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CONTINUED FROM P. 1 ed Ben-Gurion’s plan and, the following unique. R’ Mendel Kaplan, zt”l, wore a er of the yeshivah at which R’ Mendel was spring, the Israeli prime minister traveled long, dark frock and sported a large, black employed. The man found it strange that tated. Israel faced economic demands to cities throughout the United States to fedora. His beard encircled a face that was Rabbi Kaplan, who was known as a zeal- unique to the new state, most especially help launch the inaugural Independence lined with the creases of hours of Torah ous individual who disapproved of many the arrival of hundreds of thousands of Issue. Expectations for fi rst-year sales study. His piercing eyes darted about the of the policies surrounding the medinah immigrants, mostly Holocaust survivors were $25 million. Instead, fi nal results scene, observing the philanthropic fl urry (State), the Labor Party, and the prime and Jewish refugees from Arab countries. for 1951 more than doubled projections, of activity. An ancient relic tucked in the minister would attend a benefi t that The end of the British Mandate and the exceeding $52 million. corner of a sea of modernity, he stood promoted all that he was against. The establishment of Israel removed all im- Typically, a benefi t or ball was host- stoically, observing the entire scenario, a wealthy man was baffl ed and continued pediments to immigration. As a result, a ed in each city on the prime minister’s slight smile emanating from his lips. his mocking inquisition. large portion of the surviving remnant behalf, and people came out in droves R’ Mendel did not walk into the main “Surely you did not come to pay your of European Jewry quickly set sail for Is- to meet him and contribute to the new ballroom but preferred to stand outside respects to the prime minister and join rael. Meanwhile, Jews from throughout State of Israel. In Chicago, in the winter and observe the proceedings. After some us in this event!” he added sarcastically. the Middle East who fl ed, were expelled, of 1951, Ben-Gurion attended a State of Is- time, he had seen enough and was about Then he broke into a wide grin. “I am pos- or were rescued through missions such rael Bonds dinner as the guest of honor to leave the hotel and return to the ye- itive you did not come here to partake in as Operation Magic Carpet added to the and featured speaker. The ballroom was shivah at which he taught when a loud a little shellfi sh!” The man let out a guf- enormous infl ux of immigrants. Israel’s packed. The non-kosher event attract- voice boomed from behind him. “Rabbi faw. chronic lack of funds forced the govern- ed members of Chicago’s Jewish elite: Kaplan! What brings you to the Israel R’ Mendel did not return the tease. In- ment to settle the wave of immigrants in the wealthiest businessmen, politicians, Bonds Dinner?” stead, his answer was open, honest, and primitive shelters. Food was scarce and statesmen, and professional secular Jew- R’ Mendel turned around. He stood quite blunt. “I came here for one reason,” strictly rationed. ish leadership, all who braved the frigid face to face with one of Chicago’s wealth- he said. “To stand and watch how the With his country fi nancially over- temperatures to support the fl edgling iest philanthropists. Though a very secu- children of Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaa- whelmed, Prime Minister David Ben-Gu- state. They mingled about the ballroom lar Jew, the man was still a major support- kov stand in line in order to give charity.” rion convened a meeting of American in their fi ne-tailored suits, offering con- Jewish leaders where he proposed issuing siderable contributions, while carefully Rabbi Dovid Hoffman is the author of the popular “Torah Tavlin” book series, fi lled bonds to help provide Israel with a more balancing both their martinis and their with stories, wit and hundreds of divrei Torah, including the brand new “Torah Tavlin secure economic foundation. He hoped checkbooks. Yamim Noraim” in stores everywhere. You’ll love this popular series. Also look for his to obtain millions of dollars in funding Not surprisingly, there was not a yar- book, “Heroes of Spirit,” containing one hundred fascinating stories on the Holocaust. for immigrant absorption and the con- mulke in sight. However, one individual, They are fantastic gifts, available in all Judaica bookstores and online at http://israel- struction of a national infrastructure. who stood in a corner of the massive lob- bookshoppublications.com. To receive Rabbi Hoffman’s weekly “Torah Tavlin” sheet on The American Jewish leaders support- by, outside the ballroom, was markedly the parsha, e-mail [email protected]

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CONTINUED FROM P. 1 This year, too, we enjoyed a beautiful Color War – intense and competitive, yet camp radio. In fact, sometimes I still think enjoyable and fun. I hear my name being called, despite the Another endemic component of Color fact that my radio has been shut off for the War is the long sleepless nights, at least season. But soon enough life resumes its for the staff. There’s hardly enough time, busy course. as they scramble to produce quality songs, One of the highlights of camp, and in skits, plays, banners, and speeches within many ways it’s crescendo, are the three limited time. It’s all part of the experience, days of Color War. There are certain un- and for some reason the staff anticipates it written traditions about Color War in ev- and loves it. ery camp, including the need to have (or I was reminded of years back when I attempt to have) a surprise breakout, as was a counselor and experienced those well as a Grand Sing that culminates with three bleary-eyed nights of color war. At the singing of the alma mater, which must the time, Rabbi Noach Sauber (current- wasn’t air conditioned (these days you’ll very seriously. It was due to the combi- contains the “tear-year” rhyme (e.g, “I just ly the learning director at camp) gave the be hard-pressed to fi nd a building in camp nation of the high caliber of the shiur and can’t help but shed a tear; I just can’t wait staff shiur. There were over a hundred staff that’s not air conditioned). Rabbi Sauber’s close relationship with the until next year”). members packed into the room, which Believe it or not, the shiur was taken staff. He also took attendance every day

When one triumphs over his personal “af al pi kein,” that is where the road to greatness lies

and would follow up with any staff mem- ber who missed shiur. During the days of Color War, atten- dance was nearly perfect. To be honest, some may have dozed off during the shiur those three days, but everyone came. Be- fore shiur during one of those days, Rabbi Sauber shared a penetrating insight that I have never forgotten: The Rambam (Hilchos Talmud Torah 3:12) writes about the virtue of learning Torah with exertion and dedication. Based on a pasuk in Koheles, the Rambam (paraphras- ing the midrash) states: “The Torah that I learned b’af, that has been fulfi lled within me.” The simple meaning of b’af is “in an- ger.” Rav Yitzchok Hutner zt”l once quipped that b’af can also mean “even so” (as in the Gemara’s lexicon: “af al pi kein”). In other words, it’s the Torah that one learns “even so” – i.e, when he has ten excuses why he cannot or should not learn, and does so nonetheless, that really becomes internal- ized and builds him spiritually. Rabbi Sauber continued that it’s particu- larly when one is exhausted after sleepless nights, or when the room is hot and humid, or whatever other justifi cations one has not to learn, that real growth takes place. The measure of greatness is not when one performs when he’s at his best, but how much he is able to produce when his resis- tance is low and he’s not feeling his best. When one triumphs over his personal “af al pi kein,” that is where the road to greatness lies. That’s true in regards to all spiritual matters, even more so in regards to Torah study. Those who are already sleep-deprived and overworked, yet push themselves to learn Torah, perform chesed, and daven properly – those are the real winners!

Rabbi Dani Staum, LMSW, is the Rab- bi of Kehillat New Hempstead, as well as guidance counselor and fi fth-grade rebbe in ASHAR, and Principal at Mesiv- ta Ohr Naftoli of New Windsor. He can be reached at [email protected]. His website is www.stamtorah.info.

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“When Hashem, your G-d, will broaden and we enjoy fi nancial success, then it is activity? The answer is not much. It certain- your boundary as He spoke to you, and you appropriate to desire meat – not before. ly relieved your hunger, and in that sense it say, “I will eat meat,” for you will have a de- This Rashi seems diffi cult to understand. brought a release from pain; but it would sire to eat meat, to your heart’s entire desire What is wrong with desiring meat? The To- be hard to imagine that for the rest of your you may eat meat.” rah might tell me that if I can’t afford meat, life you would be reminiscing back to the – D’varim 12:20 I shouldn’t eat it. If it is beyond my means sensation of the bitter, spoiled peanut but- and purchasing it would create an undue ter and dry, cracked bread as it scratched or forty years in the Midbar the expense, I shouldn’t buy any. But what is your throat when you swallowed it. Jewish people ate mahn. Guided by wrong with just desiring it? This is a good example of the distinc- FMoshe Rabbeinu, engaged in con- tion between pleasure and lust. You ate that stant Torah study with every physical need Pleasures and Lusts sandwich with great desire – a lot of pas- taken care of, klal Yisrael lived on a lofty The answer to this can be best under- sion – but you didn’t derive much pleasure spiritual plane. Now that they were be- stood with a mashal. Imagine that you fi nd from that activity. Lust is the pull to engage ing ushered into a different era – entering yourself shipwrecked on a desert island. in a given activity. Pleasure is the amount Eretz Yisrael where they would begin liv- You haven’t eaten in three days, and you of enjoyment you receive from it. As un- and you can afford luxuries, then you will ing in a natural manner – they were given are driven by one burning desire – food. usual as it may sound, most people fail to desire meat – but not before. The Torah is many directives to retain their status as an As you hobble along the island, you notice make a distinction between pleasures and educating us into a higher form of living. exalted nation. a brown paper bag under a palm tree. You passions. When you enjoy the pleasures and control One of the points that Moshe Rabbe- open it up to fi nd a dry peanut butter sand- your desires, you use this world for its in- inu made to klal Yisrael is that when they wich that has sat out in the sun for three Hashem Wants Us to Be Happy tended purpose, thereby living bi’shleimus – settled the land and followed the Torah, complete, not lacking. they would fi nd success in their endeavors, and Hashem would expand their borders. When Hashem grants you abundance and you can afford luxuries, Consumerism – A National Culture When this would occur, they would desire then you will desire meat – but not before of Competitive Acquisitions meat. And they would be allowed to eat it This concept is very applicable as we are anywhere they wished. the Chosen Nation – expected to be above Rashi is bothered by the relationship months. You gulp down that sandwich This seems to be the answer to the the rest of the nations. Unfortunately, that between the expanding of borders and the with more gusto than anything that you Rashi. While it is true that life is a battle, sense of living at a higher standard can be- “desire to eat meat.” It almost implies that have ever eaten in your life. and exerting self-control is the primary ve- come perverted into materialism, where the expansion of borders brings on the de- Here is the question: How much plea- hicle of growth, Hashem created us to be the expectation is that for people like “us,” sire. Rashi explains that the Torah is teach- sure did you derive from eating that sand- happy. If you bring new desires into your nothing less than the best will do. And so ing us a principle in derech eretz. A person wich? There is no question that you had a world, desires that you can’t possibly fulfi ll, our weddings, our wardrobes, our homes, should only desire meat when he can af- powerful urge, a very real desire, but how you are destined to be miserable. You will and our cars have to be the best. The way ford it. When Hashem expands our borders much enjoyment did you receive from that be constantly wanting, constantly hungry. our children dress and the types of toys Your life will become the opposite of a that they expect are nothing short of top- pleasurable existence. notch. And we fi nd ourselves with an ev- The Torah is teaching us that our desires er-increasing cost of living. When barely are things that we can and need to control. surviving in our communities means that If you have the capacity to meet the desire we are expected to earn three to four times to eat meat, there is nothing wrong with the national median household income, allowing those desires to surface. Hashem something is wrong with our lifestyle. created many pleasures for man to enjoy, We live in times of mass prosperity and you should use those pleasures to bet- where the average person is rich; but to ter serve Him. But if you don’t have the enjoy that great brachah, we must main- means to fulfi ll those hungers and you al- tain control. Everything in this world was low them to be present, then you will be created for man’s use – but it must be used living a very uncomfortable existence, con- properly, in balance, in the right time, and stantly hungering for something that can’t in the right measure. When man does that, be met. he enjoys his short stay on this planet and When Hashem grants you abundance accomplishes his purpose in Creation.

Born and bred in Kew Gardens Hills, R’ Ben Tzion Shafier joined the Choftez Chaim Ye- shiva after high school. Shortly thereafter he got married and moved with his new family to Rochester, where he remained in for 12 years. R’ Shafi er then moved to Monsey, NY, where he was a Rebbe in the new Chofetz Chaim branch there for three years. Upon the Rosh Yeshiva’s request, he stopped teaching to devote his time to running Tiferes Bnei Torah. R” Shafi er, a happily married father of six children, currently resides in Monsey.

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Unfi nished Symphony: All Jews Are Brothers And Sisters

“You are children of Hashem, your G-d; body, in the form of scratches, or deform- G-d is independent of our conduct but it obligation to give tzedakah from this very you shall not cut yourselves nor make a bald ing one’s body in any manner. These were stems from our own intrinsic nature. Just verse. “All Israel and anyone who converts spot between your eyes for the dead. For you rituals practiced by the Amorites when as a human being, regardless of his behav- are like brothers, as it says, “You are chil- are a holy people to G-d and Hashem has mourning for their dead, and the Torah re- ior, is always created in G-d’s image, Israel dren of the L-rd,” and if a brother will not chosen you for Himself to be a treasured peo- jects such customs for the Jewish people. remains G-d’s children irrespective of how have mercy on a brother, who would have ple from among all the peoples on the face Rashi adds that as G-d’s children we must we behave. mercy on him? And to whom will the poor of the earth.” care about our appearance and be beauti- The second inference is that as G-d’s of Israel lift up their eyes? Would it be to (Devarim 14:1-2) ful and not to become deformed or defaced own children, we possess immense quali- the non-Jews who hate them and persecute through ugly incisions. Nachmanides sug- ties that can only be defi ned as divine. Even them? Their eyes are only fi xed upon their erhaps one of the most powerful gests a different interpretation to this law, when we doubt ourselves and feel a loss of own brothers.” (Gifts to the Poor 10:2) sentences in the Torah is this awe- stating that the Torah is here forbidding confi dence and hope in our abilities, we The wording, “You shall not cut your- Psome declaration that we are G-d’s excessive mourning that used to include must remember that each of us is a child selves–lo titgodedu–is interpreted homi- own children. Jewish history, from its in- letically in the Talmud as being derived ception with Abraham and the forefathers, from the word agudah, group: “Do not eloquently illustrates this special relation- Just as a parent-child link is not broken, make yourselves into groups and groups” ship between G-d and Israel. How else can so is our connection with G-d (Yebamot 13b). Thus, the Talmud tells us one explain G-d choosing Abraham and his that this verse is alluding to the tragic descendants, promising them the Land of and sometimes catastrophic divisiveness Israel and to make them a blessing to the self-mutilation or disfi guring of our bodies of G-d, and as such we are capable of emu- among Jews. Just as being G-d’s own chil- whole world? Or, G-d demanding from in any form. This is because as Jews we are lating Him at some level. We possess these dren obligates us to maintain our bodies in Pharaoh the release of “My child, My fi rst- not to regard death as fi nal and tragic, but aptitudes and powers by virtue of having good form, so the fact that we are all His born, Israel” (Exodus 4:22)? The giving of rather to believe that there is an afterlife received G-d’s own program and design in children obligates us to consider ourselves the Torah and His expectation that they and thus limit our mourning. the same way that human beings received as brothers and sisters to one another. This would obey it and live according to its prin- However, the sentence that we are chil- His image upon being born. As soon as we means that we are to avoid confl icts and ciples affi rms this special connection be- dren of the L-rd carries some very important are born as Jews, we are endowed with divisions in our people. Being children of tween G-d and the Jewish people. As Rabbi implications. The fi rst is that, as children, these unfathomable gifts that characterize the same Father implies that we are to pre- Akiva puts it, “Israel is dear to G-d because our relationship with G-d is permanent and a child of the Creator Himself. serve that which is common to all of us. He calls them ‘You are children of Hashem unbreakable. Just as a parent-child link is The third lesson is that if we are all His The disunity and discord among Jews are your G-d’ and even more that a beautiful not broken, so is our connection with G-d. children, then we must be brothers and sis- instrument [the Torah] was given over to Although there is a dispute between Rab- ters to each other. Maimonides derives the CONTINUED ON P. 24 them” (Avot 3:14). bi Meir and Rabbi Yehudah in this respect This special sentence that Israel are chil- (Kiddushin 36a), we see that even when we Rabbi David Algaze is the founder and Rav of Havurat Yisrael, Forest Hills. He is a noted dren of G-d comes as a preface to the spe- sin, G-d calls us His children, and so the public speaker and author and is the President of the international Committee for the Land cial law against making incisions in one’s conclusion is that our relationship with of Israel.

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Yerushalayim Is Hidden For A Reason: It Is The Most Precious Of Jewels To The Jewish People he word Yerushalayim is cryptic in this site. The result would be war and con- the Five Books of Moses. It is found fl ict. My editorial follows: This is precisely T660 times in Nach. Parshas R’ei is one what happened during the 2000 years since of the 19 places it is found hidden in the Five the destruction of the Second Temple. Jeru- Books of Moses. “Rather, only at the place salem is one of the oldest cities in the world. that Hashem, your G-d, will choose from The Amarna Letters of the 14th century BCE among all your tribes to place his Name, seems to mention the name Yerushalayim shall you seek out His Presence and come (“from headman of ‘urusalim’ and his su- there” (D’varim 12:5). “It shall be that the zerain Amenhotep III”). The city has been place where Hashem, your G-d, will choose captured and recaptured more than any to rest his name – there shall you bring ev- other city in the world. It has been attacked erything that I command you: your eleva- 52 times. It has been besieged 26 times and tion offerings and your feast offerings, your razed to the ground 13 times. It has been cap- tithes, what you raise up with your hands, tured and recaptured 44 times. and the choicest of your offerings that you 2) The Canaanites, with their knowledge, will vow to Hashem” (12:11). would have destroyed the mountain so as to Rabbeinu Bachya asks the question as prevent Israel from being able to even build to why is G-d so cryptic when it comes to a Beis HaMikdash. the Temple Mount and Yerushalayim? Why 3) The Israelite tribes would have fought is Mt. Moriah, which was known as a spe- amongst themselves for the rights to pos- cial place even to the nations of the world sess Yerushalayim. Once the Jews had con- and certainly to the Children of Israel in the quered and divided the Land, most of these Desert who knew from their ancestors that problems ceased to exist. G-d in his infi nite this was the place of the Akeidah, not spec- wisdom knew well when, and when not, to Rabbi Rushfi eld on the Parsha ifi ed by the Torah? Why does G-d Almighty precisely identify a location. G-d Almighty (Mosaica Press, 2015) only refer to it as “the place” – “HaMakom”? knew well that Yerushalayim was his most Parshas R’ei is not the only place where precious Jewel that he was bestowing upon For more information, please contact Rebecca Wittert at Yerushalayim and specifi cally the Temple the Jewish People. Like all precious jewels, [email protected] or 718-575-2702. Mount is left as a “sod” (secret). they are kept in a vault for safekeeping. G-d In Parshas VaEschanan, Moshe alludes kept it in his “vault” and did not let out the to the Temple Mount when he says, “Let secret until the Jews had conquered Eretz me now cross and see the Good Land that Yisrael and King David came to power. is on the other side of the Jordan, this good The Koran, which was written nearly two mountain and the Lebanon” (4:25). Rashi thousand years after the Torah and which says that “the good mountain” relates to the had total access to the N’viim and K’suvim Temple Mount, and “the Lebanon” relates to where Yerushalayim was mentioned 660 the Holy Temple. Again the terminology is times, did not mention or reference Yerusha- cryptic. layim even once. It was no doubt done to Yerushalayim is hinted at previously, in make sure that the Muslim world would B’reishis (14:18): “But Malki-Tzedek, King of give much greater honor to Mecca and Me- Salem (“Shaleim” in Hebrew) brought out dina. The direct and purposeful deletion in bread and wine; he was a priest of G-d, the the Koran by the Muslim world, I believe, Most High.” Chazal identify Malki-Tzedek as was meant as a slight to Yerushalayim. It is Shem, son of Noah. As the most honored of much more of a modern phenomenon that Noah’s children, Shem was made the priest the Muslim world considers Yerushalayim a of G-d in Yerushalayim (Ramban). The priest- holy site. This probably started at the time hood was handed over from Shem to Abra- of Saladin when he conquered Yerushalay- ham. The Akeidah took place on the Temple im in 1187 in order to fi ght the Christian Mount where Abraham held the priesthood. claim to the city. The Muslims pray in the “And Abraham called the name of that site direction of Mecca and Medina and face “Hashem Yir’eh” as it is said to this day, on their backs to the area where the Temple the mountain Hashem will be seen” (B’re- stood. The Muslims never denied that the ishis 22:14). According to the Midrash, G-d Jews had the rights to the Temple Mount synthesized both names for Yerushalayim – and Yerushalayim until the 20th century. Tes- Shalem and Yir’eh into one – Yerushalayim. timony to this fact was pointed out to me According to historical records, under Jeb- by the great philanthropist Dr. Manfred R. usite rule the city was divided into a west- Lehmann z”l and was written about in one ern part called “Jeru” (Yere) and the eastern of the many full page ads we did together part called Shalem (Salem). in The New York Times (Friday July 29, 1994 Around the time of Yehoshua’s conquest, – page A17), signed by former Chief Rabbi of the Amorites consolidated the two halves of Israel Rabbi Avraham Shapira zt”l and Rabbi the city and combined the two names (Je- Aharon Soloveitchik zt”l. The Arabic name rusalem). The Rambam in Moreh N’vuchim for Jerusalem is “Al-Quds,” which is an abbre- (3:45) gives three reasons why the Torah says viation for “Bayt al-Muqaddas” – the name “HaMakom” (“The Place”) instead of specify- of the Jewish Temple of Solomon (Beis Ha- ing the word Yerushalayim: Mikdash). 1) Although the nations of the world The day is soon approaching when King knew of Mount Moriah (hence G-d made David’s words will be fulfi lled (Psalm 24): reference to Moriah in 22:2), they did not re- “Who may ascend the mountain of Hash- alize that it was the direct conduit of prayer em, and who may stand in the place of His and sacrifi ces to G-d where they would be Sanctity? One with clean hands and pure heard and accepted – more so than any oth- heart, who has not sworn in vain by My er place in the world; for if they knew this Soul and has not sworn deceitfully.” Shab- secret, every nation would want to acquire bat Shalom

28 Av 5776 • Vol. V No. 34 (#176) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 19 Weekly Tefilah Focus

Shemoneh Esrei 43 Rachamim V’Ratzon

Sh’ma Koleinu ever hear them groan or cry. This moved to rachamim. This then is depths of his heart for Hashem to word “ratzon” here as we did in Hear our voice, Hashem our is what we mean when we say, how we approach HaKadosh Ba- have rachamim upon him, even our series on Ashrei. We quote G-d, pity and be compassionate to “chus v’racheim aleinu.” ruch Hu to arouse His rachamim. though he was unworthy. [Pri from our Ashrei writings: us, and accept – with compassion 3. Sometimes we may not have [Siach Yitzchak in Siddur HaGra, Tzadik, quoted in the sefer Nafshi We daven for something be- and favor – our prayer heard other people’s groaning or quoted by the sefer Tal’lei Oros] Cholas Ahavasecha] cause we believe that it will be crying, and we may have had no Rachamim is compassion and “Ratzon” goes even one step be- good for us. What Hashem gives ***** knowledge or understanding of mercy granted even though we yond rachamim. Ratzon is when a us is what He knows will, in fact, We are generally aroused to ra- their situations of hardship, but are not deserving of it. The Gema- father does what he understands be best for us. The word “ratzon” chamim (compassion and mercy) they come and ask us for help, ra in B’rachos (10a) tells us that one is the will of his son, even though here (“R’tzon y’rei’av yaaseh...”), ac- through one of three paths: expressing to us their situations, should not hold back from asking the child has not asked the fa- cording to Rav Chaim Kanievsky, 1. We hear the sounds of indi- is understood in a similar fashion viduals groaning or crying in pain. to the way we understood the Even though we have no idea why Rachamim is compassion and mercy granted even though word “ratzon” in the pasuk of “Po- they are groaning or crying, we we are not deserving of it sei’ach.” Hashem gives those who are aroused to feel rachamim. This fear Him their true desire (if they is what we mean when we say knew what Hashem knew), which “Sh’ma koleinu.” We do not start thereby arousing us to feel ra- Hashem for rachamim, even when ther. So we are asking Hashem to is Hashem’s desire because He out by saying, “Hear our words chamim. This is what we mean a sword is already on one’s neck, accept with rachamim what we knows best. or tefi los,” but rather we start out when we say, “kabeil b’rachamim ready for his execution. King Chiz- have asked for and, in addition, May all of our tefi los be accept- by saying, “Hear the sounds of our uv’ratzon es tefi laseinu.” kiyahu said that he learned this to grant us what our “ratzon” re- ed b’rachamim uv’ratzon. voice.” Certainly when all three of from “his father’s father’s house” ally is, even though we have not To access Audio, Video, and 2. Sometimes we may be these come together, when we (David HaMelech). David HaMel- asked for it. [Rav Avraham, son of Archives of previous Tefi lah seg- aroused to feel rachamim mere- hear individuals groaning or cry- ech, even after being told that it the Gra] ments, please visit www.WeeklyTe- ly because we understand and ing and we understand their situa- was decreed in the heavenly court Perhaps we can explain the fi lahFocus.com. feel other people’s situations of tions of hardship, and they ask us that he had no hope, he nonethe- hardship, although we do not for rachamim, we will certainly be less cried out to Hashem from the You can direct any questions or comments to Eliezer Szrolovits at 917-551-0150.

20 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. V No. 34 (#176) • September 1, 2016 For What It’s Worth Warren S. Hecht

Living A Lie

n occasion I am asked what inspired true fi nancial condition. This also applies me to write an article. Usually I to a candidate for public offi ce who claims Odo not mention in the article what that he is a successful businessman. caused me to write on the topic. This time Likewise, it is the same way with family I will do so. life. Few people know what happens be- On a table in shul on Friday evening, hind closed doors. A couple gets divorced there were photocopied sheets of the and people are shocked. People thought weekly publication, Torah Lodaas, which is that they were the perfect couple. written by a local rav, Rabbi Matis Blum. There have been important people who The ledger-sized sheets were in a stack, all gave the impression that they are outstand- folded in half. I took one and someone else ing, upstanding individuals but in fact en- took another. They all looked the same. I gaged in illegal and/or immoral conduct. Daily Zmanim then opened mine and saw that the inside Many times it takes years for the conduct Week of Wednesday, August 31- Tuesday September 6, 2016 was blank while the other one had material to be discovered. printed on it. Clearly there was a mistake For example, this past week it was dis- WED THURS FRI SAT SUN MON TUES in the copying. closed that Major General David B. Haight, Dawn 4:56 am 4:57 am 4:58 am 4:59 am 5:01am 5:02 am 5:03 am It got me to think that from the outside who was married with four children, was Earliest talis & tefillin 5:30 am 5:31 am 5:32 am 5:33 am 5:34 am 5:35 am 5:36 am they all looked the same. It was only when involved in an affair for ten years, which I was able to see what was inside that I also involved other sordid activity. At the Sunrise 6:21 am 6:22 am 6:23 am 6:24 am 6:25 am 6:26 am 6:27 am could tell that they were different. time that the affair was discovered, the Latest shema 8:55 am 8:55 am 8:56 am 8:56 am 8:57 am 8:57 am 8:58 am It is the same way with people. There General was the Director of Operations for Magen Avraham could be a group of people who are pray- US European Command, a highly sensitive Midday 12:55pm 12:54pm 12:54pm 12:54pm 12:53pm 12:53pm 12:53pm ing. From the outside they all seem to be position. He was forced to resign his po- Earliest mincha 1:27 pm 1:27 pm 1:26 pm 1:26 pm 1:26 pm 1:25 pm 1:25 am doing the same thing, with the same feel- sition. Plag hamincha Gra ing. However, I have no idea whether a If we realize that things may not be the 6:06pm 6:04 pm 6:03 pm 6:02 pm 6:00 pm 5:59 pm 5:58 pm person is thinking about his prayers or the way they appear to be, we will not become & Baal HaTanya stock market. discouraged. Sometimes we look at others Sunset 7:28 pm 7:26 pm 7:25 pm 7:23 pm 7:21 pm 7:20 pm 7:18 pm This façade is found in other aspects in and think that they have the perfect lives Nightfall - 3 stars our lives. There are people who give the im- while we are dealing with our own issues. 8:10 pm 8:08 pm 8:06 pm 8:05 pm 8:03 pm 8:01 pm 7:59 pm pression that they are well off. They drive The reality may be different. emerge around in fancy cars or wear fancy clothes. We should use the positive impression Nightfall - 72 minutes 8:40 pm 8:38pm 8:37 pm 8:35 pm 8:33 pm 8:32 pm 8:30 pm However, the reality is that they are leasing that we may leave on others as a motivat- Friday September 2, 2016: Candle lighting 7:07 pm the car and are maxed out on their credit ing tool. If people think that we are always Shabbos September 3, 2016 ends 8:06 pm; ends 8:36pm R’Tam cards. Unless we have access to their tax re- acting properly, we should strive to meet turns, we are not going to know a person’s their expectations.

Warren S. Hecht is a local attorney. He can be reached at [email protected]

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28 Av 5776 • Vol. V No. 34 (#176) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 21 This Week In History Yakov Merkin Orleans along with other parts of Louisiana are still susceptible to fl ooding, as the recent Baton Rouge fl ooding has made clear. August 28 – September 4 ======t is said that those who do not know their history are condemned to repeat it. A less often-raised aspect of history is the fact that we live it every day, and what we often Iremember best is what makes the most interesting headlines. As such, this week I chose events based on the short headlines linking to each story – and as a result, all in- volve violence and/or disaster. ======

We next travel across the globe to Moscow on August 30, 1918. On this date, Soviet leader Vladimir Lenin (born Vladimir Ilyich Ulyanov) was shot twice by a Social Revo- lutionary Party member named Fanya (Fanny) Kaplan while giving a speech at a factory. Lenin survived, and the attack led to a large wave of reprisals from the Bolsheviks against all their political opponents, with thousands being executed as Russia drifted deeper into civil war. Lenin had been involved in revolutionary activity since 1887, when his broth- er was executed for plotting to assassinate Czar Alexander III, and from the start of the twentieth century Lenin was involved in Marxist activities. After being exiled for the second time in 1907, Lenin returned to Russia after the February Revolution of 1917. After struggling with the Provincial Government (which had been sharing power with the so- We begin this week on August 28, 1879, in Zululand, which was in southern Africa. On viets (councils) since Czar Nicholas II’s abdication, Lenin’s Bolsheviks emerged victorious this date, King Cetshwayo, the last great ruler of Zululand, was captured following his and Russia came under purely soviet rule. Lenin’s struggles with opposing groups ranging defeat by the British, and was subsequently sent into exile. Since 1843, Britain had been from the Social Revolutionary Party to the czarist “white” forces lasted until 1922, just two the ruler of Natal, of which Zululand was a part, having assumed control from the Boers years before his death. His legacy, however, lived on for decades to come, having estab- (Also known as Afrikaners, they were the descendants of Dutch settlers who’d arrive two lished the world’s fi rst Marxist state. centuries earlier). They had, in 1840, won an armed confl ict against the Zulus, overthrow- ======ing their king and making Zululand a vassal of Natal. When King Cetshwayo assumed Sticking with the theme of events that power in 1872, he decided to resist the European control of his territory, and in late 1878 sound like headlines (and thus, I suppose he rejected a British demand to disband his army. Early in 1879, the British invaded. After the theme of violence), we next travel to initially suffering signifi cant defeats, the British prevailed at the Battle of Khambula on London on August 31, 1888. On this date, March 29, after which Cetshwayo was captured, and then exiled on August 28. Only four the body of Mary Ann Nichols, a woman of years later, however, the British had him reinstated to rule over part of his former territo- ill repute, was found murdered and mutilat- ry, but the discredited king was quickly driven out by his own subjects, and died in exile ed in Whitechapel’s Buck’s Row – the fi rst a year later. Four years later, following continued Zulu rebellions, the British formally victim of infamous serial killer “Jack the annexed Zululand, and in 1897 it became offi cially part of Natal, which itself joined the Ripper.” That area of London would see Union of South Africa in 1910. four more murders in the same style over ======the next several months, but the culprit was never found. The only leads, apart from the way in which the murders were carried out, were two letters written by the same person that alluded to facts about the crimes that only the police and the killer could know, and were signed “Jack the Ripper,” giving rise to the nickname. After his fi fth and fi nal victim, no more leads were ever found, no more murders that fi t the pattern were committed, and the case was closed several years later, under the assumption that the killer had died, been incarcerated on some other charge, or simply moved on. However, the legend of Jack the Ripper has remained one of intense fascination, with later killings linked by some to him (though only the original fi ve are considered “canonical”), and there have been over 100 theories as to his true identity. Ad- ditionally, Jack the Ripper has appeared or been referenced in hundreds of fi ctional works of all types and genres ranging from Sherlock Holmes to Star Trek, just to name two. ======

For a much more recent event, we next go to August 29, 2005, the date on which Hurricane Katrina made landfall near New Orleans, Louisiana. At the time, it was clas- sifi ed as a Category 4 hurricane and third most powerful storm that year. It became the worst natural disaster in US history, damaging the coasts of Mississippi and Alabama, as well as several parts of Louisiana, chiefl y in the city of New Orleans. An evacuation of the city was ordered the previous day when Katrina was briefl y upgraded to Category 5, but approximately 150,000 people ignored the order for a number of varying reasons and determined to ride out the storm. When Katrina hit New Orleans, it brought with it 145-mile-per-hour sustained winds, which cut power lines and destroyed homes, even turning cars into crude missiles. More signifi cant, however, was the storm surge it caused along the Gulf Coast. The waters overwhelmed the levees of the below-sea-level city, and soon 80 percent of the city was fl ooded, up to the rooftops of small buildings. Tens of thousands of people subsequently sought shelter in the New Orleans Convention Center and the Louisiana Superdome, but conditions quickly deteriorated as supplies dwindled, We go east once again for an event that set in motion arguably one of the most im- and crime began to rise in the stricken area. The situation was not helped by the delayed portant wars in history. On September 1, 1939, Nazi Germany invaded Poland, beginning arrival of large-scale aid, a delay for which the federal government was strongly criticized. World War II. After staging a false fl ag opera- Starting on September 1, people began to be moved to the Astrodome in Houston, Texas, tion to “justify” the invasion, German air and CONTINUED ON P. 23 supplies arrived, and the National Guard began to restore order. On September 6, the levees were fi nally repaired by the Army Corps of Engineers and the water began to be Yakov Merkin was lifelong resident of Forest Hills, prior to making aliyah in August 2016. He pumped out. Katrina did immense damage, causing over 1,300 deaths, $150 billion in holds a bachelor’s degree with honors in History from Queens College, as well as a master’s degree damage, displaced an unprecedented one million people, and cost 400,000 people their in History, also from Queens College. He is a writer of science fi ction, fantasy, and historical fantasy jobs. Since then, the city has largely recovered, but there is certainly more to do, and New novels, and discusses writing and history, among other things, on Twitter @yakovmerkin.

22 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. V No. 34 (#176) • September 1, 2016 As I See It This Week In History Cynthia Zalisky CONTINUED FROM P. 22 ground forces surged into Poland in the fi rst example of what would become well known as the “blitzkrieg” (lightning war) strategy, characterized by heavy bombing early on to destroy the enemy’s air capacity, railroads, communication lines, and munitions dumps, followed by a massive land invasion with overwhelming numbers of troops, Anti-Semitism 2016 tanks, and artillery. Following this, slower infantry units would move in to fi nish off any remaining resistance. Immediately after securing footholds, Hitler’s forces began here are things that never seem to and witnessing its alarming presence and to eliminate any opponents of his Nazi ideology, be they racial, political, or religious go out of style, and anti-Semitism growth in key areas. Jewish communities enemies. Within one day of the invasion, the Nazis’ SS units were already being pre- Tis one of them. As I surfed the Net in Europe have faced an upsurge of anti-Se- pared to terrorize the populace. Also of note, the Polish army, despite being approx- this past weekend, I was struck by the ex- mitic incidents and are concerned about imately one million strong, made several major miscalculations early on, including tent that anti-Semitism is on the rise this their safety and future viability in the taking the Germans head on with their inferior and antiquated military. Additionally, year. I was actually looking for informa- continent. To best protect Jewish commu- Poland was further isolated and set upon by the following signing of the Molotov-Rib- tion on the several anti-Israel episodes that nities and combat anti-Semitism, the US bentrop Pact, after which the Soviet Union occupied half of Poland. Poland’s western occurred at the Rio Olympics between the Department of State has encouraged Eu- allies did not abandon that country, however, with Great Britain and France quickly Israeli team members and various Arab ath- ropean states to appoint special envoys or declaring war on Germany. After years of inching closer and closer to the cliff’s edge of letes. As it turned out, there was plenty to other senior offi cials to focus on anti-Sem- war, Europe had fi nally stepped over the edge. digest. It was disturbing to read about the itism. This hatred is taking on contempo- ======overt anti-Semitism proliferated by the var- rary forms of racism and discrimination We stay within Europe but travel a few ious Muslim athletes towards the Jews in against Jews in various political, social, and hundred years back for our next event. On an atmosphere that is supposed to display cultural settings. One potent aspect that September 2, 1666, the Great Fire of Lon- brotherhood and sportsmanship. Right has manifested itself is using criticism of don began. Early in the morning, a fi re from the outset there was anti-Israel behav- Israel as a pretext for anti-Semitism. That broke out in the house of King Charles II’s ior, when the Lebanese delegation refused is the mantra of the Arabs in Europe. baker near the London Bridge. It quickly to share a bus to the opening ceremony We see this also in the United States, spread to Thames Street, where warehous- with the Israeli team. Then a Saudi Ara- being committed by the same cast of char- es fi lled with combustible materials com- bian judoka, Joud Fahmy, forfeited her fi rst acters. Anti-Jewish attacks in the US have bined with a strong easterly wind to create round match feigning injury in order to become more pronounced in the states an inferno. When the fi re was fi nally ex- avoid competing against Israeli contender with large Jewish populations, such as New tinguished on September 6, more than four Gila Cohen and an Egyptian judoka, Islam York and California. These types of occur- fi fths of the city was destroyed and over El Shahab, refused to shake hands with his rences nearly doubled last year at colleges 100,000 left homeless. Miraculously, however, only 16 people died. In hindsight, the Israeli rival after losing a fi rst-round match and universities across the country. Ac- fi re was a disaster waiting to happen. London at the time was largely built of wood, and to him. As proper protocol of the sport cording to a recent study on the matter, top some of the poorer homes used tar as a sealant. Additionally, the houses were crowded dictates, Israel’s Ori Sasson, who beat the colleges throughout the United States are together, roads were narrow, and fi refi ghting methods consisted of bucket brigades and Egyptian, approached him after the match experiencing an unprecedented rise in an- simple hand pumps. So when Thomas Farrinor, the king’s baker, didn’t properly extin- to shake his hand, but was rebuffed. A BBC ti-Semitic incidents and anti-Jewish behav- guish his oven that night, sparks later ignited fi rewood next to it, and fi re quickly spread reporter commented after the incident: ior. This is being fueled by the growth in to his house. He managed to escape with his family, but a bakery assistant in the home “This is not what the Olympics are about. the number of campus organizations pro- became the fi re’s fi rst victim. As the fi re ignited the fl ammable warehouses and spread, If you’re an outsider coming in, having a moting infl ammatory anti-Israel propagan- efforts to halt it were further slower by bucket brigade members choosing to abandon look, the rules of our sport dictate absolute da. The survey focused on 113 US campuses fi refi ghting efforts to save their families and valuables, and efforts to create a fi rebreak respect for the opponent.” with large Jewish populations and conclud- failed. Soon after, rebuilding began, and steps were taken to ensure that a fi re could not What went on at the Olympics is sys- ed that at least 76% of those schools sur- start and spread so easily again – though it would be another 100 years until London had temic of the general atmosphere of Jew-ha- veyed experienced “one or more kinds a permanent fi re department. In 1986, London’s bakers fi nally apologized for the fi re, tred that is permeating all over the globe, of anti-Semitic activity” in the past year. and unveiled a plaque acknowledging it. especially in Europe. In the United King- There were more than 300 anti-Semitic ep- ======

To those of us who have a history of the Shoah in our families, there is no surprise that there has been a significant acceleration of animosity towards Jews in Germany dom, for example, there has been an up- isodes in total at these schools according surge by 11% in reported incidents in the to a report issued by the AMCHA initiative, fi rst six months of 2016, as compared with a non-profi t organization that monitors an- the same time period in 2015. It ranges ti-Semitism on campus. between 80 and 100 episodes per month. The uptick in the number and severity Seventy-nine percent of the 557 anti-Semit- of these incidents is directly related to an- ic acts recorded in the fi rst six months of ti-Israel activities coordinated by pro-Pal- 2016 took place in the main Jewish centers estinian organizations that support BDS, of Greater London and Greater Manchester. which seeks to delegitimize the Jewish The ones perpetrating these outrages seem state. Fifty-six percent of schools permit- to be radical and radicalized Muslims. ting an active BDS movement “had one To those of us who have a history of the or more incidents that targeted Jewish Shoah in our families, there is no surprise students for harm.” Tammi Rossman-Ben- that there has been a signifi cant accelera- jamin, director of AMCHA, noted, “These We conclude this week over in Italy, where on September 3, 1943, the Allies invaded tion of animosity towards Jews in Germa- fi ndings confi rm what those of us moni- the Italian mainland. On the day of the landing, when the British Eighth Army landed ny. (I have always thought that hatred of toring campus anti-Semitism closely have near the tip of Calabria (the “toe”) of Italy, the Italian government already agreed to the Jews is in the water over there.) Angela long known and what students have been surrender, but a public declaration was not made until the September 8. While Italy Merkel seems to be astonished by the rise reporting to us for years – it is widespread. had entered the war as a key ally of Germany under fascist dictator Benito Mussolini, it of anti-Semitism in her country. But there It is rising at a frightening rate and is fueled soon became a puppet of Germany and opposition groups wished to topple Mussolini is good reason for it. In 2015, Germany took by anti-Zionism” (particularly by those pro- and turn on Germany – but Allied help was needed. Two months earlier, the Allies had in over one million migrants and refugees moting BDS and by leftist faculty). easily taken the island of Sicily, which led to the collapse of Mussolini’s regime and with another one million expected to ar- Jonathan Greenblatt, ADL CEO, stated, Marshal Pietro Badoglio took over to begin working on a deal with the Allies. Badoglio rive in 2016. These immigrants come from “We are disturbed that violent anti-Semitic declared war on Germany in October, but the Allied advance stalled after the capture countries where anti-Semitism is the norm incidents are rising, and we know that for of Rome (resources having been diverted to the invasion of Normandy), and there were and they are spewing it now in their new every incident reported, there’s likely an- in effect two Italies for a few months (the north ruled by a German-rescued Mussolini) homeland. other that goes unreported.” ADL National until the end of April when partisans captured and killed Mussolini, and German forces The offi ce of the Special Envoy to Mon- Chair Marvin D. Nathan stated that “at least in the country surrendered on May 1 – six days before all of Germany did so as well. itor and Combat Anti-Semitism at the US two anti-Semitic incidents occur in the US, ======Department of State has been tracking the That’s all for this week. I hope you found these events as interesting as I did. (There rise of anti-Semitism around the world CONTINUED ON P. 38 is a reason that news networks focus on violent stories as, for better or worse, we are drawn in to fi nd out just what happened.) With any luck, the coming week will have Cynthia Zalisky is the Executive Director of the Queens Jewish Community. She can be contacted more cheerful headlines than usual, and I hope you will join me again next week...in at [email protected] history.

28 Av 5776 • Vol. V No. 34 (#176) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 23 Frontlines Joseph M. Frager Refl ections on Colonel Mickey Marcus

t the beginning of the historic Pete Pete Hegseth as we approached Jerusalem Hegseth mission to Israel this sum- on August 15th. Pete and his wife Saman- Amer on the way from Ben Gurion tha were fascinated by the life of Colonel Airport to Jerusalem the subject of Colonel “Mickey” (David Daniel) Marcus but were Mickey Marcus came up. Colonel Marcus stunned when they heard that he was killed has always been an inspiration to me and by an 18 year old Israeli soldier on sentry to so many others. Kirk Douglas played duty because Col. Marcus had a limited his role well in the 1966 movie “Cast a Gi- knowledge of Hebrew. Col. Marcus’ grave ant Shadow”. He was a United States West is the only one in the West Point cemetery Point Graduate who was offered the rank at the United States Military Academy for

“For me he was the first General of the IDF in every sense of the word”

of Brigadier General in the U.S. Army after an American killed fi ghting under the fl ag his service in World War II. He chose to of another country. His gravestone at West return to civilian life and his law practice Point reads: “Colonel David Marcus-a Sol- instead. As fate would have it he became dier for All Humanity”. Israel’s fi rst Brigadier General ever. In 1947 In January 2015 Israel’s President Reuven David ben Gurion asked Colonel Mickey Rivlin visited the United States Military Marcus to recruit an American offi cer to Academy at West Point and spoke at Mar- serve as a military advisor to the Haganah. cus’ grave: “For me he was the fi rst General Marcus volunteered himself. The U.S. War of the IDF in every sense of the word. He Dept. agreed provided he disguised his had a sense of purpose and mission in the name and rank to avoid problems with establishment of the Israel Defense Forces, the British in Palestine. He used the name he taught us how to act as an army in our “Michael Stone”. He designed a command early days, and was one of Ben-Gurion’s and control structure for the Haganah. He greatest military advisors. There is no one helped Israel break the siege of Jerusalem who better illustrates the bond between by building the “Burma Road to Jerusalem”. Israel and the United States.” Col. Mickey The road through diffi cult hill terrain Marcus’ memory should serve as a Blessing was the topic of conversation with Major to us all.

Joseph M. Frager is a physician and lifelong activist.

Unfi nished Symphony: All Jews Are Brothers And Sisters

CONTINUED FROM P. 15 world, G-d prays and supports unity, har- mony, and concord among all His children. like incisions on the body; they disfi gure So as G-d is One, so Israel should be us and make us ugly. These schisms arise one. The poet wrote the immortal words, from what separates us and we must rath- put to music by Beethoven, “Alle Men- er remember that we all share the same schen werden Brüder, Wo dein sanfter Father, Who is saddened by our disputes Flügel weilt (All men are brothers, where and quarrels. Your soft wing hovers).” We can affi rm The Midrash tells us that G-d fi gurative- that all Israel are brothers when we will ly also wears tefi lin, and they ask: In our put these beautiful words upon our lips: tefi lin we have the sentence “G-d is One”; “You are [all] children of G-d.” This should what is written in G-d’s tefi lin? The Rab- be our Unfi nished Symphony – because bis answer: It is written, “Who is like Your the music is not done yet, and we all need people Israel, one nation on the earth?” As to be its composers and bring it up to its we preserve and declare G-d’s unity in the completion.

24 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. V No. 34 (#176) • September 1, 2016 28 Av 5776 • Vol. V No. 34 (#176) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 25 Community Corner • Recent Happenings Avigdor’s Helping Hand Reaching Out to Those in Need “…Hashem protects strangers, orphan, ner. We would love to increase our role in and widow…” the life of widows and orphans to expand (Psalm 146) different programs like bar mitzvahs. We By Susie Garber would need the support of the community to do this. ueens is blessed with many wonder- This year’s event is scheduled to take ful chesed organizations. There is place at the Moradi home on Labor Day, Qone unique organization that brings September 5, at 7:00 p.m. The address is 72 succor to families who have lost a bread- Muriel Avenue, Lawrence, NY. Donations winner and also helps orphans or geirim to to Avigdor’s Helping Hand are welcome make a wedding, and that organization is and appreciated. This year’s barbecue will Avigdor’s Helping Hand. This organization include an amazing Chinese auction with reaches out to Jews in our community and fabulous prizes such as jewelry, tickets to all over the United States. If a family loses sporting events, restaurants, art from Hu- the father or mother, aside from the tre- vy’s gallery in Yerushalayim, a painting do- mendous emotional pain, there are often nated by Mrs. Meira Gross of Kew Gardens fi nancial diffi culties. Even when there is L-R Mrs.Yitty Glaser, Mrs.Bilhah Moradi, Mr.David Moradi and Mr. Eli Glaser Hills, high tech electronics, and a special life insurance, it may not kick in until six surprise grand prize. Local and state poli- months to a year later due to red tape. Avig- bility to the tzibur who are trusting us with Shul in Far Rockaway. “The turnout was ticians will be in attendance as usual, in- dor’s Helping Hand steps in and helps the their holy tz’dakah money to make sure it beyond our expectations,” states Mr. Gla- cluding Queens Borough President Melin- family with their fi nancial obligations dur- goes into the right hands. We do due dili- ser. “So we opened a division to make wed- da Katz, Congresswoman Grace Meng, and ing that fi rst year for the fi rst six months. gence,” Mr. Glaser imparted. dings for orphans and geirim. Today we are Senator Joe Addabbo. Amazingly, over the past 11 years since Some volunteers deal with credit card one of the largest foundations that helps AHH is an IRS-registered 501c3 recog- its inception, this organization has raised deposits. Some deal with writing checks make chasunos for y’somim and also assists nized charitable organization. The organi- $4.9 million for bereaved families. It has for families. Mr. Michael Elias, a friend of almanos.” zation’s rabbinic board, headed by Rabbi helped 220 families and made 680 wed- Avigdor’s, created the website for AHH and Avigdor’s Helping Hand is based out of Noach Isaac Oelbaum, includes Rabbi He- dings for orphans and geirim. All of this crafts the fl yers and advertising. Kew Gardens Hills and the Five Towns. Mr. noch Savitsky, Rabbi Peretz Steinberg, and was accomplished with zero overhead. What a z’chus it is for Mr. Glaser’s son Glaser stated, “We help every Yid from any- Rabbi Yaakov Friedman. AHH does not pay rent, salaries, or expens- Avigdor a”h, who was niftar in September where in America who comes for help.” You can donate online at its website, av- es. It operates with the help of 30 volun- of 2005. Avigdor’s Helping Hand was start- In 2007, David and Bilhah Moradi of igdorshelpinghand.org. Checks payable to teers from all over New York, including the ed by his friends and family as a way to Lawrence, New York, reached out to AHH AHH can be sent to 138-45 78 Drive, Flush- West Side of Manhattan, Borough Park, carry on his name and as a z’chus for his and offered to open their home for the La- ing, NY 11367. Flatbush, Central Queens, the Five Towns, n’shamah. The idea of the organization bor Day event. They have hosted this event Anyone interested in volunteering or and Miami. Mr. Glaser said, “It’s amazing was born when at that time another be- selfl essly for the past ten years. Imagine bringing a family to AHH’s attention can all the work these volunteers do.” reaved family needed help with necessi- having one thousand guests at your home call 718-568-9720. Volunteers vet cases that are referred ties. They saw a niche and decided this for a barbecue. The community is truly honored to to AHH. Every bereaved family needs two was an ideal way to keep Avigdor Glaser’s When asked about his vision for the or- have such an important organization in its letters from rabbanim in its neighborhood. memory alive. ganization, Mr. Glaser shared that he hopes midst. May the time come very soon when All information is verifi ed by speaking The opening barbecue dinner took to one day be able to help families for the it will no longer be needed, because Mashi- with the family’s rabbi. “I feel a responsi- place on Labor Day of 2006 at The White whole fi rst year after a loss of a breadwin- ach will be here! Judge Danny Butler Rivets Crowd with His Poignant Story By Susie Garber teaching in Zacharia HaNavi that when Mashiach comes old people here are many people will be walking in Yerushalayim out there who are be- and children will be playing in “Tset with signifi cant the street. The second is that Kid- diffi culties and tragedies. Even dush Hashem is the greatest thing more disturbing are those who a Jew can do. The third is that are unhappy without signifi cant chesed we perform is a model to diffi culties and tragedies. By the rest of the world. sharing my story, I fi nd that I When Mickey was asked what am able to provide both of these he wished for, he would say just groups some perspective on their to have a normal day. He spent lives, and enhance their poten- so much of his life in the hospital. tial for happiness.” Judge Danny Judge Butler stated, “Normal Butler accomplished his above- is the biggest blessing of all. We mentioned goal which he when must recognize what it is and not he spoke on Sunday evening, Au- waste it.” gust 21, on behalf of Chazaq at the Partial view of the crowd at the Chazaq event at the Young Israel of Forest Hills When this writer asked Judge Young Israel of Forest Hills to an Butler how he can share his sto- overfl ow crowd. have any other children. They had story was written up in the local stabbed him and turned to exit. ry when it must be so diffi cult to Judge Dan Butler who has been four more. Two of them were per- Pittsburgh papers when Yeshiva He somehow got her attention recount all of these painful mem- regional director for National fectly healthy. Two had autism. University President Rabbi Nor- and mouthed, “Thank you.” She ories, his answer was truly inspir- Conference of Synagogue Youth He then shared the many trials man Lamm personally conferred broke down and cried. What a kid- ing. “Regardless of the path that (NCSY), a judicial clerk, as well as and challenges of a Bachelor’s degree in political dush Hashem his son performed. you follow in life, EVERYBODY a judge of the Municipal Court of their oldest son and also his science and business on Mikey. His son suffered through lung has opportunities to see and rec- Pittsburg, related his experience amazing triumphs. Mikey Butler As a teenager, Mikey Butler was transplant and then four separate ognize the wonders of Hashem, when his wife gave birth to their lugged an oxygen machine behind one of the pioneers of Starbright, bouts of cancer and many pain- that are all around us. The trick fi rst child Mikey who suffered him and played drums at wed- a communication support system ful treatments. Judge Butler ex- is to notice them, to appreciate from cystic fi brosis. The doctors dings and he valiantly attended backed by Steven Spielberg that pressed gratitude for the fact that them, and not to squander those gave them no hope that the baby Yeshiva University and graduated links hospitalized children na- their son continued to survive wondrous opportunities.” would survive. He painted a pic- after three years. He ran for Vice tionwide in spite of dire predictions. He This is a model for all of us to ture for the audience of how he President of YU the fi rst week Judge Butler shared a partic- was niftar at age 24. Judge Butler accept our own G-d-given chal- and his wife were davening for of his last term when he needed ularly poignant moment when imparted, “G-d did listen and we lenges and tests and to use them their baby. He noted that his new lungs. Mikey was active in his son was on a respirator and have no regrets.” to help others. Also, like Judge wife was standing there actually NCSY and the Hebrew Academy a nurse had come in to admin- He spoke of three important Butler and his family we need to talking to G-d. The baby survived. for Special Children’s camp for ister an extremely painful shot. teachings that Mikey imparted seek the blessing in the diffi cul- The doctors warned them not to the developmentally disabled. His She didn’t look at him when she in his short life. The fi rst was the ties.

26 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. V No. 34 (#176) • September 1, 2016 Community Corner • Recent Happenings OHEL’s Retreat to Bushkill Inn Provides Inspiration, and Renewal to those with Psychiatric Disabilities OHEL’s Annual Summer Trip Brings Hope and Happiness into the New Year Thank you to Greenwald catering staff for welcoming our clients back and personally serving them with patience and care. OHEL would like to thank the donors, sponsors, and family members, without whom this trip would not have been possible. Mr. & Mrs. Bert Gross, Mrs. Rose Pol- lack, and many others spent count- less hours of their time and energy making sure that OHEL had eve- rything they needed to go on this trip. OHEL’s devoted staff worked tirelessly to make sure that this trip was a success, and that every individual had an unforgettable his past week, OHEL’s Adult tunity to go beyond their normal OHEL’s individuals like spoon the spot! few days away from the city. What Mental Health Services limits, and the freedom to push beading, painting, adult coloring, Chani Gross, an OHEL resident, a way to end the year and begin T(AMHS) went on a 3 day themselves out of their comfort Zumba, water aquatics, mini golf, remarked that she “was enthralled the New Year with so many indi- retreat to Bushkill Inn, in the zones. bingo, sports trivia, boating sports, by the trip and the range of spe- viduals feeling refreshed, invigor- Poconos. Over 120 individuals and Various life situations and set- and of course hiking to Dingmans cial planned activities.” Mr. Saul ated and accomplished. staff participated in the trip, all of tings that may seem passive for Falls. While walking the path- Kessler, owner of Bushkill Inn, Since 1969, OHEL has served as whom live in an OHEL residence some people can carry much anxi- way clients enjoyed viewing the left these parting remarks: “Last a dependable haven of individual or in OHEL’s supported housing ety and tension for others. The scenic Dingmans and Bushkill year I didn’t spend as much time and family support, helping peo- and apartment programs. While individuals had the opportunity Falls, many walking arm in arm with the group. This year I was ple of all ages surmount disabil- trip participants have signifi cant to experience countless activities as they climbed steps and assisted around more and had a chance to ity, everyday challenges, heal from psychiatric disabilities, through and situations that others may by OHEL AMHS staff. Everyone observe and see what really goes trauma, and manage with strength the help of OHEL’s dedicated and take for granted. Some individu- enjoyed a lively bonfi re complete on. OHEL’s work is amazing and it and dignity during times of crises. devoted team of staff and thera- als felt inspired to talk to new with singing lead by several young was great to see everyone enjoying OHEL serves thousands in need pists, many are effectively manag- people, while others were encour- men and all enjoyed roasted their time here again. I guess that’s every day in communities in New ing their illness, leading fulfi lled, aged to sit and mingle with large marshmallows and hot dogs. Sa- what this is about. Being a part of a York, New Jersey, California and happy and very independent lives groups. Some members tried new rah Kahan, LCSW and OHEL’s So- group and fi tting in with everyone worldwide. Individuals interested integrated within the community. foods, while others overcame fears cialization Director, led about 30 else.” in the many programs that OHEL This annual trip not only gives - whether the fear of talking to oth- clients in ice breaker and socializa- OHEL owes much gratitude to offers should contact OHEL at participants of OHEL’s AMHS an ers or swimming in water. tion groups and classes, breaking Saul Kessler, Isaac Greenwald and (800)-603-OHEL (6435). Like us opportunity to feel special, but There were a whole bunch down stigmas of those societally staff of Bushkill Inn and Confer- on Facebook at OHEL Children’s like any vacation, it provides them of activities that were aimed at deemed unfi t to date and get mar- ence Center for going out of their Home and Family Services and a temporary relief from the anxie- breaking down social barriers and ried due to mental illness. Three way to have the rooms ready and follow us on Instagram @OHEL- ties of life. It gives them an oppor- encouraging socialization among potential matches were made on constantly asking what is needed. Family Agudath Israel Hails Federal Court Ruling That Denial of Variances for Yeshiva Violates RLUIPA gudath Israel hailed the decision is- RLUIPA (The Religious Land Use and Insti- institution. This decision will allow the ye- a clear message that our religious rights will sued today by the federal court in tutionalized Persons Act) which became shiva to build a dormitory-based facility. not be trampled upon and we hope this will Afavor of Yeshiva Naos Yaakov. law in 2000. RLUIPA prohibits local zon- Rabbi Avi Schnall, Agudath Israel’s New serve as an example to other municipali- United States District Judge Freda Wolf- ing boards from imposing or implementing Jersey director, said, “This decision makes a ties.” Rabbi Schnall continued “Agudath Is- son ruled that the denial of the variances zoning and other land use regulations in a statement that the religious liberties of in- rael is proud to have worked together with by Ocean Township, NJ violates RLUIPA. manner that signifi cantly affects the free stitutions and individuals will be defended the Yeshiva and its attorney and is delighted Agudath Israel of America helped to draft religious exercise of a person, assembly, or even in the face of opposition. It also sends with this positive outcome.” At Silverstein Hebrew Academy’s Middle School, All Curriculum Is Connected reat Neck, NY (August 10, 2016): that goes beyond the textbook. They’re spread out over separate and segmented tinue to engage and excite students and en- Learning—and teaching—at the learning about the nature of cell division, classes. Similar philosophy is on display hance the learning process. “We want our GSonia and Max Silverstein Hebrew and as part of the curriculum, are asked in SHA’s math class, where teachers use a students to develop a love of learning, to Academy (SHA) in Great Neck is defi nitely to develop innovative presentations that progressive program called GO Math! to become active inquisitors. Our students are not “old-school.” Take the seventh grade display their fi ndings to classmates. The supplement course work. GO Math! is re- learning things in math and science classes biology class at SHA as an example. Yes, open-ended nature of the lesson allows nowned for using multiple skills —read- that would typically be taught in history there are the textbook assignments. There students at SHA to leverage their strengths, ing, writing, vocabulary, problem solving, or English,” says Mrs. Meisenburg. “They’re are lectures. But what you will also see in interests and passions to tackle a biology etc.—to solve math problems. “It brings an not just learning math, they’re building the biology class at SHA are students per- lesson that might have proved diffi cult to entire school’s curriculum into the math cultural literacy. We are doing this in every forming avant-garde interpretive dances, comprehend if only taught with more tra- classroom, while still being geared to all class with every student at every grade lev- children working on short stories, and ditional, or “old-school,” educational meth- the required state standards and tests,” says el.” maybe even a child working on an exotic ods. Gail Meisenburg, SHA’s middle school math So, if as a parent of an enthusiastic SHA sculpture of some sort. The seventh grade biology class at SHA and science teacher leader. “It’s an exciting student, you come home to fi nd your child Something is defi nitely going on at SHA is typical of the academy’s innovative ap- three-dimensional program that helps form working on a new dance routine, it might that you won’t fi nd at other schools. proach to contemporary education’s em- well-rounded students with a diversity of just be that he or she is brushing up on cel- At SHA, curriculum mirrors life: dynam- phasis on Science, Technology, Engineering, interests and educational experiences.” lular mitosis. ic and interconnected. Those dancers, the Arts and Math—or S.T.E.A.M.— by concen- For teachers at SHA, this time before For more information on the Sonia and short-story author and the sculpture artist trating on multiple areas in the S.T.E.A.M. the start of the new school year is a time Max Silverstein Hebrew Academy, call are indeed studying biology, just in a way discipline within one lesson rather than to prepare new lesson plans that will con- 516.466.8522, or visit www.shagn.org.

28 Av 5776 • Vol. V No. 34 (#176) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 27 28 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. V No. 34 (#176) • September 1, 2016 Community Corner • Recent Happenings Tomchei Shabbos Of Queens Celebrates Volunteerism

By Rachel Goldsmith that if a driver simply doesn’t show up, the small-time expense. What a bargain! How been fi lled and all of the routes are covered recipients will suffer. could anyone pass it up, especially with Elul each week. n Wednesday night, August 24, Tom- Wednesday night’s event helped volun- approaching? For the volunteers, participating in the chei Shabbos of Queens (TSQ) held teers get to know one another better, too. Drivers get the most publicity – and pos- Tomchei Shabbos operation is about more Otheir fi fth annual Volunteer Appre- Oftentimes, we see each other in passing on sibly the most gratifi cation – because they than just boxes of food. Many have con- ciation Evening. The TSQ warehouse on Tuesday or Wednesday nights, but many of get to interact with the recipients of pack- veyed the fulfi llment they receive from Metropolitan Avenue, which is usually lined the other volunteers are just familiar faces. ages, but they are only a small part of the participating in Tomchei Shabbos. As one with shelves of food boxes, had been trans- At the appreciation dinners, we got a chance operation. On Wednesday nights through- two-year driver, Halle Goldblatt, said to me formed into a colorful event space. Tables to get to know one another and make new out the year, groups of volunteers descend on the night of the dinner, “Volunteering for were decorated with balloons and a stage friends. And that’s one of the major goals upon the unassuming Tomchei Shabbos Tomchei Shabbos is one of the most grati- alluded to the forthcoming entertainment. that TSQ is working to achieve. There’s a de- warehouse on Metropolitan Avenue in Kew fying things that I do. I deliver to families Approximately 150 volunteers gathered for sire to make the volunteerism in TSQ more Gardens. The building fi lls with packers who I can see are in need, and it’s extremely a fun, light-hearted evening that was gra- friendly and less tachlis. The change of men- and drivers, focused and ready to make the rewarding to know that I, fi rsthand, am do- ciously sponsored by Seasons. Dinner was, tality can be seen in the weekly cholent, ku- night’s deliveries. There’s hardly a parking ing something to help them. The Volunteer of course, plentiful, and raffl e prizes were gel, and water bottles that are offered each spot available outside, as volunteers load Appreciation Night shows the volunteers donated by numerous local businesses. For that their hard work does not go unnoticed, entertainment, the “Twins from France” and it shows that the organization goes performed a 45-minute acrobatic show, in- It is a tremendous mitzvah for a small-time expense. above and beyond not only for the families cluding participants from the audience, and What a bargain! How could anyone pass it up, and individuals that they help but the vol- amusing all. unteers that help them as well.” Queens Borough President Melinda Katz especially with Elul approaching? In my own personal experience, I can stopped by to congratulate the leaders and say that we’ve been delivering to some of all of the volunteers and declared August 24 week. More volunteers stop and chat with their cars. The main room of the warehouse these families for six or seven years, and as “Tomchei Shabbos Volunteer Day,” pre- one another in the warehouse, and the over- is fi lled with rows of shelves and boxes over that time, we’ve made personal connec- senting a certifi cate to TSQ leaders Shimon all atmosphere has become more jovial. that overfl ow with Shabbos foods. Drivers tions with some of them. We worry about & Adina Pelman and Yitzchak & Aaron Katz. The idea is to help create more friendship sign in and load carts with the boxes they’ll their health and other life concerns and According to Yitzchak Katz, Melinda Katz among volunteers. need, and stop by the fresh & frozen foods check in with their relatives if things don’t (no relation, by the way) has been a “staunch Tomchei Shabbos of Queens began as an area so another group of volunteers can add seem right. They give us so much joy, too. supporter of TSQ ever since her days on the informal effort to feed those who could not chickens, cheese, and dips to the stash. As A steady stream of Wednesday night “good City Council. She has always championed put suffi cient food on their table. These soon as the shelves begin to empty, a new Shabbos wishes” gives me a chizuk that lasts our cause and frequently looks for ways to households are members of our Queens shift of volunteers arrives to label and re- through the rest of the week. When the benefi t us and organizations like us. She is Jewish communities, our shuls. The pack- stock the shelves with boxes of dry goods, relationship with benefi ciaries, as with the incredibly helpful to have as a friend and ages contain all the basics needed to make ready for the following week. The logistics organization, is so familiar, volunteerism no ally. Shabbos meals – generally the most expen- for all of this are tremendous and require a longer seems like a chesed project but sim- According to Yitzchak Katz, Tomchei sive meals of the week – with challah, grape whole team of leaders and volunteer coor- ply helping out one’s family. Isn’t that how Shabbos of Queens had organized volun- juice, chicken, eggs, some fruits and veg- dinators to be sure that enough boxes have it should be amongst klal Yisrael? teers for over 30 years, and they realized etables, and dessert. Every so often, dips, that they had never shown enough appre- cheese, and other tasty treats are included. ciation or acknowledgment. In truth, there Over the years, the operation has grown are many volunteers who have been part from four families to over 400 families who of the regular workings of TSQ for over 30 receive weekly boxes of food. Food is de- years, and they may or may not really need livered to every neighborhood – from Rego or want recognition. Nevertheless, it be- Park to Fresh Meadows, Jamaica Estates, came important for the leaders to express and Little Neck. Volunteers come from all some hakaras ha’tov. At last week’s event, of these areas, as well, so Tomchei is careful one driver, Avi Ringelheim, received special to try to have volunteers deliver in commu- recognition. He is going to be moving out nities other than their own, to preserve the of the community soon, and his 35 years of anonymity of recipients and prevent any regular deliveries are coming to an end. TSQ awkward situations. Currently, there are knows they wouldn’t exist without this type between 70 and 80 routes, with about four of long-term, dedicated volunteers. They families receiving packages on each route. want others to see his level of commitment A handful of volunteers were lost over the as an aspiration. Ringelheim is just one of summer, with people’s schedules changing a core group of steady volunteers; Katz was in the fall, so TSQ is currently looking to able to name a handful of others who have fi ll at least fi ve routes. Requiring nothing had a consistent presence for 30+ years. but a partner, a car, and a fairly small time These long-term volunteers know that their commitment of about an hour every two consistency is critical; there’s an awareness weeks, it is a tremendous mitzvah for a

28 Av 5776 • Vol. V No. 34 (#176) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 29 Community Corner • Recent Happenings Agra D’Pirka Nationwide Yarchei Kallah Scheduled for Labor Day By Malkie Lowinger

When R’Moshe Klein was vacationing in Europe this summer, the last thing he ex- pected was for someone to approach him about Agra D’Pirka. Klein is hosting the Monsey Agra D’Pirka Torah learning pro- gram at his Fountain View Assisted Living Facility in Monsey, and he is well aware that the program is profoundly affecting the community. Still he was overwhelmed when some- one said to him, “Reb Moshe, I come every morning and the program has mamish changed my life! I can’t tell you what a chesed this is!” R’Moshe was overwhelmed, but he wasn’t surprised. “I see it myself,” he says. “This program is very invigorating and el- evating. It took off way beyond anyone’s imagination. I’m honored to have the zechus to be offering it in Monsey l’zecher nishmas my father.” everyone to join us and reap the benefi ts of Rabbi Henoch Savitsky and Rabbi Noach Avigdor, says he is most impressed with the Agra D’Pirka is an organized and serious this outstanding program.” Isaac Oelbaum will be speaking at Khal Na- consistency of attendance at the shiurim. morning kollel program geared towards lo- The event will feature guest speakers in chlas Yitzchok, 141-43 73rd Avenue, in Kew “This,” he adds, “is because they are eagerly cal professionals, business owners, college Agra D’Pirka locations nationwide. Noted Garden Hills, Queens. Rabbi Savitsky has awaited. There’s a real thirst for Torah and students, retirees, or any else who wishes international lecturer for Ohr Somayach been involved with Agra D’Pirka in Queens an excitement in the air at Agra D’Pirka. I to increase his morning limud haTorah. Rabbi Yisroel Simcha Schorr, who will ever since it began seven years ago. His would even say that the atmosphere is fes- The program, founded by R’Ezra Klein of speak on the special days of Elul, and Rabbi daily shiur is attended by almost 30 peo- tive. Clearly, there’s a profound commit- Brooklyn, runs from 9:30 to 11:30 AM with Y. Bentzion Bamberger, who has made an ple. Rabbi Oelbaum is an internationally ment to Torah learning that inspires those an outstanding roster of maggidei shiur at impact on Agra D’Pirka with his monthly acclaimed speaker who is sought after by who are attending.” each location. Those who are already in- elevated shiurim, will be speaking in the many organizations. He will speak on as- Rabbi Bamberger, in Monsey, calls Agra volved in Agra D’Pirka are singing its prais- Monsey location. Agra D’Pirka in Monsey pects of the special month of Elul. D’Pirka, “a phenomenal program. It’s es. And once they get started, they main- is located at the FountainView Shul, 2000 Rabbi Aharon Kahn and Rabbi Lipa mechayeh the people. I feel the electricity tain a permanent commitment. FountainView Drive. Geldwerth are scheduled to speak at Kness- in the air, especially when people get in- There are currently Agra D’Pirka pro- Rabbi Yaakov Gross and Rabbi Ephraim es Bais Avigdor, 1720 Avenue J, in Flatbush. volved and ask questions. We are hoping it grams thriving in the communities of Boro Shapiro will be speaking at the Miami Rabbi Kahn lectures to almost seventy will grow and grow and this coming Labor Park, Flatbush, Queens, Lakewood, Miami Beach Kollel located at 3767 Chase Avenue. members of Agra D’Pirka every Monday and Day event will make more people aware of and Monsey, with many faithful partici- Rabbi Gross has been at the helm of the Mi- Wednesday. His hashkafas are absorbed to the shiur.” pants attending each one. ami Beach Kollel since its inception twenty such a degree that the group insisted he use Men of all backgrounds and ages are en- Great things are meant to be shared years ago. He has raised Torah to unparal- Skype to enable the shiurim to continue joying Agra D’Pirka. “The program is fl exi- with others. Thus will Agra D’Pirka be leled heights in Miami Beach and has wel- during the summer months. Rabbi Geldw- ble,” Rabbi Bamberger points out. “Even if offering a legal holiday Yarchei Kallah on comed Agra D’Pirka there with open arms. erth is a noted educator and a sought after you have an hour off in the morning here Monday morning , September 5th, in four Rabbi Shapiro is a world renowned speaker speaker. He has had thousands of talmidim or there, you can still come in and join us.” different locations. According to R’Ezra who has addressed tens of thousands of lis- over the decades of his harbotzas haTorah. Rabbi Bamberger notes that his Labor Day Klein, “There are many who are interested teners at the annual Tisha B’av event spon- It’s a star-studded lineup of outstanding shiur will focus on inyanei Chodesh Elul, in our program, but cannot attend because sored by the Chofetz Chaim Heritage Foun- maggidei shiur at this unique and excep- and will explore interesting and practical their schedule doesn’t allow it. The Yarchei dation. He is the Rov of Congregation tional event. Kallah offers an opportunity for virtually Shaarey Tefi llah in North Miami Beach. Rabbi Kahn, Mora D’asra of Knesses Bais CONTINUED ON P. 38 Solution to this issue’s puzzles

30 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. V No. 34 (#176) • September 1, 2016 Community Corner • Recent Happenings HaRav David Yosef Son of Maran HaRav Ovadia Yosef speaks for CHAZAQ Photo Credits: Gabe Solomon and Yaakov Katz

By Daniel Fink is pretty fl uent for an Israeli rabbi, speak- what we did for other people! that the event was a great success, and even ing eloquently and driving his point across “Hashem will ask us, ‘Did you do for oth- more than he could have imagined. Over s I walked into shul several weeks ago, throughout the hour-long speech. ers who did not know what you know? Did 175 children (!) were registered to yeshivah I noticed a Chazaq fl yer promoting He began his talk by describing the fi nal you use your powers to infl uence others?’ at the open house, and the work only begins Aa shiur with Rav David Yosef, son of moments of Rabban Yochanan ben Zakai’s Hashem cannot be fooled. You can’t tell him here. There are so many details that need to the late renowned Sefardi poseik, Rav Ovadia life. The great sage, whose life was dedicat- stories,” he reminded the audience. be addressed to assure every child is taken Yosef zt”l. While the fl yer had quite an at- ed to serving Hashem, cried bitter tears as After providing several parables, Rav Yo- care of accordingly. tractive look to it, what I found to be most he told his disciples that he wasn’t sure if he sef lamented over the fact that there are ten With the school year only days away intriguing was the title of the shiur: “Prevent- would go to Gan Eden or Gehinnom. “Why thousand Jewish boys and girls attending from beginning, Chazaq’s next initiative is ing Destruction in the Queens Community.” would a tzadik such as Rabban Yochanan public schools in the Queens community to inspire as many public school students Destruction? What destruction? Queens ben Zakai be scared?” asked Rav Yosef. “He and stated that the entire community at via their afterschool programs. “We need seems to be doing pretty well, I thought to was the light of Israel!” large must try to infl uence their friends and to expand our kids’ division, and we need myself. Well, if Chazaq’s goal was to catch Rav Yosef answered that Rabban Yochan- family to consider a yeshivah education. If to reach out to more teenagers,” said Yaniv. people’s attention, then they surely caught an ben Zakai feared that maybe when he Rabban Yochanan ben Zakai feared that he “The teens are critical because they have mine. And indeed, I made sure to make it reaches the heavenly tribunal he would be didn’t do enough for others, then we too way too much time on their hands, as, un- to Forest Hills for the Tuesday night shiur. told that he didn’t do enough for klal Yisra- have to be concerned. like yeshivos, public schools have early dis- As I arrived at the Beth Gavriel center for el. Maybe he could’ve done more! Thus he Indeed, after Rav Yosef conveyed his mes- missal, and thus our goal is to keep them off the well anticipated lecture, I couldn’t help cried bitterly as he was to leave this world.” sage of responsibility, Chazaq announced the streets and bring them to a safe, excit- but notice the excitement in the air. Lively Then came the moment I waited for. Rav an open house for parents of public school ing, and educational environment.” music was being played in the background Yosef would connect that story to “prevent- students the following night in the same lo- “We have inspired so many over the past while people munched on some refresh- ing destruction in Queens.” cation. Rav Yosef encouraged everyone to decade,” he adds, “and with the continuous ments awaiting the rav’s entrance. As the “Baruch Hashem, all who are here are tza- speak to a relative, a neighbor, or a friend, support of the broader community we can start time was approaching, the main shul dikim” said Rav Yosef (I’ll take that compli- who have children in public schools and en- and must do a lot more.” was packed from one end to the other, and ment any day). “All of you are praying and courage them to attend the open house, and Chazaq will be celebrating its tenth an- I was one of many who were left standing learning Torah every day, observe Shabbat, he concluded by blessing all who take his niversary with a gala Dinner at Leonard’s in the back. After a short introduction by and do what Hashem expects of you. message seriously with a heartfelt blessing. in Great Neck on September 21. For more Chazaq director Rabbi Ilan Meirov, I was in “But – one day we will have to report Although I myself was not at the open information or to reserve seats, please call for yet another surprise. Rav Yosef’s English back to Hashem in the next world about house, I was told by Yaniv Meirov of Chazaq 718-285-9132 or email [email protected]. Excellence and Rigor Defi ne Judaic and General Studies at Silverstein Hebrew Academy reat Neck, NY (August 11, 2016): At and extensive teacher training, SHA utilizes character. “Each child has a different style dents scoring signifi cantly above state aver- the Sonia and Max Silverstein He- the tools available through CIJE to better of learning. All our students will achieve ages and comparable to Great Neck School Gbrew Academy (SHA), as at all Yeshiv- prepare students for the 21st-century work- their goals, but they might get to those goals District 7th graders on the ELA exam. In terms ot, there is a delicate balancing act between place. At the same time, SHA emphasizes differently. We take the time to understand of Judaic studies, SHA students excel as ex- general education and Judaic studies that students’ mastery of Torah and Talmudic how a child learns best and then use the emplifi ed by their performance in the most requires constant attention. At SHA, the studies, using collaborative learning and in- necessary tools to create a rich and engaging recent Torah Bowl. SHA students took top school’s emphasis on academic rigor and an dependent research, skills that are critical to learning environment for each child,” said prize against Yeshivot that have been com- interconnected approach to curriculum has success across all subject areas. At SHA, stu- Shireen Deen-Butman, the Head of School peting in the Torah Bowl for many years. reaped benefi ts in this area. The school has dents learn to seamlessly blend millennia- for the Silverstein Hebrew Academy. “Our It is clear by all accounts that SHA is strik- consistently proven its ability to navigate old text with today’s technology. teachers are committed…and trained….to ing a chord with Jewish families looking for this philosophical tight rope—evidenced This structure of education also helps individualize their teaching approaches to excellence in Judaic and general education by its partnership with the Center for Ini- build students’ confi dence and helps SHA maximize each child’s unique learning capa- studies for their children—as evidenced by tiatives in Jewish Education (CIJE), a nation- develop the strong moral character required bilities and strengths.” SHA’s growing student body. wide organization dedicated to preparing of students at Yeshivot across the country. 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28 Av 5776 • Vol. V No. 34 (#176) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 31 Community Corner • Recent Happenings Chazaq Makes Last Minute Push For Public School Parents Photo credits: BSD Productions By Sergey Kadinsky

ith less than two weeks to go before the school Wyear begins, the Chazaq outreach organization held a forum at Beth Gavriel in Forest Hills to encourage public school parents consider enrolling their children to yeshivas. “We have twenty schools here and many organizations to assist with tui- tion payments and placement,” said Chazaq staff member Rabbi Moshe Teichman. “This is a last- minute push.” A quarter century ago, the col- lapse of the Soviet Union brought tens of thousands of Bukharian Jews to Queens. Prominent rab- bis and educators recognized that with the success of “Let my people go” their mission would change to “Let my people learn.” Yeshiva Primary and Ezra Acade- my in Queens, and Be’er Hagolah in Brooklyn, were among the early schools that provided a yeshivah education to children of immigrants. Financial diffi - culties and a Soviet upbringing that shunned religion kept many families away from yeshivos. and a generation of Bukharian Jews was educated at schools that had

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32 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. V No. 34 (#176) • September 1, 2016 Community Snapshots Photo Credits: Aharon Katz Wandering Que to benefit RCCS at YIQV on Wednesday August 24

28 Av 5776 • Vol. V No. 34 (#176) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 33 Community Corner • Recent Happenings David Weprin at the ‘Jewish Music Under the Stars’ Concert

ssemblyman David Weprin visited the ‘Jewish Music Under the Stars’ concert at Cunningham Park this past Wednesday. The event was, sponsored by the QJCC, AMetropolitan Council on Jewish Poverty, and UJA Federation. Rabbis Of The OU Getting A Tour At Wasserman’s Butcher Shop

34 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. V No. 34 (#176) • September 1, 2016 Community Corner • Recent Happenings Impact of Rebbetzin Jungreis By Sergey Kadinsky She experienced the physical holocaust fi rsthand at age eight. Rebbetzin Jungreis was born in the Hungarian city of ebbetzin Esther Jungreis, a leading voice in reli- Szeged, where her father Rabbi Avrohom HaLevi Jungreis gious outreach to unaffi liated Jews was mourned carried the Orthodox banner against a trend towards as- Ron August 24 before an overfl ow crowd at the Agu- similation that included Neolog, the local variant of Re- dah shul in Far Rockaway. The tributes poured from across form Judaism. In 1944, the mildly pro-Nazi Horthy regime the world, offering examples of her compassion, generos- was succeeded by the fanatical Arrow Cross party that ac- ity, empathy and determination to reverse the tide of as- celerated the murder of the country’s Jews. The Jungreis similation. “Her loving kindness, that was her secret to family avoided the fate of the six million kedoshim when success, that is how she was able to reach people,” said her their names were added to those on the Kastner train, son-in-law Rabbi Shlomo Gertzulin. which took 1,684 Jews from Bergen Belsen to Switzerland found in her son’s hesped when he spoke of how she wrote A story told by her grandson speaks of how she felt tired on the account of a bribe paid to the a leading SS offi cial. uplifting notes to her children and grandchildren. The Jew- but not down after delivering her Thursday shiurim, which Upon arriving in America as an intact family, her par- ish leadership that her parents demonstrated at home and were followed by long hours of answering questions and ents set out to strengthen Jewish identity, rebuilding after in their community is now practiced by her four children, offering advice. If the New York Times’ obituary compared the holocaust the spirituality that was largely destroyed Rabbi Yisroel Jungreis, Rabbi Osher Jungreis, Rebbetzin her role to that of a rabbi, certainly the time that she had in Europe and fading away in this country. Her father set Chaya Sora Gertzulin, and Slovie Wolff, who is a regular put into her work demonstrates the accuracy of the com- up a yeshiva and her mother dived into numerous chesed columnist in Chazaq Magazine. parison. activities such as bikur cholim, shidduchim, and hosting In the Queens Jewish Link family, our advertising man- In her book The Committed Life, she writes about her guests on Shabbos. The young Esther Jungreis learned ager Yaakov Serle regards Rebbetzin Jungreis as an inspira- efforts to marry off singles. Many couples can say that they from their examples. As Jews in New York moved to the tion. Raised in a traditional household, he went to an out met at a Hineni event on the Upper West Side where she suburbs, she and her husband Rabbi Theodore (Meshulem) of state college and in his own words was on his way out spoke, but not all stories are as happy. In one chapter, a Jungreis followed and founded Congregation Torah Ohr in of the community when he learned about Hineni. Through woman called her in despair after an engagement was bro- North Woodmere in 1963. A decade later, with the bless- her lectures and books, Serle’s observance soon surpassed ken. Rebbetzin Jungreis immediately drove to her home ing of the Satmar Rebbe, she founded Hineni which took that of his childhood and he became more diligent about to console her. She was fashionable, and relatable to the her on speaking engagements around the world, led her to his davening, learning schedule, and how he raised his single Jewish professionals who attended her lectures. She publish four books and her weekly Jewish Press column, children. “Rebbetzin Kanievsky said that while she is the was warm and at the same time quite serious in calling receive honors from many Jewish organizations and from rebbitzen of Bnei Brak, Rbbetzin Jungreis the rebbitzen of assimilation a spiritual holocaust. As educators can claim President George W. Bush, who selected her to accompany the world.” students as their children, her son Rabbi Osher Jungreis him on a visit to Israel. To learn more about Rebbetzin Jungreis’ life and work, said that she considered her “Hineni family as her spiritual Nevertheless, she always had time for her family. At any as well as upcoming events at Hineni, visit www.hineni. children.” hour, on any day. Here too, the rabbinic comparison can be org My friend Mike Schenkman A’H By Yaakov Serle

y friend Mike Schenkman A’H 78 years old was killed on Wednes- Mday August 24 at 6:30 AM riding his bike something he loved to do. Mike was 78 years old but had the health of a 50 year old. Everyone thought he would live to 100. Some of the things Mike loved to do was bike, run, and exer- cise. I was fortunate to ride with him on many occasions. One time we were riding and I had an accident in Flushing Meadow Park. Mike stayed with me until my wife, Hatzolah, by the Long Island Sound near the Cross Cross Island Parkway and make a left turn no more tragic accidents in Queens. and made sure that me and my bike were Island Parkway. It is a breathtaking view in front of on going traffi c on Northern Mike and I rode together in the New completely taken care of and he even of the water. One very dangerous crossing Boulevard. We did this many times. The York Century bike ride. It just so happens brought my bike home. Mike was a good was Northern Boulevard and 223 Street. traffi c controls at the intersection are not the ride will be in memory of Mike Schen- friend and I will miss him. The reason it is dangerous is because you adequate and I appeal to all elected offi - kman.A’H . It is a well deserved honor for One of the routes we liked to ride was must cross 3 lanes pass an entrance to the cials to remedy this situation so there are Mike. Rabbi Shmuel Marcus Observing Rav Dovid Feinstein Shlita, Rosh Yeshiva Meat Kashering At Wassermans of Mesivta Tiferes Yerushalayim, shopping at Aron’s Kissena Farms

28 Av 5776 • Vol. V No. 34 (#176) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 35 Chazaq Makes Last Minute Push gram that fi ts. It’s not easy, but ucator. Parents asked him and public school, he was invited it is worth it,” said Rabbi Label other school representatives to the Chazaq forum by phone. Lam, principal of Shaarei Zion in about the midos of the students, Other parents were emailed and For Public School Parents Forest Hills. “A yeshivah educa- hashkafah, parent-child rela- one reported a message on her CONTINUED FROM P. 32 cal yeshivos as families become tion is not an expenditure; it is tions, and the strength of secular WhatsApp. more observant and affl uent, an investment.” classes. “It’s about the academ- “We’re looking for a yeshivos a sizable Jewish student body and more seats are available for Rabbi Lam fi elded questions ics and the pocketbook, too. We that are competitive with pub- but a complete absence of Jew- students. For Chazaq, the mis- from parents by offering his own want our children to be closer lic schools academically,” said ish values and practices. sion is not complete until every story as a public school alumnus to religion,” said Forest Hills Rego Park parent Inessa Katanov. Today, the numbers are higher Jewish child receives a yeshivah who later became observant and resident Rafael Leviev. A father “Our daughter is very advanced.” for Bukharian Jews attending lo- education. “We try to fi nd a pro- is now a yeshivah parent and ed- of two daughters who attend Although many of the schools at the forum did not come with de- tails such as graduation rates, Re- gents scores, and average grades, one representative described it as the start of the conversa- tion, inviting parents to visit the schools before making the deci- sion. It was an effort worthy of a po- litical campaign, as Chazaq vol- unteers looked up names, called relatives and friends, anyone they knew who was Jewish and in public school. The result was approximately two hundred par- ents and children at Beth Gavriel learning about the available op- tions in tuition assistance and schools. “We provide assistance that makes the difference. We work with schools through our network of donors,” said Rabbi Robert Garber, who founded the nonprofi t Our Jewish Children with his wife Susan. “Our daugh- ter interned at a public school in Rego Park and found kids there with kippot.” It is a rare sight in our time, but as these chil- dren continue to attend public school, what are the odds that their heads will remain covered? “The biggest factor that relates to remaining connected is a Jewish education.” In the week since the event, Our Jewish Chil- dren provided support to several students in need of tuition assis- tance, including those already attending yeshivah but at risk of dropping out due to fi nancial hardship. “Parents are afraid what it may mean,” said Tzivia Fried- man, director of Nefesh Acade- my in Borough Park, describing children who become more observant than their parents. “I tell them that schools and parents are a team. It’s about respect for parents and tradi- tions.” When asked about secu- lar education, Friedman points out that over 90 percent of grad- uates at her all-girls school go on to college. Torah Anytime founder Shi- mon Kolyakov represented Ye- shiva Primary in Hollis Hills, alongside founder and dean Rabbi Zalmen Deutscher. “I’m a product of this yeshivah. It was a small yeshivah back then, and its classes have stayed small for individual attention,” said Kolya- kov. Speaking from experience, he said that while it is possible to attend public school and be- come observant later in life, the risk is too great. “The seeds planted in me were here.”

For more information about Chazaq’s programs for public school kids, please contact Yaniv Meirov at 917-617-3636 or email [email protected]

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28 Av 5776 • Vol. V No. 34 (#176) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 37 Anti-Semitism 2016 Staying Fit CONTINUED FROM P. 23 charged with two counts of aggravated Dov Segal malicious wounding. Farooqui traveled on average, every single day. Moreover, to Turkey in the past year and may have these numbers do not even account for all tried to team up with ISIS militants. He the online harassment we see every hour attacked a woman and a man at an apart- on social media, which is widespread and ment complex in Roanoke, yelling “Allahu is diffi cult to quantify.” Akbar.” Authorities believe Farooqui may The 5 biggest Fitness Myths Online venom is our new tzarah and it have been trying to behead the male vic- boggles the mind as to how infl uential it tim. Myth #1) Fitness Tip of the Week: is, especially with the young. Greenblatt Alter hearing reports like this, it is no No pain, no gain. reiterated, “Online hate is particularly dis- wonder that Americans are gravitating to The ongoing perception is that people Stationary Lunges - 3 sets of 20 (on turbing because of the ubiquity of social Donald Trump when he says that he will need to feel pain through the entirety of media and its deep penetration into our deal strongly with these Islamic radicals, their workout or they’re not getting the each side) daily lives, plus the anonymity offered to especially those wanting to get into our benefi t. As a fi tness trainer, that one’s very 1) Stand fl at on the fl oor with your certain platforms that facilitates this phe- country. In an August 15 speech, Trump frustrating to me. You shouldn’t be exercis- feet together. Step your right foot out nomenon. The issue has grown exponen- said, “In the Cold War, we had an ideolog- ing at a level of pain ever. However, feel- in front of your left. Place your right tially in recent years, because the Internet ical screening test. The time is overdue ing discomfort or a muscle “burn” during a foot fl at on the fl oor and keep your left provides racists and bigots with an outlet to develop a new screening test for the workout is OK. to reach a potential audience of millions.” threats we face today. I call it extreme If it’s so intense you’re thinking of pass- toes on the fl oor behind you. Anti-Semitism is so prevalent that it vetting.” Among those excluded, Trump ing out, or you can’t continue the workout 2) Keep your shoulders pulled back, warranted a response from the White said, would be anti-Semites. “As we have for longer, then it’s too diffi cult and you’re your chin up and your hips pulled in. House. On January 27, at the Righteous seen in France, foreign populations have at increased risk for injuries or burnout. Slowly bend your right knee and low- Among the Nations Awards Ceremony brought their anti-Semitic attitudes with er your body down toward the fl oor. that took place at the Israeli Embassy, them.” The ban that he is calling for Myth #2) President Barack Obama made a power- would also exclude those who are intol- You can spot reduce for tight abs or Keep your right knee in line with your ful statement on fi ghting anti-Semitism. erant of minorities and especially those toned arms. right ankle. Don’t let your knee move “Anti-Semitism is a distillation. It is an who would seek to impose Islamic reli- You won’t see muscle defi nition or a beyond the line of your foot. Your right expression of an evil that runs through so gious law on the United States. nice six-pack despite how many crunches leg should create a 90-degree angle. much of human history, and if we do not This all sounds very good, but whether you do, because of the layer of fat resting answer that, we do not answer any other this type of exclusion is feasible is anoth- on top of your muscles. 3) Maintain your form as you move form of evil.” er matter. Many scholars believe it would Don’t focus too much on a body part. Try downward, and then move straight Unfortunately, we expect to hear about be impossible to implement. Neverthe- to get them all. You may have beautiful tri- back up to standing. Keep your left more acts of hate as more radicalized ISIS less, the fact that one candidate is at least ceps. However, until the fat is gone, most toe on the fl oor throughout the move- sympathizers surface. All kinds of violent recognizing the deleterious effect that people wouldn’t know it’s there. ment. Move straight down, and then behavior are attributed to them. Just last radical Islam is having on our country weekend there was a stabbing in Virginia. and the world is giving the voting pub- Myth #3) straight up. Avoid rocking forward or The FBI is investigating to see whether lic pause. Anti-Semitism won’t be going Women shouldn’t lift weights because back during the exercise. the attacker was inspired by the Islamic away in 2016 on its own. We have to com- it’ll make them bulky. 4) Place your hands on your hips or State terror group. Wasil Farooqui was bat it with every ounce of our beings. Bodybuilders spend four to fi ve hours a down at your sides. You can also hold day trying to build muscles. You really have to overload those muscles to create bulk. hand weights to add more diffi culty to It’s very, very diffi cult. the exercise. Agra D’Pirka Nationwide Yarchei Kallah Women have too much estrogen to 5) To alternate, begin with your build large amounts of bulk. Guys build right foot in front and lunge. Return Scheduled for Labor Day muscles faster because they have testoster- your right foot to center, lunge with one. So don’t fear the barbells, but don’t CONTINUED FROM P. 30 According to Rav Kahn, this is only the life too heavy. Strength training helps de- your left leg and repeat steps. beginning of the revolution. “There are crease body fat, increase lean muscle mass halachos. hundreds of such Jews, if not thousands, and burn calories more effi ciently. Hip Flexor Stretch R’Rafi Klein, Executive Director of the in our communities. We have touched FountainView in Monsey, agrees that many in the program already, and the Myth #4) each person can benefi t from the pro- dream has almost no end.” Protein is crucial only after a workout. gram according to his personal sched- He adds that he wishes R’Ezra Klein, It’s important to have protein through- ule. “Somebody told me,” he says, “that Founder of Agra D’Pirka, “gezunt and hat- out the day. The best way to get protein he works four days a week but he’s off zlacha to be able to follow through on is through foods such as a chicken, fi sh, on Thursdays. So he comes on that day his great ambition of harbotzas haTorah. low-fat dairy products, etc. To fi ll in the and he says it’s become the highlight of May we all merit the siyata dishmaya that gaps between meals, look for lean protein the entire week. He loves the Torah at- we need to make it happen.” shake powders and bars. Be sure that it mosphere, the speakers, the shul, and the As Elul begins, so does the new Zman has a proper caloric/protein ratio so that amenities.” in Yehivos and Batei Medrash around the you don’t take in excess calories in the A woman also approached R’Rafi to world. Agra D’Pirka’s Yarchei Kallah of- process. thank him for the program, saying, “My fers a unique opportunity for the olam kids are calling me to tell me that Tatty’s a in these communities to join the rest of Myth#5) different person ever since he joined this klal yisroel in beginning a refreshing new Your weight is the end all, be all. Kneel on your right knee, cushion- program. He’s more upbeat and happy. ‘zman’ of Torah study. It’s an opportunity Newbies hit the gym, and then weigh ing your knee with a folded towel or He feels like he’s part of something big!” not to be missed. themselves every day on the scale. Week-after-week, they see no downward mat. trend on the scale and get impatient. Place your left foot in front of you, People starting saying, “I haven’t lost bending your knee and placing your any weight. This is pointless, I’m not ac- left hand on your left leg for stability. complishing anything”. They’re stuck in this paradigm that weight is the ultimate Place your right hand on your right barometer for fi tness. They don’t realize the hip. Keep your back straight and ab- progress they’ve made and give up. dominal muscles tight. The truth is, after a few months of in- Lean forward, shifting more body creased exercise, they are healthier because weight onto your front leg. You should they’ve reduced risk factors such as blood sugar levels. Even though a person may not feel a stretch in your right thigh. be losing weight, his health has improved Hold for 30 seconds. in ways that might not be measured by the Switch legs and repeat. scale.

Dov Segal is a Master Fitness Trainer specializing in weight loss, Post-rehab, muscle strength, back pain, and heart conditions. He has private studios located in Manhattan, Queens and 5 towns. Female and male trainers are available. For more information, you can visit www.fi tnes- s1on1.net, email ds@fi tness1on1.net or call 347-619-9035

38 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. V No. 34 (#176) • September 1, 2016 Financially Forward Gerald Harris

Has Oil Bottomed Out? or more than two years, oil and either at or near a bottom. the investors who bought it have At the same time, according to Busi- Fgone through very tough times. ness Insider, hedge funds and other mon- The price crashed, there has been only a ey managers have increased their long very modest rebound, production is still positions in futures contracts for Brent outpacing demand, and major producers Crude and West Texas Intermediate by continue to pump as much as they can. 118 million barrels in the week ending The industry has been all but written off August 16 – a record one-week increase. by many investors. But, fi nally, there may Moreover, some of this buying is said to be some light at the end of the tunnel. have come from managers who until re- Over the last number of weeks, some cently had been bearish on oil. very smart money has started to bet big On August 25, oil was trading at $47.32/ on energy. Large, private-equity inves- barrel. Since the beginning of the year, tors, who adroitly stepped aside while the price has fl uctuated between approx- the price of crude was falling, now think imately $27-$50 per barrel. the price of oil is bottoming out. That’s the opinion of Thomas McNulty, What A Difference a Houston-based director in the valua- Two Years Makes tions and fi nancial risk management at Companies that a few years ago were Navigant. And, he adds, they’re anticipat- enjoying record earnings are now mak- ing a rebound in oil and doing the due ing just a fraction of that, and in many diligence that precedes making deals. cases showing substantial losses. That’s prompted them to cut the number of Is That A Bull I See? rigs they’ve been using and also cut back McNulty believes that oil-fi eld services sharply on other exploration and produc- companies, which were hit very hard tion projects. Scores of energy companies during the oil debacle, now may serve as went bankrupt in the recent oil crash and a gauge for a possible recovery in the in- an estimated 250,000 oil workers, half of dustry. them in the U.S., are now without jobs.

It’s enormously difficult to forecast the price of oil, and one of the reasons is because producing countries never disclose the exact amounts of oil they are pumping or the amounts of their reserves

“When they stop lowering prices for Since oil began to crash in June 2014, drilling day rates, equipment, fl uid, water prices have made a number of attempts disposal, and in some cases maybe even to recover, but they are still far below increase prices by a small amount, that the $115 per barrel they were at the start says you’re in the vicinity of a bottom,” of this decline and also far below what McNulty told Business Insider. many producers need to drill profi table And that’s exactly what’s been happen- wells. ing. In fact, Business Insider reports that Earlier this year, a number of highly Schlumberger and Halliburton, the two respected industry experts such as Fatih largest oil fi eld services companies in the Birol, the head of the International Ener- world, recently said that they were rene- gy Agency, said he thought that the price gotiating prices on their equipment, a of oil may have bottomed out. But even good indication they believe prices have optimists think it could be years before started to fi rm. the price returns to the $90-$100 per bar- There’s another bullish sign: Oil drill- rel, the range it was for much of the last ers have been increasing the number of decade. rigs they’ve been using in the last few It’s enormously diffi cult to forecast the weeks. This marks a distinct change in price of oil, and one of the reasons is be- the downward trend that was evident cause producing countries never disclose while oil had been declining. the exact amounts of oil they are pump- Baker Hughes is one of the world’s larg- ing or the amounts of their reserves. Also, est oil fi eld services companies and it also industry experts don’t know the exact keeps track of and reports on the number amount of crude being held in inventory. of rigs in use each week. The company But what is known is the very high lev- reported that the number of rigs in use el of pessimism about the energy indus- increased by 76 in the last eight weeks, try, and that’s another sign oil may fi nally the most that has been added in this time be bottoming out. frame since 2014. Investors who are lucky enough to “It is clear that there has become com- time the bottom of this decline correctly, fort around profi tability in certain parts and who are willing to back their opinion of the country at this price level, and I with their money, stand to make huge think that’s bullish,” McNulty said. profi ts if they are right. We’ll fi nd out soon enough. Taking Positions Some sophisticated players in the in- Sources: bloomberg.com; dustry are starting to take positions in businessinsider.com; nytimes.com; debt, which suggests they believe oil is zerohedge.com

Gerald Harris is a fi nancial and feature writer. Gerald can be reached at geraldhrs@ yahoo.com

28 Av 5776 • Vol. V No. 34 (#176) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 39 Dating Today Goldy Krantz How Dare You?

CONTINUED FROM P. 1 this young man and knew that she didn’t shadchan listen to her? My friend ended whom the single does not want to go out even want to go on a 45-minute coffee the call by saying that she left the shad- with is being a bully and they lose the title cause she is not someone who gets angry date with him. She didn’t want to waste chan a voicemail message. of shadchan. They are not the shaliach of quickly and she avoids confrontation at all his or her time. But she also didn’t want Two days later, after one more voice- Hashem by making the singles feel stupid costs; but in this instance, my friend was to embarrass this fellow by saying that she mail message from my friend, the shad- – or worse than they already feel – about very annoyed. She said that a shadchan didn’t want to date him. She ended up chan chose to text her back in response to being single. Sometimes the shadchanim had contacted her as she saw her shidduch telling him that there must be some sort all the voicemails. My friend asked if she think that single equals a stupid or weak profi le on a database. She asked my friend of miscommunication because she was can call this woman to be able to speak individual whom they can pressure into if she had ever gone out with a specifi c already dating someone and perhaps the with her instead of having a texting con- dating someone. That is completely young man. My friend said that she hadn’t shadchan mixed her name up with some- versation. The woman texted, “No.” My wrong!! dated him but knows who he is because one else’s as she has a very common name. friend texted, asking how the fellow got There are wonderful shadchanim out she has seen him at many singles events, there who truly and deeply care for singles had a few short conversations with him, and listen to the singles and do their best and they share common friends. She told “I’ve watched my friends become kallahs and mothers by setting them up with people that they the shadchan that she wasn’t interested in feel are compatible. These shadchanim dating him. The shadchan kept pressur- while I am still waiting my turn. counsel the singles and are a support team ing her. My friend said that she told the But I feel like this is a cruel joke” for the single. They encourage singles and shadchan that she already knew him and do all they can for the best interests of the didn’t like his personality and didn’t want singles. A few weeks ago I wrote of a man to date him. The shadchan then made a My friend said that she was fuming af- her number when she specifi cally said who came to my offi ce for insurance as- comment about my friend judging a book ter she hung up. “How dare that woman that she did not want to go out with him. sistance, and in the span of ten minutes by its cover and hoping that this never give out my number when I said I didn’t The shadchan texted back that she was called several singles setting up dates and happens to her, and then hung up before want to date him? Did she think I’d give not the one to give the fellow my friend’s apologizing for not calling sooner. He ex- my friend had a chance to respond. This in and go out with him because he called number. My friend texted that he told her plained that he does his best because he was far from judging a book by its cover. “I me? Does she think I don’t know what that she did. According to my friend, the too is single and treats singles as he wants know him! We’ve spoken and spent time I want?” I allowed my friend a few min- “shadchan” texted one question over and to be treated. That is what shadchanim together. I don’t like him. What’s wrong utes to vent because she was more than over. The question was, “Have you ever should do! with saying that?!” Absolutely nothing. entitled to do so. I completely agreed with been married before?” When my friend I don’t know who this charlatan of a Three days later, my friend said that the my friend. How could this shadchan go asked her to stop repeating the question, shadchan was that my friend was commu- same fellow whom she told the shadchan against someone’s explicit instructions/di- the woman (I will no longer refer to her as nicating with, but I don’t think that she she didn’t want to date, called her. She rectives? It isn’t as if my friend is mental- a shadchan, as I feel she has lost all privi- has singles’ best interests at heart. May- was very confused and asked who gave ly handicapped and can’t make decisions leges to be called one by abusing her pow- be she sets people up because she needs him her number. The fellow said that it for herself. My friend is 38 and has been er) texted, “Since you haven’t been mar- to feel good about herself: “I set up four was the shadchan. My friend was now a working professional for 16 years. She is ried, how do you know what you want? couples this week. I really help singles.” put into an awkward position. She knew not an idiot or “simple.” So why didn’t the Can’t you see I’m helping you?” Maybe she feels like a know-it-all, but to My even-tempered friend said that she say/text such cruel words and go against wanted to scream, but texted the woman someone’s wishes, and then to complain that she knew this fellow and had spoken to a friend that she is “just trying to help,” with him on several occasions. It wasn’t while speaking lashon ha’ra about my as if they were strangers; therefore, she friend? That is wrong. was able to make an informed decision Let me give you all a bit of unsolicited that she did not want to date him and felt advice. Take it or leave it, I don’t care. Ad- that the woman was very wrong in her ac- vice: just because you are married or label tions. The woman did not respond for a yourself as a shadchan, does not mean that few hours and then made the mistake of you know what is best for singles! It took texting someone without looking at the me 11 years to fi nd my husband. All that it contact information of who she was tex- did was make me an expert in fi rst dates. ting; the woman texted my friend instead I knew all the restaurants, what to order, of the intended recipient! My friend sent what to discuss. Now that I am married, I me a screenshot of the text; it read, “I tried try not to give advice. I just give my opin- to help ____, but she is living in la la land. ion, because I know and accept that I don’t She’s sitting home getting older and old- know all there is to know about dating er. She’s hurting herself.” I gasped when and relationships. Yes, I have had many I read it. My friend said that she texted experiences that I have learned from, but I this woman that she texted her and not am not a dating expert. Those who insult the person that she intended, and if this singles don’t deserve the title of shadchan. is what she considered helping someone Insults are not constructive criticism. It’s fi nd a shidduch, then she should stop. no wonder why some older singles don’t She ended with, “How dare you treat me want to date anymore; not only are they or any single like we are morons and that tired of going out with the wrong type don’t know what we want?!” of person, they are tired of dealing with I truly can’t believe this had happened pushy shadchanim. (Please note that I am to anyone, let alone my smart, adventur- not referring to those shadchanim who re- ous, beautiful, and accomplished friend. ally care and try their best.) Any “shadchan” who pressures, belittles, If you think that I am being harsh and or insults a single for not going out with am wrong, that is fi ne. You are allowed someone or not giving someone a second your opinion, just as I am allowed mine. chance is not a shadchan but a bully. Yes, But how about listening to someone I said bully! I hate the term and think whom you care about go through what my it is overused but it applies here. Merri- friend did and then tell me that “the shad- am-Webster.com defi nes the word “bul- chan was doing her best to help, and your ly” as “a blustering browbeating person; friend wasn’t even willing to give the guy especially: one habitually cruel to others a try, and that in this instance your friend who are weaker.” I fully believe that shad- is wrong.” Go ahead – email that to me. I chanim who force their will on singles by dare you. pressuring them to go out with someone Hatzlachah to you all!

Goldy Krantz is an LMSW and a lifelong Queens resident, guest lecturer, and author of the shiduch dating book The Best of My Worst. She can be contacted at bestofmy- [email protected]

40 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. V No. 34 (#176) • September 1, 2016 Helpful Books Worth A Look s"xc Eta Feuerman-Yaeger, LMSW 11

The Journal of Best Practices: A Memoir of Marriage, Asperger Syndrome, and One Man’s Quest to be a Better Husband By David Finch

This book will help you:

• Strengthen your empathy skills

• Take initiative in caring for your spouse Erev avid Finch wrote about his jour- ney of self-improvement to bet- Dter his marriage, following his diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome. As he discusses, people with Asperger’s may be Shabbos very intelligent verbally, but lack social skills and empathy. They tend to focus on themselves, have diffi culty connect- ing to people and reading social cues. These traits understandably can inter- Alerts! 2 fere with having a giving and loving re- lationship. (Note: Asperger Syndrome is a term that has been made obsolete by the DSM 5; it is now subsumed under Autism Spectrum Disorder.) Apparently, 7. Children should not be in the kitchen while because people with Asperger’s are high in a while.” He writes about his thought functioning, intelligent, and can com- process for each skill and readers can see preparations for Shabbos are being made. pensate their way through social inter- his internal struggle to get it all right. actions, they often go undiagnosed until For me, the most valuable concept later in life. that I gained from this book was how 8. Start Shabbos preparations early. This memoir is hilarious and heart- Finch worked on managing his tendency warming. The author earnestly tries to of self-centeredness, which is something Last minute rushing causes change himself for the sake of his mar- I relate to. He had to push himself out of hazardous and hectic situations. riage, with a large amount of success. his usual self-centered patterns of think- He takes copious notes on how to be a ing to open up to his family’s needs. For better father and husband. It is inspir- example, in his regular morning routine, 9. Never hold a child while ing to read about the author working there was no room for helping with the deliberately on himself for the better kids, with his extra-long shower and lei- drinking a hot liquid.

It is inspiring to read about the author working deliberately 10. Take all phones off the hook before on himself for the better and a spouse bathing children erev Shabbos. who loves him with all his quirks 11. Have all necessary equipment with you and a spouse who loves him with all his surely breakfast. He had to accept that before putting your children in a bath. quirks. Much of what the author talks his routine would be different and more about and works on is relatable to peo- disorganized when he got more involved ple with and without Asperger’s. Finch, in taking care of the kids in the morning. 12. NEVER, under any being intellectual and good at follow- Finch worked on being a giving partner circumstance leave a child alone in ing instructions, needed to break down by looking for opportunities to put his social skills into minute steps so that spouse fi rst and taking initiative. Taking the tub- not even for a moment! he could follow through on them. This initiative and keeping someone else’s actually makes for a great guide on em- needs in mind without being reminded Take the child with you! pathy for all people, like learning how is something I want to work on. to just listen without providing a solu- David Finch is now a public speaker tion, and making the important people on increasing the ability to empathize in your life a priority. “Respect my wife’s and improving relationships, utilizing time and space. Be more involved with the principles of Acceptance and Com- the kids. Manage myself and my emo- mitment Therapy, as per his website. I A PROJECT OF THE TORAH SAFETY COMMISSION tions- my wife shouldn’t have to do that. much admire the author for tackling a Have fun while we do things- don’t make personal challenge and working on him- everything a drama fest. Help lighten my self, something that can be inspirational wife’s burden by showing initiative once for all of us.

Eta Feuerman-Yaeger, LMSW is a psychotherapist who works with children, adults, and groups, PREVENTION is the first step to RESCUE. with offi ces in Queens and Brooklyn. She can be reached at [email protected].

28 Av 5776 • Vol. V No. 34 (#176) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 41 Politics & Ethics Abe Fuchs A Psychological Profi le Of Donald Trump Vs. Someone Else

CONTINUED FROM P. 1 builder, and one could argue that even atory tuition demands to accompany the could assassinate her, saying, “I don’t his foray into the casino business in learning steps to graduate the “univer- know” under his breath after that. He vice presidential nominee Tim Kaine Atlantic City was a divergence from his sity.” I wondered why he wouldn’t just later twisted this to mean that of course said that Trump enjoyed fi ring people; core business of building structures to want to give people their money back, he meant that the NRA people have pow- my impression is that sometimes he did rent out to others or to sell. considering the number of people who er in numbers and would stop any such and sometimes he didn’t. As with any- Obviously, his dilly dallying with all were unhappy with the experience, and bad nomination to the highest court. one, if he liked the person that he had of his side businesses was just a silly am- my answer is that Trump had little to do The real meaning was: no real meaning – to fi re he didn’t enjoy it, and if he was bition that he could get even richer by with it the same way he had little to do it was just a stupid, tasteless joke that he fed up with the person then he did enjoy just slapping his name on any number with his other unserious business ven- made to look cool to the NRA people – fi ring him. I’ve been trying to fi gure out, of things like Trump Steaks, vodka, air- tures. Furthermore, he was silly enough a group that as a “New Yorker” he nev- ever since he announced his candidacy, lines, water, mortgages, etc., and in that to believe that if students gave a high er identifi ed with anyway. When Trump as to where his heart and his real pas- way I don’t blame all those who make assessment rating, right after the gradua- had “New York values” he agreed with sions lie. fun of those things. But for Bloomberg tion or completion of the course – under curbing gun rights. I do believe that Trump is a patriot and to say that Trump is just a con man is the watchful eye of the instructor – that The moral of the story is that I believe I believe that his father, whom he models just Bloomberg catering to the left, since it meant they really were very satisfi ed that, as Bill O’Reilly says about Trump, himself so much after, taught him that. Trump is a marketer and he said things As I see it, Trump believes in the Amer- in the primary that he would never do ican exceptionalism idea, feels that we Trump was really a pioneer in another area as well – to attract attention and to show that shouldn’t be taken advantage of by other he’s tougher than Ted Cruz and the rest. countries because of ideologies of free that of hiring women to executive positions Trump would never throw hardworking trade, and that we should be able stand when none of the other builders were doing that. illegals out of the country, who are par- up to countries who have emerged from ents of American children, and he would the Third World—much of what China not execute the families of terrorists and Mexico were, not that long ago. He he doesn’t believe in the NRA, which with the course, not realizing that it can who were not found to be part of the also believes that criminals and terror- Trump is now allied with; but the core of be an obligatory or somewhat coerced terrorist acts. How do I know this? Be- ists shouldn’t be able to stifl e the law and Trump’s business wealth does not come type of rating. Being taught, no doubt cause he never repeats any of these ab- order that Americans enjoyed for much – from him being a con man – rather the by his father, not to bow to pressure surdities! He says these things the same but certainly not of our recent history. opposite; one could say that Trump was from those students to give them back way he has gold-plated faucets in his Crime took over much of our cities since one of the pioneers to bring back NYC their money, he opted instead to take Trump Tower apartment – he’s a show- the mid ‘60s, to come down a lot towards from its demise in the early ‘70s. That’s it to court where it will be determined man and a marketer. The only thing is the end of the ‘90s, and terrorism threat- when Trump bought and renovated the whether he was right for not giving in to that he is a poor marketer when it comes ened the security of the civilized world Commodore Hotel, something many the demands for a refund. A real con man to showing the segments of the elector- starting from the assassination of Robert thought was just a useless pile of bricks would not let it go to court because he is ate who don’t “get him” that he really is Kennedy in 1968, then onto the Munich in a non-desirable location. not judgment-proof, and presumably his thought-out, a visionary, and extremely massacre in 1972, and the rest is history. Many don’t remember the seriously defense is not a bankruptcy proceeding; productive when it comes to business Trump is obviously a very successful bad condition New York City was in at if it were, the case would not proceed on that he really knows and cares about – businessman even though those on the that time, when we almost went bank- the merits of the case. namely the building trade. left want to point at his bankruptcies rupt and Gerald Ford was famously quot- The feud that he had with Megyn Kel- So what does he know about being a of a few companies—but anyone in fi - ed as saying to New York “go to hell,” ly really bothered me. Why wouldn’t he president of the United States? Answer: nance knows that not every business talking about bailing it out with feder- be able to handle a simple, straightfor- the same way he was a visionary about works out, and even a good stock ana- al funds. During that period, there was ward question about the language he bringing back NYC to its former glory, so lyst will buy some clunkers over time. also a heavy migration out of NYC and used when he argued, as a N.Y. person- could he be a visionary for the country. Those like Gloria Steinem who don’t NYS to other states. Today’s gen Xers, or ality, with different women or men, call- Our country is losing much of its former have a clue about business and think millennials, don’t even know that Man- ing some of those women names that identity – that of being a Judeo-Chris- that Trump could have made the same hattan itself wasn’t always cool; now we are derogatory? The truth is that as we tian (meaning, civilized and law abiding) amount had he just invested his money see how desirable Manhattan is, that it now know, Trump was really a pioneer country with a work ethic that made us in the S & P over the same time, are ig- has the power to create gentrifi cation in another area as well – that of hiring the envy of the world. He also under- noring one very basic thing, and that is of even the most hitherto blighted areas women to executive positions when stands that we shouldn’t fi ght wars in that what he owns now is after he used like Harlem, Williamsburg, and Bush- none of the other builders were doing Vietnam and Iraq with enormous loss of all that money for his living expenses, wick. that. As such, he was insulted by some- blood and treasure and nothing to show recreating, and political donations, and Regarding Trump’s integrity, it did one whom he had indeed respected as a for it. Hillary, on the other hand, thinks there are those who say he has been very bother me about his history of Trump very capable journalist, contrary to the it’s a triviality to put our national securi- charitable as well. University – that it seemed like it was a reactive tweets of his, and felt he should ty in jeopardy, and doesn’t take serious- Essentially, Trump is a successful sham of a learning institution with pred- no longer talk with her. Smart? No. But ly the gravity of our foreign dignitaries he felt “ba’avled” that he could be ques- when they are pleading for something to tioned to be a misogynist when he knew be done for their safety. I’d rather have that he in fact was not. someone who throws a crying baby out I could go on and on about how he of a political rally than have someone is being misread by the punditry and weasel every time they’re asked about much of the general population – inde- jeopardizing our national security, pendents and college-educated voters. throws her allegiance to a movement Let me give one last example of some- of anti-Semites, and who promote vio- thing that someone told me as a reason lence against cops and answers, “What why he could never vote for Trump, and difference does it make?” when it comes that was the allusion that Trump made to her answering questions about Beng- that if Hillary were to become president, hazi. Trump has much to learn about the that there’s nothing that could be done political world, but he is demonstrating to stop her from nominating liberals to that he can learn what he doesn’t know. the Supreme Court, then adding, “Ex- I don’t know that Hillary can overcome cept those who believe in the Second her deceitfulness, carelessness, callous- Amendment” – that maybe they could – ness, and shame that she has of being implication being that those with guns American, white, and Christian.

Abe Fuchs was born in Wash. D.C. and attended high school at the Mesivta of Forest Hills. He spent three years in yeshiva (Rabbinical Seminary, B’nei Torah and Sh’or Yashuv) in NY. He worked 25 years for the U.S Postal Service, retiring in 2009. In 2012, Abe ran against Nily Rozic for NY State Assembly District 25. He can be reached at [email protected]

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Across 1. Like many Biblical films 34. ___ Ben Peles, early plotter with 60. Syrup that makes a poison victim 6. Levi’s ___-washed jeans Korach (Var.) brech 10. Most readers of this publication 35. One in David’s flock 62. Troop org. that sells (mostly) kosher 14. Feldshuh of “The Walking Dead” 36. Session at Stern cookies 15. A Netanyahu 38. Cousin of a kumzits (in Waikiki) 63. Gumbo veggies that would also 16. Son of Rebecca 40. Fudd voiced by Mel Blanc work in a cholent 17. She won silver and gold in Rio 42. Israeli medalist in Rio 65. Say afternoon services 19. “___ On Down The Road” (song 45. “Lights” singer Goulding 68. Moment of ___, what was finally from Lumet’s “The Wiz”) 47. Emanuel who’s mayor of Chicago held at the Rio Olympics for the 20. Actor Hammer in “The Social Network” 48. Not (chalav) yisroek Munich 11 21. ___air 51. With 37-Down, drink option for 73. Gefilte fish fish 23. Electricity that could disrupt El Al chilling out in Eilat 74. “The Times They ___-Changin’” (Dylan) instruments 52. Have some latkes, e.g. 75. “Shalom” 26. Israeli medalist in Rio 54. Dead Sea relaxation locale 76. IDF division 31. Joan of Arc (figure once played by 56. “...rose ___ rose...” (Gertrude Stein) 77. Appendage of Fievel Mousekewitz Leelee Sobieski) 57. Actor who made a surprise visit to 78. One who catches fish not used in 32. Use challah to have soup Simone Boles kosher sushi bars

CAN YOU SPOT 10 DIFFERENCES?

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fter two entire weeks of relentless Ombre the Bench, practicality, I am rewarding myself walls yourself $300 from A(and you, if you’re reading this. I al- with paint (or call overstock. ways wonder if anyone is) with some well- me) for an oth- com. deserved escapism, via the fantasy-style erworldly feel, room. even if you didn’t Many hotels deceitfully offer a fantasy spend fi ve fi gures suite, luring you into an overpriced unit on your bathtub: with the suggestion that once you step 2. Delicate 3D butterfl y wall through the door you will be transported wall mural: This stickers for $3 a pack to an ethereal netherworld, for which you should coordi- (yep, three) from will be paying 2.5 times the amount of a nate with your lightinthebox.com. regular suite. If you’ve ever fallen for this, super -soft wall Copy that black and you will have opened the door to fi nd an colors. It’s either white fl ight pattern entirely ordinary hotel room, plus one Ja- patterned wallpaper or a mural, not both. on your stair wall. Do cuzzi and some ostentatious, tasteless cur- some artistic, under- tains. You sucker, you. stated sponging un- Luckily for you, if you are really invest- der the fl ight area to ed in creating an ethereal netherworld, and heighten the effect. you’ve been declared sound of mind, and 4. White curtain sheers: These are in- you decide to go the interior design route expensive to buy ready-made and instant- rather than the less-expensive psychophar- ly magical. Of course you can dress your Dresser from Boca do Lobo for more macological route (1), and you’ve got noth- windows, but you can also create bed than you can afford ($15,000 TBH). ing better to do with your money, if you canopies, sofa canopies, and play tents. really, really want you can do this at home. This will work in a bedroom, dining room, or basement playroom.

Ophelia Mural, 7 feet high and 10 feet wide, $590, from wallpaperdirect.com and worth every penny. You can hang it with the roses on the baseline or the ceiling line. Who knew they were importing show- er curtains from the Enchanted Forest? 5. Airy light fi xture:

Proust chair from Hive Modern; you can’t afford this either. Soooooo… can you do this look on a budget? Fantasy-style living room Why, yes, you can. If you read the above carefully, you’ll see that most of the ele- The Elements of Ethereal: ments are inexpensive. And if you have 1. Fairy tale tones of lavender, sky blue, Gracie wallpaper, hand painted on a good eye for furniture, you can pull the pink, sea green, and white. Ideally pick pure silk, for over $600 per 3 linear feet. whole thing off without spending more three of the above colors. The idea here You can hire me to paint the cheap-o ver- than you would have for a plain ol’ heimish is to get the color so pale and pure that sion for around $500 a room. shteib. it’s barely there. You can do this in plain 3. Sprinkled wall mirrors or 3D accent The real impediments to this look are paint (budget) or wallpaper (not budget). pieces: These only go on plain, painted The Ether light, $130 from Overstock, practical. Do you really want to do so Glitter Peacock wallpaper, $91 per roll walls in a room with no mural. An interi- which looks just as cool IRL and Icarus much white if you have small children? from wallpaperdirect.com. (Or I can hand or designer can mix and match, but with- light, $95 from Chi Chi Home. I dare you Do you want to take up extra space with paint these for you, $200 a room.) out the right balance the room will end to put this in your powder room. fl oaty curtains when your house is already up looking juvenile and overdone. Here’s 6. Fluffy, light-looking furniture, espe- a squeeze? You may be in the mood for the extravagant version: cially clear acrylic and white upholstery. some escapism now, but those butterfl ies It’s great to add some white faux fur, or pasted on the walls might drive you azy- some very pale fl oral fabric. Steer clear of cray in two weeks. Just last week I barked ruffl es, which look unsophisticated. at you to mind the height of your light fi x- tures, but you won’t fi nd too many roman- tic-looking fl ush mounts to complete this look. And if your kids are young enough to color on the walls, please don’t invest in murals. Unless you’re that guy building the blue marble mausoleum on Jewel Avenue; that guy should totally do this look. Are you that guy? Email me. Next week: a return to pragmatism with “Buy This, Not That.” That means drugs.

Zisi Naimark holds a Bachelor of Fine Arts from The New York School of Interior Design and has been working for professional design fi rms since 2012. She lives in Kew Gardens Hills, where she is tolerated by her husband and sons. She can be reached at [email protected].

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Wear Your Feelings Myth: If a color fl atters you, that’s all. Truth: You have to consider the mood.

had written about a book that I fi nd a out, such as in a job interview (as an ac- bit misleading and confusing. One of cent to your neutral backdrop) or a special Ithe things about it that I found con- event. fusing was the idea that you need to wear Your iris colors are softer colors. They just certain colors at certain times. I don’t invite people to look you in the eye (yes, disagree with the idea, but I think I can literally), but because they’re softer they’re Even for the Celebrate Israel Parade, which is casual, you need to have a simplify it for you. not aggressive, so they’re best in situations great color near your face to give you an energy boost for all that walking From me, you get the truth. where you want cooperation. I have often I already said that when you’re fi rst said that moms should wear an iris color shopping for clothes, you should focus on for school events, PTA meetings, and meet- neutrals. That’s because they’re the most ings with special-needs providers. You versatile. Then, as your budget allows, you want your child’s teachers and providers can add secondary neutrals and brights. to be part of the team, hence the softer You need to add these because a complete- colors, but you also want to command re- ly neutral wardrobe is tricky. Colors can spect as commander-in-chief of that team, affect how you feel and you need to use hence the invitation to look you in the that. Neutrals are great as a backdrop, but eye. they don’t do much for you otherwise. These colors are also just great all- I have also written that if you’re at- around colors – they work in every situ- tending an event where you may need a ation except for special situations where boost, you should make sure to wear a you need to stand out. I admit that I color. Even for the Celebrate Israel Pa- made that mistake once. I wore a pretty, rade, which is casual, you need to have a olive-green cardigan to an event. Olive great color near your face to give you an green is one of the more prominent iris energy boost for all that walking. And if colors for me and it’s great on me, but I you’re attending any kind of formal event, felt a bit under-dressed the whole time. I especially one in which you might feel would’ve done better with teal or purple. Colors can affect how you feel Red-family colors are the col- self-conscious, such as a class reunion or a Remember that iris colors are very in- and you need to use that ors of passion and emotion secular event, you need a great color near dividual. I have olive green and brown your face to up your confi dence level. I in my hazel eyes, but you may have blue, stand by all of this. I also need to add that green, and gold. Or you may have dark if you’re feeling physically ill or emotion- brown eyes with gray fl ecks in them. You ally down, you must add a strong pop of need to look carefully. color because neutrals won’t be enough to To put it as simply as possible, neu- boost you. trals are the backdrop. Red-family and The question is which color do you use blue-family colors are great for the effect for what? of “here I am – look here.” Iris colors are To simplify things, I’m only going to great for just about everything else. deal with four sets of colors: neutrals, Always try everything and see what red-family colors, blue-family colors, and works. And always consider how you feel. your iris colors. If you feel great, that will make everyone Like I said before, neutrals don’t do around you feel better. Go with that. much for you. They’re great as the back- drop. Since they go with everything, you can add any color or colors you want to them for whatever mood you need. Red-family colors are the colors of pas- sion and emotion. They’re great when you want to express yourself and make others feel what you’re trying to express. I read about a lawyer who wears gray suits for her court appearances. For her statements to a jury, she’ll add a blouse in red – it says Blue-family colors are dramatic colors. to them that she’s feeling what she’s say- These colors are great when you need to stand out ing. But by wearing it as an accent to the gray suit, it’s not overpowering. She said that if she were to wear a red suit, it would scare them out of their pants. Red-family colors are also great for special events. If you’re the guest of honor, you can ramp Your iris colors are softer up the color, but if not, you can just add colors. They invite people to it as an accent to your neutral backdrop. look you in the eye (yes, literal- Blue-family colors are dramatic colors. ly), but because they’re softer Their purpose is to make you stand out. they’re not aggressive, so But they actually tend to be a bit more they’re best in situations where soothing than red-family colors. These you want cooperation colors are great when you need to stand

Meira E. Schneider-Atik is a wardrobe organizer, personal shopper, jewelry designer, and fashion writer and speaker. She helps women look great while saving time, effort, and money, all within tzniut. Her jewelry pieces can be seen on Facebook (just look up Rena Mei) or in person. She also has the YouTube channel “Look your best in mitpachot,” where she does head- You want your child’s teachers and providers to be part of the team, wrapping tutorials, and she is available for private demonstrations. She can be reached at (718) hence the softer colors, but you also want to command respect as com- 644-6135 or at [email protected]. mander-in-chief of that team, hence the invitation to look you in the eye

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Out Of The Pool – It’s Back To School

s it September yet?” asked par- ents everywhere. Oh, the drudg- “Iery; we have to start wearing coats. But wait…What’s that sound? Ah, cracking open that new notebook, sharp- ening that pencil? No, wait; you can’t sharpen an iPad. Never mind that; it’s the scent of new possibilities. What a sense of renewal – a touch of trepidation, but a dose of adventure, too. “Maybe I’ll get it right this semester. Yup, I will be or- ganized and stay on top of it all.” Indeed, stocking up on the latest trendy supplies (Minions pencil case anyone? Gonna buy the kids some winter break? brand new back- And just think: to-school outfi ts September is complete with upon us. The High matching shoes. Holy Days are And I sure am around the bend. looking forward It’s time to reset to all that “bond- your internal cal- ing” over homework. Ah yes, “Home- endar. There is still some warmth in the work: because eight hours of school just air and the countdown to Thanksgiving isn’t enough.” is about to begin. Harvest festivals and Okay, here’s one for the kids. Say to tins of fresh fruit. Long walks or runs on the teacher: “Would you punish me for a crisp day before the sidewalks are cov- something I didn’t do?” She will say, “Of ered with salt. Autumn. You get to test course not.” Then say, “Oh, okay…I didn’t drive a brand new version of yourself. do my homework.” Ha. Just kidding, Follow the footsteps of your fi ve-year- folks. old: the innocent excitement of that For some, school’s just around the new pencil case, the eagerness to wear corner. Are you anticipating the arrival that brand new knapsack. of that yellow bus on your block at some ungodly hour each morning? Despite it Be Smart. Try a Fresh Start all, the fall is always brimming with new Hit the re-set button. Emulate the possibilities. We cannot help but get kids’ glow and get up and go. Make some a bit pepped and pumped up with the simple changes, too. Hang up a new sense of rhythm and return all around painting. Add a brand new plant to the us. And who can deny how appealing the dining room collection. Treat yourself to psychology of a fresh start is? I mean, that new tablet you’ve been pining for. what in the world has more possibilities Or how about that fancy coffee machine than a simple, blank sheet of paper? you’ve been longing for – to fi x that hot New fl uorescent-colored gel pens and chocolate on a chilly fall morning. Hey, highlighters, oh my. Then again, hold “I do what I can do to make the world that thought. What happened to that a happier place. For example, I had my sweet, slow pace of summertime? And coffee today.” Heh. all these transitions: waking up early instead of being able to sleep till noon, Read, Indeed your child’s anxiety about being accept- Books are simply beautiful and they ed or making new friends – again, and can make us better people. Memorize a that dreaded homework…ugh. You go new calculus equation or learn how to online to study and the next thing you cook ramen noodles in a new recipe. know, you have 56 new “pins.” Ha. Soak up a new skill. Yoga or French any- Coordinating everyone’s schedules, one? Master a new way to solve a prob- re-establishing routines, and getting the lem. As you learn, believe it or not, your house up to snuff. Egad. “Is it me or did brain fi bers grow. The larger your brain Mom seem a bit too happy about the fi bers grow, the more brain cells they fi rst day of school?” connect, the more information is stored Here are some ways to ease into that in your brain. So fi re up your synapses – anticipated or dreaded chapter, sweet you know, those glowing neurons that friends. make your mind, perceptions, eyes, and hearts what they are. After all, your life Not a Blah, but a Last Hurrah is your curriculum. You know what they Want some closure, a fond farewell say: “Knowledge is knowing that tomato to summertime? Have a fantastic fi nale. is a fruit. Wisdom is not putting it in the The last barbecue of the season – make fruit salad.” it good one. Squeeze in one small family So savor the late nights, chaos, and trip or activity. Whatever you do, make bittersweet emotions, my friends. And sure you end on a “sunny side up” note. don’t forget to respect your folks: They By the way, how many days is it till actually passed school without Google.

Caroline is a licensed psychotherapist, crisis counselor, and writer with an offi ce in Queens. She works with individuals, couples, and families. Appointments are available throughout the week and weekends. She can be reached at 917-717-1775 or at [email protected] or at face- book.com/pages/Safe-Haven-Healing.

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Dealing With Psoriasis hat is psoriasis? It is a common Viral and Bacterial Infections: Children skin ailment that changes the cy- and young adults with recurring infections Wcle of skin cells. It causes cells to such as strep throat may also have an in- grow and quickly build up on the surface. creased risk. This extra skin forms thick, grayish scales Stress: This has a huge impact on one’s and dry, red patches, which are itchy and immune system and can increase your risk. can be painful. Psoriasis is a persistent and Obesity: Excess body weight increases Eating a healthy Mediterranean diet that is also rich in the right fats long-lasting disease, which alternates be- the risk for psoriasis. Plaque correlated may help ease symptoms tween more severe bouts and improved with all types of psoriasis often develops in symptoms. the skin folds. are more water occlusive than creams and The main goal is to stop the skin cells Smoking: This plays a role in the devel- lotions. During air-conditioning season or from growing so rapidly. Although there opment of psoriasis and will also increase throughout winter’s dry and cold air, you is no cure for psoriasis, it can certainly be one’s severity. may need to apply moisturizer a few times relieved. Incorporating measures like us- daily. ing non-prescription, low-dose cortisone Home Remedies to Improve Psoriasis Sunlight. The skin lesions can be im- creams and exposing skin to small amounts Daily Baths. Bathing daily will help re- proved by a controlled amount of sunlight. of sunlight may improve this condition. move the scales and calm the infl amed However, too much sun can actually wors- What causes psoriasis? There is no clear skin. Add unscented pure oils, colloidal oat- en the outbreak and put one at a risk for answer to this question. However, it’s as- meal, Epsom salts, or Dead Sea salts to the skin cancer. Keep track of how long you are This extra skin forms thick, sumed to be an autoimmune disorder that grayish scales and dry, red affects the T cells. Your T cells (T lympho- patches, which are itchy and cytes), a type of white blood cells, travel The main goal is to stop the skin cells can be painful throughout the body. Their purpose is to from growing so rapidly ward off foreign invaders such as bacteria and viruses. If you have psoriasis, the T cells will erroneously attack the healthy bath. Avoid hot water and harsh soaps with in the sun, avoid overexposure, and always skin cells, as they would normally do when chemicals that can worsen the condition. check with your doctor regarding how the body is trying to heal a wound or fi ght Use lukewarm water only, mild cleansers, much sunlight is benefi cial. Make sure to an infection. and add natural oils. protect the unaffected skin with sunscreen. Psoriasis can affect anyone and is not al- Moisturize, Moisturize, and Moisturize. ways genetic. Read on for some factors that Always moisturize your skin immediately Avoid Psoriasis Triggers may increase your risk. (while damp) with a heavy ointment. For 1. Take steps to prevent injuries and in- Genetics: This is probably the largest very dry skin, oils may be more benefi cial, fections to your skin. component for developing psoriasis. since they remain on the skin longer and 2. Try to reduce your stress factors by Add unscented pure oils, incorporating some exercise and making colloidal oatmeal, Epsom salts, time to relax and chill out. or Dead Sea salts to the bath 3. Quit smoking. 4. Avoid alcohol, which may decrease the effectiveness of psoriasis treatment. If you are uncertain of your symptoms, a physical exam and medical history taken by a competent doctor can easily diagnose psoriasis. Sometimes a skin biopsy may be necessary to rule out other disorders, and in order to detect what type of psoriasis you have. To help ease symptoms, resorting to alternative therapies, which are generally safe, can be helpful, but are not proven. This includes eating a healthy Mediterra- nean diet that is also rich in the right fats. Always moisturize your skin Dietary herbs and supplements from health immediately (while damp) food stores can also be benefi cial. Applying with a heavy ointment natural oils and topical creams may relieve the symptoms as well. Although there is no foolproof cure, you your life. Living with any persistent condi- can try to incorporate some lifestyle chang- tion is diffi cult, and can wreak havoc. How- es to ease your symptoms, lessen your ever, learning to adapt to certain changes bouts, and improve the overall quality of will certainly be helpful.

Try to reduce your stress factors by making time to relax and chill out

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