OCTOBER/NOVEMBER 2013 Tishri/Cheshvan/Kislev 5774

From Rabbi Weber SPECIAL EVENTS ou were in ISRAEL this summer? Weren’t you scared? NEW MEMBER WELCOME & NEW STUDENT WELCOME – October 4 Y On the last day of our recent Rodeph Torah/Jewish Federation trip to Israel, I told our group that they SHABBAT UNDER THE STARS would be asked this question again and again when October 11 they returned home. To prepare them for the inevitable, I asked everyone to tell me what they were scared about during our 11-day SERVICE FOR NEW 18-YEAR journey through the Galilee, the Golan Heights, Tel Aviv, the MEMBERS, AND BLESSING FOR Negev, the Dead Sea, and of course, Jerusalem. Here are their NEW DRIVERS – October 25 responses: ROCK SHABBAT – Get Ready for  I was scared I would run out of money on our shopping Hanukkah! – November 15 trips.  I was scared I would explode from over-eating. GUEST SPEAKER: MICHAEL RILEY,  I was scared my wife would insist on buying a condo here “The Irreverent Reverend” before we left. November 22

 I was scared I would be the first person not to float in the HANUKKAH BEGINS – November 27 Dead Sea. (See pages 7 to 9 for blessings,  I was scared our luggage would never arrive (long story, readings and more for Hanukkah) but it did – eventually).

 I was scared I wouldn’t survive the taxi ride in Jerusalem. SHABBAT HANUKKAH SERVICE:  I was scared the trip would end. Bring your own hanukiyyah & four candles to celebrate! – November 29 What’s missing from this list? As always, fears about our safety. This was the fifth Israel trip Shira and I have led, and there has not MY LIFE CHANGING EXPERIENCE been one moment when we felt our lives were in jeopardy (well, A congregant’s trip to Israel – pg. 6 except for the taxi ride). Follow us on Facebook and at We toured the Golan Heights. We actually stood about 300 feet trt.org from the Syrian border where we learned that until the current civil war in Syria, the only thing separating it from Israel was a 3-foot high, rusted chain-link fence. We also learned during our visit that over 100 victims of the Syrian violence have secretly been brought into Israel for treatment, and returned to their homes in complete privacy; if anyone knew that their lives had been saved by Israeli doctors, they would be in danger. continued next page

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We visited a community center in an Arab town, where we saw a pioneering effort: a circus made up of Jewish and Moslem children and teenagers. They were delightful and talented – and just a part of the tiny effort to bridge the immense gap between the two peoples. But we never doubted our safety.

We were in the West Bank, too. We drove from the Dead Sea to Jerusalem that way, although no one who was unfamiliar with Israeli geography would know it. Our hotel was in East Jerusalem, and every trip downtown took us through Arab neighborhoods. We were even in Jerusalem during the holidays celebrating the end of the Moslem holiday of Ramadan, when 500,000 Muslims converged on the Temple Mount at the same time. What was it like to have a half-million Muslims observing their holiday together in Israeli- controlled Jerusalem? I’ll tell you: the traffic was murder! But here’s something that didn’t make the news in the United States: there was not one act of violence, not one arrest, in the four days of celebration. Not one. At the same time that Muslims were tearing their countries and each other apart in Syria, Egypt, Afghanistan and most of the countries that were recently celebrating the “Arab spring,” in Israel they were praying and celebrating in safety and in peace. Something to think about.

The trip itself was wonderful. Visiting places we love and places we’ve never seen before, having the opportunity to speak Hebrew again and having the holy experience of being surrounded by Jews of every age, every color, every nationality – there is nothing like a trip to Israel! Shira and I always enjoy sharing our love of Israel with others who have never seen it before, and the diverse group which Federation brought together from all over Monmouth County (and all over the United States) gave us new ways of seeing familiar sights.

Pictures from our trip are on the TRT Facebook page, and I hope you will check them out. But I would like to give you one image, one thought: On our last night in Jerusalem, we were returning to the hotel on our tour bus around 7:30 p.m. Several people said they planned to go “into town” on their own when we got back, and we realized it would be faster for them if we dropped them at the light-rail station. When we stopped the bus, over half the trip participants jumped off and headed for the train. When I saw 30 American Jews (well, 28 Jews and two Christians) hop off the tour bus to take a train downtown in a foreign country, with no concern except how late they could stay out at night, I knew our trip had been a success. Because they knew they weren’t in a foreign country at all. They were home.

Rabbi Don Weber

We warmly welcome the newest members of Temple Rodeph Torah: Meredith Nemetz Mara and Marc Knobloch and their son, Adam Linda and David Fermaglich Helene and Michael Bremen Heather and Anthony Miliote and their children, Anthony and Brooke Barbara Schambach and Drew Daniels Rabbi Michelle Pearlman and Dr. Drew Denker and their children, Madeline, Noah and Natalia

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Notes from the Cantor

As you might have seen, but definitely heard about at our High Holiday services, TRT is in the midst of many worship experiments. We've been very successful with Rock Shabbat, and believe Rock Hashanah is something to be repeated as well. But these once per month services are not the only changes we are making.

We have guest speakers coming; we are planning a service under the stars around our new fire pit. We will have services featuring our choir. We will have worship honoring our new members and our 18-year members, worship installing our board members and worship delving into Torah in a new way with our guests from Torah Turnings. We even plan on running a Dinner Service, where worship, discussion and Torah will be intertwined with dinner. In fact, we have so many things scheduled we are having trouble finding dates for other new ideas or guests as they come along.

If you were moved by something during the holidays, if you found something with passion and joy, I hope you will check out what we are doing. Not every service is a rock service, not every service is “traditional.” Some will be a mix. There will be amazing things to learn and new things to find passion over as we study new subjects and learn from new guests. I truly hope you will check out our calendar to see when we are doing different things, and find your joy in coming!

So why are we doing this? We believe there is much to learn about ourselves, connecting with God and creating community by trying different things. When I introduce a new melody, you could sit back thinking, that’s the wrong tune; or you could understand the prayer completely differently than you had before. You might connect with community because you are all learning together as well. TRT, you have been amazing at accepting new melodies and trying new kinds of music at worship. But we believe there is more to learn, bringing in new teachers (like our upcoming discussion with Pastor Mike Riley, or our service in March with Torah Turnings). This can open our ears to new ideas and a new way of understanding old texts. It opens us up to thinking about religion, d’var torah and sermon differently to hear how others do it.

Our services honoring our members, or our students, our teachers… these services are an opportunity to congratulate our members on what they learn, what they teach, what they contribute to making us a TRT family. Pirkei Avot (teachings of our ancestors) tells us, “Who is wise? One who learns from everyone.” Our members and students have something to teach all of us, and so we honor them for doing so.

We believe Shabbat is an important part of life. Taking even a few moments to stop, be with family, be with God, be with Judaism, can change your life, and so we offer a variety of different opportunities for you to do so with TRT through communal worship. We hope that every worship is filled with passion and joy, with honor and wisdom and with connection, and we hope to see you there.

Cantor Joanna Alexander

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From the Desk of Rabbi Shira Stern

We teachers of Religious Schools have a dual responsibility when we prepare our classes: we want to infuse the children with facts and feelings that will help them identify strongly with Judaism and all things Jewish, and we want them to understand their place in the world at large. We need to help them grow as Jews, and at the same time, help them adapt to a life they will live outside their Jewish bubble.

How do we do both? Do we confine ourselves to traditional texts or do we help them find their modern voices, which will be shaped by everything they learn outside of Temple Rodeph Torah, including in their homes, schools and after-school activities?

On October 13th, as the Jewish Community Center of Monmouth County prepares to launch its annual Mitzvah Day, the Center for a Jewish Future will focus on how to turn performing a “mitzvat aseh” – a positive commandment – into actions of tikkun olam, repairing the world. Just as Marlboro Township has created a wonderful role model with its Teen Advisory Committee, a group that now numbers over 1,000 teenagers who regularly “Do Good” ─ so we, too, will join forces to bring positive change in our community.

For our school-wide project, we will be collecting and assembling “Survival Kits” for seniors living in the Marlboro area, who might be at risk should we have another difficult storm season this year. We will start the day with a short text study on Leviticus 19:32, “Show respect to the aged; honor the presence of an elder; be in awe of your God. I am Adonai.” They will assemble and personalize each kit with cards of support and blessing, so that when people open their packages, they will know that the next generation has begun to take responsibility for the welfare of the community.

If you would like to help us and are able to contribute any of these items below, please let us know at 732- 308-3836.

1. lightweight blanket 2. flashlight and extra batteries 3. water bottles 4. Stick-on lights (battery powered) 5. Energy bars 6. battery-powered radios. 7. manual can opener 8. moist towelettes 9. Toilet paper 10. First Aid kit 11. Cans of soup and tuna 12. Graham crackers/cookies

May our children go from strength to strength as they provide for their community!

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From the Executive Director:

“She never met anyone she didn’t like.”

“Wait, that’s not totally right. She never met anyone she didn’t call ‘friend.’”

That was the way Maurice Heitt described his beloved wife, Helena. I asked Maurice to sit down with me and tell me about Helena, a woman I only know by the fund created at TRT in her memory. That fund has a single purpose: provide a Shabbat meal to a TRT family suffering from illness or other setback. In the following pages you will see donations to the Helena Project Fund. In fact, I cannot recall a month when there was not at least one donation to this fund. Hence, I asked Maurice to help fill in the background information for me. Who was Helena? Why did he create this fund?

He described an involved, devoted mother and a companion who balanced him; the kind of partner we should all be lucky to find. Helena battled breast cancer and when she lost that battle, her husband had to focus all of his attention to his then 10 and 13-year old sons. As for the rest of my question – what motived him to pursue this project? Jewish tradition encourages the giving of tzedakah to honor the memory of a loved one, but rarely do we see the creation of sustained, purposeful giving. “I had no idea about the project until after it was done. Her friends, they’re the ones who took care of that,” admitted a touched and ever-appreciative Maurice, “because that’s something Helena would have done.” For a moment, he and I sat silently digesting the impact of his statement.

Although I never had the pleasure of knowing her personally, I know Helena’s kindness because I am one of the families touched by the fund created with a simple motivation: “That’s what Helena would have done.” I meet her again every time I see another donation to continue the mitzvah, and every time a meal is delivered to a family in need. Challenges are inevitable, but our community proves that caring is also a given thanks to people like Helena.

Rachel Klein

This October, during Breast Cancer Awareness Month, I encourage you to act locally and support the Helena Project Fund.

NOTE: TRT BORN TO ONE OPPORTUNITY! If you would like to deliver a Shabbat dinner to a TRT family in need, please email Rachel Klein at [email protected]. (Culinary skills not necessary; meals are provided by a local kosher restaurant.)

Temple Rodeph Torah is proud to be partners with:

Temple Rodeph Torah is a member of the Union for Reform Judaism, and a Partner Congregation of Mazon: A Jewish Response to Hunger Recognized as an ACCESSIBLE CONGREGATION by the National Organization on Disability.

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MY LIFE CHANGING EXPERIENCE

I had the privilege of going on a “pilgrimage” to Israel this summer with Rabbis Weber, Stern and the Jewish Federation of Monmouth County. I never had any particular pull to see Israel. After my kids had the times of their lives on Birthright, I thought it was wonderful, but didn’t really know if I would ever go. I did think at times, IF I ever found the courage to go, it would only be if Don and Shira were part of the journey. Then the opportunity came along, and I knew it was now or never. I was so nervous! How could I travel to the Middle East? It’s not a good time…it’s never a good time! I was so torn, but I put my fears aside and did it. From the minute I stepped on the plane, my fears and anxiety disappeared and never returned for one single moment. I had no expectations. I just wanted to see Israel. But oh boy…was I in for a journey; a life changing journey. Every place we traveled to was more amazing than the last. The people, the history, the food, the excitement, the passion! I never knew what I was missing! Our tour was on the go every moment of every day, and yet it still wasn’t enough! I learned so much about that beautiful country. I felt so close to the people. I was actually living history! I was seeing and touching streets, forts, temples, tunnels and landscapes that we read about in the Torah! Stories that we’ve always heard about suddenly came to life! The Golan Heights, Galilee, Haifa, Jerusalem, Tel Aviv – Masada, The Wall, The Bedouin Desert, The Dead Sea…we saw so much, we did so much, and I just wanted more and more. When we first arrived in Jerusalem, overlooking the gorgeous view, Don and Shira led us in the Shehecheyanu prayer and said “Welcome home!” It was one of the most beautiful moments of the trip. I was overcome with emotion that I never expected to feel. I WAS home. I felt safe. I was at peace. And I felt those emotions throughout our trip – every minute of every day. I had never been happier. Towards the end, Don asked if any of us were afraid while we were there. At that point, it was actually a joke. We all laughed and said things like – “I was scared that I wouldn’t have enough time to shop, or I would run out or space on my camera!” This trip was such a blessing for me. The passion of the people, the beauty of the county and the love in my heart will remain with me forever. I can always go back there in my mind, and I truly hope I can also go back there in person. I must go back to Israel…my home! And YOU must go there too! I promise you, you will LOVE it! It will change your life forever! Robbin Friedell

MY SUMMER NFTY TRIP TO ISRAEL

Thank you for the scholarship money to help me pay for my NFTY trip to Israel. With the temple’s help, I was able to see Israel in a whole different way than if I just went by myself. The trip from Poland to Israel was amazing. I will never forget the first time I was in the Golden City and at the Western Wall. My favorite part was climbing in the Negev and riding a camel. I met people who I feel I will be lifelong friends with. My trip to Israel was an experience of a lifetime. Thank you again to TRT for the help to make it happen. I hope than anyone who has the opportunity to make this amazing journey should go.

Ian Reingold

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SCHEDULE OF SERVICES

Friday, 10/4 - Kabbalat Shabbat Service – 6:30 p.m. NEW MEMBER SHABBAT & CONSECRATION OF NEW STUDENTS IN THE CENTER FOR A JEWISH FUTURE  Birthday Blessings for October; Candle Lighting 6:16 p.m.

Saturday, 10/5 - Shabbat Morning Services – 10:00 a.m. Minyan Group. Bat Mitzvah: Marissa Klass

Friday, 10/11 - Shabbat Service – 8:00 p.m. “SHABBAT UNDER THE STARS”, weather permitting Candle Lighting 6:04 p.m.

Saturday, 10/12 - Shabbat Morning Service – 10:00 a.m. Minyan Group.

Friday, 10/18 - Shabbat Service – 8:00 p.m. INSTALLATION OF THE OFFICERS & BOARD OF DIRECTORS Candle Lighting 5:54 p.m.

Saturday, 10/19 - Shabbat Morning Service – 10:00 a.m. Minyan Group.

Friday, 10/25 - Shabbat Service – 8:00 p.m. HONORING OUR NEWEST 18-YEAR MEMBERS Blessing for New Drivers      Anniversary Blessings for October; Candle Lighting 5:44 p.m.

Saturday, 10/26 - Shabbat Morning Service – 10:00 a.m. Minyan Group.

Friday, 11/1 - Kabbalat Shabbat Service – 6:30 p.m. Story: “What Do We Do with Our Blessings?”  Birthday Blessings for November; Candle Lighting 5:35 p.m.

Saturday, 11/2 - Shabbat Morning Services – 10:00 a.m. Minyan Group. Bar Mitzvah: Jonathan Deutsch

Friday, 11/8 - Shabbat Service – 8:00 p.m. Sermon: “Embracing the Night” Candle Lighting 4:27 p.m.

Saturday, 11/9 - Shabbat Morning Service – 10:00 a.m. Minyan Group.

Friday, 11/15 - Shabbat Service – 8:00 p.m. ROCK SHABBAT! Get ready for Hanukkah with the band! Guest Artist: Eric Komar Candle Lighting 4:20 p.m.

Saturday, 11/16 - Shabbat Morning Service – 10:00 a.m. Minyan Group.

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Friday, 11/22 - Shabbat Service – 8:00 p.m. GUEST SPEAKER: REV. MICHAEL RILEY, “The Irreverent Reverend”     Candle Lighting 4:15 p.m.

Saturday, 11/23 - Shabbat Morning Service – 10:00 a.m. Minyan Group.

Friday, 11/29 - SHABBAT / HANUKKAH SERVICE – 6:30 p.m. (Note earlier time) Bring your own hanukiyyah and four candles, to celebrate!      Anniversary Blessings for November; Candle Lighting 4:12 p.m.

Saturday, 11/30 - Shabbat Morning Service – 10:00 a.m. Minyan Group.

Please call the temple office if you know of any temple member who is ill, or who has been admitted to the hospital. We want to visit and offer our help, but we cannot help unless we know about them!

BOARD OF DIRECTORS

President: Larry Rosen Treasurer: Della Cherchia Vice President: Warren Brumel Financial Secretary: Matt Jacobson Vice President: Mike Esquenazi Recording Secretary: Juli Mercado Vice President: Denise Swartz Past President: Brion Feinberg Vice President: Jodi Zukoff

Directors:

Shari Canell Andrea Kazin Barrie Cotter Sari Rubin Ellie Golden Dan Schleifstein Rich Kaplin Ilene Skolnik Erica Katz Jeff Weiss

Committee Chairpersons/Representatives

Education: Robyn Gandelman Sisterhood: Jodi Weintraub Finance: Mike Esquenazi Social Action: Andrea Kazin Men’s Club: Michael Klass Strategic Planning: Bob Dollinger Nominating/Volunteer Growth: Worship: Robbin Friedell Ellen Finkelstein Youth: Howie Gandelman

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ROVIN’REPORTER

For each of the anniversary couples in this issue, we can honestly state that there were many “enchanted evenings” when destiny, fate, good luck, or just magic happened. Each of the five couples selected shared their incredible stories of meeting and falling in love. Their comments make your rovin’ reporter laugh and feel privileged to hear their stories.

Robert and Abbey Graf met via JDate, although they agree that the meeting would have happened anyway (“It was meant to be,” said Abbey) because sisters of each had been threatening to “fix them up” before the intervention of modern technology. They reluctantly went out on a first date with a mindset that this wouldn’t work anyway, but it was indeed magic and they were married within 10 months of that first date. Abbey said Robert was, and I quote, “A real mensch” and he won her heart immediately. They have 6 year-old twins, Nathan and Sam, and will be married nine years in October.

Tara and Glenn said that marriage is a work in progress and Glenn confessed that each morning on opening his eyes, he says “Good morning, beautiful” to his wonderful wife. They met while on a ski trip with friends but not on the slopes, in the hot tub of all places! They dated for about a year. They honeymooned in Jamaica and have shared a life of humor, giving, support and kindness. They have two children, Abigail and Julia, and have become active temple members, always with a sense of humor. They are celebrating their 14th anniversary.

If you thought 10 months between meeting and marriage was short, Ingrid and Tony DiFazio met during a summer vacation in East Stroudsburg and were married four months later. She was a New York City guidance counselor and he, a New York City policeman. Their sense of humor and the way they tell about their meeting are precious. They have a son Michael who is an IT specialist. They are celebrating their 31st anniversary and are a joy to all who know them.

Hedy and Edward Swartz are celebrating their 51st anniversary, and where did they meet? Brighton Beach, New York of course! Ed was a student at Pace and Hedy was a student at the Fashion Institute. They have two sons, daughters-in-law, four grandchildren and a zest for living that is incredible. They honeymooned in Bermuda and when asked about advice to the newlyweds, they said to have patience and always talk things over. Hedy also added, “Make love, not war.”

The Tannenbaums, Neil and Robbin, met on a singles’ week-end in the swimming pool at Tamarac. They were with a group of friends and all of a sudden they realized that this was a special meeting after all. They have been married for 33 years and have two sons, Matthew and David. Matthew works in New York and David in Florida. Their advice is to have mutual respect for each other. How wonderful to share these stories and the glow of comradeship in their marriages. Happy Anniversary to all of our couples in October and November.

Robert & Abbey Graf Tara & Glenn Fuchs Ingrid & Tony DiFazio Edward & Hedy Swartz Robbin & Neil Tannenbaum

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SISTERHOOD

Happy New Year! We hope you had an easy fast and are starting the New Year off happy and healthy! With the start of the New Year, we are hoping everyone will join Sisterhood. Without you, we are not complete. If you haven't already sent in your dues, please send in your check, payable to TRT Sisterhood, to the temple office. Please see our flyer in the back of the newsletter with all the details. We have been busy planning a wonderful paid-up dinner for all our members. We will email everyone as soon as the plan has been finalized. If you want to pay online, please visit our events page at sisterhood.trt.org .

Our honey sale was a huge success, and we want to thank everyone who supported Sisterhood. We hope you are enjoying your delicious honey.

We are busy planning many events for the year. If you would like to get involved in planning, please come to our next meeting on Wednesday, October 9th, 2013, at 7:30 p.m. All members will be emailed reminders before each meeting.

We are looking forward to our annual Hanukkah Boutique on November 3rd. We have ordered many special gifts that will be displayed that day for purchase.

And don't forget, if you join Sisterhood at one of the higher tiers, you will receive a special coupon you can use at the Hanukkah Boutique for a discount on your entire purchase.

Without you, we are not complete! Jodi Weintraub and Robin Persily Sisterhood Co-Presidents

SOCIAL ACTION

Once again the support and generosity of our congregation was fantastic. On Yom Kippur, our TRT community collected an overwhelming amount of food for the Foodbank of Monmouth & Ocean Counties ─ 13,450 pounds! We hope you that your experience in performing this mitzvah was an “Act of Loving Kindness, with Passion & Joy.”

The Social Action Committee would like to take this opportunity to say thank you to the Men’s Club, Sisterhood, Worship Committee and Rabbi Weber for providing the additional funds necessary to purchase our wonderful reusable High Holiday bags. A special thank you to Mrs. Klein and the 8-12th grade students that volunteered to help “stuff” the bags.

Our Mitzvah of the Month for October will be participating in the community-wide day of volunteerism and philanthropy on Sunday, October 13th. TRT will be participating in Mitzvah Day by sponsoring a Blood Drive & Flu Shot Clinic from 9:30-1:30, (sign up is suggested by emailing [email protected] ) in addition to collecting new toys and supplies for our troops and donations to purchase malaria nets as part of the “Nothing but Nets “campaign. Please look for the Mitzvah Day flyer in the back of this newsletter for more information and to see the other events that are taking place within our community.

It is said that there is a “first” for everything. This is a “first” and a never again, where the first day of Hanukkah coincides with Thanksgiving. That being said, the Social Action Committee requests your

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Temple Rodeph Torah NEWS October/November 2013 participation in Ner Shel Tzedakah (“Candle of Righteousness”) to make the 6th night of Hanukkah special for a child less fortunate by donating a toy or an item suitable for a teenager. The collection box for the toy drive will remain in the atrium from November 17th through December 8th so that you can share your good fortune with those in need. Imagine the joy you can bring to a child by contributing just one small gift. Suggestions for teenagers are: lipgloss, nail polish or a sports-related item.

Our Mitzvah of the Month for November will be our Annual Coat Drive beginning on November 17th. We can use clean, gently used or new coats in all sizes for men, women and children. We will also accept new gloves or mittens, hats and scarves. That box will remain in the atrium until December 15th. Thank you in advance for your support.

The Social Action Committee is sponsoring our first CPR Class of the year on Sunday, November 17th from 12:30-4:30 p.m. To RSVP please contact Marla Bucher at [email protected], or 732-972-7307.

We continue our partnership with the Soup Kitchen at St. Augustine’s Episcopal Church in Asbury Park. If you would like to volunteer to help serve meals on any Sunday from 11:30 a.m.-1:00 p.m., please contact Andrea at [email protected], or 732-946-3535.

Please join us for our next meeting on Wednesday, October 23rd at 7:00 p.m.

Andrea Kazin & Marla Bucher

Acts of Loving Kindness, with Passion & Joy

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Torah Today A Brief Summary of Each Week’s Torah Portion

Shabbat 10/4-10/5 Parashat Noah, Genesis 6:9-11:32 Summary by Janet Klemons God is angry at the people and prepares to destroy all life, but spares Noah and his family, because he walks with God. He instructs Noah on how to make an ark and who he should take with him. The flood lasts 40 days and 40 nights, and God makes a covenant with Noah never to destroy humanity and the earth again. Noah has three sons, Shem, Ham and Japeth. The whole world branches out from these people. Shem’s lineage leads to Nahor, father of Terah, who was the father of Abraham.

Shabbat 10/11-10/12 Parashat Lech Lecha, Genesis 12:1-17:27 Summary by Sharon Aptaker God tells Abram to leave his homeland and travel to the land of Canaan. He promises to make of Abram a great nation. Abram obeys and settles in Hebron. His nephew Lot settles further east near Sodom. During a rebellion in the region, Lot is taken captive by King Chedarlaomer. Abram and a few hundred men defeat Chedarlaomer and rescue Lot, earning respect for the power of Abram’s God. Abram wonders how he will continue to possess the land since he is childless. God promises Abram that his seed will be as numerous as the stars in heaven and Abram believes Him. God also foretells a period of enslavement before Abram’s seed returns to possess the land of Canaan. A flaming torch appears out of the darkness to seal the covenant between God and Abram. Abram’s wife, Sarai, doubting she will ever bear children, offers her maid Hagar to Abram. Hagar conceives and bears a son, Ishmael. God reaffirms His promises to Abram, whom He renames Abraham, meaning, “father of a multitude”; within the year Sarah will bear him a son, to be named Isaac. Isaac’s descendants will possess the land of Canaan as an everlasting possession. They will be God’s chosen people and they will follow God. God instructs Abraham to circumcise every male in his household as a token of this covenant.

Shabbat 10/18-10/19 Parashat Vayera, Genesis 18:1-22:24 Summary by Sheryl Cooper God promises a son to Abraham and Sarah. God plans to destroy Sodom and Gomorrah. Abraham convinces God not to destroy them if there are at least 10 innocent people there. God destroys the city but saves Lot and his family. Lot’s wife is turned into a pillar of salt because she disobeys God. Isaac is born to Abraham and Sarah. God tests Abraham by telling him to offer Isaac as a sacrifice. He obeys, but an angel stops him. Since Abraham obeys God, he is blessed and is told his descendants will be as numerous as the stars of the heavens and sands on the seashore.

Shabbat 10/25-10/26 Parashat Chayei Sarah, Genesis 23:1-25:18 Summary by Helene Cooper Sarah dies at 127 years of age. Abraham purchases a cave and lands at Machpelah for her burial place. Abraham later sends a servant to seek a wife for Isaac. In Nahor the servant meets Rebekkah who consents to marry Isaac. Abraham marries Keturah and has six more sons. Abraham dies at the age of 175. Isaac and Ishmael bury him beside Sarah. Ishmael sires 12 sons and lives 137 years.

Shabbat 11/1-11/2 Parashat Toledot, Genesis 25:19-28:9 Summary by Mark J. Schwitz Isaac, at age 40, marries Rebekkah. When Isaac is 60, Rebekkah conceives twins, who struggle in her womb. Esau, the older brother, is an outdoorsman. Jacob, the younger brother, stays more at home. Esau, returning desperately hungry from the outdoors, trades his birthright to Jacob for some lentil stew. Later, Jacob, disguised as Esau, receives his father’s blessing. Esau, angry at Jacob, leaves home to marry a Hittite woman. Jacob, having both the birthright and his father’s blessing, is sent to find a wife.

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Shabbat 11/8-11/9 Parashat Vayetze, Genesis 28:10-32:3 Summary by Nina Grossman Jacob leaves Beer-sheba. On route to Haran, he has his famous dream of a stairway from ground to sky, with angels of God climbing up and down. God gives the land he is lying on to Jacob and his numerous descendants, and promises to protect him. Upon arrival in his Uncle Laban’s territory, he falls in love with Laban’s younger daughter, Rachel. Jacob works for seven years to marry Rachel, but is tricked by Laban into marrying his older daughter Leah first. Then he works another seven years to marry Rachel. Jacob works another six years to earn his own livestock, then is “free” to go back to Canaan with his wives, 11 sons, one daughter, and the livestock.

Shabbat 11/15-11/16 Parashat Vayishlach, Genesis 32:4-36:43 Summary by Ira Klemons Jacob wants to go back home to Canaan, but he fears his brother Esau. Jacob sends Esau gifts in advance of his return. When alone, Jacob wrestles with a divine being who then changes Jacob’s name to “Israel.” When “Israel” arrives in Canaan, God tells him that a nation will grow from him, and will live in the land God gave to Abraham.

Shabbat 11/22-11/23 Parashat Vayyeshev, Genesis 37:1-40:23 Summary by Jason Goldberg Joseph, son of Jacob, is subdued by his jealous brothers and sold into slavery in Egypt. His brother, Judah, tricks his daughter-in-law into letting him father her child. Joseph’s master’s wife tries to seduce him, and has him imprisoned when he refuses. While in prison, Joseph successfully interprets two men’s dreams.

Shabbat 11/29-11/30 Parashat Mikketz, Genesis 41:1-44:17 Summary by Tracy Berman Pharaoh has two dreams about the number seven. Joseph is the only one who can interpret them, saying God was telling Pharaoh there would be seven years of abundance and then seven years of famine. Joseph is put in charge of the court, and his predictions come true. During the famine, Joseph’s brothers come begging for food which Egypt had rationed, but they did not recognize Joseph, who gives them food, but takes his brother Benjamin as a prisoner.

NEWS AND NOTES

SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS WAITING TO JOIN TRT Did you know that most of our members joined because they knew someone who already belonged? Your invitation to a neighbor or friend to join you at a service is the best advertising we have. We are also happy to send our Newsletter to any interested family, but we can't do it until you tell us who they are. Call the temple office, at 732-308-0055, and give us the names; we will take it from there. And if they join, you get a month’s dues free! Think about what your belonging to Rodeph Torah means to you, and help us reach out to others. (Besides, you can always use another driver for the carpool...)

CALLING ALL WALKERS!! Looking to get some exercise and enjoy the beautiful outdoors? TRT now has a “Weekday Walkers” group at TRT. We meet at TRT and walk the Henry Hudson Trail. All levels of walkers are welcome. No fee, just wear a comfortable pair of sneakers and bring a bottle of water. Please call/text Gabrielle Eichel, at 732-513-8312 or e-mail her at [email protected] to let her know you are interested in joining.

ISRAEL SCHOLARSHIP FUND TRT offers scholarships to any student presently in the confirmation program or who has been confirmed, up through and including the summer after 12th grade. Money in the Israel Scholarship Fund will be equally divided among all students traveling to Israel this summer on an approved youth Israel trip, not to

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Temple Rodeph Torah NEWS October/November 2013 exceed $1,000 per student. Requests for scholarship money should be in writing to the Education Committee. Contact Ellen Finkelstein, at 732-972-8624, or [email protected] for more information. We appreciate the congregation's generosity in considering the Israel Scholarship Fund when making a donation to the temple.

REFORM JUDAISM 101 IN THE 21ST CENTURY Got questions about Judaism? Got friends with questions? Do you want ideas on how to live your Jewish life in your everyday reality? Or maybe you are looking for a special recipe? The Union for Reform Judaism has introduced www.reformjudaism.org as a one-stop resource for everything Jewish, including holidays, recipes, social justice, Jewish life and learning, blogs, Israel and much more.

TEN MINUTES OF TORAH Thousands of Jews around the world are now spending 10 minutes a day reading an e-mail about a Jewish text. Are you part of the Ten Minutes of Torah chevra yet? Ten Minutes of Torah, introduced at the 2001 URJ Boston Biennial and delivered directly to your e-mail inbox each weekday, offers a personal connection to a Jewish text, issue or topic, including insight on the week’s Torah portion, Israel, social justice, and Jewish ethics. To sign up, visit www.urj.org/torah/ten.

THE JEWISH PARENT PAGE Did you know that the URJ (Union for Reform Judaism) has many informative and interesting items on their website at urj.org? One of these, The Jewish Parent Page, informs and educates about the Jewish holidays and their customs. It includes blessings, historical background, recipes, family activities and other creative ways to celebrate the Jewish festivals. Go to www.urj.org/learningforparents/parents/.

RJ.ORG: NEWS AND VIEWS OF REFORM JEWS Check out the new Reform Movement blog at www.RJ.org, which is a place to read facts, opposing opinions, calls to action and interesting tidbits from the greater Jewish world. New entries posted daily.

ARE YOU GOING ON VACATION OUTSIDE OF THE U.S.A.? WANT TO SEE A REFORM CONGREGATION IN ANOTHER COUNTRY? How do you find your larger Progressive/Reform/Liberal family when travelling outside of North America? The process is different than what you find in North America, where synagogues and Jewish institutions in North America generally have an "open-door" policy and regularly welcome visitors. The best way is to have the World Union for Progressive Judaism (WUPJ) make the connection for you. Several weeks in advance of your vacation, go to wupj.org to search for WUPJ congregations and then email or call Rabbi Gary Bretton-Granatoor ([email protected] or 212.452.6531). Provide your travel dates, planned accommodations, when you would like to visit the congregation, the number of people in your party, and a way to contact you once you are there. If given sufficient time, we can arrange a personal visit. THE JEWISH CONNECTION 411 The Jewish Connection 411 electronic newsletter includes a comprehensive list of events and happenings within the local Central NJ Jewish community (Middlesex and Western Monmouth Counties). You can view the newsletter with daily updates and videos at www.thejewishconnection411.com. There is a Central NJ Bulletin Board where you can post your free personal buy/sell needs for the benefit of the local Jewish community, a classified section for jobs, homes, autos, merchandise and much more.

PLEASE HELP US HELP YOU When scheduling a life-cycle event in which you would like either Rabbi Weber or Cantor Alexander to participate (weddings, namings, funerals, unveilings, etc.), please call them first. If you set the time for continued next page

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Temple Rodeph Torah NEWS October/November 2013 such events without calling, it may be impossible for them to attend. Though a funeral overrides almost everything else, clearing the time in advance may save us from disrupting classes or programs already scheduled.

We understand the stressful nature of such times in our lives, and with your help we can make them a little easier on everyone. If you have any questions about life-cycle events, please feel free to call Rabbi Weber, at 732-409-1268, or Cantor Alexander, at 732-308-2311.

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HONORABLE MENSCHEN

TRT’s Board of Directors, clergy and members express our thanks to: Susan Goldman for her dedication to temple communication by administering “This Week at TRT” Paula Alves for her dedication to temple communication by administering our Facebook page Gabrielle Eichel for her outstanding leadership of the Membership Committee Alyse Gleitman for her outstanding dedication as B’nai Mitzvah Coordinator Andrea Kazin for overseeing our flooring project and her outstanding commitment to the beautification of TRT Mort Blumenthal, Ron Hiller and Michael Klass for their assistance with the Selichot barbecue

For helping with the preparation of the food bags for the High Holidays: Allie Beutel, Jenny Beutel, Zachary Isaacson, Sydney Schoenholtz, Jake Grossman, Rachel Beck, Emily Esquenazi, Noah Genovese-Mester, Jen Koppel, Kerin Miller, Marlee Neugass, Jacob Parish, Harry Goldstein and Elyse Grossman

Many thanks to Larry Rosen, Alan and Rita Margolies and Howie Gandelman for making opening night of Hebrew High School a deliciously roaring success!

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CONGRATULATIONS AND MAZAL TOV to Sara Levenstein, daughter of Phyllis and Henry Levenstein, on her engagement to Mr. Dennis Lee on her marriage to ,ז"ל to Jennifer Lieber, daughter of Harvey Lieber and Barbara Lieber Ms. Kathryn Murray to Lizabeth Goldstein, daughter of Ann and Sandy Goldstein, on her marriage to Mr. Nicholas Peterson to Jessica Burstein, daughter of Lynn Michaels and Alan Burstein, on her marriage to Mr. Kevin Arnold to Matt Davis, son of Gail and Jay Davis, on his marriage to Ms. Mackenzie Kaplan to Dale and Marty Krulick, on the birth of their granddaughters, Dylan and Hayden Van Ostenbridge to Maxine and Neal Perlman, on the birth of their grandson, Ari Samuel Perlman to Debra Kullback, on being named Volunteer of the Month (August) at Centra State Hospital to Joshua Bucher on his appointment as Chair of the EMRA National Committee representing Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital and for his appointment as Chair of the National ER Research Committee for Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital ,on the publishing of her debut novel ,ז"ל to Cari Luna, daughter of Kathy Fischer and Craig Fischer The Revolution of Every Day. Cari will be discussing her book at The Center for Fiction in Manhattan on October 15th.

Do you have a simcha in your family — a new child or grandchild, an engagement or a wedding, a promotion, new job or an academic award? Please call the temple office and tell us, so we can share the news with your temple family!

You are Cordially Invited

With much love and pride we invite you to share our simcha when our daughter and sister, Marissa Klass is called to the Torah as a Bat Mitzvah on Saturday, October 5th, 2013. Please join us for the oneg celebration after the service. Susan, Michael and Liam Klass

With love & happiness, we invite you to join us as our son, Jonathan Shalom Deutsch, becomes a Bar Mitzvah on Saturday, November 2nd, 2013, at 10:00 a.m. Please join us for the oneg following the service.

Tali Deutsch and Jeff Deutsch

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OUR CONDOLENCES to Joel Binkowitz, on the death of his daughter, Abbe Gasparro to Jed, Carol, Jason and Stefanie Zaitz, on the loss of Jed’s father, Samuel Zaitz to Alan, Michele, Adam, Jessica, Brittany, Meagan and Michael Blaier, on the loss of Alan’s mother, Rosa Blaier to Steven, Cindy, Rebecca, Brandon and Blake Blaier, on the loss of Steven’s mother, Rosa Blaier to Jeff, Sharon, Matthew, Jessica and Adam Aptaker, on the loss of Jeff’s uncle, Jerry Aptaker to Sheila Aptaker, on the loss of her brother-in-law, Jerry Aptaker to Sheryl, Bruce, Jonathan and Michelle Cooper, on the loss of Sheryl’s aunt, Matty Berkowitz to Ellen, Neal and Jill Finkelstein and Rachel Wolman, on the loss of Ellen’s aunt, Matty Berkowitz

“Zichronam Livracha” – May their memory be a blessing to all who knew them

CONTRIBUTIONS

Cantor’s Discretionary Fund General Fund cont’d Juli and Tony Mercado and Family, in appreciation Andrea, Mitchell, Joshua and Brandon Gold, of Cantor Alexander for helping Tyler for Bar for the yahrzeit of Harriet Just Mitzvah and Dillon for Confirmation. Edna Coleman, for the yahrzeit of Tova Messing Matt and Anne Jacobson, in honor of Cantor Sheryl and Bruce Cooper and family, for the Alexander’s 5th anniversary with TRT yahrzeit of Howard Berkowitz Theresa and David Simon, in honor of Cantor The Skolnik family, for the yahrzeit of Alexander’s 5th anniversary Rose Skolnik Carol Shangold, in memory of Julius Adler Joe Ash, for the yahrzeit of Paul Ash The Swartz family, in honor of Cantor Alexander’s The Koppel family, in appreciation of the Caring 5th anniversary at TRT Community and TRT for the tremendous Phyllis and Burt Krause, in appreciation of Cantor support during our difficult time. Alexander for her care and concern Susan Baron, for the yahrzeit of Dan and Lenore Mass, in honor of Cantor Clara Rubenstein Alexander’s 5th anniversary at TRT Martin Borell, for the yahrzeit of Etta Borell Jack Kirschenbaum Wendie, Stephen and Dylan Weinstein, for the yahrzeit of Charles Weinstein Fund For The Center For A Jewish Future Naomi Cooper, for the yahrzeit of Shelli Altman, in appreciation of Rabbi Dr. L.H. Jacobson Shira Stern’s leadership in her bereavement Marcia, Ed, Jason and Dana Falk, for the group yahrzeit of Jacob Cohen Sheryl and Bruce Cooper and family, in The Schwitz family, for the yahrzeit of honor of the birth of Stevie Pearl Trudi Gardiner Levinson, granddaughter of Sandy Mina Paltin, for the yahrzeit of Sarah Rozin and Randye Derris for the yahrzeit of Rifca Smilovici The Derris Family, for the yahrzeit of Jena and Alan Friedman Louis Rosenstock Ruth Grossman Friedberg Susan Vitale, for the yahrzeit of Harold Needle General Fund in memory of Lee Lipton Marcia, Ed, Jason and Dana Falk, for the Linda Prince, for the yahrzeit of Sadie Rosen yahrzeit of Gladys Cohen Irwin Misshula, for the yahrzeit of Susan Baron, for the yahrzeit of Michael Baron Hyman Misshula for the yahrzeit of Julia Fritz Niki Weber, in honor of the High Holidays Robin Silverman, for the yahrzeit of Samuel Merwitz Helena Project Fund The Meyerberg family, for the yahrzeit of Andrea Wajngold, for the yahrzeit of Sydell Donnelly Helen Kirstein

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Helena Project Fund cont’d Prayerbook Fund cont’d The Heitt family, for the yahrzeit of Lynn and Steve Chodos and family, for the Nettie Schulman yahrzeit of Murray Ross

Herzog Music Fund Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund The Heitt family, in honor of the wedding of The Swartz family, in appreciation of Rabbi Weber’s Jonathan Cooper and Erika Rosenfried Adult Education class Ellen and Neal Finkelstein and family, in honor Kenny, Danielle, Arielle and Layla Esser, in honor of of the engagement of Sara Levenstein and Layla’s Brit Hayyim and in appreciation of Dennis Lee Rabbi Weber Karen Goldstein, with thanks to Tom and Fran Marge and Jeff Stevens, in honor of the Brit Hayyim Szczesny for their help and support of Layla Esser, and in appreciation of Rabbi Weber Hirsch/Rosen Memorial Youth Fund Janet and Larry Caruso, in honor of the birth of Ellen and Neal Finkelstein and family, for Eli Wolman the yahrzeit of Howard Berkowitz in honor of the marriage of Jonathan Cooper Ellen and Neal Finkelstein, in honor of the birth and Erika Rosenfried of Stevie Pearl Levinson The Sorin family, in appreciation of Rabbi Weber Rena and Richard Anslow, in honor of the success of Israel Scholarship Fund the Taste of New Jersey event Ellen and Allen Bloom and family, for the yahrzeit of Jack Kirschenbaum Aaron A. Lefkowitz Hilda Katz, in memory of Charles Katz and in David Wajngold, for the yahrzeit of appreciation of Rabbi Weber Rachel Wajngold Burt Krauss, for the yahrzeit of David Krauss Robbin Friedell, for the yahrzeit of Daniel Douger Landscaping Fund Helene, Ira and Brett Kaplan, for the yahrzeit of Ginger, Joel, Sarah and Tori Richman, for the Sidney Fleigel yahrzeit of Rabbi Milton Richman for the yahrzeit of Jay Rothfeld Della, Jeff, Jason and Meryl Cherchia, for the for the yahrzeit of Sylvia Weinstein yahrzeit of Jerome Hammer Linda and Jerry Wainick, for the yahrzeit of Loretta and Allen Shapiro, in honor of the Irving Wainick marriage of Jonathan Cooper and Erika for the yahrzeit of Jonah Pollack Rosenfried Mimi, Amanda and Jen Koppel, for the yahrzeit of Gabrielle, Rich, Josh and Matthew Eichel, for Fanny Wortman the yahrzeit of Louise Johnson Barbara, Mark, Matthew and Gregory Hirsch, for the yahrzeit of Sidney Hirsch Men’s Club Tribute Fund Judy and Norm Ferber, for the yahrzeit of Susan and Michael Klass, for the yahrzeit of Mary Brodey Albert Fastow for the yahrzeit of Emanuel Brodey for the yahrzeit of Rose Ratowsky Prayerbook Fund The Diamond family, for the yahrzeit of Phyllis Solomon and family, for the yahrzeit of Douglas Fingerman Herb Solomon Phyllis Solomon and family, for the yahrzeit of Eric Rosenstock, for the yahrzeit of Herb Solomon Alex Rosenstock for the yahrzeit of Celia Chancy Susan Baron, for the yahrzeit of Ida Zweifler for the yahrzeit of Natalie Joan Chancy Hedda Scheck, for the yahrzeit of The Gleich family, for the yahrzeit of Ruth Galland Adolph Rosenthal Jerry Wiskin, for the yahrzeit of Helen Wiskin Joseph Adasko, for the yahrzeit of Marge and Jeff Stevens, for the yahrzeit of Summer Adasko Selma Futterman Marsha, Bruce, Rachel and Lauren Diamond, Lynn and Jerry Sternberg, for the yahrzeit of for the yahrzeit of Al Diamond Leon Garelick Eric Rosenstock, for the yahrzeit of Michael Chasin, for the yahrzeit of Harry Chasin Lucille Rosenstock Josephine Paltin, for the yahrzeit of Audrey, Roy and Amanda Goldberg, for the Samuel Smilovici yahrzeit of Irving Yoskowitz continued next page

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Social Action Fund Willner/Weinstein Educational Endowment Fund Shirley Deckelboim and Sandra Esquenazi, for Susan and David Brown, for the yahrzeit of the yahrzeit of Sam Kamenetzky Bill Feinstein for the yahrzeit of Mollie Kamenetzky for the yahrzeit of Betty Brown Phyllis Krauss, for the yahrzeit of Mollie Goldberg for the yahrzeit of Harry Brown Geri, Michael, Jared and Dana Kaplan, for the Sandy and Randye Derris, in honor of the birth yahrzeit of William Kaplan of their granddaughter Stevie Pearl Levinson Sophia Abramson and Debbie Kullback, for the in honor of the birth of Eli Justin Wolman yahrzeit of Harvey Abramson in honor of the marriage of Jonathan Cooper and Erika Rosenfried Temple Improvement and Beautification Fund in honor of Rabbi Weber’s special birthday The Swartz family, in appreciation of the TRT Shelley and Marc Willner, for the yahrzeit of office staff for their hard work and Libby Willner dedication Sheryl and Bruce Cooper and family, in honor of the engagement of Sara Levenstein and Dennis Lee

A New Plaque On Our Tree Of Life Has Been Dedicated By: Ginger and Joel Richman, in honor of the Bat Mitzvah of Tori Elyse Richman

YAHRZEITS

These names will be included in the list of yahrzeits on the Shabbat indicated. In addition, at our Friday evening service and Shabbat morning minyan, we will invite all those who wish to rise and say the name of the one(s) for whom they are saying Kaddish.

DATE DECEASED REMEMBERED BY

Shabbat Observance 10/4-10/5 10/1 Moshe Janower grandfather of Gail Davis 10/1 Lena Rogers mother of Linda Cranin 10/1 Henze Viesel grandmother of Jay Davis 10/1 Abraham Russo * father of Joel Russo 10/2 Bessie Gavronsky great-aunt of Susan Blecker and Geri Kaplan 10/3 Max Feuerman grandfather of Scott Levy 10/3 Anna Salkin grandmother of Karen Goldstein 10/3 Ida Silverberg grandmother of Ellen Feinberg 10/4 Benek Bolender * father of Marlene Shapiro 10/4 David Goldstein father of Larry Goldstein 10/4 Muriel Sklar mother of Arlene Goldberg 10/4 Ruth Finkelstein * mother of Neal Finkelstein

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Shabbat Observance 10/11-10/12 10/6 Benjamin Levy father of Scott Levy 10/6 Max Kirschenbaum * father of Jack Kirschenbaum 10/7 Charles Cole * father of Evan Cole

10/7 Sidney Nemetz father of Meredith Nemetz 10/7 Jules Cooper * father of Bruce Cooper 10/8 Salomon Furer * father of Alicia Quint 10/8 Rose Sherman mother of Joel Sherman 10/9 Ralph Falk father of Don Falk 10/9 Bernard Shimmerman father of Francine Davis 10/9 Harry Levenstein * father of Henry Levenstein 10/9 Gary Shukovsky * husband of Rona Shukovsky, member of Temple Rodeph Torah 10/9 Dora Weber * grandmother of Rabbi Don Weber 10/10 Dorothy Hoffman mother of Donna Rosenblum 10/10 Max Klein father of Ingrid DiFazio 10/10 Esther Klein great-great grandmother of Sharon Solar 10/10 Laura Amarosa * grandmother of Loretta Shapiro 10/11 Sydney Freedman * father of Mark Freedman 10/11 Barry Speiser special friend of Robbin Friedell 10/12 Richard Loebel * brother of Morton Fine 10/12 Simon Alpert father of Zalma Gelber, grandfather of Susan Blecker and Geri Kaplan 10/12 Freda Beeber mother of Herbert Beeber 10/12 Clarence Brandt father of Joel Brandt 10/12 Ida Zeltzer grandmother of Ellen Levine

Shabbat Observance 10/18-10/19 10/13 Adam Bauer * son of Eric and Susan Bauer 10/13 Samuel Ritt grandfather of Sharon Solar 10/13 Charlotte Feld * mother of Louis Feld, Nadine Sherman and Ellen Block 10/14 Rhoda Chesler aunt of Bonnie Friedland 10/14 Elaine Klein mother of Ingrid DiFazio 10/14 Ben Wachter father of Lucy Isaacson, grandfather of Kenneth Isaacson 10/15 Joseph Klein great-grandfather of Sharon Solar 10/15 Gloria Brenner * mother of Claudia Schreiber 10/16 Louis Mason father of Aida Workman 10/16 Lorry Posner friend of Ellen Finkelstein 10/17 Ruth Ferber mother of Norman Ferber grandmother of Robyn Jay and Stacey Feldman 10/17 Esther Workman mother-in-law of Aida Workman 10/18 Edward Lewis * father of Michael Lewis 10/18 Sam Litwak * grandfather of David Shapiro 10/18 Lorna Weinberger mother of Lynne Schwitz 10/19 Phyllis Sellinger step-mother of Laurie Karmel 10/19 Thomas Schulman * father of Irene Ash continued next page 23 Temple Rodeph Torah NEWS October/November 2013

Shabbat Observance 10/25-10/26 ז"ל Jack Chamoff * father of Harvey Chamoff 10/20 10/20 Marty Coleman husband of Edna Coleman 10/20 Theda Kushel mother of Barbara Klein 10/21 George Gross father of Fred Gross 10/21 Clara Shukovsky mother-in-law of Rona Shukovsky ז"ל Seymour Cooper * father of Lee Cooper 10/22 father-in-law of Toni Cooper grandfather of Sarah Cooper 10/22 Anne Nessenson great-aunt of Jerri Kasakove 10/22 Hyman Rosen father of Linda Prince 10/23 Malvina Bat Abraham sister of Mina Paltin 10/23 Jeanne Tremaine grandmother of Laurie Karmel 10/23 Ana Bucher * mother of Marty Bucher 10/24 Bernard Schaefer * father of Toni Cooper, grandfather of Sarah Cooper 10/24 Dora Eisner mother of Sheila Aptaker 10/24 Max Fermaglich father of David Fermaglich 10/24 Minnie Shapiro grandmother of Randi Sorin 10/24 Jack Calderon * cousin of Irwin Misshula 10/25 Arthur Fleischman father of Jeffrey Fleischman 10/25 Moshe Lechowitsky great-grandfather of Carol Chasin 10/25 Betty Eichel * mother of Richard Eichel 10/26 Margo Isaacson mother of Ronald Isaacson grandmother of Kenneth Isaacson

Shabbat Observance 11/1 -11/2 10/27 Jacqueline Eisen * mother of Cathy Berkowitz 10/27 Sylvia Berlin mother of Ilene Fireman 10/28 Gerry Goldberg * husband of Judy Goldberg member of Temple Rodeph Torah 10/28 Morris Blacker grandfather of Bonnie Sugarman 10/28 Benjamin Kirschner brother of Arlene Lieber 10/29 Helene Hershman * mother of Gil Hershman 10/29 Henry Goutter father-in-law of Andrea Goutter 10/29 Walter Sundel uncle of Sindy Weiner 10/30 Martin Greenhouse father of Cliff Greenhouse 10/30 David Schulman brother of Irene Ash 10/30 Rose Kravitz * grandmother of David Sorin 10/31 Harry Friedelbaum grandfather of Robbin Friedell 10/31 Mickey Marks husband of Arlene Lieber 10/31 Gerald Weiner father of Louis Weiner 10/31 Morris Zeltzer grandfather of Ellen Levine 10/31 Leonard Chernick * father of Pamela Mizrahi 10/31 Mary Eterno * mother of Loretta Shapiro 10/31 Cecilia Gross * mother of Fred Gross 11/1 Bernard Satkowitz * father of Rochelle Friedman 11/1 Leah Davidowitz grandmother of Jay Davis 11/1 Murray Fingerman father of Marsha Diamond 11/1 Jerome Gold father of Mitch Gold

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11/1 Paula Kaufman sister of Zalma Gelber, aunt of Geri Kaplan and Susan Blecker 11/1 Arnold Workman * husband of Aida Workman, father of Robin Persily 11/2 Rose Neal * godmother of Loretta Shapiro

Shabbat Observance 11/8 -11/9 11/4 Chet Ambler friend of Larry Goldstein 11/4 Edgar Pearlman father of Charles Pearlman ז"ל Naomi Wilder * mother of Rachel Wilder Pachter 11/5 mother-in-law of Erik Pachter 11/5 Caryn Katz wife of Edward Katz 11/5 Edith Rubin mother of Ira Rubin 11/5 Louis Deckelboim * husband of Shirley Deckelboim father of Sanda Esquenazi 11/6 Harry Slove grandfather of Carol Chasin 11/7 Bernard Loebel * father of Morton Fine 11/7 Rachel Pachter * wife of Erik Pachter mother of Ira Pachter member of Temple Rodeph Torah 11/8 Irving Zeltzer * father of Ellen Levine 11/9 Eva Bartenow aunt of Ilene Skolnik 11/9 Sylvia Kolodny mother of Lawrence Kolodny 11/9 Jacob Korkes great-uncle of Randy Cranin

Shabbat Observance 11/15 -11/16 11/10 Celia Goldapper grandmother of Judith Borell 11/10 Rose Katz grandmother of Steven Karmiller 11/10 Jennie Cooper * grandmother of Lisa Halpern-Wicks and Brian Halpern 11/10 Ruth Kertman * mother of Susan Aaron ז"ל Gertrude Feldman * mother of Neil Feldman 11/11 11/11 Evelyn Berkowitz mother of Gertrude Beeber 11/11 Bruce Kurtz father of Ellen Pearlman 11/11 Robert Singer * father of Leslie Rosenstock 11/12 Max Blank * father of Ellen Zipkin 11/12 Ruth Agress mother of Sandra Craig 11/12 Frank Klapper father of Marilyn Beutel 11/12 Elissa Salame mother of Allison Galiano 11/13 Isadore Weiner * father of David Weiner 11/14 Joseph Baratz nephew of Mina Paltin cousin of Joseph and Josephine Paltin 11/14 Murray Midoneck father of Robert Midoneck ז"ל Sidney Leader * father of Michael Leader 11/15 11/15 Jack Perlman father of Irving Perlman 11/15 Gussie Schwalbe grandmother of Sandra Craig 11/15 Rose Cranin * grandmother of Randy Cranin ז"ל Harry Fischer * father of Craig Fischer 11/16 11/16 Irving Weinberg * father-in-law of Linda Weinberg continued next page 25 Temple Rodeph Torah NEWS October/November 2013

11/16 Rosa Barr mother of Ilene Skolnik 11/16 Edith Perlman mother of Neal Perlman 11/16 Masha Shulman grandmother of Steven Kaufman 11/16 Dale Skran Sr. father of Dale Skran

Shabbat Observance 11/22 -11/23 11/17 Hilda Greenstein * mother of Rhoda Geller 11/17 Morris Nessenson great-uncle of Jerri Kasakove 11/17 Charles Freilich * father of Irvin Freilich 11/18 Lucille Robins * mother of Dale Krulick 11/18 Joseph Grabelsky father of Bonnie Ryder 11/18 Ethel Rosenbaum mother of Barbara Rosenbaum 11/18 Herbert Rosenberg father of Robin Koenig, grandfather of Jessica and Stefanie Koenig 11/18 Samuel Schulman father-in-law of Maurice Heitt 11/18 Belle Weiss aunt of Bonnie Kirschenbaum 11/18 Mollie Schwitz * grandmother of Mark Schwitz 11/19 Clara Stern grandmother of Rabbi Shira Stern 11/19 Selma Levy * grandmother of David Levy , ז"ל Janice Seifter * niece of Shirley Newman 11/20 cousin of Roberta Rafaloff 11/20 Janie Goldfarb mother of Cindy Kipnis 11/20 Lillian Ross mother of Phil Ross 11/20 Edna Sanchez mother of Ralph Mavis 11/20 Samuel Zimmerman father of Emilie Herzberg 11/21 Frank Cariello * father of Robert Cariello 11/21 Morris Shukovsky father-in-law of Rona Shukovsky 11/21 Chava Weichenberg aunt of Lior Koppel 11/21 Ronda Binkowitz * wife of Joel Binkowitz, member of Temple Rodeph Torah 11/22 Albert Gruenewald father of Ernest Grunwald 11/22 Sylvia Karmel mother of Arthur Karmel 11/22 Sara Shraberg grandmother of Jon Klein 11/22 Naomi Sugarman mother of Peter Sugarman 11/23 James Mack grandfather of Marla Bucher 11/23 Theresa Amarosa * aunt of Loretta Shapiro 11/23 Leon Kaplinsky * father of Richard Kaplin

Shabbat Observance 11/29 -11/30 11/24 Barbara Sorin mother of David Sorin ז"ל Irving Orlofsky * father of Ellen Berrol 11/26 ז"ל Pauline Seifter * mother of Shirley Newman 11/26 11/26 Mildred Litman mother of Marcia Sokal 11/26 Hans Rosenow * stepfather of Ronald Klug 11/26 Pauline Seifter * grandmother of Roberta Rafaloff 11/27 Harry Allen * husband of Lorraine Allen 11/27 Netty Baratz sister of Mina Paltin, aunt of Josephine Paltin 11/27 Milton Trencher * father of Ellen Finkelstein and Sheryl Cooper

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11/28 Stanley Levine * father of Myrna Nussbaum Raskin, grandfather of Shana and Rebecca Nussbaum 11/28 Maxwell Klapholz grandfather of Andrea Kazin 11/29 Fannie Dundish mother of Gail Lewis 11/29 Hans Herzberg father of Edward Herzberg 11/29 Virginia Maravent grandmother of Miriam Koppel 11/30 Lorraine Mahler * mother of Robin Schwartz ז"ל Susan Schack * daughter of Samuel Berger 11/30 11/30 Charles Holzberg grandfather of Mark Goldberg 11/30 Zahava Siegel sister of Miriam Koppel 11/30 Leonard Kaufman * father of Steven Kaufman 11/30 Susan Schack * sister of Judy Goldberg

* Indicates the dedication of a plaque on our Memorial Wall.       Jewish tradition suggests that we give tzedakah to honor the memory of our loved ones who have died.

Please come and help us make a minyan

every Saturday morning at 10:00 a.m in

the OnegRoom.

We pray, sing, learn and nosh together in

a warm casual atmosphere.

All ages are wanted and welcome.

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TEMPLE RODEPH TORAH of Western Monmouth P.O. Box 125, Marlboro, NJ 07746

TEMPLE CONTRIBUTIONS FORM

______BOLENDER HOLOCAUST EDUCATIONAL ENDOWMENT, for Holocaust education in our temple ______TEMPLE FACILITIES FUND, for the construction and maintenance of our home ______CANTOR’S DISCRETIONARY FUND, administered by the Cantor for the benefit of the congregation* ______COLLEGE OUTREACH FUND, provides funding for programs to maintain contact with our college students ______FUND FOR THE CENTER FOR A JEWISH FUTURE, for the Jewish education of our children. ______GENERAL FUND, allows us to use your gift where it is needed most ______HELENA PROJECT FUND, to provide Shabbat meals for families in times of upset and difficulty ______HERZOG MUSIC FUND, for the musical needs of the congregation ______HIRSCH/ROSEN MEMORIAL YOUTH FUND, provides funding for youth programs ______ISRAEL SCHOLARSHIP FUND, provides financial assistance for youth trips to Israel ______LANDSCAPING FUND, for the purchase of trees, shrubs and flowers to beautify our property ______LIBRARY FUND, for the purchase of books for our Library ______MEN’S CLUB TRIBUTE FUND, to further the work of the Men’s Club ______MORTGAGE REDUCTION FUND, dedicated completely to paying down the principal on our mortgage ______PRAYERBOOK FUND, for the purchase of prayerbooks. Any amount may be donated to this Fund, but a contribution of $36 or more is required to dedicate a prayerbook. ______RABBI’S DISCRETIONARY FUND, administered by the Rabbi for the benefit of the congregation* ______SISTERHOOD TRIBUTE FUND, to further the work of Sisterhood ______SOCIAL ACTION FUND, to support the Committee’s work of “repairing the world” ______TEMPLE IMPROVEMENT and BEAUTIFICATION FUND, provides funds for improvements to the temple ______WILLNER/WEINSTEIN EDUCATIONAL ENDOWMENT FUND, provides interest income for the Religious School’s future *** TREE OF LIFE/MEMORIAL PLAQUES: To celebrate a special occasion by purchasing a leaf for the Tree of Life, or to honor the memory of a loved one who has died, please call the temple office. A Dedication Form will be sent to you. ______* Make checks payable to TRT-Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund or TRT-Cantor’s Discretionary Fund; all other funds payable to Temple Rodeph Torah. To donate online, go to www.trt.org and click on Donate.

This donation is being made:

In MEMORY of: ______

In HONOR of: ______

Donation made by:

Name: ______

Address: ______

Acknowledgment to be sent to the following:

Name: ______

Address: ______

Contributions of any amount are welcomed, but there is an $18 minimum for each acknowledgment you wish sent. Please refer all questions to our temple office, 732-308-0055.

28 Temple Rodeph Torah NEWS October/November 2013

TEMPLE RODEPH TORAH of Western Monmouth P. O. Box 125, Marlboro, NJ 07746 (Area Code 732) Office Telephone 308-0055 Religious School 308-3836 web site: www.trt.org email: [email protected]

Rabbi Donald A. Weber Office 409-1268 [email protected] Home 972-2595 Cantor Joanna M. Alexander 308-2311 [email protected] Home 312-286-3356 Temple Administrator Sheryl Cooper 308-0055 [email protected] Executive Director Rachel Klein 308-0055 [email protected] Educators Rabbi Shira Stern 308-3836 [email protected] Barbara Klein 308-3836 [email protected] Bar/Bat Mitzvah Tutor Ruth Haim 252-8910 [email protected]

President Larry Rosen 917-572-3792 [email protected] Vice-President Warren Brumel 972-8919 [email protected] Vice-President Mike Esquenazi 252-8753 [email protected] Vice-President Denise Swartz 332-9808 [email protected] Vice-President Jodi Zukoff 591-1986 [email protected] Treasurer Della Cherchia 303-8139 [email protected] Financial Secretary Matt Jacobson 536-7189 [email protected] Recording Secretary Juli Mercado 972-8404 [email protected] Past-President Brion Feinberg 591-5814 [email protected]

Aesthetics & Erica Katz 303-0116 [email protected] Space Management ARZA Marc Willner 536-4180 [email protected] Bar/Bat Mitzvah Video Ellie Golden 591-8791 [email protected] Building & Grounds Henry Levenstein 567-7799 [email protected] College Outreach Marcia Borshof 972-1906 [email protected] Education Robyn Gandelman 683-1168 [email protected] Service Requirements Juli Mercado 972-8404 [email protected] Finance Mike Esquenazi 252-8753 [email protected] Fundraising Jodi Zukoff 591-1986 [email protected] Horaiynu Barrie Cotter 970-9715 [email protected] Judaica Shop Marcia Borshof 972-1906 [email protected] Library Heather Schleifstein 851-7124 [email protected] Men’s Club Michael Klass 617-0477 [email protected] Newsletter Advertising Iris Schleifstein 536-6117 [email protected] Newsletter 308-0055 [email protected] Sisterhood Jodi Weintraub 972-2194 [email protected] Robin Persily 625-1299 [email protected] Social Action Andrea Kazin 946-3535 [email protected] Technology Harvey Lieber 677-3257 [email protected] Web Site Administrator Neal Finkelstein 972-8624 [email protected] Women’s Spirituality Group Suzie Beizer 933-1562 [email protected] Worship Bonnie Goldschlag 462-6727 [email protected] Youth Howie Gandelman 683-1168 [email protected] Youth Advisor - Senior Rachel Klein 308-0055 [email protected] Chaverim Barrie Cotter 970-9715 [email protected]

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