Digital ISSUE 5 Parenting A parent’s guide to gaming Coping with online peer pressure PLUS Advice on cyber crime, bullying, social media, and more What is digital resilience? And why is it so important to your child’s future? Vodafone Power to you Online magazine An online version of this issue of Welcome Digital Parenting is available on our website. It’s perfect if you want to pass on the information Welcome to the ifth edition inside to family and friends but of Digital Parenting magazine. don’t want to part with your own Today, families use a whole copy. It also includes live web range of different devices that links to the other sites mentioned in the magazine. 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How to teach your child digital resilience Please use this new edition of Digital Parenting 14 to begin a conversation and share knowledge In this issue with your family as you explore the digital world together. 04 How to talk to your kids; Just 24 Protect your family from cyber crime It’s an exciting place to be and we can all do say PANTS! our bit to help the next generation navigate it 26 Online peer pressure: how to help 06 How NOT to embarrass your child your child cope Published by Vodafone UK safely and make the most of all it has to give. on social media ©Vodafone 2016 28 Why I love… Instagram, Snapchat Paul Morris, Head of Government Affairs & 08 Who are the Stemettes? and YouTube For Parent Zone Sustainability, Vodafone UK Editor Eleanor Levy 10 Discover the Scouts’ Digital 30 Digital health & safety tips Commissioning Editors Manifesto Rachel Rosen, Gary Crossing For more parenting advice and inspiration visit 32 How to be a digital role model vodafone.com/parents Parenting Advisor Vicki Shotbolt 12 Minister of State for Vulnerable parentzone.org.uk Children and Families, Ed Timpson MP, 34 Digital kids: advice on managing on the internet and children in care screen time For Vodafone Editor Paul Morris 14 Promoting digital resilience 36 A parent’s guide to gaming Corporate Sustainability Manager Isobel Kenyon 16 Selies vs sexting: when do teens 38 Meet the parent bloggers Supported by the Vodafone break the law? 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