1 KEHILLAT MA’ARAV B’NAI MITZVAH HANDBOOK
ֶלך- ְלך ֵמאַ ְר ְצך וּ ִממּוֹ ַל ְד ְתּך... ֶאל ָהאָ ֶרץ ֲא ֶשׁר אַ ְר ֶא ָךּ . וַ ֲא ָב ֶר ְכך… וֶ ְהיֵה ְבּ ָר ָכה
“Go Forth from the Land of your Childhood….and I will bless you…and you will be a blessing” (Genesis 12:1 – 2) 2
TABLE OF CONTENTS
1. Introduc on
3 Rabbi’s Message
2. Prepara on
4. Se ng a B’nai Mitzvah date
4. Private Mentoring/Tutoring
4. B’nai Mitzvah Material
5. Good Study Habits
5. Rehearsals
5. Family Shabbat and Synagogue par cipa on
10. * BM Timeline - Appendix A
3. Synagogue Standards
5. Administra ve
5. Academic
4. Shabbat Morning Service
6. Shabbat Morning Service & Family Par cipa on/Honors
7. Sea ng
7. Religious Policies and Proper E que e
7. Community Commemora ons
8. Dress Code 3
11. * Honors Request Sheet - Appendix B
5. Celebra on
8. Community-wide Kiddish
9. Hidur Mitzvah (Beau fica on of the Mitzvah)
13. * Mitzvah Project - Appendix C
Dear Families,
For many a Bar/Bat Mitzvah is a me to unwrap presents and set up a bank account. May I suggest that you strive to make it a me to “unwrap” your child’s religious development, help your child set up a “moral” bank account. Think of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah process as a holy opportunity for sharpening one’s religious iden ty, think of it as a spiritual undertaking for your en re family.
I liken the prepara on for a Bar/Bat Mitzvah to that of a couple preparing for their wedding. They’re no longer simply boyfriend and girlfriend, but neither are they husband and wife; they’re in transi on - they’re engaged. So too with your child and your family, you’re in transi on. The process has begun; it’s up to you to become, “engaged.”
Whether it’s star ng up, or adding to your home’s existent Jewish library, buy Jewish books. A end Shabbat services and reevaluate your family’s observance of Shabbat, Kashrut, Jewish thought and holidays. Gauge your connec on to God, Torah and Israel—Judaism’s theological triumvirate. This is a great me for your family’s religious growth, introspec on and explora on.
At Kehillat Ma’arav, we are proud to do our part to help prepare your child. I fervently hope the process of becoming a Bar/Bat Mitzvah begins a wondrous—fun filled—journey. Above all, I hope it is part of a con nuous engagement in the teachings, values and joys that define our vast and glorious Jewish People.
This important milestone of becoming a Bar/Bat Mitzvah is experienced not only by your child, your family and friends, but also with our en re synagogue community. Whatever we can do to help make this process more meaningful and enjoyable, please let us know and we will do all that we can.
Congratula ons in advance, and may your child be a great source of inspira on to your family, our synagogue community and to God’s precious world.
Mazel Tov,
Rabbi Michael Gotlieb