Youth and Child Advocate and Educator Manual of Activities and Exercises for Children and Youth Compiled by Youth and Child Advocates and Youth Educators of the Vermont Network Against Domestic and Sexual Violence October 2009 Revised January 2011 PO Box 405, Montpelier, VT 05601 (802) 223-1302/ www.vtnetwork.org Youth and Child Advocate and Educator Manual of Activities and Exercises for Children and Youth Compiled by Youth and Child Advocates and Youth Educators of the Vermont Network Against Domestic and Sexual Violence October 2009 Revised January 2011 For use at Network Programs Credit is noted where activities were adapted or derived from other sources We have made every best effort to cite the origins of the activities contained in this manual. Some activities have been handed down through generations of Advocates without documentation and their origins are unknown to us. Our intention is to give credit where credit is due and we respectfully request any recognized or updated information be forwarded to the Vermont Network Against Domestic and Sexual Violence for citation purposes. PO Box 405, Montpelier, VT 05601 (802) 223-1302/ www.vtnetwork.org This project was supported by grant no. 2004-WR-AX-0030 awarded by the Violence Against Women Office, Office of Justice Programs, U.S. Department of Justice. Points of view in this document are those of author and do not necessarily represent the official position or policies of the U.S. Department of Justice. Table of Contents Body Image ............................................................................................................................................................... 5 1. Good Body (Circle), Middle and High School .................................................................................................. 6 2. What My Body Does for Me (The Advocacy Program at Umbrella) K-12; Adults ........................................... 7 Bullying/Harassment ................................................................................................................................... 8 1. Harassment vs. Flirting Exercise (WomenSafe; Chittenden Co. Collaborative Project - Women Helping Battered Women, Women’s Rape Crisis Center, Project Safe Choices), Middle School ............................... 9 2. Healthy Friendships (Circle), Elementary/Middle School.............................................................................. 11 3. Exclusion and the Dot Game (Circle), Elementary School ............................................................................. 13 Bystander/Allies ............................................................................................................................................. 15 1. Bystanders Unit (adapted by The Advocacy Program at Umbrella), All ages ............................................... 16 2. The Role of Bystanders in Bullying (adapted by The Advocacy Program at Umbrella), All ages .................. 18 Children Experiencing Domestic Violence.. ................................................................... 20 1. Write a Letter, Poem or Song (PAVE – Project Against Violent Encounters), Middle/High School .............. 21 Communication ................................................................................................................................................ 22 1. Communication AWAREness Workshop (AWARE), Elementary School, all ages .......................................... 23 2. Communication Polaroid Exercise (PAVE – Project Against Violent Encounters), Middles/High School ..... 27 3. Listening Exercise (PAVE – Project Against Violent Encounters), Middle/High School ................................. 29 4. Developing Communications Skills (Battered Women’s Service and Shelter), High School ......................... 30 Consent ....................................................................................................................................................................... 31 1. Consent (Chittenden Co. Collaborative Project - Women Helping Battered Women, Women’s Rape Crisis Center, Project Safe Choices), Middle School ............................................................................................... 32 2. Consent Seeking Role Play (WISE of the Upper Valley), High School/Adult ................................................. 35 3. Principals of Consent, Ashley and Jordon Scenario (WISE of the Upper Valley), High School/adult ............ 38 Conversation Starters/Ice Breakers ....................................................................................... 41 1. Ritual Questions Activity (Circle), Teens/adults ............................................................................................ 42 Vermont Network Against Domestic and Sexual Violence 802.223.1302/ www.vtnetwork.org 1 Cooperation/Teamwork ....................................................................................................................... 43 1. Cup Stack Activity (Clarina Howard Nichols Center), Elementary/Middle School ........................................ 44 Domestic and Dating Violence/Healthy Relationships .................................... 45 1. Dating Violence Role Play (Chittenden Co. Collaborative Project – Women Helping Battered Women, Women’s Rape Crisis Center, Project Safe Choices), Middle School ............................................................ 46 2. Red Flag Skits (Circle), Middle/High School ................................................................................................... 48 3. Dear Abby Teen Dating Violence Bystander Activity (WISE of the Upper Valley), High School/adults ........ 49 4. Healthy and Unhealthy Relationship Cards Activity (Circle), 12 and up…..................................................... 51 5. Button Making Activity (Circle), All Ages ....................................................................................................... 53 6. How is Your Relationship? Quiz (PAVE – Project Against Violent Encounters), Middle/High School .......... 55 7. Love is/Like is, Love isn’t/Like isn’t (PAVE – Project Against Violent Encounters), Middle/High School ...... 56 8. Flirting-Harassment Continuum; Where do you cross the line? (PAVE – Project Against Violent Encounters), Middle/High School ................................................................................................................. 57 9. Healthy Relationships Heart (The Advocacy Program at Umbrella) Teens/Adults ....................................... 58 10. What to Look For & what to Avoid (The Advocacy Program at Umbrella) Teens/Adults ........................... 59 Feelings and Emotions ............................................................................................................................. 60 1. Making Sense of Anger and Violence Activity (Circle), Middle/High School ................................................. 61 2. Emotion Mask (WISE of the Upper Valley), Preschool/Elementary School .................................................. 62 3. Feelings Game (Variation of Twister) (WISE of the Upper Valley), Preschool/Elementary School ............... 63 4. Feelings Volcano (WISE of the Upper Valley), Preschool/Elementary School .............................................. 64 5. Green-Yellow-Red Zones; What zone are you in? (PAVE – Project Against Violent Encounters), All ages .......................................................................................................................................................... 65 6. Emotional chain (Colored paper chain of emotions), (PAVE – Project Against Violent Encounters), Elementary/Middle/High School ................................................................................................................... 66 7. “I’ve Got a Lot on My Plate”, (Circle), Elementary/Middle School ............................................................. 69 8. Feeling Ball and Feelings Funnel (Circle), Elementary School ....................................................................... 70 9. Story Time Game (Circle), Elementary School............................................................................................... 72 Gender Roles ........................................................................................................................................................ 73 Vermont Network Against Domestic and Sexual Violence 802.223.1302/ www.vtnetwork.org 2 1. Gender Roles (Chittenden Co. Collaborative Project – Women Helping Battered Women, Women’s Rape Crisis Center, Project Safe Choices), Middle School ...................................................................................... 74 2. Babies in Boxes Activity (Circle), Middle/High/ Adult ................................................................................... 76 3. Gender Respect: “Where Do I Stand?” (The Advocacy Program at Umbrella), Middle School and up ....... 78 Media ............................................................................................................................................................................. 79 1. Analyze an Ad (Circle), High School ............................................................................................................... 80 Nonviolence, Tolerance, Diversity ............................................................................................ 81 1. Every Peanut is Special (Clarina Howard Nichols Center), Elementary School aged 8-11 ...........................