Tantric Massage Dear Lover, I am Mariah, your Sex Coach and co-founder of Beducated. If you’re reading this, that means you’re taking a step into exploring sexuality. Welcome to this amazing journey! For me, sexuality is a part of self-development. However, sadly, it is often neglected because of how taboo the topic is. Many don’t dare to cross this line that society has drawn and prefer to feel around in the dark when it comes to sex. I’ve been there, too. My sex life has been quite “meh” for years, and, honestly, I was not sure if there was anything I could do about it. But I couldn’t keep still, I wanted to know more, I wanted to feel in control of my sexual self. © beducated.com Check Out the Tantric Massage Video Course » So, I went out there. I expanded my horizons by traveling across the world and taking classes, seminars, and workshops on sexuality. Through my explorations I found so much power in my body, I couldn’t help but feel awakened. And now I am here to pass on the message to you. And the message is: Massage. I am aware, it sounds a bit woowoo, Sexual happiness is trainable. but bear with me here. It’s nothing more that mindful sex practice. And don’t we all want to Yes, that is absolutely true. It’s not something be at least a little bit more mindful these days? you’re born with, not something you “just know” Believe me, sex is a wonderful place to start. how to do. You have to learn it. The good thing Once you go there, you’ll never want to though is that now you don’t need to travel the come back. world for it. I am here to pass my knowledge onto you. I have bundled it all up into a platform So, let’s begin the journey! called Beducated. There, we teach curious lovers how to explore their own sexual selves. What’s a great place to start, you ask? Tantric © beducated.com Check Out the Tantric Massage Video Course » Important: This Tantric Massage Ebook is loaded with information, and I know you are excited to start reading through it. But know that you will get MUCH more out of it if you use it along with the two Beducated courses on Yoni and Lingam Massage. The courses have so much more detail, video demonstrations with real-life models, and waaay more techniques! LEARN MORE » © beducated.com Check Out the Tantric Massage Video Course » So… What’s Tantric Massage? Tantric massage is a holistic genital massage. important here. Having a clear idea of your Why holistic? Because in addition to physical intentions will help you get the best results release it also aims to heal the emotional from the practice. blockages related to sexuality. Many of us store shame and negativity in our privates without Also, be aware that both partners who are even knowing it. Tantric massage can help involved with the Massage need to be active you let go of it and put you on the right path to participants during the session. There needs sexual happiness. to be clear consent from both parties and you both need to want it. Forcing someone to get The underlying emotional part also means into this with you will not benefit either of you. that this Massage is not only about touch. The intentions of the giver and receiver and the attitude they bring to the practice are also very © beducated.com Check Out the Tantric Massage Video Course » On Practicing Solo To experience the benefits of Tantric Massage all you need is… your genitals, really. That is to say that when it comes to this practice, having a partner does not impede your sexual growth. You can give a genital massage to yourself. I call this the Tantric Self-Massage. By learning how to massage your Yoni (a tantric term for vagina) or Lingam In the Beducated online courses, I included an entire module that teaches (a tantric term for penis), you can rewire your whole you how to practice both Yoni and being and awaken your sexuality. No other person Lingam Self-Massages step-by-step. is required. They are designed to empower you just the way you are. And I promise: they are JUST as delicious. However, you should know that this ebook––like most write-ups you can find––is written in couples language. LEARN MORE » But that shouldn’t get in your way. Know that you can craft a ritual for your beautiful self too by adapting the following practices to your situation. © beducated.com Check Out the Tantric Massage Video Course » 1. The Attitude of the Giver Presence is one of the most important things As a giver, ideally, you want nothing in return. the giver needs to cultivate. When you, as Reciprocity is NOT the name of the game here. a giver, are present, the receiver is way Only when you let go of expectations, you will more likely to open up. This can elevate the be able to enjoy these practices. In turn, it will experience. Your partner will feel worshipped also increase your level of presence. and will be able to express whatever they need to express without any reservations. Communication is another essential part of Note: Tantric Massages can be very healing Tantric Massage. It allows you to understand but also very painful at the beginning; what’s working and what’s not. Watch their sometimes physically but especially body language and signs. Are they expressing emotionally. There might be old traumas tension in their eyes, face, and neck or does it surfacing so don’t be afraid to pause and hold look like they’re enjoying what you’re doing? your partner in your arms when needed. Being Be caring and empathic, and ask how they’re in the moment will help you to know how far feeling if something is not clear. Whatever you you can push them and what their limits are. do, do it with a selfless attitude. © beducated.com Check Out the Tantric Massage Video Course » 2. The Attitude of the Receiver The most important attitudes when receiving is not focused on the outcome, it’s about your a Tantric Massage are trust and surrender. journey. So, ease into it, enjoy new feelings and When you trust your partner you will open sensations and be grateful whatever happens. up more easily which will allow you to let go of fear and tension. Once you let go of those worries, you make room for growth. Surrender can often be misunderstood, but here I don’t mean being passive and powerless. I am talking about an active and powerful release that is based on trust and love. Surrendering takes courage, so don’t mistake it for weakness. Like I mentioned before, be clear about your intention but avoid setting a goal. This practice © beducated.com Check Out the Tantric Massage Video Course » 3. Get Ready! Create a romantic and sensual environment. some people might suffer irritation from oils in Work with colors, cushions, essential oils, and the genital area. In such a case rely on natural music to stimulate all the senses. Warm up the lubrication or use a little bit of room so you can feel comfortable while naked silicon-based lube. and maybe have an extra blanket or two by your side just in case. In general, transform Having some towels and sheets is also a your space so that it fits YOU. There’s nothing must. If you’re practicing Lingam Massage, cheesy about lighting some candles and you’ll need it to clean up the excess of oil or putting some smooth jazz on if that’s what gets lube. When it comes to Yoni Massage, towels you going! come in handy if the receiving partner reaches a G-spot orgasm and squirts. In those cases, I Also, prepare some massage oils for the body. actually recommend using a 100% waterproof Remember, no essential or fragrant oils near sheet as it might make the receiver feel more at the intimate areas! Always use pure, organic ease knowing that they won’t make a mess. oils, preferably organic virgin coconut oil, almond, sesame, grapeseed oil, or even olive oil. Personally, I prefer coconut oil. However, © beducated.com Check Out the Tantric Massage Video Course » 4. The Warm-Up I suggest starting the Massage with a meditation. This will help you with staying present and being open to whatever happens. This mindfulness will help you shake off the initial fears and detach yourself from expectations. Want more warm-up ideas? In the online courses, I go into detail about So, sit facing each other, legs crossed, and hold different Warm-Up Rituals for couples hands. Look into your partner’s eyes and try to see as well as singles! beyond their physical presence. Synching up your breath can also make you feel more connected, but LEARN MORE » more about that in the next chapter. © beducated.com Check Out the Tantric Massage Video Course » 5. Bring in the Breath Don’t underestimate the power of breath awareness. Yes, it seems quite basic, but it can do wonders for presence and connection. There are many breathing techniques you can use during the Yoni Massage to release tension. You can start small. Just notice your every inhalation and exhalation. Elongate them, make them into fuller deeper breaths and let your worries melt away.