Goal Setting and the Second R.E.A.D

Goal Setting and The Second R.E.A.D.

Steve Piscitelli League of Innovation Innovations Conference 2018 National Harbor, Maryland

A Note to You

Thank you for taking part in this workshop today. I appreciate that you have decided to share a portion of your precious life, as well as your experiences, with your colleagues and me.

During this session, you will begin to explore and generate important questions concerning setting and achieving authentic goals that resonate within your being.

I use the word begin intentionally.

The real work continues when you leave today’s session. Consider initiating a question-storming session with a facilitated conversation group within your institutional culture. Or maybe you will start a goals support network.

Too often, we look for quick answers at the expense of the eloquence and power of authentic inquiry. Pay attention to the genuine questions that you and your colleagues have.

Explore, grow, and stay curious, my friend!

The Growth and Resilience Network®

Contact Information and Other Resources

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Exercise #1: Awareness What is your dream? What destination do you envision? Be specific with your visualization.

List a few of the steps (at least initially) you need to take to move toward this dream.

Exercise #2: The Five WHYs (Jim Collins) Write your dream here. ______

1. Why is this dream important to you? ______2. Why …? ______3. Why …? ______4. Why …? ______5. Why …? ______

LIGHT BULB MOMENT. Once you have completed your question & answer, what have you discovered is important to you regarding your goal?

Exercise #3: Weak Signals

As you look at your dream and assumptions about that dream, what weak signals do you see that will affect your dream—or at least the journey?

Exercise #4: Disconnections? (Inspired by Tony Schwartz of the Energy Project)

Priorities Time

What do your results indicate to you? What stories are you telling yourself and what stories are you living?

The Second R.E.A.D. Model aka Hell, Yeah! or Hell, No!

You have an Awareness of what you want to do, have a better handle on your Assumptions, and have begun charting your Action steps. Now, consider giving the opportunity a “Second R.E.A.D.”

Is this dream a good fit for you—and the other people involved?

R ______

E ______

A ______

D ______

Exercise #5: Your Board of Directors

List five (5) people who could serve on your “Board of Directors.” Some “titles” have been listed below. Add or edit as needed. For more information about this strategy see “Do You Have Your Own Board of Directors” (by Steve Piscitelli. https://stevepiscitelli.wordpress.com/2015/01/25/244-do-you-have-your-own- board-of-directors/).

1. Chair: ______

2. Chief Operating Officer: ______

3. Chief Outside Officer: ______

4. Chief Wellness Officer: ______

5. Chief Content Officer: : ______

6. Chief Questioning Officer: ______

7. Chief Fun Officer: ______

8. Others?

Exercise #6: H.T.R.B.

EMOTIONAL SOCIAL

INTELLECTUAL OCCUPATIONAL

PHYSICAL SPIRITUAL

Exercise #7: Significant Accomplishment

Consider this question: What single project or task would you consider your most significant or meaningful accomplishment in your career to date?

 What accomplishment of yours did you choose?

 Why do you think you still remember this accomplishment?

 Why were you passionate about this particular accomplishment?

 To what personal core value can you connect this accomplishment?

Exercise #8: The Sweet Spot!

Exercise #9: A Self-Evaluation

As you look at your dream (what, why, how), evaluate each area below on a scale of 1 to 4. Note any insights.

1: It needs life support 2: Hit the reset button 3: It energizes me! 4: It has inspired me to act!

Relationships. 1 2 3 4 *Insights?

Enthusiasm. 1 2 3 4 *Insights?

Authenticity. 1 2 3 4 *Insights?

Difference. 1 2 3 4 *Insights?

Exercise #10: The Seven Week Challenge I am offering you the chance to engage in a seven week journey. Over the past four or five years I have developed a model for growth. My journey started with a review of student success literature to help my students stretch. I eventually expanded beyond the classroom to the workplace, teams, and more personal intimate relations. Seven interrelated areas for personal growth took shape. (My most recent book uses The Seven Rs as its foundation.) I have come to view these seven principles as more than just a clever and clichéd mnemonic. The more I connected with audiences, event planners, friends, neighbors, and family I came to view these as core values—the seven areas that guide my life’s focus. Starting as soon as practical, you have the opportunity to engage in The Seven Week Challenge for Purpose and Growth.

. Week 1: RELATIONSHIPS. Which relationship(s) do I need to focus on this week? Which do I need to pay more attention to, strengthen, renew, establish, or minimize? How do I know? Who might be able to help me? What would I like to accomplish in this area by the end of this week? When will I start?

. Week 2: RESOURCES. What assets do I have to help me grow my purpose? What assets do I need? Who might be able to help me? Where do I need to look? How do I know? What would I like to accomplish in this area by the end of this week? When will I start?

. Week 3: RELEVANCE. What can I do this week to expose myself to experiences, people, and places that are relevant to my growth as a person? Who might be able to help me? How do I know? What would I like to accomplish in this area by the end of this week? When will I start?

. Week 4: RAINBOWS. What steps will I take this week to move me closer to my dreams? Do I need clarity regarding my dreams? How do I know? Who might be able to help me? What is pulling me toward this dream? How does it make me feel? What would I like to accomplish in this area by the end of this week? When will I start?

. Week 5: REFLECTION. When will I sit and be still so that I can de- clutter my thoughts about my journey? How can I create regular (even if short in duration) moments for me to breathe and disconnect from the world of distractions and noise. Who might be able to help me? How do I know? What would I like to accomplish in this area by the end of this week? When will I start?

. Week 6: RESPONSIBILITY. What gentle act of integrity can I commit this week to demonstrate my care and concern for another being? What gentle act of integrity can I commit this week to demonstrate my care and concern for myself? How can I make or continue to make this a part of my daily work? Who might be able to help me? How do I know? What would I like to accomplish in this area by the end of this week? When will I start?

. Week 7: RESILIENCE. What small step can I take this week to help myself adapt to, learn from, and grow due to adversity? Who might be able to help me? How do I know? What would I like to accomplish in this area by the end of this week? When will I start?

Let me know how you do! ([email protected])

A Selected Listing of Resources See http://stevepiscitelli.com/programs/suggested-reading for a more extensive listing.

Brown, Brené. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live Love, Parent, and Lead. New York: Gotham Books, 2012. Buettner, Dan. The Blue Zones of Happiness: Lessons from the World's Happiest People. Washington, D.C.: National Geographic, 2017. Chan, David. “Find Your Own Meaning in Life.” The Straits Times. http://www.straitstimes.com/opinion/find-your- own-meaning-in-life. 6/11/2016. Duckworth, Angela. “The Key to Success? Grit?” TED Talk. https://youtu.be/H14bBuluwB8. May 9, 2013. Freund, John. Fake it with Confidence: How to Use Improv Comedy to be More Confident in Social Situations. 2014. Gardner, Howard and Katie Davis. The App Generation: How Today’s Youth Navigate Identify, Intimacy and Imagination in a Digital World. New Haven: Yale University Press, 2013. Heath, Chip and Dan Heath. Decisive: How to Make Better Choices in Life and Work. New York: Crown Business, 2013. Heath, Chip and Dan Heath. Made to Stick: Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die. New York: Random House, 2008. Heath, Chip and Dan Heath. Switch: How to Change Things When Change is Hard. New York: Broadway Books, 2010. Heath, Chip and Dan Heath. The Power of Moments: Why Certain Experiences Have Extraordinary Impact. New York: Simon and Schuster, 2017. International Center for Academic Integrity. http://www.academicintegrity.org/icai/resources-2.php Light, Richard J. Making the Most of College: Students Speak Their Minds. Cambridge, Massachusetts: Harvard University Press, 2001. Link to “Finish Line”: http://www.values.com/inspirational-stories-tv-spots/124-Finish-Line Link to video on gratitude and happiness: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oHv6vTKD6lg Medina, John. Brain Rules: 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home, and School. Seattle, Washington: Pear Press, 2008. Pavey, Sarah. Eight Common Goal Setting Mistakes. Mind Tools. http://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/goal-setting-mistakes.htm. No date. Piscitelli, Steve. “Awareness, Assumptions, and Actions. Why Do You Do What You Do? A TEDx- FSCJ talk. September 2014. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HZQ2GEhoWYs Piscitelli, Steve. “Evaluating Life’s Goals: The Second R.E.A.D.” A television interview: https://stevepiscitelli.com/media-broadcast/television. September 27, 2018. Piscitelli, Steve. “Kayaking: The Paddle Out.” https://youtu.be/VshI920WZE0. The Growth and Resilience Network®. September 3, 2017. Piscitelli, Steve. “Reaching Your Goals One Step at a Time.” The Growth and Resilience Network blog. https://thegrowthandresiliencenetwork.net/2013/06/23/161-reach-your-goals-one-step-at- a-time/. 6/23/2013. Piscitelli, Steve. “Set Your Goals and S.O.A.R.” The Growth and Resilience Network®. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NLa7c9OXVIg. 1/31/2012. [YouTube Video] Piscitelli, Steve. Stories about Teaching, Learning, and Resilience: No Need to be an Island. Piscitelli, Steve. “The Cups of Water: A Metaphor for Resilience and Much More.” The Growth and Resilience Network®. https://youtu.be/GGYikTg4fx8. 11/25/2017. [YouTube Video] Schwartz, Tony. The Way We're Working Isn't Working. New York: Free Press, 2010. Stoltz, Paul G. GRIT: The New Science of What it Takes to Persevere, Flourish and Succeed. Climb Strong Press, 2014.