THE CATHOLIC COMMUNITY OF ST. JOSEPH 120 HOBOKEN ROAD EAST RUTHERFORD, NJ 07073 Pastoral Staff Rev. Joe Astarita, Pastor [email protected] Rev. Arokiadoss Raji, Vicar [email protected] Eileen McGuire, Administrative Assistant 201-939-0457 - ext. 307 [email protected] Mark &Verna Paiotti, Directors of Faith Formation 201-939-3441 [email protected] Marc Lamparello, Music Director 201-939-0457—ext. 309 [email protected]

Parish Directory Parish Office: 201.939.0457 Emergency Line: 201.939.0391 Parish Fax: 201.939.4196 Faith Formation: 201.939.3441 Parish website: www.stjosepher.com Parish email: [email protected] Schedule Weekends [email protected] is the e-mail address to Saturday: 5:00pm Vigil Mass use if you wish to place an article in the weekly bulletin. Sunday: 8:00am 10:00am 12:00noon Articles are due the Monday before the published date. Monday - Friday

7:30am and 12:05pm Parish Office Hours Mon-Fri: 8:30am - 6:00pm Confession (The office is closed 12:00-12:30pm for lunch.) Saturday — 11:00am - 12:00 Noon Saturday & Sunday: Closed Other times by appointment.

Parish Registration Baptisms Registration Forms are available at the Parish Fourth Sunday of the month — 1:30pm office or at the Parish web site. For information regarding baptisms please contact the parish office. Pastoral Care of the Sick Please contact Parish Office for pastoral visits in Weddings Arrangements are usually made one year in advance the hospital or at home. Pastoral ministers are to properly prepare for marriage. Contact the Parish available to visit the sick and homebound. Office for an appointment.

We offer a warm welcome to all our Guests & Devotions to follow the 12:05 Mass Newcomers! We at the Catholic Community of St. St. Anthony —Every Tuesday Joseph are pleased to have celebrated liturgy St. Joseph Novena—Every Wednesday with you and we hope you will join us again. Exposition of the — Every Thursday THE MOST HOLY BODY AND —JUNE 10, 2012

Dear Brothers and Sisters: Today we celebrate the great of Corpus Christ to honor the mystery of the Holy . We SATURDAY, June 9 did reflect on the Eucharist somewhat at the time of 5:00pm + Ellen Flanagan Holy Thursday and the Church wants to reinforce in SUNDAY, June 10 us this belief in the presence of Jesus Christ in the The Most Holy Body & Blood of Christ Host, which today is waning. As this feast began to 8:00am + Anna Girardo grow in the Church 800 years ago, St. Thomas 10:00am + Anne & Gerard Aquinas wrote some beautiful and texts that Chirichella & are still used today. They express our joy in being so Richard Chirichella close to Christ in this way: Adoro te devote, latens 12:00pm + Elizabeth McCormack Deitas…O Godhead hid, devoutly I adore thee, and MONDAY, June 11 we can repeat these words ourselves interiorly. St. Barnabas When we come to the church or a chapel to 7:30am + Betty Douglas visit the Lord, we can say: 12:05pm + Diane Reichert Make me believe thee ever more and more, TUESDAY, June 12 In thee my hope, in thee my love to store. 7:30am + Jesus Christ presides over us in the tabernacle 12:05pm + Billy Battiston and we ought not to forget him there, which is easy WEDNESDAY, June 13 to do today. Studies show that many Catholics do St. Anthony of Padua not believe in the real presence of Jesus Christ in the 7:30am + Patrick Cummins & Eucharist; many think it is only a symbol. We think James Linehan differently and we want to adore him and to make 12:05pm + Marietta Carpluk sure that when we receive him we are in the state of THURSDAY, June 14 grace. 7:30am + Eugene McCann I hope you will take part in the procession, 12:05pm + Michael Bermingham accompanying Jesus Christ, like those simple people FRIDAY, June 15 who joyfully followed the Master during his earthly The Most Sacred Heart of Jesus existence. It will show us the way to lead our life, by 7:30am + always following His lead, even publicly. To follow 12:05pm + Cindy Rasmus the will of someone else is a sign of love that is not SATURDAY, June 16 common these days. We can see this always in the The Immaculate Heart of the Blessed Virgin Mary lives of the saints. 5:00pm + Piero Campiotti Jesus Christ humbles himself in the Eucharist

SUNDAY, June 17 in order to be eaten by us. He never leaves us, and 11th Sunday in Ordinary Time never ceases to offer himself to us in this way. He is 8:00am + All the fathers of the parish the true bread that comes down 10:00am + All the fathers of the parish from heaven; the only one that 12:00pm + All the fathers of the parish gives us real Life.

The Sanctuary Candle is now burning Thank You in Loving Memory of We want to thank the parishioners who Piero Campiotti recently donated the bronze cover for the new requested by Book of the Gospel as well as the cost of Wife & Children renovating the tabernacle door on the Sacred Heart Altar, where Our Lord presides . God will repay us a hundred-fold.

The last two lamps for our church are nearly ready and all five could be sponsored if 2 someone would like to do this.

ST. JOSEPH’S 140th HERE AND NOW ANNIVERSARY Remember when “What will the neighbors think” was a major concern for “decent, respectable” people? When your standing in the community was determined by unwritten but nonetheless powerful and binding standards? When public opinion, that stern arbiter, was measured in disapproving

looks and whispers, not by pollsters? Run that

by today’s society of any age and you will get a Mark your calendars for the following parish events to celebrate our parish's 140th anniversary: speedy response along the lines of “Who cares?” September 30, 2012 - Outdoor Mass and Parish Picnic. Bring-A-Friend Nowadays, publicity is something to be desired, especially for anyone in the public Bring the family and join us on September eye—just spell my name right! The paradox is 30, 2012 at 12 noon in the lower parking lot for an outdoor mass. Invite a friend or neighbor to join that while hiring publicists to keep their names you and stay for the parish picnic and Super 50/50 in the newspapers/gossip columns, many Raffle drawing. Hot dogs, hamburgers and seekers after fame find it a mixed blessing refreshments will be provided. (In the event of once they achieve it. Then they need to hire rain, mass to be held in the church and picnic to be security specialists to keep the paparazzi at held in the auditorium). bay! Goes back to “be careful what you wish November, 2012 - Parish dinner dance in for, you might get it,” doesn’t it? the school auditorium. Live entertainment and catered hot dinner buffet. Details to follow. But when we stand before the Lord in all our imperfections and failures, we can be MASS BOOK assured that there will be no snide comments, There are numerous ways in which finger pointing or laying on of guilt—just a we can remember the deceased and/or a loving welcome and a gentle voice: “Come to special intention for a family member or me, all of you who are troubled, who are friend. Please contact the Parish Office. disappointed, depressed, at odds with Mass $15.00 yourselves and your world and I will refresh Wine $25.00 you.”

Hosts $25.00 C.O’S Acolyte Candles $10.00 Sanctuary Candles $15.00 TODAY’S READINGS First Reading — This is the blood of the covenant that the LORD has made with WEEKLY COLLECTION you (Exodus 24:3-8). Last Sunday 837 people attended mass. Psalm — I will take the cup of salvation, Collection $5,209.00 and call on the name of the Lord (Psalm 116). Our Second Collection for Second Reading — Christ is the mediator of Archdiocesan Assessment — $1,828.00 a new covenant (Hebrews 9:11-15).

Weekly Need: $ 10,650 Gospel — This is my body. This is my blood of the covenant (Mark 14:12-16, 22-26). We thank you for your continued support. 3

DISCOVER THE JOY OF BEING A HOSPICE PRAYER LIST... VOLUNTEER As a community of faith, we offer the support of our prayers for Want to make a difference in someone’s one another. life? Can you hold a hand? Listen to a story? Share a Anyone who asks to be on this prayer list will smile? Read a newspaper? Stuff an envelope? be listed for six weeks. After that time, his/her name Make a phone call? Whether you want to serve will be placed in our Intention Book, which is in the your community, share a unique talent, or simply church on the altar rail in front of the tabernacle. pay it forward, Hospice Volunteering may be for The following list of people are in acute need of you! Visiting Nurse Association of Englewood our prayers: Hospice invites you to join our mission of caring Nick Errico, Rob Buckley, Charles Cloutier, Mike Salvemini, and compassion. Learn more about volunteering Dorothy Pell, Stanley Sudol, Laura Izzo, Gianna Dilemme, Lenore Papale, Daniel Leach, Claire Palmieri, JoeDiGradina with patients, bereaved families, and/or our administrative staff by contacting Lisa Krishnan, (Please call the Parish Office @ 201-939-0457 if you would MT-BC at (973) 849-7214 or like to add a name to the prayer list.) [email protected] “The highest reward for a person's work is not PLEASE PRAY FOR OUR TROOPS what they get for it, but what they become Michael Brockway (Afghanistan) because of it.” -John Ruskin nd Lt. Patrick Stevens (Iraq 2 tour) BOLING SPRING 1st QUARTER BONUS & TD BANK Lance Corp. Kevin Murphy (Afghanistan) Thank you! to all of you SPC Richard H Foy III- Afghanistan--2nd tour who have signed up to CPL Sean Clarkson (Afghanistan) participate in our Community Alliance Program at Boiling ST. JOSEPH FOOD PANTRY Springs Savings Bank and the The pantry is short of many of the Affinity Membership program at foods and supplies that are needed TD Bank. Our 1st Quarter bonus from Boiling during the winter months. Our inventory Springs was an impressive $1,578. These funds has run low. We are especially in need of soap, have been earmarked for upcoming parish events. shampoo, canned stew, spaghetti/macaroni Your involvement in these programs is always sauce, beans and cereal. appreciated and there is never a cost to the If you would like to support the parish food participant. Enrollment forms for both bank pantry, please consider volunteering at the pantry programs are available at the back of the church during the week, or purchasing a gift card in the or on our parish website under "Parish Life" for name of “Food Pantry”. We thank you for your anyone who is interested in participating. generosity and continued support of this ministry. SCRIP GIFT CARDS ShopRite and Stop & ST. JOSEPH’S WORKERS Shop gift card sales have The pastor could use some help with small resumed at the back of the plumbing and clean -up jobs around the buildings church after each mass. Spring in our parish. The men who have been helping our is also home improvement time, parish with the lighting in the church will be as well as Mother's Day, leaving later this month so our needs will be Father's Day, graduations, teacher appreciations. greater. If you can help in some way, please So please order your gift cards early. We can inform Fr. Joe. order gift cards from retailers such as Home ST. FRANCIS INN Depot, Lowe's, Bed Bath & Beyond, Eddie Bauer, During JUNE we are collecting and Barnes & Noble just to name a few. Order Pre-sweetened iced tea & lemonade forms are available at the back of the church or on Your donations may be left at the Giving Tree. our parish website under "Parish Life". 4 (For information please visit ww.stfrancisinn.org)

UPDATE ON CHURCH CELEBRATION OF BAPTISM: THANK YOU! & Each infant baptized at St. Joseph’s Parish, is PROJECTS presented with a handmade white Baptismal bib. We are still waiting for the final work to be We would like to thank Betty Arensman for making done on the exterior of the church and we have these garments and volunteering her time and talent received several estimates to fix the plaster in the since 2005. She is retiring from this ministry and we church interior. It will cost about $40,000 to fix all are in need of someone to volunteer and continue the plaster and paint selectively so that the church making these gifts for each Baptismal family. Also, looks presentable. The church lamps are almost we need someone to clean the Baptism Font. If you done and all of them will be in place in the next few can help, please call the Faith Formation Office 201- weeks. I sense we need an architectural plan to 939-3441. restore the beauty of the church and then we can move ahead step by step. For instance, we are also YOUR HELP IS NEEDED! looking into improving the long term efficiency of Do you have 60-90 minutes you could the heating and air conditioning in the church. occasionally spare in the mornings, Monday-

We thank God for helping us in so many ways Saturday? Our Lazarus Ministry, which serves at during this time in the parish. A former parishioner, funerals and includes Adult Altar Servers, Lectors, who moved from the parish in the 1950’s, left us a and/or Eucharistic Ministers, needs more $75,000 gift just before he died in Texas in 2011, volunteers to become a part of the rotation. which we can use for the parking lots. Also a very Training is provided, and there is no expectation of generous parishioner has restricted a $50,000 gift a weekly commitment. Funerals usually start for the interior of the church. This still leaves us with between 9:30-10:30am. For further information or a $100,000 shortfall to do the parking lots, but we to sign up on the roster, please contact Jim pray that God will continue to provide for us and for Kopacz at 201-935-3236. Transportation may be our parish. available. We plan to publicly acknowledge the generosity of the many families and friends who KNIGHTS OF COLUMBUS LADIES AUXILIARY helped in our capital campaign by having an Knights of Columbus Ladies Auxiliary will appropriate plaque placed inside the Church.. meet on Thursday, June 14 at Justin’s Restaurant in Wood-Ridge. We will meet at 5:30 pm and ATLANTIC CITY BUS TRIP dinner will be at 6:00pm. Cost of dinner is $30.00. Knights of Columbus Women of the parish are invited. For more Santa Maria Assembly #663 information please call Juanita at 201-935-1561. 67 Hathaway Street Wallington, NJ READINGS FOR THE WEEK Traveling to Monday: Acts 11:21b-26, 13:1-3; Mt 5:1-12 The Tropicana Casino & Hotel on the boardwalk Tuesday: 1 Kgs 17:7-16; Mt 5:13-16 June 24, 2012 Wednesday: 1 Kgs 18:20-39; Mt 5:17-19 Depature at 8:30 am & return at 7:30 pm Thursday: 1 Kgs 18:41-46; Mt 5:20-26 Ticket Price of $ 30 includes: Friday: Hos 11:1, 3-4, 8c-9; Eph 3:8-12, 14-19; Continental breakfast at the KofC Hall ~ Jn 19:31-37 $25 return from the casino, Prizes to be raffled on the bus ~ Saturday: 1 Kgs 19:19-21; Lk 2:41-51 Snacks and drinks upon return. Sunday: Ez 17:22-24; Ps 92; 2 Cor 5:6-10; Mk 4:26-34 For more info please call: Alan J. Prontiker 201—407— 3205 or Jack Davis 201– 410– 6513 or CHARITY Tom Moriarty 201– 935—1561 Charity is that with which no one is lost, Must be 21 to gamble and without which no one is saved. Must present Government or state photo ID —St. Robert Bellarmine for casino package

The Choir of St. Joseph Church cordially invites you to our Annual Spring Concert "REAWAKEN OUR SPIRIT"

Friday, June 22, 2012 7:30 p.m. St. Joseph Church (East Rutherford, NJ)

Special performance by Fr. Arokiadoss Raji

Coffee and refreshments will follow after the performance

Food pantry donations and at-will donations would be greatly appreciated

Benedict XVIs Dialogue with Families at the VII World Meeting of Families in Milan, Italy "We are Defending Mans Freedom When We Defend Sunday" Cat Tien (a little girl from Vietnam): Hi, Pope. I am Cat Tien, I come from Vietnam. I am 7 years old and I would like to present my family to you. He is my dad, Dan, and my mom’s name is Tao, and he is my little brother Binh. I would really like to know something about your family and when you were little like me… Holy Father: Thank you, dear, and your parents. I thank you from my heart. Well, you asked about what my memories of my family are like: there would be a lot! I wanted to say only a few things. Sunday was always the important time for our family, but Sunday already began Saturday evening. Father read the readings to us from a book that was very popular in Germany at that time. The book also included an explanation of the readings. That is how Sunday began: we were already entering into the liturgy, in a joyful atmosphere. The next day we went to Mass. My home is very close to Salzburg, so we had a lot of music – Mozart, Schubert, Haydn – and when the began it was as if heaven had opened up. And at home the big lunch together was naturally important. And we also sang a lot: my brother is a great musician, he composed music for all of us already as a young man, and the whole family sang. Dad played the zither and sang; they are unforgettable moments. Then, of course, we took trips together, walking; we were near a forest and so walking in the forests was very nice: adventures, games, etc. In a word, we were one heart and one , with many shared experiences, even in very hard times, because it was wartime – first there was the dictatorship, then poverty. But this love that we had for each other, this joy even in simple things was strong and so we were able to overcome and endure even these things. I think that it was very important that even little things gave us joy because the other person’s heart expressed itself in this way. And in this way we grew up in the certainty that it was good to be a human being, because we saw that God’s goodness was reflected in our parents and in us children. And, to tell the , if I try to imagine a little how paradise will be, I think always of the time of my youth, of my childhood. In this context of confidence, of joy and love we were happy and I think that paradise must be something like how it was in my youth. In this sense I hope to go “home,” going to the “other side of the world.”

Serge Razafinbony and Fara Andrianombonana (an engaged couple from Madagascar): Serge: Our names are Fara and Serge, and we come from Madagascar. We met each other in Florence, where we were studying. I was studying engineering and she was studying economics. We have been engaged for 4 years and having just graduated we dream of returning to our country to help our people also through our professions. Fara: The family models that dominate the West do not convince us, but we are also aware that certain customs of our Africa must be changed in some way. We feel made for each other; because of this we want to get married and build a future together. We also want every aspect of our life to be guided by the values of the Gospel. But talking about marriage, Your Holiness, there is one word that attracts and, at the same time, frightens us more than any other: “forever”…

Holy Father: Dear friends, thank you for your witness. My prayer is with you in this journey of engagement and I hope that you can create, with the values of the Gospel, a family that is “forever.” You spoke of different types of marriage: we know the “traditional marriage” (mariage coutumier) of Africa and western marriage. In Europe too, to tell the truth, until the 1800s, a different model of marriage that was dominant: often the marriage was in reality a contract between clans in which the aim was to preserve the clan, hoping to adapt the one to the other. This is also how it was in part where I come from. I remember that it was still very much like this in a small town where I went to school. But then, beginning in the 1800s, there was the emancipation of the individual, personal freedom, and marriage was no longer based on the will of others but on personal choice; first a couple fell in love, then they got engaged and then came marriage. At that time we were all convinced that this was the only correct model of marriage and that love alone guaranteed the “forever,” because love is absolute, it wants everything and therefore also the whole of time: it is “forever.” Unfortunately, the reality was not thus: we see that falling love is beautiful, but perhaps it is not always perpetual, just as sentiment is not: it does not remain forever. So, we see that the passage from falling in love to engagement and then to marriage requires different decisions, different interior experiences. As I said, this sentiment of love is beautiful, but it must be purified, it must follow a path of discernment, that is, it must enter into the reason and will; reason, sentiment and will must join together. In the Rite of Matrimony the Church does not say: “Are you in love?” but “Do you will?” (Vuoi?), “Are you decided?” (Sei deciso?) In other words, falling in love must become true love involving the will and reason on a journey, which is that of engagement, of purification, of greater depth, so that truly the whole person, with all of his capacities, with the discernment of reason, the power of the will, says: “Yes, this is my life.” I think often of the marriage at Cana. The first wine is delicious: this is falling in love. But it does not go all the way: a second wine must come, that is, it must ferment and grow, mature. A definitive love that really becomes a “second wine” is more beautiful, better than the first wine. And this is what we must seek. And here it is also important that the “I” is not isolated, I and you, but that they community of the parish, the Church, friends be involved too. These things – the proper personalization, communion of life with others, with families that support each other – are very important and only in this way, in this involvement of the community, of friends, of the Church, of faith, of God himself, can there grow a wine that lasts forever. Congratulations to you!

The Rerrie Family (from the United States) Jay: We live near New York. My name is Jay. I am originally from Jamaica and I am an accountant. This is my wife Anna and she is a teacher’s aid. And these are our 6 children, who are between 2 and 12. From this you can well imagine, Your Holiness, that our life is one of always racing against the clock, of complicated worries and attempt at coordination… Even with us, in the United States, one of the absolute priorities is keeping a job, and to do it you cannot worry about the hours, and often it is our family that sets us back. Anna: Of course, it is not always easy … The impression, Your Holiness, is that institutions and businesses do not facilitate the conciliation of working hours with the family schedule. Your Holiness, we imagine that for you too it is not easy to conciliate your infinite commitments with rest. Do you have some advice to help us rediscover this necessary harmony? In the vortex of the many stimuli imposed by contemporary society, how can families be helped to live celebrations according to God’s heart? Holy Father: Great question, and I would like to reflect on this dilemma in connection to 2 priorities: the priority of work is fundamental, and the priority of the family. And how do we reconcile these 2 priorities? I can only try to offer a small bit of advice. The first point: there are businesses that permit extra time for the family – birthdays, etc. – and they see that allowing a little freedom is good even for the business, because it reinforces the love for work, for the workplace. So, here I would like to invite employers to think of the family, to think also of helping to conciliate the 2 priorities. Second point: it seems to me that you must try to be creative, and this is not always easy. But at least every day bring some element of joy to the family, of attention, some sacrifice of your own wishes, so that the family can be together; and accept and overcome the nights, the hard times of which we spoke earlier, and think of this great good that is the family and thus, even in the important attempt to do something good every day, find the reconciliation of the 2 priorities. And finally there is Sunday, the feast: I hope that Sunday is observed in America. Sunday seems very important to me, the day of the Lord and, precisely as such, the “day of man” too, because we are free. This was, in the creation account, the Creator’s original intention: that on one day everyone would be free. In this freedom for each other, for ourselves, we are free for God. And so I think that we are defending man’s freedom when we defend Sunday and holidays as God’s days and therefore days for man. Best wishes to you! Thank you.

The Araujo Family (from Porto Alegre, Brazil) Maria Marta: Your Holiness, as in the rest of the world so also in our Brazil failed marriages continue to increase. My name is Maria Marta and this is Manoel Angelo. We have been married for 34 years and we are already grandparents. As a doctor and family psychotherapist we meet many families, and notice in conflicts between couples a more pronounced difficulty in forgiving and accepting forgiveness, but in various cases we have seen the desire and the will to remarry and to build something lasting also for the children who are born from the new union.

Manoel Angelo: Some of these remarried couples would like to return to the Church, but when they are refused the Sacraments their delusion is great. They feel excluded, singled out by a judgment to which there is no appeal. These great sufferings wound the very depths of those who are involved – lacerations that also become part of the world, and they are also our wounds, of all humanity. Holy Father, we know that the Church has these situations and these persons in her heart: what words and what signs of hope can we give them?

Holy Father: Dear friends, thank you for your psychotherapeutic work with families, which is very necessary. Thank you for all that you do to help these suffering persons. In fact, this problem of divorced people who have remarried is among the more painful things that today’s Church has to suffer. And we do not have simple fixes for it. The suffering is great and we can only help the parishes and individuals help these persons endure the suffering of this divorce. I would say that, naturally, prevention is very important, that is, from the very beginning to deepen the affection (innamoramento) into a profound, ripened decision; moreover, accompanying the family during the marriage [is also very important], so that families are never alone but are truly accompanied on their journey. And then, in regard to divorced persons, we must tell them – as you said – that the Church loves them, but they must see and feel this love. It seems to me that it is a major task of a parish, of a Catholic community, really to do what is possible so that they really feel that they are loved, accepted, that they are not “outside” even if they cannot receive absolution and the Eucharist: they must see that even in this way they live fully in the Church. Perhaps it is not possible to receive absolution in Confession, nevertheless, permanent contact with a priest, with a spiritual director, is very important so that they can see that someone is there for them, helping them. Then it is also very important that they sense that the Eucharist is real and participated in if they truly enter into communion with the Body of Christ. Even without the “bodily” reception of the Sacrament, we can be spiritually united to Christ in his Body. And making this understood is important so that they really discover the possibility of living a life of faith, with the Word of God, with the communion of the Church and are able to see that their suffering is a gift for the Church, that they serve everyone in this way even for defending the stability of love, of marriage; that they also see that this suffering is not only a physical and psychological torment, but that it is also a suffering in the community of the Church for the great values of our faith. I think that their suffering, if it is truly accepted interiorly, is a gift for the Church. They must know this, that precisely in this way they serve the Church, they are in the Church’s heart. Thank you for your work.