Undue Influence 101: A Framework for Understanding Thought Control
Panelists: Bill Goldberg, Steve Hassan, Dana Wehle, Paul Grosswald
ICSA Annual Interna onal Conference Silver Spring, Maryland July 4, 2014 Welcome
New Jersey Safe & Sound www.njsafeandsound.org Overview
1. Recognizing Undue Influence 2. Understanding the Mechanisms of Undue Influence 3. Mental Health Considera ons for Families Confronted With the Cul c Aliena on of a Loved One 4. Ques on and Answer Session Panelists
• Bill Goldberg, PsA, LCSW
• Steve Hassan, M.Ed., LMHC, NCC
• Dana Wehle, LCSW, PsA, MFA
• Paul Grosswald, Esq. Part One
The Mul ple Faces of Undue Influence
Bill Goldberg, PsA, LCSW www.blgoldberg.com Recognizing Undue Influence
• The elements of influence in everyday life • Defini ons of undue influence • Categories of individuals who use undue influence • Who can employ undue influence? • Margaret Singer’s model of thought reform • Possible signs and symptoms of undue influence • Can undue influence be undone? Elements of Influence In Everyday Life
Robert Cialdini
Elements of Influence in Everyday Life Cialdini • Reciproca on • Commitment and consistency • Social proof • Liking • Authority • Scarcity Defini ons of Undue Influence
• Gaining unfair influence by taking advantage of a posi on of power over another • Inappropriate or excessive manipula on that is exerted against a vulnerable person • Mental, moral or physical domina on that deprives one person of independent judgment and subs tutes another person’s objec ves Categories of Individuals Who Use Undue Influence • Con ar sts • People who desire to gain power over others • Those who may not have set out to exploit vulnerable people, but who find the tempta on too great • Those who ra onalize that their self-serving ac ons are really in the service of helping their vic ms Who Can Employ Undue Influence? • Anyone in a posi on of power • Adult to child • Aide/caregiver to disabled or elderly person • Abusive spouse/partner to ba ered spouse/partner • Therapist to pa ent • Religious leader to member of congrega on • Cult leader to follower • Gang leader to ini ate • Sexual predator/human trafficker to vic m • A orney to client • Doctor to pa ent • Professor to student • Employer to employee Margaret Singer’s Model of Elements of Thought Reform
• Isola on • Crea on of a siege mentality • Dependency • Induced powerlessness • Fear of vulnerability • Vic m is unaware Possible Signs and Symptoms of Undue Influence • Dras c change in autonomy • Secre ve rela onships • Use of clichés and simplis c thinking • Cu ng off of historic rela onships • Delusional quality of accusa ons, beyond misinterpreta ons • History of abuse for alleged influencer Can Undue Influence Be Undone?
• If what is opera ng is induced dependency, vic ms will have moments of recogni on and unconscious doubts • Rebuild trust so that ambivalence can be acknowledged • Use of third par es to build trust Part Two
Understanding Undue Influence: Manipula on and Coercive Persuasion
Steve Hassan, M.Ed., LMHC, NCC www.freedomofmind.com
Influence Con nuum Construc ve Destruc ve Extreme
Leadership • Honest o Respects Uniqueness of Person o Individuality • Trustworthy o Choice o Freewill • Accountable o Free Access to Informa on • Transparent o Sincerely Loving Influence Con nuum
Construc ve Destruc ve Extreme
Organiza ons • Informed Consent • Checks and Balances • Transparent • Encourages Growth
Influence Con nuum
Construc ve Destruc ve Extreme
Leadership
o Censorship • Clones People Doctrine Over Personal Experience o • o Pressure to Think Right Way Obedience o Pressure to Feel Right Way • Dependency o Pressure to Behave Right Way • Fear/Phobia Influence Con nuum
Construc ve Destruc ve Extreme
Organiza ons • Pyramid • Authoritarian • Ends Jus fy Means • Closed – Preserves Power
Influence Con nuum
Construc ve Destruc ve Extreme
Need to be cau ous of Influence Apply BITE Model Ques ons • Behavior • Informa on • Thought • Emo on The BITE Model as a Guide to Evalua ng Groups and Situa ons
Steven Hassan M.Ed. LMHC, NCC www.freedomofmind.com
Control of: • Behavior • Informa on • Thought • Emo on “BITE” - Behavior Control
1. Regulate individual’s physical 8. Restrict leisure, entertainment, reality vaca on me 9. Major me spent with group 2. Dictate where, how and with indoctrina on and rituals and/or whom the members lives and self indoctrina on including the associates or isolates internet 3. When, how and with whom 10. Permission required for major the member has sex decisions 11. Thoughts, feelings, and ac vi es (of 4. Control types of clothing and self and others) reported to hairstyles superiors 5. Regulate diet – food and 12. Rewards and punishments used to drink, hunger and/or fas ng modify behaviors, both posi ve and 6. Manipula on and depriva on nega ve 13. Discourage individualism, of sleep encourage group-think 7. Financial exploita on, 14. Impose rigid rules and regula ons manipula on or dependence 15. Ins ll dependency and obedience “BITE” - Informa on Control
1. Deception: 4. Encourage spying on other members » Deliberately withhold information » Impose a buddy system to » Distort information to make it monitor and control member more acceptable » Report deviant thoughts, » Systematically lie to the cult feelings, and actions to member leadership 2. Minimize or discourage access to non-cult sources of » Insure that individual behavior information, including: is monitored by group » Internet, TV, radio, books, articles, 5. Extensive use of cult-generated information and propaganda, including: newspapers, magazines, other media » Newsletters, magazines, journals, audio tapes, » Critical information videotapes, YouTube, movies, » Former members and other media » Keep members busy so they don’t » Misquoting statements or using have time to think and investigate them out of context from non- » Control through cell phone with cult sources texting, calls, Internet tracking 6. Unethical use of confession 3. Compartmentalize information into Outsider vs. » Information about “sins” used Insider doctrines: to disrupt and/or dissolve » Insure that information is not identity boundaries freely accessible » Withholding forgiveness or » Control information at different absolution levels and missions within group » Manipulation of memory, » Allow only leadership to decide possible false memories who needs to know what and when “BITE” - Thought Control
1. Require members to internalize 6. Memories are manipulated and false the group’s doctrine as truth memories are created Ø Adop ng the group’s “map of reality” as reality 7. Teaching thought-stopping techniques Ø Ins ll black and white thinking which shut down reality tes ng by Ø Decide between good vs. evil stopping nega ve thoughts and Ø Organize people into us vs. allowing only posi ve thoughts, them (insiders vs. outsiders) including: 2. Change person’s name and Ø Denial, ra onaliza on, jus fica on, iden ty wishful thinking 3. Use of loaded language and clichés which constrict Ø Chan ng knowledge, stop cri cal Ø Medita ng thoughts, and reduce complexi es into pla tudinous Ø Praying buzz words Ø Speaking in tongues 4. Encourage only “good and Ø Singing or humming proper” thoughts 8. Rejec on of ra onal analysis, cri cal 5. Hypno c techniques are used to alter mental states, undermine thinking, construc ve cri cism cri cal thinking and even to age 9. Forbid cri cal ques ons about leader, regress the member doctrine, or policy 10. Labeling alterna ve belief systems as illegi mate, evil, or not useful “BITE” - Emo onal Control
1. Manipulate and narrow the range of feelings – 6. Extremes of emo onal highs and lows – love some emo ons and/or needs are deemed as evil, wrong, or selfish bombing and praise one moment and then 2. Teach emo on-stopping techniques to block declaring you are horrible sinner feelings of homesickness, anger, doubt 7. Ritualis c and some mes public confession of 3. Make the person feel that problems are always sins their own fault, never the leader’s or the group’s fault 8. Phobia indoctrina on — inculca ng irra onal 4. Promote feelings of guilt or unworthiness, such fears about leaving the group or ques oning as: the leader’s authority: Ø Iden ty guilt Ø You are not living up to your poten al Ø No happiness or fulfillment possible Ø Your family is deficient outside the group Ø Your past is suspect Ø Terrible consequences if you leave: hell, Ø Your affilia ons are unwise demon possession, incurable diseases, Ø Your thoughts, feelings, ac ons are irrelevant accidents, suicide, insanity, 10,000 or selfish reincarna ons, etc. Ø Social guilt Ø Historical guilt Ø Shunning of those who leave; fear of being 5. Ins ll fear, such as fear of: rejected by friends, peers, and family Ø Thinking independently Ø Never a legi mate reason to leave; those Ø The outside world who leave are weak, undisciplined, Ø Enemies unspiritual, worldly, brainwashed by family Ø Losing one’s salva on or counselor, or seduced by money, sex, or Ø Leaving or being shunned by the group rock and roll Ø Other’s disapproval Ø Threats of harm to ex-member and family Strategic Interac ve Approach (SIA)
A Complex System Approach to crea ng a network of trained individuals (family, friends, ex- members, media, clergy, therapists) to orchestrate a step by step ethical, influence program to empower an individual or set of individuals to think for themselves. Strategic Interac ve Approach (cont.)
• The SIA is a long term recovery process for both the cult member and members of the family • The goal is to help the loved one recover their full facul es; to restore the crea ve, flexible, independent adult who fully understands what has happened to them • In the SIA, each person has issues that should be addressed • A customized approach that encourages everyone to develop posi ve, construc ve pa erns of communica on • One focus is on the growth and development of healthy rela onships within the family • Everyone is trauma zed by the cult involvement, even those who are not directly involved • Each case is different and presents new challenges; every set of family resources is unique Part Three
Mental Health Considera ons for Families Confronted With the Cul c Aliena on of a Loved One
Dana Wehle, LCSW, PsA, MFA www.danawehletherapy.com Illustra on may not be reproduced without the wri en permission of Dana
Wehle . Sara DeGraff: [email protected] Sha ered World The family’s world is sha ered by cul c aliena on. Without a ending to these feelings, the stress wreaks havoc on the body:
v Anger v Isola on v Shame v Fear v Sadness v Guilt v Frustra on v Loss v Doubt v Anxiety v Trust
Individual, Couple, Family, Group Psychotherapy v Cult or trauma specialist v Psycho-educa on about the dynamics of a loved one in a cult v Processing of thoughts, emo ons, and memories Three Primary Considera ons 1. Tracking how stressful emo ons are experienced in the body/self-care. 2. Commitment to psychological growth including experiencing/processing avoided emo ons within safety of therapy . 3. Commitment to improving intra-family communica on What To Expect From Ini al Consulta on With Cult Therapist v Learn about therapy versus exit counseling v Assess immediacy of need for exit counseling v Focus on maintaining connec on by avoiding cri cism v Establish collabora ve approach with psychotherapist and exit counselor How Psychotherapy Helps v Ongoing support v Develop coping methods and a focus on self-care v Learn Grounding Techniques to keep mind on the present moment v Replace nega ve thought pa erns with posi ve v Link pre-cult and cult history of loss and trauma to contextualize current despair v Track effect of stress on health, self-percep on, and interpersonal rela ng Psychodynamic therapy specifically focuses on pa erns that connect past and present. v It is a crea ve process that unfolds over me, enabling the individual to develop and speak his/ her subjec ve voice from a deep and unguarded place through development of trust and mutuality with therapist. v The best-case scenario is for the family to model this stance when the alienated loved one returns.
Crea vity entails internal courage.
(The Courage To Create, Rollo May, 1994)
vvvvvvv Psychological growth and improving communica on skills require internal courage
Identify, Express, and Explore
Painful vFeelings vThoughts vMemories
Dissociated and known through gestures and behaviors only
[email protected] : DeGraff Sara
Illustra on may not be reproduced without the wri en permission of Dana Wehle. Fear Emo ons and the Body Parent Narra ve
“They had pushed me to a point where I had a cardiomyopathy and discovered that only half my heart was working. The other name for what I had was Broken Heart Syndrome which was induced from stress. We are all on the road to healing now.” Emo ons and the Body v Emo on is necessary for ra onal thought/decision making. v Emo on is induced by neural and chemical routes. (Descartes’ Error: Emo on, Reason, and the Human Brain, Antonio Damasio, 2005) v “[The therapist] help[s] the individual feel and iden fy bodily sensa ons to then use language to name and understand their meaning in current life.” (The Body Remembers: The Psychophysiology of Trauma and Trauma Treatment, Babe e Rothschild, 2000) Emo ons and the Body (cont’d) v A normal mind splits (dissociates) as a way to cope when overwhelmed by a trauma c event. v Dissocia on leads to black/white thinking, the trauma c event unlinked with emo ons and thought. v “The trauma zed person's experience of not being able to think is because trauma impairs reflec ve func oning in the brain.”
(The Dissocia ve Mind, Elizabeth F. Howell, 2005) Processing Avoided Painful Feelings
v Lessens defensiveness v Lessens reac vity v Lessens sense of fragmenta on v Encourages emo onal openness v Encourages good communica on skills essen al for family member's return ! Former Member Narra ve
“I think I would not be able to receive some of the recent informa on I have as deeply. Before beginning this work, I felt cared about, but think it took me much longer to accept those type of connec ons. The biggest benefit was that before this work I was less in touch with my body and myself … To feel like I'm living inside my body … in touch with myself is new. Now I don't ignore when my stomach ghtens... I more realize it is a symptom. I no ced the biggest changes in the last 3 to 4 years. I came to the conclusion that it would have taken me a lot longer to iden fy feelings such as fear and to process them. If I am afraid, it is now more front and center; before it was in the back of my mind... not so conscious. I would have been pushing it back. I recognize mixed emo ons more.. less black-and-white thinking... because the hard feelings are more lived now I am more comfortable talking about them.”
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• Bill Goldberg, PsA, LCSW • Paul S. Grosswald, A orney at Law • Steve Hassan, M.Ed., LMHC, NCC • Dana Wehle, LCSW, PsA, MFA For More Informa on • www.njsafeandsound.org • www.facebook.com/njsafeandsound • www.blgoldberg.com • www.cul nfoservice.org • www.freedomofmind.com • www.icsahome.org • www.danawehletherapy.com
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