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4 Minnesota Women’s Press, August 2013 thisissue kathYmaGnuson our clothing, our culture normasmitholson Racial profiling, gun laws and justice have been a big part of our public conversation this summer. Included in that is talk of what Trayvon Martin was wearing when he was killed — a hooded sweatshirt. His hoodie has become a symbol of the racial profiling of young black men. Was his cloth- ing a contributing factor in his death? What are the images we hold as a culture of a criminal and of a victim? And where does responsibility lie for these cultural views? Criticism of clothing is an all-too- We sometimes describe the Women’s familiar pattern for women in our Press as a women’s magazine that coming up: culture, as well. When a woman is doesn’t write about how to find the Women mean business is assaulted, too often the conversation man of your dreams, this week’s diet september’s focus and we’re asking: — and even the media coverage — tips — or this season’s hottest fashions. What life lessons have you learned focuses on what she was wearing. Was So here is our “What She Wore” issue. from the business world? her skirt too short? Was her shirt cut In addition to the feature story on Tell us about it. too low? Was she wearing high heels? the rape myth, you’ll find thoughts send up to 150 words to Victim blaming can be about women’s self-esteem and hair [email protected] rampant, even though from a cancer survivor whose business “I was a feminist Deadline: Aug. 10 common sense tells us helps women find wigs and scarves. who wouldn’t that clothing does not Professor Duchess Harris tells why it’s september advertising sections: • elder Guide judge a woman equal permission to rape. important to her as a Black feminist • Grrrls Go Green Guide for her life From the clothing, the to wear heels and a skirt to class each discussion often proceeds day. Readers share thoughts about • spirituality Guide experiences, to what she was doing. their power boots, the importance of • GoseeDo Guide but would make Was she alone? Was she a good-fitting bra and dressing like Deadline: Aug. 10 a snide crack out after dark? Just as Cinderella for a day. Watch for our annual Women’s Despite what many people may about her President Obama talked Directory in the september issue! about the commonal- think, feminists do know how to have 28 years of helping organizations and high heels.” ity of African-American fun. This issue also includes a story businesses connect with the women’s —Shannon Drury, men being followed in about Carol Salmon’s bright red wig, audience in the Twin Cities. see her column on department stores, girls enormous shoes and oily makeup that page 18 and women in our cul- she wears as a clown. Reneé Rongen Women and trees is our focus in ture know the chilling shares the power of wearing a suit and october. send us your haiku feeling of being followed having a sense of humor. We share a about your life and trees, at night. But does walking alone give few choice reviews from Amazon of [email protected]. permission to assault? Texas state Sen. Wendy Davis’ bright Deadline: sept. 10 It is the custom in some cultures for running/standing shoes. And, then october advertising sections: women to always be covered in public. consider those fun shoes on the cover! • health Guide One reason given is that a man seeing • home Guide - a woman’s ankle or arm may be pro and • Women & Pets Guide voked to sexual assault. And it would • GoseeDo Guide - be her fault. It’s part of the same con Co-Publishers Deadline: sept. 10 tinuum of blaming women for their own rape if they weren’t wearing “proper” clothing.

Nominate a do you know someone whose actions during 2013 have promoted greater equality, justice and self-determination for women or girls? Help us identify the changemakers in your community. chanGe Nominations are due Sept. 15. maker Go to www.womenspress.com and click on the “Nominate a Changemaker” tile to see the criteria and use the handy nomination form! Minnesota Women’s Press, August 2013 5 Yousaid YourthouGhts persistence, patience & prayers Each month we ask our readers to respond to a question. For August we asked: What’s your power clothing story? I read with great interest the story about Korad Abdi and her See more responses on pages 31 and 34. business, Sadia’s Gourmet Sauces. [Profile, MWP, June 2013] Sadia’s story is inspirational to all of us. these boots As another small food manufacturer, I am quite aware of the I had a pair of black power boots — the first “career hoops that must be jumped through in order to meet government shoes” I bought out of graduate school. The boots made me regulations and become a viable business. It is no small feat. feel tall and fearless. Like donning a superhero costume, My own experiences over the past few years included many I was transformed from the girl in the Birkenstocks to the frustrations and required persistence. As an American-born woman with a front office. woman with a graduate degree and no language or cultural bar- The first time I formally interviewed for a career job, I riers, it proved to be difficult. I can only imagine that Sadia is an wore those power boots. After a long day of company inter- amazing person to have suffered so much personally and to have views with the CEO, CFO and heads of sales, I thought the made a life and a viable business toughest interviews were behind me. But it wasn’t until my for herself in Minnesota. Gotanopinion? final interview with one of the editorial directors whenI I will certainly be buying Sadia’s was asked the question that everyone else had wanted to like something in mWp? Gourmet Sauces! ask me all day long. The interviewer looked at me, looked or disagree? Robin Doroshow, Golden Valley at my résumé and then said matter-of-factly: “You’re very We want to hear from you. Editor’s Note: Doroshow is the young and your résumé is very short. Why should we hire Write to editor@ owner of tRRRific Products, LLC. you?” womenspress.com. Include pop goes the feminist I moved to the edge of my chair, sunk the heels of my your name, address and parent boots into the floor, leaned forward and said, “I’ll tell you phone number for verifica- why you should hire me …” tion. Letters are assumed I hear music on the radio that I got the job. to be for publication and intrigues me. I hear music at my Aimee Jackson, St. Louis Park Jazzercise class that intrigues me. may be edited for length Thank you for writing this article, viggo was my chemo power stud and clarity. Shannon [Drury, SheSaid, MWP, Six years ago, I was diagnosed with gastric cancer. After April 2013]. It gave me the idea surgery and hospitalization, I faced months of treatment — that I can go to YouTube to check out music! Yes, I am a slow alone. My pretend boyfriend was actor Viggo Mortensen. learner. Keep up the articles, Shannon. I’m a mom, too, and I He pursued his art and led the fully engaged life that I always appreciate the parental perspective. aspired to live. With a T-shirt and an iron-on, his image Gina Schedivy, Plymouth became my shield and my support. 2,000 miles, 2 women and 1 canoe I wore Viggo the first day of chemo. I wore him through radiation, and for every scan and endoscopy and blood I admire Natalie Warren and Ann Raiho [Profile, MWP, July draw. I wore Viggo again when I got the news that my scans 2013] for their sense of adventure and fortitude in following [Eric] and tests were clean. Sevareid’s expedition. My brother Andrew Keith chronicles his I still have Viggo and I still wear him, though mostly now journey from Grand Marais to Hudson Bay in his book, “Afloat, to the gym. (And yes, I am cancer-free.) The neck is frayed Again, Adrift.” My brother admits to “getting a lift part of the way and the transfer has faded and cracked. 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filibuster opposing a selfish and out-of-touch leadership that refuses to listen to real families with real hopes. —Texas state Sen. Wendy Davis” source: Washington Post if the shoe fits … Texas state Sen. Wendy Davis’ filibuster against restrictive abortion legislation certainly drew headlines — as well as “reviews” on Amazon.com for the sensible Mizuno Wave Rider 16 running shoes she wore while standing for nearly 13 hours. Here are a few choice comments: • “Only a 24 hour waiting period for the shoes to arrive (in Pennsylvania). Pretty fast! But you will need spousal consent before wearing the shoes. Parental consent if you are under 18.” • “It turns out that if you want to purchase these shoes, you will be forced to watch a video featuring the manufacture of the shoes from start to finish, and then only in a medical facility supervised by white male lawyers. No returns after 20 weeks.” • “These are fantastic shoes, but I’ve noticed a problem with them. When I put them on, no one listens to me. I’m a white male, age 41 — I thought everyone was supposed to listen to me? Also, other white men are now trying to tell me what to do with my prostate. What gives?” • “I’m not sure I could ever bring myself to buy or wear shoes like this. But you know, I’m so glad I have the option.” sources: Care2.com, Amazon.com

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to protest is to read In contrast to images of water cannons and tear gas, protesters in Turkey have been standing silently or standing and reading. When Turkish performance artist Erdem Gunduz stood with his hands in his pockets for eight hours, he became a symbol of the resistance movement. Meanwhile, public reading that was already happening merged with the standing movement to form the “Taksim Square Book Club.” According to Al Jazeera, “The chosen reading mate- rial … is reflective, in part, of the thoughtfulness of those who have chosen this motionless protest to express their discontent.” source: Al Jazeera

Let us pick up our books and our pens. They are our most powerful weapons. One child, one“ teacher, one book, and one pen can change the world. Education is the only solution. —Malala Yousafzai, the Pakistani student shot in the head by the Taliban after speaking” out for girls’ education rights, at the U.N. Youth Assembly on her 16th birthday. source: New Year times Minnesota Women’s Press, August 2013 7 mWp update: Yep, too attractive Celebrate What’s Right with the World! Follwoing up on an item in our February 2013 issue, the all- male Iowa Supreme Court upheld an earlier decision that it was not discrimination when a male dentist fired his longtime assistant for being too attractive allegedly after his wife called her “a big threat to our marriage.” Melissa Nelson’s attorney told ABC News: “[I]t is very common for women to be tar- geted for discrimination because of their sexual attractiveness Engage in powerful dialogue. or supposed lack of sexual attractiveness. That is discrimina- Learn methods to lead a happier, 2310 Como at Doswell - St. Paul healthier, more productive life. tion based on sex. Nearly every woman in Iowa understands Open Every Day 7AM - 10PM Leave Ready to Develop Your this because we have experienced it for ourselves.” 651-645-7360 [email protected] 6-Word Vision Statement source: think Progress Fresh Gourmet Coffee & SandwichesSandwiches Daily!Daily! Sept. 6, 1-4 p.m., $30 612-752-8491 a world of violence AlwaysAlways FreshFresh Meat Meat & & Bread & Produce! The United Nations’ World Health Organization (WHO) now considers physical or sexual violence toward Mindfulness & Wellbeing: The Mature Woman women a global public health prob- An Innovative Woman’s Health & Wellness lem because it is so widespread. In Course for Mid-life Transition a recent report, WHO offered these Six evening classes starting September 24 statistics: feature guest faculty from the Women’s Health Specialists Clinic, University of Minnesota. • 35% of women globally experience some form of violence. Small group sessions facilitated by a Health Coach address mid-life topics: menopause treatment, • 30% of women suffer at the hands nutrition, body change, insomnia, sexuality, stress of intimate partners, the most reduction, redefining self and relationship role common form of violence. http://www.umphysicians.org/Clinics/ • 38% of all women murdered globally are killed by their womens-health-specialists/index.htm intimate partner. Becky Gorman, Health Coach, 612-998-8213, [email protected] source: Alternet also noteworthy: • On Aug. 26, pause to observe Women’s Equality Day, enacted in 1971 “to commemorate the 1920 passage of the 19th Amendment, granting women the right to vote” and “continuing efforts toward full equality.” Professional management services • NASA’s new class of eight astronaut trainees achieves gender parity for the first time by including four women — for Condominiums, Townhomes, Christina Hammock, Nicole Aunapu Mann, Anne McClain and Apartments, Retail Jessica Meir. In all, 55 women have flown in space (43 of them Americans) or a little more than 10 percent of all astronauts. Our Clients talked, we listened: Over 21 years •฀Our฀Managers฀work฀for฀you฀ of experience. • Melissa Wardy of Wisconsin, mother of a 7-year-old girl, •฀Accurate฀financial฀reports launched a petition on Change.org urging LEGO to create a Women-owned •฀Follow฀up฀&฀Follow฀through฀ and operated. non-“pinkwashed” female Minifigure set. Says Wardy: “We •฀Assessable,฀Responsive,฀Accountable want our girls to believe they can be engineers and scientists, •฀Customer฀Service,฀our฀#1฀priority! and to have goals beyond looking pretty in pink. We want our boys to think of girls and see girls as capable of many things, including STEM careers and adventurous pursuits.” • As gender equality gains momentum across Europe, a sweep- ing “men-women equality” proposal in France would man- date that men take parental leave, that 40 percent of company Cindy Reiter board positions go to women and that an equal number of male 952-465-3602 and female candidates run for public offices. [email protected] sources: National Women’s history Project, Ms. Magazine, www.westport-mn.com Change.org, the telegraph

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The rape myth: What was she wearing? by Emily A. King Karla was starting her third year at the university. She was feeling comfortable and safe there. She’d gone to parties, but she and her roommate played it careful — sticking together and leaving together. But on a night in early September 1999, Karla’s safety shield was shattered.

Karla was raped in a fraternity brother’s room at a frater- nity house while her roommate fruitlessly searched for her. She blamed herself. “Our culture had ingrained in me at the age of 19 that it must have been my fault. I was drilling myself before anybody had the chance.” ISTOCKPHOTO.COM And she was hurt to learn that her dad had asked her mom what she was wearing that night. “I know he was naïve and being stupid. … In no way has my father ever blamed me for this, but I think it was his old-school, stereotypical way of saying, ‘How the hell did this happen to my daughter?’” Karla’s outfit that night was modest, she told her mom — not one that likely drew a lot of attention. Blaming the victim Almost half of American women have experienced some sort of sexual violence. Almost 20 percent have been raped. And a common question posed when these women speak out is: What was she wearing? But blaming the victim’s clothing or actions is taking the easy path, says Donna Dunn, executive director of Minnesota Coalition Against Sexual Assault (MNCASA). MNCASA is dedicated to finding ways to stop sexual violence, including changing public attitudes toward rape and other forms of sexual manipulation. “It’s somehow easier and feels safer to try to understand this issue by challenging the behavior of people who were targeted as victims,” Dunn says. “ ‘If only she hadn’t …’ fill in the blank. If only this, if only that. In reality, any one of us could probably make the same choices that any victim of sexual violence makes. And the difference between whether or not we will be harmed when we made a decision is not whether or not we made that decision but are we doing that in the presence of somebody who will take advantage of it or use it.” Short skirts and revealing tops aren’t motivators for rape, Dunn says. Instead, part of the problem lies with how men view themselves and how they view women. And how Our culture had ingrained in me at the age women view themselves. “It’s a combination of our inability as a society to embrace “of 19 that it must have been my fault. conversation and dialogue about healthy sexuality and then ” the marketing about who we are as males and females and — Karla, rape victim at age 19 Minnesota Women’s Press, August 2013 9

what our gender roles say that we should be in we should address this. Small and large acts at how we fit into society and where our power is.” the expense of women and girls set the stage for Dunn describes women as “the gatekeepers violence,” she says. of sexuality.” Find your voice “I think that for a lot of victims, they have Karla urges any woman who’s been raped to internalized these messages about if you say find her voice. Tell someone who won’t point no in the right ways and you’re still raped, fingers. clearly you didn’t say it strong enough or you “I don’t want any women silenced. Trust didn’t say it hard enough or you did something yourself and your instincts. Survivors know wrong,” she says. what’s best for them in the moment,” she says. Scrubbing away sexism “Know who [your] healthy, supportive system So victims blame themselves, just like Karla is. If they truly want to support you, they’ll be did that night and afterward. horrified for you.” “In the moment I was thinking, ‘Holy sh--, With the backing of her family, her roommate Karla, you drank way too much.” It didn’t even and the dean of students, Karla chose to pursue register that she was being raped, Karla says. the case through the university system. - Instead she was thinking, “You really did it this The fraternity brother was punished for pro Women’s choices time. Way to go.” viding beer to a minor, but the panel found If the public blames victims for their choices there wasn’t enough evidence for the rape. and“ women’s and if the victims blame themselves, what’s the FFI: www.mncasa.org solution? behavior are not the “If we want to solve and if we want to pre- vent sexual violence, we have to look at the core FactsaBout source of the of the way we function as a society,” answers seXualviolence Dunn. “And that becomes very complex. It problem. It’s indi- • It’s not just a “women’s issue.” About 1 in 71 doesn’t look like a quick answer by any means. American men reported being raped and viduals who choose On the surface, it looks like the quicker answer about 1 in 5 experienced other sexual is: Let’s look at what women can do differently. violence. to use sex as a tool But we know that women’s choices and wom- en’s behavior are not the source of the problem. • About 80 percent of female rape victims of violence. It’s individuals who choose to use sex as a tool were first raped before they turned 25. of violence.” — Donna Dunn,” • Most female and male victims of rape knew Dunn says MNCASA is working on how to executive director of their perpetrators. effect culture change. Among the solutions: Minnesota Coalition teaching youths to talk about sex and sexual- Source: the Centers for Disease Control and Against Sexual Assault ity in healthy ways; challenging the sexualized, Prevention’s National Intimate Partner and (MNCASA) violent images prevalent in our environment; sexual Violence survey 2010 andDivorce฀•฀Abuse฀•฀Custody฀•฀Paternity empowering parents to talk with kids about25+฀years฀of฀experience฀•฀Reasonable฀rates healthy sexuality. She would like to see sexism scrubbed from society. “How we have moved forward on addressing the harm of racism is similar to how

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Jan Strassburg knew she was going to lose her curly, auburn hair. It was April of 2006, and despite being a physically fit marathon runner with no family history of cancer, Strassburg had been diagnosed with breast cancer. Her treatment regimen of chemotherapy, a lumpectomy and Her twin 6-year-old stepdaughters inspired the St. Louis Park radiation lasted about a year, and Strassburg’s hair fell out along salon’s name: It’s Still Me Wig Studio. the way. When she came home wearing her new wig for the first time, “I knew I didn’t want to be seen as the cancer person,” she the twins wanted to see what was underneath. “For the first time said. “A bald head says cancer [to people], it just does.” I had to take the wig off and saw myself without hair,” Strassburg Her solution was a wig, and the experience shopping for one recalled. Partly to affirm herself and partly to reassure the girls, inspired her to open her own shop in 2009. Strassburg said, “Hey guys, it’s still me! It’s still Jan.” AMBER PROCACCINI Minnesota Women’s Press, August 2013 11

The name stuck. her to implement a gifting program. She helps raise funds As far as she knows, Strassburg owns the only survivor- to go toward a person’s wig, accessories or whatever they run wig business in the Twin Cities area. About half of her need. customers are cancer survivors, while the rest have hair- Wigs can be expensive; synthetic wigs range from $200 to loss issues caused by aging, menopause or other diseases. $600, while wigs constructed of human hair begin at about ‘The face of cancer’ $1,000 and can cost as much as $2,500. If Strassburg senses financial wor- Hair loss is a highly emotional experience for women ries during her initial consultation, she Hair loss is a because hair is tied to both their identity and their feminin- will mention her fundraising program. ity, Strassburg said. There is also societal pressure to look Some customers have a support net- “highly emotional a certain way. When women lose their hair, they no longer work rallying to help them purchase a meet those standards. wig, while for others it comes as a sur- experience for Hair loss is also proof that something is wrong, she said. prise. When cancer took her hair, Strassburg said she felt naked. Strassburg is grateful for the success women because “I felt very vulnerable … I became the face of cancer. A of her business, which was started dur- hair is tied to both bald head, to me, is what cancer looks like. I felt identified ing one of the lowest points of the reces- by that.” sion. “My business was launched with their identity and For many women, a wig can help keep their cancer under the help of some really great media the radar. “[A wig] can help you feel more feminine, give attention,” she recalled. “But I have their femininity. you a stronger sense of identity and give you more confi- somewhat of a recession-proof idea.” dence,” Strassburg said. Her customer base, so much of it —Jan Strassburg ” For others, wigs symbolize a stigma they would rather touched by cancer, isn’t going any- avoid. Some use head scarves and hats, while others choose where soon. “I would be thrilled if cancer came to an end, to go bald. “If you can do that,” said Strassburg, “I say, and I would be happy to find something else to do, find ‘Terrific.’” some other business opportunity,” she said. Some, like Ruth Draskovich, aren’t even thinking about In the meantime, It’s Still Me Wig Studio, a niche store wigs when they first walk into Strassburg’s studio. within a niche market, has proven that Strassburg is more “I was adamant that I was not going to buy a wig,” than a cancer survivor. She has thrived from her experience. Draskovich said she remembered of her first visit last April.“Never did I think that my adversity could become She didn’t want to spend money on something she wouldopportunity,” she said, but that is exactly what has hap- eventually not need after her own hair grew back. pened. She also assumed that she would look, she said, like a And it’s exactly the kind of empowerment she sells to her “chemo patient, someone who had a wig that looked like a customers. wig and plunked it onto her head.” But her attention on the hats and head scarves soon FFI: The profile appears in every issue of the turned to Strassburg’s wigs, as Draskovich noticed howIt’s Still Me Wig Studio stylish they were. She ended up buying two, one with tri- Minnesota Women’s Press. Lang Nelson Professional Building color highlights and the other with blonde highlights. It reflects our founding 4601 Excelsior Blvd., Suite 401 Now, her hair is one less thing she has to have on her principle and guiding phi- St. Louis Park mind. “It was just wonderful to have options and to be able losophy that every woman 952-405-8671 to blend in and not stand out in a crowd,” Draskovich said. has a story. Readers are www.itsstillme.com welcome to submit sugges- Thriving business tions for profile subjects. While Strassburg inspires her customers, they also Email your ideas to editor@ impress her with their courage and strength, motivating womenspress.com.

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This is a teachable moment. Once again there is a historical context for When I was an undergraduate at the this. In “Living In, Living Out,” Elizabeth University of Pennsylvania between 1987 and Clark-Lewis narrates the personal experiences 1991, I was mentored by Professor Evelyn of 81 Black women who worked for wealthy Brooks Higginbotham. She was finishing whiteher families. These women describe how I look forward to groundbreaking book “Righteous Discontent,” they encountered — but never accepted — the in which she argues that the politics of respect- master-servant relationship, and they recount a time when ability enabled Black women to counter rac- their struggles to change their status from “live ist images and structures. She stated that this in” servants to daily paid workers who “lived Black women will aesthetic of respectability should not be mis- out.” One of their biggest acts of resistance was have the freedom construed as mindless mimicry of white behav- to do the cleaning in their own clothes, not a ior or a “front” without substance or content. uniform, and leave. to wear what Instead, the politics of respectability assumed I am writing this essay in the midst of the a fluid and shifting continuum of African George Zimmerman trial. I have been trau- they want to American resistance. matized by the treatment of Rachel Jeantel, a wear, speak how Fast forward to 2013. The reality is that when friend of Trayvon Martin. The best analysis I you think of a college professor, you probably have read of why many people could not hear they want to do not see the image of my face. My insistence her was because of what they saw. speak and still be on professional dress (i.e., skirts, heels and Regina N. Bradley writes, “Jeantel’s … ironed shirts) is not a subscription to patriar- inability to conform to expected cultural and taken seriously. chy; I want to be recognized and respected. aural scripts of Black womanhood within the Informality, for a Black woman, can be profes- confines of the courtroom — the epitome of sionally harmful. a hyper-respectable space — destabilizes There are currently 176,485 tenured full not only racial paradigms of Black (southern) professors at the nation’s public and privaterespectability but Americanized expectations of research universities — 72 percent white men, Black women’s scripts of respectability.” 17 percent white women, 8 percent men of color I was not ashamed by her inability to con- (Black, Hispanic and Native American com- form; I was disappointed that in 2013 she isn’t bined) and 2 percent women of color — com- read as “respectable.” I look forward to a time bined. when Black women will have the freedom to In a racist society, white people hold the wear what they want to wear, speak how they power of the “gaze,” and people of color are want to speak and still be taken seriously. subject to interpretation. But until then I will dress up for Rachel and I wear what I wear because I take myself seri- all the other Black women who do not have the ously and I expect you to, also. I don’t have the privilege of being heard. privilege to “dress down.” When white women Duchess Harris, J.D., Ph.D., is a professor of do this, they are read as earthy, edgy and intel- American Studies at Macalester College. Read lectual. When Black women dress down, we are a selection of her published works at http:// read as “The Help.” works.bepress.com/duchess_harris/. I share this because my white female students feel entitled to judge my cisgender, herteronor- mative, feminine aesthetic; not understanding that many Blacks are proud that I don’t wear a uniform. I find that the Black service people at Macalester are glad to see a dressed up Black woman on the faculty. Minnesota Women’s Press, August 2013 13 Women Going Places Guide Take a Here are some delightful destinations detour sure to satisfy your inner vagabond from and transport needs. your hectic It doesn’t get better than this! life. Look to these pages of women-friendly gems, grab your girlfriends and make the trip of your dreams your reality. See these ads online with links at www.womenspress.com

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Spreading sunshine Carol Salmon is serious about clowning around by Kathy Magnuson A desire to make people happy is what causes Carol Salmon to wear a mismatched shirt, baggy pants, oily makeup, enormous shoes and a red wig. As a member of the Powder Puff Clown Club, she also glues a rubber nose over her own, wears white gloves and can get curious looks stopping at the grocery store on her way home from performing in a parade.

Salmon heard about Christian clowning while attending a church convention. She was hooked, and

SARAH WHITING SARAH led the youth group clowns in her congregation for several years until she decided to venture into the wider world of clowning. In the 1970s, she attempted to join a clown club in the Twin Cities, but women were not allowed. At that time there were few women in the professional working world, so women were also not expected to be clowns. “They were expected to be home cooking and cleaning and taking care of babies,” Salmon recalled. Not thinking of themselves as radicals or ground- breakers, a group of like-minded women just decided to form their own group, the Powder Puff Clown Club. Since then, each group has come to include both men and women. And, as Salmon observed, “When you have a clown suit on, the audience will not really know if it is a man or a woman anyway.” Minnesota Women’s Press, August 2013 17

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18 Minnesota Women’s Press, August 2013 SHeSaId SHaNNoN drurY Fashion, feminism & femininity When I was a kid, my parents dressed me in what I called “number shirts” — generic, teamless jerseys that were popular among children in the mid-70s. I had a few Holly Hobbie dresses, but the majority of the snapshots in the family album show my pals and me frolicking in our 5s, 12s and 44s. I thought I’d wear numbers forever. Imagine my confusion years later when the Tomboys existed, but they endured constant, realities of puberty and the Reagan era collided relentless harassment. My mother’s terror in a fateful trip to the Southdale Dayton’s. My must have been profound, thus the mad rush mother steered me toward the juniors depart- to pad and ruffle me. If I knew of a product ment, where she yanked Guess tops off the that would armor my children against social racks. “These shoulder pads will make you condemnation, I would put it on my Visa card I was a feminist look fantastic,” she announced happily. in a hurry. - In the end, personal who wouldn’t They didn’t. My mother howled with frus tration every time she fished a pair of puffy style is a partnership judge a woman ovals out of the trash. I didn’t want to disap- between what makes point her (or my junior high friends; we were sense to your culture for her life experi- a heavily padded bunch), but the sudden (national, social, racial, insistence on feminine performance didn’t sitetc.) and to your body. ences, but would well with me. I was a girl, but I didn’t wantFashion, clothing and make a snide to be girly, for girly style was not only fussy costume work together

and impractical, it was weak. It was wimpy. to create the identity that OF SHANNON DRURY COURTESY crack about her It was dumb. is understood to be you, Instead, I adopted the grungy style of my both as recognized by high heels. favorite band, the Replacements: worn Levi’s, others and by your own thrift store tees and flannels, and Chuck Tayloreyes in the changing- sneakers. I finally felt comfortable — and moreroom mirror. than a little superior to my high-maintenance If I dropped my Chuck sisters. Taylors in favor of Two events conspired to knock me off my shoulder pads, my kids high horse: having kids of my own and read- wouldn’t recognize me, ing a book by Julia Serano called “Whipping no matter how “fantas- Girl: a Transsexual Woman on Sexism and tic” I looked. They prob- the Scapegoating of Femininity.” Published ably wouldn’t know me in 2007, it is a fascinating unpacking of cul- in a number shirt, either. tural misogyny everywhere, including among I have settled into a style feminists. As she writes, “… [W]hile most rea- that is mine — neither Shannon Drury, circa 1972 sonable people see women and men as equals, good nor bad, but mine. few (if any) dare to claim that femininity is In “Whipping Girl,” Serano declares: “A masculinity’s equal.” feminist movement that encompasses both Until I read Serano, I didn’t realize how those who are female and those who are femi- much I believed in the inherent superiority of nine has the potential to become a majority, anti-feminine fashion. I was a feminist who one with the strength in numbers to finally wouldn’t judge a woman for her life experi- challenge and overturn both traditional and ences, but would make a snide crack about her oppositional sexism.” high heels. And I thought shoulder pads were Wouldn’t you know it — Chucks are now embarrassing! available in pink. Additionally, having children gave me the Shannon Drury is a self-described radical gentleness and compassion that my teenage housewife. She lives in Minneapolis. self lacked. Is it possible that my mom pan- icked when she realized that the ’80s weren’t safe for androgynous children? In those days, middle schoolers thought AIDS was trans- mitted via mosquito bites and toilet seats. Minnesota Women’s Press, August 2013 19 YourSTorY

reNeé The power of the suit roNGeN Ten years after working in corporate America all over the world, I settled into a new marriage and a new job in the heartland of America: North Dakota. An aero- space company created a position for me in upper management, where no woman had ever gone before. I was definitely paving new paths in a male-dominated arena. OK, paving would be an understatement.

The first day, I ransacked my closet, won- of the silent scene unfolding. Deciding to set dering what to wear. The corporate blue a firm boundary, I leaned toward the gentle- power suit? Or the black one? A pair of slacks man and quietly said, “Ah, don’t you just with a nice blouse and understated-but-dis- hate it when your legs break like that?” tinguished scarf? Muffled laughter came from most of the I chose a suit. other men, who seemed to admire my moxie. Hoping I looked enough the part to gain When I left the boardroom that morning, I One [gentleman] some credibility, I walked into the Monday wanted to shout, “Forget the glass ceiling. I morning meeting with my male colleagues. just blew the windows out of the Empire State looked at me and Truth be told, I wasn’t even sure what the hellBuilding!” they were talking about and, apparently, my Looking back now, I realize how much I lifted his empty suit and my bluffing skills weren’t convinc- loved my job and all the men I was privileged mug. … He tilted it ing anyone. to work with. They taught me about airplanes After 15 minutes into the meeting with and I taught them about working side by side. slightly from side these 13 gentlemen, one looked at me and Reneé Rongen lives with her family in Fertile, to side to show lifted his empty mug. I waited to confirm Minn. She is an entrepreneur and international it was empty; what I couldn’t believe. He tilted it slightlyspeaker. from side to side to show it was empty; his his glance swept glance swept across the coffee pot — and back Editor’s Note: to me. I hadn’t misinterpreted his meaning. This story was across the coffee Not that I have anything against serving first published in pot — and back coffee, but to expect it in that moment seemed “Fundamentally odd. I decided my reaction to his nonverbal Female,” a collection to me. request would set an unshakeable precedent. of stories by women Could I maintain a corporate demeanor and edited by Rongen. earn the respect of these men at the same www.reneerongen. time? com It was evident that the others around the conference table were uncomfortably aware

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other people. She has made jewelry and was a weaver, France in 2001. She has two grown daughters. — Pat Choffrut” working on large looms. She was a professional She started painting about 10 years ago, tak- musician, playing and singing in several blue- ing a watercolor class at Century College “just grass bands. for something to do,” she said. Minnesota Women’s Press, August 2013 21 “I discovered painting and just let it all loose,” she said. “I was just nuts about it. This is the one art form that I have kept now for a long time.” As she worked with the elements of color and light, she recognized the influence on her perspective from living in southern France. “The south of France has that incredible light. Van Gogh and others went there to live because of that light,” she said. “It’s more yellow. When I came home to Minnesota I thought it’s so white here. Then I realized, it’s the light.” The subjects in her paintings often have a European feel — cityscapes, houses, castles, Pat Choffrut vegetables, flowers. Emotion, excitement, adventure, surprise, wonder, hope — these are words that Choffrut uses to describe her approach to painting, and how she describes her paintings. “I paint with the idea of possibilities,” she said. As she paints, she lets the scene define itself. “I let my hand loosen up with the idea of possi - bilities. The ideas are in my head for quite awhile. Once I start, it’s very focused and very intense. I lose all sense of time, I forget everything.” Choffrut says she paints slowly. A small painting of radishes may take a few days, a château a week. She likes to paint parts of things instead of very large subjects, zeroing in on what is important to her. A couple of tulips, a bunch of radishes, a vase with water, two or three boats on the water — not a lake or city street or a whole church. “That’s too much for me,” Choffrut said. “I’m interested in the state- ment of a detail.” “Summer at the Château” FFI: https://www.etsy.com/shop/PatChoffrut

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‘Forgetting the details’ New-York based actor and producer Nicole Maxali in her Midwest premiere shares how one Asian- American family copes with Alzheimer’s, and the love between a grandmother and granddaughter. Aug. 2-9, days and times vary. The Playwrights’ Center, 2301 E. Franklin Ave. Minnesota Women’s Press, August 2013 23 www.womenspress.com GoSeeDo Guide

‘Imagination Island: Surviving reality’ World premiere of Hope Cervantes’ one-woman show about being a child actor on “Barney and Friends,” the dark secret of child abuse and smiling through pain to survive. Aug. 1-11, days and times vary. Red Eye Theater, 15 W. 14th St.

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Visit hazelden.edu, or contact us by phone at 651-213-4617, or by email at [email protected]. © 2013 Hazelden Foundation 4273-7 (7/13) 30 Minnesota Women’s Press, August 2013 oNYourMINd cHerYL THoMaS violence against women: A social disease with an identifiable cause As the news about sexual assaults in the military and at least 13 deaths of women in Minnesota from domestic violence this year continue to horrify us, I have the nagging sense that we are profoundly and dangerously naïve to be shocked at the brutality. The perpetrators are not the “aberrant” institutions that support views about women monsters we would like to believe. Thinking that lead to this violence. We must also reject they are uncommon may bring a measure public actions that diminish women and trivi- of comfort because their acts would then be alize violence. considered rare and those victimized few in While it may be easy to forget, Minnesota Men are often numbers. leads the United States and the world with They are part of a greater whole, a contin- decades of efforts to end violence against supporting male uum of tragic acts of violence against women women and girls. And it is true, as Chuck happening every day in every corner of the Derry of the Gender Violence Institute states, domination and United States and the world. “It is a minority of men who are doing the violence, whether Too many men still cling to a need to control abuse.” Derry goes on to say that abusers rely women, and they violate and abuse women on the majority of men to either remain silent they are being and girls — their bodies and their lives — to in the face of these atrocities or to participate accomplish the control. routinely in the social environments which directly abusive Local, national, worldwide support male domination and violence. Men or not. Hardly a day passes without headlines are often supporting male domination and of another woman or girl murdered or kid- violence, whether they are being directly abu- napped by her husband or boyfriend, forced sive or not. There is much we can — and must — do. into sex trafficking or sexually assaulted. Think of the tragedies of Danielle Jelinek and While essential, it is not enough to support Kira Steger (Trevino), whose bodies were victim’s shelters and services and encourage the abused to seek help. We must increase missing for weeks. There’s 16-year-old Anna Hurd, stabbed to death in March by her boy- focus on the men who are the perpetrators friend in a Maplewood park and the three lit- and the social context in which they act. tle Schaffhausen girls whose throats were slit It is time to name the cause of this brutality by their father in their River Falls, Wis., home, and go about the hard work of fixing it. a place where they should have been safest. As Derry says, “This is not an individual problem … this is a community problem with There’s a girl shot in the head in Pakistan because she wants to go to school; women in community solutions.” Egypt raped and sexually harassed because Cheryl Thomas is director of the Women’s they demonstrated for democracy; and Human Rights Program, for The Advocates women in Saudi Arabia fighting for thefor Human legal Rights, a Minnesota organization right to defend themselves from assaults by that works with governments and organiza- their husbands. tions throughout the world to stop violence The stories are endless, an epidemic. We against women. profess our horror, but are seemingly compla- FFI: cent. We appear unwilling to diagnose and www.theadvocatesforhumanrights.org cure the disease. www.genderviolenceinstitute.org Focus on attitudes, behavior Editor’s Note: The essay was originally Until we accept that many men remain published on MinnPost. intractable in their goal to dominate women through violence, these types of headlines will continue. We must focus on these atti- tudes and behavior. We must be strong in cre- ating accountability for violent acts. We must be willing to reject the social messages and Minnesota Women’s Press, August 2013 31 BooKSHeLF caroLYNLevY What she wore on stage MarYBeTHGaGNer Mary Beth Gagner: What she wears tells us who a character is. Defines her times and place ... Carolyn Levy: … But more importantly, costumes tell us about the characters themselves. MB: Clothes can be a shorthand to give clues C: When I directed “Hot L to the audience about a character’s relation- Baltimore,” the designer and ships, idiosyncrasies and personality, I gave each woman a purse C: like her flamboyance, or a backpack as part of her MB: primness, costume and asked the actor C: fastidiousness, to fill it as her character MB: her social status, might. C: occupation and age. MB: Did the audience ever know these BooKSHeLF: MB: Costumes can teach an actor, as well details? Carolyn’s favorite theater as the audience, about the role of women in C: Usually not, but this provided an exercise writers: Anna Deavere other times and places and the conditions in which their characterizations deepened. Smith, Caryl Churchill, within which her char- MB: When we worked together on “Trojan Ntozake Shange and acter lived. Garments Women,” we used a very contemporary Costumes can teach Jill Dolan. like corsets or crinolines translation, evoking modern war zones such an actor, as well as define movement - pos as Bosnia, Darfur and Afghanistan. The audi- Mary Beth’s book list: the audience, about sibilities (or impossibili- ence was divided by gender, women fac- The Costume Designer’s ties). ing the men, and the chorus sat among the Handbook the role of women C: I was in “The women, functioning as a bridge through time by Rosemary Ingham in other times and Clandestine Marriage,” and space. and Liz Covey places and the condi- an 18th-century comedy, C: We knew they needed to wear recogniz- The Magic Garment: all the women wore pan- able pieces that linked them to the audience tions within which Principles of Costume niers, you know ... members. What each woman wore grew from Design her character lived. MB: … a collapsing cage discussions and improvisations about the by Rebecca Cunningham crinoline — think wide particular character she was creating and the hips. role of women in war and the various places Survey of Historic C: Yes, but we each used them differently. the play referenced. I loved coming into the Costume: A History The prim ingénue folded them delicately as costume shop and seeing your crew dirty of Western Dress she sat. I played the crazy, ranting aunt, jerk- the fabric and use cheese graters to distress by Phyllis G. Tortora and Keith Eubank ing them up to my waist as I plunked myself the clothes to reflect the dire situation of the into a seat. women. I Remember Nothing: MB: A character’s costume grows out of the C: The collaboration piece is what I love And Other Reflections collaboration between director, designer and most … by Nora Ephron actor, and their interpretation of that role. MB: … It’s why I do this work. I Know Why the Caged C: Each has input and each ones’ thoughts C: And why it’s fun to work together! Bird Sings inform the others’ work. They need to listen Carolyn Levy is a freelance theater director by Maya Angelou to each other. and a professor at Hamline University. She MB: Designing “Crimes of the Heart,” the is currently an artistic adviser for Theatre director and I created a “closet” of choices Unbound. and each actor selected what to wear based Mary Beth Gagner is a freelance costume on her particular understanding of her designer and teaches and designs at Hamline character. University.

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cinderella — for a day I define my power I never felt so powerful as I did the day of my My mother died when I was in my late 20s, and I was alone. wedding in my Cinderella fairy-tale wedding dress. One of the ways I comforted myself was by trying out a new The bodice was intricately beaded and the full skirt look. bloomed with multiple layers of tulle. When I put it I had grown up in thrift-store clothes and was curious how it on, I swore I would never take it off. I wondered why would feel to wear expensive dresses. I bought myself several, I didn’t dress like this every day. I cursed being born and remember how thinned out I looked and how beautiful I in the past century. All my wedding guests oohed and felt. To my amazement, people treated me with more respect. I aahed at my garb, and it made me feel powerful in a relished and embraced the different kind of attention. way my everyday slacks and T-shirts had never done. Then I got to thinking after the owner of the home health-care But just like Cinderella, come midnight, the spell wore agency where I worked took me aside and demanded that I wear off and the dress lost its power. I felt no sentimentality a lab coat to client homes so that I looked the part. I refused and toward it post-wedding and donated it to charity for told the owner that I knew what I was doing and that a lab coat someone else to enjoy. would not change my competence. Also, I was not going to a Leah DeZiel, Minneapolis laboratory. At about the same time, a therapist I knew told me my life The Bra Lady would go more smoothly if I improved my skills at “playing the game.” A great-fitting suit, beautiful jewelry or a favorite I decided in my early 30s that I no longer wanted to wear cos- color can all make a huge difference in how a woman - feels about herself. Not only do these items make a tumes or power clothes, according to standards and specifica tions of others. I felt like a phony and changed to paisley pedal statement about how we present ourselves but also pushers, leopard-skin stretch pants, socks and Birkenstocks. how we are perceived by others. My husband and I lost our second child to medical negligence, What about underneath? As women do and my statement became a protest against people deciding we actually take time to consider if our As women whose lives are worth saving. That stance inspired my all-black - undergarments are supporting our fig wardrobe, for almost 20 years. we come in ures? Bras, panties and shapewear are all Recently, I have been making a more passionate and steadfast referred to as “foundations” because as a all shapes commitment to human-rights causes and to helping my own and sizes, but first layer of a woman’s wardrobe, these — the poor. Consequently, I am attracted most to another look, garments are designed to make women there is no involving jeans and T-shirts featuring Woody Guthrie, Dr. Martin look better in clothes. A proper-fitting braLuther King Jr., Joan Baez, Peter Yarrow, Big Bill Haywood and fosters good breast health, back health and reason to hide Lucille Parsons. self-esteem. It can also make a woman look When I was young, power clothes meant impressing others. ourselves. 10 to 15 pounds slimmer. Why then are 85 Now that I have left peer pressure behind me, fashion moguls, percent of women still wearing the wrong Hollywood subculture and social convention bore me. Power size? clothes mean making my own statement in my own unique way. I see almost every day how much a proper-fitting Toianna Wika, St. Paul bra boosts a woman’s self-esteem. Instantly, it makes a difference in her appearance and how she carries her- My polyester power clothes self. … As women we come in all shapes and sizes, but there is no reason to hide ourselves. My position as a graduate instructor to non-native English - Amy Holland, St. Paul learners birthed my flexible identity; I wore novel daily cos tumes composed of the cheapest used items. Previously, I’d Editor’s Note: Known as The Bra Lady, Holland is a worn costumes, wigs, makeup, et. al., only when going out certified Bra Fitter with more than 20 years of experi- at night. But out of a desperate need for creative expression ence helping women with one of life’s greatest chal- and fortitude when I began teaching on a university campus, I lenges — finding the right size bra. started developing my unique identities daily. My graduate career was laden with major life events. I only progressed academically with unconventional expression. Realizing the value of creativity in my cognition, I desired to learn if applicable to others. I began with self-effacing cos- tumes, and my teaching and drawing methods incorporating global issues included but were not limited to the three Rs: reduce, reuse, recycle. Not having a lot of support, I forged ahead nonetheless and am still looking for a place where my voice can be heard. Katrina Vaara, Delano Minnesota Women’s Press, August 2013 33 Open 7 Days a Week! Local since 1876 My power mustache WE ACCEPT Far from the big city, faculty Each month we ask EBT! at our regional university enter- our readers FREE PARKING! to respond to a tained themselves with parties 612.333.1737 question. www.MplsFarmersMarket.com and dress-up. One Halloween I For September’s NORTH LYNDALE LOCATION wore loose pants, soutached overshirt, “women mean turban and a large black mustache. business”-themed 6 a.m. - 1 p.m., Everyday No one recognized me. 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