Page 10 Volume 4, Number 13, March 30, 1994 F R E E A flawed probationary system in The Male­ Oahu's public schools makes a tough Bashing first year of teaching even tougher. MovementAre women hampering their quest forequal . rights by defining themseves as victim rather than equals? Page3 I I I I I . I I . ' ---- --- -�--���--� - - --��---�---------------------------�----,.- I Letters 50°/o-90°/o OFF Don't you go home, Original Prices small businesses in Hawaii. And have either given up or simply lost Mens andWomett's Brand name clothing Bill Harby what about the change in the image sight of what made Hawaii a special at affordableprices In response to Bill Harby's ques­ and character of Hawaii that legal­ place to live. But even though it ized gambling would bring? Hawaii's makes perfect sense to leave, it both­ (HW,tion in "Uprooting Non-Natives" 3/16): Why not you? Because image should not be ruined just to ers me. Yes, it is hard to live here. 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"To be treat­ Myrna Zezza ed like an equal, you have to act • aturday & Sunday - April 23 & 24 - IO to 6 P like an equal." � r;- a for information, phone Men, he complains, are still 595-5336 '-' largely locked into the traditional ..., protector-and-provider role, while women have had greater opportunities to expand and grow into new, nontraditional jobs and The Male­ other endeavors. the readery "There's plenty of sexism inflicted on men also," he said. In the workplace, men have • Espresso Bar � become strangers to their female 2 9S.KingSt. 942-3747 colleagues forfear of the legal • 50 Newsstand Parkingin therear Bashing consequences if conduct is misin­ terpreted.The threat of a lawsuit, Hours: Mon - Thurs 8am - 10pm • Fri - Sat 8am - 12mid • Sun 8am - 8pm of being demoted, even of losing one's job has become omnipotent - and, in some quarters, consid­ Movement ered just retribution fordecades of harassment and abuse which women have undergone and are still experiencing. Men, in this view of things, have been put on he men who come to see Jim notice. Whinston probably aren't the ones "The threat of false accusations of sex harassment in the work­ you'll find buying roses for their place is being used to intimidate men," Whinston said. "They feel sweethearts. Romance might be the like they're walking on last thing on their minds. That's eggshells." AprilClearance Sale because many of them are struggling Meanwhile, he said, a double standard in which abasement of Upto 30% ofr on through tough custody fights, defending men is commonly accepted is at work. "I was in a public library in selecteditems. themselves against false charges of sexual upstate New York, and one of the women staffershad a sign on her harassment or generally struggling to desk that said, 'Grow your own maintain a legitimate masculine identity in a dope - plant a man.' The librari­ an had that on her desk. Just put fast-changing world where many of them, a man in there with a sign like that about women and see what looking at the statue of Justice, feel she is happens." not blind. The men's movement has not foundits footing yet. While there Whinston runs the Men's proposed a set of rules under are some men's groups around Information and Counseling which a man would ask a woman's the country like Whinston's and Center in Portland, Ore., which is permission to proceed with each the National Men's Center in funded through dues with no gov­ step in lovemaking. He would ask New York, with which he is affil­ ernment assistance. Its clients are forpermission to kiss, to touch her iated, they have not developed seeking help in custody fights, anything near the political clout divorces, sexual harassment suits of the National Organization for and other problems. In Women, the Nevada Women's Whinston's view, the quest for Are women Political Caucus and others. women's equal rights has fallen "Politically, this is disastrous," victim to a merciless, take-no­ he said. "Strength comes through prisoners, anti-man movement hampering numbers and everybody banding which has created "a climate of together forhelp." terrible male-bashing" instead of their quest Meaningful dialog between the focusingon positive steps to help sexes seems hard to come by.