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OCTOBER 19, 2019 | CANDLE LIGHTING 5:53 PM | MOTZEI SHABBAT HAVDALA 6:55 PM

HAPPENINGS & EVENTS שבת קודש/ד׳ דחול המועד SHABBAT CHOL HAMOED Gala Kiddush is after . Small kiddush/light 20 refreshments available during aliyot/women's shiur. Tefilla will proceed in haste so Kiddush will at a Sefer Kohelet (). Seven reasonable time. [Sponsor list page 2 - Thank you!] Aliyot from Ki Tisah (Exodus ——————— to ראה אתה from (33:12-34:26 Maftir is from Pinchas, Friday night tisch at the Goldgur , 15-01 Lucena Dr., at .בחלב אמו Numbers 29:26-31. Haftorah is 9:00 PM (weather permitting) celebrating Shabbat and . Ezekiel 38:18 - 39:16 Do not say ——————— Atah Harayta Auction! On , after Mincha, we .צדקתך צדק or אב הרחמים either and other honors of Simchat such "אתה הראת" auction .”כל הנערים" FRIDAY EVENING as Chatan Torah, Chatan Breishit, and MINCHA 5:55 PM ——————— TZAIT HAKOCHAVIM 6:57 PM Volunteers are needed to take down the Shul’s Succah (if it is SHABBAT dry), Sunday, October 27, after Shacharit (around 9:00 AM), weather permitting. Please assist! HASHKAMA 8:05 AM ——————— MAIN 9:00 AM Welcome Torah Tourists Tova Sklar, Rachelli Topp, Jordana LAST KRIAT SHEMA 9:57 AM Maged, Yaakov Hagler, Aryeh Helfgott & Donny Steinberg. GEMARA SHIUR 4:55 PM Thanks to those opening their homes and providing meals. MINCHA 5:40 PM ——————— 6:55 PM Final Yom Tov shiurim: On Shabbat: "Earth, Wind, and Fire": Putting Kohelet, Hoshana Rabbah and Shmini Atzeret into שמיני עצרת/שמחת תורה SHEMINI ATZERET/ Perspective. On Shmini Atzeret Yizkor: "...and Water": Why 22/23 TISHREI, OCTOBER 20-22 We Call it Gevurot Geshamim and What it Has to do with Resurrection.

YOUTH PROGRAM ALERT ע”הSUNDAY EVENING GITA COOPERWASSER CANDLE LIGHTING 5:50PM Sukkah, 4:30 א”ה21st Annual Children's in the Sylvia Latkin MINCHA 5:55 PM PM, Shemini Atzeret, Mon, Oct. 21 (inside if raining). Singing, TZAIT HAKOCHAVIM 6:54 PM dancing, treats and divrei Torah by a human-sized leviathan, with MONDAY the "Farewell to Sukkah" Yehei Ratzon. A PEANUT-FREE EVENT! HASHKAMA 8:05 AM SUNDAY MONDAY TUESDAY WEDNESDAY THURSDAY FRIDAY SHACHARIT 8:45 AM 10/20 10/21 10/22 10/23 10/24 10/25 LAST KRIAT SHEMA 9:58 AM WEEKDAY MINYANIM AT AHAVAT ACHIM MINCHA 5:50 PM SHACHARIT 7:30 AM 6:00 AM 6:00 AM 6:25 AM 6:15 AM 6:25 AM MINCHA/ MAARIV 6:35 PM 5:55 PM 5:45 PM CANDLE LIGHTING >6:52 PM MAARIV MAARIV TUESDAY ONLY 8:00 PM 8:00 PM 8:00 PM 8:00 PM SHACHARIT 8:45 AM ZMANIM OF INTEREST Earliest Talit LAST KRIAT SHEMA 9:58 AM 6:18 AM 6:12 AM 6:13 AM 6:21 AM 6:23AM 6:24 AM Gedolah 1:08 PM 1:10 PM 1:09 PM 1:07 PM 1:07 PM 1:07 PM MINCHA 5:50 PM Shkia 6:09 PM 6:18 PM 6:16 PM 6:05 PM 6:03 PM MAARIV/HAVDALAH 6:51 PM Tzait 6:54 PM 7:03 PM 7:01 PM 6:50 PM 6:48 PM Rabbi Ely Shestack Hakochavim President Stephen Agress Page 2 ADULT EDUCATION ע”הFUTURE EVENTS GITA COOPERWASSER

Oct. 26 - Youth Taking Over, Sharsheret YOUTH PROGRAM INFO Pink Sudeah Shlishit, sponsored by Kira & Nov. 1 - Oneg Shabbat series in memory Andrew Wigod • No Chaburas on Simchat Torah. resumes at the ע”הof Jonathan Garfunkel Nov. 2 - Suedah Shlishit is sponsored by • Youth Chabura, from 1st to 5th grade, will Garfunkel home, 12-56 Lyle Terr., at 8:15 PM & Lori Garfunkel in memory of happen on Shabbat Chol Hamoed (meet Matthew Levine at the main minyan at Dec 20 - Oneg Shabbat and Betsy & Marty Sonnenblick ,ע”הJonathan Jan 10 - Oneg Shabbat AM) and Shemini Atzeret (meet Ben 9:00 חיים יהודה on the Yahrzeit of Betsy’s father Greenbaum at the main minyan at 8:45 Feb 14 - Oneg Shabbat ע”הHoward Perlmutter ,בן ירמיהו Mar 6 - Oneg Shabbat Nov. 5 - Food Bank Volunteering. Email AM) [email protected] for info. • Teen Chabura (6th - 10th), on Shabbat Nov. 8 - Friday Night Dinner Chol Hamoed this week meet Max (boys) WEEKLY SHIURIM Nov. 16 - Suedah shlishit is sponsored by and Hilana (girls) at 9:00 AM downstairs • GEMARA SHIUR - Shabbat, 45 minutes the Kor family in honor of David Aufruf in the David Schwtizer social hall for before Mincha, learning Beitzah. Nov. 23 - Shamai Bernstein Bar Mitzvah rugelach and hot chocolate before Dec. 7 - Yehuda Farajun Bar Mitzvah heading up to the main minyan. On • FUNDAMENTALS OF JEWISH THOUGHT - Dec. 7 - Suedah Shlishit is sponsored by Shemini Atzeret, time is 8:45 AM (Jon TBA. Betsy & Marty Sonnenblick on the Yahrzeit with the boys and the girls). • BEGINNER TALMUD CLASS - Monday 11th - 12th graders, meet Andrew Wigod .Elka • evenings, 8:15 PM ,ע”הof Betsy's mother Elaine Perlmutter Shaindel bat Tzvi Hersch at 10:15 AM on Shabbat and Shemini Dec. 21 - Julia Brenenson Bat Mitzvah Atzeret. SISTERHOOD CALENDAR Dec. 27 - Chanukah Dinner • Tot Shabbat, 10:30 AM! Jan. 25 - Suedah Shlishit is sponsored by • Email ideas/suggestions for the Youth Oct. 22 - Food Auction the Sonnenblicks on the Yahrzeit of Marty's Program to [email protected] Oct. 26 - Book club at Esther Schwed’s home, discussing Our הענטשא מאטל בת ר׳ זלמןe,ע”הmother Helene Feb. 1 - Brett Spier Aufruf SIMCHAT TORAH FOOD Souls at Night, by Kent Haruf. Feb. 8 - Eden Riskin Bat Mitzvah Nov. 9 - Trivia Night, 7:30 PM Feb. 22 - Yachad Shabbaton CONSIDERATIONS Nov. 10 - Coat Drive Feb. 29 - 3rd Annual Comedy Night Dec. 17 - Moroccan and Persian Cooking • Please be mindful when you bring candies May 16 - Mental Health Awareness to the Simchat Torah celebration that program at Sudeah Shlishit, sponsored by there are children in our shul with serious Kira & Andrew Wigod COMMUNITY EVENTS nut allergies. Please act accordingly. May 30 - Baruch Crawl • Please do not bring dairy candies for the Nov. 6 - Fiddler on the Roof. Join Shomrei children on Simchat Torah morning, as Torah in seeing the moving and powerful KIDDUSH INFORMATION the kiddush consists of meat products and show in . Email Mendy at maintaining the Kashrut becomes difficult. [email protected] to sign up. • To sponsor a Kiddush ($1000/$613/$318, plus scotch) email [email protected]. • If you are around when the Rabbi says your assistance in clean up ,”על המחיה“ would be appreciated. THANK YOU TO OUR SIMCHAT TORAH SPONSORS 18-25 Saddle River Road PLATINUM: Bernstein, Brauser, Eis, Garfunkel, Greenbaum/ Fair Lawn, NJ 07410 Goldman, , Plotnick, Riskin, Salazar, Spier, Wechsler & 201.797.0502 Winchester. www.ahavatachim.org GENERAL: Agress, Baron, Brooks, Dubin, Dworkis, Eisman, Farajun, Fineman, Goldgur, Greene, Heller, , Katter, Kirschenbaum, Kor, Lang, To dedicate a bulletin for $36 ($54 w/ S&K Levine, Lewis, Mayer, Oppenheim, Rein, Safier, Shestack, Solomon, Photo), email [email protected] Sonnenblick, Strich, Wasserman, K&A Wigod & S. Wigod.

PARSHA POINTS TO PONDER Answers to Points To Ponder Chol Hamoed Haitus Chol Hamoed Hiatus!

.ע”הShirley Vann has dedicated the attached Covenant & Conversation (used with permission of the Office of Rabbi Sacks) in memory of her beloved mother Necha bat Yitzchok Page 3

THIRD ANNUAL FINE FOOD AUCTION!

Don’t forget to sign up for the third annual food auction, with the proceeds from this year's auction going towards purchasing new essential tools for the kitchen to enhance our programming, kiddushes and more!

We are changing the format this year to be part a silent auction to take place before Simchat Torah with a few items to be auctioned off on Simchat Torah. We look forward to full participation from the community for both donating your dishes and bidding on all the delicious offerings. We will need the following information about your dish: (1) Brief description of the dish, (2) Number of servings, and (3) Meat, Dairy or Parve. Whether it’s your favorite punch, amazing dessert or trademark dish, we can’t wait to see what you come up with! (A full list of auction items will be distributed around Rosh Hashana so keep an eye out!)

Thanks in advance for cooperating! If you have any questions or need the link to sign up, please feel free to reach out to Randi Spier or Liz Jacob.

NEW SHUL WEBSITE! COAT DRIVE AMAZON SMILE You can help Ahavat Achim and it Our new website is up and won't cost you a cent! Just make running, but we are still regular Amazon purchases at finding bugs and making fixes. https://smile.amazon.com/. After Our new webmaster, Jordana a one-time set up designating Bickel, is going to be working your preferred charity as on the website fixing any Sisterhood Annual Coat Drive, Congregation Ahavat Achim of Fair issues, making necessary for Center For Hope and Safety, Lawn, just make your regular Amazon changes, applying updates, will be Sun., Nov. 10, 8:00 AM - purchases. etc. 5:00 PM, 36-02 Hale Pl., Fair • Amazon will donate 0.5% of the price of your Lawn. Gently worn, not torn, eligible AmazonSmile purchases to Ahavat If you spot any issues during outer garments for all ages Achim. this time of transition, please accepted. For more info, contact • Amazon Smile is the same Amazon you know. point them out to us. Audrey at [email protected]. Same products, same prices, same service.

ע”הDONATE A SEFER, ETC. MISHEBAYRACH DAVID SCHWITZER

The shul has Siddurim & Machzorim ($36) With a Mishebayrach you’ve pledged to give SOCIAL HALL and Chumashim ($54) available to be Tzedakah on behalf of those for whom you donated. Please contact Jeff Safier at asked Hashem’s blessing. Contributions to Please contact Lori Garfunkel at [email protected] for details. the shul can be made via Paypal to [email protected] to book the David ע”ה [email protected], or via Schwitzer Social Hall for an event or special occasion. $250 per simcha YAHRZEIT PLAQUES MasterCard, Visa or Discover by sending info to [email protected]. If by (members)/$325 for Associates/$400 paid in advance for non-members, plus the cost Memorialize a loved one with a plaque, check indicate on its face “Aliyah Donation.” of any additional clean up (plus a $150 $300 for members and $450 for security/cleaning deposit refunded when the nonmembers. We will strive to send you MEN’S CLUB social hall is returned in the condition it written notice of upcoming yahrzeit and started in). Private caterers must be announce name during public Yizkor. Email Please contact Elliot Greene at approved in advance by the Rabbi. Larry at [email protected] to arrange. [email protected] to join the Men’s Club. MITZVAH CARDS SCRIP HONORARIA Want mitzvah cards, contact Eita Latkin at Scrip is available from Men’s Club. Email 791-8940 or [email protected]. Cost is David at [email protected]. Pay The available Honoraria list will be provided $3 per card. Also can be ordered in bulk - using Paypal ([email protected]) upon request by contacting Steven Plotnick ten cards for $25, which you send out or use Discover, MasterCard or Visa - email at [email protected]. yourself privately. [email protected] for details. SUPPORT YOUR SHUL Page 4 MISCELLANEOUS חול המועד - CHOL HAMOED AHAVAT ACHIM MEMBERSHIP/ If one HOSPITALITY .מודים say it before ,מודים but remembers before ,יעלה ויבא If one forgets to say he returns to the beginning of ,יעלה ויבא and then remembers that he forgot מודים began :If one steps backward after Shemonah Esrei [or even if he had only said the second .רצה before moving his feet], he repeats Shemonah Esrei. By Birkat HaMazon, Contact Arnie at [email protected] for membership "יהי לרצון אמרי פי" details. For Shabbat hospitality contact Sara at בונה") and remembered after concluding the third Bracha יעלה ויבא if one omitted .he should say the [email protected] ("הא-ל אבינו") but did not begin the fourth Bracha ,("ירושלים If he began the fourth Bracha, on Yom Tov he must ."אשר נתן..." :compensatory Bracha except on Chol HaMoed when one does ,יעלה ויבא begin again because of the omission of BIKKUR CHOLIM/CHESED .יעלה ויבא not have to repeat Birkat HaMazon if he forgot

According to Nusach Sefard & Vilna Gaon, Tefillin is not worn during Chol HaMoed. If you COMMITTEE wear Tefillin do so without Brachot (some say the Brachot inaudibly). If someone needs a visit/assistance, contact Sara at [email protected] or Mary Lisa at הושענא רבה/ערב שמיני עצרת HOSHANA RABBAH/EREV SHEMINI ATZERET [email protected].

Many extra prayers are added to the service on Hoshana Rabba as the judgment concerning the fate of our water supply is finalized, and the conclusion of any period of judgement is our PERSONAL ANNOUNCEMENTS during "תענה אמונים" last chance to influence the Divine Judgement. When we get to Hashanos we put the down and we take the special Aravot of Hoshana Rabba Various life cycle events related to members are (the custom is to take five stems that are bound together) into our hands (anything that announced in the bulletin (e.g., births and weddings invalidates the Arovot of the Four Species during Succot invalidates these Arovot on Hoshana of children/grandchildren, bar/bat mitzvahs of Rabba); at the end of the Hoshanos we beat the Arovot against the floor five times according children, deaths requiring shiva observance, as well to custom. as travel to/from Israel to study). Other personal announcements are not appropriate except as part As with every Erev Yom Tov, we bathe (many immerse in a Mikveh), and make preparations of the bulletin’s dedication (a $36 cost - $54 with להדליק" in honor of Yom Tov. It is customary for candles to be lit in the Succah with Brachot photo). ”.שהחיינו" and "נר של יום טוב

SHEMINI ATZERET NUMBERS & INFO - שמיני עצרת

in the Succah; however, we do ,שהחיינו It is customary to make the Yom Tov Kiddush, with and we eat in the Succah both the night and day of ERUV: To subscribe for updates, email ,"לישב בסוכה" not make the Bracha //:During Yizkor, we make [email protected]. Check status at https .לישב בסוכה" Shemini Atzeret, again, without making the Bracha pledges to Tzedakah as a means of elevating the souls of the departed. The Shammash groups.io/g/fairlawneruv or call 201-254-9190. –before the congregation begins the silent Shemonah MIKVAH: 201-796-0350. At Shomrei Torah, 9 PM "משיב הרוח ומוריד הגשם" announces Esrei of Mussaf, so that the congregation will add it in their silent Shemonah Esrei. From 10:30 PM, Motzei Shabbat from 1¼ hours after then Shabbat ends for 1½ hours. Kaylim Mikvah: Sun. 10 "אתה קדוש" but remembered before he began "משיב הרוח" then, if one forgot to say there; if not he must begin the Shemonah Esrei again. During the AM-3 PM "משיב הרוח" he may say Geshem). TWITTER: AhavatAchimFL) תפילת גשם ,repetition FACEBOOK: facebook.com/groups/ahavat.achim/ ?/SIMCHAT TORAH INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/ahavatachimfl - שמחת תורה hl=en and other honors of Simchat Torah such as Chatan FLICKR: flickr.com/photos/ahavatachim/albums "אתה הראת" Prior to Maariv we auction Remember that one should refrain from wanton .”כל הנערים" & Torah, Chatan Breishit foolishness and levity, but rather one should engage only in celebration that is for the sake of Heaven. SHUL CALENDAR

DISPOSAL OF & To add events to the shul calendar email Larry at You may dispose of a Lulav in any way that is not degrading. For example, you may drop it [email protected]. into a field or put it on a lawn, unless animals might eat it or step on it or if it will be subject to poor treatment before it decays. Don’t dispose of a lulav or etrog directly into the garbage. Burn, bury, or wrap them in a bag or one layer of plastic and then you may throw it into normal garbage.

Sisterhood of Ahavat Achim Presents

An Evening of LIVE TRIVIA COMPETITION – And Wine & Cheese

Where: Congregation Ahavat Achim

When: Saturday Night, November 9, 2019

Time: 9:00 p.m. 7:30 p.m. (note revised start time)

Cost: $15 per person

RSVP by October 31st to: Liz Jacob 973-668-3350 [email protected] Congregation Ahavat Achim Presents 3rd Annual Sharsheret Pink Seudat Shilishit YOUTH TAKING OVER COME DRESSED IN PINK! Saturday, October 26, 2019 Following Mincha

Trivia Game, Divrei Torah & Prizes for all!

Stick around after Shabbat for a community-wide picture in our pink attire!

Email: [email protected] to get involved

Sponsored by Andrew, Kira & Cayleb Wigod

18-25 Saddle River Road Fair Lawn, NJ 07410