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Features columNs 6 Peace offering 12 Behavior & Beyond Public and charter schools can work together By Dr. marcie BeiGel By Tammy Scileppi 20 FabuLYSS Finds 8 Dear Dad: Your kids need you! By lySS STern Every dad has the chance to show love and acceptance 26 Good Sense Eating By Gayla Grace By cHriSTine m. palumBo, rD 10 Being a father 27 Growing Up Online Going from mere paternity to true parenting By carolyn JaBS 14 By carolyn WaTerBury-Tieman 28 Tips for Feeding Kids 14 6 more reasons why dads By Jenny GenSTerBlum are super! 29 Just Write Mom Fathers add so much to their children’s lives By Danielle Sullivan By Dr. HeiDi SmiTH lueDTke 42 New & Noteworthy 19 Speak up By liSa J. curTiS Learning the ABCs of speech and language development By Dr. roSalie marDer unTerman caleNdar 21 Healthy summer 34 June Events Simple tips for a happy season By Dr. maTTHeW WeiSSman sPecial sectioNs 22 Funny moms Comedy duo — and moms — poke fun at 16 Special Needs Directory parenting 41 Party Planners By Tammy Scileppi 41 The Marketplace 24 Children and gender roles Be careful of typecasting your kids By cHriSTa melnyk HineS 30 What makes a family? Taking a closer look at modern households By alliSon pliTT 32 Good buzz! 28 Kid critics enjoy the adventures of ‘Maya’

June 2015 • Manhattan FaMily 3 letter from the PublIsher

Graduations, birthdays & Father’s Day

he best gradua- dinner celebrations and issue we talk a good deal about fa- being of millions of children and it tion I ever went all feel great that the thers and how important their role must be our societal goal to change T to was my daugh- beautiful month of June is as a hands-on parent. It can make this statistical reality. ter’s from Kindergarten. is the month we entered or break the equilibrium of most If there’s a graduation or a birth- It was so particularly into life. The good thing children and the absence of a father day in your family this month, enjoy! moving on some won- about having birthdays can be devastating. We are happily Cherish the moments and bookmark derful level. Our fam- in the summer months finding that more Dads are opting the memories. To all the Fathers, we ily was supposed to is that you are able to for a strong presence and shared wish you a lifetime of responsible in- sing a song together have festivities out- responsibility in the raising of their teraction with your children and the and I became such an doors if you want to. We children starting from infancy. This joy of hands-on caregiving. You will emotional mess that I have had many parties is a very different posture and a wel- be happy you did and so will your couldn’t sing. I was weeping and as in the park, brought our food, set up come sociological change from past children. hard as I tried to control it, I couldn’t. a picnic under the shade of the trees generations. Have a great month. Thanks for I’ve never been able to explain it to and watched the children frolic in Although stay-at-home Dads are a reading! anyone very well, but I was pecu- the beauty of late spring/early sum- welcome phenomenon and the num- liarly aware of the passage of time mer. Great memories. ber of men opting to be the primary and I sensed that my little baby was Father’s Day as I was growing up caregiver to their children under moving on to being a child and that was every four years a special day 18 has risen considerably, unfortu- the film was about to speed up. I was I would share with my own Dad, nately, so has the number of house- right and it did and has. because every four years it fell on holds without a father and children In our house, June is a month of my birthday. I loved this shared day who have no male figure/role model Susan Weiss-Voskidis, birthdays, my daughter’s, mine and with my father although he never in their lives has gone up as well. Publisher/Excutive Editor those of many good friends. We have liked making a big deal of it. In this This is utterly detrimental to the well [email protected]

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By Tammy Scileppi According to that article, many NY’s Charter kids who have attended several he city’s “dis- of Success Academy’s 22 schools trict vs. charter” sChools have brought home some of the T battle continues, part 3 of a series best test scores state-wide, due until someone comes up to the way their unique charters with workable solutions are run: Students are encouraged that make both sides Efforts have been to spend more time on task, and happy, and both sides made (behind the a respectful, academics-centered realize it’s all about environment prevails, while the making the students scenes) to help district staff makes sure parents are truly happy and encour- involved with what goes on in the aging them to suc- teachers and principals classroom. See more at: successa- ceed as they enter cademies.org. a super-competitive learn from high- In her blog http://tntp.org/blog/ world. performing charters. post/success-academy-works-for- According to a my-kid, super-involved Success 2014 Wall St. Jour- Academy parent Ariela Rozman nal article, “High-Per- the growth of New York City’s char- points out that “Success schools forming N.Y.C. Charter ter school sector. But more work across the city have shown tre- Schools Share Their Suc- remains to be done until all charter mendous gains for students, often cess Strategies,” efforts schools in private space receive eq- helping them meet state learning have been made (behind uitable facilities funding,” said Eve standards at double and triple the the scenes) to help district Colavito, head of the school. rates of other schools.” teachers and principals learn “Each dollar spent on rent takes According to insideschools.org from high-performing charters. away from valuable resources that — a website based at the New Places like NYC Collaborates could be spent on our classrooms,” School in Manhattan that provides (nyccollaborates.org) create op- she added. “We look forward to independent insight into local pub- portunities for educators from dis- working with our policy makers to lic schools and information about trict and charter schools to come bring about these changes to ben- the New York City Department of together to share information efit our children.” Education — most of the new char- and team up to improve student In a 2014 NY Daily News ar- ters that have opened in the Big achievement. ticle (“The truth about charter Apple are part of established char- It makes a lot of sense. schools”), quality charters are com- ter networks, including Success Youth organization Harlem RBI pared to well-run organizations: Academy, Achievement First, and responded to the need for bet- Since charters have more wiggle Ascend Schools. ter access to education within the room, unlike district schools (nine And a few of the new schools community and opened DREAM out of 10 aren’t unionized), they are independent “mom and pop” Charter School — East Harlem’s can innovate and make changes to charters that aren’t part of a larger community-based public charter suit their needs, thanks to manage- network. — in 2008. ment flexibility. Certainly, the “Don’t compete, According to its website, www. It’s all about having the freedom collaborate” cause would be fur- dreamschoolnyc.org, the school’s to make savvy decisions, like mak- thered if both charter school en- mission is to prepare students for ing the workday longer; adjusting thusiasts and foes were more can- high-performing high schools, col- salaries and offering rigorous train- did about their stance in this hot- leges, and beyond through a rigor- ing; even hiring and firing teach- button debate. ous academic program that aims ers and school leaders when it’s So, while it doesn’t seem likely to nurture critical thinkers who deemed necessary. that folks on both sides of the possess a strong character and a However, did you know that aisle will be singing “Kumbaya” love of learning, along with a com- local charters are held strictly ac- any time soon, on a more positive mitment to wellness and active citi- countable to the state for student note, it does appear that charters zenship. performance, and every five years, are truly committed to sharing best “DREAM Charter School is are subject to reviews that de- practices with their district school pleased to see the recent legisla- termine if a school continues to counterparts and improving public tive changes that further secure operate? education for all students here.

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June 2015 • Manhattan Family 7 cipline. Discipline teaches children self-control and right from wrong, while helping them feel secure and cared for. Dr. James Dobson, author of “Bringing up Boys,” says, “Boys are more likely to get off course when they are not guided and supervised carefully … When left to their own devices, they tend to drift toward the center divider or into the ditch, toward misbehavior or danger.” Children gain healthy standards from a dad with spiritual principles. Studies show that children who ac- tively engage in a community of faith increase their odds toward a hap- pier, healthier, and longer life, while significantly reducing the likelihood of risky behavior. Children need a dad who exempli- fies a stable male role model. We’ve all heard the saying, “I’d rather see a sermon than hear one any day.” Children mirror their parent’s behavior and learn relationship skills and healthy social skills, including how to treat others, by watching them. Children benefit from a father who regularly shows them physical affec- tion and treats his marriage partner with love and respect. Dear Dad: Your Our generation sees too many children reared without fathers. A high divorce rate, unbalanced career priorities, and prevailing addiction rates contribute to an absent father for many, emotionally and physically. kids need you! However, study after study reflects the impact of a child’s well-being By Gayla Grace icapped” (www.teamhoyt.com). from the influence of his father. Every dad has Inspired to offer Rick more oppor- It’s not always possible to be an ac- ick Hoyt is an inspiring fa- tunities to experience that feeling, tive dad on a daily basis, but it is pos- the chance to ther. His son, Rick, was born Hoyt began training every day with a sible to stay involved in your child’s D a quadriplegic with cere- bag of cement in the wheelchair while life in other ways. A dad’s role is a show love and bral palsy. His parents were told he Rick was at school. The two began high calling that not everyone gets to would be mute for life and should be participating in marathons, triathlons, experience. But for those who do, it’s acceptance institutionalized. But his dad refused and other grueling athletic events and a role to be honored and cherished, to believe it. have now completed more than 1,000 carried out with intentional purpose. Hoyt noticed Rick’s eyes followed races together. Rick knows he has an Gayla Grace is a freelance writer, him everywhere he went, and so he incredible dad whom he refers to as wife, and mom to five children. She is became determined to find a way to “The Father of the Century.” thankful for the role her husband plays communicate with him. He solicited Most dads don’t have the same as their children’s’ father. help from Tufts University, where opportunity Hoyt had with his son. a skilled group of engineers built But every dad has the chance to Inspirational books by Team Hoyt Rick an interactive computer. Rick show love and acceptance to his chil- “One Letter at a Time”: Inspira- controlled the cursor by touching dren, giving of his time to provide tional stories of his life told by Rick a switch with the side of his head, nurturing and guidance. Hoyt, using his one letter at a time which enabled him to finally commu- Children gain security from a dad method of speaking to communicate. nicate with those around him. willing to make time for them. I love to “Devoted: The Story of a Father’s Rick immediately relayed his love watch dads with their sons at the base- Love for His Son”: The story told for sports, and at 15 years old, asked ball fields as they play catch, practice by Dick Hoyt of the incredible bond his dad to participate in a five-mile batting, or offer encouraging words. with his son and how Team Hoyt’s benefit run for a classmate paralyzed Athletics offer a great way for dads to mission statement, “Yes You Can,” in an accident. Although not a dis- be part of something their children was created. tance runner, Dick agreed to join in enjoy while the kids learn about good “Rick Hoyt: The Story of Rick the run and push Rick in his wheel- sportsmanship and reap the benefits Hoyt”: A beautiful story of how Rick chair. That day changed their lives. of hard work and practice. Hoyt, born with cerebral palsy, lives After the run, Rick said, “Dad, when Children benefit from a dad who an inspiring life with the help of I’m running, it feels like I’m not hand- provides consistent love and dis- friends and family.

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June 2015 • Manhattan Family 9 the word parent with mother, we are cheating fathers and children. When parenting books, magazines, or articles are clearly geared to a female audience, authors and publish- ers are suggesting that fathers need not read them. When letters asking Being a for volunteers for school-related activities are addressed to mothers, the message is clear about who is expected to reply. So gentlemen, the subtle, yet persistent exclusion of fathers in the conversation about parenting sug- gests you are free to move out of the picture, emotionally and even physically. But if you accept the circumstances as inevitable and, therefore, permission to renege on your responsibilities as a parent, not only are you depriving your children, but you are also denying yourself the rich rewards of this fatherBy Carolyn WaterBury- ent” with “mother,” but they also role. When we can openly say to Going tieman minimize the profound significance our sons, as they cuddle their teddy of the father’s role. bears, comfort a sibling or friend, y husband and I were both A growing number of fathers ex- or care for a pet, “You’re going from mere working on doctoral de- pect their parenting role to exceed to make a terrific father someday,” M grees when our first son the limits of paternity, financial sup- we’ll know the language of parent- paternity was born. We also had part-time jobs port, and “roughhousing.” The ma- ing has changed. and were hundreds of miles away jority of men in recent studies report from our families. After waiting five that they are more involved in child- Changes in attitudes to true years to have a baby, we were anx- rearing than their fathers were and and expectations ious to take care of him ourselves. that they desire an equal partner- The false impression that child parenting A system of “tag-team parenting” ship with their spouse in the rear- care is something fathers occasion- evolved that allowed us to take care ing of their children. While including ally do for mothers continues to of our extrafamilial responsibilities fathers in pregnancy and childbirth prevail. In actuality, parenting is as well as have individual and joint has been a tremendous improve- what fathers do with mothers for time with Douglas. The different re- ment, it is not enough. It’s ironic their children. Referring to fathers actions we received when we were that hospitals go out of their way to as babysitters is absurd. Babysit- out separately with our infant son involve fathers in labor and delivery, ters are people who get paid to fill were most interesting. People would even inviting them to cut the umbili- in for parents who are unavailable. come up to me and comment on cal cord, and then fail to require the Fathers, you are not temporary filler. Douglas, but they would stop Jerry father’s presence when informing the You are the real thing. Seeing you and say things like, “Your wife sure mother about feeding, bathing, dia- fulfill your parental responsibilities is lucky you’re willing to babysit,” or pering, changing the umbilical cord in public, as well as private, should “How nice that you’re helping your dressings, etc. I’m pretty sure it’s be treated as the norm, not a nov- wife out,” or “Giving the wife a break, not because they assume the father elty. Parenting should be a mutual I see.” The message was clear: When already knows how. sharing of both the responsibilities I had Douglas with me, I was doing Children need fathers to progress and rewards of child rearing. Men my job, but when Jerry had him, he out of the delivery room into the are not solely responsible for making was doing me a favor. nursery and beyond. How do we (and the optional involvement of fathers The first few times we found these by we, I mean all of us, males and acceptable. Many women lack a role remarks amusing, but 25 years later females) go about replacing the pe- model for a hands-on father. They we still hear the same thing. We both ripheral father with an all-inclusive have been socialized to believe that find this deeply disappointing. Why version? Here are a few suggestions: mothers should know all there is to is it that when a father is does what know and do all there is to do with mothers have been doing for centu- Changes in language regard to child care. Otherwise they ries, he’s Superman, but a mother Words are powerful. Through are not fulfilling their duty. doing it is still “just a mom?” These language we communicate our at- Many of us fall into the trap of comments not only perpetuate the titudes, beliefs, and expectations. assuming there are only two ways stereotypic practice of equating “par- As long as we continue to equate of doing things — our way and the

10 Manhattan Family • June 2015 have had any formal training. The rest of us are limited to the parenting we received as kids — the models our parents provided. Many men do not feel good about the job their fathers did, but they don’t know how to do any differently. Some- times when people don’t feel competent in a role, they simply avoid it. Don’t allow your discomfort to rob you and your children of one of the most critical relationships in your lives. Take the initiative to learn more about becoming the father you want to be. Read, attend classes and workshops, or join a parenting group. Identify a father you really admire and ask him to be your mentor. Spend time discussing your joint parenting goals with your spouse. Just because you didn’t give birth doesn’t make you any less of a parent. The fact is, you can’t not parent. You can choose whether or not to become a parent or whether or not to be an involved parent. But if you have children, you cannot choose whether or not to parent. Your presence or absence will be experienced as parenting by your children. The way your children experience your involvement in their lives, or lack thereof, has an extraordinary impact on what they come to believe about themselves and how they relate to the rest of the world. The relationships that children establish with their parents provide the foundation wrong way. When it comes to chil- be, take the time to: Examine your hurt or ill, etc. The only place you for every other relationship they will dren, it is presumed mothers know sense of identity. If your identity is are irreplaceable is at home. I have ever have. “the right way.” When fathers dem- all tied up in whether or not you are never heard of anyone expressing As you celebrate Father’s Day, onstrate competence in this arena, employed, what you are employed regret on their deathbed for not hav- take the time to reflect on what this it can be threatening to a mother’s to do, where you are employed, and ing spent more time at the office. role means to you, your children, self image. Fathers, if you face these how much you earn, then your iden- Conserve your energy. Save some your family, the future. The next time situations, be patient, but persistent. tity is extremely vulnerable to the of the smiles, words of encourage- someone says, “How nice you’re will- Make it clear that your active par- unpredictability of the marketplace. ment, patience and enthusiasm you ing to babysit for your wife,” boldly ticipation is a statement about your If you look to your colleagues or em- demonstrate at the office for the reply, “It’s my job. I’m doing this for desire to parent, not about your ployer to provide you with a sense of people waiting for you at home. Uti- them. I’m a dad!” partner’s ability to parent. worth, you are forgetting that these lize the time it takes you to travel Carolyn Waterbury-Tieman has de- people are primarily interested in home to mentally prepare yourself grees in Child Development, Family Changes in actions what you can do and specifically, for the transition from your office Studies, and Marriage and Family Ther- Wilhelm Busch reminds us, “To what you can do for them. work to your family work. Your chil- apy. Waterbury-Tieman has been mar- become a father is not hard. To be In the eyes of your children, your dren deserve the best of you, not the ried for 29 years and has two sons, ages a father is, however.” Any job worth value is not determined by the size leftovers. 24 and 14. She spent 15 years in various doing is worth doing to the best of of your paycheck. Children attribute agencies and clinics as a family therapist your ability. Parenting is no excep- the greatest power to those who are Get the training and parent educator and has written tion, whether you are male or fe- available to fulfill their needs — pre- the job requires extensively on the topic of parenting. To male. In your efforts to become the pare their meals, participate in their None of us is adequately prepared contact her, please e-mail parent4life@ father your children need you to play, provide comfort when they’re for the job of parenting. Few of us yahoo.com.

June 2015 • Manhattan Family 11 Advice What is normal? The difference between ordinary and problematic behavior

Behavior & Beyond Dr. Marcie Beigel

ne of the most frequently • “ I have to call my child’s name 15 cleaning up, but at home he never asked questions of behavior times before he answers.” puts his toys away.” O therapists is, “Is this nor- This is either a sign that you’re At school there’s a specific time to mal?” Which is quickly followed by, overusing your child’s name by put- clean up. There’s usually a fun song “Is there a way for this to stop?” ting it in every sentence or that you while it happens and there’s nothing At the forefront of every parent’s have not taught him to respond when else to do until clean up is done. The mind is discerning the line between you call his name. The solution: Be- solution: Create that same type of normal and problem behavior. Where come aware when you’re using your environment at home. When you re- does, “all kids tantrum” change into, child’s name and use it specifically to alize there are many different games “this is a problem?” get his attention. Make sure to only pulled out, call out that there’s clean- The good news: there’s not a clear use your child’s name when you’re up time. Find out what your child is line between normal and problem close enough to prompt him if he still playing with, allow him to leave behavior. The bad news: there’s not ignores you. Stop shouting his name that out, but clean up everything a clear line on which to base your across the room. else. Do it together and have fun dur- decision. • “My kid does not sit down to eat ing it; when you make cleaning up a Here’s my best advice: If you’re and I end up chasing her around the chore, no one wants to do it. Once constantly asking yourself if your house with her plate to ensure she the clean up is complete, then every- child’s behavior is normal, then I eats enough.” one goes back to playing. Make sure suggest that you simply stop asking Notice if there are certain foods playtime ends with a clean up time, and start addressing the behavior. that she will sit to eat. Use those just like in school. You’re wasting time when you foods to teach her about sitting for For more tools to improve behav- could have started taking steps to meals. Also, adjust your expectation ior in your home, visit: http://bit.ly/ change it. If you’re not sure what to of how long she will sit. Maybe you behaviortoolkit do, then find someone — a friend, start with her sitting for just two min- Dr. Marcie Beigel is a behavioral teacher, pediatrician or behavior ex- utes at the table. Set a timer and the therapist based in Brooklyn. She has pert — to help you figure it out. The clear expectation that she needs to worked with thousands of families for behavior can be improved even if it sit until the time is up. The constant more than 15 years and has condensed is normal. reminders become a celebration that her observations into her practice and Here are three normal behavior she sat still when the timer goes off! programs. For more on her, visit www. challenges and how to change them: • “A t school my child does great BehaviorAndBeyond.net.

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By Dr. HeiDi SmitH LueDtke guilty — to spend time playing with preschool mentality all day.” 6Fathers add the kids before bedtime. Moms can’t op culture doesn’t appreci- deny there is wisdom in this ap- 3. Dads encourage so much ate dads. Sitcoms make fun proach. Dishes don’t grow up and go risk-taking P of their diapering (in)abili- off to college. Kids do. While moms’ protective instincts ties or portray dads as irresponsible Being good with “good enough” lead us to discourage kids from tak- to their babysitters who feed the kids pizza, doesn’t mean dads deny their short- ing physical risks, studies show dads ice cream, and sugary soda while comings. Tina Bushman, co-author of give kids more personal space to ex- mom is out for the evening. Personal the family discussion-starting book plore the environment, even if there children’s experience tells me there may be “Table Talk,” says she has learned is risk involved. some truth in this. My own husband from watching her husband, John, “At the park, I’m nervous about my lives shows our kids zombie movies, then address his missteps. 2-year-old going down the big slide, acts surprised when they refuse to “When it has been a rough parent- and, at home, I protect my baby from sleep with the lights out. Really. ing day, he will sit on the edge of our face-planting every time he attempts Stereotypes aside, it can be hard to child’s bed and explain that even to crawl,” says San Diego, Calif. mom move past the mom-knows-best men- though parents try hard, we aren’t Anna Crowe. Dads often push kids to tality and make room for dad’s differ- perfect,” she says. “He apologizes go outside their comfort zones. ent style of parenting. Mom of four, if he got upset or said the wrong Physical challenges help kids de- Tsara Shelton of Teague, Texas, says thing and asks forgiveness. It takes velop strength, coordination and parenting together with her boys’ a humble dad to do that, and I love confidence. And, by testing their dad has been the biggest challenge in him for it.” physical prowess, “kids learn valu- their happy, 13-year marriage. able skills that could prevent them “I always want to be the one with 2. Dads encourage from getting into serious trouble the answers and insights! But in active play in the future,” Crowe admits. Dads truth, it’s been co-parenting that’s Mud pies, snow forts, and do- allow kids to learn by doing when blessed my boys with the best of it-yourself science experiments are moms might be more likely to teach what both mom and dad have to dads’ domain, says Wendy Valder- by talking. offer,” she says. rama of Denver, Colo., “They do During the anxious moments in All moms can learn valuable les- messy fun really well.” parenting, dads maintain a calm com- sons from watching what dads do Valderrama watches her 3-year- posure moms admire. Stacy Lewis of best. Here’s how: old daughter’s princess wedding ball Long Beach, Calif., says her husband with prince Daddy every night. “He changed her perspective on parent- 1. Dads are good lets her take the lead and follows ing forever during one intense en- with good enough right along with her in the imagina- counter with their three kids. Most moms I know struggle to tive play,” she says. A dad’s passion He said, “I don’t get it! You are drown out the nagging inner critic for play is a joy to behold. the mom. Why are you hollering?” who says we aren’t good enough. When they aren’t entertaining And something clicked for Lewis. We feel intense pressure to keep kids on their own level, dads expose “He keeps things insanely balanced, the house (and kids!) clean and to kids to grown-up tasks and topics. A and I love him for that.” respond cheerfully to every social dad might teach a child how to mow obligation. Our to-do lists never get the lawn or talk about financial mat- 4. Dads set boundaries done. ters during informal apprenticeship Because women are focused on And it’s stressful. sessions. Since dads aren’t focused preserving social connections, we Researchers at Auburn University on ages and stages of development, may avoid family conflict. The men- found women are more likely to feel they may share information that is tal and emotional effort of peace- inadequate at home and at work than over kids’ heads. There is an upside keeping can lead to emotional ex- men, because we’re more apt to be to this, Valderrama says. haustion for women, according to re- perfectionists. “The conversations I overhear search by psychologists at Carnegie Dads recognize the 80 percent between my daughter and her dad Mellon University. Over time, minor solution is often good enough. They are amazing! I see her processing frustrations can grow into deep, sim- can walk away from a sink full of concepts I wouldn’t have thought mering resentments. unwashed dishes — without feeling possible, because I am stuck in a Shelton admits she struggles to

14 Manhattan Family • June 2015 tion. If the first attempt isn’t successful, dads try another approach. Women are more likely to focus on feelings, which can actually am- plify distress. We may commiserate with girlfriends or replay worst- case scenarios in our minds. C. Lee Reed of Beachside, Fla., re- calls her father often told his kids to “suck it up” in the face of disap- pointment. “It sounds crazy, but we learned to put on our big girl panties when things didn’t go our way,” Reed says. Now she uses the same phrase with her own daughter. It lightens the mood when emotions run high. Dads’ emotional balance allows them to keep parenting problems in perspective. Crowe says she often panicked at her son’s inability to sleep through the night or the fact that he didn’t crawl when other babies did. But her husband took a longer view. “He taught me not to worry so much about the little things, un- less they become a bigger concern,” says Crowe. A calm response is both comforting and practical.

6. Dads are present Moms take pride in our super- human ability to do five things at once, but there is an undeniable downside. Multitasking prevents us from seizing the joys of the present moment. Lauren Nichols of Farm- ingdale, NY, praises her husband’s ability to be in the moment with their 4-year-old son. “I admire his ability to slow down and listen to everything our son has to say. It is as if he really remembers what it was like to be a little kid. They are two peas in a pod.” Reed is inspired by her husband’s presence as well. While Reed, who calls herself “Helicopter Mom” is busy multitasking, her husband, “Just Plane Dad,” knows how to be fully present in the moment, she says. “When he spends time with our daughter, he’s not worried about the laundry or paying the bills. He is all there.” establish clear, firm rules for her kids. head-on. Shelton’s two youngest and which ones call for deeper con- Tuning in completely allows dads She sees most issues as gray areas sons — who had symptoms of au- versation. Dads seem to know this to see children as growing, loving and enjoys discussing the connec- tism at early ages — learned to be intuitively. little people. And it reminds us all tions between kids’ behaviors, social comfortable in their own bodies and that we’re blessed by our children expectations, and cultural pressures. brains because of their dad’s black- 5. Dads don’t fret — and their dads — in big and small While moms might see kids’ be- and-white boundaries. Women often wish men would lis- ways every day. havior in shades of gray, dads can “If my husband didn’t bring every- ten to our problems without try- Heidi Smith Luedtke is a personality take a more black-and-white view. thing down to its simplicity, I would ing to solve them, but that’s not psychologist who has gleaned many Men are less likely to shy away from get lost loving my boys in the gray,” how men are wired. When things go practical parenting strategies from her conflict, because they don’t take it she says. The key to parenting well wrong, dads jump into problem-solv- husband’s more laid-back approach. personally. That means they step in is to figure out which situations re- ing mode and determine what steps She is the author of “Detachment Par- and confront interpersonal issues quire a firm, rule-based response they can take to change the situa- enting.”

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up are formed. Language is the under- doubt, it is always recommended BY DR. ROSALIE MARDER Learning UNTERMAN standing and use of communication. that one speak to a professional. As parents, we wonder if our Speech-language pathologists and hat can you do if you have child is developing as expected. We audiologists assess individuals the ABCs of a child you feel may be may ask, when should speech and across the lifespan, from newborn W late in developing speech? language skills develop? How will hearing screenings and feeding as- speech and What if your voice is always hoarse I know if he is on time or delayed? sessments to geriatric communica- or strained? What if you or your During the first few years of life, ba- tion, hearing, and cognitive issues. child stutters? What can you do if bies respond to their environment Speech-language therapy is offered language your child has difficulty communi- and to the people around them. Dur- for many issues, such as language cating or does not relate with others ing the first five months, babies react development, articulation, voice, development due to difficulties with social skills? to sound, watch people speaking, vo- stuttering, apraxia, hearing impair- What can you do if someone has calize pleasure and displeasure, and ment, aphasia, traumatic brain in- difficulty hearing, or needs a hear- make noise when spoken to. At 12 jury, autism, social skills, accent ing aid? Even “small” issues, like a months, a baby understands “no-no” modification, reading, and functional child with a lisp or a need to speak and tries to communicate. Modeled communication. In many cases, ad- more clearly or accent reduction, sounds are repeated and the baby vice can be given that will be help- can seem overwhelming. is babbling repeated sounds. At 24 ful and questions can be answered. Communication is key to learn- months, the baby follows simple di- Sometimes a more in-depth look is ing and independence. Speech and rections, points to objects named, needed, with a full evaluation, fol- language help us communicate says approximately 50 words and lowed by a discussion of the results thoughts, ideas, and emotions. begins to put words together. By 3 and recommendations. When a child has special needs, de- years of age, a child’s vocabulary If you are concerned about velopment of communication may may be too large to count, using sen- speech, language, or hearing prob- become more difficult, but no less tences comprised of two to three (or lems for yourself or any member of important. Parents must be aware of more) words. At age 4, the child can your family, please seek help and be speech and language development, be understood by most people. evaluated. for sometimes they are the first in- What if your child has not devel- Dr. Rosalie Marder Unterman, is a dicator of the need for assistance. oped speech and language as de- clinical director and associate professor Speech is the verbal expression of scribed above? Does this mean he at Touro College’s graduate program in language; the way sounds and words has a serious problem? When in speech-language pathology.

June 2015 • Manhattan Family 19 WOMEN Word of wisdom from mom moguls he mom moguls breakfast was a huge suc- T cess, with more than FABULYSS 250 guests attending to listen to a celebrity panel talk about FINDS the balance between home LYSS STERN life and work life, and what it takes to be a successful “mom- preneur.” The celebrity panel included Kelly Rutherford, actress and founder of the Chil- dren’s Justice Campaign; Aliza Licht, senior vice president of Global Communications and Twitter phenomenon; DKNY PR GIRL Veronica Webb, en- trepreneur and supermodel; Keri Glassman, Founder of The author (far left) and Veronica Webb (far right) with the amazing moms. Nutritious Life and The Nu- trition School, TV personality and allowed to love what you do. You The event was held at Urbo, a author; Genevieve Gorder, interior can love spending time with them beautiful restaurant on 42nd Street designer and HGTV TV personality; more, but it’s amazing to love what and Eighth Avenue. Two gift bags and Rachel Blumenthal, CEO and you do.” filled with goodies were hung on each founder of the Crickets Circle. I mod- The panel also described the in- chair. Bouquets that were set as cen- erated the #FabULyss breakfast with fluence social media has on a prod- terpieces were also available to take Veronica Webb. uct, person, or companies success. home. Before the panel spoke, guests These highly successful women Veronica Webb explained the im- were invited to go into the bar area to shared tips for up-and-coming mom portance of proof reading before get a drink and get pampered by the moguls. Some of these tips were get- posting anything on a social media Glam Squad. A wonderful brunch was ting thunderclaps, such as launching outlet. Social media has turned into served filled with French toast, eggs, a product and perfecting your pitch a professional platform and it’s per- bacon, yogurt parfait, and some de- to be able to say what your brand is tinent that it’s treated that way. This lectable pastries. For dessert, a vari- in just a few words. The mom moguls panel of inspiring women helped ety of cupcakes were available, along also shared some wisdom on how other women learn the tips and skills with two amazing cakes — one in the to balance both home life and work it takes to be a successful working shape of a handbag and the other life. Keri Glassman offered up some mother in today’s technology con- promoting Aliza Licht’s new book, advice on that by saying, “You’re trolled world. “Leave Your Mark.” It’s safe to say everyone left with some knowledge, a full tummy, and two bags filled with Notable quotes from are the best instincts. You know your gut, my gut said to start an- #FabULyss gifts. the mom moguls: you.” other business! We are wired to All in all, the event was a huge suc- Aliza Licht: “Repetition is Rep- “Google is my best friend.” always be going.” cess. Future and present mom mo- utation.” Genevieve Gorder: “Sometimes “They should be so lucky to guls received helpful tips and tools “Perfect your elevator pitch. Be it feels like it’s never enough. Know have us!” in order to help them reach their able to explain what your brand is that we are all there with you.” Lyss Stern: “One of the greatest career goals. To be a working woman in a few sentences.” “The most authentic voice is al- things we are doing right now, is is hard enough, but to be a work- Veronica Webb: “When you’re ways going to be your own.” women really respect the talents ing mom is even harder. This event doing social media, proof-read ev- Kelly Rutherford: “I always get we have. One thing is not better shows all women that their careers erything!” people on my social media telling than the other.” don’t have to stop when they have a “In starting a business, as me how to better my own social Keri Glassman: “That’s just it. baby. A mom mogul is the most pow- long as you don’t have the same media!” There’s nothing else like it.” erful woman on earth; also the busi- problems everyday, you’re doing “Kids are little Buddhas. They “I always wanted to push forest, and this #DivaMom’s breakfast good.” teach us everyday.” ward. I never wanted to be com- showcased what it takes to be one. Sasha Charnin: “Your instincts Rachel Blumenthal: “Follow placent. Lyss Stern is the founder of DivaLyss- cious Moms (www.divamoms.com).

20 Manhattan Family • June 2015 provides you with optimal hydra- during childhood can more than WOMEN tion free of empty calories and double the risk of melanoma. sugar. Start your morning with a wear protective clothing. Wide- tall glass of water and keep drink- brimmed hats and sunglasses with ing it throughout the day. You can ultraviolet protection are great tell if you are properly hydrated ways to stay in style while protect- by the color of your urine — the ing yourself from sun exposure. Word of wisdom lighter, the better. To add nutrients When walking or hiking in tall, and taste to your water, try infus- grassy areas, remember to wear ing it with fruits such as lemons, long pants and socks to protect cucumbers, and strawberries. yourself from ticks. Prepare healthy snacks at home. remember your helmet. Every from mom moguls Make your own healthy snacks for kid should have a well-fitting hel- you and your kids to take along for met to wear whenever on wheels. he mom moguls break- the day. This will prevent the urge Accidents are common on bikes, fast was a huge suc- to spend extra money and make un- skateboards, scooters and skates T cess, with more than healthy choices at street carts and — even for older and more experi- FABULYSS 250 guests attending to listen concession stands. Some go-to ideas enced riders. For activities prone to a celebrity panel talk about include fresh fruit, nuts, hard-boiled to falling, consider knee, elbow, FINDS the balance between home eggs, and whole-grain crackers. You and wrist pads as well. LYSS STERN life and work life, and what it can make your own popsicles in the takes to be a successful “mom- freezer out of fruit juice. Watermelon Fitness preneur.” The celebrity panel makes a great snack — look online Get moving. Ditch the electron- included Kelly Rutherford, ac- for tips on how to cut it into sticks for ics, go outside and get active. Begin tress and founder of the Chil- easier snacking. your day with a morning run, walk, dren’s Justice Campaign; Aliza Make time for breakfast. A bal- or hike, and organize family out- Licht, senior vice president of anced breakfast consisting of fruit, ings that are centered around phys- Global Communications and protein, and whole grains will fuel ical activity. Limit total screen time Twitter phenomenon; DKNY your morning, boost your metabo- to one hour per day. Try to walk PR GIRL Veronica Webb, en- lism, and prevent overeating later instead of taking the bus, or get off trepreneur and supermodel; in the day. Granola bars and yo- the bus or subway a stop early. Keri Glassman, Founder of The author (far left) and Veronica Webb (far right) with the amazing moms. gurts are great on-the-go breakfast track your steps. Get a pedom- Nutritious Life and The Nu- options, but be conscious of cer- eter app on your cellphone or a trition School, TV personality and allowed to love what you do. You The event was held at Urbo, a tain flavors or brands that may be walk and run tracking app so you author; Genevieve Gorder, interior can love spending time with them beautiful restaurant on 42nd Street high in sugar and fat. can see how far you’ve made it. If designer and HGTV TV personality; more, but it’s amazing to love what and Eighth Avenue. Two gift bags Don’t forget food safety. Make you have not made it 10,000 steps and Rachel Blumenthal, CEO and you do.” filled with goodies were hung on each sure to keep hot food hot and cold by the early evening, find a way to founder of the Crickets Circle. I mod- The panel also described the in- chair. Bouquets that were set as cen- food cold. Most foods start to spoil get some extra activity. erated the #FabULyss breakfast with fluence social media has on a prod- terpieces were also available to take after just a couple of hours in the Be cautious at the beach and Veronica Webb. uct, person, or companies success. home. Before the panel spoke, guests warmer temperatures, so make pool. Make sure to always swim These highly successful women Veronica Webb explained the im- were invited to go into the bar area to use of coolers, thermoses, and ice with a buddy, preferably where a shared tips for up-and-coming mom portance of proof reading before get a drink and get pampered by the packs. Always wash your hands lifeguard can see you. Take fre- moguls. Some of these tips were get- posting anything on a social media Glam Squad. A wonderful brunch was before eating. quent breaks and make sure to stay ting thunderclaps, such as launching outlet. Social media has turned into served filled with French toast, eggs, hydrated. Get swimming lessons a product and perfecting your pitch a professional platform and it’s per- bacon, yogurt parfait, and some de- Protection for your children. Pay constant at- to be able to say what your brand is tinent that it’s treated that way. This lectable pastries. For dessert, a vari- wear bug repellent. Lightly tention to your children — many in just a few words. The mom moguls panel of inspiring women helped ety of cupcakes were available, along cover any exposed skin with a re- kids drown while their parents are also shared some wisdom on how other women learn the tips and skills with two amazing cakes — one in the Healthy pellent that provides protection for looking down at their cellphone or to balance both home life and work it takes to be a successful working shape of a handbag and the other the amount of time that you’ll be running a quick errand. Contrary life. Keri Glassman offered up some mother in today’s technology con- promoting Aliza Licht’s new book, outdoors. Using repellant prevents to popular belief, drownings are advice on that by saying, “You’re trolled world. “Leave Your Mark.” It’s safe to say irritating bug bites and reduces generally silent. everyone left with some knowledge, your risk of Lyme disease and West take these tips on the road. Re- a full tummy, and two bags filled with Nile Virus. Going camping? Con- member, the rules don’t change just Notable quotes from are the best instincts. You know your gut, my gut said to start an- #FabULyss gifts. sider a stronger repellent that lasts because you are on vacation. Make the mom moguls: you.” other business! We are wired to All in all, the event was a huge suc- summer all day and is meant for the woods, sure to pack enough snacks and Aliza Licht: “Repetition is Rep- “Google is my best friend.” always be going.” cess. Future and present mom mo- By Dr. Matthew weissMan with at least 20–30 percent DEET. water for the car trip. Leave yourself utation.” Genevieve Gorder: “Sometimes “They should be so lucky to guls received helpful tips and tools Simple tips Don’t forget to check for ticks at the enough visibility when driving, even “Perfect your elevator pitch. Be it feels like it’s never enough. Know have us!” in order to help them reach their s school lets out and the end of each day. with lots of suitcases in the back. able to explain what your brand is that we are all there with you.” Lyss Stern: “One of the greatest career goals. To be a working woman for a happy summer takes full course, Use sunscreen. Use a sunscreen Make sure to wear your seat belt in a few sentences.” “The most authentic voice is al- things we are doing right now, is is hard enough, but to be a work- A families must not forget with SPF 15 or higher. Make sure and have the kids in appropriate car Veronica Webb: “When you’re ways going to be your own.” women really respect the talents ing mom is even harder. This event about important health and safety to use at least two ounces; people seats. Pack a first-aid kit with alcohol doing social media, proof-read ev- Kelly Rutherford: “I always get we have. One thing is not better shows all women that their careers season tips in the midst of all the excite- often don’t use enough. Reapply it swabs, bandages, and tweezers in erything!” people on my social media telling than the other.” don’t have to stop when they have a ment. Stay healthy and happy this every two hours and after swim- your car. “In starting a business, as me how to better my own social Keri Glassman: “That’s just it. baby. A mom mogul is the most pow- summer with these quick tips and ming or sweating. Most clothing Dr. Matthew Weissman, an internist long as you don’t have the same media!” There’s nothing else like it.” erful woman on earth; also the busi- reminders: doesn’t provide adequate sun pro- and a pediatrician, is the chief medical problems everyday, you’re doing “Kids are little Buddhas. They “I always wanted to push forest, and this #DivaMom’s breakfast tection, so make sure to apply sun- officer for Community Healthcare Net- good.” teach us everyday.” ward. I never wanted to be com- showcased what it takes to be one. Food and drink screen underneath. Talk to your work, a network of 11 federally-qualified Sasha Charnin: “Your instincts Rachel Blumenthal: “Follow placent. Lyss Stern is the founder of DivaLyss- stay hydrated throughout the kids about the importance of sun- health centers in four boroughs of New cious Moms (www.divamoms.com). day. Unlike soda and juice, water screen, too — a few bad sunburns York City.

June 2015 • Manhattan Family 21 Funny moms Comedy duo By Tammy Scileppi aving a sense of humor is — and moms mandatory when you’re a H parent. Without it, you could easily lose your sanity, especially in — poke fun these turbulent times. And if you’re a single parent, you probably need a at parenting triple dose. Humor is a great motivating tool and works wonders when you want your children to do something they don’t want to. When you inject humor into life’s challenging mix of ups and downs, annoying stuff is easier to deal with. Most parents would probably agree that being firm but kind of funny is an effective way to create a loving bond with your family. And it’s a good way to keep your kids in line, as they all- too-suddenly transition into smart- alecky adolescents and know-it-all teens. El and Mel agree. Between regular feedings, diaper changes, and pediatrician visits, these hilarious mom comics are Mel and El performing at 92YTribeca. just finding out that humor is the best medicine when it comes to fussy tots and dirty laundry. Side in late summer and early fall. with anyone who will listen. Melanie Kinard and Ellie Dunn, “When we first developed our El is a Queens girl and is a two-woman-comedy-music duo, act, we were both living in Queens, 16-month-old Charlie’s mama. In- have been real-life best friends and we worked on material in the stead of doing big Midtown shows, since they were 12, and have been living rooms of our respective she says Mel and El’s goal is to performing all over the city (and apartments. Back then, we were all make life more convenient for par- the world) for many years. But after about being single ladies, gallivant- ents who need a night out. a bit of a hiatus, these funny gals ing about town with our fabulous “We’re going to bring the show decided to reinvent themselves in gay friends. But now that our songs out to different neighborhoods and the form of “The Mommy Show (for are more about nursing babies and connect with the parent-centered Adults Only).” They plan to present less about nursing drinks, we’re ca- businesses and organizations in their new act in venues city-wide, tering to a whole new crowd.” those areas.” but were proud to make the official A s newbie moms and doting wives, Mel recently “defected” to Har- debut at QED Astoria in Queens the duo can’t wait to get on stage and lem from Queens with her hubby on June 3. So stay tuned. You can share songs, stories, and sassy one- and kiddies — Colin, 3, and Clau- expect more shows in Park Slope, liners about parental angst and their dia, 3 months. She said they want the Upper West, and the Upper East families’ trials, joys, and tribulations the show to be a place where you

22 Manhattan Family • June 2015 June 2015 MANHATTAN FREE Family Where Every Child Matters (Left) Ellie Dunn with her son Charlie, and Melanie Kinard with her son Colin.

be about pregnancy and babies Super and parenthood, so we finally de- If you like “Now that our cided to fully embrace it and ‘The songs are more Mommy Show’ was born.” dadsIf you like But Mel and El’s fresh, new the magazine about nursing babies laugh-out-loud show isn’t just for • 6 reasons why dads are mommies. They describe it as a to- awesomethe magazine and less about tally inclusive experience that has nursing drinks, we’re been entertaining moms, single • Being a trulyyou’ll love folks, grandparents, gay parents, equal parent catering to a whole and other people with senses of you’ll love humor for years. • Offering kidsthe site. new crowd.” Do the comediennes have any love and tips for working moms? acceptancethe site. “I read some article recently can relax and laugh and also meet that basically said, ‘There is no Find us online at www.NYParenting.com some cool parents from your own such thing as work-life balance,’ neighborhood. and that sounded right to me,” says As the friends’ lives changed, Mel. “It’s been a relief to let go of Check us out! so too did their act. the idea that I should always feel “I got married when I was 35, super ‘namaste’ all the time. When Check us out! so I had plenty of years to be a I’m working, I’m worrying that I’ve little bit ridiculous and make a lot abandoned and ruined my kids. NYParenting.com of mistakes,” said Mel. “I continue When I’m with my kids, I’m obsess- to be a mistake-making ridiculous ing about checking things off of NYParenting.com person, but now I do it with a hus- my work to-do list. It doesn’t end. band and two kids.” Most days I would benefit from a “We made ‘The Mel and El vacation.” Show’ and performed versions “That was profound. I was going Where every family matters and of it all over the place — from to say something fairly basic, like a downtown crowd at Joe’s Pub ‘Don’t go to the office with poo on whereWhere New every York family parents matters find and help, to 3,000 gay men on an Atlantis your shirt,’ ” says El. Cruise in the Mediterranean — “That’s wise, too,” says Mel. where New info York and parents support. find help, and then we had kids,” says El. For more on Mel and El, visit www. “All of our material started to welcometothemommyshow.com. info and support. June 2015 • Manhattan Family 23 Children and genDer roles By Christa Melnyk hines girls are crying, they’re fussy.” Gender differences Be careful of Many parents feel gender differ- uring the past 50 years, our Gender and age ences become more important as typecasting society’s gender rules have For children under the age of 6, children enter adolescence. Chrissy D undergone a major shift. gender should play little role, if any, Stewart, a mom of three, including More women than ever are in lead- in how we parent our kids. Rules two sons and a daughter, says she your kids ership positions and in careers like discouraging our little girls from parents her children with the same once reserved for men. Modern fa- playing in mud and our little boys general set of rules of behavior, but thers are more involved in child- from crying can be developmentally feels differences in the sexes de- rearing and care-taking roles. But, damaging, Smith says. mand awareness of different issues. do we still inherently treat our sons During these formative years when “General rules are the same and and daughters differently based on children are curious about exploring most expectations for behavior, like their gender? a variety of interests, toys, and ac- kindness and no bad language, but “An unequivocal yes,” says Dr. tivities, avoid pushing your child in there are just things that parents are Deborah Smith, a University of more stereotypical directions. more worried about with a boy or a Missouri-Kansas City sociologist “You might be stopping the best girl that are more gender-specific,” who studies gender issues. “Within chemist, because she’s a girl and she says. For example, a parent is 24 hours, parents are handling ‘girls aren’t into chemistry,’ or sti- more likely to talk to her daugh- male and female babies differently. fling the best nurse because ‘boys ter about self-defense, and her son If boys are crying, they’re angry. If aren’t nurses,’ ” Smith says. about dating etiquette.

24 Manhattan Family • June 2015 Laura Murphy, a parent coach, A mother who handles every- is the mother of three grown chil- thing in the household, refusing dren, including two sons, 18 and 22, to share any responsibilities with and a daughter, 20. She says par- her husband, sends the message ents should work toward the com- that he can’t doing anything right, mon goal of raising good people, and he is left searching for a role, but also celebrate the differences Murphy says. Children may also between the sexes. assume that women manage ev- Evolution Enrichment Center “We do want men to model for erything in the home. their sons how to be a strong, good- “I don’t think men need to be the Summer Day Camp hearted man in this world. Women dominating force in the family, but need to model for their daughters they certainly need to be a leader how to be a loving, caring good in the family,” Murphy says. “Work woman in this world,” Murphy says. as a team. Sometimes a woman has And regardless of whether you to defer to the man and the man have boys or girls, chances are has to defer to the woman.” you enforce different rules accord- Honor, appreciate, and respect ing to differences in behavior and each other’s roles in the house- personality. hold. Your children will learn that gender has little to do with the Division of labor healthy functioning of a home. Parents may unwittingly set gen- “The bottom line is everybody der rules when it comes to chores, needs to be respected regardless requiring their girls to complete in- of gender,” Smith says. “If we think door chores and their boys to take about ourselves as humans first care of outdoor chores. and what’s a good idea to create “I encourage parents to teach a healthy human — particularly Full Day (8 am – 6 pm) children to do both,” Murphy says. not making a big distinction for 6 Ages 2-5 • June 29 – August 29 “I want my daughter to be able to and under — would go a long way take care of her own household in helping children develop the Flexible Options • Meals & Snack Included inside and out someday, and I want full range of emotions and inter- Outdoor Play Every Day my son to take care of his own ests and competencies that you Inquiries by phone 212-375-9500 or email: [email protected] household inside and out.” just need as a successful human 38 Delancey St., 2nd Floor (Entrance at Forsyth St.) • New York, NY 10002 Teaching children to care for being.” themselves and their homes Raised with less focus on rigid should be a universal goal as they male and female rules and pro- grow into adulthood. active guidance from you rather than from provocative media or Model respect cultural influences, your children Consider the messages you send can freely pursue their interests your children when you and your without feeling restricted by their Serving Battery Park City since 1983 spouse divide household responsi- gender. bilities, make child-rearing decisions, Freelance journalist Christa Melnyk Battery Park Pharmacy and how you treat one another. Hines and her husband are the par- “How the parents view their ents of two boys. Hines is the author of roles has a lot to do with how the “Happy, Healthy, & Hyperconnected: children will view their roles,” Mur- Raise a Thoughtful Communicator in Congratulates the class of phy says. a Digital World.”

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June 2015 • Manhattan Family 25 HEALTHY EATING Your health issues also become theirs

egan was so fearful of food eating disorders and often fear their that when her 5-year-old children will have the condition they M son wanted to continue had.” GOOD SENSE playing rather than stop to eat, she One common situation fea- was relieved she didn’t have to deal tures a mom who fears her EATING with it. At other times, she tried eat- daughter is putting on weight CHRISTINE M. PALUMBO, RD ing meals with him but would only after being overweight most pick at a salad. Needless to say, of her own life. Megan was a poor role model for As a result, Levinson her son, who was underweight for sees two different reac- his age. tions. One group of moth- A mom’s past experience with ers is often hypervigilant weight and eating certainly influ- over what their children are ences how she feeds her children. eating and overly concerned But how much do women carry their about it. The other group of eating issues into motherhood? moms try to make it a nonis- “I actually see this all the time,” sue to the extent that their kids says registered dietician nutritionist eat everything and anything with Jessica Fishman Levinson, founder no limits. of Nutritioulicious, a nutrition con- Neither of those extremes is pro- sulting and communications busi- viding your child with a balanced If you’re struggling ness. “Moms may have eating issues diet or teaching him how to eat once If you had an eating issue in the after growing up overweight or with he’s on his own. past, or you’re still struggling with one, and you feel like it could be impacting how you’re feeding your child, seek out an eating therapist or Bacon-stuffed registered dietitian nutritionist who shell salad specializes in eating disorders. Serves 8 A professional can help you de- Prep time: 25 minutes. termine where your eating issues stem from, or why you react to food Cook time: 15 minutes the way you do. This can ultimately INGREDIENTS: allow you to change your behavior, 12 ounces Canadian-style bacon, especially in situations that make sliced you anxious. 1 cup zucchini, shredded If your child is going to a birthday 1/2 cup red bell pepper, finely party where pizza and cake will be chopped served, think through how you can make the rest of the day and week 2 Tbsp. Parmesan cheese, grated more balanced. 3 Tbsp. vegetable oil “The hardest thing you need to do 3 Tbsp. red wine vinegar is go with the flow,” Levinson says. 1 clove garlic, minced “If you don’t let your child have the 1/2 tsp. Italian seasoning Parmesan cheese; set aside. up, in a baking dish. Cover and chill treats at the birthday party or at the 1/2 tsp. sugar For dressing, combine oil, vinegar, 2–4 hours. friend’s house when all the other 1/4 tsp. salt garlic, Italian seasoning, sugar, salt, To serve, arrange romaine lettuce kids are having them, your child and pepper. Pour dressing over bacon leaves among salad plates. Place 2 is going to feel left out, and they’re 1/8 tsp. pepper mixture; toss gently to mix. Cover shells atop each plate. going to seek (the food) elsewhere.” 16 conchiglioni (jumbo shells) and chill 30 minutes. NUTRITION FACTS: 160 calories, 8 Christine Palumbo is a Naperville- Romaine lettuce Cook conchiglioni according to pack- grams carbohydrates, 11 grams pro- registered dietitian nutritionist who is a DIRECTIONS: Cut Canadian bacon age directions. Drain and rinse with tein, 9 grams fat (2 grams saturated), new Fellow of the American Academy into thin strips. In a large bowl com- cold water. Spoon about 1/4 cup of 0 fiber, 700 mg sodium. of Nutrition and Dietetics. Follow her bine bacon, zucchini, red pepper, and the bacon mixture into each con- on Twitter @PalumboRD, Facebook at chiglioni. Place the shells, filled side From PorkBeInspired.com. Christine Palumbo Nutrition, or Chris@ ChristinePalumbo.com

26 Manhattan Family • June 2015 HEALTHY EATING TechnologyTechnology Your health issues Body positivity in also become theirs an online crucible egan was so fearful of food eating disorders and often fear their aising a daughter who’s happy to rate the physical attractiveness that when her 5-year-old children will have the condition they in her own skin isn’t easy. For of users. Although many girls are M son wanted to continue had.” R years, parents have worried turned off by these sites, others are GOOD SENSE playing rather than stop to eat, she One common situation fea- GrowinG Up about the unrealistic way women susceptible to their appeal. was relieved she didn’t have to deal tures a mom who fears her are depicted in media, advertising, Critique photos. A photo can cap- EATING with it. At other times, she tried eat- daughter is putting on weight online pop culture, and even video games. ture a “real” moment or it can be a CHRISTINE M. PALUMBO, RD ing meals with him but would only after being overweight most Carolyn Jabs Many try to counter this influence by performance. Talk to your daughter pick at a salad. Needless to say, of her own life. pointing out to their daughters that about how she chooses the photos Megan was a poor role model for As a result, Levinson commercial images of women are she decides to post online. What is her son, who was underweight for sees two different reac- often manipulated by people hoping she trying to express about herself? his age. tions. One group of moth- to make a profit. What kinds of editing techniques A mom’s past experience with ers is often hypervigilant Excellent information about the does she use and why? What kind of weight and eating certainly influ- over what their children are connection between traditional feedback does she hope to get? How ences how she feeds her children. eating and overly concerned media and body image is widely will she feel if people misunderstand But how much do women carry their about it. The other group of available online. Check out the re- what she is trying to communicate? eating issues into motherhood? moms try to make it a nonis- search at geenadavisinstitute.org, You can ask similar questions about “I actually see this all the time,” sue to the extent that their kids the infographics at representation- the photos her friends post online. says registered dietician nutritionist eat everything and anything with project.org, and the interactive game Do specific photos capture what she Jessica Fishman Levinson, founder no limits. at mypopstudio.com. likes about her friend or their rela- of Nutritioulicious, a nutrition con- Neither of those extremes is pro- Social media poses different chal- tionship? Do other photos make her sulting and communications busi- viding your child with a balanced If you’re struggling lenges, largely because girls them- uncomfortable? ness. “Moms may have eating issues diet or teaching him how to eat once If you had an eating issue in the selves are creating and commenting Filter feedback. Teens long for after growing up overweight or with he’s on his own. past, or you’re still struggling with on their own images. This gives them Don’t dismiss. For better or feedback from peers — as long as it is one, and you feel like it could be tremendous power — and makes worse, people do make judgments positive. Negative comments can be impacting how you’re feeding your them hugely vulnerable. On platforms about each other based on how they crushing, so parents need to help chil- child, seek out an eating therapist or like Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, present themselves physically, so dren develop defenses. Rather than Bacon-stuffed registered dietitian nutritionist who and Twitter, appearance can become your daughter’s concerns about how accepting hostile or cruel comments shell salad specializes in eating disorders. a competitive sport as girls vie for she looks are valid. And for girls as objectively “true,” teach kids to un- Serves 8 A professional can help you de- emoji, likes, and followers. who constantly see images that have derstand them as a reflection of the Prep time: 25 minutes. termine where your eating issues Selfies in particular push girls to been filtered and Photoshopped to other person’s state of mind. People stem from, or why you react to food compare themselves with peers at match an ideal, the curves and pim- who are happy with themselves don’t Cook time: 15 minutes the way you do. This can ultimately their prettiest, and it doesn’t take ples of puberty can feel like a crisis. feel the need to attack others. Encour- INGREDIENTS: allow you to change your behavior, long to figure out that the fastest way Parents cannot change the pre- age your child to be constructive in 12 ounces Canadian-style bacon, especially in situations that make to get more likes is to be thin, skilled vailing culture, but you can help her own comments — supporting sliced you anxious. with makeup, dressed in revealing your daughter think clearly about and encouraging other girls instead 1 cup zucchini, shredded If your child is going to a birthday clothing, or positioned in a provoca- two things. First, how much will she of tearing them down. 1/2 cup red bell pepper, finely party where pizza and cake will be tive pose. allow herself to be influenced by It may not seem that way in ado- chopped served, think through how you can A recent survey by Common Sense what others think about her looks? lescence, but appearance is only a make the rest of the day and week Encourage her not to give power 2 Tbsp. Parmesan cheese, grated Media found that, among teens who fraction of a girl’s identity. You can more balanced. post online, 35 percent are worried to those who don’t deserve it. Second, mitigate the impact of social media 3 Tbsp. vegetable oil “The hardest thing you need to do about being tagged in unattract- how will she evaluate others? Help by talking often about all the other 3 Tbsp. red wine vinegar is go with the flow,” Levinson says. ive photos, 27 percent feel anxious her understand that other, less vis- things you value about your daugh- 1 clove garlic, minced “If you don’t let your child have the about their appearance in posted ible qualities — integrity, intelligence, ter. Create a family environment in 1/2 tsp. Italian seasoning Parmesan cheese; set aside. up, in a baking dish. Cover and chill treats at the birthday party or at the photos, and a quarter take it person- sense of humor, compassion — are which every member is respected 1/2 tsp. sugar For dressing, combine oil, vinegar, 2–4 hours. friend’s house when all the other ally when their photos are ignored. more important than appearance. for who they are and what they can 1/4 tsp. salt garlic, Italian seasoning, sugar, salt, To serve, arrange romaine lettuce kids are having them, your child Parents may not be able to dom- be aware of the awful. Yes, there do rather than how they happen to and pepper. Pour dressing over bacon leaves among salad plates. Place 2 is going to feel left out, and they’re inate the conversations about ap- really are pro anorexia (pro-ana) and look on any given day. 1/8 tsp. pepper mixture; toss gently to mix. Cover shells atop each plate. going to seek (the food) elsewhere.” pearance that are going on in social thinspiration (thinspo) websites that Carolyn Jabs raised three computer- 16 conchiglioni (jumbo shells) and chill 30 minutes. NUTRITION FACTS: 160 calories, 8 Christine Palumbo is a Naperville- media, but they can and should com- encourage girls to starve themselves savvy kids, including one with special Romaine lettuce Cook conchiglioni according to pack- grams carbohydrates, 11 grams pro- registered dietitian nutritionist who is a ment. Girls need to hear from moth- and praise them when they post needs. She has been writing Growing DIRECTIONS: Cut Canadian bacon age directions. Drain and rinse with tein, 9 grams fat (2 grams saturated), new Fellow of the American Academy ers who have come to terms with emaciated photos. Yes, girls post Up Online for 10 years and is working into thin strips. In a large bowl com- cold water. Spoon about 1/4 cup of 0 fiber, 700 mg sodium. of Nutrition and Dietetics. Follow her their own body issues and fathers “Am I pretty?” videos on YouTube on a book about constructive responses bine bacon, zucchini, red pepper, and the bacon mixture into each con- on Twitter @PalumboRD, Facebook at who appreciate women for more and, perhaps unsurprisingly, attract to conflict. Visit www.growing-up-online. chiglioni. Place the shells, filled side From PorkBeInspired.com. Christine Palumbo Nutrition, or Chris@ than their faces and figures. Here the attention of trolls. Yes, there are com to read other columns. ChristinePalumbo.com are six things to keep in mind: apps like Hot or Not that exist simply Copyright, 2014, Carolyn Jabs. All rights reserved.

June 2015 • Manhattan Family 27 HealtHy eating Streamling healthy meals for your kids Breakfast and lunch tips from Chef Gensterblum reparing breakfast and lunch Tips for for kids can be tricky, not feeding kids P to mention time consuming. As the executive chef of the Léman Jenny Gensterblum Manhattan Preparatory School, I am responsible for making sure 600 charges eat healthy and well-balanced meals every day. Below are five simple tips to make preparing nutritious and tasty meals easy, so you can stream- line the process and incorporate healthy eating seamlessly into your child’s day. Feed their brains for breakfast! Glucose provides fuel to the brain. Without it, our brains simply don’t operate as well. Foods like beans, steel-cut oats, and hearty whole grains provide the most steady and prolonged sources of glucose. Don’t be as boring as toast! Whole grain toast is quite possibly the quickest and easiest breakfast to prepare. Don’t be limited by butter and jam! Try topping whole- wheat bread or an English muffin with: • 1/ 4 of an avocado (another food that promotes brain health!) • C r e a m cheese and fresh berries • Nut or seed butter, bananas, and chia seeds • Celery, raisins, and nut or seed butter • R i co t t a cheese, pears, and a drizzle of honey sea salt Pick up a bento box. They come in all shapes, sizes, and designs. The lunch boxes are separated into compartments — making controlling portion sizes and getting in daily recommended values a cinch. Not only that, it makes meals visually pleas- encourage healthy and adventurous ble for dinner? Turn your side dish ing, which always encourages young eaters. into corn and zucchini whole-wheat ones to eat! Plan ahead. Turn dinners into fritters, using whole-wheat pancake let your children help you pack lunches easily with a little planning. batter and stirring in the leftover lunch the night before. Studies Examples: bacon on Sunday morn- veggies. show time and time again that chil- ing = BLAT (bacon, lettuce, avocado, Jenny Gensterblum is the author of dren are more willing to eat or try tomato) on whole wheat for lunch. the cookbook “Secret Sauce: Kid Tested something that they took part in Chicken for dinner? Grill an extra and Approved Recipes from the Léman preparing. It’s a great way to spend breast and make chicken salad. Had Manhattan Chef’s Vault” now available time together, teach new skills, and corn and zucchini for your vegeta- at Blurb.com.

28 Manhattan Family • June 2015 PARENTINGParenting

PARENTING MEDIA ASSOCIATION 2015 Bronze 5 ways to say ‘thanks’ Award Winner Editorial Awards Competition to your child’s teacher ith the school year wrap- ping up, many moms are W looking for a way to show gratitude to their child’s teacher. My JUST WRITE son’s school takes up a collection, and the class mom buys a gift from MOM all the collected money. I like to par- DANIELLE SULLIVAN ticipate in that, and I think it’s great, because it takes the pressure off busy moms who don’t have time to find a personalized gift. But I also like to do something extra. My son has been extremely for- tunate in the teachers he has had at Good Shepherd School in Brooklyn. Every time I hear about another teacher doing something horrific in the news, I just cringe, and then I thank my lucky stars that my son has such wonderful educators helping to mold his mind and conscience. Let’s face it. When you drop your child off at his classroom, you don’t really know what happens when could use more school supplies, and uated a few years ago) principal, you’re not around. You might get way too many pay for them out of Mr. Anthony Paparelli. Having had filled in after the fact by your child, their own pocket throughout the my three children at three different but more often than not, leaving year. This gift is a no fail. grammar schools, I have never en- your child in the care of another Something they personally love. countered a principal who cared so adult is a leap of faith. A few years ago, my daughter had a much and strived every day to make Teachers are not just there to teacher that was fascinated by frogs. school a positive, challenging, and teach ABCs and 123s. They do a She had frog pictures, statues, ear- fun environment for all his students. million countless things every day rings … you get the picture. So at the Paparelli was available to the par- that never get recognized. My son’s end of the year, my daughter picked ents every morning and afternoon in teachers have been a constant out an especially beautiful porcelain the schoolyard, attended countless source of guidance, encouragement, frog for her collection. One year, an- functions with enthusiasm, revisited and stability. other teacher was obsessed with the curriculums and raised the stan- Teachers help children in count- New York Jets, and we bought him a dards each year, while somehow still less ways each day, and it’s impor- Jets souvenir. If you know for a fact managing to find the time to partici- tant that we recognize that. Here that your child’s teacher loves a par- pate in the yearly jumpathon, hand are some small ways to thank your ticular thing, go with it. out paper towels in the bathrooms child’s teacher this year: A handwritten letter. You don’t during lunch, chat with parents, and Bookstore giftcard. What teacher have to buy anything to let a teacher find a million and one ways to make doesn’t like books or need more? know how much she is appreciated. his students love their school and Odds are that a bookstore gift card A simple letter telling her why this learning. He changed the lives of would be like giving your child’s year was a successful experience for countless kids, and as he moves on teacher the keys to a candy store. (It your child means way more than a to the next chapter in his career, his would be for me, too!) I don’t think I store-bought gift. And a copy of that absence will surely leave a hole, but could ever get sick of browsing the letter sent directly to the principal is it will also leave a legacy of dedica- bookstore aisles. a nice touch, too. Teachers make a tion, love, and strength. Not a mug. By the time a teacher school, and principals should know Danielle Sullivan, a mom of three, has completed teacher training and when a teacher does an outstanding has worked as a writer and editor in the field visits, she probably already has job. Hearing it straight from the par- parenting world for more than 10 years. more than enough mugs that say #1 ents always helps! Sullivan also writes about pets and par- Teacher on them. On a personal note, I would like to enting for Disney’s Babble.com. Find Sul- Giftcard for school supply store. extend my extreme gratitude to my livan on her blogs, Just Write Mom and All the teachers I have ever known son’s (and my daughter who grad- Some Puppy To Love.

June 2015 • Manhattan Family 29 What makes a family? BY ALLISON PLITT used in an IVF or ICSI cycle. In Taking a the United States, however, the on’t be fooled by the book incidence of multiple births fol- closer look title “Modern Families: Par- lowing IVF and ICSI remains above D ents and Children in New 30 percent.” Family Forms.” It is not about the Children conceived with siblings at modern Emmy-winning television series of the same age also experience “Modern Family,” which relates the developmental delays in infancy, humorous experiences of three cur- which is common for twins, how- households rent-day families. The book “Mod- ever, by age 5, they had caught up to ern Families” is written by Susan their peers in terms of motor skills. Golombok, professor of Family Re- While families experience emotional search and director for the Centre and financial stress in raising nu- for Family Research at the Uni- merous babies at the same time, versity of Cambridge. In her book once these children had reached she assembles together about adulthood, they lacked any physi- 40 years-worth of “cutting-edge” ological or psychological problems research about modern family that may had been caused by their models. conception. Although “Modern Families,” Another modern family struc- March, 2015, consists of re- ture causing a lot of controversy search studies and its results, is surrogacy. A couple with fertility it is similar to that of the popu- problems can ask a surrogate to lar television show in depicting the counter this type of discrimination. be impregnated with their embryo struggles and triumphs of different, The book also discusses children and give birth to their child. An evolving contemporary families. The conceived through in vitro fertiliza- alternative option is having the sur- conclusions Golombok makes from tion, in which a sperm and an egg are rogate contribute her own egg to a the research studies are fascinating fertilized in a laboratory to create man’s sperm to create an embryo and definitely worth reading. She not an embryo, which is then implanted and carry the child. only stresses the positive aspects into a woman’s uterus. Another Homosexual men sometimes use of these new modern family mod- form of in vitro fertilization is intra- surrogates when they want a child els, but highlights the drawbacks cytoplasmic sperm injection, when with a genetic link. Studies show that as well. a single sperm is injected directly some children continue to see their Most of the research Golombok into an egg. Many times when these surrogate mothers after childbirth cites in her book are studies done in procedures are conducted, multiple and have relationships with the sur- economically developed countries embryos are used for each ovulation rogate and her family throughout since the early 1980s. The results of cycle. Consequently, some mothers their lifetimes. the studies attest to her conclusions. give birth to multiple children at the Due to the high cost of hiring a One interesting inference was that same time. surrogate (some agencies will charge children raised by lesbian and homo- According to Golombok, there are up to $100,000), many US couples are sexual couples do not suffer gender “physical risks associated with mul- going to economically developing identity crisis. The worst situation tiple births, including perinatal mor- countries, like India, to find women these children experience are envi- tality, preterm deliveries, low birth who will carry their child for much ronments where they feel ashamed weight and neonatal problems and less expense. Many people are con- to talk about their families. Unfor- disability.” Due to these problems cerned that surrogate mothers will tunately, homophobia exists in the in multiple births, she writes, “some refuse to hand over the baby after world and children from single-sex countries have introduced regula- the birth, but statistics show this couples should be prepared to en- tions to limit the number of embryos rarely happens. There are only a few

30 Manhattan Family • June 2015 are open with their children about their conception, they tend to get along better and there is less conflict within the household. When parents withhold information from children about their origins, there becomes a greater likelihood for stress and ten- sion in familial relationships. Many single-sex parents, especially men, consider adoption as a What makes choice for having children. While some adoption agencies were ini- tially skeptical about same-sex parents raising children, the success of so many single-sex familes has al- layed their fears. When children are adopted before the age of 1, there are fewer psychological problems between the parent and child. When a family? a child is adopted after the age of 1, he or she is more likely to encounter BY ALLISON PLITT used in an IVF or ICSI cycle. In neglect and abuse before being ad- Taking a the United States, however, the opted, and, as a result, experience on’t be fooled by the book incidence of multiple births fol- psychological problems later on. closer look title “Modern Families: Par- lowing IVF and ICSI remains above One of the most predominant D ents and Children in New 30 percent.” modern family forms is the divorced Family Forms.” It is not about the Children conceived with siblings or separated single parent raising at modern Emmy-winning television series of the same age also experience her children alone. Golombok writes, “Modern Family,” which relates the developmental delays in infancy, “Approximately 40 to 50 percent of humorous experiences of three cur- which is common for twins, how- married couples in the U.S. divorce households rent-day families. The book “Mod- ever, by age 5, they had caught up to … studies have consistently shown ern Families” is written by Susan their peers in terms of motor skills. that children whose parents divorce Golombok, professor of Family Re- While families experience emotional are more likely to show emotional search and director for the Centre and financial stress in raising nu- and behavioral problems and are for Family Research at the Uni- merous babies at the same time, less likely to perform well at school versity of Cambridge. In her book once these children had reached than are children in intact families.” she assembles together about adulthood, they lacked any physi- Although these negative behav- 40 years-worth of “cutting-edge” ological or psychological problems ioral patterns in children of divorce research about modern family that may had been caused by their decline as the years pass on, espe- models. conception. cially for girls, “boys still showed Although “Modern Families,” Another modern family struc- higher level of conduct problems.” March, 2015, consists of re- ture causing a lot of controversy Much of the research on the psy- search studies and its results, is surrogacy. A couple with fertility chological problems in children of it is similar to that of the popu- problems can ask a surrogate to divorce indicates that these children lar television show in depicting the counter this type of discrimination. be impregnated with their embryo suffered not as a repercussion of an struggles and triumphs of different, The book also discusses children and give birth to their child. An absent parent, but due to conflict evolving contemporary families. The conceived through in vitro fertiliza- alternative option is having the sur- and hostility in the home before the conclusions Golombok makes from tion, in which a sperm and an egg are rogate contribute her own egg to a parents separated. the research studies are fascinating fertilized in a laboratory to create man’s sperm to create an embryo In another study it was found and definitely worth reading. She not an embryo, which is then implanted and carry the child. recent studies done on surrogacy, mothers and fathers are usually fi- term relationships with their donor that depressed parents with marital only stresses the positive aspects into a woman’s uterus. Another Homosexual men sometimes use but those that exist prove that chil- nancially independent and have a siblings. “In 2000, the Donor Sibling problems can cause depression in of these new modern family mod- form of in vitro fertilization is intra- surrogates when they want a child dren conceived in this manner grow strong network of family and friends Registry — an internet site designed their children. Despite the economic els, but highlights the drawbacks cytoplasmic sperm injection, when with a genetic link. Studies show that up and adjust just as normally as any to help them raise their children. to facilitate the search for donors as hardships divorce can make for fami- as well. a single sperm is injected directly some children continue to see their child their age would. Children brought up by single well as families who share the same lies, the effects of unhappy, married Most of the research Golombok into an egg. Many times when these surrogate mothers after childbirth Another category under the “mod- mothers and fathers “by choice” donor — was established in the USA parents can produce a worse sce- cites in her book are studies done in procedures are conducted, multiple and have relationships with the sur- ern family” heading is single men generally do not suffer from any by a donor-conceived boy and his nario for children. Golombok implies economically developed countries embryos are used for each ovulation rogate and her family throughout and women who decide to conceive psychological problems associated mother,” Golombok writes. “Since that, in the end, all it takes is a loving since the early 1980s. The results of cycle. Consequently, some mothers their lifetimes. or adopt children and raise them with their conception. They build a that time, 44,000 people have reg- parent with some discipline, struc- the studies attest to her conclusions. give birth to multiple children at the Due to the high cost of hiring a by themselves. If a woman wants a very close bond with the parent who istered with this website and more ture and open communication to One interesting inference was that same time. surrogate (some agencies will charge genetic link to her child, she can get raises them, yet often miss having than 11,000 matches between donor create a better home for a child. children raised by lesbian and homo- According to Golombok, there are up to $100,000), many US couples are pregnant by donor sperm insemina- another parent. These children are offspring, donors and donor siblings To obtain more information about sexual couples do not suffer gender “physical risks associated with mul- going to economically developing tion. Women nowadays have the op- almost always informed about how have been made.” Susan Golombok and her book, identity crisis. The worst situation tiple births, including perinatal mor- countries, like India, to find women tion to freeze their eggs or embryos they were conceived because of the Looking back at the feedback of all “Modern Families,” visit these two these children experience are envi- tality, preterm deliveries, low birth who will carry their child for much (with donor sperm) in their 20s and absent second parent and usually the participants, Golombok believes websites www.cfr.cam.ac.uk or www. ronments where they feel ashamed weight and neonatal problems and less expense. Many people are con- 30s and then postpone having a search for their other birth parent. it is best to let children know how childandfamilyblog.com. to talk about their families. Unfor- disability.” Due to these problems cerned that surrogate mothers will child until their 40s. A new trend is When these children find their they were conceived around age 10, Allison Plitt is a freelance writer who tunately, homophobia exists in the in multiple births, she writes, “some refuse to hand over the baby after an increasing number of single men birth parent, they are generally glad when they will be able to have some lives in Queens with her husband and world and children from single-sex countries have introduced regula- the birth, but statistics show this electing to have a child with the use to have met them. They frequently, comprehension of the in vitro and young daughter. She is a frequent con- couples should be prepared to en- tions to limit the number of embryos rarely happens. There are only a few of a surrogate. These types of single nevertheless, choose to have long- surrogacy processes. When families tributor to New York Parenting.

June 2015 • Manhattan Family 31 Good buzz!

“Maya the Bee Movie” features a Another job is watching the adorable to get the job done. The movie is Kid critics spunky young bee, Maya, who won’t fol- little baby bees. fun, fabulous, and family-friendly. I low the rules of the hive. This lovely, ani- This is also where Maya (Coco recommend it for ages 4 to 18 as well mated film is devoid of violence or other Jack Gillies) stays until spring. Maya as adults. I give this movie 5 out of 5 enjoy the scary stuff, that you can safely share with wants to be independent and ex- gold stars. your younger family members. It’s an plore the hive. She does not like stay- — Brooke S., age 9 adventures engaging tale of adventure and friend- ing with the babies, so she sneaks See her video review at: https://youtu. ship that teaches some poignant lessons out when she has the first oppor- be/BzDjUqX6hls about trust and honesty. The first ver- tunity. When Maya sneaks out, she • • • of ‘Maya’ sion of this tale was made in 1925 in causes a lot of chaos within the aya the Bee Movie” Germany using micro-photography of hive, because she is a cute and funny real insects to tell the story. This updated is very young and “M movie! It’s about a version, released on DVD and Blu-ray does not know young, little bee named Maya who on May 19, is beautifully animated and what she is doing. is very curious and eager to learn offers delightful comedy to help grab and She takes you on about the beehive. As Maya explores hold your attention. a fun and exciting the beehive without permission, she adventure. asks a bunch of questions. Maya aya the Bee Movie” The movie is quickly learns that she is completely is an incredible ani- well written. Sta- different from the other bees. She “M mated film, written by dermann draws out remarkable per- repeatedly finds herself in trouble by Fin Edquist and Marcus Sauermann, formances from the voice actors and Buzzlina, the queen’s assistant. As a directed by Alexs Stadermann. This brings out the best in each charac- result, Maya gets banned from the is a very funny movie. I laughed dur- ter. I love how Gillies expresses Ma- hive. Her friend Willy does not want ing many scenes, and I also cried ya’s feelings. Weaver makes the royal Maya to be alone, so he leaves the during a few scenes. I love the movie, advisor, Buzzlina, seem so real. hive and follows her. because the characters are funny, My favorite scene is when Willy As Maya and Willy are out in and it teaches great lessons through- (Kodi Smit-McPhee) and Maya meet. the meadow, they learn that hornets out the film. They seem to like each other from and the other bugs and insects are The movie takes place in a beehive the very beginning. Another favorite not as bad as they have been told. located in a colorful meadow full of part is when there is a battle be- While Maya has been banned from beautiful flowers. In the meadow, tween the bees and another group the beehive because of her curiosity, there are many different types of of bugs. My least favorite part of the Buzzlina devises a plan to harm the bugs. Inside of the bee hive, there film is when something horrible hap- Queen, so that she can take control are lots of worker bees. All of the pens to Maya, and she finds out a of the bees and the hive. bees have different jobs, which are secret about the queen. There are several different mes- assigned by the royal advisor, Buz- The message of the story is: ev- sages in this movie. The one that zlina (Jacki Weaver). For instance, eryone has a role to play in life. It stands out the most to me is, “Dare one of the jobs is picking up pollen. takes everyone working as a team to be different.” In this movie, the

32 Manhattan Family • June 2015 bees have to follow specific rules, the Queen’s royal jelly because she specific directions, and they must was seeking to make war with the do as they are told. Maya is dif- hornets. By the end of the movie, ferent, and she is told that she Maya, Willy, and their other young does not belong in the beehive. She hornet friend Buzzy stop the Royal works hard to find her place among Advisor’s evil plans and, after re- the bees. She learns that she is an capturing the royal jelly, bring important bee in the kingdom and it back to the Queen, who then that her voice is important. makes a complete recovery. For My favorite her efforts, Maya is appointed Hive part is when Ambassador by the Queen Bee and Willy is mad at she and Willy are made responsi- Maya and de- ble for observing the meadow and cides to fly back reporting new friends that arrive. to the beehive. My favorite character in the Willy is scared movie is Maya. She is easy to re- of everything. late to for me, because she is very But, when a frog much a free spirit, unable to sit sticks out his tongue to try to cap- still, who always wants to be in on ture Willy for dinner, Willy hits the action. I also enjoyed hearing the frog’s tongue and flies away from Flip the grasshopper. Flip is without looking back. That’s pretty always able to provide Maya with impressive for a fearful bee. excellent advice such as telling her My favorite character is Willy. to always “bee positive.” The scen- He is a very loyal and true friend. ery is also colorful and beautiful He supports Maya and helps her and will be enjoyed by everyone. when she’s down, and he’s not My favorite part of the movie is afraid to tell her when she’s not when Maya and Willy are together right. He is also very funny. out in the meadow attending the “Maya the Bee Movie” is a won- Jitterbug Hollow Musical Festival. derful film! It has great messages There, they hear different insects for kids! I recommend this movie playing a large number of musical for boys and girls ages 5 to 10. I instruments while Flip the grass- give this movie 3 out of 5 shinning hopper sings, stars! “It don’t mat- — Kayla P., age 13 ter what they See her video review at: https:// say, be yourself youtu.be/F5D58b_NPEk every day.” • • • This film has f you enjoy comedy mixed with many positive great animation, then you will messages that I love “Maya the Bee Movie.” apply to younger Maya is unlike other young bees audiences. For me, the most pow- her age. Instead of following or- erful message of the movie is that a ders, Maya has a mind of her own. person should be himself and does For example, instead of staying not need to follow in the footsteps within the safety of the beehive, of others. The movie also shows Maya decides to go off on her own the strong bonds of loyalty be- to visit the surrounding meadow, tween Maya and Willy, who have to where she became friends with work together in order to stop the Flip the grasshopper. Royal Advisor’s plans. At some point, Maya’s curiosity I also appreciated the lesson led to her finding out that the Royal that young people can make a Advisor to the Queen Bee had sto- huge difference in this world. In the len the royal jelly, saved especially movie, many grown-up bees and for the Queen Bee, which leads to grown-up hornets are prepared to the Royal Advisor’s kicking Maya fight to see who would gain control out of the beehive. of the meadow. In the end, it is two At this point, Maya has to sur- young bees and one young hornet vive on her own in the meadow and who save everybody from being is soon joined by her close friend destroyed. Willy, who fears for her safety and I give “Maya the Bee Movie” 5 cannot let Maya be by herself in out of 5 stars. It is a great family the mysterious meadow. Together, movie. I recommend it for ages 4 to the two bees become friendly with 10. I appreciated its excellent mes- a variety of other insects and other sages and wonderful music. creatures. — Adam C., age 9 Eventually, Maya and Willy learn See his video review at: https:// that the Royal Advisor has stolen youtu.be/_0blgnrI1Mo

June 2015 • Manhattan Family 33 Calendarjune

Celebrate dear old dad at the pm; June 20 and 21, 10 am–5 pm. Children’s Museum of the Arts on Admission is $11 per person (se- Fun with dad June 15, 17, 18, 19, 20, and 21. niors and infants free). Admission Tour the exhibits and then cre- for dad is free on June 21. ate a fun project in the arts and Children’s Museum of the Arts crafts workshop. [103 Charlton St. at Hudson Street in Celebrate Dad, June 15 and 17, SoHo, (212) 274–0986; www.cmany. noon to 5 pm; June 18, 19, noon–6 org]

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Thurs, June 4 In Manhattan Locomotive lawn: Riverside Park South, W. 70th Street and Riverside Blvd.; www.nycgovparks.org; 10:30 am – 11 am; Free. Bilingual birdies celebrate language and culture with music, dance, and puppetry. Held in Span- ish, French, Mandarin, Hebrew and English. International Children’s Day:

Noon–6 pm. Children’s Museum of Photo by Kate Hesler the Arts. See Monday, June 1. Career talk: 92 Y Warburg Lounge, 1395 Lexington Ave. at Brier Rabbit is up to his old tricks 92nd Street; Security at 8867; 7 pm; Brier Rabbit and friends are is up to his usual no-good ways. tion is suitable for children of all Free. hopping to St. Catherine’s Park on He thinks he is too clever to get ages. Millennial expert Joan Kuhl shares June 14. caught, but his pals unite together “Tales of Brier Rabbit,” June 14 with millenials the best way to pre- City Parks Foundation’s Puppet- to teach him a lesson he won’t at noon and 2 pm. Free. pare for their future. Check in is 30 Mobile presents “Tales of Brier forget. Crafted by the expert pup- St. Catherine’s Park (First Avenue minutes prior to event. Rabbit,” a classic story that fol- peteers from the Swedish Cottage at E. 67th Street on the Upper East lows the notorious trickster, who Marionette Theater, the produc- Side; www.nycgovparks.org). Fri, June 5 In Manhattan Naumburg Bandshell, 72nd Street Battery Park Conservancy. exhibit America is Hard to See. Fencing workshop: Bryant Park, Transverse; 877-yai-walk (924–9255); Story time: Barnes and Noble, Summer Sports Experience: 42nd Street and Avenue of the 9 am–noon; $10. Americas; (212) 768–4242; www. 150 E. 86th St. at Lexington Avenue; Chelsea Park, W. 24th Street and Hosted by YAI. All American races bryantpark.org; 1:30 to 2:30 pm; (212) 369–2180; http://store-locator. 10th Avenue; (212) 408–0243; 11 for youngsters 2 to 12 years old plus Free. barnesandnoble.com; 11 am; Free. am–3 pm; Free. a play area, 3K walk, and more. En garde and take a stab at les- Children read the classic Dr. Seuss Pitch, shoot and score and hone sons in this modern sport. Must Garden Stories with Hamilton book, “Oh, The Places You’ll Go.” up your sporting skills. be 16 years old. Pre-registration Fish Library: Siempre Verde “Carnival of the Animals”: Composting with Red required. Garden, 181 Stanton St. and E. Florence Gould Hall, 55 E. 59th St. at Wigglers: Dorothy Strelsin Houston Street; (646) 400–2042; Friday nights: Battery Park River Madison Avenue; (212) 355–6160; Memorial Community Garden, 174 Terrace, 6 River Terrace (Irish Hunger www.nycgovparks.org; 10:30 am – www.nytb.org/calendar-and-tickets/ Suffolk St. at Stanton Street; (212) Memorial); (212) 267–9700; www. noon; Free. view/Carnival-of-the-Animals.; 11 333–2552; info@lesecologycenter. bpcparks.org/event/friday-night-for- Join in for stories for toddlers am; $35; ($40 adults). org; www.nyrp.org/green- teens-2; 7–9 pm; Free. through 5 year olds. Queen Diana and her shaggy lion spaces/events/compost-with-red- wigglers#sthash.dILPnsyf.dpuf; Teens come together and make Stories for All Ages: Teardrop rule the magical forest. Live music, Noon–2 pm; $5. new friends and play games. Hosted Park, Warren St. and River Terrace; and four hands on one piano. by the Battery Park Conservancy. Learn about recycling food waste (212) 267–9700; bpcparks.org/event/ Open studio: Whitney Museum of at home at the garden. Registration stories-for-all-ages-2; 11 am; Free. Art, 99 Gansevoort St.; (212) 570– required. Sat, June 6 Master storyteller Mary Ann 3633; www.whitney.org; 11 am–3 Schmidt tells the tale of a shy pm; Free with museum admission. “Ms. Frizzle and the Magic In Manhattan earthworm and a lonely caterpillar. Children are invited to create their School Bus”: Reading Room at Central Park Challenge: The For ages 2 and older. Hosted by the own works of art inspired by the Continued on page 36 June 2015 • Manhattan Family 35 Calendar Our online calendar is updated daily at www.NYParenting.com/calendar

Continued from page 35 storytelling. All ages. Bryant Park, 42nd Street and Sixth Avenue; (212) 768–4242; Noon–2 pm; Free. Thurs, June 11 Come to the reading room and In Manhattan have an adventure with the crew of Locomotive lawn: 10:30 am – 11 the Magic School Bus. am. Riverside Park South. See Thurs- The Little Red Lighthouse: Fort day, June 4. Washington Park, W. 181st St. and Plaza Lafayette; (212) 628–2345; www.nycgovparks.org; 1 – 4 pm; Fri, June 12 Free. In Manhattan The Urban rangers lead you “101 Dalmatians”: Museum of on a tour of The Jeffrey’s Hook Chinese in America, Mulberry Street lighthouse, built in 1880 and moved and Worth Street; (212) 406–0243; to the current location in 1921. www.nycgovparks.org; 8 pm – 10 My City Park Day: Marcus pm; Free. Garvey Park, Madison Ave. Presented by the Museum of Chi- and E. 120th Street; www. nese in America, the Disney classic nycchildrenstheater.org; 1 pm; Free. tells the story of beloved pets Pongo Children learn the importance of and Perdita. The move pays tribute community spaces. Sing along to a to Tyrus Wong, the artist who de- puppet musical that tells the story signed the Disney’s animated styles. of Milo, who finds out his favorite For older children. park is closing, so he asks his friends to help him save it. Suitable for children 3 to 7 years old. Sat, June 13 “The Infinity Wings”: The In Manhattan Loreto Theater, The Sheen Center, Mermaid Parade: Children’s Mu- 18 Bleecker St. at Mott Street; (212) seum of the Arts, 103 Charlton St. 219–3132; www.shencenter.org; at Hudson Street; (212) 274–0986; 7 pm; $30 ($15 children; free for www.cmany.org; 10 am–5 pm; $11 children 6 years or younger). per person (seniors and infants free). This amazing production takes Shine up those flippers and march the audience along with three through the museum. dancers on a fantastic journey to parallel universes of hidden delight Summer Sports Experience: 11 and danger. Dance, music, and am–3 pm. Chelsea Park. See Satur- street art combine for a magical Mermaids in Manhattan day, June 6. trek. Summer on the Hudson: Funky- “Mermaids on Parade” marches every year is the base for this fun- town Playground, W. 125th Street into the Bank Street Bookstore on filled romp about a little girl who Sun, June 7 and Henry Hudson Parkway; www. June 13 for a special book signing is going to the parade in a special nycgovparks.org; 1 pm to 4 pm; Free. In Manhattan event. coming-out-of-her-shell costume. Family play date featuring chil- Children’s author Melanie Hope “Mermaids on Parade,” June 13 International Children’s Day: dren’s entertainers, arts and crafts 10 am–5 pm. Children’s Museum of Greenberg reads and signs her lat- from 1 to 4 pm. Free and jumping and jamming with the Arts. See Monday, June 1. est book “Mermaids on Parade.” Bank Street Bookstore [Broad- bubbles and tambourines. The sights, sounds, and smells way at 107th Street in Morning- “Carnival of the Animals”: 11 “Mermaids on Parade”: Bank of the real-life Mermaid Parade side Heights, (212) 678-1654, www. Street Bookstore, Broadway at 107th am. Florence Gould Hall. See Satur- that takes place in Coney Island bankstreetbooks.com] day, June 6. Street; www.bankstreetbooks.com; 1 – 4 pm; Free. Open studio: 11 am–3 pm. Whit- Come and meet author Melanie ney Museum of Art. See Saturday, A. Rockefeller Park, River Terrace ter. See Saturday, June 6. Hope Greenberg and her newest June 6. and Murray Street; (212) 267–9700; book. www.bpcparks.org/event/family- My City Park Day: Sara D. Rossev- Wed, June 10 My City Park Day: Hamilton Fish elt Park, E. Houston St. and Stanton art-tour-workshop-gimme-shelter; 2 Park, E. Houston and Sheriff St.; Street; www.nycchildrenstheater.org; pm; Free. In Manhattan www.nycchildrenstheater.org; 1 pm; Gimme Shelter is a great work- 1 pm; Free. Pop-Up Art and Storytelling: Free. shop for all ages to enjoy the af- Children learn the importance of Poor Richard’s Playground, Third Children learn the importance of ternoon exploring Nelson A. Rock- community spaces. Sing along to a Avenue and E. 109th Street; (212) community spaces. Sing along to a efeller Park. Then build a shelter of puppet musical that tells the story 408–0243; www.nycgovparks.org; 3 puppet musical that tells the story your own design. All materials proof Milo, who finds out his favorite pm to 4:30 pm; Free. of Milo, who finds out his favorite park is closing, so he asks his friends vided. Hosted by the Battery Park park is closing, so he asks his friends Fun-filled sessions of art and story to help him save it. Suitable for chil- Conservancy. to help him save it. Suitable for chil- telling presented by El Museo del dren 3 to 7 years old. dren 3 to 7 years old. “The Infinity Wings”: 5:30 pm. Barrio and New York City Parks. The Art tour and workshop: Nelson The Loreto Theater, The Sheen Cen- workshop offers art-making and Camping: Central Park, 79th Street 36 Manhattan Family • June 2015 Our online calendar is updated daily at www.NYParenting.com/calendar Calendar Transverse; (212) 628–2345; www. Sat, June 20 nycgovparks.org; 6pm to 7 pm; Free. Families create lasting memories In Manhattan of a night out under the stars. Tents Father’s Day: 10 am–5 pm. Chil- provided. Families chosen by lottery. dren’s Museum of the Arts. See Monday, June 15. Sun, June 14 Story time: Barnes and Noble, In Manhattan 150 E. 86th St. at Lexington Avenue; Chess tournament: Fountain Ter- (212) 369–2180; http://store-locator. race in Bryant Park, Sixth Avenue at barnesandnoble.com; 11 am; Free. 41st Street; (212) 768–4242; www. Celebrate father’s with a spe- nycgovparks.org; 10 am–3:30 pm; cial reading of “How to Babysit a Free. Grandpa.” Pit your strategies against fellow players. Limited to school aged chil- Learn to ride: Bloomingdale Play- dren only. ground, W. 104th St. and Amster- dam Avenue; (212) 870–2080; www. “Tales of Brier Rabbit”: St. nycgovparks.org; 11 am – 2 pm; Free. Catherine’s Park, First Avenue and E. Rangers provide the 411 on how 67th Street; www.nycgovparks.org; to steer, stop and start. Must bring Noon and 2 pm; Free. own bike and helmet. Registration Puppetmobile brings this old tale to life with a new twist. Featuring Photo by Richard Termine required. hand-made marionettes crafted by Build a birdhouse: Clayton Wil- the Swedish Cottage Marionette liams Memorial Garden, 303 W. Theatre in Central Park, this tale ‘Animals’ at play 126th St. and Frederick Douglas has Brier Rabbit, as usual, up to A “Carnival of the Animals,” features live music, with four Blvd.; www.nycgovparks.org; 11 am no good. He thinks he is much too – 12:30 pm; Free. clever to get caught, but his friends comes to the Florence Gould Hall hands on one piano, and beauti- teach him otherwise. for a special presentation on June ful choreography. Make a cozy home for our fine- 6 and 7. “Carnival of the Animals,” June feathered friends. RSVP requested. Family Concert: Robert F. Wag- Queen Diana and her shaggy 6 and 7 at 11 am. Tickets are $35, Summer Sports Experience: 11 ner Jr. Park, Battery Park City; www. lion rules the magical forest. All $40 for adults bpcparks.org/event/family-art-tour- am–3 pm. Chelsea Park. See Satur- Florence Gould Hall [55 E. 59th workshop-gimme-shelter; 1 pm; is peaceful until a pair of human day, June 6. Free. children wander in, and then the St. at Madison Avenue on the Upper Rock out with the National Yid- fun begins. East Side, (212) 355–6160; www. dish Theater Folksbiene perfor- Presented by the New York nytb.org/calendar-and-tickets/view/ Sun, June 21 mance by Socalled. Bring a blan- Theatre Ballet, the production Carnival-of-the-Animals] In Manhattan ket, and picnic lunch and enjoy the music and views of the harbor. Father’s Day: 10 am–5 pm. Chil- dren’s Museum of the Arts. See Monday, June 15. Locomotive lawn: 10:30 am – 11 Puppetry wonders workshop: Monday, June 15. The Jewish Museum, 1109 Fifth Ave. am. Riverside Park South. See Thurs- Pop-Up Art and Storytelling: at 92nd Street; (212) 423–3200; day, June 4. Saltwater fishing: 10th Street thejewishmuseum.org; 1–4 pm; Free Martin Luther King Playground, “Tales of Brier Rabbit”: Buz Walking Bridge, 10th Street and the with museum admission. Lenox Avenue and E. 114th Street; O’Rourke Playground, W. 125th FDR Drive; (212) 628–2345; nycgov- As part of the KulturefestNYC, the (212) 408–0243; www.nycgovparks. Street and Madison Avenue; www. parks.org; 2 – 4 pm; Free. Jewish Museum is hosting this won- org; 3 pm to 4:30 pm; Free. Fun-filled sessions of art and story nycgovparks.org; 11 am; Free. Catch and release and learn the derful workshop for families. Design ecological way to fish. All equip- your own puppet character. For chil- telling presented by El Museo del Puppetmobile brings this old tale ment provided. Safety review class dren 4 to 10 years old. Barrio and NYC Parks. The work- to life with a new twist. Featuring shop offers art-making and storytell- hand-made marionettes crafted by mandatory. the Swedish Cottage Marionette ing. All ages. The Pinkertonian Mystery: Mon, June 15 Theatre in Central Park, this tale New-York Historical Society, 170 has Brier Rabbit, as usual, up to In Manhattan Central Park West at 77th Street; Thurs, June 18 no good. He thinks he is much too Father’s Day: Children’s Museum (212) 873–3400; nyhistory.org; 2 – 4 In Manhattan clever to get caught, but his friends of the Arts, 103 Charlton St. at Hud- teach him otherwise. pm; $35 ($30 members). son Street; (212) 274–0986; www. Alastair Moock & Friends: Mad- Live in Theater debuts this interac- cmany.org; Noon–5 pm; $11 per per- ison Square Park, 24th Street and Father’s Day: Noon–6 pm. Chil- tive and immersive mystery experi- son; (seniors and infants free). Madison Avenue; www.madison- dren’s Museum of the Arts. See ence. Set in 1875, families will travel Celebrate dear old dad with fun squarepark.org/kids; 10:30 am; Free. Monday, June 15. throughout the museum galleries projects. Dads are free on June 21. Come to the pre-release concert and interact with actors and solve of “All Kinds of You and Me,” a Fri, June 19 the crime inspired by the criminal Wed, June 17 collection of songs inspired by the mastermind El Diablo and the real- Free to Be books by Marlo Thomas. In Manhattan live Pinkerton National Detective In Manhattan Grammy nominated Moock’s new Father’s Day: Noon–6 pm. Chil- Agency. Suitable for children 8 years Father’s Day: Noon–5 pm. Chil- album builds on gender, ethnicity dren’s Museum of the Arts. See and older. dren’s Museum of the Arts. See and identity today. Monday, June 15. Continued on page 38 June 2015 • Manhattan Family 37 Calendar Our online calendar is updated daily at www.NYParenting.com/calendar

Continued from page 37 children to the world of opera. Tues, June 23 In Manhattan Tues, June 30 Story time: Barnes and Noble, In Manhattan 150 E. 86th St. at Lexington Avenue; Watercolor workshop: Dyckman (212) 369–2180; http://store-locator. Farmhouse Museum, 4881 Broadway barnesandnoble.com; 11 am; Free. at 204th Street; (212) 304–9422; Actress and children’s author Ber- www.nycgovparks.org; 11 am to 1 nadette Peters reads from her book pm; Free. “Stella and Charlie, Friends Forever.” A perfect day for family to paint Transmusica: Symphony Space, in the garden. For children 4 years 2537 Broadway at W. 94th Street; and older. (212) 864–5400; www.symphony- Foster parent workshop: Jo- space.org; 7 pm; $20 ($10 children seph P. Kennedy Community Center, and seniors). 34 W. 134th St.; (718) 228–1515 X The Young People’s Chorus of 169; [email protected]; New York presents this unique con- www.catholicguardian.org; 5:30 – 7 cert of the YMCA Jerusalem Youth pm; Free. Chorus singing a message of peace Meet with recruitment staff from and hope. the city’s Administration of Chil- A world of puppetry dren’s Services and provider agen- Wed, June 24 cies to learn about foster parenting The wonderful world of pup- able for children 4 to 10 years and adoption. Hosted by Catholic In Manhattan petry comes to the Jewish Mu- old. Guardian Services. Pop-Up Art and Storytelling: seum on June 14. Puppetry wonders workshop Mae Grant Playground, 104th Street As part of the KulturefestNYC on June 14 from 1 to 4 pm. Free Long-running between Madison and Park avenues; celebration, the Jewish Museum with museum admission. (212) 408–0243; www.nycgovparks. is hosting this workshop for fami- The Jewish Museum [1109 Fifth In Manhattan org; 3 pm to 4:30 pm; Free. lies. Children learn about the Yid- Ave. at 92nd Street in Carnegie Art and play: Robert F. Wagner Fun-filled sessions of art and story dish traditions and then design Hill, (212) 423–3200; www.thejew- Park, Battery Park City; (212) 267– telling presented by El Museo del their own puppet character. Suit- ishmuseum.org] 9700; www.bpcparks.org; Mondays Barrio and New York City Parks. The – Wednesdays, 10 am – noon; Free. workshop offers art-making and Preschoolers drop-in and play storytelling. All ages. with other toddlers, in this interac- Sat, June 27 ecological way to fish. All equip- tive play time on the grassy lawn. ment provided. Safety review class Sing and hear stories too. Thurs, June 25 In Manhattan mandatory. Juggling workshop: Bryant In Manhattan My City Park Day: Bowling Green “Tales of Brier Rabbit”: Bennett Park, Broadway and Whitehall Street; Park, 42nd Street and Avenue of the Recess Monkey: Madison Square Park, Fort Washington Avenue and www.nycchildrenstheater.org; 1 pm; Americas; (212) 768–4242; www. Park, E. 26th St. and Fifth Avenue; W. 183rd St.; www.nycgovparks.org; Free. bryantpark.org; Weekdays, Noon–1 www.madisonsquarepark.org/kids; 1 pm to 4 pm; Free. pm; Free. 10:30 am – 12:30 pm; Free. Children learn the importance of Puppetmobile brings this old tale community spaces. Sing along as Test your coordination with jug- The kindie rock band debuts its to life with a new twist. Featuring this puppet musical tells the story gling lessons. All skill levels wel- album “Hot Air.” hand-made marionettes crafted by come. Equipment provided. of Milo, who finds out his favorite the Swedish Cottage Marionette Locomotive lawn: 10:30 am – 11 park is closing, so he asks his friends Theatre in Central Park, this tale Parent and baby yoga: Nelson am. Riverside Park South. See Thurs- to help him save it. Suitable for chil- has Brier Rabbit, as usual, up to A. Rockefeller Park, Battery Park City; day, June 4. dren 3 to 7 years old. no good. He thinks he is much too www.bpcparks.org/event; Mondays, clever to get caught but his friends 1–2:15 pm and 2:30–3:45 pm; $180. Sun, June 28 teach him otherwise. Multi-level class designed to Fri, June 26 strengthen the body after giving History tour: Pier A, Battery Place In Manhattan birth. Pre-registration required (two In Manhattan and the Hudson; bpcparks.org/event/ sessions). Camping: Inwood Hill Park, Sea- Achilles Hope & Possibility: pier-a-tour; 2–3 pm; Free. men Avenue; (212) 628–2345; www. Central Park, 79th Street Transverse; Take a walk and talk and learn all Basketball clinic: Nelson A. Rock- nycgovparks.org; 6 – 7 pm; Free. http://nycgovparks.org; 9 am – 10 about the recent restoration of Pier efeller Park, Battery Park City; www. Families create lasting memories am; $40. A, the last remaining historic pier in bpcparks.org/event; Mondays, 3:30– of a night out under the stars. Tents This 5K run brings together ath- the city. Great for all ages. Hosted 5:30 pm; Free. provided. Families chosen by lottery. letes with disabilities and able-bod- by the Battery Park City Parks Staffers teach children of all ages ied athletes features cash prizes, T- Conservancy. the basics of the sport. No classes Films on the Green: Old Band- shirts, kids races, and much more. Sept. 7 and Oct. 12. shell lawn, E. Seventh Street and Registration required. Scandinavian Music Festival: Avenue B; (212) 439–1425; www. Fort Tyron Park, Henry Hudson Park- Explorers club: Irish Hunger Me- nycgovparks.org; 8:30 pm; Free. Saltwater fishing: West Harlem way and Margaret Corbin Drive; ny- morial, 6 River Terrace; (212) 267– “Zarafa,” by Remi Bezancon and Piers, W. 125th Street and Henry cgovparks.og; 2 – 3 pm; Free. 9700 X 348; bpcparks.org; Mondays, Jean-Christophe Lie, tells the story Hudson Parkway; (212) 628–2345; The Danish opera company Pin- 4 – 5:30 pm, Now – Mon, June 22; of Maki, a young boy who crosses nycgovparks.org; 11 am–3 pm; Free. Upera presents the mini opera $240 (per child). the desert with his giraffe. Catch and release and learn the “Clumsy Hans,” which introduces First, second and third graders 38 Manhattan Family • June 2015 Our online calendar is updated daily at www.NYParenting.com/calendar Calendar learn about nature while exploring the city’s parks. Pre-registraton required. “Jack and the Beanstalk”: Swedish Cottage Marionette Theater, W. 79th Street and West Drive; (212) 988–9093; Tuesdays, Thursdays and Fridays, 10:30 am and noon, Wednesdays, 10:30 am, noon, and 2:30 pm, Saturdays and Sundays, 1 pm, Now – Sun, June 28; $10; $7 children under 12. This fresh retelling of the Swedish Cottage original production takes Jack on an enchanting adventure up a magical beanstalk. Jack encoun- ters the notorious giant Milford, whose thieving ways have brought misfortune upon Jack and his mother, but with help from friends, he risks his life to take back what the giant stole. Summer Sports: Highbridge Recreation Center, 2301 Amster- dam Ave. at W. 173rd Street; (212) 927–2012; www.nycgovparks.org; Tuesdays – Fridays, 2 pm to 7:30 pm, Now – Wed, June 24; Free. Pitch, shoot and score with rangers and develop your skills. Registra- tion required. Soccer clinic: Nelson A. Rock- efeller Park, Battery Park City; bpcparks.org; Tuesdays, 2:30–3:15 pm; 3:30–4:15 pm and 4:30–5:30 pm; Free. Children learn the fundamentals Photo by Mara Brod of the game and pre-schoolers have fun kicking, running and being part Rock out in Madison Square Park of a team. Drop in. For ages 3 to 11 years old. Alastair Moock and Friends are Me,” which is set to come out on ethnicity, and identity today. Arts and crafts: Pavilion at Union tuning up and getting ready to June 19, so be the first to rock Alastair Moock and Friends, Square Park, W. 14th St. and Union perform on June 18 at Madison out to this collection of songs June 18 at 10:30 am. Free Square East; nycgovparks.org; Tues- Square Park. inspired by the popular “Free to Madison Square Park (24th Street days, 3 pm to 5 pm; Free. The concert by the Grammy- Be …” books written by Marlo and Madison Avenue in the Flatiron Children explore new topics nominated artist is a pre-release Thomas. District; www.madisonsquarepark. through arts and crafts. party of “All Kinds of You and Songs address issues of gender, org/kids) Young sprouts gardening: Nel- son A Rockefeller Park (Children’s Garden), Battery Park City; (212) gear, and then make a fancy hat to the park. W. Seventh St. and University Place; 267–9700; www.bpcparks.org; Tues- take home. This program introduces www.nycgovparks.org; Thursdays, Drop-in chess: Nelson A. Rock- days, 3:15 – 3:45 pm,; Free. New York and American history to 10 am to 11 am, Wed, June 3 – Fri, Little ones 3 to 5 years old learn the littlest New Yorkers with age- efeller Park, Battery Park City; www. Aug. 21; Free. bpcparks.org/event; Wednesdays, about simple gardening projects. appropriate themes and engaging Bring your little ones 2 to 7 years 3:30–5 pm; Free. Space limited so first come, first hands-on activities for children 3 to old for a stretching session. All chil- served. 5 tears old. Players of every level practice dren must be accompanied by an learn and hone up on skills. For chil- Little New-Yorkers: New-York Gardening club: Nelson A. Rock- adult. Mats will be provided. dren 5 to 15 years old. Historical Society, 170 Central Park efeller Park, Battery Park City; www. Art time: Nelson A Rockefeller West at 77th Street; (212) 873–3400; bpcparks.org/event; Tuesdays, 4–5 Playtime: Teardrop Park, Battery Park, Battery Park City; (212) 267– nyhistory.org; Tuesdays and Fridays, pm,; $130 (per two month cycle; Park City; bpcparks.org; Wednes- 9700; www.bpcparks.org; Thurs- 3:30 pm, Now – Fri, June 26; Free $350 for all three months of the days, 3:30–5:30 pm; Free. days, 10:30 am–noon; Free. cycle). with museum admission of $19 Staffers teach children the value Young artists are introduced to adults, $6 children ages 5–12. How does your garden grow? of play and create fun projects in paper, clay, paint and other supplies. “When Everyone Wore a Hat” by Children 6 to 10 learn how to make drawing, sculpting and murals. For Cross-Stitch Circle: New-York William Steig is about hats, hats and their garden grow. Classes run in children 5 and older. more hats. Travel back in time to an two month cycles; pre-registration Historical Society, 170 Central Park era where everyone sported head required. Chambers Street access to Yoga: Washington Square Park, Continued on page 40 June 2015 • Manhattan Family 39 Calendar Our online calendar is updated daily at www.NYParenting.com/calendar

Continued from page 39 West at 77th Street; (212) 873–3400; nyhistory.org; Thursdays, 3:30 pm, Now – Thurs, June 25; Free with ‘Infinity’ and beyond museum admission of $19 adults, $6 children ages 5–12. “The Infinity Wings” flutters into magical trek. Suitable for all ages. Beginning cross stitchers and the Loreto Theater at the Sheen “The Infinity Wings,” on June 6 younger children will learn the Center on June 6 and 7. at 7 pm and June 7 at 5:30 pm. Tick- basic stitch and create a bookmark This amazing production spot- ets are $30 for adults, $15 children, with their new skill. More seasoned lighting the best of talented young and free for children 6 years and stitchers and older children and dancers takes the audience along younger. adults make a handcrafted gift for with three performers on a fantas- The Loreto Theater at the The someone. Ages 7 and up. tic journey to parallel universes of Sheen Center [18 Bleecker St. at Art and games: Nelson A. Rock- hidden delight and danger. Dance, Mott Street in NoHo, (212) 219–3132; efeller Park, Battery Park City; www. music, and street art combine for a www.shencenter.org]. bpcparks.org/event; Thursdays, 3:30–5:30 pm; Free. Create a fun project, make friends [email protected]; www.nycgov- Enjoy a day out with art work- Wildflower walk: Touchdown and play games. For children 5 years of the 103rd Street Footbridge, and older. parks.org; Saturdays, 11 am–3 pm, shops, and fun projects. Sat, June 6 – Sat, Sept. 26; Free. Randall’s Island Park; www.ny- Macy’s story time: New-York Fly Fishing: Bryant Park, 42nd Discover how to cultivate a wide cgovparks.org; Thursdays, 11 am – Street and Avenue of the Americas; Historical Society, 170 Central Park noon, Thurs, June 11 – Thurs, Aug. variety of fruits and vegetables, (212) 768–4242; www.bryantpark. West at 77th Street; (212) 873–3400; 20; Free. meet the chickens, and learn about org; Saturdays, 10 am to noon, Now nyhistory.org; Sundays, 11:30 am, Join with rangers and take a the rice paddies. – Sat, July 25; Free. Now – Sun, Aug. 2; Free with mu- stroll to view the wildflowers. Chil- Expert instructors teach the basics Arts Island outpost: Governor’s seum admission. dren enjoy the great outdoors and of fly fishing, casting and rigging. Island, Outside building 14 in Nolan From the 17th century to the 21st, discovering the different types of Reservations suggested. Park; (212) 274–0986; www.cmany. through fiction and through fact, plants. Urban farming: Randall’s Island org; Saturdays and Sundays, 11 hear tales of the city and the people Yoga: Abby’s Lawn at Ft. Tryon Park, Wards Meadow Loop; nick. am–3 pm; Free. who made it great. Ages 3–7. Park, Henry Hudson Parkway and ADVERTISE WITH US! BROOKLYN QUEENS BRONX STATEN ISLAND MANHATTAN Family Family Family Family Family

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