DECEMBER 2017

In this Issue:

The Butterfly Foundation Share your story

Communicaiton 101 Personal Values Maketh The Person

Life Skills 101 Budget = Awareness

Question From Readers Any Ideas How To Talk To My Parents? www.hashtagoz.com.au “Songs with a deep meaning to them - I really love them because people tell their stories through their music and lyrics and that’s what I want to do.“

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3 Cover Photo Zjuane Hindby - singer YouTube Zjuane Hindby - Smoke and Fire - Page 14

Art Alycia Hood - Smitten Chicken, P6 Question from Hashtag Oz to Alycia Hood - P7 Jesse Samuel Wood - P16, P18, P25

Feature Articles Interviews The Butterfly Foundation - Share Your Story Jess Samuel Wood - P15 Melissa Keller-Tuberg - Page 20 Communication 101 Literature Personal Values Maketh The Person - Page 23 Ann Carlson - “A Lot Worse” Chapter 3 - Page 8 Aramys Russo Life Skills 101 Poetry Budget = Awareness - Page 28 IH Goldbert - Forever - Page 18 page 26-27 Daisy Akiyama Questions From Readers Any Ideas How To Talk To My Parents? - Page 31 Aramys Russo & Daisy Akiyama HELPLINES Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636 Special Features The Brave Program, page 29- 30 Meet Ann Carlson - Page 11 The Butterfly Foundation 1800 33 4673

4 There are no secrets to success. It is a result of preparation, hard work and learning from failure.

- Colin Powell

5 Title of artwork : Smitten Chicken ARTIST : Alycia Hood, age 17 6 Question from Hashtag Oz to Alycia Hood “What is the inspiration behind Smitten Chicken?”

This was more of a technical piece. I wanted to work on my watercolor painting, and when I saw a beautiful picture of a chicken, I set out to re- create it. My brother has always had an obsession with chickens, and one of my other siblings pointed out that the chicken looked like it was staring intensely at someone. Hence, I decided it was smitten.

- Alycia Hood

7 t was almost as if paternal continued on his way. He But as they arrived, he saw instincts appeared within didn’t know if that was out of a flash of lights and heard ICharlie, because once the jealousy or the fact that Myra footsteps on his back patio. crashing and the shouting, and wasn’t 18 yet and Kyle looked He swore to himself. all the commotion happened, more scared than she was. Very quickly, he turned he grabbed Jade and Ray But he continued through the to Ray and shouted, and ran. He didn’t know what crowds of people with Myra on “To Edward’s room!” he was doing, where he was his right, Jade on his left, and Ray didn’t have time to argue. going, or really why he was Ray following behind. By then the FBI had gotten running in the first place. The “What’s going on?” Jade most of the kids to surrender, FBI for alcohol? Seems a bit demanded, but Charlie didn’t and they were all on their much. But he didn’t care. He have enough time to reply. He knees, hands on their heads. It high-tailed it out of there. didn’t even have a reply. He made it difficult to get past and Along the way he found Myra just shook his head at her to up the stairs, but thankfully curled up in Kyle’s arms, both be quiet and handed her off there were still some rowdy terrified out of their wits. And to Ray. He signaled with a nod teens causing havoc. once Charlie reached her, that he was planning on going Ray took that chance to dash he pulled her out of Kyle’s to the back door that would to the stairs with Charlie hot on arms and into his arms and enter his backyard.

8 his tails, hauling a trembling on the side of the fence. Then, whole house? Charlie hoped it Myra in his arms. Once up the with experience, jumped onto was the latter. stairs, Jade took initiative and the fence and descended on So, with Myra back home, and figured out what Charlie was the other side. It wasn’t that far Ray , Jade and Charlie ready to getting at. She ushered Ray of a jump and the rest of them clean, they opened the front into Edward’s room and began were able to make it there door of his house, which he opening the window. easily. Once they were safely was very happy didn’t have the on the other side, they let out a “Whoa, whoa,” Ray paused, yellow crime scene tape. breath and then began to run shaking his head. “I am not through his neighbor’s back However, he wasn’t happy jumping out of that window, yard until they reached the when he saw how trashed his this is a two-story house!” forest behind it, where they house truly was. He was almost Charlie rolled his eyes, “would slowed down. tempted to call the FBI and you rather be arrested by the demand them to clean because Charlie caught up to Myra, “I FBI?” he swore that his house wasn’t won’t let anything happen to as trashed before they arrived. “Yeah, maybe I would, I haven’t you.” He seized Myra around done anything wrong.” the neck and tried to pull her into a kiss. “That’s the problem isn’t it? “Thats the Why is the FBI here if no one’s “Stop!” done anything wrong?” Charlie Charlie laughed, and quickly problem, questioned, and Ray fell silent. looked behind him to see if “And we’re not jumping out of Myra had heard. She looked isn’t it? Why the window,” Jade explained, to be too much in thought to “Eddie’s window leads to the hear anything. But then his is the FBI roof of the porch, we’ll escape eyes glanced at Jade’s and she through that.” glared back. here if no Jade climbed out of the window What did he do? one’s done and jumped onto the roof. Ray Once they reached the edge followed shortly afterwards. of the forest and met with a anything Myra was a different problem. road, they stopped. Then with She kept shaking her head no, a discussion that was very Jade wrong? “ her body trembling. based, they decided to just Charlie’s eyes softened. “Trust sneak into Jade’s house and me, it’s not as scary as you spend the night there. But the trio just let out a sigh think,” he placed his hands and began to clean. Charlie And although the party was a on her shoulders and looked in the kitchen, Jade in the bust, the night was still spent her in the eyes, “I won’t let living room, and Ray, who with fun. They decided to crack anything happen to you.” lost rock paper scissors, in the open some Netflix and watch Myra nodded and reluctantly bathroom. But then about ten a comedy to get their minds walked towards the window. minutes later Charlie heard off of the FBI. It was a bonding However, her pace picked up Jade’s voice call out from the experience; which Charlie was when heavy footsteps started living room, and she sounded especially grateful for. to make their way up the stairs. concerned. Myra descended, and soon The next morning, they “What is it?” He yelled back, enough Charlie was out too, decided to head back to walked through the hallway carefully closing the window Charlie’s house to see how and into the living room. The and ducking out of sight. it was. Was it a crime scene? look on her face wasn’t good, Was it trashed? Were the FBI Charlie then led them to the “Oh no, did someone vomit?” secretly maids and cleaned the right and towards the fence

9 She only shook her head and handed him a white piece of paper. Ray also decided to join us. And as Charlie flipped it over to see what was on it Jade spoke, “I think I know why the FBI came.” And on the other side of the paper, in big red letters read, WANTED SERIOUS DRUG DEALER. But that wasn’t the worst of it. Underneath it was what took the air out of his lungs.

Because underneath that heading was a picture. A picture of him.

Continue following Charlie’s adventure in our FEBRUARY 2018 issue as Charlie finds out that you don’t mess with the FBI

10 Meet Ann Carlson

Author of A Lot Worse

Being able to find a passion from a young age is not easy but Ann Carlson found it by stepping courageously into her own light.

Ann Carlson and Ingrid Seger-Woznicki Ann is committed to creating her life, taking risks, learning and growing.

A Lot Worse has been Ann’s venture tInto writing about Charlie.

You are amazing Ann. Keep creating your life and embracing the learnings.

Make sure to download September October and November issues of A Lot Worse and keep following Charlie’s journey.

Belinda McGee, Ann Carlson and IngridSeger-Woznicki 11 “Dont you type at me in that tone of voice”

12 Stop doubting yourself Work Hard And Make it happen

~ Author Unknown ~

13 Presenting: Zjuane Hindby Singing: Smoke and Fire

14 “I remember thinking in high school, that it would be cool if making art could be my job.”

Interview with Reporter - Daisy Akiyama Photographer -Tracey Edgell Jesse Samuel Wood

Why do you do, what you do? I always try to make sure the artwork is something I enjoy drawing and feel a sense of accomplishment that will look good hanging on someones wall. if the after completeing a major piece. artwork is a commission piece, then I have to make sure its as close to what the customer wants as possible. I also like that by making a livivng off my art, it allows me to make my own schedule. Can you describe the time when you first realized creating was something you absolutely had to do? How do you work? I don’t remember the first time I thought this but I do I like to draw in my art room while theres music playing. remember thnking in high school that it would be cool I have an artissts desk with an adjustable desktop, so I if making art could be my job. can work at different angles. I usually draw for an hour or two at a time, then I take a break for snacks, lunch, What kind of creative patterns, routines or rituals etc. do you have?

What’s your background? After each new work is completed, I try to share it to as many people as possible via social media. I try to draw I did art in high school but thats all. I learrned that by at least one or two drawings each week. pratising new techniques or if i really want to see how things are done, ill watch a YouTube tutorial. What role does the artist have in society? What’s integral to the work of your art? While I do have some of my artwork at local galleries Depending on the piece, sometimes symmetry is very and shops. I wouldnt say I play a very big role in society. important. Other times its the colour.

15 How have you been able to relate to your own work? What’s your favourite artwork?

I’m not exactly sure, and I don’t know if this is applicable, Probably the piece called ‘ Wise Owl’ as it was the first but I find drawing is something that is continually major animal drawing I did and its still my most popular teaching me patience, and to have determination. piece. Especially with pieces that take me over 50 hours to complete.

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16 Forever

I love life I love everything about life how it smells how it makes me feel how it touches my soul how it looks

I love life I love everything about life because it is never boring because it is never dull because it is uncertain because it exists

I love life I love everything about life it is always there it is always going to be there it will never end it is forever

I H Goldberg - age 15

17 Artist - Jesse Samuel Wood 18 Written by Melissa Written by Keller - Tuberg Melissa Keller-Tuberg

t starts off with a thought - down for the first time after they so they had to pull it out and start “Aw, maybe if I just lose a little hide the kitchen knives from you. again. Ibit of weight, maybe I might start Forgetting happiness, living in feeling a bit better about myself.” dread. You say ‘I’m not ready’ and ask them for a moment (your hands It’s a thought that many of Next comes fatigue, exhaustion are shaking and you catch you us share, but it can grow into and the unexpected relief of breath) but they ignore you, and something much more serious. near-death hospitalisation. The mutter to each other ‘it’s all in her bittersweet powerlessness that an head.’ It crushes to see the nurses It grows into forgetting that there NG tube gives you; that you can’t around the corner shaking their is and ever was anything going on blame yourself for being weak heads about our cases (me and outside of yourself - the friends because all power has already the fellow ED patients) being who love you, the sleepovers you been taken away from you. It ‘behavioural cases’ while you spent toasting marshmallows hurts, but it’s a relief. pretend to be asleep. The NG tube on the kitchen stove talking doesn’t fit properly and has to be about each other’s crushes, your You decide you want to stay alive, reinserted 5 times in 2 days and favourite band finally your nose bleeds for the next 3. coming to Australia that you couldn’t wait “I have finally Discharge and recovery. to see. You had so much hope that It grows into setting learned that to say when you got out it would mean a goal weight, hitting everything could finally be better it. yes to our bodies’ and you just couldn’t WAIT to be FREE. Another, hitting it, hunger is to say But it’s the same all over again, another and another. and it doesn’t just go away. yes to all our life.” Each one a broken Some days you hate yourself for promise; that this being so weak to let the eating would be the last, that you could and one day, you might learn to disorder lose, but it doesn’t feel finally feel good enough, and then truly be alive. like that, it feels like you losing. you could finally allow yourself to, Your diary says, ‘my brother told me deserve to, stop. Happy moments. being broken is a part of my identity. I’m scared because I don’t know It gets louder, angrier, more When the starlight foundation who I am anymore.’ demanding. It grows into losing fairy lady painted your face in yourself utterly and completely. flowers and you quietly imagined You bounce between different Refusing to brush your teeth you were a child again. When mum psychologists, therapists and because it doesn’t have a nutrition bought you a journal for writing 3 doctors appointments but most label. Avoiding your shower daily gratitudes and you always of it doesn’t stick and a lot of them because you’re disgusted seeing have the same things to write you don’t see twice. yourself naked. Sleepless nights, in it: herbal tea, cross stitching, spent painfully feeling the notches sunshine and playing cards. But you begin to learn to be of your spine push against your grateful. skin and paint it with bruises. It’s not smooth sailing though. Being pinned down and force fed When you arrived, 5 nurses pinned You spend hours in the garden, by your dad, scratching and biting you down and locked your mum watching it nurture and grow, and him to make it stop, hugging him outside. They pushed the NG in it in turn it watches and gives back because you’re just so scared. but it wouldn’t go down properly Witnessing your parents break

19 “We all hear that our body is like a temple, but I think it’s more like a a POWERHOUSE”

to you. The final 3 months of the It’s functional, but it’s all a little bit of tweaking here or there.” year bloom. enveloping: 70 minutes a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year for 2 For some of us, this triggers Transition. and a half years. something very raw, visceral and real. For all of us, it taps into a Being a ‘normal teenager’ again You lie to your doctor about how broader issue of our identities feels incredible. much exercise you do because being packaged and sold to us. you still haven’t had your period Every tinge of happiness feels for 4 years. We all hear that our body is like a like a blessing and you wake in temple, but I think it’s more like a the morning with a genuinely Your mum recommends you tone POWERHOUSE. unreserved ecstasy about what it down but you just can’t stop, so the day might bring. you do it in secret at 5am or 11pm. About 37.2 trillion cells in our body are pumping out energy, It’s easy to be grateful when rock Injury takes away choice. After excreting, growing, sending bottom is so vivid. covering several kms a day for instant messages, repairing, 5 days on a family holiday at rebuilding and reproducing 24/7. You fall in love with the idea of the beginning of year 12, came taking care of your body and the nasty surprise of Achilles Our body has had our back from decide to commit yourself to tendinitis. I was physically unable literally the moment we were exercise, but in turn count up the to go on with my normal routine born. It played with us on our first hours spent, kms covered, calories and had no choice but to confront day of primary school, fought for burned, muscle percentage myself. us when we were sick, partied attained. with us on our first night out, fell The allure of self improvement Today, recovery means being in love with us for the first time, and goal setting is too compelling honest with myself, not hiding dreamt with us and grieved with to ignore. from myself. Accepting my us. vulnerability but choosing to You are too afraid of yourself build myself up. Identifying not I have finally learned that to say to be honest with yourself. This ignoring the voices in my head, so yes to our bodies’ hunger is to say continues for years. I can tell them to go away. yes to all life.

You are afraid of the words I am truly living and I am truly ‘anorexia’ and ‘eating disorders’ proud of that. but fail to realise it’s because The scariest thing is that first you’re scared to confront what it thought, “aw just a little bit of means to you. weight,” shared by everyone I know and everyone I don’t know. You meet new friends, you do well at school, you play music and We have a culturally assumed dance. default to hate our bodies, “aw just

20 WANT TO SHARE YOUR STORY?

Every experience of an eating disorder is unique; and every story matters.

The Butterfly Foundation are excited to have recently launched their ‘Share Your Story’ platform.

This platform shares personal experiences from those touched by an eating disorder, whether that be the person themselves, their family or friends; and gives insight into some of the challenges and triumphs faced when managing and recovering from an eating disorder.

Sharing your story in a safe environment can help to transfer reflective thoughts and has the power to create understanding, connectedness and change within the community.

If you would like to Share Your Story with Butterfly’s online community, visit:

https://thebutterflyfoundation.org.au/share-your-story/

21 Communication 101 • Aramys Russo

“ Personal values maketh the person”

ost people who do not know what they personal values are, end up Integrity Mcruising through life without thinking what is really important to them and they let life, is choosing your people and individuals take them where they don’t even want to go. thoughts and emotions

In other words, without personal values, it is based on values rather very hard to create the future you want because than personal gain you dont know where you are going and what is right for you and what is wrong for you.

Decision making becomes a hit and miss exercise and ridden with anxiety.

Personal values reveal:

Who you are on a day-to-day basis

Who you are under stress

Whether you are proud of yourself

Who are you on a day-to-day basis?

1. Recall a time, that you were very happy. What were you doing? Were you alone or with others? If you were with others, who were they? What other factors influenced your happiness?

2. Recall a time when you were content and feeling fulfilled. What desire and/or need was met? How was this desire or need met? What meaning did it give you? What other factors added to you feeling content and fulfilled?

3. Recall a time when you felt proud of being you. What were you proud of? Why were you proud? Were others proud of you? Who? What other factors added to you feeling proud of being you?

4. Focus on why each experience was so significant to you.

Hashtag Oz will feature monthly articles, supporting you to gain awareness, strategies and knowledge so that you train and practice the communication muscle.

22 Extract 4 personal values from the list below based on your answers of questions 1 to 4, giving you a total of 16 personal values

Accepting Encouraging Peacefulness Accomplishment Energetic Perfection Altruism Enjoyable Personal fulfilment Ambition Excellence Politeness Amusement Excitement Practicality Appreciative Exciting Progressive Appropriateness Expertise Prominence Articulate Exploration Purposeful Assertiveness Fairness Quality-orientated Autonomous Faith Reflective Authentic Faithful Reliability Awareness Family-oriented Resoluteness Balance Focused Respectful Big-heartedness Free-spirited Responsibility Broad-mindedness Fun Results-oriented Budget careful Generous Satisfaction Calm Genuine Security Calculated Happy Self-assurances Capable Hard Work Self-control Caring Harmony Self-development Carefulness Health conscious Sensibleness Challenge Helpful Sensitivity Cheerfulness Honesty Service Clarity of thinking Humility Social conscience Clever Idealistic Spiritual Commitment Imaginative Spontaneity Compassion Independence Steadiness Competence Individuality Strong Competitive Inquisitiveness Studious Compliant Integrity Stylishness Connected to emotions Intellectual Success oriented Conservative Intelligence Swiftness Control Involvement Teamwork Conscientiousness Joyful Temperance Cooperative Kind Truth-seeking Creativity Knowledge Trustworthy Decent Leadership Uncomplicatedness Dependability Loyal Understanding Devoted Love Uniqueness Discernment Making a difference Unpretentiousness Discretion Neighbourly Usefulness Duty Objectivity Variety Elegant Open Willpower Empathetic Organized

23 These 16 personal values reveal the values you live by and what is Think what’s important to important to you and how you go about making decisions, how you you and less about what is show up in your life, how you relate to others and how others experience important to your friends. you.

Who are you under stress? So next time, your friend says:

Under stress, you may be “You’ll love this” tempted to compromise your personal values. Check in, and see if what is important to your friend is really important to Recall a time, that you felt under you. stress and you compromised your personal values. Remember, your personal values may be different to your friends and Go through your 16 personal that is ok too. values, and choose five that you compromised. Knowing your personal values will support you to live true to yourself 1. and will help you to make decision 2 that feel right for you. 3. 4. 5.

These are your top five personal values.

Go through your personal values now and connect with what this reveals about who you are.

Are you proud of your personal values ?

Would you be able to tell your friends what your personal values are?

Do these personal values, represent decisions you would make even if it made you unpopular at school? Look out for February 2018 Issue, Does this make you feel good about yourself? discussing how to handle conflict.

24 Artist - Jesse Samuel Wood 25 Hi There! We’re looking for awesome teens....

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26 LIFE SKILLS 101 Budget = Awareness

budget is a spending plan that forces you to Aprioritise how you spend your money, so that you focus on what you need to spend your money vs what you want to spend your money on.

A budge gives you awareness of you and your spending habits and where includes wage from your part time you need to step up. job, pocket money.

Ok. So let’s get you started. If your income varies, base your income on an average figure of income. Anything above your 1. Track your spending. average wage, becomes a bonus.

Find out your habits by tracking You are now on your way to forming RULE 1 everything you spend for one month. a realistic spending plan. Record everything, even that can of Self-discipline is a coke or that chewing gum. 2. Plan your expenses. learned skill By the end of the month, you will be able to see your spending habits in You will have both fixed, variable and how you spend your money. discretionary expenses.

RULE 2 These habits will become categories Fixed expenses are required for your budget. Example – expenses that stay the say from Spend less entertainment, lunch, present, month to month e.g. your mobile bill. transport, than you earn Variable expenses are required Next, identify your income. This expenses that change from month to month e.g. entertainment.

Discretionary expenses not required expenses and are expenses that you choose to spend on AFTER you have paid for your required Every month, Hashtag expenses. Oz will endevour to give you better life skills and TIP – plan ahead with expenses that answer Question From don’t happen every month by taking Readers. the amount due and dividing it by the number of months you have to The goal is to build save for it. That way, you are prepared confidence in you being for the bill when it arrives. able to take on the world!

27 SAMPLE BUDGET WORKSHEET

CATEGORY MONTHLY BUDGET ACTUAL BUDGET DIFFERENCE

Income

(wages, pocket money, gifts)

Income Subtotal

Expenses Fixed: 1. Mobile

Variable 1. Transport 2 3. Discretionary 1. Movies 2. 3. Expenses Subtotal

Net Income (Income minus Expenses)

28 When things are tough you must be tougher

29 Question from Readers • Daisy Akiyama

Communicating with your parents is a skill that introduces you to communicating with adults. Three areas to start: Any ideas 1. Talk to your parents about everyday things. how to talk 2. Talk to your parents about difficult stuff. to my parents? 3. The do’s and dont’s of communicating. Talking about everyday things Know what you want from the your parent/s want to spend some Talk about things that you enjoy like conversation. Do you want advise, time with you. If you do not feel like footy, music, movies, your favourite an opinion, support, guidance, talking about your day, then tell them game and even something you validation etc etc and then proceed to ask them about found funny that day their day. Be genuinely interested. Try to figure out how you are feeling both of you. before you talk to your parents. Make sure to tell about your day Tell them what you want. Parents sometime before the end of the day. Make sure your parents are not in the get quickly into solving the problem It reveals you want them in your life middle of their own stuff or just come mode but if you just want them to too. home. You may want to tell them that listen and get their thoughts, tell you need a chat and ask them when 2. DON’T give out mixed messages. them that. would be an ok time. Leave a Post It Stop telling your parents to go away “Dad, I have a problem but I need you Note or ring them to set a time if you but deep inside you want their to just listen because I need to tell need to. opinion, help, guidance, support. you what’s bugging me .” Figure out what you want from your Do’s and dont’s of communicating parents and match your behaviours “Mum, I have been invited out, but 1. When your parent/s ask you about to your intentions. I’m not sure about it. Can I tell you your day and you do not want to talk about it and you just listen?” 3. DON’T argue, complain, whine, be – DON’T grumble an answer and go rude, name call, blame and become Talking about difficult things to your bedroom. Recognize that defensive.

4. DO try to understand their point of view.

Many of our readers have requested a section 5. DO be respectful, even if you disagree. Ask lots of questions why where we answer your questions. they think the way they think and Question From Readers is dedicated to YOU. tell your parents, you need to think about what they have said and will Please send your questions to get back to them. [email protected] 6. DO accept that learning how to communicate effectively is a skill and We will try our best to research and reply to that you will be forever learning how to do it for the rest of your life. your questions. Embrace the learnings.

30 If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change

~Wayne Dyer ~

Always SHINE No Matter What

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