Pittsburgh Catholic, Friday, June 18. 1982 — Page 11 Home Again Farewell dinner scheduled for CONNIE ANN VALENTI FATHER RON LENGWIN They were thin, pale, gentle and fragile-looking, a We read in Paul’s letter to the Ephesians: “Do not diocesan social service official little like china dolls. But you didn't dare refer to grieve the Holy Spirit of God who has marked you with His seal until the day of redemption comes. them as “spinsters" unless you were prepared to be when she was the entire office staff, lost her only child at age three firmly reprimanded and corrected. “We're maiden Remove all bitterness, all outbreaks of passion, all Carmella C. Hartman, deputy- months. She found her greatest in­ angry shouting and cursing, and bad feeling of every director of the Washington/Greene "me, myself and I.” Today the office sisters,” Millie and Emily would tell you without has a staff of nine. She recalls the terest in working with children, with hesitation. They had been bom in France and the kind from your lives. County unit of the Social and unwed mothers and in counselling Community Services of the Diocese early days with Catholic Social trace of an intriguing accent remained in their Service “pioneers,” Mary DeMucci, work. She found it valuable to be voices. On the phone they sounded like girls in high “Be generous to one another, tender-hearted, of Pittsburgh, Inc., will be honored “helping them to understand their at a farewell family services supervisor in the school and they took great delight in this charade. forgiving one another as God in Christ forgave you. Butler office and Palma Julian, situation and make decisions involv­ In word, as God's children, try to be like Him, and dinner Friday ing their future." They worked in a small office in the same building June 25, at the director of family services in the follow Christ by loving as He loved you, giving Lawrence County Catholic Social w here I did. They were kept busy taking orders and Himself up in our place as an offering and sacrifice Ramada Inn in She also did volunteer work at painting doves and violets on mailboxes and on whose fragrance is pleasing to God.” Washington. Serice offices. Rosalia Foundling Home, when napkin rings and holders for a small specialty firm. The program Mrs. Hartman graduated from Sister James Regis was administra­ They told everyone “We learned to paint violets and tor, and at the Home of the Good doves before we could speak a word." The bitterness which we harbor in our heart brings will begin at 6:30 Duquesne University and earned a sadness to God's heart. The Greeks defined p.m., with dinner m aster's degree in social work from Shepherd in Troy Hill. When we asked them why that was the only two bitterness as "long-standing resentment", refusing at 7:30 p.m. the University of Pittsburgh. things they painted, we always got the same answer • to allow ourselves to be reconciled. Many of us have Mrs. Hartman also worked extensively in adoptions. She helped "The violet is a gift from God like a mother is to a become experts in learning how to nurse a grudge, Bishop Leonard She began her career in the social child, soft and beautiful but strong. No?" “And what knowing what we must say or do so that it never has a will attend and Mrs. Hartman to bring in 154 refugee children, service department at Mayview from Italy, Germany and Malta about the dove?," we'd wonder aloud. We always got chance to grow cold in our hearts and minds. There Msgr. John C. State hospital where she worked for the same incomprehensible answer - "Le monsieur are some things in life which we should ask God to McCarren, executive director of the following World War II, and later eight years. Later she worked for from Korea, Vietnam and Bogota, is swift and flies away at the sound of a harsh word help us to forget. Social and Community Develop­ her mother, who operated a nursing or the sight of a tear." ment Department of the diocese, Colombia. home. Emily was more outspoken than Millie, but they I believe Paul learned this important lesson from will serve as toastm aster. She describes her 27 years of work both got angry whenever anyone brought the church the accounts which he heard about Christ's death on Mrs. Hartman retired May 28 While at Mayview she became as "most rewarding" and speaks into the conversation. Their love for God was deep the cross. There was no bitterness in His mouth, after 27 years with organization friends with Ann Petty, field especially of "being able to work and genuine, but they wouldn't so much as enter a mind or heart as the crown of thorns dug deeper into (previously known as Catholic supervisor of Carnegie Tech's social with people and help them to resolve church, yet alone belong to one. “What's in the heart His scalp, as the nails tore larger holes in His hands Social Service.) She had also served work department. Through this their conflicts." and feet; and as those, who He had loved and healed, friendship she became aware of the and mind is more important than carrying a bible, as executive secretary and Mrs. Hartman, who is retiring singing songs or taking communion. And when they mocked Him and treated Him like a beaten, torn, executive director ofthe Washington W ashington/Greene County dirty rag doll of no worth. opening. because of her health, lives with her pass the collection basket, I'm sure God trembles Greene County Catholic Social husband Lawrence A. Hartman and cries,” they’d say. Service. Mrs. Hartman's husband had died outside of Canonsburg. They plan to When anyone from our building got married, they We can rightly assume that Jesus did not feel any She began work in February, 1955, after two years of m arriage and she do some traveling in the future. always went. But they also always stood outside the bitterness because of the loving, forgiving example church to see the bride when she came out. My boss of His mother whose heart was filled with love. From said that for as long as he knew them they never a purely human perspective, Mary and Joseph had 7 dem onstrators from area arrested entered even the vestibule of the church. It didn't no reason to thank God for what they were asked to m atter “whether the snow was coming down like accept; but they trusted in God's love and received it NEW YORK (NC) — More than in connection with the U.N.'s special 1,300 arrests were at the U.S. baseballs or if the rain was falling in a torrent as if into their hearts. 1,300 demonstrators, many of them session on disarmament. mission across the street from U N. headquarters. from a broken fire hydrant." representing church groups, were Jeff Smith, a spokesman for the Too often, unpleasant and embarrassing events arrested in New York June 14 after "June 14 Civil Disobedience Millie was heart-broken when a stroke all but blockading entrances to the U.N. destroyed Emily's mind and body, leaving her occur in our lives that fill us with guilt. Instead of Campaign," told a news conference Others were arrested at the - hardly able to function. Their boss suggested she allowing God to cleanse our hearts and minds missions of five nuclear powers. following the blockades that people Soviet, French, British and Chinese talk to his rabbi, or to some minister or priest in completely, we carry those memories like heavy (Among them were seven from religious groups were among missions. Participants went limp as order to help her through this difficult period. But burdens throughout our life, creating sparks that Pittsburghers: Frs. Don Fisher and the first arrested. black-helmeted police officers with! tears flowing freely, she explained why she burn t'nose around us as we drag that bitterness Jack O'Malley, Molly Rush, Tim Smith said among those arrested moved. The demonstrators had to be wouldn't enter a church. behind us, and fearful that someone else might fall Speery, Paul Mazur, Suzanne Polen ere representatives of the Catholic carried off on stretchers. victim to the same mistake that we made. and Stefan Wray.) eace Fellowship, Connecticut Their father had abandoned them not once but t .. ... atholics for Peace, and Monks for The civil disobedience had been twice. He left first after Emily was bom. He The demonstrators said lhe,reace We read in the Letter to the Hebrews: "Always be endorsed at a Catholic disarmament returned soon afterwards, publicly professed his purpose was to "stop business as assembly June 12 following the love-for his wife and child before the altar, became wanting peace with all people, and the holiness usual" at the missions, which house At the French mission a group of without which no one can ever see the Lord. Be disarmament rally in Central Park. an usher and went to Mass and Communion every the various nations' representatives >out 20 were engaged in a vigil of Participants in the Catholic week. But when Millie was bom, he left again, never careful that no one is deprived of the grace of God to the United Nations. mg and prayer before being and that no root of bitterness should begin to grow assembly applauded a statement to return, without taking even a pair of socks with .