beats For information on future Insight This projects, call Fred Cornforth at Six of the teens (208) 459-8522, or E-mail had participated 74617,[email protected]. in Insight and YOUNG AT HEART: More than 20 adult staff members like John Maranatha's 1995 Gayan, of Armstrong, British Columbia, accompanied the students Ultimate Work- and shared the excitement. out mission trip

ADVENTIST REVIEW, JUNE 2 0 , 1 9 9 6 (717) 21. WORLD NEWS PERSPECTIVES Learning From Bob Dole's Resignation

PAMELA HARRIS, JOURNALISM AND COMMUNICATION DEPARTMENT CHAIR, SOUTHERN COLLEGE OF SDAs ormer senator Bob Dole recently left his job of 27 years classes, club members, friends, towns, cities, and nations? (Would and resigned from the United States Senate for an all-or- we act like Jonah—a little surprised and miffed at our success?) nothing gamble for the United States presidency. What if our focus—united, pervasive, creative, and Why? compelling—allowed us to get our message of hope out? There He was lagging badly in the polls. is nothing wrong with good strategy in the great controversy. He was caught up in the minutiae of daily politics. We are, after all, in a more serious war than a political He was in a slump and needed a jump election. A battle like this calls for the start. most creative of strategies. NEWS He had to distance himself from other COMMENTARY What if we found creative new ways to politicians. use the pervasive and compelling He badly needed news coverage. conduits of television, radio, cable, cassettes, videos, fax, the Mostly, he wasn't getting his message out. World Wide Web, E-mail, books, newsletters, magazines, His goal? Winning. It's everything now! postcards, bumper stickers, key chains, and sponsorships? And that's the key here. Focus. Daily focus. What if we Technology is important. As a teenager in the Depression, Adventists became focused on our message of hope? obsessed my dad heard a compelling message of hope over the crystal with spreading hope everywhere? distanced from such internal radio he built using bedsprings. He heard the Voice of controversies as who is the chosen remnant among us? Prophecy, and it changed his life. What if we tore down the billboards of criticism? With politicians gearing up their negative advertising for What it we focused on Jesus Christ? print and broadcast, wouldn't a message of hope be refreshing What would happen if we reached colleagues, neighbors, this election year?

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First Pastor Ordained in Cambodia Church bring hope and joy to children and senior citizens in the Greater Miami, Florida, area through the n March 16 Lim Teng Pheng became the first church's puppet ministry. OAdventist pastor ordained to the gospel in Puppeteers perform at orphanages and senior citizen Cambodia since the country reopened its doors four years homes and ago. Two other Cambodian Adventists have been communicate ordained outside of the country. Christ's love. Born in Phnom Penh, Pheng fled to Thailand with his "Many lives family while a teenager because of have been the civil war. He later came to the changed, United States and received theology starting with training at Columbia Union mine," College in Takoma Park, Maryland. says Humberto Pheng returned to his EFFECTIVE MINISTRY: Many churches and Checa, a homeland as a volunteer in 1991. academies and colleges use puppets as a senior at He was influential in leading 60 vehicle to convey the gospel and anti-drug Greater Miami persons to baptism and organizing messages. The puppets keep the attention Academy. of children and get the messages across. YOUNG PIONEERS: Lim the Phnom Penh city church. He "The ministry Teng and Augusta Pheng also authored a special set of gave me something to do for Christ, something that I Bible studies for those with a needed." Buddhist background, says Larry Colbum, a General Conference associate secretary. Educator's Appeal Opens Doors for East Brazil Students Puppet Ministry Shares Joy With Community For 10 years Adventist youth seeking entrance to Juiz Young people at the Hialeah Spanish Adventist de Fora University in Brazil could not take entrance

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Conferences Participating For Your Good Health

in NET '96 You Mean, for 20 Years? Contrary to popular belief, most healthy Of the 58 conferences in North America, adults don't need vitamins to sup- these five have the greatest percentage of their plement their diet. Instead, most churches participating in the upcoming NET '96 people should pay more attention to evangelistic series to be uplinked from the Orlando area, their body's basic needs and eat a beginning October 5, to approximately 3,500 churches and well-balanced diet, says Dr. Richard homes across North and Central America and Europe. Streiff, University of Florida professor of medicine. He suggests steering clear of processed and 1. Gulf States-85 percent microwave-ready foods because the process saps many of 2. Newfoundland-78 percent their nutrients.—University of Florida Health Science Center. 3. Carolina-73 percent 4. Northern California-70 percent Have a Beet, Pete: Eating plenty of fruit and vegetables 5. British Columbia-67 percent may protect against the development of strokes in men. In fact, one recent study showed that each increment of three Beyond these five, 12 have more than 50 percent of half-cup servings of fruit and vegetables resulted in a 22 per- their churches participating, and 12 others have more than cent decrease in the risk of strokes. And researchers discov- 40 percent. ered this positive effect holds even after adjusting for other lifestyle factors like cigarette smoking, obesity, and physical —Compiled by Mort Juberg during May. activity.—Journal of the American Medical Association.

—Compiled by Larry Becker, editor of Vibrant Life, the church's health outreach journal. To subscribe, contact your ABC or call 1-800-765-6955.

NEWSBREAK examinations because the tests were held on Sabbath. Adventist students had to seek education elsewhere. ► Jere D. Patzer, However, Pastor Edimir Frota, education director for Upper Columbia the South Minas Conference, introduced the federal Conference president, university's rector to Adventist beliefs and appealed for a was elected North change in examination dates. The school's entrance Pacific Union committee changed the test dates and helped 60 president on May 19. Adventist students, says Revista Adventista. Patzer replaces Bruce NEW LEADERS: Huff (left) and Patzer Johnston, who retired News Notes after 46 years of ministry as pastor, teacher, and administrator. ► Bible studies by E-mail have led to two baptisms and ► Family Life International, an annual conference a marriage in Brazil. Eduardo Lutz, an Adventist student, for family life professionals, convenes August 5-12 at and Paulo Trein began corresponding via computer E-mail Andrews University in Berrien Springs, Michigan. More and a Bible study developed in Porto Alegre. than 40 speakers will discuss family issues. Paulo's girlfriend, Josi, and other students joined the For more information, call (616) 471-6366, fax (616) weekly study group, led by Eduardo, his wife, and youth 471-6374, E-mail [email protected], or write FLI, Bell from the local Adventist church. Soon Paulo and Josi Hall 214, Andrews University, Berrien Springs, MI were baptized and later married, according to Revista 49104. Adventista. ► C. Lee Huff, Minnesota Conference president, What's Coming! recently was elected president of the Euro-Asia Division, which is also a vice presidential position in the General June 29 Thirteenth Sabbath Offering for the Conference. Huff replaces Ted N. C. Wilson, who Africa-Indian Ocean Division became president of the Review and Herald Publishing July 6 Vacation Witnessing Association in Hagerstown, Maryland. July 20 Home Study International Promotion

ADVENTIST REVIEW, JUNE 2 0 , 1996 (719) 23 FEATURE Person to Person "Adventists On-line" is breaking down the barriers and keeping members in touch.

BY RALPH BLODGETT • • • • HE DIFFERENCE IN OUR LIVES "When I feel overwhelmed by squabbling teenagers, inundated by before and after joining CompuServe and the squawking of cable TV, invaded by Adventists On-line is like going from radio 'oldies,' or lonesome for spiritual companionship, since my husband is horse-drawn carriages to automobiles. The no longer an Adventist, I take shelter rapidity with which I'm able to learn in the Adventist forum on CompuServe. Some posts make me angry; some cause me about world news both in and outside the church is unparal- to rethink long-held opinions; some affirm my ideas; and a few move me to laughter or tears. This is becoming my leled. Adventists On-line instantly links our worldwide church "cyberfamily" in much the same way I used to feel about the together in a way no other medium can."—Todd B. Guthrie entire denomination when I was much younger."—Elizabeth Butler (74617,2311). (74617,2026).

24 (720) ADVENTIST REVIEW, JUNE 20, 1996 `We share a lot of what we find on new friends, how I chatted alone with business. Instead of playing phone tag the forum with friends, especially our General Conference president Robert with an answering machine or sending a pastor, who is not yet on-line. Many Folkenberg early one Sabbath morning, fax, church leaders can send files and times he has shared late-breaking items and how the on-line conference with messages to workers virtually anywhere with our congregation on Sabbath Don Jacobsen, assistant to the North in the world. Instead of flying workers mornings."—Joe and Teresa Cooper American Division president, was such a across the country to attend costly (74617,121). blessing."—Jim Park (74617,311). meetings, they can hold those same • • • • meetings on-line by computer. "I love this way of talking with other es, times are changing—rapidly. The cost savings is substantial. For members of the church family. And The information superhighway example, several months ago General unless something is said, I have no idea yhas invaded our space, and com- Conference president Robert Folkenberg the skin color of anyone! That's puters and modems have changed for- visited Seoul, South Korea. During his wonderful. On the screen, we're all just ever the way the world and Adventists visit a question came up that needed humans and part of God's family."— keep in touch. some legal counsel. Folkenberg logged Denise E. Lee (74532,3625). Members who have joined Adventists onto the Adventists On-line forum from • • • • On-line come from all walks of life: from his hotel in Seoul and had a 45-minute "Adventists On-line private group puts a whole new slant on conversation with that other angel 'flying in attorneys and two the midst of heaven' other leaders in Silver [cyberspace 1."—Duane G. Spring, Maryland. Aubin (74532,3503). The 45-minute on- • • • • line conference call "The idea of an cost the church only Adventist forum is great— the price of a local even better than the 'old' phone call in Seoul— camp meetings where about 25 cents. people come from a AT&T would have distance to see and talk charged $208.90. with each other once a "CompuServe has year! And we don't even been one of the have to stand in line for a greatest blessings for shower."—Lorna Tobler communication," says (74617,1736). Euro-Asia Division • • • • president Ted N. C. Wilson (74617,577). "It is just so easy, efficient, and versatile. I now use it for probably 90 percent of all my correspon- "For Sabbath school an Air Force squadron commander of 15 dence, including memos and information last October jets and 275 men (Jeff Westberg) to sent to people within our own division we wanted a real live pastors, teachers, physicians, and church headquarters. At times, in relation to my missionary story. So we leaders around the world; from 13-year- work, I think my wife wishes it had arranged to talk with a church old Ivan Colon in Moscow (74617,603) never been invented. However, she is in Papua New Guinea using to 87-year-old retired theologian Paul very grateful for it, since our personal CompuServe. We displayed the Heubach in California (74617,2500). CompuServe number has been a real computer screen on a large-screen blessing for keeping in contact with our

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ADVENTIST REVIEW, JUNE 20, 1996 (723) 27 reading materials to help their children rentTalk made its debut with the grow morally and spiritually will like May/June 1996 issue in time to this set. The stories are helpful to us Pacelebrate Mother's Day and and interesting to the kids because: Father's Day. During an era when men 1.They're downright interesting on have been accused of neglecting their their own—humorous, real, forthright, parental duties, two fathers coedit this • MARK• told in today's kid language. family magazine that targets North 2. They're credible stories. American Adventist families. 3. They don't tack on a moral at the Virginia L. Smith, director of the end, but weave a lesson throughout. General Conference Department of Great Stories for Kids 4. They're the same lessons that we're Children's Ministries, expressed her Jerry D. Thomas, Pacific trying to teach our children. enthusiasm for the new publication: "I Press Publishing Associa- 5. They present a creative picture or congratulate Pacific Press for their tion, Boise, Idaho, 1995, 5 illustration of what is desirable, not just a impressive publication ParentTalk. Its volumes, approximately 190 story of a child doing something wrong, pages are chock-full of relevant, well- pages each, hardcover, avail- getting caught, feeling sorry, and written articles that grab your interest, able through September 30, apologizing. whether your children are 2, 22, or you 1996, for $99.99 (regular price, $200). 6. The conversational dialogue is real. have grandchildren." Reviewed by Karen Widmer. A 7. The stories reach across the ages— ParentTalk is the result of two years of nutritionist by training, she is now a our kids enjoy them, and the older two planning and research. Its nonjudgmental, homemaker, wife, and mother of three readily get the point without us having cross-cultural approach tells about real children. to explain it. people who share the pain, joy, and 8. The illustrations are fresh, inviting, humor of parenthood. Not just a series of ne word aptly describes this just- and multiethnic. articles, ParentTalk provides resource off-the-press series of stories for material and an opportunity for feedback. Ochildren—relatable. In every ParentTalk Coeditor Glen Robinson breaks new story the characters seem vaguely famil- Randy Maxwell and Glen ground with video reviews. iar, and the events might have happened Robinson, editors, Pacific Press We think this interactive magazine on our street. Publishing Association, Boise, (that even includes a prayer line) will be It's almost as if author Jerry Thomas has Idaho, 1996, 52 pages; enthusiastically welcomed by Adventist been eavesdropping on our home. More bimonthly, US$14.95 annually parents. than once a conversation in quotation in the U.S.A. and its territories, marks has been spoken nearly verbatim in US$17.95 annually to other countries. our house in the past 24 hours. This set now ranks among the top sets of character-building children's stories published by the Seventh-day Adventist Church. And they've passed the "kid" The Quiet I-lour test in our home. We've been reading "Searching for God through eastern religion, I finally them every evening for worship, and our found Him through His Word, after attending some kids—girls 5 and 8, and a boy 10— evangelistic meetings. I want others to experience that absolutely enjoy them. They especially love which I have found in God. Then they will know like the story dealing with dares: "A that He is not a tyrant, but a loving and forgiving Friend. Skunk by the Tail." Wow! Jerry makes it I want to have a part in sharing the Good News." seem like you're right there in the story— and you've got this skunk in your hands! Teams of Global Mission Pioneers are trained and ready Each book has more than 25 chapters, Bendersley to raise up churches in unentered communities in Russia Vladimir and Ukraine. You can have a vital part in spreading the and some stories span three or four Global Mission Pioneer Baptized - 1993 gospel to those who haven't yet heard about God's love. chapters. They are classified by the specific character-building lessons or the spiritual values intended. Book 5 `The Quiet our & Slobal mission Joint evangelism Project includes an index. The modem, multiethnic illustrations are fresh and colorful, For more information as to how you can help, contact: The Quiet Hour and the Mylar covers make it easy to Compuserve • 74044,504 • Phone 1-800-900-9021 • (909) 793-2588 • FAX (909) 793-4754 or write: The Quiet Hour • Box 3000 • Redlands, CA 92373-1500 wipe dinner off them. Christian parents in search of

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He told them to look at a field of "Look at how the bees are flocking to Don't wildflowers growing nearby. He asked that flower over there. It's not fair! What them to think about why the flowers does it have that I don't have? My nectar never worried about stuff. is just as sweet, and I've got plenty of it What would that be like? Imagine a too. Hey, bees! Get over here!" Worry. poor little flower who is all upset because It's silly, isn't it? Flowers don't need it's having a bad petal day. to worry. They smell good enough. They "Oh, dear! What am Ito do? I know are beautiful enough—more beautiful Be Happy. there are some flowers who are able to than Solomon in all his glory, lovelier pollinate themselves with the wind. But than everyone on the best-dressed list ROSY TETZ I simply must have an insect come along put together. The insects will come and to spread my pollen around so that I can spread the pollen around. The flowers make seeds. And if I'm not absolutely will be able to make seeds. They don't t is understandable that Jesus' disci- beautiful, I just know the insects won't need to worry. ples were a little anxious. They had come. I've got to look colorful and bright Neither do we. Jesus says, "Don't worry abandoned their jobs to follow and gorgeous, or I won't be able to and say, 'What will we eat?' or 'What will Jesus. Their families were no doubt attract anything." we drink?' or 'What will we wear?' All the I. irked at them because they were Or imagine a flower that is worried people who don't know God keep trying to never home anymore. It was likely that about how it smells. get these things. Don't worry, because your they would be thrown into jail at any "I've got to try harder to smell better. Father in heaven knows that you need moment. They never knew where they Those bugs have to be able to smell me, or them. The thing you should want most is were going to sleep or whether they were they won't even know I'm here. I know I God's kingdom and doing what God going to find something to eat. can do it if I try. One, two, three: s-m-e-1-1." wants. Then all these other things you And what did Jesus do? The same thing Or imagine a flower that is afraid that need will be given to you. So don't worry He always did: He told them a story. its nectar isn't sweet enough. about tomorrow" (Matt. 6:31-34, ICB).

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BY SHANDELLE HENSON An Invitation to Look Up

was walking to my office on the university campus There, framed against a clearing sky, stood the oak tree. one rainy spring morning, dodging the puddles on Astonished, I halted and gazed at the wonderful the sidewalk. I was a typical graduate student, max- reflection. Then I lifted my head and looked at the real imally challenged both men- thing. I just stood there in the tally and financially. My puddle, water soaking my socks. I 1brain was tired, and the soles of knew I was in the presence of a my loafers were worn right profound miracle. through in several places. That is I was a typical You see, the miracle is this: We why I was looking down at the can be honestly confused, lost, puddles as I walked along on this graduate student, tired, ignorant of our own spiritual particular morning. It is no fun to journey, worried, panicked, go through the day in wet socks. frustrated, self-absorbed, or just I did not always look down on maximally plain joyless. In short, we can be my way to school. Most days I was looking down. looking up, especially when I challenged both But God is the kind shepherd passed the big oak. This wonderful who looks for the lost sheep,' tree always amazed and inspired and the faithful companion in me, its massive trunk thick and mentally and the valley of the shadow of solid and serious, its verdant leaves death.' God is the friend who light and joyful and dancing far financially. knocks at the door,' and the above my head. I looked up nearly mentor who sits down and every day to see that cheerful reasons with us.' God is the lover canopy against the deep blue of who forgives the wayward the North Carolina sky. spouse,' and the one who cares But today I was looking down. The low gray clouds about each sparrow.6 God is the mother hen who matched my gloomy mood too. If you grew up in a carefully gathers her chicks under her wing.' This is Christian home, you will know there is a kind of the miracle. Christianity you should grow out of, and there is a And for me, one little graduate student wandering kind you can grow into. I was having growing pains, about in a vast universe, God was the one walking with although I did not see it in those terms then. I was me in the rain, inviting me to look up. looking downward and inward, always monitoring an ' Matt. 18:11-14. incessant dialectic in my head about the meaning of Ps. 23:4. "it all." ' Rev. 3:20. Isa. 1:18. 5 The book of Hosea. Water-soaked Miracle 6 Matt. 10:29. I passed under the big oak without taking notice until Matt. 23:37. a large puddle blocked my way. I hesitated, calculating the route of minimal loafer leakage. Then a most Shandelle Henson is a visiting assistant research extraordinary thing happened. professor of mathematics at the University of As I tiptoed moodily through the puddle looking Arizona, in Tucson, Arizona. down, my eyes happened to focus deep into the water.

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