Parental Determinism and Child Well-Being Ellie Lee and Jan Macvarish Centre for Parenting Culture Studies, University of Kent Parental Determinism (Furedi, 2001) ‘The interlocking myths of ‘infant determinism’ (the assumption that infant experience determines the course of future development) and ‘parental determinism’ (the notion that parental intervention determines the fate of the youngster) have come to have a major influence on the relations between children and their parents’. ‘Parenting has been transformed into an all-purpose independent variable that seems to have the capacity to explain everything to do with an infant’s development. Parenting has been used as a main variable to explain the following childhood problems: Eating disorders; The ‘terrible twos’; Student anxiety; Failure in school; Depression; Low IQ; Violent behaviour; Psychological damage’. ‘Inflating the public’s perception of parental impact promises the potential of influence and power but inevitably delivers disappointing results. Unfortunately, when this happens we don’t discard the doctrine of parental determinism, we insist instead that mothers and fathers adopt new parenting skills. Such pressures have led and continue to lead to a major redefinition of parenting’. The re-definition of parenting: the policy sphere this Century • From family form and structure, to ‘parenting competence’ • Linking measurable outcomes for children to parenting competencies • Moral impetus is risk to child well-being / welfare, meaning parenting and child well-being become causally linked • Policy focus on intervention / training / education in parent/child interaction expands • ‘Parental involvement’ and ‘Positive Parenting’ as normative • Realm of state action becomes focussed on the affective (rather than the material) elevating management of emotion with the material as background / contributory factor Sociological lens: Risk Consciousness, Therapeutic Culture • The problem of uncertainty regarding the future has been recast throughout modern history as the problem of childhood and of the family • Uncertainty has, more recently, found expression in risk management • Increasingly strong emphasis on the risks of ‘educational failure’ and ‘mental health’ / twin foci of ‘educational attainment’ and ‘psychological wellbeing’ as routes to amelioration of risk • Adult identity increasingly linked to goals of ‘attainment’ and ‘mental health’ • Parent role organised around ‘involvement’ to these ends • The reorganisation / destabilisation of previous boundaries of and meanings ascribed to public/private and adulthood/childhood are socially significant outcomes and this process of boundary dissolution is ongoing • Therapeutic management of individuals and of relations between individuals has become normative Latest iteration of the ‘first three years movement’ (Thornton 2011) “an alliance of child welfare advocates and politicians’ which proposes that social problems such as ‘inequality, poverty, educational underachievement, violence and mental illness are best addressed through ‘early intervention’ programmes” (Macvarish et al, 2015) Evangelical certainty - ‘new magic bullet’ Traumatised brains Health, education, police: aspiring to an ‘ACE-free’ world ‘your body remembers what the mind forgets’ ACEs: • Retrospectively identified in adults, correlated with health problems (mental and physical). • Prospectively identified in children. • Traditional fears of disorderly social underclass reinterpreted in therapeutic terms. The evidence is uncertain: ‘the argument’ precedes it ‘Little robust research’ to ‘claim there is a sufficient evidence-base for specific Interventions’. (Royal College of Paediatrics and Child Health) ‘The ACE score approach is highly limited in being able to inform interventions as it’s unclear which adversities produce the most negative impacts upon health and how this occurs. The limitations of the ACE score approach are becoming more widely acknowledged in this field of research…’ (International Centre for Lifecourse studies) ‘Other potential gaps in the evidence also include research establishing causality; it is important to distinguish association from cause and effect.’ (Association of Directors of Public Health) 'The Academy of Medical Sciences similarly noted that “it is not always clear where the line is drawn between normative stress experiences and ACEs”’ Tension between activating parental agency, determinism and fatalism “There is an ignorance among people in general about the importance of what they do for children’s lives. Children’s everyday experiences shape their lives, yet among many people there is a kind of fatalism. They think, “The child will be what it is going to be like anyway. It does not really matter what I do.” When you have that kind of attitude, you do not try to help your child. To overcome that kind of philosophy, we need to change our culture with regard to how we view parenting.” (Professor Edward Melhuish, oral evidence) Psychological/therapeutic fatalism? • Little faith in any maternal ‘instinct’ or spontaneous feelings of love. • Motherhood is portrayed as more likely to inspire depression, or re- trigger past traumas. • A mirror image of historic idealisations of naturalised motherhood? ACEs: What happens to the parent? • The parent appears to be centrally important: because they are determinate of the child/future adult. • But they are a risk factor. • Unconsciously determinate: a ‘toxic’ vector of harm. • But, the parent also disappears relative to others: • Professionals are given para-parental status - the child needs ‘stable, caring adults’, ‘caregivers’, the professional knows the child better than the parent. • Simultaneously the problem and the solution. • Lack of faith and authority, but the focus of intense therapeutic scrutiny and intervention. The problem of the ‘Helicopter Parent’ - Extensive, highly visible discussion in the US (where term originates) - Increasingly prevalent in Britain this Century e.g. media reporting (about both young adults and toddlers) Headlines (UK Nationals) 2018 ‘Don’t make their GP appointments, don’t manage their money - universities’ advice to helicopter parents’ (The Guardian, November) ‘Helicopter parenting is bad for children’ (The Times); ‘Leave those kids alone: 'helicopter parenting' linked to behavioural problems’ (The Guardian); ‘'Helicopter' parents cause their children to struggle at school, become badly behaved and 'defiant', study finds (The Mail) (all June) 2017 ‘Helicopter parents who praise their children too easily are blamed for them still living at home aged 25’ (The Mail); ‘Middle-class parents damaging their children by not being able to say 'no'; 'Mollycoddling' and 'helicopter' parenting leaving primary school children poorly behaved and ill-prepared for real life, expert warns’ (The Independent); ‘Warning to helicopter parents: Ignoring your child may actually be the best thing for them’ (The Mail); ‘Helicopter and lawnmower parents beware: Experts say the key to raising kids is to be 'just good enough‘’ (The Mail) 2016 ‘Pushy parents should 'butt out' of their children's university open days, admissions head demands’ (The Mail); ‘Oxford University separates 'helicopter' parents from children at open days- (The Telegraph) Helicopter Parenting and Parental Determinism ‘A common target of child-rearing manuals before the Second World War was the over-protective parent, and guilt-ridden parents worried that they might be ‘smothering’ their children. But how many times do we hear parents criticized for being over-protective today? Indeed, many of the traits associated with the classic over-protective father or mother are likely to be praised by today’s child experts as responsible parenting’. (Furedi, 2001) Is this problem a departure from, or development of, parental determinism? Claimsmakers and fields of discussion: who owns the term and how is the problem defined? ‘Helicopter Parenting’ as a problematic ‘parenting style’ Outcomes: the expansion of therapeutic management of parent and child Parenting advice • ‘Mother hovers over me like a helicopter’ (Between Parent and Teenager, Haim Ginott, 1969) • Creative Child and Adult Quarterly advises parents to ‘not hover like a helicopter’ over a child practising the violin (1987) • Multiple references to the term as it originating with US parenting advice book Parenting With Love and Logic (Cline and Fay, 1990). Drawing on biblical references, merging with psychological theorizing, categorises Helicopter Parenting as ineffective, contrasting it with Consultant Parenting (as effective). ‘They say “some parents think that love means rotating their lives around their children. They are helicopter parents….While today these “loving” parents may feel they are easing their children’s path into adulthood, tomorrow the same children will be leaving home and wasting the firth eighteen months of their adult life flunking our out of college or meandering about ‘getting their heads together’. Such children are unequipped for the challenges of life. Their significant learning opportunities were stolen from them in the name of love’ (p23) Higher Education Officials (major focus in US, imported to UK) ‘Lay’ commentators and campaigners (‘The Backlash’) ‘ The insanity crept up on us slowly; we just wanted what was best for our kids. 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