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Shabbat Schedule Those who are davening at home are encouraged to daven LEARNING SPONSORSHIPS at the same time as the minyanim take place. April 18-April 25: A Week of Learning - Sponsored by Mitchell and Susan Markowitz to Early Mincha/Kab. Shabbat 6:07 pm (I) Mincha/Kabbalat Shabbat 7:32 pm (O, I) commemorate the Shloshim in memory of Mrs. Marlene Linsenbaum, mother of Susan Shacharit 7:15 (I), 9:00 (I), 9:15 am (O) Markowitz and grandmother of Rabbi Andrew Markowitz. May her neshama have an aliyah Shiur with Scott Sears following the 7:15am minyan April 29- May 6: A Week of Learning - Sponsored by Marya and Ora Friedman to Latest Shema 9:29 am commemorate the yahrzeit of Michael Friedman, Yaakov Meir ben Baruch A"H, which is on the Mincha 6:00 pm (I), 7:24 pm (O, I) 17th of Iyar. Shiur with Rabbi Markowitz between Mincha and Ma’ariv April 28: A Day of Learning - Sponsored by Rachel and Daniel Krich in memory of Rachel's Ma’ariv 8:25 pm (O, I) mother, Lila Levinson, Chaya Sara Batsheva bas Moshe. Weekday Schedule April 29: A Day of Learning - Sponsored by NATEP in memory of Mrs. Marlene Shacharit: Sunday 7:30, 8:15 am (I) Shacharit: Mon and Thur 6:20, 8:00 am (I) Linsenbaum, mother of Susan Markowitz and grandmother of Rabbi Andrew Markowitz. Shacharit: Tue, Wed, Fri 6:30, 8:00 am (I) Mincha/Ma’ariv: Sun-Thur 7:35 pm (I) MAZAL TOV Ma’ariv: Mon-Thur only 9:00 pm (I) Location Key: O = Outside/ I = Inside Juliana and Elie Addi on the Bar Mitzvah of their son Aiden. Mazal Tov and welcome to family and friends who are joining us for the simcha this Shabbat. VIRTUAL SHIURIM & CLASSES THIS WEEK Laurette and Bernie Rothwachs on the engagement of their grandson, Avi Rothwachs to NATEP: Sunday at 9:30 am; Monday – Friday at 9:15 am Racheli Goldstein of Passaic. - Rabbi Yudin (S) Halacha from the Parsha (T) Gemara Brachos HAKARAT HATOV - Rabbi Markowitz (M) (TH) - Rabbi Greene (W)(F): Contemporary Issues in Halacha Kiddush this Shabbat is sponsored by: and Jewish Thought Anonymous, to thank Shomrei for its support during my 11 months of saying Zoom info for all NATEP: Zoom Link, Dial in-1646-558-8656. Kaddish. Meeting ID 6826033886 Juliana and Elie Adie in honor of Aiden’s Bar Mitzvah. DAF YOMI: (S-T) 5:00pm Meeting ID: 890 5491 0079. Zoom Link WELCOME TO OUR NEW MEMBERS WOMEN’S TEHILLIM WITH SHEVI YUDIN: (M) 7:30 pm - Zoom Link, Meeting ID: 9322571856 Password: 123. Dial-in: Alex and Shachar Avraham, Rachel Sharret and Elliot Kaminetzky, Ruthie and Netanel 929-205-6099 Pollak, Rivka and Yossie Reinman, Irina and Gavin Stone. INSIGHTS INTO THE PARSHA WITH RABBI YUDIN: (M) 8:15 pm - Zoom Link, Dial-in: 929-205-6099, Meeting ID: BRUCHIM HABAIM 91852135648 MEGILLAH CHABURAH WITH RABBI MARKOWITZ: (T) The Hertzberg, Krakowski and Miodownik families who are visiting this Shabbat. 8:30pm - in person and on zoom. Meeting ID: 682 603 3886; Zoom Link SHUL NOTICES WOMEN’S SEFER HACHINUCH WITH RABBI YUDIN: (W) - Beginning this week, April 24, Shabbat early Mincha will take place at 6:00pm. 1:00pm - Zoom Link, Dial-in: 929-205-6099, Meeting ID: 93199544551 - Beginning this week, April 25, Sunday Shacharit minyanim will take place at 7:30am GEMARA BEITZAH SHIUR WITH RABBI YUDIN: (W) 9:00 and 8:15am. pm - Zoom Link, Dial-in: 929-205-6099, Meeting ID: - Beginning May 19, weekday late Ma’ariv will take place at 9:30pm. 92046572029 - Beginning May 23, late Ma’ariv will take place Sunday through Thursday. CHABURAH WITH RABBI MANDELSTAM: (W) 8:15 pm, - Meeting ID: 682 603 3886; Zoom Link TORAH GROUP SESSION WITH RABBI YUDIN: (Th) 9:00 pm - Zoom Link, Dial-in: 929-205-6099, Meeting ID:

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Community News, Events, and Announcements SCRIP AND LEARNING SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES YOUTH DEPARTMENT NATEP Learning at Home - Sunday through Friday: Sponsor a day, Perek in the Park is back! We look forward to seeing you all at 5PM Shabbat week, or month of learning to commemorate a yahrzeit, celebrate a afternoon in Lyncrest park. Please bring a blanket or towel to sit on if you would birthday or other simcha, or simply as a “thank you”. To sponsor, like. Masks and social distancing are required! Thank you to the Koslowsky please visit www.shomrei-torah.org/learning or contact Michael Glass at family for sponsoring the ices this week! Please reach out if you would like to [email protected] or Mendy Aron at [email protected]. sponsor for a future week. Can’t wait to see you there! Please be advised that Scrip can now be purchased online at shomrei-torah.org/scrip and when the David Lapoff Park was upgraded by the Town, many of the play delivered to your home. For more information contact Milty Frank: 201- equipment pieces have electrical aspects which would be prohibited on 916-9721/[email protected] or David Heiser, 201-978-5347/ Shabbos and Yom Tov.

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- Chessed/Grocery Shopping/Medicine Pickups: If you need help with grocery shopping, medicine pickup, or anything else, please reach out to Please join us on May 2nd for a fun Pre-Shavuot youth event in the Barbie Topiol at [email protected]. If you can help with deliveries, Markowitz backyard from 4:00-4:45! We will be decorating our very own Har pickups, etc,, please join the Corona Chessed WhatsApp group - click here. Sinai cupcakes and doing another special Shavuot project! Children over age 5 - The Fair Lawn Mikvah will be open by appointment only. Please call or text can be dropped off while those younger should have a parent remain with 201-468-0098 to schedule an appointment. For more information, please see them. The cost is 8 dollars per child. Please bring a blanket or sheet with you shomrei-torah.org/mikvah. to sit on! We can't wait to see you there! Sign up at shomrei- - On June 6, 2021, Scott Tropper will be participating in the annual RCCS torah.org/event/youthpreshavuot. Deadline to sign up is April 28th. (We will Hockey Classic tournament, benefiting the families and patients of RCCS open up another time slot if there is a need for it!) (Rofeh Cholim Cancer Society). The mission of RCCS is to tackle cancer challenges, ease medical treatment, cover insurance premiums to lighten the REFUAH SHELEIMA financial burden and make cancer care more accessible. They help over 2800 Please keep in mind everyone in need of refuah shleima, including the following: patients and families annually. So please help support RCCS by visiting his Eliyahu ben Batsheva; Ruvain Ephraim ben Chaya Leah; Shimon Simcha ben donation page at https://www.rccsclassic.org/Scoot87 (all donations are Penina Yehudit; Shlomo Eliyahu ben Fayala; Tzvia Rivka bat Naomi Chedva; Yosef 100% tax-deductible). Daveed ben Raizel; Malka Ziesel bat Penina; Rachamim ben Shoshana; Meir ben Altah Sheindel; Menachem Mendel ben Perl; Yerachmial Yosef ben Rivka Hada; RABBI YAACOV WEINER SHIUR Esther Frima bat Pesha; Batsheva bat Sarah; Shira Devora bat Sarah Aden Gisha Ruchel, Eliezer Yitzchak ben Shifra, Yisrael ben Miriam, Yonatan Leib ben Perel On Monday, April 26 at 8:00pm, Rabbi Yaacov Weiner will be giving a shiur Aviva, Eliemelech Shmuel ben Frimma, Tzivia Bas Rochel Leah, Yehuda Yosef ben at the home of Rabbi and Shevi Yudin. The shiur will be in person (masks Rivka Esther, HaRav Rafael David ben Etta Riva, Yosef ben Malka, Etta Riva bat required) and via zoom. Zoom link. Meeting ID: 91852135648. The shiur is Esther, Usher ben Yehudis, Nechuma Perel Malka Leah bas Chana Serel, Baruch titled “Triage: Government Policy Regarding Shortage of Ventilators.” ben Elka, Laizer ben Basha, Naava Dina bat Sterna, Shira bat Devorah Leah, Milka Itta Rachel bar Chaya Sarah, Yehuda Lieb ben Ruckel, Chananya Shmuel Lipa ben NATEP LEARNING AND BREAKFAST Charna Leah. Thursday, April 29 marks the completion of 15 years of NATEP Learning. For the last 14 months NATEP has provided classes six days a week via zoom. In UPCOMING SISTERHOOD EVENTS reaching this milestone, a shiur will be given by Rabbi Markowitz in - It’s been a long time since we all got together in person. Let’s get together on memory of his Grandmother, Mrs. Marlene Linsenbaum along with Shabbat, May 1 from 4:30pm-6:30pm at the Shomrei Torah Gardens for an a Packaged Breakfast. The Breakfast is sponsored by Sharon and Michael afternoon of Iced Tea, treats, song and Torah. For more information and to Glass in honor of Honny and Mendy Aron. The Learning and Breakfast will register visit www.shomrei-torah.org/event/sisterhoodtea be held in the Gardens at Shomrei Torah on April 29 following the - Come join the Sisterhood for a floral arrangement course in honor of Shavuot 8:00am minyan. By reservation only. To make a reservation contact Mendy on Wednesday, May 12 at 8:00pm in the Shomrei Torah Gardens. For more Aron at [email protected] no later than April 26. The seating for information visit www.shomrei-torah.org/event/shavuotflowers. If you have the breakfast and learning will follow social distancing guidelines any questions reach out to Miki or Orit at [email protected]

DAVENING NOTES SHALOM YELADIM NEWS Torah Reading: Artscroll: Parsha - 636, Haftorah - 1173 Spring is here and everything is sprouting beautifully! The tots in the Yanshufin Pirkei Avos - Ch 3 class have planted their vegetable seeds. Very soon the kinderlach will have yummy We recite Av HaRachamim and Tzidkasecha tomatoes, peppers, and other vegetables to eat. The Kochavim kids are very We read the Haftorah for Acharei responsible with the tasks they choose in class as a meteorologist, line leader, bell Monday, April 26 is Pesach Sheini ringer, greeter, and much more. The kids are learning of and crafting amazing Mincha on Thursday, April 29, we omit Tachanun projects about the letter S and number 8. They also did an excellent art activity Friday, April 30 is Lag BaOmer: We Omit Tachanun, we recite Lamenatzeiach called "I Love Myself". The children drew an outline of themselves and painted it to reflect their unique personality! Acharei-Mot-Kedoshim: Summary of Parsha and Haftorah – courtesy of Chabad.org General Overview: This week's reading, Acharei-Kedoshim, begins prostitution, or tattoo our bodies. Men are instructed not to destroy the with a detailed description of the service of the High Priest on Yom hair at the edges of their scalp or the corners of their beards. We are Kippur. Dozens of commandments are then discussed in this week's commanded to observe the Shabbat; respect G-d's sanctuary, Torah reading. Among them: the prohibitions against offering sacrifices scholars and the elderly. outside the Temple; consuming blood; incestuous, adulterous, or other forbidden relationships; various mandatory gifts for the poor; love for Sixth Aliyah: We are commanded to love converts. We are also enjoined every Jew, prohibition against sorcery; honesty in business dealings; to be truthful in business dealing by maintaining honest weights and and sexual morality. measures. The Torah prescribes capital punishment for one who worships Molech; a form of idolatry which required human sacrifices. First Aliyah: The High Priest is instructed to only enter the Holy of The Torah also describes the punishment which will befall the nation if Holies chamber of the sanctuary once a year, on Yom Kippur; and even they neglect to punish Molech worshippers. on this holiest day of the year, the entry into the Temple's inner sanctum must be accompanied by a special service and specific Seventh Aliyah: The Torah sets the punishments for individuals who offerings which are detailed in this reading. The High Priest was only curse their parents and those who engage in prohibited sexual relations. permitted to enter amidst a cloud of burning incense. Also, special We are instructed not to follow the customs and traditions of the white garments were worn by the High Priest on this day. While heathens, and to be meticulous about eating only . The offering the day's sacrifices, the High Priest would "confess" on behalf Torah portion ends with an enjoinder that we be holy. of the entire nation, attaining atonement for the past year's sins. This section continues with a description of the "scapegoat" ceremony Acharei-Mot-Kedoshim – Haftorah Summary procedure. Amos 9:7-15. This week's haftorah foretells the exiles and punishments that will Second Aliyah: After concluding the order of the Yom Kippur service in befall the Jews because they strayed after the ways of the heathens — the Temple, the Torah instructs us to observe Yom Kippur as a Day of behavior that this week's Torah reading proscribes. Atonement when we must abstain from work and "afflict" ourselves. The Jews are then forbidden to offer sacrifices anywhere other than The prophet Amos delivers G-d's message, reminding the people of the Tabernacle or Temple. G-d's kindness to them — taking them out of Egypt and singling them out as His chosen nation. Nevertheless, because of their misdeeds, . G-d Third Aliyah: We are enjoined not to consume blood. When will destroy the Northern Kingdom of Israel; but will not completely slaughtering fowl or undomesticated animals, we are commanded to destroy the house of Jacob. The Jews will be scattered amongst the cover their blood with earth. The Jews are admonished not to follow nations, but eventually they will return to their land — on the day of the the depraved ways of the Egyptians and Canaanites. On this note, the redemption. G-d will then reinstall the House of David to its former Torah provides a list of prohibited sexual relationships. The list glory and there shall be peace and abundance upon the land. includes adultery, cohabiting with a menstruating woman, and forbidden close relatives. The haftorah ends with G-d's promise: "And I will return the captivity of My people Israel, and they shall rebuild desolate cities and inhabit Fourth Aliyah: The prohibitions against homosexuality and bestiality [them], and they shall plant vineyards and drink their wine, and they are mentioned. The Jews are then warned that engaging in these shall make gardens and eat their produce. And I will plant them on their forbidden relationships will result in their expulsion from the Land land, and they shall no longer be uprooted from upon their land, that I of Israel — a holy land which cannot tolerate immoral have given them, said the L-rd your G-d." behavior. G-d commands the Jewish people to be holy. This section then briefly discuses several laws: revering parents; observing the Shabbat; prohibitions against idolatry; the obligation to burn "leftover" sacrificial flesh; the obligation to leave certain parts of one's harvest for the poor; not to lie, cheat, withhold wages, swear falsely, curse or mislead another.

Fifth Aliyah: More mitzvot: Not to pervert justice, gossip, be indifferent to a fellow's predicament, hate a fellow Jew, bear grudges, or take revenge. To reprimand a sinner, and to love every Jew. The following statutes are also given here: not to sow a field with two kinds of seed, wear a garment made of a mixture of wool and linen (), or crossbreed animals. The section also includes with the laws of one who commits adultery with a half-free maidservant. We are introduced to the laws of "orlah," the prohibition against eating the fruit of a new sapling for the first three years, and the obligation to sanctify the fruit of the fourth year. We are enjoined not to engage in witchcraft or Daf Yomi: Yoma 13 - courtesy of dafdigest.org Overview of the Daf to require that he not stay home, but that he specifically go to the Beis דיומא ענינא Substitute Kohen Gadol (cont.) HaMikdash to work. See Sefer (1 Rabbah bar bar Chanah in the name of R’ Yochanan rules like R’ Yosi that the substitute Kohen Gadol does not serve as a Kohen Gadol nor as an Stories off the Daf ordinary kohen, but if he did serve, the service is valid. True completion ויכפר בעדו ובעד ביתו .A similar ruling is stated by R’ Yehudah in the name of Rav 2) Clarifying the Rav Shimshon Raphael Hirsch, zt”l, writes that the Kohen Gadol embodies The Gemara explains why Rabanan see the necessity to arrange a the moral ideal of the entire Jewish People. His is supposed to provide a role replacement for the Kohen Gadol, but not for his wife. model to which every Jew can aspire—a model of moral excellence and The position of R’ Yehudah is clarified. completion. The foundation of this development and completion is The reason Rabanan require only one substitute is explained. marriage—the state that Chazal said is also the basis of all true happiness. 3) The backup wife This is why the Kohen Gadol may only perform the avodah of Yom Kippur The Gemara explores how the Kohen Gadol must arrange his second while married. Having once been married is not enough; to do the avodah, marriage so that he should be married to her if necessary, but also not find the Kohen Gadol had to be currently in the state of marriage. himself married to two wives. The Ramak, zt”l, explains the depths of this law. Until one marries, it is The previous discussion was predicated upon the assumption that the obvious that the Shechinah is absent from a man’s life, because the Kohen Gadol may not have more than one wife. This assumption is Shechinah only rests upon a man in the merit of his wife. So if a man does unsuccessfully challenged. not get along with his wife, it is clear that the Shechinah is not “living in 4) Kohen Gadol who is an onein harmony” with him either! It is important to realize how indebted we are A Baraisa cites a dispute between Tanna Kamma and R’ Yehudah to our spouses, and we must work hard to ensure that they do not harbor regarding a Kohen Gadol who becomes an onein. Tanna Kamma’s position any resentments against us. It is all too easy to take one’s wife for granted, is that the Kohen Gadol can offer korbonos but may not eat them. forgetting that, “A woman of valor is her husband’s crown.” R’ Yehudah states: “The entire day.” The Gemara begins to explore the A certain young man went to the Stiepler Gaon, zt”l, for guidance in meaning of R’ Yehudah’s statement. learning. After outlining to him how to structure his time by learning both for broad general knowledge while setting aside time for in-depth analysis, Distinctive Insight the Stiepler remarked, “You sound like a true masmid. However, don’t Guidelines to protect the sanctity of the Kohen Gadol forget to help your wife around the house.” .The young man tried to deflect the implied mussar with an explanation מאי כל היום ?אמר רבא לא נצרכה אלא להביאו מתך ביתו can still “My wife is in complete agreement with me that the main thing is my אנינות The Beraisa taught that a Kohen Gadol who is a state of function and officiate at the service of an offering, but he cannot eat from learning. She does not ask for me help, nor does she want it.” The Steipler Rava learns responded, “That is her mitzvah. Your mitzvah is to make sure to help. היום כל Rabbi Yehuda adds that this halachah applies .קרבן the that this means that the Kohen Gadol is not only allowed to officiate if he around the house. She is your wife…you didn’t buy a slave when you wishes to do so, but that it is a mitzvah for him to do so. Rashi explains married her!” that the reason for this is that we wish that the Kohen Gadol remain busy, Halacha Highlight גט Conditional צערו לפכח and that his sorrow will be ameliorated to some extent ועוד כה ”ג מי הוי גיטא והאמר רבא ה ”ז גיטיך ע ”מ שלא תשתי יין כל ימי חיי .(explains this based upon the Gemara in Sanhedrin (18a דיומא ענינא Sefer וחייכי אין זה כריתות There, the Mishnah expounds upon the verse which describes how, upon ,really valid? Didn’t Rava say: One who says גט the death of the relative of the Kohen Gadol, “from the Mikdash he must And furthermore, is such a not depart.” The opinion of Rabbi Yehuda (ibid. 19a) is that the Torah is “This is your on the condition that you never drink wine,” whether he afraid that if the Kohen Gadol is allowed to participate in the funeral, even stipulates that the condition applies for the rest of his life or the rest of her from a distance, he might be overcome with grief and he might approach life the severance is not valid. and touch the casket, thus rendering him tamei. Therefore, the Torah There would seem to be an easy method to make a condition that is effective proscribes that the Kohen remain in the Mikdash and continue to work, and still fulfill the requirement that the divorce create a complete severance itself one גט whereby he will be distracted from his grief. of the relationship. Instead of including the condition in the and stipulate that if the desired גט Rashash notes that we do not have to go as far as Rashi did, and to explain can appoint an agent to deliver the that this halachah is designed to minimize the grief of the Kohen. The view condition is not fulfilled the agent’s authority will be nullified. Some Poskim Other . גט being expressed is that of Rabbi Yehuda both here and in Sanhedrin. We accept this as a valid method of including a stipulation onto a can simply say that the reason the Kohen continues to work is in order to authorities dispute this conclusion and opine that since the Gemara did not remain busy and to not inadvertently come to touch the casket. His offer this as a suggestion indicates that even a condition attached to the invalid because it does not create a גט working is not necessarily a manner to divert him from his sadness, as agent’s authority renders the much as it is a tactic of keeping busy so as not to inadvertently expose complete severance of the relationship. himself to tumah. An application of this halachah could be found in a situation of a man who R’ Meir argues against R’ Yehuda in the Mishnah. R’ Meir holds that the is divorcing his wife because he suspects she has been unfaithful. He may Kohen Gadol may leave the Mikdash in order to attend a funeral of a close not stipulate that his wife is permitted to every man except the suspected create a full גט relative, but he must remain lagging behind the procession and not come adulterer since that would violate the requirement that the close to the casket. severance of their relationship. He could, according to some Poskim, send with an agent and stipulate that if she marries the suspected גט Rambam concurs with the opinion of R’ Yehuda (Hilchos Klei HaMikdash her the 5:5), and he adds that the Kohen Gadol must not go a funeral. Instead, he adulterer the authority of the agent is retroactively revoked. must stay either in his home or in the Beis HaMikdash. Our sugya seems