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SEPTEMBER | OCTOBER 2005 119 W. 40th Street, 14th Floor, New York, NY 10018 • 800.937.8888 (WeStutter) • 212.944.4050 • email: [email protected] • www.WeStutter.org Conference Memories My NSA Experience my friends why I was going to Chicago. feeling and comfort you get from everyone Three days. That’s all it When I returned home from the conference, in the NSA. The feeling makes you feel took for me to realize I proudly showed my friends the orange okay about stuttering, and as far as I am three important things and purple “Be Heard” bracelets that I had concerned there is nothing like it in the about stuttering: 1) It’s purchased at the conference and told them world. If you attended the conference okay to stutter. 2) I’m everything about it. I was no longer afraid this year in Chicago, you know what I truly not alone. I’m not to admit that I stutter. am talking about. I will see you in Long the only one who stutters. 3) I should never Since attending the conference, I no Beach! ✏ Tony Romano let my stuttering stop me from doing the longer care if people laugh at me for things I want to do in life. stuttering. I have come to accept the Rekindling Old Friendships My journey began on Thursday morn- fact that I do stutter. And there is I never thought I’d say this several times ing when Mom and I checked into the absolutely nothing wrong with that! in my life, but stuttering has truly been Westin. Not knowing what to expect, I was ✏ Kelly McLendon a blessing to me. Not only do I get to very nervous. This was my first conference. know NSA members, attend awesome The first session I went to was the teen Wow! conferences, and have a great support icebreaker. After I introduced myself Wow, what a great system, stuttering paved a path to my to the group, I no longer felt nervous. conference! I have loving husband, Andy, and now a beautiful By lunchtime I was having a blast at the been going to the NSA daughter, Ava. conference, and I was very glad that I conferences for the last All three of us were lucky enough to came. For me, the first timers gathering three years and I have attend, at least one day of the Chicago was one of the best parts of the conference. to say that this one was convention. My wonderful in-laws babysat I really liked how Russ Hicks had everyone by far the best yet! The connections I Ava as Andy and I rekindled old friendships, introduce themselves to two people they made and the people I met have left an met new people, and had a great time! didn’t already know. It made me leave everlasting impression. I have stuttered all Andy and I pray that Ava won’t stutter, my comfort zone for a few minutes, my life and to know I now have such a although the odds are pretty high she and I really liked it. I’m normally not an huge second family makes me feel at ease will, since we both do. We shall cross that outgoing person, but I soon found myself when I return from the conference and bridge when we get to it. But, I do get talking almost non-stop to the people I go back to my everyday life. comfort in knowing that if she does, had introduced myself to. The workshops, awards luncheon, she has parents who understand and an This conference has had such a big keynote speakers, and the banquet were organization like the National Stuttering impact on my life. I left the conference amazing. I was dreading the end of the Association to support her. with a completely new attitude about my conference, but I knew it had to come. Thanks to all of you—you give me stuttering. It took those few days for me It indeed arrived too soon! strength when times get rough. We hope to realize that stuttering isn’t something Keeping in touch, E-mailing and talking to make to Long Beach next year and see I should hide. It’s also not something to the people I have met definitely helps a all of you again. ✏ Stacey Fitzenrider I should be embarrassed about. I didn’t tell lot, but when you really look at it, it’s the (with Andy and Ava) continued on page 15 First Timers . 2 Volunteer Request. 7 Chairmen Insight . 12 Research Q&A. 3 Photo Spread . 8 Bob Spradley Receives Award . 13 Much Ado about Something. 4 A Day to Remember . 10 A Garden of Positive Thoughts . 14 Keynote Speaker John Melendez . 4 Discussing Stuttering with Others . 10 Chapter News. 14 Our Voice . 5 How My Golf Game Developed a Stammer . 11 Odds & Ends . 16 Chicago 2005 Honors. 6 The Motivational Lyrics of Frankie Jones. 11 Reconnecting with an Old Friend . 7 After Slaying the Monster . 12 www.WeStutter.org First Timers My First Full Conference I was certain the Upon returning to work this past week, I attended my first NSA conference in answer was “no” The conference it was very difficult to be present. My Baltimore 2004 but was only there for part and that I would was the most mind is still at the Chicago conference. of the time. I had arrived on the Friday regret taking three I will never forget the faces of people I morning and left Saturday afternoon before days away from my accepting, met and the faces of people who I saw the banquet. At the time, I really didn’t family (who had encouraging, and heard but didn’t meet. I hope to see know what I missed. Then came Chicago! put together a long all of them again. This year I arrived on Wednesday and list of fun things to comforting, After living for years in isolation and stayed until Sunday, and wow, what an do in my absence). and truly bitterness, I am dismayed to hear myself amazing five days in my life. I met so many But since I had saying that stuttering is a “beautiful mys- wonderful people, heard so many stories, shared so already paid my tery.” Thank you to all you fellow people many stories; it truly was a feeling that registration fee event I have who stutter and to those who care on our I am not alone with my stutter. And and my airfare, I ever attended. behalf. Thank you for sharing your hope, with a crowd of more than 600 people, thought I should at wisdom, and humor! ✏ Hannah Russell that “alone” feeling seemed to disappear least give it a try. even further. Past attendees were right. The confer- A Freeing Feeling I spoke during an open mic held in a ence was the most accepting, encouraging, Upon arriving at the conference I had general session, meaning I had to speak in comforting, and truly wonderful event no idea what to expect. I found myself front of all who attended the conference. I have ever attended. For the first time, already anticipating what kind of speaking I didn’t realize how many people were there I felt free to say whatever I wanted to say situations I would be faced with and until I got up on stage, at which point I instead of just what I thought I could say setting up worst-case scenarios of what became truly nervous and emotional. Last fluently. I even felt comfortable going up to could happen with my speech. I was year, my wife was the only person who strangers and introducing myself. Everyone feeling a lot of anxiety of the unknown. knew I was at the conference. This year, I met completely understood my struggles. Within five minutes of walking into the everyone knew why I was in Chicago! I also learned a few things. First, public conference these feelings melted away. I almost broke down in tears as these speaking and Toastmasters are possible for I immediately felt accepted and was over- words were spoken, as I truly felt I was stutterers. They can even be fun. Second, whelmed by the kindness shown to each accepting my stutter like never before. it really is okay to stutter. I am ashamed and every one of us. I knew this was going I came home Sunday physically and to admit that before the conference I felt to be quite a weekend. emotionally drained, and it was the greatest uncomfortable listening to someone else The first timers meeting changed feeling. I felt such a connection with the stutter. But during the conference, that my attitude about being open about my people at the conference, a common bond feeling disintegrated. I realized that speech (thanks to an inspiring talk by not found anywhere else. Only here could disfluency is nothing to be embarrassed Russ Hicks). I realized that if there was I speak without being judged and heard for or uneasy about. And as a result, I am one place I could feel totally comfortable what I said and not how I said it. I became finally starting to be more comfortable and leave all my fear, anxiety, and doubt proud to be known as a person who stut- listening to myself stutter. behind, it was here. I realized that I could ters. A friend of mine recently asked if And last, but most important, I learned introduce myself to others and express my I would ever be cured of my stutter.