Mary Ivanchiu Objet: TR: Spring 2013 - Listen to your body Newsletter Newsletter #30 Spring 2013 Dear Mary, Table of contents Lise's article Testimonial Listen to Lise on the Internet Share with a friend Around the world New at LTYB Excerpt from Lise's book Future workshops Joke of the month I hope this newsletter finds you well and very happy! If not, it's time you decide to change your life and make what you want out of it. You can change your own attitude (fears and belief system) that is creating what you don't want. To help you do it, I suggest you reread many of Lise's articles that you will find in past newsletters. We are in the process of changing the way our website is structured, so these days we cannot make changes to it. So this newsletter may contain some information that is not on our website yet. Thank you for your patience. With love, Monica Shields CEO [email protected] Fighting can't right a wrong I've decided to write on this subject because a person close to me recently lost a legal case and he now wishes to appeal the decision, as he is convinced of his innocence. As it has now been three years that his case has dragged through the system, I asked myself why he would want to continue wasting his time and energy instead of just letting the matter go. I shared my feelings with him and asked him why he didn't just want to come to terms with the fact that he lost and then get on with devoting his energy to other projects. He told me that he couldn't accept such an injustice and that he wanted to be assured that no one else would have to go through that. He also said that he believed this injustice would continue to exist if he didn't take action. 1 If you are aware of the five wounds of the soul, you will understand that this man is letting himself be dominated by the wound of injustice. Have you ever been in the position where you were stubbornly arguing with someone until you were finally able to prove to him or her that you were right? Maybe you also sometimes think that you are right even if you can't prove it, as in the example above. That being said, this man has every right to say that he is innocent and not guilty, but I will persist in saying that he shouldn't struggle so that his point of view can triumph. Why? Because when we choose to go to go to battle to right a wrong, it's a sign that we are not taking account of our own responsibility, and, by that very fact, we won't settle anything. We accuse others of forcing us to bear the burden of an injustice, but it is only divine justice that exists. Everything that we attract emanates from us; in other words, we always reap the harvest that we sow. Maybe you're thinking that acting like this just means letting yourself get pushed around, that people will think you're weak, that if you don't fight for yourself, no one else will. But know that if you fight, you are not helping your soul evolve in its life plan. You will satisfy your ego, but not your heart and not your soul. Let's imagine that the man we were talking about earlier appeals his case and wins. Because of this victory he will continue to believe that the injustice he had to deal with came from outside of himself and not from within. He will continue to attract other similar situations until he takes responsibility and recognizes that he is the only one with the power to create his own life. He brought about this injustice on himself because he needs to become aware and accept that he is or has been unjust towards others, but above all towards himself. Indeed, all that which we accuse others of making us suffer, we also accuse ourselves for the suffering we feel as well as the suffering we impose upon others. Others accuse us of the same thing. It's a vicious circle that will only stop when we are able to recognize and accept that this is how we are. I would like, nevertheless, to specify that we have to carry out this big task of self-acceptance at the level of being. We have to thus discover what it is we are accusing the other of being when he or she burdens us with injustice. After that it's a question of identifying the situations in which our being was similar with respect to others and to ourselves. In doing this kind of exercise, you will discover that when you are what you accuse the other of being, you are not acting out of ill will. Rather, you are only expressing your needs or your limits. You must not think that I am telling you that any injustice you have to deal with is your fault. Most people who interpret what I am saying in that way have difficulty taking responsibility. There is a clear difference between accusing yourself, feeling guilty, and making yourself aware of your responsibilities. Your feeling of guilt comes from your ego whereas your sense of responsibility comes from your heart. We are not guilty of that which we attract: what happens is simply the effect of a cause that we have set in motion. If, when explaining something, you gesticulate and hit someone standing beside you, you are not guilty. Hitting this person was simply a consequence of your gesticulation. Being guilty means wanting to do something bad to someone. Most people believe themselves guilty even though they never meant to do anything wrong. Taking responsibility makes us more intelligent, since it makes us aware that if an action has consequences we don't like, we can choose an action that is better for us. What's more, taking responsibility in a given situation means that it will turn out differently if it happens again. Let's imagine now that the man we have been talking about decides to let it go and discovers why he has had to live through this unjust experience, namely, of being found guilty when he wasn't. If he is once again drawn into a situation where he is found guilty, he will no longer protest its injustice. He will understand immediately why this situation has happened to him. He will live through this event with inner peace and will no longer make accusations or want to act combatively. We should remember that it is never a situation that hurts us but rather OUR REACTION to this situation. Each angry reaction that we have, which brings about emotions, is influenced by the 2 activation of one of our wounds. Our wounds will continue to hurt us until we take the time to heal them. Recovering from a wound of the soul can only be done through taking responsibility and through acceptance. All the troubles we experience weaken us and make us sick. Someone who wants to fight so as not to appear weak doesn't realize that this decision will only weaken him or her more than if he or she chooses to let it go and embrace acceptance, which leads to self-love. With Love, Lise Bourbeau When the above article was published in French a couple of months ago, we received this email: Hello, Lise, I would like to respond to the article on letting go. In January my 47 year-old daughter was diagnosed with lung cancer. Even though she had her suspicions, what with all the tests she had taken, it still came as a terrible blow, as much for her as for us. She immediately said, 'Mom, it's unjust! This damned cancer...I didn't do anything to deserve it...I have an ordinary life, I don't smoke, I'm in shape, I eat well. Why me? I'm going to fight!' It's then that I told her, 'Darling, why fight? Nothing good has ever come from a fight. Don't fight. Keep your energy for your recovery. Let the doctors deal with your tumor. Accept your cancer. Let go, with love, and ask the universe to shoulder this illness. And if you want to know why you have lung cancer, ask me, when you are ready.' She responded by saying, 'It's not easy to do that'. And I responded by telling her, 'I never said it would be easy. I said that it would save you. If you were 7 years-old you wouldn't be questioning me. Trust me as if you were 7'. She asked me why she had cancer. 'Life is stifling you and maybe it's coming from another life. If you don't find the why in this life, you are going to return with the same injury'. On February 7 she began her first of 8 chemo treatments and had a scan after 4. The tumor had diminished by over 50%. My daughter's tumor measured 7.5 cm, covering two lobes of her right lung and was at stage 3A. After the 4 treatments, the tumor had reduced to 3.2 cm. The doctors were stunned. She is currently undergoing radiotherpay. Her dosage and the number of treatments-originally there were supposed to be 30-have been reduced.