Lech Lecha 5769 Volume XVI Number 6 Toras Aish Thoughts From Across the Torah Spectrum attention. RABBI DOV KRAMER Rabbi Yechiel Michal Feinstein, zt"l, points out Taking a Closer Look that although a "get" (divorce document written pon realizing that his wife's beauty put his life in according to Jewish law) is necessary to officially end danger, Avraham asked Sarah not to tell anyone the marriage of a Jewish couple, a non-Jewish Uin Egypt that she was his wife. Instead, he asked marriage is over when either of the spouses declares her to say that she was his sister (Beraishis 12:13). his or her intention to end it (Rambam, Hilchos Although technically true (as she was also his niece, Melachim 9:8). Therefore, by stating that Sarah was his hence a blood relative often referred to as a "brother" or "sister," and not his wife, Avraham was effectively "sister," see Midrash Hagadol on 12:13 and Rashi and ending their marriage, whereby there would no longer Ramban on 20:12), this doesn't explain how Avraham be an issue of adultery. What intrigued me about this could subject his wife to the possibility of being taken approach was not just that I didn't recall ever having by another man. come across it, but that it doesn't seem to work. First of Numerous explanations have been given to all, to end a non-Jewish marriage you don't need both justify Avraham's plan. The common understanding is spouses to agree to part ways. Yet, even after Avraham that because he was afraid they would kill him in order refers to her as his "sister" Sarah still tries to warn Paro to take his wife, he was allowed to risk her being with that she is a married woman, and because he ignores someone else. As far as why this did not qualify as her warnings, he is punished. (Beraishis Rabbah 41:2). "yehoraig v'al ya'avor," a situation where Avraham Why is Sarah saying she is still married, and why is should have allowed himself to be killed rather than Paro punished so severely, if Avraham had ended the allowing the sin of adultery, several differences are marriage? Not only that, but when Avraham tells suggested (see Torah Shelaima 12:145). For one thing, Avimelech that Sarah is his sister (20:2), a claim it was not certain that adultery would occur, and this backed up this time by Sarah (20:5), G-d Himself warns law applies only when the choice is to either be killed or Avimelech to leave her alone, since she is a married to definitely commit adultery. Secondly, Sarah would woman (20:3 and 20:7). How can G-d say that she is a not be guilty of such a sin, because if it happened, it married woman if calling her "his sister" (and her would be against her will. Additionally, it was not affirming such) ended their marriage? Avraham that would be committing adultery, and this Interestingly, Rabbeinu Bachye (20:2) quotes law refers to the choice faced by the potential violator, Rabbeinu Chananel saying essentially the same thing not what might happen to someone else. The Chizkuni (although not based on calling her his sister): "When he suggests that by leaving the impression that she was arrived at Gerar, he (Avraham) divorced her, because married to someone other than Avraham they would he was afraid that they might kill him if he said she was bother with him, and because they were not able to kill his wife. And even so, G-d did not allow him to separate her husband (who was not in Egypt) they would leave from her, and did not leave the righteous woman her alone as well. The Sefornu says that the custom (Sarah) with the wicked one (Avimelech)." As far as was for potential suitors to negotiate with the girl's how G-d could call her a married woman after Avraham father (or caretaker), so Avraham was hoping he could had divorced her, Rabbeinu Bachye continues by extend the negotiation process long enough to be able saying that "he only divorced her out of fear, for he had to leave the country before anyone tried taking Sarah no choice, resulting in their divorce not being a full by force (see also the Ran, quoted by the Abarbanel). divorce." I'm not sure what is meant by "not a full Recently, I saw another approach that caught my divorce," as either they're still married or they're not. Another issue brought up (see Torah Shelaima 20:10) This issue of Toras Aish is dedicated is how Avraham, who was considered a kohain gadol in memory of (High Priest, see Vayikra Rabbah 25:6), could remarry Rabbi Solomon D. Gopin Sarah after divorcing her, since kohanim are not HaRav Shlomo David allowed to marry divorcees. ben Chaim Baruch Mordechai Our sages, of blessed memory, tell us (Yuma from his children 28b) that Avraham fulfilled every aspect the Torah. 2 Toras Aish and they remained married. The same thing happened TORAS AISH IS A WEEKLY PARSHA with Avimelech (only this time Sarah didn't tell him that NEWSLETTER DISTRIBUTED VIA EMAIL AND THE she was married, perhaps because Avraham told her WORLD WIDE WEB AT HTTP://AISHDAS.ORG. that it may turn out not to be true), and after G-d FOR MORE INFO EMAIL [email protected] The material presented in this publication was collected from appeared to Avimelech and told him to leave Sarah publicly available electronic mail, computer archives and the alone, the second conditional divorce never took affect UseNet. It is being presented with the permission of the respective either. The bottom line is that Avraham may have authors. Toras Aish is an independent publication, and does not referred to Sarah as his sister in order to give her this necessarily reflect the views of any given synagogue. conditional divorce, but thanks to G-d's intervention, the TO DEDICATE THIS NEWSLETTER PLEASE CALL 973-472-0180 OR EMAIL [email protected] condition was never met and they remained married the entire time. © 2008 Rabbi D. Kramer Nevertheless, it is unlikely that this gave him the status RABBI BEREL WEIN of a "Yisroel." Rather, he was still considered a non- Jew but kept the Torah anyway because he knew that Wein Online this was G-d's blueprint for life. He wasn't obligated to s one who has made major location changes in do so, and could have refrained from keeping an one lifetime, I can immediately identify with the aspect of the Torah when the need arose. We find that Aopinion of the rabbis of the Talmud and Midrash even though Yaakov kept all 613 mitzvos (see Rashi on that the movement of Avraham and Sarah from their Beraishis 32:5), he married two sisters (a violation of home in Mesopotamia to the Land of Israel was one of mitzvah #206, see Chinuch) after determining that he the ten great challenges in the life of Avraham. Leaving should (because he had to marry the woman Aisav one's home, family, and society is always a wrenching would have married had Yaakov not taken over his role, experience. see www.aishdas.org/ta/5765/vayeitzei.pdf). It would be The Torah's description of marriage is the difficult to say that even though Avraham thought he description of leaving one's parents and home to could divorce Sarah by calling her his sister he was become united with someone "other" to build a new life mistaken because he was really a "Yisroel" and needed and family unit. Avraham is searching for to give her a "get," (even though the Talmud only communication and instructions from his Creator. He mentions Avraham keeping the entire Torah, not all of evidently cannot find this in Mesopotamia though the the forefathers), as Yaakov (and Amram, who married Lord, so to speak, is to be found everywhere and his aunt) didn't keep something when the urgent need nowhere, depending upon the seeker and the search. arose. Whatever status Avraham had would also apply Only in the Land of Israel will Avraham find the spiritual to them, and if Avraham was a "Yisroel" they would be satisfaction and role of influence and leadership that too, so they wouldn't be able violate any mitzvah even will make him the father of all peoples. before the Torah was given. Nevertheless, there may Just as his name will later be changed from be a way to explain why he thought he was divorcing Avram to Avraham to signify this, so too his journey Sarah by calling her his sister even though he really from Mesopotamia to the Land of Israel will mark a wasn't. transformation of level and character in his lifetime. The Talmud (Shabbos 56a) tells us that during Avram in Mesopotamia is not the same person as King David's reign, every soldier would give his wife a Avraham in the Land of Israel. Change of location conditional divorce before going into battle, one that changes all of us in a myriad of ways. It will bring would go into affect retroactively (to the time it was Avraham to greater heights of spirituality and tenacity of given) if the soldier was missing (see Rashi). (This leadership. From being the persecuted victim of Nimrod would allow the wife of a solider who is MIA to remarry, in Mesopotamia, in the Land of Israel he will become as if he had somehow survived the remarriage wouldn't the respected prince of God in the midst of a Canaanite be adultery.) Avraham was in a similar situation in the and Hittite civilization.