PASTORAL CARE OF COUPLES IN IRREGULAR MARRIAGES : A REFLECTION ON AMORIS LAETITIA CHAPTER- 8 Introduction Issuing the Apostolic Exhortation Amoris laetitia (promulgated during the Extraordinary Jubilee of Mercy, on 19 March 2016), Pope Francis has brought out the continued reflection by the Synod of 2015 on the Church s teaching about the sacrament of matrimony and the Christian understanding of the family. The Exhortation once again calls the Church to revitalize the pastoral assistance to the people of God in the light of God s mercy and love. Amoris laetitia calls forth more compassionate, practical and situational interpretation of canonical norms pertaining to the essential ends and properties of the sacrament of matrimony in the context of the administration of the sacraments of penance and Eucharist and other pastoral care to be rendered to the families in irregular marriages. The Holy Father takes a special step ahead and invites those involved in the pastoral ministry to strengthen the families, and to reach out to those who are in irregular marriages including those alienated from the life of the Church. His Holiness also exhorts that a sympathetic and a accompaniment approach has to be adopted towards those with a distorted understanding of Christian teaching on marriage and family life, and those who may have in some way defected from the Catholic communion, and yet desire to be more fully integrated into the life of the Church, especially in the reception of the Sacraments of Penance and Eucharist. Pope Francis addresses all important challenges the Church faces today in the context of marriage and family. Family, as the “domestic church” is to be pastorally attended with care and compassion after the model of the Good Shepherd by the parishes, 125 “the family of families. Challenging issues, like mixed and disparity of cult marriages, people who distrust marriage and live together, people who distrust marriage and break a commitment already made and immediately assume a new one, people who flaunt an objective sin, and the divorced who have entered a new union, are carefully dealt in the document. The exhortation invites not only those directly involved in the pastoral ministry but also the experienced couples to come forward to render help to younger couples who confront challenges in their family lives. The Exhortation is built on a solid moral theology and canonical discipline on the truth about marriage and how the individual person grasps and applies that truth to the particular pastoral situations in his or her judgment of conscience regarding the sacramentality and the essential ends and properties of marriage. However, people can go wrong in matters of conscience, especially in a culture that is already deeply confused about complex matters of marriage, sexuality and the life as a family. Hence, chapter eight of Amoris laetitia (nn. 291-312) clearly states that those involved in pastoral care, moved by mercy, should adopt a sensitive pastoral approach in all such situations. 1. Canonical Relevance of the Document (300) Regarding the canonical relevance of the exhortation number 300 of the Document states that if we consider the immense variety of concrete situations ..., it is understandable that neither the Synod nor this Exhortation could be expected to provide a new set of general rules, canonical in nature and applicable to all cases. What is possible is simply a renewed encouragement to undertake a responsible personal and pastoral discernment of particular cases, one which would recognize that, since “the degree of responsibility is not equal in all cases”,1 the consequences or effects of a rule need not necessarily always be the same. This is 1 Relatio Finalis 2015, 51. 126 also the case with regard to sacramental discipline, since discernment can recognize that in a particular situation no grave fault exists. In such cases, what is found in another document, namely, Evangelii gaudium applies.2 Therefore, the Exhortation should be understood in continuity with the official teachings of the Church Councils, and previous magisterial documents. In this regard Amoris laetitia exhorts the priests to accompany the divorced and the remarried in helping them to understand their situations according to the teachings of the Church and the guidelines of the bishop.3 The canonical norms regarding the sacramental discipline cannot have one universal interpretation rather the interpretation and the application of the norms are left to the discernment of each pastor according to the particular case and situation. The pastors are exhorted to make a contextualized interpretation and a merciful application of the norms after the example of Jesus, the Good Shepherd, who went after the lost sheep. 2. The Sacrament of Marriage “Christian marriage, as a reflection of the union between Christ and his Church, is fully realized in the union between a man and a woman who give themselves to each other in a free, faithful and exclusive love, who belong to each other until death and are open to the transmission of life, and are consecrated by the sacrament, which grants them the grace to become a domestic church and a leaven of new life for society” (292). A marriage validly celebrated in the Catholic Church is considered to be a covenantal relationship established between the couple after the model of the union between Jesus and the Church. The valid marriage of two baptized persons is a sacrament that confers grace, with the potential to deepen the couple s life 2: cf. Evangelii Gaudium (24 November 2013), 44 and 47: AAS 105 (2013), 1038-1040. 3 AL 300. 127 in Christ,4 especially through the shared privilege of bringing new life into the world and raising children in the knowledge of God. Marriage and child-rearing are sources of great joy.5 3. The Irregular Marriages (297) The document emphatically states that any breach of the marriage bond “is against the will of God” (291). Some of the irregularities identified in chapter eight of the document, are: Those contracted a civil marriage, divorced and remarried, and simply living together. 4. The Approach of the Church Towards People in Irregular Marriages From the time of the Council of Jerusalem the Church s way has always been the way of Jesus, the way of mercy and reinstatement (296). Church is not to condemn anyone forever, because that is not the logic of the Gospel (297). Pouring out the balm of God s mercy on all those who ask for it with a sincere heart (296). Avoid judgements which do not take into account the complexity of various situations To be attentive, by necessity, to how people experience distress because of their condition6 (296) It is a matter of reaching out to everyone to find his or her proper way of participating in the ecclesial community and thus to experience being touched by an “unmerited, unconditional and gratuitous” mercy (297) 4 “From the institution of Christ a valid marriage between baptized persons is by that very fact a sacrament, by which the spouses, in the image of an indefectible union of Christ with the Church, are united by God and, as it were, consecrated and strengthened by sacramental grace” CCEO c. 776 §2; Ref. CIC c. 1134. 5 Marriage is “by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the generation and education of the offspring” CCEO c. 776 §1; CIC c. 1055. 6 Relatio Finalis 2015, 51. 128 Turns with love to those who participate in her life in an incomplete manner, recognizing that the grace of God works also in their lives by giving them the courage to do good, to care for one another in love and to be of service to the community in which they live and work”.7 The Church has the responsibility of helping those in irregular marriage to understand the divine pedagogy of grace in their lives and offering them assistance so they can reach the fullness of God s plan for them”,8 something which is always possible by the power of the Holy Spirit (297) Conscious of the frailty of her children. Grace of God works also in the lives of those participate in the life of the Church in an incomplete manner. The church holds up the call to perfection and asks for a fuller response to God. Task of the Church is to be lighthouse in a port or a torch carried among the people to enlighten those who have lost their way or who are in the midst of a storm and to be like that of a field hospital (291). The Church does not disregard the constructive elements in those situations which do not yet or no longer correspond to her teaching on marriage (292). Concerning mitigating factors and situations the demands of the Gospel shall in no way be compromised (301) The following conditions necessarily to be present are humility, discretion and love for the Church and her teaching, in a sincere search for God s will and a desire to make a more perfect response to it”.9 (300) 7 Ibid. 25. 8 Relatio Synodi 2014, 25. 9 Relatio Finalis 2015, 86. 129 Essential for avoiding the grave danger of misunderstandings, such as the notion that any priest can quickly grant “exceptions”, or that some people can obtain sacramental privileges in exchange for favours.(300) 5. Specific Irregular Situation Chapter eight of the document identifies the following irregular situations in the marriage and family life. 5.1. Merely Civil Marriage and Simple Cohabitation According to the norms of the Catholic Church, “only those marriages are valid which are celebrated with a sacred rite, in the presence of the local hierarch, local pastor, or a priest who has been given the faculty of blessing the marriage by either of them, and at least two witnesses ...”.10 Hence, Catholics who are civilly married and simply cohabit are considered to be in invalid marriages because of the lack of canonical form.