Tuscola Community Alternatives to Domestic Aggression - 1 - Catholic Social Services of Washtenaw County 734 971-9781 RIDGES-Facilitator manual 2009 Contents INTRODUCTION TO THE RIDGES FACI-ITRATOR .ANUA- ...............................7 E01-ANATION OF THE .ODE- .......................................................................8 GROU1 RU-ES2 W,3 WE HA4E THE. .............................................................9 W,3 WE INSIST ON USING NA.ES.............................................................. 13 ENRIC,.ENT ASSIGN.ENTS ...................................................................... 15 GROU1 -EADER RES1ONSI I-ITIES ............................................................. 19 O1ENING O SER4ANCE.............................................................................. 20 INTRODUCTIONS ....................................................................................... 24 C-OSING .................................................................................................. 27 ACOUNTA I-IT3 1-EDGE ............................................................................ 30 GROU1 AGENDA ........................................................................................ 31 RIDGES CO.1-ETION -OG........................................................................ 34 1OWER AND CONTRO- WHEE- AND DEFINITIONS ......................................... 38 1OWER AND CONTRO- TACTICS .................................................................. 42 1,3SICA- A USE....................................................................................... 44 SE0UA- A USE.......................................................................................... 45 INTI.IDATION .......................................................................................... 48 THREATS AND COERCION ........................................................................... 50 E.OTIONA- A USE.................................................................................... 53 O FUSCATION........................................................................................... 55 ISO-ATION ............................................................................................... 57 Alternatives to Domestic Aggression - 2 - Catholic Social Services of Washtenaw County 734 971-9781 RIDGES-Facilitator manual 2009 ECONO.IC A USE ..................................................................................... 59 USING OTHERS ......................................................................................... 51 1ERSONA- 1OWER AND CONTRO- WHEE- .................................................... 55 1RESENTATION17 1ERSONA- 1OWER AND CONTRO- WHEE-........................... 59 GROU1 FEED AC8 ..................................................................................... 72 FEE-ING WORDS AND E.OTIONS ASSIGN.ENT ............................................ 73 FEE-ING WORDS ....................................................................................... 75 E.OTIONS ASSIGN.ENT ............................................................................ 77 1ERCE1TION ............................................................................................. 78 ICEE......................................................................................................... 83 1ERSONA- ICEE......................................................................................... 88 -OSS OF CONTRO-9STRATEGIC 4S. .ORA- .................................................. 90 .ORA- 4S. STRATEGIC EHA4IOR............................................................... 94 THE CHOICE .ODE-................................................................................... 95 INCIDENT WHERE I USED A USI4E E,A4IOR.............................................. 98 CHOICE .ODE- ASSIGNE.ENT ................................................................. 100 1RESENTATION 2-CHOICE .ODE- ............................................................. 102 DO.AINS AND ASES OF ACCOUNTA I-IT3 ............................................... 105 1ERSONA- DO.AINS OF ACCOUNTA I-IT3 ................................................. 109 ASES OF ACCOUNTA I-IT3 ..................................................................... 110 ATTITUDES IN THIN8ING.......................................................................... 113 1OSITI4E ATTITUDES ASSIGN.ENT........................................................... 117 Alternatives to Domestic Aggression - 3 - Catholic Social Services of Washtenaw County 734 971-9781 RIDGES-Facilitator manual 2009 NEGATI4E ATTITUDES ASSIGN.ENT.......................................................... 119 ACCOUNTA I-IT3 1-AN ............................................................................ 121 SDR ....................................................................................................... 132 1RESENTATION 3-ACCOUNTA I-IT3 1-AN .................................................. 135 FEED AC8 .............................................................................................. 135 .3THS ................................................................................................... 138 .A-E 1RI4I-EGE...................................................................................... 144 A-COHO-9DRUGS AND 4IO-ENT EHA4IOR ................................................ 149 1HRASES9:UOTES SE0UA-IT39A-COHO-9DRUGS9GENDER E-IEFS............... 153 SE0UA-IT3 AND SE0UA- A USE ................................................................ 155 .EDIA .ESSAGES AND GENDER IAS........................................................ 151 1RESENTATION 4-.3THS.......................................................................... 154 SU STANCE USE HISTOR3........................................................................ 157 RE-ATIONSHI1 HISTOR3 .......................................................................... 172 A USE IN4ENTOR3 .................................................................................. 175 SE0 HISTOR3 .......................................................................................... 179 1RESENTATION 5- RIDGING INTO THE CO..UNIT3.................................... 187 1RESENTATION 5-WHAT I -EARNED A OUT .E........................................... 192 STORIES................................................................................................. 195 THE E-E1HANT IN THE -I4ING ROO.......................................................... 197 THE -IG,)NING STOR3 ............................................................................ 199 THE JAC8 STOR3 ..................................................................................... 201 Alternatives to Domestic Aggression - 4 - Catholic Social Services of Washtenaw County 734 971-9781 RIDGES-Facilitator manual 2009 UT I A-WA3S DID IT THIS WA3 ............................................................... 202 ROAST STOR3 ......................................................................................... 204 .ENTORING AGREE.ENT ......................................................................... 205 ATTENDANCE RECORD ............................................................................. 209 E0IT CRITERIA ........................................................................................ 210 POWER AND CONTROL EXERCISES........................................................ 211 ISO-ATION E0ERCISE .............................................................................. 213 E.OTIONA- A USE E0ERCISE................................................................... 215 .A-E 1RI4I-EGE E0ERCISE....................................................................... 217 O FUSCATION E0ERCISE ......................................................................... 219 COERCION C-ARIFICATION....................................................................... 221 THREATS E0ERCISE ................................................................................. 223 FACILITATOR RESOURCES ....................................................................225 8E3 TEACHING TO1ICS ............................................................................ 225 DEFINITIONS .......................................................................................... 227 .3THS ................................................................................................... 233 SE0UA- HARRASS.ENT............................................................................ 241 CHI-D SE0UA- A USE.............................................................................. 259 RA1E ...................................................................................................... 255 .ARITA- RA1E ........................................................................................ 272 WHAT IS SE0UA- ASSAU-T....................................................................... 288 DATE RA1E DRUGS .................................................................................. 291 Alternatives to Domestic Aggression - 5 - Catholic Social Services of Washtenaw County 734 971-9781 RIDGES-Facilitator manual 2009 HE-1 WANTED GIR-S AND WO.EN DO 3OU WANT THIS JO ........................ 292 1ROSTITUTIONS HIERARC,3 OF COERSION ............................................... 293 1ROSTITUTION........................................................................................ 295 SUPPLEMENTAL MATERIALS .................................................................302