March 4, 2010 Best films of 2009 Serving the Catholic community of Delaware and Maryland's Eastern Shore Page 13 Vol. 45, No. 9 THE DIALOG 4 www.cdow.org/dialog.html Quelling immigrants’ census fears Church groups address myths By Gary Morton A project Staff reporter Church ministries and other faith-based organizations in Delaware that serve immigrants FOR THE and other underserved popula- tions are trying to counter some myths as they promote participa- tion in the 2010 Census. Census forms are being mailed this month as part of the ages government’s effort every 10 years to get an accurate count of the people living in each state. April 1 is Census Day, which the Census Bureau uses as a target date for returning completed More than a decade ago forms by mail. Maria Velasquez, community a North Carolina man went organizer for the Hispanic advo- looking for his family’s roots cacy group Voices Without Bor- ders, urges all people to answer in Wilmington. Many volunteer the 10 questions on the form hours later, local Catholics have when it arrives. Among the ques- tions are how many people live at a valuable genealogical tool an address, their names and sex, and other demographic informa- online — parish sacramental tion. records from before 1900. One of the major myths Velasquez battles among many Story, page 10 Latinos and other immigrants, 4 especially those without proper documentation, is that Immigra- tion and Customs Enforcement officers will use the information to deport them. By law, Velasquez said, census informa- tion “can’t be used for immigra- tion issues or anything like that. I don’t think the community is Ten receive papal honors aware of that.” None of the ques- Major study tions asks whether the respondent Seven laypeople, two priests, and one sister cited for service is a citizen or has proper docu- Dialog report vice to the church. Created in 1791 by Pope Pius VI, of U.S. parish mentation. it depicts the image of Christ on a gold Greek cross. Voices Without Borders, Ten men and women, including two religious- Receiving the Pro Ecclesia et Pontifice Cross are life underway. which has offices at St. Paul order priests, one woman religious, Dorothy Arthur, Anthony Flynn, and Parish in Wilmington, is one of and seven laypeople, have been Dr. Eileen Schmitt. The Pro Ecclesia 4Page 4 several church ministries and awarded papal honors by Pope et Pontifice (“for church and pope”) Benedict XVI for service to the Cross was established in 1888 by See Census, page 2 church, Bishop Malooly has Pope Leo XIII and is given for distin- announced. guished service to the church. The Receiving the Benemerenti Medal medal includes a Greek-shaped cross are Thomas Connelly Jr., Carl Dan- with an image of saints Peter and Paul berg, Brother Ronald Giannone, Sis- in the middle. ter Maria Mairlot, Father Joseph The recipients will be formally McLaughlin, Jack Raughley, and honored during a ceremony May 30 at The awards are the Pro Eccle- Darryl Simms, who is being honored sia et Pontifice Cross (left) 4 p.m. at St. John the Beloved Church posthumously. The Benemerenti and the Benemerenti medal. in Wilmington, along with four priests (“good merit”) Medal recognizes who were recently named chaplains to individuals for exceptional accomplishments and ser- See Honors, page 3 2 THE DIALOG March 4, 2010

The church, through ministries such as Seton Center in Somerset Census County, Md., reaches out to peo- Bishop Malooly’s ple in the categories Aguilera- Continued from page 1 Titus cited. Somerset County is schedule the poorest in Maryland, with a organizations in the diocese per capita annual income of SATURDAY, MARCH 6 sity board meet- working with the Census Bureau $24,053. • Confirmation, Ss. Peter ing, Emmitsburg, Md., 9 a.m. on this year’s count. Others “They trust us,” Sister Regina and Paul, Easton, Md., 11 a.m. TUESDAY, MARCH 9 include the diocesan Ministry for Hudson said of the center’s SUNDAY, MARCH 7 • Catholic Diocese Founda- Black Catholics, Hispanic Min- clients. “If we share with them it’s • Mass and Knights of tion meeting, 1626 Union St., istry, Catholic Charities, and OK to tell how many people are Columbus Breakfast of Cham- Wilmington, 1 p.m. Seton Center, a Catholic Charities living in your house, they say pions, Christ Our King, Wilm- WEDNESDAY, MARCH 10 outreach center in Princess Anne, ‘Oh, OK.’ They realize it’s going ington, 10 a.m. • Diocesan Finance Council, Md. They are providing to be alright.” MONDAY, MARCH 8 1626 Union St., Wilmington, brochures and other information In Wilmington, Velasquez • Mount St. Mary’s Univer- 12:30 p.m. and encouraging their clients to understands some of the concerns participate. new arrivals have; she came to the “From a social justice stand- U.S. from Colombia 10 years point, the census is important in ago. “It’s hard for some Latinos On the cover that it impacts how federal to understand a government doing Photograph of St. Mary’s in Wilmington (top, circa 1905) resources are allocated” for something good,” she said, since courtesy of the Delaware Historical Society; Photo of The schools, roads, and social ser- some come from nations with Cathedral of St. Peter by Don Blake/The Dialog. vices, said Andy Zampini, direc- corrupt governments. tor of Catholic Charities’ Parish Within Hispanic communities, Social Ministry. “It is important The Census Bureau has pro- she said, frustration over immi- for all to participate, but it is espe- duced material for people gration issues sometimes leads to cially important for underserved who work with immigrants. a feeling “that undocumented I’ve Always populations to participate so that immigrants can’t even be counted they are counted for when it in federal funding. as real people in this country.” comes to the allocation of Alejandro Aguilera-Titus, “Here’s a chance to be counted Been a resources.” assistant director for Hispanic for something that matters,” After April 1, census workers affairs for the U.S. Conference of Velasquez said. “This is only to will visit households that did not Catholic Bishops, said three count you as a human being liv- Planner. return a form. The bureau is groups are historically under- ing and breathing and sometimes So why stop now? required to provide population counted: “the new immigrant, even working in this country. It’s information to Washington in those who are isolated due to little a count of the population and how December. That information will knowledge of English, and the many of each ethnicity is in the be used to distribute $400 billion low-income.” country.”

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1996. The Norbertine priest returned to Archmere in 2001 and Honors was its chaplain until his selection as headmaster. He will step down Continued from page 1 as headmaster at the end of this His Holiness Pope Benedict XVI school year but will remain at and given the title of monsignor: Archmere as chaplain and director Msgrs. Charles Brown, George of mission and heritage. Brubaker, John Hopkins and • John “Jack” Raughley is a Daniel McGlynn. past state deputy for the Delaware Bishop Malooly said the new Council of the Knights of Colum- honorees, like the new mon- bus. He is a member of the signors, were selected from a list Christopher Council and the Bish- Dorothy Arthur Thomas Carl Danberg Anthony Flynn Brother Ronald op Thomas J. Mardaga Fourth- he developed with his predecessor Connelly Jr. Giannone Bishop Michael A. Saltarelli’s Degree Assembly, both in Clay- help last summer, just months mont. As a fourth-degree knight, before Bishop Saltarelli died in he helped coordinate transporta- October. tion for visiting bishops for the “We tried to think of men and installation of Bishop Malooly women, laity and outstanding reli- and the funeral of Bishop Michael gious, who were active during his Saltarelli. He also was in the color 12 years and during my 10 corps for Pope Benedict XVI’s months. I felt this was an opportu- Mass at Nationals Stadium in nity to honor those who served Washington two years ago. He is him so well and people I was find- a member of Immaculate Heart of ing out were serving me well.” Mary Parish in Wilmington, The bishop said Simms’ papal where he has been involved in honor had been approved in Sister Maria Father Joseph Jack Raughley Dr. Eileen Schmitt Darryl Simms perpetual adoration since its Rome before his death in Decem- Mairlot McLaughlin inception more than a decade ago. ber at age 56; members of his He is a retired financial and sys- family will participate in the May Appeal. In May 2008 he was and a founding member of the Brother Ronald received the tems manager in the insurance 30 ceremony. named a co-chairman of Vision diocesan St. Thomas More Soci- Msgr. Thomas J. Reese Award industry. Here are brief descriptions of for the Future 2008, a $6 million ety, a Catholic organization for from Catholic Charities in 1994 • Dr. Eileen Schmitt is known the honorees’ service to the major-gifts campaign to raise those in the legal profession. At for his “deep commitment to pro- for her medical outreach to the church: endowment funds for tuition St. Ann’s he has served on the moting and restoring the well- poor and homeless throughout • Dorothy Arthur, a member assistance to Catholic schools. He parish council, including as presi- being of people.” the diocese. After leaving her of St. Anthony of Padua Parish in taught religious education at St. dent; the parish census commit- • Sister Maria Mairlot, a position as president and chief Wilmington, was a founder of the Joseph’s and was involved in tee; and the Centennial Commit- member of the Carmelites of executive officer of St. Francis first radio ministry of the diocese, youth ministry at St. Ann’s in tee. A graduate of Archmere Charity Vedruna, is active in His- Hospital in 2001, she became “Catholic Forum of the Air,” for Wilmington in the 1980s. Academy, he is legal counsel to panic ministry at St. Michael the medical director of the St. Clare which she wrote scripts and • Carl Danberg, a member of that school, a member of its exec- Archangel in Georgetown, where Medical Van for six years, mak- helped produce for 25 years. She St. John’s-Holy Angels Parish in utive committee and former mem- she directs the Spanish-language ing rounds throughout the Wilm- was also a television pioneer in Newark, is commissioner of the ber of its board of trustees. In choir and the Hispanic religious ington area to provide free health the diocese with the Catholic Delaware Department of Correc- 2001, he chaired the executive education program for adults and care to those who could not Television Guild, which produced tion, taking office three years ago. committee of the Committee to children. She and fellow afford it. She received the Msgr. a weekly half-hour show with Delaware’s attorney general from Save Archmere. He is a former Carmelite Sister Rosa Alvarez Thomas J. Reese Award from Catholic themes from 1950 to December 2005 to January 2007, executive officer of the Diocese of moved to Georgetown in 1995 to Catholic Charities in 2006 and 1957. At St. Anthony’s, Arthur he serves on the boards of direc- Wilmington’s pastoral council help meet the needs of Latinos. serves on the diocesan board that helped revive the Lenten drama tors of Mount Aviat Academy in and served on the diocese’s plan- She serves on the board of direc- reviews allegations of sexual Via Crucis, writing the script 50 Childs, Md., and the St. Patrick’s ning task force on parishes and tors and volunteers at La Esperan- abuse. She is now in private years ago for the annual presenta- Day Society, which supports the schools in the 1990s. za, a Georgetown outreach pro- practice. tion of the Passion of the Lord and St. Patrick’s Senior Center in • Brother Ronald Giannone is gram to help migrants assimilate • Darryl Simms, director of the directing it for 44 years. Now Wilmington through activities the founder and executive director into society, and has worked for Ministry for Black Catholics for retired, she lives in West Grove, such as an annual Communion of the Ministry of Caring, a net- Delmarva Rural Ministries. Sister the diocese from 2003 to 2009, Pa. breakfast. He is an extraordinary work of social-service facilities Maria received a Governor’s Out- died in December at age 56. He • Thomas M. Connelly Jr., a minister of the Eucharist at his and programs in Wilmington. standing Volunteer Award in was a member of St. Joseph’s member of St. Joseph on the parish, a member of the Knights Brother Ronald, a Capuchin Fran- Delaware in 2003. Parish on French Street in Wilm- Brandywine Parish in Greenville, of Columbus, and serves in the ciscan priest ordained in 1990, • Father Joseph McLaughlin ington and served as president of is executive vice president and Delaware National Guard. began the ecumenical Ministry of is in his second stint as headmas- its parish council. He also sang in chief innovation officer at the • Anthony G. Flynn, a member Caring in 1977. Since then, the ter of Archmere Academy in the parish choir and with the DuPont Co. He formerly served of St. Ann’s Parish in Wilming- ministry has grown to include Claymont, a post he has held since diocesan gospel choir. He was a on the board of directors of ton, is a partner at Young more than 20 facilities and offers 2006. Ordained in 1970, he came Knight of Peter Claver, Knight of Catholic Charities and has been a Conaway Stargatt & Taylor, legal food, shelter, job placement, edu- to Archmere that year to teach Columbus, member of the dioce- member of the Circle of Honor of counsel for the Diocese of Wilm- cation, child care, before- and English, public speaking and reli- san school board and a founding the Diocese of Wilmington for his ington, a member of the National after-school programs, and gion. He became headmaster in member of the Delaware Alliance support of the Annual Catholic Diocesan Attorneys Association affordable housing for seniors. 1983, serving in that post until of Catholic School Parents. Faith and the family What are your family’s faith traditions?

The Dialog wants to hear about your as a family at home? Do you celebrate Describe your family’s faith tradition family’s faith traditions, past and pre- first Communions with a traditional and its significance to your family in sent. Besides attending Sunday Mass gift or other family custom? Does your 200 words or less and send it by together, what traditions connected to family gather at a favorite place for a March 8 to Elissa Serrao at eser- your Catholic faith have developed in meal after Mass on Sundays? Is there a [email protected] or to Family your family over the years? retreat house favored by the family? A Faith Traditions, The Dialog, Box Is there a religious item treasured by devotion to a particular saint? A parish 2208, Wilmington, DE 19899. Pho- family members over the years? Do event or social service venue where tographs illustrating your tradition are you recite the rosary or other prayers family members faithfully volunteer? also welcome.

4 THE DIALOG NATION/WORLD March 4, 2010 Parish life in U.S. is subject of major study By Catholic News Service new models and new structures parish ministry. picture of emerging trends in Church Personnel Administra- for parish ministry that are An interim analysis of the areas such as: tors, based in Cincinnati; the WASHINGTON — Re- emerging as parishes are reorga- research results is expected in • Opportunities and chal- National Catholic Young Adult searchers are working on an in- nized and the people they serve the late spring, with a full report lenges in multicultural parishes. Ministry Association, which has depth study of Catholic parish are more diverse.” to be issued by early summer, • Young adult involvement in offices in Washington and the life in the United States. The first phase of the research said Trish Sullivan Vanni, pro- parish life and pastoral leader- Chicago area; and the National The study is being conducted — currently under way — ject director for the Emerging ship. Federation of Priests’ Councils, by the Center for Applied involves a series of surveys that Models of Pastoral Leadership • Changing patterns in parish which is in Chicago. Research in the Apostolate, have been sent to representative Project, which commissioned the staffing and compensation. The project is funded by the based at Georgetown University samples of Catholic parishes in study. • Ministry in parishes that Lilly Endowment, and recently in Washington, on behalf of the the United States. The initial sur- The second of three phases of share a pastor and/or staff. received a $1 million renewal Emerging Models of Pastoral veys will be followed by an in- the research, the in-depth study at • The roles of business man- grant from Lilly for research ini- Leadership Project. depth study of parish leaders and 60 parishes, would begin around agers and finance councils. tiatives focused on parish leader- “This research will provide the parishioners at approximately 60 September, with initial results due • Experiences of parishioners ship. U.S. church with the most com- parishes, including a sample of in January or February of 2011, in parishes administered by Since 2004, the Emerging prehensive and accurate picture 35 parishes that reflects the she said. Initial results of the third parish life coordinators. Models of Pastoral Leadership of parish life” since a Notre diversity of geographic region, phase, the in-pew parishioner The Emerging Models of Pas- Project has conducted a series of Dame study of parishes was con- demography, and size of U.S. study, are expected in mid-2011, toral Leadership Project is an ini- research symposiums and sur- ducted in the 1980s, said Mercy parishes. with a full report on the research tiative of the Washington-based veys on such topics as the best Sister Mary Bendyna, CARA’s The study also will examine findings to follow in late 2011. National Association for Lay practices of pastoral leaders; pas- executive director and senior parishes that do not have pastors Researchers hope the data will Ministry with the Conference for toring multiple parishes; the next research associate. because of a lack of priests as provide pastoral leaders with a Pastoral Planning and Council generation of pastoral leaders; “Among other things,” she well as multicultural parishes comprehensive overview of Development in New York City; human resources; and diversity said the study will “examine the and parishes using multiple- Catholic parishes and a detailed the National Association of in Catholic parishes

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Casa San Francisco at 684- HOCKESSIN — The 198- 8694, Bayard House at 654- year-old rectory of the first 1184, or Seton Center at (410) Catholic Church in Delaware 651-9608. was gutted by fire Feb. 10. Churches accepting dona- The three-story stone farm- tions are: St. Ann, St. Catherine house, on Lancaster Pike south of Siena, and Immaculate Heart of Hockessin, sits on the site of of Mary in Wilmington; St. the Coffee Run Mission, estab- Elizabeth Ann Seton, Bear; lished in 1772. The house was Holy Cross, Dover; St. Poly- built as a rectory in 1812 under carp, Smyrna; St. John the the supervision of Father Apostle, Milford; St. Patrick Kenny, pastor of the Bernadette, Harrington; St. church that was named St. Jude, Lewes; St. Edmond, Mary of the Assumption about Rehoboth Beach; and St. John 1790. The house is listed on the Neumann, Berlin, Md. Check National Register of Historic with the parish for drop-off Places. times. The fire has been ruled Suggested donation items arson by the Cranston Heights include: Fire Company and was being Canned goods like spaghetti, investigated, according to a chicken, chili, tuna, salmon, report in the Feb. 28 Commu- nity News. The property’s beef stew, corned beef hash, The Dialog/Don Blake beans, soups, vegetables, and owner — WCNJ, LLC, man- aged by commercial redevel- A three-story stone farmhouse near Hockessin that served as the rectory of the first Catholic fruit; boxes of pasta, macaroni Church in Delaware was gutted by fire Feb. 10. The farmhouse, built in 1812, is listed on the and cheese, crackers, cereal, opment company Harvey National Register of Historic Places. oatmeal, and pancake mix; jars Hanna and Associates — said of peanut butter and jelly; juice, the building was no longer ing the Feb. 10-11 major was used until 1882, when St. Cemetery, adjacent to the coffee, tea, hot cocoa mix, economically viable for snowstorm, but a demolition John the Evangelist Church farmhouse property. The instant breakfasts; shelf-stable restoration and would be torn permit had been issued for opened to the north in cemetery is closed but is still milk, either dry or evaporated; down as a safety hazard, those buildings prior to the Hockessin. That church be- maintained by the Diocese of baby food and cereal; condi- according to the news report. fire, according to the report. came the current St. Mary of Wilmington. The 1850 church ments like spreads, ketchup, A stone barn and other struc- The original St. Mary’s log the Assumption in 1965. was razed in 1908, and the mustard, relish, barbecue sauce, tures on the property survived church was replaced in 1850 Father Kenny died in 1840 diocese sold the rectory in pickles and syrup. the blaze, which occurred dur- by another log structure that and is buried at Coffee Run 1912.

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“Celebrate Life Day” scheduled for April 18 at St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Md. bishops oppose recognizing WILMINGTON — The diocesan Office for Religious Educa- tion will hold its annual “Celebrate Life Day” for people with spe- same-sex unions from other states cial needs and their families and friends on April 18 at St. Eliza- By Catholic News Service has not made it through the General Assembly. beth Ann Seton Church, 345 Bear-Christiana Road, Bear. The bishops noted that the General Assembly has The day includes Mass with Bishop Malooly at 4 p.m. and a ANNAPOLIS, Md. — Maryland’s Catholic “repeatedly and explicitly upheld Maryland’s defi- light supper to follow. Those who plan to attend are asked to bring bishops took “strong exception” to a Feb. 24 opin- nition of marriage ‘between a man and a woman’ two or three cans of food for the parish food closet. ion by Maryland’s attorney general stating that state even as certain limited benefits have been extended To register, call the Office for Religious Education at 573-3130 agencies should recognize same-sex marriages per- to same-sex couples.” by March 24. formed in other states. They said the attorney general’s opinion “chips “We trust our legislature and the people of Mary- away at our society’s foundational institution” and land will also object, and will act accordingly to demonstrates a “fundamental disregard for the counteract this opinion,” said a joint nature and purpose of marriage and Tljo Dbsf Qspevdut Efwfmpqfe gps statement released Feb. 24 by Arch- Maryland’s bishops its impact on society, as well as for bishop Edwin F. O’Brien of Balti- the expressed will of the legislature uif Vojrvf Offet pg Dbodfs Qbujfout more, Archbishop Donald W. Wuerl say the attorney and previous attorney general opin- ® of Washington and Bishop W. Fran- general’s opinion ions.” cis Malooly of Wilmington, whose demonstrates a “We urge lawmakers, the gover- dioceses include parts of Maryland. fundamental nor and the courts to uphold the def- The statement was released by the disregard for the inition of marriage through all Maryland Catholic Conference, the appropriate means,” the bishops ® public policy arm of the state’s bish- “nature and purpose stressed. ops, based in Annapolis. of marriage.” The bishops said they “respect the Attorney General Douglas Gansler dignity of homosexual persons and issued the opinion on same-sex marriage in roundly reject all unjust discrimination against response to a legislator’s request he look into a them,” but noted that Maryland’s marriage statute question some say in unclear in state law. reflects the “convictions of Maryland’s citizens and Maryland is one of 41 states with a statute that their legislators.” defines marriage as only between a man and a They noted marriage between a man and a woman. Measures to allow same-sex marriages in woman is not “merely a fact of religious faith or an LINDI SKIN offers a full line of exceptionally Maryland have failed, although the state’s lawmakers institution established by civil authorities” but is gentle and soothing products that renew your skin have extended some benefits to same-sex couples. “invariably reserved to the union of one man and Dermatologist-tested • Allergy-tested • Non-irritating Although it will not change state law, Gansler’s one woman because of their unique ability to bring BODY WASH • BODY LOTION • SOOTHING BALM • FACE SERUM • EYE HYDRATOR opinion can guide Maryland officials. The attorney children into the world, thus forming a stable and • LIP BALM • BATH SOAK • SKIN COOLERS • FACE TINT • FACE MOISTURIZER • FACE WASH general’s office, for example, can defend a state secure foundation for our society.” agency in court for recognizing a same-sex mar- “Allowing the decisions of out-of-state jurisdic- D riage from another state. tions or courts to dictate public policy in Maryland Legislation stating that Maryland would recog- undermines the proper role of the legislature and the nize same-sex marriages performed in other states citizens they represent,” the bishops added. Helen F. Graham Center, Independence Mall (Christiana Hospital Campus) (Suite 63) • Route 202 302-368-3686 302-652-2911 www.simplyyouboutique.com

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March 4, 2010 WORLD THE DIALOG 7 Church won’t fault Spain’s king for signing abortion law By Catholic News Service Camino of tion up to the themselves from the church and out an agreement with parliament Madrid, 14th week of should not receive Communion. allowing him to resign for less MADRID, Spain — If King conference pregnancy The situation of a politician than 48 hours. During his tempo- Juan Carlos of Spain signs a new general and extend- who can vote and the king who rary abdication, the country’s law easing restrictions on abor- secretary. ing legal must sign the law “are different council of ministers assumed the tion, as he is constitutionally Bishop abortion to considerations,” he said. king’s powers and signed the bill. required, the country’s bishops Martinez 22 weeks of Pro-life Catholics have begun Parliament then reinstated the will not take action against him, spoke to gestation if an Internet-based petition drive to king. the general secretary of the Span- the press at the life of the convince King Juan Carlos not to Ending their spring meeting ish bishops’ conference said. the end of a mother is at sign the law. Feb. 25, members of the Spanish As the law was being debated, meeting of risk or if the “Please, Your Majesty, do not bishops’ conference said Spain’s CNS/Reuters Spain’s bishops had said Catholic the perma- fetus shows sanction this new holocaust with new law takes “attacks on the life members of parliament who vote nent com- Spain’s King Juan Carlos greets Car- signs of seri- your signature,” the petition said. of those about to be born, con- dinal Tarcisio Bertone, the Vatican's to liberalize abortion would place mission of secretary of state, during the cardi- ous malfor- By noon Feb. 26, the Internet site verting them into a right.” themselves outside the church the bish- nal’s visit to Madrid last year. mations. reported receiving almost 57,700 The statement also said the and should not receive Commu- ops’ con- Asked signatures. bishops wanted to remind nion. ference Feb. 25, which also was repeatedly about church sanc- The late King Baudouin of Bel- “women tempted to abort or who “That his majesty the king the day after Spain’s Parliament tions against the king and against gium faced a similar dilemma in have already experienced this must sanction this law with his narrowly approved a law easing Catholic members of Parliament 1990 when his nation’s Parlia- tragedy that they always will find signature is a unique situation. No longstanding restrictions on abor- who voted for the law, Bishop ment passed a bill liberalizing mercy and comfort in the other citizen would encounter tion. Martinez said the bishops “have abortion. Catholic community. As a moth- this,” and so “general principles” In a vote of 132-126, members excommunicated no one,” but Saying his conscience and er, the church understands their cannot be applied, said Auxiliary of Parliament passed the law those who actively supported the Catholic faith would not allow problems and will not leave them Bishop Juan Antonio Martinez removing all restrictions on abor- law have seriously separated him to sign the bill, he worked on their own.”

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8 THE DIALOG WORLD March 4, 2010 Church workers struggle to aid rural Chileans after quake By Barbara J. Fraser Linares office of Caritas, the those who had died and asking Catholic News Service church’s social assistance agency, “the God of life for consolation is compiling an inventory of dam- and hope” for their families. LIMA, Peru — While media aged and destroyed homes. “We love this country, which attention focused on looting in Meanwhile, buckled and has recovered from earthquakes, Concepcion, the largest city near cracked highways complicated tidal waves, volcanic eruptions the epicenter of the magnitude 8.8 aid distribution. and floods, a people that has risen earthquake Feb. 27, Catholic “Roads are passable, but dan- in peace from death and violence Church workers struggled to gerous,” Father Alfaro said. so many times in its history,” he reach quake victims in rural areas The national government is said. “At a time of understandable who are far from the spotlight. sending aid to the region by ship desperation, we call for calm and “We are receiving funds to to bypass the buckled roads, dam- solidarity, and intense family and help the poorest people, who are aged bridges and crowds of peo- community prayer.” in the countryside,” Father Waldo ple who swarm vehicles arriving In the United States, Cardinal Alfaro, head of the Caritas Chile in urban areas, he said. Francis E. George of Chicago, office in Linares, said in a tele- Between 30 and 40 churches president of the U.S. Conference phone interview Monday. Linares and chapels in the Linares Dio- of Catholic Bishops, offered is in the Maule region, where cese were badly damaged or prayers for earthquake victims in most of the quake deaths destroyed, along with two CNS/Reuters a March 1 letter to Bishop Goic. occurred. orphanages. In coastal villages, A resident looks at San Francisco de Curico Church March 1 after “I write to assure you of my “The entire coast was hard-hit, churches that remain standing it was damaged Feb. 27 in a major earthquake in Curico, Chile. prayers and those of my brother but this is an area where the poor- have been turned into makeshift wave that was more than 30 feet conscience” and “raises questions bishops in the United States for est rural residents live,” Father morgues. high in places and which swept for us about deeply held values.” all who have been affected by this Alfaro said. “Aid is not reaching The official death toll is nearly more than a mile inland. While Chilean President Michelle tragedy,” Cardinal George wrote. them because these are very small 730, with 542 of the confirmed some people reached high Bachelet imposed a curfew in “I assure you also of our prayers villages.” deaths in the Maule region. 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10 THE DIALOG March 4, 2010 A project FOR THE ages Search for one man’s family history led to 10-year effort to put pre-1900 baptism and marriage records from parishes online.

Clockwise from lower left: Anna and Michael Lally were married in 1878 at the Cathedral of St. Peter, Wilmington; parish registry from St. Joseph’s in Cordova, Md.; St. Mary Church, Sixth and Pine streets in Wilmington, circa 1905. Church photo courtesy Delaware Historical Society

By Joseph Ryan next to St. Joseph on the Brandywine The project led the volunteers down some Assistant editor Find the records Church in Greenville to do family research. interesting paths. Mary Roddy Morris and her sister, Kathy Connor, volunteered for On May 8, 1878, Anna Hart walked To find the records go to From microfilm to Web site the sacramental records project because down the aisle of the Cathedral of St. Peter cdow.org/archives.html With Lalley living in North Carolina and they were researching their own family. in Wilmington to marry Michael Lally, a Carroll in Ireland, it was Lyons who coordi- “I did mostly baptism records,” Morris grocer who was born in Ireland’s County and click on “Searchable nated volunteers as they transcribed parish recalled. “The last time I did something was Roscommon. Soon after, Father John A. Parish Sacramental records from archival microfilm or parish about a year ago, at least, a couple of pages Lyons dutifully recorded the Hart-Lally Records.” books for the Web site. from St. Patrick’s on the Eastern Shore (the nuptials in the parish register. “My part in this was because I do a lot of Pilottown, Md., mission of Good Shepherd Anna and Michael couldn’t have imag- Irish in Wilmington and his family connec- genealogical research,” said Lyons, who in Perryville).” ined it back then, but more than a century tions in the area. As he gathered family gives talks on Irish family research. Connor, principal of Corpus Christi later, Joseph M. Lalley, one of their grand- information, Lalley posted it on his own She gave Lalley the names of the first School in Elsmere, said she and her sister sons, would look for information on his Web site. people who would be part of a group that have researched their Roddy family roots grandparents and find their marriage During one of Lalley’s visits to the His- transcribed the records. back to the people who left Ireland around recorded in St. Peter’s sacramental register. torical Society of Delaware, Nancy Lyons, Lyons volunteered to “download” parish the 1850s. And that’s why the Diocese of Wilming- who lives in St. Mary of the Assumption register pages from microfilm, copy them Some of the diocesan records Connor ton now has older parishes’ baptismal and Parish in Hockessin and who was research- and distribute the copies to volunteers who transcribed were from St. Francis Xavier in marriage records up to the year 1900 avail- ing her own family history, overheard him entered the records of marriages and bap- Warwick, Md.; established in 1704, it’s able online. discussing his First State connections. tisms onto an Excel spreadsheet template known as Old Bohemia shrine and is now a Anyone researching Catholic family his- “Are you connected with John Lalley that Carroll developed for Lalley’s site. mission of St. Joseph Parish in Middletown. tories in the diocese can visit the archives who married my grandfather’s sister?” On the page of volunteer profiles on Lal- Connor noticed in the old records that section of the diocesan Web site — Lyons asked. ley.com, Lyons is acknowledged as a prime slaves were being baptized, and often the cdow.org/archives.html — and click on Lalley wasn’t, but he and Lyons pooled mover of the sacramental records project. parish records didn’t include a last name. “I “Searchable Parish Sacramental Records” their efforts to investigate all the Lalleys “She has spent countless hours photocopy- found that very fascinating.” to find links to baptisms and marriages list- and Hart family members who had Wilm- ing microfilm records of the baptismal and Connor eventually visited the shrine and ed by parishes and surnames. Donn Devine, ington connections. Lalley had help devel- marriage records for the Roman Catholic took pictures of the gravestones in the archivist for the diocese, believes no other oping his family-information Web site from Diocese of Wilmington and distributing cemetery there. “I just wanted to see if peo- U.S. diocese offers parish records that are Michael Carroll, an IT expert who works them on her own time and at her own ple were there whose records I was tran- so thoroughly indexed, searchable and free. for an Irish bank in County Galway. expense to our volunteers as well as to our scribing.” The site, a godsend for Catholics tracing In 2000, Lalley, Lyons and Carroll met site’s Web master,” it says. In late January in Ireland, Carroll entered their family history, is the result of 10 years with Devine to discuss a massive project. Said Lyons: “I know the importance of online the final records of the 10-year pro- of persistence and work by Joe Lalley, a “Our goal was to transcribe all the sacra- the church records for providing parents’ ject — marriage records up to 1900 for St. retired North Carolina school headmaster, mental records of the diocese,” Lalley said. records and place of origin information. Joseph Mission in Cordova, Md. Coinci- and some 40 volunteers, all amateur geneal- Over lunch, the four agreed to try tran- Catholic church records play a huge role in dentally, the project was completed on Jan. ogists from the diocese, other states and as scribing the Cathedral parish’s baptismal finding that information.” 24, the feast of St. Francis de Sales, patron far away as Ireland. records to Lalley’s Web site, Lyons said her ongoing quest to find of the Diocese of Wilmington. www.lalley.com, as a first step toward their information about her own ancestors — From one man’s search, larger goal. “We did it in a month,” Lalley Mentons, Matthewses, Carlins, Cas- More than 83,000 records project takes root said. sidys, O’Neills, McKibbins, Duffys, The cost of 10 years of transcribing Michael and Anna Lally moved to Soon others were drawn to the project. Devanneys, McDonalds and O’Devlins records by volunteers amounted to a $100 Philadelphia and raised eight children. After “We started recruiting volunteers just by — spurred her enthusiasm to help put grant from the diocesan archives for the finding his grandparents’ marriage in St. word of mouth,” Lalley said. parish records online. project, said Lalley, who said Lyons Peter’s register during a visit to Wilmington “People would see something of interest “If you can do Irish research, you can do absorbed most of the cost of copying the in the 1990s, Joe Lalley (the family added on the site and come forward as volun- anything,” Lyons said, “because of the records. an “e” to its name since his grandparents’ teers,” Devine said. Often they were people scarcity of the records and political prob- Continued on next page time) became interested in the history of the who had stopped at the diocesan archives lems in Ireland.” March 4, 2010 THE DIALOG 11 Records: Site should prove handy for family historians From previous page baptismal or marriage records for after 1900 to the site. “This has sacramental reasons. been 10 years and if I were asked The server where all the infor- As for the security of the infor- to do more, I would probably be mation exists through the mation on lalley.com, Lalley said hung by my wife.” No efforts are archives’ link to lalley.com is in his son in Ithaca has assured him underway in the diocese to tackle Ithaca, N.Y., where it’s tended by he’ll take care of maintaining it, the post-1900 records, Devine Lalley’s son, Joseph M. Lalley and Lalley intends to back up the said. III, who works for ClarityCon- information on CDs. The 10-year project is com- nect, an Internet service provider. Lalley estimates that the site plete but its benefits will continue. The fact that the online search includes more than 83,000 pre- Last month, Kath Murphy, who engine is free is one of the reasons lives in Providence, R.I., and has volunteers were attracted to the been attempting to trace her fami- project, Lalley said. “The Diocese Parish baptismal ly roots, went online to find infor- of Brooklyn contacted me and and marriage mation about her great-grandfa- they were horrified we don’t ther William Windish- charge a fee, and the Archdiocese records after 1900 , who she believed moved from of Philadelphia is very tight about are still available Pennsylvania to live in Wilming- what they let you see.” ton in about 1872. An archives office typically only on microfilm When she searched the Internet charges a fee to do family or paper. for records from Catholic parishes research the old-fashioned way, in Wilmington, she discovered Devine said, but since the full Lalley’s site. records up to 1900 on lalley.com 1900 records from the diocese. “Many of my family were are interactive for users, meaning The site also includes passenger there,” Murphy told The Dialog, they can be searched by parish or lists of immigrants who came to “in Sacred Heart and St. Mary’s family surnames, a fee isn’t nec- the United States from certain parishes, starting with a baptism essary. counties in Ireland during the mid of a second child in 1873 and end- Parish baptismal and marriage 1800s, limited death and cemetery ing with her grandmother’s birth records after 1900 are still avail- records from Wilmington and in 1888.” able only on microfilm or paper census and other records from Murphy e-mailed a note of through the diocesan archives, Counties Galway, Mayo and thanks to Lalley for the Web site. Devine said. “But one thing we Donegal in Ireland. “I’m very much encouraged with The Dialog/Don Blake don’t charge for is searching for “I had no intention of getting what your site gave me today,” Two key figures in the project were diocesan archivist Donn records for canonical purposes,” into genealogy,” Lalley said when she wrote. “You’ve inspired me to Devine and Nancy Lyons of Hockessin, an avid genealogist who such as when Catholics need their asked about adding parish records keep trying.” coordinated the efforts of local volunteers.

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In her book, “The Abbess of Andalusia,” Lorraine Murray aims to “uncover the self-portrait Flannery Book (O’Connor) created in the daily Review stream of let- CNS ters that Flannery O’Connor poured out of Andalusia,” the someone who experienced suffer- Georgia farm where the writer ing firsthand, diagnosed with lived for 13 years until her death lupus when she was 25. in 1964, when she was only 39. Apparently, though, if poor That this Southern Catholic health found ways to consume her novelist, perhaps remembered physically, it never consumed her better for her short stories, was a spiritually. CNS/Peter Lockley prolific letter writer is well For Murray, the spirituality Archbishop Pietro Sambi, apostolic nuncio to the United States, views "Christ as the Man of known. Nonetheless, the self-por- manifested in O’Connor’s self- Sorrows" by Pedro de Mena as he tours "The Sacred Made Real" exhibit Feb. 19 at the trait that emerges here is refresh- portrait is paramount. O’Connor’s National Gallery of Art in Washington. The exhibit of religious paintings and sculptures from ing. O’Connor is viewed as a letters reveal “an extraordinary the Spanish golden age runs until May 31. woman of robust humor, a dedi- spiritual life beneath the decep- cated friend to many, a disci- tively ordinary surface,” Murray plined composer of fiction and writes. O’Connor, she notes, “rec- ppppppppppppppppppp ognized the sacramental element ¨ ¨ in all of life.” LOURDES WATER Murray brings to the fore the imported from the Grotto of Lourdes in France Eugenia’s Irish Gems Catholic dimension of O’Con- especially for the sick Specializing in Handmade Irish and Celtic Crafts and Gifts nor’s life as as a writer and as a Handmade Wooden Plaques, Slates, Lace Angels, Stained Glass, person for whom the Eucharist SAINT ALPHONSUS CHURCH Framed Calligraphy with Irish Poetry was “the center of existence.” “Baltimore’s Center for Novena Devotions in honor of and a Variety of Gifts O’Connor comes forward as Our Lady of the Miraculous Medal” profoundly Catholic, yet not We will be at the reluctant to criticize what she 114 W. Saratoga St. Baltimore, Md. 21201 Concord Mall Craft Show — March 11-14 termed “pious pap.” (410) 685-6090 Hodgson Vocational High School - March 27 O’Connor criticized priests email: [email protected] who offered “oversimple solu- We will ship anywhere — Call today Mon.-Fri. 9 a.m. - 2 p.m. tions to complex problems,” Mur- ray notes. Other times O’Connor was “quick to defend the clergy PROXIMO AIR FARE AND ALL-INCLUSIVE TRIPS against ... unfair attacks,” express- Small Tractors ing an understanding of the bur- FROM ANYWHERE IN THE USA! TRAVEL dens placed on priests’ shoulders. Murray describes O’Connor as Italy/Switzerland Apr. 10-22, May 1-13, May 15-27, May 29-Jun. 10 ... BIG PERFORMANCE “fiercely Catholic,” a woman convinced that “all human life is Italy (regular) April 17-25, June 26-July 4 Sept. 18-26 ... precious” and that “love always triumphs over suffering.” Tuscany June 30-July 10, Oct. 7-17 ... How O’Connor’s Catholicism factored into her writing contin- Holy Land April 19-29, May 29-June 8, June 30-July 10, ues as a topic of interest. Murray Sept. 9-19, Oct.18-28, Nov. 8-18 ... recalls O’Connor writing of her Ireland/Scotland May 29-June 10, July 10-22 ... sense “that being a Catholic has saved me a couple thousand years France April 17-25, June 30-July 12, July 12-24, Oct. 2-14 ... in learning to write.” Kubota’s powerful lineup of utility tractors features fuel- Murray’s includes a comment Spain June 30-July 12, Sept. 18-30 ... efficient engines, superb maneuverability, and a wide variety made just days after O’Connor’s of attachments like loaders, mowers and more. death in August 1964 by Atlanta’s Greece June 30-July 10, Sept. 18-28 ... Archbishop Paul Hallinan, who praised her in an archdiocesan newspaper column. PROXIMO TRAVEL $ 3,390 9 Day Trip Archbishop Hallinan called Anthony Nechef, PhD (Theology) MIDDLETOWN, DE O’Connor a writer who served TOLL FREE 877-994-8259 $ 3,990 13 Day Trip “the cause of the supernatural by a email: [email protected] 800 341-4028 www.Proximotravel.com working knowledge of the secu- HOOBER & KUBOTA… PARTNERS IN PRODUCTIVITY lar.”

March 4, 2010 SIGHTS & SOUNDS THE DIALOG 13 Oscar, schmoscar: Here are the best movies of 2009 By John Mulderig Catholic News Service The top 10 family films “Astro Boy,” an animated In “Harry Potter and the This year, for the first time adventure about a scientist who Half-Blood Prince,” the teenage since 1943, the Academy of replaces his dead son with a robot wizard (Daniel Radcliffe) ingrati- Motion Picture Arts and Sci- replica, only to rejects his cre- ates himself with a Hogwarts ences allowed for 10 best-pic- ation, leaving the innocent ‘bot instructor who once taught his ture Oscar nominees instead of vulnerable to widespread preju- archenemy. This sixth adaptation five. At the U.S. Conference of dice. (A-II, PG). of the novels is a richly textured Catholic Bishops’ Office for “Bandslam” is a comedy with narrative in which good and evil Film & Broadcasting, the tradi- music about a newcomer at a high are clearly delineated (A-II, PG). tion of selecting 10 top films school who overcomes his social- In the animated comedy each year, based on spiritual, ly disastrous past when befriend- moral and artistic criteria, dates ed by a popular fellow student. to 1965. (A-I, PG). Since some of these films are Disney’s eerie animated adap- appropriate only for adults, the tation of Charles Dickens’ classic office also compiles a list of the “A Christmas Carol” features 10 best family films of the year. Jim Carrey as the voice of As we await Sunday night’s Ebenezer Scrooge. Largely faith- Oscar ceremony, here in alpha- CNS ful retelling is unabashed about “The Princess and the Frog” betical order are the USCCB Morgan Freeman and Matt Damon star in “Invictus.” the Christian context (A-I, PG). film office’s selections for The animated fantasy “Cloudy “Monsters vs. Aliens,” a trio of 2009, with their USCCB classi- the leaders of a global bank USCCB Movie With a Chance of Meatballs” kindly monsters and a woman fications and Motion Picture implicated in murder. Sleek concerns a young inventor who who became a giant combat an Association of America ratings: conspiracy yarn focuses on the Classifications fashions a machine that makes evil alien. Celebrates teamwork Based on real events, “The frustrations of operating within A-I General patronage food fall from the sky. Cautionary and the heroic potential of people Blind Side” recounts how a the law and the perils of acting A-II Adults and adolescents (A-II, PG). outside it (A-III, R). wealthy white couple, portrayed Adults “Ponyo” is the enchanting The fact-based drama “Invic- A-III L Limited adult audience, English version of a Japanese ani- tus,” starring Morgan Freeman films whose problematic mated fable about a determined and Matt Damon, charts South content many adults would find troubling goldfish who comes under the African President Nelson Man- protection of a plucky 5-year-old Morally offensive. dela’s campaign to unite his O boy. Masterful artistry recaptures country behind the national the innocence and wonder of rugby team. Movie chronicles The animated instant classic “Up” tells the story of a grumpy childhood (A-I, G). how Mandela used sporting “Harry Potter and the Half- The animated “The Princess enthusiasm to break down widower (voiced by Ed Asner), Blood Prince” who decides to relocate his home and the Frog” shows the effects racial prejudice (A-III, PG-13). tale warns against overindulgence of a voodoo sorcerer’s spell. The “Julie & Julia” is the charm- to South America with the help of thousands of balloons. This and extols the virtues of persis- lavish hand-drawn romance ing dramatization of the lives of tence (A-II, PG). emphasizes the value of love over “The Blind Side” master chef Julia Child (Meryl touching fable offers lessons on love, loss, marriage and persever- The romance “Hannah Mon- material wealth (A-I, G). Streep) and Internet blogger tana the Movie” tells how a teen “Shorts” is a clever children’s by Sandra Bullock and Tim Julie Powell (Amy Adams). (A- ance (A-I, PG). 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14 THE DIALOG March 4, 2010 VIEWPOINTS Stranger, can you Extend the peace of the spare a dime? Olympics to the world Many dioceses have offices One parish that has a rela- to assist immigrants, especially tively new and significant Lati- It’s good to see nations battling it out, aggres- world peace. These Olympic humanitarians are those from Third World coun- no population that was more or sively striving for world dominance. showing us, as Pope Benedict suggested, how tries or those seeking asylum less unwelcome when it began But the battles I’m referring to are not the bloody sports can indeed contribute to “peaceful under- for political reasons. arriving about a dozen years conflicts fought with bullets, bombs and missiles, standing between peoples and to establishing the With fences being built to ago now has a regular Spanish but rather the nonviolent competitions new civilization of love.” keep out our neighbors to the Mass. The pastoral associate waged with skis, skates and bobsleds. This new civilization of love will not south and has been trying to bridge the The 2010 Winter Olympics in Van- be realized until we begin seeing each patrol cultural and language abyss couver, Canada, showed a world hun- Tony other as belonging to the one human Liz boats in between the immigrants and gering for peace where countries of all family. our south- nonimmigrants. sorts can compete on the sports field Magliano In his 2008 World Day of Peace mes- ern waters Finally, last year the Latinos instead of on the battlefield. But the sage titled “The Human Family, a Quirin to dis- sponsored a dinner after a litur- Olympics offer far more than nonviolent national Community of Peace,” the Holy Father wrote that courage gy and invited the whole parish glory. all people are “called to build relationships of soli- our Caribbean friends as well, to gather at the table. Not a sin- In his Olympic message to Archbishop J. darity and cooperation among themselves, as befits our bishops write about wel- gle non-Latino parishioner Michael Miller of Vancouver, Pope Benedict XVI members of the one human family.” coming strangers and being showed up for the meal. Not said sports can contribute to “peaceful understand- The Olympics offer us a wonderful glimpse of Christ to one another even only did those folks miss a ing between peoples and to establishing the new the world looking like one human family. While though many of us don’t wonderful meal, they lost an civilization of love.” it’s sadly true that even during the Olympics wars always know what language to opportunity to share their faith Olympic speedskater Joey Cheek showed the and internal conflicts do not cease, nonetheless, as use as we greet these newest and learn about their fellow world how. Winner of gold and silver medals at the we see nations across the globe gathering in peace members of our communities. parishioners. 2006 Olympic Games in Turin, Italy, Cheek donat- to compete in peace, a joyful hope rises up within Over the last 10 years or so, We can only hope that this is ed his entire $40,000 medal bonuses to Right to us, encouraging us to believe that peace is possible! the influx of Lati- not the usual or Play. Then, the games are over. Like a meteor, a bright nos has coincided customary way Founded by Norwegian Olympic champion hope for world peace is quickly gone and the dark- with decreasing Ministry our immigrant Johann Olav Koss, Right to Play (www.right ness of war and preparation for war returns. diocesan budgets, brothers and sis- toplay.com) uses sports and play as a way to teach Why do we allow the Olympic Games to be sim- especially when costs money, ters are treated, but children teamwork, respect, communication, self- ply games when they have the potential to lasting- more and more real money, it does open a win- esteem and conflict resolution. ly contribute to peaceful understanding between people are losing dow on the diffi- Operating in 23 poor and/or embattled countries peoples? their jobs in the and can’t culties clergy face, like Chad, Sudan, Ethiopia, the Palestinian territo- We can keep the peaceful spirit of the Olympics present economy. whether they ries and Israel, the organization strives to translate burning in our hearts by following the Christ-like Jobless parish- be paid for speak from the the best practices of sport and play into opportuni- example of Olympians such as Joey Cheek who ioners contribute with good pulpit or the seat ties to promote development, health and peace. continue long after the games are over to build a less to a parish or of the diocese: Just Cheek is also the co-founder and president of peaceful world based on selfless solidarity with the diocesan bottom intentions. because someone Team Darfur (www.teamdarfur.org), an interna- earth’s poor and war-torn. line. And, as every- says it — or even tional coalition of athletes committed to raising The motto of Right to Play should be the motto one knows, min- shouts it from the awareness of and bringing an end to the humanitar- of the world: “Look after yourself! Look after one istry costs money, real money, rooftops or church steps — ian crisis in Darfur, Sudan. another!” and can’t be paid for with good doesn’t make it true or real for Cheek and like-minded athletes are continuing to intentions, although volunteers the folks in the pews. selflessly use their skills and position to improve Tony Magliano, a pastoral associate in Balti- can make a world of difference Like any relationship, the the lives of the poorest of the poor and to promote more, writes for Catholic News Service. in almost any situation. bond begins to form between With more people needing two people and spreads out more services from a parish from there. Put another way, LETTERS TO THE EDITOR that takes in less revenue, ten- people relate to each other at sions mount between those in the grass-roots level; a top- transportation credit seems like of time volunteering at Brandy- need and those covering the down model generally doesn’t State must keep an obvious choice to me. As wine Springs School and I feel costs. Finances always play a work, even if the “top” has the interests of all long as the funds from the trans- as much Christian spirit and role in decision-making, espe- purest of motives. portation credit are used for edu- kindness there as I feel at my cially now during difficult eco- The message is clear: Wel- students in mind cational purposes, I have no oldest son’s Catholic school. nomic times, but the welcom- come immigrants; but translat- I am writing in response to problem with that. Every teacher I have encoun- ing issue trumps finances. ing that message into reality last week’s letter regarding the The letter writer commented tered in my experience with the In today’s economy, parishes requires, in some cases, a possibility of the governor that Catholic schools are of the public school has been caring, face troubling questions: Do changing or opening of hearts rescinding the transportation highest quality because they are kind, fair and absolutely dedicat- we spend more money on to people from a different cul- credit to parochial and private allowed to have God in their ed to the children. immigrant services even as ture. school parents. classrooms. As a devoted I hope that the governor other poor, homeless or indi- That doesn’t change the I have three school-age chil- Catholic, I believe that those makes his decision with the best gent parishioners come to the need to make a place at the dren, two of whom attend who truly believe in God carry interests of all school children in door? What about the capital table, nor does it relieve us of Brandywine Springs School (a that belief in life wherever they mind. campaign to build or repair the responsibility to take action public school in the Red Clay may be, not just in a Catholic Christine Pelillo parish buildings? Is that more on our own, one at a time, to School District) and one who school classroom. I spend a lot Wilmington important than caring for immi- see others not as strangers but attends a Catholic school. grants? as friends and members of our Sending a child to Catholic or No easy answers come community whom we will now private school is a choice parents quickly to mind when the vari- have the great good fortune to make. Parents often make sacri- About letters ous groups are lined up in front know as brothers and sisters in fices (financial, travel distance, Letters should be typed or neatly written and include the writer’s of us. In some cases, what hap- Christ who deserve not only etc.) when choosing to opt out of name, address and telephone number. They should not exceed 250 pens is that welcoming our help but also our respect. the public schools. Nevertheless, words and should focus on one topic. Shorter letters stand a bet- strangers means letting the it is a choice. ter chance of being published. They may be edited for style, size parish ministers take care of Liz Quirin, editor/general We are living in uncertain or content. The opinions are the letter writers’ and do not neces- “them” instead of everyone manager of The Messenger in financial times, where our elect- sarily reflect those of The Dialog or the Diocese of Wilmington. stepping up to be part of that Belleville, Ill., writes for ed politicians and our governor Fax letters to (302) 573-6948, mail to P.O. Box 2208, Wilmington, welcoming committee. Catholic News Service. are forced to make tough finan- DE 19899-2208 or e-mail to [email protected]. cial decisions. Taking away the

March 4, 2010 THE DIALOG 15 VIEWPOINTS Turning ‘jobs’ into work with sense of purpose Don Peck, writing in The Atlantic child abuse, more cardiovascular problems (March 2010), paints a dismal picture about and hypertension, and the children of the the future of employment in America. unemployed are sick more often and longer. The national economy lost 10 million Unemployment also offers a chance to jobs since the beginning of this recession; rethink our expectations about success and many of those jobs will return only slowly. work. Many of the unemployed report they With population growth and new people have become less materialistic and more entering the job market, financially responsible. Their idea of suc- Peck says, our economy cess has shifted from riches and purchases Father needs to add 1.5 million to family and relationships. Some avoid new jobs a year, roughly undue stress by revisioning their work life John S. 125,000 per month, to from “making money” to “earning a liveli- avoid slipping back fur- hood.” Rausch ther. To grow from 10 Many unemployed people volunteer percent unemployment to more and have discovered satisfaction in the 5 percent level we helping others through community projects. experienced before the recession would Herein might lie an important discovery require creating 600,000 jobs per month, from our national crisis. double the strong job-creation rate of the Since the the recession came largely from mid-to-late 1990s, and even that would take the get-rich housing bubble and hocus- about two years. pocus financial transactions, business Employment is shifting. The construction investment needs to shift to innovation that and finance industries, absent the housing CNS photo/Shannon Stapleton, Reuters strengthens community. Investment that bubble, will probably not regain their for- Waiting in a job fair line in New York City in December. preserves creation, like retrofitting houses mer share of the economy, and employment and developing green energy, keeps in the auto industry will offer fewer oppor- home-care aides, registered nurses, retail will happen by requiring different skills. employment local while giving workers a tunities. Manufacturing jobs are continuing salespeople, customer service representa- Many unemployed workers will need to be sense of purpose. Designing programs that to move offshore, but now they are joined tives, food preparation and serving workers, retrained, which means starting over in support people, like universal health care by outsourcing many white collar jobs. office clerks, accounting clerks, janitors, terms of earning level. Upward mobility for and continuing education, builds a safety Economists see one bright spot about and postsecondary teachers. many seems stalled. net and offers a ladder up. unemployment coming through innovation These types of service jobs cannot move For people of faith, high unemployment This crisis offers a unique opportunity to as some laid-off workers become entrepre- offshore. However, aside from nurses and triggers a pastoral concern for workers and change the uncritical cry for jobs to a neurs. A Labor Department report identifies postsecondary teachers, most of these jobs their families. The unemployed face spiritu- demand for good work with a social pur- 10 occupations that will add the most jobs pay too little to meet a small family’s basic al, psychological and social problems pose. by 2016, and hence offer the most creative needs unless they are unionized. besides their economic ones. Research Father Rausch is a Glenmary priest who business opportunities. They include: order- While market resiliency will continue to shows the unemployed suffer more alco- writes, teaches and organizes in lies and nursing-home aides, personal and produce more business opportunities, this holism and drug abuse, more spousal and Appalachia.

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16 THE DIALOG ¨ Faith & Spirituality March 4, 2010

One Family In Mission Is the Lord in the midst of

“My God, my God, why have you Haiti and Guatemala or not? abandoned me?” READINGS FOR MARCH 7 In Guatemala, the availability of clean water is Third Sunday of Lent not a given. In fact, many children die each year from infections they contract from contaminated Haven’t we sometimes felt Exodus 17:3-7; Romans 5:1-2, 5-8; John 4:5-42 water they use in their villages. Thanks to the gen- abandoned ourselves? As we erosity of parishioners in our diocese, the village cope with illness, death, job loss As I read this week’s first reading from the Book of Caserio Yalu, as well as two other communi- or other burdens? At these times, of Exodus, I could not help to think about the situ- ties, has for the first time potable water dispensed hope seems to have disappeared. ation in Haiti following the earthquake at each home in the village. It was in that country. I also thought about the priceless for me to witness the faces of families in the village of Caserio Yalu in SUNDAY adults and children as they turned the And yet, in the midst of our San Marcos, Guatemala, as I witnessed spigot at their homes and were able to darkness, we remember that God the dedication of a potable water project READING drink clean water for the very first time. did not abandon His beloved Son, but raised Him from in that community. They finally didn’t have to walk sever- And God does not abandon us. Everyone should death to glory. In today’s Old Testament reading, we al miles to gather water to bring back know that. can certainly feel the fear, anger, and home. despair of the Israelites as they were As I thought about the reading from This Lent, will you support the priests, Sisters, Brothers experiencing their plight in the desert. Exodus, and the situations in Haiti and and lay catechists in the Missions who bring this They needed water to live and there was Guatemala, I was drawn to the verse, “Is the Lord in our midst or not?” The hope-filled Easter message to the poor and suffering? none and they knew they couldn’t make it back to Egypt. With each passing answer is unequivocally, yes. I saw it moment they could feel the life being first hand in Guatemala. Amid stagger-
sapped out of them. What could they ing poverty and facing incredible hur- do? They complained to Moses, “Why dles in just about every aspect of their The Society for THE PROPAGATION OF THE FAITH did you ever make us leave Egypt? Was lives, the people I encountered were …a Pontifical Mission Society it just to have us die here of thirst with ANDY filled with joy, hope and most of all our children and our livestock?” The faith in God. Please send to: emotions were palpable. ZAMPINI While the people of Haiti are under- I can imagine that the people in Haiti standably troubled and filled with so Deacon Joseph Romans, Mission’s Office must be experiencing many similar emotions — many anxieties, most of which we can probably Diocese of Wilmington • P.O. Box 2030 • Wilmington, DE 19899 fear of finding out that your loved ones may be never relate to, I understand from reports from among those hidden under a white sheet lined up Catholic Relief Services, that the faith of the Hait- Enclosed is my Lenten sacrifice for the Missions of $______on the street; anger about the sporadic distribution ian people is a paramount factor sustaining them of food and water; despair as you have no place to during this extremely difficult time. live or a job to help feed your family and rebuild This week’s reading from the Book of Exodus is Name______your home. The chaotic reality must be over- one we’ve heard many times over the years. As whelming and difficult to accept. you read it this week, consider difficult situations Address______Moses was facing hundreds of thousands of in your life or in the world, and ask, “Is the Lord people who were desperate for water. Moses cried in our midst or not?” You will find the Lord is def- City______State______Zip______initely with us. www.givetothemissions.org out to the Lord, “What shall I do with this peo- ple?” And, as we hear in the readings, the Lord www.onefamilyinmission.org answered Moses and provided him the means to Andy Zampini is program manager of Catholic obtain the precious element essential for survival. Charities’ division of Parish Social Ministry.

The DIALOG 12345 6789111213 0 1 CROSSWORD 154 161 187 191 ACROSS 52 The Supreme Being 12 Sports buff’s TV station 1 Trembling poplar 53 Catholic Oscar-winning actress, 13 Cain traveled this direction 22012322 6 Pertaining to the non-ordained Vivien _____ from Eden (Gn 4:16) members of the Church 57 “But of that day and ____ no 21 Jonah was thrown into this 254 262 10 “...the Lord is with ____.” one knows” (Mt 24:36) 26 Container for communion host 14 First name in puppetry 60 Poverty or obedience, for exam- 28 Wife of the prophet Hosea 287 29203132333 15 Actress Lancaster ple 29 americangreetings.com product 16 Sub ____: secretly, as the 63 Servile 30 And the ____ came 354 36373839304 appointment of a cardinal 65 Raison d’____ 31 Sign of papal office 17 Wading bird 66 First place 32 Former name of Thailand 421 434 18 Biblical measure 68 Dough 33 Ike’s ex 19 Diamond arbiters 69 First-class 34 ___ Minor 454 46474 20 Affirmatives 70 One of Columbus’ ships 35 Church divider 22 Rev.’s alma mater 71 Citrus fruits 36 Taverns 498 40515 23 Housing for a patriarch 72 School spot 37 Summer drink 24 Annoy 73 Bordeaux bean? 40 Number of apostles, in Roman 532 5455565 25 NT epistle 74 Wear away numerals 587 5950616263664 27 Ardently DOWN 45 Catechism question: ____ made 31 Alphabet string 1 Pale me? 665 67686 34 David married his widow 2 “Feed my ____.” (Jn 21:17) 47 Church spire 38 Wood sorrel 3 Analyze, as a sentence 50 Season before Christmas 609 717 39 The last John 4 Uneven 51 Tree 41 Monetary unit of South Africa 5 Jonah’s destination (Jon 1:1-2) 52 Paul surprised a soldier when 732 747 42 Avril follower 6 There have been 13 popes with he spoke this (Acts 21:37) 43 “___ ideal world...” this name 54 “The bombs bursting _____...” moc.scilohtacrofsemagdrow.www 44 Tendon 7 Donation to the poor 55 Gadget 46 Sea eagle 8 Words of understanding 56 Despised 61 Drooling dog of comics 64 Suffix with Congo 47 18th letter of the Greek alpha- 9 Mount ___ 57 Catholic Hollywood costume 62 Departed 67 Burns’ “no” bet 10 “I am the way and the ___ and designer 48 Roker and Capone the life.” (Jn 14:6) 58 Native American Answers to this week’s puzzle: page 19 49 Determined 11 Nazareth, to Jesus 59 Jars

March 4, 2010 ¨ Faith & Spirituality THE DIALOG 17 How to return to the church Lenten sacrifice Q. I have two friends who left the Catholic example, much may have happened in the interven- Fridays in Lent are days of abstinence from meat for Church years ago, one because he became disillu- ing time that could be unfamiliar; they need to those 14 and older. Good Friday — April 2 this year — sioned with a priest, and the other just stopped catch up. is also a day of fasting for those ages 18- attending Mass. Now they both want to Particularly, anyone who has not been 59, who are limited to one full meatless

return but don’t know how. Someone to Mass for the past 30 years or so will mealf that day. said they must go through the Rite of have missed many changes in the litur- Lent is also a time for voluntary acts Christian Initiation of Adults process, gies of the Mass and sacraments that will o which doesn’t make sense to me. Anoth- confuse them if they’re not prepared. f of self-denial and acts of prayer and er said they must talk with a priest, make Perhaps most obviously, experiencing a charity,r which can include attending a good confession and that is all. and trying to participate in the Mass in s t daily Mass,g Scripture study, Stations of I’m sure other former Catholics would English will be puzzling unless someone the Cross, almsgivingi v e and showing mercy also like to know how to come back. helps them understand reasons for those and kindness to others. (Maryland) changes and how they enhance and

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18 THE DIALOG YOUTH March 4, 2010 Archmere senior dives into service activities By John Knebels because it looks good or because playing three sports (as an it will help out her career in col- underclassman), I still tried to do This is one in a series of profiles When told that she came high- lege,” said O’Meara. “She truly service when I could, even on Sports The Dialog will publish on high school student-athletes. These profiles focus ly recommended by faculty loves service. Saturdays. I really missed it. on students’ activities and achieve- members as an uncommonly “She started getting involved “The people we meet are just ments outside of sports along with well-rounded individual, Arch- when she was a freshman and I regular people who enjoy being their involvement in athletics. mere Academy senior Lizzy can’t think of anything that she around other people and like to Profita appeared bewildered. hasn’t helped with. She leads by hang out and have fun. And if I “Are you sure you have the example beautifully. She does help brighten their day, that’s right person?” she said with a whatever she can to help others’ great. They’re brightening my sheepish smile. needs. She consistently does her day, too, and reminding me that Yes indeed. work humbly, and that is the I should appreciate everything I A co-captain for the Auks key.” have.” swimming team, Profita is also Profita was dealt a major emo- Archmere’s community service tional blow last August when her president and an important advo- Lizzy doesn’t do paternal grandmother, Kean cate for the school’s retreat pro- ‘ things because Profita, died after battling can- gram. Her teachers and peers cer. During the school year, collectively describe her as a it looks good or Profita had visited her grand- diligent worker who has main- mother almost every day and tained a low profile despite an because it will would usually eat dinner with impressive resume that includes help out her her and play the piano. She a 3.7 grade-point average. would also spend most of her When told that Profita career in college. summers at her grandmom’s appeared a tad stunned after She truly house at Bradley Beach, N.J. being asked for an interview, Spending quality time with Archmere campus minster Mike loves service. her grandmother, says Profita, Johnson wasn’t surprised. ’ taught her the values of patience “She doesn’t seek out the — Denise O’Meara, and fortitude. limelight,” said Johnson. “She Archmere’s service “I miss her,” she said. “She does things merely out of the coordinator was an important part of my life. goodness of her heart.” Some of my friends are not very As a junior Profita was one of A graduate of Ursuline Acade- close to their grandparents, so I 17 underclassmen who attended my grade school and a lifetime feel fortunate to have so many Archmere’s Kairos retreat pro- parishioner of St. Joseph’s on the great memories.” gram last March. This past Sep- Brandywine, Profita admitted to While trying not to be over- tember, Profita was selected as a feeling awkward when her class- bearing, Profita tries to encour- Kairos leader and, according to mates occasionally compliment age other Archmere students to Johnson, did a “tremendous” her for spending so much time give service a try. She also tries job. with people in need. to persuade the Archmere “She was a fine example to the Whether it’s tutoring young- seniors to make sure they experi- retreatants as a person of great sters at Serviam Academy or Har- ence a Kairos retreat before they compassion for others,” said lan Elementary, working with the graduate. Johnson. “She’s a person with a mentally challenged at the Mary “My sister (Archmere gradu- The Dialog/Don Blake great heart, a great faith, and a Campbell Center, or playing ate Katie) loved hers and kept great soul.” bingo with AIDS hospice resi- telling me to go,” said Profita. Denise O’Meara, Archmere’s dents at the House of Joseph or “After I went, I understood why Lizzy Profita community service moderator the elderly at Eden Rock Assisted people loved to go so much. You School: Archmere Academy for the past 16 years, raved about Living, or feeding the hungry at see people in a completely dif- Hometown: Wilmington Profita’s contribution to both St. Francis Inn in Philadelphia, ferent light.” Parish: St. Joseph’s on the Brandywine Archmere and the surrounding Profita views service as a privi- Profita is leaning toward area. She labeled Profita as “one lege rather than a sacrifice. attending the University of of the best” service leaders in “It’s just a normal part of my Hawaii. Her parents are under- miles away. best” from the first. school history. day, and I always look forward standably concerned about their If she goes, the 50th state will (John Knebels can be reached “Lizzy doesn’t do things to it,” said Profita. “When I was daughter traveling roughly 5,000 by lucky to have “one of the at [email protected].)

Sals again St. Peter’s wins CYM wrestling St. Peter the Apostle won the dalen, 95 lbs.; Patrick King, St. the big fish team championship in the CYM Mary Magdalen, 100 lbs.; Louis wrestling tournament, which Fedele, St. Peter’s, 105 lbs.; was held Feb. 21 at St. Mark’s Thomas Otlowski, Holy Angels, Salesianum senior Zach Pryor swims to a seventh- High School. St. Peter’s finished 110 lbs.; Kyle Reaume, St. place finish in the 200 indi- with 104 points. The other Peter’s, 115 lbs.; Tyler Szymans- vidual medley at Saturday’s teams, in order of finish, were ki, St. Peter’s, 120 lbs.; Anthoney swimming and diving state St. Mary Magdalen, 76; Holy Roe, St. Peter’s, 126 lbs. championship meet in Angels, 62; and St. Edmond’s Nico Palomo, St. Peter’s, 133 Newark. Pryor also was part Academy, 21. lbs.; Mike Albanese, St. Peter’s, of Salesianum’s first-place Individual champions: Colin 140 lbs.; Anthony Mancini, St. 200 medley relay team and Walker, St. Peter’s, 65 lbs.; Peter’s, 150 lbs.; Luke Hernan- placed third in the 100-meter Michael Hanley, St. Mary Mag- dez, St. Peter’s, 170 lbs.; Gus butterfly. Sallies won its fifth straight swimming state dalen, 70 lbs.; Matthew Gallegos, Holy Angels, heavy- championship, easily out- McCurnin, Holy Angels, 75 weight. distancing runner-up Char- lbs.; Austin Walker, St. Peter’s, Complete results of the cham- ter School of Wilmington. 80 lbs.; Justin Engelmann, pionship and consolation rounds The Sals’ 439 points were Holy Angels, 85 lbs.; Brendan are available at cdowcym.org/ the highest in the state meet Lamey, St. Mary Magdalen, 90 athletics/Sports%20Folders/Wre since 2001. lbs. stling/2010CYMWrestlingCha Bud Keegan Images Paul Groome, St. Mary Mag- mpionshipResults.pdf.

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Lenten programs Datebook policy NEW CASTLE COUNTY “Growing in Understanding” of To be considered, items other faiths, six-week Lenten series. must be typed or neatly printed Tonight, 7-8:30: Islam: Adly Gorrafa, a Muslim, discusses his faith and his and include the sender's name marriage to a Christian woman. and contact information. The Immaculate Heart of Mary School, deadline for submitting 4701 Weldin Road, Wilmington. Mon- items is Wednesday of the day, 7-9 p.m.: Roman Catholicism: Bob 226-0906; Joe, 858-7056. week before publication. Father Francis Sariego from St. Fran- Send items to: Datebook, The cis Renewal Center will guide partici- CECIL COUNTY, MD. Sunday, 8:30 a.m.-12:30 p.m.: All- Dialog, P. O. Box 2208, Wilm- pants in reflection. Immaculate Heart ington DE 19899-2208; fax: of Mary Church, 4701 Weldin Road, Check out ... you-can-eat breakfast, Good Shep- (302) 573-6948; E-mail Wilmington. Tae or Terry at herd School, 800 Aiken Ave., Per- ryville. Benefits the school. [email protected]. [email protected] or 764-4693. Pro-lifers on the Eastern Shore can “Unite for Ecumenical Lenten Series: Life” Monday at 5 p.m. at St. Mary Church, 109 Through March 31, 6 p.m.: Meal Meals p.m. $10 adult; $7.50 student/senior. begins at 6; service follows at 7. Duke of Gloucester St., Annapolis. A bus leaves Deborah, 475-5370, ext. 241 or dde- March 13, 3-7 p.m.: Fried oysters Freewill offering. Father Clem Man- Salisbury at 3 p.m. and stops in Easton around 4. [email protected]. and chicken and dumplings din- ista, 530-3979. Wednesday, Ss. $15 for adults, $5 for students. Children ride for ner, Immaculate Conception Peter and Paul Orthodox Church, free. Louise, (410) 829-4721. Church, 518 Main St., Marydel. $15 Dances 1406 Philadelphia Pike, Wilmington; adults; $7 children 6-12; free under 6. March 19, 7 p.m.: St. Patrick’s Very Rev. Father Stephen Hutnick. Takeout available. (410) 482-7687. Day party, St. Agnes Church hall, March 17, Chester Bethel UMC 150 S. Queen St., Rising Sun. $12, Church, 2619 Foulk Road, Wilming- Lenten meals Retreats includes Irish dinner, dessert, bever- ton; Rev. Gary Meekins. Meetings March 12-14: Guided prayer age, live entertainment. Benefits St. Friday, March 12 and 19, 10-11:30 NEW CASTLE COUNTY weekend led by Liz Sweeney and Monday, 1 p.m.: Over 55 group Patrick’s Chapel restoration fund. a.m.: “Mysticism and Social Jus- Fridays, noon-2 p.m.: Fish fry, St. Anita Wood, Jesus House Prayer anniversary luncheon, St. Joseph William, (410) 658-4378. tice,” series by Anita Wood in her Joseph Church hall, 1012 French and Renewal Center, 2501 Milltown Middletown parish hall. $13 mem- Middletown home. $45; light refresh- St., Wilmington. $5 for sandwich, $8 Road, Wilmington. Focuses on our bers; $15 others. Joan, 376-6352. ments provided. Register at msanita- for dinner. Sponsored by the Knights need for deeper knowledge of Jesus’ Tuesday, 6 p.m.: Adoptions from Sales [email protected] or 540-8041. of Peter Claver. 656-5562. spirituality and union with God and all the Heart information meeting, March 13, 9:30 a.m.-1 p.m.: Chil- Saturdays and Sundays: English Fridays through March 26, 5-7 people. $200. Edie, 995-6859 or Wilmington office, 18-A Trolley dren’s clothing and toy resale, St. “Gorzkie Zale” follows Saturday 5 p.m.: Fish fry, St. Mary of the [email protected]. Square, Wilmington. Introduction to Catherine of Siena school gym, p.m. Mass. Polish “Gorzkie Zale” fol- Assumption Church hall, 7200 Lan- March 13, 1:30-4:30 p.m.: Spiritu- domestic and international adoption 2503 Centerville Road, Wilmington. lows 11:30 a.m. Polish Mass, St. caster Pike, Hockessin. John, 998- al encounter with the Prodigal Son options. To register, call 658-8883 or Cash only. 545-5520 or 463-7792. Hedwig Church, 408 S. Harrison St., 0752. mini-retreat, St. Hedwig Church hall, www.afth.org. Wilmington. 549-1400. March 12 and 26, 5-7 p.m.: Lenten 408 S. Harrison St., Wilmington. March 14, 2 p.m.: “Lenten fish fry, St. John the Beloved Bingo Church hall, 907 Milltown Road, Denny, 994-0764. Lessons,” Scripture readings, Stage/music Friday, 7 p.m.: St. Elizabeth Ann Wilmington. $8 adults; $4 children; hymns, a meditation, time for prayer- March 14, 3 p.m.: Sergio Azocar Seton, 345 Bear-Christiana Road, family discounts. Bake sales. Bob and ful silence. Cathedral of St. Peter, Programs in concert, Sacred Heart Oratory, Bear. Doors open at 6. 18 or older. Ronnie, 998-2723; Steve and Valerie, Sixth and West streets, Wilmington. NEW CASTLE COUNTY 917 N. Madison St., Wilmington. The Karen, 322-6430, ext. 100. 654-5920. Free-will donations to the 234-8150. Saturday, 11 a.m.-1 p.m.: Irish- classical guitarist/singer will perform Rector’s Scholarship, which helps KENT, SUSSEX COUNTIES American family research work- songs in English, Italian and Spanish. graduates of St. Peter’s Cathedral Fridays through March 26, 5-7 Trips shop, the basics, Hockessin Public Freewill offering. 428-3658. School buy high school textbooks. p.m.: Lenten dinner, St. Jude the Mar. 24-25: Overnight to Atlantic Library, 1023 Valley Road, March 26-28: “Willy Wonka March 14, 3 p.m.: Lenten choral Apostle Parish center, 152 Tulip City Hilton Hotel. $90 includes hotel Hockessin. Free. To register: 239- Junior,” St. Edmond’s Academy, series, St. Helena’s Church, 602 Drive, Lewes. $8-$9 adults; $5 chil- stay, bus trip, and $70 in return. Jim, 5160 or [email protected]. 2120 Veale Road, Wilmington. March Philadelphia Pike, Wilmington. Fea- dren; add $.50 for takeout. Soda, beer 655-1127. Sunday after 10 a.m. Mass: Irish 26 and 27 at 7:30 p.m.; March 28 at 2 tures members of various high and wine available. Last seating 6:30 tea, St. Mary of the Immaculate schools and the community. Free with p.m. Bob, 644-4727. Conception Church, Sixth and Pine donation for Haiti. Richard, 429-4208. streets, Wilmington. Anita, 658-5441. ASPEN LA I C THEE KENT, SUSSEX COUNTIES Theology on Tap PENNSYLVANIA SHAR I ELSA ROSA Sunday, 3 p.m.: “Gorzkie Zale” A speaker-and-discussion series March 13, 9 a.m.: “The Priest, traditional Polish Lenten service, St. HERON OMER UMPS for adults in their 20s and 30s. All People, and the Legion of Mary” Polycarp Church, 135 Ransom sessions are at 7 p.m. at Catherine Marian day, St. Charles Borromeo YESSES SEM TENT Lane, Smyrna. 2 p.m.: St. Faustina Rooney’s Irish Pub and Restau- Seminary, 100 E. Wynnewood Road, Answer film “Divine Mercy: No Escape.” Pol- PEEVE EPH rant, 1616 Delaware Ave., Wilming- Wynnewood. $10 except priests, dea- ish delicacies available. 653-8279. ton, in Trolley Square. Contact cons and religious. To register, call to this EAGERLY RST Susan Murray at (610) 785-6270. Carpool info, Winnie, URIAH OCA XXI I I Stations of [email protected] or 658-3800. A (302) 998-5211. partial schedule: RAND MA I I NAN the Cross Tonight: “The Seamless Gar- week’s S I NEW ERN S I GMA ment: Protecting Life in All Fundraisers NEW CASTLE COUNTY ALS HARDSET Friday and March 19, 7 p.m.: Pol- Stages.” Speaker: Joan Solomon, NEW CASTLE COUNTY ish and English traditional Stations 2009 graduate of Catholic University Saturday, 6 p.m.: Basket bingo, puzzle GOD L E I GH of America and member of St. John Our Lady of Fatima Church hall, of the Cross, St. Hedwig Church, HOUR VOW MEN I AL Linden and Harrison streets, Wilming- the Beloved Parish in Wilmington. 801 N. Dupont Highway, New Castle. ton. 549-1400. March 11: “Reconciling Science $20 in advance; $25 at door. Diana, ETRE EDEN PASTE and Religion,” Stephen Barr, 571-5723. Fridays, 7 p.m.: Holy Rosary AONE N I NA L I MES Church, 3200 Philadelphia Pike, physics professor at the University of March 13, 7-10 p.m.: Family Claymont. 798-2904. Delaware and member of St. Thomas bingo night, sponsored by Boy DESK TETE ERODE Fridays, 7:30 p.m.: “Via Crucis,” More Oratory in Newark. Scouts, Holy Rosary Church hall, m St. Anthony of Padua Church, Ninth 3200 Philadelphia Pike, Claymont. and Dupont streets, Wilmington. Services $25 table, seats up to 5; six-card page Freewill offering. 421-3700. per person. Eileen, 798-5685 or March 12 and 26, 7 p.m.: Shadow NEW CASTLE COUNTY [email protected]. Stations of the Cross by parish chil- Friday, 8:30 p.m.-2:30 a.m.: Com- March 14, 7-11 a.m.: Pancake LASSIFIED munion of reparation all-night breakfast, St. John the Beloved C dren, St. Hedwig Church, Linden P.O. 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school. I did one year of minor thing gets done and everybody seminary. Then I left, and I didn’t has enough fair time. think about it until after I entered Father Stanislao religious life [with the Holy What is your greatest joy in Cross brothers]. What became Esposito ministry? important was for me to give Let’s say ordinary joys would myself totally to God, work for Age: 41 be celebrating the Eucharist and God, and that’s what led me to Current assignment: preaching the Gospel. But I get a religious life. Associate pastor, Immaculate kick out of celebrating baptisms. The one who got me to think Conception, Elkton When I do baptisms, there is a THE YEAR about the priesthood seriously Hometown: Naples, Italy level of joy that is awesome. FOR PRIESTS was Bishop Saltarelli, who in a Ordained: 2003 June 19, 2009 - June 19, 2010 way was my vocation director. I What do you tell someone who is considering the priest This is one in a series of inter- was in religious life when he - views with local priests that The Dia- invited me to think about becom- hood? log will publish through the end of ing a priest. [He approached me] Is there a priest today that but brought people together, cre- I would say live your life as if the Year for Priests in June 2010. several times, which made the you look up to or turn to for ated communities, and reconciled you were called. One thing that brothers a little upset. I remem- advice? them to the Father and to one is very important is that we do ber my superior said, “Bishop, When I became a priest, I sur- another. So I always envisioned not call ourselves. It’s a dis- What kind of Catholic home Brother Stanislao is a member of rounded myself with priests that the priesthood to be based on this cernment. So give it a try. Live did you grow up in? our congregation.” Bishop in my opinion are quite grounded — reconciliation and creating your life as though you are In Italy, when I was growing Saltarelli said, “I’m just inviting and solid. We founded a support communities through the preach- called to this life of priesthood, up ... Catholicism was as com- him to think about the priest- group, and we get together once a ing of the Gospel and sacraments. and then discern with people mon as pasta. Everything you did hood.” And I remember that month. We just sound things off; who are in charge, and trust was Catholic. Since very early, question stuck. we try to be as fraternal as possi- What has played a bigger them. You don’t have to do all pretty much in middle school, I ble. In times of crisis we call on role in your work than you the work by yourself. took religion to a whole different Did you have a priest you one another, and in times of expected? level. I was involved in parish looked up to in your youth? rejoicing. I think the role of being a lis- How often do you go back activities, was going around My pastor played an important tener. I realize that people just to Italy? preaching, because I wanted to role. The pastor who baptized me What did you envision your need someone who loves them According to my parents, not live the Gospel. was also the pastor who concele- priesthood to be? and who is there listening to them often enough. I’m trying to brated my first Mass. He was in Honestly, I always have seen without expecting anything in make it every other year. When When did you think you the same parish for my entire life. the priest being another Jesus. return. they had the lira, I was the rich might have a vocation to the So when I was ordained and I Therefore, when I study the uncle coming from the States. priesthood or religious life? went back to Italy to celebrate Gospel, I always was surprised What is the most difficult Change the dollar into lira, The first time I thought about Mass there, he was still pastor of that Jesus did mostly two things: thing in your ministry? wow, I was inviting everybody the priesthood was in middle the same church. presented the kingdom of God, Balancing time, so that every- to dinner. Now with the euro, it is very expensive.

Do you have a favorite devotion? The rosary. And my favorite form of prayer, outside liturgi- cal ones, is lectio divina, which I’ve been doing since ’86.

Do you belong to any reli- gious groups? I’m a Knight of Columbus, and I belong to this group called Focolare [a lay move- ment that promotes world unity through the living witness of Christian love and holiness in the family and small communi- ties] and my priest support group.

What do you do to relax? OPEN HOUSE I play guitar, and I do taek- wondo. I’m a martial artist. If I Sunday, March 21 I 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. don’t get kicked too much it’s quite relaxing. 610-558-5616 Describe a good day at work. A good day would be when everything is done and the unexpected happens, and I’m still smiling.

It would surprise people to know ...... that I’m preparing to test for my black belt, which should be in April.

— Mike Lang, The Dialog