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Features 6 Childcare bliss How to select the right caregiver for your family By Kristen J. Duca 8 Dental health for kids February is National Children’s Dental Health Month By Jamie Lober 16 Mercury poisoning An advocate lays out the danger to your children By Tammy Scileppi 20 Go places Discover museum family programs for winter break By Shnieka L. Johnson

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February 2017 • queens Family 3 letter from the PublIsher

of your own dental needs and decay prevention will go a long way to helping them with their own. Health coverage And then there is our intellectual and artistic health, and there is no finer food hat is health? The our children off eating right for that than family visits to our wonderful word gets thrown and that we show them that museums. Family programming tailored to W around so much “nutritious is delicious.” kids is in abundance throughout NYC. We that everyone is confused In this issue, our writer are so lucky! Contributing writer Shnieka about it. People say health Golda Smith talks about Johnson highlights 15 of our finest muse- coverage when they really achieving health goals for the ums that do just that. mean “illness care.” Grocery new year and Tammy Scileppi It’s Valentine’s Day month and I’m cer- items called health foods are has contributed an important tain we should love each other as much as just real foods rather than piece about the dangers of possible. We should hug and kiss and hold processed, manufactured mercury poisoning and how hands and identify with our neighbors. pretenders. Health is not only it’s affecting our children. Her We should think positive thoughts and physical, but mental and spiritual, too. interview with Albert Wilking is compel- stand firm in our commitment to equality To have good health is to be largely with- ling and informative and a must read. and inclusiveness. We should make sure out stress, depression, inactivity, and, of February is Children’s Dental Health everyone has access to a decent way of course, to have freedom and mobility. month and we acknowledge this every life. That would be great for our health in We write a lot about health in these year. Our writer Jamie Lober tells us how every way. magazines. Every month we have at least important it is to develop early oral health Thanks for reading! two columns from experts in our com- habits and for children to visit a pediatric munities talking about health, and that’s dentist earlier than most people might not mentioning the columns we have that imagine. The baby teeth are just as im- give diet, food, and recipe ideas. To me, it portant as the permanent ones, and care all starts with food, and who hasn’t heard and diet can determine the long range Susan Weiss-Voskidis, the expression “you are what you eat”? As health and appearance of both. Setting an Publisher/Excutive Editor parents, it’s really important that we start example for your children by taking care [email protected]

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February 2017 • queens Family 5 Childcare bliss How to select the right caregiver for your family

By Kristen J. Duca there are pluses and minuses to each of parenting. Feel secure and confident in them. Just remember that you are in the your child-rearing decisions. electing a caregiver for your child driver’s seat and can choose the path is one of the most important de- that best fits your family’s needs. Hiring Be patient S cisions many families will make. a caregiver to look after your child is a Do not rush the childcare search. Whether you need childcare because very personal decision. Every family has Finding the ideal person to take care you are returning to work, craving some its own dynamics and unique views on of your little one will take time and pa- time to yourself, or spending some time tience. It is important to be prepared and with your significant other, you will want detailed in your search. Finding the ideal to find the ideal caretaker for your child. caretaker for your child requires a lot of Below are a few tips to help you navigate time and hard work. However, if you put the nanny search: the effort into the search up front, you will be rewarded with the result. One size does not fit all A multitude of childcare possibilities Lay groundwork exist for you to consider, and of course Laying the foundation toward building the ideal childcare situation is critical. Formulating a clear description of your childcare needs now will save you loads of future frustration. You can zero in on exactly what type of situation you need to make sure your household runs smoothly and happily. The ideal or “perfect” childcare situation depends on you and how specific you are in recognizing and expressing your needs, as well as on how your family spends its time. It is important that before you start your childcare search you set aside time to sit down and ponder what it is that you are hiring for and develop interview questions based on your needs.

Interview candidates thoroughly Always remember to conduct a thorough interview and check refer- ences. You will want to conduct interviews (by phone, in person, or via webcam) with potential candidates in order to screen them through a series of questions. You need to ask prospective candidates the right questions in order to narrow down your list and eventually pick a suitable nanny for your family. If possible, try to interview candidates

6 queens Family • February 2017 in person so you can see their immediate has a different experience, but if you reactions, facial expressions, and over- Finding the ideal caretaker are dedicated to the childcare search, all poise. These interviews do not have for your child requires you will find the best candidate for your to be conducted in your home. You can family. always meet up at a local diner or coffee a lot of time and hard Always go with your gut, and trust shop or get together at another mutually your instincts. convenient location such as a library or work. However, if you put bookstore. Trial the effort into the search Suggest the nanny candidate you are Be reasonable up front, you will be interested in start working with your Be aware of what assistance you are family on a trial basis so you can ensure asking for, and make sure it is reason- rewarded with the result. you find the right fit for your family. able. To put it bluntly, if you are not will- A trial period of a few days, a few ing or able to do it all, then your child- weeks, or even a month is a good way to care provider should not be expected through the stages of life. It is important find out if your nanny’s personality and to either. to realize that you are not pigeonholed style fit well with your family’s. Remem- Childcare providers are not super- into the first childcare situation you cre- ber that a happy child makes for a happy heroes. They are humans who have ated at a specific point in time. parent! strengths, weaknesses, and feelings, just A situation that works for your new- like you. As a rule of thumb, it is gener- born child will likely need to be scrapped, New York-based working mother Kristen ally never a good idea to ask your child- tweaked, or revised as your child starts Duca and her husband are the parents of care provider to do tasks that you can- school. You may have to realize that ex- two girls. Duca has worked in the financial not handle yourself. pecting the unexpected and having the services industry for two decades in addition ability to be nimble is crucial to formu- to serving as a contributing writer for New Understand that your lating the right childcare situation at any York area publications. She is the author of childcare situation given point in time. “Ultimate Nanny: How to Find, Interview, will evolve and Manage the Most Important Person You As your child changes or your family Go with your gut Will Ever Hire – Your Child’s Nanny” avail- dynamics change, your childcare needs You may luck out and hire the first able on amazon.com now. Get the inside will change. These childcare needs will nanny you meet, or you might have to scoop on how develop the right criteria, constantly evolve as your child blossoms interview several candidates. Everyone identify, and select the ultimate nanny.

February 2017 • queens Family 7 Dental health for kids February is National Children’s Dental Health Month

By Jamie LoBer

he Department of Health for New York State says that it is important T for children to develop good oral health habits at an early age because prac- ticing healthy habits can prevent or reduce tooth decay in infants and children. “Parents often do not think of the value of what they are doing for their kid’s oral health at home until an issue arises,” said Dr. Jona- than Shenkin, dentist and spokesman for the Ameri- can Dental Association. Teeth tend to appear between 6 to 8 months- old and by age 3, all 20 primary teeth should be in the mouth. Start- ing around age 6, baby teeth are replaced by permanent teeth, but it’s important to remember that both sets of teeth matter. “When teeth first come they are exposed to saliva and the minerals that exist in the saliva and fluoride that enables minerals to be de- posited completely into the tooth,” said Shenkin. You have to give the teeth time to become strong. Diet plays a big role, and soda can be one of the worst culprits. “If you are continually con- suming sugars throughout the day you are constantly reducing the acid level in your mouth making teeth more sus- ceptible to decay processes, so it is about the frequency

8 queens Family • February 2017 and consumption,” said Shenkin. the mouth, it is about removing the plaque tive way of reducing risk for tooth decay “Poor oral hygiene combined with poor on the teeth and the sugars that cause the in young kids is to put a dental sealant or nutrition can cause tooth decay in kids decay,” said Shenkin. “It is important that a little plastic coating on it to dramatically that could be easily avoided.” parents monitor toothbrushing until kids reduce the incidence of tooth decay,” said Set an example of how children should tie their own shoelaces, which is at 6 to 7 Shenkin. It is advised to do that on all per- Dental health for take care of their teeth by taking care of years of age, because they do not have the manent molars for kids. your own. manual dexterity to appropriately remove If your child wants sugar, it is best with “If you do not have appropriate behav- plaque,” said Shenkin. a meal. iors that improve oral health you put your Sometimes the right toothbrush can “Do not have sugars in between meals kid at great risk for developing disease,” make a big difference. because having it with meals would ex- said Shenkin. “Electric toothbrushes can inspire chil- pand the time period that there are higher To do so you’ll need to have the right dren to brush their teeth and they do a levels of acidity in the mouth,” said Shen- tools. “A big change we made in the last better job if they are excited about the kin. “Mistakes parents make are putting year and a half is recommending fluoride process,” said Shenkin. kids to bed at night with a bottle with fer- kids toothpaste for children as soon as the first You’ll also need a trustworthy dentist mentable sugars, juices, or milk because it tooth erupts in the mouth,” said Shenkin. who can help with the cleaning. can result in decay.” February is National “We used to say age 2 was the first time “We typically recommend at age 1 or February is National Children’s Dental you would provide fluoride toothpaste, but within 6 months of the eruption of the first Health month, making it the perfect time we changed it based on the amount you tooth to have the first visit to find out what to talk with your child about why taking Children’s Dental use and the age of the child.” kind of risk factors exist,” said Shenkin. care of his teeth matters. And it may sound And you should know your measure- “We recommend seeing the dentist based basic, but folks easily overlook the impor- Health Month ments. on your risk level so some kids go once a tance of dental health. “We recommend at the eruption of the year and some need to go 4 times a year.” “The most important thing we have By Jamie LoBer first tooth to start using a piece of tooth- The dentist may have some individual- recognized is how kids can come to the paste the size of a piece of rice to help ized recommendations that consider your dentist earlier to reduce disease levels, he Department of Health for New parents visualize the amount, which is ex- child’s needs. educate parents, and redirect behaviors in York State says that it is important tremely small to minimize ingestion. And “Parents do not realize the importance the household,” said Shenkin. T for children to develop good oral then at age 3 we recommend a pea-size of dental sealants at the age of 6,” said Jamie Lober, author of “Pink Power” (www. health habits at an early age because prac- amount,” said Shenkin. Shenkin. Evidence shows they work won- getpinkpower.com), is dedicated to providing ticing healthy habits can prevent or reduce Your child should be brushing twice a ders. “The most decayed tooth in the information on women’s and pediatric health tooth decay in infants and children. day. “Morning and night is imperative and mouth for all of us is the adult first molar topics. She can be reached at jamie@getpink- “Parents often do not think of the value it is not just about putting the toothbrush in on the biting surface and the most effec- power.com. © 2015 Jamie Lober of what they are doing for their kid’s oral health at home until an issue arises,” said Dr. Jona- than Shenkin, dentist and Pappas Pediatric Dentistry spokesman for the Ameri- can Dental Association. Teeth tend to appear between 6 to 8 months- Warm old and by age 3, all 20 Like us on child friendly primary teeth should environment be in the mouth. 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GrAdeS NurSerY – 8 Continued from page 10 States Association of Colleges “The child is a veritable image and Schools, St. Luke’s, by its of becoming, poised to reach very nature and purpose, pro- OpeN HOuSe towards what is not yet, towards vides a Catholic atmosphere that Tuesday, January 31st – 9 AM until 10:30 AM a growing that cannot be pre- nurtures the growth and devel- Thursday, February 2nd – 9 AM until 10:30 AM determined or prescribed. The opment of the whole person: potential is there, and it is up to intellectually, spiritually, emotion- • Monthly Liturgies • Internet Based Symphony • Academic Intervention us to create the learning environ- ally and physically. The faculty, and Seasonal Prayer Math Program Service ment in which it can prosper in cooperation with the parents, Services • Newly Renovated • SETSS/Speech/OT and succeed.” We consider it a • Elizabeth Ann Seton Library/Media Center • Free After School Sports/ endeavor to correlate moral and great privilege to help a child, Service Volunteers • Art Clubs for grades 6, 7 and spiritual values with the day to with all their God-given gifts and • Junior Lectors & • Physical Ed./Health 8 sponsored on site by day living of the faith life of the talents, grow and flourish! SFA is Altar Servers • Math Strategies Maspeth Town Hall child. 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Students 58-25 Catalpa Avenue - receive caring instruction, not Ridgewood 718-381-8003 just in literacy studies and math, www.stmatthiaschool.org but also in religion, art, music, Principal - Ms. Barbara Wehnes physical education, technology and Spanish. The mission of our school is to empower our students, through Our school is a safe, and wel- formal education, to reach the coming environment to learn. 1910 – 2017 • CELEBRATING 100+ YEARS! fullness of their potential as chil- Classrooms are each equipped dren made in God’s image, and with SMARTBoards™ and stu- RegistRation dents have access to I-Pads to encourage them to direct their For New Students for the 2017-2018 school Year and one-to-one Chromebook talents toward the building of a more just society. Saint Matthias Tiny Tots/Nursery/Pre-Kindergarten/Kindergarten through Grade Eight Technology. Kindergarten through 8th grade students are School, recognizing Jesus as the JanuaRY 29 – FebRuaRY 4 given sacramental preparation “Master Teacher”, bases its phi- and are encouraged to par- losophy on the Gospel message. oPen House OpEN SChOOL As a school community we strive SuNDAY • JANuARY 29, 2017 WEDNESDAY • FEbRuARY 1, 2017 ticipate in choir, band, orches- tra as well as Catholic Youth to further develop our Catholic 11:30AM – 1:30AM 9AM – 10:30AM Organization (CYO) sports and identity by recognizing each child scouting programs. Other pro- entrusted to us as a unique gift Small Class Sizes • Technology Classes grams include Student Council, from God. Providing an environ- Class sets of Chromebooks & Laptops • Science Lab advanced math and science ment filled with love and under- Tiny Tots/Pre-K/Nursery • Early Morning Care after-school activities to name standing, which is consistent a few. 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February 2017 • queens Family 15 Mercury poisoning An advocate lays out the danger to your children

By Tammy Scileppi about the potentially harmful effects of photography studio, and a painting studio mercury in children, but says he can actu- with toxic artist paints. The family regu- lbert Wilking’s “toxic” past was ally imagine a time, in the not too distant larly adventured into abandoned factories, riddled with a series of weird, and future, when moms and dads may worry industrial sites, and ghost towns. It was A at times, “poisonous” experiences. less about toxins. exciting but toxic. Growing up, he was plagued by relentless His motto, “mercury-free kids,” de- “During my middle school years, play- illnesses and a puzzling assortment of scribes a life-long wellness mission that grounds included the town dump and maladies. But after years of questioning, he has embraced since his younger days, climbing over mounds of brightly covered rigorous self-discovery, and extensive re- after dealing with a wide range of diseases chemicals at the Middlesex Chemical fac- search into harmful toxins, this amazing and medical illnesses that he believes tory. I played with mercury from broken New Yorker finally found himself in a place were mostly due to mercury poisoning. thermometers, and remember losing the of healing and wellness — and knew he The parent of 15-year-old son Felix says mercury beads into the floor boards of our had a calling: To educate the public about when he’s not teaching mercury poison- house. Wounds were occasionally treated the dangers of mercury poisoning, with a ing and recovery, he’s studying it, and with Mercurochrome, and vaccines were goal of having all children mercury-free by believes, “It’s a tragedy that modern-day administered.” the year 2020. healthcare continues to administer to un- Young Albert had chronic ear infec- Imagine a perfect, toxin-free world in witting consumers — mercury in dental tions, severe allergies, and almost con- which kids everywhere can live, play, and fillings, and vaccines, and that much of the stant colds. As a teen, his emotional prob- learn — forever safe and protected from ‘science’ they give us is misinformation.” lems became more apparent. all of the bad stuff that can harm them, His website www.mercuryfreekids.org “As an adult, I regularly worked with such as lead, free radicals, hormone-filled is chock full of helpful information and toxic paints,” he writes. “I soldered copper and pesticide-laced meats and produce, as suggestions based on Wilking’s own per- pipes with lead, refinished furniture with well as genetically modified foods. They’d sonal journey and fascinating findings. toxic chemicals, and renovated two den- even be safe from potential mercury poi- (Mercury Free Kids and Mercury 101 do tist offices. I had a very expensive sushi soning due to leakage from amalgam den- not offer medical advice. Parents and care- habit, was a tuna sandwich junkie, regu- tal fillings. takers should consult their child’s pediatri- larly drank Gatorade (bromine), and used What would this awesome, environmen- cian and dentist if they suspect mercury cold medicines (bromine).” tally friendly utopia — where parents don’t poisoning, which may turn out to be some- “My life-long, severe allergies and emo- ever have to worry about what their chil- thing else entirely.) tional instability continued. I cried almost dren consume or inhale — look like? Wilking’s past was often riddled with every day of my life until my mid-20s. I It’s fun to imagine, but let’s face it, the a series of strange, toxin-related experi- could fly into a rage for the smallest of harsh reality is that no matter how hard ences that compelled him to investigate reasons.” we try to protect them, kids can’t live in the connection between those and his Wilking has started an important con- a bubble. And if they could, they’d break ongoing health problems. For a while, that versation about this crucial but mostly free! past would define him. But in time, he forgotten issue, mercury poisoning, and Still, that’s the kind of wonderful world found himself in a much better place, and in this in-depth interview, provides NY wellness expert and mercury-free advo- he knew he wanted to help others. Parenting readers with his valuable input. cate Wilking, 53, dreams of and hopes for On his site he writes, “I have a history of He says he has consulted with other mer- (in theory). Like the hundreds of parents living and working in toxic environments. cury experts, including dentists, chemists, he educates, he’s especially concerned When growing up, my family home had a scientists, and policy experts, like Michael

16 queens Family • February 2017 T. Bender, director of the Mercury Policy syrup. About 20 percent of fructose is 50 percent mercury. There is only nine Project http://mercurypolicy.org. mercury tainted. Mercury poisoning isn’t to 12 percent silver in the filling, so they Tammy Scileppi: Is a mercury-free USA going away any time soon. The best thing should never have been called silver fill- a realistic goal? And what about other we can do is to educate ourselves. ings. They should be called what they are, countries? I’ve made a comprehensive list of mer- mercury fillings. Albert Wilking: My mission has all cury sources on my website (www.mercu- TS: So, why is mercury potentially children mercury-free. I have my work cut ryfreekids.org/hg-poisoning-sources). harmful to kids and adults? out for me to get enough adults educated TS: Dentists still use fillings with mer- AW: Mercury interferes with our proper to protect all of our beautiful babies going cury, so how do parents get around that? usage of the essential elements. These ele- forward. AW: Unfortunately, the American Den- ments can protect us from mercury, but Some countries like Norway and Swe- tal Association still requires those on so- only to a certain extent. Our systems and den are mercury-free in dentistry. Un- cial services, including little children, to bodies can become deranged in the pres- fortunately, countries like the Philippines have mercury fillings placed, or they will ence of mercury. To get our systems in top have a huge problem with mercury from have to pay for services out of pocket. shape, we need to get the toxins out of our mining. There are dentists that have been in the bodies by making sure we are flush with The U.S. is now allowing coal fly ash to business for a long time, who claim a small needed elements. It’s a balancing act. be used in household products like sheet- amount of mercury is harmless. You may TS: Regarding those elements, how rock and carpet backing. Another hidden notice I call amalgam dental fillings mer- does your site’s two-hour interactive work- place for mercury is in high fructose corn cury fillings, and that’s because they are shop with Q & A sessions work? How can

February 2017 • queens Family 17 parents access it? AW: My current workshop is called “The Bromine: Toxic brownish-red color with a bleach-like Building Blocks of Life” and is at www.mer- and pervasive odor, and it dissolves in water.” curyfreekids.org/life-building-blocks. Children’s health advocate Albert Bromine can be found in a number I use lots of easy-to-understand sto- Wilking claims that some of his health of places in your everyday world, in- ries and metaphors to explain the essen- problems stemmed from exposure to cluding: tial elements and vitamins we need for mercury and bromine which could be • Pesticides (specifically methyl bro- survival. Let’s compare a brick building found in his Gatorade and cold medi- mide, used mainly on strawberries, to that of a human body. You may have cines. According to the Centers for Dis- predominantly in California). heard we need lots of calcium. However, ease Control and Prevention, “Bromine • B a k e r y goods and some flours most of us have all the calcium we need. works by directly irritating the skin, often contain a “dough conditioner” If we view calcium as the bricks in our mucous membranes, and tissues. called potassium bromate. building, what we need more of is the “The seriousness of poisoning • S o f t drinks (including Mountain mortar between those bricks to make our caused by bromine depends on the Dew, Gatorade, Sun Drop, Squirt, Fresca, walls solid. Magnesium is that mortar. It’s amount, route, and length of time of ex- and other citrus-flavored sodas), in the needed in more than 300 of our vital cel- posure, as well as the age and preexist- form of brominated vegetable oils. lular processes. It gives our bones and ing medical condition of the person ex- • Medications such as Atrovent teeth strength. posed,” states the Centers for Disease Inhaler, Atrovent Nasal Spray, Pro- Iodine makes the longest bonds known Control and Prevention website. Banthine (for ulcers), and anesthesia to man. Seventy percent of a thyroid hor- The Centers describe Bromine as agents. mone is made up of iodine. Iodine is the “a naturally occurring element that is • F i r e retardants used in fabrics, car- architectural plan for our bodies. It tells a liquid at room temperature. It has a pets, upholstery, and mattresses. us where to put our walls, how tall we will grow, what goes in the rooms, and when the garbage is taken out. Without enough ingestion. I think it’s addictive. Mercury out of people’s mouths, with very little in iodine, the body loses direction and order. poisoning is actually called mercury in- the way of safety precautions, are in denial We can see that when the thyroid starts toxication. of putting the health of themselves and backing up, growing into a goiter. Without TS: What about emotional issues stem- their patients at risk. iodine, the thyroid starts swelling up with ming from mercury poisoning? Today, conscientious, educated dentists half-baked hormones; it’s as if the service AW: The phrase “emotional lability” are using clean-room technology to pro- staff in our building has gone on strike. was first coined in reference to mad hat- tect themselves, their staff, and their pa- TS: Talk about your “mercurial” past ters. They were quite common in Danbury, tients from mercury. and your leaky dental filling. Conn. and Newark, N.J. In the hatting busi- If you go to www.dentalwellness4u. AW: My entire life, I had some kind of ness, mercury nitrate would steam the com/layperson/symptoms.html, you can constant chronic infection: Lyme disease, felts for hats, rise up to the ceiling, con- read about holistic, mercury-free dentistry conjunctivitis, allergies, constant colds. I dense, and drip back down onto the heads of Dr. Tom McGuire. He has been a mer- was on antibiotics for two years for Lyme of the workers, staining their hair and skin cury-safe, holistic dentist for more than disease; I couldn’t get rid of it. Because of orange. Johnny Depp played it quite well 35 years, and is an innovator and leader in that leaking filling, I learned about bac- in “Alice and Wonderland.” Many hatters holistic dental wellness, having spent the teria and methylate mercury. When the were off their rockers and their emotions last 20 years researching mercury amal- body or the antibiotic kills off the bac- would flip on and off. About 60 percent of gam fillings and studying their effects on teria, the mercury is released, and then the deaths in the industry were men under overall health. the body has to deal with the mercury. the age of 30! www.mercuryfreekids.org/ In addition, the doctor’s extensive re- So there is this chronic level of inflamma- mercury101/danbury-shakes. search into mercury detoxification has tion, and the body doesn’t get better. The We all know people who can fly into resulted in the development of his mer- bacteria will not die off until the mercury a rage or start crying over the smallest cury detoxification program. (Click on, is removed. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ things. I was one of them. (Emotional “Mercury Detoxification: The Natural Way Mercury(II)_reductase. lability is also listed as a symptom of to Remove Mercury from Your Body,” to Today, I’m one of the healthiest people I acrodynia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ review the book and read chapter ex- know. My knees and joints had ached since Acrodynia) cerpts.) I was a child. No more. You can see a list TS: What should parents do to avoid And you can also check out this of my problems, at www.mercuryfreekids. mercury exposure? video: https://www.youtube.com/ org/about. AW: The best way is to be educated on watch?v=AO_6W-Hnt64. TS: How did your “toxic” past define the subject. I have a great page with al- Once a parent or anyone else sees the you for a while? most all the sources of mercury possible: safeguards these dentists use in this video, AW: At one time in my life, I had a www.mercuryfreekids.org/hg-poisoning- good luck going back to an old-fashioned problem with self-medicating, whether it sources. dentist. was drinking too much alcohol, taking a Mercury is 500 times more dangerous • • • bunch of vitamin supplements, or spend- than lead. It has an affinity for sulfur, and For additional reading, check out this ing too much money on sushi. Think of we are loaded with sulfur. If a thermometer 2014 article on forbes.com about other these common sayings, “I really tied one breaks inside a school, the entire school harmful toxins, titled “11 Toxic Chemi- on last night” or “he/she really knows how can be closed while men in clean suits do cals Affecting Brain Development In to hold their liquor.” I thought I was fear- remediation. The amount of mercury in a Children” www.forbes.com/sites/ lessly, heroically approaching life. Now I thermometer is about equal to the amount alicegwalton/2014/02/15/11-toxic-chem- see it for what it is: ego, and putting myself of mercury in a large dental filling! icals-afffecting-brain-development-in- in a constant state of stress through toxic Old-school dentists that drill mercury children/#75c4001e79e3.

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February 2017 • queens Family 19 Go places Discover museum family programs for winter break

By Shnieka L. JohnSon Aug. 13. The museum also offers an expan- elmuseo.org sive permanent collection and Discovery Suggested exhibit: Teens may enjoy Ro - he New York City public school mid- Room for children. tative Repository of Latin American Video winter break is fast approaching. If Art: Mono Cana, which is a collection of T you are looking for ideas on how to fill Brooklyn Museum works by video artists, on display through those days without leaving town, then con- 200 Eastern Pkwy in Prospect Heights, April 30. ArtExplorer Activity Cards are sider spending time at the city’s acclaimed www.brooklynmuseum.org available for families and mark the third museums, where your children can experi- Suggested exhibit: Offering a large per- Saturday of the month for “Super Sabado!” ence art, history, and have a bit of fun. manent collection and a full calendar of which includes performance, storytelling, A little-known fact is that many muse- public and family programs, the museum and art making. ums offer family programming tailored to stays buzzing. Currently on display, Beverly kids, such as art classes, performances, Buchanan — Ruins and Rituals (closing The Jewish Museum or special tours. During your next visit to March 5) has around 200 objects on dis- 1109 Fifth Ave. in Carnegie Hill, http://the- any museum, ask if it offers a family guide, play, including sculpture, painting, photog- jewishmuseum.org booklet, or pamphlet. Also, keep an eye raphy, drawing, and notebooks of the artist. Suggested exhibit: Families will enjoy out for touch carts or teaching carts in Take advantage of Creativity Lab drop-in programming offered for various ages. the galleries. For example, the Solomon class the first Sunday of the month. Currently on view is Masterpieces and R. Guggenheim Museum has a Family Ac- Curiosities: Memphis does Hanukkah, an tivity Kiosk where families can request a Bronx Museum exhibition of objects closing Feb. 12. Re- pack of materials to help navigate the ex- 1040 Grand Concourse in Concourse, www. member, Sundays are for families at this hibits throughout the space. bronxmuseum.org museum. Kids can participate in hands-on Some museums also offer designated Suggested exhibit: The museum offers activities. spaces for children’s exploration of the arts a vast permanent collection and various or content on display. From digging for temporary exhibits. For teens, consider Long Island Museum dinosaurs in the Discovery Room at the The Neighbors, Part Two, in Two Parts: 1200 Route 25A in Stony Brook, NY, www. American Museum of Natural History to Sanctuary: Andrea Bowers and Home: An- longislandmuseum.org drawing in the Uris Education Center at the drea Aragón, which addresses immigra- Suggested exhibit: Opening on Feb. Metropolitan Museum of Art to building tion through the work of American art- 24, Colors of Long Island is an exhibit that sculptures in the Art Lab at the Museum of ist Bowers and Guatemalan photographer showcases student work. Check the calen- Modern Art, families can bring their chil- Aragón and closes Feb. 12. Also, take a dar for Drop-In Days for families, and you dren to not only see what is on display, but look at the events calendar to register for can join a Museum Educator for art mak- discover it in a multimodal way. All of these Family Affair, a hands-on workshop pro- ing and other activities. spaces are run by trained educators familiar vided on select Saturdays. with the content and child development, en- The Metropolitan suring your child is engaged and learning. Cooper Hewitt, Smithsonian Museum of Art Need more help figuring out which muse- Design Museum 1000 Fifth Ave. on the Upper East Side, ums to visit and exhibits to see? 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Target Family may interest young artists and art lovers is Suggested exhibit: Cuba! is a vibrant Day(s) will be offered throughout the mid- the Velazquez Portraits: Truth in Painting exhibit that offers various pockets of in- winter break. which includes several riveting portraits formation on the country. From food to of 16th-century children. This exhibit is on sports to nature, your children will enjoy El Museo del Barrio display until March 12. Don’t forget to ask this interactive exhibit that runs through 1230 Fifth Ave. in East Harlem, www. for information for families and stop by the

20 queens Family • February 2017 Scenes from the American Museum of Natural History. There’s plenty for families to see at the city’s museums this winter break.

Uris Education Center. figure. “I Am King of the World: Photo- Campus, Building H, in Snug Harbor, www. graphs of Mohammad Ali by George Kal- statenislandmuseum.org Museum of the insky” showcases the famed boxer from Suggested exhibit: Of Human Feelings: City of New York his youth to late adulthood, and is open Portraits by Warren Lyons is a powerful 1220 Fifth Ave. in East Harlem, www.mcny. through March 26. series of paintings of figures from Ameri- org can history and the arts, opening Feb. 18. Suggested exhibit: Through April 23, Queens Museum The exhibit features portraits of Frederick the architecture buff in your family may NYC Bldg – Flushing Meadows Corona Park Douglass, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., and enjoy the exhibit Mastering the Metropo- in Flushing, www.queensmuseum.org Sojourner Truth. The museum offers fam- lis: New York and Zoning 1916–2016 which Suggested exhibit: The panorama of ily workshops on the first Saturday of the showcases the formation of the city’s the New York City skyline is a favorite for month. neighborhoods. Kids may also like watch- kids and adults alike. Currently on view ing “Timescapes,” a 28-minute film of the through Feb. 19 is Mierle Laderman Ukeles: Whitney Museum history of New York. Check the calendar Maintenance Art, an exhibit that includes 99 Gansevoort St. in the Meatpacking Dis- for family-friendly workshops. 50 years of the artist’s portraits and multi- trict, http://whitney.org media works that document the indispens- Suggested exhibit: The Whitney’s per- Museum of Modern Art able workers and city agencies that keep manent collection offers opportunities for 11 W. 53rd St. in Midtown, www.moma.org our city clean and running smoothly. The families to request a copy of the Family Suggested exhibit: The extensive per- exhibit closes Feb. 19. If visiting on a Sun- Guide to aid children’s exploration and manent collection of the MoMA is enough day, families can participate in drop-in art interaction with the works on display. to fill your day, and a visit to the family- workshops. Current exhibits will have staggered clos- friendly interactive space will make your ings throughout February and the Biennial child’s day. Teens may like the current Solomon R. Guggenheim show opens in March. Keep an eye out for exhibition Francis Picabia: Our Heads Are Museum family weekend activities led by educators Round so Our Thoughts Can Change Direc- 1071 Fifth Ave. on the Upper East Side, and artists. tion, which is open through March 19. www.guggenheim.org Suggested exhibit: Visionaries: Creat- Please remember that stroller policies New York Historical Society ing a Modern Guggenheim is an exhibit vary from museum to museum. If appli- 170 Central Park West on the Upper West that includes works from artists Vasily cable, check museum websites to research Side, www.nyhistory.org Kandinsky and Hilla Rebay. It opens Feb. services for visitors with disabilities or Suggested exhibit: The DiMenna Chil- 10. Just a few weeks later, Jackson Pollack: special needs. Contact the museums you dren’s Museum, housed in the lower level, Exploring Alchemy, opens on March 1, and plan to visit to arrange access accommo- is a can’t miss for families. However, kids will offer video footage and interactive ki- dations. and grownups alike will be intrigued by osks related to the famed artist. Don’t for- Shnieka Johnson is an education consultant the two Muhammad Ali exhibits currently get to request a family pack! and freelance writer. She is based in Manhat- on display on floor 2. Muhammad Ali, tan where she resides with her husband and LeRoy Neiman and the Art of Boxing show- Staten Island Museum son. Contact her via her website: www.shnieka- case watercolor portraits of the historical 1000 Richmond Terrace – Snug Harbor johnson.com. American Museum of Natural History

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Hoo! Join the rangers and learn about a pair. The rangers will take you out Spot some owls on Feb. 26 at the Alley Pond Park and guide you on your quest to spot Adventure Center. winter owls. Birding programs are appropriate for Birding: Owls, Feb. 26, 11 am to 12:30 all skill levels and ages — beginners are pm. Free owls welcome. Alley Pond Park Adventure Center in Alley To enhance your experience, the Pond Park [Off Union Turnpike in Oakland rangers encourage you to bring binocu Gardens, (718) 217–6034; www.nyc.gov/p lars and field guides, or ask to borrow arks/rangers].

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Wed, Feb. 1 In Queens Lunar New Year Celebration: Lost Bat- talion Hall Recreation Center, 93-29 Queens Blvd.; (718) 263–1163; www.nycgovparks. org; 9 am to 2:30 pm; Free. Join us as we ring in Lunar New Year with a day of performances, demonstrations, sing- ing, dancing, and refreshments! Workshops in the winter Fri, Feb. 3 Fun, creative workshops await chil Feb. 21 in the Cold Climate Adaptations In Queens dren at the Vanderbilt Mansion Mu workshop. Make it Fridays: New York Hall of Sci- seum on Feb. 12, 20, 21, and 22. Pre-schoolers, along with an adult ence, 47-01 111th St.; (718) 699–0005 X 353; Children in kindergarten through companion, can learn about cold-cli www.nyscience.org; 2:30 pm to 5 pm; Free third grade can explore the collection mate animals and then make a polar with admission to the hall. of sea shells on Feb. 12 in the Sailor’s bear print snowglobe on Feb. 22 in the Join us in Maker Space Friday afternoons Valentine workshop. Animals in Winter event. to explore different materials, concepts, and Then, children in grades two to four All workshops take place from 10 am ideas while making and tinkering with your family. Activities cover a wide range of topics can visit the portrait gallery and create to noon and require pre-registration. including simple circuits, wind-powered rac- their own self-portrait on Feb. 20 in the Admission is $18 for members and $20 ers, hand sewing, and much more. Drop in Self-Portrait activity. for non-members. and see what we’re working on. Tweens will visit the wildlife diora Vanderbilt Mansion Museum [180 Little Stem Night: New York Hall of Science, 47- mas and learn how animals survive the Neck Rd. between Gina Drive and Cobble- 01 111th St.; (718) 699–0005 X 353; www. winter’s chill, and then create a mini- stone Court in Centerport, NY, (631) 854– nyscience.org; 5:30 pm to 8 pm; Free. diorama snowglobe to take home on 5539; www.vanderbiltmuseum.org]. High school and college students are invited to STEM Night to explore how design and engineering converge in our ever-chang- indoor nature-themed hands on activities, of what he house used to be. And after learning world today. Explore the various educa- followed by a short nature walk around the ing the hows and whys, children make a tional and career opportunities there are in Garden. Bundle up and dress for the weather! these fields! Held in our Design Lab, students house out of toothpicks and build their very Sign up for single sessions or all four. Registra- own window scene, including a Greek Key will engage in hands-on activities, hear from tion required. guest speakers who are experts in the field, like the ones in Rufus King’s parlor. and network with STEM professionals and or- Winter Waterfowl: Baisley Pond Park Guy Davis Family Show: Flushing Town ganizations. RSVP required. Parking Lot, 155th Street and Baisley Boule- vard; (718) 352–1769; www.nycgovparks.org; Hall, 137-35 Northern Blvd.; (718) 939–0647; 1 pm to 2:30 pm; Free. www.flushingtownhall.org; 2:15 pm; $13 ($10 Sat, Feb. 4 This program will focus on the different members; ($18 members; $8 children; $6 In Queens species of waterfowl that reside in our parks member children). Family programs: Queens Botanical Gar- during the colder winter months. Bring your Explore the roots of the blues with Guy own binoculars or ask a Ranger to borrow a den, 43-50 Main St.; (718) 886–3800; info@ Davis. Guy grew up in a family of artists (his queensbotanical.org; www.queensbotanical. pair. Birding programs are appropriate for all skill levels and beginners are welcome. For parents were Ruby Dee and Ossie Davis) and org; 11 am to noon; $10 per class ($40 for he fell under the spell of Blind Willie McTell four classes; $36 members). families with older children. and Fats Waller at an early age. Guy leads Bring the whole family and experience Hands-On History: King Manor Museum winter’s splendor with indoor garden activi- in Rufus King Park, 89th and Archer avenues; families through an American music explora- ties and an outdoor nature walk. Activities (718) 206–0545; www.nycgovparks.org; 1 tion of Delta blues, Piedmont blues, jazz, folk, are geared for 4–10 year olds, but all are pm to 4 pm; Free. and much more. For teens 13 to 19 years old welcome to attend. Each week will include This old house provides children a glimpse with student ID.

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Learning from an old house Children can take a step back in time window scene, including a Greek Key with Hands-on-History on Feb. 4 at King motif like the ones in Rufus King’s Manor Museum. parlor. This old house provides children Hands-On History on Feb. 4, 1 pm to a glimpse of what houses used to be 4 pm. Free. — after learning the hows and whys, King Manor Museum [Rufus King Park, children can make a house out of 89th and Archer avenues in Jamaica, (718) toothpicks and build their very own 206–0545; www.nycgovparks.org].

Sun, Feb. 5 ideas! For kids 5 years and older. Fri, Feb. 17 In Queens In Queens Sat, Feb. 11 Compost workshop: Queens County Make it Fridays: New York Hall of Sci- Farm Museum, 73-50 Little Neck Pkwy.; (718) Further Afield ence, 47-01 111th St.; (718) 699–0005 X 353; 347–3276; www.queensfarm.org; 10 am to Be Mine Ball!: Long Island Children’s www.nyscience.org; 2:30 – 5 pm; Free with 4 pm; Free. Museum, 11 Davis Ave. at West Road, Long admission to the hall. Curious about what happens to the food Island; (516) 224–5800; www.licm.org; 6 pm Join us in Maker Space Friday afternoons scraps collected at NYC Greenmarkets? to 9 pm; $11 ($9 members). to explore different materials, concepts, and Come out to the farm and see first-hand how ideas while making and tinkering with your Get RED-y to party at Long Island Chil- this natural resource can be used in mak- family. Activities cover a wide range of topics dren’s Museum’s newest holiday family event. ing a compost windrow pile. Together with including simple circuits, wind-powered rac- Join us for the Be Mine Ball to celebrate Val- GrowNYC, we’ll utilize thousands of pounds ers, hand sewing, and much more. Drop in of food waste, wood chips, and leaves to entine’s Day with fun for the whole family! and see what we’re working on. build a compost pile, which will eventually de- Gather up those you love, dress in red, get compose into the natural fertilizer we use on your face painted, dance the night away, and our growing fields. Weather permitting. make some LOVE-ly craft projects to take Sat, Feb. 18 home for someone special in your life! All In Queens Little Makers: New York Hall of Science, ages. 47-01 111th St.; (718) 699–0005 X 353; Paint Party – workshop for special- www.nyscience.org; 10:30 am to 12:30 pm; needs children: New York Hall of Science, $8 per family ($5 members). Sun, Feb. 12 47-01 111th St.; (718) 699–0005 X 353; www.nyscience.org; 10:30 am to noon; Free Transform colorful, fluffy wool into com- In Queens pact felt as you practice the craft of felting. with admission to the hall. Explore the science behind natural fibers Little Makers: New York Hall of Science, Investigate colors and invent new ones. using various tools and materials. Recom- 47-01 111th St.; (718) 699–0005 X 353; Join us for hands-on science experiments and mended for children 18 months and older. www.nyscience.org; 10:30 am to 12:30 pm; sensory-rich projects in workshops specially $8 per family ($5 members). designed for young children, ages 3–5, with Rooster Shadow Puppet show: Flush- autism spectrum disorder and their parents ing Town Hall, 137-35 Northern Blvd.; (718) Scrub-a-dub-dub, it’s time to have fun in and siblings. Registration required. 939–0647; www.flushingtownhall.org; 1 pm the tub! Make your own colorful crayons to to 2:30 pm; $10 ($18 members; $8 children) make bath time fun. Recommended for chil- The Night Sky: Fort Totten Visitor’s Cen- materials included. dren ages 18 months and older. ter, Ordinance Road at Shore Road; (718) Associated with the sun and with the el- Story time & craft: Queens Botanical Gar- 352–1769; www.nycgovparks.org; 6 pm to ement of fire in 2017, the rooster’s bright den, 43-50 Main St.; (718) 886–3800; info@ 7:30 pm; Free. feathers and resonant crowing announce the queensbotanical.org; www.queensbotanical. The wonders of the universe are ready to arrival of a dynamic new period. Participants org; 2 pm to 3:30 pm; Free. be discovered and New York City parks are of all ages will use stiff paper stock and a va- Bring your little nature lovers to QBG for a the perfect place to stargaze and explore the night sky. Night Sky programs highlight the riety of materials to create their own roost- relaxing afternoon featuring seasonal nature- ers inspired by Chinese shadow puppet tech- history and folklore of the solar system, using inspired stories, followed by a botanically niques. For teens ages 13 to 19 with student the naked eye to locate stars and planets. themed craft activity. Recommended for ages ID. 10 and under. Further Afield Further Afield Further Afield Green Teen series: Long Island Children’s Speed Racers: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave. at West Road, Long Museum, 11 Davis Ave. at West Road, Long Winter Break Sailor’s Valentine: Van- Island; (516) 224–5800; www.licm.org; 11 am Island; (516) 224–5800; www.licm.org; 2 pm; derbilt Mansion Museum, 180 Little Neck Rd., to 3 pm; $3 with museum admission (2 for $3 with museum admission ($2 for members Long Island; (631) 854–5539; www.vander- members plus admission). plus admission). biltmuseum.org; 10 am to noon; $20 ($18 Join us for engaging hands-on activities on Harness the power of air to “mach” things members). wildlife conservation. Activities will bring sci- GO GO GO! Come learn about air pressure Children in kindergarten to third grade ex- ence to life and create awareness of the im- and motion as you assemble balloon-pow- plore William K. Vanderbilt’s collection of sea portance of conserving our environment. This ered racers, and check out the Klutz Amaz- shells and learn about the fascinating animals program is made possible with the support of ingly Immature exhibit for similar fun science that live inside. Pre registration is required. National Grid. Ages 5 and older.

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Sun, Feb. 19 In Queens Little Makers: New York Hall of Science, 47-01 111th St.; (718) 699–0005 X 353; www.nyscience.org; 10:30 am to 12:30 pm; $8 per family ($5 members). Investigate the powerful science of magnets by tinkering with everyday objects and exploring their magnetic fields. Use magnets in fun ways from painting to making magnetic slime! Recommended for children ages 18 months and older. Animal tracking: Alley Pond Park Adven- ture Center, Alley Pond Park; (718) 217–6034; www.nyc.gov/parks/rangers; 11 am to 12:30 pm; Free. Our Urban Park Rangers are skilled in the techniques and development of diverse outdoor skills. Learn tips and tricks that will enhance your knowledge of the natural world.

On this program, learn to identify animals Lauren Adler tracks to understand animal behavior. Korean Marching Band performance: Flushing Town Hall, 137-35 Northern Blvd.; ‘The Painter’s Journey’ (718) 939–0647; www.flushingtownhall.org; 5 pm to 7:30 pm; $5 (Free for members). Take a fantastic journey to the Mu children ages 3–7, and siblings are more Professional musicians and their student seum of Jewish Heritage on Feb. 12 and than welcome. performers from the Korean Traditional enjoy a performance of “The Painter’s “The Painter’s Journey,” and work Marching Band come together to present Journey.” shop, Feb. 12, beginning at 11 am. Tick their Korean folk drumming repertoire fol- The original play and hands-on ets are $8, and free for children and lowed by an interactive workshop that helps workshop is based on the PJ Library grandchildren of members. participants understand Korean rhythms and instruments, and explore traditional book “Anna and Solomon” by Elaine Museum of Jewish Heritage [36 Battery movements. Snyder. Place at First Place in Battery Park, (646) The show is perfect for families with 437–4202; www.mjhnyc.org]. Mon, Feb. 20 In Queens with interesting portraits, including one of 1 Museum Dr., Long Island; (516) 484–9338; App design: New York Hall of Science, George Washington. After a house tour we’ll nassaumuseum.org; 11 am to 2 pm; $10 per 47-01 111th St.; (718) 699–0005 X 353; paint our own self-portraits. Pre registration family materials fee plus museum admission. www.nyscience.org; 9 am to 3 pm; $85 ($75 is required. Families can enjoy the school break to- members). gether with three days of art-making and gal- Participants will learn the fundamentals Tues, Feb. 21 lery tours inspired by the powerful images of of app design using a free open source on- our current photography exhibitions. A differ- line tool, MIT App Inventor to remix an exist- In Queens ent project will be offered every day! For chil- ing app and then use their own creativity to Build a Bird-Feeder: Fort Totten Visitor’s dren of all ages and their families. design their own apps. They will also learn Center, Ordinance Road at Shore Road; (718) about useful applications for this tool from 352–1769; www.nycgovparks.org; 1 pm to Wed, Feb. 22 product design and animation to medicine. 2:30 pm; Free. For grades third through fifth. Registration is Urban Park Rangers will assist and guide In Queens required. you while you enjoy building you own bird Nature Exploration: Forest Park Visitor Center in Forest Park, Woodhaven Boule- Ranger Games: Fort Totten Visitor’s Cen- feeder. vard and Forest Park Drive; (718) 352–1769; ter, Ordinance Road at Shore Road; (718) Further Afield ww.nycgovparks.org; 1 pm to 2:30 pm; Free. 352–1769; www.nycgovparks.org; 1 pm to 2:30 pm; Free. Winter Break Cold Climate Adapta- Take the kids to the park to enjoy a family- tions: Vanderbilt Mansion Museum, 180 friendly, guided hike filled with learning activi- Spend an afternoon of fun with the Urban Little Neck Rd., Long Island; (631) 854–5539; ties. You never know what you may observe Park Rangers playing and learning new and www.vanderbiltmuseum.org; 10 am to noon; on these nature exploration hikes lead by the exciting nature games. $20 ($18 members). Urban Park Rangers. Further Afield Children in grades one to three learn about Story time & craft: Queens Botanical Gar- Winter Break Self Portrait: Vanderbilt wildlife in this workshop. Kids explore wildlife den, 43-50 Main St.; (718) 886–3800; info@ Mansion Museum, 180 Little Neck Rd., Long dioramas in the museum and learn how ani- queensbotanical.org; www.queensbotanical. Island; (631) 854–5539; www.vanderbiltmu- mals survive the cold. After the tour, partici- org; 1 pm to 2:30 pm; Free. pants create a mini-diorama snowglobe. Pre- seum.org; 10 am to noon; $20 ($18 members). Bring your little nature lovers to QBG for a registration is required. This fun, creative workshop is for those relaxing afternoon featuring seasonal nature- in grades two to four. The mansion is filled Art Break: Nassau County Museum of Art, inspired stories, followed by a botanically

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themed craft activity. Recommended for ages 10 and under. Further Afield Winter Break – Animals in Winter: Vanderbilt Mansion Museum, 180 Little Neck Rd., Long Island; (631) 854–5539; www.vanderbiltmuseum.org; 10 am to noon; $20 ($18 members). Pre-schoolers with an adult will explore the museum to find animals that live in cold climates then make a polar bear-print snowglobe in the workshop to take home. Pre-registration is required. Art Break: 11 am to 2 pm. Nassau County Museum of Art. See Tuesday, Feb. 21.

Thurs, Feb. 23 In Queens

Native American Pathways: Forest Park Heinz Kluetmeier Visitor Center in Forest Park, Woodhaven Bou- levard and Forest Park Drive; (718) 352–1769; ww.nycgovparks.org; 1 pm to 2:30 pm; Free. Don’t miss this circus Urban Park Rangers specialize in interpreta- tion of historic turning points in our city’s long Take a trip “Out of this World” when back, and so many other awe inspiring history. This program highlights the history Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Cir acts. and culture of the Native Americans. cus comes to Barclays Center from Feb. “Out of this World” circus on Feb. 23, I Heart Worms: Queens Botanical Gar- 23 to March 3. 24, 26, 26, 28 and March 1, 2, 3. Show den, 43-50 Main St.; (718) 886–3800; info@ Audiences will take the helm to join times: Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and queensbotanical.org; www.queensbotanical. the circus’s Space Fleet on a heroic Thursdays 7 pm; Fridays 11 am 3 pm, 7 org; 1 pm to 2:30 pm; $10. quest of good versus evil that will let pm; and Saturdays and Sundays, 11 am, Did you know that worms have five pairs of hearts? This unique hands-on workshop imaginations run wild with unexpected 3 pm and 7 pm. Tickets start at $15. introduces kids (ages 5 and up) to the life surprises and thrills at every turn. Oh, Barclays Center [620 Atlantic Ave. at Pa- of indoor composting (red wiggler) worms. those daring young men on the flying cific Street in Fort Greene, (917) 618–6100; Make heart-shaped compost cookies for your trapeze, the fantastic women on horse www.barclayscenter.com]. plants — and be prepared to get your hands dirty! Purchase worm bin materials from us ($10 material fee), and we’ll help you set it up www.nyscience.org; 10:30 am to noon; Free ture Center, Alley Pond Park; (718) 217–6034; during the workshop. All children must be ac- with admission to the hall. www.nyc.gov/parks/rangers; 11 am to 12:30 companied by an adult. Join us for hands-on science experiments pm; Free. Further Afield and sensory-rich projects in workshops spe- Urban Park Ranger birding programs are cially designed for young children, ages 3–5, appropriate for all skill levels and beginners 11 am to 2 pm. Nassau County Art Break: with autism spectrum disorder and their par- are welcome. Urban Park Rangers will take Museum of Art. See Tuesday, Feb. 21. ents and siblings. Sometimes creativity can you out and guide you on your quest to spot get messy, so please dress your little scien- winter owls. Fri, Feb. 24 tist (and yourself) in old clothing that can be She’s on point: An Oerter Recreation splattered. Registration is required. In Queens Center, 131-40 Fowler Ave.; (718) 393–7370; www.nygovparks.org; 11 am to 3pm; Free. Gather Around the Campfire: Alley Story time & craft: 2 pm to 3:30 pm. Pond Park Adventure Center, Alley Pond Park; Queens Botanical Garden. See Sunday, Feb. 12. Join NYC Parks for a celebration of girls and (718) 217–6034; www.nyc.gov/parks/rangers; women in sports. Sports demonstrations and 11 am to 12:30 pm; Free. Sun, Feb. 26 clinics for girls and women to participate in. Join the Urban Park Rangers for an after- All ages welcome. In Queens noon of fun and outdoor activities as we Further Afield gather round the campfire and enjoy the Little Makers: New York Hall of Science, Mardi Gras masks: Long Island Children’s outdoors. 47-01 111th St.; (718) 699–0005 X 353; Museum, 11 Davis Ave. at West Road, Long www.nyscience.org; 10:30 am to 12:30 pm; Make it Fridays: 2:30 pm to 5 pm. New Island; (516) 224–5800; www.licm.org; 2 pm $8 per family ($5 members). York Hall of Science. See Friday, Feb. 17. to 4 pm; Free with museum admission. Is it a solid or a liquid? Mix simple house- Mardi Gras is a carnival celebration fa- hold ingredients to make wacky oobleck. Dis- mously held in New Orleans and other cit- Sat, Feb. 25 cover new and exciting ways to play with this ies around the world. It is filled with music, non-Newtonian fluid — freeze it, swirl in col- In Queens parades, and elaborate costumes. Join us to ors, and even make it dance! Recommended Magnetic Science Workshop for spe- make a colorful and festive feather mask to for children ages 18 months and older. cial-needs children: New York Hall of Sci- wear home in celebration of Mardi Gras on ence, 47-01 111th St.; (718) 699–0005 X 353; Birding – Owls: Alley Pond Park Adven- Tuesday, Feb. 28! For ages 3 and up.

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Long-running In Queens Stacks After School program: Week- days, 3 pm to 5:30 pm; Free; www.queensli- ‘Fantasia’ on the big screen brary.org. It’s fantastic, it’s and an art-making Children 6 to 14 years old have an opportunity to improve their education through struc- fabulous — it’s “Fan workshop. tured and unstructured activities that enhance tasia” at the Whitney Suitable for chil science, technology, engineering, and math Museum of American dren 4 years and along with literacy activities. Each child must Art on Feb. 4. older. Tickets are commit to the full year program, have a valid Families will enjoy required and in Queens Library card, and the permission of a this special screen clude admission parent or guardian. The locations are: ing of the 1940 ani to the gallery. Pre- • Arverne Public Library, 312 Beach 54th St. at Rockaway Beach Boulevard; (718) mated flick. The purchasing tickets 634–4784 event is in conjunc is strongly sug • Baisley Park Public Library, 117-11 Sutphin tion with the exhibi gested. Blvd. at Foch Boulevard; (718) 529–1590 tion Dreamlands: Im “Fantasia,” Feb. • Briarwood Public Library, 85-12 Main St. mersive Cinema and 4 from 2 to 4 pm. at Village Road; (718) 658–1680 Art, 1905–2016. This Tickets are $22 for • Cambria Heights Public Library, 218- is a rare opportu adults, $18 for se 13 Linden Blvd. between 218th and 219th nity to experience Disney’s classic niors, and free for children and mem streets; (718) 528–3535 • Corona Public Library, 38-23 104th St. be- concert film on the big screen with bers. tween 38th and 39th streets; (718) 426–2844 immersive surround sound! Grab a Whitney Museum of American Art [99 • East Elmhurst Public Library, 95-06 Astoria bag of popcorn, watch the film, and Gansvoort St. in the Meatpacking District, Blvd. at 95th Street; (718) 424–2619 then join us for a gallery exploration (212) 570–3600; http://whitney.org]. • Far Rockaway Public Library, 1637 Central Ave. at Mott Avenue; (718) 327–2549 • Flushing Public Library, 41-17 Main St. at Parsons Boulevard; (718) 661–1200 10:30 am; Now – Thurs, March 2; $27 (adults), ing.com; Tuesdays, 10:30 am–noon and 7 • Jackson Heights Public Library, 35-51 81st $22 (students/seniors), $16 (children); Member pm–8:30 pm, Now – Tues, Feb. 28; $40 per St. at Northern Boulevard; (718) 899–2500 discount: $13.50 adults; $8.50 children; Free person or $50 per couple. • Laurelton Public Library, 134-26 225th St. for Voyager-level members and above. Is there too much conflict and chaos? Are at Merrick Boulevard; (718) 528–2822 This exhibit tells the story of survival in one you tired of the frustration? Need help set- • Lefferts Public Library, 103-34 Lefferts of the most unforgiving environments on ting boundaries and motivating your child? Blvd. at 103rd Avenue; (718) 843–5950 earth. Through compelling stories told by sci- Parent training is recognized as a crucial part • Lefrak Public Library, 98-30 57th Ave. at entists and Inuit leaders, viewers will discover of treatment for children with ADHD. Using a Junction Boulevard; (718) 592–7677 the impact of ice on the Arctic’s inhabitants, combination of education and coaching, this • Long Island City Public Library, 37-44 21st both animals and humans. workshop will help you develop specific tools, St. at 43rd Avenue; (718) 752–3700 Happy Heart Wreaths: Long Island Chil- techniques, and strategies to reduce chaos • Queens Village Public Library, 94-11 217 dren’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave. at West Road, and challenging behaviors. Available in-per- St. at 94th Avenue; (718) 776–6800 Long Island; (516) 224–5800; www.licm.org; son or live interactive webinar. • Ridgewood Public Library, 20-12 Madison Tuesdays – Fridays, 2:30 pm to 4 pm, Thurs, “Sesame Street Live”: The Theater at St. at Forest Avenue; (718) 821–4770 Feb. 2 – Tues, Feb. 28; Free with museum Madison Square Garden, 4 Pennsylvania • South Hollis Public Library, 204-01 Hollis admission. Plaza, Manhattan; (212) 465–6741; www. Ave. at 204th Street; (718) 465–6779 The Inner Lobby is filled with love this • Woodside Library, 54-22 Skillman Ave.; box-officetickets.com/madison/new york; month! Create your own heart wreath with (718) 429–4700 Thursdays – Mondays, call for times, Thurs, colorful tissue paper to display in your loving • Richmond Hill Branch, 118-14 Hillside Feb. 16 – Sun, Feb. 26; $15–$147. home! For ages 3 and older. Ave.; 718) 849–7150 Celebrate the universal joy of friendship in • South Jamaica Public Library Branch, 108- Neiman Marcus Family Sundays: Nas- this fun-filled, interactive live stage show! Sing 41 Guy R. 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February 2017 • queens Family 27 ADVICE

DIVORCE & SEPARATION LEE CHABIN, ESQ.

value of the house. Two disagreements, actually, dealing with: Mediation tackles • The fair market value of the house. • What percentage of that value should go to Bill. (Angela had assumed that they each had an equal share, but Bill is asking equity distribution for more.) Angela’s surprise quickly turns to anger. n previous articles, I have written The big issue is the house. Angela The mediator intervenes when it becomes about different stages of a mediation would like to keep it, but buying out Bill clear that a productive conversation about I case: The decision to try mediation , may be impossible. Bill says that Angela the matter isn’t possible at the moment. He and the consultation (Part 1); discussions can have the house, but she’d need to pay helps the spouses turn their attention to on parenting (Part 2); and dealing with him a fair price. There is some discussion finding out the house’s value, a task that income and expenses (Part 3). I continue regarding the house. both agree is necessary. After a lengthy here as the mediator assists Angela and The mediator asks whether Angela has and heated discussion, Bill and Angela Bill, a hypothetical couple, in regard to checked into getting a mortgage. Angela agree on how to have the house valued. their assets and debts, and child support. says she hasn’t. Bill suggests that since a The spouses want to talk about child buyout may not even be possible, maybe support. They’ve managed to discuss this Feb. 16th – Session 3 it would be best to go on to the next issue on their own and have a plan. The The next session takes place almost issue; Angela can do some investigat- mediator asks for the details, which An- a month after the previous one. Meeting ing, and then they can come back to the gela and Bill share with him. earlier hadn’t been possible or practical, house question. Angela agrees to Bill’s The mediator tells them about the Child because Bill and Angela had a lot of finan- proposal. Support Guidelines. (New York State re- cial information to gather in regard to as- Having reviewed the asset information, quires parents to learn what amount of sets and debts. and having reached many tentative agree- child support the guidelines would re- The mediator asks about what has been ments, the mediator begins helping them quire, even if parents decide not to follow happening since the last session. Learn- share information on debts and liabilities the guidelines.) ing that there haven’t been what either for the remainder of the session. Bill and Angela decide that their own party considers significant changes or agreement is better for their family than problems, the mediator asks Angela about Feb. 28 – Session 4 what the guidelines provide. the clothing expenses discussed at the last The spouses arrive. They continue shar- Next time: Agreements reached and session. Angela gives a new (and lower fig- ing information on debts, and then review reviewing the costs ure), which Bill accepts as accurate. it with the mediator. New York City and Long Island-based di- With income and expenses taken care They reach a decision on how to handle vorce mediator and collaborative divorce law- of, the mediator works with the couple on the credit cards, the biggest debt, aside yer Lee Chabin helps clients end their relation- their assets, again writing the figures on a from the mortgage on the house. They ships respectfully and without going to court. flipchart. Angela and Bill both say that the agree on several other debt-related issues Contact him at [email protected], numbers are correct. They quickly agree as well. (718) 229–6149, or go to http://lc-mediate. on how to deal with the bank accounts, Angela begins to talk about the house, com /. Follow him on Facebook at www.face- retirement money, and other investments. saying that she would be able to get a book.com/lchabin . There is a small dispute over the cars they mortgage. Discussion continues, and then Disclaimer: All material in this column is for informational own, which the couple quickly resolves. a disagreement arises concerning the purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.

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Becoming a parent is a trial care of yourself both emotionally and phys- by fire, but gradually, you will get to know ically is a great gift to your little one. everything you need to know about that delightful little baby. rushed or unable to ask all your questions. Best-laid plans can change “Understanding that the transition to It’s great to have a plan for how you parenthood can be challenging and allow- Create your village want to give birth or feed your baby. ing yourself some emotional space to face Previously, when women had babies, By preparing with classes and talking to those challenges is important,” says Dr. they were often near their mothers, aunts, your healthcare providers ahead of time, Deena Blanchard, a mom of three and pe- and siblings who would help them. In this you will increase the likelihood that these diatrician at Premier Pediatrics. Here are global world, we now often need to cre- plans will happen. 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